This is the same for women. I was bitter against my husband and i lashed out on him immorally. I was this person 10 years ago. By the grace of God we are in a much better place today.
@@sanction7627 I 100% understand. I too am fighting against bitterness with my wife and for the same reason. It hurts, because you try to do the right thing but it feels like you get punished for it. I've never cheated. The temptation is there, but I don't because ultimately. My integrity is not for sale. Even if our marriage fails. It won't be because of that.
Why I listen to Mark. Like this scripture, most Bible readers just brush over what they read. You, break it down, and apply it to our daily lives. Thank you.
That's why I love this Pastor. Every Pastor goes through the same struggles as they are human also. They don't share their same experiences with their congregations. If they did I think more people would be able to relate to them. Maybe they think people will look down on them. To me it shows strength. Pastor Driscoll's sermons are realistic, relatable, and to the point.
Thank you so much for this partial sermon. It really helped me see how men are emotional beings too - that how many times they link their sexual activity to actually how they feel. That really helps me see them as humans and not just as sexual animals. Thank you again! 🙏🙏
I appreciate this. while I do know my husband would never cheat I do believe he could be bitter. I don't have the energy to "entertain" him. I'm tired and I don't look the way I used to 20 years ago- after 4 kids. This is something else we can think about to help heal our marriage (bc marriage needs constant checks).
@@marygaunt2661 thanks for your concern, but I've known this man for 20 years. if he was going to cheat, he'd have done it by now. God blessed our union, we trust Him to guide us.
Ok. Need to address a couple of things. When you mentioned sexual immorality comes from a root of bitterness, that was an eye opener. Good to know. Ive been praying about this struggle and why victory seems to stay away. If I'm bitter against my wife, I can forgive her, but if I'm bitter towards God, I can't forgive. I can't forgive because God hasn't done anything wrong. You didn't address the issue of bitterness towards God. It's clearly rooted in unmet expectations, yet to have no expectations so your not disappointed seems to err on the other side. I have so much to process but I'd like to have someone talk on disappointment with God
As you know, we don't forgive God but we do need to let go of hurt and our misunderstanding of His motives. If we believe that He can't be trusted, then we need to really get to know Him.
It's took me being unfaithful for the Lord to finally put a shot across my bow that got my attention I so truly wish that I could've seen this message and listened to it before I made my choices I was bitter towards my wife I hardened my heart towards her and if it wasnt for her strength and commitment to her vows and not giving up on our marriage being the only thing that saved it I'm grateful for a second chance I pray that I couldve saved my wife so many tears and broken trust in our marriage We are still together but it is not without its struggles daily for her It's the single most selfish thing I've ever done in my entire life
I've dated 12 women. There were only 2 that didn't try to control me. Many treat you like if you are an employee. I have lots of married Christian friends but maybe only about 30% have inspiring and nice wives. The reality is that many people marry people that are incompatible. James Dobson said a few years ago that more than 60% of marriages among Christians were not done for the right reasons. People marry for the wrong reasons with incomparable people, and then need to spend years in counseling, watching sermons, reading books, trying to fix something that started wrong. The best and more sincere TV show is " Two and a half Men". They show how things are. One of the most ignored Bible verses in the Bible are Paul's teaching on marriage.
I have a real deep bitter disdain against women due to experiences in relationships.. i want marriage, but... I think God is never going to let me have one...
God isn't preventing you from having a relationship. God is a God of liberty and free-will. You have choices. Your trust issues aren't God's will. Your avoidance isn't God's will. Anxiety and trust issues are natural reactions, but you've chosen to stay in that place. You're choosing to not develop courage and vulnerability. Owning that is very important. As long as you're protecting yourself you're preventing connection with anyone--not just romantic connection. You can't properly grieve until you're willing to let go of some defenses. You're choosing to stay locked behind thick walls. You can choose to grieve, heal, and move forward. God is not preventing you from that kind of maturity.
Ok what about married to a narcissistic wife who refuses to go get the help she needs after me begging her to. 32 years married and i can't do it anymore. Im emotionally, spiritually and physically drained. Pray daily about this situation with my wife. Im at the point where I'm really getting a divorce to finally get some peace.
@@jordandahlin I know what my vows says,she said the same vows. I've done nothing but change me to the point I don't know who I am. I'm so thankful Jesus never gave up on me,I haven't given just tired and can't do it anymore. 32 years is a long time that I have spent fighting for my marriage and family. At some point my wife has to take accountability for her actions. My kids don't even want to be around her,it's really sad and breaks my heart. I continue to pray for God's guidance and will wait on Him.
My husband just said he wants to end our marriage of 7yrs for this exact reason… it’s very real friends, try your best to fix it because the heartbreak that comes with this hurts so very much 💔 love and prayers for you all! Praise Jesus for being my comfort throughout this storm.
Did you hear anything like what Paul Washer said about 10 or b15 years ago? Good God gives you a spouse to challenge you to love unconditionally like He Loves you. To make you more like Christ.
So im wondering if its justified to leave a cheating spouse? Once ok. But what if it's all the time. Do you stay? And i always thought men cheat because they have eyes but this is a good perspective. I never thought of that
But why is it that I have to forgive her for her lack of intimacy but she doesn't have to change her lack of intimacy? I know that's looking at it in a very black and white way but where is the solution in that?
If you're familiar with the Dave Ramsey financial advice guy he has an employee who takes calls from people in relational distress and gives them counsel. His name is John Delony. I strongly consider you check that out and listen to a bunch of the "I cheated"/"I want to cheat" stuff so you might be able to get insight on where you've gone wrong and what you can personally do to not only improve your marriage but hopefully over time make it electric. Take yourself and your wife seriously.
Still waiting on Mark to speak on the very real, very damaging issues of modern women, and their utter lack of accountability…but no he’s back to savage the men again.
@@MarkDriscollMinistries right dude. It’s young men’s fault that we grew up surrounded by female peers who were indoctrinated by princess syndrome, and who were constantly told “girls rule, boys drool.” I’m surrounded by good young men in my ministry who constantly ask themselves what they can do better but their wives, girlfriends, exes, etc… do nothing but belittle them. Thinking that they deserve the world. They make accusations, they take, they control. And you have nothing to say to them? Men are to take responsibility. This I agree with. However to act as if there is no such thing as accountability for women is absurd. Meanwhile you have another kick to deliver to the ribs of these young men who are already beaten down almost weekly. For one week can you even attempt to balance the scales? Can even once say to the women of your congregation that the men who are doing their best to be decent, god honoring protectors, and providers deserve their respect and not their unfounded and unhinged scorn?
@@MarkDriscollMinistriesyou took the words out of my mouth. When men learn their role/position then the women will be eager to wash their feet, to submit to them, to respect them
@@lukerestlessstudiosa woman can only kick and control passive men and/or passive/aggressive men. Women are easily angered by passive/aggressive men, and typically do not respect passive men. Women want Godly men/leaders, not whimps and not passive/aggressive. A Godly man has the wisdom to rightly lead and control his household. His wife and children reverence and respect him because they know he loves them, he's wise, he has their best interest at heart... they trust him with their lives, they know he would never intentionally do anything to harm or breach the relationship. So, no, women do not want to boss or belittle their man. They want a Godly warrior/hero. He's not perfect, but he is God-fearing and takes his relationship with God the Father seriously. He is about honoring his Father.
Wrong .. She needs to repent and turn away from evil. Stop your precrimes and false forgiveness. Women and pastors need to learn to stop provoking and stirring matters to then blame it on their victims. It’s a victimhood mentality. Jesus said “woe unto those who place a stumbling block to my very servant”. YOU are the very champions in provoking, coercing and placing stumbling blocks; spirit of Jezebel.
That really disrespectful of v The Bible. blasphemous, so you being b"real" is now more real than God? Who do you think you are? A hero? There's only one Hero and it's Christ, you don't disrespect His word like that and go unscathed, return to Him.
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“…because it’s his daughter before it’s my wife.” Brought a tear to my eyes.
It?
My father always said if you make a woman do things that a man has to do she won’t do the things women do. I understand that now.
This is the same for women. I was bitter against my husband and i lashed out on him immorally. I was this person 10 years ago. By the grace of God we are in a much better place today.
yes... this is true. Bitterness will ruin your life and your relationships. Forgive your wife before worse things happen.
Being rejected on the most intimate level possible for years causes resentment, anger, frustration and temptation.
@@sanction7627 I 100% understand. I too am fighting against bitterness with my wife and for the same reason. It hurts, because you try to do the right thing but it feels like you get punished for it.
I've never cheated. The temptation is there, but I don't because ultimately. My integrity is not for sale. Even if our marriage fails. It won't be because of that.
Honesty is refreshing
Why I listen to Mark. Like this scripture, most Bible readers just brush over what they read. You, break it down, and apply it to our daily lives. Thank you.
Listen to b Paul Washer instead.
That's why I love this Pastor. Every Pastor goes through the same struggles as they are human also. They don't share their same experiences with their congregations. If they did I think more people would be able to relate to them. Maybe they think people will look down on them. To me it shows strength. Pastor Driscoll's sermons are realistic, relatable, and to the point.
Decades of being rejected on the most intimate level possible. Decades. Forgiveness comes hard after all that.
Thank you so much for this partial sermon. It really helped me see how men are emotional beings too - that how many times they link their sexual activity to actually how they feel. That really helps me see them as humans and not just as sexual animals. Thank you again! 🙏🙏
I love this! Thank you for being so vulnerable with us.
I appreciate this. while I do know my husband would never cheat I do believe he could be bitter. I don't have the energy to "entertain" him. I'm tired and I don't look the way I used to 20 years ago- after 4 kids. This is something else we can think about to help heal our marriage (bc marriage needs constant checks).
@@marygaunt2661 thanks for your concern, but I've known this man for 20 years. if he was going to cheat, he'd have done it by now. God blessed our union, we trust Him to guide us.
"Entertain"?...Being rejected on the most intimate level possible for years causes resentment, anger, frustration and temptation.
@@sanction7627 yes. that is why we talk and we pray and we work through things before they cause bitterness.
This is awesome teacher thankyou,you are a great role model
Ok. Need to address a couple of things. When you mentioned sexual immorality comes from a root of bitterness, that was an eye opener. Good to know. Ive been praying about this struggle and why victory seems to stay away.
If I'm bitter against my wife, I can forgive her, but if I'm bitter towards God, I can't forgive. I can't forgive because God hasn't done anything wrong. You didn't address the issue of bitterness towards God. It's clearly rooted in unmet expectations, yet to have no expectations so your not disappointed seems to err on the other side.
I have so much to process but I'd like to have someone talk on disappointment with God
Why do you have bitterness towards God?
As you know, we don't forgive God but we do need to let go of hurt and our misunderstanding of His motives. If we believe that He can't be trusted, then we need to really get to know Him.
Thank you 🙏🏻♥️✝️
Gr8 message
It's took me being unfaithful for the Lord to finally put a shot across my bow that got my attention
I so truly wish that I could've seen this message and listened to it before I made my choices
I was bitter towards my wife I hardened my heart towards her and if it wasnt for her strength and commitment to her vows and not giving up on our marriage being the only thing that saved it
I'm grateful for a second chance
I pray that I couldve saved my wife so many tears and broken trust in our marriage
We are still together but it is not without its struggles daily for her
It's the single most selfish thing I've ever done in my entire life
I came here because of the video thumbnail. 🤣
I've dated 12 women. There were only 2 that didn't try to control me. Many treat you like if you are an employee. I have lots of married Christian friends but maybe only about 30% have inspiring and nice wives. The reality is that many people marry people that are incompatible. James Dobson said a few years ago that more than 60% of marriages among Christians were not done for the right reasons. People marry for the wrong reasons with incomparable people, and then need to spend years in counseling, watching sermons, reading books, trying to fix something that started wrong. The best and more sincere TV show is " Two and a half Men". They show how things are. One of the most ignored Bible verses in the Bible are Paul's teaching on marriage.
My life the last 10-15 years in a nutshell. Especially right now.
AMEN; TRUTH🙏🙏🙏
I have a real deep bitter disdain against women due to experiences in relationships.. i want marriage, but... I think God is never going to let me have one...
God isn't preventing you from having a relationship. God is a God of liberty and free-will. You have choices.
Your trust issues aren't God's will. Your avoidance isn't God's will.
Anxiety and trust issues are natural reactions, but you've chosen to stay in that place. You're choosing to not develop courage and vulnerability. Owning that is very important.
As long as you're protecting yourself you're preventing connection with anyone--not just romantic connection.
You can't properly grieve until you're willing to let go of some defenses.
You're choosing to stay locked behind thick walls. You can choose to grieve, heal, and move forward.
God is not preventing you from that kind of maturity.
My husband needs Jesus and I hope he finds the strength to repent for his infidelity.
Ok what about married to a narcissistic wife who refuses to go get the help she needs after me begging her to. 32 years married and i can't do it anymore. Im emotionally, spiritually and physically drained. Pray daily about this situation with my wife. Im at the point where I'm really getting a divorce to finally get some peace.
Reread your vows and lead like a man. Jesus didn’t give up on you, don’t give up on her. You can’t change her, but you can change you.
@@jordandahlin I know what my vows says,she said the same vows. I've done nothing but change me to the point I don't know who I am. I'm so thankful Jesus never gave up on me,I haven't given just tired and can't do it anymore. 32 years is a long time that I have spent fighting for my marriage and family. At some point my wife has to take accountability for her actions. My kids don't even want to be around her,it's really sad and breaks my heart. I continue to pray for God's guidance and will wait on Him.
@@jordandahlinGod gave us the out for a reason God clearly gives us two choices and God says we can divorce if cheating happens
I say that if she is willing to change then go for it but if shes not then leave, she needs to put in the work too its not your fuck up its hers
Where can I watch the full sermon?
My husband just said he wants to end our marriage of 7yrs for this exact reason… it’s very real friends, try your best to fix it because the heartbreak that comes with this hurts so very much 💔 love and prayers for you all! Praise Jesus for being my comfort throughout this storm.
Could bitterness lead to unholiness towards God?
Remember God asking Cain after he killed his brother, "why are you so angry"
Did you hear anything like what Paul Washer said about 10 or b15 years ago? Good God gives you a spouse to challenge you to love unconditionally like He Loves you. To make you more like Christ.
I've been there. But mine was 20yrs long.
Amen!!❤
100% true
There are a lot of hurt angry people commenting, take it to Father God
listen. If your wife truly loves you she will never cheat on you. A woman who cheats on you does not truly love you. She loves herself.
Same thing goes for men.
What, no "Mark Driscol saying hateful things" comments? They usually pop up in every video regardless of the content of the video.
So im wondering if its justified to leave a cheating spouse? Once ok. But what if it's all the time. Do you stay? And i always thought men cheat because they have eyes but this is a good perspective. I never thought of that
But why is it that I have to forgive her for her lack of intimacy but she doesn't have to change her lack of intimacy? I know that's looking at it in a very black and white way but where is the solution in that?
You’re still focused on your own self interest, not hers. Sacrifice for her. Trust God to heal her wounds.
Biggest takeaway is NEVER listen to what a woman says watch what she does and get it in writing.
Seriously been thinking of cheating on my common law wife
If you're familiar with the Dave Ramsey financial advice guy he has an employee who takes calls from people in relational distress and gives them counsel. His name is John Delony.
I strongly consider you check that out and listen to a bunch of the "I cheated"/"I want to cheat" stuff so you might be able to get insight on where you've gone wrong and what you can personally do to not only improve your marriage but hopefully over time make it electric.
Take yourself and your wife seriously.
Still waiting on Mark to speak on the very real, very damaging issues of modern women, and their utter lack of accountability…but no he’s back to savage the men again.
I'll stop as soon as men take accountability and stop blaming modern women for their failures.
@@MarkDriscollMinistries right dude. It’s young men’s fault that we grew up surrounded by female peers who were indoctrinated by princess syndrome, and who were constantly told “girls rule, boys drool.” I’m surrounded by good young men in my ministry who constantly ask themselves what they can do better but their wives, girlfriends, exes, etc… do nothing but belittle them. Thinking that they deserve the world. They make accusations, they take, they control. And you have nothing to say to them? Men are to take responsibility. This I agree with. However to act as if there is no such thing as accountability for women is absurd. Meanwhile you have another kick to deliver to the ribs of these young men who are already beaten down almost weekly. For one week can you even attempt to balance the scales? Can even once say to the women of your congregation that the men who are doing their best to be decent, god honoring protectors, and providers deserve their respect and not their unfounded and unhinged scorn?
He had a whole series about abusive women, dude. It also carried on through other series which followed. Take his response to your comment seriously.
@@MarkDriscollMinistriesyou took the words out of my mouth. When men learn their role/position then the women will be eager to wash their feet, to submit to them, to respect them
@@lukerestlessstudiosa woman can only kick and control passive men and/or passive/aggressive men.
Women are easily angered by passive/aggressive men, and typically do not respect passive men.
Women want Godly men/leaders, not whimps and not passive/aggressive.
A Godly man has the wisdom to rightly lead and control his household. His wife and children reverence and respect him because they know he loves them, he's wise, he has their best interest at heart... they trust him with their lives, they know he would never intentionally do anything to harm or breach the relationship.
So, no, women do not want to boss or belittle their man. They want a Godly warrior/hero.
He's not perfect, but he is God-fearing and takes his relationship with God the Father seriously. He is about honoring his Father.
Wrong .. She needs to repent and turn away from evil. Stop your precrimes and false forgiveness. Women and pastors need to learn to stop provoking and stirring matters to then blame it on their victims. It’s a victimhood mentality. Jesus said “woe unto those who place a stumbling block to my very servant”. YOU are the very champions in provoking, coercing and placing stumbling blocks; spirit of Jezebel.
Being rejected on the most intimate level possible for years causes resentment, anger, frustration and temptation.
That really disrespectful of v The Bible. blasphemous, so you being b"real" is now more real than God? Who do you think you are? A hero? There's only one Hero and it's Christ, you don't disrespect His word like that and go unscathed, return to Him.