I had a coworker like this. I started taking her backhanded compliments at face value and accepting them in an exxageratedly happy manner that was clearly fake and she stopped doing it to me because she looked dumb
"You look tired" is something my colleague always says when she meets me. I say: "Since you always say that you should be used to it by now." Blunt is best, I find.
Maybe she just was worried about your mental and physical health, and was trying to open the door up for you to vent or alleviate some stress that had been possibly building up? It's more likely than not that you are dealing with one or several problems, whether you are aware, or they are completely hidden and chipping away at you subconsciously; and instead of acting like a grown, mature adult, you have decided to project your problems onto a RUclips video, feeling like you have won some kind of victory over this person, despite not just being logical and confronting them privately, because (again) subconsciously you are likely avoiding a scenario that you know you've manufactured in order to perpetuate a narrative that is likely inductive of the very issues causing you to look noticeably tired. You can't be told by them how your line of thinking is misconstrued on this particular issue, because they aren't here to explain their rationale, meaning you have invented a situation resulting in a "win" based on perception. If it's mostly subconscious, you will be more aware now, if you step back at this precise second, and take notice at how irrationally angry you might be; a product of some person who you are about to claim had no idea what he's saying, doesn't know you, and is probably "an idiot". But if those are true, then you shouldn't be bothered; if they are just being an asshole, then you will be have a nice chuckle at my nonsensical rant. Who knows ?
@Brianna Philips, At first, I thought your comment was stupid until I realized that you were making fun of the spelling. And then I was thinking to myself how witty...cheesy, but witty. I love the Beatles, I play guitar, I smoke and I smoke weed all day. Are you single?
The best move is always to pretend you don't notice. They'll either get frustrated, or they'll gloat and feel all superior. Either way they'll amp it up and eventually they'll straight out insult you. Still ignore it. They lose their minds XD
Or you can just start exaggeratedly tell them how superior from you they are. Do it with a smile and add a little chuckle at the end, they'll be just as confused as you are with their remarks.
There’s ppl who are like this, and you can’t change them either. They become to comfortable and set in their ways. They get pleasure from being like this.
Flashbacks to my old boss, whose response to my calling off from the ER with a blood pressure of over 200 was to say, "Well you should have scheduled this emergency room visit in advance, it's very disrespectful to your students to miss class."
Ah yes, I recall a boss who said, "Can't you have a panic attack when you're not on the clock?" Not only can I not help it, but shit like that was WHY I had panic attacks.
Ana is a national treasure. Her NPR sketches with Molly Shannon and her role in Lady Dynamite (that show is a fantastic acid trip) should be historically preserved.
Assertiveness training is needed to deal with people like Pam. The good news is they usually play the same games over and over so the first time they may catch us off guard, really let us have it with an insult disguised as a compliment and then disappear before we realize they INTENDED to be mean. But they'll try it again and when they do we can be ready for them.
I had a teacher in High School that acted exactly like this towards all students. Awful person. Funny skit though. Damn Katie Holmes was soo cute before.
I had a very mean snarky fifth grade teacher just like this! "Did your mom buy you those pencils from the cute bin in the front BTS display at Kmart? Has she not seen a yellow #2?"
Just when I thought I had seen every SNL sketch. This is brilliant and hilarious. Ana Gasteyer, impeccable as always. And the Greek chorus in the guise of the barbershop quarter - just amazing. And, yes, we all know someone like Pam.
Very well written sketch. Most SNL sketches just stretch one mildly funny situation out way too long but this one was strong right to the end. I remember my "Pam" quite well. When I was in charge of an office move I made sure she got the absolute best spot in the new place. When she saw her new spot she was so disappointed about not having something to bitch about she blurted it right out in a heart broken tone.
This is my mother...best thing is healthy boundaries and ignoring the behavior so they don’t get a “hit” or satisfaction from it. Most narcissists use this type of behavior too sadly.
I had a boss like this. Awful person. She was also a natural expert in gaslighting. I'm still recovering two and a half years later. Human Resources LOVED her, so I had no recourse. My fault for selling my soul to an office. Live and learn, then learn and live.
OMG I've always thought that when I've seen this skit. So many managers and office people act like Pam it's a shame. They probably felt some type of way as they should.
I know people like this, if you try to defend yourself or dish it back they get defensive and play victim. Better to just ignore it and make it meaningless, then they get angry Of course in here it's funny, not trashing the sketch. I liked it
That’s the passive-aggressive gaslighting that comes if they’re ever called out. They never stop this, and never admit there was a sting in their word.
@@amyhutchinson3170 I had that same problem and it was driving me nuts! I talked about it with my husband and he started seeing what was actually happening and we put a stop to it together. He was so used to it he didn't even realize it until I said something!
I had one female boss who was like that. She was a piece of work. Had another female subordinate who tried these stunts with me her boss. She wasn't with me for long. She flipped out and went to hospital due to a suicide attempt. I told her she could only return to her job if her psychiatrist would clear her. She never returned. She ended up talking her husband into getting a vasectomy claiming she didn't wan't children Once he followed through with the cutting, she divorced him because she wanted chilldren after all. I nick named her Loraina Bobbit.
Reminds me of Marie on Everybody Loves Raymond. The way she treated her daughter in law: “ I wish I could just throw on anything and leave the house.” By the way that pink dress the new employee is wearing is fantastic. Very cool and not that corporate career!career!career! look.
Wow! 😯 I had a manager just like her but she wasn't as harmless. I mentioned her use of constant sarcasm once and she kept a grudge until found an excuse to fire me.
To be honest, as annoying as someone like Pam can be, I would much rather have to deal with someone like her than to be outright abused by a narcissist.
But I find it frustrating because the passive aggressive person plays innocent when you try to call them out on it. So, it's a cowardly way of being abusive towards others.
My tactic wi it h this personality is to take it at face value. They said a positive thing I’ll take it and make them believe I think it’s a positive thing. They say to do something and I’ll do the thing that they said to do even if it was sarcastic. They can’t do anything about it without owning up to the fact that they were passive aggressive. Works so well and drives them nuts.
I've known plenty of those in my work career! There was one woman who walked into the office I was in and promptly gave me a suggestion, of which I promptly told her, 'gee thanks for bringing that to everyone's attention'! She ended up looking like the fool that she was!
Wow this year.... 2001 Who let the dogs out was a huge thing and Linkin Park dropped the highest selling debut album of this century. crazy how time flies by.
@@notsure1277 University is a money scam that puts you 100k in debt for a annual salary that isn't even half of that when you graduate. Just look at the Harvard graduates.
Me, a passive aggressor: Some sketches make you laugh others make you chuckle, and never underestimate the cozy comfort of a good chuckle. They can’t all be hilarious, there’s room for many kinds of “comedy.”
I’m as subtle as a shotgun. Passive Aggressive Pam and I don’t play well together. But it sure is a great show for the office to watch. Then I got my own spinoff series and now Pam works for me. She’s Unhappy Medicated Pam now. And I’m Decides If She Has a Job Tomorrow Boss
I was born in the South and have lived here all my life, and after 60 years, my estimation of southern charm is that it is deep fried in chilling duplicity. Every action toward a newcomer is a shit test to see if you "get" being southern and how good you are at playing the game.
I have a "friend" who is a passive aggressive Pam. You will have a pleasant conversation with her on the phone, but her last comment will always be an underhanded insult you don't quite "get" until she's hung up. So you are left fuming and hating her, but there's nothing you can really say to her, because you don't want to let on that she got you.
The heck with not letting on. Just tell her calmly that she's been rude alot lately and ask her why she does it. Just because you caught the rude remark, doesn't mean you are triggered or that she managed to hurt you. It just means her little personal inside joke wasn't as clever as she thought. Tell her she needs to be more inventive with her insults next time because they are really obvious. She thinks she's being smart and sneaky lol.
I have a similar relative. She does the same thing, ruins every holiday with a passive-aggressive dig (or 3 or 4). I usually place a bet with myself as to when she starts, (first five minutes, as we walk out the door, etc) give myself an over and under of ten or so minutes, and am right 85% of the time.
WHY DON'T YOU JUST BE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BACK. THAT'S WHAT I DO WITH MY CO-WORKERS. I THINK IT'S HILARIOUS WHEN MY CO-WORKERS ARE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE TO ME ! 😎
I agree. It was actually annoying and broke the pace of the skit. I would mind the skit bring longer and removing the quartet. It would be interesting seeing Pam ramp it up till it gets ridiculous or something like that.
I had a coworker like this. I started taking her backhanded compliments at face value and accepting them in an exxageratedly happy manner that was clearly fake and she stopped doing it to me because she looked dumb
I'll have to try that lol
That's exactly how you handle it !
😂
It's passive-aggressive Paaaaaam.......
Also called living in the South.
And they often follow up with: "Bless your heart!"
@Cade Cannon I did. Of course, it costs a lot more now. Worth it if you can afford it though, especially if you're not white (and for women, blond).
@@Raison_d-etre Minnesota as well
@@tracyseymour7553 They're like Canada nice right? Is Canada as bad?
@@Raison_d-etre I think Canadians are nicer
This is not only funny it is clever and provides a useful warning about this toxic personality.
First time commenting ? Good for you !
@@tommasopincio7658 i see what you did there. LOL
OMG PAPs are EVERYWHERE. When you see one R U N!!!!!!
@@tommasopincio7658 You nailed it!
Yes, this Narcissistic behavior is very common now in 2021, unfortunately.
"You look tired" is something my colleague always says when she meets me.
I say: "Since you always say that you should be used to it by now."
Blunt is best, I find.
Tell her to go fuck herself
She was awesome in The Devil Wears Prada indeed.
Sorry...
Wow I said this to my friend once. Hope I didn't insult her. I didn't mean any harm was just concerned she wasn't sleeping enough
@@lucyavarda1742 Were you concerned? Really? Made her a cup of Horlick's? Sweetheart.
Maybe she just was worried about your mental and physical health, and was trying to open the door up for you to vent or alleviate some stress that had been possibly building up? It's more likely than not that you are dealing with one or several problems, whether you are aware, or they are completely hidden and chipping away at you subconsciously; and instead of acting like a grown, mature adult, you have decided to project your problems onto a RUclips video, feeling like you have won some kind of victory over this person, despite not just being logical and confronting them privately, because (again) subconsciously you are likely avoiding a scenario that you know you've manufactured in order to perpetuate a narrative that is likely inductive of the very issues causing you to look noticeably tired. You can't be told by them how your line of thinking is misconstrued on this particular issue, because they aren't here to explain their rationale, meaning you have invented a situation resulting in a "win" based on perception. If it's mostly subconscious, you will be more aware now, if you step back at this precise second, and take notice at how irrationally angry you might be; a product of some person who you are about to claim had no idea what he's saying, doesn't know you, and is probably "an idiot". But if those are true, then you shouldn't be bothered; if they are just being an asshole, then you will be have a nice chuckle at my nonsensical rant. Who knows ?
I guess when Passive Aggressive Pam insults you, you could call that a PAP smear?
Bah dum tssss!
Excellent!!!
You just broke the internet! 🤣🤣🤣
@Brianna Philips, At first, I thought your comment was stupid until I realized that you were making fun of the spelling. And then I was thinking to myself how witty...cheesy, but witty. I love the Beatles, I play guitar, I smoke and I smoke weed all day. Are you single?
Can’t be funny without getting negged!
The best move is always to pretend you don't notice. They'll either get frustrated, or they'll gloat and feel all superior. Either way they'll amp it up and eventually they'll straight out insult you. Still ignore it. They lose their minds XD
nikoincroatia thanks
Thanks for the advice. I can't remember anyone asking for it, but I guess we all have to learn in life. (Just kidding.)
Hi passive aggressive Jaffa!
Responding to anything negative with something genuinely positive will usually make people annoyed or confused :)
Or you can just start exaggeratedly tell them how superior from you they are. Do it with a smile and add a little chuckle at the end, they'll be just as confused as you are with their remarks.
Imagine having a mother like Pam. Then again some of us don't have to imagine. 😥
Or an ex-wife...
been there/done that with a parent
Yes I have one
same tbh :/
My mom never bothered with the “passive” part of passive aggressive.
She's a character and yet I actually hate her. Cuts too close to the bone.
Yeah bud, a bit too close.
She's a loathsome, offensive brute, yet I can't look away
Agreed
Reminds me of several past bosses! >:(
That's awesome acting, then!
I had a “friend” who was passive aggressive. Note the words “I had.” I cut that one loose. 😂
YASS You get that cancer loose for sure!! 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Also known as a “Frenemy”.
A “verbal middle finger” ... love it😂
I spent 28 years married to someone like this. Ironically, her name was Pam...
I guess Pam means Passive Aggressive Ma'am
Haha I feel your pain
Oooh thanks for sharing. But "appropriately" is the word, not "ironically."
[Pam would be sure to point that out]
Mike you can't be serious? Really? LOL!
Wow! I’m sorry you had to endure that for almost three decades!!! That’s horrible
Every young women going into office live should watch this and be aware this happens often
💯
Rule#1: there are no friends at work.
Ooh, bless you. First time trying to spell ‘woman’? ... Don’t worry, I just couldn’t get that word ‘woman’ right, until I was about 9 years old!
Sorry, I don’t understand. Why should young women beware of passive aggressive behavior?
First time working with a Pam? Don't worry, you won't need to get used to her. You won't be here long enough.
There’s ppl who are like this, and you can’t change them either. They become to comfortable and set in their ways. They get pleasure from being like this.
I had a male boss; passive aggressive Pete
Wow, Jimmy Fallon kept in character throughout the entire sketch.
yeah thank goodness.. i really got tired of his breaking character gag real fast
Lol he could ve learned the words.. He is still patjetic actor
That was pretty passive aggressive Pam of you
And yet still wasn't funny.
Hahahaa! I was thinking the same thing
This should have been a regular sketch. Awesome!!!
I wish everyone would watch this as a wake up call. How accurate.
Oh Christ, who doesn't know people like this. Blood pressure raiser!!
This is todays "Karen"
Assholes amongst us indeed! Welcome to the general working climate in America!
My HR representative.
@@wisdomdantecourt8179 it’s things like this will cause people of the future to give up on the modern concept of working life
An in-law who thinks her immediate family is 'better than yours.'
Gasteyer: one of the most underrated SNL performers.
Who underrated her?
Society man. Society underrated her. The fact that she’s not a big name movie star like her contemporaries is the fault of society.
You should hear her sing! Check out her album "I'm Hip." It's awesome.
Gasteyer and Jan Hooks could do the insincere, passive agressive character flawlessly.
@@tatehildyard5332 Give me the names of this society. I am going to fight their dads.
She is perfect for that passive aggressive Pam role. Love it!
Flashbacks to my old boss, whose response to my calling off from the ER with a blood pressure of over 200 was to say, "Well you should have scheduled this emergency room visit in advance, it's very disrespectful to your students to miss class."
Ah yes, I recall a boss who said, "Can't you have a panic attack when you're not on the clock?"
Not only can I not help it, but shit like that was WHY I had panic attacks.
😂
After three days in the hospital mine asked me to create an action plan to take vitamin C!
@@whateverlolawants "yeah if you could go ahead and plan your heart attacks in advance.. that would be great"
I can't tell you how many "passive agressive pams" I know in real life. This sketch hit it dead on.
brilliantly written, directed, acted, genius sketch
Great sketch! If only I could find the sense of humor in it 😀 -Pam
I feel like there aren't enough comments about the way Barbershop Quartet just scrambled outta there after every song!
Thanks for letting us know what you feel like.
Ana is a national treasure. Her NPR sketches with Molly Shannon and her role in Lady Dynamite (that show is a fantastic acid trip) should be historically preserved.
I can't watch this anymore, it brings back some bad memories. I hate people like this.
Assertiveness training is needed to deal with people like Pam. The good news is they usually play the same games over and over so the first time they may catch us off guard, really let us have it with an insult disguised as a compliment and then disappear before we realize they INTENDED to be mean. But they'll try it again and when they do we can be ready for them.
Gregory Loomis..I fully can relate to what you're saying Sir! Some people are unnecessarily rude..😒😠
I had a teacher in High School that acted exactly like this towards all students. Awful person. Funny skit though. Damn Katie Holmes was soo cute before.
they were all cute. then they met Tom Cruise...
"Before"? That sounds like something Passive Aggressive Pam would say.
@@WillowJordan1979 exactly what I thought.
I had a very mean snarky fifth grade teacher just like this! "Did your mom buy you those pencils from the cute bin in the front BTS display at Kmart? Has she not seen a yellow #2?"
God now I remember what hell standardized test day was!
Just when I thought I had seen every SNL sketch. This is brilliant and hilarious. Ana Gasteyer, impeccable as always. And the Greek chorus in the guise of the barbershop quarter - just amazing. And, yes, we all know someone like Pam.
Bosses like this are the worst
Very well written sketch. Most SNL sketches just stretch one mildly funny situation out way too long but this one was strong right to the end. I remember my "Pam" quite well. When I was in charge of an office move I made sure she got the absolute best spot in the new place. When she saw her new spot she was so disappointed about not having something to bitch about she blurted it right out in a heart broken tone.
She was rewarded
This is my mother...best thing is healthy boundaries and ignoring the behavior so they don’t get a “hit” or satisfaction from it. Most narcissists use this type of behavior too sadly.
I had a boss like this. Awful person. She was also a natural expert in gaslighting. I'm still recovering two and a half years later. Human Resources LOVED her, so I had no recourse. My fault for selling my soul to an office. Live and learn, then learn and live.
You could tell this skit hit a bit too close to home with a lot of the audience..
OMG I've always thought that when I've seen this skit. So many managers and office people act like Pam it's a shame. They probably felt some type of way as they should.
Probably because the whole thing was a passive aggressive jab at them
Will Ferrell is trying so hard to stand out in this
+Jenn KG thought the exact same thing!!!
Yassssss
+Jenn KG Doesn't he always?
Ikr but it worked for me!
He's literally doing exactly what the other 3 guys are
I actually love those kinds of people... Helps me sharpen my wits and deflection skills with off balancing comments
This pam character is awful, never felt soo much hatred for a character.
Imagine having to see her @ work every day. Yup you guessed it. Her name was Pam! 😩😩😩
I haven't met anyone like this until a few yeas ago. Her husband was a saint to live with her.
I know people like this, if you try to defend yourself or dish it back they get defensive and play victim. Better to just ignore it and make it meaningless, then they get angry
Of course in here it's funny, not trashing the sketch. I liked it
Yup, just let it flow over you like water. Not your responsibility to help assholes not be assholes.
That’s the passive-aggressive gaslighting that comes if they’re ever called out.
They never stop this, and never admit there was a sting in their word.
This Passive Aggressive skit was great...for an SNL skit.
Oh look it's my mother in law, fun!
As well as my mother 😂
MINE TOO! Haha. It's a blast. Especially fun because it ALL goes right over my hubbys head (likely because he is sooo used to it).
@@amyhutchinson3170 I had that same problem and it was driving me nuts! I talked about it with my husband and he started seeing what was actually happening and we put a stop to it together. He was so used to it he didn't even realize it until I said something!
Same! How fun! Yay!
Yup, my MIL is a covert narcissist and my partner went grey rock without knowing what it was to deal with her.
We all have people like her all around ourselves
I have a female boss and she’s actually like this. I never noticed until I saw this skit.
Miserable folk for sure. Most have a superiority complex as and manage to hide it very well. 🤫
Maybe you need to bring in a barbershop quartet so she gets the message.
I had one female boss who was like that. She was a piece of work. Had another female subordinate who tried these stunts with me her boss. She wasn't with me for long. She flipped out and went to hospital due to a suicide attempt. I told her she could only return to her job if her psychiatrist would clear her. She never returned. She ended up talking her husband into getting a vasectomy claiming she didn't wan't children Once he followed through with the cutting, she divorced him because she wanted chilldren after all. I nick named her Loraina Bobbit.
This one just hits too close to home. But it’s nice of SNL to remind us it’s not in our heads.
Reminds me of Marie on Everybody Loves Raymond. The way she treated her daughter in law: “ I wish I could just throw on anything and leave the house.” By the way that pink dress the new employee is wearing is fantastic. Very cool and not that corporate career!career!career! look.
Wow! 😯 I had a manager just like her but she wasn't as harmless. I mentioned her use of constant sarcasm once and she kept a grudge until found an excuse to fire me.
They always keep note, then smile after they give you notice, very snide people 🤯
Really well written. Loved it
The "I always told everyone he wasn't gay" was a joke about Tom Cruise!
Yeah, i think the audience noticed too. I wonder if Katie was ok with it
@@邪悪アヤマ she had to be. I don't think she would have done the skit if she wasn't
😲😲😲
🤣🤣🤣
To be honest, as annoying as someone like Pam can be, I would much rather have to deal with someone like her than to be outright abused by a narcissist.
Narcissist can be passive aggressive.
But I find it frustrating because the passive aggressive person plays innocent when you try to call them out on it. So, it's a cowardly way of being abusive towards others.
Being passive aggressive is a form of emotional abuse and can even border on gaslighting.
@@allme2547 Covert narcissist.
@@ceilconstante7813 covert narcissist
I just realised I've met a lot of passive aggressive people in my life.
There are real people who are like this Pam. I traveled with a guy like this multiple times, I didn’t know why. Almost every day I was annoyed.
And there’s always somebody like Pam at your work place lol
Yup. Her name was......wait for it......,PAM! 😩😩😩
My tactic wi it h this personality is to take it at face value. They said a positive thing I’ll take it and make them believe I think it’s a positive thing. They say to do something and I’ll do the thing that they said to do even if it was sarcastic. They can’t do anything about it without owning up to the fact that they were passive aggressive. Works so well and drives them nuts.
It's so real and so good, I've met many of them.
😂🤣🥲Best cast on this sketch!!! Love all of them !!!! ❤️
I love that wicked sense of humor
I've known plenty of those in my work career! There was one woman who walked into the office I was in and promptly gave me a suggestion, of which I promptly told her, 'gee thanks for bringing that to everyone's attention'! She ended up looking like the fool that she was!
BEFORE THERE WERE KARENS, THERE WAS PAM
i wonder what name comes next. should be male?
@@TheTripstraps Notice how it is men calling her "Karen".
In this day and age we call it SHADE!! Lol
Yes, assho*** now should be seen as social role models..
No we still call them bitches and bastards.
The Barbershop quartet is my favorite part, lol
I love the way they trip all over themselves to get away from her!
Katie has a hand gesture for each and every word. She looks like she’s trying to dry her nails throughout the sketch.
I don't think she's ever NOT had that twitchy weird half-grin thing that I find so annoying.
@Yabadoo Lively 😅😂
You really tried to contribute to the conversation. Bless your heart.
@@theparalexview785 Are you doing a Pam bit?! Lol
Great comments ! Sure the peasants who don’t waste their brain cells reading on it will enjoy! (:
For some reason never saw this gem until now! Eternally classic description of these kinds of people.
Omg, I love her. She’s so endearing to me. Kinda resembles my mother... 😅
I grew up around this sort of thing because of my family. I actually never knew the term for it until now.
Very funny! We've all known at least 1 person just like Pam in our lives.
Wow this year.... 2001 Who let the dogs out was a huge thing and Linkin Park dropped the highest selling debut album of this century. crazy how time flies by.
I think this is hilarious, a lot better than some of the recurring sketches....Wondered why it didn't appear more!
this caused me anxiety :S
There’s no way they brought that back. It was too smart and too on the nose for a lot of people I’m sure.
What a rough crowd... Ana Gasteyer is fantastic here!
She's almost too good.
Will Ferrell doesn't do much in this sketch and he still cracks me up.
His commitment is undeniable. The exact opposite of Pete Davidson
Katie Holmes and Drew Barrymore have the same quirks
How many Pam's have I run into over the years? Too many! 😬
Hey! Junior college (community college) is still college! Our courses have to transfer to universities.
Nonsense. Students at CCs expect a substandard academic ride, and most instructors there are barely qualified to provide a mediocre education.
@@notsure1277 University is a money scam that puts you 100k in debt for a annual salary that isn't even half of that when you graduate. Just look at the Harvard graduates.
@@doctordl7757 That may be so, but the topic here is community colleges. How does what you wrote address community colleges?
@@notsure1277 You make it sound like university is ideal while belittling a community college. Are you pretentious?
@@doctordl7757 Not at all. I am speaking from experience. What I have seen with my own eyes.
A lot of her facial expressions and tone in the way she delivers things reminds me a lot of Mad TV's Lancome lady
One of the jokes is a word-for-word lift from one of Nicole Sullivan's Vancome lady sketches on MadTv.
she was wayyyyy too good at this i wanted to actually punch the screen
Every boss I’ve ever had ever!
Lol wtf is this i love it 😂 will farrel's face is priceless
"Let's rummage around the costume closet...oohh barbershop outfits"
There’s a few of these at every workplace
I have to deal with this kind of people...pain
Love this. Surprised it didn't become a recurring sketch...
Wth passive aggressive call em out or pretend you dont understand what theyre saying😂
I knew a woman who spoke EXACTLY like this -- voice and everything. And yes, I am pretty sure she was passive aggressive.
1:59 and he llllllllloved junior college :)
Me, a passive aggressor: Some sketches make you laugh others make you chuckle, and never underestimate the cozy comfort of a good chuckle. They can’t all be hilarious, there’s room for many kinds of “comedy.”
Man this is too real to find funny.
I AM Pam!!!🤣❤️
My boss is exactly like this. I'm looking for a new job 🙄
Same...
“See, I told everyone he wasn’t gay” “Can I offer you a mint” GEEZ 🤣 belly laugh!
Only SNL😂Please more #PassiveAggressivePam
I’m as subtle as a shotgun. Passive Aggressive Pam and I don’t play well together. But it sure is a great show for the office to watch. Then I got my own spinoff series and now Pam works for me. She’s Unhappy Medicated Pam now. And I’m Decides If She Has a Job Tomorrow Boss
Good on you!
Wow!
The best way to combat passive aggression is to BE the passive-aggressive person in your group.
They should have had Pam speak with a Southern accent and it would be complete. Before anyone says anything I'm from Upstate South Carolina.
So am I and have a passive aggressive Pam friend 😳🤣
Southern women have the nastiest attitude when they are passive aggressive. They certainly taught me some of the wrong ways of acting.
Bless your heart...
@@jonp3890 That's funny!
I was born in the South and have lived here all my life, and after 60 years, my estimation of southern charm is that it is deep fried in chilling duplicity. Every action toward a newcomer is a shit test to see if you "get" being southern and how good you are at playing the game.
I have used this video so many times to explain passive aggressiveness to friends that don’t understand what it is. 😂
Like if you know Pams in your life time.
I have a "friend" who is a passive aggressive Pam. You will have a pleasant conversation with her on the phone, but her last comment will always be an underhanded insult you don't quite "get" until she's hung up. So you are left fuming and hating her, but there's nothing you can really say to her, because you don't want to let on that she got you.
The heck with not letting on. Just tell her calmly that she's been rude alot lately and ask her why she does it. Just because you caught the rude remark, doesn't mean you are triggered or that she managed to hurt you. It just means her little personal inside joke wasn't as clever as she thought. Tell her she needs to be more inventive with her insults next time because they are really obvious. She thinks she's being smart and sneaky lol.
I have a similar relative. She does the same thing, ruins every holiday with a passive-aggressive dig (or 3 or 4). I usually place a bet with myself as to when she starts, (first five minutes, as we walk out the door, etc) give myself an over and under of ten or so minutes, and am right 85% of the time.
WHY DON'T YOU JUST BE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BACK.
THAT'S WHAT I DO WITH MY CO-WORKERS. I THINK IT'S HILARIOUS WHEN MY CO-WORKERS ARE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE TO ME !
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love this lol
This is actually hilarious 😂
great sketch, could do without the barbershop quartet
I agree. It was actually annoying and broke the pace of the skit. I would mind the skit bring longer and removing the quartet. It would be interesting seeing Pam ramp it up till it gets ridiculous or something like that.
It *really* is quite an art form to be that miserable but veiled in either being helpful, concerned, or confused.