Tbf, given what she's talked about, I can totally understand why. My family is religious and I felt like they were strict, but this shit sounds almost traumatising.
the driving thing is the foot in the door for insane abuse. you are quite literally trapped unless you husband allows you to go somewhere, and being driven someplace often becomes a privilege that gets rescinded if you don’t behave perfectly. my grandfather used to openly berate my grandmother for being greedy because she asked to be driven to the library.
My mom had to buy a car because that's what it's like with my dad. He does all the driving, and we have these old cars that "magically" don't operate correctly when we want to go somewhere.
She talks to he rmom at least and ik she ay the very elast used to live with, near or cus its her siblings cause she had her brother film a video of her outside and they were jumping on the trampoline and stuff or whatever but uea
yeah I grew up in a church like this and there were girls who would work jobs but the money went straight to their parents bank account because “they could just ask their parents for anything they needed.” And as a girl you were expected to live at home until you were CHOSEN by a man who would ask your fathers permission to court you (“dating” as a concept was considered sinful and irresponsible).
My father had a whip with a leather cross on the end and when i forgot my prayer he would whip me with that thing until i bled , one time he found out that i stayed over at a friend's house and he was waiting me with a hot iron cross back at home, i ran and never came back.
As a muslim I can relate to this. My dad was taught by grandpa that in islam the parents should never have to apologize or admit they are wrong to their child. He said that parents only answer to god and it's only between them and Allah, the child should just take it when the parents made a mistake. Of course this kind of mindset could create a pretty unfair situations and made introspection and change pretty hard, and not just in family situation but also all sorts of situations outside the family.
It's awful I'm a muslim too. But my family kinda break that cycle, it was never taught that parents should never apologise to their children in the Quran. It's the people who made it seemed like parents cannot do any wrongdoings. So we left the "old tradition"
@@hellsbells-b9r yeah, it made my dad a stubborn fool. He always criticize us while he doesn't even do what he told us to do. He's such a wreck at handling everything and just do things because he believes "God" is going to steer him into the right place. It's so frustrating to see someone that's supposed to be never wrong be a giant mess as we realize the truth while growing up.
@@dantederi5062first of all in Islam you have the absolute right to tell your father what he’s doing is wrong but u have to respectfully tell him why and give him evidence, in Islam if your parents are pagans or doing sum wrong, tell em that it’s wrong, you don’t just shut up and let them do what they do if they are doing things against the Quran. Allah will judge us all individually and equally
@@del8548 The Prophet sws said: “Fear Allah and treat your children [small or grown] fairly (with equal justice).” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim) “He who does not show mercy (towards his children), no mercy would be shown to him” (Bukhari). “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock.” (Muslim) Where does the Quran say for a child to apologise to their parents ? Please separate your family cultures and the perfect religion of Islam
Being extremely religious is such an ick. Not because of the religion but because of the obsession people have with it that it becomes an excuse for abuse. Religious abuse is so normalized even though that's not what most of the religion is about
True! This is toxic religion! You can be super religious and still be good tho! Bc in gods eye everybody is EQUAL something that toxic religious people don’t really understand. I’m not trying to be hateful or spiteful, I’m simply trying to spread info
"Sometimes the Bible in the hand of one man is worse than a whisky bottle in the hand of another” -Harper Lee I think this is an important lesson to be learned from some of the stories like this people are sharing from their own lives. My warm regards to you all, religious or not.
Yeah it’s awful seeing how people have turned the Bible to hurt others. Some of it is in the Bible but for the most part it’s people taking God’s name in vain. Literally God is looking at us like “I literally never said that. When did I say that?? When was conversion camps (or insert whatever here) part of the plan?!” And yeah I hate when dumbass people on the internet are like “didn’t your sky daddy say you should be nice to people?” Because those people are impossible to reason with but the people known for misusing the Bible the most are those who claim to follow it.
I grew up with mostly loving and atheist parents who were happy when I would meet with friends or when I had my first gf at 15. It always seemed so weird and unrealistic when I saw such insane rules and child abuse in (mostly American) films. And today I still can't truly grasp how parents can be controlling or even violent towards their children. Why would you even have children then?
Jeez that’s insane. My dad is literally the pastor of our church and both my parents are completely fine with me being asexual. The fact that religious families like this still exist blows my mind. Like this isn’t even just religious this is downright insane. I mean if that whole family dynamic works for you that’s fine but you shouldn’t force it on your kids! Telling your daughter she’s not going to go to college is ridiculous. I mean not giving her the choice to decide whether she wants to go or not just because she’s a girl is absolutely insane!
I love Chad Chad so much. I’m sorry to hear she had extremely religious parents too. 😞 It’s so damaging when parents raise us like this. I’m glad she broke out of it and is who she is now 🖤 I’m excited to get to watch the whole video!
I'm also a fan of Chad Chad and also had an unfortunate religious upbringing that I broke away from. So, the full video hasn't been released yet? I tried looking for it and couldn't find it.
@@emma_luce_0623 No true scotsman fallacy doesn't really help your case here. You can't deny the fact that religious groups CAN and HAVE caused an unfathomable amount of harm to innocent people over centuries of human history just because your model of worship doesn't match theirs. I mean, who are you to decide who's a "real" follower and who isn't? What's next, the crusades weren't actually christian movements at all and they were just messing around for the sake of it?
@@emma_luce_0623 it is brainwashing though. A child isn’t mature enough to understand the complexities of religion and philosophy, nor are they mature enough to understand the concept of a god. All they know is “there’s a magical man in the sky who’s going to make me burn if I do something wrong”. Children should not be raised in religion. The Bible has literal stories of sodomy, r*pe, death, and so on. That is not something you bring a child into.
As a religious person, I absolutely hate how some religious people treat women like that. It’s so horrible and like every community, there’s always going to be THOSE people sadly. Misogyny is not ok!
@@melodyisreallycool it absolutely sucks, but when many major world religions teach that women are second class citizens, or straight up property, it's understandable where it comes from
I’ve been raised in a Christian household, but I’m not sure if I believe. It’s something I’ll figure out in my own, but my parents tell me I’m not allowed to marry a non-Christian, I need to give up my hobbies to focus on God, and they do view men as higher than women. I can’t wait to get out and find my own view of the religion.
The Bible certainly doesn't say that you can't marry a non-christian, though it does say that it is risky. It sounds like you have pretty respectable parents though.
I’m sorry that your parents seem to be very controlling. In the context of their religious convictions, it makes sense why they would want you to marry a Christian, but they are for sure overstepping their bounds for sure with setting a rule on marriage instead of recommending/guiding you to find a Christian partner. Also, I’m sorry if they truly believe that women have less worth than men. No church worth partaking in should uphold the belief that men have more intrinsic value than women. I hope you find your way to a good church (maybe look into Catholicism or Anglicanism/Episcopalianism) which respects universal human dignity and that you can develop more healthy boundary with your parents in the future!
Ignore the first two replies, do what you want with your own life, it's not worth letting twisted teachings cloud your judgement. Do whatever you think is right for yourself, and if that involves getting the hell out of dodge then definitely do that
The driving thing is so thoroughly stupid. Even if you’re in the patriarchal 50s bs all the way, if she can’t drive, how is she meant to take the kids to school? Or shop for groceries? Or do half of the things expected of a 100% stay at home parent?
Homeschool the kids, use the school bus, order groceries(or ask husband to bring them) or wait for the man to come home to go out. Don’t get me wrong it is still outrageous, but I have no doubts that people have done this to women regardless, and some might still live like this. Like I know for one my grandma doesn’t drive.
I want to say that religion does not excuse this behavior. This is a prime example of how over time religion became something completely different, and a way for men to have more power. It’s so sad to see people who have had horrible and traumatic experiences from the church when it should have been the opposite. Like that’s not what religion is supposed to do, it’s supposed to free your soul! Not worldly tie you down :( I wish religion had not become this terrible excuse to treat others as lesser than, because not all religion is like this and it scares people away completely
@@christiannsl14 Timothy 2:12 - I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. Religion has always been shitty. It was created in order to control people so they act how you want them to act. Aka, a cult.
who wrote the book? it was the men who wanted to set it up that way in the first place, right? fearmongering, control, and power have been the exact point of religion from day one, they just tell you it's meant to be good so that the bad can be dismissed as "a few bad apples" or "misinterpretations of god's word".
But why would patriarchal religious extremists want women driving? A license = agency, driving alone = possibly going places the father or husband wouldn't want them to. Control is the name of the game.
@@unai49999 that’s bullshit tho and most ppl know that. housewives in the 1950s drove cars commonly bc they had to run errands while their spouse was at work. MANY MANY women owned cars then, bc they had to! there might’ve been SOME stigma, but for the most part, American women were different from the rest of the world bc they owned and operated vehicles so commonly.
@@pillowvibes what is bs? That backwards a** religious freaks exist? It's Kinda messed up that you are literally trying to silence the victims cause in your eyes "this doesn't happen since 1800". Specially when someone is telling you "It happened to me"
@@pillowvibes yt deleted my answer and IDK what triggered It so I'm not spending much time here. Dismissing someone for telling you there's still some groups that operate like this is messed up.
No hate to the religious people who are genuinely loving and accepting people, but when I hear about stories like this it makes me thankful to have parents like mine, my dad is constantly encouraging me to make sure I can support MYSELF and have a steady income and education before I even think about marriage or kids
As a religious person, hearing stories like this makes me so upset. Religion means more to me than my own life, and it’s such a beautiful thing. The fact that some people would twist their religion in such a way that someone like Chad Chad would have these horror stories is honestly an insult to me and everyone like me
It is true, one time My sibling and I were arguing. And my father always said that you can't fight with your siblings and that you should love each other, so me and my sister were arguing about something and my father became so mad that he tied us together with a rope until we made up. At that time I didn't realize that that was not normal. Religion is just an excuse for these behaviors
"Twist a religion." Religion has always been like this since the beginning. The Bible is constantly saying the women are below men, that they should be silent, that their only redeeming quality is giving birth. You don't get to follow a hateful religion and then pretend like it isn't the religion.
And then they DO let you get a driver’s license when they realize they don’t want to take the kids everywhere they need to be. So suddenly it IS important.
Its so unfortunate how religion is supposed to guide people to a good life and to do good things, but then people take it too far and traumatized those close to them
Exactly. Like I believe in a God but I hate the word "religious" because I do not want to be associated with these kinds of people. I'm lucky to have grown up in a religious family that doesn't have extremely traditional views, but I know there's a lot of people who don't and either end up brainwashed and continuing the cycle or just... broken. It's saddening.
It's so unfortunate that people choose to ignore how inherently harmful religion is, and then pretend like it's actually a good thing. Funny how atheists don't need a book to tell them not to kill people.
And there are genuinely still guys who say, without a hint of disbelief, that misogyny is in the past, all in our heads, and that we’re “looking for sexism” (actual words said to me after I talked about being sexually harassed omw to work). Meanwhile shit like this still exists, is still commonplace, and women are still dying by the thousands just for being women.
Okay but also how will the "can only be a mother" drive their kids to school and soccer practice and to friend's houses then? Like wouldnt that still be part of the "only mom" role? Lol
My family's like this. Kids just straight up arent allowed to go anywhere or have anyone over. They just exist in the house learning either "manly" work like woodworking, plumbing, or metalsmithing or "womanly" work like embroidering, baking, or general housework. No friends after school. No sports unless the school provides transport. No jobs. And then the parents act shocked when the kids turn out messed up
This video is gonna be a good one! Side note, I can’t believe people can think so backwards and old fashioned like that but it’s unfortunately we live in a society 😩
Okay but as a Jew who follows the Torah, our religious texts are also binding and don't excuse or allow this behavior either. I know you don't follow them or consider talmud or mishnah binding, but please don't lean into the "these texts no longer matter because the Jews are outdated" shit
As a Christian I’m so sorry Chadchads family was like that. While for me to the family dynamic was also God, then the dad, mom, and the kids, it didn’t seem to affect much, they weren’t too strict.
Once upon a time i had to teach an elderly lady how to pay for and pump her gas. Turns out her husband had just passed and she hadn't done it since they got married in the 70's. I think about her when i hear people say "ah your hubby can just do that for you".
Except the Bible itself is extremely sexist. Timothy 2:12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. I'm tired of """good""" religious people acting like it isn't their religion. You don't get to pick and choose what parts of the religion you follow, and then claim that's what it actually is, because that isn't how religion works.
@@LycanKai14 the Bible it’s not sexist you see a lot of people when they see a verse or they hear a verse in the Bible. They think that’s it instead of doing their background check why do you think Paul said women shouldn’t preach and women shouldn’t do this and women shouldn’t do that because at that time, women were taking the male role instead of men taking their God-given responsibility to preach the word.
@@LycanKai14 and also when you hear other verses, they kinda sound contradictory. Make sure you do your background check first and understand why the author said that. there are some verses where I’m like why the hell did he say that but when I do the background check I’m like OK now I understand why he said that so when you hear reverse that kind of sounds a little bit you know or make sure you kind of do your background check as to why it was said
@@LycanKai14 and also reading the Bible from a human point of view is never the right idea because the Bible is the living word of God so you have to read it with the Holy Spirit and not your carnal mind
I personally think that if someone is truly religious, they wouldn't be so restricting towards woman... I hope I don't offend anyone... (if I do offend any of you I apologize in advance...)
It's almost like... a lot of people who's just blatantly patriarchal tries to hide under the "religious" umbrella, and connects everything to God's wisdom... when in reality that might not be what God actually want us to do...
Anyways, any type of abuse is never normal and should never be normalized. Even if it comes from someone who's "religious", it will never justify what trauma they've caused to the victims.
No you're right, and if anyone gets offended by your non offensive take, they should understand everyone has their own perspective and world veiw. As a Muslim, we know extremism is prohibited, and that Islam was one of the first monotheistic religions to off women the freedom to work, to fight, to own businesses and land, and to pick her spouse. And I see so many westernized Muslim men follow the way of the overtly patriarchal beliefs of the west and it just gets so misconstrued. They use religion to hide.
Yooo this vid is gonna be hype! Seems like ChadChad has a complicated upbringing so it’s gonna be fun to delve into deeper into that! We love you Anthony!
I feel so sorry for Chad Chad. This makes me so grateful for my own mom and family❤ To anyone whos in these type of families, stay safe and dont let ur own family take control of ur own future💘🙏
Im so glad Chad Chad was able to break through and realize what their parents were forcing on them was wrong. They're seriously so strong for realizing they're not just an object like their parents want them to believe.
the drivers license thing is bizarre cuz like... if he's at work and you're at home rearing the kids all day, you're bound to need to drive yourself for an emergency store run or to take the kids out to the park or something
It's horrible how people still even support certain scriptures. When those scriptures are what put through thousands of women through horrible shit. Why would God mistreat his own creations and belittle them to nothing but marriage and babymakers? Make it make sense! That book is probably the devils 🙄
You should be angry at the people twisting the Bible to say what they want, not the Bible itself. Hopefully you will find it in yourself to ask for forgiveness.
Patriarchy knows no religion or region. Im a muslim female from Sudan my family is very religious yet the total opposite of this. They always prioritized our education and pushed us to pursue our careers and become independent, as a necessity not a luxury, because most ppl on earth need to work to survive. Our family was not an exception, almost everyone in our generation was like that. We pursued our careers at home and abroad, and traveled on our own. We had full social lives. I am extremely grateful but I do realize patriarchy exists everywhere. Only the West have done a great job denying it at home and blasting others for it, esp us the muslims and developing countries.
I am a Christian, but this is cult behavior. I want to eventually get married and have kids, but i also plan to get a drivers license, go to college, and become an actress/drama teacher
This is exactly like my family. Everything they make me learn, 'it's for when you have a husband', 'for when you have kids', never for myself. I went to college but i didn't even get to choose what i study, got the useless degree just for show. But the good thing about going to college, I'd probably still think this was normal if i didn't go to college and meet different people. the way i view the world changed. I still don't have a driver's license because I don't have the confidence to drive now. Also, I'm still bitter over the boys getting paid to do the chores they expect me to do everyday workout even getting a thank you.
It is not easy for boys either, my brother (he is pretty skinny) gets body shamed a lot by my father "you need to eat more, you look like a toothpick" "you have zero muscles, you're so weak", also he is not allowed to cry or show any signs of weakness, and he gets so much pressure into having really high grades so that he can later provide for his family.
@@0-Sweet-Cloud-0 I'm not saying it's easy for boys. I'm saying my brothers were treated so much better and it definitely has to do with our gender because it was never a secret. It was always 'you are a woman, so this or that'. And also bullying someone because they're skinny has nothing to do with religion. I feel sorry for him because I was bullied for it too.
My mom’s family is like this, she’s Hispanic, and almost every single woman relative we have who was ever married grew up this way, and then when their husbands died young, they were left without the means to take care of themselves, so the children always had to take over. My mom lost her dad when she was only 20, and her mom never learned to drive, because she was a woman and your husband drives you around. So it forced my mom and her little sister to get their driver’s licenses so their mother could go places. That’s just one of many examples, but teaching women that they shouldn’t learn to do certain things because their husband will do it for them, is always setting them up for more hardship later on. They either can’t be independent from their husband because only their husband has the means and skills to support himself, she has nowhere to go and no money or skills to take with her, and no way to leave; or her husband dies unexpectedly young (which was the case with most of my family), and she is left a young widow without a husband to do all the things she wasn’t allowed to learn or have, and now she has to pick up the pieces and rely on her children to make up the difference. It’s sad that we’ve taught women this for so many generations, my uncle just passed away very unexpectedly and young, and his widow was taught the same things, and now has no job or skills to support herself and her daughters, doesn’t drive, has no money, etc. The cycle only seems to stop when daughters are forced to take over the “husband’s” role when their mother needs it, and they finally realize why this doesn’t work.
Lmaooo I’m literally a woman whose husband drives her everywhere 🤣 it’s because I have anxiety and suck at focusing so I don’t trust myself to drive, and if I needed to my friends also take me places and I could Uber if I had to. I don’t think it’s the most convenient and it shouldn’t be forced on anyone or expected that a woman wouldn’t want her own license and car though. That’s just dumb and misogynistic
She said she her family was part of a cult in video before. It was on one of the fellowship prayer podcast things she used to do with nick and Mr beard.
Our family never had anything to do with gender, but there was a patriarchy. Kids would be ignored when they showed off their passion, because to my family, children are too young to even have a dream that has a chance to come true. Adults were at the top. If you spoke against my parents saying you wanted to do something different, they would not be aggressive, but just put you down. My parents now say they hope to never do that again, but that is the reason why I give up on so many projects. A patriarchy in a family is incredibly unhealthy
OMW.. So sorry to anyone who went through this ❤❤... It's so sad how people twist God's word to promote their agenda God loves you and has a plan for you. He wants a relationship with you. For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. '” - Jeremiah 29:11.
I live in the deep South and that level of religious extremism is extremely uncommon here in my experience. I cannot imagine living in a family like that. I thought it was extreme when my grandmother wouldn't allow my sister to read Harry Potter when we were younger but that's just insane
It’s so awful that people like this exist, especially when it makes all Christians seem like that when that’s not true. My family is religious and that’s definitely not how it works around my house (or our church, for that matter). I’m so sorry for anybody with bad religious experiences.
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Chad Chad gets more and more interesting the more I learn about her. You have had so many good guests on this series lately.
@ville__you spam constantly so I have my doubts 😂
@ville__bruh this ain’t how you market yourself
@ville__no u don’t go away
@ville__ your videos are trash.
@ville__ A passion for fighting against cyber bullying yet you're out here commenting about wanting to watch cp on other videos....hmmm...
this made me realize she never talks about her life lol
Tbf, given what she's talked about, I can totally understand why. My family is religious and I felt like they were strict, but this shit sounds almost traumatising.
@@Vi_Renders As someone who was also raised by very religious people, it IS traumatizing.
@@MatthewTheWanderer oh yeah, no, definitely.
all I know is one of her 7(?) siblings has 9 kids. and even then I'm not sure she wasn't just making a bit in a video.
This video def explains why
the driving thing is the foot in the door for insane abuse. you are quite literally trapped unless you husband allows you to go somewhere, and being driven someplace often becomes a privilege that gets rescinded if you don’t behave perfectly. my grandfather used to openly berate my grandmother for being greedy because she asked to be driven to the library.
it sucks so bad to know that people live their whole lives and die like that. very few differences to actual slavery
My mom had to buy a car because that's what it's like with my dad. He does all the driving, and we have these old cars that "magically" don't operate correctly when we want to go somewhere.
car based societies are insane wtf
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What?😅
@@tabithanel1975They're right. Car-centric cities are actively dangerous to the pedestrian.
I have a feeling that she probably doesn't speak to her parents anymore and they have the gall to wonder why💀💀
Shity parents will neglect and abuse their children and wonder why their children hate them and don't want to be around them 😭
She’s said in her vids before that she texts her mom every day
100%
She talks to he rmom at least and ik she ay the very elast used to live with, near or cus its her siblings cause she had her brother film a video of her outside and they were jumping on the trampoline and stuff or whatever but uea
@@ummm1444 also her dad passed away too
yeah I grew up in a church like this and there were girls who would work jobs but the money went straight to their parents bank account because “they could just ask their parents for anything they needed.”
And as a girl you were expected to live at home until you were CHOSEN by a man who would ask your fathers permission to court you (“dating” as a concept was considered sinful and irresponsible).
It's the same here in the Philippines.
That sounds like some man made religion right there
What kind of 1700’s way of thinking is that
I'm agnostic, but I never liked the churches that felt like jobs. A church should feel like a family.
@@anangrycucco right! I like how you put that 👏 Jesus loves you ❤️
My father had a whip with a leather cross on the end and when i forgot my prayer he would whip me with that thing until i bled , one time he found out that i stayed over at a friend's house and he was waiting me with a hot iron cross back at home, i ran and never came back.
good on ya mate
Your sperm donor was insane
Hope you're doing better now Silotx. Absolutely horrible.
Damn
I hope you're doing better ❤
As a muslim I can relate to this. My dad was taught by grandpa that in islam the parents should never have to apologize or admit they are wrong to their child. He said that parents only answer to god and it's only between them and Allah, the child should just take it when the parents made a mistake. Of course this kind of mindset could create a pretty unfair situations and made introspection and change pretty hard, and not just in family situation but also all sorts of situations outside the family.
Damn, and they expected you guys to love them and look past their mistakes or however they hurt you.
It's awful I'm a muslim too. But my family kinda break that cycle, it was never taught that parents should never apologise to their children in the Quran. It's the people who made it seemed like parents cannot do any wrongdoings. So we left the "old tradition"
@@hellsbells-b9r yeah, it made my dad a stubborn fool. He always criticize us while he doesn't even do what he told us to do. He's such a wreck at handling everything and just do things because he believes "God" is going to steer him into the right place. It's so frustrating to see someone that's supposed to be never wrong be a giant mess as we realize the truth while growing up.
@@dantederi5062first of all in Islam you have the absolute right to tell your father what he’s doing is wrong but u have to respectfully tell him why and give him evidence, in Islam if your parents are pagans or doing sum wrong, tell em that it’s wrong, you don’t just shut up and let them do what they do if they are doing things against the Quran. Allah will judge us all individually and equally
@@del8548 The Prophet sws said:
“Fear Allah and treat your children [small or grown] fairly (with equal justice).” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
“He who does not show mercy (towards his children), no mercy would be shown to him” (Bukhari).
“Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock.” (Muslim)
Where does the Quran say for a child to apologise to their parents ?
Please separate your family cultures and the perfect religion of Islam
Being extremely religious is such an ick. Not because of the religion but because of the obsession people have with it that it becomes an excuse for abuse. Religious abuse is so normalized even though that's not what most of the religion is about
yeah for real. religion is fine. believe whatever you damn well please if it makes you happy. however extremist religious shit is not cool.
Yes and the fact these religious parents will completely isolate their children out of fear they might not become exact clones of them is terrifying
I completely agree, and i am Christian
highly agree
True! This is toxic religion! You can be super religious and still be good tho! Bc in gods eye everybody is EQUAL something that toxic religious people don’t really understand. I’m not trying to be hateful or spiteful, I’m simply trying to spread info
It hurts to see how much religious people have harmed those around them.
so did the atheists.
@@shahrukhkhan8307 BS! Religion is and always has been infinitely more harmful.
@@shahrukhkhan8307 what did atheists do?
@@shahrukhkhan8307 loll
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"Sometimes the Bible in the hand of one man is worse than a whisky bottle in the hand of another”
-Harper Lee
I think this is an important lesson to be learned from some of the stories like this people are sharing from their own lives. My warm regards to you all, religious or not.
Facts
That’s a beautiful quote. Thank you for sharing!
Yeah it’s awful seeing how people have turned the Bible to hurt others. Some of it is in the Bible but for the most part it’s people taking God’s name in vain. Literally God is looking at us like “I literally never said that. When did I say that?? When was conversion camps (or insert whatever here) part of the plan?!”
And yeah I hate when dumbass people on the internet are like “didn’t your sky daddy say you should be nice to people?” Because those people are impossible to reason with but the people known for misusing the Bible the most are those who claim to follow it.
I grew up very similarly. As 31 year old I'm only now really learning that not everyone grew up that way.
Me while watching this video rn 😮
I grew up with mostly loving and atheist parents who were happy when I would meet with friends or when I had my first gf at 15. It always seemed so weird and unrealistic when I saw such insane rules and child abuse in (mostly American) films. And today I still can't truly grasp how parents can be controlling or even violent towards their children. Why would you even have children then?
@@goldminer754religion, and some societal norms sprinkled in. A lot of women are made to believe they can’t even divorce or use protection so 🤷♀️
Jeez that’s insane. My dad is literally the pastor of our church and both my parents are completely fine with me being asexual. The fact that religious families like this still exist blows my mind. Like this isn’t even just religious this is downright insane. I mean if that whole family dynamic works for you that’s fine but you shouldn’t force it on your kids! Telling your daughter she’s not going to go to college is ridiculous. I mean not giving her the choice to decide whether she wants to go or not just because she’s a girl is absolutely insane!
I love Chad Chad so much. I’m sorry to hear she had extremely religious parents too. 😞 It’s so damaging when parents raise us like this. I’m glad she broke out of it and is who she is now 🖤 I’m excited to get to watch the whole video!
I'm also a fan of Chad Chad and also had an unfortunate religious upbringing that I broke away from. So, the full video hasn't been released yet? I tried looking for it and couldn't find it.
@@MatthewTheWanderer I’m sorry you went through that as well! It was just released a couple of minutes ago, I was keeping an eye out for it. ^_^
@@belladonnablack8486 Thank you! 🙂
These are not religious views, these are just stupid views her parents have. Religion does not command or condone any of this
@@emma_luce_0623 No true scotsman fallacy doesn't really help your case here. You can't deny the fact that religious groups CAN and HAVE caused an unfathomable amount of harm to innocent people over centuries of human history just because your model of worship doesn't match theirs. I mean, who are you to decide who's a "real" follower and who isn't? What's next, the crusades weren't actually christian movements at all and they were just messing around for the sake of it?
I don’t care what anyone says, you should never force your religion onto your kid.
Almost like it's literal brainwashing or something
@@ticklordthat's like saying teaching a child math is brainwashing 😂
@@emma_luce_0623 it is brainwashing though. A child isn’t mature enough to understand the complexities of religion and philosophy, nor are they mature enough to understand the concept of a god. All they know is “there’s a magical man in the sky who’s going to make me burn if I do something wrong”.
Children should not be raised in religion. The Bible has literal stories of sodomy, r*pe, death, and so on. That is not something you bring a child into.
@emma_luce_0623 you need to learn math to live a normal life and have basic understanding. Where do you need the bible?
@@emma_luce_0623Math is factual
I'm so happy for her, she's so strong 👑
That idea just makes my stomach turn...
To think we wouldn’t have Chad Chad if she followed through with what her parents wanted
It's always shocking realizing this stuff is still common. People growing up like it's 100 years ago.
Sounds Mormon.. especially with the seeing women as nothing but incubators part
It's not just Mormon, these Ideals spread to a wide range of religious cultures. Only recently has the world changed it view of women.
See I was thinking some flavor of fundie
@@shani-just-shani reminds me of like the duggars or something
@@CutiePatootiest ohhhh yes very IBLP coded
literally could be any religion 💀
Remember seeing the same clip on insta. Some of the comments were horrible
Classic Instagram comments
So...just Instagram
What did they say
@@Myeedit Lots of comments saying she failed her family or something for leaving the dynamic idk it’s been a while
@@Synthwra1thyikes. this is why im never going anywhere near ig reels
In these comments: religious people defending child abuse#
Yup
ive literally only seen comments of people agreeing with chadchad
@@squid8420 sadly, there's a few, mostly in the replies, where they're defending the abuse done by people through religion
As a religious person, I absolutely hate how some religious people treat women like that. It’s so horrible and like every community, there’s always going to be THOSE people sadly. Misogyny is not ok!
@@melodyisreallycool it absolutely sucks, but when many major world religions teach that women are second class citizens, or straight up property, it's understandable where it comes from
I’ve been raised in a Christian household, but I’m not sure if I believe. It’s something I’ll figure out in my own, but my parents tell me I’m not allowed to marry a non-Christian, I need to give up my hobbies to focus on God, and they do view men as higher than women. I can’t wait to get out and find my own view of the religion.
Read the writings of priest-monk Seraphim Rose. All your questions will be resolved.
The Bible certainly doesn't say that you can't marry a non-christian, though it does say that it is risky. It sounds like you have pretty respectable parents though.
I’m sorry that your parents seem to be very controlling. In the context of their religious convictions, it makes sense why they would want you to marry a Christian, but they are for sure overstepping their bounds for sure with setting a rule on marriage instead of recommending/guiding you to find a Christian partner. Also, I’m sorry if they truly believe that women have less worth than men. No church worth partaking in should uphold the belief that men have more intrinsic value than women. I hope you find your way to a good church (maybe look into Catholicism or Anglicanism/Episcopalianism) which respects universal human dignity and that you can develop more healthy boundary with your parents in the future!
Ignore the first two replies, do what you want with your own life, it's not worth letting twisted teachings cloud your judgement. Do whatever you think is right for yourself, and if that involves getting the hell out of dodge then definitely do that
@@Surfing_Pikachugod would want her to have hobbies.
These comments are just pointing out how good it was she didn’t follow that path 😭
The driving thing is so thoroughly stupid. Even if you’re in the patriarchal 50s bs all the way, if she can’t drive, how is she meant to take the kids to school? Or shop for groceries? Or do half of the things expected of a 100% stay at home parent?
Homeschool the kids, use the school bus, order groceries(or ask husband to bring them) or wait for the man to come home to go out. Don’t get me wrong it is still outrageous, but I have no doubts that people have done this to women regardless, and some might still live like this. Like I know for one my grandma doesn’t drive.
That's messed up. She is not even that old or anything. This is likely still happening.
It's not "likely" still happening. Tens of millions of people in just the US live that way right now.
Representatives you had the chance to vote for for are currently fighting to protect it too
@@LoisoPondohvaand millions more in South East Asia.
This happens everyday everywhere 😂😭read these comments...it's 2024 how are people still asleep
Of course it is happening. Home schooling your kids should be illegal.
I want to say that religion does not excuse this behavior. This is a prime example of how over time religion became something completely different, and a way for men to have more power. It’s so sad to see people who have had horrible and traumatic experiences from the church when it should have been the opposite. Like that’s not what religion is supposed to do, it’s supposed to free your soul! Not worldly tie you down :( I wish religion had not become this terrible excuse to treat others as lesser than, because not all religion is like this and it scares people away completely
Couldn't agree more ☝️
Hadn’t religion always been about power consolidation, as opposed to spirituality let’s say?
@@michaelakatherine2431Not really. It's just that some people nitpick and twist the teachings.
@@christiannsl14 Timothy 2:12 - I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet.
Religion has always been shitty. It was created in order to control people so they act how you want them to act. Aka, a cult.
who wrote the book? it was the men who wanted to set it up that way in the first place, right? fearmongering, control, and power have been the exact point of religion from day one, they just tell you it's meant to be good so that the bad can be dismissed as "a few bad apples" or "misinterpretations of god's word".
no drivers license for women??? women have been allowed to drive since the 1800s 😭😭
But why would patriarchal religious extremists want women driving? A license = agency, driving alone = possibly going places the father or husband wouldn't want them to. Control is the name of the game.
Legally? Sure, socially? Don't be like there's no stigma left, a year ago andrew poTate was saying something on those lines.
@@unai49999 that’s bullshit tho and most ppl know that.
housewives in the 1950s drove cars commonly bc they had to run errands while their spouse was at work. MANY MANY women owned cars then, bc they had to! there might’ve been SOME stigma, but for the most part, American women were different from the rest of the world bc they owned and operated vehicles so commonly.
@@pillowvibes what is bs? That backwards a** religious freaks exist?
It's Kinda messed up that you are literally trying to silence the victims cause in your eyes "this doesn't happen since 1800". Specially when someone is telling you "It happened to me"
@@pillowvibes yt deleted my answer and IDK what triggered It so I'm not spending much time here. Dismissing someone for telling you there's still some groups that operate like this is messed up.
Hearing this, I'm kinda happy that my dad half forced me to get a driver's license.
No hate to the religious people who are genuinely loving and accepting people, but when I hear about stories like this it makes me thankful to have parents like mine, my dad is constantly encouraging me to make sure I can support MYSELF and have a steady income and education before I even think about marriage or kids
Proud of her! Makes her content-reaction videos where she speaks her mind-so much more inspiring and awesome!
As a religious person, hearing stories like this makes me so upset. Religion means more to me than my own life, and it’s such a beautiful thing. The fact that some people would twist their religion in such a way that someone like Chad Chad would have these horror stories is honestly an insult to me and everyone like me
It is true, one time
My sibling and I were arguing. And my father always said that you can't fight with your siblings and that you should love each other, so me and my sister were arguing about something and my father became so mad that he tied us together with a rope until we made up.
At that time I didn't realize that that was not normal. Religion is just an excuse for these behaviors
"Twist a religion." Religion has always been like this since the beginning. The Bible is constantly saying the women are below men, that they should be silent, that their only redeeming quality is giving birth.
You don't get to follow a hateful religion and then pretend like it isn't the religion.
And then they DO let you get a driver’s license when they realize they don’t want to take the kids everywhere they need to be. So suddenly it IS important.
i love chadchad! cant wait for this video. also wow thats fucked up
One of my favorite youtubers. I'm glad she escaped her family and has a better life now. ❤️
Its so unfortunate how religion is supposed to guide people to a good life and to do good things, but then people take it too far and traumatized those close to them
Right
Exactly. Like I believe in a God but I hate the word "religious" because I do not want to be associated with these kinds of people. I'm lucky to have grown up in a religious family that doesn't have extremely traditional views, but I know there's a lot of people who don't and either end up brainwashed and continuing the cycle or just... broken. It's saddening.
@@bagelisdeadYou hit the nail right on the head there.
Religion was always a method of control. And the only difference between religion and a cult is time.
It's so unfortunate that people choose to ignore how inherently harmful religion is, and then pretend like it's actually a good thing. Funny how atheists don't need a book to tell them not to kill people.
And there are genuinely still guys who say, without a hint of disbelief, that misogyny is in the past, all in our heads, and that we’re “looking for sexism” (actual words said to me after I talked about being sexually harassed omw to work). Meanwhile shit like this still exists, is still commonplace, and women are still dying by the thousands just for being women.
Okay but also how will the "can only be a mother" drive their kids to school and soccer practice and to friend's houses then? Like wouldnt that still be part of the "only mom" role? Lol
The kids aren’t allowed to go anywhere and they’re probably expecting home schooling from the mother as well. Idk
My family's like this. Kids just straight up arent allowed to go anywhere or have anyone over. They just exist in the house learning either "manly" work like woodworking, plumbing, or metalsmithing or "womanly" work like embroidering, baking, or general housework. No friends after school. No sports unless the school provides transport. No jobs. And then the parents act shocked when the kids turn out messed up
Chad Chad was homeschooled so her parents probably expected her to also homeschool her kids. Insane stuff
Yea, we're homeschooled and restricted from having an outside life.
This video is gonna be a good one!
Side note, I can’t believe people can think so backwards and old fashioned like that but it’s unfortunately we live in a society 😩
i hate how some christians live like we’re still bound to the Old Testament. like no we’re not, Jesus fulfilled them and made the New Testament.
This
Okay but as a Jew who follows the Torah, our religious texts are also binding and don't excuse or allow this behavior either. I know you don't follow them or consider talmud or mishnah binding, but please don't lean into the "these texts no longer matter because the Jews are outdated" shit
As a Christian I’m so sorry Chadchads family was like that. While for me to the family dynamic was also God, then the dad, mom, and the kids, it didn’t seem to affect much, they weren’t too strict.
Once upon a time i had to teach an elderly lady how to pay for and pump her gas. Turns out her husband had just passed and she hadn't done it since they got married in the 70's. I think about her when i hear people say "ah your hubby can just do that for you".
My love for Chad Chad continues to grow
That’s why I always say there’s a difference between being extremely religious and actually following God/Jesus
Except the Bible itself is extremely sexist.
Timothy 2:12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet.
I'm tired of """good""" religious people acting like it isn't their religion. You don't get to pick and choose what parts of the religion you follow, and then claim that's what it actually is, because that isn't how religion works.
@@LycanKai14 the Bible it’s not sexist you see a lot of people when they see a verse or they hear a verse in the Bible. They think that’s it instead of doing their background check why do you think Paul said women shouldn’t preach and women shouldn’t do this and women shouldn’t do that because at that time, women were taking the male role instead of men taking their God-given responsibility to preach the word.
@@LycanKai14 and also when you hear other verses, they kinda sound contradictory. Make sure you do your background check first and understand why the author said that. there are some verses where I’m like why the hell did he say that but when I do the background check I’m like OK now I understand why he said that so when you hear reverse that kind of sounds a little bit you know or make sure you kind of do your background check as to why it was said
@@LycanKai14 and also reading the Bible from a human point of view is never the right idea because the Bible is the living word of God so you have to read it with the Holy Spirit and not your carnal mind
I personally think that if someone is truly religious, they wouldn't be so restricting towards woman... I hope I don't offend anyone... (if I do offend any of you I apologize in advance...)
It's almost like... a lot of people who's just blatantly patriarchal tries to hide under the "religious" umbrella, and connects everything to God's wisdom... when in reality that might not be what God actually want us to do...
Anyways, any type of abuse is never normal and should never be normalized. Even if it comes from someone who's "religious", it will never justify what trauma they've caused to the victims.
No you're right, and if anyone gets offended by your non offensive take, they should understand everyone has their own perspective and world veiw. As a Muslim, we know extremism is prohibited, and that Islam was one of the first monotheistic religions to off women the freedom to work, to fight, to own businesses and land, and to pick her spouse. And I see so many westernized Muslim men follow the way of the overtly patriarchal beliefs of the west and it just gets so misconstrued. They use religion to hide.
Yooo this vid is gonna be hype! Seems like ChadChad has a complicated upbringing so it’s gonna be fun to delve into deeper into that! We love you Anthony!
I love Chad Chad so much bc I can actually relate to her unlike everyone else in mainstream media
I feel so sorry for Chad Chad. This makes me so grateful for my own mom and family❤ To anyone whos in these type of families, stay safe and dont let ur own family take control of ur own future💘🙏
Im so glad Chad Chad was able to break through and realize what their parents were forcing on them was wrong. They're seriously so strong for realizing they're not just an object like their parents want them to believe.
the drivers license thing is bizarre cuz like... if he's at work and you're at home rearing the kids all day, you're bound to need to drive yourself for an emergency store run or to take the kids out to the park or something
It's insane how close to home this hits
It's horrible how people still even support certain scriptures. When those scriptures are what put through thousands of women through horrible shit. Why would God mistreat his own creations and belittle them to nothing but marriage and babymakers? Make it make sense! That book is probably the devils 🙄
You should be angry at the people twisting the Bible to say what they want, not the Bible itself. Hopefully you will find it in yourself to ask for forgiveness.
Because it was rewritten by king James, that blasphemous loser. In Gods eyes, men and women are equal and are to be treated as such.
@@Surfing_Pikachuif there's anybody who needs forgiveness, it's not OP
@@Surfing_PikachuMan you are just all over these comments harassing anyone who isn't xtian in the way you like huh. Get a hobby
Patriarchy knows no religion or region. Im a muslim female from Sudan my family is very religious yet the total opposite of this. They always prioritized our education and pushed us to pursue our careers and become independent, as a necessity not a luxury, because most ppl on earth need to work to survive. Our family was not an exception, almost everyone in our generation was like that. We pursued our careers at home and abroad, and traveled on our own. We had full social lives. I am extremely grateful but I do realize patriarchy exists everywhere. Only the West have done a great job denying it at home and blasting others for it, esp us the muslims and developing countries.
I am a Christian, but this is cult behavior. I want to eventually get married and have kids, but i also plan to get a drivers license, go to college, and become an actress/drama teacher
better be a 50 minute episode !!
i LOVE Chad Chad
Chad Chad is so Chad, She has double the Chad.
They give a similar vibe like they could be siblings.
Chad Chad and Anthony Chad.
A religious girl I loved when I was younger told me I was the antichrist and now I have a pentagram tattoo. ✨ religious effects✨
My respect for Chad Chad just grew.
I knew she was real religious as soon as she made a 3 min skit about veggie tales 😭😂
This is exactly like my family. Everything they make me learn, 'it's for when you have a husband', 'for when you have kids', never for myself. I went to college but i didn't even get to choose what i study, got the useless degree just for show. But the good thing about going to college, I'd probably still think this was normal if i didn't go to college and meet different people. the way i view the world changed. I still don't have a driver's license because I don't have the confidence to drive now. Also, I'm still bitter over the boys getting paid to do the chores they expect me to do everyday workout even getting a thank you.
It is not easy for boys either, my brother (he is pretty skinny) gets body shamed a lot by my father "you need to eat more, you look like a toothpick" "you have zero muscles, you're so weak", also he is not allowed to cry or show any signs of weakness, and he gets so much pressure into having really high grades so that he can later provide for his family.
@@0-Sweet-Cloud-0 I'm not saying it's easy for boys. I'm saying my brothers were treated so much better and it definitely has to do with our gender because it was never a secret. It was always 'you are a woman, so this or that'. And also bullying someone because they're skinny has nothing to do with religion. I feel sorry for him because I was bullied for it too.
Chad Chad I relate to you so much girl keep doing you ❤
My mom’s family is like this, she’s Hispanic, and almost every single woman relative we have who was ever married grew up this way, and then when their husbands died young, they were left without the means to take care of themselves, so the children always had to take over. My mom lost her dad when she was only 20, and her mom never learned to drive, because she was a woman and your husband drives you around. So it forced my mom and her little sister to get their driver’s licenses so their mother could go places. That’s just one of many examples, but teaching women that they shouldn’t learn to do certain things because their husband will do it for them, is always setting them up for more hardship later on. They either can’t be independent from their husband because only their husband has the means and skills to support himself, she has nowhere to go and no money or skills to take with her, and no way to leave; or her husband dies unexpectedly young (which was the case with most of my family), and she is left a young widow without a husband to do all the things she wasn’t allowed to learn or have, and now she has to pick up the pieces and rely on her children to make up the difference. It’s sad that we’ve taught women this for so many generations, my uncle just passed away very unexpectedly and young, and his widow was taught the same things, and now has no job or skills to support herself and her daughters, doesn’t drive, has no money, etc. The cycle only seems to stop when daughters are forced to take over the “husband’s” role when their mother needs it, and they finally realize why this doesn’t work.
OMG can't wait to watch this!!
i remember going to sunday school and being uncomfortable the entire time, cant imagine my entire childhood being like that
She has so many layers
Excited to watch it!!!
Fr like one time I tried to touch a steering wheel and my head exploded 😢
I was also never taught how to drive. I’m now paying for some lessons in my 30’s
Love finding people who also grew up religious… we all end up messed up somehow & that’s y found families r so amazing 💕
We know & we support
This is a weirdly all encompassing statement. I grew up religious and didn't end up messed up at all.
@@ShinySephiroth1i'm gonna have to X to doubt that one chief
LOVE CHADCHAD, her videos are so funny /pos
Lmaooo I’m literally a woman whose husband drives her everywhere 🤣 it’s because I have anxiety and suck at focusing so I don’t trust myself to drive, and if I needed to my friends also take me places and I could Uber if I had to.
I don’t think it’s the most convenient and it shouldn’t be forced on anyone or expected that a woman wouldn’t want her own license and car though. That’s just dumb and misogynistic
Sorry Chad Chad, I had no idea. You are SOOOOOO well adjusted especially compared to others who grew up like that.
Stop this is how my family is
This sounds very cultish. I’m glad she was able to be independent
She said she her family was part of a cult in video before. It was on one of the fellowship prayer podcast things she used to do with nick and Mr beard.
Chadchad!! Omg I love her, so excited for this!
Sounds like a cult
Chad Chad is just great 😌🦔🇿🇦
This ain’t religious it’s psychotic, anyone who truly believes would not put their children through that.
Our family never had anything to do with gender, but there was a patriarchy. Kids would be ignored when they showed off their passion, because to my family, children are too young to even have a dream that has a chance to come true. Adults were at the top. If you spoke against my parents saying you wanted to do something different, they would not be aggressive, but just put you down. My parents now say they hope to never do that again, but that is the reason why I give up on so many projects. A patriarchy in a family is incredibly unhealthy
I don’t know who she is, but I can relate
OMW.. So sorry to anyone who went through this ❤❤...
It's so sad how people twist God's word to promote their agenda
God loves you and has a plan for you. He wants a relationship with you.
For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. '” - Jeremiah 29:11.
god this was my life until 18. it’s hell and it fucks u up real good
Still in it...
OMFG MY MIND IS BLOWN- THE CROSSOVER I NEVER KNEW I NEEDED 🤯🤯🤯
That's not religious. That's plain delusional and outrageous. 😂
As a Christian even I get surprised that there are people out there that still thinks like that
And then they genuinely wonder why they're losing so many followers every year 💀
taking the armor without trading is funny asf 😭
I always loved Chad Chad's content but I'm starting to genuinely be curious about her character.
OMH CHAD CHAD WAS INTERVIEWED?? I Need to watch this vid, I lover her!
my parents were very much the same
Umbrella family dynamic.
CHAD CHAD RAHHHHHHH🦅🦅🦅🦅💥💥💥💥🔥🔥🔥🔥‼️‼️‼️‼️💯💯💯💯
I live in the deep South and that level of religious extremism is extremely uncommon here in my experience. I cannot imagine living in a family like that. I thought it was extreme when my grandmother wouldn't allow my sister to read Harry Potter when we were younger but that's just insane
Did she grow up in Moralton?
Her eyes are on another level. Everyone wants blue eyes I want chads eye color
"First God, then dad, then mom, then the kids" And then even among the children it's boys first, then girls.
It’s so awful that people like this exist, especially when it makes all Christians seem like that when that’s not true. My family is religious and that’s definitely not how it works around my house (or our church, for that matter). I’m so sorry for anybody with bad religious experiences.
the only one at the head of the table is roman reigns full stop