OMG they kept my “bad bitches!” Haha! 😅 Thanks for having me on! Love all of you. I tried to explain things as best as I could. Hope you like my jokes 😆
I hate it when people say 'but you don't look autistic...?' like, how am I supposed to look like then? Do I have to have 'autistic' written on my forehead or something?
No it’s because most of the time autistic people look emotionless most of the time. So if it doesn’t look like you’re emotionless and you say you’re autistic it throws people off.
speaking as an autistic person, it's definitely fascinating listening to others people's perspective especially since as the autistic rates grow, the stereotyping is actually getting worse rather than better
I disagree. I think the stigma's, bias's and stereotypes are just more visible now since no.1 the internet and thus people can share their actual thoughts widely. In the past, because there was less information, (and if there was the information would be misleading and misinformed) the general ideas of autism WERE these stereotypes. People saying "You don't look autistic" comes from the misinformed idea of autism FROM the past and there were even MORE people who thought these stereotypes than now. (Don't get me wrong, majority of people still have these certain ideas of autism, but less so than b4. Heck, people didn't even know what autism really was b4.)
@@Kimshu6honestly it makes me a little disappointed when people still use Asperger’s as a label for themselves. Like guys, not only is that just a false diagnosis, but also it’s far less normalized in my opinion. There’s still shit terms like Aspie floating around. (And that’s a bot :P)
@@kwingle I only ever use 'Asperger's' when dealing with bureaucracy & official paperwork (uni and job applications and the like). Since all my diagnostic documents and doctor's notes etc. say "diagnosis ICD-10 F84.5 Aspergersyndrom", I find it easier to just refer to that, instead of saying Autism and then getting into prolonged in-person discussions and/or e/mail exchanges about why what I said/wrote (Autism) diverges from what my paperwork says. Happened to me twice, and it was so frustrating and draining each time, that I just gave up on stating Autism in official stuff.
Exactly, its not a superpower or even slightly cool to have it. It makes you unique, sure... but It's a disability and makes life hell for a lot of people.
I honestly think there have been more content, whether recently or in the past about the difficulties of autism and how "it's such a bad thing" for everyone. Thus the general stigma, but I'm guessing you're talking about the *actually autistic* person's pov.
@@smashyrashyna disagree. I'm incredibly talented. But Im being shut down by stupid people and they bullying me for my issue. I can't be good at everything. Let me do weird choices in priorities and dont take away my incredible qualities
@@draalttom844I agree with the fact that my autism is really helpful Its only not helpful in the social sense But i think that it's also not a superpower its just an ability You wouldn't call someone's talent or skill a superpower
Thank you so much for having me on! It's always wonderful to be surrounded by such a wonderful crew and my fellow autistics! Hopefully, I was able to give more insight on autism in my personal perspective! Remember its a spectrum, so everyone is different! All that matters is for you to ask 🥰
I really like the structre of this. Nobody is clarifying what they're saying and they are responding to eachother without anyone intterupting them. THIS is how you do a good interview. you ask the question and let your guests talk! Guest-Centered media is so much more powerful than interviewer centered.
@ville__ Ok, that's not autism, that's just being rude. Anthony's stuff is great, maybe yours is too, but I now have zero inclination to view it. You literally insult the content and then say you're against cyberbullying, like wth? I am autistic by the way, and saxenart in right, its autism, not the name of a Nazi eugenicist
My daughter is autistic and I have a hard time imagining her being any other way; she is my world! I’m so happy to see more and more autistic adults sharing their stories and experiences.
My daughter is autistic too. I worry for when she’s older. I worry about her getting bullied or one day she comes home or I have to get her because she’s being bullied.
@@michelle19000 The reason most autistic people get bullied is because they don't understand, they just see someone who is different and decide to make fun of them. It happens even if you don't have a diagnosis. She probably will get bullied and it sucks but unfortunately at this moments in time all we can do is try and educate more about disability, teach about disability in schools and encourage parents to talk to their children about disability and not discourage children's natural curiosity when it comes to things like that, that they don't understand
@@cleversmosh or they could just homeschool, its been proven to be the bettter route for those with autism/adhd/dyslexia, etc, as homeschool groups don't have that stigma or pressure to conform. I know many people who were bullied at school and had to hide parts of their personality's to try avoid it, then switched to homeschooling and ended up happier, being their unique selves, and were able to make more friends.
I often think that autistic people generally have a lot of certain kinds of empathy, but it is hard to show the empathy, especially in socially accepted ways. I feel other's emotions so intensely, which gives very little room to do much else which means I need to close myself off so I don't notice as much.
Yes! I’m extremely empathetic but the way I show it makes people think I’m making it all about myself. And feeling others’ emotions so intensely is so draining :/
Even those who do truly lack empathy may have more sympathy and compassion. Either way, I think the problem is not that autistic people do not care for others, but that allistic people do not make enough of an effort to understand how we communicate.
@@LilChuunosukeyeah, I struggle with empathy but have high compassion - I don't need to feel what someone feels or relate to it to be able to care that someone feels a certain way
I’m autistic and I am am very empathetic, the only problem is that it is hard for me to feel empathy for someone when they behave completely different than from what I would have done in that situation. I show empathy by giving logical advice since I would always do (what I perceive as) the most rational thing to do, and it is difficult for me to understand someone’s feelings when all I’m thinking is “well if you had just done xyz, you wouldn’t even be in a situation that’s making you miserable right now!”. It took a long time for me to learn that sometimes, people just want to complain and process their emotions that way, and that me giving them advice on how to improve their situation isn’t always welcome and sometimes even regarded as insulting, since “they didn’t want advice, they just wanted to talk about their situation, silly!”. So I’d say autistics have empathy, but they can’t feel it for someone who behaves (again, in THEIR eyes) illogical and also have difficulties whining their empathy in a way that is understood by neurotypicals. Then again, I had people say my “unconventional” way of looking at things helped them immensely so there’s that I guess XD
@@stellabright1455 I don't think that's empathy - empathy is overall understanding/feeling/relating to other people's feelings/emotions. Showing you care by however is compassion
I laughed so hard because I wrote so much smut in college. We are a mixed bag. I’m AuDHD and heterosexual/romantic, but my friend who is autistic is ace/aro.
AuDHD bisexual heteroromantic, I basically read smut as prep for when I decided to have sex lol. If anything I feel we can be even more horny than neurotypicals lol.
I get told all the time that I "don't seem autistic" because of how heavily I mask & repress my stims to make other people more comfortable. it's exhausting. if I tell people I'm autistic, they treat me like a baby. if I don't tell them, they treat me like I'm stupid. there's just no way to win.
Similar experience as mine. I was very low masking as a kid and it was a nightmare. I was constantly talked down to, mocked, and treated like garbage. I worked hard to learn how to mask effectively just so that people would treat me with respect. And my "reward" for all this work is to be told I'm not autistic.
Had a job interview a year ago. I ended up telling them I had autism because of a related subject. Suddenly the whole interview wasnt about my skills anymore, but about my needs in help at the job. ... I wouldnt have applied if I didnt think I was qualified or could take it. Also surprice surprice I didnt get that job.
I have not been diagnosed officially but I’m doing a lot of research on my being in this spectrum and masking is probably one of the reasons why I feel drained emotionally(aside from my anxiety) for years.
That's me I haven't even told my boss that I have autism it's been a year I'm still working there no issues but none of my coworkers know that I have it I'm afraid to tell them my job has a policy they can't fire someone with it just because they have it@@snufhuffboy5101
ADHD and I felt the “pure rage” to loud noises comment deep in my soul. It’s uncontrollable and all encompassing. Hate isn’t even a strong enough word for how I feel about “unnecessary” sounds
loud noises in my adhd self, not necessarily. but people who eat with open mouths with lip smacking sounds. I found out that was an issue for me when I gave a ride to a friend on the way to a convention. he ate a late dinner in the car. and at no point did he keep his mouth closed. And I swear it might be a regional tradition or something for him. I didn't tell him why that was the last time I was giving him rides on long road trips.
@@cwolf201 this is LITERALLY what i hate the most . im questioning if i have adhd and autism but like people chewing and th lip smacking sounds are So fucking frustrating and i want to yell . i feel absolute rage whenever people chew loudly like OHMYGODDDgjnrg,ndgmdngmdfgnkanhgka
@@beepr1nt this is called misophonia; it can be comorbid with other conditions like adhd and autism, but it's a distinct condition, and people without adhd or autism can have it as well.
As an autistic person myself the lack of empathy stereotype pisses me off so much. When extremely burnt out and my needs aren’t met, and when depressed I do have moments of being more self focused and have reduced empathy for others during those times but even then I still have more empathy than allistic (non autistic people) people often do.
That's the odd thing about the Cambridge Behavior Scale and that kind of tests that measure empathy... even when we score low (and that's part of the diagnostic criteria) that doesn't mean we aren't kind. Some neurodivergent people, in fact, have high emotional empathy even when they don't fully understand other's feelings in a rational way.
As an adult, I didn't know I was autistic; all I knew was that I was different. It wasn't until I started watching TikTok and RUclips videos about autism and its traits, especially how girls can show it differently, that I realized it might be what I was experiencing. I brought this possibility to my doctors, and it turns out I am autistic. After getting the diagnosis and doing more research, so much about me and why I am the way I am started to make sense. Autism in girls often shows up as difficulties in social skills and communication. Girls with autism may also have repetitive behaviors, but they're often better at hiding them and fitting in with peers compared to boys. They might also become intensely focused on a specific topic and not perform to their full potential in school, which describes me perfectly. I just learned to mask from a very early age.
Late stage diagnosis in women for autism or ADHD is quite common. I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago, my therapist suggested seeing someone for autism or getting a diagnosis
@@Vincisomething When I was diagnosed with autism, I also found out I had ADHD. My brother was diagnosed with ADHD at 5, but I was overlooked because I didn't show hyperactive behavior. I daydreamed a lot, cried easily, was disorganized, shy, and had poor time management, typical ADHD symptoms in girls. I masked these well, so it wasn't noticed. If I had known about my conditions, growing up would have been much easier. I often felt like something was wrong with me for no reason. I understood why my brother behaved as he did, but I was told there was no reason for my behavior. This constant invalidation messes with your mind.
@@shadowkissed2370 my dad used to teach at a school for autistic kids so he said I had signs but I was never officially diagnosed nor did I look into it until fairly recently (within the past couple years) because I was more focused on getting the ADHD disgnosis. I didn't realize I was masking a lot too and it was hard to differentiate between when I was masking and what was me. It's also probably why ADHD and autism can come with anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addictions, and other issues.
@@shadowkissed2370 for the longest time I just didn't think my brain was smart enough and that's why I kept getting adequate or low marks. No matter how hard I studied, it didn't work so it was like my brain must have a limit on what I can learn. Also I thought me not paying attention in class was just a lack of discipline and I would get frustrated with myself for not being able to bc you think it should be easy.
Rytchie touched on this, but I want to clarify it a bit because I'm not sure if their phrasing was the best, but I have trouble phrasing things as well so I totally get it. Autistic people are not self-centered people who are always concerned only with themselves, we look inward, we introspect, and I think that is related to a lot of things, including the higher probability of identifying with LGBT, but I know this also affects a lot of other things as well. A lot of people don't look inward, a lot of people don't ask themselves why they do things or who they are or what they represent. I think with autistics, and as an autistic person myself, we just look inward more than the average person so we know more of who we are than most people, and coupling that with already sort of being outcast because of our differences we are less burdened by pressure to conform.
I think you phrased that very well! That's how I think of it, too. Also, Rytchie uses they/them pronouns. That's the main thing I wanted to say but starting off with that sounded bad lol
I wasn't trying to get across that I was self centered. I apologize for doing so! My whole angle was that when it comes to what society likes and doesn't like, I felt that autistic people don't care. We care about how we feel in society, rather than the other way around. That being said, it's not the same for everyone. It's purely my take on it, but I love yours as well!
I actually think he articulated that pretty well cuz I could personally relate to it. It doesn't mean that since it came off that way to you that he didn't articulate it well. I hope I'm making sense.
As someone who is AFAB nonbinary (agender) and autistic, hearing these three out more made me feel less alone. They made me smile. I was diagnosed at the age of 4, since then I have been trying to embrace my autism. What sad assumptions we’re facing, but yeah… Thank you for this video. ☺️🖤
@@WhoAmI2YouNowAFAB means “Assigned Female at Birth”. It’s used more often by Nonbinary spectrum people, but is used by everyone even Cis people. AMAB, AGAB and AIAB are assigned male (M), gender (G) or intersex (I) at birth.
Got diagnosed recently at age 39, after a lifetime of being different and blaming myself for not being able to socialize like other people. So much trauma and hatred towards myself. Now at least i know why.
Congratulations (?) on your diagnosis. I felt the same way. It's so traumatising to grow up undiagnosed and even though it's frustrating that the diagnosis took so long, it's sort of a relief at the same time to have an explanation. I hope you're kinder to yourself now. I know I was.
4:35 when people say "you don't look autistic," I have to imagine it is PROBABLY meant as a compliment to you specifically, but unfortunately that does come with the implication that being autistic is bad, so it's really not a great thing to say. With "I can tell," at least in my limited experience (because I've never really been around anyone who actually says that, except... myself, and only amongst people who are already my friends) it is meant neutrally. Though in my case, I have a lot of second-hand experience with interacting with people with autism and other learning disabilities, as my mom was a teacher at a school specifically for that for many years, so I learned a lot about stuff to look for.
I have a friend who is autistic and people bully him a lot. One time, his teachers sub told him he was being disruptive. He was stimming. He wasn’t doing anything to disrupt anyone. People are just dicks and I hate that
Hey Parker, how are you?! I am an autistic reading your comment! And it just warms my heart how accepting you are of your friends quirks, and I am sure there are other people who are not autistic who have those things haha. I got diagnosed at 2 being a high-functioning autistic. I have had my own fair share of challenges academically and in real life. Again, this comment made my day!! You are awesome!!
i grew up undiagnosed ADHD (i think i’m autistic too but don’t have access to a doctor rn to diagnose me) and my entire childhood was me being a “troublemaker” and always, constantly getting into trouble at school bc I was “distracting” the other kids. and it was so annoying, especially now as an adult with my diagnosis knowing why i was that way and never getting the supports i needed. I would’ve had such an easier time in school I think if they knew what was going on inside my head
As female who has been diagnosed with adhd, autism, bpd, pmdd, and more. The misdiagnoses are so hard. I don’t know what I am. Women are so understudied in this category. It is so hard for people to understand until they’re in it.
You know, you can overcome a diagnose, then you dont have it anymore. It will make you feel better, if you try and get help for some of these things, you no longer have to label yourself as that.
@@dsgrbrowne1 you are correct. However, my issue is I don’t know where to start because mental health issues like bpd are curable. ADHD and autism on the other hand are obviously not an illness or something that needs to be “cured”. They’re something to learn to live with and patterns of behavior that are not ever something that will be changed. AND Pmdd is a mix between biological health(hormones) and mental health(reactions to the hormones). In my opinion, there are some diagnoses that can be overcome, but some don’t need to be overcome, you just learn to live with it. Also clearly I have been getting help lmao. How would I have gotten all those diagnoses? Like I said above, women are understudied, so my symptoms fit each of their diagnostic criteria, but most studies were done on males so there is a lack of an ability for female patients to narrow down their diagnoses. Plus most neurodivergent people have comorbidities regardless of my wish to only have 1
@ville__ this is so irrelevant? Please remove yourself from my replies. I didn’t ask you anything. Why are you asking young women to watch your content. Seems like you got some issues
@@dsgrbrowne1 I don’t think there is any need to “overcome” a diagnosis. Being diagnosed with one (or many’ mental illnesses isn’t a bad thing, it helps you understand who you are and why you are experiencing the things you are experiencing. The only thing that “needs” to happen is to possibly get treatment so the individual can feel better. However, there is a massive difference between wanting to learn to live with a disorder and minimising the negative impact it has to improve your quality of life and straight up wanting them to not exist anymore XD meany mental illnesses also have positive traits, don’t forget that!
I wasn't diagnosed with autism until I was 23, but this video helped me feel seen and look back at myself growing up. I also want to be friends irl with all three of these folk.
I have shared this on another post, but here it is again: One of the most invalidating things that people say when you trust them enough to share your diagnosis with them, is "Oh, everyone is on the Spectrum a little bit..". It often makes those of us who actually ARE, feel very minimalized, and can greatly trigger the Imposter Syndrome. I was telling this to a dear friend of mine who happens to be a Black fellow. (He is one of the kindest, most introspective people I know) He sat and listened to me vent, thought about what I had said for a few moments, then said "It seems to me that they don't get that autism is about how you are wired and how you process information... NOT about the little quirks. That would be like me opening up to someone I know... trusting them enough to be vulnerable... and sharing something intimate about being a Black man with a non-black person, and then having them say ...'Well, we're ALL a little Black. I have really good rhythm... and Steve over there, he's a really good basketball player'. ... Yeah, I can see how insulting and invalidating it can be." Wow! I had never heard it put in that context before, but he really helped put it into perspective and made me feel "seen".
Watching the first interview with autistic people on Anthony's channel from a few years ago was one the reasons why I finally got diagnosed as Autistic and ADHD as an adult. Thank you for making videos about people from different perspectives and people who have been generally marginalised in society! Happy Autism Acceptance month! 🎉
17:00 As someone dating a person with Autism, it’s different but it amazes me how people in her past have failed to even to try to understand. I totally understand how she processes stuff a lil differently to me and it never is an issue. I hope I can always make her feel comfortable, and I try my best to communicate my feelings when they are unclear. Neurotypical people often get frustrated at Autistic people who don’t understand social cues and I never want to put someone I love in that position.
on the "every autistic person experiences sensory issues" I think EVERY PERSON experiences sensory issues, everyone has some fabric they can't stand, or some food they hate the feeling of, some sound they hate, something! but of course autism makes (or at least tends to) make you FAR more sensitive to it. to the point there's normally SOMETHING in your every day that's going to cause you sensory discomfort
Yeah I've def seen neurotypicals experience sensory discomfort. Its just not pn the level that autistic people experience it. But I think theres a way we can point out that parallel as a way to show autistic people aren't all that different without implying we aren't disabled & are just overreacting.
as a neurotypical person, i don't think i experience sensory issues. yes, every once and a while, something is a little uncomfortable, but i find that i can push through it very easily. i dont like the texture of a food? i can still eat it. i dont like the way something feels? i can still touch it. and i dont experience any big "ew ew ew!" or "no no no!" while I'm doing it. i can do it fairly easily and without much physical or mental pushback. and sometimes i'll even start to enjoy what i previously didnt like. i think there's a difference between "sensory issues" and "i don't like the way this feels" i think neurotypical people can still experience sensory issues, but i wouldn't say everyone does
@@LollingCatto sensory issues for nd types is very different. For one side it's just uncomfortable, the other is avoid that thing at all costs or my day will be ruined. Something being a little too loud for an nt person doesn't hit the same with a nd person with noise sensitivity. For example one of mine is food textures, that's something autistic people can't just get over. Asking an autistic person to eat food with unpleasant texture is pretty much like forcing any regular person to eat their least favorite food or something on fear factor. I thought the food thing was just me as a kid being a picky eater, but I'm 31 and that hasn't changed lol. Slightly too soft or overripe fruits is a no-go. Same with my other sensitivity issues people thought I'd grow out of.
@@LollingCatto very interesting! yeah, I can imagine the sensory issues NT people do experience are a lot less overwhelming to them then it is for divergent folks, I don't have a lot of outside perspective, since most people in my life are some form of divergent 😆
I’m another person with autism that was drawn over here. Like a lot of people like me, I’m really grossed out about what it means when people say “look” autistic. Cia’s “movie”: Music? Autism Speaks propaganda? The thought really makes me uncomfortable. … Speaking of uncomfortable, I can’t eat anything with a very slight or moderately grainy texture like the center of a watermelon. If I ever want to eat watermelon, I exclude a majority of the red part and eat the pink part of the rind. I also can’t eat homemade macaroni and cheese because the half-grainy cheese is weird on my tongue. It might not taste that way to other people, but it feels like there’s… *Something wrong in my mouth.*
I'm autistic. I'm also a retired US Marine with multiple combat deployments, but college was too much for me. Not all autistic people are the same. Just take the time to get to know us! Once you've met one autistic person, you've met one person autistic person
yayy this video is gonna be so good!! i hope neurotypicals learn stuff about autistic people and try to understand how they're NOT so different from the rest of them. thank you anthony for always promoting positivity and pushing for positive changes.
Here to representation. Especially this month Thank you for this Anthony and team. A week ago today. I did not great things to myself because I have waited so long for support for ASD. These conversations are so vital. I'm just glad I wasn't successful 😟
I hope you're ok now? Are you getting the support you need now? I have C-PTSD, Major chronic depression, PCOS, BPD, chronic pain and I have a really bad issue disassociation that hasn't been diagnosed (Yet? I'm hesitant to get it officially diagnosed because I may not be eligible to drive for a while, not that I know how too or have a license) Whenever I would ask my old Pyshciatrist about the possibility of me being autistic she would say "You have too much going on to be able to properly diagnose autistism" and it always made me really frustrated because I just want to know more about how my brain works and how to work with it. Not officially knowing is what's effecting you is so fricken frustrating. Hang in there, we're on the same boat. I got a long was to go before I can even get the disassociation issues diagnosed or be assessed for autistism. I have a lot of C-PTSD symptoms that are a lot like ADHD and after jumping from clinic to clinic since COVID, I finally got Adderall prescribed. It took 4 years. Me a college student and Tutor did not qualify for Adderall because I admitted to using psychedelic to understand myself better and most Telehealth companies can prescribe Adderall. I had to find and in-person Phsyciatrist and it took months to get an intake appointment and another 2 months to finally have an actually psychiatrist appointment. I had to ween off my old ADHD meds and then I was finally prescribed Adderall.
Same and I also have Autism so that's extra fun. I have sensory issues so I can wear jeans or certain clothes and he can't eat certain things because of the texture. I'm more of the creative one so I hyperfixate on Fandoms and video games and movies and such, he likes studying recreating the human soul, or quantum physics and smart things. I'm more outgoing but a little awkward awkward, he is antisocial and prefers not to meet people. It's definitely intriguing.
I have ADD and Dyslexia, but I can relate to a lot of the "quirks" of Autism. In terms of sensory, I easily get sensory overload in "chaotically" noisy areas, and I also have occasional audio-processing issues.
@@XanderMander006 I'm not sure what you understood from my comment. I wasn't trying to be rude or anything. I have both Autism and ADHD, so I was just sharing a fun fact.
As an autistic person, THANK YOU FOR JUST SPREADING AWARENESS! That’s honestly the biggest thing anyone can do for us: end all the stigma by spreading information! Thank you ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
When someone tells me "you don't look autistic" I have no idea if they say it as "don't worry it's not that bad" or "you don't look like it, there's no way you have it." And it always stresses me out.
I recently disclosed my ASD to my sober community and have had an amazing outpouring of love and support. I’ve had people come up to me and ask what prompted me to seek diagnosis and we got into deep conversations resulting in them revealing they have suspicions about having ASD. I’ve had people say “I’m so sorry about your sad news” and I tell them it’s a relief to have a name to who I am and I’d be autistic with or without a label. I feel more happy and comfortable in my skin overall.
I love that they actually got to talk. Finish their thoughts and sentences and weren't interrupted by a host. This was a well set up conversation. Good job on Padilla and team!!
this is the most honest and wholesome video I have ever seen with actual people with autism having a great time having discussions and conversations with each other about society's misconception on autism. I shed a tear while watching this video because I can relate to some of the things they are saying.
i think the best way i’ve heard the prevalence of queerness in neurodivergent communities explained was that we tend to be the type of people to march to the beat of our own drum because we think differently and/or already are socially othered. i don’t know if it’s more prevalent but i know that it kind of gives you a head-start on figuring out your gender identity and sexuality when you have that space to think about it early on socially.
I’m so glad a video like this is on the internet!!!!! As an older sister of a sibling that is autistic I’m constantly advocating for him since they can’t advocate for themselves. Thank you for discussing these assumptions and issues it helps me understand more and learning more so I can continue to help my folks take care of and raise them in the best way possible❤
Thank you for putting this panel out there. I'm autistic, and received a later in life diagnosis. I know that there are many misconceptions about it and those misconceptions can sometimes being damaging. Or even delay a diagnosis. It's important to let autistic people themselves dispel these myths.
Quick question to every with or without autisme. I have autisme and I have always hated things like when you sit next to someone and your legs touch, sitting on buttons on the back of pants. Do you guys feel the same way, is it my autisme or just normal?
to my knowledge, that kind of thing (tactile sensitivity, aversion to touch) is definitely enhanced and aggravated by autism, but it's definitely not exclusive either. I'm not autistic but I don't really like contact with people, or stuff like that
@@McBehrer Exactly what I was going to say! Everyone has certain sensory sensitivities autistic people usually just have more intense sensory sensitivities and more intense reactions to overwhelming sensory stimuli
I want to be a hugger but I hate touching people. People are sweaty and smell funny, and sometimes they don't wash their hands. I'm also terrified of accidentally touching a boob or butt. In general, I also hate the feeling of touching things with my legs (Especially cold-feeling things, like leather sofas), so I always wear long pants. I'm undiagnosed, but my mother and sibling, who are both therapists and regularly work with autistic people in their respective fields, both agree I'm likely autistic to some level.
I'm autistic and I have a really difficult time sitting near people at all, even if we aren't touching in any way. It makes me so uncomfortable. I hate when people are too close to me, unless it's someone I really trust. Like if someone was sitting at the very end of a 3 or 4 seater couch, I would still not want to sit at the other end because it would feel too close. And touch overwhelms me very very easily
ive gotten diagnosed as adhd (mixed presentation) recently, and ya I definitely resonate with the possibility of a misdiagnosis. I went in thinking it was an autism and adhd diagnosis but was a wrong assumption. I think this also has been harder with research placing adhd and autism under more of the same umbrella and monotropism. Thank you for doing this
One of the best things that happened to me was being diagnosed because it helped me tackle my issues and problems towards myself or others and didn’t realize it. Cause even if things were influenced by me having the tism skism that were negative, that doesn’t make me exempt from things. The intent wasn’t there but that doesn’t make everything better
I was diagnosed with autism in preschool. I got lucky. Not a lot of females with autism get diagnosed until they are in their adulthood. It’s so nice to see and hear people who have similar experiences and differences that I have thank you for spreading awareness Anthony!
thank you for speaking positively about self-diagnosis. all of my medical health professionals are aware that i have autism but have not formally diagnosed me. it’s hard finding places that accept new patients, or finding places that accept my insurance. testing is expensive and really difficult to get.
The job disclosure thing when it comes to autism/disability is so difficult. Most of the time, employers can get away with discrimination by being discreet, listing the reason as “we decided to go with another candidate”. The only time I ever witnessed the law clearly being broken was when Elon Musk did it publicly online to a disabled employee. Granted, Elon Musk is autistic and being discreet like NTs can be difficult for us, yet again another example of the world, social constructs, etc, not being built for us. (Not defending Musk, there just needs to be more protections put in place so employers can’t discriminate discreetly as well)
Thank you for making this video!! I have been struggling so hard lately with my mental health and low feelings of self worth after a life time of discrimination without knowing why. I discovered I am autistic a few years ago and having a lack of resources from autistic voices has made accepting myself hard as all other resources seem to be others putting their stereotypes and discrimination down on us, and it makes me feel so alone and worthless. Watching this video genuinely made me so happy and emotional. Thank you!
Appreciate these conversations honestly. I just wish media would include people in these discussions that are on the more severe side of the spectrum. I'd love to see people who are barely verbal but can express themselves through devices or other means. Or even those with challenging behaviours and physical issues but can still express themselves. Capable Autistics seem to be the norm representation because it's more comfortable communicating with them. Not to say they don't deserve their time in the spotlight too. Just wish all aspects of the spectrum were present in these forums.
Thank you so much for making this video ❤ I was diagnosed last november but knew I was autistic for a few years before that It makes me happy seeing other fellow autistic and neurodivergent people, specially when they can be heard with no prejudice ❤
I can't say I am fully open about my diagnosis of high functioning autism. I wasn't harshly bullied thank goodness but I still know the feeling of being treated differently from teachers that didn't know how to teach for my learning style and sometimes students that didn't get my quirks. It did feel isolating at times and while I don't want to sound like I am ashamed of it, I am selective about who I share this with. I have to feel like I am in a safe space. I like hearing their thoughts.
The take on the correlation between autism and non-binary was incredible. Being autistic you do not fit into society's boxes and right now the easiest most accessible way to reject society's boxes is through gender, and the rejection of gender norms is a "gateway" to fully rejecting all of society's norms, and its less about the gender and more about society's restrictions on what the expression of that gender can be. Here's hoping that we can move as a society away from norms and boxes around all things.
5:10 i want the emphasize what they are saying, because self diagnosis isn't what people think it is, for a lot of people with autism getting a diagnosis can take ages it took me until i was around 15 to finally get a diagnosis and not for a lack of trying, along with that my brother was diagnosed and that took even longer, part of it is family history, it's not as hard to get diagnosed when you have a documented family history but for others when others in there family remain undiagnosed it becomes a lot harder, but also because a lot of the system can be really flawed, in my first autism assessment he said that i couldn't have autism because i made too much eye contact which is a very bad way to diagnose things, as a kid i grew up making an effort to make eye contact it's not that for me it wasn't hard or that it didn't affect me, i just tried to make eye contact, now i barely make any eye contact because in all honesty it just isn't worth doing it for me, it makes things a lot harder than they need to be, most people don't mind when people don't make eye contact anymore ig what i mainly want to say is that if you think you have autism, you have researched it and you are confident you know what it is and how it affects people than you are probably more knowledgeable than just about any doctor who might assess you, so have confidence that you have autism and don't just go once and have them say you don't have autism and assume you don't, because they are more often than not wrong, autism is a big spectrum nobody knows everything about it it's hard to say this tho because i live a in a country with a free healthcare system, people in the states wouldn't be so lucky
I wouldn't go quite as far as you did with discrediting doctors. It's just that it really matters who does the assessment. If you just go for the most convenient, cheapest, or first available assessment, I'd agree that there's a high likelihood they're misinformed or may misdiagnose you. But if you research and find a place that really understands and prioritizes neurodivergence, then the story will be different.
it really depends, some people can just get diagnosed by they're primary care physician, but other times they will send you to be checked by a specialist (which is what happened in my case) but if they don't diagnose you the first time it becomes very hard to get reassessed, unfortunately i don't have the money to just go around with random doctors until it works, i live in canada so we have free healthcare so that's what i use, and for most things it's pretty good, mental health stuff has always been an issue here tho, and not just that i don't want to support the privatized parts of our healthcare system, even if it means that potentially important diagnoses are delayed, many other things here are privatized (like our dental care) and it becomes very hard to get proper health when you need to pay for it out of pocket@@peterlewis2178
and i don't mean to discredit doctors, the thing is, that they have to study thousands of mental disorders so it's not that hard to become more of an expert on single disorders than your doctor especially primary care physicians, some of the things i have heard doctors say or think about stuff i know a lot about because it effects my everyday life is pretty insane, they do have some very good knowledge tho, they are aware of many other disorders that might present similarly, and how they might act together, so it's worth listening to what they say, but having confidence and being able to do proper research is more important in the healthcare system @@peterlewis2178
@@fewbronzegames Yeah, I can see that being true for the default channels, like for instance being referred to a specific specialist by your primary care physician. Unfortunately, there tends to be a lot of misinformation and just general lack of understanding, so if you aren't specifically researching and finding the right people to assess you, then I'd imagine your chances of having a bad experience are a lot higher. In my case, we independently researched to find a counseling center that is super neurodivergence-affirming, anti ABA therapy, recognizes autistic adults, and I'm pretty sure is mostly staffed by neurodivergent people as well, and I'm seeking ADHD and autism assessment through them specifically. But yeah, unfortunately it's not the most accessible, since if you have a free healthcare system, you have less choice about the specifics unless you can afford it, and if you don't (like me, since I'm in the US), then not really any of the options are there if you can't afford it.
I had a aid for 6 years of my life. I did REALLY need it but it was also kinda traumatizing. I would have meltdowns all the time bc of a medication that i was addicted to. But sometimes my aid would have to physically carry me out of the class bc i was a danger to the class. Also some ppl that i havnt seen in a long time bring up that time even after i tell them not to bc of all the truama i have from that time. Some ppl just think i am the same person i was back then. I have changed so much and it hurts so much when ppl bring it up. The worst part is that i am not diagnosed with Autism. I AM diagnosed with ADHD tho.
Happy to be early and see the assumptions broken! Im happy to be autistic but the struggles are tough I would say regarding phrasing its what the person prefers like I dont like being called a person with autism for instance
The talk about sensory issues was very relatable. I was afraid of any foods outside my limited comfort zone. Ticking clocks and wind chimes are awful. Styrofoam and cardboard scraping against itself feels physically uncomfortable.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I love seeing how all of you seem to unmask as the video goes on. I'm AuDHD and I have 3 autistic/adhd kids. It's so much fun to be able to be unmasked at home, for all of us ❤
im autistic n i was so confused abt the “autistic ppl dont have empathy” it varies from person to person but icl i have WAY TO MUCH empathy 😭🙏 it’s frustrating 😭😭 i dont wanna see my friend crying n then cry my eyes out too 💀
There's a difference between having feelings and being able to understand feelings and showing them. I am autistic and have Alexithymia, the emotions are there, but I have trouble recognizing them until they are overwhelmingly large. I have empathy, I just don't know how to express it in an allistic way.
I'll give my take on it too, as another autistic person. Warning: It's a very long message, and I'm not english native so even tho I try my best to speak correctly, it's probably not perfect x) 1 - I don't mind any formulation to say that I'm autistic, as long as it's said with respect. I perfectly know what I am and I'm not ashamed of it at all, but just say it with respect. 2 - It has some good sides sometimes, you indeed can do some things very effectively. But the down sides in exchange for that are really not easy at all to live. Sometimes it's dang hard. Whenever I want to do something that is the most basic thing for others, but I'm just not able to do it because of stress, or hypersensitivities, or something else... It's incredibly frustrating. 3 - Autism is just too complex to resume it down to that. It depends on every person. For exemple, without knowing me, people are just not able at all to tell that I'm autistic, they can't see it just from the outside. I look and act lambda. Most people that don't know me properly usually just thinks "Well, he's probably a little anxious", or "He's not really social", and that's about it. And it also depends on the moment, the context, the persons around me, etc. Just like he said, this statement is just too "black and white". 4 - It's fine to think that you are probably someone with autism (I was like that before being diagnosed), but don't assume for a fact that you are for sure autistic before being properly diagnosed. Autism is basically a bundled package of different troubles that can be found seperately or in smaller groups outside of autism. So until you are properly diagnsoed, it can be it, but it can also be something else. So just take your thoughts as they are, thoughts, and not as facts. But, that said, tiktok can definitly be dangerous, because it can just be some people talking about something they don't have a clue, still saying they are autistic, and therefor some people will listen to them and do the same mistake. Just be careful on the informations you collect, and what to do with them. 5 - Depends on the children, but it could probably help indeed. For my exemple, I was diagnosed after I finished school, so I didn't get help. And, well, it didn't go well for me at school. My main issue was my extremely selective memory. Everybody has some sort of selective memory, but I was just (And till this day) on another level. If something interests me (Like Lord Of The Rings for exemple), my memory is an absolute beast of a computer. But if something doesn't interest me? Well too bad, I can't retain a single freaking information. I tried every possible learning technique that the teachers were providing, that my parents found, that I thought could suit me, absolutely nothing mattered. I was able to retain the most useless details of The Lord Of The Rings in 1 take, but was not able to remember 3 little dates for an exam having only reviewed this 3 dates and nothing else for 2 weeks... And of course, the teachers just weren't able to believe me. And, you guessed it, almost every single school subject didn't interest me at all. So, I was extremely bad in most of school classes, and just wasn't able to explain why because my reality was just not possible in others minds. 6 - I'm a man, but I can say this statement is straight non-sense. That's all I have to say on it. 7 - I'm not queer nor trans, I don't have the data, and I'm not a professional on the subject, so I will abstain myself to talk about it. 8 - Not always true, but it's definitely a thing that most autistic people are socially "inept", or at least have just different social standards (Simple as that). I could be called inept for a lot of people that have the usuals social standards, indeed. I'm not good, confident, and confortable at all with them most of the time. But with the people that understand me, how I function, what are my social standards, I'm pretty dang social XD So again, it's not "black and whie". Some of my close ones are mostly like me in that sense so it's just fluid with them, but others are totally different yet still understand me, and it also works just fine. But they did efforts to understand me, so did I to understand them. It came after putting some efforts into it. The thing that frustrates me a lot is when people say that autistics are socially indept and don't know how to put themsevles in other people's shoes. When they are the first ones that can be criticized of that, because they don't do a single effort to understand autistics. They just wait that we do all the work to finally be ok with THEIR standards. Autistics can be social, but it takes efforts from both sides to understand each other, that's all.
9 - Hum. Anyone that say that to me or something like it (For exemple, "You're just picky that's all"), I will just make them physically feel different things that I live with (With their permission of course), then will make them realize that it's everything at the same time, and all the time with no pause. So that they can understand the real problem of it. It's not just that I have quirks, it's not just that I'm picky, it's not just that I have some little difficulties that can be gone with a bit of efforts. It's, in my case, a lots of intense troubles that are extremely hard to live with non-stop, that completely prevent me from doing some things that I would like to do, and that sometimes mentaly and physically break me. And when you know exactly how to make people feel what you feel, it don't take much to give them a glimpse of it. Most of the time, I just explained half or less of my troubles and it's already physically intolerable for them. 10 - I wouldn't say all for sure, but it's definitely somethings that comes up a lot. I myself have a lot of sensory issues (Both hypersensitivities, and hyposensitivities). There are many exemples for that. Sound being felt way louder than for others, specific sounds that can be physically intolerable to hear (Makes me twitch like nothing else and fills me with immense rage in therms of reaction), sounds that my brain just can't correctly analyze and that causes me migraine. Common and non-heavy tastes or smells for others that can litteraly make me throw up. Textures that can be, again, physically intolerable to touch, or something slightly warm for others that litteraly burns me when I touch it. Or the worst for me, my hypersensitivity to light, that causes me a retinal migraine in 5 minutes with a light level considered like nothing for others. And everything is extremely exhausting. And it's just exemples for hypersensitivities, hyposensitivities can be a problem too. For instance, I actually can't smell of burning, which can be dangerous. 11 - Lack of empathy is a trouble that can be found, or not, in a autistic person. Just like it can be found, or not, in a neurotypical person. It's 1 trouble that you can find in any type of person, so it's just situationnal. It has nothing to do with autism. Lack of empath also are not "black and white". I can have no empathy at all in certain situations, and a lot in others. 12 - Again, depends on the person. But in my case it's true. I had some relationships, but even when the other person was very open-minded and patient with me (Just like in my last relationship), the relationship was just taking too much from me. Doing what is considered the most simple things was too exhausting for me, and I couldn't take it on the long run. I didn't blame her for anything, it's just that what she wanted to do with me was too much for me, simple as that. Maybe she was just not the right person for me, but my troubles surely don't help to find the right one for me. But I'd say that in any case it's not easy for most of us, it's just probably even harder with autism. 13 - I am. Not. Innocent... AT ALL. Like, I've done a lot of things in that domain, and I can say that dang I'm horny af XD 14 - In my case, definitely, in 2 ways. 1, irony, sarcasm, implied, if there is not a clear tone to indicate it, I'm passing by. The person must use a clear funny tone or add a laugh at the end, or else I will just not get it. And 2, I got a comment quite a lot about using a tone that was not at all what I meant to use. Like, sometimes for exemple, I apparently use a tone that refers to anger, but I'm actually chill x) And I'm just not able to notice it, it's a bit problematic I admit. People that know me got used to it, to just think that they must not base their interpretations out of it. But for people that don't know me well, I get that it must be counfusing as hell. 15 - If you think that, excuse me but in what univers do you live? Respecfully. 16 - Absolutely agree with the lady at the start. No it's not caused by trauma, but it can definitely causes some traumas. 17 - It can be extremely useful, but also problematic. It helped me to survive a lot of situations, but it also caused a lot of people to not be able to understand me at all, and it's just so exhausting... When I was in school, I was using it almost all the time to blend in, and it was the lowest point of my life. Nothing was okay, I was at the end of my rope all the time, I was toxic with others because of the constant frustration and exhaustion, and I had extremely bad thoughts all the time (You know, the type of thoughts that can lead you to harm yourself). Now that I don't use it anymore and be myself, I'm finally happy in my life, still hard, but I'm genuinely happy. I'd say it's a double-edged skill. 18 - Hard question, there is arguments to say yes, but also no. Legally you don't have to say it, and I get that you could fear the judgement and discrimination out of it. But at the same time, I can understand to point of vue of the employer that wants to know who he hires, and what difficulties it can cause. Some employers even search autistic persons on purpose because they know very well they can be extremely efficient in what they love doing. Best case scenario is that your employer could understand and actually help you to make it work because he actually have the infos to help you (One of my friends is in that case. He has some huge troubles, but because his employer is very open-minded, she helps him to work around with his troubles and it just work very well). So, I would understand both points.
as an audhd girlypops who only just recently discovered im autistic at 17 yet have been diagnosed w ADHD from the age of 5 at the same time, i literally perked up in excitement when this showed up on my recommendations :)) im so happy ppl are finally talking about our real experiences and debunking stereotypes n everything like a lot more now i mean if they werent i wouldntve been able to get outta imposter syndrome and actually accept that thats who i am and this diagnosis was the HUGE missing piece in my life all along THAT was what had been making my life sm harder this whole time and now slowly but surely ppl are starting to accept that (esp at a new school w a new iep) and actually accommodate my autism on top of adhd for the first time in my entire life. so yeah its def an a HUUUUGE relief, and vv important to me, basically a life-saver n im not even exaggerating, which is also why ppl dont understand how much u could be genuinely hurting someone let alone their future when u say self diagnosis isnt valid. yk what that means? that means ur saying every single autistic person that wasnt diagnosed as a kid is invalid. wtf do u think they do in order to get an assessment in the first place?? and us autistics are very thorough let alone VERY socially anxious so like do u rly think we’d risk going there without collecting all the proof and everything?? n then after alllll of that we still have to wait (ESPECIALLY adults) like 9 months at least to even 2-3 yrs or sum shit for the assessment itself even. idk im tired of typing tbh lmao but u get my point, tysm anthony for this vid, genuinely put a smile on my face even just seeing the title knowing that ppl that arent the autistic creators i watch are even starting to post things like this now and aaaaa it just makes me so happy n hopeful fr🫶🫶
For me it was the opposite, I was diagnosed at 6 with multiplex developmental disorder (a cousin of autism and schizophrenia) but that never felt right because I do not have schizophrenia. I did some research on it in college when I was 18 and came to the conclusion that I am autistic. I masked it for many years and it took a huge toll on me up until my early 30s. Once I worked remote it made a huge difference in my mental health, but I felt that a life was still missing. At 35 I also got an ADHD diagnosis so now it all makes sense. I’m glad you were able to figure it out sooner and knowing that information will be so valuable as you get older and start needing to advocate for yourself. If I could talk to my younger self, I would tell her to not be so timid and not be scared to speak your mind and ask for what you need.
@@virgofairy88 thank u sm٫ and im so sorry u had to go through all that for so long but at the same time im so happy for u that ur finally getting the diagnoses and support u deserve!!
8:59 Their statement here made me tear up - Being on the spectrum has been tough and coming to terms with being trans non-binary has been too but hearing Richie describe their experience made me feel so proud. I am proud to be both autistic and non-binary 🎉
Ty for this ♡ as a self diagnosed autistic, we need this. Also the ND community tends to prefer identity first language from what I’ve heard but honestly the terminology confusion feels very allistic since we already struggle with social norms & expectations. Like we’re probably not the ones policing you. (Also I’m fine with person with autism)
I think like a few things it has been a tad over policed but I have definitely seen ND people assert one away or another. In the end it "feels" as if we are all aiming for the same thing here. To stop treating people as a diagnosis. Finally be rid of stuck images in culture that don't represent most of us at all, and is often designed for our ridicule not allyship (though it is getting wayyyyyy better). And finally to ensure everyone gets better support however they get diagnosis. Whether language management on how to refer to oneself is part of that I couldn't say. I use autistic person because for me the other version is a little clunky to say in normal parlance. Also, I think my hyperlexia finds the off beat of the "with" part kinda unpleasant. Phrase musicality is a BIG thing for me. That said I'd never tell others how to self refer. Up to them. Respect what they say.
I once was speaking to my therapist about how I don’t feel like me on the outside. He said that many late diagnosed autistic people have issues with self identification because we often live our lives masked because we don’t know we are different and assume everyone has it that hard and it leads to a lot of inward thinking and often shame and just not feeling like we are our true selves. It can lead to a lot of thinking about do I feel like a woman or a man? Do I present myself in a way that feels true to me? For my personal experience I feel like I am my consciousness and I am kind of just in this body, it isn’t me but I am this body in a way. Like there is a disconnect from my body to my consciousness. I am my consciousness and not my body. It took me forever to figure that out and to be able to put that in words. While I identify as the gender I was assigned at birth, I am more androgynous than most woman who were assigned female at birth. I work in a “man’s field” and I have short hair, but at the same time I love dresses and makeup and feeling pretty!
This is very well done. three different autistic people. Each very different from eachother. Showing that they are not all the same. Also everyone gets to speak. No one felt left behind. Very good questions and answers. I hope as many people as possable get to see this. I myself am neruodivergent .
"I would rather have autism than die" damn thats a good way of phrasing it. I have always wondered this about parents who think this, decide not to have the vaccine and have a child that regardless gets diagnosed with autism. Imagine they died young from a preventable disease and see whether they changed their minds... Smh
I have autism and i can relate to this video I've always been afraid of people judging me for how i sound and look like but i know there are good people out there who will listen and understand. I'm an very shy/quiet person who got bullied growing up for me i felt really isolated but now I'm trying to make myself feel better and become a happier person 🖤
Great guests! I'm also autistic and autism as a topic happens to be a special interest of mine. I don't exactly want to write an essay here, so I'll leave my comment here: Thanks for doing this, I really enjoyed it.
I (afab) didn't get diagnosed until 29. My mask was THICK. I also don't understand the concept of gender. Female never felt right, so I transitioned and lived as male for 10 years; eventually that didn't feel right either. I've settled into NB and I've never been happier in my self image.
Thank you all for making this. The three speakers did an amazing job speaking on autism. I would gladly share this with others curious about (my) autism.
I love how we basically as a collective have such a deranged cackling laugh like a swamp witch brewing a potion in their cauldron /j (but like, really a lot of us do)
I’m so glad I finally found a video talking about autism, because I am autistic, and I’m glad these things were discussed. Because some people may think autism is a super power, but they only see the good sides of it and not the bad sides of it.
thinking of autism as a superpower is akin to wolverine if he had his claws but no healing factor. its cool and useful sometimes but is stabbing knives through your hands really a superpower?
My son's IEP was very simple: he could leave the room if it got too loud and calm down in the hallway until he was ready to go back in and he would be given a new desk placement if his initial one was noisy or distracting (due to people or environment ie HVAC). He only ever left the room once - because just knowing he could helped him feel he could bear it. Knowing his teachers would give him a different seat empowered him to ask for what he needed at the beginning of each quarter (as far away from people and vents as possible). Now his IEP is no longer in place, but he learned what he could ask for and how. He can still ask/state his preferences and advocate for himself. Although his teachers can say no to his requests now, none have done so.
1:34 Autism can have it's benefits in ways of thinking and doing things. Like observation, sorting and tyding things. 3:56 For me, not neccessarly. Although i might adress it from time to time in terms of how i work to someone, i'm fine with it if nobody notice it all that much and i can just behave, function and be treated like everyone else. 11:34 We all can be quirky in our own way, but it's not autism as a whole. 12:40 For me, i'm never been too much sensitive to loud noises or touching, maybe only a little, but for the rest i can handle it. Never really needed any noise cancelling headphones. 15:38 Empathy, emotions, feelings, we do can feel and express these things, but sometimes in certain moments with blank expressions, i can't know how to react more clearly. 16:58 As much confidence i have, getting myself to date someone can still be hard for me to get off the ground. It can be overwhelming to find the right person that stands out from the crowd. So much i can describe about this, but i would do anything to be in a relationship. 18:18 i can tell you that i do crave sexual desires as much as the next person. 20:26 Even before hearing that from Anthony's original video, i can also tell that's definitly not true, vaccines do not affect my genetic behavior. 21:17 Autism or not, i don't have any childhood trauma experiences, thank god. But it's definitly not caused by it. 22:18 I wouldn't neccessarily recommend that, but it's something i never had to do, even when i'm just trying to fit in. Again, i can just blend in with everyone else without even trying, no problem what so ever. 23:23 I've had help from someone when applying for a job that's very open and acceptable towards people with disabilities. Now for almost 9 years working in retail with enough experience that i'm happy with. I think the amount of experiences on your resume should say more than enough about you, the description of having autism does not have to be on there, probably not at all.
Thank you so much for doing this!! We are so misunderstood I'm non verbal I have a great family I'm a bright person but I can't talk or eat regular food I have no interest in dating I'm ok though thank you. I love youtube ❤❤🎉🎉🎉
I think in my (autistic) opinion it’s neither a superpower or purely disordered. It’s just your brain being physically DIFFERENT, and that has both positive and negative side effects, yknow?
personally i have autism and this video was very comfortable to hear. i too struggle with many things, but as you struggle you learn a lot of how you can handle it. reading the situations better (not always), and often see things in other perspectives that many non autistic people cant or don't see. Always had issues to express myself too. often not knowing how to deal with emotions or that weird feeling of frustration or irritation that can be a bundle of emotions throughout the day. things go better overall you learn like everyone else even though it may cost way more energy to learn or perform through the day. also a side note, i think many autists like to hide their personality in forms of a persona or even fursona. trying to be someone else or someone who they want to be. It can be very comforting as you find to be yourself in ways you can be quirky and accepted. such like being a furry, or even trans. just my humble opinions/findings. this might not be the case for all obviously. hope you have a nice day!~
The interesting thing about the autistic people being trans is actually true scientifically speaking. Autistic individuals are 400% times more likely to have gender dysphoria or struggle and identify as non gender conforming. It's due to the way autistic brains and how autistic individuals internalise their feelings of how their body might not match what they see in the mirror and feel not in the right body compared to how see themselves in their brain. The healthy gamer gg therapist youtuber covered a the study that came out with the 400% statistic, that is peer reviewed and accepted as true and factual
I dont think the reason autistic people are more likely to be trans is because of the autistic brain itself. Like autism does not cause transness. They would not be cisgender if they were not autistic. Its moreso a combination of the fact that autistic people are far more introspective and less willing to adhere to nonsensical or harmful societal norms. Like I dont want to theorize on the genders of other people, but there are people who have expressed in interviews and private journal entries how they felt more comfortable expressing themselves as the opposite gender, but felt like pursuing that feeling was something they were not allowed to do. Most autistic ppl will immediately challenge and confront that barrier, asking why they cannot simply be themselves. There are theories that the number of autistic people who are trans is a closer representation of the "true" number of trans people in society and are much closer to where these numbers will sit during an era of full trans acceptance.
I have a relative who is on the severe end of the spectrum, their form of autism is a disability as he was non verbal for a large majority of their life but are hilarious and has a great personality and I am please to say that they are my best friend as well.
14:57 that description of "burning rage" at certain types of sound got me especially hard today. I can't stand crosstalk, even if the room isn't super crowded. But a huge crowd and everyone talking in an incoherent mess? HULK SMASH. But yeah, resonated with so much of this. Thanks to the participants for sharing their experiences and hopefully helping some people understand our autistic world better. Would have loved to have the viewpoint of a nonverbal autistic person, as well, but I understand going with these three since they've been interviewed before.
❤I’m on the spectrum and I appreciate the real representation of what we have go through. I think people should be more educated about the specific disability’s and how they work as most people see the version of the disability on tv and tend to think oh that’s how that works and that is often wrong. Like people see a person with autism on tv and because it’s often a person who is lower on the spectrum and people just assume that that’s how autism is and yes thats how some situations are but it’s only one version of autism. As someone who is higher functioning it’s sometimes difficult to tell people as as soon as people hear autism they think that I’m stupid or don’t understand anything and often treat me like I’m in need of a sitter or help and that’s not ture in my case. Yes sometimes I need to be talked to like a child but I’m 25 and most of the time I can understand you with out being treated differently. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤sometimes I feel like people don’t understand me and it’s nice to feel like people understand me.
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OMG they kept my “bad bitches!” Haha! 😅 Thanks for having me on! Love all of you. I tried to explain things as best as I could. Hope you like my jokes 😆
❤❤❤ You’re hilarious and amazing. thanks for educating us about this topic
You are super awesome and hilarious! I’m just like you, I also laughed with the way the “aids” thing was worded.
You were so funny and sweet!!
A fellow Jasmine with autism! It was a delight to listen to you share your experiences
Bad bitches frrrrr lol 💪💪
I hate it when people say 'but you don't look autistic...?' like, how am I supposed to look like then? Do I have to have 'autistic' written on my forehead or something?
Do I need to stand on all fours and have eyes almost the size of my head? (in reference to the yippee monster)
I think they are expecting us to look deformed
And the opposite hurts just as much “I could tell you were autistic” makes me feel way too vulnerable and like everybody can see through me
No it’s because most of the time autistic people look emotionless most of the time. So if it doesn’t look like you’re emotionless and you say you’re autistic it throws people off.
@@DevicCypher that is NOT true at all.
speaking as an autistic person, it's definitely fascinating listening to others people's perspective especially since as the autistic rates grow, the stereotyping is actually getting worse rather than better
@ville__ Asperger's syndrome isn't a diagnosis anymore. It's just autism now. I was diagnosed was Asperger's too, but I'm just autistic.
I disagree. I think the stigma's, bias's and stereotypes are just more visible now since no.1 the internet and thus people can share their actual thoughts widely. In the past, because there was less information, (and if there was the information would be misleading and misinformed) the general ideas of autism WERE these stereotypes. People saying "You don't look autistic" comes from the misinformed idea of autism FROM the past and there were even MORE people who thought these stereotypes than now.
(Don't get me wrong, majority of people still have these certain ideas of autism, but less so than b4. Heck, people didn't even know what autism really was b4.)
@@Kimshu6honestly it makes me a little disappointed when people still use Asperger’s as a label for themselves. Like guys, not only is that just a false diagnosis, but also it’s far less normalized in my opinion. There’s still shit terms like Aspie floating around. (And that’s a bot :P)
@@kwingle I only ever use 'Asperger's' when dealing with bureaucracy & official paperwork (uni and job applications and the like). Since all my diagnostic documents and doctor's notes etc. say "diagnosis ICD-10 F84.5 Aspergersyndrom", I find it easier to just refer to that, instead of saying Autism and then getting into prolonged in-person discussions and/or e/mail exchanges about why what I said/wrote (Autism) diverges from what my paperwork says. Happened to me twice, and it was so frustrating and draining each time, that I just gave up on stating Autism in official stuff.
@@Kimshu6 ty for saying this, aspergers just isnt a thing anymore, its why Autism is called Autism SPECTRUM disorder now
I'm so glad to see autism not being glorified but more so how difficult the world is for us
Exactly, its not a superpower or even slightly cool to have it. It makes you unique, sure... but It's a disability and makes life hell for a lot of people.
@ville__ If your content is copy pasting the same cut off obnoxious post over and over then it's pretty shit content
I honestly think there have been more content, whether recently or in the past about the difficulties of autism and how "it's such a bad thing" for everyone. Thus the general stigma, but I'm guessing you're talking about the *actually autistic* person's pov.
@@smashyrashyna disagree. I'm incredibly talented. But Im being shut down by stupid people and they bullying me for my issue. I can't be good at everything. Let me do weird choices in priorities and dont take away my incredible qualities
@@draalttom844I agree with the fact that my autism is really helpful
Its only not helpful in the social sense
But i think that it's also not a superpower its just an ability
You wouldn't call someone's talent or skill a superpower
Thank you so much for having me on! It's always wonderful to be surrounded by such a wonderful crew and my fellow autistics!
Hopefully, I was able to give more insight on autism in my personal perspective! Remember its a spectrum, so everyone is different! All that matters is for you to ask 🥰
Yo honestly I was distracted by that amazing hat and haircut of you man, all love to all three of you there ❤
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love your style ! thanks for educating us on this topic
I LOOOOVE UR STYLE UR SO SLAY also im only halfway through the vid but i def find myself agreeing w u the most, so great takes my fellow autistic!!
@@aquademoney man is fine! I treat it gender neutrally, like dude or fam. Thank you so much! Thank my partner for helping!
I really like the structre of this. Nobody is clarifying what they're saying and they are responding to eachother without anyone intterupting them. THIS is how you do a good interview. you ask the question and let your guests talk! Guest-Centered media is so much more powerful than interviewer centered.
I do like how we can see a mix of both, cause it gives us a larger perspective, but yeh I agree in that I also like quest centered interviews.
The autistic people who can't talk appreciate you guys thank you 🙏
much love to all our nonverbal friends
@ville__we know you are like 5, you have a UTTP profile
@ville__autism* not aspergers
@ville__ Ok, that's not autism, that's just being rude. Anthony's stuff is great, maybe yours is too, but I now have zero inclination to view it. You literally insult the content and then say you're against cyberbullying, like wth? I am autistic by the way, and saxenart in right, its autism, not the name of a Nazi eugenicist
@@saxenartthey most likely got diagnosed with this name before the change, so it makes sense if they call it this
My daughter is autistic and I have a hard time imagining her being any other way; she is my world! I’m so happy to see more and more autistic adults sharing their stories and experiences.
My daughter is autistic too. I worry for when she’s older. I worry about her getting bullied or one day she comes home or I have to get her because she’s being bullied.
@michelle19000 everyone gets bullied. We typically dont notice until a while after
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The reason most autistic people get bullied is because they don't understand, they just see someone who is different and decide to make fun of them. It happens even if you don't have a diagnosis. She probably will get bullied and it sucks but unfortunately at this moments in time all we can do is try and educate more about disability, teach about disability in schools and encourage parents to talk to their children about disability and not discourage children's natural curiosity when it comes to things like that, that they don't understand
@@cleversmosh or they could just homeschool, its been proven to be the bettter route for those with autism/adhd/dyslexia, etc, as homeschool groups don't have that stigma or pressure to conform. I know many people who were bullied at school and had to hide parts of their personality's to try avoid it, then switched to homeschooling and ended up happier, being their unique selves, and were able to make more friends.
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Sometimes it isn't possible to home school because parents work or have younger children
I often think that autistic people generally have a lot of certain kinds of empathy, but it is hard to show the empathy, especially in socially accepted ways. I feel other's emotions so intensely, which gives very little room to do much else which means I need to close myself off so I don't notice as much.
Yes! I’m extremely empathetic but the way I show it makes people think I’m making it all about myself. And feeling others’ emotions so intensely is so draining :/
Even those who do truly lack empathy may have more sympathy and compassion. Either way, I think the problem is not that autistic people do not care for others, but that allistic people do not make enough of an effort to understand how we communicate.
@@LilChuunosukeyeah, I struggle with empathy but have high compassion - I don't need to feel what someone feels or relate to it to be able to care that someone feels a certain way
I’m autistic and I am am very empathetic, the only problem is that it is hard for me to feel empathy for someone when they behave completely different than from what I would have done in that situation. I show empathy by giving logical advice since I would always do (what I perceive as) the most rational thing to do, and it is difficult for me to understand someone’s feelings when all I’m thinking is “well if you had just done xyz, you wouldn’t even be in a situation that’s making you miserable right now!”. It took a long time for me to learn that sometimes, people just want to complain and process their emotions that way, and that me giving them advice on how to improve their situation isn’t always welcome and sometimes even regarded as insulting, since “they didn’t want advice, they just wanted to talk about their situation, silly!”. So I’d say autistics have empathy, but they can’t feel it for someone who behaves (again, in THEIR eyes) illogical and also have difficulties whining their empathy in a way that is understood by neurotypicals. Then again, I had people say my “unconventional” way of looking at things helped them immensely so there’s that I guess XD
@@stellabright1455 I don't think that's empathy - empathy is overall understanding/feeling/relating to other people's feelings/emotions. Showing you care by however is compassion
"Autistic people have no sexual desire"
Fanfiction authors: *Am I a joke to u?*
I laughed so hard because I wrote so much smut in college. We are a mixed bag. I’m AuDHD and heterosexual/romantic, but my friend who is autistic is ace/aro.
@@virgofairy88I’m aroace and I read smut lol
Yeah, no, that's true
AuDHD bisexual heteroromantic, I basically read smut as prep for when I decided to have sex lol. If anything I feel we can be even more horny than neurotypicals lol.
Most of the autistic people I know are LGBTQ+ (including aro-ace) and/or kinky, and many of the kinksters I know are neurodivergent in some form.
I get told all the time that I "don't seem autistic" because of how heavily I mask & repress my stims to make other people more comfortable. it's exhausting. if I tell people I'm autistic, they treat me like a baby. if I don't tell them, they treat me like I'm stupid. there's just no way to win.
Similar experience as mine. I was very low masking as a kid and it was a nightmare. I was constantly talked down to, mocked, and treated like garbage. I worked hard to learn how to mask effectively just so that people would treat me with respect. And my "reward" for all this work is to be told I'm not autistic.
Had a job interview a year ago. I ended up telling them I had autism because of a related subject. Suddenly the whole interview wasnt about my skills anymore, but about my needs in help at the job.
... I wouldnt have applied if I didnt think I was qualified or could take it.
Also surprice surprice I didnt get that job.
Yeah I need to know how many people have turned me down because of my autism. Fucking assholes
I have not been diagnosed officially but I’m doing a lot of research on my being in this spectrum and masking is probably one of the reasons why I feel drained emotionally(aside from my anxiety) for years.
That's me I haven't even told my boss that I have autism it's been a year I'm still working there no issues but none of my coworkers know that I have it I'm afraid to tell them my job has a policy they can't fire someone with it just because they have it@@snufhuffboy5101
ADHD and I felt the “pure rage” to loud noises comment deep in my soul. It’s uncontrollable and all encompassing. Hate isn’t even a strong enough word for how I feel about “unnecessary” sounds
loud noises in my adhd self, not necessarily. but people who eat with open mouths with lip smacking sounds. I found out that was an issue for me when I gave a ride to a friend on the way to a convention. he ate a late dinner in the car. and at no point did he keep his mouth closed. And I swear it might be a regional tradition or something for him. I didn't tell him why that was the last time I was giving him rides on long road trips.
@@cwolf201 this is LITERALLY what i hate the most . im questioning if i have adhd and autism but like people chewing and th lip smacking sounds are So fucking frustrating and i want to yell . i feel absolute rage whenever people chew loudly like OHMYGODDDgjnrg,ndgmdngmdfgnkanhgka
@@beepr1nt this is called misophonia; it can be comorbid with other conditions like adhd and autism, but it's a distinct condition, and people without adhd or autism can have it as well.
@@alkali836 ooh ty! i didnjt know there was a thing for experiencing tjat
Mine isn't bad enough to call it misophonia, but it is sensory processing disorder. I describe it as like being attacked or stabbed in the ear.
As an autistic person myself the lack of empathy stereotype pisses me off so much. When extremely burnt out and my needs aren’t met, and when depressed I do have moments of being more self focused and have reduced empathy for others during those times but even then I still have more empathy than allistic (non autistic people) people often do.
That's the odd thing about the Cambridge Behavior Scale and that kind of tests that measure empathy... even when we score low (and that's part of the diagnostic criteria) that doesn't mean we aren't kind. Some neurodivergent people, in fact, have high emotional empathy even when they don't fully understand other's feelings in a rational way.
As an adult, I didn't know I was autistic; all I knew was that I was different. It wasn't until I started watching TikTok and RUclips videos about autism and its traits, especially how girls can show it differently, that I realized it might be what I was experiencing. I brought this possibility to my doctors, and it turns out I am autistic. After getting the diagnosis and doing more research, so much about me and why I am the way I am started to make sense. Autism in girls often shows up as difficulties in social skills and communication. Girls with autism may also have repetitive behaviors, but they're often better at hiding them and fitting in with peers compared to boys. They might also become intensely focused on a specific topic and not perform to their full potential in school, which describes me perfectly. I just learned to mask from a very early age.
DUDE SAME
Late stage diagnosis in women for autism or ADHD is quite common. I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago, my therapist suggested seeing someone for autism or getting a diagnosis
@@Vincisomething When I was diagnosed with autism, I also found out I had ADHD. My brother was diagnosed with ADHD at 5, but I was overlooked because I didn't show hyperactive behavior. I daydreamed a lot, cried easily, was disorganized, shy, and had poor time management, typical ADHD symptoms in girls. I masked these well, so it wasn't noticed. If I had known about my conditions, growing up would have been much easier. I often felt like something was wrong with me for no reason. I understood why my brother behaved as he did, but I was told there was no reason for my behavior. This constant invalidation messes with your mind.
@@shadowkissed2370 my dad used to teach at a school for autistic kids so he said I had signs but I was never officially diagnosed nor did I look into it until fairly recently (within the past couple years) because I was more focused on getting the ADHD disgnosis. I didn't realize I was masking a lot too and it was hard to differentiate between when I was masking and what was me.
It's also probably why ADHD and autism can come with anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addictions, and other issues.
@@shadowkissed2370 for the longest time I just didn't think my brain was smart enough and that's why I kept getting adequate or low marks. No matter how hard I studied, it didn't work so it was like my brain must have a limit on what I can learn. Also I thought me not paying attention in class was just a lack of discipline and I would get frustrated with myself for not being able to bc you think it should be easy.
I’m so happy they brought on people from various parts of the spectrum to showcase all the different ways autism can show itself
I noticed that too! It showcases how they all have strengths and that despite having different traits, we’re all autistic at the end of the day :)
superpower: i remember everything
catch: i remember EVERYTHING
Rytchie touched on this, but I want to clarify it a bit because I'm not sure if their phrasing was the best, but I have trouble phrasing things as well so I totally get it. Autistic people are not self-centered people who are always concerned only with themselves, we look inward, we introspect, and I think that is related to a lot of things, including the higher probability of identifying with LGBT, but I know this also affects a lot of other things as well. A lot of people don't look inward, a lot of people don't ask themselves why they do things or who they are or what they represent. I think with autistics, and as an autistic person myself, we just look inward more than the average person so we know more of who we are than most people, and coupling that with already sort of being outcast because of our differences we are less burdened by pressure to conform.
I think you phrased that very well! That's how I think of it, too. Also, Rytchie uses they/them pronouns. That's the main thing I wanted to say but starting off with that sounded bad lol
@@yun0ny4 ah, thanks-- it's been corrected
I wasn't trying to get across that I was self centered. I apologize for doing so!
My whole angle was that when it comes to what society likes and doesn't like, I felt that autistic people don't care. We care about how we feel in society, rather than the other way around. That being said, it's not the same for everyone. It's purely my take on it, but I love yours as well!
@ville__ you sure you typed that right?
with what little i saw of your channel, it looks more like you have a passion for cyberbullying.
I actually think he articulated that pretty well cuz I could personally relate to it. It doesn't mean that since it came off that way to you that he didn't articulate it well. I hope I'm making sense.
As someone who is AFAB nonbinary (agender) and autistic, hearing these three out more made me feel less alone. They made me smile. I was diagnosed at the age of 4, since then I have been trying to embrace my autism. What sad assumptions we’re facing, but yeah… Thank you for this video. ☺️🖤
What does AFAB mean, if I may ask?
I’m also afab Agender and autistic. Diagnosed in adulthood.
@@WhoAmI2YouNowAFAB means “Assigned Female at Birth”. It’s used more often by Nonbinary spectrum people, but is used by everyone even Cis people.
AMAB, AGAB and AIAB are assigned male (M), gender (G) or intersex (I) at birth.
me too! agender, aromantic, asexual, autistic, and adhd- the AAAAA battery lol. i wonder if more autistic people tend to be agender than allistic?
@@synthwav_ I’m also AroAce, but also Cupios3xual
Got diagnosed recently at age 39, after a lifetime of being different and blaming myself for not being able to socialize like other people. So much trauma and hatred towards myself. Now at least i know why.
Congratulations (?) on your diagnosis. I felt the same way. It's so traumatising to grow up undiagnosed and even though it's frustrating that the diagnosis took so long, it's sort of a relief at the same time to have an explanation. I hope you're kinder to yourself now. I know I was.
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when people say "you don't look autistic," I have to imagine it is PROBABLY meant as a compliment to you specifically, but unfortunately that does come with the implication that being autistic is bad, so it's really not a great thing to say.
With "I can tell," at least in my limited experience (because I've never really been around anyone who actually says that, except... myself, and only amongst people who are already my friends) it is meant neutrally. Though in my case, I have a lot of second-hand experience with interacting with people with autism and other learning disabilities, as my mom was a teacher at a school specifically for that for many years, so I learned a lot about stuff to look for.
I have a friend who is autistic and people bully him a lot. One time, his teachers sub told him he was being disruptive. He was stimming. He wasn’t doing anything to disrupt anyone. People are just dicks and I hate that
Hey Parker, how are you?! I am an autistic reading your comment! And it just warms my heart how accepting you are of your friends quirks, and I am sure there are other people who are not autistic who have those things haha. I got diagnosed at 2 being a high-functioning autistic. I have had my own fair share of challenges academically and in real life. Again, this comment made my day!! You are awesome!!
i grew up undiagnosed ADHD (i think i’m autistic too but don’t have access to a doctor rn to diagnose me) and my entire childhood was me being a “troublemaker” and always, constantly getting into trouble at school bc I was “distracting” the other kids. and it was so annoying, especially now as an adult with my diagnosis knowing why i was that way and never getting the supports i needed. I would’ve had such an easier time in school I think if they knew what was going on inside my head
As female who has been diagnosed with adhd, autism, bpd, pmdd, and more. The misdiagnoses are so hard. I don’t know what I am. Women are so understudied in this category. It is so hard for people to understand until they’re in it.
You know, you can overcome a diagnose, then you dont have it anymore. It will make you feel better, if you try and get help for some of these things, you no longer have to label yourself as that.
@dsgebrowne1 that isn’t how that works? Pretty sure you know that already though.
@@dsgrbrowne1 you are correct. However, my issue is I don’t know where to start because mental health issues like bpd are curable. ADHD and autism on the other hand are obviously not an illness or something that needs to be “cured”. They’re something to learn to live with and patterns of behavior that are not ever something that will be changed. AND Pmdd is a mix between biological health(hormones) and mental health(reactions to the hormones). In my opinion, there are some diagnoses that can be overcome, but some don’t need to be overcome, you just learn to live with it. Also clearly I have been getting help lmao. How would I have gotten all those diagnoses? Like I said above, women are understudied, so my symptoms fit each of their diagnostic criteria, but most studies were done on males so there is a lack of an ability for female patients to narrow down their diagnoses. Plus most neurodivergent people have comorbidities regardless of my wish to only have 1
@ville__ this is so irrelevant? Please remove yourself from my replies. I didn’t ask you anything. Why are you asking young women to watch your content. Seems like you got some issues
@@dsgrbrowne1 I don’t think there is any need to “overcome” a diagnosis. Being diagnosed with one (or many’ mental illnesses isn’t a bad thing, it helps you understand who you are and why you are experiencing the things you are experiencing. The only thing that “needs” to happen is to possibly get treatment so the individual can feel better. However, there is a massive difference between wanting to learn to live with a disorder and minimising the negative impact it has to improve your quality of life and straight up wanting them to not exist anymore XD meany mental illnesses also have positive traits, don’t forget that!
I wasn't diagnosed with autism until I was 23, but this video helped me feel seen and look back at myself growing up. I also want to be friends irl with all three of these folk.
I have shared this on another post, but here it is again: One of the most invalidating things that people say when you trust them enough to share your diagnosis with them, is "Oh, everyone is on the Spectrum a little bit..". It often makes those of us who actually ARE, feel very minimalized, and can greatly trigger the Imposter Syndrome. I was telling this to a dear friend of mine who happens to be a Black fellow. (He is one of the kindest, most introspective people I know) He sat and listened to me vent, thought about what I had said for a few moments, then said "It seems to me that they don't get that autism is about how you are wired and how you process information... NOT about the little quirks. That would be like me opening up to someone I know... trusting them enough to be vulnerable... and sharing something intimate about being a Black man with a non-black person, and then having them say ...'Well, we're ALL a little Black. I have really good rhythm... and Steve over there, he's a really good basketball player'. ... Yeah, I can see how insulting and invalidating it can be."
Wow! I had never heard it put in that context before, but he really helped put it into perspective and made me feel "seen".
Watching the first interview with autistic people on Anthony's channel from a few years ago was one the reasons why I finally got diagnosed as Autistic and ADHD as an adult. Thank you for making videos about people from different perspectives and people who have been generally marginalised in society! Happy Autism Acceptance month! 🎉
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As someone dating a person with Autism, it’s different but it amazes me how people in her past have failed to even to try to understand. I totally understand how she processes stuff a lil differently to me and it never is an issue.
I hope I can always make her feel comfortable, and I try my best to communicate my feelings when they are unclear. Neurotypical people often get frustrated at Autistic people who don’t understand social cues and I never want to put someone I love in that position.
on the "every autistic person experiences sensory issues" I think EVERY PERSON experiences sensory issues, everyone has some fabric they can't stand, or some food they hate the feeling of, some sound they hate, something! but of course autism makes (or at least tends to) make you FAR more sensitive to it. to the point there's normally SOMETHING in your every day that's going to cause you sensory discomfort
I literally can't touch shower floors (the basic white ones) with my bare feet, the texture is awful for me.
Yeah I've def seen neurotypicals experience sensory discomfort. Its just not pn the level that autistic people experience it. But I think theres a way we can point out that parallel as a way to show autistic people aren't all that different without implying we aren't disabled & are just overreacting.
as a neurotypical person, i don't think i experience sensory issues. yes, every once and a while, something is a little uncomfortable, but i find that i can push through it very easily. i dont like the texture of a food? i can still eat it. i dont like the way something feels? i can still touch it. and i dont experience any big "ew ew ew!" or "no no no!" while I'm doing it. i can do it fairly easily and without much physical or mental pushback. and sometimes i'll even start to enjoy what i previously didnt like. i think there's a difference between "sensory issues" and "i don't like the way this feels"
i think neurotypical people can still experience sensory issues, but i wouldn't say everyone does
@@LollingCatto sensory issues for nd types is very different. For one side it's just uncomfortable, the other is avoid that thing at all costs or my day will be ruined. Something being a little too loud for an nt person doesn't hit the same with a nd person with noise sensitivity. For example one of mine is food textures, that's something autistic people can't just get over. Asking an autistic person to eat food with unpleasant texture is pretty much like forcing any regular person to eat their least favorite food or something on fear factor.
I thought the food thing was just me as a kid being a picky eater, but I'm 31 and that hasn't changed lol. Slightly too soft or overripe fruits is a no-go. Same with my other sensitivity issues people thought I'd grow out of.
@@LollingCatto very interesting! yeah, I can imagine the sensory issues NT people do experience are a lot less overwhelming to them then it is for divergent folks, I don't have a lot of outside perspective, since most people in my life are some form of divergent 😆
I’m another person with autism that was drawn over here. Like a lot of people like me, I’m really grossed out about what it means when people say “look” autistic. Cia’s “movie”: Music? Autism Speaks propaganda? The thought really makes me uncomfortable.
… Speaking of uncomfortable, I can’t eat anything with a very slight or moderately grainy texture like the center of a watermelon. If I ever want to eat watermelon, I exclude a majority of the red part and eat the pink part of the rind. I also can’t eat homemade macaroni and cheese because the half-grainy cheese is weird on my tongue. It might not taste that way to other people, but it feels like there’s… *Something wrong in my mouth.*
I feel that way about green peppers-I absolutely cannot stand them (I’m AuDHD)
I'm autistic. I'm also a retired US Marine with multiple combat deployments, but college was too much for me. Not all autistic people are the same. Just take the time to get to know us! Once you've met one autistic person, you've met one person autistic person
yayy this video is gonna be so good!! i hope neurotypicals learn stuff about autistic people and try to understand how they're NOT so different from the rest of them. thank you anthony for always promoting positivity and pushing for positive changes.
Here to representation. Especially this month
Thank you for this Anthony and team. A week ago today. I did not great things to myself because I have waited so long for support for ASD. These conversations are so vital.
I'm just glad I wasn't successful 😟
I hope you're ok now? Are you getting the support you need now? I have C-PTSD, Major chronic depression, PCOS, BPD, chronic pain and I have a really bad issue disassociation that hasn't been diagnosed (Yet? I'm hesitant to get it officially diagnosed because I may not be eligible to drive for a while, not that I know how too or have a license) Whenever I would ask my old Pyshciatrist about the possibility of me being autistic she would say "You have too much going on to be able to properly diagnose autistism" and it always made me really frustrated because I just want to know more about how my brain works and how to work with it. Not officially knowing is what's effecting you is so fricken frustrating. Hang in there, we're on the same boat. I got a long was to go before I can even get the disassociation issues diagnosed or be assessed for autistism. I have a lot of C-PTSD symptoms that are a lot like ADHD and after jumping from clinic to clinic since COVID, I finally got Adderall prescribed. It took 4 years. Me a college student and Tutor did not qualify for Adderall because I admitted to using psychedelic to understand myself better and most Telehealth companies can prescribe Adderall. I had to find and in-person Phsyciatrist and it took months to get an intake appointment and another 2 months to finally have an actually psychiatrist appointment. I had to ween off my old ADHD meds and then I was finally prescribed Adderall.
My boyfriend is Autistic. They are the most compassionate people. ❤❤
@ville__didnt ask
@@CariAndLennydon’t feed the troll! This guy is spamming so we should report his comments
@@LilyShimizu if dismissing them is considered feeding a troll
Same and I also have Autism so that's extra fun. I have sensory issues so I can wear jeans or certain clothes and he can't eat certain things because of the texture. I'm more of the creative one so I hyperfixate on Fandoms and video games and movies and such, he likes studying recreating the human soul, or quantum physics and smart things. I'm more outgoing but a little awkward awkward, he is antisocial and prefers not to meet people. It's definitely intriguing.
I have ADD and Dyslexia, but I can relate to a lot of the "quirks" of Autism. In terms of sensory, I easily get sensory overload in "chaotically" noisy areas, and I also have occasional audio-processing issues.
@ville__ no way Im watching any channel still promoting the asperger classification
Those are symptoms of ADHD(which is what ADD has been renamed to.)
Okay, and? I already knew that, and was just trying to say that I relate to them in that way.
@@XanderMander006 I'm not sure what you understood from my comment. I wasn't trying to be rude or anything. I have both Autism and ADHD, so I was just sharing a fun fact.
As an autistic person, THANK YOU FOR JUST SPREADING AWARENESS! That’s honestly the biggest thing anyone can do for us: end all the stigma by spreading information! Thank you ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
When someone tells me "you don't look autistic" I have no idea if they say it as "don't worry it's not that bad" or "you don't look like it, there's no way you have it." And it always stresses me out.
I recently disclosed my ASD to my sober community and have had an amazing outpouring of love and support. I’ve had people come up to me and ask what prompted me to seek diagnosis and we got into deep conversations resulting in them revealing they have suspicions about having ASD.
I’ve had people say “I’m so sorry about your sad news” and I tell them it’s a relief to have a name to who I am and I’d be autistic with or without a label. I feel more happy and comfortable in my skin overall.
I love that they actually got to talk. Finish their thoughts and sentences and weren't interrupted by a host. This was a well set up conversation. Good job on Padilla and team!!
"God forbid someone brings out the corn starch" was peak autistic humor - funny because its true
this is the most honest and wholesome video I have ever seen with actual people with autism having a great time having discussions and conversations with each other about society's misconception on autism. I shed a tear while watching this video because I can relate to some of the things they are saying.
i think the best way i’ve heard the prevalence of queerness in neurodivergent communities explained was that we tend to be the type of people to march to the beat of our own drum because we think differently and/or already are socially othered. i don’t know if it’s more prevalent but i know that it kind of gives you a head-start on figuring out your gender identity and sexuality when you have that space to think about it early on socially.
I’m so glad a video like this is on the internet!!!!! As an older sister of a sibling that is autistic I’m constantly advocating for him since they can’t advocate for themselves. Thank you for discussing these assumptions and issues it helps me understand more and learning more so I can continue to help my folks take care of and raise them in the best way possible❤
Thank you so much to this cast, you guys really nailed all the points and made so many people feel seen. This is why I love our community.
Thank you for putting this panel out there. I'm autistic, and received a later in life diagnosis. I know that there are many misconceptions about it and those misconceptions can sometimes being damaging. Or even delay a diagnosis. It's important to let autistic people themselves dispel these myths.
Quick question to every with or without autisme. I have autisme and I have always hated things like when you sit next to someone and your legs touch, sitting on buttons on the back of pants. Do you guys feel the same way, is it my autisme or just normal?
to my knowledge, that kind of thing (tactile sensitivity, aversion to touch) is definitely enhanced and aggravated by autism, but it's definitely not exclusive either. I'm not autistic but I don't really like contact with people, or stuff like that
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Exactly what I was going to say! Everyone has certain sensory sensitivities autistic people usually just have more intense sensory sensitivities and more intense reactions to overwhelming sensory stimuli
I want to be a hugger but I hate touching people. People are sweaty and smell funny, and sometimes they don't wash their hands. I'm also terrified of accidentally touching a boob or butt.
In general, I also hate the feeling of touching things with my legs (Especially cold-feeling things, like leather sofas), so I always wear long pants.
I'm undiagnosed, but my mother and sibling, who are both therapists and regularly work with autistic people in their respective fields, both agree I'm likely autistic to some level.
I'm autistic and I have a really difficult time sitting near people at all, even if we aren't touching in any way. It makes me so uncomfortable. I hate when people are too close to me, unless it's someone I really trust. Like if someone was sitting at the very end of a 3 or 4 seater couch, I would still not want to sit at the other end because it would feel too close. And touch overwhelms me very very easily
ive gotten diagnosed as adhd (mixed presentation) recently, and ya I definitely resonate with the possibility of a misdiagnosis. I went in thinking it was an autism and adhd diagnosis but was a wrong assumption. I think this also has been harder with research placing adhd and autism under more of the same umbrella and monotropism. Thank you for doing this
One of the best things that happened to me was being diagnosed because it helped me tackle my issues and problems towards myself or others and didn’t realize it. Cause even if things were influenced by me having the tism skism that were negative, that doesn’t make me exempt from things. The intent wasn’t there but that doesn’t make everything better
I was diagnosed with autism in preschool. I got lucky. Not a lot of females with autism get diagnosed until they are in their adulthood. It’s so nice to see and hear people who have similar experiences and differences that I have thank you for spreading awareness Anthony!
As someone who’s waiting to get tested for autism watching this put me at ease 😌
thank you for speaking positively about self-diagnosis. all of my medical health professionals are aware that i have autism but have not formally diagnosed me. it’s hard finding places that accept new patients, or finding places that accept my insurance. testing is expensive and really difficult to get.
The job disclosure thing when it comes to autism/disability is so difficult. Most of the time, employers can get away with discrimination by being discreet, listing the reason as “we decided to go with another candidate”. The only time I ever witnessed the law clearly being broken was when Elon Musk did it publicly online to a disabled employee. Granted, Elon Musk is autistic and being discreet like NTs can be difficult for us, yet again another example of the world, social constructs, etc, not being built for us. (Not defending Musk, there just needs to be more protections put in place so employers can’t discriminate discreetly as well)
Thank you for making this video!! I have been struggling so hard lately with my mental health and low feelings of self worth after a life time of discrimination without knowing why. I discovered I am autistic a few years ago and having a lack of resources from autistic voices has made accepting myself hard as all other resources seem to be others putting their stereotypes and discrimination down on us, and it makes me feel so alone and worthless. Watching this video genuinely made me so happy and emotional. Thank you!
Appreciate these conversations honestly. I just wish media would include people in these discussions that are on the more severe side of the spectrum. I'd love to see people who are barely verbal but can express themselves through devices or other means. Or even those with challenging behaviours and physical issues but can still express themselves. Capable Autistics seem to be the norm representation because it's more comfortable communicating with them. Not to say they don't deserve their time in the spotlight too. Just wish all aspects of the spectrum were present in these forums.
Thank you so much for making this video ❤
I was diagnosed last november but knew I was autistic for a few years before that
It makes me happy seeing other fellow autistic and neurodivergent people, specially when they can be heard with no prejudice ❤
I can't say I am fully open about my diagnosis of high functioning autism. I wasn't harshly bullied thank goodness but I still know the feeling of being treated differently from teachers that didn't know how to teach for my learning style and sometimes students that didn't get my quirks. It did feel isolating at times and while I don't want to sound like I am ashamed of it, I am selective about who I share this with. I have to feel like I am in a safe space. I like hearing their thoughts.
The take on the correlation between autism and non-binary was incredible. Being autistic you do not fit into society's boxes and right now the easiest most accessible way to reject society's boxes is through gender, and the rejection of gender norms is a "gateway" to fully rejecting all of society's norms, and its less about the gender and more about society's restrictions on what the expression of that gender can be.
Here's hoping that we can move as a society away from norms and boxes around all things.
5:10 i want the emphasize what they are saying, because self diagnosis isn't what people think it is, for a lot of people with autism getting a diagnosis can take ages it took me until i was around 15 to finally get a diagnosis and not for a lack of trying, along with that my brother was diagnosed and that took even longer, part of it is family history, it's not as hard to get diagnosed when you have a documented family history but for others when others in there family remain undiagnosed it becomes a lot harder, but also because a lot of the system can be really flawed, in my first autism assessment he said that i couldn't have autism because i made too much eye contact which is a very bad way to diagnose things, as a kid i grew up making an effort to make eye contact it's not that for me it wasn't hard or that it didn't affect me, i just tried to make eye contact, now i barely make any eye contact because in all honesty it just isn't worth doing it for me, it makes things a lot harder than they need to be, most people don't mind when people don't make eye contact anymore
ig what i mainly want to say is that if you think you have autism, you have researched it and you are confident you know what it is and how it affects people than you are probably more knowledgeable than just about any doctor who might assess you, so have confidence that you have autism and don't just go once and have them say you don't have autism and assume you don't, because they are more often than not wrong, autism is a big spectrum nobody knows everything about it
it's hard to say this tho because i live a in a country with a free healthcare system, people in the states wouldn't be so lucky
I wouldn't go quite as far as you did with discrediting doctors. It's just that it really matters who does the assessment. If you just go for the most convenient, cheapest, or first available assessment, I'd agree that there's a high likelihood they're misinformed or may misdiagnose you. But if you research and find a place that really understands and prioritizes neurodivergence, then the story will be different.
it really depends, some people can just get diagnosed by they're primary care physician, but other times they will send you to be checked by a specialist (which is what happened in my case) but if they don't diagnose you the first time it becomes very hard to get reassessed, unfortunately i don't have the money to just go around with random doctors until it works, i live in canada so we have free healthcare so that's what i use, and for most things it's pretty good, mental health stuff has always been an issue here tho, and not just that i don't want to support the privatized parts of our healthcare system, even if it means that potentially important diagnoses are delayed, many other things here are privatized (like our dental care) and it becomes very hard to get proper health when you need to pay for it out of pocket@@peterlewis2178
and i don't mean to discredit doctors, the thing is, that they have to study thousands of mental disorders so it's not that hard to become more of an expert on single disorders than your doctor especially primary care physicians, some of the things i have heard doctors say or think about stuff i know a lot about because it effects my everyday life is pretty insane, they do have some very good knowledge tho, they are aware of many other disorders that might present similarly, and how they might act together, so it's worth listening to what they say, but having confidence and being able to do proper research is more important in the healthcare system @@peterlewis2178
@@fewbronzegames Yeah, I can see that being true for the default channels, like for instance being referred to a specific specialist by your primary care physician. Unfortunately, there tends to be a lot of misinformation and just general lack of understanding, so if you aren't specifically researching and finding the right people to assess you, then I'd imagine your chances of having a bad experience are a lot higher.
In my case, we independently researched to find a counseling center that is super neurodivergence-affirming, anti ABA therapy, recognizes autistic adults, and I'm pretty sure is mostly staffed by neurodivergent people as well, and I'm seeking ADHD and autism assessment through them specifically.
But yeah, unfortunately it's not the most accessible, since if you have a free healthcare system, you have less choice about the specifics unless you can afford it, and if you don't (like me, since I'm in the US), then not really any of the options are there if you can't afford it.
its super interesting hearing all of their opinions, perspectives, and experiences. i love how well spoken Rytchie is
Is it from the "they don't autistic" realm too? 😮😢
I had a aid for 6 years of my life. I did REALLY need it but it was also kinda traumatizing. I would have meltdowns all the time bc of a medication that i was addicted to. But sometimes my aid would have to physically carry me out of the class bc i was a danger to the class. Also some ppl that i havnt seen in a long time bring up that time even after i tell them not to bc of all the truama i have from that time. Some ppl just think i am the same person i was back then. I have changed so much and it hurts so much when ppl bring it up. The worst part is that i am not diagnosed with Autism. I AM diagnosed with ADHD tho.
Happy to be early and see the assumptions broken! Im happy to be autistic but the struggles are tough
I would say regarding phrasing its what the person prefers like I dont like being called a person with autism for instance
personally I am thankful for you all making this video. i can relate to everyone on here and i feel a little bit less like a monster or a weirdo
The talk about sensory issues was very relatable. I was afraid of any foods outside my limited comfort zone. Ticking clocks and wind chimes are awful. Styrofoam and cardboard scraping against itself feels physically uncomfortable.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes, he is dr.porass.
I love seeing how all of you seem to unmask as the video goes on. I'm AuDHD and I have 3 autistic/adhd kids. It's so much fun to be able to be unmasked at home, for all of us ❤
im autistic n i was so confused abt the “autistic ppl dont have empathy” it varies from person to person but icl i have WAY TO MUCH empathy 😭🙏 it’s frustrating 😭😭 i dont wanna see my friend crying n then cry my eyes out too 💀
Me toooo but i have trouble with putting my emotions in my voice so i do sound sarcastic sometimes but usually I'm the first to comfort and feel bad
@@iscoolerthenU frrr i dont realize im sounding rude thru tone n it pisses me off cuz ppl will think im intentionally being rude when im just tired 😭
There's a difference between having feelings and being able to understand feelings and showing them. I am autistic and have Alexithymia, the emotions are there, but I have trouble recognizing them until they are overwhelmingly large. I have empathy, I just don't know how to express it in an allistic way.
I'll give my take on it too, as another autistic person.
Warning: It's a very long message, and I'm not english native so even tho I try my best to speak correctly, it's probably not perfect x)
1 - I don't mind any formulation to say that I'm autistic, as long as it's said with respect. I perfectly know what I am and I'm not ashamed of it at all, but just say it with respect.
2 - It has some good sides sometimes, you indeed can do some things very effectively. But the down sides in exchange for that are really not easy at all to live. Sometimes it's dang hard. Whenever I want to do something that is the most basic thing for others, but I'm just not able to do it because of stress, or hypersensitivities, or something else... It's incredibly frustrating.
3 - Autism is just too complex to resume it down to that. It depends on every person. For exemple, without knowing me, people are just not able at all to tell that I'm autistic, they can't see it just from the outside. I look and act lambda. Most people that don't know me properly usually just thinks "Well, he's probably a little anxious", or "He's not really social", and that's about it.
And it also depends on the moment, the context, the persons around me, etc. Just like he said, this statement is just too "black and white".
4 - It's fine to think that you are probably someone with autism (I was like that before being diagnosed), but don't assume for a fact that you are for sure autistic before being properly diagnosed. Autism is basically a bundled package of different troubles that can be found seperately or in smaller groups outside of autism. So until you are properly diagnsoed, it can be it, but it can also be something else. So just take your thoughts as they are, thoughts, and not as facts.
But, that said, tiktok can definitly be dangerous, because it can just be some people talking about something they don't have a clue, still saying they are autistic, and therefor some people will listen to them and do the same mistake. Just be careful on the informations you collect, and what to do with them.
5 - Depends on the children, but it could probably help indeed. For my exemple, I was diagnosed after I finished school, so I didn't get help. And, well, it didn't go well for me at school. My main issue was my extremely selective memory. Everybody has some sort of selective memory, but I was just (And till this day) on another level. If something interests me (Like Lord Of The Rings for exemple), my memory is an absolute beast of a computer. But if something doesn't interest me? Well too bad, I can't retain a single freaking information. I tried every possible learning technique that the teachers were providing, that my parents found, that I thought could suit me, absolutely nothing mattered. I was able to retain the most useless details of The Lord Of The Rings in 1 take, but was not able to remember 3 little dates for an exam having only reviewed this 3 dates and nothing else for 2 weeks... And of course, the teachers just weren't able to believe me.
And, you guessed it, almost every single school subject didn't interest me at all. So, I was extremely bad in most of school classes, and just wasn't able to explain why because my reality was just not possible in others minds.
6 - I'm a man, but I can say this statement is straight non-sense. That's all I have to say on it.
7 - I'm not queer nor trans, I don't have the data, and I'm not a professional on the subject, so I will abstain myself to talk about it.
8 - Not always true, but it's definitely a thing that most autistic people are socially "inept", or at least have just different social standards (Simple as that). I could be called inept for a lot of people that have the usuals social standards, indeed. I'm not good, confident, and confortable at all with them most of the time. But with the people that understand me, how I function, what are my social standards, I'm pretty dang social XD So again, it's not "black and whie". Some of my close ones are mostly like me in that sense so it's just fluid with them, but others are totally different yet still understand me, and it also works just fine. But they did efforts to understand me, so did I to understand them. It came after putting some efforts into it.
The thing that frustrates me a lot is when people say that autistics are socially indept and don't know how to put themsevles in other people's shoes. When they are the first ones that can be criticized of that, because they don't do a single effort to understand autistics. They just wait that we do all the work to finally be ok with THEIR standards.
Autistics can be social, but it takes efforts from both sides to understand each other, that's all.
9 - Hum. Anyone that say that to me or something like it (For exemple, "You're just picky that's all"), I will just make them physically feel different things that I live with (With their permission of course), then will make them realize that it's everything at the same time, and all the time with no pause. So that they can understand the real problem of it. It's not just that I have quirks, it's not just that I'm picky, it's not just that I have some little difficulties that can be gone with a bit of efforts. It's, in my case, a lots of intense troubles that are extremely hard to live with non-stop, that completely prevent me from doing some things that I would like to do, and that sometimes mentaly and physically break me.
And when you know exactly how to make people feel what you feel, it don't take much to give them a glimpse of it. Most of the time, I just explained half or less of my troubles and it's already physically intolerable for them.
10 - I wouldn't say all for sure, but it's definitely somethings that comes up a lot. I myself have a lot of sensory issues (Both hypersensitivities, and hyposensitivities). There are many exemples for that. Sound being felt way louder than for others, specific sounds that can be physically intolerable to hear (Makes me twitch like nothing else and fills me with immense rage in therms of reaction), sounds that my brain just can't correctly analyze and that causes me migraine. Common and non-heavy tastes or smells for others that can litteraly make me throw up. Textures that can be, again, physically intolerable to touch, or something slightly warm for others that litteraly burns me when I touch it. Or the worst for me, my hypersensitivity to light, that causes me a retinal migraine in 5 minutes with a light level considered like nothing for others. And everything is extremely exhausting.
And it's just exemples for hypersensitivities, hyposensitivities can be a problem too. For instance, I actually can't smell of burning, which can be dangerous.
11 - Lack of empathy is a trouble that can be found, or not, in a autistic person. Just like it can be found, or not, in a neurotypical person. It's 1 trouble that you can find in any type of person, so it's just situationnal. It has nothing to do with autism. Lack of empath also are not "black and white". I can have no empathy at all in certain situations, and a lot in others.
12 - Again, depends on the person. But in my case it's true. I had some relationships, but even when the other person was very open-minded and patient with me (Just like in my last relationship), the relationship was just taking too much from me. Doing what is considered the most simple things was too exhausting for me, and I couldn't take it on the long run.
I didn't blame her for anything, it's just that what she wanted to do with me was too much for me, simple as that.
Maybe she was just not the right person for me, but my troubles surely don't help to find the right one for me. But I'd say that in any case it's not easy for most of us, it's just probably even harder with autism.
13 - I am. Not. Innocent... AT ALL. Like, I've done a lot of things in that domain, and I can say that dang I'm horny af XD
14 - In my case, definitely, in 2 ways. 1, irony, sarcasm, implied, if there is not a clear tone to indicate it, I'm passing by. The person must use a clear funny tone or add a laugh at the end, or else I will just not get it.
And 2, I got a comment quite a lot about using a tone that was not at all what I meant to use. Like, sometimes for exemple, I apparently use a tone that refers to anger, but I'm actually chill x) And I'm just not able to notice it, it's a bit problematic I admit. People that know me got used to it, to just think that they must not base their interpretations out of it. But for people that don't know me well, I get that it must be counfusing as hell.
15 - If you think that, excuse me but in what univers do you live? Respecfully.
16 - Absolutely agree with the lady at the start. No it's not caused by trauma, but it can definitely causes some traumas.
17 - It can be extremely useful, but also problematic. It helped me to survive a lot of situations, but it also caused a lot of people to not be able to understand me at all, and it's just so exhausting... When I was in school, I was using it almost all the time to blend in, and it was the lowest point of my life. Nothing was okay, I was at the end of my rope all the time, I was toxic with others because of the constant frustration and exhaustion, and I had extremely bad thoughts all the time (You know, the type of thoughts that can lead you to harm yourself). Now that I don't use it anymore and be myself, I'm finally happy in my life, still hard, but I'm genuinely happy. I'd say it's a double-edged skill.
18 - Hard question, there is arguments to say yes, but also no. Legally you don't have to say it, and I get that you could fear the judgement and discrimination out of it. But at the same time, I can understand to point of vue of the employer that wants to know who he hires, and what difficulties it can cause.
Some employers even search autistic persons on purpose because they know very well they can be extremely efficient in what they love doing.
Best case scenario is that your employer could understand and actually help you to make it work because he actually have the infos to help you (One of my friends is in that case. He has some huge troubles, but because his employer is very open-minded, she helps him to work around with his troubles and it just work very well). So, I would understand both points.
as an audhd girlypops who only just recently discovered im autistic at 17 yet have been diagnosed w ADHD from the age of 5 at the same time, i literally perked up in excitement when this showed up on my recommendations :)) im so happy ppl are finally talking about our real experiences and debunking stereotypes n everything like a lot more now i mean if they werent i wouldntve been able to get outta imposter syndrome and actually accept that thats who i am and this diagnosis was the HUGE missing piece in my life all along THAT was what had been making my life sm harder this whole time and now slowly but surely ppl are starting to accept that (esp at a new school w a new iep) and actually accommodate my autism on top of adhd for the first time in my entire life. so yeah its def an a HUUUUGE relief, and vv important to me, basically a life-saver n im not even exaggerating, which is also why ppl dont understand how much u could be genuinely hurting someone let alone their future when u say self diagnosis isnt valid. yk what that means? that means ur saying every single autistic person that wasnt diagnosed as a kid is invalid. wtf do u think they do in order to get an assessment in the first place?? and us autistics are very thorough let alone VERY socially anxious so like do u rly think we’d risk going there without collecting all the proof and everything?? n then after alllll of that we still have to wait (ESPECIALLY adults) like 9 months at least to even 2-3 yrs or sum shit for the assessment itself even. idk im tired of typing tbh lmao but u get my point, tysm anthony for this vid, genuinely put a smile on my face even just seeing the title knowing that ppl that arent the autistic creators i watch are even starting to post things like this now and aaaaa it just makes me so happy n hopeful fr🫶🫶
For me it was the opposite, I was diagnosed at 6 with multiplex developmental disorder (a cousin of autism and schizophrenia) but that never felt right because I do not have schizophrenia. I did some research on it in college when I was 18 and came to the conclusion that I am autistic. I masked it for many years and it took a huge toll on me up until my early 30s. Once I worked remote it made a huge difference in my mental health, but I felt that a life was still missing. At 35 I also got an ADHD diagnosis so now it all makes sense. I’m glad you were able to figure it out sooner and knowing that information will be so valuable as you get older and start needing to advocate for yourself. If I could talk to my younger self, I would tell her to not be so timid and not be scared to speak your mind and ask for what you need.
@@virgofairy88 thank u sm٫ and im so sorry u had to go through all that for so long but at the same time im so happy for u that ur finally getting the diagnoses and support u deserve!!
I feel like people don't realise that so many autistic people have hyper empathy.
8:59 Their statement here made me tear up - Being on the spectrum has been tough and coming to terms with being trans non-binary has been too but hearing Richie describe their experience made me feel so proud. I am proud to be both autistic and non-binary 🎉
Ty for this ♡ as a self diagnosed autistic, we need this.
Also the ND community tends to prefer identity first language from what I’ve heard but honestly the terminology confusion feels very allistic since we already struggle with social norms & expectations. Like we’re probably not the ones policing you. (Also I’m fine with person with autism)
I think like a few things it has been a tad over policed but I have definitely seen ND people assert one away or another.
In the end it "feels" as if we are all aiming for the same thing here. To stop treating people as a diagnosis. Finally be rid of stuck images in culture that don't represent most of us at all, and is often designed for our ridicule not allyship (though it is getting wayyyyyy better). And finally to ensure everyone gets better support however they get diagnosis.
Whether language management on how to refer to oneself is part of that I couldn't say. I use autistic person because for me the other version is a little clunky to say in normal parlance. Also, I think my hyperlexia finds the off beat of the "with" part kinda unpleasant. Phrase musicality is a BIG thing for me.
That said I'd never tell others how to self refer. Up to them. Respect what they say.
I once was speaking to my therapist about how I don’t feel like me on the outside. He said that many late diagnosed autistic people have issues with self identification because we often live our lives masked because we don’t know we are different and assume everyone has it that hard and it leads to a lot of inward thinking and often shame and just not feeling like we are our true selves. It can lead to a lot of thinking about do I feel like a woman or a man? Do I present myself in a way that feels true to me? For my personal experience I feel like I am my consciousness and I am kind of just in this body, it isn’t me but I am this body in a way. Like there is a disconnect from my body to my consciousness. I am my consciousness and not my body. It took me forever to figure that out and to be able to put that in words. While I identify as the gender I was assigned at birth, I am more androgynous than most woman who were assigned female at birth. I work in a “man’s field” and I have short hair, but at the same time I love dresses and makeup and feeling pretty!
This is very well done. three different autistic people. Each very different from eachother. Showing that they are not all the same. Also everyone gets to speak. No one felt left behind. Very good questions and answers. I hope as many people as possable get to see this. I myself am neruodivergent .
"I would rather have autism than die" damn thats a good way of phrasing it. I have always wondered this about parents who think this, decide not to have the vaccine and have a child that regardless gets diagnosed with autism. Imagine they died young from a preventable disease and see whether they changed their minds... Smh
I have autism and i can relate to this video I've always been afraid of people judging me for how i sound and look like but i know there are good people out there who will listen and understand. I'm an very shy/quiet person who got bullied growing up for me i felt really isolated but now I'm trying to make myself feel better and become a happier person 🖤
You deserve happiness! Good luck on your journey.
@@spinthepickle1244 thank you!!
Great guests! I'm also autistic and autism as a topic happens to be a special interest of mine. I don't exactly want to write an essay here, so I'll leave my comment here: Thanks for doing this, I really enjoyed it.
“You don’t look autistic”
“Thanks, I’m trying super hard right now! If you could see me when I’m alone you would not say that”
Definitely gonna use this script!
My son is level 3 non verbal, thank you Anthony for putting this out. The more awareness there is the better ❤❤
I (afab) didn't get diagnosed until 29. My mask was THICK. I also don't understand the concept of gender. Female never felt right, so I transitioned and lived as male for 10 years; eventually that didn't feel right either. I've settled into NB and I've never been happier in my self image.
Thank you all for making this. The three speakers did an amazing job speaking on autism. I would gladly share this with others curious about (my) autism.
I love how we basically as a collective have such a deranged cackling laugh like a swamp witch brewing a potion in their cauldron /j (but like, really a lot of us do)
I’m so glad I finally found a video talking about autism, because I am autistic, and I’m glad these things were discussed. Because some people may think autism is a super power, but they only see the good sides of it and not the bad sides of it.
thinking of autism as a superpower is akin to wolverine if he had his claws but no healing factor. its cool and useful sometimes but is stabbing knives through your hands really a superpower?
My son's IEP was very simple: he could leave the room if it got too loud and calm down in the hallway until he was ready to go back in and he would be given a new desk placement if his initial one was noisy or distracting (due to people or environment ie HVAC).
He only ever left the room once - because just knowing he could helped him feel he could bear it. Knowing his teachers would give him a different seat empowered him to ask for what he needed at the beginning of each quarter (as far away from people and vents as possible). Now his IEP is no longer in place, but he learned what he could ask for and how. He can still ask/state his preferences and advocate for himself. Although his teachers can say no to his requests now, none have done so.
You should do a video interviewing people who answer suicide calls
1:34 Autism can have it's benefits in ways of thinking and doing things. Like observation, sorting and tyding things.
3:56 For me, not neccessarly. Although i might adress it from time to time in terms of how i work to someone, i'm fine with it if nobody notice it all that much and i can just behave, function and be treated like everyone else.
11:34 We all can be quirky in our own way, but it's not autism as a whole.
12:40 For me, i'm never been too much sensitive to loud noises or touching, maybe only a little, but for the rest i can handle it. Never really needed any noise cancelling headphones.
15:38 Empathy, emotions, feelings, we do can feel and express these things, but sometimes in certain moments with blank expressions, i can't know how to react more clearly.
16:58 As much confidence i have, getting myself to date someone can still be hard for me to get off the ground. It can be overwhelming to find the right person that stands out from the crowd. So much i can describe about this, but i would do anything to be in a relationship.
18:18 i can tell you that i do crave sexual desires as much as the next person.
20:26 Even before hearing that from Anthony's original video, i can also tell that's definitly not true, vaccines do not affect my genetic behavior.
21:17 Autism or not, i don't have any childhood trauma experiences, thank god. But it's definitly not caused by it.
22:18 I wouldn't neccessarily recommend that, but it's something i never had to do, even when i'm just trying to fit in. Again, i can just blend in with everyone else without even trying, no problem what so ever.
23:23 I've had help from someone when applying for a job that's very open and acceptable towards people with disabilities. Now for almost 9 years working in retail with enough experience that i'm happy with. I think the amount of experiences on your resume should say more than enough about you, the description of having autism does not have to be on there, probably not at all.
Thank you so much for doing this!! We are so misunderstood I'm non verbal I have a great family I'm a bright person but I can't talk or eat regular food I have no interest in dating I'm ok though thank you. I love youtube ❤❤🎉🎉🎉
I think in my (autistic) opinion it’s neither a superpower or purely disordered. It’s just your brain being physically DIFFERENT, and that has both positive and negative side effects, yknow?
Yep!
Early on a video about autism as an autistic person 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
As an autistic teen, these people are who I strive to be in my adult life, If any of them are reading this, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH KEEP DOING YOU!!
It's the "I think I saw him in the angry birds movie" for me 😂😂
personally i have autism and this video was very comfortable to hear.
i too struggle with many things, but as you struggle you learn a lot of how you can handle it. reading the situations better (not always), and often see things in other perspectives that many non autistic people cant or don't see. Always had issues to express myself too. often not knowing how to deal with emotions or that weird feeling of frustration or irritation that can be a bundle of emotions throughout the day. things go better overall you learn like everyone else even though it may cost way more energy to learn or perform through the day.
also a side note, i think many autists like to hide their personality in forms of a persona or even fursona. trying to be someone else or someone who they want to be. It can be very comforting as you find to be yourself in ways you can be quirky and accepted. such like being a furry, or even trans.
just my humble opinions/findings. this might not be the case for all obviously. hope you have a nice day!~
The interesting thing about the autistic people being trans is actually true scientifically speaking.
Autistic individuals are 400% times more likely to have gender dysphoria or struggle and identify as non gender conforming. It's due to the way autistic brains and how autistic individuals internalise their feelings of how their body might not match what they see in the mirror and feel not in the right body compared to how see themselves in their brain.
The healthy gamer gg therapist youtuber covered a the study that came out with the 400% statistic, that is peer reviewed and accepted as true and factual
I dont think the reason autistic people are more likely to be trans is because of the autistic brain itself. Like autism does not cause transness. They would not be cisgender if they were not autistic.
Its moreso a combination of the fact that autistic people are far more introspective and less willing to adhere to nonsensical or harmful societal norms.
Like I dont want to theorize on the genders of other people, but there are people who have expressed in interviews and private journal entries how they felt more comfortable expressing themselves as the opposite gender, but felt like pursuing that feeling was something they were not allowed to do. Most autistic ppl will immediately challenge and confront that barrier, asking why they cannot simply be themselves.
There are theories that the number of autistic people who are trans is a closer representation of the "true" number of trans people in society and are much closer to where these numbers will sit during an era of full trans acceptance.
@@LilChuunosuke"less willing to (...) harmful societal norms."
Like what?
"I where Autism like a Badge of Honor." YESSSSSSS!
"I have separation issues, I need help!" is so relatable....
I have coworkers who don’t understand anything about autism and then act like I’m just a bitch like sir I don’t understand I’m just breathing.
I have a relative who is on the severe end of the spectrum, their form of autism is a disability as he was non verbal for a large majority of their life but are hilarious and has a great personality and I am please to say that they are my best friend as well.
Empathy: I can totally relate to having empathy for animals over people because animals are indeed nice 😂❤
14:57 that description of "burning rage" at certain types of sound got me especially hard today. I can't stand crosstalk, even if the room isn't super crowded. But a huge crowd and everyone talking in an incoherent mess? HULK SMASH. But yeah, resonated with so much of this. Thanks to the participants for sharing their experiences and hopefully helping some people understand our autistic world better. Would have loved to have the viewpoint of a nonverbal autistic person, as well, but I understand going with these three since they've been interviewed before.
As Autistic Nonbinary this makes me happy
❤I’m on the spectrum and I appreciate the real representation of what we have go through. I think people should be more educated about the specific disability’s and how they work as most people see the version of the disability on tv and tend to think oh that’s how that works and that is often wrong. Like people see a person with autism on tv and because it’s often a person who is lower on the spectrum and people just assume that that’s how autism is and yes thats how some situations are but it’s only one version of autism. As someone who is higher functioning it’s sometimes difficult to tell people as as soon as people hear autism they think that I’m stupid or don’t understand anything and often treat me like I’m in need of a sitter or help and that’s not ture in my case. Yes sometimes I need to be talked to like a child but I’m 25 and most of the time I can understand you with out being treated differently. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤sometimes I feel like people don’t understand me and it’s nice to feel like people understand me.