This is what happens when you over protect and smother your children. They'll end up resenting you. I've seen it so many times. It's a very sick and dysfunctional kind of love.
The worst thing to happen to a child is to have helicopter parents. You have no privacy, no self-determination, you must carry their guilt, their aspirations, their insecurities, basically life becomes hell and you cannot complain because 'parents'. By the time you learn to stand up to yourself, usually the damage is permanent.
Obito Uchiha The problem is that these parents won’t be around for their daughter’s whole life. The job of a parent is to prepare their child to be able to go on independently after the parents die. That’s the point of going away to college. It’s to let the child learn the skills of independent living. These parents are failing their daughter.
So the parents call her "an only child that has been catered to all her life." Well who's fault would that be? So they objecting to her wanting to keep her distance from them? Wouldn't that be the best thing for her if that were true?
that's obsessive caretaking for ya. they twist and distort everything in an attempt to convince others, the victim and even themselves that they are in the right and just doing what's best for their child. this way they can forever stay in denial that they are doing it only to appease and emotionally satisfy THEMSELVES (specially the mother, which seems to be the more obsessive of the two).
Exactly @rendarsmith they’re saying her problem is that they’ve always supported her. Now they’re mad she doesn’t want that support. So they’re asking for their money back. SMH
my russian grandmother still treates me like a little child I devised a plan to run away from her to the International Criminal Court why do I want that job? because I promised Sabina CarlsoN i put oma ral bashir in prison for the darfur genocide and that requires going to the International Criminal Court Moving to my own place in teh Hague i blocked my grandmother
QuadrantBottomHalf thank u i request a life insurance policy to escape the Geiger family know why 1976 they act like they dont know i did a backround check and my last name is tied to there crimes where is my life insurance policy
Actually I'm considering of putting my Dad in one too. I don't want to be held back by my possessive homophobe and antiquated Dad. I want to live my life as an adult.
Why? She used the money for its intended purpose. If their support is contingent upon being able to control her, they're nuts. She doesn't owe them a penny.
You know the solution to that right? REFUSE THEIR MONEY. Kids are not entitled to their Parents Money. If you want your Parents to treat you like an Adult. Pay your own eay
Yep she should have taken those scholarships that was offered to her. Those parents used "we want you to go to the best school" as ploy to control her.
Can I please do this when I'm in college? My god I have no privacy, no independent decisions and practically no life! They know all my passwords, even to my most private accounts, read my text messages behind my back, and either make or cancel my own social plans. They say they own me and my mom tracks me on my cellphone. Like hell, we live in the safest neighborhoods and I'm not even allowed to walk up the street by myself in broad daylight! I'm only a few years from turning eighteen, and they treat me like I'm ten! All I know is that once I turn eighteen, I'm packing for the farthest city possible, buying a one way ticket, and I'm out!
To be fair, once you do turn 18, they won't have the power to do most of those things. You won't be required to give them passwords, they won't be able to have your phone on a "child's account" to read your texts, and they can't force you to have a tracking app on your phone. though I do agree that getting distance between you is best once you turn 18, Remember the money aspect. You need a place to live, food, and a job. and if you plan on going out of state for college, you need hella scholarships, because out of state cost a lot more.
@@LexitaMai Late response, but I see this kind of comment a lot, and often with this type of parent it doesn't matter if they turn 18. Legally, yes, the kid is now an adult and doesn't have to be treated as a minor, but unless they have enough money to move out and live completely on their own when they turn 18, denying things from their parents might not work. There's always the option for them to kick you out to the streets if you don't cooperate with what they want you to do. If you're using a phone/computer they bought you, they may threaten to take those away. If you're using the electricity they pay for, they'll be sure to remind you. If it was a matter of age, there wouldn't be an issue with confronting these types of parents way before turning 18.
@@PinkyToeThief yes, but at that point it's a choice. You can choose to leave or choose to buy your own property, which isn't really an option if you're underaged. I'm over eighteen and still living with my parents basically as a dependent, but that's a choice. It's restricting to live under their rules, but it's also now my choice to stay here and live under such rules. The difference is there is a choice now. Maybe not the best choices, since many probably don't have much money at eighteen and would prefer not to resort to temporary housing. But it is definitely empowering to have a backup plan for if you want to and not have to risk being labeled as a "runaway"
The fact that the school itself gave her a full scholarship once her parents cut her off goes to show that she's not just being petty here. I had the opposite -- anti-helicopter parents, who I couldn't even get to come to my championship final basketball game or recitals where I won - things like that. I would have given anything for them to show some interest in my life back then, but this? No thanks. It's unfortunate she had to get a restraining order, but dang - I don't blame her a bit.
Squiffy Mine we're moderate. They gave me plenty of freedom from going to the store by myself to riding my bike to school. But they do have their limits.
I had the same type of parents. I was the only student with a solo at the school music concert, and they didn't attend. They dropped me off and picked me up afterward. On the other hand they trusted me to be outside alone, walk around the town alone, etc.
You're lucky dude. I have a friend who's parents are laid back and I wish mine were the same. *Are you back at 10pm? That's fine. Are your grades not straight As? That's fine.* Mine are constantly on my case and want me to do well in school but what they don't realise is that I'm not happy with my life anymore. They recently took away and sold my PS4 (the only thing which let me escape) simply because I didn't hand in a homework (I was out all weekend with friends). I don't know what to do anymore.
Honestly I’m glad she’s turned out so normal. A lot of people with helicopter parents end up seriously screwed up. Unable to do even the most basic things for themselves, go nuts at college and get themselves into big trouble, hating their parents’ guts, and all sorts of other issues. Good for her!
I am that child. They still stalk me, I’m 30 living on my own. They’ll come to my house and keep banging the door. Sometimes I’ve been in meetings when this happens ( I wfh). The embarrass me in front of anyone and everyone I know. The family WhatsApp group is all about me. My parents and my brother obsessing over a 30 year old adult who wants to have nothing to do with them. I suffered so much in life. My college life was a disaster. I took 7 years to complete college. My father used to come to my college everyday and hang out with my female friends. They took everything away from me, even filling a form was something that would cause extreme harassment at home. My dad insisted on filling every official form of mine, and even 25-26 I had to fight to be allowed to fill a form. To fill a form?! I struggle to do taxes, I struggle to do adult things. Im just slowly learning. I’ve moved out a year ago. But I keep getting passive aggressive WhatsApp messages, every single day. They show up unannounced to my home, and if I’m not entertaining it, they will send random relatives. It is hell. This life is hell. I don’t live in a country where I can put a restraining order on them. Once my parents called the cops because I wouldn’t let them in after a violent incident. The cops actually came, broke open my door and came and frisked me. To convince them, my parents had told them I had drugs. The cops, the neighbors barged in, as though I was a criminal. Obviously there was nothing, but I was humiliated, there was no apology. After all this, my mother messages me today how she loves me unconditionally. Im scared to get married, because I know they’ll humiliate me in front of my new family, tell them lies about me. Im scared . My life is about fear. How? How do I go on? How can I get rid of these energy leeches? It’s sucking away my life force.
@@msredcurtains Take legal action then, actually do something instead of just commenting on RUclips about it. You can literal Google/youtube options for these kinds of things... If it's so bad then stand up for yourself
Overbearing ppl are worse than idiots. Even Idiots know that altering your loved ones basic needs such as having a social life causes severe damage and under development during Adulthood.
Their support should not be contingent upon being able to control every aspect of her life, and they need to stop living vicariously through their daughter.
It is indeed a first world problem but this happens where your parents want you to feel like you are going to owe them for the rest of your life and there is nothing you can really do to repay them back, it is emotionally draining and not healthy for sure..
Lightfoot1990 In the 70's they never used the term helicopter parents but that sure fit my mom, if it means control freak. To get me to cut my hair each year and a perm put in so I could start school she would pay $100. They would tell everyone I was the apple of their eye, but I had to beg for anything and everything or permission to get or do anything. EVEN after I got a job and was able to pay for it I had to have permission first or all kinds of hell rained down on me. I went to a college where you worked for your tuition/room and board specifically so I would NOT have to be "beholding" to her anymore. On my graduation day at 17 I told her, congratulations, that's the last time you will ever hit me, because the next time i will destroy you. I cannot start to tell you the tricks and scams she pulled to get me to do things her way and i did them because I loved my dad and didn't want to hurt him. Yes I too am a music major and yes I have mental health issues from living in this dysfunctional family, and when I moved 1000 miles away to go to school she moved 65 miles away to keep tabs on me. So I totally identify with this girl. This is not uncommon, and it makes them feel important to be able to say "this is our child" and they use us as the extension of themselves because they never got to do what they wanted to with their lives so they damn well are gonna live it well thru ours. That's ok up thru high school, but then they need to cut the strings and these sick people take pride in their kids way too far.
It’s not a first world problem. China has had issues like this, from parents and children, ever since the one child policy was instituted. The parents create little emperors and the parents become control freaks
Not a first world problem. It's worse in 3rd world countries, because you do not have who to turn to. Justice system is a joke, they would laugh at you if you came with something like this. Therapists are overflowing with patients with heavy mental illnesses, and there is not enough of them. They hardly have time to deal with this. You just do not stand a chance, you can only accept that the things are as they are, and that you will be damaged. It is hell, trust me. Or, as my granny used to say - it's a punishment to live here like this.
Lets be real, to an extent. Kids dont owe their parents shit, the kids never asked to be born, A parent has to provide for that life until they can go off on their own
unfortunately, this type of parenting never gets any better...I am 34 and have lived on my own for many years, have 2 children of my own and my mother is always stalking me on facebook and calling and texting me, telling me how I should raise my children. I've had to cut ties with her just to stay sane
And parents wonder why their kids won't visit them in nursing homes or when the kids finally move out the kids want nothing to do with their parents. And parents threaten to cut their kids off if they don't do what they want fine, cut me off I didn't ask to be brought into this world but I'm here & you're trying to control every aspect of my life.
The same thing happened to me. But my school and the police took my parents side. I have now filed it with the Chicago PD. And this is many suicide attempts later and much therapy. It has been 27 years of hell for me. But now I realize (from stories like this) that they were the helicopter parents who used me as a pawn. My parents are still doing it to me. Thank you for this story because it gives me encouragement to fight my parents.
my dad is just as bad. i went to manhattan for a trip with my gf at the age of 19 and he refused to let me go. he said he wouldn't give me my passport (he locks it in the home safe). so i said if he didn't give it to me i'd call the cops. he found out which hotel i was staying at and when i arrived in NYC and finished dinner he was standing in the lobby waiting for us to come back. he had a huge smile on his face. i started screaming at him for being a stalker and the front desk threatened to throw me out if i didn't calm down. i didn't speak to him for a month and he cried in front of my mom. what a psycho. he also opens my mail and reads them
I feel her pain. Both of my parents are helicopter parents. My dad isn’t that bad but he checks my texts and search history sometimes but very rarely. He always allows me to go out. He just makes me tell him where I am going and how long I am going to be game and I am off. My mom however is a whole different story. She will not leave me alone at all. She makes me stay inside the house whenever she is at work and I can’t even step onto my front porch. And when she is home, she almost never lets me go out so she can keep an eye on me. I cannot even hangout with friends because she will be stalking me. One time I was hanging out with a friend at a park and she was right there just sitting there the whole time in her car, watching us and listening to our conversations. And I was hanging out with another friend in the neighborhood I recently moved to and out of no where she just drives down the street in her car to see what I am doing. My friend thought that was, and I told him it was my mom spying on us. Now if you think that’s bad, she recently bought AIRTAGS to put on my school bag, in my jacket, and on my electric scooter so she can see where I am at all times. I told her to put it somewhere where it would actually be useful, like on our kitten who can run away a lot instead of using it to spy on me. But she told me as long as I was in her house, I am never going to get privacy. Now I am saving up so I can free myself from this bs and move away as soon as I turn 18. Wish me luck
My grandmother is just as bad she invades my life controls every move I make She dosen't allow either me or my mom self determination SHE WANTS TO CONTROL EVERYTHING
hey roman soiko grandmother Your grandchild not a puppet and its 2019 it aint 1956 and children age into adults leave your grandchild alone you got no rights over your grandchild your not ur grandchild legal parent let his/her mother and father do that
My grandma just walks in my house and shows up unannounced but for some reason she decides to ask me about everything. It isnt bad just kinda annoying.
I knew a kid in middle school nicknamed river he went with the flow. I once went home with him to hang out. And sweet corn on the cob. His parents has stopped his home development at 2. He only watched kids cartoons. They cut up his food and put his drink in a sippy cup he had to wear a bib. He was embarrassed. But like this was his life..., didn’t see his room. He later confessed to me that his bed still had railings. And a baby monitor. Outside of this hellhole he lived the dream life sports grades. Completely normal just not at home. River I hope we meet again you were chill. (we were both 10)
Seriously?! This poor girl is trying to further her education in something she loves doing but when parents try to control her life it’s like she doesn’t have one anymore and it’s not fair
Kudos to her college for stepping in & helping her out. It's stated that she's 'gifted' & it would've been a shame if she would have had to drop out. I hope those parents found some help for themselves. Can you imagine a parents calling their daughter those vile names? Good luck Aubrey! Break a leg!
I know i'm late but i'm gonna say it anyway. Absent parents are not better than this because of that i have lots of issues i basically have to raise myself and teach myself the most basic of things.. An example of this is that i regret not knowing to brushed my teeth earlier 🤦♂️
I went to college in the 1980s, before all this technology. I went through a similar experience as an only child attending college 500 miles from home. It was my mom, not my dad, that was monitoring me. I had to be in my dorm room at night when my mom called my room or call her as soon as I returned for the night if I missed her call. Otherwise, she would call the dorm supervisor, waking her up in the middle of the night. My mom said she was concerned that a Richard Speck type person might have killed me. When my parents drove me to college or came at term’s end to pick me up, my mom would question me about anyone she saw me talking to. It was very difficult being monitored like that. Best wishes to this young woman. I understand what she’s been experiencing.
Well, it sounds like they asked for it back after she publicly humiliated them and filed a restraining order. If she doesn't want them in her life, why should they be responsible for her education? If she wants to be on her own--let her.
My parents are similar but not as bad, they put a tracker on my phone (yes I’m an adult) but I managed to find a way to cheat the system with my phone ;) so they think they are tracking me but there not. Perks of having a friend who is doing a computer science major ;)
I knew a guy whose parents set up parental controls on his computer and even set a time limit, dictating how long he could spend online... This guy was a college student.
There are so many parents like this, and its sad because they hold everything they do over your head and its toxic. Im happy a court awarded her a restraining order against them. They would have probably tried to get power of attorney over her at some point and now that cant happen. Thank goodness she got away from them.
She probably wasn't doing any of the things they were accusing her of (being promiscuous, drinking a lot, party girl or whatever). But even if she was, it's HER life, and how she lives her life is HER business. Even the mistakes - they're hers to make freely. And they are free to not like it, but nothing beyond that. I wonder what their connection is like today, if there's one at all.
Anyone who’s had a helicopter parent can tell you - they literally accuse you of being a rebellious wild child if you do ANYTHING they don’t approve of. Even raising your voice a little bit or momentarily losing your temper. No matter how small the offense is, you’re suddenly a vicious rebel that needs to be straightened out immediately. And they never seem to realize maybe they’re the problem. Nope. They’ll find everything else to blame - your hobbies, your friends, etc. it’s always someone else’s fault.
Trauma+ Trauma from having helicopter parents= burnout at 19 Trauma from having helicopter parents= burnout and anxiety at its piek at 20 If you are too critical and controlling of your child.. And get no contact from them.. Be thankful they are protecting themselves from suicide and depression
If you’re a parent who is picking up the tab for their child’s education, they have a legitimate right to make sure their money isn’t being wasted. However, it seems as though their daughter was doing very well at university, and still they insisted on intruding into her life. Their behavior, rather than being overly caring is more akin to treating her like a puppet whose strings they could control at will.
Idk what's with "parents" and not letting their kid to grow up. I've been seeing more cases like this nowadays. The purpose of being a parent is too raise a kid to an adult so they can make it in life, not to try and make them stay a child or control their every single decision. You need let go at some point. She's 21 not 11! This shit is insane. Alot of "parents" know how to be a parent of a child but not of a adult nowadays and that's sad. Ask these "Parents" where the fuck they were at 21 then have them look at what they were doing. Weather you agree with her choices or not, weather you think what you are doing is right or not. It doesn't matter cause it's not up to you.
What? What parents would ask for the money back from their children’s education? A child’s education is a parents responsibility. It’s part of ensuring they’re ready for the real world. They were willing to pay it and had full intention of paying it until they weren’t allowed to stalk her anymore?
Many parents believe that education is only their responsibly up until high school. After their kid turns 18, most don't feel obligated to pay for schooling. While I agree that the way they acted was creepy as hell, and pulling money they had already given her was narcissistic and petty, they weren't necessarily obligated to pay it in the first place. My parents didn't pay for my college, and I've never questioned it or held it against them
when you're 18 years old, you have the ability to pack up and move, pay your own bills, and your parents can't do jackshit I moved from the east coast to colorado the day I turned 18, my dad was pissed, didnt understand called me names, told me my money for college was going to a different family member...12 years later, I have a 500,000 dollar a year business and he tells me how proud he is of me... Right...Thanks Dad, love you too.
When you watch or demand your kid to keep Skype in to watch them at night yeah...that's just that's way over the top. And I mean the patented aren't even denial the things she said,
One of the other problems, though, in our society is that everyone is expected that their parents love and support them. I was so happy when my dad died because people kept telling me to call him and I kept trying to say, "I'm not going to and I don't want to argue about this with a stranger." My father also abused me and went behind my back telling people lies or stretched truths about me. For example, "she is mentally ill." I have ADHD! It's sort of not a lie, but he chose to say MI not adhd
This girl is my hero and this comment section restores a VERY SMALL fraction of my faith in humanity. I really thought it was gonna be a bunch of dumbasses calling the kid entitled or saying she didn't get spanked enough or... "if she was in a BLACK family..."
People should talk more about this issue. It's abuse and for life scars. Unhappy childhood and teenhood, horrible to live. They don't see that child as human being. Abusing your own child, and think u do the best? Nobody knows what the best for child, parents plays GODS with their inner wounds of being "perfect". If u try to be perfect, that's the problem.
Exactly. People who haven’t experienced this don’t see it as a problem. All they see is loving and devoted parents being betrayed by their selfish and ungrateful child.
If she is 21 years old then she is old enough to be by herself,parents had no authority to do this because it’s illegal to stalk someone.it’s not her parents’ job,it’s law enforcement’s job meaning law enforcement had a right to keep people and students safe from harm and bad people!her parents failed to notice they had no rights to have much more power against her will!her parents is liable for stalking her
Note: if monitoring software is on your computer, you MUST use a Linux or Windows install USB or DVD. Simply erase the contents of the hard drive while installing. You can put your autofill data on another USB but try to delete it once you log in. The DVD method shouldn't require admin either. A quick search should allow you to figure out how to access the bios to boot from it. If your hard drive is locked, it's usually easy to replace on laptops.
I was almost 30 and he admitted he had been doing this stuff to me and I didn't know. I moved 400 miles away and all these strangers sit there with, "I'm sure your parents miss you, call them." I would say mom is dead and they would say what about your dad call him and I would just say, I'm not going to. WTF was I supposed to do? If I lie I risk messing up my story and having people not trust me. If I tell they think I'm just spoiled....
My father always tried to monitor my actions on my phone. That didn’t make me more noble when on the internet, it just made me use a partially broken and cracked iPhone he had forgotten about in secret. Being controlling never works. Whether they shut you out, or get driven to doing the same dangerous things you were attempting to protect them from, controlling your kids always results in a bad ending.
No kid should be watched. Try talking to them at any age and letting them feel safe to tell you anything. Too many people have no idea how to communicate with children let alone their own children
good for her. its almost impossible to actually live your life with people constantly attempting to control or invade or meddle. i have parents like this and looking back cutting them out woulda been insanely beneficial. its sad. and setting boundries with these people is almost impossible.
Imagine if she didn't get the restraining order and decided not to accept any money from her parents. Her parents would still give the woman no space and her only way out would be to go to a different school and change her contact information so her parents couldn't track her. Parents being controlling at the age of 18 is understandable, but all the way to 21? They would probably go as far as to try and control her life after college too if she didn't get the restraining order.
As a Mum, I would never think of being so intrusive into my only child's life. I think the cherry on top of their overly protective behaviour was when they put trackers on her computer and telling her to leave her Skype on all night so they could ensure she was sleeping.
my russian grandmother is the same thing She doesn't think i am a capable competant adult who can execute the most basic functions of independent adult life That's why she provides advice opinions consultations my three dreams in life ar eomar al bashir in prison for the darfur genocide starting my own human rights NGo in South Africa and moving there I taught myself ArabiC Chinese English French Russian Spanish portuguese Afrikaans XHosa and ZUlu
Mike G yeah i agree i have a cousin going through that situation dude became an alcoholic and is Rebellious toward people he lacks social skills, and seem to have low tolerance towards frustration
my mother is the same way and she's extremely abusive physically and mentally, screaming every day and very self obsessed and cruel, i have no idea what to do to be honest, i only came home so that i could get my spine surgery and battle for disability to go through and she promised she would not do any harm again but it gets worse and worse every day and i can't afford to move yet....cops get called by either her or myself frequently and no solution seems to be in sight. ive since put off my surgery so that i can try to save to move away. shes been diagnosed with personality disorders and refuses treatment and diagnosis...i feel trapped but am working from home to make moeny until i find a job i can perform with my spine injury in the mean time.
Her education and housing was being funded by her parents' dollar. So if she wants the freedom and privileges that come with being an adult, she has to stop being financially dependant on them.
Next thing I'm sure of is one or the other, her parents filing a federal lawsuit against her for filing what they think is a false and wrongful restraining order for no reason, or moving away to another city of another state far away from her and her childhood home, but either one is just my own personal opinion.
my russian grandmother does this to me she doesn't think i am a capable competant adult who do the basic skillsof mylife and she provides invasive consultations and opinions
I get not letting your 10 year old play GTA, I’m not going to let him either, but when that boy is 21, they are an adult, the can do whatever the heck they want. You can’t control an adult, that’s just illegal.
I have a beloved Aunt who had to run away from her mother at age 30. She was an abusive mother; My Aunt has a hysterectomy, I believe as a result of childhood trauma to body.
Glad I have spent most of my childhood on my grandparents farm where I have learned it is okay to make mistakes and to work through those mistakes and my parents were not helicopter parents as well.
This is what happens when you over protect and smother your children. They'll end up resenting you. I've seen it so many times. It's a very sick and dysfunctional kind of love.
"a very sick and dysfunctional kind of love"
You expressed it best.
Ugh so me
It does not count as love dude.
Lucy Eth I just cut my parents out
Currently have parents like that and hope it doesn't have to come to this over something stupid like a motorcycle. Rip
The worst thing to happen to a child is to have helicopter parents. You have no privacy, no self-determination, you must carry their guilt, their aspirations, their insecurities, basically life becomes hell and you cannot complain because 'parents'. By the time you learn to stand up to yourself, usually the damage is permanent.
well if you have any advice thatd be nice
@@gilliantaylorr7854 Confront them about it, and tell them you're going to cut off contact first chance you get if they continue acting this way
Your life becomes all about them
Also, stop taking your parents' money. You can't truly have freedom from parental authority if they have financial leverage over you.
Obito Uchiha The problem is that these parents won’t be around for their daughter’s whole life. The job of a parent is to prepare their child to be able to go on independently after the parents die. That’s the point of going away to college. It’s to let the child learn the skills of independent living. These parents are failing their daughter.
So the parents call her "an only child that has been catered to all her life." Well who's fault would that be? So they objecting to her wanting to keep her distance from them? Wouldn't that be the best thing for her if that were true?
that's obsessive caretaking for ya. they twist and distort everything in an attempt to convince others, the victim and even themselves that they are in the right and just doing what's best for their child. this way they can forever stay in denial that they are doing it only to appease and emotionally satisfy THEMSELVES (specially the mother, which seems to be the more obsessive of the two).
Exactly @rendarsmith they’re saying her problem is that they’ve always supported her. Now they’re mad she doesn’t want that support. So they’re asking for their money back. SMH
You see why its not “oh they’re just concerned”, its control.
my russian grandmother still treates me like a little child I devised a plan to run away from her to the International Criminal Court why do I want that job? because I promised Sabina CarlsoN i put oma ral bashir in prison for the darfur genocide and that requires going to the International Criminal Court Moving to my own place in teh Hague i blocked my grandmother
The gaslighting and twisting the truth is the worst part of helicopter parent’s
Unfortunately in life some people need to be cut off even family when they don't respect your space or your privacy. I will do the same.
QuadrantBottomHalf thank u i request a life insurance policy to escape the Geiger family know why 1976 they act like they dont know i did a backround check and my last name is tied to there crimes where is my life insurance policy
I have a helecoptar meme and i DONT LIKE IT
Me too
If this happened to me I would just ask her to pay her college tuition back to me
@@mquiroz90 wdym wtf u want
They're narcissists! This is not a codependency issue.
A mix of both, I'd say.
Codependency is usually a narcissist tactic. They want you completely dependent on them so they can control you.
I have parents like that too. Boy are they gonna be in for a shock in a few years when I dump them in the nursing home.
MarcusDude4179 Omg the amount of times I’ve said this 😂😂😂
Sadly i can relate. It's great to see that you're not the only one who has to deal with bullshit like this dear god
Actually I'm considering of putting my Dad in one too. I don't want to be held back by my possessive homophobe and antiquated Dad. I want to live my life as an adult.
They probably just love you so much.
Lmao not funny but it is.
Why? She used the money for its intended purpose. If their support is contingent upon being able to control her, they're nuts. She doesn't owe them a penny.
You know the solution to that right? REFUSE THEIR MONEY. Kids are not entitled to their Parents Money. If you want your Parents to treat you like an Adult. Pay your own eay
Yep she should have taken those scholarships that was offered to her. Those parents used "we want you to go to the best school" as ploy to control her.
Can I please do this when I'm in college? My god I have no privacy, no independent decisions and practically no life! They know all my passwords, even to my most private accounts, read my text messages behind my back, and either make or cancel my own social plans. They say they own me and my mom tracks me on my cellphone. Like hell, we live in the safest neighborhoods and I'm not even allowed to walk up the street by myself in broad daylight! I'm only a few years from turning eighteen, and they treat me like I'm ten! All I know is that once I turn eighteen, I'm packing for the farthest city possible, buying a one way ticket, and I'm out!
To be fair, once you do turn 18, they won't have the power to do most of those things. You won't be required to give them passwords, they won't be able to have your phone on a "child's account" to read your texts, and they can't force you to have a tracking app on your phone. though I do agree that getting distance between you is best once you turn 18, Remember the money aspect. You need a place to live, food, and a job. and if you plan on going out of state for college, you need hella scholarships, because out of state cost a lot more.
@@LexitaMai Late response, but I see this kind of comment a lot, and often with this type of parent it doesn't matter if they turn 18. Legally, yes, the kid is now an adult and doesn't have to be treated as a minor, but unless they have enough money to move out and live completely on their own when they turn 18, denying things from their parents might not work. There's always the option for them to kick you out to the streets if you don't cooperate with what they want you to do. If you're using a phone/computer they bought you, they may threaten to take those away. If you're using the electricity they pay for, they'll be sure to remind you. If it was a matter of age, there wouldn't be an issue with confronting these types of parents way before turning 18.
@@PinkyToeThief yes, but at that point it's a choice. You can choose to leave or choose to buy your own property, which isn't really an option if you're underaged. I'm over eighteen and still living with my parents basically as a dependent, but that's a choice. It's restricting to live under their rules, but it's also now my choice to stay here and live under such rules. The difference is there is a choice now. Maybe not the best choices, since many probably don't have much money at eighteen and would prefer not to resort to temporary housing. But it is definitely empowering to have a backup plan for if you want to and not have to risk being labeled as a "runaway"
Mia Xandra just throw away ur phone and get a new one
How are you doing now?
The fact that the school itself gave her a full scholarship once her parents cut her off goes to show that she's not just being petty here.
I had the opposite -- anti-helicopter parents, who I couldn't even get to come to my championship final basketball game or recitals where I won - things like that. I would have given anything for them to show some interest in my life back then, but this? No thanks.
It's unfortunate she had to get a restraining order, but dang - I don't blame her a bit.
Squiffy It could comes down to finding a balance. Not too much or little.
Squiffy, wanna trade?
Squiffy Mine we're moderate. They gave me plenty of freedom from going to the store by myself to riding my bike to school. But they do have their limits.
I had the same type of parents. I was the only student with a solo at the school music concert, and they didn't attend. They dropped me off and picked me up afterward. On the other hand they trusted me to be outside alone, walk around the town alone, etc.
You're lucky dude. I have a friend who's parents are laid back and I wish mine were the same. *Are you back at 10pm? That's fine. Are your grades not straight As? That's fine.* Mine are constantly on my case and want me to do well in school but what they don't realise is that I'm not happy with my life anymore. They recently took away and sold my PS4 (the only thing which let me escape) simply because I didn't hand in a homework (I was out all weekend with friends).
I don't know what to do anymore.
Honestly I’m glad she’s turned out so normal. A lot of people with helicopter parents end up seriously screwed up. Unable to do even the most basic things for themselves, go nuts at college and get themselves into big trouble, hating their parents’ guts, and all sorts of other issues. Good for her!
I really appreciate you saying that!
@@aubreyireland574 Did your relationship with your parents ever improve, or are they still controlling abusers?
Yep im one of them i think
I am that child. They still stalk me, I’m 30 living on my own. They’ll come to my house and keep banging the door. Sometimes I’ve been in meetings when this happens ( I wfh). The embarrass me in front of anyone and everyone I know. The family WhatsApp group is all about me. My parents and my brother obsessing over a 30 year old adult who wants to have nothing to do with them. I suffered so much in life. My college life was a disaster. I took 7 years to complete college. My father used to come to my college everyday and hang out with my female friends. They took everything away from me, even filling a form was something that would cause extreme harassment at home. My dad insisted on filling every official form of mine, and even 25-26 I had to fight to be allowed to fill a form. To fill a form?! I struggle to do taxes, I struggle to do adult things. Im just slowly learning. I’ve moved out a year ago. But I keep getting passive aggressive WhatsApp messages, every single day. They show up unannounced to my home, and if I’m not entertaining it, they will send random relatives. It is hell. This life is hell. I don’t live in a country where I can put a restraining order on them. Once my parents called the cops because I wouldn’t let them in after a violent incident. The cops actually came, broke open my door and came and frisked me. To convince them, my parents had told them I had drugs. The cops, the neighbors barged in, as though I was a criminal. Obviously there was nothing, but I was humiliated, there was no apology. After all this, my mother messages me today how she loves me unconditionally. Im scared to get married, because I know they’ll humiliate me in front of my new family, tell them lies about me. Im scared . My life is about fear. How? How do I go on? How can I get rid of these energy leeches? It’s sucking away my life force.
@@msredcurtains Take legal action then, actually do something instead of just commenting on RUclips about it. You can literal Google/youtube options for these kinds of things... If it's so bad then stand up for yourself
Overbearing ppl are worse than idiots. Even Idiots know that altering your loved ones basic needs such as having a social life causes severe damage and under development during Adulthood.
Worst Combination in our society, Helicopter Parents and Corrupt Politics
Also Our broken School system
School system is broken beacuse of Corrupt Politics
And Health Care System
I bet you are just a joy to be a round at BBQ's! WOW!
0:32 I thought she was singing in court for a second.
Their support should not be contingent upon being able to control every aspect of her life, and they need to stop living vicariously through their daughter.
She's a grown woman!
She is doing well in school. The girl is obviously focused. Leave her alone parents.
It is indeed a first world problem but this happens where your parents want you to feel like you are going to owe them for the rest of your life and there is nothing you can really do to repay them back, it is emotionally draining and not healthy for sure..
Lightfoot1990 In the 70's they never used the term helicopter parents but that sure fit my mom, if it means control freak. To get me to cut my hair each year and a perm put in so I could start school she would pay $100. They would tell everyone I was the apple of their eye, but I had to beg for anything and everything or permission to get or do anything. EVEN after I got a job and was able to pay for it I had to have permission first or all kinds of hell rained down on me. I went to a college where you worked for your tuition/room and board specifically so I would NOT have to be "beholding" to her anymore. On my graduation day at 17 I told her, congratulations, that's the last time you will ever hit me, because the next time i will destroy you. I cannot start to tell you the tricks and scams she pulled to get me to do things her way and i did them because I loved my dad and didn't want to hurt him. Yes I too am a music major and yes I have mental health issues from living in this dysfunctional family, and when I moved 1000 miles away to go to school she moved 65 miles away to keep tabs on me. So I totally identify with this girl. This is not uncommon, and it makes them feel important to be able to say "this is our child" and they use us as the extension of themselves because they never got to do what they wanted to with their lives so they damn well are gonna live it well thru ours. That's ok up thru high school, but then they need to cut the strings and these sick people take pride in their kids way too far.
It’s not a first world problem. China has had issues like this, from parents and children, ever since the one child policy was instituted. The parents create little emperors and the parents become control freaks
I agree
Not a first world problem. It's worse in 3rd world countries, because you do not have who to turn to. Justice system is a joke, they would laugh at you if you came with something like this. Therapists are overflowing with patients with heavy mental illnesses, and there is not enough of them. They hardly have time to deal with this. You just do not stand a chance, you can only accept that the things are as they are, and that you will be damaged. It is hell, trust me. Or, as my granny used to say - it's a punishment to live here like this.
have ever heard about a continent called Asia?
Lets be real, to an extent. Kids dont owe their parents shit, the kids never asked to be born, A parent has to provide for that life until they can go off on their own
if the parents were truly good they wouldn’t have talked about her like that in the quotes
Thank you!! At least somebody's smart sees that.
GAhhh this reminds me of my parents. Good for her for standing up to them.
unfortunately, this type of parenting never gets any better...I am 34 and have lived on my own for many years, have 2 children of my own and my mother is always stalking me on facebook and calling and texting me, telling me how I should raise my children. I've had to cut ties with her just to stay sane
Wtf??!!!
And parents wonder why their kids won't visit them in nursing homes or when the kids finally move out the kids want nothing to do with their parents. And parents threaten to cut their kids off if they don't do what they want fine, cut me off I didn't ask to be brought into this world but I'm here & you're trying to control every aspect of my life.
Those parents obviously have some serious issues---with themselves.
The same thing happened to me. But my school and the police took my parents side. I have now filed it with the Chicago PD. And this is many suicide attempts later and much therapy. It has been 27 years of hell for me. But now I realize (from stories like this) that they were the helicopter parents who used me as a pawn. My parents are still doing it to me. Thank you for this story because it gives me encouragement to fight my parents.
Hey Danielle, are you doing better? Is your situation different now? Did you legally stop you weirdo parents?
funny how the paernts now want money
it was all just an investment to them
my dad is just as bad. i went to manhattan for a trip with my gf at the age of 19 and he refused to let me go. he said he wouldn't give me my passport (he locks it in the home safe). so i said if he didn't give it to me i'd call the cops. he found out which hotel i was staying at and when i arrived in NYC and finished dinner he was standing in the lobby waiting for us to come back. he had a huge smile on his face. i started screaming at him for being a stalker and the front desk threatened to throw me out if i didn't calm down. i didn't speak to him for a month and he cried in front of my mom. what a psycho. he also opens my mail and reads them
Unfortunately if you lose your temper with people like that, it only reinforces their idea that they're right in behaving like they do.
lobelia1997 My dad used to hire private investigators to stalk me around town
Ann Boylen
i think your'e bullshitting me
lobelia1997 nope he did and I caught him one day looking at footage with one of them
Ann Boylen
then your father is worse than mine
I feel her pain. Both of my parents are helicopter parents. My dad isn’t that bad but he checks my texts and search history sometimes but very rarely. He always allows me to go out. He just makes me tell him where I am going and how long I am going to be game and I am off. My mom however is a whole different story. She will not leave me alone at all. She makes me stay inside the house whenever she is at work and I can’t even step onto my front porch. And when she is home, she almost never lets me go out so she can keep an eye on me. I cannot even hangout with friends because she will be stalking me. One time I was hanging out with a friend at a park and she was right there just sitting there the whole time in her car, watching us and listening to our conversations. And I was hanging out with another friend in the neighborhood I recently moved to and out of no where she just drives down the street in her car to see what I am doing. My friend thought that was, and I told him it was my mom spying on us. Now if you think that’s bad, she recently bought AIRTAGS to put on my school bag, in my jacket, and on my electric scooter so she can see where I am at all times. I told her to put it somewhere where it would actually be useful, like on our kitten who can run away a lot instead of using it to spy on me. But she told me as long as I was in her house, I am never going to get privacy. Now I am saving up so I can free myself from this bs and move away as soon as I turn 18. Wish me luck
Good luck👍
I might have considered the daughter was lying until they asked for a refund of college tuition. That tells me all I need to know.
Why would she want to lie about something like that?
My mom is kinda the same. I say I want to go out of state and my mom says that im not allowed to leave and that she will move out of state with me.
How is that ur mother business
Kombo-Nat Kombos just leave anyway. Don’t tell her where. Cut ties for a bit if comfortable; i’ve found that’s the only way.
Do not disclose information such as
:
-New address
-Job
-Name change if necessary
-s/o
Other wise youll never grow
I saw that this comment is over two years old, what happened
Dude... updates?
My grandmother is just as bad she invades my life controls every move I make
She dosen't allow either me or my mom self determination
SHE WANTS TO CONTROL EVERYTHING
hey roman soiko grandmother
Your grandchild not a puppet and its 2019 it aint 1956 and children age into adults leave your grandchild alone you got no rights over your grandchild your not ur grandchild legal parent let his/her mother and father do that
My grandma just walks in my house and shows up unannounced but for some reason she decides to ask me about everything. It isnt bad just kinda annoying.
My mother kept pressuring me in college to do things. She kept threatening to stop paying tuition. So I joined the military.
Straight up left ...i like it
The parents are narcissistic- thank god that poor woman got out
I knew a kid in middle school nicknamed river he went with the flow. I once went home with him to hang out. And sweet corn on the cob. His parents has stopped his home development at 2. He only watched kids cartoons. They cut up his food and put his drink in a sippy cup he had to wear a bib. He was embarrassed. But like this was his life..., didn’t see his room. He later confessed to me that his bed still had railings. And a baby monitor. Outside of this hellhole he lived the dream life sports grades. Completely normal just not at home. River I hope we meet again you were chill. (we were both 10)
I hope he's okay
The fact that the school gave her a full scholarship says they know her parents are crazy.
As a kid I always thought orphans are lucky. They always get adopted by better parent figures in almost all fairy tales.
I said it a million times the line between helicopter parents and abuse is really thin
There is no line tbh
@@PinkyToeThief I was just about to say that.
There’s no line - it’s abuse. They deny you the resources you need to survive in the world as an adult and strip you of your autonomy.
Seriously?! This poor girl is trying to further her education in something she loves doing but when parents try to control her life it’s like she doesn’t have one anymore and it’s not fair
Kudos to her college for stepping in & helping her out. It's stated that she's 'gifted' & it would've been a shame if she would have had to drop out. I hope those parents found some help for themselves. Can you imagine a parents calling their daughter those vile names? Good luck Aubrey! Break a leg!
Wow
that is bad parenting at the most
Absent parents are bether
Ithamar Ramos mine are like this times 10x
I know i'm late but i'm gonna say it anyway. Absent parents are not better than this because of that i have lots of issues i basically have to raise myself and teach myself the most basic of things.. An example of this is that i regret not knowing to brushed my teeth earlier 🤦♂️
I went to college in the 1980s, before all this technology. I went through a similar experience as an only child attending college 500 miles from home. It was my mom, not my dad, that was monitoring me. I had to be in my dorm room at night when my mom called my room or call her as soon as I returned for the night if I missed her call. Otherwise, she would call the dorm supervisor, waking her up in the middle of the night. My mom said she was concerned that a Richard Speck type person might have killed me. When my parents drove me to college or came at term’s end to pick me up, my mom would question me about anyone she saw me talking to. It was very difficult being monitored like that. Best wishes to this young woman. I understand what she’s been experiencing.
Creating a life puts a person in infinite debt to that life. Not the other way around.
Only a narcissist would demand their own file to give their money back when they don't do everything they tell them to do
Well, it sounds like they asked for it back after she publicly humiliated them and filed a restraining order. If she doesn't want them in her life, why should they be responsible for her education? If she wants to be on her own--let her.
My parents are similar but not as bad, they put a tracker on my phone (yes I’m an adult) but I managed to find a way to cheat the system with my phone ;) so they think they are tracking me but there not. Perks of having a friend who is doing a computer science major ;)
You’re an adult and they’re doing that? Man, if I could give you the money to buy a new phone I would.
Stalker status
Woww... but what if they are in the same place as you and they check?
I can’t wait to do this to my parents! They act just like this
I hope she’s okay now. She deserved a better childhood 💔
Parents like these disgust me.I think that girl did the right thing to get that restraining order!
I also have helicopter parents but this is just over the top with the mom watching her sleep. Creepy
I knew a guy whose parents set up parental controls on his computer and even set a time limit, dictating how long he could spend online... This guy was a college student.
Once your kids turn 18 you have no right to control them anymore
Not control but if they are paying for tuition, room and board, and other necessities. You don't get to act like your parents have zero input....
There are so many parents like this, and its sad because they hold everything they do over your head and its toxic. Im happy a court awarded her a restraining order against them. They would have probably tried to get power of attorney over her at some point and now that cant happen. Thank goodness she got away from them.
Good for her. Controlling parents can be impossible to deal with. She made the right decision.
If she is a great student why would her parents have to pay for college? Nice to know the tuition covered it.
@@1984Brandon because her parents want to control every aspect of her life
@@1984Brandon and possibly use money and hold it over her head to manipulate her
She probably wasn't doing any of the things they were accusing her of (being promiscuous, drinking a lot, party girl or whatever). But even if she was, it's HER life, and how she lives her life is HER business. Even the mistakes - they're hers to make freely. And they are free to not like it, but nothing beyond that. I wonder what their connection is like today, if there's one at all.
Anyone who’s had a helicopter parent can tell you - they literally accuse you of being a rebellious wild child if you do ANYTHING they don’t approve of. Even raising your voice a little bit or momentarily losing your temper. No matter how small the offense is, you’re suddenly a vicious rebel that needs to be straightened out immediately.
And they never seem to realize maybe they’re the problem. Nope. They’ll find everything else to blame - your hobbies, your friends, etc. it’s always someone else’s fault.
All things are deserving to be loved, but they must be loved properly.
This is entitlement to the max. Sick Parents do need to see the consequences of their actions.
They surely will.
that's what happens when you are an over protective parent and you not giving your kids their own freedom
My aunt and uncle kicked me out when I was 18 the first thing I did when I got a phone I began to watch 18+ videos
I'm so glad she did what she had to do, because they're freakin' crazy!!
🙌🏼
Trauma+ Trauma from having helicopter parents= burnout at 19
Trauma from having helicopter parents= burnout and anxiety at its piek at 20
If you are too critical and controlling of your child.. And get no contact from them.. Be thankful they are protecting themselves from suicide and depression
If you’re a parent who is picking up the tab for their child’s education, they have a legitimate right to make sure their money isn’t being wasted. However, it seems as though their daughter was doing very well at university, and still they insisted on intruding into her life. Their behavior, rather than being overly caring is more akin to treating her like a puppet whose strings they could control at will.
Good luck on getting that money back. Unless she signed some kind of contract, she doesn’t have to give back squat
That psychologist didn’t give any relative information.
Idk what's with "parents" and not letting their kid to grow up. I've been seeing more cases like this nowadays. The purpose of being a parent is too raise a kid to an adult so they can make it in life, not to try and make them stay a child or control their every single decision. You need let go at some point. She's 21 not 11! This shit is insane. Alot of "parents" know how to be a parent of a child but not of a adult nowadays and that's sad. Ask these "Parents" where the fuck they were at 21 then have them look at what they were doing. Weather you agree with her choices or not, weather you think what you are doing is right or not. It doesn't matter cause it's not up to you.
Go #FreeRange. Check out this toddler taking a train to the city all on his own! LOL
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What? What parents would ask for the money back from their children’s education? A child’s education is a parents responsibility. It’s part of ensuring they’re ready for the real world. They were willing to pay it and had full intention of paying it until they weren’t allowed to stalk her anymore?
Many parents believe that education is only their responsibly up until high school. After their kid turns 18, most don't feel obligated to pay for schooling. While I agree that the way they acted was creepy as hell, and pulling money they had already given her was narcissistic and petty, they weren't necessarily obligated to pay it in the first place. My parents didn't pay for my college, and I've never questioned it or held it against them
“You’re still responsible even if their 21, 25” UHH no lady, that’s absolutely ridiculous.
And that’s not a child anymore my goodness.
When I was 15, I told my parents that my social contacts were none of their business. And it worked. But well, I'm from europe.
when you're 18 years old, you have the ability to pack up and move, pay your own bills, and your parents can't do jackshit I moved from the east coast to colorado the day I turned 18, my dad was pissed, didnt understand called me names, told me my money for college was going to a different family member...12 years later, I have a 500,000 dollar a year business and he tells me how proud he is of me...
Right...Thanks Dad, love you too.
If he asks for money just say “should have thought about that when controlling my life excessively.
When you watch or demand your kid to keep Skype in to watch them at night yeah...that's just that's way over the top. And I mean the patented aren't even denial the things she said,
One of the other problems, though, in our society is that everyone is expected that their parents love and support them. I was so happy when my dad died because people kept telling me to call him and I kept trying to say, "I'm not going to and I don't want to argue about this with a stranger." My father also abused me and went behind my back telling people lies or stretched truths about me. For example, "she is mentally ill." I have ADHD! It's sort of not a lie, but he chose to say MI not adhd
she is literally me as a 21 yr old
This girl is my hero and this comment section restores a VERY SMALL fraction of my faith in humanity. I really thought it was gonna be a bunch of dumbasses calling the kid entitled or saying she didn't get spanked enough or... "if she was in a BLACK family..."
The software is easy to get rid of, the visits however...
GET OUT OF MY HOUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then they wil try I pay for your college guilt trip which even she and they.
People should talk more about this issue. It's abuse and for life scars. Unhappy childhood and teenhood, horrible to live. They don't see that child as human being. Abusing your own child, and think u do the best? Nobody knows what the best for child, parents plays GODS with their inner wounds of being "perfect". If u try to be perfect, that's the problem.
Exactly. People who haven’t experienced this don’t see it as a problem. All they see is loving and devoted parents being betrayed by their selfish and ungrateful child.
I think a pet rock would be better for them. It's easier to control.
Ꭶo glad the college gave her a scholarship in the end .
If she is 21 years old then she is old enough to be by herself,parents had no authority to do this because it’s illegal to stalk someone.it’s not her parents’ job,it’s law enforcement’s job meaning law enforcement had a right to keep people and students safe from harm and bad people!her parents failed to notice they had no rights to have much more power against her will!her parents is liable for stalking her
Criminalize helicopter parenting should be a crime in america.
Let’s petition to stop helicopter parenting.
Note: if monitoring software is on your computer, you MUST use a Linux or Windows install USB or DVD. Simply erase the contents of the hard drive while installing. You can put your autofill data on another USB but try to delete it once you log in. The DVD method shouldn't require admin either. A quick search should allow you to figure out how to access the bios to boot from it.
If your hard drive is locked, it's usually easy to replace on laptops.
I was almost 30 and he admitted he had been doing this stuff to me and I didn't know. I moved 400 miles away and all these strangers sit there with, "I'm sure your parents miss you, call them." I would say mom is dead and they would say what about your dad call him and I would just say, I'm not going to. WTF was I supposed to do? If I lie I risk messing up my story and having people not trust me. If I tell they think I'm just spoiled....
My father always tried to monitor my actions on my phone. That didn’t make me more noble when on the internet, it just made me use a partially broken and cracked iPhone he had forgotten about in secret. Being controlling never works. Whether they shut you out, or get driven to doing the same dangerous things you were attempting to protect them from, controlling your kids always results in a bad ending.
Bruh she’s 21. She doesn’t need to be watched.
No kid should be watched. Try talking to them at any age and letting them feel safe to tell you anything. Too many people have no idea how to communicate with children let alone their own children
good for her. its almost impossible to actually live your life with people constantly attempting to control or invade or meddle. i have parents like this and looking back cutting them out woulda been insanely beneficial.
its sad. and setting boundries with these people is almost impossible.
Imagine if she didn't get the restraining order and decided not to accept any money from her parents. Her parents would still give the woman no space and her only way out would be to go to a different school and change her contact information so her parents couldn't track her. Parents being controlling at the age of 18 is understandable, but all the way to 21? They would probably go as far as to try and control her life after college too if she didn't get the restraining order.
As a Mum, I would never think of being so intrusive into my only child's life. I think the cherry on top of their overly protective behaviour was when they put trackers on her computer and telling her to leave her Skype on all night so they could ensure she was sleeping.
Watching another person sleep is fucking creepy
I don't know why she even listened. If my parents had ever told me to do that I would be like wtf. You want me to do what?
my russian grandmother is the same thing She doesn't think i am a capable competant adult who can execute the most basic functions of independent adult life That's why she provides advice opinions consultations my three dreams in life ar eomar al bashir in prison for the darfur genocide starting my own human rights NGo in South Africa and moving there I taught myself ArabiC Chinese English French Russian Spanish portuguese Afrikaans XHosa and ZUlu
With helicopter parents, it's usually the mother who is the helicopter. The father usually just goes along with it.
Mike G yeah i agree i have a cousin going through that situation dude became an alcoholic and is Rebellious toward people he lacks social skills, and seem to have low tolerance towards frustration
Narcissism
good luck paying that 66 grand on an actress' salary
my mother is the same way and she's extremely abusive physically and mentally, screaming every day and very self obsessed and cruel, i have no idea what to do to be honest, i only came home so that i could get my spine surgery and battle for disability to go through and she promised she would not do any harm again but it gets worse and worse every day and i can't afford to move yet....cops get called by either her or myself frequently and no solution seems to be in sight. ive since put off my surgery so that i can try to save to move away. shes been diagnosed with personality disorders and refuses treatment and diagnosis...i feel trapped but am working from home to make moeny until i find a job i can perform with my spine injury in the mean time.
Omg, she's already 21. What else do they want? She's an adult. Why do they still want to control her?
Because some parents are entitled brats
Her education and housing was being funded by her parents' dollar. So if she wants the freedom and privileges that come with being an adult, she has to stop being financially dependant on them.
Next thing I'm sure of is one or the other, her parents filing a federal lawsuit against her for filing what they think is a false and wrongful restraining order for no reason, or moving away to another city of another state far away from her and her childhood home, but either one is just my own personal opinion.
my russian grandmother does this to me she doesn't think i am a capable competant adult who do the basic skillsof mylife and she provides invasive consultations and opinions
Bro this is what my parents do but worst
Spoiled? I don't think she's spoiled. I think her parents carried things too far.
I get not letting your 10 year old play GTA, I’m not going to let him either, but when that boy is 21, they are an adult, the can do whatever the heck they want. You can’t control an adult, that’s just illegal.
I have a beloved Aunt who had to run away from her mother at age 30. She was an abusive mother; My Aunt has a hysterectomy, I believe as a result of childhood trauma to body.
Glad I have spent most of my childhood on my grandparents farm where I have learned it is okay to make mistakes and to work through those mistakes and my parents were not helicopter parents as well.
Good for her!!
I admire her! She is not an extension of her parents!
You never said whether you paid for your own education, therefor your suggestion that parents should pay for their child's education is invalid.