I Was Miserable When My Husband Was Rich - Promise Makunyane | Lerato Kganyago, Cheating,

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  • Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024

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  • @ReshoketsweMthombeni
    @ReshoketsweMthombeni 11 месяцев назад +122

    I think Promise is starting to articulate herself better because she is becoming so likeable! Love to see it.

    • @olabuk2000
      @olabuk2000 9 месяцев назад

      I think so too.

  • @cynthiagwebu4964
    @cynthiagwebu4964 10 месяцев назад +36

    I’m a step mom to my daughter, I’m staying with her and I let her speak with her mother I sent her pictures of her daughter now and then, I’m glad she doesn’t give me headache

  • @thandekamsane9936
    @thandekamsane9936 11 месяцев назад +57

    I love her opening statement, I believe in black marriages so much BUT not at the expense of black women. NOT marriages that are built on black womens pain.

  • @mashobane6177
    @mashobane6177 11 месяцев назад +94

    when I grew up, I used to think that married women were safe from getting HIV Aids . Now I know better 😌

    • @sazi7128
      @sazi7128 11 месяцев назад

      Those ones are the biggest victims of HIV.

    • @Brena_Ndou
      @Brena_Ndou 11 месяцев назад +6

      at first she says things were okay between her and the baby mama and she took care of the child then( before getting married) and all was well.things went south after she got married to the man
      then jiki jiki she says its easy to be a mother to child that is not yours when you have a child of your own , its hard to be a parent to a child that is not yours. what is she saying?
      in other words she was not a good parent then coz she didnt have kids? and things were okay at that time between the baby mama and her? 😂😂😂😂
      when she was now a mother , where she was able to take care of the child things went south
      am lost
      too much contradictory information

    • @cindyrambau4476
      @cindyrambau4476 4 месяца назад

      We are safe to men who don’t cheat

  • @mitchell_nkonimodjadji430
    @mitchell_nkonimodjadji430 11 месяцев назад +96

    lol as for ‘who is Owamie’ I’m glad the interviewer didn’t entertain that coz she knows exactly who Owamie is🙄hai

    • @cindyrambau4476
      @cindyrambau4476 4 месяца назад +1

      @@mitchell_nkonimodjadji430 Owamie and Promise are basically the same, 😂😂😂

  • @patienceikombele9161
    @patienceikombele9161 11 месяцев назад +66

    Wherever I see promise in these streets of RUclips, I watch. I love the way she speaks about marriage. I can listen to you, baby girl, the whole day.

  • @spm9130
    @spm9130 10 месяцев назад +41

    I come from a family of two parents and siblings, including cousins and uncles, etc. who enriched our lives. There had never been a divorce in our family until I got divorced! I had tolerated cheating for more than 20 years in my marriage and I had lost count of the women he slept with, some from the church and some from the businesses he interacted with. I had gotten used to the cheating and no longer asked him about it, until he started practicing witchcraft and wanted to sacrifice me for the power to make money! I left him and never looked back. I’m at a stage in my life where I don’t care anymore what people say, especially the church. I love God and chose Him and my children above my marriage and continue to do so because my life depends on Him and not people. Secondly, I am the one who was burning in there, any other person is an armchair critic! I therefore suggest that if you are not the person in that marriage, keep your criticism to yourself because you are speaking on someone’s lived experience and you will fall short and hurt others. Mind your own marriage and ensure that you don’t copy and paste because marriage is an experience between you and your partner and God!

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  10 месяцев назад +3

      I’m really sorry you went through this. I hope God grants you the grace to heal and forgive. And an opportunity to rebuild a great life for yourself.

    • @fruitypopwhickle6806
      @fruitypopwhickle6806 Месяц назад +2

      You literally saved yourself. What an odd world we live in that outsiders try to convince us to stay in a fire that they are not being burned by... You did the right thing. Your body, mind and spirit have found a peace that surpasses all else, right? That's how you know you made the right decision.

    • @spm9130
      @spm9130 Месяц назад

      @@fruitypopwhickle6806definitely! I am at peace with God and myself and above everything, my boys are happier and doing well. Thanks for the vote of confidence, you matter to me.

  • @leratotanya1123
    @leratotanya1123 11 месяцев назад +187

    fact remains, once a woman gets cheated on, something in her gets shaken and shattered. I feel for women who tolerate disrespect, disregard trying to prove to people that her marriage seems to be lasting longer.

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад +5

      Please elaborate...

    • @noxolomatshaka2257
      @noxolomatshaka2257 11 месяцев назад +30

      When a woman is cheated on... It's not easy to trust your partner or love him anymore. Small things can irritate you But mine is you cheat I'm out. When you grew up in a home where you saw your Mum stressed because of such and still to date can't forget it's really unbearable. A man that cheats finishes you like no other. But when women return the, favour it becomes more worse to men and they can even kill a woman for that

    • @fjhkerwoiero00
      @fjhkerwoiero00 11 месяцев назад +23

      @@noxolomatshaka2257 I think there is an element of truth but also there is too much generalization also forgetting the individual dynamics of marriages! How did our grandparents stayed married until they were 90 yrs old? What about this modern-day pressure that once a partner has cheated, divorce papers from the lawyers next week, pretending as if we have suddenly become perfect, flawless human beings? Why are you not eager to divorce your spouse, if he has cheated on his business & pocketed a million rands, it's a character flaw isn't? Social Media noise and modernity should not cloud one's judgment. Marriage & building a family is a personal journey! There are no absolutes...

    • @lindamanamela7998
      @lindamanamela7998 11 месяцев назад +3

      Absolutely

    • @Pinki0134
      @Pinki0134 10 месяцев назад +17

      But she does state that it's her own disposition. She's not generalizing. I'm pretty sure she won't stay when she feels all the things you've mentioned. It's true that women divorce very quickly because of cheating, hoping to move on to another man that won't cheat. Only to realize that the new man is a worse cheater than the first. I'm one of those who quit a marriage because of cheating while having 2 young children. They have suffered a lot because of it. I've question myself many times whether it was worth them suffering the way they did because as good a mother as I was/ am, I could not be both mother and father in their eyes. So someone else chosing to stay cannot be labelled based on a selfish decision to leave. There are more than the 2 people in marriage. For those who can stay and take it, by all means they need to do what's right by them and their children. Nobody else will step up and play a fatherly role for anyone's children once the parents divorce. Unfortunately when men move on, they move on - even from the fatherly responsibility to a greater extent. Sometimes staying is about protecting the family unit, as messed up as that may sound to an outsider. Not to mention that other times women are responsible for breaking up other women's families.

  • @sithabilekhomo5364
    @sithabilekhomo5364 11 месяцев назад +42

    Promise is a classist period, the Lerato Kgangago apology does not land..uphakeme u Promise yazi.

    • @S24-x1u
      @S24-x1u 11 месяцев назад +5

      Exactly the vibes I got. She may say whatever she has practiced but the truth came out😂😂😂😂

    • @simtandile4268
      @simtandile4268 9 месяцев назад +1

      Heyyyyyyy I did not understand what she said she will apologize for. So she will only apologize to LKG because of her influence in the industry, of who she is but not because she offended her. Otherwise she doesn't regret saying what she said about LKG.
      I'm really not following.

  • @mhlox654
    @mhlox654 11 месяцев назад +32

    This lady has such a teachable spirit and honest with her truth 👌🏽

    • @olabuk2000
      @olabuk2000 9 месяцев назад

      I'm yet to see that.

  • @nomsatorcida9612
    @nomsatorcida9612 11 месяцев назад +69

    The interviewer is good❤. I must admit, at first I really didn't understand Promise, however now I'm starting to understand her. And I love how she is not moved, she stands her ground and what she believes in.

  • @CuriousEuphoria
    @CuriousEuphoria 11 месяцев назад +117

    Can we just take a moment to appreciate the interviewer 💐🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Lungelo, Your interviewing skills are truly impressive! 💯Your ability to conduct an engaging and insightful interview was genuinely refreshing ✨Even though I’m not a fan of Promise, your approach brought a new perspective that captivated my interest. Your interviewing style and the way you navigated the conversation were top-notch. I was so impressed that I've become a subscriber. Keep up the excellent work!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад +9

      Welcome and thank you! ❤️❤️❤️ Enjoy watching all our previous episodes 🙏🏿

    • @matshidisosebone759
      @matshidisosebone759 11 месяцев назад +5

      Its my 1st time here, i wasnt watching but just listening..and i paused for a minute.."im like who is this guy that is so good in this.."hai mahn im sold..guy knows what he is doing..

    • @mpumemthethwa2735
      @mpumemthethwa2735 11 месяцев назад +4

      Lungelo is amazing, so mature, intelligent and tactful. His interviewing style is exceptional, I think a lot of these podcasters can learn a lot from him. Keep up the good work Lungelo 🙌🙌🙌

    • @matlalengtsaoane8849
      @matlalengtsaoane8849 7 месяцев назад

      He is very good🎉❤

    • @victoriasomtyato4400
      @victoriasomtyato4400 2 месяца назад

      I reiterate, that's what I came in here to say. He is excellent, even the uncomfortable question she doesn't answer...he gets back to it.
      Looooooove it!❤

  • @madams___speaker
    @madams___speaker 11 месяцев назад +34

    I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. Well done Promise and the host. 👏🏿❤️

  • @oyamamakanda8791
    @oyamamakanda8791 11 месяцев назад +36

    I got so confused when she said "A man can cheat but he is not a cheat-er" . . . And it's sad how shes' so okay with cheating but if she'd do the same to her man, that man would leave her because kaloku men know their worth! Kwanzima!

    • @ntombiace2953
      @ntombiace2953 11 месяцев назад +7

      It's giving Thando's yangishaya kodwa akangi abuse

    • @Yassmiinn.
      @Yassmiinn. 11 месяцев назад +4

      I think she said there's a difference between a man who cheated once, and a serial cheater.

    • @naledindlovu976
      @naledindlovu976 10 месяцев назад +6

      ​@Yassmiinn. How would you know...the fact that he cheated it means he can potentially do it again

  • @lefihlilesemenya8568
    @lefihlilesemenya8568 11 месяцев назад +84

    Honestly speaking we women are the reason why men cheat and not respect us... A man who genuinely loves and respect u will never cheat.. Promise is a pickmisha.. I wish women can love themselves, there's nothing wrong being alone... A man will never take back a cheating woman

    • @TT_TheBarber_
      @TT_TheBarber_ 11 месяцев назад +10

      I agree with you. Most people's biggest fear is being a baby momma & running after baby daddy. It's easier to hold the man accountable while he's still in the household

    • @theblueclinicbydrthabile
      @theblueclinicbydrthabile 11 месяцев назад +23

      Thank you for being brave enough to say it. I was sitting reading the comment and confused when did we get to this level of just settling.

    • @lefihlilesemenya8568
      @lefihlilesemenya8568 11 месяцев назад +11

      @theblueclinicbydrthabile The shame of not being married... remember some women being married it's a goal for them.

    • @verasixishe4393
      @verasixishe4393 11 месяцев назад +3

      You need to watch her interview with her father. It'll all make sense.

    • @lefihlilesemenya8568
      @lefihlilesemenya8568 11 месяцев назад +3

      @verasixishe4393 I did hey... noo the foundation was wrong

  • @thandostemela44
    @thandostemela44 11 месяцев назад +44

    You know sometimes we are so quick to judge people before we even know the person the way people hate the lady is just evident that it’s the people who are triggered by her truth now I hate to admit that I love the woman she’s becoming

  • @vinoliahmkhondo5437
    @vinoliahmkhondo5437 11 месяцев назад +28

    I love her mindset , very strong !❤
    Some woman were born to be married, she's one of them ❤

  • @lebogangmetsileng8969
    @lebogangmetsileng8969 8 месяцев назад +2

    Wow this was a beautiful interview. Promise does speak her truth and unfiltered indeed.

  • @ntebomoela8443
    @ntebomoela8443 10 месяцев назад +6

    Now I get it when u say u can't divorce ur husband bcoz of cheating... U went through a lot, may God help u to know ur worth

  • @SayItAll002
    @SayItAll002 11 месяцев назад +42

    Promise is definitely an ideal wife for a typical African man who wants a wife who will never go anywhere, however this woman is here for her own kids only, she's not here for anyone else's child in her marriage, she kept on referring to her stepkids as "it" and "thing"

    • @EvidanceMogale
      @EvidanceMogale 10 месяцев назад +1

      I picked it up and ha a man it's wrong.

    • @sweetpotato6728
      @sweetpotato6728 10 месяцев назад +7

      It's every woman for herself. The other children have their own mothers who are still alive. Her responsibility is to her children too.

    • @SayItAll002
      @SayItAll002 10 месяцев назад +6

      @@sweetpotato6728 i was not talking about responsibilities, i was talking about mere humanity for innocent kids, referring to anyone's child as "it" and/or "thing" as though they are objects and not human beings is vile. Especially as a mother herself.

    • @KgomotsoLodi-yx5zs
      @KgomotsoLodi-yx5zs 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@SayItAll002 it's weird nje.

    • @SayItAll002
      @SayItAll002 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@KgomotsoLodi-yx5zs akere

  • @qaqambafuzile5967
    @qaqambafuzile5967 11 месяцев назад +13

    I love how promise speaks her truth. N many woman shouts what they don't practice anyway.. Others say they would leave but in actual fact stay

  • @dineomaja9155
    @dineomaja9155 11 месяцев назад +19

    What a woman!!!!.....I havent always liked or agreed with Promise....but I clearly misjudged her...keep shining❤❤❤

  • @EngineerYLShow
    @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад +39

    Hello fam. ❤ Thank you for being here and using your resources to learn on our content. Hope you have an amazing week further & remember to spread kindness ❤

  • @misscarol_m
    @misscarol_m 10 месяцев назад +6

    I just want to say Promise o bohlale thobela. i don't even want to mention her confidence. What a force.

  • @fmaz2669
    @fmaz2669 10 месяцев назад +15

    For those that grew up in happy families with mummy and daddy, they understand the beauty it is for children to be raised by both parents. The problem is something went wrong with today's marriages. Something went seriously wrong. Marriage is now very hard. Very hard but if it thrives its beautiful for the children and the parents as well

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  10 месяцев назад +2

      very true. there are too many new dynamics that have been introduced that hurt marriages.

    • @keabua
      @keabua 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@EngineerYLShow I'm sorry, I disagree here. Marriage has ALWAYS been hard, that's why elders would tell women that marriage is hard and they need to be long suffering.
      In my view, the main dynamics affecting today's marriages are:
      - Social media: Giving people an unrealistic view of the lifestyles people are supposed to aspire to.
      - 3rd wave feminism: Women being selfish instead of selfless. Women valuing careers/ businesses over family and the next generation. Men's access to opportunities being greatly reduced, meaning that they are unable to provide for their families or do not earn enough to be considered by women who earn more than them.
      I always revert to StatsSA data. This is a Black community problem.
      Don't get me wrong .... there's nothing wrong with women choosing to focus on careers/ business and being providers, they just need to understand that it comes at a cost. We should be ok with the consequences and not complain about failing marriages then. You can't have it all

    • @Shalom.K
      @Shalom.K 8 месяцев назад

      @@keabua I have seen you under many other comments and our opinions seem to differ. So far it seems you believe that women are the main causes of marriages being broken even though we have (some) men cheating, creating outside babies, choosing not to parent at all. And so many other factors. You can’t expect one party to constantly compromise and be long suffering, like you said in your own words. Women are not robots, we have emotions and sooner or later you will get tired of putting up with disrespect. I believe in healthy marriages so much and I don’t believe that marriage should be a constant battle.

  • @Dooble_Phakade
    @Dooble_Phakade 11 месяцев назад +61

    Promise will apologise to Lerato because lerato is “up there”, where she wishes to be oneday.
    Laba abanye she is clearly undermining them, Hence they don’t deserve an apology let alone speaking about them . Yoooooo ay which level of Pride is this??🙃

    • @Dooble_Phakade
      @Dooble_Phakade 11 месяцев назад +5

      The conversation about South Africa pastors and international pastors is true, promise stated facts hey🎉🎉❤

    • @yangankenkana5034
      @yangankenkana5034 11 месяцев назад

      God will drop her down yazi for undermining people

    • @RayOfLetsatsi
      @RayOfLetsatsi 11 месяцев назад +7

      Why should she apologize to people who still shade and bash her till today?😂 bathong lona mara

    • @zinhlemfeka3040
      @zinhlemfeka3040 5 месяцев назад +1

      You guys like to bring God into your mean spirited issues,Yhooh ay🙄​@yangankenkana5034

    • @neegee3755
      @neegee3755 3 месяца назад

      Very disrespectful

  • @KhanyaTwani-u1x
    @KhanyaTwani-u1x 11 месяцев назад +49

    "If you dont stay full time with the thing". Yho, Promise genuinely feels that her stepchildren are "things".

    • @nteballengmosetlhe3397
      @nteballengmosetlhe3397 11 месяцев назад +11

      It was a mistake which she corrected.

    • @mrsspringbok
      @mrsspringbok 11 месяцев назад +15

      Are we just gonna ignore the fact that she apologised and did not mean it yoh!!!

    • @bridgettemadiba9496
      @bridgettemadiba9496 11 месяцев назад +6

      ​@@mrsspringbok
      Thank u haibo she apologized for goodness sake

    • @mphothagane8704
      @mphothagane8704 11 месяцев назад +3

      This woman hates her step kids with passion because of the baby mamas,poor kids

    • @lebogangletlhare2443
      @lebogangletlhare2443 11 месяцев назад +3

      I love Promise❤

  • @praisemanmtetwa7875
    @praisemanmtetwa7875 11 месяцев назад +6

    Promise i wish God can bless me with wife your like minded ....i believe your husband is blesse to the sky to find a wife who understand the chillanges we come a cross as man from our childhoods to adulthood..i believe that you understand your role as a wife to ur home and to your family and i pray i get that for my self as well.

  • @disekomotsepe
    @disekomotsepe 11 месяцев назад +26

    So Promise blocked me on TikTok for asking questions.
    1, most women don't simply leave after the man has lost money. How the husband treats the wife after he has lost everything, pushed them to leave. Most women want to work it out, but the emotion abuse is just too much.
    2. Women make cheating a deal breaker, because they fair deseases. So has she never thought that her health might be compromised.
    3. What does she think the second child from the second babymama feel when they see what she said about them
    4. Is the second baby or the children outside the marriage not being allowed full access to their siblings. How will all she is airing affect the siblingship.

    • @marciamohale6720
      @marciamohale6720 10 месяцев назад +2

      Promise can block anyone she wants to block. And she doesn't owe you any answers. Her life is going on with or without your questions. Le wena move on. Otla I potsa Wai karaba 🤣

    • @disekomotsepe
      @disekomotsepe 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@marciamohale6720 bathong wena. O na le bothata shame.....
      Please rest, it's good for your heart. And stop drinking energy drinks it goods straight to the heart.

  • @noziphokhumalo2963
    @noziphokhumalo2963 11 месяцев назад +12

    Discovered Lungelo through Naledis interview. Geez he's such an amazing interviewer, loved how he allowed us to understand Promise deeper as well. ❤

  • @pricakebaabetswe6500
    @pricakebaabetswe6500 11 месяцев назад +15

    True step parenting without a child is difficult

  • @mbalitshabalala7640
    @mbalitshabalala7640 11 месяцев назад +28

    ".. and youre the common factor,, they cant all be toxic". YOU ATE THAT! why are you the common factor?

    • @Dooble_Phakade
      @Dooble_Phakade 11 месяцев назад +5

      The answer to that question though🌝👩🏿‍🦯👩🏿‍🦯👩🏿‍🦯 lol

    • @khetimthembu8465
      @khetimthembu8465 11 месяцев назад

      That question was very important hey!!😤

  • @elethumatu
    @elethumatu 11 месяцев назад +12

    Seek first the Kingdom of God sana

  • @azukentapaneingazi1808
    @azukentapaneingazi1808 10 месяцев назад +7

    I love that she is being honest about her marriage.

  • @Hush_A
    @Hush_A 11 месяцев назад +15

    I love this Promise. She's relatable and not cocky. I'd previously unfollowed her but I'm going back to follow her after this.

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад +2

      Don’t forget to subscribe here too ❤️🙏🏿

  • @Ownnarrativepodcast
    @Ownnarrativepodcast 11 месяцев назад +49

    Thank you for having me my darling. i loved the interview, my husband loved it too❤️

    • @nonozi4147
      @nonozi4147 11 месяцев назад +6

      Love you big time wena. Also, I love how much you've grown as an individual and as a content creator. You are teachable❤

    • @thatogix8259
      @thatogix8259 11 месяцев назад +15

      On that Lerato situation, I hope she doesn’t accept your apology.. you apologise when you wrong , not because the person has status and the rest don’t .

    • @Ownnarrativepodcast
      @Ownnarrativepodcast 11 месяцев назад

      @@nonozi4147thank you

    • @Ownnarrativepodcast
      @Ownnarrativepodcast 11 месяцев назад

      @@thatogix8259glad you have zero control over what she does or does not❤

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад +1

      I'm so glad! You made it so easy to have an unfiltered conversation with ❤️

  • @cebobuthelezi2656
    @cebobuthelezi2656 11 месяцев назад +32

    This guy's interviewing skills 👌

  • @olabuk2000
    @olabuk2000 9 месяцев назад +2

    Promise sounds so much matured in this interview.

  • @rudzanikharivhe6294
    @rudzanikharivhe6294 10 месяцев назад +3

    Joh Lungelo this guy is great, but thank you for pointing out the fact that Precious is tge problem to all the female she fight with, tgank you for telling her to go and do self introspection.

  • @hrhmbali
    @hrhmbali 11 месяцев назад +13

    Female entrepreneur here, I know the after math of covid all too well.

  • @RamochekiTshegofatso
    @RamochekiTshegofatso 10 месяцев назад +5

    A person can cheat but he is not a cheater 😅😅😅 ungavumi ngami Nkosi yezulu, yala Jesu

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  10 месяцев назад +3

      You mean it doesn’t make sense? 🤣

  • @RayOfLetsatsi
    @RayOfLetsatsi 11 месяцев назад +5

    I don't always agree with Promise but she's very likeable..always enjoy watching her content.

  • @Drceliwe_dada
    @Drceliwe_dada 11 месяцев назад +8

    Marriage is hard work and needs you to be intentional
    Promise

  • @mmamoketecarolkhobane4852
    @mmamoketecarolkhobane4852 11 месяцев назад +4

    I believe in both couple putting the hard work,if only one partner does the work,the marriage sound one-sided(married to just the idea of marriage)

  • @boitumelosinesiphotabata1603
    @boitumelosinesiphotabata1603 10 месяцев назад +6

    So the apology to Lerato is not genuine, she scared of her influence in the industry. Classist much….

  • @khethiwengubo8035
    @khethiwengubo8035 3 месяца назад +1

    one thing I love about Promise, shes honest with her reality... someone I look, this one can be my friend...

  • @lesibamashaba3898
    @lesibamashaba3898 11 месяцев назад +2

    Promise is quite a wise woman much more wiser than our age mates

  • @emelymoleko3205
    @emelymoleko3205 4 месяца назад

    She is awesome....very clear about marriage issues ...i wish young people could hear her..."marriage is a spiritual institution designed by God" ..when people understand this they will trust God for their marriage and let him be the foundation 🙏

  • @ExploreLifeWithVee-eo4mp
    @ExploreLifeWithVee-eo4mp 11 месяцев назад +10

    I like her for honesty.

  • @nthabisengmoshana8589
    @nthabisengmoshana8589 11 месяцев назад +4

    I’m not a huge Promise fan but I thoroughly enjoyed this interview.

  • @malekamamoketepearl9535
    @malekamamoketepearl9535 11 месяцев назад +37

    “We broke up not bcz of the girl “ x3 jiki jiki “ we broke up bcz i was a third wheel in the relationship bcz he has to be with her inorder for him to see the child “

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 11 месяцев назад +9

      Listen to her again

    • @malekamamoketepearl9535
      @malekamamoketepearl9535 11 месяцев назад +3

      @@melmel7011 i did, n then what?

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@malekamamoketepearl9535 go listen to her again, and again until you hear what she is saying.

    • @orearabilekgotle8690
      @orearabilekgotle8690 11 месяцев назад

      "I FELT LIKE"......

    • @malekamamoketepearl9535
      @malekamamoketepearl9535 11 месяцев назад +3

      @@orearabilekgotle8690 felt like, but like, we like, me like, he like, still. Y mention it has nothing to do with the girl but still feel like a 3rd wheel. Kanti hu is d third person?

  • @rene9m
    @rene9m 10 месяцев назад +3

    I cannot i watched the whole episode.I loved it so much and i love Promise for speaking her truth :)

  • @portiamotlhala5758
    @portiamotlhala5758 11 месяцев назад +6

    Promise you are brilliant girl.

  • @kgaogeloleseka7941
    @kgaogeloleseka7941 11 месяцев назад +15

    So Promise is apologizing because Lerato is up there? Yooh says a lot about her,shes an opportunist and i am starting to wonder if the apology is GENUINE

  • @nthabisengmasia8988
    @nthabisengmasia8988 11 месяцев назад +15

    So this marriage is hard work for one party? so the other party doesn't have to work hard? Because from what I heard and learned in this interview, there is only one person who endured a lot and make excuses for the victimizer.

    • @I_am_Gee_
      @I_am_Gee_ 11 месяцев назад +1

      In a marriage you have to be the best thing you would like to have. You have to be the dream partner than just want to have one. It is sad, when we condone the nonsense our better half commits. This is how we open door for sicknesses and witchcraft.

    • @matlalengtsaoane8849
      @matlalengtsaoane8849 7 месяцев назад

      Eix

  • @DrLeratoPhoto
    @DrLeratoPhoto 11 месяцев назад +26

    I love the way you conduct your interviews 👌👌. Gained a subscriber.

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад

      Awesome, thank you! Appreciate you so much ❤️

    • @FindingNeli
      @FindingNeli 11 месяцев назад

      With immediate effect.

  • @blinkym21
    @blinkym21 11 месяцев назад +6

    I’d really like a man’s perspective on being cheated on , did they stay, did they forgive,if they stayed was their marriage the same after the incident(s), do men also have consideration of the fact that women don’t have a blue print either of how to be a wife 🤔.
    My take is that marriage is ordained by God and it holds both parties equally accountable especially on faithfulness.

    • @nonkosi8021
      @nonkosi8021 4 месяца назад +1

      @@blinkym21 I know several men who overcame cheating wives. They said it took lots of work, self doubt, trust issues. They say you don't just wake up and get over it, it's a process, at some point partners are resentful cos of the betrayal but committed , but eventually with the other partner being remorseful, doing their best, and committed healing takes place, then with grace they are able to forgive.

  • @noxolomatshaka2257
    @noxolomatshaka2257 11 месяцев назад +1

    Promise one thing I fully agree with you is I was in the same church and the word of God Oh My God is another level there. I'm able to understand and learn the Word because of those MOG and I agree with you that they are called but along the way they do mess up and that's why Christians need to keep all MOG and WOG in their prayers because the evil one is cunning and can manipulate anyone who allows the evil to do so... Beautiful interview altogether

  • @nkululekomasilonkululeko4426
    @nkululekomasilonkululeko4426 11 месяцев назад +5

    thanks lungelo for hosting such educative, informative, and family-building conversations.

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад

      Our pleasure! Family is the cornerstone of life. Let’s make it relevant again 😃

  • @nomfundoqhekeka4018
    @nomfundoqhekeka4018 11 месяцев назад +5

    I loved this interview ey. Lungelo you're very smart. Promise you spoke so well❤

  • @kelebogilemabye3825
    @kelebogilemabye3825 11 месяцев назад +8

    This was lovely to watch..as a 30 year old Promise is very mature ❤

    • @justkuhle9852
      @justkuhle9852 11 месяцев назад +5

      She's 30????😳

    • @Yassmiinn.
      @Yassmiinn. 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@justkuhle9852Yes lol

  • @thembimaseko9600
    @thembimaseko9600 11 месяцев назад +5

    Pastor Nhlapo,Pastor Gumbi Assembly of God visit those churches madam.

  • @theglen85
    @theglen85 11 месяцев назад +73

    For someone who looks so much older than her age, the way she keeps calling others "old" 😂😂😂 aai

    • @nolubynature9513
      @nolubynature9513 8 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂🤣🤣😅

    • @tryphosatlotlo6539
      @tryphosatlotlo6539 5 месяцев назад

      When I first saw her I thought she was 40

    • @mercynjoroge3753
      @mercynjoroge3753 4 месяца назад

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @ato7077
      @ato7077 2 месяца назад +1

      True hey, can't believe she's only 30 from the calculations of being married at 25 and only being in her 5th year of marriage. she really looks like she's in her early 40's.

    • @WorthyOfAbundance
      @WorthyOfAbundance 2 месяца назад

      @@theglen85 they always do that when they look older,it makes them feel better about themselves

  • @janekhumalo9201
    @janekhumalo9201 11 месяцев назад +2

    I love Lerato Kganyago....thank you Promise for wanting to make the peace❤

  • @nonzwakaziprecious9507
    @nonzwakaziprecious9507 11 месяцев назад +2

    Saw her with Panuel, really like her, I should listen to her more often.

  • @blessedgirl444
    @blessedgirl444 11 месяцев назад +1

    On this I'm with ma'am Promise the lady has a calling for saving marriages mama lots of love from Kenya ❤

  • @DJPapzin
    @DJPapzin 11 месяцев назад +15

    🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
    00:00 🌟 *Initial Introduction and Attitude Towards Cheating*
    - Introduction of the speaker and her perspective on her husband's potential cheating.
    - Emphasis on the belief that whether she explicitly states it or not, if he wants to cheat, he will.
    02:12 🤝 *Meeting and First Impressions*
    - Description of how the speaker and the person being interviewed met at a content creator's event.
    - Insights into the speaker's preference for studio work over socializing.
    - The significance of meeting the interviewee at a fellow content creator's event.
    03:09 💍 *Belief in Black Marriage*
    - The speaker's background in a stable black marriage as a foundation for her beliefs.
    - A focus on the importance of a nuclear family and the challenges faced by modern marriages.
    - Statistics on South African marriages and the speaker's commitment to overcoming challenges.
    04:14 📊 *Statistical Insights and Perspective on Marriage*
    - The speaker's acknowledgment of the high divorce rate in South Africa.
    - Discussion on the speaker's commitment to making her marriage work despite the challenging statistics.
    - Insight into the speaker's pragmatic approach, considering the statistical landscape.
    05:38 👫 *Challenges Faced in Marriage and Personal Experiences*
    - Personal challenges faced in the early years of marriage, including contemplating divorce.
    - The speaker's emphasis on putting in the work and understanding the difficulties of marriage.
    - Acknowledgment of the impact of personal backgrounds on the dynamics of a marriage.
    07:42 🤔 *Building Personal Dynamics in Marriage*
    - Discussion on the need to build personal dynamics in a marriage irrespective of parental influences.
    - The speaker's father's advice on not using parental marriages as templates.
    - Emphasis on creating unique dynamics based on personal values and beliefs.
    09:21 🤐 *Balancing Vulnerability and Protection in Sharing*
    - Observation on the speaker's vulnerability in sharing aspects of her marriage publicly.
    - Acknowledgment of the speaker's protective approach despite being open.
    - Reflecting on the balance between vulnerability and privacy in sharing personal experiences.
    10:43 💔 *Relationship Challenges and the Dynamics of Breaking Up*
    - The speaker's account of breaking up with her husband due to challenges unrelated to infidelity.
    - Insight into the dynamics of breaking up, the reasons, and the timing.
    - Reflection on the decision to get back together despite challenges.
    12:35 🔗 *Relationship Dynamics and Understanding Love*
    - Exploration of the concept that challenges in a relationship don't always revolve around infidelity.
    - Insight into the speaker's belief in the idea that challenges can be overcome in a relationship.
    - Reflection on the dynamics of love and commitment despite past challenges.
    13:44 💔 *Complexities of Breaking Up and Getting Back Together*
    - Clarification that the husband did not date the other person during the separation.
    - Insights into the challenges faced during the break-up and the subsequent reunion.
    - Emphasis on the speaker's confidence in the reunion, believing it was destined.
    15:59 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 *Stepmothering and Its Challenges*
    - Discussion on the difficulties of being a stepmother without having children of her own.
    - Acknowledgment of the challenges of step-parenting and the complexity of the role.
    - The importance of personal experience in understanding and navigating step-parenting.
    17:50 🌍 *Changing Dynamics of Community Raising Children*
    - Reflection on the shift from community raising children to a more personal and isolated approach.
    - The speaker's viewpoint on the challenges of step-parenting in the modern context.
    - Acknowledgment of the complexities of step-parenting in today's society.
    19:00 💔 *Cheating as a Deal Breaker*
    - The speaker's unconventional stance on cheating not being a deal-breaker.
    - Acknowledgment that serial cheating might be a different scenario.
    - Explanation of the importance of weighing invested efforts versus potential losses in relationships.
    21:17 🤔 *Views on Cheating and Forgiveness*
    - Serial cheating is a deal-breaker, but isolated incidents can be forgiven.
    - Believes in forgiving a mistake and not allowing it to define the marriage's foundation.
    - Emphasizes the importance of honesty and not being afraid to express one's true beliefs in a relationship.
    24:16 🤝 *Relationships Among Female Content Creators*
    - Generally gets along with all content creators unless they exhibit toxicity.
    - Acknowledges that conflicts among women are common but focuses on avoiding toxic individuals.
    - Shares a specific incident of misunderstanding with a content creator and plans to apologize for it.
    25:49 🤷‍♀️ *Addressing Toxicity Among Female Content Creators*
    - Highlights an incident involving a specific content creator and the need to apologize.
    - Recognizes the potential influence of personal experiences and being misunderstood.
    - Encourages self-introspection and understanding individual differences among content creators.
    29:07 💔 *Reacting to Husband's Vulnerability*
    - Expresses happiness when her husband cries because it's rare.
    - Discusses the challenges and pressures her husband faced, especially during the aftermath of COVID-19.
    - Shares her perspective on supporting her husband during difficult times and understanding the struggles of being a black man.
    32:47 💸 *Perceptions of Wealth and Relationship Dynamics*
    - Reflects on the challenges when wealth diminishes and the impact on relationships.
    - Talks about the pressure on black husbands to have financial stability.
    - Stresses the importance of understanding each other and being content in rebuilding phases.
    35:36 🤔 *Balancing Materialism and Relationship Values*
    - Shares her experiences of chasing after her husband when he had money.
    - Reflects on the superficiality of material possessions and the core values that keep a marriage intact.
    - Acknowledges the challenges black men face in balancing societal expectations and personal desires.
    38:06 🔄 *Understanding Cheating and Inner Child Healing*
    - Addresses the complexities of forgiveness after cheating, linking it to the inner child's experiences.
    - Advocates for therapy as a tool to gain perspective and understanding within relationships.
    - Stresses the need for individuals to heal their own inner child and take responsibility for personal growth.
    39:46 🤷‍♀️ *Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith's Marriage*
    - Discusses the Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith saga and their unconventional approach to marriage.
    - Contemplates whether such arrangements could be the future of marriages.
    - Emphasizes that marriage, for her, is about building a family and a nation, not just romantic love.
    42:21 🤔 *Marriage and Spirituality*
    - The discussion centers around the role of spirituality in marriages.
    - Marriages are seen as more than a personal bond, extending to a generational and spiritual context.
    - Emphasis on understanding the spiritual foundation of marriage through ancestral beliefs or different religions.
    43:32 🤝 *Impact of Marriage on Friendships*
    - Reflects on how marriage affects friendships, emphasizing the importance of vetting friends' stances on marriage.
    - Prioritizing family over friendships becomes crucial in maintaining a balance.
    - Acknowledges the challenges of leaving the nuclear family to start one's own family.
    45:09 🙏 *Promise's Spiritual Journey*
    - Promise shares her spiritual journey, transitioning from a staunch Christian to a more personalized spirituality.
    - Discusses disillusionment with certain practices within organized religion.
    - Emphasizes the importance of personally connecting with one's spirituality beyond traditional Sunday church attendance.
    48:14 📖 *Knowledge of the Word of God*
    - Highlights the significance of South African pastors learning and understanding the Bible.
    - Acknowledges the manipulation within certain spiritual practices but credits them for fostering her deep knowledge of the Bible.
    - Encourages pastors to genuinely learn and live by the teachings of the Bible.
    50:32 🤔 *Essence of Self and Truth*
    - Promise expresses certainty in knowing and being true to herself.
    - Desires to be remembered as someone who stood for and spoke the truth, unfiltered.
    - Emphasizes the importance of living authentically and standing by one's truth.
    51:54 🎙️ *Closing Remarks and Podcast Promotion*
    - Closing remarks and appreciation for Promise's principled and truthful nature.
    - Promotion of Promise's podcast "Mrs. Law" on RUclips.
    - Acknowledges the transformative power of New Media and encourages viewers to follow her on Instagram and TikTok.
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  • @daphneylebogangpitsa7051
    @daphneylebogangpitsa7051 2 месяца назад

    Well done promise I understand where you coming from there’s a difference between a man who is cheating with different women all the time than a man who made a mistake once and able to sit down and talk about it and willing to change

  • @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369
    @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 11 месяцев назад +13

    Can't blv these two agree that boBushiri and the likes have gifts of the spirit😢
    Makes sense now how evil Ma'ams heart can be, its the Bushiri spirit.......
    Great interview nontheless.
    Can't blv she said she is in the same industry as Kganyago😅😂😂😂

    • @olabuk2000
      @olabuk2000 9 месяцев назад

      I missed that part, please tell me where is that in terms of minutes into the interview.

  • @msimaramphaka701
    @msimaramphaka701 10 месяцев назад +1

    I love this woman's sense of humor ❤❤I've learned a lot from her

  • @mmabathoshai9725
    @mmabathoshai9725 10 месяцев назад +2

    Promise Promise I love you beautiful interview my darling

  • @ntandonkosi6486
    @ntandonkosi6486 11 месяцев назад +6

    I liked the question about “common factor” Nice interview

  • @Brena_Ndou
    @Brena_Ndou 11 месяцев назад +8

    from what she has said here so far and in her other interviews her husband is a serial cheater, she is just in denial, but anyway as long as she is happy with her man then all is well

  • @AmoNkabinde
    @AmoNkabinde 10 месяцев назад +2

    I'm so in love with this woman nje...

  • @SJ_KingMthembu
    @SJ_KingMthembu 11 месяцев назад +14

    First time seeing this channel, opened it because I love promise there I am falling inlove with the interviewer yeses he is talented

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you kindly Mntungwa ❤️🥺

    • @patienceikombele9161
      @patienceikombele9161 11 месяцев назад +2

      Me too, same here. I subscribed right away 😃😃

  • @thembimaseko9600
    @thembimaseko9600 10 месяцев назад +4

    Promise we have good charismatic churches in South Africa go to Assembly of God,,G N F, Faith Mission, Sweden church etc those churches were there even in the sixties.

  • @patienceikombele9161
    @patienceikombele9161 11 месяцев назад +5

    Loved the interviewer breath of fresh air. I subscribed. Love u, Promise❤❤ you are my girl😍

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад

      Hi Patience. Thank you kindly and welcome to Engineer Your Life

  • @ZiphezinhleCele
    @ZiphezinhleCele 11 месяцев назад +7

    I love Promise. Beautiful interview Lungelo

  • @kgomotsoegulube7570
    @kgomotsoegulube7570 10 месяцев назад +2

    Promise ngyamuzwa if a husband cheats asikho isizathu sokumshiya but everytime at yr back of yr mind u worry ukuthi the women whose involved with is not sick na kubuhlungu to find out u are HIV positive ngoba uthi angeke uhambe

  • @nantie_tsoku
    @nantie_tsoku 11 месяцев назад +2

    Hiccups do overpowers and such is true love ❤️ keep going strong and rise beyond all else… marriage is an epitome of God🙌 Gods love personified 🙏

  • @zenkhuzwayo
    @zenkhuzwayo 11 месяцев назад +6

    Definitely saw a different side ❤

  • @onthegrindwiththabitha
    @onthegrindwiththabitha 11 месяцев назад +5

    The interviewer is amazing....shout out🎉🎉🎉❤ black man.

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thabitha these words mean a lot ❤️🙏🏿

    • @onthegrindwiththabitha
      @onthegrindwiththabitha 11 месяцев назад

      @EngineerYLShow u were born for this, Don't let anyone say otherwise ♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏✨️keep shinning

  • @LeratoMatlhonoko
    @LeratoMatlhonoko 10 месяцев назад +1

    I understand my dear your husband really loved you, sometimes it's so hard to leave such a man..The man that you know he had your back and the man who was taking care of you and the kids when he had everything..Bravo to your husband 👏

  • @Mbalings
    @Mbalings 11 месяцев назад +18

    The words that slip out of Promise's mouth sometimes 😅🫢 like- I'd be so pissed being consistently referred to as a baby momma bandla. Did she just call her step kid a thing? Kuningi-
    😫

    • @poppymoiloa9890
      @poppymoiloa9890 10 месяцев назад +1

      I thought I was the only one who heard that, she has disdain, hatred for that "thing"aka her stepchild 😏😒

    • @Vunafurniture
      @Vunafurniture 5 месяцев назад

      I think it’s a language issue. It’s like when she said to the interviewer you are old and my husband is old I think she meant to say you are “adults” . English is not our mother tongue guys.

    • @Mbalings
      @Mbalings 5 месяцев назад

      @@Vunafurniture I appreciate you trying to be objective Phumz, but have you watched her episode with a side chick? She literally couldn't hide her disdain. Promise doesn't know how to be impartial.

  • @silindilenxumalo9541
    @silindilenxumalo9541 4 месяца назад +1

    There is something that I believe is wrong that we do as women that because my partner cheated on me repeatedly and I left then we want everyone to do that. If they not leaving then we calling them names, we say they are desperate and all sorts of things. We are very wrong. We need to let people do what they feel its best for them. The only thing we can do is to pray for that particular person to use wisdom, advice but let them decide on their own

  • @BusisiweNkosii
    @BusisiweNkosii 4 месяца назад

    First time on his podcast and I wish he was the one interviewing Nozipho Ntshangase. He asks relevant questions, good follow up questions and allows the interviewee to speak. Just subscribed to his channel.

  • @polaokhoarai4421
    @polaokhoarai4421 11 месяцев назад +10

    cheating is cheating whether once or many times. There is no difference mama

  • @frashiahwangari2177
    @frashiahwangari2177 5 месяцев назад +10

    Did i just hear this woman say the interviewer is old?😲😱 Is she kidding!? She looks like his mother!

  • @vuyokazilucia8750
    @vuyokazilucia8750 11 месяцев назад +4

    Yey.. I understand wat promise is saying axactly....👌

  • @yonwabantsasa1314
    @yonwabantsasa1314 11 месяцев назад +16

    Not her forget who Owami is😂😂😂Haybo Promise

    • @victorioussisters3307
      @victorioussisters3307 11 месяцев назад +3

      She knows that Owamie will drag her to the streets.

    • @naledindlovu976
      @naledindlovu976 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@victorioussisters3307😂😂😂

  • @nangamsombune6348
    @nangamsombune6348 11 месяцев назад +5

    First time seeing this podcast and I enjoyed this interview. Well done👏👏

    • @EngineerYLShow
      @EngineerYLShow  11 месяцев назад

      Welcome aboard! Hope you subscribed 🙂

  • @sweetnessgyamboe4897
    @sweetnessgyamboe4897 11 месяцев назад +17

    If you can apologise to Lerato, apologise to Owami. She is also up there in this content creation industry. And it should not be about being up there but just being the bigger one!

    • @RayOfLetsatsi
      @RayOfLetsatsi 11 месяцев назад +7

      Will Owamie apologize too because they both hit each other below the belt? Highly doubt it. You guys need to hold your faves to the same standard too why should Promise be the bigger one

    • @sweetnessgyamboe4897
      @sweetnessgyamboe4897 11 месяцев назад +3

      @@RayOfLetsatsi if you listened to this interview, you will understand that I am replying to something Promise mentioned. Nothing about favourites here. If you choose to be the bigger person, then don’t do it partially. She hates no one, now let her act accordingly. Whether owami apologises or not, up to her and until she publicly says she ain’t about to beef with anybody then we can hold her accountable.

  • @lindokuhlenjoko1650
    @lindokuhlenjoko1650 Месяц назад

    Precious is beautiful hle and I love her wisdom ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @machego_M
    @machego_M 11 месяцев назад +2

    The wisdom in this young lady, this is the lady i felt inlove with❤ you such representing to african wives, your husband is blessed

    • @zanelendevu5887
      @zanelendevu5887 10 месяцев назад +1

      she is so wise beyond her years...God is still going to use her in a mighty way.

  • @sikelelwapiyose587
    @sikelelwapiyose587 11 месяцев назад +11

    Promise wants motivation and miracles not the word of God.

  • @dinahlikotla692
    @dinahlikotla692 11 месяцев назад +1

    To be honst it is important to make sure that mentally are both on the same level. Some partners after marriage stop thinking. The other partner will be pushing mentally the other is just stagnant. Thats where frustration and fights come without cheating.

  • @entertainmentt.2435
    @entertainmentt.2435 11 месяцев назад +12

    Promise doesn't fake her life

  • @virgyladyv6215
    @virgyladyv6215 11 месяцев назад +5

    The fact that she act like she doesn't know owamie shocked me🤣🤣🤣 ,anyway I like promise 4 speaking truth regarding her marriage🎉🎉

  • @sibongisenisakhele3114
    @sibongisenisakhele3114 11 месяцев назад +2

    wonderful conversation Lungelo! Maybe we need behavioural experts to tackle the consequences of access and how to manage them. We are raising children in a very twisted world. It helps to enlighten parents on these complexities. Thank you Promise! Always wonderful to hear your perspectives.

  • @madamflames
    @madamflames 11 месяцев назад +23

    Damn not her calling her step child is a thing 🥹 🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮