This brought back some memories of school, I always spaced out, daydreaming, watching the pigeons and seagulls outside, watching the chip bag tornadoes in the corners of the building. Thinking about all kinds of stuff. Then the teacher asks you your thoughts, "Ummmm, ah" Uproarous laughter breaks out. Then I get other kids asking if I'm 'burnt'. I get humiliated for something I can't help. At 55 I still struggle, I actually did some cleaning today, my own mess disgusts me, swept up piles of dust and litter and other floor detritus. I never get ahead of it. I make a mess faster than I can clean it.
@@sekovittol3124 I remember the day in seventh grade when there was a schoolwide announcement that someone had been stealing books off the shelf in the reading room. It was me. I didn't mean to steal. But books were my dopamine and I just borrowed them without asking to read under the desk in my boring classes. And because I had undiagnosed ADHD, always forgot to put them back. And same on the cleaning. I tried today, for hours. It's no cleaner, but the crap is in different places.
others may find this funny...but to me this hits so close to home, it makes me cry, feeling selfpity and also kinda hurt to not have known back in school whats wrong with me. the feeling of no matter how hard i tried, make lists, take notes, pack my bag the evening before school... i never had all homework, never had all stuff i needed and in the end always ended up drawing in class. it'S painful. sad. and maddening. and in the end you come out burned out, stressed and depressed - and then you notice that this was just the warm up, before you start work life. ... i got diagnosed two years ago.i'm 35 now. and i'm still trying to shove the sef hatred and pity and shame aside and finally learn and accept, that it was NOT. MY. FAULT. wishing strength to all of you. your minds are wonderful. ♥
Yep. I always try to incorporate humor into the videos I make, but an underlying truth is: ADHD f****** hurts. Especially so because of how it's responded to in setting like the classroom
You know what really sucks? I'm a teacher now, and I have been diagnosed with ADHD. Sometimes I will stumble upon a student that will display so many of these symptoms clear as day, but even suggesting to their parents to maybe go and seek a professional's opinion, just for the sake of helping their child with education, so that they may receive special attention and whatnot, just feels taboo. Feels like if I even suggest that their child might have learning difficulties, it is interpreted immediately as an insult. I just wish this wasn't as stigmatized as it is.
I have the same problem except I’m a violin teacher, which I think is less common for someone in this role to bring up attention difficulties or any mental health stuff really. I feel like school teachers have more to go off because a) they spend more time with the kids, and b) they have more children as a baseline reference. I tend to go for a subtle approach, trying to bring attention to the fact that there are atypical behaviours without framing them as negative and avoiding mentioning specific diagnoses. I have at times decided to just come out and be straight when hints were obviously not working; thankfully this has always worked out well and benefited the student. I try to take the mindset that the worst that could happen if I bring something up is the parent gets so offended they stop lessons, but the best that could happen is a student receives the help they need. I find it helps to really put things in perspective.
@@somebodyody I suppose it works better because a violin teacher has less authority and hobbies have less value bearing on the kid's intelligence. If the school teacher says your kid is struggling, it's scary. But if it's their violin teacher, coach, scout leader... It's not so big of a deal.
Those preconceptions can be really hard to remove even if I'm actively trying to work on my own, they often influence decisions without me even realizing. What's helped me is comparing it to less abstract examples. A kid that needs glasses would probably begin to show signs of struggling in school before its clear what the problem is. You wouldn't think them any less intelligent for needing glasses, they just hadn't been given the proper tools to help them. Getting the correct knowledge, professional help, and/or medication are all just the tools to help with ADHD. This reply is more intended to try and cement this in my own head to help push back against some of those preconceptions.
I think the stigma aspect is improving, but it’s absolutely still there. For what it’s worth, my kid’s first grade teacher first brought this to our attention. My daughter’s differences didn’t stand out to me because turns out I had undiagnosed ADHD as well! Seemed normal to me! 😂 Thanks to her bringing it up, she got diagnosed and now has some accommodations in place that will hopefully make her school experience better. I also got diagnosed as a result. For me, medication has been super helpful. Also, it completely changes the story I had internalized about myself that I was forgetful, lazy, irresponsible, etc. I have dealt with so much anxiety trying to cover up my shortcomings. I’m trying to work with my brain as best I can now and be gentler with myself when I mess something up. IT CHANGED OUR LIVES that my kid’s teacher brought this up and I am so grateful that she did so. I know it can be awkward and not always well received. I so appreciate that she took the chance in our case.
The thoughts about peanuts distracted me because I know they grow on the roots of plants, so underground like potatoes. My saving grace in class was that I'm a nerd and found almost everything the teacher taught us extremely interesting. Making me the annoying kid who was always asking clarification on minor points nobody else gave a hoot about... and then I just couldn't get myself to do my homework. Bullshitting your way through an answer to not give away the fact you weren't listening: check. Not realizing that you were in the wrong part of the book despite it striking you as strange: check. My nightmares aren't centered on forgetting to get dressed, they're about showing up to school, realizing I'm late for an important class or test and not having any clue of where I'm supposed to go. Also, I don't have the necessary textbooks. And the main thing making it a nightmare: nobody wants to be bothered by me trying to find out what I'm supposed to be doing or where I'm supposed to be doing it because somehow it's my own negligent fault that I didn't look it up. Even though I have no idea where I was supposed to get the information in the first place. I'm 57 years old. When I do have uneasy dreams, it's still this.
I relate to your experience! I was also a nerd, so it's no surprise that my ADHD went undiagnosed for so long. I enjoyed learning and found most subjects interesting, so I was often able to pay attention in class. Homework was an absolute grind that took forever to start and another age to finish. But I had the structure and accountability at home to make sure I usually got stuff done. Still, projects & long-term papers were always done last minute and in a panic. As soon as I started driving myself to school, I was always in trouble for being late. I remember being so frustrated when people got mad at me for doing things that were "irresponsible" because I cared so much and was trying so hard! Couldn't they see that? Not everyone could. I did all these hard things like write excellent English papers (my favorite subject), so why couldn't I do "easy" things like be on time or remember important dates? If I cared, I'd just do it, right? 🙄 Oh and the nightmares? Yep, still about running late to class or not knowing which room my class is in. I'm 30.
makes me a bit sad and mad to watch this actually bc i do relate to some parts but since i was raised as a girl (with adhd) i developed an anxiety disorder pretty earlier on so i just froze (still do sometimes) in situations where i didn’t have what was expected of me and to avoid feeling this way i just anxiously forced myself to remember everything correctly. no wonder i was burned out in 11/12th grade and depression hit me in like 7th grade and still comes and goes :/ anyway great video eric!! i’m curious to see what comes next in this series!
This was so painfully to watch and I teared up when the teacher seemed at a loss as to how to help you. Thank you for sharing your very real, lived experience with us. Even though we don’t all have the same exact ADHD experiences, videos like this go a long way to show that we’re not alone in our struggles.
This was amazing! So excited for this series! You're a natural at this. Your series needs to be part of every teacher's handbook around the world and taught in every classroom. It would be a great way to elevate the understanding and, hopefully, compassion and empathy of fellow students as well as staff (and make the lives of those with ADHD a lot easier). I was diagnosed with the combined type of ADHD spring of 2024 at age 62. Also scored 100% probability of autism / neurodivergence on all the self-tests. I'm not up for going through the process of an official autism diagnosis. Thank you for creating and sharing your wonderfully informative and entertaining videos! 💖🙋♀️
I never managed to complete my homework or alternatively remember that I had any 🙈 I could pay attention to people speaking, but the moment there wasn't anything to focus on, I was lost to the world.
I never did either. Then in Junior High my school had an agenda book. Since I wasn't doing my homework, they thought I was forgetting my homework so I had to write down the homework assignments and get all of my teachers to sign it. Still didn't do my homework. Then they decided to give me detention for not doing my homework. My parents refused to agree to that. Not once did anyone ask me why I wasn't doing my homework. I wasn't doing my homework because by the time I'd gotten home from school, I had had it. I was exhausted. School sucked. I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD until I was 30.
❤ I know that pain. Always thinking of everything else except what you were supposed to thinking of. This makes you wanna hug your former self. Hugs to anyone who needs it. 🕊️
I feel like growing up I was so socially anxious and scared of situations like these that it rarely showed outside. But I got so burned out for trying to compensate and ”not be found out” how incompeted i truly was. I remember so many times doing homework just before class or trying to reverse enginer answers because I didn’t pay attention to the explanations. 😢 looking back it would have been better to not pretend, maybe I would have gotten the help I actually needed
The most accurate summary of my experience so far. Only my classmates were laughing at me the whole time and the teacher was yelling. Yours was much more patient than mine.
Looking back it wasn't quite this bad, at least the people around cared about me. I had a friend who would try to help. I remember one time we had to find a newspaper headline that was a pun. She cut out two and handed me one as we walked into class knowing i wouldn't have one.
THIS IS SO ACCURATE. I have ADHD-C and getting diagnosed and medication changed my life! I never want to go back! But yes as a smart ADHD adult women who didn't get diagnosed until 21 since "I do fine in school" I struggled with all of these symptoms but I kept masking and hiding them. But nevertheless, I have severe ADHD. I would say this video is kind of an exaggeration but these things happen a lot. The thoughts in my head were so loud and distracting that I did not even process what was right in front of me, I do get distracted my own mind or external stimuli a ton, I am almost always late, I have poor time management skills, I at least 1-2 items every day or every other day for daily activities, I avoid tasks that require sustained mental effort/attention, and things with tons of directions literally take so much longer to finish than my neurotypical peers.
“Ms.Mooney Ms. Mooney” - omg certain classes I just couldn’t and those teachers would try and catch me not paying attention but I learned their game and made it fun I’m in the late woman diagnosed club
I think I'm going to have this kid if I have a son... I was a girl and very smart, so school was always too easy for me until I reached upper secondary school and university. I think boys must have it harder because their brain develops a bit later. So they're always in a more challenging class compared to their developmental age.
Omg, that was painful. I could deal in class as I was good at quickly putting things together and answering something mostly correct. But I always forgot homework, either that I had any to do, or to bring it to turn in. I struggled to concentrate. As a 50+ woman who was only recently diagnosed, I wish I could tell my younger self that it wasn’t all my fault.
Ok. This one made me cry. As frustrated as they were by it, my parents and teachers weren't exactly hardasses about it, but I -was- am VERY hard on myself for this stuff. It doesn't help that I have antidepressant meds that I forget to take WAY too often... You know, because of ADHD. I had a science teacher in grades 3-5 who minored in psychology while taking her child education course. She, like me, was a huge nerd. So, with her joining forces with the school counselor, I became a subject of study on how to help and get through to kids like me. Because of how much of a nerd I am, they even shared and explained many of their notes with me. I loved it. I wonder if I could be a Professional Lab Rat...
Loving your content. This is too relatable. Could you please do a video/shorts series on how ADHD affects your mood? I'd love to see that covered one day
But I bet like me, you put in a concentrated effort to pay attention to someone talking and have learned to catch yourself drifting off. The battle is still there, but you better know your enemy.
I have inattentive, and it was mild, I guess. I was diagnosed in my thirties. I lived in my head, daydreamed a lot, struggled to pay attention and often forgot things almost as soon as they were mentioned. The interesting thing I learned about adhd, is that once a girl hits around the age of fourteen, the symptoms actually lessen; think of a light switch being toggled, but this lessening of symptoms doesn’t happen for boys. This doesn’t mean that girls and women don’t require medication for it, or don’t have severe adhd, it’s just a neat I learned from the doctor.
Can you tell where you heard that the symptoms lessen when girls get to the age of 14? Just asking out of curiosity, because I have heard that ADHD symptoms usually start showing more when girls hit puberty because of the increased resposibility. I think I heard this from dr. K from Healthy gamer.
That's interesting, I need to look into that one! I know the notion that kids grow out of ADHD has been challenged and it's thought to be more a matter of the ADHD being expressed differently at different ages, but I haven't heard anything about what that looks like in boy v girls
@ my doctor told me that when I went in seeking a referral to a psychiatrist in order to be tested for adhd. For the record, she was not saying that children grow out of adhd, nor is it possible to. She was saying that it presents and behaves differently in girls due to our brains having different chemistry changes than boys when we hit puberty, which is why it appears to lessen when girls become teens. Another factor is that most girls who have adhd present as the inattentive type, meaning all the hyperactivity is isolated in the brain, whereas most boys with it present as hyperactive, a physical and very visible form that affects the entire body rather than just one area, and that typing difference also has a lot to do with it as well.
I hated it when my English teacher would get us to put our desks in a circle and take it in turns to read a Shakespeare play. I found it so boring and would zone out looking out the window so when it got to my turn I had to be told where we were at. Everyone else seemed ok at following along but me. Ugh that was over 40 years ago and it still is like a punch in the gut.
Being in college is bringing out ALL of my combined ADHD symptoms. I just got diagnosed in May and I'm in my 3rd semester. 😢. I have come to the conclusion that shorter classes are better because they have now deadlines. Where regular 16 week semester classes have not now deadlines.
I wish I had the strength and will to see a doctor but shrinks have screwed my life over so much when I was younger (making me lose 15 years due to stereotypes and shit...) that I don't trust the medical field of my country anymore (not US).
I was diagnosed 21 years ago with what would now be ADHD-I. I still experience every symptom. It's been 12 years since I went off my meds because they no longer helped. I've meant to talk to my doctor about it so I can get a consult since then, but I forget to mention it every single time. I'm at the point where I basically can't hold a job because I've quit or been fired from every place locally that pays enough because I just can't focus on anything I'm not specifically interested in and at this point it's even hard to focus on things I'm really interested in. I've asked for help from friends and family, but they either don't think I need help and won't give it or aren't in a position to. Add on top of that being a closeted trans women and I just feel trapped at this point
I have ASD 2 and Combined ADHD along with multiple comorbidities received offical dual diagnosis last year at the tender age of 42. I knew I was different from age 3
I wish I would’ve been able to watch this when I was younger because I’ve always felt like I had ADHD but wasn’t 💯% sure now as an adult I know for sure that I have ADHD badly😢😢
I would end up being so mentally fried by the end of the day all I wanted to do was go home and sleep. I managed to pass highschool by the skin of my teeth since I never did my homework, but would do somewhat successfully on the tests even though homework was usually most of our grade. It sucked because at least in middle school the teachers would be prepared for at least three days or so in advance, so if you got sick, or something you could just call the office and get your homework, but in highschool we had a rule like that however it always fell through since teachers would only prepare for that day. It sucked.
I somehow managed to do well in school, I suspect it was because back then class time was primarily copying down what the teacher wrote on the chalkboard, so I could focus on writing the notes. there wasn’t much listening. But on these criteria I would score 8/8, so do I win?!?!😅
Almost word for word what I had all through school and life and work. Lol I just realized I didn't finish my ADHD re diagnosis paperwork 🤦🏻 instead I have been writing poems all week 😂
that may have seemed "extreme"? dude that was "extreme"ly MILD compared to some of the little memorybits many of us have... even just watching this, i couldnt stop thinking about those paper bookcovers they used to have us do for our books like that, i frickin LOVED the texture and sounds of those things, it blocked out the "noise" of all the text and marketing and legal credentials and crap all over the covers, do they still do that in school? i wanna cover all my books in paper hahaha.
Thank goodness you came back to the present when you did! I was about to stop watching because it was too uncomfortable 🙃 Perfect representation, sadly Hugs
My experience is like this, but more kept to myself + I was able to better mask these symptoms and make it seem like ik what im doing. I think its also because I am a woman? Also quick question- do I have to also display signs of hyperactivity to be diagnosed with adhd? Whenever I did tests I would always get full marks on the Inattentive part but only half marks on hyperactivity 😅
You don't need to get points for hyperactivity, in the past you may have received an ADD-diagnosis but nowadays they are both ADHD, with or without hyperactivity.
In russia all medication except atomoxetin is illegal. Atomoxetin is not so powerful as stimulants and it's side effects are devastating for me. I'm 38 and still untreated
He forgot the part where you read the same sentence 10 times and the page gets blurry and you don't retain a single word.
And you end up falling asleep trying...
This was hard to watch. I'm in my 50s, and this hurts my heart. Highly accurate. And guess what? Public humiliation doesn't actually help.
"public humiliation" otherwise known as "public school"
This brought back some memories of school, I always spaced out, daydreaming, watching the pigeons and seagulls outside, watching the chip bag tornadoes in the corners of the building. Thinking about all kinds of stuff. Then the teacher asks you your thoughts, "Ummmm, ah" Uproarous laughter breaks out. Then I get other kids asking if I'm 'burnt'. I get humiliated for something I can't help. At 55 I still struggle, I actually did some cleaning today, my own mess disgusts me, swept up piles of dust and litter and other floor detritus. I never get ahead of it. I make a mess faster than I can clean it.
@@sekovittol3124 I remember the day in seventh grade when there was a schoolwide announcement that someone had been stealing books off the shelf in the reading room. It was me. I didn't mean to steal. But books were my dopamine and I just borrowed them without asking to read under the desk in my boring classes. And because I had undiagnosed ADHD, always forgot to put them back. And same on the cleaning. I tried today, for hours. It's no cleaner, but the crap is in different places.
others may find this funny...but to me this hits so close to home, it makes me cry, feeling selfpity and also kinda hurt to not have known back in school whats wrong with me. the feeling of no matter how hard i tried, make lists, take notes, pack my bag the evening before school... i never had all homework, never had all stuff i needed and in the end always ended up drawing in class. it'S painful. sad. and maddening. and in the end you come out burned out, stressed and depressed - and then you notice that this was just the warm up, before you start work life. ... i got diagnosed two years ago.i'm 35 now. and i'm still trying to shove the sef hatred and pity and shame aside and finally learn and accept, that it was NOT. MY. FAULT.
wishing strength to all of you. your minds are wonderful. ♥
You couldnt have said it better. hoping you do better from now on :))
Yep. I always try to incorporate humor into the videos I make, but an underlying truth is: ADHD f****** hurts. Especially so because of how it's responded to in setting like the classroom
*Chef kiss!*
Wish your channel had been around 50 years ago.
You know what really sucks? I'm a teacher now, and I have been diagnosed with ADHD. Sometimes I will stumble upon a student that will display so many of these symptoms clear as day, but even suggesting to their parents to maybe go and seek a professional's opinion, just for the sake of helping their child with education, so that they may receive special attention and whatnot, just feels taboo. Feels like if I even suggest that their child might have learning difficulties, it is interpreted immediately as an insult. I just wish this wasn't as stigmatized as it is.
I have the same problem except I’m a violin teacher, which I think is less common for someone in this role to bring up attention difficulties or any mental health stuff really. I feel like school teachers have more to go off because a) they spend more time with the kids, and b) they have more children as a baseline reference.
I tend to go for a subtle approach, trying to bring attention to the fact that there are atypical behaviours without framing them as negative and avoiding mentioning specific diagnoses. I have at times decided to just come out and be straight when hints were obviously not working; thankfully this has always worked out well and benefited the student.
I try to take the mindset that the worst that could happen if I bring something up is the parent gets so offended they stop lessons, but the best that could happen is a student receives the help they need. I find it helps to really put things in perspective.
@@somebodyody I suppose it works better because a violin teacher has less authority and hobbies have less value bearing on the kid's intelligence. If the school teacher says your kid is struggling, it's scary. But if it's their violin teacher, coach, scout leader... It's not so big of a deal.
Those preconceptions can be really hard to remove even if I'm actively trying to work on my own, they often influence decisions without me even realizing. What's helped me is comparing it to less abstract examples.
A kid that needs glasses would probably begin to show signs of struggling in school before its clear what the problem is. You wouldn't think them any less intelligent for needing glasses, they just hadn't been given the proper tools to help them.
Getting the correct knowledge, professional help, and/or medication are all just the tools to help with ADHD. This reply is more intended to try and cement this in my own head to help push back against some of those preconceptions.
I think the stigma aspect is improving, but it’s absolutely still there. For what it’s worth, my kid’s first grade teacher first brought this to our attention. My daughter’s differences didn’t stand out to me because turns out I had undiagnosed ADHD as well! Seemed normal to me! 😂 Thanks to her bringing it up, she got diagnosed and now has some accommodations in place that will hopefully make her school experience better. I also got diagnosed as a result. For me, medication has been super helpful. Also, it completely changes the story I had internalized about myself that I was forgetful, lazy, irresponsible, etc. I have dealt with so much anxiety trying to cover up my shortcomings. I’m trying to work with my brain as best I can now and be gentler with myself when I mess something up. IT CHANGED OUR LIVES that my kid’s teacher brought this up and I am so grateful that she did so. I know it can be awkward and not always well received. I so appreciate that she took the chance in our case.
The thoughts about peanuts distracted me because I know they grow on the roots of plants, so underground like potatoes.
My saving grace in class was that I'm a nerd and found almost everything the teacher taught us extremely interesting. Making me the annoying kid who was always asking clarification on minor points nobody else gave a hoot about... and then I just couldn't get myself to do my homework.
Bullshitting your way through an answer to not give away the fact you weren't listening: check. Not realizing that you were in the wrong part of the book despite it striking you as strange: check.
My nightmares aren't centered on forgetting to get dressed, they're about showing up to school, realizing I'm late for an important class or test and not having any clue of where I'm supposed to go. Also, I don't have the necessary textbooks. And the main thing making it a nightmare: nobody wants to be bothered by me trying to find out what I'm supposed to be doing or where I'm supposed to be doing it because somehow it's my own negligent fault that I didn't look it up. Even though I have no idea where I was supposed to get the information in the first place. I'm 57 years old. When I do have uneasy dreams, it's still this.
I relate to your experience! I was also a nerd, so it's no surprise that my ADHD went undiagnosed for so long. I enjoyed learning and found most subjects interesting, so I was often able to pay attention in class. Homework was an absolute grind that took forever to start and another age to finish. But I had the structure and accountability at home to make sure I usually got stuff done. Still, projects & long-term papers were always done last minute and in a panic. As soon as I started driving myself to school, I was always in trouble for being late. I remember being so frustrated when people got mad at me for doing things that were "irresponsible" because I cared so much and was trying so hard! Couldn't they see that? Not everyone could. I did all these hard things like write excellent English papers (my favorite subject), so why couldn't I do "easy" things like be on time or remember important dates? If I cared, I'd just do it, right? 🙄
Oh and the nightmares? Yep, still about running late to class or not knowing which room my class is in. I'm 30.
makes me a bit sad and mad to watch this actually bc i do relate to some parts but since i was raised as a girl (with adhd) i developed an anxiety disorder pretty earlier on so i just froze (still do sometimes) in situations where i didn’t have what was expected of me and to avoid feeling this way i just anxiously forced myself to remember everything correctly. no wonder i was burned out in 11/12th grade and depression hit me in like 7th grade and still comes and goes :/ anyway great video eric!! i’m curious to see what comes next in this series!
This was so painfully to watch and I teared up when the teacher seemed at a loss as to how to help you. Thank you for sharing your very real, lived experience with us. Even though we don’t all have the same exact ADHD experiences, videos like this go a long way to show that we’re not alone in our struggles.
I can relate to this guys videos, I'm a lot like him in a lot of ways. So I subbed him.
This was amazing! So excited for this series! You're a natural at this.
Your series needs to be part of every teacher's handbook around the world and taught in every classroom. It would be a great way to elevate the understanding and, hopefully, compassion and empathy of fellow students as well as staff (and make the lives of those with ADHD a lot easier).
I was diagnosed with the combined type of ADHD spring of 2024 at age 62.
Also scored 100% probability of autism / neurodivergence on all the self-tests. I'm not up for going through the process of an official autism diagnosis.
Thank you for creating and sharing your wonderfully informative and entertaining videos! 💖🙋♀️
This means the world to me. Thank you! I'd love to know what getting a diagnosis has meant for you
I never managed to complete my homework or alternatively remember that I had any 🙈 I could pay attention to people speaking, but the moment there wasn't anything to focus on, I was lost to the world.
I never did either. Then in Junior High my school had an agenda book. Since I wasn't doing my homework, they thought I was forgetting my homework so I had to write down the homework assignments and get all of my teachers to sign it. Still didn't do my homework. Then they decided to give me detention for not doing my homework. My parents refused to agree to that.
Not once did anyone ask me why I wasn't doing my homework. I wasn't doing my homework because by the time I'd gotten home from school, I had had it. I was exhausted. School sucked. I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD until I was 30.
❤ I know that pain. Always thinking of everything else except what you were supposed to thinking of. This makes you wanna hug your former self. Hugs to anyone who needs it. 🕊️
My kiddo is combined and I watch you all the time. My heart breaks for him 😢
Every...single...one..applied...
I feel like growing up I was so socially anxious and scared of situations like these that it rarely showed outside. But I got so burned out for trying to compensate and ”not be found out” how incompeted i truly was. I remember so many times doing homework just before class or trying to reverse enginer answers because I didn’t pay attention to the explanations. 😢 looking back it would have been better to not pretend, maybe I would have gotten the help I actually needed
This comment hits home big time. I too had pretty severe social anxiety
Me: literally reaching for a pen irl
Eric: can I borrow a pen?
The most accurate summary of my experience so far. Only my classmates were laughing at me the whole time and the teacher was yelling. Yours was much more patient than mine.
Looking back it wasn't quite this bad, at least the people around cared about me. I had a friend who would try to help. I remember one time we had to find a newspaper headline that was a pun. She cut out two and handed me one as we walked into class knowing i wouldn't have one.
The acting is superb! I actually forgot that you were representing all three characters.
THIS IS SO ACCURATE. I have ADHD-C and getting diagnosed and medication changed my life! I never want to go back! But yes as a smart ADHD adult women who didn't get diagnosed until 21 since "I do fine in school" I struggled with all of these symptoms but I kept masking and hiding them. But nevertheless, I have severe ADHD. I would say this video is kind of an exaggeration but these things happen a lot. The thoughts in my head were so loud and distracting that I did not even process what was right in front of me, I do get distracted my own mind or external stimuli a ton, I am almost always late, I have poor time management skills, I at least 1-2 items every day or every other day for daily activities, I avoid tasks that require sustained mental effort/attention, and things with tons of directions literally take so much longer to finish than my neurotypical peers.
“Ms.Mooney Ms. Mooney” - omg certain classes I just couldn’t and those teachers would try and catch me not paying attention but I learned their game and made it fun I’m in the late woman diagnosed club
This is all me, and it makes me so sad. What makes it harder are people who thought I was making excuses or faking it when I finally got a diagnosis.
I think I'm going to have this kid if I have a son... I was a girl and very smart, so school was always too easy for me until I reached upper secondary school and university. I think boys must have it harder because their brain develops a bit later. So they're always in a more challenging class compared to their developmental age.
Omg, that was painful. I could deal in class as I was good at quickly putting things together and answering something mostly correct. But I always forgot homework, either that I had any to do, or to bring it to turn in. I struggled to concentrate. As a 50+ woman who was only recently diagnosed, I wish I could tell my younger self that it wasn’t all my fault.
Ok. This one made me cry.
As frustrated as they were by it, my parents and teachers weren't exactly hardasses about it, but I -was- am VERY hard on myself for this stuff. It doesn't help that I have antidepressant meds that I forget to take WAY too often... You know, because of ADHD. I had a science teacher in grades 3-5 who minored in psychology while taking her child education course. She, like me, was a huge nerd. So, with her joining forces with the school counselor, I became a subject of study on how to help and get through to kids like me. Because of how much of a nerd I am, they even shared and explained many of their notes with me. I loved it.
I wonder if I could be a Professional Lab Rat...
Oh man, that's really refreshing to hear! Makes me really happy to hear you had support!
I got diagnosed with ADHD in 2nd grade. This video was exactly me. And actually even now (I have a job for 9 years now)
So much relatable. Finally got diagnosed in my mid 30s
This is why if I have to review our homework I always give it to my friend cuz I will always zone out and miss almost everything 😅
Only 5 or 6 symptoms! Imagine!
Loving your content. This is too relatable. Could you please do a video/shorts series on how ADHD affects your mood? I'd love to see that covered one day
Consider it done!
@ :o thanks! Much appreciated!
This is very accurate, geeeze looks familiar 😊 . Helps a lot
That definitely was me in school and i was diagnosed when i was in school. But have been able to over come so of it to a certain extent.
But I bet like me, you put in a concentrated effort to pay attention to someone talking and have learned to catch yourself drifting off. The battle is still there, but you better know your enemy.
I have inattentive, and it was mild, I guess. I was diagnosed in my thirties. I lived in my head, daydreamed a lot, struggled to pay attention and often forgot things almost as soon as they were mentioned.
The interesting thing I learned about adhd, is that once a girl hits around the age of fourteen, the symptoms actually lessen; think of a light switch being toggled, but this lessening of symptoms doesn’t happen for boys.
This doesn’t mean that girls and women don’t require medication for it, or don’t have severe adhd, it’s just a neat I learned from the doctor.
Can you tell where you heard that the symptoms lessen when girls get to the age of 14? Just asking out of curiosity, because I have heard that ADHD symptoms usually start showing more when girls hit puberty because of the increased resposibility. I think I heard this from dr. K from Healthy gamer.
Oh shit I didn’t read your comment to the end where you said a doctor said this. My bad, talk about ADHD 😂
That's interesting, I need to look into that one! I know the notion that kids grow out of ADHD has been challenged and it's thought to be more a matter of the ADHD being expressed differently at different ages, but I haven't heard anything about what that looks like in boy v girls
@ my doctor told me that when I went in seeking a referral to a psychiatrist in order to be tested for adhd.
For the record, she was not saying that children grow out of adhd, nor is it possible to. She was saying that it presents and behaves differently in girls due to our brains having different chemistry changes than boys when we hit puberty, which is why it appears to lessen when girls become teens.
Another factor is that most girls who have adhd present as the inattentive type, meaning all the hyperactivity is isolated in the brain, whereas most boys with it present as hyperactive, a physical and very visible form that affects the entire body rather than just one area, and that typing difference also has a lot to do with it as well.
As soon as you started talking about misplacing items, everything else on the list was a check 😅
I hated it when my English teacher would get us to put our desks in a circle and take it in turns to read a Shakespeare play. I found it so boring and would zone out looking out the window so when it got to my turn I had to be told where we were at. Everyone else seemed ok at following along but me. Ugh that was over 40 years ago and it still is like a punch in the gut.
THE PEANUT ONE HAPPENED TO ME
It aas almost the exact same situation
Being in college is bringing out ALL of my combined ADHD symptoms. I just got diagnosed in May and I'm in my 3rd semester. 😢. I have come to the conclusion that shorter classes are better because they have now deadlines. Where regular 16 week semester classes have not now deadlines.
Glad you're figuring out what works best for you! That's a big deal.
I wish I had the strength and will to see a doctor but shrinks have screwed my life over so much when I was younger (making me lose 15 years due to stereotypes and shit...) that I don't trust the medical field of my country anymore (not US).
Understandable. Finding the right doctor can make a big difference in your life, but I complete understand your reluctance
I was diagnosed 21 years ago with what would now be ADHD-I. I still experience every symptom. It's been 12 years since I went off my meds because they no longer helped. I've meant to talk to my doctor about it so I can get a consult since then, but I forget to mention it every single time. I'm at the point where I basically can't hold a job because I've quit or been fired from every place locally that pays enough because I just can't focus on anything I'm not specifically interested in and at this point it's even hard to focus on things I'm really interested in. I've asked for help from friends and family, but they either don't think I need help and won't give it or aren't in a position to. Add on top of that being a closeted trans women and I just feel trapped at this point
I have ASD 2 and Combined ADHD along with multiple comorbidities received offical dual diagnosis last year at the tender age of 42. I knew I was different from age 3
I wish I would’ve been able to watch this when I was younger because I’ve always felt like I had ADHD but wasn’t 💯% sure now as an adult I know for sure that I have ADHD badly😢😢
I would end up being so mentally fried by the end of the day all I wanted to do was go home and sleep. I managed to pass highschool by the skin of my teeth since I never did my homework, but would do somewhat successfully on the tests even though homework was usually most of our grade. It sucked because at least in middle school the teachers would be prepared for at least three days or so in advance, so if you got sick, or something you could just call the office and get your homework, but in highschool we had a rule like that however it always fell through since teachers would only prepare for that day. It sucked.
Looks good mate
I somehow managed to do well in school, I suspect it was because back then class time was primarily copying down what the teacher wrote on the chalkboard, so I could focus on writing the notes. there wasn’t much listening. But on these criteria I would score 8/8, so do I win?!?!😅
Sounds like a win to me!
@@lifeactuator 🤣
Almost word for word what I had all through school and life and work. Lol I just realized I didn't finish my ADHD re diagnosis paperwork 🤦🏻 instead I have been writing poems all week 😂
Classic. lol
that may have seemed "extreme"? dude that was "extreme"ly MILD compared to some of the little memorybits many of us have... even just watching this, i couldnt stop thinking about those paper bookcovers they used to have us do for our books like that, i frickin LOVED the texture and sounds of those things, it blocked out the "noise" of all the text and marketing and legal credentials and crap all over the covers, do they still do that in school? i wanna cover all my books in paper hahaha.
I get distracted by internal stimuli actually 😂
Oh man that sounds wrong. I mean my thoughts distract me more than background noise
I was so exactly like this at school 😂
Ah hell naw, I've answered yes to all of them and do stuff like that almost on the daily basis 💀
Check…check….check…(was that a bird?🤔)…oh and check✅#diagnosed at 51,lucky me😁
Thank goodness you came back to the present when you did! I was about to stop watching because it was too uncomfortable 🙃
Perfect representation, sadly
Hugs
My experience is like this, but more kept to myself + I was able to better mask these symptoms and make it seem like ik what im doing. I think its also because I am a woman?
Also quick question- do I have to also display signs of hyperactivity to be diagnosed with adhd? Whenever I did tests I would always get full marks on the Inattentive part but only half marks on hyperactivity 😅
You don't need to get points for hyperactivity, in the past you may have received an ADD-diagnosis but nowadays they are both ADHD, with or without hyperactivity.
Bro I have all 8 listed
Would help If you put the symptoms up through the video as a well as at the end?!
I had them pop up to the side of the screen as they happened. Do you mean showing the full list with the specific symptom highlighted as they occur?
@ 😂🤦♀️ my bad! Didn't see them! 😂😂😂🤷🙄😆
In russia all medication except atomoxetin is illegal. Atomoxetin is not so powerful as stimulants and it's side effects are devastating for me. I'm 38 and still untreated
Is drawing a dragon on the school papers also a symptom? 🤔
7 / 8 bleh