i had to keep rewinding because i was constantly daydreaming and it took me like an hour to sit through the whole thing. probably because the information was kind of hard to understand and wasn’t really stimulating, but I knew this would be important for me to know and understand.
I have adhd and the shame you feel is soooo real! When I was younger I constantly beat my self up for not doing well in school. My teachers would always give me the “you’re so smart but you don’t apply yourself” line at least once a week. Later in life I started falling behind my peers and fell into a really bad depression and I contemplated suicide daily. Thankful I started hear about what adhd was and begged my mom to bring me to get check. When I got my diagnosis I cried for about 20 minutes. So much pain had been lifted off of my shoulder. Some time after that I start doing CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and that really help me. Now I’m in college studying to be a psychologist.
Wish you all the success 🥳🥳.... also (i know this should be in your checklist) do spread awareness to schools and stuff, so more kids like you would get help :D
@Mr.Furnichurch Heck yea! Me too, except nobody figured it out until I did at the age of 30, and now I'm working on becoming an electrical engineer :) Psychology would be my close second choice, sometimes I wish I was multiple people so I can live multiple lives and pursue everything I am interested in.
As a person with adhd my addictions is tied to not feeling bored. To others boring tasks are tolerable but for me I can’t STAND not being mentally stimulated. I can easy watch hours of RUclips videos and not get bored. But u ask me to sit quietly on a bus and your asking me to pull my teeth out with pliers. I’m currently working on learning to tolerate this because in a working environment I have to tolerate boring.
yes, this. 90% of the time when i smoke weed i don't even feel high or euphoric or anything, it just dulls the itch for a while. that's how i describe being sober, like my brain it itchy and feels wrong
This is normal. Many people prefer pain over boredom. This might be worse in ADHD people but it is also a possible way to improve ADHD. If you can handle your boredom you are done with adhd.
Because school isn’t a natural structure… we use a Germanic system and it statistically isn’t going to be for everyone. Not everybody likes the taste of apple pie, but there’s no where else to go. And a warning: Psychiatrist = physician = drug dealer.
Welp, that’s it. Booked a psychiatrist appointment. I can’t just throw away my gaming and weed I’ve been using daily without professional help. Thanks for a nudge
I was sober from weed for a year and loved it. My friend reintroduced it into my life a year ago and I’ve just given it up again. You will enjoy your life without it, but it is uncomfortable for the first little while. You can do it!
Hell ya bro, stoked for you. I booked my psyc appointment earlier this month as well. Therapist kept saying there is a high chance i have adhd. Sadly its a 6 month waitlist. Progress is progress
As someone who has ADHD I was addicted to literally anything I could imagine. playing video games, eating, not eating, jogging, watching TV, shopping, working, caffeine , toxic relationships and my latest addiction vaping I am addicted to nothing at the moment. I literally isolated myself and I don’t feel enjoyment by anything I was addicted to :) Instead I love getting my dopamine from healthy connections/ love, empathy, spending time in nature, resting, taking care of my appearance, soul and health, shaping my body and making memories with the people I love. Took me 3 years to get to this point
@@hollyallyson4111 Well I'm trying to do same if you have addictive personality get addicted to healthy things like working out, cooking food, try to sleep on time and wake up on same time. The challenging part is 6 months when you start. I did started with going to gym for 10 minutes and then took me a month of forcing myself to go to the gym no matter what and seeing others there got me motivated to do more than 10 min. Then started to count my water intake took me some time to remember that by getting notification to drink water lol. So Now I want to cook at home and eat regulary 3 times a day which sometimes I fail but I kinda force myself what helped me was meal prepping. I cook 2 kg of chicken breast and put it in fridge and everyday I just add salad or eggs and add some chicken breast in it or I cook rice and add my chicken breast in it. My sleep was better but one night of having fun with family it went back to the old habit and now I'm recovering from that. The only 2 habits that I will work on which is still the same is my smoking Cigarettes and decluttering and of course my so many unfinished projects from years like painting the kitchen which is half done since 2021 haha. It's a constant fight with my brain. The other habits are excessive use of social media and binge watching YT which I'm gonna just replace it with becoming workholic for sometime. SO the take away is that start small and push yourself until you make it, and don't feel bad if you failed keep doing until you succeed. I started going to gym from 2019 whole year went 3 months and 2020 went 5 months covid hit and then started at 2022 which I went 6 months and this year 2 months. Same with smoking i failed 5 times in the past 3 years lowest was 2 months without smoking and highest was 5 months and then I went with a friend she vaped and I tried and bam went back to smoking 3 months ago. Now I'm trying again hopefully to not see people who vape or smoke weed so I don't do it again because It's Just like I will try this one time and then next day let's try since I can stop whenever i want then back to my old self and when I want to stop is very difficult and I just go cold turkey because gradually is not something I can do when I have it I will smoke and when I'm with family I don't it's more like when I'm bored. Good luck BTW
The explanation of using IQ to compensate for ADHD resonates so much with me. I feel like every piece of information I need to process goes through this really long path where my brain turns it over and examines it in great detail until I *really understand it* before I can use it. Like I end up with an excellent understanding and can do a lot with it but it takes so much effort and I'm always that little bit slower at everything. Edit: To those who this really resonated with I've since been reliably informed that this is a very ASD thing (which I also have), so, ya know.
I think my experience in higher education has either been to rule things as useless and not attempt to fully understand them or explain to my professors and coworkers that I like to understand the importance of something before I start it. This way I can parse out what actually deserves my attention. Going to office hours and reading textbooks fully helps me understand things fully and not just the useful bits. It’s quite annoying but I feel like I end up understanding the practicality of concepts better than my classmates. Blessing and a curse
Holy crap you summed it up perfectly, there are always small parts of things that I need to understand perfectly before I can actually properly get something.
"Dispite having a high IQ, you suddenly suck at life." This is how my daughter knew she had ADHD by high school. Her diagnoses led me to realize my own and prompted me to get tested, too. Turns out the above statement calls us both out perfectly. I am so thankful for my amazingly intelligent children. The perception of one literally changed my life.
I can give advice that will change peoples lives for the better, yet I can't follow my own advice. Knowing what to do is completely divorced from actually doing it.
Funny thing is as someone with clinically diagnosed ADHD I could not concentrate on the part of the video where Dr. K explained why my brain couldn't concentrate.
@@mr.skeleton3190 I have an IQ of 115 and am currently in graduate school pursuing a masters in health related fields. I would suggest you learn how to take a joke and take your pseudoscience keyboard psychology elsewhere.
@@hiddengato Ignore this skeleton fool lmao. Find what interests you and pursue it with dedication. You're smart you just need to find what you're best at.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with health issues like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them but it's just hard to source out here.
I was having this constant and unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across Ted Winston, a very intelligent mycologist, He saved my life honestly.
General tip, as people with adhd likely know, bordem isn't just an uncomfortable feeling to many of us as seems to be the case with the general population. It's like an extremely negative emotion that heavily promotes commiting to self destructive behavior. I highly advise when you next get bored just try to meditate. Your ability to respond to things (I call it your stimulus response threshold) is too high and more pleasurable activities will only worsen it. You need to actively try to decrease this threshold so that you can once again respond to stimulus.
Pyroon is 100% right! Personally Bordem has a snowballing effect, not to get on morbid but in my working life, it just sucks all the motivation, I instantly become tired, my brain gets foggy, I understand we arent suppose to be thrilled and content all day. Just fills like im walking about with a led suit on everything is a struggle, just a means to an end try to get it done. Meanwhile you're looking for that next herbal medicine in my case, Kratom and Cannabis, you workout if you can, sleep is the sweet escape.
Dexedrine or Adderall has not been cure to my ADHD, however I'm experimented in downers(benzos, alcohol, psychedelic(lsd, shrooms), opioids RX fills, herbal medicines in U-opioid and GABAa binding antagonist (addicted to Kratom, too Kava and Phenibut. So yeah. I'm chemicals. God bless!!!!!!!
@@Christopher-pt1bm I took the same route and am dependent on opiates. They're evil stuff. My tolerance is rediculous. I had to use kratom as I couldnt get my normal drug and I needed around 100gs to not withdrawl. It was awful
Yep, I just stopped playing games as much and try to restrict overall screentime. In school I started actually writing in class and summarizing what the teachers say which puts me in the zone and makes the lesson much less boring. When the teacher is saying irrelevant things that dont interest me I turn to a book I bring to school. ADHD is only annoying and negative if you don’t know how to negate it (or worse don’t even know you have it).
One of the best ways I have found to minimize ADHD is to memorize something everyday by heart. It could be anything - a small passage ,poem,prose or a dialogue from a book. When you do this it activates those regions in brain that will keep you away from distraction caused by addiction which further fuels ADHD. Try it and see!
I remember teachers in primary school requesting us to do this , more to keep us interested in learning . This was in a 3rd world country that had a very good education system .
Right? His video about motivation blew my fricking mind and it explained why I dont feel motivated so often. That video helped me more than 20 other self improvement video before.
I've read a study once where ADHD was linked with multiple deficiencies and gut health. Personally having suffered my whole life and finally being in a good place, I strongly believe this. I've went through times where brain fog was crippling, I was clenching on every addiction that was coming my way and looking for dopamine everywhere, I was a smoker, a pothead and slightly obese. After going through a detox diet with multiple antioxidant foods and plenty of vitamins, it all went away, I felt like I was running at 10% my whole life and I was finally unleashed. People around me never understand why my diet is so specific, why I avoid processed food so much, why I give so much money to fruit and vegetables. My pothead friends think I am weird when I try to explain just how bad pot is for me. I am not doing it perfect, but I am getting better at it everyday. My main advice is, don't listen to anyone, find what feels right for you. Focus on your diet and do at least some form of exercise (doesn't need to be heavy, just enjoyable). I strongly believe ADHD is just another reaction/mutation to the diversion we've taken from our nature. Great video!
I was just diagnosed at 32 and I’m shocked at how many aspects of my personality I thought were unique are explained by ADHD. My entire life I’ve said “I have an addictive personality.” I eat way too much sugar and get addicted to video games easily so I have stayed away from alcohol, gambling, and recreational drugs. I’ve never drank alcohol or smoked because I know i have the potential to be an addict and have a history in my family of addicts. I don’t consider myself fortunate. But my instinct to stay away from addictive substances feels so justified right now and I’m grateful I listened to that part of myself telling me to be careful. Before this video I was sure that I was not impulsive. That was the one symptom of ADHD that I did not relate to. Because I’m not a risk taker. Turns out I just didn’t understand what impulsivity was. It looks like Im very impulsive.
@Scott T I did. I had just started seeing a therapist like a week before I saw this video. I strongly encourage you to seek help for yourself. It’s been the best thing that had ever happened to me because for the first time I don’t feel like a failure. I’m sure you’ve been called unmotivated or undisciplined or even lazy. To realize that my brain just works differently and that there are ways to help me. Well it’s really life changing. I was honestly at the end of my rope before getting help. I have an appointment in a month with a psychiatrist and I’m open to trying medication. As I mentioned I’ve been afraid of any kind of drug for fear of addiction but I’m going to try because I really need help. And I started taking melatonin because I’ve always struggled to get to bed on time and it’s actually been working for me. I still go to bed later (12) and still slip up some days but at least I’m not going to bed at 4am like I was before.
You’re so lucky dude. Never ever try those things for the first time especially knowing what you know about yourself. It’s one of the biggest mistakes you can make because then your sober baseline consciousness will never be enough for your brain no matter how long you stay away from the stuff. Kudos
Your story is almost word for word my story, finally went to a psychologist last week and got diagnosed at 32. I was worried about not being believed but she said there was no doubt, I fit the profile of an adult with ADD/ADHD. I stayed away from smoking and drugs and I don’t even buy certain junk food because i will literally eat it all in one sitting and make myself sick.
Oh that's why I keep telling my friends unknowingly like "Don't ever ask me to smoke or drink if they are having. Because I'm already addicted to Twitter since 4yrs ....my life has been ruined 😪
@@dr.weeniehutjr i mean weed and psychs could technically help or just be ok, since they are known to be not addictive and even help with things like addiction and thus have potential to help with ADHD.
There are many out there that are waaay better, more concise and better delivered. This Dr could organized his videos better, but instead, he writes small writing that nobody can read and speaks off the top of his mind. I’m always having to skip over so much just to get to the point
@@JustDisc I don't know if you've noticed, but this doctor is explaining it all on a live stream. So it's hard to talk about "organization of video" here, since he translates it in real time
I've smoked weed daily for about 14 years and only recently found that it isn't "helping" anymore. My appetite is non existent, I only sleep for an hour at a time and only for 3-5 hours a night [doesn't help that I work graveyard shift] and my mood is generally below average as well as my average anxiety is heightened. The dopamine blocking is 100% real and I only really noticed it recently. I'm 3 weeks sober and while I don't feel better, I know it's a good choice. I have to fight the urge to light up daily and I know even if I slip, I can still make progress. It doesn't make me a failure but that doesn't excuse it. I'm not sharing this for "atta boy's" or sympathy, I just hope that someone out there feels less alone or inspired to seek the changes they need. You got this, we got this.
The same thing regarding fighting "the urge", but I'm (only) a few years into my damaging alcohol use. Thank you for reinforcing my understanding; I'm not the only one dealing with this
I like the fact that you were repeating and reiterating much of the same information and advice multiple times. For many of the people who actually suffer from the issues that you are speaking about, repeating information over and over again is very important. I lost my train of thought many times while watching this video. I was unable to focus and pay attention to many parts of this video. That's why it's super helpful for you to repeat and reiterate. But you knew that already!!!!! Thank you sir.
Sorry that I was repeating and reiterating LOL . I know I used many of the same words over and over again. I just had to get my point across while I was focused on it..
I like this video because it reassured thats its not all my fault. But i dont think it's gonna change much either for me. I wanna share this with my parents but the chat is cringe.
That's called being human homie, Doctor K seems to have an odd understanding of what dopamine actually is. This becomes apparent when he brings up things like "dopamine fasting" Edit because my comments are all getting deleted, (Seemingly manually) There are plenty of highly reputable sources that have articles talking about how dopamine fasting is an ineffective fade, including Harvard which I will be quouting here: "You can’t “fast” from a naturally occurring brain chemical Dopamine is one of the body’s neurotransmitters, and is involved in our body’s system for reward, motivation, learning, and pleasure. While dopamine does rise in response to rewards or pleasurable activities, it doesn’t actually decrease when you avoid overstimulating activities, so a dopamine “fast” doesn’t actually lower your dopamine levels. Unfortunately, legions of people have misinterpreted the science, as well as the entire concept of a dopamine fast. People are viewing dopamine as if it was heroin or cocaine, and are fasting in the sense of giving themselves a “tolerance break” so that the pleasures of whatever they are depriving themselves of - food, sex, human contact - will be more intense or vivid when consumed again, believing that depleted dopamine stores will have replenished themselves. Sadly, it doesn’t work that way at all." I highly recommend reading the entire article, I'd link it but youtube might take it down as spam. It should be the first thing you find when you Google "does dopamine fasting work"
I grew up in foster care, always picked on, homeless, married a women who couldn’t accept my condition and completely took everything from me, I developed a substance abuse problem which seemed to get worse every time I spoke to her. I just kicked a 20 year marijuana abuse disorder. Now I’m a double major premed applying for nursing program this semester and beginning a degree in biochemistry next semester. The accomplishment I’m most proud of is that I was able to place our of college algebra into Calculus 2 (two math classes) I plan on applying for medical school and continuing my education to become an orthopedic surgeon 👨🏻⚕️
I was a ward of the state, too. I guess I really do need to get sober. Your experience reminds me of aspects of my own. Wishing you the best on your journey.
This is honestly how schools and education in general should be taught. Passionate people using what knowledge they have and sharing it with people who are interested in learning the subject. I honestly feel like I'm back in school, but it's not as boring or disinteresting as school. I'm learning about dopamine receptors and it's effect on addiction and ADHD. like what.
When this kind of education you described, meets a competent certification system that is flexible enough to support it... Imagine kids being able to choose their path based on what they wanna specialize in, in life, & as a consequence BE FULLY ENGAGED in what they're learning. People, we have plenty of Dharma to engage with.
@@elektrotehnik94 except most young people don’t know what they want to do or become… this is evidenced by how many college students change their major..
@@michaelgonzalez3523 Exactly. 1.) The more they are engaged, the faster they will figure out what works & what doesn't. 2.) The more the system is flexible, the more students can go towards where their time is well spent, fast & seamless.
@@pinonnut Im not diagnosed, but most likely ADHD. Pretty sure my childhood would have been a lot different if i wasn't fed a diet 80%+ of carbs... I don't blame my parents though, alot less access to information in those days.
I was treated for ADHD later in life. In my late 30's. I was a chronic pot user. After i started the stimulants for adhd i eventually became tired of smoking pot all the time. Im now 2 years sober. My life has never been better. Im able to do things such as study and focus like ive never been able to do before. Get help guys. Its worth it. Youre worth it.
same here! i'm 38 and just on the process of being diagnosed. i really believe i have it as eveything fits so well to how my life is... i'm really hoping stimulant medication helps, because i cannot see how i can get rid of pot.
Can I ask what treatment did you got , I been trying har to stop smoking and drinking on daily basis I manage to control alcohol for 2 weeks then something happens and I get back to drinking , smoking I can’t stop
I honestly think ADHD is one of the worst conditions you can have. Because it alters your whole experience of life into that of an addict in withdrawal.
Funny, lately I've been comparing my brain to that of an addict, the more I learn about ADHD. It's sadly an accurate way to put it. Also people thinking we use the condition "as an excuse to get drugs (namely adderall)" adds to the shame.
Happened to me and its depressing. i wish I would've known before and prevent that. I don't know how to get out of my addiction, i even went to rehab already. I gotta focus on my addiction now before taking care of my ADHD where the symptoms are getting worse the older I get. I am also in my twenties now and i'm gonna loose them to my mental health
@@RaveRaven227 I think people who have been addicted in the past who show a major commitment to change and have been sober for years deserve a chance at taking stimulant medication responsibly. The best way to do it is to find the smallest effective dose and only take it 3-4 days a week (either Mon-Wed-Fri or Mon-Tue-Thur-Fri, or depending on when you work/have school).
Im not an addict i have low dopamine levels. J need mg ritalin to function properly.i tried exercice, meditation, but i csnt focus and a random doc removed it saying i never had adhd after 15 years if being labeked bh 3 doctirs adhd. I feel like a zombie now. All caddra tssts positive. I am sad.i
is it wrong that I feel even more discouraged on hearing this? like yeah great tips and amazing explanation as usual, I’m sure it’ll work, but it still doesn’t change the fact that it still feels like we gotta work 10x harder than non-ADHD people to live a “normal” life in a society that heavily discriminates against ADHD people. yeah I know that’s how the cookie crumbles but. goddamn I wish it wasn’t so.
I don't think it's wrong to feel that way. Dr.K mentioned it would be hard but the thing about a long term solution is you gotta start somewhere. Sooner is better than later. Weeks or months or years later, you might find yourself watching this video or a similar video again, looking for the solution. You already know what will help but you never executed it. Fight the urge, man.
What people in the fitness arena have understood since the dawn of time is that unfortunately, for some people, some things simply are. There are people who have an easier time doing things like dieting and training, and people who, no matter what information you give them, no matter what inspiration or motivation you give them, will struggle with things like weight loss. It’s the same with neurological disorders. Some people are just wired to struggle with certain behaviors. I’m one of them. The best thing we can do is understand that reality, and then undertake the best, healthiest practices that we can sustain.
there is hope in this. you will find ways to use the sort of thinking associated with adhd that can be really beneficial. sort of how a mix of pessimism and optimism is the best way to deal with emotional problems, thinking with both an attentive and in-attentive mind can is the best way to solve practical problems. so being more aware of how your mind benefits you can make you think better about yourself and in turn reduce feelings of depression.
As an adult with pretty apparent ADHD (I was diagnosed as a child, I’m not self-diagnosing), I got myself hooked on physical activity. It was sports at first, and then weight lifting. I now believe strongly that my physical focus on training has helped me avoid developing substance and food addictions. If I had taken on a more sedentary lifestyle, I believe at my core that I’d be in a really bad place now.
As an adult who isn’t diagnosed but maybe could be, you got lucky dude. I did it backwards. I got fat from food addiction and then lost the weight from spending all of my money on weed for two years straight. Then I fell in love with the gym and now it really helps keep the other stuff in check. I very well could have ended up fat and high for the rest of my life and shortened it drastically as a result
@@dr.weeniehutjr it's been many, many years since I realized how bloody lucky I am. Not everyone gets the breaks I did. Now I try to help other people maintain healthy lifestyles.
@Gilgamesh4238 I started down the preworkout road and very quickly realized I was developing a reliance on them, so I quit. Still drink coffee, but 200 caffeine over the first few hours of each day isn't enough to have much physiological change.
51 years old, i can't identify enough with this video. Im finally beginning to understand myself and understand my life choices more ive always had what ive always justified to myself as managable addictions all my life from cigarettes at 11 to weed tramadol codiene speed cocaine pills sex my phone etc i got diagnosed with adhd last year. Thought i had everything figured out, but i hadn't. Had a breakdown last night as i realised i haven't had a day sober of one thing or another in the past 10 years. My adhd is spiralling out of control. I know i have to stop, so this is the start of my journey. Im going to follow the 5 steps so wish me luck. What an amazing and insightful video. Thank you
I love that you've started by explaining that ADHD is an executive function disorder. This is backed up by so many professionals and also matches the experience of everyone in my life who has ADHD, myself included
Same, It's been slowly pushing me to get it officially diagnosed since I never had the motivation to do it as a adult and didn't know i had it as a kid
@@zyraixrealm5746 yea, I've even applied for therapy because from watching the videos recently about it, has really shown me how many of these negative traits/things I do
@@zyraixrealm5746 Kinda the same, it’s really made me realize it’s something I’ve been living with my whole life. I always thought I could never have it because I was never really “hyperactive” in the traditional way we think about it. But I relate in to many ways to not at least seek treatment and proper diagnosis
@@tgutz7019 exactly and my parents didn't know better and thought it was normal. Also high likely my mom has it too and didn't know which made her sure it was normal
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
I’ve had ADD all my life. What’s been tough is watching my twin sister achieve any goal she ever wanted and have high level education and status while I’m just an ordinary person because of my disorder. After hearing this, I actually feel much better because I could have turned out way worse. I’ve never not had a job in 30 years and I’ve amassed a decent amount of wealth just being nobody that special. Not that money is everything, but I guess I’ve been pretty successful in spite of the deck I was dealt. It’s been really difficult all these years to stay focused and productive. I know the struggle very well.
@@U.s-epa What I mean by ordinary is I didn’t achieve some high level education and now I’m a professor at a university, successful lawyer, or a doctor, ect. I’m just an average Joe doing a redundant trade, nothing much to brag about. I could have been something far greater, but my inability to delay gratification led me to where I am. Some with my condition end up with drug and alcohol problems and can’t even hold a job, so I guess I’m lucky in that sense.
@@Golfing422 you're looking at it all wrong. The world wouldn't move without you man! There's no such thing as a generic trade and that's SO much more powerful than being in education etc. I have been where you are mentally thinking I'm no one etc. You are very special! What trade are you in if you don't mind asking? I have been working on motorcycles for over a decade and when the pandemic set in I said screw it and started my own shop. As a tradesman that really sets you ahead in your knowledge and skill, it's been absolutely eye opening not having rules and bosses. I make all of my own decisions (good and bad 🤔🤣) and it's far more rewarding than making an owner of a company money.
@@Golfing422as a stranger all the way from Croatia, who also has adhd I am proud of you although I do not even know you. Be easy on yourself and do not compare yourself to anyone, better or worse. Compare yourself only to what you were yesterday, rest is waisting your time. Don’t think that someone’s job title makes them any happier then someone who’s titles are not as loud as DR. LAWYER,NUCLEAR scientist ETC. Be grateful and satisfied what makes YOU HAPPY.
For years I used binge watching TV unknowingly as a coping mechanism to my adhd. 1. It’s a way to streamline my attention to one thing (feels great to only focus on one thing and not worry about getting lost in brain fog) 2. dopamin hits (i always found it impressive how other people could just stop watching after a while, while I found it sooooo hard (like physically)to stopz 3. On TV emotions are very clear, while outside of it it felt like a neutral numb blob. (I find it hard to indentify my own emotions and therefore deal with them) 4. TV was also my copying mechanism to deal with the shame of not being able to cope with life. I was aware of all those things to some extend. I just wasn’t really able to tie them together and wrap the adhd bow around it. Only after I got “sober” from my addiction (aka stopped watching tv), started meditation and mindfulness etc. because I craved a change, I realized: that yes, my symptoms got better in some ways but in others they just prevailed no matter how hard I tried or how “textbook” I went. And that there must be another explanation other than; U suck. It was so frustrating and exhausting to have so many structures and habits in place in order to just function “barely normal”. The car analagy hit me! I have now an official adhd diagnosis and starting medication. I
This is 100% me. Honestly, I've never heard of anyone else like this so I appreciate your post. It's such a huge problem. It's like another drug. I start making excuses like "I'm just a film geek", which is true, but that doesn't mean It's normal to avoid all of my responsibilities in front of the TV. Once I start I cant stop.
Great comment. In light of the fact that you appear to be using a real identity, I deeply respect the honesty. I am not against medication. But if you wish to get to the root cause of ADHD, I highly recommend a book called "Scattered Minds" by Gabor Maté. I wish you nothing but the best on your journey. You can do it!
been diagnosed since well very young. never got medication bcus it makes it worse. now i have no clue wtf to do bcus medication wont work. using my computer bcus of school but i love gaming so i easily get distracted. now iam ashamed i am so left behind with homework. now exams are coming up and am scared shitless.
“We don't rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.” ― Archilochus I was pothead for 4 years. Around my sophomore year of college, I decided to quit, and I succeeded. I also became a vegan and used my new lifestyle as means to control my impulses. I was still struggling like hell but my focus and clarity improved immensely. I slowly developed healthier coping skills. I was diagnosed with ADHD after I graduated college. I still smoke weed occasionally as a reward, but not to self-medicate. There is no easy way to treat ADHD but you gotta start somewhere and hold yourself accountable. Remember- "Progress over perfection."
@Robert Arnold Considering the journey they’ve been on, they’ll likely be fine Developing healthy coping mechanisms takes a lot of brain rewiring and usually the thing that makes us fall into addiction is a lack of healthy coping mechanisms, but she has them now.
Hey I just wanted to say that I did the EXACT same thing as you. Started at 16 stopped at 19 and was doing great with life and focused on my purpose. However 4 months later I am trapped again in this lack of will to live. It never goes away, just keep it in check, that was my mistake
ADHD has been a huge problem in my life. The boredom is very real. I’m a compulsive gambler, video game player, and smoker. I do not like to be alone in my thoughts. I struggle everyday. My substance abuse problem is the gambling and video games.
I'm super curious how the gambling and gaming intersect. Do they overlap? Do you play games with loot crates? Does that count as gambling in your brain? If so, what happens when you try to play a game without loot crates?
Dude I'm exactly the same way I'm 42 and I collect comics it's like getting high to me and once I love something I get overboard with it I have my life fe under control but it's very hard
I’m a GP in the UK and this video is so helpful and explains so much. I’m often sceptical of information on the internet but this make sense medically- and seems genuinely helpful. I agree that life is so hard for young people with ADHD as our world is so hectic now. Years ago when more people were working physically hard outside in nature, the ADHD symptoms would have been hardly noticed because our lifestyle was therapy in itself. Thanks for this video
When I worked as a nurse in acute-care behavioral health, we had endless young men on Adderall come through the unit, some of them having taken to snorting the drug and sometimes slipping into psychosis. One old physician would try to sell these men on working out and physical activity, claiming that it was the best antidote to poor executive function, not even a mask for it, really.
@@loafy7396this may sound dumb but you could write down what you want to talk about and just hand them the note. "I think i have X I have no idea how to talk about it Can i be tested?"
As a teen diagnosed with ADHD and Depression recently (a rare diagnosis given that I am from a 3rd world country who doesn't even give a dime about mental health), I am in a verge of tears as I go through Dr. K's explanation.
I had both, don't be discouraged. I just focused on learning all that i could and using that knowledge to better myself and my surroundings. Meditation can be anything too, i play a whole load of instruments and workout for my focus.
Just hearing someone say laziness or lack of motivation isn't the cause of videogame addiction has me rethinking so much! It's bizarre when these 'ah ha moments' can happen in life, but I'm so grateful for them! Thank you
Before watching the video, I would like to talk about being an addict for 23 years now, I was clean for 5 and a half years and I was also diagnosed with OCD and PTSD... I relapsed when I started taking meds for the OCD and ADD kicked into high gears... Meth makes me even, and Heroin kills my anxiety and pain. It's a constant strugle. Now I am clean for about a month and in therapy/rehab again, learning new copping skills and relieving all kind of shit once again with no numbing agent... I can vouch to anyone out there struggling with addicition, that its not a disease, it's a symptom.Therapy is the key to overcome it, nevermind the fall, focus on getting back to your feet any way possible and break the needle that wounds your body and soul. It can be done, it's hard, but not impossible...
Well done on getting clean, I hope you manage to keep it that way. I'm clean 6 years in June from crack and heroin. Luckily, I'd only been on them three and a half years and the fear if having my newborn child taken into care was enough to kick me into touch. I know for some people, after decades of drug use, it's not so simple. Even I struggled with adapting to real life again(something I couldn't cope well with to begin with!), plus crack addition absolutely mashed my dopamine receptors. No drug use, but my symptoms are definitely worse now.
After struggling with school and ADHD my whole life and constantly having to hear about it, I had never heard a good and detailed explanation of what was happening in my brain like this one. My days recently have been revolving around when I get to smoke weed. I always wondered why I couldn't maintain a healthy relationship with cannabis like so many of my friends have. This video gave me a lot of clarity, thank you!
I just found out I've been diagnosed with ADHD since I was 8. Father refused to medicate me because he thought it would make me dumb. I did poorly throughout middle school, coasted by in highschool. Did fine in my first college semester but dropped out after the third from the stress of procrastination. I've had a job for a while and have saved up to buy stuff for my hobbies, but I never end up doing anything. I bought a piano and software to make music, I have a drawing tablet for digital art, and yet I cant seem to get started on any of my hobbies because every day I spend my life on youtube. It's been like this for the last 4 years.
Well. Since childhood i have been on all the medication (starting in 2000 for preschool) and none of them worked after i got used to it so i still had issues in school. On top of that i was an emotional wreak the smallest thing would make me cry. Now as an adult who dropped out of school i feel like all the medication has dumbed my emotions down as a human. I am now watching my son go through my childhood as all these drs just want to medicate.
My best friend with a high level of ADHD died of a heroin overdose last year. I got diagnosed a few months ago and have been clean since. It is sad how there is so much still misunderstood about mental health / addicfion
I am so sorry. A lot of people I knew of ended up on heroin here (it's considered an 'epidemic' but are there resources like housing + utilities help? noooo.) Your friend was prob a good person. May their memory be a blessing. I'm glad you got dxed. it's a long road, but I believe in you. i see how hard it is to find reasons to recover, actual pathways to recovery. i don't give up hope. One slide back can be inevitable but start over. You've got this.
Having struggled with both adhd and substance use disorder my entire life, having just reached 2 years sober this presentation is seriously eye opening.
Dr. K. I literally started crying around 17:45, you understand what ive had my whole life...and noone ever diagnosed me with ADHD because i was well...brute forcing my way through...and now that im 29 i finally hit that wall where i cant even remotely keep up like i used to. Thank you for what you do.
I'm 44 and am only now starting to understand what's wrong with my brain. Bruteforcing my way through my very successful carreer let to a massive burnout that changed everything. Now I can't use the brute force mechanisms anymore, I need to learn to not push myself using existential fear and fear of shame. ADHD seems to be worse than ever before, but I'm gonna tackle that basta...d now that I recognised it.
Was going to make basically this comment at the same timestamp. It me. Not sure I've ever heard it described so relatably, and I was diagnosed over 10 years ago.
Dealing with PTSD from my time in the Marines on top of being ADHD and abusing weed and video games, dug a hole indeed for myself. well I been watching these videos and now I got a plan of attack. Already been seeking help through the VA as well. These videos have been giving me insight to myself and I have now recognized the true issues. Really like a light bulb 💡 going off. Thanks! Tough fight incoming. Overhauling my life will be a life journey probably.
same here brother (not a marine, just the issues) If I can do it, and I will, you definitely can, you were raised eating crayons I cant imagine how much more discipline you have than me
Thank you so much for this! I have struggled with adhd my whole life. I was first diagnosed at 8 years old, the medication helped a lot but it was not worth the terrible side effects. I self medicated a lot with weed in my early 20s, pretty much everyday for about 4 years. Just recently I decided to take my adhd seriously and began seeing a psychiatrist. She insists I have a comorbid anxiety disorder, which is why I self medicated with cannabis. I’m also a habitual coffee drinker since I was a teenager. (We love stimulants) The thing you said about how we have too many unfiltered thoughts….I could not relate more. This is why she INSISTS I have anxiety! But I’ve noticed when my adhd is being treated, I don’t feel the need so much to be so impulsive, do drugs or even smoke weed. I would guess a lot of my anxiety is caused by my lack of self efficacy, or self esteem since I struggle with relying on myself to do simple tasks unless it’s super last minute. I think my adhd symptoms were much better when I meditated everyday and I need to work on that along with finding a medication that works for me.
I feel hugged. I'm discovering I have ADHD in adulthood and this video felt like tough love. Especially the parts where he says it's an uphill battle, and that modern society preys on ADHD brains.
Sitting here bawling cause I never realized this. Ive always heard the dopamine. But the shame. The feeling of being stuck, while everyone else is moving forward. Thank you.
I found this video three months after being diagnosed with ADHD at 23 years old. My whole life had been one obstacle course after another until this last year. The diagnosis was a fucking lighting bolt that illuminated the last twenty years of my life. Three months on treatment and I feel much better. The stimulants don’t make me feel “high” like many other people I had known. I just felt, clear. I had a propensity to substance abuse, alcohol, then nicotine, the insane amounts of kratom. I managed to drop them all before this, and it actually wasn’t too difficult to stop drugs, it just sucked to feel like myself given the attention issues and constant racing thoughts and the incredible amount of boredom I felt 99% of the day. I’m so much happier now. Thank you doc for spreading the word. I wish I had found this sooner
Same, diagnosed at 25. My entire life I've always had issues. The adhd diagnosis is literally my life in textbook form. The meds have changed my life. I am able to think clearly, catch up with work and art. The best thing is it taught me to slow down and helped me see 'the other side'. Like normal people other side. Now I am trying to find other ways to function on days I don't take it because I know I can't rely on it forever.
That made my entire life make more sense. I was diagnosed with ADHD in the 90s but was told I would grow out of it. I've always struggled with being able to stay on task with basic things but use to play video games for hours and hours with no break in attention. So, that lead to getting whooped and punished. I've only recently realized that how everything was handled back then, effected me far more than I ever knew. Being in the VA system and trying to get help for ADHD feels just as difficult as back then (minus the physical abuse). Thank you for highlighting the root causes and helping me understand I shouldn't be ashamed. I've been learning to adjust my systems over the last year and my life has gotten so much better. I truly appreciate everyone out there helping to navigate this stuff. We've come a long way from getting beat for being distractible.
This was a tough watch, but I appreciate the hard truth. Over 6 years I’ve watched pot go from a Saturday indulgence, to a sleep aid, to a nightly recreation. It went from a fun indulgence to the only way I feel like I get a moment of respite from my brain. This is after many times in my life falling prey to destructive video game use, and a complete inability to use my phone in a way that doesn’t feel like it’s controlling me. It feels like an impossible hill to climb, but I can’t imagine letting myself fall deeper into this rut.
Just wanted to say this comment right here really resonated with me, I just turned 20 and I’ve been living on my own for the past 2 years and I feel like I really needed this hard truth, I’m current in the same situation as you where I smoke nightly and game at the same time, it feels like such a good release for my stress but I know now what I need to do to really de-stress normally
Just wanna say, as someone with severe ADHD through childhood into adulthood, that you can still be a functioning member of society without doing all of the advised by the doctor. Please don’t let yourself create shame about the fact you may not be doing all the remedies offered by the doctor. But, if you want to improve your daily mental status and all that comes with this, hear the doctor out. He isn’t trying to be a buzzkill, he’s tell it to you straight.
Exactly I do agree with this... you don't have to train yourself to be the neurotypical person necessarily. You just have to find a way to use your brain to an advantage.
Yes. If you think about it, ADHD is the ease of getting distracted and lack of self control, while addictions already make a person struggle with self regulation/control. 2 things that already are really rough on their own only get so much worse when together.@@schhonn87
@@schhonn87 yes bc now not only are you unable to function at a normal capacity but now you’re addicted to a substance that you can’t go without or else it’ll just make ur current symptoms worse
As I became an adult, I no longer struggled with hyperactivity. However, my inattentiveness is still through the roof and I’m always struggling to hold back cravings so when I learned the two are related I was like oh shit
Same. It's pointless to talk about inattentiveness, nobody can force me to put brainpower into something I'm not interested in and some cravings are manageable with a bit of time while others just eat me from the inside until I manage to forget about them
I can’t even begin to think what my life would have been like with a diagnosis at a young age. It’s a real grief. Crying again. Christ. Self medicated for years. Codependent relationships. A shit show on ice. Trying to get a diagnosis is a nightmare for me as an adult, exhausting and debilitating. Here’s hoping for a better life for us all. ❤️
I got it and then I didn’t like how the pills made me feel and started weed at 13 became a bad kid and my parents forgot about my mental illness and pretty much gave up and let me be a bad kid … even I almost forgot about it and now I’m 31 and trying to figure out why I can’t stop smoking weed and staring at my phone alll day and this video has shown me…. So being diagnosed sometimes doesn’t matter
You have described myself in its entirety. I used to do medication with alcohol myself because I didn't have control in my mind and that's how it turned into an addiction. I also had to keep drinking because after three days the depression was so bad that I had to drink again because I couldn't control my own depressive thoughts at all. I've been learning about ADHD since Friday and I asked my mom if she had a suspicion that I had ADHD And she said yes but she didn't want to get me tested because of the medication that is being administered. But I've continued my whole life with depression and low self-esteem because I felt like a failure and now I've come to know that it could be due to ADHD and I am 40 years old. I made an appointment with a psych neurologist to confirm it but I've been learning about ADHD on youtube and I'm 99% sure that I have ADHD. Thank you for your videos, I learned a lot
I have ADHD, im realizing it’s incredibly easy for me to fall into vices. At times its been alcohol, drugs, people, or just destructive behavior. Thank you for this
I came back here to say thank you to this man and this stream that watched when I was using. Something struck a nerve finally as I was at the end of my rope and just using to numb the pain. It's been 30 days clean and sober, I was able to get a better job because I could finally pass a drug test. It's still ot easy but it's a start and I was crying cause I had nothing to be proud of in Soo long and it took a damn RUclips video to finally say enough, thank you. It's a start of anew because I got so sick and tired of feeling sick and tired of having to start over.
Wow, I've fought ADHD and drug addiction for 20 years.. I started therapy a few months ago and was introduced to things like mindfulness, meditation, and CBT/DBT, and seeing this breakdown has given me such a clearer understanding of what I'm dealing with.. i resonated with 99.9% of what was said and will continue to seek out therapy to hopefully overcome my nasty addictions.. unfortunately it really is going to be an uphill battle for me, having fallen into a few years of opiate dependency on top of my more "casual" cannabis use.. I've always known getting sober was priority but it didn't sink in ever til after seeing this.
Big ups for DBT- I think a lot of people fail to realize the really severe emotional symptoms of adhd. High emotional sensitivity, emotion dysregulation , depression, anxiety, anger, rejection sensitivity, social issues, etc. DBT is great for managing the emotional side of ADHD.
Wise words, young man. As someone who has been through the full cycle of what you just discussed (minus the meditation), I can attest to the accuracy of what you're saying. You delivered the information in a matter of fact, honest, and non-judgmental way. Great work.
I drank a hell of a lot during my 20's... I'm kind of surprised I don't have permanent liver damage and didn't have to go through withdrawal to quit. After I found weed, I'd smoke it or have an edible at least once a day. I had to QUIT alcohol and cannabis to get anywhere with treatment for ADHD. "Cutting down" just didn't work for me. It's been about a month and I've been having good results. I got lucky because I didn't have to deal with withdrawals or pervasive cravings, I understand it will likely be more difficult for people who aren't as fortunate in that regard. I think one thing that doc doesn't touch on here is dealing with the ANGER you feel when you're quitting. I used to love trying different craft beers, learning about brewing, having emotional epiphanies while high, and sharing in the enjoyment of drugs with friends. It legitimately pissed me off to understand that I was straight-up born with a disorder that removes my ability to have those things and still function in life. The bitterness is real and that has to be dealt with too, else you can fall into depression and get some serious anger issues due to the constant irritability.
@@canine_coach Took me a bunch of times to get to the point I am now. I've quit for months in the past only to relapse later. I can't give any advice because I'm not a mental health professional, but the most important things are to keep trying and to try something different when you do try again
I've been raw dogging ADHD without drugs, alcohol, or dopamine crutches. I've lost my enjoyment of video games, my enjoyment of technology and all I do these days is sleep. I've only been drunk 3 times in the almost 30 years I've been alive. For me, you hit the shame aspect really hard. Imagine being saved by modern surgical technology at the age of 1 month, only to be such a failure. I honestly believe I shouldn't have been saved, maybe my parents would've tried having another child, one that they can actually be proud of.
I just want to say, the part starting at about 15:28 hit incredibly close to home and perfectly described what I've been going through my entire life. I thought I was just fundamentally broken and incapable of living a normal life. As an adult living on my own, I struggle so much with ordinary tasks that others do effortlessly. Basic tasks always seemed to take me 10 times as much effort as they did for everyone else. In HS, I was a high SAT score, low GPA student. In college, I was an avid participant in class discussions, but never quite produced the quality of written work I was capable of. I have so much shame about wasting my intelligence and just getting by in life. I haven't turned to drug abuse, but I have turned to other addictions as a coping mechanism. This whole time, I thought there was just something wrong with me in particular. I've been trying for years to get it together on my own and have failed and failed again. And I still haven't given up. But this video convinced me it's time to get help and see a real clinician. Thank you for giving me some hope.
My entire life has been a complete struggle and I was completely sober until around age 25. Ive been "self medicating" for about 8 years now and it's mostly manageable. I agree with you and do not want to rely on things like that forever. At least for the last few years of life i've found a glimmer of relief, even if it's only for a couple hours at a time. It really feels like I'm doomed either way, with or without the substances. It's really not any better for me being sober, it's just constant pain. I've practiced meditating my entire life, and sometimes I can just barely achieve control of my executive functioning. Generally the only way I've found that I can shut off all the noise for a minute is with help from the outside world. Another issue I'm facing is I'm financially not able to receive professional help. I'm literally stuck and my 20 dollar weed habit is the only thing I can really afford right now. So what do we do? Get help? Well, I can't afford it. Be sober? Then I'll literally get nothing done. Guess i'll just keep trying to "focusing on my breathing" and hope that anything changes within. But really, how does one expect an ADHD person to focus on meditating...? I just feel like there are no real answers here or anywhere. All we know is, it sucks for ADHD people but don't take substances unless they come from us and you pay us a ton of money. Amazing.
I know the feeling of „when i get sober i cant get anything done“ but thats just ur addiction brother! Believe me, after being sober for 4+ weeks you will realize that its actually easier to get things done, but onnthe way your brain will always trick you into thinking otherwise.. i know its really hard
Started crying for the first time in months at around 17-18 mins in, too real and it hurts to hear this feeling described accurately from someone else.
I am so happy I found this video. I'm a Computer Science major and I enrolled in 5 classes this semester and two of them had " no late submissions" which I overlooked. I bought a wax (THC) pen and have been smoking it damn near everyday. I realized that I missed so many due dates. I stopped going to school and would sometimes wake up early, hit the pen and play Overwatch for about 5 hours. After watching this video, just hearing that there is something I can do about my ADHD brain in relation to weed makes me feel a lot better. I don't feel bad for having to drop my of my classes, I am just happy to know that getting sober will change my life.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms. Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
I would like to know from those who have solved PTSD and anxiety, if they have solved it definitively and how to understand what quantity of psilocybin to take and when, for how long. And can you really heal without having an addiction? Thanks to everyone for helping me understand, I want to understand if it's something that can help me solve the problem (I have c-ptsd)
I’m a 32yo woman with inattentive ADHD and this really resonated with my phone addiction (particularly Instagram). I realized that for myself I have zero ability to just limit my time using Instagram because the dopamine-slot machine effect it has on my brain erases my self control. My only option was to quit it cold turkey and I’m so thankful that I at least know that about myself. I will occasionally relapse and go back on (and it’s especially difficult to go back off again because IG makes you wait a week before you can deactivate again) so I really try to limit that to a few times a year because it is so disruptive my life. I still struggle immensely with my ADHD but cutting out my addictions does help a lot and reduces a bit of the shame I feel.
My whole body went cold at the sudden realization of what I've been doing to myself the past year. I've never been diagnosed officially but I've always had my suspicions. Everything you said just made so much sense to me about my entire life. The first thing I'm doing once I get my medical insurance is getting tested.
This one might actually have changed my life. So much of this resonated with me. I'd like to hear more about how Dr. K feels about regular use of medications like vyvanse and adderall. In my experience they have helped TREMENDOUSLY, but they did nothing to address the SHAME that you discussed in this video. In high school I stopped taking the medicine, because I felt overwhelmingly ashamed for feeling like I had the upper hand over all my peers and that in reality I was a lot dumber than they were. Also I am disappointed by the fact that medication was the only treatment I was prescribed and when it's efficacy was wearing off, the response was to double my dosage. I see these medications the same way I've heard people like Jordan Peterson describe antidepressants: a excellent emergency intervention for someone who is at death's door, but not the ideal long-term solution. I also think that there is a lot of discussion about how long term stimulant use will damage brain chemistry, but I rarely hear people mention how years of feeling like you are worthless and falling short could also have serious ramifications. I'd love to see the research on something like that if it exists.
He just told you how he felt. The medication makes it worse over time according to these new studys. Yes they help at first, but they make it much worse over time. This study literally shows that your dopamine goes down over extended use.
ADHD medication is basically just a regulated version of meth. Of course anyone who takes a little bit is going to have tremendous cognitive benefits while it lasts, but over time the damage it does to your brain and body is not good, not to mention the potential for dependence and abuse.
@@darkjord5823 there isn’t a consensus on this one yet. Normal use for people with ADHD typically doesn’t have long term issues that are irreversible. Rarely like many medications it can cause paranoia but that’s an average side effect - which the doctor would recommend you stop. As long as you’re not doing a high dose all the time or over medicating most people live normal lives and find success with it.
Because school isn’t a natural structure… we use a Germanic system and it statistically isn’t going to be for everyone. Not everybody likes the taste of apple pie, but there’s no where else to go. And a warning: Psychiatrist = physician = drug dealer.
Diagnosed right before my 30th birthday, been reading up on ADHD ever since, but sometimes people like this pops up and summarises everything I've learned about myself so far in a half hour RUclips video. You're a saint for making all this information so available and easily digestible. ❤ Legend 😊
Thanks for explaining all of this. It makes so much sense. It’s very eye opening. Gonna share w/ my grown kids b/c I passed this lovely neurological disorder to them
Such a skilled presenter. Held my ADHD-brain’s focus the whole time! You have a knack for delivering complex info in an easily digestible way. Appreciate it!
I have ADHD, Asperger's, depression, anxiety, and I smoke weed everyday and play video games all the time, but I've learned to balance that with working a full time job and still managing to pay my bills. Yes, weed can make ADHD worse, but I'll take that over the negatives of everything else, especially since our society is going down the drain. I'm happier now, satisfied with a minimalist lifestyle facilitated by weed, than I have ever been in my life
I just don’t like smoking weed all the time as you just stop getting high. But I do have problems without it. And in my country it’s illegal so it sucks.
Prone to substance abuse IF unmedicated and no therapy! My neuropsych showed me a study showing that + that an ADHD person receiving treatment is less likely to engage in drug abuse! ~ I apologise if you mention that later in the video, I have ADHD
this makes so much sense. as a girl, I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD young because hyperactive type is more common in boys, and inattentive type can be just a kid thing. I was diagnosed 2 months ago at 16 after they thought I was bipolar or had BPD because of my impulsiveness. now looking back on it, I can definitely see all of the signs. I would forget things very easily as a kid and my teachers kept saying I was playing dumb when I genuinely forgot something. when I started smoking weed my freshman year of hs, my grades were fantastic. I ran away (impuslive) and was put into multiple psych wards because of severe depression. I later developed a pill addiction as well. now since being on medication and having a proper diagnosis I've been so much better. I can't be on stimulants because it messed up my bowels but I'm on a non stimulant atm.
I can believe this. I have adhd and major depression, alcohol and weed were my drugs of choice. The reason I used em wasn’t because I enjoyed it. I hate the feeling of drunkenness, but it was the best way to shut my brain up, stop overthinking everything and just act. It also shut up the inner monologues and constant self reflections, which were what led to depressive episodes. I overused way too much. So the question I have half way through… what’s the fix? Half way through and I feel like he’s talking directly to me… Finally reached the end and the solution is therapy? Oh great, yeah I’m already struggling enough in life, just got sober, and barely paying the bills, but yeah let’s just go pay someone more money than I can afford to tell me what I already know…
I definitely feel you on that. But I don’t think it’s just about you talking about it, it’s about receiving professional guidance towards supporting your personal needs. ADHD has a spectrum so it would benefit anyone to meet with someone who understands the spectrum as a whole and can better identify the needs specific to you. They may also prescribe you with ADHD medication which has shown to change peoples lives almost instantly. I have an appointment myself tomorrow and I’m honestly just excited to get some help. You should definitely at least schedule 1 and see how it goes. You don’t need to commit to spending thousands or anything. Just take it one step at a time. Praying for you 🙏🏾💯
I feel your comment I actually drink wine every night not because Im trying to get drunk I actually hate feeling drunk I feel alcohol slows my brain down and shuts my brain up.
@@energizermommy1 I don’t like the sensation of lag, or how my tongue won’t quite obey me. Slurring is annoying. I’m a very self aware drunk. Not fun, so I stuck to weed.
This is a great listen! I feel for everyone listening. I'm adult diagnosed at 53 and an addict. Plz plz do everything you can to learn to live with this. I'm taking councilling and went through the diagnosis through a Pshyoligist. There were several tests I had to go through and I'm Autistic with ADHD and complex trauma. I stopped drinking through AA and it was only after that I found out. There is literally a book in all of this! I'm with all of you and know your pain and confusion, but you can learn to live with it and really thrive! Peace to everyone and good luck!❤
oh my god... the "Shame" concept of feeling like you're "busted" really hit home. I've felt like I've been smart for years but struggled so hard in High School and at the jobs I've had in my adult life. Since I've been diagnosed with ADHD and I've been treating it with medication my entire life has turned around. I can't believe I waited until I was 30 to actually go and talk to a doctor about it. Please don't be like me - if you have the ability to go to a doctor, do it
I honestly rolled a joint while listening to him explain ADHD in such in-depth and very detailed information, I'm in my 30's and I can confirm I am impulsive, I am a heavy weed smoker since age 16-17 and I love video games.. and I also can relate about how I always feel like I can't compete with normal people and I have to "work" twice as hard because my brain wont shut up.. This video made me think deeply about my drug addiction it's actually the first time I used this phrase "Drug addiction" I came to realize now that maybe stop smoking weed can help me.. I tried all my life never quit smoking weed but this time I think I will try to stop smoking for a while.. I want my life to be better and I kinda "hate" being sober but I guess its for my own good... it's sad to think about not smoking weed at all.. but I know for fact.. I ain't quitting weed.. I just stop for a while to see whats up... if I remember this comment I will update if i managed to do it.. It's not going to be easy at all.. but worth a shot... Thank you for this video I really learnt about my condition.. countless therapy sessions as a kid no one had the time to explain to me how ADHD affects my brain and why I am so easily attracted to psychedelic durgs and weed.. wow I just realize many people could read this so please if you are going to comment please don't be afraid to open up it's free to share and might help you to lose some stress
I started binge eating when I was like 9 years old (I'm 17 now). I thought it was because of lack of attention by my parents and a bit too much freedom for me, but recently I've realised that I have binge eating issues. I even feel like I have certain ocd moments, where in the middle of an exam or a study session when I'm writing on the right side of a page, I'll have this NEED to suddenly scribble something in a particular manner on the left side as well, and even this has been an issue for a while. I also have very bad memory issues, like I don't remember like 60-70% of my childhood even till now. I've been trying to figure out what's wrong with me and what happened to this "gifted" kid. I don't want to self diagnose but adhd really sounds similar to my behaviours.
Even when there are zero distractions at school, I still can’t focus- somehow I decide it’s easier to sit and act like I’m doing work than to just do it.
just got diagnosed yesterday, at 36, (after over 10 sessions of tests and background analysis). I'd also add sex/porn compulsion as a coping mechanism that can be very harmful (distorted perception of human interactions, "suicidal-levels" exposure to disease, increased frustration, and many other negative developments).
BRO LITERALLY, SAME. Porn/sex addiction, weed, video games, all the time. I would smoke weed so much that I would green out and start puking uncontrollably. Working with a therapist now to try and manage all this.
Porn and sex and the video games has been poisoning my adhd brain for YEARS now. I’m slowing drawing back the games. The porn and sex addiction is insane though, didn’t know it had to do with my adhd 😢
@@belro17 common sense and experience is my source Damaged/Tolerant dopamine receptors due to high and/or frequent dopamine spikes lower our baseline levels of dopamine which is responsible for us feeling good and motivation All you need to do is quit an addiction and you'll see how desperate your mind becomes for dopamine.. you'll jump from thing to thing, whatever feels better In the moment because otherwise there is suffering with withdrawal In order to heal the damaged receptors the body has to go through the withdrawal symptoms When the receptors are sensitive again then it's very easy to get joy from things.. theres a reason why there is so much depression and adhd today and it's because of our addiction to technology. And there's a reason why monks don't use phones and watch TV ect
This was such a helpful topic. As someone who has struggled with addiction for a very long time, over this last year I have been piecing together what makes it so difficult to manage. With videos like this I feel I am able to get one step closer
I don't know how to thank you. I finally understand myself. As a child I was showing signs of high IQ. The teachers suggested having my IQ tested. I tested at 143 or 147 (I can't remember). I was put in advanced classes where I didn't perform as well as my IQ suggested. Overtime, I got bored & my thoughts would bouce around. I ended up quitting high school. I didn't fail out. I just didn't want to go anymore. As the years passed I became disappointed with where I was in life. I knew I should've been in a better position. Throughout high school I was drinking daily & smoking as much pot as I could afford. I was in the right place at the right time and landed in a career that supported all my needs. Over the years I bounced from addiction to addiction. After an accident I became hooked on pain killers. I ended up broke & homeless. In the end I thought I was too far gone to be helped. So I thought I had to kill it (my monster) to get it to leave me alone. I failed, luckily. Now I have been clean going on 9 years. However I am still very hard on myself about where I am. I struggle with life deep down inside more than anyone knows. I feel I should be much further ahead of where I am. I still have the same problems & I'm miserable, but now I am not self medicating. I feel I am just suffering. After watching this video (that I came across while being distracted from my job) I feel I have a greater understanding of why. I have decided to seek a dual diagnostic clinician. Maybe now at 54 years old, I can finally get my life in order. Maybe there's still enough time left that I can enjoy life. So, thank you Dr K!!!
Never have i felt someone hit the nail more on the head than you have...I have had these issues and now are all coming to light. ive known i needed help and have had help but not the correct one. Thank you for your guide and help!
I was heavily contemplating seeing a therapist (for 6-12 months) just to confirm I'm as okay as I feel. I have adhd and also have substance addiction to pot and nic. From kindergarten to the start of my 6th grade, I had been on several different medications for adhd. After 6 years I decided I didnt like the pill and I dedicated the following 6 years to willpowering myself through education. I wouldnt say I ever had a good amount of dopamine growing up in a very "high expectations" kinda household and also having very low confidence from 6 years of ostracism imposed on me by my teachers plus bullying for my ginger hair. So going into middle school with no chemical buffer was extremely challenging. But my mom had this hippie friend who told me to try meditation, so I started meditating 3-5 times a week. After I got out of 8th grade, I was perfectly capable controlling my impulses but intrusive thoughts became more provocative and having dealt with the loss of my father at 14, I fell into a depression lasting a few months until an incident at school which lead me to put a loaded gun against my head. I saw myself in the mirror and realised it was my mom's pink hand grip gun and I just started laughing, and I snapped out of it. I began meditating again, got with gf steady for 2 years. Its was during those two years I would try pot for the first time. It finally cleared my head. I was able to think on anything I wanted to think about and I could maintain it without any interruption. So I decided that I tried pharmaceutical medication for 6 years. I took a break for 6 years. So now I'm going to see how 6 years of (on and off) pot use will leave me. After the 6th year ends, I'll do another 6 years of raw dogging life with no chemical buffer to see what truly was the best option. As of today, I work a job I enjoy, I have someone I'm interested in romantically (its mutual), I make enough money to be comfortable and I still practice meditation and detox periods. I feel both happy and content, but I just want a professional opinion and analysis of who I am so I can be more certain of who I think I am. At the end of it all, i think i have an identity problem if anything.
I just want to say thank you, my therapist recently suggested I have ADHD inattentive type and I’ve been obsessively watching your videos and they’ve really helped me understand myself and not feel as bad about myself.
thanks for this video ! clearly explained what is ADHD all about in simple terms . 1)self medication often leads to self sabotage but if ADHD person manages to beat addiction strong emotional stress can destroy progress an 2) when we resist all kind of harm things people looks us like wired beings who dont have emotions and dont love fun/or we ar extremally boring that separete us from them . separation and strong emotions together makes almost impossible to fully recover and live fulfilling life .
The weird thing about giving stimulants to kids with ADHD was that a couple of times in college I tried methamphetamine like an idiot and everybody else was incredibly hyper and all I wanted to do was melt into the couch and not do anything
I find cocaine, which has been the go to life ruiner for me ( as well as alcohol cigarettes and weed ) was the #1 choice . Andnsame effects. I can formulate my thoughts it kinda quiets my brain . Accept my emotions. But the side effects suck and make it worse . Methamphetamine was a line i always said I wouldn't cross and when I did Holy crap . Lazer focus . Honestly scared me into looking deeper into this adult adhd stuff. And it's making my.whole life make so much more sense.
Prescribing stimulants to children should be punishable by hard labor. Big pharma created an entire generation of addicts for no other reason than to line their pockets. Cognitive behavioral therapy is shown to be just as effective as Adderall and doesn't cause irreversible brain damage.
@@bperez8656 When I was younger, I remember Ritalin highs making me feel swings of moods and emotion. I had two divorced parents and one wanted me on it and the other did not. So I was put on and taken off the medication several times. Which I remember being taken off having a a very difficult time and going through feelings of sadness and possibly depression as young as 8 years old. Can recount multiple times just randomly crying in class and the other kids all confused why. As I got into my later teen years and early adulthood I became heavily dependent on smoking weed to relax and control my temperaments. I was started on Adderall at some point by a psychiatrist with a mood stabilizer and the pot smoking became almost nonexistent for a long time naturally on its own. I believe the Adderall was replacing the dopamine my body doesn't know how to release cause it was so funked by taking Ritalin as a kid. Not cause I was ADHD. I take XR and since I started I've never been more emotionally stable and productive than ever. From my personal experience, I think it is possible taking these stimulant type drugs at a young age can actually increase the likelihood you will need similar drugs as an adult just to be able to function lol. I'm anti Ritalin at this point, at least in young kids. But as an adult no complaints about Adderall. Never felt the desire to abuse it and have a heart attack and helps me stay focused on my tasks and even puts me consistently in a postitive mood throughout the day.
I passed over this a while back but decided that since I was taking a tolerance break from weed id give it a look. I almost cried watching this, I've always thought that I had a problem with weed but after listening to you I realize how negative the impact has been on me and how I've spiralled so much since starting after the last break I had from weed. Thank you
By the way, you posted this at the perfect time. I've never struggled with my ADHD the way I have these past few months and this gave me a lot of desperately needed insight. Thank you Dr.K
@@Coldfront-sg3tt Rather than trying to compare the suffering of two different groups, maybe try recognize that everyone has different struggles and that doesn't make them invalid. Sure, I don't have brain cancer but does that mean I don't deserve help or to better understand myself. Just something to chew on. Calling others "sheltered kids" is just a way to distance yourself from them. I hope you can understand but it's okay if you don't.
I'm so glad that I was diagnosed with ADHD early in my life, and that it was pretty mild in its symptoms. I believe that's why I've never seen it as a problem and openly discuss that I have it. I feel bad for those that aren't diagnosed and just think that they are dumb, when they aren't they're just wired different.
Shoutout to all of us with ADHD that paid attention to the entire 35 minute discussion
I paid attention to the entire video, but I kept hopping out and going to other apps for a short second
Me watching the video
Him: *discussing ADHD*
My brain: “Yup missed that going to rewind 15 seconds until I remember where I trailed off and relisten.”
i had to keep rewinding because i was constantly daydreaming and it took me like an hour to sit through the whole thing. probably because the information was kind of hard to understand and wasn’t really stimulating, but I knew this would be important for me to know and understand.
i looked up a million different things during this, google is terrible for me
@@combobreaker449 THIS IS ME ATM
i have rewound like 15 times. cant help myself from doing other stuff whilst listening.
I have adhd and the shame you feel is soooo real! When I was younger I constantly beat my self up for not doing well in school. My teachers would always give me the “you’re so smart but you don’t apply yourself” line at least once a week. Later in life I started falling behind my peers and fell into a really bad depression and I contemplated suicide daily. Thankful I started hear about what adhd was and begged my mom to bring me to get check. When I got my diagnosis I cried for about 20 minutes. So much pain had been lifted off of my shoulder. Some time after that I start doing CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and that really help me. Now I’m in college studying to be a psychologist.
Oh my god…
From the parents “it’d be different if you were stupid, but I know you are smart and aren’t trying”
@@Kambra putting that much weight on homework and allowing smart kids to fail because teachers are lazy and “need grades” is CRIMINAL
In what way did CBT help? I’m really curious for personal reasons.
Wish you all the success 🥳🥳.... also (i know this should be in your checklist) do spread awareness to schools and stuff, so more kids like you would get help :D
@Mr.Furnichurch Heck yea! Me too, except nobody figured it out until I did at the age of 30, and now I'm working on becoming an electrical engineer :) Psychology would be my close second choice, sometimes I wish I was multiple people so I can live multiple lives and pursue everything I am interested in.
As a person with adhd my addictions is tied to not feeling bored. To others boring tasks are tolerable but for me I can’t STAND not being mentally stimulated. I can easy watch hours of RUclips videos and not get bored. But u ask me to sit quietly on a bus and your asking me to pull my teeth out with pliers. I’m currently working on learning to tolerate this because in a working environment I have to tolerate boring.
The dull pain of existence. That's what I call it personally.
yes, this. 90% of the time when i smoke weed i don't even feel high or euphoric or anything, it just dulls the itch for a while. that's how i describe being sober, like my brain it itchy and feels wrong
meditate, it helps with everything
This is normal. Many people prefer pain over boredom. This might be worse in ADHD people but it is also a possible way to improve ADHD. If you can handle your boredom you are done with adhd.
@@NumbSchiller if only. You can't fight biology.
My take away from this is I’m just better at being intoxicated than others.
name checks out.
😂😂😂
lol! That's one way of looking at it!
@@shawnmendrek3544 what? I made this account as a sober preteen.
@@WhiplashBunny was just a joke
"Youre so smart why dont you apply yourself."
I heard that every week for my entire childhood
Story of my fucking life
@@anthonyhutchins2300 fucking same bro
Dr Berg healthy keto helped my ADHD 10X better than any medication, & depression too. It’s diet related!
Because school isn’t a natural structure… we use a Germanic system and it statistically isn’t going to be for everyone. Not everybody likes the taste of apple pie, but there’s no where else to go. And a warning: Psychiatrist = physician = drug dealer.
id have mental breakdowns because i knew i wasnt stupid but evryone told me to try and i didnt know what they were saying
Welp, that’s it. Booked a psychiatrist appointment. I can’t just throw away my gaming and weed I’ve been using daily without professional help. Thanks for a nudge
I was sober from weed for a year and loved it. My friend reintroduced it into my life a year ago and I’ve just given it up again. You will enjoy your life without it, but it is uncomfortable for the first little while. You can do it!
Hell ya bro, stoked for you. I booked my psyc appointment earlier this month as well. Therapist kept saying there is a high chance i have adhd. Sadly its a 6 month waitlist. Progress is progress
@@nicethaddy5955 thanks 🙏 ill def check it out, not sure as i am based in canada. I get it free if i dont mind the wait.
weed and gaming gang wya
@@canine_coach playing games
As someone who has ADHD I was addicted to literally anything I could imagine. playing video games, eating, not eating, jogging, watching TV, shopping, working, caffeine , toxic relationships and my latest addiction vaping I am addicted to nothing at the moment. I literally isolated myself and I don’t feel enjoyment by anything I was addicted to :)
Instead I love getting my dopamine from healthy connections/ love, empathy, spending time in nature, resting, taking care of my appearance, soul and health, shaping my body and making memories with the people I love. Took me 3 years to get to this point
Can you elaborate on how you got to where you're at today? How did you switch to healthy habits?
Same
@@hollyallyson4111 Well I'm trying to do same if you have addictive personality get addicted to healthy things like working out, cooking food, try to sleep on time and wake up on same time. The challenging part is 6 months when you start. I did started with going to gym for 10 minutes and then took me a month of forcing myself to go to the gym no matter what and seeing others there got me motivated to do more than 10 min. Then started to count my water intake took me some time to remember that by getting notification to drink water lol. So Now I want to cook at home and eat regulary 3 times a day which sometimes I fail but I kinda force myself what helped me was meal prepping. I cook 2 kg of chicken breast and put it in fridge and everyday I just add salad or eggs and add some chicken breast in it or I cook rice and add my chicken breast in it. My sleep was better but one night of having fun with family it went back to the old habit and now I'm recovering from that. The only 2 habits that I will work on which is still the same is my smoking Cigarettes and decluttering and of course my so many unfinished projects from years like painting the kitchen which is half done since 2021 haha. It's a constant fight with my brain. The other habits are excessive use of social media and binge watching YT which I'm gonna just replace it with becoming workholic for sometime. SO the take away is that start small and push yourself until you make it, and don't feel bad if you failed keep doing until you succeed. I started going to gym from 2019 whole year went 3 months and 2020 went 5 months covid hit and then started at 2022 which I went 6 months and this year 2 months. Same with smoking i failed 5 times in the past 3 years lowest was 2 months without smoking and highest was 5 months and then I went with a friend she vaped and I tried and bam went back to smoking 3 months ago. Now I'm trying again hopefully to not see people who vape or smoke weed so I don't do it again because It's Just like I will try this one time and then next day let's try since I can stop whenever i want then back to my old self and when I want to stop is very difficult and I just go cold turkey because gradually is not something I can do when I have it I will smoke and when I'm with family I don't it's more like when I'm bored. Good luck BTW
Nice new addiction bro
... So what you're saying is that I should probably ease off on getting into the rave scene.
my adhd is telling me to skip the video and find something to watch. but we must stay focused my brothers
Lmao. No cap. I’m like Get to the point already
Literally 😭
Goodness I’m trying 🤦🏾♂️
Im trying hard
haha thanks for the reinforcement. not skipping.
The explanation of using IQ to compensate for ADHD resonates so much with me. I feel like every piece of information I need to process goes through this really long path where my brain turns it over and examines it in great detail until I *really understand it* before I can use it. Like I end up with an excellent understanding and can do a lot with it but it takes so much effort and I'm always that little bit slower at everything.
Edit: To those who this really resonated with I've since been reliably informed that this is a very ASD thing (which I also have), so, ya know.
I always wished there was a sort of special education growing up for people who learn like me and you ❤
Oh my god someone finally put it into words
I think my experience in higher education has either been to rule things as useless and not attempt to fully understand them or explain to my professors and coworkers that I like to understand the importance of something before I start it.
This way I can parse out what actually deserves my attention. Going to office hours and reading textbooks fully helps me understand things fully and not just the useful bits. It’s quite annoying but I feel like I end up understanding the practicality of concepts better than my classmates. Blessing and a curse
Holy crap you summed it up perfectly, there are always small parts of things that I need to understand perfectly before I can actually properly get something.
@@theleviathan7546 my thought exactly! holy shit
"Dispite having a high IQ, you suddenly suck at life." This is how my daughter knew she had ADHD by high school. Her diagnoses led me to realize my own and prompted me to get tested, too. Turns out the above statement calls us both out perfectly. I am so thankful for my amazingly intelligent children. The perception of one literally changed my life.
That's just incredible
Despite
@@user-deeznutzs thank you. Silly mistakes and ADHD... joy.
@@mudandglitter1609 I hate to be the grammar police but it was the first word I couldn’t help it
I can give advice that will change peoples lives for the better, yet I can't follow my own advice.
Knowing what to do is completely divorced from actually doing it.
Funny thing is as someone with clinically diagnosed ADHD I could not concentrate on the part of the video where Dr. K explained why my brain couldn't concentrate.
i have to watch this in parts
I had to play diablo with this in the background lmao
@@mr.skeleton3190 Intelligence is not genetic 😹
@@mr.skeleton3190 I have an IQ of 115 and am currently in graduate school pursuing a masters in health related fields. I would suggest you learn how to take a joke and take your pseudoscience keyboard psychology elsewhere.
@@hiddengato Ignore this skeleton fool lmao. Find what interests you and pursue it with dedication. You're smart you just need to find what you're best at.
Psychedelics are just an amazing discovery. It's quite fascinating how effective they are for depression and stress..saved my life.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with health issues like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them but it's just hard to source out here.
I'm feeling the same way too. I put so much on my plate and it definitelv affects mv stress and anxietv levels
I was having this constant and unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across Ted Winston, a very intelligent mycologist, He saved my life honestly.
HE’S MOSTLY ON TELEGRAM , USING THE USERNAME
Tedwinston2
General tip, as people with adhd likely know, bordem isn't just an uncomfortable feeling to many of us as seems to be the case with the general population. It's like an extremely negative emotion that heavily promotes commiting to self destructive behavior.
I highly advise when you next get bored just try to meditate. Your ability to respond to things (I call it your stimulus response threshold) is too high and more pleasurable activities will only worsen it. You need to actively try to decrease this threshold so that you can once again respond to stimulus.
Pyroon is 100% right! Personally Bordem has a snowballing effect, not to get on morbid but in my working life, it just sucks all the motivation, I instantly become tired, my brain gets foggy, I understand we arent suppose to be thrilled and content all day. Just fills like im walking about with a led suit on everything is a struggle, just a means to an end try to get it done. Meanwhile you're looking for that next herbal medicine in my case, Kratom and Cannabis, you workout if you can, sleep is the sweet escape.
Dexedrine or Adderall has not been cure to my ADHD, however I'm experimented in downers(benzos, alcohol, psychedelic(lsd, shrooms), opioids RX fills, herbal medicines in U-opioid and GABAa binding antagonist (addicted to Kratom, too Kava and Phenibut.
So yeah. I'm chemicals.
God bless!!!!!!!
Thanks for the advice
@@Christopher-pt1bm I took the same route and am dependent on opiates. They're evil stuff. My tolerance is rediculous. I had to use kratom as I couldnt get my normal drug and I needed around 100gs to not withdrawl. It was awful
Yep, I just stopped playing games as much and try to restrict overall screentime.
In school I started actually writing in class and summarizing what the teachers say which puts me in the zone and makes the lesson much less boring. When the teacher is saying irrelevant things that dont interest me I turn to a book I bring to school. ADHD is only annoying and negative if you don’t know how to negate it (or worse don’t even know you have it).
One of the best ways I have found to minimize ADHD is to memorize something everyday by heart. It could be anything - a small passage ,poem,prose or a dialogue from a book. When you do this it activates those regions in brain that will keep you away from distraction caused by addiction which further fuels ADHD. Try it and see!
I remember teachers in primary school requesting us to do this , more to keep us interested in learning . This was in a 3rd world country that had a very good education system .
"(a +b)^2 = a^2 + 2ab + b^2"
Yup long form dopamine reward
ill keep it up for a week before i wake up and forget i even did the challenge
@@carrythecoyo3141ha!
I love that you’re basically providing high quality education for free.
Right this might as well be a lecture
Right? His video about motivation blew my fricking mind and it explained why I dont feel motivated so often. That video helped me more than 20 other self improvement video before.
@@realglutenfree yeah for me it’s something about truly understanding how the process works helps me out the most
I went to 6 psychiatrist appointments, I got more out of this video then all of those combined, mf was speaking to me swear to God
That's someone who cares cause lots of us are broke but want help or at least to understand
I've read a study once where ADHD was linked with multiple deficiencies and gut health. Personally having suffered my whole life and finally being in a good place, I strongly believe this. I've went through times where brain fog was crippling, I was clenching on every addiction that was coming my way and looking for dopamine everywhere, I was a smoker, a pothead and slightly obese. After going through a detox diet with multiple antioxidant foods and plenty of vitamins, it all went away, I felt like I was running at 10% my whole life and I was finally unleashed.
People around me never understand why my diet is so specific, why I avoid processed food so much, why I give so much money to fruit and vegetables. My pothead friends think I am weird when I try to explain just how bad pot is for me. I am not doing it perfect, but I am getting better at it everyday.
My main advice is, don't listen to anyone, find what feels right for you. Focus on your diet and do at least some form of exercise (doesn't need to be heavy, just enjoyable). I strongly believe ADHD is just another reaction/mutation to the diversion we've taken from our nature.
Great video!
Thank you for mentioning nutrition. It's helped me realise why I am so addicted to sugar and processed foods.
Adhd is definitely natural. Perhaps exasperated in our modern state
I was just diagnosed at 32 and I’m shocked at how many aspects of my personality I thought were unique are explained by ADHD. My entire life I’ve said “I have an addictive personality.” I eat way too much sugar and get addicted to video games easily so I have stayed away from alcohol, gambling, and recreational drugs. I’ve never drank alcohol or smoked because I know i have the potential to be an addict and have a history in my family of addicts. I don’t consider myself fortunate. But my instinct to stay away from addictive substances feels so justified right now and I’m grateful I listened to that part of myself telling me to be careful.
Before this video I was sure that I was not impulsive. That was the one symptom of ADHD that I did not relate to. Because I’m not a risk taker. Turns out I just didn’t understand what impulsivity was. It looks like Im very impulsive.
@Scott T I did. I had just started seeing a therapist like a week before I saw this video. I strongly encourage you to seek help for yourself. It’s been the best thing that had ever happened to me because for the first time I don’t feel like a failure. I’m sure you’ve been called unmotivated or undisciplined or even lazy. To realize that my brain just works differently and that there are ways to help me. Well it’s really life changing. I was honestly at the end of my rope before getting help. I have an appointment in a month with a psychiatrist and I’m open to trying medication. As I mentioned I’ve been afraid of any kind of drug for fear of addiction but I’m going to try because I really need help.
And I started taking melatonin because I’ve always struggled to get to bed on time and it’s actually been working for me. I still go to bed later (12) and still slip up some days but at least I’m not going to bed at 4am like I was before.
You’re so lucky dude. Never ever try those things for the first time especially knowing what you know about yourself. It’s one of the biggest mistakes you can make because then your sober baseline consciousness will never be enough for your brain no matter how long you stay away from the stuff. Kudos
Your story is almost word for word my story, finally went to a psychologist last week and got diagnosed at 32. I was worried about not being believed but she said there was no doubt, I fit the profile of an adult with ADD/ADHD. I stayed away from smoking and drugs and I don’t even buy certain junk food because i will literally eat it all in one sitting and make myself sick.
Oh that's why I keep telling my friends unknowingly like "Don't ever ask me to smoke or drink if they are having.
Because I'm already addicted to Twitter since 4yrs ....my life has been ruined 😪
@@dr.weeniehutjr i mean weed and psychs could technically help or just be ok, since they are known to be not addictive and even help with things like addiction and thus have potential to help with ADHD.
As someone who has ADHD, this was legitimately one of the best breakdowns of ADHD I’ve seen on RUclips.
Gabor Maté's books on ADHD, trauma, and addiction are really insightful
@@confederatetearsaredelicious Thank you!
Watch Russell Barkleys talks on executive function as well. They help a lot
There are many out there that are waaay better, more concise and better delivered. This Dr could organized his videos better, but instead, he writes small writing that nobody can read and speaks off the top of his mind. I’m always having to skip over so much just to get to the point
@@JustDisc
I don't know if you've noticed, but this doctor is explaining it all on a live stream.
So it's hard to talk about "organization of video" here, since he translates it in real time
I've smoked weed daily for about 14 years and only recently found that it isn't "helping" anymore. My appetite is non existent, I only sleep for an hour at a time and only for 3-5 hours a night [doesn't help that I work graveyard shift] and my mood is generally below average as well as my average anxiety is heightened. The dopamine blocking is 100% real and I only really noticed it recently.
I'm 3 weeks sober and while I don't feel better, I know it's a good choice. I have to fight the urge to light up daily and I know even if I slip, I can still make progress. It doesn't make me a failure but that doesn't excuse it.
I'm not sharing this for "atta boy's" or sympathy, I just hope that someone out there feels less alone or inspired to seek the changes they need. You got this, we got this.
Thank you for sharing! I admire your ability to fight the urge. Best of luck in the future.
The same thing regarding fighting "the urge", but I'm (only) a few years into my damaging alcohol use.
Thank you for reinforcing my understanding; I'm not the only one dealing with this
I know you're not sharing this for atta boys it is still what you deserve.
Attaboy!
@G G I don't and I'm not, but due to circumstances it's hard for me to find work so I'm making what changes I can at this moment.
I have been smoking weed every 2 hours for the last 40 years. So far so good..
I like the fact that you were repeating and reiterating much of the same information and advice multiple times.
For many of the people who actually suffer from the issues that you are speaking about, repeating information over and over again is very important. I lost my train of thought many times while watching this video. I was unable to focus and pay attention to many parts of this video.
That's why it's super helpful for you to repeat and reiterate.
But you knew that already!!!!! Thank you sir.
Sorry that I was repeating and reiterating LOL . I know I used many of the same words over and over again. I just had to get my point across while I was focused on it..
This advice is so hard to take dude. Everything I do is dopamine seeking behaviour
Same
We just have to do better for ourself
I like this video because it reassured thats its not all my fault. But i dont think it's gonna change much either for me. I wanna share this with my parents but the chat is cringe.
let this video explain but not justify drug seeking behavior, this is coming from a pothead who has been diagnosed with ADHD.
That's called being human homie, Doctor K seems to have an odd understanding of what dopamine actually is. This becomes apparent when he brings up things like "dopamine fasting"
Edit because my comments are all getting deleted, (Seemingly manually)
There are plenty of highly reputable sources that have articles talking about how dopamine fasting is an ineffective fade, including Harvard which I will be quouting here:
"You can’t “fast” from a naturally occurring brain chemical
Dopamine is one of the body’s neurotransmitters, and is involved in our body’s system for reward, motivation, learning, and pleasure. While dopamine does rise in response to rewards or pleasurable activities, it doesn’t actually decrease when you avoid overstimulating activities, so a dopamine “fast” doesn’t actually lower your dopamine levels.
Unfortunately, legions of people have misinterpreted the science, as well as the entire concept of a dopamine fast. People are viewing dopamine as if it was heroin or cocaine, and are fasting in the sense of giving themselves a “tolerance break” so that the pleasures of whatever they are depriving themselves of - food, sex, human contact - will be more intense or vivid when consumed again, believing that depleted dopamine stores will have replenished themselves. Sadly, it doesn’t work that way at all."
I highly recommend reading the entire article, I'd link it but youtube might take it down as spam. It should be the first thing you find when you Google "does dopamine fasting work"
@b b Please Re-read my comment you're responding to. If you could also reply so I know I'm not shadow banned or something, that would be appreciated.
I grew up in foster care, always picked on, homeless, married a women who couldn’t accept my condition and completely took everything from me, I developed a substance abuse problem which seemed to get worse every time I spoke to her. I just kicked a 20 year marijuana abuse disorder. Now I’m a double major premed applying for nursing program this semester and beginning a degree in biochemistry next semester. The accomplishment I’m most proud of is that I was able to place our of college algebra into Calculus 2 (two math classes) I plan on applying for medical school and continuing my education to become an orthopedic surgeon 👨🏻⚕️
Congrats, hope you’re thriving!
How's your one-year progress?
hell yeah dude
You should definitely be proud. This video and a lot of these comments (yours included) have convinced me to quit smoking weed entirely.
I was a ward of the state, too. I guess I really do need to get sober. Your experience reminds me of aspects of my own. Wishing you the best on your journey.
This is honestly how schools and education in general should be taught.
Passionate people using what knowledge they have and sharing it with people who are interested in learning the subject.
I honestly feel like I'm back in school, but it's not as boring or disinteresting as school.
I'm learning about dopamine receptors and it's effect on addiction and ADHD. like what.
When this kind of education you described, meets a competent certification system that is flexible enough to support it...
Imagine kids being able to choose their path based on what they wanna specialize in, in life, & as a consequence BE FULLY ENGAGED in what they're learning.
People, we have plenty of Dharma to engage with.
@@elektrotehnik94 except most young people don’t know what they want to do or become… this is evidenced by how many college students change their major..
@@michaelgonzalez3523 Exactly.
1.) The more they are engaged, the faster they will figure out what works & what doesn't.
2.) The more the system is flexible, the more students can go towards where their time is well spent, fast & seamless.
Dr Berg healthy keto helped my ADHD 10X better than any medication, & depression too. It’s diet related!
@@pinonnut Im not diagnosed, but most likely ADHD. Pretty sure my childhood would have been a lot different if i wasn't fed a diet 80%+ of carbs... I don't blame my parents though, alot less access to information in those days.
I was treated for ADHD later in life. In my late 30's. I was a chronic pot user. After i started the stimulants for adhd i eventually became tired of smoking pot all the time. Im now 2 years sober. My life has never been better. Im able to do things such as study and focus like ive never been able to do before. Get help guys. Its worth it. Youre worth it.
same here! i'm 38 and just on the process of being diagnosed. i really believe i have it as eveything fits so well to how my life is... i'm really hoping stimulant medication helps, because i cannot see how i can get rid of pot.
is the medication necessary for you you think?
*this = adhd
Can I ask what treatment did you got , I been trying har to stop smoking and drinking on daily basis I manage to control alcohol for 2 weeks then something happens and I get back to drinking , smoking I can’t stop
I smoke weed everyday and I never get tried and I’m 41 lol
I honestly think ADHD is one of the worst conditions you can have. Because it alters your whole experience of life into that of an addict in withdrawal.
Funny, lately I've been comparing my brain to that of an addict, the more I learn about ADHD. It's sadly an accurate way to put it.
Also people thinking we use the condition "as an excuse to get drugs (namely adderall)" adds to the shame.
Happened to me and its depressing. i wish I would've known before and prevent that. I don't know how to get out of my addiction, i even went to rehab already. I gotta focus on my addiction now before taking care of my ADHD where the symptoms are getting worse the older I get. I am also in my twenties now and i'm gonna loose them to my mental health
@@RaveRaven227 I think people who have been addicted in the past who show a major commitment to change and have been sober for years deserve a chance at taking stimulant medication responsibly. The best way to do it is to find the smallest effective dose and only take it 3-4 days a week (either Mon-Wed-Fri or Mon-Tue-Thur-Fri, or depending on when you work/have school).
@@RaveRaven227 also, never stop raving 💙
Im not an addict i have low dopamine levels. J need mg ritalin to function properly.i tried exercice, meditation, but i csnt focus and a random doc removed it saying i never had adhd after 15 years if being labeked bh 3 doctirs adhd. I feel like a zombie now. All caddra tssts positive. I am sad.i
is it wrong that I feel even more discouraged on hearing this? like yeah great tips and amazing explanation as usual, I’m sure it’ll work, but it still doesn’t change the fact that it still feels like we gotta work 10x harder than non-ADHD people to live a “normal” life in a society that heavily discriminates against ADHD people. yeah I know that’s how the cookie crumbles but. goddamn I wish it wasn’t so.
I don't think it's wrong to feel that way. Dr.K mentioned it would be hard but the thing about a long term solution is you gotta start somewhere. Sooner is better than later. Weeks or months or years later, you might find yourself watching this video or a similar video again, looking for the solution. You already know what will help but you never executed it. Fight the urge, man.
What people in the fitness arena have understood since the dawn of time is that unfortunately, for some people, some things simply are. There are people who have an easier time doing things like dieting and training, and people who, no matter what information you give them, no matter what inspiration or motivation you give them, will struggle with things like weight loss. It’s the same with neurological disorders. Some people are just wired to struggle with certain behaviors. I’m one of them.
The best thing we can do is understand that reality, and then undertake the best, healthiest practices that we can sustain.
Interesting! In what ways does society discriminate against ADHD people?
@@kristoferkrus 8-hour office jobs and traditional schooling are good examples.
there is hope in this. you will find ways to use the sort of thinking associated with adhd that can be really beneficial. sort of how a mix of pessimism and optimism is the best way to deal with emotional problems, thinking with both an attentive and in-attentive mind can is the best way to solve practical problems. so being more aware of how your mind benefits you can make you think better about yourself and in turn reduce feelings of depression.
As an adult with pretty apparent ADHD (I was diagnosed as a child, I’m not self-diagnosing), I got myself hooked on physical activity. It was sports at first, and then weight lifting. I now believe strongly that my physical focus on training has helped me avoid developing substance and food addictions. If I had taken on a more sedentary lifestyle, I believe at my core that I’d be in a really bad place now.
As an adult who isn’t diagnosed but maybe could be, you got lucky dude. I did it backwards. I got fat from food addiction and then lost the weight from spending all of my money on weed for two years straight. Then I fell in love with the gym and now it really helps keep the other stuff in check. I very well could have ended up fat and high for the rest of my life and shortened it drastically as a result
@@dr.weeniehutjr it's been many, many years since I realized how bloody lucky I am. Not everyone gets the breaks I did. Now I try to help other people maintain healthy lifestyles.
@Gilgamesh4238 I started down the preworkout road and very quickly realized I was developing a reliance on them, so I quit. Still drink coffee, but 200 caffeine over the first few hours of each day isn't enough to have much physiological change.
100 percent with you. Weight training has fixed my previously broken life
@@Madchris8828 I'm glad to hear that!
51 years old, i can't identify enough with this video. Im finally beginning to understand myself and understand my life choices more ive always had what ive always justified to myself as managable addictions all my life from cigarettes at 11 to weed tramadol codiene speed cocaine pills sex my phone etc i got diagnosed with adhd last year. Thought i had everything figured out, but i hadn't. Had a breakdown last night as i realised i haven't had a day sober of one thing or another in the past 10 years. My adhd is spiralling out of control. I know i have to stop, so this is the start of my journey. Im going to follow the 5 steps so wish me luck. What an amazing and insightful video. Thank you
I love that you've started by explaining that ADHD is an executive function disorder. This is backed up by so many professionals and also matches the experience of everyone in my life who has ADHD, myself included
Yes. This is key and it's so rarely recognized, despite explaining so much.
I really appreciate the content lately around ADHD
Same, It's been slowly pushing me to get it officially diagnosed since I never had the motivation to do it as a adult and didn't know i had it as a kid
@@zyraixrealm5746 yea, I've even applied for therapy because from watching the videos recently about it, has really shown me how many of these negative traits/things I do
@@zyraixrealm5746 Kinda the same, it’s really made me realize it’s something I’ve been living with my whole life. I always thought I could never have it because I was never really “hyperactive” in the traditional way we think about it. But I relate in to many ways to not at least seek treatment and proper diagnosis
@@tgutz7019 exactly and my parents didn't know better and thought it was normal. Also high likely my mom has it too and didn't know which made her sure it was normal
@@urFATlifeSUCKS That's really good, it means you can get better on whatever you are struggling with. Good luck!
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
@Micheal Harris Does dr.sporess ship?
Dr.spores is the best, he's been my supplier for anything psychedelics.
Weird how so many of you have the exact same identically worded story here
how?
I’ve had ADD all my life. What’s been tough is watching my twin sister achieve any goal she ever wanted and have high level education and status while I’m just an ordinary person because of my disorder. After hearing this, I actually feel much better because I could have turned out way worse. I’ve never not had a job in 30 years and I’ve amassed a decent amount of wealth just being nobody that special. Not that money is everything, but I guess I’ve been pretty successful in spite of the deck I was dealt. It’s been really difficult all these years to stay focused and productive. I know the struggle very well.
You're special.
No one with add/ADHD is a 'ordinary' person. At least I like to think of it like that.
@@U.s-epa What I mean by ordinary is I didn’t achieve some high level education and now I’m a professor at a university, successful lawyer, or a doctor, ect. I’m just an average Joe doing a redundant trade, nothing much to brag about. I could have been something far greater, but my inability to delay gratification led me to where I am. Some with my condition end up with drug and alcohol problems and can’t even hold a job, so I guess I’m lucky in that sense.
@@Golfing422 you're looking at it all wrong. The world wouldn't move without you man! There's no such thing as a generic trade and that's SO much more powerful than being in education etc. I have been where you are mentally thinking I'm no one etc. You are very special! What trade are you in if you don't mind asking? I have been working on motorcycles for over a decade and when the pandemic set in I said screw it and started my own shop. As a tradesman that really sets you ahead in your knowledge and skill, it's been absolutely eye opening not having rules and bosses. I make all of my own decisions (good and bad 🤔🤣) and it's far more rewarding than making an owner of a company money.
@@Golfing422as a stranger all the way from Croatia, who also has adhd I am proud of you although I do not even know you. Be easy on yourself and do not compare yourself to anyone, better or worse. Compare yourself only to what you were yesterday, rest is waisting your time. Don’t think that someone’s job title makes them any happier then someone who’s titles are not as loud as DR. LAWYER,NUCLEAR scientist ETC.
Be grateful and satisfied what makes YOU HAPPY.
For years I used binge watching TV unknowingly as a coping mechanism to my adhd.
1. It’s a way to streamline my attention to one thing (feels great to only focus on one thing and not worry about getting lost in brain fog)
2. dopamin hits (i always found it impressive how other people could just stop watching after a while, while I found it sooooo hard (like physically)to stopz
3. On TV emotions are very clear, while outside of it it felt like a neutral numb blob.
(I find it hard to indentify my own emotions and therefore deal with them)
4. TV was also my copying mechanism to deal with the shame of not being able to cope with life.
I was aware of all those things to some extend. I just wasn’t really able to tie them together and wrap the adhd bow around it.
Only after I got “sober” from my addiction (aka stopped watching tv), started meditation and mindfulness etc. because I craved a change, I realized: that yes, my symptoms got better in some ways but in others they just prevailed no matter how hard I tried or how “textbook” I went. And that there must be another explanation other than; U suck. It was so frustrating and exhausting to have so many structures and habits in place in order to just function “barely normal”. The car analagy hit me!
I have now an official adhd diagnosis and starting medication.
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Are you me? I live on the TV.
This is 100% me. Honestly, I've never heard of anyone else like this so I appreciate your post. It's such a huge problem. It's like another drug. I start making excuses like "I'm just a film geek", which is true, but that doesn't mean It's normal to avoid all of my responsibilities in front of the TV. Once I start I cant stop.
Great comment. In light of the fact that you appear to be using a real identity, I deeply respect the honesty. I am not against medication. But if you wish to get to the root cause of ADHD, I highly recommend a book called "Scattered Minds" by Gabor Maté. I wish you nothing but the best on your journey. You can do it!
I can't stay focused on TV. Anymore.
been diagnosed since well very young. never got medication bcus it makes it worse. now i have no clue wtf to do bcus medication wont work. using my computer bcus of school but i love gaming so i easily get distracted. now iam ashamed i am so left behind with homework. now exams are coming up and am scared shitless.
“We don't rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.”
― Archilochus
I was pothead for 4 years. Around my sophomore year of college, I decided to quit, and I succeeded. I also became a vegan and used my new lifestyle as means to control my impulses. I was still struggling like hell but my focus and clarity improved immensely. I slowly developed healthier coping skills. I was diagnosed with ADHD after I graduated college. I still smoke weed occasionally as a reward, but not to self-medicate. There is no easy way to treat ADHD but you gotta start somewhere and hold yourself accountable. Remember- "Progress over perfection."
@@mr.skeleton3190 😂😂😂😂😂
@Robert Arnold Considering the journey they’ve been on, they’ll likely be fine
Developing healthy coping mechanisms takes a lot of brain rewiring and usually the thing that makes us fall into addiction is a lack of healthy coping mechanisms, but she has them now.
Hey I just wanted to say that I did the EXACT same thing as you. Started at 16 stopped at 19 and was doing great with life and focused on my purpose. However 4 months later I am trapped again in this lack of will to live. It never goes away, just keep it in check, that was my mistake
@Robert Arnold which drug do you think she should use instead?
Prob no drug, prob something like shopping would be best relapse.
ADHD has been a huge problem in my life. The boredom is very real. I’m a compulsive gambler, video game player, and smoker. I do not like to be alone in my thoughts. I struggle everyday. My substance abuse problem is the gambling and video games.
I'm super curious how the gambling and gaming intersect. Do they overlap?
Do you play games with loot crates? Does that count as gambling in your brain?
If so, what happens when you try to play a game without loot crates?
@@steggopotamus you,ve misunderstood the comment, would you like me to explain to you?
PokerStars VR got me hooked lol. It’s the perfect amount of dopamine
Dude I'm exactly the same way I'm 42 and I collect comics it's like getting high to me and once I love something I get overboard with it I have my life fe under control but it's very hard
Same here my friend
I’m a GP in the UK and this video is so helpful and explains so much. I’m often sceptical of information on the internet but this make sense medically- and seems genuinely helpful. I agree that life is so hard for young people with ADHD as our world is so hectic now. Years ago when more people were working physically hard outside in nature, the ADHD symptoms would have been hardly noticed because our lifestyle was therapy in itself. Thanks for this video
When I worked as a nurse in acute-care behavioral health, we had endless young men on Adderall come through the unit, some of them having taken to snorting the drug and sometimes slipping into psychosis. One old physician would try to sell these men on working out and physical activity, claiming that it was the best antidote to poor executive function, not even a mask for it, really.
@@loafy7396this may sound dumb but you could write down what you want to talk about and just hand them the note.
"I think i have X
I have no idea how to talk about it
Can i be tested?"
I’ve been ironically bingeing Dr. K videos for an hour because I don’t want to be unstimulated.
That's the paradox every dr k fan has to deal with.
That’s unironic
an hour? been here for two years
The word irony is just thrown around nowadays with no true meaning behind it 😂
That’s not how irony works
As a teen diagnosed with ADHD and Depression recently (a rare diagnosis given that I am from a 3rd world country who doesn't even give a dime about mental health), I am in a verge of tears as I go through Dr. K's explanation.
I had both, don't be discouraged. I just focused on learning all that i could and using that knowledge to better myself and my surroundings. Meditation can be anything too, i play a whole load of instruments and workout for my focus.
what country?
just curious?
I have Exactly the same feeling rn. ❤ I'm with you G
Just hearing someone say laziness or lack of motivation isn't the cause of videogame addiction has me rethinking so much! It's bizarre when these 'ah ha moments' can happen in life, but I'm so grateful for them! Thank you
Before watching the video, I would like to talk about being an addict for 23 years now, I was clean for 5 and a half years and I was also diagnosed with OCD and PTSD... I relapsed when I started taking meds for the OCD and ADD kicked into high gears... Meth makes me even, and Heroin kills my anxiety and pain. It's a constant strugle. Now I am clean for about a month and in therapy/rehab again, learning new copping skills and relieving all kind of shit once again with no numbing agent... I can vouch to anyone out there struggling with addicition, that its not a disease, it's a symptom.Therapy is the key to overcome it, nevermind the fall, focus on getting back to your feet any way possible and break the needle that wounds your body and soul. It can be done, it's hard, but not impossible...
Well done on getting clean, I hope you manage to keep it that way. I'm clean 6 years in June from crack and heroin. Luckily, I'd only been on them three and a half years and the fear if having my newborn child taken into care was enough to kick me into touch. I know for some people, after decades of drug use, it's not so simple. Even I struggled with adapting to real life again(something I couldn't cope well with to begin with!), plus crack addition absolutely mashed my dopamine receptors. No drug use, but my symptoms are definitely worse now.
After struggling with school and ADHD my whole life and constantly having to hear about it, I had never heard a good and detailed explanation of what was happening in my brain like this one.
My days recently have been revolving around when I get to smoke weed. I always wondered why I couldn't maintain a healthy relationship with cannabis like so many of my friends have. This video gave me a lot of clarity, thank you!
I just found out I've been diagnosed with ADHD since I was 8. Father refused to medicate me because he thought it would make me dumb. I did poorly throughout middle school, coasted by in highschool. Did fine in my first college semester but dropped out after the third from the stress of procrastination. I've had a job for a while and have saved up to buy stuff for my hobbies, but I never end up doing anything. I bought a piano and software to make music, I have a drawing tablet for digital art, and yet I cant seem to get started on any of my hobbies because every day I spend my life on youtube. It's been like this for the last 4 years.
I wonder how well I would be right now If I had the proper help.
Well. Since childhood i have been on all the medication (starting in 2000 for preschool) and none of them worked after i got used to it so i still had issues in school. On top of that i was an emotional wreak the smallest thing would make me cry. Now as an adult who dropped out of school i feel like all the medication has dumbed my emotions down as a human. I am now watching my son go through my childhood as all these drs just want to medicate.
@@ducktape4502 I advise you to look into neurofeedback and other possible therapy methods that don't include medication
Well, you have now realized about the problem, it's half solved.
You a loser if you cant control your youtube impulses 😂😂😂😂😂😂
My best friend with a high level of ADHD died of a heroin overdose last year. I got diagnosed a few months ago and have been clean since. It is sad how there is so much still misunderstood about mental health / addicfion
I am so sorry. A lot of people I knew of ended up on heroin here (it's considered an 'epidemic' but are there resources like housing + utilities help? noooo.) Your friend was prob a good person. May their memory be a blessing.
I'm glad you got dxed. it's a long road, but I believe in you. i see how hard it is to find reasons to recover, actual pathways to recovery. i don't give up hope. One slide back can be inevitable but start over. You've got this.
@@dlm4708 Thanks yo i really appreciate the positivity. 265 days sober!
Having struggled with both adhd and substance use disorder my entire life, having just reached 2 years sober this presentation is seriously eye opening.
we are proud of you!
Dr. K. I literally started crying around 17:45, you understand what ive had my whole life...and noone ever diagnosed me with ADHD because i was well...brute forcing my way through...and now that im 29 i finally hit that wall where i cant even remotely keep up like i used to.
Thank you for what you do.
I'm 44 and am only now starting to understand what's wrong with my brain. Bruteforcing my way through my very successful carreer let to a massive burnout that changed everything. Now I can't use the brute force mechanisms anymore, I need to learn to not push myself using existential fear and fear of shame.
ADHD seems to be worse than ever before, but I'm gonna tackle that basta...d now that I recognised it.
Was going to make basically this comment at the same timestamp. It me. Not sure I've ever heard it described so relatably, and I was diagnosed over 10 years ago.
Jeeesh.
I'm 42
@@Cetegus79man I understand that.
Same, exactly. I'm not even officially diagnosed. But everything I'm hearing about ADHD really hits home
Dealing with PTSD from my time in the Marines on top of being ADHD and abusing weed and video games, dug a hole indeed for myself. well I been watching these videos and now I got a plan of attack. Already been seeking help through the VA as well. These videos have been giving me insight to myself and I have now recognized the true issues. Really like a light bulb 💡 going off. Thanks! Tough fight incoming. Overhauling my life will be a life journey probably.
I'm right there with you on all fronts but have yet to find a plan of attack. good luck!
same here brother (not a marine, just the issues) If I can do it, and I will, you definitely can, you were raised eating crayons I cant imagine how much more discipline you have than me
you sound like you are in a place I am in. Marines, PTSD, etc. we are def brothers
Keep striving for yourself. We love to see it 🥰
U were marine, u can do anything. Gl hoo ra
I cried because of how true this is, finally someone understands me.
gayy
but do you understand yourself?
me too 😢
Thank you so much for this! I have struggled with adhd my whole life. I was first diagnosed at 8 years old, the medication helped a lot but it was not worth the terrible side effects. I self medicated a lot with weed in my early 20s, pretty much everyday for about 4 years. Just recently I decided to take my adhd seriously and began seeing a psychiatrist. She insists I have a comorbid anxiety disorder, which is why I self medicated with cannabis. I’m also a habitual coffee drinker since I was a teenager. (We love stimulants) The thing you said about how we have too many unfiltered thoughts….I could not relate more. This is why she INSISTS I have anxiety! But I’ve noticed when my adhd is being treated, I don’t feel the need so much to be so impulsive, do drugs or even smoke weed. I would guess a lot of my anxiety is caused by my lack of self efficacy, or self esteem since I struggle with relying on myself to do simple tasks unless it’s super last minute. I think my adhd symptoms were much better when I meditated everyday and I need to work on that along with finding a medication that works for me.
I feel hugged. I'm discovering I have ADHD in adulthood and this video felt like tough love. Especially the parts where he says it's an uphill battle, and that modern society preys on ADHD brains.
Sitting here bawling cause I never realized this. Ive always heard the dopamine. But the shame. The feeling of being stuck, while everyone else is moving forward. Thank you.
learn discipline. dont take drugs
Yessir
I found this video three months after being diagnosed with ADHD at 23 years old. My whole life had been one obstacle course after another until this last year. The diagnosis was a fucking lighting bolt that illuminated the last twenty years of my life. Three months on treatment and I feel much better. The stimulants don’t make me feel “high” like many other people I had known. I just felt, clear. I had a propensity to substance abuse, alcohol, then nicotine, the insane amounts of kratom. I managed to drop them all before this, and it actually wasn’t too difficult to stop drugs, it just sucked to feel like myself given the attention issues and constant racing thoughts and the incredible amount of boredom I felt 99% of the day. I’m so much happier now. Thank you doc for spreading the word. I wish I had found this sooner
Same, diagnosed at 25. My entire life I've always had issues.
The adhd diagnosis is literally my life in textbook form. The meds have changed my life. I am able to think clearly, catch up with work and art. The best thing is it taught me to slow down and helped me see 'the other side'. Like normal people other side.
Now I am trying to find other ways to function on days I don't take it because I know I can't rely on it forever.
@@potatooolatke cbt therapy ? Have you tried it ?
what kind of therapy did you recieve and how much did it cost?
@@noneofyourbuizness Not yet but I will look into it. Thanks!
What does it feel like to have it
That made my entire life make more sense. I was diagnosed with ADHD in the 90s but was told I would grow out of it. I've always struggled with being able to stay on task with basic things but use to play video games for hours and hours with no break in attention. So, that lead to getting whooped and punished.
I've only recently realized that how everything was handled back then, effected me far more than I ever knew. Being in the VA system and trying to get help for ADHD feels just as difficult as back then (minus the physical abuse).
Thank you for highlighting the root causes and helping me understand I shouldn't be ashamed. I've been learning to adjust my systems over the last year and my life has gotten so much better. I truly appreciate everyone out there helping to navigate this stuff. We've come a long way from getting beat for being distractible.
This was a tough watch, but I appreciate the hard truth.
Over 6 years I’ve watched pot go from a Saturday indulgence, to a sleep aid, to a nightly recreation. It went from a fun indulgence to the only way I feel like I get a moment of respite from my brain. This is after many times in my life falling prey to destructive video game use, and a complete inability to use my phone in a way that doesn’t feel like it’s controlling me.
It feels like an impossible hill to climb, but I can’t imagine letting myself fall deeper into this rut.
Stimulants help
Somewhat
Just wanted to say this comment right here really resonated with me, I just turned 20 and I’ve been living on my own for the past 2 years and I feel like I really needed this hard truth, I’m current in the same situation as you where I smoke nightly and game at the same time, it feels like such a good release for my stress but I know now what I need to do to really de-stress normally
@jonnyr.243 what does destress normally entail
@@Uncanny_Mountaingr8 😐
My girlfriend has ADHD and her substance useage has put a huge strain on our relationship this video has helped me understand it a lot better
Same with my boyfriend. It’s really hard but trying to understand helps
Just wanna say, as someone with severe ADHD through childhood into adulthood, that you can still be a functioning member of society without doing all of the advised by the doctor. Please don’t let yourself create shame about the fact you may not be doing all the remedies offered by the doctor. But, if you want to improve your daily mental status and all that comes with this, hear the doctor out. He isn’t trying to be a buzzkill, he’s tell it to you straight.
Exactly I do agree with this... you don't have to train yourself to be the neurotypical person necessarily. You just have to find a way to use your brain to an advantage.
@@anthonyhutchins2300 def
Really needed to hear this ty! My brain went into immediate panic and shame that I'm already bot meditating and playing too many games 🙃
It sucks when you've known for ages your addiction is making your ADHD worse but still can't give it up
Can it really make your adhd worse ?
Yes. If you think about it, ADHD is the ease of getting distracted and lack of self control, while addictions already make a person struggle with self regulation/control. 2 things that already are really rough on their own only get so much worse when together.@@schhonn87
@@schhonn87 yes bc now not only are you unable to function at a normal capacity but now you’re addicted to a substance that you can’t go without or else it’ll just make ur current symptoms worse
@@schhonn87 Yes, it can. All my symptoms like impulsivity, inhibition to do shit, motivation etc. are much worse when I smoke weed.
I give up all care in the world when I’m high don’t care about consequences yes it makes it worse
I love how your comment section is an actual community where people can share their experiences :D great channel and great vid!
Most of these losers just talk about how their "adhd" makes them lazy when really they are the problem
As I became an adult, I no longer struggled with hyperactivity. However, my inattentiveness is still through the roof and I’m always struggling to hold back cravings so when I learned the two are related I was like oh shit
Same. It's pointless to talk about inattentiveness, nobody can force me to put brainpower into something I'm not interested in and some cravings are manageable with a bit of time while others just eat me from the inside until I manage to forget about them
As best I understand it, the hyperactivity is mental, more so than physical
^
I can’t even begin to think what my life would have been like with a diagnosis at a young age. It’s a real grief. Crying again. Christ. Self medicated for years. Codependent relationships.
A shit show on ice.
Trying to get a diagnosis is a nightmare for me as an adult, exhausting and debilitating. Here’s hoping for a better life for us all. ❤️
I got it and then I didn’t like how the pills made me feel and started weed at 13 became a bad kid and my parents forgot about my mental illness and pretty much gave up and let me be a bad kid … even I almost forgot about it and now I’m 31 and trying to figure out why I can’t stop smoking weed and staring at my phone alll day and this video has shown me…. So being diagnosed sometimes doesn’t matter
You have described myself in its entirety. I used to do medication with alcohol myself because I didn't have control in my mind and that's how it turned into an addiction. I also had to keep drinking because after three days the depression was so bad that I had to drink again because I couldn't control my own depressive thoughts at all. I've been learning about ADHD since Friday and I asked my mom if she had a suspicion that I had ADHD And she said yes but she didn't want to get me tested because of the medication that is being administered. But I've continued my whole life with depression and low self-esteem because I felt like a failure and now I've come to know that it could be due to ADHD and I am 40 years old. I made an appointment with a psych neurologist to confirm it but I've been learning about ADHD on youtube and I'm 99% sure that I have ADHD. Thank you for your videos, I learned a lot
I recommend exercise, therapy, reading, and Vyvanse.
I have ADHD, im realizing it’s incredibly easy for me to fall into vices. At times its been alcohol, drugs, people, or just destructive behavior. Thank you for this
I came back here to say thank you to this man and this stream that watched when I was using. Something struck a nerve finally as I was at the end of my rope and just using to numb the pain. It's been 30 days clean and sober, I was able to get a better job because I could finally pass a drug test. It's still ot easy but it's a start and I was crying cause I had nothing to be proud of in Soo long and it took a damn RUclips video to finally say enough, thank you. It's a start of anew because I got so sick and tired of feeling sick and tired of having to start over.
Wow, I've fought ADHD and drug addiction for 20 years.. I started therapy a few months ago and was introduced to things like mindfulness, meditation, and CBT/DBT, and seeing this breakdown has given me such a clearer understanding of what I'm dealing with.. i resonated with 99.9% of what was said and will continue to seek out therapy to hopefully overcome my nasty addictions.. unfortunately it really is going to be an uphill battle for me, having fallen into a few years of opiate dependency on top of my more "casual" cannabis use.. I've always known getting sober was priority but it didn't sink in ever til after seeing this.
you’re not alone brother, it’s gonna be a battle but at least there’s a path now ❤ you’ll get through this shit
Big ups for DBT- I think a lot of people fail to realize the really severe emotional symptoms of adhd. High emotional sensitivity, emotion dysregulation , depression, anxiety, anger, rejection sensitivity, social issues, etc. DBT is great for managing the emotional side of ADHD.
Wise words, young man. As someone who has been through the full cycle of what you just discussed (minus the meditation), I can attest to the accuracy of what you're saying. You delivered the information in a matter of fact, honest, and non-judgmental way. Great work.
I drank a hell of a lot during my 20's... I'm kind of surprised I don't have permanent liver damage and didn't have to go through withdrawal to quit. After I found weed, I'd smoke it or have an edible at least once a day.
I had to QUIT alcohol and cannabis to get anywhere with treatment for ADHD. "Cutting down" just didn't work for me. It's been about a month and I've been having good results. I got lucky because I didn't have to deal with withdrawals or pervasive cravings, I understand it will likely be more difficult for people who aren't as fortunate in that regard.
I think one thing that doc doesn't touch on here is dealing with the ANGER you feel when you're quitting. I used to love trying different craft beers, learning about brewing, having emotional epiphanies while high, and sharing in the enjoyment of drugs with friends. It legitimately pissed me off to understand that I was straight-up born with a disorder that removes my ability to have those things and still function in life. The bitterness is real and that has to be dealt with too, else you can fall into depression and get some serious anger issues due to the constant irritability.
a month? I've been in the same situation for 5 years
good job btw. I think i cant do it. tried with rehab just weed..
@@canine_coach I think you can do it
@@canine_coach Took me a bunch of times to get to the point I am now. I've quit for months in the past only to relapse later.
I can't give any advice because I'm not a mental health professional, but the most important things are to keep trying and to try something different when you do try again
That's the right strategy, personally i know, that i can't be responsible with moderation, its either abstinence or abuse.
I've been raw dogging ADHD without drugs, alcohol, or dopamine crutches. I've lost my enjoyment of video games, my enjoyment of technology and all I do these days is sleep. I've only been drunk 3 times in the almost 30 years I've been alive. For me, you hit the shame aspect really hard. Imagine being saved by modern surgical technology at the age of 1 month, only to be such a failure. I honestly believe I shouldn't have been saved, maybe my parents would've tried having another child, one that they can actually be proud of.
Hell ya brother. Go to the bar and grab drink. Find somebody sitting alone and catch a chat
You are worthy of love and all of the things you hoped for before your brain convinced you it was not possible.
Wishing you well ❤
You can't help how your brain functions, and so it's not your fault and you should definitely been saved. You're entitled to love
Even failures have value. I’m glad your still here
I like the way you speak funny man
I just want to say, the part starting at about 15:28 hit incredibly close to home and perfectly described what I've been going through my entire life.
I thought I was just fundamentally broken and incapable of living a normal life. As an adult living on my own, I struggle so much with ordinary tasks that others do effortlessly. Basic tasks always seemed to take me 10 times as much effort as they did for everyone else. In HS, I was a high SAT score, low GPA student. In college, I was an avid participant in class discussions, but never quite produced the quality of written work I was capable of. I have so much shame about wasting my intelligence and just getting by in life. I haven't turned to drug abuse, but I have turned to other addictions as a coping mechanism.
This whole time, I thought there was just something wrong with me in particular. I've been trying for years to get it together on my own and have failed and failed again. And I still haven't given up. But this video convinced me it's time to get help and see a real clinician. Thank you for giving me some hope.
Wow.. you've described something very similar that I've been feeling in my life and I just discovered I most likely have ADHD today..
My entire life has been a complete struggle and I was completely sober until around age 25. Ive been "self medicating" for about 8 years now and it's mostly manageable. I agree with you and do not want to rely on things like that forever. At least for the last few years of life i've found a glimmer of relief, even if it's only for a couple hours at a time. It really feels like I'm doomed either way, with or without the substances. It's really not any better for me being sober, it's just constant pain. I've practiced meditating my entire life, and sometimes I can just barely achieve control of my executive functioning. Generally the only way I've found that I can shut off all the noise for a minute is with help from the outside world.
Another issue I'm facing is I'm financially not able to receive professional help. I'm literally stuck and my 20 dollar weed habit is the only thing I can really afford right now.
So what do we do?
Get help? Well, I can't afford it. Be sober? Then I'll literally get nothing done. Guess i'll just keep trying to "focusing on my breathing" and hope that anything changes within. But really, how does one expect an ADHD person to focus on meditating...?
I just feel like there are no real answers here or anywhere. All we know is, it sucks for ADHD people but don't take substances unless they come from us and you pay us a ton of money. Amazing.
Grow it yourself bro ❤ one love from Ukraine)
I grow now almost 2 year's, and I never felt any better 😊
I know the feeling of „when i get sober i cant get anything done“ but thats just ur addiction brother! Believe me, after being sober for 4+ weeks you will realize that its actually easier to get things done, but onnthe way your brain will always trick you into thinking otherwise.. i know its really hard
Started crying for the first time in months at around 17-18 mins in, too real and it hurts to hear this feeling described accurately from someone else.
Same!!!
strange. i did too
💯
Hang on and give yourself Grace
I am so happy I found this video. I'm a Computer Science major and I enrolled in 5 classes this semester and two of them had " no late submissions" which I overlooked. I bought a wax (THC) pen and have been smoking it damn near everyday. I realized that I missed so many due dates. I stopped going to school and would sometimes wake up early, hit the pen and play Overwatch for about 5 hours. After watching this video, just hearing that there is something I can do about my ADHD brain in relation to weed makes me feel a lot better. I don't feel bad for having to drop my of my classes, I am just happy to know that getting sober will change my life.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES Dr.alishrooms
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms. Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have
really helped him. mah dudes have safe
trips all.
I would like to know from those who have solved PTSD and anxiety, if they have solved it definitively and how to understand what quantity of psilocybin to take and when, for how long. And can you really heal without having an addiction?
Thanks to everyone for helping me understand, I want to understand if it's
something that can help me solve the problem (I have c-ptsd)
I’m a 32yo woman with inattentive ADHD and this really resonated with my phone addiction (particularly Instagram). I realized that for myself I have zero ability to just limit my time using Instagram because the dopamine-slot machine effect it has on my brain erases my self control. My only option was to quit it cold turkey and I’m so thankful that I at least know that about myself. I will occasionally relapse and go back on (and it’s especially difficult to go back off again because IG makes you wait a week before you can deactivate again) so I really try to limit that to a few times a year because it is so disruptive my life. I still struggle immensely with my ADHD but cutting out my addictions does help a lot and reduces a bit of the shame I feel.
My whole body went cold at the sudden realization of what I've been doing to myself the past year. I've never been diagnosed officially but I've always had my suspicions. Everything you said just made so much sense to me about my entire life. The first thing I'm doing once I get my medical insurance is getting tested.
Did you stop?
This one might actually have changed my life. So much of this resonated with me. I'd like to hear more about how Dr. K feels about regular use of medications like vyvanse and adderall. In my experience they have helped TREMENDOUSLY, but they did nothing to address the SHAME that you discussed in this video. In high school I stopped taking the medicine, because I felt overwhelmingly ashamed for feeling like I had the upper hand over all my peers and that in reality I was a lot dumber than they were. Also I am disappointed by the fact that medication was the only treatment I was prescribed and when it's efficacy was wearing off, the response was to double my dosage. I see these medications the same way I've heard people like Jordan Peterson describe antidepressants: a excellent emergency intervention for someone who is at death's door, but not the ideal long-term solution. I also think that there is a lot of discussion about how long term stimulant use will damage brain chemistry, but I rarely hear people mention how years of feeling like you are worthless and falling short could also have serious ramifications. I'd love to see the research on something like that if it exists.
He just told you how he felt. The medication makes it worse over time according to these new studys. Yes they help at first, but they make it much worse over time.
This study literally shows that your dopamine goes down over extended use.
ADHD medication is basically just a regulated version of meth. Of course anyone who takes a little bit is going to have tremendous cognitive benefits while it lasts, but over time the damage it does to your brain and body is not good, not to mention the potential for dependence and abuse.
@@darkjord5823 Not trying to fact check you all, but I would actually love to read the study y'all are referring to if you have a title or link.
@@darkjord5823 there isn’t a consensus on this one yet. Normal use for people with ADHD typically doesn’t have long term issues that are irreversible.
Rarely like many medications it can cause paranoia but that’s an average side effect - which the doctor would recommend you stop.
As long as you’re not doing a high dose all the time or over medicating most people live normal lives and find success with it.
Because school isn’t a natural structure… we use a Germanic system and it statistically isn’t going to be for everyone. Not everybody likes the taste of apple pie, but there’s no where else to go. And a warning: Psychiatrist = physician = drug dealer.
Diagnosed right before my 30th birthday, been reading up on ADHD ever since, but sometimes people like this pops up and summarises everything I've learned about myself so far in a half hour RUclips video. You're a saint for making all this information so available and easily digestible. ❤ Legend 😊
Thanks for explaining all of this. It makes so much sense. It’s very eye opening. Gonna share w/ my grown kids b/c I passed this lovely neurological disorder to them
Such a skilled presenter. Held my ADHD-brain’s focus the whole time! You have a knack for delivering complex info in an easily digestible way. Appreciate it!
I have ADHD, Asperger's, depression, anxiety, and I smoke weed everyday and play video games all the time, but I've learned to balance that with working a full time job and still managing to pay my bills.
Yes, weed can make ADHD worse, but I'll take that over the negatives of everything else, especially since our society is going down the drain. I'm happier now, satisfied with a minimalist lifestyle facilitated by weed, than I have ever been in my life
I can respect that, you do whatever works for you and makes you happy.
actual doomer in the wild
if you're truly satisfied and not lying to yourself though, then good for you
I just don’t like smoking weed all the time as you just stop getting high. But I do have problems without it. And in my country it’s illegal so it sucks.
100% sometimes it's about taking the least damaging decision and that substance sounds much better than most tbh
Love that! Me too
This video has truly changed my outlook on life, and self. Thank you so much.
Prone to substance abuse IF unmedicated and no therapy!
My neuropsych showed me a study showing that + that an ADHD person receiving treatment is less likely to engage in drug abuse!
~ I apologise if you mention that later in the video, I have ADHD
That’s the premise yes of course.
😂
@@fungdark8270 yeah, oops xD couldn't wait
They are less likely to use drugs because they get ones prescribed instead lol
@@ChiliwarePC mm sure but generally speaking following correct dosages as prescribed will serve you better than a cocaine or speed addiction xD
I wish meds helped me but my brain instantly goes the opposite direction and I lose all motivation
this makes so much sense. as a girl, I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD young because hyperactive type is more common in boys, and inattentive type can be just a kid thing. I was diagnosed 2 months ago at 16 after they thought I was bipolar or had BPD because of my impulsiveness. now looking back on it, I can definitely see all of the signs. I would forget things very easily as a kid and my teachers kept saying I was playing dumb when I genuinely forgot something. when I started smoking weed my freshman year of hs, my grades were fantastic. I ran away (impuslive) and was put into multiple psych wards because of severe depression. I later developed a pill addiction as well. now since being on medication and having a proper diagnosis I've been so much better. I can't be on stimulants because it messed up my bowels but I'm on a non stimulant atm.
I can believe this. I have adhd and major depression, alcohol and weed were my drugs of choice. The reason I used em wasn’t because I enjoyed it. I hate the feeling of drunkenness, but it was the best way to shut my brain up, stop overthinking everything and just act. It also shut up the inner monologues and constant self reflections, which were what led to depressive episodes. I overused way too much. So the question I have half way through… what’s the fix? Half way through and I feel like he’s talking directly to me…
Finally reached the end and the solution is therapy? Oh great, yeah I’m already struggling enough in life, just got sober, and barely paying the bills, but yeah let’s just go pay someone more money than I can afford to tell me what I already know…
I definitely feel you on that. But I don’t think it’s just about you talking about it, it’s about receiving professional guidance towards supporting your personal needs. ADHD has a spectrum so it would benefit anyone to meet with someone who understands the spectrum as a whole and can better identify the needs specific to you. They may also prescribe you with ADHD medication which has shown to change peoples lives almost instantly. I have an appointment myself tomorrow and I’m honestly just excited to get some help. You should definitely at least schedule 1 and see how it goes. You don’t need to commit to spending thousands or anything. Just take it one step at a time. Praying for you 🙏🏾💯
@@joedohn thanks, sadly despite working two jobs I can barely keep up with the raising cost of rent and bills, let alone therapy and meds.
I feel your comment I actually drink wine every night not because Im trying to get drunk I actually hate feeling drunk I feel alcohol slows my brain down and shuts my brain up.
@@energizermommy1 I don’t like the sensation of lag, or how my tongue won’t quite obey me. Slurring is annoying. I’m a very self aware drunk. Not fun, so I stuck to weed.
This is a great listen! I feel for everyone listening. I'm adult diagnosed at 53 and an addict. Plz plz do everything you can to learn to live with this. I'm taking councilling and went through the diagnosis through a Pshyoligist. There were several tests I had to go through and I'm Autistic with ADHD and complex trauma. I stopped drinking through AA and it was only after that I found out. There is literally a book in all of this! I'm with all of you and know your pain and confusion, but you can learn to live with it and really thrive! Peace to everyone and good luck!❤
oh my god... the "Shame" concept of feeling like you're "busted" really hit home. I've felt like I've been smart for years but struggled so hard in High School and at the jobs I've had in my adult life. Since I've been diagnosed with ADHD and I've been treating it with medication my entire life has turned around. I can't believe I waited until I was 30 to actually go and talk to a doctor about it. Please don't be like me - if you have the ability to go to a doctor, do it
I honestly rolled a joint while listening to him explain ADHD in such in-depth and very detailed information, I'm in my 30's and I can confirm I am impulsive, I am a heavy weed smoker since age 16-17 and I love video games.. and I also can relate about how I always feel like I can't compete with normal people and I have to "work" twice as hard because my brain wont shut up..
This video made me think deeply about my drug addiction it's actually the first time I used this phrase "Drug addiction" I came to realize now that maybe stop smoking weed can help me.. I tried all my life never quit smoking weed but this time I think I will try to stop smoking for a while.. I want my life to be better and I kinda "hate" being sober but I guess its for my own good... it's sad to think about not smoking weed at all.. but I know for fact.. I ain't quitting weed.. I just stop for a while to see whats up... if I remember this comment I will update if i managed to do it.. It's not going to be easy at all.. but worth a shot... Thank you for this video I really learnt about my condition.. countless therapy sessions as a kid no one had the time to explain to me how ADHD affects my brain and why I am so easily attracted to psychedelic durgs and weed.. wow I just realize many people could read this so please if you are going to comment please don't be afraid to open up it's free to share and might help you to lose some stress
How did it go? Do you still smoke?
@@seinfields Unfortunately I still do.. it's harder than I thought..
I started binge eating when I was like 9 years old (I'm 17 now). I thought it was because of lack of attention by my parents and a bit too much freedom for me, but recently I've realised that I have binge eating issues. I even feel like I have certain ocd moments, where in the middle of an exam or a study session when I'm writing on the right side of a page, I'll have this NEED to suddenly scribble something in a particular manner on the left side as well, and even this has been an issue for a while. I also have very bad memory issues, like I don't remember like 60-70% of my childhood even till now. I've been trying to figure out what's wrong with me and what happened to this "gifted" kid. I don't want to self diagnose but adhd really sounds similar to my behaviours.
seems familiar
Even when there are zero distractions at school, I still can’t focus- somehow I decide it’s easier to sit and act like I’m doing work than to just do it.
just got diagnosed yesterday, at 36, (after over 10 sessions of tests and background analysis). I'd also add sex/porn compulsion as a coping mechanism that can be very harmful (distorted perception of human interactions, "suicidal-levels" exposure to disease, increased frustration, and many other negative developments).
BRO LITERALLY, SAME. Porn/sex addiction, weed, video games, all the time. I would smoke weed so much that I would green out and start puking uncontrollably. Working with a therapist now to try and manage all this.
Porn and sex and the video games has been poisoning my adhd brain for YEARS now. I’m slowing drawing back the games. The porn and sex addiction is insane though, didn’t know it had to do with my adhd 😢
Porn and games cause adhd
@@GotFaculty source?
@@belro17 common sense and experience is my source
Damaged/Tolerant dopamine receptors due to high and/or frequent dopamine spikes lower our baseline levels of dopamine which is responsible for us feeling good and motivation
All you need to do is quit an addiction and you'll see how desperate your mind becomes for dopamine.. you'll jump from thing to thing, whatever feels better In the moment because otherwise there is suffering with withdrawal
In order to heal the damaged receptors the body has to go through the withdrawal symptoms
When the receptors are sensitive again then it's very easy to get joy from things.. theres a reason why there is so much depression and adhd today and it's because of our addiction to technology.
And there's a reason why monks don't use phones and watch TV ect
This was such a helpful topic. As someone who has struggled with addiction for a very long time, over this last year I have been piecing together what makes it so difficult to manage. With videos like this I feel I am able to get one step closer
"Control you environment to avoid distraction."
Me: *removes bubble wand from desk*
lol
I don't know how to thank you. I finally understand myself. As a child I was showing signs of high IQ. The teachers suggested having my IQ tested. I tested at 143 or 147 (I can't remember). I was put in advanced classes where I didn't perform as well as my IQ suggested. Overtime, I got bored & my thoughts would bouce around. I ended up quitting high school. I didn't fail out. I just didn't want to go anymore. As the years passed I became disappointed with where I was in life. I knew I should've been in a better position. Throughout high school I was drinking daily & smoking as much pot as I could afford. I was in the right place at the right time and landed in a career that supported all my needs. Over the years I bounced from addiction to addiction. After an accident I became hooked on pain killers. I ended up broke & homeless. In the end I thought I was too far gone to be helped. So I thought I had to kill it (my monster) to get it to leave me alone. I failed, luckily. Now I have been clean going on 9 years. However I am still very hard on myself about where I am. I struggle with life deep down inside more than anyone knows. I feel I should be much further ahead of where I am. I still have the same problems & I'm miserable, but now I am not self medicating. I feel I am just suffering. After watching this video (that I came across while being distracted from my job) I feel I have a greater understanding of why. I have decided to seek a dual diagnostic clinician. Maybe now at 54 years old, I can finally get my life in order. Maybe there's still enough time left that I can enjoy life. So, thank you Dr K!!!
Never have i felt someone hit the nail more on the head than you have...I have had these issues and now are all coming to light. ive known i needed help and have had help but not the correct one. Thank you for your guide and help!
I was heavily contemplating seeing a therapist (for 6-12 months) just to confirm I'm as okay as I feel. I have adhd and also have substance addiction to pot and nic. From kindergarten to the start of my 6th grade, I had been on several different medications for adhd. After 6 years I decided I didnt like the pill and I dedicated the following 6 years to willpowering myself through education. I wouldnt say I ever had a good amount of dopamine growing up in a very "high expectations" kinda household and also having very low confidence from 6 years of ostracism imposed on me by my teachers plus bullying for my ginger hair. So going into middle school with no chemical buffer was extremely challenging. But my mom had this hippie friend who told me to try meditation, so I started meditating 3-5 times a week. After I got out of 8th grade, I was perfectly capable controlling my impulses but intrusive thoughts became more provocative and having dealt with the loss of my father at 14, I fell into a depression lasting a few months until an incident at school which lead me to put a loaded gun against my head. I saw myself in the mirror and realised it was my mom's pink hand grip gun and I just started laughing, and I snapped out of it. I began meditating again, got with gf steady for 2 years. Its was during those two years I would try pot for the first time. It finally cleared my head. I was able to think on anything I wanted to think about and I could maintain it without any interruption. So I decided that I tried pharmaceutical medication for 6 years. I took a break for 6 years. So now I'm going to see how 6 years of (on and off) pot use will leave me. After the 6th year ends, I'll do another 6 years of raw dogging life with no chemical buffer to see what truly was the best option.
As of today, I work a job I enjoy, I have someone I'm interested in romantically (its mutual), I make enough money to be comfortable and I still practice meditation and detox periods. I feel both happy and content, but I just want a professional opinion and analysis of who I am so I can be more certain of who I think I am. At the end of it all, i think i have an identity problem if anything.
I just want to say thank you, my therapist recently suggested I have ADHD inattentive type and I’ve been obsessively watching your videos and they’ve really helped me understand myself and not feel as bad about myself.
thanks for this video ! clearly explained what is ADHD all about in simple terms . 1)self medication often leads to self sabotage but if ADHD person manages to beat addiction strong emotional stress can destroy progress an 2) when we resist all kind of harm things people looks us like wired beings who dont have emotions and dont love fun/or we ar extremally boring that separete us from them . separation and strong emotions together makes almost impossible to fully recover and live fulfilling life .
The weird thing about giving stimulants to kids with ADHD was that a couple of times in college I tried methamphetamine like an idiot and everybody else was incredibly hyper and all I wanted to do was melt into the couch and not do anything
I find cocaine, which has been the go to life ruiner for me ( as well as alcohol cigarettes and weed ) was the #1 choice . Andnsame effects. I can formulate my thoughts it kinda quiets my brain . Accept my emotions. But the side effects suck and make it worse . Methamphetamine was a line i always said I wouldn't cross and when I did Holy crap . Lazer focus . Honestly scared me into looking deeper into this adult adhd stuff. And it's making my.whole life make so much more sense.
Children with ADHD and stimulants are a whole different scenario. I was a Ritalin kid. I get real calm on Adderall
Prescribing stimulants to children should be punishable by hard labor. Big pharma created an entire generation of addicts for no other reason than to line their pockets. Cognitive behavioral therapy is shown to be just as effective as Adderall and doesn't cause irreversible brain damage.
@@darkdestroyer2837
What did Ritalin do to you vs Adderall?
@@bperez8656 When I was younger, I remember Ritalin highs making me feel swings of moods and emotion. I had two divorced parents and one wanted me on it and the other did not. So I was put on and taken off the medication several times. Which I remember being taken off having a a very difficult time and going through feelings of sadness and possibly depression as young as 8 years old. Can recount multiple times just randomly crying in class and the other kids all confused why. As I got into my later teen years and early adulthood I became heavily dependent on smoking weed to relax and control my temperaments. I was started on Adderall at some point by a psychiatrist with a mood stabilizer and the pot smoking became almost nonexistent for a long time naturally on its own. I believe the Adderall was replacing the dopamine my body doesn't know how to release cause it was so funked by taking Ritalin as a kid. Not cause I was ADHD. I take XR and since I started I've never been more emotionally stable and productive than ever. From my personal experience, I think it is possible taking these stimulant type drugs at a young age can actually increase the likelihood you will need similar drugs as an adult just to be able to function lol. I'm anti Ritalin at this point, at least in young kids. But as an adult no complaints about Adderall. Never felt the desire to abuse it and have a heart attack and helps me stay focused on my tasks and even puts me consistently in a postitive mood throughout the day.
I passed over this a while back but decided that since I was taking a tolerance break from weed id give it a look. I almost cried watching this, I've always thought that I had a problem with weed but after listening to you I realize how negative the impact has been on me and how I've spiralled so much since starting after the last break I had from weed. Thank you
By the way, you posted this at the perfect time. I've never struggled with my ADHD the way I have these past few months and this gave me a lot of desperately needed insight. Thank you Dr.K
Likewise dude
Same man
Same 🥴
Yall are some sheltered kids. ADHD is nothing compared to other disorders
@@Coldfront-sg3tt Rather than trying to compare the suffering of two different groups, maybe try recognize that everyone has different struggles and that doesn't make them invalid. Sure, I don't have brain cancer but does that mean I don't deserve help or to better understand myself. Just something to chew on. Calling others "sheltered kids" is just a way to distance yourself from them. I hope you can understand but it's okay if you don't.
Killin me softly here brother. Telling my whole life with your words.
I'm so glad that I was diagnosed with ADHD early in my life, and that it was pretty mild in its symptoms. I believe that's why I've never seen it as a problem and openly discuss that I have it. I feel bad for those that aren't diagnosed and just think that they are dumb, when they aren't they're just wired different.
@@mr.skeleton3190 feel bad for people that get bothered by common parlance in youtube comments
@@mr.skeleton3190 LMAOOO THE EGO