Why you always feel so mentally drained.
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When we constantly sweat the small stuff it has implications on our happiness, the quality of our relationships and, if we aren’t careful, it can even impact the outcome of really important decisions... like choosing where to invest our money or deciding if you should take that job in a new city. Let’s talk about decision fatigue and how it might be ruining your life.
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tldw: wear the same shirt everyday.
it's as easy as that
I love you
True. Been wearing the same outfit the past week. Clean every day, no extra decision to make haha.
I have the feeling that you are my doctor that tells me what to change. btw: yes you are a god in minimalism.
I made this decision this year and it rocks! Plain black or dark grey t-shirts all day, everyday yeah!
Matt's sense of humor as its finest lately. I laughed a lot with this one.
All these amazing people wearing the same shirt…
Yeah, totally agree. Timing of comedy is getting really good here! (Not to mention the quality of the content in itself)
Definitely, always add a touch of levity to his videos.
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I'm still always blown away by the cinematography on this channel, Matt is in another league.
Thanks, Archie!
Truly
@@mattdavella he's at least at 70k decisions a day!
He loves his craft. He brought his film making tier production quality to these RUclips content streets.
Ikr
He blurred out the background
So we don't get distracted n just focus on him
*Cause:*
Decision fatigue
*Solution:*
Reduce the amount of decision
Automate decisions
Make your important decision in morning
For all those who do not want to wear the same thing every day: Put the clothes out in the evening. Then you save the energy in the morning!
I always do this, definitely helps
Or you can also simply have an order in which you wear clothes. Like I wore A yesterday, B today and will wear C tomorrow and then repeat.
I myself wear anything that I see first and then move on to procrastinating on other things.
THIS. I ALWAYS DO THIS
But what if you are too tired in the evening???
I don't like the evening, it's always where I get tired or the sun causes me some headaches
I always come back to this channel (and have done for years) whenever i'm struggling to stay focused. The honesty and transparency you offer as a creator is second to none.
I work as a dispatcher. Decisions are all I do. And that's true when I'm coming back home I'm not able to think straight. Two days ago my wife asked me if I preferred lego set or a coffee mug as a present because her sister didn't knew what to get me. I've crumbled, this little question at the end of the day destroyed me. Now I understand what happened more.
What present did you get in the end?
@@KeepingOnTheWatch Oh, she waited too long and didn't get me anything in the end. But I got a surprise Lego (75280) from my own sister which was extremely nice, felt like a kid again.
@@traktorek3675 Ah, that model is a Star Wars set - Nice! Your exterior is mature because of the years but the kernel inside - the real you - is still a kid.
I had the same work a few years ago.. Now I understand why even deciding what to eat next would put my in an existential crisis.
What's interesting is that I've been mentally trained to make quick, snap decisions, from my time in kitchens.
It's more of the "how do we fix this right now right now" and worry about the repricusssions later.
My wife hates it.
Hahaha underated comment!
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Haha! You have to do that to survive in a kitchen 😅 although I can see how that would have some negative repercussions at home 😬
Same. My husband ends up calling me impatient.
Damn, Matt, this week I was just trying to explain this weird feeling to my therapist, this mental exhaustion that was even stopping me from answering people on WhatsApp! And we couldn’t figure it out what the problem was haha but that’s it, decision fatigue! Thanks Matt, you just saved me some therapy sessions😂😂
I think i have same problem.. i am feeling like i live in world when i have to pick side all the time till i get lifeless
@Dalton Black not everyone, what about jordan Peterson
@Dalton Black man of knowledge i see, nice
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It’s late at night, and I read your comment thinking that your therapist stopped messaging you on whatsapp because of it.
I’m a single mother of a disabled child, run my own household, and am a small business owner of a few businesses. Because I have to make so many decisions throughout the day that can definitely impact others, I eliminate some of my daily minor decisions. Such as: I eat the same exact thing for breakfast, I take my coffee the same exact way (black), I have the same three things to pick from at work to eat for lunch, I utilize smart devices set on a specific schedule for lights/charging/cleaning, and I often wear what looks like the same exact thing everyday (mostly fitted black monochrome clothing.) Not needing to waste time and energy thinking about minor things like these gives me more energy to focus on other more important things. It’s also very important for me to take a quick 5-7 minute break in playing a dorky Snapchat Bitmoji game to break up the monotony and give myself a laugh-which helps me refocus on tasks at hand. Sometimes, I secretly do a bunch of quick jumping jacks in the bathroom to burn up some physical energy. It’s important to energize yourself with natural-good feelings and laughter every once in awhile. 😂😊
I believe meditation should be a practice we all do on a daily basis to have more energy and feel relaxed, totally changed my life. I gave up on it like 7 times but once I really understood what worked for me it became so powerful. I got rid of anxiety, low energy, boosted my self esteem and confidence. Wish you all an amazing 2022
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What works for you? What's changed?
Yea what worked for u?
I'm betting people who just finished Christmas shopping would fail the ice water test immediately
Ayy glad to see you here. This is very similar to your “Willpower is for losers” video. Great stuff! :)
dude
I saw your video "will power is for losers" Loved it. As usual your videos are superb!
just "ye- no. i quit."
the fact that i took five major courses this term and started waiting at least 3 working days to reply to most people... definitely decision fatigue at its worst
This is so interesting to me. I’ve been struggling with intense intrusive thoughts since about 2016. It’s so mentally draining and I’ve been looking for a solution for years. I’ve been trying low stress scenarios to no avail. It’s really hard to stop focusing so intensely on stupid or made up things. I love this video. I should try this method as I always end up completely exhausted.
Reading The Untethered Soul may help
Helpful tip that’s changed my life: putting a sticky note on my desk that says, “NO.” I heard it from someone on an episode of The Daily Stoic podcast. I think it was Robert Greene or Steven Pressfield.
What does it do?
@@helsbels says no
@@nori106 well yes obviously that, but what's the effect?
No what? No banana? No notes?
The opening cinematography was particularly fantastic. 👌😊 I've been watching your videos since my teen years-thank you for consistently wonderful work, Matt!!
Thanks, Alina! :)
If removing clothing choices seems daunting to you, start off small. I've started leaving clean socks and t-shirts out for myself in advance of certain days, so I'm out and clothed easier. Obviously if you have some big, corporate event you should be putting more effort into it, but for normal days? You know yourself better than anyone else and what clothes will work for you productively.
Living with a narcissistic parent has mentally exhausted me drained any form of happiness from my soul.
That hit me differently. A week ago I noticed that I was taking (no exagerattion) 1-2 HOURS to choose what outfit I would wear in a day.
I always took so long choosing that at the end I was so exhausted that I didnt even wanna leave the house anymore LOL.
Now what I started doing is putting the first outfit I think of and EVEN if I dont really like it I just go do other things, like brushing my teeth, putting contact lenses, doing my hair, etc. And then when I look back at the mirror I end up realising that I actually like the outfit I'm wearing, or at least I dont give it that much thought: "Ah, its ok. It doesnt really matter". This has been helping me a lot .
Try a capsule wardrobe. It doesn’t really matter the number of items, just make sure everything goes well with everything else. You could also write some outfits on paper, cut them so you get some cards and shuffle them. Every day you take one and whatever is written is what you wear.
@@carolc2574 this is such a brilliant idea!
One of my favorite videos from you!! Wow
When we’re poor in making decisions we can easily get into people pleasing mode. To help me make better decisions I prioritise my goals for the day and be clear on my goals for the week. That way when people ask for my help, I’m clear on what I can and can’t do and I communicate that clearly. Thanks for today’s video
Before starting the vid I already feel like I needed this. I’ve been feeling weighed down and feel like my mind isn’t in the right headspace.
The videos you make are so great and feel like I can disconnect and connect to this when I’m feeling mentally drained.
It amazes me that the timing of your content release relates on my current situation most of the time. It kinda feels uplifting. Thank you.
Honestly Matt, I have reached a point in my life where I know what I want and no one changes that for me. I make a list and stick to it.
Hi Matt,
I am one of those people who rarely comment & one of those who rarely laugh about jokes because my brain anticipates most of them and therefore kills the element of surprise.. but I can honestly say that I love your humor! Your jokes are clever, lovingly crafted down to the last detail, and perfectly embedded in the story of the video. So glad you decided to spice up your videos by putting in some of that awesome sense of humor. Greetings & merry christmas from Germany!
The rock joke made you laugh ? It was pretty basic tbh
This is so me, and to a very critical point that i am getting severe headaches and apathy because of it. Now i understand the correct term for this, thank you matt
A very important skill, especially if you're going to be a self-starter is learning how to make a decision, to pull the trigger, because it's one thing to fill decision fatigue, it is entirely another to not able able to make A decision.
I find that the best you are at making INFORMED decisions QUICKLY, the more likely you are to handle decision fatigue. Kinda cool!
I think the struggle is between being too careful and throwing caution to the wind.
You talking about all of those choices we make in a day with the music in the background is exactly what anxiety feels like
WOW, this gave me a whole new perspective and I feel like am a different person now. Much appreciation Matt!
Totally blown away by the fact that we make THAT MUCH decision making a day. No wonder we're always tired.
I always struggle with trying to simplify my life. Let’s just say 2022 is gonna be a habit breaking year!
Habit’s are the energy saving thing our brain has developed! They don’t cost anywhere bear the same energy as decisions.
I would recommend making more efficient habits.
@@olord7426 makes sense!
Decision fatigue is very real! I’m only just pulling through the other side of a decision burnout
When he said "I would say no to the rock straight on his face" I got extremely worried until he went "of course i will"
I watch one of your videos every 3 months and they always have a lasting impact. I always say I need to watch them more which is ironic.
Thank you for the content it’s really helpful! 🥰
*Like I always say*
*Believe in yourself*
*You can do it*
*Stay positive*
*&*
*Keep smiling* 💛
@BasementDiaries 😂😂
holy epic opener. Your attention to detail does not go unnoticed
I'm sure this video will have a huge impact on my life and a lot of people watching this. Thanks Matt!
Yes, likewise
How would you like your coffee??? ARIANA GRANDE?!?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes, with sweetener
I work in crowd control and emergency management where 10k people can pass through in a 2 hour block. There are many questions (from the high volume of people asking questions but also your follow up questions to determine the best path for them) and decisions in routing that person to solve their immediate issue (many additional variables can determine what you decide your answer for them will be) that must be decided, that by the end of the day, many of my team mates do have decision fatigue. When I am looking at my personal to-do list, things suddenly become too difficult and start adding up to unfinished decisions.
i literally paused the video to comment and praise how brilliant the video is and back ground is excellent
You rock Matt
This video reminds me of Buridan's Donkey.
The donkey is faced with two different bales of hay. The bale's are identical, but the donkey can't decide which one to choose. The Donkey eventually starves to death.
This is how most people live their life, they either can't choose, or when they do choose they spend all their time thinking about the other bale.
Trust you've made the right choice and keep going, you got this 💙
Sometimes, I think I've got it all figured. I'm mentally & emotionally more in touch than ever. & then Matt drops a new video & I'm found questioning (in the best way) "why?" in every aspect of my physical life. I've known about decision fatigue, & what it looks like, but I needed THIS video to help me get a handle on it again. Thanks Matt, for the 4th year running.
“venti, grande, Ariana Grande” 😂 very funny Matt, enjoyed the video and the laughs. Automating decision seems such a simple idea, like clothes to wear etc, I don’t know why I haven’t done it!
I've been having headaches for the past week, what a coincidence how this popped up.
Im glad you mentioned nurses. I am a nurse who works 12 hours shifts, and by the end of my shifts my brain is completely done. It is difficult to make decisions towards the end of my shift.
This tracks so well with why so many of us have been experiencing more decision fatigue during the pandemic -- all of a sudden we have 100 more decisions to make about once-automated parts of our lives. If going to the grocery store (or home for the holidays) requires half our daily decision making power, of COURSE we feel exhausted halfway through the day. My TLDW: cut yourself a break.
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
Modern worlds biggest conundrum is consumer anxiety/ decision fatigue. Reasons why sometimes countries that limit the market might run more efficiently.
*“It’s not always that we need to do more but rather that we need to focus on less.” - Nathan W. Morris*
This video popped up EXACTLY when I was feeling it. This same thing happed with your Why Life is Flying By video.
THE ROCK IN THE ACORNS ADD AT THE END MADE MY NIGHT!
omg, the banana and sunglasses bit. And then they're sitting there on the coffee table. I love it.
I've found that with unavoidable decisions building momentum can also be helpful - like not allowing decisions to sit there for ages and build up but instead dealing with them head on when they emerge, then maintaining that momentum as you tackle more throughout the week/month. I make goofy videos about life and the universe and that's one of the topics I've covered - I'd love for you guys to check them out and let me know what you think if you get the chance! 🌟
was subscribed since you were like 100k sub, you the man Matt. always were
I like how your videos are so smooth, perfect & satisfying. It's calming me down
I realize now why I'm so exahusted everyday, because my position demand me to making decision everyday. This video is gonna change my mindset about making decision. Thanks for the advice matt! 😊
I was impressed in the first 30 seconds. MATT, HOW DO YOU DO IT. Your content is absolute astounding quality
Making a decision of what to cook or what to eat causes me fatigue as well, it took me at least one hour to figure it out
8:00 is easier said than done. I never know, when the "most important decisions" need to be made in my job. I can't just wait for them to come around and do nothing waiting for them ;)
The intro is so true. Unfortunately, we do not usually realise that :(.
Little things that you share is helping me in a big way. Thanks Matt.
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."*
The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤
This video can transform lives. Thank you! Great The Rock jokes too!
How much of life are you missing out on because you’re scared to take action???
Matt this is a YT video not a documentary. You have no chill.
The quality of these videos are incredible.
social media also plays a role in that
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I found out what season color I am (autumn) and started only buying clothes in that color scheme, and 99% of items are solids (no prints). I couldn’t commit to wearing the exact same shirt every day, but now, regardless of what I grab it matches/goes together. The only thing that changes are my earrings.
I love your voice and the production values of this video are definitely worthy of more than 86k views. Also - using Grieg as backdrop music is always a plus in my book
On the topic - I bought 5 black t-shirts, 3 white t-shirts, 2 pairs of black jeans, a black wool coat and a black winter jacket, two pairs of black boots (one warm, another not warm). Now I never have to think about what to wear - I wear the same thing every day and feel great. I have some legacy clothes like a non-black wool sweater and a non-black lighter long sleeve that I also wear. It's not all about black but in selecting new clothes I will always default to black.
What's funny is - I am a runner and have a bunch of running clothes. Well, picking what to wear to run is always a more complicated process than picking what to wear for the daily stuff haha
*Well, ur not prioritizing on the foundation like diet, exercise and sleep* 🙏❤️
Or perhaps ur just doing sth that u hate and u don’t know what ur passion is…yet 😊
Thai guy needs to make a video about this haha.
Music is on point Matt! So appropriate!
Most important decisions in the day: *morning.*
Brain feeling creative and everything is coming to me: *night.*
LOL, I often skip through sponsor messages. On this one I went back to see the whole thing. Brilliant!
This is why parenting is so hard. You need to make the decisions not only for yourself)
Matt , every second of that video is excellent
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Virtual hugs haha, awesome comment!
Thank you. I needed this today
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I’m subscribed to so many people and I love watching all of them that picking which video to watch is actually a decision I make lol.
Tackling the first big goal of the day before anything else (including email or social media) can really help with focus. I eat the same breakfast daily and have the same workout (Hydrow rower) daily. Great tips Matt!
THE DOMAIN ACTUALLY EXISTS props on commitment
I'm get easily bored and depressed, I feel like I'm lost in life and don't know what to do with my life, whatever I do I get bored fast and I start looking for something more interesting, but im never satisfied on a long-term term basis.
*1:05**: banana, or sunglasses?! xD is a decision i have to make every SINGLE DAY LOLOL*
@Matt D’Avella odd request but like a book review, could you do a productivity RUclipsr review, and outline your top 5 RUclipsrs similar to yourself out there and give your reasons why we should watch them? I find myself aimlessly scrolling to find someone on your level!
Thanks for everything you do, Happy New Year.
Ive been thinking about this recently! The timing for this video, for the general public, could not have been better
Focus on Yoursef and everything will become better!Have a great day guys!
I am watching this at night, definitely not fatigued.
I have literally felt so mentally drained lately. How appropriate that this shows up on my feed lol
now I know why Im super drained after shopping, especially when I must help my wife to decide what dress is better to buy!
The quality of this video is like what we see in the movies. Wow! Great video Matt.
Every video just gets better and better, thanks Matt for such a good content!
Sir! wow I like the way you took it's easy to understand and remembered every words good job
This is why Costco is a great stock to own & place to shop at.
Great music at the beginning! And thanks for making me realize where a part of my fatigue is coming from. As a mum I constantly have to make decisions not just for me but for my kids...
i regularly watch your videos and just realized how i'm not subbed yet?! great content :)
4:07 is absolutely hilarious lol
After a long time! I'm watching the whole RUclips video because of you and not just the few minutes. I've signed up for your newsletter and started following you here on RUclips and your podcast channel! Great content!
I've been becoming more aware of this again lately, starting with /any/ social media rips into my ability to effectively do anything. Trying to push it to afternoon best I can. Love the vid Matt!
Oh I really needed that video. Thanks for bringing up the issue. Great video!
Wonderful perspective with this subject. Talk to the boss early in the day to get the things you want.😀