If you can feel other peoples energy WATCH THIS
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- Опубликовано: 20 ноя 2024
- Dive into the world of empaths, healing, and inner child connection in this insightful video.
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Hi Aaron, I clicked on the link for the Inner Child Meditation but it doesn't seem to work once I get to that page. Thank you for all your great info.
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11:11 in...First note...dude you're awesome 👍
2nd.
The narcissist takes what it will always need more of but never will be satisfied...
The Empath: "I give happiness and eventually learn to find happiness in my own Heart's Mind finding Joy in the energy I freely give... without the burden and weakness of the narcissist/enemy being able to steal...
Instead... it's a gift... rather than theft in nativity. 💓😊🫨😇💓
I just happened to pause it at 11:11...Wonders💓
Is this what I have been doing? Hope I do not sound rude by asking this,but let me explain. Remember Jared Foggle the subway guy was arrested? When I saw him on the news it got so bad I felt sick to my stomach yet I did not know why. I only felt better when I turned off the news. I think this ability grew because when Bill Cosby was arrested, I could see what he had done to those women in my mind, then it happened again, when I listened to Travis Walton talk about being abducted by aliens. In many ways it’s like a private movie playing in my head. I swear I am not making this up, even tho people do not believe me or think it’s my imagination at play. I jus wonder how am I doing it? Can I control it?
You have effectively gotten a concept through to me that I have been struggling with for years.
You couldn’t imagine the darkness and horrific loops I’ve been caught in for years.
After doing the meditation once , I woke up today feeling lighter, more playful, craving a sense of fun and adventure, more free, more authentically expressive. Last night I watched a Christmas movie with my inner child something that was impossible for me to do before because of the trauma.
I’m already recognizing the patterns and I’m all open for my inner child to come chat whenever she wants to. No just for the bad things but the good too.
I can’t thank you enough for this. I really truly can’t even begin to use words to express this gratitude.
Best of all now I’ll be able to help my kiddos heal too.
I throughly appreciate you.
I am an empath, I recently cut anyone who was negative out of my life. The negativity was drowning me alive.
Same here. I did the same thing.
Samee I’ve gain boundaries finally but it’s hard since I was so co depended off others it feels lonely at times but patience for what the future holds
Same here
Same!! I cannot be in or around it. It takes me down physically
@@benjifitnessnwellbeingwith your friends and family?
That sad moment when you learn what you thought was an empath and it's actually PTSD. I always felt sensitive to others emotions. If they were angry, sad, nervous etc...the reality is I have ptsd from my childhood and when people are mad, sad, anxious it makes me on edge. Just something to think about
Have you considered looking into "Complex" PTSD? You may find it very interesting.
then use it
It's not something that can be used. It's not what I thought of as being an empath. It's actually getting anxiety from people's body language, their tone of voice, their attitude. Being super in-tune because as a child those subtle changes meant bad stuff was going to happen. So as an adult those small things cause a big reaction in me. Not sure if any of that makes sense. It's actually just being very observant to small changes in others because that was learned behavior from a traumatic childhood. It took almost 40 years to realize I didn't have some empathic super power, it's actually trauma
@@jackiejohnson2666 same here
i think you are doing the "having to explain everything" thing here. you dont have to explain yourself :) i suffer from the same thing so it's easy to spot. even when typing this comment, i feel the urge to start justifying my reasons for typing it! funny this@@jackiejohnson2666
My mom did physically leave when I was 14 and moved to another state after divorcing my stepdad and remarrying 3 months later. The abandonment issues I've had are high-level, and I am now 40 years old; divorced from a controlling narcissist and alcoholic. Luckily I was able to get out of that relationship, however, I have no trust now. I can read people quite easily and almost see a color around them, and their energy can easily change mine from 0-100 in less than a second. I also trust my gut, that has gotten me out of a few possibly dangerous situations.
OMG "..so empaths attracts narcissists to learn something from them, to learn how to be in their own sense of self.." IT'S SO TRUE.
Is it though….
@@is-ness nah just gen z logic
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or was just manipulated into thinking a person was really super extremely the person of your dreams only to realize they were really truly evil because of what happened to them in “their” childhood and etc..
@@xValorxSorax sigh
Ive been watching your videos since you first went on RUclips and I remember you always saying how you always wanted to do events like these where you talk in front of people teaching them. It's nice to see you've manifested that dream 😊
Bro, same ; not to be one of those guys but I do vividly remember this too back in the early days and I am genuinely vicariously happy here. For real 😊
Miracles can happen ...
IKR ITS EXACTLY WHY I HAD TO CLICK. I honestly know alot of this information already but i literally clicked this to support him cause ik he been manifesting this for awhile
It’s been so awesome watching him come full circle, watching him call out what he wants and going for it. Very inspiring!
And his new temple....(body) WOW...INSPIRING
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.
@@koenvandaele8673this is NOT that. This is spiritual business. Seek further for a real guide for i am self discovery.
😢 I guess I'm the student and just now got that😢
I love this! "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." Amazing.
Ha! I read that book, too! 😁 That's awesome!
I’m an Empath & have attracted SEVERAL narcissists. It took many years to “get the lesson” however, after many years of reoccurring themes & experiencing the same or similar events & various types of narcissistic personalities I’m grateful to say I finally GOT IT!👈🏾🙏🏾
It is a cruel symbiosis...
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The narcissist discards...
The empath goes "NO CONTACT"😮
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@@Melchizedek11
You summed it up perfectly!
so how did you heall from them break bond and the attachment abandonment i have a whole narcissist family? first i hear no contact is not answer you attract more narcs?
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I’m here to tell you …
NO CONTACT is an absolutely HUGE part of the healing process & journey or should I say it most certainly was for me. However, I must say “no contact” is more than simply “cutting off all forms of communication.” It’s a deep knowing & feeling one should have internally that “continuing to have ANYTHING to do with said person (the narcissist) is beyond annoying, aggravating, sickening & a complete detriment to your entire being.” If you’re not at that point I do not recommend going no contact…you’ll just find yourself back in that same repeated cycle.
While it may be triggering for you it’s important to vividly recall the details of how the narcissist treated you at various times & situations. It’s NEVER them with an issue or the cause of ANY problem. It’s always not so much you but more so YOUR REACTIONS that’s always the problem. (According to the narcissist) Recall how you felt/feel. Ask yourself the real yet very tough questions like…
“Why & for what reason(s) are you staying with this person &/or around these people & exactly how does it serve you?” 🤔…💭…✍🏾
Get yourself a journal dedicated to writing down “your experiences & feelings.” Be sure to date every entry of your journal. Start writing every instance of all your feelings about occurrences, issues, situations & YOUR RESPONSES TO THEM. Also include when & how you take accountability for your actions including but not limited to speaking your mind, leaving the relationship or cutting ties with certain people, etc.
Over time what I believe you’ll learn in dealing with the various types of narcissist(s) & their methods of abuse is that the absolute best way to deal with them is to be SILENT.
Do NOT engage with them.
Do NOT attempt to fix them &/or their problems, issues & drama.
Do NOT respond to their insults.
Do NOT respond to or accept ANY form of criticism, hatefulness & harassment from them.
*Your only response to their rhetoric & foolishness is SILENCE &/or TO WALK AWAY. It’s always best to leave them with their own words, opinions & decisions.
My apologies for such a long response to your question but I wanted to share some of what worked for me coupled with prayer, meditation & what I’ve learned via studying the various types & forms of narcissism. While I don’t recall any of them by name there are some really great resource channels here on RUclips.
*I’m willing to bet within 30-90 days of you seriously journaling & going back to see what you wrote you’ll find yourself growing, changing & healing from the inside out.
If you need me please feel free to reach out to me anytime. I’m happy to help you. Wishing you love light & the highest level of peace the universe has to offer you!🙏🏾♥️💐
you angel x@@msohsosolo
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I’m an empath, but if I do help someone it’s always from the heart. The world doesn’t own me anything. Life was painful and full of disappointment, but I am happy and content. I am my best advocate. It’s important to have self love and self-care.
I love this thanks
Wow, I feel as if I wrote this!😊
he didn't get everything right.... he knows empaths, but he's not one..
Exactly. I have been an Empath since birth I'd gather. My two sons are as well. This man knows some of the characteristics of an Empath, although I'd have to agree with AAlex-cm9qg. I don't think he's an Empath.
Exactly girl, couldn't of said it better 👍
Being an empath is great because we can really see and understand people on a deep level but it's also a nightmare because we feel so much pain in humanity. It's wonderful being able to help society but we're also very susceptible to being abused by people with ulterior motives like narcissists. It's a blessing and a curse for us. Learning how to protect ourselves is a must.
agree i find your explaniation aligning with my pov more then this video. he thinks that empath are looking for things which is not the case we dont want to please people we want to treat people how we would treat ourselves
Exactly, 100! It is most definitely a blessing and a curse! Sometimes I truly do wish I could just not care or not "give af" even just for a day for some relief, cause it seems I am the one that suffers the most in my relationships or day to day life, as most of society lack empathy, are selfish and lack self awareness. Being a good person sucks sometimes, and being nice gets you taken advantage of. Or, you get treated like you're dumb, or slow, or something is wrong with you, or you're less than! The good seem to suffer the most while the bad seem to be thriving!!
this is so very true
I always thought that everybody felt the same "vibes" that I was feeling in certain situations. I realize now that it's a special gift. How lucky are we.
I’m an empath and always been a people pleaser. Thinking it was good to be this way. I’m now 55 and after going through an extremely painful divorce and seeing who is and isn’t there for you. Opening my eyes to what I’ve always attracted and was still attracting I shut the show down completely. I made a decision to start self care and healing. At that moment one by one all the toxic people started falling away. Some I’d had for over 30 years. It was time. Over the past two years my life has changed. I’m joyfully happy inside and out. I have a sense of peace I’ve never had before. Setting boundaries which is huge!!! I’d never done that before. Boundaries are extremely important. My mother is toxic and learning to deal with this has been tricky. My time with her is limited. She is giving but with conditions. I love her but I now love myself so learning to not feel guilt is hard still. I’ll continue this work till this life ends. I wish this peace for all people. It’s wonderful. ❤
How do you know if your mother is toxic?
I can relate.
You sound refreshed.😊
I relate to this. Except I'm 37 and I lost a child 2 weeks before her due date due to a work related incident. Sadly I learned in an excruciating way who my friends were.... and let's just say I have myself as a friend and can so easily cut ppl off now. I don't regret all I gave to each of them which was 199% of myself as you probably know. We are blessed and we did what was right. “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” nice to meet you, thank you for sharing your testimony ❤
Steel energy😢
I'm empathic, intuitive..I can read people immediately and I know if they're good or not and whether I can vibe with them or know to avoid them, people with low energy I have to stay away from cause I can feel that heaviness, people with high adhd kind of energy i also avoid if possible cause it makes me feel like I drank a triple expresso and I hate that antsy feeling, it really is a gift and a curse but it kind of gives me an advantage being able to predict certain people and situations
Can u also feel people’s energy trying to take yours . Just walking by or behind them?
Often they attention seekers or frail. One dude literally wouldn’t leave me alone.
I have a friendly thoughtful nature. Plus I enjoy a friendly chat. His energy was very dense. I walked around him to get away. He demanded I have a conversation. Even though he noticed, I wasn’t interested in one. I walked away keeping to myself, remaining silent.
@@carolcote1596 tha def. Sounds a bit scary. I never really thought that someone could steal another's energy, I think I've matured enough over the years to know who to avoid at all costs and stand firm on it, and on the other hand I'm sure I've had people to that to me at some point
@@shawnavelli9537 Sweetheart these energy vampires walk amongst us. Narcissists is a well known term for them.
I am seeking information from others that are as sensitive. If they’ve experienced this and what if anything. They’ve learned to protect their energy.
@@carolcote1596 does it prevent you from being competitive against someone who cares so much about about winning that you would rather just let them win? or... have you ever seen someone getting made fun of (for example) and said something silly to get that negative attention off of them and shifted towards you instead? also, is it normal for someone else's tension to make your muscles physically sort of cramp? thanks for discussing this stuff. oh ya , iv always wondered how its possible to feel someone staring even from far away and make eye contact because of it. it seems unexplainable aside from being spiritual
@@carolcote1596I have an energy vampire as a husband. Earlier in our relationship I noticed that he would fight with me right before he left to go to work. He wouldn’t stop until I cried. I obliged him when I noticed and it worked! He was satiated by my tears. Also, if he’s bored, he’ll try to zap me. It’s fascinating living an aware life. His behavior has changed dramatically since I started identifying his tactics in the moment. Definitely a useful tool when in a relationship with a sociopathic narcissist.
Last year I finalized a divorce with a covert narcissist, as an empath.
The one thing I look as a silver lining outcome is that in the end I really fell in love with “myself” , and that was a bit of a liberating feeling to know that… I do love me.
Two emapths meeting each other gotta be golden
We just see past everyones bullshit and laugh together
Yes, especially if we are from the same soul tribe.
If you have RH Negative blood then you posses all those qualities!!
I'm not sure if that's even possible...I don't seem to attract them.
I just met my "twin sister" (both of us highly spiritual and sensitive empaths) from a past life. We recognized each other on first sight and it's been absolutely magical reconnecting and supporting each other already, even though I only met her in this life about a month ago. We're going through the same shit but we also are tuned in to what is really going on in our lives, and helping each other through it. It's so beautiful and we're so grateful to have connected at this moment in our lives. 😊 It CAN happen.
You are describing my last relationship to an absolute T! Took me 8 years, but one day I packed a bag, changed the tire he slashed the night before so I wouldn't leave, and left. I've NEVER looked back. I spent 18 months focused on falling in love with myself and getting comfortable putting myself first. When I put myself back out there I attracted the most supportive, loving, kind partner. I learned and grew from my ex and now I'm living the life of my dreams. I'm extremely grateful to my ex for the opportunity to finally learn how to choose me. My boyfriend had narcissistic girlfriends, so we are a couple givers who are learning how to receive and give in a balanced way. It's BEAUTIFUL 😁
That sounds great and like you have a beautiful mindset. Much love to you ❤
This gives me hope.. I left 6 months ago, but have been feeling better than ever, he made me believe I'd never be happy without him. I know it's not true
@@Jar0Jess My mantra became "nothing changes if nothing changes." You are stronger than you know. Sending you so much love, light and 🔥. 🙏🏻
I needed to see this. Thank you 🙏🏾
😊 but how long did it take u to get over the person u walked away from,and are u happier than before
Nice Video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can't stop thinking about him, l've tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I'm frustrated, I don't see my life as anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can't, I don't know why I'm saying this here, I really miss him and just can't stop thinking about him.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let him go, so I had to do all I could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment...
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach one.?
His name is fatherabulu, and him is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex...
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive.
Do you miss your ex or do you miss the idea of him
This is so good Aaron! Omgosh my mum was the still face, angry, narcissist and my dad wasn't there. It was a very scary, unstable, tbh frightening childhood in so many ways and I grew up with no sense of self, a complete empath, people pleaser, insecure, looking for love from emotionally unavailable guys who treated me like shit, with absolutely no trust in life, myself, God, and a deep rooted fear. I'm working through all of this but it has and is a journey. I love your videos. Thanks for the resources, I appreciate you very much 🙏❤️
Omg, I grew up the same way, but my both parents were good and terrible, because they divorced when I was at the age of 6. And from my mother and grandmother I learned how to dominate and rule men, but they treated me like shit too. Even two ot them were the worst and had destroyed me. It took me 4 years even to partialy heal myself. Now I just want to be with my current guy the love of my life and to be fine. To don't let him down. And the problem is that I am a people pleaser too, but sometimes when I'm hurt I only please myself and do things for myself. It's very drastic sometimes.
Congratulations to both of you on this level in your self healing
My story exactly.
This is stuff we already know.People like him are funny. He only does this for money, like most people, money motivates everything they do. Y'all still don't get what real authenticity is.
@@michellepetros8491 And what if I tell you that only a few still know it? Most of them are soooo stuck in the matrix that you cannot imagine. And telling that someone who is way smarter and advanced than you is funny is like telling that is good to be stupid. Watch your tongue!!!!
You talked about why Empaths are attracted to Narcissts . Im a strong Empath and thought maaany years about that issue. Finally i got what it was . An Empath cannot FEEL the Narcisst. They feel like a kind of "safe harbor".. a person we dont get "signals " from . First we think : Oh yes ..thats a person i can calm down with.. But thats basicly a trap . And when their mask is falling , its basicly to late. We get stuck in shitty relationships .
So ..i learned now : If i cannot FEEL a person - RUN...
During last years i met more and more REAL Empaths. I learned , my safe harbor will NEVER be a person i cannot feel. Maybe at beginning another Empath around you can feel overwhelming. But .... with personal space for each to "reset" , it will be "magic " ..like never before . They are our safe harbors ..
Dont step into next trap. You cannot feel them, stay on distance.
And NEVER ever think you could "fix " them. Thats a biiig mistake. They will never understand what is going on in you.
In friendships its ok , as long you protect yourself and you are able to say "no " if you have to.
But in relationships , they turn into "Energy pirates " , They soak out your energy until almost nothing is left of you .
Take care all ..
Youre making your self crazier thinking too much about it man, ask god for guidance i promise you wont have to go through that. Listening to gurus like these sometimes make it worse n often say things which sound similar to what your going through n you wind up overthinking, just relax , i hope god heels you and u forget your trauma, there are real people who will love n care about you, it took me 3 years to heal from bad ptsd. But Im not gonna make myself paranoid if i dont feel a persons energy or if theyre out to harm you thats just thinking to much youre just stressing yourself out ,for me personally i just detatched from past trauma n act like it never happened, took care myself joined martial arts its hard to explain but im in a way better place than to sit dwell n be worried about getting hurt on it even though i have my bad days ik its easier said than done but the last thing id want is to be reminded of trauma and being able to move foward knowing God is changing things for the good and things are getting better each day plus ive met some new people abd an amazing woman ever since just moving foward n not living in fear
Thank you or this advice as I am an Empath. So, if I cannot feel someone's energy, I understand. But, I also feel negative vibes and feelings from people who ultimately turn out to be toxic and narcissistic. Before I even know they are toxic or narcissistic. I can read them and feel a lot coming from them. I also feel good feelings and emotions from good, honest, empathic people. So, you're saying if you can't feel a person, be careful and leave. I'll try to rmr this.
Yes @simplemeTanja, so insightful. I totally get what you are saying!! There is nothing there almost with the N, so you almost feel like you can relax. They are completely self involved. It feels like they aren’t bothered about getting anything much from you. However the longer you are with them, the more you realise there is something they want from you in the “narcissist“ sense and the draining and hurtful impact of this becomes clear.
I just read this. Thank you. I have often said that I can't feel anything from people, making me uneasy. You explained it so well. ☺
@@ChrisM-oy5ju ask god for me cos he never told me sht in reality. Lots of successful spiritual people assume god talks with everyone when it doesn't. It never said a peep to me, ever.
I'm a pure Pisces with crazy empathic abilities. I was 18 when I realized the thoughts I was hearing were not mine. It took me years to learn to tune out others thoughts.
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Any advice?
Smart people think I’m smart stupid people think I’m stupid .
Om goodness. I know four Pisces people. Spot on!
I'm a Gemini. I have always felt different like I didn't fit in or belong. Like I can remember things that happened when I was 5yrs old but my sister doesn't remember anything. That's because she was 3. My mom and Dad got into a big fight one night and I was actually holding my sister. My dad put my mother's head through a glass medicine cabinet on the bathroom Wall, tried to rip a sweater off of her, took a baseball bat to the front of her station wagon and tried to bust out the windshield. Then they came back in the house headed toward the kitchen and started breaking dishes. Then she came out to the living room with a knife and my father unfollowed him. She was going for blood. She left that night. Came back the next morning while I was in school packed up the house picked up my sister picked me up and left my father with just a tooth brush.😮
This is SO true than anytime you have all your energy set on the other person (specially partnerwise) then the other person stops finding you attractive...and whenever you set back the energy to you, then the other person feels attracted to you again... I've noticed this so much and I can understand why it's always important we never lose the focus on ourselves, what we like to do..out goals what we are passionate about... spending time alone, etc.
Thats bc your own thoughts and assumptions create your outter world. A person wont stop being attracted to u cause youre focused on them you created that belief in your subconcious so thats what youll experience
@@ChrisM-oy5ju no, haven't you watch this video? If you lack of love to yourself, then you're not longer attractive to the other person..even if you believe they're gonna love you
I had a still face moment. It’s crazy because it stuck with me through the years and I was immediately taken back there when listening to you. My mom and I used to go to movies when I was a child. When we would go to the movies, during a funny moment, we would both look at each other and laugh.
When I started becoming a teenager my mom and I would get into fights. After those fights started she stopped looking back at me and meeting my eyes to laugh during movies. This is just a small example and symbolizes the decline of our relationship. It definitely hurts. I promise I will always meet my daughter’s eyes and share a laugh.
I just got out of a 15 year narcissistic relationship after something so traumatic that happened to me. I didn’t know anything about spiritual awakening anything. It’s like someone spoke to me said get up i then told myself I choose my life. I went silent started studying him everything he has ever done said to me his actions. I had to dig deep down within myself reframe my whole mindset it was painful and long process but it was all so worth it like huge weight lifted. I DID THAT. 🙌🏽
Yes this is exactly it.
I can remember the moment of disconnect with my mother when I was standing in a crib and didn't smile back at her when she smiled at me for no reason - I just didn't feel good about it. Her face dropped and I remember she said I probably need to rest and then went away. But I didn't need to rest, I just needed to be seen and held and accepted as I was without having to smile all the time.
So I was left there alone in the crib anxious and afraid and when she came back I smiled at her like I never smiled before. Her face was not receptive anymore, but I felt I had no other choice but to keep smiling so that she would not leave me again. She eventually took me up and held me hesitantly and didn't became "normal" until 2-3 days.
That was the time when I started to believe I wasn't good enough as I was, I wasn't safe in my environment and I had to do stuff or be different than I am in order to be loved and safe.
I HATE it. I see so many people that are oblivious to people and things around them or careless but I can feel and see things.
As a life coach and inner child facilitator, you nailed it. The mother lives in us, as does our father, but the mother is stronger. We need to bring in the light mother to replace the dark mother with the unconditional loving light mother and self-regulate our inner child with unconditional love for ourselves as we learn to forgive ourselves. We forgive our dark mother as she did not know what she had done, and when we can do that we can be free from her grip and control on us
Both the mother and the father lives in each one of us. Each of those aspects has a dark and light side to them. One shouldn't be stronger than the other. They should equally be strong and compliment each other in balance.
@@Notyourslave69 Should, perhaps - but not true if one is the main caregiver. In most situations this ends up being the mother.
They are both caregivers but with different wounds and experiences. They cannot be equal because one is feminine, and the other is masculine. Some have more nurturing from their mothers, while others have more from their fathers.
It's good to be careful with who you have kids by
My dark mother destroyed me and I can not forgive my heart is black
I personally do not give to get and do not spread kindness with expectations of getting something back in return.
I have learned rather recently ... You cannot always expect what you give to be returned to you... Just because you are kind and patient with others, does not mean they will reciprocate the same respect back to you. Healing is real and I agree is very important for the sake of our own health and also for the sake of the relationships on our lives.
Don't be walked all over. Say No when you need to, stand up for yourself when you need to and people pleasing is not a healthy way to live.
Thank you for sharing all your videos!!
First time I EVER heard "Tension is not a bad thing" 🤯 🤯🤯
“As you feel safe in your body, your vibration starts to raise”. WOW! You got me with that sentence. It makes total sense now. Just. Wow. Of course. That’s all I need to do.
Learning boundaries was key in my life as an empath. I’m still working on them. I’m finally in a place where I’m looking for No validation or approval and people feel that too.
That's wonderful.
We were living in New Zealand and had to leave when our visa expired. We had a green screen studio and had to tear down the green screen at the end of our lease, before we moved back to Canada. Our contractor quit on us without notice (he got a higher paying project), and he left us in the lurch without even telling us. I was so angry, I was seething mad. And I was ranting to my husband about it at our studio. Our son, who lived about 15 miles away, texted me when I was ranting and said "Are you okay?" He knew, he felt it, and he responded to it.
More recently, I coughed (due to it being allergy season) and my husband said he felt my cough in his own throat. I believe him. That super ability is your ability to join your energy field with another's energy field...and feel their feelings.
Today, I had to tell my brother and his girlfriend that the distribution from our inheritance would be delayed from late May this year to July 4 this year. I could feel the cold and darkness when they read my email. I had to get a blanket it was so cold. And I felt sick and weak. This lasted about an hour. Then it subsided. Those energetic flows that come from others are like energy packets that you play within your own energy field. And you experience that other person's feelings. It's quite amazing. Thanks for this video, it helps me understand all of this more.
You are so insightful. I'm 35 and still trying to heal my feelings from being neglected. My mood can go from 100 to 0 in a matter of seconds. I go from happy, to mad to sad and can easily get discouraged and down on myself.
35 here too and I am saving this video to watch later since it's 4:20 a.m. (which made me realize my timing is unintentionally perfect & I'm awake about to hit this 🌿 to ease my chronic painsomnia 🦋🎶🦉)
I hope to learn to love myself again after all the DV/R/SA, A 2 year straight obsessed stalker, followed up with not 1, but 2 narcissist exes.
I have been a people pleasing, invisible, empathetic filled optimist since my youth.
That mixed with the endured abuse, I have struggled with PTSD as well ... I am now hyper aware of body language, the energy I feel, moods and behavioral changes..... I am in a dark place since my breakup a week before Christmas (my son's dad).. I'm drowning in emotional dysregulation like you stated as well as the negative mindset that has long ago overruled my optimism.
I am trying and will keep trying bc I believe in self love.
I don't really have a support system anymore, and so it's been challenging; plus, achingly lonely.
Same . You are not alone.. I love you fellow stranger and I am visioning myself sending you a hug , peace , and love
I discovered this about myself and went through the transformation of feeling comfortable saying no, setting boundaries, not answering or explaining myself when I don't want to or have to. I feel the tension that creates, and their disappointment and anger in some cases, but as other things in my life, I learned to like it. I programmed myself to feel satisfaction and be proud of myself for doing what's right for me or others. Your self-esteem grows, and you build character.
I used to be a people pleaser. But when I got into a relationship with a narcissist I realized what I was doing when I'd give and give and he'd only take. It was exhausting. I couldn't keep up. That's when I realized what I was doing. I'm slowly healing from all this now.
Exactly the same here
I am so telepathic is can see what others think, in a image ,, just a new abilty from the Lord ❤🙏🏼
Very Cool...!!! Do you feel their feelings/energy, as well? Going to ask God for that Incredible gift. Maybe I will be blessed with it, too. Merry Christmas...🎄 🎁🎄
Yeahh absolutely, But also the verry Evil Entitie,s that are floating everywhere,, thats not always fun or cool i can tell you… and its verry hard to master the difference,,,because we got all different thoughts the whole day on
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So cool! I have aphantasia and can’t even comprehend what you’re saying. Do you see the image in your mind? I’m a super empath that can physically feel emotions and get a download of their pain.
Oh wow
What about me?
I learned from a life of narcissists.
I have been tested so much until I get sick to my stomach literally. I get dizzy and nauseated. I start to sweat until it feels like Mourning sickness. My Spirit will not allow me in their energy for long.
My father in law has a lot of anger, so he huffs and puffs at everything, and it really affects me. Its hard to spend a lot of time near him.
You left my track when you drew the conclusion that people pleasers give to get. Sure, sometimes. But that's not always the case. Sometimes they give to soley appease. Sometimes they give for no other reason than to avoid the negative energy that saying no gives them. Sometimes there is no expected return. Sometimes you simply oblige and endure.
spot on he missed the mark with that one
Yeah gotta agree
All those other reasons you listed still yield a 'return' to the giver. Think about it 😉 you might not do things to get a physical object in return (money, favors, etc), but you still get something out of it. Good feelings, a sense of safety, appreciation, etc. I have found that when I'm in a bad mental state the easiest way to pull myself out of it is to do something random to help a stranger. I get nothing from that stranger other than maybe a smile or a thank you or some other genuine sign of gratitude, but knowing I was able to help somebody else hurt less makes me hurt less. So to his point, I also get something out of it 🤷
I just try to be nice, when I was young I would describe myself more as a people please. I'm not anymore. I'm nice to people until they're not nice to me, when people mess with me, I mess with them back. I try to keep people at a distance now.
Superpower and a curse is the TRUTH and yes it seems I do attract narcissist and I just broke off a serious 3 year relationship with one this morning that I loved so much that it drained the life from me. They are energy vampires. I am glad I came across this video this morning. I needed this message.
Oh my. I admire your strength and ability to do what's best for yourself and your inner child!
I'm actually trying, with every fiber of my being, to do the same right now. To just WALK AWAY from a situation with my long-term significant other, that has become so negative and one-sided and emotionally draining. To the point of feeling like I'm being abused in some strange way. Even though saying that makes me feel weak & ashamed, honestly...
I'm not eating. Not sleeping. Not taking care of myself in general. I've lost 20 healthy pounds of muscle, already. In just 2 short months.
I can feel my heart pounding really hard from inside my head & body at all hours of the day and night. I'm overly emotional and on edge constantly. Just stuck in fight or flight mode! Etc...
But I just don't feel like I have the strength to do it, for some stupid reason. Idk? I know that sounds contrary, considering the state I'm currently in. But it's different than cutting it off completely and walking away into a separate life without her in it at all.
I feel like I'm restrained. By something. Fear mostly, I guess? Because of how much I invest, or have invested, in this particular bond, I'm guessing. But also because even though I've had a lot of "girlfriends" in my life, I've never really felt connected or safe or committed to any of them, like I was with her. To the point that I stuck it out, faithfully, for a really long time! Which I'd never thought I was even capable of before.
Even though, now that I think back, I realize there have been little glimpses of this treatment or selfishness along the way.
That for some reason, my mind makes excuses for, or just simply brushed off. Because I'm terrified of letting this go. Of going without her in my life. Of having to move on and start over. Of letting go of all the important parts of my life that she is a living connection to. Of all the special little things that I love and adore about her...
Of all of it!
But it is weakening me. Physically, emotionally, and mentally. I can actually feel my health, my strength, my youthfulness, my vibrant energy draining away, hour by hour. I feel terrible about myself. I can't stop picking myself apart. Thinking if only this were fixed, or if this were different, or if I wasn't like this or that. Anything I can think of!
Not being able to stop it, even though I know it's likely killing me, has been the most unempowering, empty and lonely feeling of my life!
I just can't believe how weak I actually turned out to be.
I always thought all the struggle & hardship I've faced throughout my life (which has been considerable) would prepare or condition me for just this type of test...
However, I'm failing spectacularly!
On top of everything, I'm actually embarrassed that I'm feeling this way.
So the deep shame has added another entire layer to this horrible life-cake that I'm eating! Hahaa
*But hey. I figure it's only my life, my health, my sense of pride, my peace of mind, and my sense of well-being that I'm losing, right.
So, overall, I guess it could be worse, huh? Lol 🤦🏻♂️
Oh boy. This is not good.
~Sorry for ranting. Just had to get it out. It's seriously eating me alive!
I hope you're doing well now, several months later. That it turned out to be a positive decision.
Just the fact that you were able to is enough of a positive in my book.
So I guess I'm envious as well?! 😄
@@johnnydi2231You recognize there is a problem. That's the first step! It's sort of like AA or something. Are there 12 steps to being good at being a good empath? 🤔
I don't know. I'm apparently doing everything backwards. Ugh... I had the good boundaries and now I have to figure out what I did wrong, but I don't think it was me! I think it was the people around me. I did what I could that was healthy for me at the time.
This man has helped me so much with my curse/gift. It really can be a gift if you can control your own emotions, learn your own self worth and value and create a space for yourself to get away.
Identifying how I became an empath was eye opening. I think I was born with so much compassion and sensitivity but my childhood made it so I could read people instantly for my protection and self defense. It saved us I believe being an empath was a necessary super power that is a survival skill and am grateful for it.
I give to relieve others of their own discomfort.... because if they're more balanced I'm happier in their company. I learned how to protect myself over the years and not take on nor do it for personal gain, other than feeling better myself because the person is not in discomfort.
It took a lot for me not to train myself not to care, but my best friend, who is an empath, taught me to do it. It is so peaceful, and it allows me to really use my gift where it’s needed, rather than on being a people-pleaser. I’ve come such a long way, but I’m thankful for every bit of it, because I can possibly help others, including my children if any of them are empaths.
How do you train yourself not to care?
I cried like a baby watching this. You described me and my childhood. 😢
Brother,15 days in a month I sleep leaving one of your playlists playing! And today I am going to do it ... .
It feels so much good to have you in our lives and your voice has become a home bro.
best wishes from me, my mother and my sister.
I am so happy and happy that I am no longer crazy lost person because I am well educated for what happened against them. I felt more confident . I got myself back together in one place. Before I was out of the place being a "lost" person. I know myself , love myself, forgave myself, and focus what I love to do.
Aaron always knocks it right outta the park!! Been following him for going on 7 years now!! Great videos and SO helpful!! Love him!!
What an amazing son / man you are. Thank you for sharing your light ❤
Empath/ narcissist two sides of the same coin!! Being intuitive and being aware is great!! I love separating energy.. every night I call all my energies back to me and am becoming more and more in the self in a healthy way 🙏
Not so. Narcissists are vengeful, disagree or yell them no and they will secretly plot your destruction. Empathy can respectfully agree to disagree, no grudges here 🙏🏻🕊
How do you call your energies back to you at night? I'd like to try that. I pray often and at night. How can I do this in prayer?
@@SagittariusBabe87 I think it's just sleep, lol
@@bluemamba5317 That, I can do! Lol 😴💤
I'm an empath and this video really explained, right on point, my life so far and all the challenges I've faced. I've tried to heal my inner child for 4 years now, and I think my biggest challenge is that I don't quite know if I'm really REALLY living my 'true self' due to that low sense of 'self'...... sometimes I wished I could just stop connecting and sensing all the vibes out there so I can be like ' oh so this is how my own vibe feels like' 😂
I'm literally bawling right now. I was meant to hear this. EVERY THING ur saying is EXACTLY me. Omg. I have hope again. Thank you thank you. ❤
Wow! Just Wow!
Hi Aaron. Came across this video out of the many and thought I’d watch it. Really glad I did.
I am an empath. To the point I see shadows & hear whispers around certain people. It can make me feel sick at times but I’m learning to ground and dig deeper to why I feel it this way. Not easy, confronting, but I’m feeling more in myself.
I grew up being a people pleaser and came from a rough and broken home. I was often alone and always craving that motherly warmth.
Generational trauma etc.
Still digging but feeling more ME than I’ve ever felt.
I realised if I didn’t look back and find, face what was at the root, I’d never feel free…. This video just re-affirmed that.
Thank you!
I feel like I resonate with this! Large crowds are hard on me too! I am almost 6 years single because I also attract narcissists. I’m also very intuitive and the world is scary. Since I started my journey almost 6 years ago I use to shut myself in like a hermit crab at first, I am learning to feel more comfortable as myself in this world. Anyhow, I hate being a people pleaser but love helping people. Sorry my comment is everywhere…
Thank you so much. I’m a very sensitive empath and am very aware of my wounds but this really opened up my eyes to be even more aware of how I respond to others’ energy.
I am 100% empath and it’s exhausting. I’m so glad I found your video tonight, everything you say I completely agree with. I can’t wait to watch more and hope to get to know you better. You have a genuine heart ,and beautiful energy ❤
I feel you
I was abandoned by my mother at age 2. This makes a lot of sense to me and how I have developed over the last 50 years.
My life changed the day I said “stop” to a narcissist. From that moment, I’ve decided that I will never accept to hurt myself in order to give people what they want / what they projected on me
I. Am a empath been a loner all my life and I love it ,....I was always sick with stomach issues ... because im was absorbing everything around me and it made me ill as a child
In my experience, my intuition and their energy I’ve been able to read for other people has never not once been wrong. Never. The more I dressed my past to overcome it, excepted it, and let it go and created new habits in new coping skills and learned how to regulate my emotions and also meditation the stronger my abilities got!
Search within yourself for the power that you’re looking for, meditation is the only way I’ve been able to get to where I am and self-development work ! ❤
That honestly makes a lot of sense, also explains why it feels good to give to give rather than when you feel insecure/unsafe so you're giving because you've been conditioned that that's how to receive love. That's the missing connection though, so thank you for leading me to it
I am an Empath & I have suffered because of narcissists😢, But still I have not lost hope on love, LOVE is very powerful
My mom and I have been talking about this stuff because we are people pleasers. I’m learning to stand up for myself and teaching the same to my young people pleasing daughter.
I really like how you were able to break down steps from a complicated explanation into a simplistic process that almost anyone should be able to understand and relate to.
I only felt someone else’s energy clearly once. My dog will panic if there is thunder and she runs to me so I hold her. One time I was holding her close to my chest. I felt all this anxiety and fear come through my chest. I could feel it like it was my own but also I knew in my mind I wasn’t afraid of anything since we’ve done this countless times. I could only feel those emotions in my chest. I didn’t believe in being empathic until that happened to me. Now I think emotions, the human brain, chakras and so on is much more complex than we’ve been lead to believe and even animals must have some kind of chakra system.
It’s easy to ignore if you’ve never felt it
there are 2 types of people I see
Ones that fell into being an “empath” worrying about other peoples emotions/being in tune.
Then the others who let it slide off like water.
I’m both depending on how warmed up I am. It takes some serious self care to get out of my shell everyday. It’s crazy how some people dont have a shell. I think i like my shell too much so i go back at the end of everyday lol
I hate the words “empath” and “narcissist” because they’re so overused, however, THIS is on point. Both sides are accountable for the attachment. Thank you 🙏
This is explained so well for my personal experience! As an empath with a narcissistic mother, life was so difficult to navigate, but once I did the work, I am better able to regulate my own self, giving me the peace and acceptance that can only come from within, independent of anyone else.
What work did you do?
@@MsTaLaiah any kind of spiritual work. Connecting to my “higher self”. Spirituality is different for everyone, but it entails prayer, journaling meditating…
My intention was to heal from my toxic marriage and divorce, and in doing so, it took me back to my childhood, and many things came up that I had forgotten about. Going through the 5 stages of grief is also paramount in dealing with life, so however you are able to get to acceptance, keep “doing the work” to get there.
Yes we definitely leave an “imprint”
On our children bc they are closely watching us to learn and interact and bond and sometimes we learn the wrong way to get our love. Once we are aware of that I think it’s half the battle .. the awareness is where it’s an opening to learn and grow out of that habitual behavior
How powerful. The emphatic in the end is manipulating the narcissist as well, and that’s why they attract each other….is hard to admit it is true ..
Pure wisdom !.. I found u today and I’m so glad I did. ❤🙏🏾👁️
So happy for you Aaron to manifest what you wanted to do 💙🌻✨
I learned from a 20 year relationship with a Narcissist, finally cut him loose. Woke me up in so many ways.
Thank you for never failing with your videos you’ve changed my life in many ways
A lady once told me she could literally feel my energy. I was crying desperately in the most vulnerable desperate situation of my life. I'm quite certain she wasn't lying. Amazing.
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Damn, that was really good.
You are absolutely exceptional at your work, and I am so grateful for your presence on this planet
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Absolutely, when the answer is “no”, that is all you need to say, none of us have to explain our position at all.
Those who love us and acceptance is for who we are, will take “no” as an answer, those who try to push the envelope, who try to bully you or manipulate you do not have your best interest at heart
Another hard lesson learned for me, but a joyous and victorious lesson, I have my power back!
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The best comment iv read so far or maybe not the best but definitely made the most since of all the ones I have read
Dame Aaron this was fire 🔥 🔥🔥 so good brother. So much truth that the world needs to hear this is how we heal the world 🌎 ❤️ 🙏 ♥️
Learning what your limits are and how to put yourself first when you have nothing left to give is the hardest thing for an empath to do. You feel like you are failing others when you can’t keep giving. We never put ourselves first.
I can watch other channels with (some) the same information, but only you and Dolores have such a way to get the information across to us that my soul feels like it knows you. Odd for me but im rolling with it:) Thank you for never giving up on YT
So true, I used to be able to walk past people, when I was about 10 years old, I can hear thoughts that weren't even in my head.
I'm struggling with blocking everyone's else's energy. No one leaves me alone. I feel like i have to move way and it just really sucks i have to go to that extreme...
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do it
Let me guess u drive slow?
I also feel like no one leaves me alone. I wonder if thats empathy related.
@azn9886 I guess you don't have a heart...Do you ever feel empathy... Have a talk with Our father before you judge...AMEN
Thank you❤I never understood that empathy was associated with abandonment. I definitely had abandonment issues, and didn't connect it with my empathy. Thank you for the connection between empaths and narcissists. This was life changing for me
I had abandonment issues too with my dad as a child. I’m an empath to the core….so do you think if we heal that abandonment issue that our empathic won’t be so strong?
@shes_ah_truckher7716 give it to Jesus. Talk it over with him, cry, be honest and intimate. Ask him to heal you. He healed me, I have testimony.
Fantastic Aaron, this found me at a time I needed it. Everything is always working out for me, because I've learned so much from people like you. Thank you and much love!
Happy i found your channel. All of this just validated everything ive already known and felt but never been taught. Gift and curse to be an empath. Sending nblessings and love.
Yep 💯 I know the truth behind their sentences too.. just learning to separate what is mine and what isn't mine ❤
Emotional connection is our natural state of being as souls. It’s a superpower to humans but it’s normal to the real us. It’s amazing I love it. That’s why there’s peace in heaven.
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Bravo!!
Learning to say “no” was one of the hardest things I’ve had to learn.
One of the things that I have learned in the process is that we actually give others opportunity for growth when we have healthy boundaries
For me, if something is asked of me, and it is not a good idea I will feel nauseous in my stomach, that’s how I know the answer is “no”
It applies to something I may do or say or think
I just found you on RUclips and I think I’m really digging you !
Thank you for your work!
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I really appreciate you and your videos. They put into words for me of how I grew up and still do now at 57. I’ve always felt like I never really grew up. I work 7 days a week and when I’m tired I just stop working and I’m not hard on myself. I have been treating myself kindly lately. Self care and treat myself to massages and nice meals etc. I do enjoy my own company.
Yes, just fantastic and inspirational to watch you continue to grow into you. Fully embodying all you stand for. Bravo Aaron!
I have been working for about 2 years on my spiritual awakening/journey. About 5 years ago, I left a very toxic relationship and started to find myself, while being single. I flat out refused to be in a relationship. Well, 5 years later, we’ll more like 4 1/2 years later… I met a man who was so kind and sweet and we hit it off immediately, he was almost too good to be true. Well… he’s toxic… which made no sense and I was so confused. I thought I worked through those issues, but I didn’t. I watched this video and of course, you always make sense. I’m an empath and I always have this thing even in life where I people please… I will literally take myself broke and put myself in debt to please everyone and make them happy, but not even just the money thing… I will run myself into the ground and make myself uncomfortable to make others happy. I finally realized my problem.
The BIGGEST LIE You've Been Told About Money is that it doesn't grow on TREES!! 😆
I agree with you!! Money actually grow on trees but only on trees that was planted by you!! These tress are referred to as investments. How you diversify your investment portfolio matters
Diversification is the key. My portfolio is well diversified with the help of a financial adviser. This helps me make more than +400% monthly on my investments.
I'm intrigued by this. I've searched for financial advisers online but it's kind of hard to get in touch with one. Okay if I ask you for a recommendation?
I've experimented with a few over the past years, but I've stuck with ‘’Julianne Iwersen Niemann” for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look her up.
Wow, her track record looks really good from what I found online. I'll take a chance and see how it goes. Thanks for the info
Empaths soak up energy like a sponge. I find staying away from toxic people is all that works for me. I was raised by a narcissist and went through many dark nights of the soul. Your family mirrors mine growing up.
I love this. I’m going to learn to say no more often❤
Makes total sense. Im an empath who attracts loads of narcissists. And ive learned how to get rid of them as an adult. But this took ages and a lot of pain to learn
I can feel my lover energy when he hug me it's strong an I can feel it flowing to me
I came across this video yesterday, I followed up with the meditation after this video. It already has changed my life already.
I can’t thank you enough for this. You don’t know how many times I’ve tried these exercises and they never worked.
So much healing has happened in less than 24 hours.
Everything you say in this video is exact on. People tell me oh I’m such a good person for doing all the things I do. I’m like no I’m really not. I only do it because I’m selfish and it makes me feel good.
Another example is I’d rather deal with someone else’s problems and pain than my own. I can’t ( couldn’t , now I can after yesterday!) take my own advice but I have the audacity to give it to everyone else regardless my inability to apply it.
Being empathetic means I know best. A know it all. To compound this I’m a problem solver. I tell people things that they don’t want to hear because I don’t want to feel their suffering.
This is so refreshing. You literally have saved my little me.
I’m going through a tough time, I lost my mother at age 7. No relationship with my dad but suddenly I was moving in with him across the USA. Every one disregarded what I wanted and felt after her death and I took on the responsibility to heal everyone else.
Well fast forward I became a mother , fast forward I’m in a position where I have to represent myself in court and I’ve failed to properly represent myself over and over and over. I literally couldn’t do it because of the inability to self soothe validate or regulate. I fail because I didn’t understand that I am not my court case I am not the self lawyering woman only and those things are not me. That my energy is mine so I don’t loose anything by failing in those things.
I swear that this has been the most incredible easily applied concept the most healing experience I have had it makes sense.
You are nothing short of a hero. An absolute hero. It cost me nothing at all. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you.
If I can be of any assistance in your cause so that others can be helped too please email me at my RUclips channel name abandonMENTality@gmail.
Amen Aaron.. Thank you for sharing this with everyone.. something I have been trying to explain to people around me.
The more I watch things like this I really feel all humans are empaths, narcissistic , toxic , and have a great capacity to show love and kindness .
I was guided to this by grace and it’s definitely useful and confirmation ❤
Narcissists have been magnets too me throughout my whole life, many lessons learnt from your video today & them thankyou.
- You break down information in a way I and im sure many others can understand 😊
This hit it on the head of the nail for me! Wow! Thank you Aaron!
Aaron I can't wait to join your CCC challenge for coaches. Since participating in CBA in July I have finally stepped into my power and started sharing my gifts in a big way and use my voice. One of these days I'm going to go viral like you. Thank you for all the magic you share with us. Thank you, thank you, thank you