Most times when men never approach you or talk to you is because they can sense you are not the one to be played with. And most times its also Gods protection!
When I was 19, I asked my neighbors if I was ugly 😂😩 she said no and asked me why would I ask that. I replied because when my friends and I go out, we have fun, we all link , I’ll have good chemistry with someone or someone will seem interested but it never goes anywhere 😂😂😂 like it just never works. Her husband literally said to me “You can tell you’re not the type of girl to let things slide and play those games. You’re not going to entertain the things they looking to do, I’ve seen and met your friends and those girls will” 😭😭The worst part was he wasn’t lying 😭😂 They played toooo much. I miss those neighbors. His wife was my coworker and we worked together and was neighbors for 2 years.
I hope you least give him a smile 😊that would go a long way to show some interest....Body language is very important, because some ladies facial expressing is like if they sucking on something sour.....😂lol
Actually I think it may be a bit more nuanced than that, & it may also depend on context. This wknd I went to a large nightclub with a bunch of rooms. I went with one of my older friends, so I found myself in a space where I was averaging 5-10 years younger than the men there. Now as a single woman expecting her husband, I am always open & ready for him. Ie dressed well, friendly, open, happy, smiling, overall great energy. Honey I’ve never had so many men approach me in my life!!! I could not walk or move around the club without getting hounded. I had to hide at one stage as it was exhausting. I left with one number. I rejected several. However the one guy that I wanted to talk to never approached me. And fate so had it that we ended up in the same corner of the room. I engaged him in conversation & we hit it off. He actually revealed he was a holder of a special ticket (some men got this to give to women who approached them) & gave it to me, as no one had approached him the entire night. That night made me realise there are different types of men, especially in a club/social gathering setting. I took it that if a man doesn’t approach you, he’s not interested. But actually some men need to gather their data before making their move, so naturally they need time. Especially 30+ male, you are looking for more inherent qualities from a woman & also considering the baggage you may also be carrying from being hurt in previous relationships. You’ll therefore need to spend a good portion of the night assessing that woman. How she moves around the space. How approachable she is. Etc. It actually taught me that 1) men are looking at EVERYTHING & 2) the better quality of mate would’ve been assessing you the whole night so he needs to be given time. You may also need to position yourself in his vicinity.
@@yanikeonpurpose1000% agree. As a man that is 30+ I full endorse this message. This is the best advice women can use. How a woman moves in a social setting is very attractive.
I have interviewed literally Hundreds of men about dating & relationships. #1 reason men look & don't approach is fear of rejection. Men run a complicated calculus of whether or not it's safe to approach us. If they don't feel it's safe, they don't approach. A lot of us shoot ourselves in the foot by going out in groups. Many men aren't going to approach you in a group, unless they are players. Guys don't want to be embarrassed. Ever notice when you somehow end up alone for a minute in a club that a guy might approach you? They feel safer then. It has less to do with confidence than people believe. I have interviewed firefighters who are decorated heroes & have saved hundreds of lives, that are too afraid to approach a woman. I interviewed a man that climbed Mt Everest, a mountain that has claimed hundreds of lives, but is afraid to approach. Firefighters & mountain climber not confident? Nonsense. A lot of guys, especially the best ones, are a little awkward when you first meet them. Don't focus on that too much. Once a guy gets comfortable with you they tend to be more confident. Men are really simple once you understand this.
Agreed! In my experience the ones that approach with no inhibitions are usually manipulators. The ones I was around often enough to notice they checked me out several times before approaching usually seemed to be the good guys. The problem is the good guys then complain later that women want “bad boys”. No the bad boys are just the ones that approach us first and unless we want to approach them, most of us aren’t going to wait a lifetime to be approached by the “good guys”.
I know there’s some of you women like me who can question themselves and wonder what’s wrong with us. If you’re bettering yourself and have a good heart, consider yourself lucky not to be asked out by a lot of these men, especially the ones YOU find attractive. God may be preventing unnecessary heartache…
I was like that but I’ve gotten to the point I just don’t care. I do notice they’re more likely to reach out on social media. I feel like dating apps and social media in general are a crutch to men approaching in person.
Yes. This has been what I’ve figured out is the case majority of the time. Even some of those act like they can’t resist striking up some type of conversation, trying to make you laugh, etc
False. If you show no interest or look unapproachable which most women today, you likely not get approach. Women who are friendly, show interest and approachable will always get approached.
My husband never approached me because he thought I was married. He thought I was beautiful but wasn’t confident about approaching. I approached him because of his sweet spirit and genuine kindness and we’ll be married 8 yrs this year ❤
Smart woman, women have better intuition than us. You knew he was interested you, nothing with starting the conversation and he will pursue. Most don't take risk.
I think women should be programmed to do such. Women have the upper hand already with swarming the guys in. She has the say so so she should be the one to approach and or choose. I don't have time or energy to compete with men for a woman.
All women today don't look or smile anymore on their cell phones 24/7. All dating apps are only for hookups. Dating is dead. I've given up! I Look 35. 55, here 5'10, 170 lbs introverted here. Long -Term- Relationship is dead globally all due to smartphones. I hate women with dogs replacing them for a boyfriend, I hate women with tattoos, body piercing except on her earrings, drinking problems, doing drugs, smoking and acting very masculine. All huge red flags. No wonder why men have given up!
I get looks ALLLLLL the time. Like staring. But they don’t say anything. Which is okay with me because I would only entertain a man thats man enough to talk to me 😬
@@beefaye6861 exactly. Thats so feminine to me. A huge turn off. I dont even smile to be honest. Women already have to do a lot in the society.. we have it the hardest.. and you don’t even have the basic courage to talk? Naa bruv, you can’t lead a household.
Ladies, trust your season is coming!!! It’s better to be approached by NO ONE (even if this is literally for yearssss) rather than get approached by men you find intriguing or attractive and those relationships all fail because they’re not under the foundation of God. Just make sure you’re doing the work as Tony teaches and stay optimistic. You are worthy 💓
I remember when I was around 21 I had a crush on this intern teacher at my job. We literally locked eyes when we first met and I felt the chemistry but he never approached me. I had the biggest crush on him for about six months ! He would just always stare at me whenever he saw me and only spoke to me like twice. It was so bad even my coworkers were like “he likes you”. One of ‘em even called themselves confronting him to see why he wouldn’t talk to me (I didn’t ask!) Come to find out, he was the biggest flirt and had about two other female intern teachers that he had in rotation. I thought it was something wrong w/ me at the time (not pretty enough, was working as a custodian at the time so I felt he looked down on me) but now I understand that it was just God protecting me. It was such a shame tho cause he was so fine to me !
I agree with you but I will say a few things that you probably won’t like but you have to accept because it is the truth. He really did like you but unfortunately he liked others as well and probably liked them more than you. See men and boys we see and desire multiple women and girls throughout our lives because it is so many of y’all. However a man or a boy who smart enough to realize that he can’t be with several women and should only be with woman will toughen up and make the decision to choose that one woman. It’s not that he didn’t like you but you weren’t that one woman and he’s probably not a monogamous man. He’s not a bad guy either tho.
Both men and women have said to me, “You look like a woman that men have to bring their A-game to in order to approach you.” They say that I probably make too many men feel like they don’t have a chance. I used to feel bad about this but I don’t anymore. I’m so thankful that only the most accomplished and confident men approach me. Yes that means that I don’t get approached often but when I do, the man is always top tier and I love that.
I know this is going to sound super awkward but it always works. Practice “winking” at people who stare at you. It’s something nobody does in public so it throws everyone off and gets them laughing. It’s been my ice breaking tactic from across rooms for years! 😂💯
Tony, according to your logic "a man who does not approach you is your protection" I've been protected my whole life! Lol. I'm not looks challenged and am approachable/personable. At 30 years old, I can only chalk it up to God's sovereignty as to why I'm still single.
I’m now 40, single, childless and it’s okay. Actually, men stopped consistently asking women out 13-14 years ago and want women to pursue them, which isn’t normal. The social shift is sad, even over a decade later. I hope this helps you.
I seen this beautiful woman at McDonald’s and we caught each other eyes as she was leaving. She went to her car and drove off and 10 mins later she came back and said she just wanted to introduce her and sat down by and and we talked for 5 mins. She did a good job
No it’s because they only want secks and can tell the woman isn’t going to be an easy conquer. That’s why they only look. They are daydreaming in their head about secks with you.
This is a problem that I suffer from. I used to think maybe I dressed to “ rich” looking for average men and that’s why I am not approached as much. But I would never approach a man and rather prepare myself for when God send me my husband who has the confidence to take that leadership role ☺️ As always Tony your videos help me a lot🫶🏿
The idea that God will send you a husband is not biblical in any way. God rewards those who make effort, your husband will notice you and need to move like a wife. Women need to put themselves in the presence of men and then they will choose. Ask yourself this, do you exude femininity, are friendly, and approachable, and do show interest even in subtle ways. God will give something you are not prepared to receive.
I seen this beautiful woman at McDonald’s and we caught each other eyes as she was leaving. She went to her car and drove off and 10 mins later she came back and said she just wanted to introduce her and sat down by and and we talked for 5 mins.
@@moe808 Actually it is and it just show how much you know the Bible lol Have you ever heard “ He so find a wife, find a good thing”? Your logic is the exact grown boy mindset Tony tell us to stay away from. Be blessed and stay around to listen to more videos to learn something that can help you grow as a “man”.
@@itstimefortea4582 yes it says that but you have to be a wife and he has to identify you as a wife. If you think the role of a wife is easy you are quite mistaken. The standard of what a wife was in those times would disqualify most women today. What people define as a wife in the modern day is not even the bare minimum at best. Many women meet don't even carry themselves as a wife so I don't think there are many wives to pick from hence why men don't care to approach them. Never seen a woman that is wife material single older than 30.
@@moe808 You do not need to be a wife first, but more so present yourself in that way to be seen by a man who wants to be a husband first before finding a wife. I never said being a wife was easy but I know it’s worth it. Are you married? I don’t consume nor recognize the way modern women think. I am VERY traditional which would keep me in a position to only attract a traditional man. In Tony teachings, he teach that if it isn’t your season then God will keep you hidden from your husband until it is your time. This the reason why it’s important to have faith in God promises and his words that stand true today. I see plenty of men mainly rich who do not get married until their 30’s. That is my target audience; therefore, once I finished with my own purpose God will lead me to the man who is in submission to him that will provide to my standards and self worth. It’s simple when you actually align your life with God teachings and leadership.
Imma be real, I get the “how are you even single???” from both men and women all the time. I’m not a bad looking woman, I was a car show and atmosphere model for years (still am), work out, eat well dress well etc. Men stare for DAYSSSSSS but will never approach lol. Sometimes they orbit around me, especially if I’m at a show or car event. The only and I mean ONLY men that have approached me were: 1) taken (and I find out) 2) highly undesirable (poor hygiene, overly sexual right off the bat, someone’s grandfather lol, etc). I still have very little interest in playing role reversal by approaching men instead. But I do want to try being more intentional and strategic about where I am meeting them. Example, putting myself in SOCIAL settings that I both enjoy and am more likely to meet decent men who are less afraid to spark up conversation. Classes, seminars, restaurant bars, art gallery openings, etc. Best of luck Ladies, it’s hard out there lol
Just give the guy you're interested in the flirty eye look. Most men who are interested will try to make eye contact and if you give it back that's like a signal to them that you're interested.
I been waiting on this one Tony! Came a few weeks too late but right on time just the same. I wondered why the man in the gym kept looking at me and I just thought he wasnt confident or I was scaring him with my serious face. So when I struck up general conversation with him, it was revealed he was taken and I respected that. He was very honest and said the only thing that he could do was look. And we keep our distance. If they don't approach me, "it's protection"!
I just wanted to comment and say your comment about your face made me laugh. I have serious resting bitch face when I'm working out. Lol. Keep up the good work! 💪
First of all Tony, you are hilarious. Your effort to not call someone ugly is top notch. Secondly, I have that happen all the time; they look but don't approach. Them being taken makes so much sense. It's more realistic than the idea that I just intimidate men. I'm going to stop taking it to heart and enjoy the ones who do approach.
That is so true I am single and I literally only had like 2guys approach me in 7 months when they see me they just stare like a deer in headlights… I am at the point where I am desperate…lol I just want a date , sneaky link or just a man’s presence.. and can’t just get it 😅
@@mrsyoungdolph3755 aww ! How old are you? It’s just not fear I watch some of these vloggers on RUclips and I see them getting approached by guys all the time .
You are absolutely right..Men are hunters.. and the average man is smart enough to know when a Woman is out of their League... Ladies 80 percent of them know they don't have the money to persue a Queen . It's not you, they have played the game long enough to know who or who not to mess with. Majority of the time it's about their financial status. A man know when he's gone have to wine and dine a woman...He just knows...So that's why they just stare
Not all men are hunters and not all women are prey. A majority of the time, women are artificial and have a mask on to hide there true self. Men on their purpose don't have time and money to waste on a "Queen" we want traditional women that know how to show femininity. Hence why they would rather travel to other countries. 😊✌
It depends on where you live too. Some places the men are more forward. I am from Baltimore and the forwardness up there is insufferable. I moved to Florida 10 years ago and men rarely approach, just stare. Ultimately, a MAN will approach if he’s really interested.
Another reason a man would stare and not approach, is because the woman is showing off her body parts, which is visually attractive, but not what the man sees as wife material. So he just enjoys the eye candy.
I just randomly went for a walk and came upon a house someone was building, I was curious so I asked the owner if he can show me around, I walk in and I see a man from behind I walk past and greet him..instant chemistry like it was just me and him, I proceed to walk and I go upstairs, a second later he comes up doesn't say anything just stare, note I am a very open friendly woman. Deep down I said to myself if a man wants a woman he will do anything to get you..I smiled talked to him briefly walked out the door and never saw him again. Now maybe because there were other people or he was working and my dad was also in my presence but I somehow moved around the house for him to ask for my number. Anyway the moral of the story is , I have grown to become a wife concious woman my old self would've asked for his number etc but my heart refused. Thanks to these kind of videos. Just wanted to share. Stay safe and God bless.
Honey, it doesn't matter who's around. Whether it be your dad, he'll the poppe, if a man wants you, he will approach you. I had a men approach me while my dad was next to me 😅. The men gave me his business card and all, trying to sweet talk me off my panties while my dad was sitting right next to me lmao
I think he was afraid to be accusing of being a stalker or a creep. A lot of us men don’t want to approach anymore because of false accusations and public shaming 😔
@@Rico401Prov I believe a man who is confident in himself will not allow a woman to walk away , men have hurt me in the past but I don't put them all in the same category so men also need to realize and say I don't care if she thinks I'm a creep I want to get to know her.
It’s fear of rejection. That’s just true. Fear of rejection. And we can try to rationalize it as much as you want but fear of rejection does not mean lack of confidence or leadership. As a matter of fact, most of the guys I know who are most apt to approach have the least to offer a woman. Any guy who has the introspection necessary to air hood faults and improve himself, probably has a healthy degree of doubt as to whether or not a woman will be attracted to him.
I believe a lot men fear rejection! I see some men staring at me and I can tell they want to talk but be so nervous lol I’m naturally shy and reserved so we both end up just walking away 😅 I have some men that approach me but have the wrong attentions. Maybe, I need to start breaking the ice.
It’s not fear of rejection stop saying that if you aren’t her type it’s a waste of time approaching her, women say all the time guys don’t approach no the guys you are interested in don’t approach, the guys that do they shoot them down, majority of women don’t want be bothered and we can see that one reason we don’t approach nothing to do with rejection
I was in McDonald’s and this guy came in and instantly locked on me. Handsome had his reputable work uniform on okkkk. He even asked me was I single and my name give me a compliment. We parked next to each other. I even went to write my number down. Then I said to myself 🤔 Don’t come for him if he didn’t send for you Sis☝🏾 Drove off…💪🏽🙏🏾
@@BrothaJohn-br2hd Well brother John…your wrong. I met a confident successful man one morning, paid for my coffee and took me out later that day for lunch. Calls me everyday even when he’s busy. He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. Why because I rest in my femininity and he’s in his masculinity. He chose me!!! I don’t have to chase him down or make the first move. I’m here to attract not chase honey. I love ❤️ this for both men and women. Restoring order…but you maybe one of these sassy men drizzle drizzle men sooooooo this may go over your head🙈😑🤔😂😂😂
This is VERY confusing ……meanwhile so many women tell me “ men are shy, shoot your shot! I got my man by shooting my shot and he liked me but was shy” lol I give up on everything! BYE
@@la6136 very true! But if keep waiting then we’ll we might not ever find him! Also, my friend told me men are tired of women screaming independence so they just stopped asking now!
It really is . I have had the most success with saying hello to a man to show my interest and letting him go from there . Many have told me they thought I was taken or would reject them .
Listen! I was just told by a guy that he was unsure about approaching me because I looked mean. After I spoke to him, we chatted for a few and exchanged numbers. One text and that was it. Dead silence. Another guy asked for my number and I was hesitant because I normally don’t give out my number at all guys. He watched me interact with another customer on my job and assumed that I had given him my number also. He started sending crazy messages. I told him that I was still healing from my divorce (I’m fully recovered) and to take care. He is still messaging me with no response. I’m tired and ready to give up already.
The modelesque man approached me when I was younger and naive, and I gave him the cold shoulder multiple times, because deep down I was very suspicious because I knew guys like him were not usually interested in me. He befriended me though and I fell for him. Got used for about 3 years. My spirit was giving me sirens 🚨, that came out in my body language and initial treatment of him. But it was flattering and such a great temptation that I walked into the trap.
I can understand us women showing interest/ being inviting towards a man but it’s a fine line between doing that and chasing. Be open to inviting him in, from there let him take the lead.
I love you for this comment. That’s all us men ask for. As a man I have no problem pursing you as a woman I love it actually I just want to make sure that it’s worth it.
There are many reasons why men stare and dont approach. I had one guy tell me that if a man is married and looks at you everyday at work and never approaches you, it means he just wants something pretty to look at or just admiring. I'm glad he never did approach me since he was married. Also, men stare because you look like somebody they know because Ive had a coworker tell me that I look so much like his mom. Or they just find you attractive and could be already in a relationship. Or just lack of confidence
A lot of guys won’t approach women because internally they know there’s far more of a huge chance they’ll get nowhere than there is in getting somewhere. Just because a woman’s looking at you and there’s a bit of eye contact happening it doesn’t means she’s actually interested therefore if she is interested it’s actually on her to make it completely clear to a man that she wants him to make a move And due to the complexity of a woman that’s not always as straight forward for a man as it seems even if she wants him to make the move. Men are well aware of how complex women can be
I’ve been needing a video like this. This guy who follows me on instagram just hearts my photos and stories but doesn’t dm me. Mostly every other guy tries dming me except for him. I’ve met him in middle school but I only was there for a year before I moved away and we didn’t even really speak or were friends. We did have one conversation or two, but he had a girlfriend at the time. I’m 18 so I think it’s best to just let things go and focus on myself for now.
They aren’t interested enough . Back in the day before cell phones and social media. Men had to approach a woman . If he is interested enough he will find a way to meet you. 😊
I've lived a lot of places. I noticed more in the south a lot of men will look but not approach a woman. In NYC or even the DMV area Men sent to be a bit more assertive. This is just my personal experience.
A lot of men in the South are DL. They’re truly b!tchmade. You know what, I believe most men, at least 50% between the ages of 18 and 45, are homosexuals.
@@Fraziercranium97 not going to lie majority of the approaches are aggressive , sometimes scary. But I guess they are very masculine with their approach to me that it can be a bit overwhelming because you might think they will do something bad to you if you reject them. It’s unpleasant but at least they are in their masculine. Some are genuine though
I get asked why I’m single all the time by men but ironically they never ask me out. I am not sweating it though. I know they’re not my person, so I quietly keep doing my thing . The men that ask me that are heavily sexual at first without even getting to know me.
A lot of men are insecure about themselves that's one of the reason they don't wanna approach women especially good women. They don't value themselves enough and wasn't taught this since childhood. Most of the girls they go for is bad girls anyways because they like play games with them. I know this from observation too many times and I see that they like that because it makes them feel better about themselves when really it tears them down. Second reason is they're either are taken or already Interested in someone else. Third reason is it could be God protecting you from attracting bad company into your life especially if you trying to heal or remove it from your aura. Finally just wait for the good men to come into your life maybe there's something inside you that you probably need to deal with to move on better from. Best of luck!💗
@@alvincolvin9156 thats not what I meant. I know yall don't like rejection I was just you Most of you guys just like any other women are insecure about themselves. But however I get the whole rejection part even i dont like rejection but I rather for it to happened to be lead on or mislead if that makes sense.
@@jada3956 why does have to be insecurity? men are shamed if we dont approach and we get shamed for approaching. Men just came to conclusion that the juice isnt worth the squeeze. i wish we lived in a world where we can approach freely without consequences but this is reality.
@@alvincolvin9156 first of all i never said you guys couldn't. Its highly obvious y'all are insecure and don't wanna admit it which I'm am not shaming you for. But I was agreeing with what he said in video about guys being insecure. If you didn't like what I said you could've ignored it. Secondly you can express yourself in anyway but it's how you do it.
ME TOO MOVEMENT have made men more careful at approaching women. Back in the day men would approach women all day long. Now , that dude that really you going to be careful how he approach you.
It's so hard to connect with women nowadays bc I see the desperation in them. So many women tell me they go up to men and give them their numbers & shoot their shot. I'm like do you know if a man was interested in you, you wouldn't need to do that. It just goes to show where our world is today. These are also the same women that complain men don't know how to lead lol well why would he sis? You led him 😂😂😂🤦🏾♀️
@@genovasquez8361 if you like the idea of woman approaching you, that is very feminine in my eyes. A masculine man who is secure in himself will find that as a huge red flag or turn off.
I’m never going to approach a man. Idgaf what the case is. Ik my value & ik I’m beautiful within myself. But he’s not lying about men watches everything because it gets on my last nerves 😂😂😂 this boy at my job notice that when I’m nervous I tend to rub my eyes. He gone say I noticed whenever you rub your eyes it means your nervous😂 I started laughing cause why is he in my business like that!!!!!!!! Then another time when we be talking he’ll try to stare at me in my eyes and I always look the other way then he gone say you can’t seem to make eye contact for long and I can’t lmfaooo. I truly can’t. Especially if ik the guy is interested in me. But it’s so funny cause he be really thinking he know me but he be right.
@live for Jesus nah bro, we r not living sad like u think it is. We aint the same. I value my peace and quiet time. Don't assume introverts r alone or lonely or sad. I'm with the same mf for 19+ years....
This would happen a lot to me in my 20s I would smile and they would get what I call the panic face. I asked my male friends what was going on and they said that I was pretty and was high maintenance so men assumed I would be rude and that I looked expensive. I replied but I work and pay for all my grooming. What am I supposed to do look unkept. It was confusing and upsetting. I left the US. Men act like they will be dragged to bloody hell if a woman says no. And when I would approach a guy they assumed it was a joke. It’s was all very confusing. I’m with my sons father now. So I’m good.
If a man keeps looking and not approaching, he finds you attractive but is emotionally unavailable. He may : 1. Have a wife/gf/ still dealing with ex 2. Financially unstable Leave him alone cuz he won't turn down a free meal but you will be hurt over the course of whatever you initiate.
@antoniostyles Who says I haven't? I have seen these situations play out. They rarely end well for women who pursue. It puts her in the masculine state. She will always have to keep chasing. I'm in my soft girl lifestyle so if they don't approach, I'm still living my fabulous life because I want an alpha or nothing.
@yourmajesty8742 that is understandable but how about maybe sutle compliments or a smile. Women have no idea how far that takes them. Still allow the man to be who he is but be more open with gestures and not necessarily forward. If that makes sense lol.
@Teddiii CareBear Yep and hot pants women will try to run a play with a man on your behalf...like you asked them to. I don't need no lustful spirit, manish, single for a clear reason, herself, women playing devil match making😂😂😂 Good for you. Don't tell nobody, but God.😉
I get this all the time, some even make comments that my “husband is lucky to be with someone like me”. I even made a joke to my mum that I should wear a sign that says single😂😂 so they can stop assuming that I am married.
Some men don’t approach you because they see they can’t run game on you. And some genuinely like you but afraid of rejection so yes they will watch and wait.
Nah I don’t stare unless I’m going to say something - all of Men are not the same - I don’t see every woman - I only see the woman who catches my eye from time to time - the man with wondering eyes is a lost man
A lot of men can’t handle rejection and they have what’s called egos. This happens all the time to me as well they stare and I stare back… nobody makes a move 🤷🏽♀️😂
Why staring back and forth if you won't take any action right🤭 What a turn off. If it was ego, they wouldn't have fear of rejection imho. Ego would dictate, I'm just telling my intentions and getting an answer, so I'd be done with this. It's her loss or her gain. I will go after what I want and like. This is more like ego and selfishness in my opinion.
Tony's setting the scene in that first minute... I'm still remembering how this happened to me one evening at a noodle bar. I was waiting an eternity for my takeout and a handsome guy sitting nearby was doing exactly that. I kept waiting for him to approach me but he never did, and I remember heading home feeling confused and dejected. Wish Tony had been around then!!
@Heaven Jones Lol, the number of times women could say this about men! Difference is, we know intense staring with no intention of follow through can get us into a lot of trouble.
I remember years ago, when I was out with a hating behind woman (she wasn't a friend), I told her every morning omw to work, this officer would always stare me down in his car, but never speaks to me. Her response was, "Maybe he's just not interested in you." From that moment, I realized she was hating.
My ex always felt the need to go on dating apps to find women. He said if he saw a woman out and about and he really found her attractive, he wouldn't approach her because he doesn't want to be the guy who gets rejected in front of everyone. So if there's a chance that she won't be interested for whatever reason, most guys won't even think to approach a woman. According to him, only guys who are losers with nothing to lose will approach.
Women have to be open to being approached cause some be having the resting b face some just be in there phones & some will see you but act like they didn’t see you if women wanna be approached just be friendly towards him compliment his outfit or his haircut & he definitely will ask you out if he finds you attractive cause it’s so much bs going on in the world today most men just not gonna risk it like old times
thank you so much. so many times i wondered if i should do something - in some cases i did which backfired on me - and now i know it's for my protection that he didn't approach me because he's either taken, a good man who isn't attracted to me and doesn't want to use me or he might be shy (which often is not the case). thank you !!!!!
As a man, especially of many many rejections, ive learned to let the women choose as they do anyways. A plethora of guys are on them, and i dont have energy to compete. If a female wants you she will make it loud and clear! Until then im MGTOW.
I'm glad Tony is addressing the fact that there were women in middle school who were probably teased or treated terrible by the popular guys. This happened a lot. Especially in the black community. I can't speak for the other comminities. I hear a lot of men who are nerds or nerds complain about black women rejecting them. They don't talk about the rejection of black women who did not fit the image of what society calls attractive.
When a guy has found me attractive; they stare so hard it makes me uncomfortable 😳. At a work conference this guy turned around the whole day stared at me so hard that I wanted to get up and leave. He walked over and introduced himself at the end and the whole room seemed to disappear 🫠. Unfortunately I was still married even though I was going through a divorce…😢
Me being a man there’s a few reason why I will look at a woman and let her know I’m looking but won’t approach her because of my faith most times, or just feels she wouldn’t be interested in me but faith is the main reason for me. If I’m taken I’m not gonna give that look of interest to a woman. I also agree with your number 2 reason kinda what I mean by my 2nd reason
There’s always a spark! That’s when I go for it, I know how to see, then feel. But the feeling gotta be right as we are conversing. I always know from there regardless if there’s a continuation or not after the approach.
I dont approach women bc im aware that im in a lustful state of being so im comin for only one thing, for the most part. Im aware that i need to shift this n im workin towards that but since i am in a lustful state, me not approaching women is absolutely for their protection‼️
I’m Going through this now. There’s this one delivery guy on my job but he was starring at me hard to make sure I know he sees me. Now he speaks when he can and I speak back and smile. However he hadn’t made a move. Well one day I heard him have a conversation to one of the workers he knew and she mention oh say hi to so & so!!he kind of stopped because I was standing there but didn’t hear the name however it think they may have said a women name. He didn’t respond and walked out. I think he may be taken but was trying to see if he can my attention. this video is like confirmation!
I take it as a compliment to my outward demeanor lol. Many men will waste your time and know when they have a naive hook. Many manipulative ppl out here and head cases.
So it's either it's a lot of taken men, men don't find me attractive, or scary 😂😂 because I don't get approach at all even when I look good. But my question is, has women always had a problem with men approaching or is this something new?
I cannot thank enough God for Tony Gaskins. This message was completely my answer from God. He is used by God in incredible ways. You are saving so many women. Thank you so much.
He will look 👀 and not approach because he's insecure or just observing your behaviour to see how easy you are. When a man approaches a women it's because he wants something..if he sees you are confident in yourself he will not bother.
You’ve made some great points Mr. Gaskins. I will forever remember how “good” a man is who stares but not approach me. I love this perspective and gem that you’re shared. There are a LOT of good men around. 😍😉👀🤣
these women saying men not approaching them is GODS protection,,, a man that approaches u can be from the pit of hell also,, women are basically like this,, they (women) can be attracted to u, stare at u and want u to approach them,,, as soon as u approach them they will basically cut ur head off,,, and on the way home will be saying to themselves why did i do that,,, i was attracted to that guy,, ive figured out the less u say to a women the better off u r,,, women like mystery,, u can be at a bar and a women can be very very interested in u,,, if u hv a long conversation with this women,, by the time u lv that bar she will hv NO INTEREST in u,,, if u r at a gym and u hv seen a female checking u out,,, once u give her a quick stare or she sees u looking at her,, its a done deal,,, she is not interested anymore,,, these are the mind games modern women play,,, men hv basically figured out these mind games and men arent willing to play these mind games with women,,,, this is why men arent approaching women,, women basically want men to kiss they A$$ and its not happening
Alright so I'm hearing him out while also reading comments and while I understand what a lot of women are saying I still see a bunch of the "I am the prize and my God will bless me someday" answers. Before I met my Queen I was the type of man who would look (I will NEVER stare) at women and never really make approaches unless they really made it easy for me to see their interest. Before I understood the 'Choosing signals' thing to me they were all just being friendly. I just didnt see the effort and while interested in relationships I was more concerned about my future. Even after understanding that, many women had something about them that made me not want to make the approach whether its Lifestyle, attitude, attire, etc. Also there is the Me Too movement BS and many other factors. The False accusations Ive seen and how people quickly ganged up on the victim.... and then there is the high number of failed relationships because one or both parties cant put in the work. For a guy who doesnt think with his dick, why the hell would I put effort into approaching vaguely interested women? But then I met my African Queen Who really put in the effort so I matched her energy and also put in effort and then we started dating. The moral here is stop waiting for some decent man to just suddenly take your hand when youre not even trying to appeal to the man you want. And the men need to quit staring at women if they arent going to do anything about it.
@@user-rh5kz5gw2g Yes. Started with a simple friendly conversation which I'm used to in retail work. Then came some slight flirting while conversing to hold my interests and of course I matched all if that. I was already visually attracted to her plus her voice and smile helped a lot. I would be an idiot not to ask her out with that flow unless I was in a relationship already. What she told me later completely sealed the deal. She saw me and was extremely attracted but was scared of me not liking a bunch of this and that about her but she still put herself out there just to say hello and create a situation to grab my attention. Noy saying this will work every time but your damn right it will work 85% of times for women
Thank you so much. I recently learned that it is best for a woman not I chase a man for many reasons. Recently I have noticed one guy in my school looking at me but no really trying to talk to me and I was wondering why and started to make assumptions as to what would be the reason. I am deciding to no think about it. Also your video was well presented and easy to understand, thanks once again.
Most times when men never approach you or talk to you is because they can sense you are not the one to be played with. And most times its also Gods protection!
When I was 19, I asked my neighbors if I was ugly 😂😩 she said no and asked me why would I ask that. I replied because when my friends and I go out, we have fun, we all link , I’ll have good chemistry with someone or someone will seem interested but it never goes anywhere 😂😂😂 like it just never works. Her husband literally said to me “You can tell you’re not the type of girl to let things slide and play those games. You’re not going to entertain the things they looking to do, I’ve seen and met your friends and those girls will” 😭😭The worst part was he wasn’t lying 😭😂 They played toooo much. I miss those neighbors. His wife was my coworker and we worked together and was neighbors for 2 years.
Or...maybe you're not attractive to him or he has a woman.
@@bournegod_kiyhow many times he tried to get at you ? Some of you women need personality transplants
Thissss!!!! I get it all the time and I don’t care. 😂
@@ahmorgan exactly
If a man doesn't approach me, I definitely won't say anything to him first. A man is supposed to lead 🎯
That part
IKR....I will smile n say hi.....thats all u gettn dude ✌
So true!
Every guy I approached it never worked out, and this is why I'm letting them approach me first
I hope you least give him a smile 😊that would go a long way to show some interest....Body language is very important, because some ladies facial expressing is like if they sucking on something sour.....😂lol
@O'Neil Farquharson- I FEAR THE LORD! Oh most definitely, I smile regardless. I like to keep life positive 😊
If a man stares and doesn’t approach he’s either taken or not interested enough to approach you.
I guess that explains why I am still single at 50 😂
needed to hear this from another char
This makes the most sense to me. 😂
True😂
@@genovasquez8361no we don’t
Wow! - "A man that do not approach me, is my protection". I will never forget this great word sent from Heaven. Thank you so much Mr. Gaskins!
Actually I think it may be a bit more nuanced than that, & it may also depend on context. This wknd I went to a large nightclub with a bunch of rooms. I went with one of my older friends, so I found myself in a space where I was averaging 5-10 years younger than the men there.
Now as a single woman expecting her husband, I am always open & ready for him. Ie dressed well, friendly, open, happy, smiling, overall great energy. Honey I’ve never had so many men approach me in my life!!! I could not walk or move around the club without getting hounded. I had to hide at one stage as it was exhausting.
I left with one number. I rejected several. However the one guy that I wanted to talk to never approached me. And fate so had it that we ended up in the same corner of the room. I engaged him in conversation & we hit it off. He actually revealed he was a holder of a special ticket (some men got this to give to women who approached them) & gave it to me, as no one had approached him the entire night.
That night made me realise there are different types of men, especially in a club/social gathering setting. I took it that if a man doesn’t approach you, he’s not interested. But actually some men need to gather their data before making their move, so naturally they need time. Especially 30+ male, you are looking for more inherent qualities from a woman & also considering the baggage you may also be carrying from being hurt in previous relationships. You’ll therefore need to spend a good portion of the night assessing that woman. How she moves around the space. How approachable she is. Etc. It actually taught me that 1) men are looking at EVERYTHING & 2) the better quality of mate would’ve been assessing you the whole night so he needs to be given time. You may also need to position yourself in his vicinity.
Thanking God because he is always with us keeping us on track to meet the right one! 💯
@@yanikeonpurpose1000% agree. As a man that is 30+ I full endorse this message. This is the best advice women can use. How a woman moves in a social setting is very attractive.
@@yanikeonpurpose wow I love this so much, thanks for this
@@yanikeonpurpose Wow thanks so much! I’ll definitely keep this in mind 📝 💯
I have interviewed literally Hundreds of men about dating & relationships. #1 reason men look & don't approach is fear of rejection. Men run a complicated calculus of whether or not it's safe to approach us. If they don't feel it's safe, they don't approach.
A lot of us shoot ourselves in the foot by going out in groups. Many men aren't going to approach you in a group, unless they are players. Guys don't want to be embarrassed. Ever notice when you somehow end up alone for a minute in a club that a guy might approach you? They feel safer then.
It has less to do with confidence than people believe. I have interviewed firefighters who are decorated heroes & have saved hundreds of lives, that are too afraid to approach a woman. I interviewed a man that climbed Mt Everest, a mountain that has claimed hundreds of lives, but is afraid to approach. Firefighters & mountain climber not confident? Nonsense.
A lot of guys, especially the best ones, are a little awkward when you first meet them. Don't focus on that too much. Once a guy gets comfortable with you they tend to be more confident.
Men are really simple once you understand this.
Simple is right
I have heard this multiple times as well .the fear of rejection is a big deal.
Agreed! In my experience the ones that approach with no inhibitions are usually manipulators. The ones I was around often enough to notice they checked me out several times before approaching usually seemed to be the good guys. The problem is the good guys then complain later that women want “bad boys”. No the bad boys are just the ones that approach us first and unless we want to approach them, most of us aren’t going to wait a lifetime to be approached by the “good guys”.
@@aubriellemorgan
Perhaps, not overly complex, might have been a better choice of words. 😂 😂
@@cinemathequerouge317 😂😂😂 Sorry, I couldn’t help myself
I know there’s some of you women like me who can question themselves and wonder what’s wrong with us. If you’re bettering yourself and have a good heart, consider yourself lucky not to be asked out by a lot of these men, especially the ones YOU find attractive. God may be preventing unnecessary heartache…
Like 👍..... Dodged a bullet 🙏
🎯🎯
I was like that but I’ve gotten to the point I just don’t care. I do notice they’re more likely to reach out on social media. I feel like dating apps and social media in general are a crutch to men approaching in person.
@@pocahontas4583 IKR....Im not on either.....ths RUclips is as far as I will go....I need my metal health to stay in tact...
@@pocahontas4583 I can totally relate.
"A man not approaching you is a BLESSING" ladies let's not interrupt!
Facts
True 😂
Until its one you actually want😂
Exactly!
If he dont approach hes taken sis. Just know you still got it. Its on you! Keep looking good & smiling! 🫶🏾😂 New week, new blessings! 💫
IKR.....could have dodged a bullet ...keep stepping 👣 👍
@@beefaye6861 you already know! Big fact!
In my experience,the taken ones ARE the ones who approach . The ones you gotta send back to where they came from 😂
Yes. This has been what I’ve figured out is the case majority of the time. Even some of those act like they can’t resist striking up some type of conversation, trying to make you laugh, etc
False. If you show no interest or look unapproachable which most women today, you likely not get approach. Women who are friendly, show interest and approachable will always get approached.
My husband never approached me because he thought I was married. He thought I was beautiful but wasn’t confident about approaching. I approached him because of his sweet spirit and genuine kindness and we’ll be married 8 yrs this year ❤
You are the bees knees ❤💯
Smart woman, women have better intuition than us. You knew he was interested you, nothing with starting the conversation and he will pursue. Most don't take risk.
Interesting ❤❤
I think women should be programmed to do such. Women have the upper hand already with swarming the guys in. She has the say so so she should be the one to approach and or choose. I don't have time or energy to compete with men for a woman.
Aww that’s so sweet, congratulations!! 🥰🎉🔥
Men around my age will look but never approach me, but old men and married men will, and I don’t want either of those two.
Same 🤦🏽♀️
Ditto 🤦🏾♀️
Yesssssss
All women today don't look or smile anymore on their cell phones 24/7. All dating apps are only for hookups. Dating is dead. I've given up! I Look 35. 55, here 5'10, 170 lbs introverted here. Long -Term- Relationship is dead globally all due to smartphones. I hate women with dogs replacing them for a boyfriend, I hate women with tattoos, body piercing except on her earrings, drinking problems, doing drugs, smoking and acting very masculine. All huge red flags. No wonder why men have given up!
sigh - i got the same
“ A man that doesn’t approach you is your protection” that was a whooole word! No man is shy yours will come get you, just be patient
Lol 1 in 4 black women get married so what you said ain't true.
@@user-zv4qx2qw1x😂
Vice versa
@@user-zv4qx2qw1x she crazy as 💩
@@user-zv4qx2qw1x whatever float her boat sje want dudes to flock to her
I get looks ALLLLLL the time. Like staring. But they don’t say anything. Which is okay with me because I would only entertain a man thats man enough to talk to me 😬
Period 💯
@@yr_girl_jade perioddddd
IKR....I jus smile and speak....a lot of thm want you to approach thm....boy plez ✌
@@beefaye6861 exactly. Thats so feminine to me. A huge turn off. I dont even smile to be honest. Women already have to do a lot in the society.. we have it the hardest.. and you don’t even have the basic courage to talk? Naa bruv, you can’t lead a household.
Exactly
So, why look and stare at me if you’re not attracted to me? What kinda mess is that?
Ladies, trust your season is coming!!! It’s better to be approached by NO ONE (even if this is literally for yearssss) rather than get approached by men you find intriguing or attractive and those relationships all fail because they’re not under the foundation of God. Just make sure you’re doing the work as Tony teaches and stay optimistic. You are worthy 💓
I remember when I was around 21 I had a crush on this intern teacher at my job. We literally locked eyes when we first met and I felt the chemistry but he never approached me. I had the biggest crush on him for about six months ! He would just always stare at me whenever he saw me and only spoke to me like twice. It was so bad even my coworkers were like “he likes you”. One of ‘em even called themselves confronting him to see why he wouldn’t talk to me (I didn’t ask!)
Come to find out, he was the biggest flirt and had about two other female intern teachers that he had in rotation. I thought it was something wrong w/ me at the time (not pretty enough, was working as a custodian at the time so I felt he looked down on me) but now I understand that it was just God protecting me. It was such a shame tho cause he was so fine to me !
I agree with you but I will say a few things that you probably won’t like but you have to accept because it is the truth. He really did like you but unfortunately he liked others as well and probably liked them more than you. See men and boys we see and desire multiple women and girls throughout our lives because it is so many of y’all. However a man or a boy who smart enough to realize that he can’t be with several women and should only be with woman will toughen up and make the decision to choose that one woman. It’s not that he didn’t like you but you weren’t that one woman and he’s probably not a monogamous man. He’s not a bad guy either tho.
@@ronaldmcdonaldjuniorghost but he is a whore and should be treated accordingly. and whores dont deserve good women
Lol news flash. He worked hard to get where he’s at. You think he’s gonna stick with just one chick?
Most men want multiple options. Only higher status men like him can pull it off
Yesss girl. Been in the same dam situation. Yuck
A lot of the time I'll see a beautiful woman and think 'she's pretty' but then I remember I'm broke and have enough problems😅
We all are mostly broke you can still approach lol
LOOOOOOOOOOL I love the honesty
THIS!!!!! Especially the second part!
Both men and women have said to me, “You look like a woman that men have to bring their A-game to in order to approach you.” They say that I probably make too many men feel like they don’t have a chance. I used to feel bad about this but I don’t anymore. I’m so thankful that only the most accomplished and confident men approach me. Yes that means that I don’t get approached often but when I do, the man is always top tier and I love that.
This happened to me the other day while I was running errands. Staring extra hard and saying nothing. Super awkward at times.
LOL!!
You might've had some toilet paper or something on your shoe
I know this is going to sound super awkward but it always works. Practice “winking” at people who stare at you. It’s something nobody does in public so it throws everyone off and gets them laughing. It’s been my ice breaking tactic from across rooms for years! 😂💯
@@Rico401Prov I gotta try that!
@@jasminerosewater3891 wink followed by a smile will throw their whole thought process off lol
Tony, according to your logic "a man who does not approach you is your protection" I've been protected my whole life! Lol. I'm not looks challenged and am approachable/personable. At 30 years old, I can only chalk it up to God's sovereignty as to why I'm still single.
I’m now 40, single, childless and it’s okay. Actually, men stopped consistently asking women out 13-14 years ago and want women to pursue them, which isn’t normal. The social shift is sad, even over a decade later. I hope this helps you.
@@naturallyawesomefitness1738 nothing is normal anymore for both genders
God will not reward you if you haven't made yourself ready to be wived.
Y’all have got to stop playing God and religion. Seriously
You like cats or dogs 😂
Ladies if a man doesn’t approach you, he might already have one of your type in rotation. 😂
Some men do the stare down bc they looking for the green light hoping you become the aggressor & they have the leverage.
Thirst trapping sounds like a game
@@thatbeau1807 it is to them they feed off of it
I seen this beautiful woman at McDonald’s and we caught each other eyes as she was leaving. She went to her car and drove off and 10 mins later she came back and said she just wanted to introduce her and sat down by and and we talked for 5 mins. She did a good job
Yo face aight
No it’s because they only want secks and can tell the woman isn’t going to be an easy conquer. That’s why they only look. They are daydreaming in their head about secks with you.
This is a problem that I suffer from. I used to think maybe I dressed to “ rich” looking for average men and that’s why I am not approached as much. But I would never approach a man and rather prepare myself for when God send me my husband who has the confidence to take that leadership role ☺️ As always Tony your videos help me a lot🫶🏿
The idea that God will send you a husband is not biblical in any way. God rewards those who make effort, your husband will notice you and need to move like a wife. Women need to put themselves in the presence of men and then they will choose. Ask yourself this, do you exude femininity, are friendly, and approachable, and do show interest even in subtle ways. God will give something you are not prepared to receive.
I seen this beautiful woman at McDonald’s and we caught each other eyes as she was leaving. She went to her car and drove off and 10 mins later she came back and said she just wanted to introduce her and sat down by and and we talked for 5 mins.
@@moe808 Actually it is and it just show how much you know the Bible lol Have you ever heard “ He so find a wife, find a good thing”? Your logic is the exact grown boy mindset Tony tell us to stay away from. Be blessed and stay around to listen to more videos to learn something that can help you grow as a “man”.
@@itstimefortea4582 yes it says that but you have to be a wife and he has to identify you as a wife. If you think the role of a wife is easy you are quite mistaken. The standard of what a wife was in those times would disqualify most women today. What people define as a wife in the modern day is not even the bare minimum at best. Many women meet don't even carry themselves as a wife so I don't think there are many wives to pick from hence why men don't care to approach them. Never seen a woman that is wife material single older than 30.
@@moe808 You do not need to be a wife first, but more so present yourself in that way to be seen by a man who wants to be a husband first before finding a wife. I never said being a wife was easy but I know it’s worth it. Are you married? I don’t consume nor recognize the way modern women think. I am VERY traditional which would keep me in a position to only attract a traditional man. In Tony teachings, he teach that if it isn’t your season then God will keep you hidden from your husband until it is your time. This the reason why it’s important to have faith in God promises and his words that stand true today. I see plenty of men mainly rich who do not get married until their 30’s. That is my target audience; therefore, once I finished with my own purpose God will lead me to the man who is in submission to him that will provide to my standards and self worth. It’s simple when you actually align your life with God teachings and leadership.
Imma be real, I get the “how are you even single???” from both men and women all the time. I’m not a bad looking woman, I was a car show and atmosphere model for years (still am), work out, eat well dress well etc. Men stare for DAYSSSSSS but will never approach lol. Sometimes they orbit around me, especially if I’m at a show or car event. The only and I mean ONLY men that have approached me were:
1) taken (and I find out)
2) highly undesirable (poor hygiene, overly sexual right off the bat, someone’s grandfather lol, etc).
I still have very little interest in playing role reversal by approaching men instead. But I do want to try being more intentional and strategic about where I am meeting them. Example, putting myself in SOCIAL settings that I both enjoy and am more likely to meet decent men who are less afraid to spark up conversation. Classes, seminars, restaurant bars, art gallery openings, etc. Best of luck Ladies, it’s hard out there lol
Girl you fine❤
Just give the guy you're interested in the flirty eye look. Most men who are interested will try to make eye contact and if you give it back that's like a signal to them that you're interested.
💯agree about the ones who race to approach. Just speaking or having a conversation in social settings is a good way to let them.know the interest .
I know someone with the very same problem and I wish I had an answer…
How old are you?
I been waiting on this one Tony! Came a few weeks too late but right on time just the same. I wondered why the man in the gym kept looking at me and I just thought he wasnt confident or I was scaring him with my serious face. So when I struck up general conversation with him, it was revealed he was taken and I respected that. He was very honest and said the only thing that he could do was look. And we keep our distance. If they don't approach me, "it's protection"!
I just wanted to comment and say your comment about your face made me laugh. I have serious resting bitch face when I'm working out. Lol. Keep up the good work! 💪
The gym is probably the last place to meet anyone serious I guess. I see videos where people are likening them to the club lol.
Dang so he admitted “the only thing he could do was look” that’s crazy
First of all Tony, you are hilarious. Your effort to not call someone ugly is top notch. Secondly, I have that happen all the time; they look but don't approach. Them being taken makes so much sense. It's more realistic than the idea that I just intimidate men. I'm going to stop taking it to heart and enjoy the ones who do approach.
That is so true I am single and I literally only had like 2guys approach me in 7 months when they see me they just stare like a deer in headlights… I am at the point where I am desperate…lol I just want a date , sneaky link or just a man’s presence.. and can’t just get it 😅
@@13950 I'm going on 5 years lol 7 months is nothing 😂
@@mrsyoungdolph3755 aww ! How old are you? It’s just not fear I watch some of these vloggers on RUclips and I see them getting approached by guys all the time .
@@mrsyoungdolph3755 Im at 4¹/² years. It feels like a distant memory at this point. A date? Whats that again?😅
To be frank. Men arent scared of women lmao we just try to calculate if approaching is worth it or we just simply don’t find you attractive
You are absolutely right..Men are hunters.. and the average man is smart enough to know when a Woman is out of their League... Ladies 80 percent of them know they don't have the money to persue a Queen . It's not you, they have played the game long enough to know who or who not to mess with. Majority of the time it's about their financial status. A man know when he's gone have to wine and dine a woman...He just knows...So that's why they just stare
Intimidating......Be@utiful1, straightalk & Company!
Not all men are hunters and not all women are prey. A majority of the time, women are artificial and have a mask on to hide there true self. Men on their purpose don't have time and money to waste on a "Queen" we want traditional women that know how to show femininity. Hence why they would rather travel to other countries. 😊✌
So true 😄.
Men who are seeking pay to play will just get a prostitute. Why not just drop $200 for an hour if yall are charging? Why do a long-term subscription?
It depends on where you live too. Some places the men are more forward. I am from Baltimore and the forwardness up there is insufferable. I moved to Florida 10 years ago and men rarely approach, just stare. Ultimately, a MAN will approach if he’s really interested.
Well, being someone from Florida, I know a lot of them are DL, b1tchmade, and sassy.
Everytime I see a baddie in public, I lowkey start convulsing inside but outside try to play it cool 😂
Another reason a man would stare and not approach, is because the woman is showing off her body parts, which is visually attractive, but not what the man sees as wife material. So he just enjoys the eye candy.
I just randomly went for a walk and came upon a house someone was building, I was curious so I asked the owner if he can show me around, I walk in and I see a man from behind I walk past and greet him..instant chemistry like it was just me and him, I proceed to walk and I go upstairs, a second later he comes up doesn't say anything just stare, note I am a very open friendly woman. Deep down I said to myself if a man wants a woman he will do anything to get you..I smiled talked to him briefly walked out the door and never saw him again.
Now maybe because there were other people or he was working and my dad was also in my presence but I somehow moved around the house for him to ask for my number.
Anyway the moral of the story is , I have grown to become a wife concious woman my old self would've asked for his number etc but my heart refused. Thanks to these kind of videos. Just wanted to share. Stay safe and God bless.
Wow.....they be missing out
Honey, it doesn't matter who's around. Whether it be your dad, he'll the poppe, if a man wants you, he will approach you. I had a men approach me while my dad was next to me 😅. The men gave me his business card and all, trying to sweet talk me off my panties while my dad was sitting right next to me lmao
I think he was afraid to be accusing of being a stalker or a creep. A lot of us men don’t want to approach anymore because of false accusations and public shaming 😔
@@Rico401Prov I believe a man who is confident in himself will not allow a woman to walk away , men have hurt me in the past but I don't put them all in the same category so men also need to realize and say I don't care if she thinks I'm a creep I want to get to know her.
@@Didi-fr5ic you are naive.
It’s fear of rejection. That’s just true. Fear of rejection. And we can try to rationalize it as much as you want but fear of rejection does not mean lack of confidence or leadership. As a matter of fact, most of the guys I know who are most apt to approach have the least to offer a woman. Any guy who has the introspection necessary to air hood faults and improve himself, probably has a healthy degree of doubt as to whether or not a woman will be attracted to him.
I believe a lot men fear rejection! I see some men staring at me and I can tell they want to talk but be so nervous lol I’m naturally shy and reserved so we both end up just walking away 😅
I have some men that approach me but have the wrong attentions. Maybe, I need to start breaking the ice.
It's not the fear, because hope outlays that! It's the factual rejection itself 😂
This!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
It’s not fear of rejection stop saying that if you aren’t her type it’s a waste of time approaching her, women say all the time guys don’t approach no the guys you are interested in don’t approach, the guys that do they shoot them down, majority of women don’t want be bothered and we can see that one reason we don’t approach nothing to do with rejection
I was in McDonald’s and this guy came in and instantly locked on me. Handsome had his reputable work uniform on okkkk.
He even asked me was I single and my name give me a compliment.
We parked next to each other. I even went to write my number down. Then I said to myself 🤔
Don’t come for him if he didn’t send for you Sis☝🏾
Drove off…💪🏽🙏🏾
That coulda been your future husband, but hey you don’t give a damn anyways 😆
@@gsecc Nah I think she made the right move. If he was her future husband he would have asked for her number
When your an elderly woman all alone, you're gonna regret that sense of entitlement. You missed out on your husband because of princess syndrome.
@@BrothaJohn-br2hd Well brother John…your wrong. I met a confident successful man one morning, paid for my coffee and took me out later that day for lunch. Calls me everyday even when he’s busy. He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. Why because I rest in my femininity and he’s in his masculinity. He chose me!!! I don’t have to chase him down or make the first move. I’m here to attract not chase honey. I love ❤️ this for both men and women. Restoring order…but you maybe one of these sassy men drizzle drizzle men sooooooo this may go over your head🙈😑🤔😂😂😂
@@lovinglatonya3499 I dont believe you
I’ve had Looky Lou’s for years. They can look all they want. It means nothing to me if they don’t open their mouth. 🤷🏽♀️
This is VERY confusing ……meanwhile so many women tell me “ men are shy, shoot your shot! I got my man by shooting my shot and he liked me but was shy” lol I give up on everything! BYE
If a man doesnt have the confidence to approach you , he can not be a leader to you or your family.
No foreal🤣 Very confusing!
I would ask those women why they want to be in a relationship with a man who has such little confidence and such bad communication skills?
@@la6136 very true! But if keep waiting then we’ll we might not ever find him! Also, my friend told me men are tired of women screaming independence so they just stopped asking now!
It really is . I have had the most success with saying hello to a man to show my interest and letting him go from there . Many have told me they thought I was taken or would reject them .
Happens to me all the time. I’m trying to make sure my face doesn’t look mad , lol or too serious . I think that’s the issue
I will jus smile n greet thm....thats all u gettn 😂
This! 😂
I have the same issue.
Listen! I was just told by a guy that he was unsure about approaching me because I looked mean. After I spoke to him, we chatted for a few and exchanged numbers. One text and that was it. Dead silence.
Another guy asked for my number and I was hesitant because I normally don’t give out my number at all guys. He watched me interact with another customer on my job and assumed that I had given him my number also. He started sending crazy messages. I told him that I was still healing from my divorce (I’m fully recovered) and to take care. He is still messaging me with no response.
I’m tired and ready to give up already.
😂😂😂 same
@@stephthecreative6312 never give up. Pray on it and remain open, just not foolish. Which you don’t seem to be by what you’re saying. All the best!
The modelesque man approached me when I was younger and naive, and I gave him the cold shoulder multiple times, because deep down I was very suspicious because I knew guys like him were not usually interested in me. He befriended me though and I fell for him. Got used for about 3 years. My spirit was giving me sirens 🚨, that came out in my body language and initial treatment of him. But it was flattering and such a great temptation that I walked into the trap.
Girl one of them fine ass men got me too. Wasted a year on his azz. Lol glad God helped me break away from that loser
I can understand us women showing interest/ being inviting towards a man but it’s a fine line between doing that and chasing. Be open to inviting him in, from there let him take the lead.
I love you for this comment. That’s all us men ask for. As a man I have no problem pursing you as a woman I love it actually I just want to make sure that it’s worth it.
Wow Thanks Tony. I always assume a guy is taken or just not attracted to me, if they don’t approach. And your logic is so spot on.
There are many reasons why men stare and dont approach. I had one guy tell me that if a man is married and looks at you everyday at work and never approaches you, it means he just wants something pretty to look at or just admiring. I'm glad he never did approach me since he was married. Also, men stare because you look like somebody they know because Ive had a coworker tell me that I look so much like his mom. Or they just find you attractive and could be already in a relationship. Or just lack of confidence
A lot of guys won’t approach women because internally they know there’s far more of a huge chance they’ll get nowhere than there is in getting somewhere.
Just because a woman’s looking at you and there’s a bit of eye contact happening it doesn’t means she’s actually interested therefore if she is interested it’s actually on her to make it completely clear to a man that she wants him to make a move
And due to the complexity of a woman that’s not always as straight forward for a man as it seems even if she wants him to make the move.
Men are well aware of how complex women can be
I’ve been needing a video like this. This guy who follows me on instagram just hearts my photos and stories but doesn’t dm me. Mostly every other guy tries dming me except for him. I’ve met him in middle school but I only was there for a year before I moved away and we didn’t even really speak or were friends. We did have one conversation or two, but he had a girlfriend at the time. I’m 18 so I think it’s best to just let things go and focus on myself for now.
Yea focus on you and your paper the right one will come at the right time and approach you
They aren’t interested enough . Back in the day before cell phones and social media. Men had to approach a woman . If he is interested enough he will find a way to meet you. 😊
Exactly
I've lived a lot of places. I noticed more in the south a lot of men will look but not approach a woman. In NYC or even the DMV area Men sent to be a bit more assertive. This is just my personal experience.
You are correct! Experienced the same…
A lot of men in the South are DL. They’re truly b!tchmade. You know what, I believe most men, at least 50% between the ages of 18 and 45, are homosexuals.
100% correct. I'm from up North, and men have always been very aggressive here.
Yes you are correct!
@@Fraziercranium97 not going to lie majority of the approaches are aggressive , sometimes scary. But I guess they are very masculine with their approach to me that it can be a bit overwhelming because you might think they will do something bad to you if you reject them. It’s unpleasant but at least they are in their masculine. Some are genuine though
TG add your mini mic when your in the office please. My volume on max! 😂
Same. I thought something was wrong with my volume! Lol
@Reshae2006 lol he said because he was in the office and the walls are thin, he didn't want to talk loud
Honestly, men look and don’t approach for two reasons. 1)They are afraid of rejection. 2) you look mean and unpleasant.
I get asked why I’m single all the time by men but ironically they never ask me out. I am not sweating it though. I know they’re not my person, so I quietly keep doing my thing . The men that ask me that are heavily sexual at first without even getting to know me.
Right ! And sometimes it's the TAKEN ones who act like that 🙄
Same here! And I'm very attractive and in good shape! But over a year and no dates!!!
@@sherryj738 okay
You’re a Black woman in America nobody takes you serious of course all they wanted is sex
@@FoodNNewsTVliar
Clear, concise, and 100% truth!!! Thanks for the gems. Your honesty is refreshing. You are appreciated!!! No flattery intended.
A lot of men are insecure about themselves that's one of the reason they don't wanna approach women especially good women. They don't value themselves enough and wasn't taught this since childhood. Most of the girls they go for is bad girls anyways because they like play games with them. I know this from observation too many times and I see that they like that because it makes them feel better about themselves when really it tears them down. Second reason is they're either are taken or already Interested in someone else. Third reason is it could be God protecting you from attracting bad company into your life especially if you trying to heal or remove it from your aura. Finally just wait for the good men to come into your life maybe there's something inside you that you probably need to deal with to move on better from. Best of luck!💗
Nah men just don’t like rejection period. If we are unsure on how the outcome might be we most likely will just look and not say anything
@@alvincolvin9156 thats not what I meant. I know yall don't like rejection I was just you Most of you guys just like any other women are insecure about themselves. But however I get the whole rejection part even i dont like rejection but I rather for it to happened to be lead on or mislead if that makes sense.
@@jada3956 why does have to be insecurity? men are shamed if we dont approach and we get shamed for approaching. Men just came to conclusion that the juice isnt worth the squeeze. i wish we lived in a world where we can approach freely without consequences but this is reality.
@@jada3956 btw are you a woman? if so, then you have no idea about the male experience and never will. men and women live 2 different realities
@@alvincolvin9156 first of all i never said you guys couldn't. Its highly obvious y'all are insecure and don't wanna admit it which I'm am not shaming you for. But I was agreeing with what he said in video about guys being insecure. If you didn't like what I said you could've ignored it. Secondly you can express yourself in anyway but it's how you do it.
ME TOO MOVEMENT have made men more careful at approaching women. Back in the day men would approach women all day long. Now , that dude that really you going to be careful how he approach you.
You're the most sincere to me out of all the coaches. Feels really natural coming from you. Thanks ♥
Good afternoon. Praying a blessed start to everyone’s new week.
Same to you❤😊
@@pamelaking579 Thank you. 🙏🏽🙌🏽
It's so hard to connect with women nowadays bc I see the desperation in them. So many women tell me they go up to men and give them their numbers & shoot their shot. I'm like do you know if a man was interested in you, you wouldn't need to do that. It just goes to show where our world is today. These are also the same women that complain men don't know how to lead lol well why would he sis? You led him 😂😂😂🤦🏾♀️
Good point 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
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I don't approach men. I feel like if a man really is interested in a woman. He will make the move and approach her.
😂😂 yes sister
@@genovasquez8361 if you like the idea of woman approaching you, that is very feminine in my eyes. A masculine man who is secure in himself will find that as a huge red flag or turn off.
I’m never going to approach a man. Idgaf what the case is. Ik my value & ik I’m beautiful within myself. But he’s not lying about men watches everything because it gets on my last nerves 😂😂😂 this boy at my job notice that when I’m nervous I tend to rub my eyes. He gone say I noticed whenever you rub your eyes it means your nervous😂 I started laughing cause why is he in my business like that!!!!!!!! Then another time when we be talking he’ll try to stare at me in my eyes and I always look the other way then he gone say you can’t seem to make eye contact for long and I can’t lmfaooo. I truly can’t. Especially if ik the guy is interested in me. But it’s so funny cause he be really thinking he know me but he be right.
@Heaven Jones I said the same thing ain lying
Hmm… I have a co worker like that too 😅 🤔
Congratulations on the new office! Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️🙏🏾
Me as an introvert. I always hope mfs wont approach me. When they do, i say hi back or respond with one answer and walk away.
@live for Jesus nah bro, we r not living sad like u think it is. We aint the same. I value my peace and quiet time. Don't assume introverts r alone or lonely or sad. I'm with the same mf for 19+ years....
Lmaooooo
@live for Jesus thanks but I'm not offended.
This would happen a lot to me in my 20s I would smile and they would get what I call the panic face. I asked my male friends what was going on and they said that I was pretty and was high maintenance so men assumed I would be rude and that I looked expensive. I replied but I work and pay for all my grooming. What am I supposed to do look unkept. It was confusing and upsetting. I left the US. Men act like they will be dragged to bloody hell if a woman says no. And when I would approach a guy they assumed it was a joke. It’s was all very confusing. I’m with my sons father now. So I’m good.
Very confusing. I'm over it
If a man keeps looking and not approaching, he finds you attractive but is emotionally unavailable. He may : 1. Have a wife/gf/ still dealing with ex
2. Financially unstable
Leave him alone cuz he won't turn down a free meal but you will be hurt over the course of whatever you initiate.
Where do you ladies get this from? 😂😂😂 ask real men!
@antoniostyles Who says I haven't? I have seen these situations play out. They rarely end well for women who pursue. It puts her in the masculine state. She will always have to keep chasing. I'm in my soft girl lifestyle so if they don't approach, I'm still living my fabulous life because I want an alpha or nothing.
@yourmajesty8742 that is understandable but how about maybe sutle compliments or a smile. Women have no idea how far that takes them. Still allow the man to be who he is but be more open with gestures and not necessarily forward. If that makes sense lol.
When people ask who I think is cute I be lying. I don’t want nobody to know who I REALLY like df😂
Why?
@@j-tenn226 because some women are messy and try to take the men that you like. They don’t even really like the man, they just do it to make you mad🙄
@Teddiii CareBear Yep and hot pants women will try to run a play with a man on your behalf...like you asked them to.
I don't need no lustful spirit, manish, single for a clear reason, herself, women playing devil match making😂😂😂 Good for you. Don't tell nobody, but God.😉
Love that office setup! Check your sound; it's low.
Number 1 reason men don't approach is fear of rejection. He could be attracted to you but never ends up obtaining the confidence.
I get this all the time, some even make comments that my “husband is lucky to be with someone like me”. I even made a joke to my mum that I should wear a sign that says single😂😂 so they can stop assuming that I am married.
I get asked why I’m single alllll the time 😊
Sis if you make one, make me one too 😅 sameeeeeeee
@@n.Lenice 😂😂great idea! another income stream, Tony would be proud that we implement what we learn.
@@christinewarren8134 the struggle is real Sis🤣🤣now how do you wear a sign and not seem desperate🤪
@@mariangwenya5556 👀 🤣
Ohhh this is what I have been wondering for a while now. Thank u so much for addressing this question.
I appreciate u! 🙏🏽❤️
A lot of thm want u to approach thm....boy plez ✌
Period. Boy byeee 😂
@@DaintyAbby 😂😂😂 ...bump that
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Nope!
Some men don’t approach you because they see they can’t run game on you. And some genuinely like you but afraid of rejection so yes they will watch and wait.
Nah I don’t stare unless I’m going to say something - all of Men are not the same - I don’t see every woman - I only see the woman who catches my eye from time to time - the man with wondering eyes is a lost man
AMEN!
A lot of men can’t handle rejection and they have what’s called egos. This happens all the time to me as well they stare and I stare back… nobody makes a move 🤷🏽♀️😂
Why staring back and forth if you won't take any action right🤭 What a turn off. If it was ego, they wouldn't have fear of rejection imho. Ego would dictate, I'm just telling my intentions and getting an answer, so I'd be done with this. It's her loss or her gain. I will go after what I want and like. This is more like ego and selfishness in my opinion.
Tony's setting the scene in that first minute... I'm still remembering how this happened to me one evening at a noodle bar. I was waiting an eternity for my takeout and a handsome guy sitting nearby was doing exactly that. I kept waiting for him to approach me but he never did, and I remember heading home feeling confused and dejected.
Wish Tony had been around then!!
@Heaven Jones Lol, the number of times women could say this about men! Difference is, we know intense staring with no intention of follow through can get us into a lot of trouble.
But looks fade people often forget that so you better come with a good personality.......
I remember years ago, when I was out with a hating behind woman (she wasn't a friend), I told her every morning omw to work, this officer would always stare me down in his car, but never speaks to me. Her response was, "Maybe he's just not interested in you." From that moment, I realized she was hating.
Thank you again. I'll watch your videos until this knowledge is drilled into my head and I stop seeing things from a uniformed perspective
I always assume they are taken...so ✌
Lol if they have some level of sanity and a job, I assume they are taken
Same
@@genovasquez8361 sounds wimpy
@@genovasquez8361 Yeah...but u could miss out 😬...IJS
@@genovasquez8361 understood...if thats the case....to each its own 👍
My ex always felt the need to go on dating apps to find women. He said if he saw a woman out and about and he really found her attractive, he wouldn't approach her because he doesn't want to be the guy who gets rejected in front of everyone. So if there's a chance that she won't be interested for whatever reason, most guys won't even think to approach a woman. According to him, only guys who are losers with nothing to lose will approach.
I can see that.
Who wants to be rejected infront of everyone
@@liggmabawls5634 Exactly
Women have to be open to being approached cause some be having the resting b face some just be in there phones & some will see you but act like they didn’t see you if women wanna be approached just be friendly towards him compliment his outfit or his haircut & he definitely will ask you out if he finds you attractive cause it’s so much bs going on in the world today most men just not gonna risk it like old times
The cold hard truth !! I appreciate it !!!🙏🏾💯
thank you so much. so many times i wondered if i should do something - in some cases i did which backfired on me - and now i know it's for my protection that he didn't approach me because he's either taken, a good man who isn't attracted to me and doesn't want to use me or he might be shy (which often is not the case). thank you !!!!!
As a man, especially of many many rejections, ive learned to let the women choose as they do anyways. A plethora of guys are on them, and i dont have energy to compete. If a female wants you she will make it loud and clear! Until then im MGTOW.
How should we choose men
@@S-jy4fdsmiling and saying hello or small compliment.
100%
Watching while my 5 year old laying on me, she looks at my phone and point to you Tony and say “He’s pretty” 😂
I'm glad Tony is addressing the fact that there were women in middle school who were probably teased or treated terrible by the popular guys. This happened a lot. Especially in the black community. I can't speak for the other comminities. I hear a lot of men who are nerds or nerds complain about black women rejecting them. They don't talk about the rejection of black women who did not fit the image of what society calls attractive.
When a guy has found me attractive; they stare so hard it makes me uncomfortable 😳. At a work conference this guy turned around the whole day stared at me so hard that I wanted to get up and leave. He walked over and introduced himself at the end and the whole room seemed to disappear 🫠. Unfortunately I was still married even though I was going through a divorce…😢
THIS COMMENT!!!GIIIRLLL YESS!!💯
Me being a man there’s a few reason why I will look at a woman and let her know I’m looking but won’t approach her because of my faith most times, or just feels she wouldn’t be interested in me but faith is the main reason for me. If I’m taken I’m not gonna give that look of interest to a woman. I also agree with your number 2 reason kinda what I mean by my 2nd reason
There’s always a spark! That’s when I go for it, I know how to see, then feel. But the feeling gotta be right as we are conversing. I always know from there regardless if there’s a continuation or not after the approach.
Thank you for these videos Tony, you have no idea how helpful they are. God bless you.
I dont approach women bc im aware that im in a lustful state of being so im comin for only one thing, for the most part. Im aware that i need to shift this n im workin towards that but since i am in a lustful state, me not approaching women is absolutely for their protection‼️
I can tell by your eyes you’re lustful
Tony be having the remedy… if i ever get an inkling that i feel “lonely” I just watch one of his videos 🤣🤣🤣 im good now with being single
I’m
Going through this now. There’s this one delivery guy on my job but he was starring at me hard to make sure I know he sees me. Now he speaks when he can and I speak back and smile. However he hadn’t made a move. Well one day I heard him have a conversation to one of the workers he knew and she mention oh say hi to so & so!!he kind of stopped because I was standing there but didn’t hear the name however it think they may have said a women name. He didn’t respond and walked out. I think he may be taken but was trying to see if he can my attention. this video is like confirmation!
They way Tony describes his looks always makes me laugh. He has a very high self image of himself.
If a woman is not giving me a “Choosing Signal“, I will not approach.
You are so awesome in your conversations and it’s confirmation from GOD Mr Gaskins 🙌🏾🙌🏾😭
I take it as a compliment to my outward demeanor lol. Many men will waste your time and know when they have a naive hook. Many manipulative ppl out here and head cases.
So it's either it's a lot of taken men, men don't find me attractive, or scary 😂😂 because I don't get approach at all even when I look good. But my question is, has women always had a problem with men approaching or is this something new?
Some women have all the men approaching and some don’t.
In my life I’ve been apart of the Dont.
@@dominiquesmith8057 yes but simps, those don't even count.
Me, I've mostly have not been approached.🤷🏾♀️
It's a blessing to not get approached frequently; usually when men approach women a lot, they've had a lot of practice (predators).
Same here I have times where I will get approached for like 2 months straight and other times I can go several months without a guy approaching me.
Thank, Thank you, Tony, your heaven sent. God blessed you. 🙏🏼💙🙏🏼💙
I cannot thank enough God for Tony Gaskins. This message was completely my answer from God. He is used by God in incredible ways. You are saving so many women. Thank you so much.
He will look 👀 and not approach because he's insecure or just observing your behaviour to see how easy you are. When a man approaches a women it's because he wants something..if he sees you are confident in yourself he will not bother.
This is the most honest comment 💯💯
You gotta understand that the life ain’t fair & opposites will attract most of the time because some has to have the leverage in the situation
This! 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Ask men!
Sounds like youre just a B word and give off that energy.
right on time tony thank you 🙏🏾
You’ve made some great points Mr. Gaskins. I will forever remember how “good” a man is who stares but not approach me. I love this perspective and gem that you’re shared. There are a LOT of good men around. 😍😉👀🤣
Best video I have ever seen. Very very insightful. Every teenage girlie deserve to watch this video.
Point, blank, perioddttt‼️👏🏾👏🏾💯💯
these women saying men not approaching them is GODS protection,,, a man that approaches u can be from the pit of hell also,, women are basically like this,, they (women) can be attracted to u, stare at u and want u to approach them,,, as soon as u approach them they will basically cut ur head off,,, and on the way home will be saying to themselves why did i do that,,, i was attracted to that guy,, ive figured out the less u say to a women the better off u r,,, women like mystery,, u can be at a bar and a women can be very very interested in u,,, if u hv a long conversation with this women,, by the time u lv that bar she will hv NO INTEREST in u,,, if u r at a gym and u hv seen a female checking u out,,, once u give her a quick stare or she sees u looking at her,, its a done deal,,, she is not interested anymore,,, these are the mind games modern women play,,, men hv basically figured out these mind games and men arent willing to play these mind games with women,,,, this is why men arent approaching women,, women basically want men to kiss they A$$ and its not happening
Alright so I'm hearing him out while also reading comments and while I understand what a lot of women are saying I still see a bunch of the "I am the prize and my God will bless me someday" answers. Before I met my Queen I was the type of man who would look (I will NEVER stare) at women and never really make approaches unless they really made it easy for me to see their interest. Before I understood the 'Choosing signals' thing to me they were all just being friendly. I just didnt see the effort and while interested in relationships I was more concerned about my future. Even after understanding that, many women had something about them that made me not want to make the approach whether its Lifestyle, attitude, attire, etc. Also there is the Me Too movement BS and many other factors. The False accusations Ive seen and how people quickly ganged up on the victim.... and then there is the high number of failed relationships because one or both parties cant put in the work. For a guy who doesnt think with his dick, why the hell would I put effort into approaching vaguely interested women? But then I met my African Queen Who really put in the effort so I matched her energy and also put in effort and then we started dating.
The moral here is stop waiting for some decent man to just suddenly take your hand when youre not even trying to appeal to the man you want. And the men need to quit staring at women if they arent going to do anything about it.
How did she put in the effort? Did she approach you first?
@@user-rh5kz5gw2g Yes. Started with a simple friendly conversation which I'm used to in retail work. Then came some slight flirting while conversing to hold my interests and of course I matched all if that. I was already visually attracted to her plus her voice and smile helped a lot. I would be an idiot not to ask her out with that flow unless I was in a relationship already. What she told me later completely sealed the deal. She saw me and was extremely attracted but was scared of me not liking a bunch of this and that about her but she still put herself out there just to say hello and create a situation to grab my attention. Noy saying this will work every time but your damn right it will work 85% of times for women
@@JBCEmperor yea I see how that would work. Her approach sounds very friendly and classy.
@@JBCEmperor Gotcha 💯💯💯
Mr Gaskins : out of ALL of the videos you've done, thos one was the most REAL. Thank you. Well spoken Sir.❤
Thank you so much. I recently learned that it is best for a woman not I chase a man for many reasons. Recently I have noticed one guy in my school looking at me but no really trying to talk to me and I was wondering why and started to make assumptions as to what would be the reason. I am deciding to no think about it. Also your video was well presented and easy to understand, thanks once again.