Being a nice guy is not the same as being a good guy. A nice guy does things to have people like him but a good does things because it's the right thing to do.
Hey, i bought this book. Awesome. It hit home. Im a typical victim of the nice guy syndrome. Do u have some advice, tips we can discuss more about this? Please let me know
@Common Sense absolutely! Thank you! Your name speaks for you because you have it! 👍People are so brainwashed not knowing that good and nice means the same. Being nice is another term for being good! When you do nice things means you do good things! If you are a nice person means you are a good person because good and nice is a reflection of positivity which spreads positive energy! They just don't get it! I see people love going with the flow of everything that sounds good! They are the same!
@Common Sense is the right thing to please people? always? no, since people may, say, want to stomp on a baby and elect you to as the honorary stomper. of course you are always not right, either, but to cut out one’s own judgement isn’t good
I have been studying NMMNG for a year. Today I believe I had a revelation: It seems that all the characteristics of the syndrome are lack of maturity, are an incomplete transition from a boy to a man. A BOY: seek approval - need approval from parents Emotionally dependent - relies on parents Conflict avoider - relies on mother and father to solve conflict Pleaser - seek approval Victim - rely on parents to protection Passive - Rely. on parents for guidance and decision A MAN Take on responsibilities Straight direct and honest Do not fear conflict Provide and protect Do not need nurturing and approval Emotionally independent Looks to me that a Nice Guys is simply a boy that hasn't matured properly. into a man and kept the boy's needs into adulthood. Comments?
A nice guy is afraid of conflict. A real man does not seek conflict, does not stir conflict, but whenever conflict meets him stands up to it graciously and vigorously.
Check out his book Dating Essentials for Men. It goes with Mr. Nice Guy but it's also expanded. It honestly changed me and helped me be a better dater but also a better person. I've listened to it on Audible 3 times already it's crazy good.
Look how much these intelligent women are enjoying the podcast talk! This guy is striking a balance between creating polarity (which is stereotypically done by the jerk alpha), and being empathetic to what women go through in the relationship dynamic.
Special thanks to Dr. Glover for giving his perspective on dating, and as usual, a big thanks to Apollonia and Natalie! I went on a date about two weeks ago and had no idea why she didn't reciprocate after the first date (after I thought we had a fantastic night). In retrospect, I was only approaching from my own perspective, and over the past week I have watched plenty of your videos and realized that I was approaching from a completely wrong mindset. I am learning to date from "abundance" rather than "scarcity" and this has made a huge difference in how I carry myself.
🤯 nice guy vs good guy! Such a great interview! I needed this. I’m just now getting back into dating after a separation. This is a good foundation to build myself back up.
Sitting here watching this realizing in a past relationship my girlfriend was desperate for leadership, she needed someone to take that role away from her so she could be herself.
I love this video. I learned so much. I love how Dr. Glover’s references in being a dance a leader. It makes so much sense. Apollonia you look beautiful.
Thanks for sharing this great interview and insights. The book is fantastic and I've read it many times. It's a huge relief to hear Robert say how life isn't all about being this extra alpha dominant bad boy type guy, which is something that seems to have been beaten to death by much of the dating coaching community. That approach just doesn't suit a lot of guys and creates more confusion than help whereas the advice given here really feels more genuine and realistic.
I bought his book earlier this year and read it and everything that he described as being a Nice Guy was me. His book is in my top 5,its a must have and game changer. Atomic Attraction by Chris Canwell is great also
I admit I struggle in this area...my addiction definitely gives me a lot of anxiety. But when I go without it....my confidence goes up and anxiety goes way down !
Good to see y’all have Robert Oliver on the show! I stumbled on the book when I was going thru a nasty break up. From the cover/title I thought it was going to be a douchey, pickup artist type guide, but it turned out to be more psych related, and an insightful look at owning who you are and setting boundaries. I also agree on the corny “alpha/beta” talk.
THANK YOU for this video, it has opened my mind and set me down the path to stop being “the nice guy”. The cause of all my failed relationships or not getting the girl!
What women 'want', and what they're actually attracted to is two different things. It makes it nearly impossible for men to please them. She wants a nice guy, but is attracted to assholes. I was dating a woman for 4 months who now wants a months break. I was kind, caring, understanding, and we were physically hot for each other. Her ex husband was physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually abusive. And she wants a break from me....🤦♂️
Because she's an asshole. My prime example of being nice and good are the same thing. She don't know what it means because she doesn't want to know. Leave her alone!! She knows you are a good dude and she knows within herself she isn't good for you! Let her go so she can get abused more since she loves that. Whenever she come back, don't accept her more than a friendship if that's what you want. Live your single life and be friends with women instead of looking for every woman to be your relationship partner.
Same. I know I’m a good guy & a great catch, but because you ‘act’ wrong, they’re turned off by you. It sucks. If I ‘just be yourself’ type thing, it goes tits up. So, I basically have to be someone I’m not and act in a RP way to make her attracted.
Women are complicated, but yet aren't. Can't change who you are, whether it's a true nice guy or POS. Eventually, the right one comes along. I am not an alpha, my girlfriend is more alpha than me, but she trust me because she knows she is safe with me. But once in while, take a step back and give them space. Being a nice guy isn't wrong, but do it with sense and don't get needy when she pulls away. Sometimes you both need to miss each other for things to grow.
My Dad grew up on a farm in Galway then moved to Dublin. He did election lessons to sound like a Dub, due to shame of his roots. Nice guy. He's not a good guy though and was actually a bully towards me, that's why I haven't spoken to him in 5 years.
Crap. I grew up with an emotionally immature mother and an arrogant, controlling, bullying father and definitely developed niceguy tendencies. I can only hope it's not too late to unlearn them.
Learn to massage, it is heaven for a woman that has attraction to you. Don't rush sex, but be intimate. Treat her like she actually matters, which she really should and most important thing, listen. Don't matter alpha or beta, or a man's man or mommy's boy. Just be human and be true to who you really are.
37:10-39:44 I’ve just got the answer I asked you a while ago, it’s just all about the social structure. One excellent podcast this man is pure gold. And your partner Mrs. Ponti has one of the brightest souls I’ve seen, I liked her energy and posture 😉✌️
"women reject the neediness" I can't get past this. So, a man can never be weak or have a need to be reassured by his wife or girlfriend without being less of a man?! If a woman can't help me in my time of need, then what good is she? I don't need her money, house, car or status. I need her to love me and help me be a better man. Seems to me women are mad when a man's insecurities gets in the way of their own. I would hate to know that I was married to a woman that would think less of me for needing to be reassured.
@Loud Italian I think you are right. But I agree with the other guy too that there is too much pressure on men to be stoic at the expense of real emotions. If men feel they can't express vulnerability in a relationship something is wrong.
@Loud Italian Unfortunately, men also have insecurities that may cause them to act "needy" at times. For that to be such a turnoff is very judgmental of women. For a woman to say men can't have real issues without being unworthy in their minds is wrong. Women it seems want a man to help them fulfill their ideal image of life instead of someone to give themselves to and love unconditionally. Basically, using men.
Men are being pushed back and forth between being told to lead and being overruled. Its hard to learn, you gotta let people go pretty quickly and that means being completely happy on your own
Es altamente recomendado, yo lo leí hace 2 años y siempre regreso a leer el libro para seguir reforzandome, estoy haciendo mi propia terapia! Buena suerte y saludos de un Nicaragüense 👋🇳🇮
39:14 "When the door opens by all means, walk through that door".. What door do you actually refer to Mr Robert, the one that leads to heaven or hell 🙈 Or the door that ends you up on the street???🤐
Growing up with two parents I can say my Dad was the perfect role model for boys, my Dad was very masculine. My Dad was having lot of girlfriends but he never forget about my mother and us. He was too perfect of a man that I should have learned from him but I didn't because my mom always make me feel he is not good and she always tell me don't be like your dad. But I am far away from home and reflecting on my dad I can say I am learning a lot from him away from him
WOAHHH A P P !!!!!! I haven't watched any of your videos recently because i'm taking a break from dating. I have however, just got into some of his material to just be a more improved man i general. So getting on youtube and seeing this is awesome!
The important years of my life my mom married a guy who I gave a hard time to because I was a mommas boy until I was 15. I wasn’t a nice guy at first because a lot of women didn’t want jerks so I changed into a soft beta up until my late 30s when I got screwed over by an ex I’m a LDR. Now I’m 41 I’m a god guy but I’ve tapped into my masculinity. Every man has masculinity inside of them. If a woman what a nice guy she wants a man to control and then she’ll cheat on you with a guy who’s masculine.
My girl says I'm a nice guy , here's my take on it , if I get treated nice I'll be nice , if I get treated like crap , right back at them , I'm a very considerate person , and I think that's why my girl considers me a nice along with being a gentleman , but I do demand respect , and if that doesn't work , I don't know what to say
No, society tells men to be matcho, not be emasculated. The problem is precisely that women dont allow men to have feelings. Its not the other way around. Its not mens fault
Love the book , got it on audible . The first time listened to i shut it off after the first 10 mins , said “holy fuck “ and just sat there for another 30 mins thinking how completely accurately it described me before I could hit play again. Now Lost count how many times I’ve listened to the whole thing over.
My dad wasn't a nice guy. So I find myself playing the hero. Too many men out there manipulating and not being real. Also being a Libra does'nt help ha! I am actually a badass just not to the woman I like... Current Lady Aquarius and an absolute nightmare yet all the signs are there.. She serenaded me the other night at 1am with her ukulele and dreamy eyes.. yet because of the respect and tiredness of us both. I said good night, ciao ciao and went on my merry way. Now I feel like an idiot. I so need to chit chat with you Apollonia. Another date Thursday so I'm going to let the lion out hahaha LOVE YOUR WORK x
What’s with the girl smirking? Some women want are purposely elusive on how to make them happy, for control purposes. Is it worth the grief? I married a woman with 2 girls who rolled all over their mom, and manipulated me. A friend played, “No more Mr. Nice Guy” for me. It became my motto. It ended with me calling the cops because one daughter was growing pot in her room. I called the cops.
I bought this book, thinking that I might be "Mr. Nice Guy." I got about two chapters in and said, "Nope - this isn't me." I talked about it to a friend who was a hyper-player (got laid three times a night when he wanted it), and he said that was him. I mailed it to him. I got more out of Men are From Mars... which was given to me by a girl. I also get the door.
I nearly died as a baby due to a birth defect and my parents in ways were over protective and didn't want me to grow up and move on because they nearly lost me once and didn't want to lose me at all. I wasn't allowed to play sports growing up except bowling and that wasn't till I was 14. I wasn't allowed to join the military, both due to my parents fear of losing me and due to religious beliefs. I was 19 before I really started noticing girls and was blocked from getting ti know a girl 4 years younger than myself and that really hurt because it prevented me from ever dating her. I was rejected every time I tried asking someone out. I find that most people giving relationship advice never take things like that into consideration. people can be rejected out of the dating game and they can be hurt so bad thst they take themselves out as a means of protecting themselves. when you are a woman and take yourself out you will still be approached by men. Hiwever when you are a man and do that you are essentially done, relegating yourself to a life of loneliness because women will never reach and and try to make a man feel that he does have value and that some woman will want him. he is expected to put the pain, the rejection and any heartbreak behind him and keep trying.
My observations of mother, sister, and other women around me combined with negative mentoring by my father resulted in me learning to have hatred, contempt, and distrust of girls and women from a very early age. By the end of 9th grade/15yo I pretty much just psychologically shut down and became, for all intents and purposes, asexual and accepted that I would likely live my life alone. I just avoided women completely unless required for school or work. The natural attraction, interest, and libido simply didn't develop and I didn't understand why other guys put so much emphasis and importance on chasing women and willingly subject themselves to such abuse. I finally had my first kiss, sex, and girlfriend at age 23 - and only because she chased me for months and made all the first moves (I never would have). Even then, it took many years for me to slowly learn to trust women. Women would approach me - sometimes quite blatantly - but I was confused by their cues and actually repelled by them. It would actually make me angry because I believed they were just out for some monetary/material gain from me, and I would be cold or rude to make them go away. Secretly I actually wanted to physically HURT them for having the "temerity" to talk to me - when all they were trying to do is get to know me. I did not really learn correctly until about 3.5 years ago when I, just out of curiosity, started studying PUA - when I was already 45yo and 15 years into marriage. The skills and attitudes I learned from those coaches have made my marriage and life SO much better!!
I understand not to push a partner to sex but I would give my humble advice - make sure from the get go that your libido could work with her's. Thank you all great insights !!!
Nice Guy / Good Guy at the end of the day It's all the same , women go after the "" Bad Boy "" right after saying that they want the Nice/Good Guy .....according to all these videos apparently value the "" Bad Boy "" over the Good/Nice Guy because of the 5 , 10 , 15 , 20 traits that the ""Bad Boy "" have that the Good/Nice Guy don't have and keep treating the Nice/Good Guy is boring , needy , Mama's Boy etc,etc,etc ....!
You shouldn't be aiming to manipulate someone, that's not the right place to be coming with things. Imma real Don, and I can have whatever I want if I work for it.
I, Neal Patrick Fry have a 3” inch Scar a Half Inch Wide on my Left upper Wrist with “A” Tattoo to “ Cover ^UP^ my So-Called Nice 👍 “ GUY “ on my “ Sleeve “ to “Protect and Provide” for The Ladies, Women and Girls who “ Live in a Ghetto. “ Who “ Protects and Provides “ for ‘you’ Complaining? As Serious as a .45 Caliber Colt .45, Neal Patrick Fry from Straight Outta Detroit!!!
Charles Bronson - Magnificent Seven - Father’s Responsibility: Both of ‘you’ 💕 Lovely Ladies, Get an “ Hourly Job “ at The Ford Motor Company’s Rouge Complex and “Protect and Provide” for ‘your’ Men and Boys in ‘your’ “ Lives “ for 34 Years, 3 Months, 2 Weeks and 4 and a Half Days because “THAT SISSY” can’t “ Handle The Responsibility, “ amen 🙏.
In scripture its is specific woman want the man to lead. Woman want and need to create a emotional connection for men it is different it is important for the man to have his own hobbies and other things simply build a great life and take her along on tjis great adventure with you to be a part of your life not for her to be your life.
Being a nice guy is not the same as being a good guy. A nice guy does things to have people like him but a good does things because it's the right thing to do.
.... Nice guy, good guy. Pfffffff. Fuggedaboudit.
Hey, i bought this book. Awesome. It hit home. Im a typical victim of the nice guy syndrome.
Do u have some advice, tips we can discuss more about this? Please let me know
@Common Sense absolutely!
Thank you! Your name speaks for you because you have it! 👍People are so brainwashed not knowing that good and nice means the same. Being nice is another term for being good! When you do nice things means you do good things! If you are a nice person means you are a good person because good and nice is a reflection of positivity which spreads positive energy!
They just don't get it! I see people love going with the flow of everything that sounds good!
They are the same!
Beautifully said!
@Common Sense is the right thing to please people? always? no, since people may, say, want to stomp on a baby and elect you to as the honorary stomper. of course you are always not right, either, but to cut out one’s own judgement isn’t good
I have been studying NMMNG for a year. Today I believe I had a revelation: It seems that all the characteristics of the syndrome are lack of maturity, are an incomplete transition from a boy to a man.
A BOY:
seek approval - need approval from parents
Emotionally dependent - relies on parents
Conflict avoider - relies on mother and father to solve conflict
Pleaser - seek approval
Victim - rely on parents to protection
Passive - Rely. on parents for guidance and decision
A MAN
Take on responsibilities
Straight direct and honest
Do not fear conflict
Provide and protect
Do not need nurturing and approval
Emotionally independent
Looks to me that a Nice Guys is simply a boy that hasn't matured properly. into a man and kept the boy's needs into adulthood.
Comments?
I would agree to that to some degree. Nice guys that didn't successfully transition from boyhood to manhood. Interesting way of looking at it.
A nice guy is afraid of conflict. A real man does not seek conflict, does not stir conflict, but whenever conflict meets him stands up to it graciously and vigorously.
Dr Glover has done some great interviews. This is easily one of the best. Thanks all.
That guy changed my life.
"NO More MR Nice Guy" Just finished reading the book. What an Incredible book. Every man Should Read that Book!
Live life on your terms and invite a woman into that life👌🏾
Temporarily. At this point I'm finding it ridiculous and pointless to enter a serious relationship with ANY woman.
@@jfelton3583 relax incel, you'll get there
This interview was really good bought his book on the spot
Same
Check out his book Dating Essentials for Men. It goes with Mr. Nice Guy but it's also expanded. It honestly changed me and helped me be a better dater but also a better person. I've listened to it on Audible 3 times already it's crazy good.
Yeah I really like what he's saying too.
You being Beta bro?
I did too
I bought his book right away lol to be honest I never had a male figure in my life and I felt like he was talking to me in some parts.
Donde esta tu papá?
Look how much these intelligent women are enjoying the podcast talk! This guy is striking a balance between creating polarity (which is stereotypically done by the jerk alpha), and being empathetic to what women go through in the relationship dynamic.
Special thanks to Dr. Glover for giving his perspective on dating, and as usual, a big thanks to Apollonia and Natalie! I went on a date about two weeks ago and had no idea why she didn't reciprocate after the first date (after I thought we had a fantastic night). In retrospect, I was only approaching from my own perspective, and over the past week I have watched plenty of your videos and realized that I was approaching from a completely wrong mindset. I am learning to date from "abundance" rather than "scarcity" and this has made a huge difference in how I carry myself.
Time to unleash masculinity....
🤯 nice guy vs good guy! Such a great interview! I needed this. I’m just now getting back into dating after a separation. This is a good foundation to build myself back up.
Sitting here watching this realizing in a past relationship my girlfriend was desperate for leadership, she needed someone to take that role away from her so she could be herself.
I love this video. I learned so much. I love how Dr. Glover’s references in being a dance a leader. It makes so much sense. Apollonia you look beautiful.
That girl on the right was diggin it!
Yeah she wanted to eat him up lol
This is the best "Nice Guy" interviews I've seen. WOW! Thank you, Apollonia and thank you Dr. Glover.
Awesome discussion! I'm a door opener too Doc. I tell women 'I know you can get it yourself, but you're with me... I'll get your door.'
THE MESSAGE I NEEDED, THANKS.
You are Stupid!
@@serujioduarutejr.2275 Find jesus dude.
@@thaddeusvaliantlilbodhi1223 your heart is so desperately wicked, who could ever know it ?
Thanks for sharing this great interview and insights. The book is fantastic and I've read it many times.
It's a huge relief to hear Robert say how life isn't all about being this extra alpha dominant bad boy type guy, which is something that seems to have been beaten to death by much of the dating coaching community. That approach just doesn't suit a lot of guys and creates more confusion than help whereas the advice given here really feels more genuine and realistic.
This book and man changed my life!!!
I bought his book earlier this year and read it and everything that he described as being a Nice Guy was me. His book is in my top 5,its a must have and game changer. Atomic Attraction by Chris Canwell is great also
What's your other top reads? Thanks.
this is the most mind opening video i have ever watched. amazing podcast
I'm glad to see that trying to emasculate men is not going to solve the ' toxic masculinity' problem but instead - if anything - will just amplify it.
I admit I struggle in this area...my addiction definitely gives me a lot of anxiety. But when I go without it....my confidence goes up and anxiety goes way down !
I have learned a lot from this. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
Glad it was helpful!
Robert Glover is to dating what Thomas Sowell is to economics.
This interview was absolutely gold!
Thanks Apollonia for sharing such amazing and valuable content!
Thanks Apollonia and Natalie. Ordered kindle version of this book :)
Good to see y’all have Robert Oliver on the show! I stumbled on the book when I was going thru a nasty break up. From the cover/title I thought it was going to be a douchey, pickup artist type guide, but it turned out to be more psych related, and an insightful look at owning who you are and setting boundaries. I also agree on the corny “alpha/beta” talk.
Awesome discussion!
It was really nice..... It was useful.. Thank you Robert glover... Thank you apollonia and Natalie... Awesome
Thank you too!
I Love 💗 myself SO Much, “I Play with myself”
With Genuine Joyfulness Together Forever is
my “ Flagpole “ at “ Attention, “ amen.
This is pure Gold! Wisdom in a concentrated elixir!
This was great advice all you guys are amazing.
THANK YOU for this video, it has opened my mind and set me down the path to stop being “the nice guy”. The cause of all my failed relationships or not getting the girl!
What women 'want', and what they're actually attracted to is two different things. It makes it nearly impossible for men to please them. She wants a nice guy, but is attracted to assholes. I was dating a woman for 4 months who now wants a months break. I was kind, caring, understanding, and we were physically hot for each other. Her ex husband was physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually abusive.
And she wants a break from me....🤦♂️
Because she's an asshole.
My prime example of being nice and good are the same thing.
She don't know what it means because she doesn't want to know. Leave her alone!!
She knows you are a good dude and she knows within herself she isn't good for you! Let her go so she can get abused more since she loves that. Whenever she come back, don't accept her more than a friendship if that's what you want. Live your single life and be friends with women instead of looking for every woman to be your relationship partner.
Shes toxic
Same. I know I’m a good guy & a great catch, but because you ‘act’ wrong, they’re turned off by you. It sucks. If I ‘just be yourself’ type thing, it goes tits up. So, I basically have to be someone I’m not and act in a RP way to make her attracted.
Women are complicated, but yet aren't. Can't change who you are, whether it's a true nice guy or POS. Eventually, the right one comes along. I am not an alpha, my girlfriend is more alpha than me, but she trust me because she knows she is safe with me. But once in while, take a step back and give them space. Being a nice guy isn't wrong, but do it with sense and don't get needy when she pulls away. Sometimes you both need to miss each other for things to grow.
Amazing video, more of these please!
Thanks! Will do!
Build your own frame, if she wants in your life, great? If not keep them coming
My Dad grew up on a farm in Galway then moved to Dublin. He did election lessons to sound like a Dub, due to shame of his roots. Nice guy. He's not a good guy though and was actually a bully towards me, that's why I haven't spoken to him in 5 years.
Crap. I grew up with an emotionally immature mother and an arrogant, controlling, bullying father and definitely developed niceguy tendencies. I can only hope it's not too late to unlearn them.
It's never...I repeat NEVER too late to unlearn or learn new stuff
Learn to massage, it is heaven for a woman that has attraction to you. Don't rush sex, but be intimate. Treat her like she actually matters, which she really should and most important thing, listen. Don't matter alpha or beta, or a man's man or mommy's boy. Just be human and be true to who you really are.
37:10-39:44 I’ve just got the answer I asked you a while ago, it’s just all about the social structure. One excellent podcast this man is pure gold. And your partner Mrs. Ponti has one of the brightest souls I’ve seen, I liked her energy and posture 😉✌️
8:25
Omg me too. I enjoy salsa dancing. Funny how that works.
"women reject the neediness" I can't get past this. So, a man can never be weak or have a need to be reassured by his wife or girlfriend without being less of a man?! If a woman can't help me in my time of need, then what good is she? I don't need her money, house, car or status. I need her to love me and help me be a better man. Seems to me women are mad when a man's insecurities gets in the way of their own. I would hate to know that I was married to a woman that would think less of me for needing to be reassured.
Totally agree
@Loud Italian I think you are right. But I agree with the other guy too that there is too much pressure on men to be stoic at the expense of real emotions. If men feel they can't express vulnerability in a relationship something is wrong.
@Loud Italian Unfortunately, men also have insecurities that may cause them to act "needy" at times. For that to be such a turnoff is very judgmental of women. For a woman to say men can't have real issues without being unworthy in their minds is wrong. Women it seems want a man to help them fulfill their ideal image of life instead of someone to give themselves to and love unconditionally. Basically, using men.
Having needs and being needy are 2 different things.
Great interview and content!!!
Most insightful video i have watched on this topic, thank you very much for doing this helped me a lot
Men are being pushed back and forth between being told to lead and being overruled. Its hard to learn, you gotta let people go pretty quickly and that means being completely happy on your own
So much great information. I'm definitely watching this again. So much hits home for me in this video.
Sounds like hard work. Here's women wanting everything to be all about them again
Take it or leave it
Very true and very informative 💪👌
Estou lendo o livro dele, isso que é coincidência, abraços do Brasil.
Es altamente recomendado, yo lo leí hace 2 años y siempre regreso a leer el libro para seguir reforzandome, estoy haciendo mi propia terapia! Buena suerte y saludos de un Nicaragüense 👋🇳🇮
Thank you so much ❤️
A great Audible book to listen too
Glad you had this guest on!
..... This Man is very good. Phenomenal video. Bravo!!!
Informative, intelligent and entertaining interview . Dr Glover has just sold one more copy of his book.
Really good interview
39:14 "When the door opens by all means, walk through that door"..
What door do you actually refer to Mr Robert, the one that leads to heaven or hell 🙈
Or the door that ends you up on the street???🤐
Growing up with two parents I can say my Dad was the perfect role model for boys, my Dad was very masculine. My Dad was having lot of girlfriends but he never forget about my mother and us. He was too perfect of a man that I should have learned from him but I didn't because my mom always make me feel he is not good and she always tell me don't be like your dad. But I am far away from home and reflecting on my dad I can say I am learning a lot from him away from him
WOAHHH A P P !!!!!! I haven't watched any of your videos recently because i'm taking a break from dating. I have however, just got into some of his material to just be a more improved man i general. So getting on youtube and seeing this is awesome!
The important years of my life my mom married a guy who I gave a hard time to because I was a mommas boy until I was 15. I wasn’t a nice guy at first because a lot of women didn’t want jerks so I changed into a soft beta up until my late 30s when I got screwed over by an ex I’m a LDR. Now I’m 41 I’m a god guy but I’ve tapped into my masculinity. Every man has masculinity inside of them. If a woman what a nice guy she wants a man to control and then she’ll cheat on you with a guy who’s masculine.
Awesome interview. Loved your interactions, I'm thinking Natalie doesn't have much of a poker face.
Look at you girls smile love it
Some of my favorite folks to learn from...I have dr glovers book no more mr nice guy as well, great book
He's basically a nice guy....who FINALLY figured it all out.....
I grow up without a mom. She broke up with me bc I was needy but when she needed her fuel pump replaced I wasn't needy to her then
This is VERY imporant. Good stuff
My girl says I'm a nice guy , here's my take on it , if I get treated nice I'll be nice , if I get treated like crap , right back at them , I'm a very considerate person , and I think that's why my girl considers me a nice along with being a gentleman , but I do demand respect , and if that doesn't work , I don't know what to say
Good advice Thank you..bless you all with love peace .. blessings to your families
Fantastic video.
I literally bought the book after watching it
Wow this a eye opener for me,thanks I like what you do.
No, society tells men to be matcho, not be emasculated. The problem is precisely that women dont allow men to have feelings. Its not the other way around. Its not mens fault
Love the book , got it on audible . The first time listened to i shut it off after the first 10 mins , said “holy fuck “ and just sat there for another 30 mins thinking how completely accurately it described me before I could hit play again. Now Lost count how many times I’ve listened to the whole thing over.
Check out his book Dating Essentials for Men. That was me. I listened to it on audible 3 times already about to listen to it for the 4th.
I am reading this book...nice book👌👌👌
The last question was 🔥🔥
My dad wasn't a nice guy. So I find myself playing the hero. Too many men out there manipulating and not being real. Also being a Libra does'nt help ha! I am actually a badass just not to the woman I like... Current Lady Aquarius and an absolute nightmare yet all the signs are there.. She serenaded me the other night at 1am with her ukulele and dreamy eyes.. yet because of the respect and tiredness of us both. I said good night, ciao ciao and went on my merry way. Now I feel like an idiot. I so need to chit chat with you Apollonia. Another date Thursday so I'm going to let the lion out hahaha LOVE YOUR WORK x
Interesting concept. This would explain my behavior.
Such a great interview.
Thank you doc and ladies you sold me
What’s with the girl smirking?
Some women want are purposely elusive on how to make them happy, for control purposes. Is it worth the grief? I married a woman with 2 girls who rolled all over their mom, and manipulated me. A friend played, “No more Mr. Nice Guy” for me. It became my motto. It ended with me calling the cops because one daughter was growing pot in her room. I called the cops.
I bought this book, thinking that I might be "Mr. Nice Guy." I got about two chapters in and said, "Nope - this isn't me." I talked about it to a friend who was a hyper-player (got laid three times a night when he wanted it), and he said that was him. I mailed it to him.
I got more out of Men are From Mars... which was given to me by a girl.
I also get the door.
Dr Glover is such a Genius 👍
I nearly died as a baby due to a birth defect and my parents in ways were over protective and didn't want me to grow up and move on because they nearly lost me once and didn't want to lose me at all. I wasn't allowed to play sports growing up except bowling and that wasn't till I was 14. I wasn't allowed to join the military, both due to my parents fear of losing me and due to religious beliefs. I was 19 before I really started noticing girls and was blocked from getting ti know a girl 4 years younger than myself and that really hurt because it prevented me from ever dating her. I was rejected every time I tried asking someone out. I find that most people giving relationship advice never take things like that into consideration. people can be rejected out of the dating game and they can be hurt so bad thst they take themselves out as a means of protecting themselves. when you are a woman and take yourself out you will still be approached by men. Hiwever when you are a man and do that you are essentially done, relegating yourself to a life of loneliness because women will never reach and and try to make a man feel that he does have value and that some woman will want him. he is expected to put the pain, the rejection and any heartbreak behind him and keep trying.
My observations of mother, sister, and other women around me combined with negative mentoring by my father resulted in me learning to have hatred, contempt, and distrust of girls and women from a very early age. By the end of 9th grade/15yo I pretty much just psychologically shut down and became, for all intents and purposes, asexual and accepted that I would likely live my life alone. I just avoided women completely unless required for school or work. The natural attraction, interest, and libido simply didn't develop and I didn't understand why other guys put so much emphasis and importance on chasing women and willingly subject themselves to such abuse. I finally had my first kiss, sex, and girlfriend at age 23 - and only because she chased me for months and made all the first moves (I never would have). Even then, it took many years for me to slowly learn to trust women. Women would approach me - sometimes quite blatantly - but I was confused by their cues and actually repelled by them. It would actually make me angry because I believed they were just out for some monetary/material gain from me, and I would be cold or rude to make them go away. Secretly I actually wanted to physically HURT them for having the "temerity" to talk to me - when all they were trying to do is get to know me. I did not really learn correctly until about 3.5 years ago when I, just out of curiosity, started studying PUA - when I was already 45yo and 15 years into marriage. The skills and attitudes I learned from those coaches have made my marriage and life SO much better!!
I understand not to push a partner to sex but I would give my humble advice - make sure from the get go that your libido could work with her's. Thank you all great insights !!!
Read the book this week. Time to make a change.
LETS GO!!!
Nice Guy / Good Guy at the end of the day It's all the same , women go after the "" Bad Boy "" right after saying that they want the Nice/Good Guy .....according to all these videos apparently value the "" Bad Boy "" over the Good/Nice Guy because of the 5 , 10 , 15 , 20 traits that the ""Bad Boy "" have that the Good/Nice Guy don't have and keep treating the Nice/Good Guy is boring , needy , Mama's Boy etc,etc,etc ....!
It's another classic from the one and only. Thanks AP for bringing him on board. His book changed me in a good way.
Glad you enjoyed it!
The gem was at the end from him...consciousness in the individual and In dating.
You shouldn't be aiming to manipulate someone, that's not the right place to be coming with things. Imma real Don, and I can have whatever I want if I work for it.
Dr. Robert im definitely gonna buy your books
Check out his book Dating Essentials for Men. Also an AMAZING book. It's changed me so much the best book I ever listened to (got it on audible)
“ Master The Baiter “
Was ‘my’ 1ST Book that Eye Wrote. “
🤦♂️😂😂
😂😂
When “Dealing” with “A” Healthy Wealthy
“WoN” Woman 👩 on ‘our’ 1ST Date’s
“ Good Night 😘 💋 KISS “ TELL her 1ST,
“ Prenuptial Agreement!!! “
I, Neal Patrick Fry have a 3” inch Scar a Half
Inch Wide on my Left upper Wrist with “A”
Tattoo to “ Cover ^UP^ my So-Called Nice 👍
“ GUY “ on my “ Sleeve “ to “Protect and Provide” for The Ladies, Women and Girls who
“ Live in a Ghetto. “
Who “ Protects and Provides “ for ‘you’ Complaining?
As Serious as a .45 Caliber Colt .45,
Neal Patrick Fry from Straight Outta Detroit!!!
Charles Bronson - Magnificent Seven - Father’s
Responsibility:
Both of ‘you’ 💕 Lovely Ladies,
Get an “ Hourly Job “ at The Ford Motor Company’s Rouge Complex and “Protect and Provide” for ‘your’ Men and Boys in ‘your’
“ Lives “ for 34 Years, 3 Months, 2 Weeks and
4 and a Half Days because “THAT SISSY” can’t
“ Handle The Responsibility, “ amen 🙏.
Is there a link to this Master the Bedroom you mentioned?
In scripture its is specific woman want the man to lead. Woman want and need to create a emotional connection for men it is different it is important for the man to have his own hobbies and other things simply build a great life and take her along on tjis great adventure with you to be a part of your life not for her to be your life.
Church made me a nice guy
Absolutely brilliant!!