Dr. Robert Glover | How to Stop Being a Nice Guy with Brendan Burns

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  • Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
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    Join me and author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, Dr. Robert Glover, as we discuss the "Nice Guy Syndrome." Dr. Glover also gives his advice on how to let go of the need for approval and external validation, how to stop being a victim, and how to reclaim your personal power and masculinity.
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Комментарии • 188

  • @brendanhb
    @brendanhb  4 года назад +10

    👇 How do you act like a "nice guy/girl"? 👇

    • @liambjorn5590
      @liambjorn5590 4 года назад +2

      for years i sought the approval of others w/out realizing it 😂😂😂 but its true i did what others wanted because of fear i needed to otherwise i wouldnt have friends or a girlifrned. thank you for this interview - i just wish i saw it when i was younger

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      @@liambjorn5590 Thank you for sharing. It's never to late to because your authentic self

    • @edtombo8980
      @edtombo8980 4 года назад +3

      letting my boss say all the things i do wrong and not speak up to him that noone is perfect..

    • @amyzhang6261
      @amyzhang6261 4 года назад +2

      I am way too much of a pleaser still. I have a hard time speaking up especially to strangers. thx for this video and sharing itt!!

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      @@amyzhang6261 ​ Thanks for sharing!

  • @VRockVulture
    @VRockVulture 4 года назад +7

    ten years old, at the funeral of my father, preacher held my hand and told me "walk in your fathers steps" so i never had any resentment towards my father, only that he was a poor man and that he had me. but i was raised by women most my life and that made me weak as a man. and no mr nice guy is a damn good book, i recommend it.

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thank you for sharing your story. I'd recommend it too - thanks for watching!

  • @carl_d2509
    @carl_d2509 4 года назад +12

    I’m always the kind that says sorry for literally everything. I love this video.

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed it Christian

    • @annetaylor1644
      @annetaylor1644 4 года назад

      Same here. Great interview that I learned a lot from.

    • @adamromero
      @adamromero 3 года назад

      Are you Canadian? 🇨🇦

  • @misscooke1194
    @misscooke1194 4 года назад +2

    I was being bullied of my sexual identity, But i stand up expressed how I feel and told them I was hurt, but one day everything changes. It was a matter of opening it up. And now im thankful of those who surrounds me. They make me feel loved and they accepted me wholeheartedly. I also thank God that despite of those challenges I conquer he guide me to overcome it.

  • @mariacamille2630
    @mariacamille2630 4 года назад +2

    Dr. Glovel's soothing voice is satisfying (feels like I am counseled) Imagine this is just for free with these amazing and knowledgable people.

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed the interview

  • @juliakatrinamani2067
    @juliakatrinamani2067 4 года назад +7

    I was this type of person who accepts everything even it’s their fault or it hurt me so much. And because I wanted many friendships or like a group of friends, I always do what they want me to do with them. I always do my best just for them to notice it or feels comfortable around me but then it always ended like im not belong to these groupnof friends or from those who just Needed me if they want to. My personality is so nice and kind thats why I dont have that haters that time but then I realized theyre just using me even tho they dont like me. And that really enlightened me because I had a breakdown every time this happened to me and now I start changing mg personality from OHH YOU WANT THIS OR THAT? SURE!! into SORRY UNDERSTAND IF I WILL NOT GONNA DO IT CUZ ITS UNCOMFORTABLE FOR ME TO DO IT. I thought everthings fine for me but then when developing, I realized that you dont have to give people all that you have but yiu can give if its comfortwble with you. Thats why I got bullied mg middle school days. THANK YOUU SIIRR FOR THAT WONDERFUL QUESTION!💙💙

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it

    • @juliakatrinamani2067
      @juliakatrinamani2067 4 года назад

      I REALLY REALLY DOO, AFTER DOING STUFFS I WATCH IF THERES AN UPDATED VIDEO THAT YOU UPLOADED BECAUSE IT REALLY HELPS AND THIS IS THE TIME WHERE PEOPLE MUST REALIZE WHAT THEY HAVE DONE❤️

  • @dhillonsandeepkaur7463
    @dhillonsandeepkaur7463 4 года назад +2

    Truly open eyes

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thanks for watching.

  • @jennabaker8381
    @jennabaker8381 4 года назад +7

    Thank you! This is exactly what was needed! Game changing stuff here 🤗 God Bless your life!!!❤

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      You are very welcome

    • @anthonytaylor4571
      @anthonytaylor4571 4 года назад +1

      Game changing indeed

    • @brendan82532
      @brendan82532 4 года назад +1

      same here lol

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      @@brendan82532 Great to be aware

    • @edtombo8980
      @edtombo8980 4 года назад +1

      I liked the part with the different covert contracts. Makes me think a lot about my past behavior

  • @mariacamille2630
    @mariacamille2630 4 года назад +3

    sugar-coating your words because you are sorry means absolute insincerity. This episode is an eye-opener for all!

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @ychinaquino4417
    @ychinaquino4417 4 года назад +3

    Really inspiring 😭 friends are someone you share close affection with and its really important to be real to them ❤️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Glad you liked the interview

  • @RyanKoblasa
    @RyanKoblasa 4 года назад +7

    Fantastic! How did you know? Almost step by step my experience. No More Mr Nice Guy is now on my book wishlist.
    Thx

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +2

      Reading the parts of the book about relationships really opened my eyes to it. Picking unavailable partners to hide my own shame and "be able to blame them." It's a great read, enjoy Ryan!

    • @lisdaniels6047
      @lisdaniels6047 4 года назад +2

      love dr. glover, I've learnt a llot from him...

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      @@lisdaniels6047 Great! Same here

  • @Ayinnfinity
    @Ayinnfinity 4 года назад +3

    This is what I needed to be heared, Its so inspiring! I feel like I’m in a “Counseling” Thank you Dr. Robert Glover❤️🙏🏻

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      I'm so glad to hear it. Thanks for watching, Charlynn

  • @marianicoletan152
    @marianicoletan152 4 года назад +1

    My friends told me for so many times that sometimes I need to be selfish. Because I always do what other people want me to do even though I’m not comfortable doing it but I always say that it’s okay. I also can defend myself when something went wrong I just accept what other people think I am. So thank you for sharing this video cause I realized that being so nice had its bad effect to anyone.

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      You said it well yourself. Try practicing this advice in your own life, Maria! Make it real - and thanks for watching.

  • @juliakatrinamani2067
    @juliakatrinamani2067 4 года назад +1

    Myy biggest takeaway from an episode I listened to? Which were all of your episodes is that it’s not about really only for thosespeople who were famous that us normal people walking alone in a particular place, but it’s for everyone. Those videos of you meant for us. The improvements as a person, how to get deal with, what to avoid, what should we do so that if we grow up we know that we’re in a right way. That it helps us to build a stronger relationship with others and thinking out of the box and become mature so that we could change for the better world and not only for ourselves. Thats why I love your videos and I watch it everytime you upload❤️ Everyone related to these thank youu soo muuchh

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      Really appreciate the support, thank you

    • @juliakatrinamani2067
      @juliakatrinamani2067 4 года назад

      THANK YOU ALSOO SIR SO MUUCH FOR GIVING US KNOWLEDGE AND ENLIGHTENING US ALWAYS!!❤️😭

  • @edtombo8980
    @edtombo8980 4 года назад +3

    Literally just subscribed after 1st watch and you made me watch 3 more of these immediately. You ask great Qs and definitely know how to keep the person you are interviewing engaged 🤜🏼🤜🏼

  • @annetaylor1644
    @annetaylor1644 4 года назад +3

    Great interview! Lots of really good information I hadn't thought about before. Definitely going to integrate this into my own life

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @Metal987
    @Metal987 3 года назад +1

    Excellent interviewer!!

  • @manew_e_ra
    @manew_e_ra 4 года назад +4

    Thanks very encouraging❤️🙏🏻

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @beachlife9527
    @beachlife9527 2 года назад +1

    This was great! Thank You!

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  2 года назад

      My pleasure Beach Life! The real thank you goes to Dr. Robert Glover who was generous with his time to come on the podcast and share his story. I truly believe all men and women would benefit from learning his strategies on people pleasing, boundaries, and confidence

  • @sagek114
    @sagek114 3 года назад +2

    I was just being nice and respectful...until I was comfortable to open up. Realised just be yourself work on yourself and woman come flocking. I wish I had this video 10 years ago😂

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  3 года назад

      Thanks for sharing, glad this video helped

  • @jonnelemagallanes6220
    @jonnelemagallanes6220 4 года назад +2

    It really nice that discuss here on how to handle one badhappening that end into a good communication no hatred both. And we can apply that thing to us to not to be dislike. Nice talk!

  • @albandb9366
    @albandb9366 3 года назад +1

    Great interview! 👍

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  3 года назад

      Thanks for listening

  • @kamrulimran4075
    @kamrulimran4075 4 года назад +1

    I love your videos. Dr. Robert Glover and you are so knowledgeable. Thank you for making this kind of video.

  • @vannezzagalindo8159
    @vannezzagalindo8159 4 года назад +1

    Really awesome! This is what I’ve been waiting and I want to hear it for a very long time, very inspiring it feels like I’m counseled by Dr. Robert Glover and for that, I thank you so much It taught me a lot!!❤️More power Brendan Burns Show

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Agreed, he's a great man. Thanks for watching, and check out more videos on the rest of my channel! Have a great day.

  • @lallisworld5608
    @lallisworld5608 4 года назад +1

    Very relevant!! Must watch/hear by many people.Good Job!!

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thanks for the encouragement!

  • @paulamallari9387
    @paulamallari9387 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for this episode. I enjoyed it. I think it’s time to stop for being that nice girl to those abusive people

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  3 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed it Paula

  • @cathereanedoctolero3187
    @cathereanedoctolero3187 4 года назад +1

    Thankyou for sharing. This is what i really needed to be heard. 🥺❤️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Of course - thanks for watching, Cathereane.

  • @jhonreybalbastro1649
    @jhonreybalbastro1649 4 года назад +1

    Thanks for the video, I want it because it defines the true meaning of friendship ❤️

  • @Arianator2024
    @Arianator2024 Год назад

    I feel like you interview in real life ❤️❤️ I love your podcast by the way

  • @mardezahamis596
    @mardezahamis596 4 года назад +1

    Being always nice makes me forget of myself 🥺 that hurt me so much, but I can’t stop being nice. I always wanted to be more me but I just can’t, I guess I am afraid. 💔

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      Try these tips out, Mardeza. You will do great things, I'm sure of it. 🔥

    • @sagek114
      @sagek114 3 года назад

      we've been there...You can still be nice...but not over yourself respect and dignity.

  • @liezelarellanovlog7227
    @liezelarellanovlog7227 4 года назад +1

    Speechless! 😰 thankyou

  • @oanhh3879
    @oanhh3879 4 года назад +7

    Dr. Glover is so knowledgeable and this is something not everyone talks about. Thank you for sharing 🙌

  • @maryrosesablan5000
    @maryrosesablan5000 4 года назад +1

    Thanks for this another meaningful video. I always learn a lot from this channel and i’m thankful that its Just one click away. More like this please!!!😍😍😍😍😍❤️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      We're on it! So glad to hear it, Mary.

  • @rolandodomingo4631
    @rolandodomingo4631 4 года назад +1

    I am really a nice person but there are still people who really dont like and accept you of who and what you are but it doesnt mean you can stop being a nice guy. You can be a nice guy in different ways but you should think wisely of whom you are with because not all time they are real to you they are just showing you their good sides so that they can use you as their bait. Being smart and wise will really help you to stop being a nice guy.

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed the video

  • @smartyadbhuthanidhi8839
    @smartyadbhuthanidhi8839 4 года назад +1

    This is really super cool to here.!!!!

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thanks for the encouragement

  • @blueonionkitchen4544
    @blueonionkitchen4544 4 года назад +1

    Very informative video!!! I liked it 👌👌

  • @shibilmuhammedca
    @shibilmuhammedca 4 года назад +1

    I really. Like it. ❤️❤️ Nice interview

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      I'm glad. Thanks for watching, Shibil

  • @vincechong11
    @vincechong11 4 года назад +1

    I love it. Truly inspiring. Be a nice guy in a right way... But too much is bad haha 😂😅

  • @GregMunro-m1r
    @GregMunro-m1r Месяц назад

    Wow this video has really hitt me to.my own reality i hav Few nice guy traits here 😔 i hav recently separated and.few nice guy points in there is what my x has pointed out. I.was never aware.of this my whole life.

  • @jeyanghabe4135
    @jeyanghabe4135 4 года назад +1

    Very inspiring episode 😇 iloveyouu all your videos❤️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thanks for the encouragement. 💯

  • @sksahil022
    @sksahil022 4 года назад +1

    Sir I am really in love with your videos...😊

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      So glad to hear it - check out the rest of my channel for more!

  • @EDIT07____
    @EDIT07____ 4 года назад +1

    It is great ❤️ means of friendship thank u sir 😃

  • @kimbryancarreon3416
    @kimbryancarreon3416 4 года назад +1

    this interview is verry great because i can relate about this.😅😂

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed the video

  • @portugalangelamariej.632
    @portugalangelamariej.632 4 года назад +1

    for me being a nice girl is not about ure physical appearance ,, we cannot say that im nice girl why? i think you cant judge ure self by your own .. because being nice dopends how you interact with someone or to anybody how you work as a person ❤️ it should be inside your heart😍

  • @P-DUBZduharte
    @P-DUBZduharte 4 года назад +3

    #REDPILLUP

  • @renishattya8987
    @renishattya8987 4 года назад

    Love this video🤩😍

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thanks for watching.

  • @Dionta100
    @Dionta100 3 года назад

    Damn he’s really exposing me

  • @RakuyioLifts
    @RakuyioLifts 4 года назад +1

    It’s time to be the real me rather than the nice guy

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +1

      Thanks for watching! 💯

  • @barotumsaillu6614
    @barotumsaillu6614 4 года назад

    How about kids future? When you' only concerning only about the couple?

  • @davidthomspson9771
    @davidthomspson9771 4 года назад +1

    🙁🙁my god this is me...what a bummer

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      It's never to late to stand up for yourself, David!

  • @robert6833
    @robert6833 4 года назад +9

    Great interview and discussion.

  • @anshulchhabra4032
    @anshulchhabra4032 4 года назад +5

    This was so inspiring for me. Dr.glover is so knowledgeable. In this video I got to learn a lot

  • @winnieandyvlog9087
    @winnieandyvlog9087 3 года назад +1

    I am a girl but i this video not only for guys, so thank you this video help me so much

  • @camilol-shide3533
    @camilol-shide3533 3 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for this video!

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  3 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @manew_e_ra
    @manew_e_ra 4 года назад +2

    Thanks very encouraging❤️🙏🏻

  • @priyanaruka3694
    @priyanaruka3694 4 года назад +2

    It was really a good interview... ❣️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thank you, Priya. 💯

  • @PET5096
    @PET5096 4 года назад +2

    Very useful episode that everyone should see and learn it that how to srop being too nice

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Agreed, thanks for watching

  • @manew_e_ra
    @manew_e_ra 4 года назад +1

    Inspiring. Awesome. Excellent video! Luv it❤️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @jordanricapaula2549
    @jordanricapaula2549 4 года назад +1

    I've learned so much in this interview. Thanks for sharing☺️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      I'm glad you enjoyed it. Stay tuned for more 💯

  • @franchezkanicoleguillermo3266
    @franchezkanicoleguillermo3266 4 года назад +1

    This video was awesome that everyone should listen to.🥰

  • @rjgarcia6384
    @rjgarcia6384 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for the message,it s so inspiring❤️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thanks for the encouragement. 💯

  • @emmanuelorquiza2598
    @emmanuelorquiza2598 4 года назад +1

    Thank u for sharing this doc 😊☺️

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Thanks for watching. 💯

  • @kwenyvergara8852
    @kwenyvergara8852 4 года назад +1

    Reality ❤️

  • @SaptarshiMajumdar
    @SaptarshiMajumdar 4 года назад

    Something a lot of us need to stop doing immediately, being too nice.

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад

      Keyword is "too." Thanks for watching

  • @brendan82532
    @brendan82532 4 года назад +23

    I feel like this interview was meant for me. Up until now i've been what he calls a "Nice Guy". thank you for this interview, it's time to become the real me!

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +4

      My pleasure. Dr. Glover's work is excellent

    • @lisdaniels6047
      @lisdaniels6047 4 года назад +5

      i always thought i was too nice, good to hear this episode

    • @brendanhb
      @brendanhb  4 года назад +2

      @@lisdaniels6047 Glad you enjoyed it!

    • @amyzhang6261
      @amyzhang6261 4 года назад

      @@lisdaniels6047 same here! lol

    • @amyzhang6261
      @amyzhang6261 4 года назад +1

      I actually feel the same way corey