@@Blameashare they hurting you? If theyre doing somethibg illegal to you, wake up at night and take your phone, then run as far away, and dont forget your home adress, and be sure where you ran, then call the police, tell them everything, and how you were treated. Your parents will be arrested and you will get provided a better househokd, even the orphanage will be better.
@@ELISA_THEEEEEE___orcas I mean they stop me from doing what I want and they also don't allow me to go out and hate my frnds as well , like I'm grownup now I cannot be caged. Btw can we talk in personal if u don't mind 🙂
I had this friend who did have a toxic family, and when she left, she brought her 3 younger siblings and fought to be their guardian. True hero Edit: honestly I kinda wanna remove this comment
Same , and I am so grateful for the family I have, I feel sorry for the people that have a toxic family. Also I love how in the video the younger sibling looks happy for the older.
As a younger sibling, this hits hard. My older sis had to do the same. I didn't understand in the beginning, but once I realized how bad our family is...I did. She still takes me and my brother places far away from our house. I will always be grateful for the time she spends with us.
I am the youngest in my family, it's really sad because my older sisters haven't moved out yet but I hate the thought that once I'm nearly done with high school all of them will be out... I'll be alone
My step sister left when I was 14 and didn’t even tell me bc I was on a trip..she just left a note. We still keep in contact and I’m immensely grateful for her everyday.
My older sister wanted to move out of our EXTREMELY toxic house. I was crying on the floor because they were the only one who was nice and didnt just me by looks or weight. Took one look at me bawling, picked me up and said "yeah- youre coming with me." I cut off contanct with my parents. I love her.
All of these comments are so sad, and everyone is so kind, trying to help the people who had to go through a situation like in the video. Thank you. I’m so sorry for what everyone had to go through.
This hits home, my sister moved out at 17 across the world, but fought to become my legal guardian and get me out of there when I turned 16 and she did, it was 4 years of hell before I turned 16 but I'll never forget the relief when I saw her show up to get me out of there, what she did for me will stick with me forever ❤️
I'm so happy she came back for you she's a keeper ❤️ I have 2 younger brothers and I will always protect them with my life. I know how she feels wanting to protect you
I was that older kid. I raised my little brother because our mother was neglectful but I knew if I stayed there after I turned 18 I wouldn't survive. This hits hard. I saw him today and almost bawled my eyes out.
@@LoopBuddy Thanks! He told me before that he didn't mean to abandon me, even tho I never said anything about how I felt. He could just tell. Not long after he's spending a couple days a week over here.
as a younger sibling, that’s exactly how i feel. i’m so glad they were able to get out there, and now they’re absolutely thriving and it wonderful to see, but i’m still stuck here, and it’s lonelier than ever
IT GETS BETTER I PROMISE. I am the biggest sibling and we know how hard it is for you. Keep in touch as much as you can, either you will leave on your own or they are making sure you can go with them later
this hit me hard…our household isn’t necessarily “toxic” but it isn’t the greatest. I’m the oldest and will be moving out in a few years and I’m scared that my little sisters will have to deal with my mom on their own. however, she’s a lot different to them than to me. Like some things they can do we’re things my mom won’t let me do (for example: my little sisters got to go to a birthday party today, they’re super young. my mom hasn’t really started to let me go to my friends parties and I’ll be 16 soon.) To everyone replying to this, my love goes out to y’all. Seriously, I know it’s hard living in a household that’s toxic and may not always feel like home. It’s even harder to leave if you have younger siblings or just siblings in general. Stay safe out there🩷🫶🫶
1, yikes that's not fair to you. It's always the older siblings that get screwed over when it comes to what you're allowed to do. But 2. I feel you. I'm turning 18 this year, and I'm not entirely sure if I'm ready to move out. On one hand, I really want to. I'm ready to get away from the stress living with our mom causes, and I'm very ready to get to decide what I can do and who I have in my life. But I'm also a bit scared. While I'm almost able to leave the toxicity, my younger siblings aren't. And most of them wont be for a good while, I mean the youngest kid is 2 years old. I don't want to leave them behind or let them deal with her just so I can get away. To which I say: do it. It feels bad sometimes, and it's not very fair, but neither is forcing yourself to stay in that environment. If you're ready to leave, then do so. If you're worried abt them, then find time to come check up on them, hang out with them and make sure you don't burn that bridge with them. You can still support them and be in their lives without hurting yourself by staying. You can't help anybody if you're not taken care of yourself. Get yourself out, get yourself on your feet and heal yourself before you focus on them. Stay safe
@@creeperqueen1805smart very smart I’m in a sim situation i also live with my sis and her kids and I don’t want to leave them with her (she is literally crazy tho she is good parent mostly but still) and I want to but don’t wanna leave my brothers (I got divorced parents and want to leave both houses)
I am also in a very similar situation, I used to love my sister as my parents weren’t much help even though they loved me. But my parents always favoured my younger sister and I was left alone. My younger sister slowly took my attention for granted and didn’t care for my efforts. I am now hoping to move out but I don’t want to cut ties with my family, I just need a break after dealing with this for years and years. I always wished for an older sibling as someone I could rely on and I still do but now I realise wishing won’t help so I might as well rely on myself
Hi I know what's it like and what you feel. In currently 17 almost 18 and have been rushing to grow up lately. I want to try and get into an out of state university so that I can finally move out but am worried about my little siblings.
I... I gotta check you in one spot: if you're afraid to leave behind your siblings with their PARENTS, it's most likely abuse. Let's call a spade a spade, here. Good luck with the whole situation. Trying to hold out for your siblings (whether in or out your home of origin) is not easy when you still love them so. I hope things get better for you.
As the oldest sibling this was honestly the hardest decision I've made. I spoke to my therapist about how I both needed to get out but that if I left then there's nothing to protect my younger siblings. But as many people said in this comment section, you can't help someone swim if you're drowning too.
Me and my older sister are in a custody battle between our parents and grandparents. My dad’s family hates my mom except me but my sister doesn’t like my mom as much because my mom sometimes says dumb things. So I live with my mom rn and have to switch between houses while my sister is off to college really soon…
You actually can by getting evidence to prove that you or someone more fit can take care of your underage sibling, by using cameras or other things you can prove them guilty
Its heart breaking, but with that, the older siblings home gets to be the younger siblings safety blanket, so if something bad happened at home again, they have somewhere to run to
My sister moved out the day I watched this, I could never relate to anything more. The older siblings sometimes need to think how the younger ones would feel once they left, but sometimes they don’t have a choice and have to leave because of the toxicity. I miss my sister, but I understand why she left.
@Ruby Mk you can always visit her. If you get out, you can create a safe place for her to go to. If you get out, you can be her foster parent if you like.
I’m 18, and my family has been toxic since I was little. My father was emotionally and verbally abusive and my mother was distant. I took the brunt of it, besides my mom. As I aged, I never tried to run. Because I have four little siblings to take care of. So instead I introduced them to therapy, specifically my mom, who then made my dad participate. They’ve actually started to improve, and I am so proud of them. I know this doesn’t work with every family, but im happy I was able to help them before my brothers had to go through what I did. Edit: Holly cow guys, thank you for all the love!! Y’all are the best 💕
I have an older cousin who adopted all of her younger siblings as soon as she turned 18 and moved out. She had it PLANNED. I love her. She saved herself and her siblings.
Agreed- I'm the middle out of 8 kids (I know, it's a nightmare sometimes) and only two of them are moved out. I turn 18 this year, and I wanna move out asap, but I'm worried abt leaving the younger kids cause at this point I'm the only person that's been taking care of them, and it's kinda like, I've gotta pick between getting myself out or sticking through it for them.
@@creeperqueen1805I stuck around. I personally don't regret it but I think anyone who has any kind of motivation and hope left would regret it deeply. You can protect them better after you make your life better and become more stable n influential.
I moved out of my toxic home with my father, and my little sister is 3 but seeing my mom yell at her and her saying "Mommy be happy! Mommy be happy please..." makes me cry
that reminds me of that one tumblr post thats ab parents getting mad at their kids and the kids just like "why are you mad at me im 4" (it sounded better than this i just forgot how it goes😭). parents can be so cruel to their children, i hope your sister is okay and that that won't fuck her up when she grows up
Imagine knowing you will have to deal with your toxic family without your older sibling to defend you.. this is why we should be grateful for our good family life
No need to compare them with only childs,We get your point,But atleast people with siblings know someone who they can trust other than their parents,Have someone to talk to when their parents pass away..
*Felt that.* My sister is basically the only thing keeping me alive. She’s in her twenties, I’m a minor. My parents aren’t great. They’re divorced. My sister understands me.
My sister did this but when she had her life together and when we needed her most she came back and I’m living with her. She really is the best sister ever
I was that older sibling that had to leave 4 behind. I raised them all from a very young age. I moved abroad and our dream was to live together but to my dismay, they all turned out like their abusers and ended up hating me. All except the youngest. He stayed strong and we stay in contact to this day and he says he'll never forget what i did to protect them even though he was practically a baby at the time, almost 4.
I hope those other 3 heal.. and please don’t hate them for it. Usually a child takes after the person that takes care of them. And usually are also manipulated easily. So please don’t hate them. They were still children..
I’m scared for my friend. She lives in a VERY toxic and abusive household so I never know what could be happening right now. She has an older brother that just went to college so this made me feel some kinda way.
I'll forever be grateful to my older sister for making sure i ALWAYS had a place in her apartments, no matter where she moved she always made sure it was at least 2 bedrooms.... i wish i could tell her how much i truly love and appreciate her for it but i don't know how to find the words
I guess you could just show her this comment? Screenshot it? 🤷🏼♂️ it’s a little awkward but hey if you wanna tell her… I took the brunt of the abuse all my life, trying to protect my little brothers. Now I’ve gotten out, and lost contact… they’re not interested in speaking to me and it hurts so goddamned bad. They’re put in a position where it’s me or mom and I guess they chose her. 🤷🏼♂️ It’s a constant and confusing question of “did I do the right thing?” Having some external validation would do wonders for me at least. Even if it’s redundant, even if she already knows, even if the words you say never quite capture all of what you mean, I’m sure your sister would want to hear it. Trauma and abuse are hard on older and younger, in uniquely terrible ways. I’m glad you’re sticking it out together. Stay safe, stay in therapy! Lol. Good luck out there.
@@heathertulip2389 that's a great idea! thank you, i hope your siblings come around soon, if it makes you feel any better there is still time for them to get closer with you if they're still young. I didn't start to open my eyes to what our mother was doing until I turned like 16/17 (i'm 23 now), and our youngest sister was still pretty cozy with our mom when she died back in 2021 and she was just turning 18 then. they might not understand how much you've done for them now, but they likely will in the future. it's easy for your mom to turn the blame while they still see her in angelic light and aren't as keen to think about the situation for themselves, or at least that's how it was for me... I'm wishing the best for you and your siblings 🫶🏾
and if you can't find the words, then it's perfectly okay to say 'i don't even have the words for how grateful i am' to her because sometimes there aren't words strong enough.
This is so true. People always ask nowadays, "Why are you so clingy toward your brother these days?" And the real answer is because I don't want him to leave. He has a plan to go off to some far away college and I'm 2 years behind him. My friends always say, "I hate my brother, I'm surprised you want him to stay." Of course I want him to stay, I can't be alone with my parents. They'll literally always be surrounding me. Although I wouldn't consider my family toxic, there's a lot of issues. But, how could you just say "good ridance" to someone you grew up with for your entire life?
Oh I can definitely say good riddance to my brother he is sexist ableist homophobic and racist. I grew with up with him insulting my physical appearance hitting me and using his position as an older brother to take away my stuff. He was so angry that I sat down and decided to read a comic for 15 minutes after coming home from school that he chased me around the house and then got my books taken away for 2 months. My two other siblings on the other hand I love them a lot. I'm the youngest though so I did get left at home with my abusive parents for a while.
i’m not going to lie, as the oldest, it will hurt a little bit leaving my younger sister. i have a plan to go to college far away, but i will miss her. but parts of me won’t miss her. shes manipulative, and won’t respect my physical boundaries i set for myself. she’s clingy and a little selfish, and whiny. i do love her, but i won’t miss her.
I wish i had that My relationship with my sibling is very toxic, and I had a lot of trauma because of them When they left to live with their on-again off-again gf I said "good riddance. I still love them. And I do have good memories with them, but they caused me more pain than anyone else in my life, and I know we can not live near one another. I am at the point that it wouldnt pain me, if we saw each other once a year or never again
These story’s in the comment section are making me cry I feel so bad for the people who are suffering through a toxic family just always remember your never alone you’ll always have a friend to talk too and soon enough everything thing will be okay just give everything time to heal.❤️❤️❤️
It’s scary to wonder what might happen when you aren’t that safety blanket for your sibling anymore, especially when you grew up in a toxic family. But, there is a sense of hope. One day, they will grow up and be able to leave. They will legally be allowed to leave home and their parents legally can’t do anything about it. And when that day comes, you will be reunited. For anyone who is an older sibling or a younger sibling in this scenario, you will find them again someday. They still love you ❤️
I talked back and gave them solid reason even if I didn’t need one to make them stop abusing me and they listened but if I interrupted or interfere they’ll fuck me up so I have to sit there and watch my sister being chocked and slapped then holding back tears remembering how I became suicidal because of school and fitting their expectations and I can’t do anything but watch… I help her afterwards and make sure my parents don’t see her mistakes the best I can but their are some slip ups..
Scarily true. My friend told me the story of one of her friends from her old school who has a very toxic family life. Her eldest sister was 17 and almost 18 and ready to move out (which apparently the mother lost her mind over.) So according to my friend the eldest sister moved out after two more months and once she turned 18 she was ready to leave but was guilt ridden for leaving her younger siblings behind. She was basically like the mama bear who protected them. Once she was gone her older brother and her were in a bad spot but I think eventually they got help and the parents sent them to foster care while they figured their stuff out. When the ages out they moved in with their older sister again until they landed on their feet and they now have happy lives.
That is what my older brother said when he left our family reiunon and went to live with his partner I got a present for his birthday and now I just threw it away crying in my room eating lucky charms
I'm crying because when thinking about it... Its just sad... My parents are pretty toxic and im the oldest of 7... Im 17 and a senior going to graduate next year after summer I will be leaving for college and moving out. But I can't help but feel worryness and sadness because I'll be leaving all my siblings behind with some parents that don't treat them any better. I am pretty concerned for the future when im gone. At least I have a year left to be with them but after that- this got me thinking if it's better for me to change my plans and stay so I could be with them.. I don't want them to go through more pain, I don't want them to change to someone like younger me was. It effing sucks. I just hope things turn out for the best. And in the end there's nothing I can do but to enjoy the good times while they last. Pardon for saying so much... I just wanted to spill it all out since I really wanted to share how i feel to someone.
@@humanofearth5178I’m so sorry for u.I’m the middle child but I understand u my oldest sister has been through this some times she’s turning 18 in 1 year..I don’t really have a toxic family but sometimes my dad is toxic
@@humanofearth5178God that must feel horrible, if this video got me crying then I can't imagine living through it... I was half expecting a reply that would help you with what you could do but I saw none and I have nothing either because I dont live through your body. I hope shit gets better and you find a way out of that shitty place with all ur siblings
I have this family, body shamming , toxic , abusive, and my parents took me with them to move into a house alone to try and hurt me, I immediately called my sister & brother, they came rushing saving me becoming my legal guardians. I won’t forget that. ❤
I’m literally crying, my sister is moving out and my family is planning to move again after “she is out” and I never realized that I would have to leave her one day. This really hits me in a soft spot.
I’m a older sister realizing I have one day leave my little brother who’ve I protected and done everything I could for, will no longer need his big sissy as much or need my protection makes me cry every now and again, his always made me feel needed and wanted
I’ve moved out but I practically still live there. I visit every day and I’m the first one to get involved and plan holiday events. I’d like to say i do it out of love but it’s mostly out of guilt. I feel guilty for leaving. I’ve also experienced having older siblings move away. It’s never easy no matter what foot the shoe is on. But you do understand as you get older. You get bored of your surroundings and you start dating. You want to have your own adventures and make mistakes you’ll regret when you’re older. It still feels like I’m cheating on my old life with my new life.
Leaving my little siblings with my toxic mother was singlehandedly the hardest thing I have ever done. Originally, I wasn't planning to, but they told me they wanted me to think of myself. I am now watching and supporting them as they soar into life and I could not be more happy
I remember the day my sister left, I remember going to her room and sitting and talking to her as she did my hair, that day she gave me an extra long hug and I didn't know why, when I got home from school that day she wasn't there and her stuff was gone, she left home at 16 and I honestly don't blame her, she deserved a lot more then what my mother gave her.
my sister left at 15, she went to another city to visit her grandma for 2 days, and it's been 4 years now. she did the right thing, but my younger self just felt much more alone.
Make sure you let her know. Give her all the love you can before it's too late. And make sure she knows how much she means to you-- even if it seems impossible.❤
A quote from my older sister, who moved out to go to college while me and my little brother were still in the house: “Leaving is a strange mix of relief that you are out and guilt that I couldn’t take you guys with me”
You represented the youngest’s feelings so well. We’re happy for them but also sad that we have to get left there. As a younger sister six years younger than my older brother, I understand that feeling. Thank you for so accurately representing us.
11 years younger than my brother and omg exactly how I felt. He left to peruse his dreams in a different continent and doesn’t come home to often (2 times a year) and even though I’m happy for him it’s just so sad I have to stay here. Luckily my older sister (13 year difference) still lives here so I’m not completely alone.
If you're in Australia and twelve years old you can choose who you live with and yes you can pick an older sibling, your grandparents, aunty/uncle or even a family friend/ friends parents. By law your parents can't stop you and if you apply for it through the government you can make your parents pay child support to your new guardian. I'm the older sibling the younger ones chose to live with, I was raising them anyway so why not.
The fact I'm seeing this the day before my older sibling moves out and leave me in a dysfunctional family pains me. She's literally the only one I have left. But it also makes me happy she's able to break free now. :')
My sisters and I had a horrible mom, my older sister was finally able to move out and when she was able to convince our mom to visit she got custody of me, then both of us fought to get our little sister, we succeeded. Me, my sisters, and my niece now all live together with zero contact with our mom, and I'll always be grateful for my older sister
I'm that younger kid. I'm so grateful and proud that my brother is finally happy and safe, and he never has to go through it again. Its very lonely to go through this alone though, and he left and never looked back to help me and that kinda hurts because he is my best friend. Good luck to everyone out there with a crappy home life, you can and will get out of this. Rooting for y'all! ❤
This is relatable, my brother (is in his teens older than 16) and me have emotional abuse by our mom, after my brother went To college and can live in a dorm for a few months and can only visit us every Friday, I was left there alone experiencing emotional abuse. I wanted to go there so bad, but I couldn’t.
This is why I stay in contact. To protect them. To defend them. My father is childish, irresponsible, arrogant and abusive in all senses but physical I'll stand my ground so they can flourish, even if it kills me
@@e.zg1hey hey it's ok.. part of growing out of the mindset toxic parents instill in you is seeing that when good people try to give support/advice, they aren't doing it out of obligation but because they want to. the thing that has taken me too long to realize, and my lil sis has yet to, is that this feeling of being a burden is perpetuated by our lack of faith in humanity to care genuinely. the faith we had that was downstruck by our parents. it can be really REALLY hard, and maybe you haven't found your people or person yet. so all I can say is for now or then, if you believe them to be good, try not to turn away their kindness or apologize for existing or talking or anything like that. it may slowly restore your faith when human decency isn't held against you as a grudge. the more you let yourself long to be treated with kindness by others, the easier it'll become to be kind to yourself too. also, I genuinely hope you are ok.
Older sibling here, I'm not leaving. I'm staying close by and I'm coming back for her every weekend and taking her out and I'll pick up every call. I was also left in the house by my older sibling and I just can't stand to know that she would be all alone.
To the older siblings, from a younger sibling: we get it. Take care of yourself. We still love you, and we cant wait to see you again on the outside. Try not to worry about us, because we'll be fine. We appreciate you and know that youre better off free. We want you to be free so you can be healthy.
When I’m 16 I plan on moving out but still living near, if my big brother is also gone by then then I’ll try to maybe get my little sister to live with me but if not then I’d hope she’ll be spending as much time as she can in my apartment, my parents are good people (for the most part) and they mean well, really, they can just let their anger get the best of them sometimes and it’s not super safe for my sister to be there alone so just a few more years and I’m out and hopefully taking my baby sister with me (she’s not a baby she’s 3 years younger than me but whatever)
I am the older sibling , only got the 3 yr younger to talk to. He understood and left asap as well. The younger 2 well remains to be seen if they understood or believed our parents lies.
I had an older cousin who was basically my big sis. She left the family after all their toxic behavior. We aren’t allowed to talk about her anymore. Her name is forbidden and a lot of the younger siblings don’t know she exists. She’s completely edited out from all family photos. I don’t know where she is but I miss her. She was the only one who really had a heart.
As the oldest, this was my worst fear. Even before my brother’s birth, I promised myself I’d protect him no matter what. And thankfully, I have plans to move out and bring my brother with me since it was agreed by my parents as well. I don’t want him getting hurt like I did, since my father was just neglectful and my mom was never home from work.
@@whomstisthis Thank you, I appreciate that. But i can't take any praise when I still have so much more to do before I move out, I hope my brother knows that he can rely on me for anything, It's the bare minimum I can do for him as his sibling.
Just ask someone to adopt him already....then with them meet a good social worker in cps...go to judge...explain your situation... Tell that those parents love to take care of your Baby brother....he will get his parents... You would get time to heal
Please don’t leave them. I’m in the same situation but I’m the younger one and my older sister is all there is to protect me. I don’t know what would happen to me without her
It feels so good to see your older sibling get out and thrive, but at the same time it hurts so much knowing you'll now have to deal alone. It doesn't necessarily feel like abandonment, it just feels lonely.
fr. my sister’s a senior and i’m a freshman but we’re really close, and idk how i’m going to deal w the loneliness when she moves out. i don’t know how i’m gonna make it 3 more years
OK THIS IS KINDA LOT I REALIZE and some people don’t want a whole story so just a header here: I’m an only child but most the friends I got close with that I would consider close to siblings left (especially the first person I’m going to mention). One to study in the Philippines as her parents were debating moving there, and we’ve grown up together she’s technically my sister and my bestest friend. And my cousin who was here for 2 years, finally getting the chance to be close with another person, as I was having issues at school and coping with unfriending a friend of 10 years due to toxicity reasons, I was so happy I had someone. Then their work contact expired so they had to go back to the Philippines. Then my other bestie decides to go online in the middle of the school year because they had too much on their plate at the time and couldn’t catch up anymore. And it has been crazy lonesome ever since, but I’m working on being socially better and there’s people who talk to me now, just I don’t really have a group outside of classes. I cant blame any of them because it’s for their own good and nothing I can stop. But I can’t even talk to my parents about how I feel because it feels like they won’t understand or will lecture me. And this has all been happening so fast for the past 2ish+ years already, it seems like it all keeps changing. But idk how normal that amount of change is, but it definitely shows me how rough things can get. I think it might be a rapid amount of change that comes from the age group and time, as I’m halfway through highschool and everyone is becoming young adults but also children still, so some changes may be due to the rethinking of situations and then some are some I just can’t stop. But good news, the first person I talked about is coming back in June, I can’t help but hope she stays 😭 selfish I know but I’m in pain I just want someone to stay. The thing that’s painful is you can’t do anything to stop people from moving, but they aren’t exactly moving on from you they are just moving. So you can’t even be upset, ofc I’m happy for them I understand but the pain everyday hurts a lot.
I just teared up.. My brother moved out for educational facilities.. I am the younger child. There is always an argument between my parents.. and especially my mom.. who just makes me study, study, study. Sometimes hitting me so hard I have scratches.. Sometimes telling me to die.. I'm just not enough for her.. I'm happy that my brother moved out so that he would never see these things.. I wish I could just die.
For everyone trapped in this situation, I am so so sorry... You deserve so much better than what you have now. ❤️ I'm praying you can all find the strength to make it through, lots of love to all of y'all 🫂
I don’t know what i’m supposed to do without my sister. I’ve realized how much she actually does to keep our family together, and I am no where near ready to take on her responsibilities. I’m really grateful that she’s there for me. I’ll miss her.
Hits different when your the younger child. I was in a toxic family and my sibling left and it just got worse. Same with my younger sister I brand her with me though. It was very reliving.
Same I was born in a family where my mom can be mentally toxic. I’m also the youngest and my brother are also at sports and my dad works then coaches them. Which leaves me alone with my mom most of the time when my toxic grandparents aren’t there. But yeah it hits worse when your the only girl in your family and your brothers and father are always gone.
I'm the youngest of 3. My mother has protected my siblings and I from her toxic family. I have a little cousin (5 years younger) once I'm old enough I'm bringing him with me.
As an oldest I feel this. I wish I could have taken my siblings with me but most of them probably wouldn’t have come even if they could. I know they don’t really like me right now but I hope one day they understand. They were/are my first “kids”. And I’ll always be so proud of them. I just hope that they aren’t pressured into a life they don’t want. I’ll always love them.
I think they will, I had the same thing happen with my siblings and my sister just got back in touch with me and she says she doesn't blame me and that she's proud I made a life for myself, so there is hope.
I moved out last year, and it hit me hard. I feel like I’m going through empty nest syndrome in my 20s. My youngest two siblings are now the only ones left, and I wish I could be around with them more. They all wanted to move in with me too, it’s so weird, and painful to watch them struggle, because even though I have the parental protective instincts, I am not their parent. It’s hard, because I really did develop my identity around raising them, and now I both need to be there for them, and learn who I am without the responsibility of raising them.
I really tried to take her with me. No matter what though, I am/ was still very young and while I know I could have done anything now, I broke a promise and hope that they are living happily.
Yesterday my brother fully moved into his house across the country. He's intern for a big company. I couldn't be more proud of him and happy that he doesn't have to deal with our house anymore, but I'm also just getting more and more lonelier the more my brothers leave. Two of them are moved out, one will be soon but he's rarely home anyway. My mom is awful, when she's actually home. Such a bittersweet moment to see my brothers go, knowing they can actually be happy, but knowing I'm left here.
@@urfavslay the one that's across the country is almost never home, maybe once, rarely twice a year. The other that's moved out tries to be here for me once a month-ish
That’s me right now, my older sister is moving soon. And now I cry myself to sleep every night because now I’m stuck with horrible parents and my sister was like my best friend. I’m gonna miss her so much and she made me happy. We always talked and had conversations about life and how much we love each other. She is my best friend, and I’m crying writing this message right now. Gosh I’m gonna miss her so much i swear on everything..
As the youngest, yep, this made me cry. My older brother got out. Sister kind a too. Me? I'll never get out. And that's fine. Not everyone has that happy ending.
I can’t wait for mine to move out honestly. I understand if your sibling was nice, but mine has hated me my whole life. He’s hit me before then claimed he was joking. Always walking on eggshells around him. My life will be some much different when he’s gone, and hopefully I can finally be myself without being shamed for it. Sorry I just kinda vented
@@ThatOneChestnutGelding I'm so sorry to hear that man 💔 I hope things get better for you 🙏 Hang in there and I hope you find good people who accept you for who you are.
This hurts so much, my boyfriend is currently in the older sibling situation and one of his main reasons for not wanting to leave were his siblings. He still hasn’t left but he has plans, but I’m still worried he’ll stay. I know the littles will get out too but he needs to live his life and not be influenced by these people…He sent me this video earlier, talking about how terrible he feels/will feel, and god. I hate how no matter what, everything will have backlash to the people he loves, and himself. I wish I could do more, but we’re just dumb kids.
someone so articulate calling themself a dumb kid... it feels moreso you've been told that to invalidate your input many times. I wish you two the best, know that letting go of the sense of responsibility is the first step to healing from a weight on your shoulders
I know exactly how you're feeling about the part that everything he does will backlash on the people he loves and himself, since my boyfriend just got in a fight today over some dumb shit with his mother and got kicked out by 10PM when his mother knows it's dangerous, also getting the police involved only to lie and manipulate everyone (including my parents) that she hit her when I knew for a fact he didn't since we were on a call when it all happened, in fact SHE hit HIM, and also bit him till he was bleeding. I tried sneaking him in and out of my house without my strict parents knowing rn (since I know him here by 2AM would be a NO, but he was almost robbed), and only god knows what the absolute fuck will happen since I unfortunately didn't know how to be quiet when it comes to keys and metal... Well, and I also feel you about the "we're just dumb kids after all", because this is what we are to them, just a puppet that will forever be broken since we cannot afford to live by their ridiculous standards. I really wish you both well, and good luck for me ig lmao
I’m so scared, because this is gonna be me soon. I’m 17 now, turning 18 in February, and I need to get out of here as soon as possible- but my sister is 4 years younger than me, and she’ll be left behind. I’m hoping to move close, at least. That’s the plan.
My oldest sister, K, moved out at a young age. She moved in with her then boyfriend and made it to college without a worry. I on the other hand was stuck with our parents. Our mom was mentally abusive and used to be physically. My dad wasn’t around for the first 10 years of my life because of “work” and I barely talked to K. I knew she existed, I just didn’t think she cared. A few days ago, my sister came over and held me in her arms as I cried. She rubbed my back, hugged me, and told me I’ll be alright. She said that we’re a lot more alike then mom and dad would want and that I can message her whenever I want to. She’s so perfect, and I miss her every day.
He really knows how to hit someone right in the heart man.. I’m sitting here crying because I don’t wanna leave my siblings in this house with out someone to protect them but I’ll have to leave eventually..
@@WarisFaizi-dj2yh I’m sorry that you can’t move out💟💟 I hope you can find someone once your older [or not I’m assuming] to marry that’s right for you💟💟
I’m leaving my sibling behind in a toxic family in a couple of months. What a time for this video to pop up. I know I’m going to have so much more freedom with my own life, but it’s sad to think my sibling won’t have the same thing. I’m just praying they can last a little longer without me. Then they can be free too.
Think about it like this: If it goes left for her with the parents, she has someone and some where she can go for help, love, and protection if need be.
I'm the younger sibling in this case. I'm legit crying right now, my brother doesn't come around at all anymore or call. We was so close but I suppose he's scared to come back.
I am the older sibling and I did the same sadly. Then one day I came back and realised she had grown and how much I had missed and started trying to visit home more for her. I was too caught up in my new world and scared of home too much to realise how much she needed me. But you don't have to wait for your sibling to come back. You can reach out to them yourself, message or call, and tell them how much you need them and miss them and it's hard without them and that talking once in a while or seeing them would help. That should snap them out and realise. Good luck I hope you get close again ❤ if not, it might happen later as you both grow older. I was 21 when I realised, 3 years after I had left. I hope your sibling realises sooner. Stay strong and know your sibling loves you even if they're far.
The two babies I had to raise were 12 & 10 years younger than me, my brother was autistic to the extent he was unable to effectively communicate. My mom only really cared about herself, victimized herself 24/7, was honestly abusive in every way, and completely utterly neglected their needs. She dropped my brother out of speech therapy because she was too lazy. I stayed as long as I could trying to help those poor kiddos out but suddenly I was 20, no license, no job, I was wasting away trying to do everything for everyone. To this day I feel bad about leaving but I had to choose between living my life or saving my mom’s. I’ll come back for them once I’ve made enough money, just the two babies, the rest of the family can stay far, far away from me.
im the younger sibling. my sister is 20, im only 12 dealing with a narcissistic mother who cannot take the blame for a single thing. not even her divorce. i bawled my eyes out the night my sister moved bc she was more like a mother to me even though we didnt get as much time together as i wish. shes only right down the road and i can visit her whenever but i really miss talking to her and seeing everyday. i really have to wait 8 more years.
This is literally my friend. I feel so bad for her. Her sister has said multiple times that if she could, she would fight for custody over her but she knows her mom would win because she doesn’t physically abuse her.
Same with my family... I've cried over having to leave my younger siblings so many times, even though I know it's for the best. It feels like I'm failing as an older sibling.
I am a younger sibling and it's been 5 months since my brothers been gone and hes trying to get me out of my house but I know I will never see him again😔
Idk what other ppl experience but I'll explain my experience of a toxic family basically ur parents don't care about ur needs really and expect u to always listen they constantly scream at u for little things whilst also telling u tahr u can't overreact they tell u that ur not allowed girls over whilst constantly moaning they never see u with any girls
I’m an older sibling and leaving my younger sibling was the hardest thing I had to do. I did it with the intention to help bring them out of that situation and show them that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I’m still working on getting them out, but even if I can’t, I trust that they’re strong enough to wait until they’re 18. Thank you younger siblings, you don’t see it but you’re truly holding us all together.
That hit way too close to home. I’m literally crying. I used to share a room with my older brother but now that he moved out I just look at his old bed and now I’ve become the focus of my mom's ire. We still see each other but it's not the same as living together and being each other's listeners.
i am dealing with the same thing, i only have a little bit longer to grasp on to my older step siblings but my dad broke up with his girlfriend so im going to be alone again. like i was when my only biological sister moved out
I’m the eldest with 5 younger siblings, 1 sister, 1 biological brother, 1 half brother, 2 stepbrothers, and though it’s still a while until I’m legally allowed to move out, the thought of leaving my biological siblings in an unhealthy environment at such young ages is terrifying. Especially since what we’re going through rn is really effecting our mental health and schooling (especially for my biological brother). We’re not allowed to communicate with our Dad or his side of his family because of his girlfriend who, when we last saw them, kicked us all out first and entire 2 days after threatening to leave my Dad and keep my 2 younger siblings, 2 yr old puppy and I for herself. Whilst my siblings weren’t bothered much due to wanting to hang out with our Dad, I stuck with my Dad the entire time since he was just glued to his phone, practically crying on text. Timeskip to the following Monday, it’s morning and we’re all getting ready for school, and guess what? My Dad and his girlfriend were perfectly happy and loving each other more than anything. Soo.. When my siblings and I reported our events over the weekend, she’s now got more evidence to support her in court. Sorry, I didn’t notice how long this is 😅
my big sis moved a few days/weeks ago, and she told me: “It’s not hard to leave mom and dad, but it is to leave you guys.” She’s the oldest of 4 children, she has 3 younger siblings. i really really hope she didn’t see the household as toxic, she is so kind, and will always be
Same I have an older sister but the second oldest of 5, and she took care of me and my other 2 siblings, and then when she left everything went downhill.
As the older brother to 4 little sisters, this made me cry knowing that one day, they will have to deal with all the traumatic shit I had to go through.
He had a life, potential. I wasn't gonna stop him, cried for a bit and let him go. He's out there now he should be happy him and his family doesnt have to deal with what's over here. Just hoping one day they'll come back for me.
@@Heref191 appreciate you heaps, hope you get to where you wanna go and have all that you deserve. Helped me with one little comment, BIG actually. big ups to you
I was left by my older sister at 15, and I got out almost 7 years later. I'm counting down the days until my younger sister is 18 so I can get her. Not a day goes by that I don't have her on my mind. If you two were even the tiniest bit close, I know he's thinking the same. Keep holding on, you'll be free soon 💕
@@ch_rryleaf hes 27, maybe he still thinks of me but he's not coming back for me. Just happy one of us escaped. And I also hope you escape your hell too ❤🩹
My older sister promised me and I'm glad she kept that promise and stayed strong for me. I'll always think of her as a person that I can trust no matter what happens. We've finally left and now we're both happy.
When I'm moving out they coming with me.
No soldiers left behind. ❤
Someone pls tell me how to escape this toxic household 😢I feel like I'm dying here 😢😢😢I want to enjoy go out and meet new people 😢😢😢
@@Blameashare they hurting you? If theyre doing somethibg illegal to you, wake up at night and take your phone, then run as far away, and dont forget your home adress, and be sure where you ran, then call the police, tell them everything, and how you were treated.
Your parents will be arrested and you will get provided a better househokd, even the orphanage will be better.
@@ELISA_THEEEEEE___orcas I mean they stop me from doing what I want and they also don't allow me to go out and hate my frnds as well , like I'm grownup now I cannot be caged. Btw can we talk in personal if u don't mind 🙂
@@Blameashdon’t forget the proof.
@@ELISA_THEEEEEE___orcasthey could but often manipulative parents will push the boundary without crossing it
"Get over here, pipsqueak. You're coming with me!"
- older sibling, idk when
❤
Yes its always the pipsqueak 🥲
@@EMY_EE me older sibling calls me a pipsqueak and i somehow dont feel annoyed
-Happy ending
i would say that to my slibings
I had this friend who did have a toxic family, and when she left, she brought her 3 younger siblings and fought to be their guardian. True hero
Edit: honestly I kinda wanna remove this comment
Why are all these comments so sad and making me cry?
@ItsMeMario_AndLuigi idk man life friggin SUCKS I HATE IT but I ain't gonna end it
👁🫦👁
Not all heroes wear capes. .
...Or did she?
@@RyeNotLikeTheGrain same bro
@@Bisexual_FizzyFox369 friggin real 😭
I'm bawling my eyes out. I am the youngest, but my family isn't toxic at all. It's hard for me to believe that a ton of people have a toxic *family*
Same , and I am so grateful for the family I have, I feel sorry for the people that have a toxic family. Also I love how in the video the younger sibling looks happy for the older.
3 more years until hell is over, wish my luck xx :p
@@MAPPASTUDIOS1nonly Im so sorry for you!
As a younger sibling, this hits hard. My older sis had to do the same. I didn't understand in the beginning, but once I realized how bad our family is...I did. She still takes me and my brother places far away from our house. I will always be grateful for the time she spends with us.
Bro same I miss my sis a LOT and my family is very argumentative and my moms a big emotional guilt tripper
I don't pass by this
Im the only child that receives all the anger of the family but nobody can help
same...
I am the youngest in my family, it's really sad because my older sisters haven't moved out yet but I hate the thought that once I'm nearly done with high school all of them will be out... I'll be alone
W sister bro
My step sister left when I was 14 and didn’t even tell me bc I was on a trip..she just left a note. We still keep in contact and I’m immensely grateful for her everyday.
Praying for you and her to meet again one day. I'm an eldest daughter with 2 younger brother and sister, I know she will miss you a lot
It had to he really hard for her to leave.. im glad you guys stay in contact
I rlly want to leave my “dad” only 3 more years to goooo ;-;
This going to be me and my sister when she moves out 😃
My brother who is 18 in a few months but me who only just turned 12 two months ago
I'll miss him, even though he hates me
My older sister wanted to move out of our EXTREMELY toxic house. I was crying on the floor because they were the only one who was nice and didnt just me by looks or weight. Took one look at me bawling, picked me up and said "yeah- youre coming with me." I cut off contanct with my parents. I love her.
Your sister is amazing
Awww... Makes me wish I had a sibling. (a good one obviously)
Your sis is a complete angel... Never let her go.
I always wanna do the same thing that when I’m older I’ll take my brother with me bc he’s an angel and doesn’t deserve to suffer
@@DxvilAshxs Bro same 😭😭😭
All of these comments are so sad, and everyone is so kind, trying to help the people who had to go through a situation like in the video. Thank you. I’m so sorry for what everyone had to go through.
Fr this comment is so underrated
This hits home, my sister moved out at 17 across the world, but fought to become my legal guardian and get me out of there when I turned 16 and she did, it was 4 years of hell before I turned 16 but I'll never forget the relief when I saw her show up to get me out of there, what she did for me will stick with me forever ❤️
I’m so glad that your sister came back for you and became your guardian💗
I'm so happy she came back for you she's a keeper ❤️ I have 2 younger brothers and I will always protect them with my life. I know how she feels wanting to protect you
Your sister came back...! 😢 Yall must be close. ❤
I hope only happy and wonderful days for you and her in your life ahead!
This is so touching im crying 😭❤❤❤ i can imagine the feeling
How did you do that?
I was that older kid. I raised my little brother because our mother was neglectful but I knew if I stayed there after I turned 18 I wouldn't survive. This hits hard. I saw him today and almost bawled my eyes out.
What happened :(
(You ofc don't need to share! If you consider it a private situation i respect that.)
Is your brother ok? Are you ok?
Are you both alright?
Wish you and ur brother stay safe man best of luck in this world 💗
I’m so sorry
I could tell my brother felt terrible for leaving me here alone. He came back for me, it feels.
Omg, that is so sweet! I love it when siblings do things like that. Its just so wholesome! I'm proud of you guys!
@@LoopBuddy Thanks! He told me before that he didn't mean to abandon me, even tho I never said anything about how I felt. He could just tell. Not long after he's spending a couple days a week over here.
@@MoonStar-dg4np Aww, that's so sweet :))
@@LoopBuddy Thank you! You're very sweet too.
@@MoonStar-dg4np ☺❤
It's so hard when siblings leave, even if it's for the best. The bond between siblings is so strong.
its always these bots man
*holding back a waterfall of tears*
Same pooky
i cant hold it anymore
Same :(
Same..
same
"In a while, crocodile." I still miss my brother
What happened if you don't mind me asking
@briancarlisle7381 id rather keep it vague, but he left us for a girl
@@Sahara_flower miraculously, it got solved
@@jungermann.I’m so sorry :(
@@jungermann.the disrespectful ness i would hunt him down ima be honest 😊
as a younger sibling, that’s exactly how i feel. i’m so glad they were able to get out there, and now they’re absolutely thriving and it wonderful to see, but i’m still stuck here, and it’s lonelier than ever
I'm so sorry you're still stuck in it. I'm so excited for you to finally get your own freedom too!
Hey man, from an older sibling myself, I would hate to see my younger brother lonely. I want him to be with friends, maybe that should help
I feel u so much FR. That's EXACTLY my situation ❤❤❤
I hope my big sis doesn't do that...she was my best sis....
IT GETS BETTER I PROMISE. I am the biggest sibling and we know how hard it is for you. Keep in touch as much as you can, either you will leave on your own or they are making sure you can go with them later
I'm supporting some one going through this right now... I understand how hard it is.
this hit me hard…our household isn’t necessarily “toxic” but it isn’t the greatest. I’m the oldest and will be moving out in a few years and I’m scared that my little sisters will have to deal with my mom on their own. however, she’s a lot different to them than to me. Like some things they can do we’re things my mom won’t let me do (for example: my little sisters got to go to a birthday party today, they’re super young. my mom hasn’t really started to let me go to my friends parties and I’ll be 16 soon.)
To everyone replying to this, my love goes out to y’all. Seriously, I know it’s hard living in a household that’s toxic and may not always feel like home. It’s even harder to leave if you have younger siblings or just siblings in general. Stay safe out there🩷🫶🫶
1, yikes that's not fair to you. It's always the older siblings that get screwed over when it comes to what you're allowed to do.
But 2. I feel you. I'm turning 18 this year, and I'm not entirely sure if I'm ready to move out. On one hand, I really want to. I'm ready to get away from the stress living with our mom causes, and I'm very ready to get to decide what I can do and who I have in my life. But I'm also a bit scared. While I'm almost able to leave the toxicity, my younger siblings aren't. And most of them wont be for a good while, I mean the youngest kid is 2 years old. I don't want to leave them behind or let them deal with her just so I can get away.
To which I say: do it. It feels bad sometimes, and it's not very fair, but neither is forcing yourself to stay in that environment. If you're ready to leave, then do so. If you're worried abt them, then find time to come check up on them, hang out with them and make sure you don't burn that bridge with them. You can still support them and be in their lives without hurting yourself by staying. You can't help anybody if you're not taken care of yourself. Get yourself out, get yourself on your feet and heal yourself before you focus on them. Stay safe
@@creeperqueen1805smart very smart I’m in a sim situation i also live with my sis and her kids and I don’t want to leave them with her (she is literally crazy tho she is good parent mostly but still) and I want to but don’t wanna leave my brothers (I got divorced parents and want to leave both houses)
I am also in a very similar situation, I used to love my sister as my parents weren’t much help even though they loved me. But my parents always favoured my younger sister and I was left alone. My younger sister slowly took my attention for granted and didn’t care for my efforts. I am now hoping to move out but I don’t want to cut ties with my family, I just need a break after dealing with this for years and years. I always wished for an older sibling as someone I could rely on and I still do but now I realise wishing won’t help so I might as well rely on myself
Hi I know what's it like and what you feel. In currently 17 almost 18 and have been rushing to grow up lately. I want to try and get into an out of state university so that I can finally move out but am worried about my little siblings.
I... I gotta check you in one spot: if you're afraid to leave behind your siblings with their PARENTS, it's most likely abuse. Let's call a spade a spade, here. Good luck with the whole situation. Trying to hold out for your siblings (whether in or out your home of origin) is not easy when you still love them so. I hope things get better for you.
As the oldest sibling this was honestly the hardest decision I've made. I spoke to my therapist about how I both needed to get out but that if I left then there's nothing to protect my younger siblings. But as many people said in this comment section, you can't help someone swim if you're drowning too.
Be safe and protect your younger siblings as much as you can you might not have much time in life,ahem:)
Edit:omg thank you for 28 likes🛐
😊😊
Me and my older sister are in a custody battle between our parents and grandparents. My dad’s family hates my mom except me but my sister doesn’t like my mom as much because my mom sometimes says dumb things. So I live with my mom rn and have to switch between houses while my sister is off to college really soon…
Same here
You actually can by getting evidence to prove that you or someone more fit can take care of your underage sibling, by using cameras or other things you can prove them guilty
Its heart breaking, but with that, the older siblings home gets to be the younger siblings safety blanket, so if something bad happened at home again, they have somewhere to run to
Not here, both of my brothers live too far for that ;;
@@matilde_5 same
Me going to my sister's
Not if you're older brother is serving in the military..
Wrong.
My sister moved out the day I watched this, I could never relate to anything more. The older siblings sometimes need to think how the younger ones would feel once they left, but sometimes they don’t have a choice and have to leave because of the toxicity. I miss my sister, but I understand why she left.
It's sucks leaving a sibling behind, but you can't help someone swim if you're drowning too
I am strong enough I won’t leave her alone
Wise words
I don't hear many these days
@@rubymk8318 if your already 10 feet down you can’t help somone if your dead to be patient
Edit)damn gjis has a lot likes ty
@Ruby Mk you can always visit her. If you get out, you can create a safe place for her to go to. If you get out, you can be her foster parent if you like.
@@chey11870 whoa whoa whoa hold on their u don’t even know their situation
I’m 18, and my family has been toxic since I was little. My father was emotionally and verbally abusive and my mother was distant. I took the brunt of it, besides my mom. As I aged, I never tried to run. Because I have four little siblings to take care of. So instead I introduced them to therapy, specifically my mom, who then made my dad participate. They’ve actually started to improve, and I am so proud of them. I know this doesn’t work with every family, but im happy I was able to help them before my brothers had to go through what I did.
Edit: Holly cow guys, thank you for all the love!! Y’all are the best 💕
Genuinely happy that's how it's going for you! I hope you do take care of yourself, you don't have to be the pillar forever.
I’m glad your family is good now, or at least better, and I wish you and your folks the best. ❤❤
What an amazing story!! I’m glad to hear that. You really did a wonderful thing. God bless you and your family! 💙✝️
I am still trying to get this method to work for my siblings sake I could careless for my own sanity as it is ✨️nonexistent ✨️ at this point
I am so happy for you🎉
I have an older cousin who adopted all of her younger siblings as soon as she turned 18 and moved out. She had it PLANNED. I love her. She saved herself and her siblings.
I've thought and am thinking about doing that, I just dont think I'm stable enough to do that
super brave to do that!
Sow
SMARR
This is so very nice, she must be a very strong woman
My older sister moved out and I miss her so much. It's hard being the one left behind.
Bro fucking nailed that feeling and now I’m crying again because I don’t see my brother anymore and i miss him but im so happy that he’s able to leave
I feel that with my older sister exept the difference is that she wouldn’t even talk to me so it’s like I have nothing to miss
Same with my sister
Agreed- I'm the middle out of 8 kids (I know, it's a nightmare sometimes) and only two of them are moved out. I turn 18 this year, and I wanna move out asap, but I'm worried abt leaving the younger kids cause at this point I'm the only person that's been taking care of them, and it's kinda like, I've gotta pick between getting myself out or sticking through it for them.
Same with my sister
@@creeperqueen1805I stuck around. I personally don't regret it but I think anyone who has any kind of motivation and hope left would regret it deeply. You can protect them better after you make your life better and become more stable n influential.
I moved out of my toxic home with my father, and my little sister is 3 but seeing my mom yell at her and her saying "Mommy be happy! Mommy be happy please..." makes me cry
that reminds me of that one tumblr post thats ab parents getting mad at their kids and the kids just like "why are you mad at me im 4" (it sounded better than this i just forgot how it goes😭). parents can be so cruel to their children, i hope your sister is okay and that that won't fuck her up when she grows up
That smile of "I'm truly happy that you're free... This just still sucks..." Is... Way too spot on. It's absolutely perfect.
Imagine knowing you will have to deal with your toxic family without your older sibling to defend you.. this is why we should be grateful for our good family life
Every child deserves a parent, but not all parents deserve a child.
not all people should have a say, even if it's correct, swifties are those group of people
@@dannystrong2074 Ha okay idc its true
@@DefinitelyNotMak touché, but don't talk music to me lil bro
@@dannystrong2074They don’t even know you brother 😂 what music would they talk to you?
@@jazminecopper96 swiftie music.
the BAD music
As a younger sibling, this hits hard. Only children will never feel the feeling when you need to let your sibling go.
You’re right, and you’ll never feel the absolute isolation of being an only child, there’s no one to go to.
@@6ded502 imagine being in both situations it sucks
@@6ded502that makes me rethink of switching my brother’s ink in pen with disapearing ink
Yeah maybe because they don't have one 💀
No need to compare them with only childs,We get your point,But atleast people with siblings know someone who they can trust other than their parents,Have someone to talk to when their parents pass away..
Sobbing because I was the younger sibling and I’ve never seen someone so accurately portray how this feels.
SAME MY SIS IS THE OLDEST IF THAT HAPPEND I'LL BE SO SAD😢
As the youngest, this is relatable
Its sad im crying now for liek 5 min now
Dont worry your not the only one :)
My sister went to college early last year, and I’ve had nothing to do but work for my mother, to take care of the kids she should be taking care of.
*Felt that.* My sister is basically the only thing keeping me alive. She’s in her twenties, I’m a minor. My parents aren’t great. They’re divorced. My sister understands me.
“All kids deserve parents but not all parents deserve kids”
- some wise person all over yt
I felt this on a different level...
Fr
My sister did this but when she had her life together and when we needed her most she came back and I’m living with her. She really is the best sister ever
Same
she must be so kind
I was that older sibling that had to leave 4 behind. I raised them all from a very young age. I moved abroad and our dream was to live together but to my dismay, they all turned out like their abusers and ended up hating me. All except the youngest. He stayed strong and we stay in contact to this day and he says he'll never forget what i did to protect them even though he was practically a baby at the time, almost 4.
Gosh, I hope the other 3 get better
I hope those other 3 heal.. and please don’t hate them for it. Usually a child takes after the person that takes care of them. And usually are also manipulated easily. So please don’t hate them. They were still children..
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This makes me cry cuz I’m the ones getting left behind to
Oh.
I’m scared for my friend. She lives in a VERY toxic and abusive household so I never know what could be happening right now. She has an older brother that just went to college so this made me feel some kinda way.
“ you’ll always be my baby, no matter how old you are. “ fucking hurt.
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Fr man I got the same feeling
Fr.
I'll forever be grateful to my older sister for making sure i ALWAYS had a place in her apartments, no matter where she moved she always made sure it was at least 2 bedrooms.... i wish i could tell her how much i truly love and appreciate her for it but i don't know how to find the words
I guess you could just show her this comment? Screenshot it? 🤷🏼♂️ it’s a little awkward but hey if you wanna tell her…
I took the brunt of the abuse all my life, trying to protect my little brothers. Now I’ve gotten out, and lost contact… they’re not interested in speaking to me and it hurts so goddamned bad. They’re put in a position where it’s me or mom and I guess they chose her. 🤷🏼♂️
It’s a constant and confusing question of “did I do the right thing?” Having some external validation would do wonders for me at least. Even if it’s redundant, even if she already knows, even if the words you say never quite capture all of what you mean, I’m sure your sister would want to hear it. Trauma and abuse are hard on older and younger, in uniquely terrible ways. I’m glad you’re sticking it out together. Stay safe, stay in therapy! Lol. Good luck out there.
@@heathertulip2389 that's a great idea! thank you, i hope your siblings come around soon, if it makes you feel any better there is still time for them to get closer with you if they're still young. I didn't start to open my eyes to what our mother was doing until I turned like 16/17 (i'm 23 now), and our youngest sister was still pretty cozy with our mom when she died back in 2021 and she was just turning 18 then. they might not understand how much you've done for them now, but they likely will in the future. it's easy for your mom to turn the blame while they still see her in angelic light and aren't as keen to think about the situation for themselves, or at least that's how it was for me...
I'm wishing the best for you and your siblings 🫶🏾
Take her a cake with a printed text on it with everything you want to say to her.
@@masteryoung1792 hah, i WISH i knew everything i wanted to say. i'm not good with words
and if you can't find the words, then it's perfectly okay to say 'i don't even have the words for how grateful i am' to her because sometimes there aren't words strong enough.
This is so true. People always ask nowadays, "Why are you so clingy toward your brother these days?" And the real answer is because I don't want him to leave. He has a plan to go off to some far away college and I'm 2 years behind him. My friends always say, "I hate my brother, I'm surprised you want him to stay." Of course I want him to stay, I can't be alone with my parents. They'll literally always be surrounding me. Although I wouldn't consider my family toxic, there's a lot of issues. But, how could you just say "good ridance" to someone you grew up with for your entire life?
I felt that too. My older brother attends a college on the other side of the country. I’m happy for him, of course, but i hate feeling left behind.
Oh I can definitely say good riddance to my brother he is sexist ableist homophobic and racist. I grew with up with him insulting my physical appearance hitting me and using his position as an older brother to take away my stuff. He was so angry that I sat down and decided to read a comic for 15 minutes after coming home from school that he chased me around the house and then got my books taken away for 2 months. My two other siblings on the other hand I love them a lot. I'm the youngest though so I did get left at home with my abusive parents for a while.
i’m not going to lie, as the oldest, it will hurt a little bit leaving my younger sister. i have a plan to go to college far away, but i will miss her. but parts of me won’t miss her. shes manipulative, and won’t respect my physical boundaries i set for myself. she’s clingy and a little selfish, and whiny. i do love her, but i won’t miss her.
you just explained my whole life except I'm 5 years behind him
I wish i had that
My relationship with my sibling is very toxic, and I had a lot of trauma because of them
When they left to live with their on-again off-again gf I said "good riddance.
I still love them. And I do have good memories with them, but they caused me more pain than anyone else in my life, and I know we can not live near one another.
I am at the point that it wouldnt pain me, if we saw each other once a year or never again
These story’s in the comment section are making me cry I feel so bad for the people who are suffering through a toxic family just always remember your never alone you’ll always have a friend to talk too and soon enough everything thing will be okay just give everything time to heal.❤️❤️❤️
It’s scary to wonder what might happen when you aren’t that safety blanket for your sibling anymore, especially when you grew up in a toxic family. But, there is a sense of hope. One day, they will grow up and be able to leave. They will legally be allowed to leave home and their parents legally can’t do anything about it. And when that day comes, you will be reunited.
For anyone who is an older sibling or a younger sibling in this scenario, you will find them again someday. They still love you ❤️
I talked back and gave them solid reason even if I didn’t need one to make them stop abusing me and they listened but if I interrupted or interfere they’ll fuck me up so I have to sit there and watch my sister being chocked and slapped then holding back tears remembering how I became suicidal because of school and fitting their expectations and I can’t do anything but watch… I help her afterwards and make sure my parents don’t see her mistakes the best I can but their are some slip ups..
@@BirdieBoyStolas that sounds so sad. Im so sorry.
Scarily true. My friend told me the story of one of her friends from her old school who has a very toxic family life. Her eldest sister was 17 and almost 18 and ready to move out (which apparently the mother lost her mind over.) So according to my friend the eldest sister moved out after two more months and once she turned 18 she was ready to leave but was guilt ridden for leaving her younger siblings behind. She was basically like the mama bear who protected them. Once she was gone her older brother and her were in a bad spot but I think eventually they got help and the parents sent them to foster care while they figured their stuff out. When the ages out they moved in with their older sister again until they landed on their feet and they now have happy lives.
@@kidsaccount7084 that’s such a sad story! That’s a good sibling though🩷
Does anyone know what is legally the age you can leave home?
“once im leaving, im never coming back.”
those words hurt.
Fr tho like i miss my older brother so much
That is what my older brother said when he left our family reiunon and went to live with his partner I got a present for his birthday and now I just threw it away crying in my room eating lucky charms
@@CruchyStaryg
@@SkylarThompson-mu1qs maybe
@@CruchyStar wdym maybe
It's more pain then happiness when you leave a siblings behind with a parent like that
I'm crying because when thinking about it... Its just sad... My parents are pretty toxic and im the oldest of 7... Im 17 and a senior going to graduate next year after summer I will be leaving for college and moving out. But I can't help but feel worryness and sadness because I'll be leaving all my siblings behind with some parents that don't treat them any better. I am pretty concerned for the future when im gone. At least I have a year left to be with them but after that- this got me thinking if it's better for me to change my plans and stay so I could be with them.. I don't want them to go through more pain, I don't want them to change to someone like younger me was. It effing sucks. I just hope things turn out for the best. And in the end there's nothing I can do but to enjoy the good times while they last. Pardon for saying so much... I just wanted to spill it all out since I really wanted to share how i feel to someone.
@@humanofearth5178I'll pray for you man
@@humanofearth5178Damn... I feel sorry for you...
@@humanofearth5178I’m so sorry for u.I’m the middle child but I understand u my oldest sister has been through this some times she’s turning 18 in 1 year..I don’t really have a toxic family but sometimes my dad is toxic
@@humanofearth5178God that must feel horrible, if this video got me crying then I can't imagine living through it... I was half expecting a reply that would help you with what you could do but I saw none and I have nothing either because I dont live through your body. I hope shit gets better and you find a way out of that shitty place with all ur siblings
I have this family, body shamming , toxic , abusive, and my parents took me with them to move into a house alone to try and hurt me, I immediately called my sister & brother, they came rushing saving me becoming my legal guardians. I won’t forget that. ❤
I’m literally crying, my sister is moving out and my family is planning to move again after “she is out” and I never realized that I would have to leave her one day. This really hits me in a soft spot.
Don’t worry it’s natural everyone’s sibling moves out even mine she’s Abt too she will still visit ans you can call her :D
i feel you buddy i rlly do
I’m a older sister realizing I have one day leave my little brother who’ve I protected and done everything I could for, will no longer need his big sissy as much or need my protection makes me cry every now and again, his always made me feel needed and wanted
I’ve moved out but I practically still live there. I visit every day and I’m the first one to get involved and plan holiday events. I’d like to say i do it out of love but it’s mostly out of guilt. I feel guilty for leaving. I’ve also experienced having older siblings move away. It’s never easy no matter what foot the shoe is on. But you do understand as you get older. You get bored of your surroundings and you start dating. You want to have your own adventures and make mistakes you’ll regret when you’re older. It still feels like I’m cheating on my old life with my new life.
Blud I’m subbed to ur channel 💀
Leaving my little siblings with my toxic mother was singlehandedly the hardest thing I have ever done. Originally, I wasn't planning to, but they told me they wanted me to think of myself. I am now watching and supporting them as they soar into life and I could not be more happy
I remember the day my sister left, I remember going to her room and sitting and talking to her as she did my hair, that day she gave me an extra long hug and I didn't know why, when I got home from school that day she wasn't there and her stuff was gone, she left home at 16 and I honestly don't blame her, she deserved a lot more then what my mother gave her.
my sister left at 15, she went to another city to visit her grandma for 2 days, and it's been 4 years now.
she did the right thing, but my younger self just felt much more alone.
It is so sad watching your sister or brother leave but they can’t stay here ♾️
Does she ever visit or do u?
I’m actually crying now
@@M0ONSTAR who you talking to-
This made me cry because I only have a little less then 4 years until my sister moves out and she doesn’t know how much I love her
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let her know. make the most of those 4 years. ❤
Make sure you let her know. Give her all the love you can before it's too late. And make sure she knows how much she means to you-- even if it seems impossible.❤
I only have one year till my older sister is going to the marines bc of our toxic family 😢😢😢😢😢
For me it’s the opposite, only four more years until I move out and my baby sis is only gonna be 5 😭 (I’m moving like 1362 miles away for college)
A quote from my older sister, who moved out to go to college while me and my little brother were still in the house: “Leaving is a strange mix of relief that you are out and guilt that I couldn’t take you guys with me”
I can move out in a few years but I have 5 younger siblings and I totally relate
I mean my parents are getting a lot better and they're living together again but you know it's not awesome
Wow beautiful,❤
You represented the youngest’s feelings so well. We’re happy for them but also sad that we have to get left there. As a younger sister six years younger than my older brother, I understand that feeling. Thank you for so accurately representing us.
LOL I'm 7 years younger than my brother too, and my brother moved out too :)
11 years younger than my brother and omg exactly how I felt. He left to peruse his dreams in a different continent and doesn’t come home to often (2 times a year) and even though I’m happy for him it’s just so sad I have to stay here. Luckily my older sister (13 year difference) still lives here so I’m not completely alone.
If you're in Australia and twelve years old you can choose who you live with and yes you can pick an older sibling, your grandparents, aunty/uncle or even a family friend/ friends parents. By law your parents can't stop you and if you apply for it through the government you can make your parents pay child support to your new guardian.
I'm the older sibling the younger ones chose to live with, I was raising them anyway so why not.
*holding back a river of tears* it’s so sad.
The fact I'm seeing this the day before my older sibling moves out and leave me in a dysfunctional family pains me. She's literally the only one I have left. But it also makes me happy she's able to break free now. :')
im sorry :(
sorry i had nothing more or better to say i just needed to get my feelings out
I’m really sorry my older will leave too
Both my sisters are married, both 25-28 in here 10-13, last sibling with mom since she is a single mom
*im here*
please give us an update on your situation
My sisters and I had a horrible mom, my older sister was finally able to move out and when she was able to convince our mom to visit she got custody of me, then both of us fought to get our little sister, we succeeded. Me, my sisters, and my niece now all live together with zero contact with our mom, and I'll always be grateful for my older sister
what an amazing older sister!
im glad u were able to cut comtact with your toxic mom!
I'm that younger kid. I'm so grateful and proud that my brother is finally happy and safe, and he never has to go through it again. Its very lonely to go through this alone though, and he left and never looked back to help me and that kinda hurts because he is my best friend. Good luck to everyone out there with a crappy home life, you can and will get out of this. Rooting for y'all! ❤
I don't think i can no I'm sure of it
thanks man, means alot !
I wish you all people with those toxic parents or any other family member that's toxic to live happily one day, stay safe :)
@@SharifUddin-gh8mb keep going!! tell me you'll keep going🥺🥰❤️
@@eesamees thanks alot I'll try to keep going on with my Life may you find happiness 😊💕
This is relatable, my brother (is in his teens older than 16) and me have emotional abuse by our mom, after my brother went To college and can live in a dorm for a few months and can only visit us every Friday, I was left there alone experiencing emotional abuse. I wanted to go there so bad, but I couldn’t.
This is why I stay in contact. To protect them. To defend them. My father is childish, irresponsible, arrogant and abusive in all senses but physical
I'll stand my ground so they can flourish, even if it kills me
Thats very brave of you, my older sibling just ran
@@e.zg1 Sometimes, running is the better option. They knew you were strong, or atleast think you're strong enough. They knew that they weren't
@@Ghastly_Dysphoria Im sorry for saying this, I know this is not your problem, I just needed to say something I guess.
Thats my dad too and my mom always protects us
@@e.zg1hey hey it's ok.. part of growing out of the mindset toxic parents instill in you is seeing that when good people try to give support/advice, they aren't doing it out of obligation but because they want to. the thing that has taken me too long to realize, and my lil sis has yet to, is that this feeling of being a burden is perpetuated by our lack of faith in humanity to care genuinely. the faith we had that was downstruck by our parents. it can be really REALLY hard, and maybe you haven't found your people or person yet. so all I can say is for now or then, if you believe them to be good, try not to turn away their kindness or apologize for existing or talking or anything like that. it may slowly restore your faith when human decency isn't held against you as a grudge. the more you let yourself long to be treated with kindness by others, the easier it'll become to be kind to yourself too. also, I genuinely hope you are ok.
Older sibling here, I'm not leaving. I'm staying close by and I'm coming back for her every weekend and taking her out and I'll pick up every call. I was also left in the house by my older sibling and I just can't stand to know that she would be all alone.
33 likes and no comments? Let me fix that, you're a a great sister/brother.
that's so nice
To the older siblings, from a younger sibling: we get it. Take care of yourself. We still love you, and we cant wait to see you again on the outside. Try not to worry about us, because we'll be fine. We appreciate you and know that youre better off free. We want you to be free so you can be healthy.
Bro why you gotta make me cry as the oldest genderfluid sibling of three.
^^ This. ^^
Also virtual hugs if you need hugs.
When I’m 16 I plan on moving out but still living near, if my big brother is also gone by then then I’ll try to maybe get my little sister to live with me but if not then I’d hope she’ll be spending as much time as she can in my apartment, my parents are good people (for the most part) and they mean well, really, they can just let their anger get the best of them sometimes and it’s not super safe for my sister to be there alone so just a few more years and I’m out and hopefully taking my baby sister with me (she’s not a baby she’s 3 years younger than me but whatever)
Really needed to hear that 💙
I am the older sibling , only got the 3 yr younger to talk to. He understood and left asap as well. The younger 2 well remains to be seen if they understood or believed our parents lies.
I have a younger brother and I think what hit me the hardest was the fact that he contributed to the toxicity in my family.
"All kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids"
-unknown wise person
my heart.....that is actually so true!!!
Fr
"unknown wise person" wtf is that lmao
Wendy can I please have some nuggies and fries (sorry I had too*
@@KennyMcCormick1200sure (gives nuggies and fries)
this is why im taking my little siblings w me as soon as i can. no man left behind.
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that's really kind
They'll be glad you thought of them.
That’s a big responsibility
Thats what my sis did with me ayye a person too relate too
I had an older cousin who was basically my big sis. She left the family after all their toxic behavior. We aren’t allowed to talk about her anymore. Her name is forbidden and a lot of the younger siblings don’t know she exists. She’s completely edited out from all family photos. I don’t know where she is but I miss her. She was the only one who really had a heart.
Well I how you get to meet her again, I support you😊
I guess, "We don't talk about Bruno" hits different for you...
@@6idle660 ironic because I’m Colombian and basically look like a ripoff camilo, but yes.
@@Tomio_ yeah... sorry for your cousin though :/
Oh my gosh... I am so so so sorry... I hope you meet her again one day! And I hope you are doing well in your home...
:(
As the oldest, this was my worst fear. Even before my brother’s birth, I promised myself I’d protect him no matter what. And thankfully, I have plans to move out and bring my brother with me since it was agreed by my parents as well. I don’t want him getting hurt like I did, since my father was just neglectful and my mom was never home from work.
This is so sad. I hope you never experience any of this again! ❤
You are so fucking strong for that. I have the utmost respect for people willing to make that sacrifice for the good of their siblings.
@@whomstisthis Thank you, I appreciate that. But i can't take any praise when I still have so much more to do before I move out, I hope my brother knows that he can rely on me for anything, It's the bare minimum I can do for him as his sibling.
Same
Just ask someone to adopt him already....then with them meet a good social worker in cps...go to judge...explain your situation... Tell that those parents love to take care of your Baby brother....he will get his parents... You would get time to heal
This is my worst fear. When I leave they’ll be nothing protecting them.
This is why I haven’t left yet
Ur right there isn't I will call them and make sure that all I think I can do tbh
Please don’t leave them. I’m in the same situation but I’m the younger one and my older sister is all there is to protect me. I don’t know what would happen to me without her
I can relate
My brother has to leave soon, I don’t know if I’ll survive the years till I move out myself, I can’t take much more here
It feels so good to see your older sibling get out and thrive, but at the same time it hurts so much knowing you'll now have to deal alone. It doesn't necessarily feel like abandonment, it just feels lonely.
Yeah. Fr I feel it as a younger sibling
fr. my sister’s a senior and i’m a freshman but we’re really close, and idk how i’m going to deal w the loneliness when she moves out. i don’t know how i’m gonna make it 3 more years
It’s like I see her happy and alive for the first time that’s not in front of me but I’m also dying on the inside
OK THIS IS KINDA LOT I REALIZE and some people don’t want a whole story so just a header here:
I’m an only child but most the friends I got close with that I would consider close to siblings left (especially the first person I’m going to mention). One to study in the Philippines as her parents were debating moving there, and we’ve grown up together she’s technically my sister and my bestest friend. And my cousin who was here for 2 years, finally getting the chance to be close with another person, as I was having issues at school and coping with unfriending a friend of 10 years due to toxicity reasons, I was so happy I had someone. Then their work contact expired so they had to go back to the Philippines. Then my other bestie decides to go online in the middle of the school year because they had too much on their plate at the time and couldn’t catch up anymore. And it has been crazy lonesome ever since, but I’m working on being socially better and there’s people who talk to me now, just I don’t really have a group outside of classes. I cant blame any of them because it’s for their own good and nothing I can stop. But I can’t even talk to my parents about how I feel because it feels like they won’t understand or will lecture me. And this has all been happening so fast for the past 2ish+ years already, it seems like it all keeps changing. But idk how normal that amount of change is, but it definitely shows me how rough things can get. I think it might be a rapid amount of change that comes from the age group and time, as I’m halfway through highschool and everyone is becoming young adults but also children still, so some changes may be due to the rethinking of situations and then some are some I just can’t stop. But good news, the first person I talked about is coming back in June, I can’t help but hope she stays 😭 selfish I know but I’m in pain I just want someone to stay. The thing that’s painful is you can’t do anything to stop people from moving, but they aren’t exactly moving on from you they are just moving. So you can’t even be upset, ofc I’m happy for them I understand but the pain everyday hurts a lot.
I just teared up.. My brother moved out for educational facilities.. I am the younger child. There is always an argument between my parents.. and especially my mom.. who just makes me study, study, study. Sometimes hitting me so hard I have scratches.. Sometimes telling me to die.. I'm just not enough for her.. I'm happy that my brother moved out so that he would never see these things.. I wish I could just die.
For everyone trapped in this situation, I am so so sorry... You deserve so much better than what you have now. ❤️ I'm praying you can all find the strength to make it through, lots of love to all of y'all 🫂
@@Cowsontrees123 It's np! Just know that things will get better 🫂💕
Thank you so much, I needed to hear this
What, having a younger sibling? Yeah it's pretty shit and it ruins your life. I got it X2 tho 💀🪑
Thank you so much I’m trying to get out aswell….
Thank you
I don’t know what i’m supposed to do without my sister. I’ve realized how much she actually does to keep our family together, and I am no where near ready to take on her responsibilities. I’m really grateful that she’s there for me.
I’ll miss her.
Same😢
Hits different when your the younger child. I was in a toxic family and my sibling left and it just got worse. Same with my younger sister I brand her with me though. It was very reliving.
Same I was born in a family where my mom can be mentally toxic. I’m also the youngest and my brother are also at sports and my dad works then coaches them. Which leaves me alone with my mom most of the time when my toxic grandparents aren’t there. But yeah it hits worse when your the only girl in your family and your brothers and father are always gone.
Yea
My sister left few days ago I immediately started crying cause she was the only one to protect me
I'm the youngest of 3. My mother has protected my siblings and I from her toxic family. I have a little cousin (5 years younger) once I'm old enough I'm bringing him with me.
As an oldest I feel this. I wish I could have taken my siblings with me but most of them probably wouldn’t have come even if they could. I know they don’t really like me right now but I hope one day they understand. They were/are my first “kids”. And I’ll always be so proud of them. I just hope that they aren’t pressured into a life they don’t want. I’ll always love them.
I think they will, I had the same thing happen with my siblings and my sister just got back in touch with me and she says she doesn't blame me and that she's proud I made a life for myself, so there is hope.
I moved out last year, and it hit me hard. I feel like I’m going through empty nest syndrome in my 20s. My youngest two siblings are now the only ones left, and I wish I could be around with them more. They all wanted to move in with me too, it’s so weird, and painful to watch them struggle, because even though I have the parental protective instincts, I am not their parent.
It’s hard, because I really did develop my identity around raising them, and now I both need to be there for them, and learn who I am without the responsibility of raising them.
I really tried to take her with me. No matter what though, I am/ was still very young and while I know I could have done anything now, I broke a promise and hope that they are living happily.
Yesterday my brother fully moved into his house across the country. He's intern for a big company. I couldn't be more proud of him and happy that he doesn't have to deal with our house anymore, but I'm also just getting more and more lonelier the more my brothers leave. Two of them are moved out, one will be soon but he's rarely home anyway. My mom is awful, when she's actually home. Such a bittersweet moment to see my brothers go, knowing they can actually be happy, but knowing I'm left here.
but it will be your turn one day then never look back
do your brother's ever come visit you?
@@urfavslay the one that's across the country is almost never home, maybe once, rarely twice a year. The other that's moved out tries to be here for me once a month-ish
@@thatidiotash5231 awww well stay strong remember u will be like them soon xxx
every child deserves parents, but not all parents deserve a child.
*le nod*
but not all children deserve parents
@@anonymoususer8274 yea they do, to help support them..
That’s me right now, my older sister is moving soon. And now I cry myself to sleep every night because now I’m stuck with horrible parents and my sister was like my best friend. I’m gonna miss her so much and she made me happy. We always talked and had conversations about life and how much we love each other. She is my best friend, and I’m crying writing this message right now. Gosh I’m gonna miss her so much i swear on everything..
As a youngest sibling i understand this to the point that i started to cry
I would have taken you with me- or stayed with you just incase you need it, if I can buy a house/ apartment I can buy cameras for evidence
Same.
The middle child in the background not even being noticed😢
I do too 😢 my older sister is moving away so we won’t have anyone to protect us anymore..
As the youngest, yep, this made me cry.
My older brother got out. Sister kind a too.
Me? I'll never get out. And that's fine. Not everyone has that happy ending.
This made me cry. Knowing I’m the youngest and I’ll be the only one left
I'm the youngest too I know how it feels
Same.. and for me that time is way too close
And I feel like I'm the reason they always argue.
I can’t wait for mine to move out honestly. I understand if your sibling was nice, but mine has hated me my whole life. He’s hit me before then claimed he was joking. Always walking on eggshells around him. My life will be some much different when he’s gone, and hopefully I can finally be myself without being shamed for it.
Sorry I just kinda vented
@@ThatOneChestnutGelding I'm so sorry to hear that man 💔 I hope things get better for you 🙏 Hang in there and I hope you find good people who accept you for who you are.
This hurts so much, my boyfriend is currently in the older sibling situation and one of his main reasons for not wanting to leave were his siblings. He still hasn’t left but he has plans, but I’m still worried he’ll stay. I know the littles will get out too but he needs to live his life and not be influenced by these people…He sent me this video earlier, talking about how terrible he feels/will feel, and god. I hate how no matter what, everything will have backlash to the people he loves, and himself. I wish I could do more, but we’re just dumb kids.
I feel bad for y’all. I hope it turns out well and they way the both of you like…
someone so articulate calling themself a dumb kid... it feels moreso you've been told that to invalidate your input many times. I wish you two the best, know that letting go of the sense of responsibility is the first step to healing from a weight on your shoulders
I know exactly how you're feeling about the part that everything he does will backlash on the people he loves and himself, since my boyfriend just got in a fight today over some dumb shit with his mother and got kicked out by 10PM when his mother knows it's dangerous, also getting the police involved only to lie and manipulate everyone (including my parents) that she hit her when I knew for a fact he didn't since we were on a call when it all happened, in fact SHE hit HIM, and also bit him till he was bleeding. I tried sneaking him in and out of my house without my strict parents knowing rn (since I know him here by 2AM would be a NO, but he was almost robbed), and only god knows what the absolute fuck will happen since I unfortunately didn't know how to be quiet when it comes to keys and metal... Well, and I also feel you about the "we're just dumb kids after all", because this is what we are to them, just a puppet that will forever be broken since we cannot afford to live by their ridiculous standards. I really wish you both well, and good luck for me ig lmao
This isn't really on the topic of the moving thing but i just wanted to remind to use capital G
I’m so scared, because this is gonna be me soon. I’m 17 now, turning 18 in February, and I need to get out of here as soon as possible- but my sister is 4 years younger than me, and she’ll be left behind. I’m hoping to move close, at least. That’s the plan.
"All kids deserve good parents but not all parents deserve good kids"
My oldest sister, K, moved out at a young age. She moved in with her then boyfriend and made it to college without a worry. I on the other hand was stuck with our parents. Our mom was mentally abusive and used to be physically. My dad wasn’t around for the first 10 years of my life because of “work” and I barely talked to K. I knew she existed, I just didn’t think she cared.
A few days ago, my sister came over and held me in her arms as I cried. She rubbed my back, hugged me, and told me I’ll be alright. She said that we’re a lot more alike then mom and dad would want and that I can message her whenever I want to. She’s so perfect, and I miss her every day.
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i hope you remember she had to live with them the same way you did.
Middle child having to accept all the responsibilities
That will be me very soon
As a fellow middle child, I ended up accepting all the responsibilities the oldest and youngest denied.
Oh crap I’m scared now😂😭
Actually what I've seen most happens? Is they still forget you there and dump it all on the baby
@@DiminishingLight sorry about that
Same 😢
He really knows how to hit someone right in the heart man.. I’m sitting here crying because I don’t wanna leave my siblings in this house with out someone to protect them but I’ll have to leave eventually..
At least you can leave. My family won't even let us move out. We can only leave when married😓
@@WarisFaizi-dj2yh I’m sorry that you can’t move out💟💟 I hope you can find someone once your older [or not I’m assuming] to marry that’s right for you💟💟
@@WarisFaizi-dj2yh dude... you're parents can't do that, once you're an legal adult you can move out and they can't do anything about it.
@@WarisFaizi-dj2yhsame
Same…..
Every child deserves a parent.. But not all parents deserve a child.😢
I’m leaving my sibling behind in a toxic family in a couple of months. What a time for this video to pop up. I know I’m going to have so much more freedom with my own life, but it’s sad to think my sibling won’t have the same thing. I’m just praying they can last a little longer without me. Then they can be free too.
As a younger sibling, don’t feel guilt that you can’t save them, you did what you could and we appreciate that!: )
Think about it like this: If it goes left for her with the parents, she has someone and some where she can go for help, love, and protection if need be.
Maybe you can take them with you? I don't know if its possible but I hope
Take her with you please
Take them with you
I'm the younger sibling in this case. I'm legit crying right now, my brother doesn't come around at all anymore or call. We was so close but I suppose he's scared to come back.
hope ur ok 🫶🏼
i hope things get better for the both of you..🖤
I am the older sibling and I did the same sadly. Then one day I came back and realised she had grown and how much I had missed and started trying to visit home more for her. I was too caught up in my new world and scared of home too much to realise how much she needed me. But you don't have to wait for your sibling to come back. You can reach out to them yourself, message or call, and tell them how much you need them and miss them and it's hard without them and that talking once in a while or seeing them would help. That should snap them out and realise. Good luck I hope you get close again ❤ if not, it might happen later as you both grow older. I was 21 when I realised, 3 years after I had left. I hope your sibling realises sooner. Stay strong and know your sibling loves you even if they're far.
My brother was the same for awhile. I hope he's able to come around for you like mine did
And my brother don't live with me and my family and he is still my brother
My sister moved out and abuse wasn't worse but we aren't as close anymore and when she left my depression got so bad.
The two babies I had to raise were 12 & 10 years younger than me, my brother was autistic to the extent he was unable to effectively communicate. My mom only really cared about herself, victimized herself 24/7, was honestly abusive in every way, and completely utterly neglected their needs. She dropped my brother out of speech therapy because she was too lazy. I stayed as long as I could trying to help those poor kiddos out but suddenly I was 20, no license, no job, I was wasting away trying to do everything for everyone. To this day I feel bad about leaving but I had to choose between living my life or saving my mom’s. I’ll come back for them once I’ve made enough money, just the two babies, the rest of the family can stay far, far away from me.
I’m glad that you chose to save yourself, I hope that you and your siblings are doing well and that you will be reunited soon💗
Your story is really similar to mine, I’m glad you got out of that situation and are tryna better yourself for you and your siblings
im the younger sibling. my sister is 20, im only 12 dealing with a narcissistic mother who cannot take the blame for a single thing. not even her divorce. i bawled my eyes out the night my sister moved bc she was more like a mother to me even though we didnt get as much time together as i wish. shes only right down the road and i can visit her whenever but i really miss talking to her and seeing everyday. i really have to wait 8 more years.
This is literally my friend. I feel so bad for her. Her sister has said multiple times that if she could, she would fight for custody over her but she knows her mom would win because she doesn’t physically abuse her.
Same with my family... I've cried over having to leave my younger siblings so many times, even though I know it's for the best. It feels like I'm failing as an older sibling.
I am a younger sibling and it's been 5 months since my brothers been gone and hes trying to get me out of my house but I know I will never see him again😔
"All children deserve to have parents, but not all parents deserve to have children".
one of the most important sayings that everyone needs to know about
so true! same with “every pet deserves a owner, but not every owner deserves a pet”
i’ve seen this so many times its getting annoying
@@ohohwaiter why? it’s something that needs to be said
@@SushiKat1914 i know that, pretty much everyone says that
This hurts. My brother left when I was 15. I didn’t see him again until I was 21. Those years were the worst of it.
For me, that little sibling was the most of the reason why I moved out at 18
This just..breaks my heart. My arms extend open wide for a big hug to anyone who might need it. ❤
Thank you I need it so much I have problem with my parents and I don’t to stay with them I wish my sister could take me
I need it everything is awful at home but I take most of the abuse and am actually worried about leaving my brother there for two years
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i need to know, what xactly is a toxic family i just want it explained
Idk what other ppl experience but I'll explain my experience of a toxic family basically ur parents don't care about ur needs really and expect u to always listen they constantly scream at u for little things whilst also telling u tahr u can't overreact they tell u that ur not allowed girls over whilst constantly moaning they never see u with any girls
I’m an older sibling and leaving my younger sibling was the hardest thing I had to do. I did it with the intention to help bring them out of that situation and show them that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I’m still working on getting them out, but even if I can’t, I trust that they’re strong enough to wait until they’re 18. Thank you younger siblings, you don’t see it but you’re truly holding us all together.
True, what a beautiful message
That hit way too close to home. I’m literally crying. I used to share a room with my older brother but now that he moved out I just look at his old bed and now I’ve become the focus of my mom's ire. We still see each other but it's not the same as living together and being each other's listeners.
i am dealing with the same thing, i only have a little bit longer to grasp on to my older step siblings but my dad broke up with his girlfriend so im going to be alone again. like i was when my only biological sister moved out
I’m the eldest with 5 younger siblings, 1 sister, 1 biological brother, 1 half brother, 2 stepbrothers, and though it’s still a while until I’m legally allowed to move out, the thought of leaving my biological siblings in an unhealthy environment at such young ages is terrifying. Especially since what we’re going through rn is really effecting our mental health and schooling (especially for my biological brother). We’re not allowed to communicate with our Dad or his side of his family because of his girlfriend who, when we last saw them, kicked us all out first and entire 2 days after threatening to leave my Dad and keep my 2 younger siblings, 2 yr old puppy and I for herself. Whilst my siblings weren’t bothered much due to wanting to hang out with our Dad, I stuck with my Dad the entire time since he was just glued to his phone, practically crying on text. Timeskip to the following Monday, it’s morning and we’re all getting ready for school, and guess what? My Dad and his girlfriend were perfectly happy and loving each other more than anything. Soo.. When my siblings and I reported our events over the weekend, she’s now got more evidence to support her in court.
Sorry, I didn’t notice how long this is 😅
its when you realize how much you really love them when you leave them...
Or when they have not other choice but to leave you
🎶only know you love her when you let her go🎶
-“Let her go”, by Passenger
my big sis moved a few days/weeks ago, and she told me: “It’s not hard to leave mom and dad, but it is to leave you guys.” She’s the oldest of 4 children, she has 3 younger siblings.
i really really hope she didn’t see the household as toxic, she is so kind, and will always be
My brother is gonna leave me before I can, and he’s one of the only people in my house who actually stands up for me
I also have a big sis who is the oldest of 4 children and has 3 younger siblings-
Exept she has a differant name😅
Same I have an older sister but the second oldest of 5, and she took care of me and my other 2 siblings, and then when she left everything went downhill.
This comment somehow made me cry
As the older brother to 4 little sisters, this made me cry knowing that one day, they will have to deal with all the traumatic shit I had to go through.
I feel bad that they will have to deal with that to after you leave
Oh dam out of all the people to have trauma I didn’t expect *you* to have any 💀
What does that mean? 💀 Anyone can have trauma? @@CatoTato
As a adult sister , I feel sorry for my little brother I am 19 and I am in hostel he is 16 /17 may be really sad
Wdym mafia-@@NonidetifiedPerson
"Im not crying, you are!"
He had a life, potential. I wasn't gonna stop him, cried for a bit and let him go. He's out there now he should be happy him and his family doesnt have to deal with what's over here. Just hoping one day they'll come back for me.
You will get out of there too buddy. Big hugg for you. Don't wait, try to get yourself out
@@Heref191 appreciate you heaps, hope you get to where you wanna go and have all that you deserve. Helped me with one little comment, BIG actually. big ups to you
I was left by my older sister at 15, and I got out almost 7 years later. I'm counting down the days until my younger sister is 18 so I can get her. Not a day goes by that I don't have her on my mind. If you two were even the tiniest bit close, I know he's thinking the same. Keep holding on, you'll be free soon 💕
@@ch_rryleaf hes 27, maybe he still thinks of me but he's not coming back for me. Just happy one of us escaped. And I also hope you escape your hell too ❤🩹
My older sister promised me and I'm glad she kept that promise and stayed strong for me. I'll always think of her as a person that I can trust no matter what happens. We've finally left and now we're both happy.
that’s so great
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤