10 Signs Your Parents are Making You Depressed
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- Are you miserable or depressed when you’re around your parents? When battling depression, it’s important you have a strong support system, and that includes having a supportive family. But it can be difficult when it’s your parents that are causing some of the trauma you’re trying to undo.
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If there's one thing that you could change magically about your life, what would that be and why?
that i didn’t have to live with my parents and i could move out now because they push me to just agree with them even if i disagree on everything
I would change the fact thatbi still have bed tome when i was younger i didn't have any btw I'm 14 and ny parnet came more strict when my little brother was born
I would like to change my mother..
She is toxic.. and always puts so much pressure on me. Especially in school..
I would change my parent's old mentality cuz I hate it so much..they just tell me to live my life according to them..they don't understand me a bit..why don't they understand this is my life..even they tell me to choose my lover according to them..like seriously?? I HATE THEM SO MUCH..I am only with them cuz of my needs..If I would leave them then life will be not possible..cuz I need food and money..and the worst part is they don't even let me do a safe job..I want to earn for myself
Idk There are too many things I would like to change ._.
A fact: There are no parents watching this.. only sad kids
Ya, And sad teens
maybe even sad adults huh?
@@ripflapjack8419 sad adults too is fine . Because some are 20 and can't move out yet and stuff because they have no support
Sad kids->future parents,
These kids will make sure their kids won't feel like the way they did
True
“Its because you’re always on the internet” No, the internet is giving your child acceptance. That was YOUR job.
Yes
Facts.
Truee omg
yea
YESSS
the worst thing is that you have issues outside and inside your house. You feel like crying all the time and don't have a support system
The worst part is when they think you are sleeping and they start talking shit about you, it makes you feel. different. it makes you feel, terrible. it hurts you inside, and they just dont know it, but when you talk to them about it they start either saying that you just need to start acting differently, or, they will defend themselves, not even taking your feelings into consideration...
why everything is the same as mine 😫😫 It feel like I would kill myself when they are around 😣😣
Tbh I got used to it
I live with my grandparent and they do that
Mine don't wait till i sleep.
Best video I clicked today after my mom made me cry today
I will give my future children a life my parents couldn’t give me.
Trust me your parents attitude will past to you beacause you have been with them for years
@@spacegalaxy4329 Dang I never thought of that
i will adopt my kids, so they have a better life, and i will do the most i could do with them.
@Space Galaxy trust me, i one be a deppression causing mum. i will make the have love what my mum wouldnt even try to give me.
I will try my best in the future
the worst part is when they gossip about you to other adults.
Exactly😂
MY MOM DOES THAT TO ME - literally every time when i do something and like smack my little brother back, who is 6 years younger than me, but he’s pretty strong too, and really arrogant + bullies me a lot, my mom doesn’t give a little shit, she thinks just been I’m pretty much a teen now, I’m able to handle all the bruises/injuries I get - sprained wrists, scratches, bites, bruises, I mean yeah I don’t mind them, but sometimes when it’s like a bruise in a specific area/sprained wrist/bite, it could last like 2-3 weeks (not too long but still smh)
@@beanhead7632 u know like dat parents are so deluiled now a days if they could experience the things we have to go through then they would understand and not act like this
ugh i hate that seriously pisses me off
yE
My mom is kind and lovely but-
She’s said dis which my heart really want her to not be my mom
I don’t hate babies
My mom she hates babies
I just stay quite and I’m not person who talks much
I don’t even has a sis
Her-
“SHe hAs a siStEr aNd sHe hAtEs hEr”
I want my brother to treat me fair
My mom-hE tReAtS hEr sO fAir bUt sHe sTArtS a fiGht
"Don't be so dramatic, I'm only helping you."
my suicidal thoughts tell me otherwise.
That is so real. They are always telling me I am so dramatic.
Fr
gaslighting
I am currently struggling with random episodes of aggression and I have not even suspected why until watching this
Why but I just accepted the fact that 99 od the population are just depressed including me. Why being happy is not a good option for all
The saddest thing is when you don't even know if you're depressed or if you're just too dramatic
Exactly
@Azreele I hope you'll get better dear ♡
@Azreele Oh I'm sorry!
@Azreele Np ♡
I feel like I'm being dramatic or overreacting
It boils my head
“It’s because of the internet”
-Parent
The Internet is my only good coping mechanism and if they ever took that away from me I'd probably snap.
At least the internet doesnt yell at me and theres people who care
My mom threatens to take away my phone any time I do something even slightly wrong (sometimes I didn't even do anything, my siblings just lie and blame it on me)
But my phone is literally my safe place...
So when she takes it away, my mental health just crumbles 🙃
@@_froskkk_58 the internet is my getaway place and my mom will take away the only things that bring me happiness: my phone, cat, friends, etc.
@@1vythesimp same.
im dealing with a toxic mother rn and im crying as i watch this video but everyone just remember to have hope that you will someday get out of the situation and become better on your own.
My mom is toxic too sometimes I think about Suicide 😔
be strong!@@muhammad-ali-12345
That's literally me right now😭 I cry in my sleep. and even though I know it WILL get better, it's hard cos there's lots of evidence to show it won't.☹️
@@Healthover9000 STAY STRONG! i always feel the same in that moment but try my best to do better. you’ll be okay ❤️
I feel sorry,
Try reading the quraan, you don’t need to believe in it but it’s beauty is irresistible and it might cure you from the outside world, also it is ramadan
Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child
“If you tell me the truth, I wouldn’t be mad”
this made me have trust issues
Wales Rebel Same-
This and toxic friendship (aka bullying?) in an early age
@@den_nyssa it's okay honey. Exsactly same here. I'm moving next week. I pray for the best
this generation of parents suck. my mum used to sneak things into my food and lie. now living with an eating disorder :/
Yeah, and when they do the uno reverse card and actually get mad at you
The most painful is, when your parents compare you to others.
yes !
yes its really reallly true!!!!!!>:(
Yes and i really fucking hate that everytime they do that
My mom keeps on comparing me to my nephew, whenever he is over and something wrong happens she always assumes it's my fault.
Yeah and they say "it's not comparing! I'm just telling she does this and that!"
My parents are very discouraging
and honestly it’s so weird for me to grapple the fact that the people who gave life to me are the people who push me to take it away
I have a toxic mother and I have been depressed for more than 2 years, I'm fifteen now and it all started since my early teen years. I can feel my mom getting more and more toxic with every passing day and now I have got used to it and when she says terrible things it doesn't hurt me anymore but it worsens my depression and I end up having a mental breakdown remembering about how I have been treated in the past and all the traumatizing experience I have gone through. After having a mental breakdown from anger and sadness I feel completely exhausted and it affects my daily life. I have been trying very hard to heal all by myself but after days of progress when I finally think I'm happy and doing better she just crushes it all by arguing and throwing insults at me and mocking me for my studies. She ends up playing the victim in every argument saying that I am ruining her life just because I don't study properly and don't get good grades anymore like I used to. She found out about my depression almost a month ago but I didn't tell her willingly. She found out because she read my diary where I wrote so many personal things and it infuirates me to even think that someone read it without my permission. She didn't admit to me that she read it but I'm sure she did because of the way she acted for a few weeks after that happened. One day in an argument she suddenly said that I am depressed because I stay on my phone all day. She said that I am the one responsible for my depression. I just had enough of her shit at that point and since then even her presence is enough to frustrate me. She has no idea how much I have suffered and how much I am still suffering, how dare she blame me for my depression when the real reason behind it is the trauma that she caused me? I never confronted her because I knew that no matter what I said she'll always play the victim. I just want to get away from her as soon as possible. In her presence I will never be able to have a good mental health. She's very manipulative and she guilt trips and gaslights. Maybe she does it without reasling but now that I'm older I feel sorry for myself as a kid when I got manipulated by her so easily. Now that I think about some of those incidents I can clearly see what was going on. And you know what the most disturbing part is? Even after being so toxic and causing so much trauma she acts so sweet the next day as if those incidents never happened, as if those arguments were never real. How can she act so normal and sweet the next day after threatening me with a goddam knife just because I refused to obey her? It annoys me so much. I'm starting to feel so hopeless, I just can't stand her presence anymore. I want to get away from her but I can't since I'm a minor.
Dear I read everything what u wrote exact same behaviour my mother have with me , don't worry be strong
Im so sorry to hear about your suffering. Just want to let you know that your feelings matter regardless of your mom dismissal. My mom does a similar thing to me and doesnt realise it hurts so much. If you can, try to get away from home, learn how to distance yourself mentally from your mom, find someone who you can trust, and/or try to focus your energy into something other than your mom. My mom did similar things to me when i was a minor, she still does and im 30 now. I hope you will be able to find your safe place, away from your mom, much earlier than 30. Best of luck to you and hang in there.
Idk if this will help, but you could run away and stay at a close friends house or other family members house. This could help you in being less depressed and not having to be near your mom. I'm sorry if this doesn't help IF you try it, it's just an idea.
damn.. funny how I relate to most of ur story
I am in tears right now, it is the same for me almost to the exact
from one depressed teen to another, we can make it out
Being asked
"Why are you depressed?
Life is beautiful!"
Is like saying
"Why do you have asthma?
There's so much air!"
Ikr
They ask what’s wrong for one sec then they say we want attention for telling everything
Me:bruhh why’d you asked then
I feel like im weak. I always explode or snap to my parents. When i open up to my friends they tell me about their problems and how lucky i am. I need ur opinion an i a drama queen or what cause i dont even know anymore
@@datboi6671 I don't think that you're being dramatic, I feel the same way most of the time like I'm not good enough and that I'm worthless but I realised that there is someone out there who cares about me and loves me for who I am. I hope this helps ❤️
Lesbian Amazon Sister I can definitely relate 😂😂
Life has no meaning
I’m happiest when I’m home alone / when everyone is asleep
Same
Me too...🌹
SAMEEEE😕
same
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The most infuriating thing that still sticks with me from the way my parents raised me is the fact they never provided any constructive feedback, refused to respect any of my opinions, and still think I'M the one that has the problem dealing with criticism.
... And that's why I turned to shitposting on the internet for validation.
i dont want to acuse my parents of being the cause of my mental health crisis but they play a big role and i feel like talking about it could create a big drift with in my relationship with them, whenever I m around them i always feel tired anxious and sometimes annoyed,
It's funny how parents don't even realize what they're doing to their child, then the parents say it's from being on the internet like it's not their fault
Sometimes I think they do it bc they think that they can tell us whatever they want becasue they are our parents and they have the authority. No one has the authority to cause someone depresion.
How the hell is that funny people go threw pain because of their parents
Then when I try to tell them I'm just sensitive
Ikr-
till one of their child is going to suicide, they realized and then regretting :////
_"If I ever become a mother, I won't be anything like my mom."_
Edit: It is sad to see how many of us relate to this. Lets work hard on ourselves so that we are better than our parents.
me too i will be that mom for them that they won't even know the word depression
@@drugs8177 Well here's the thing you could always be a good mom BUT always make sure that the father is really nice as well ight.. Because here outta my parents my mom is like the nicest person in the whole world but my dad on the other hand, he yells at me, screams at me, saying that he'll no longer do anything for my family, he humiliates me always make sure that the father is nice as well... otherwise there is literally nothing you could do but to get a divorce if you try to talk to him he'll get even more mad and he might even try to hit you soo yeah (my father doesn't hit my mom or like y'know yells at her or smth, but i have a feeling that he doesn't do that because whenever he screams at me she never sticks up for me because she's scared that he might end up punching her or smth tho if she one day stands up for me and he ends up punching her, then he bouta lose his balls. anyways holy crap i don't wanna write a whole story of my dad being a total bum soo yeah just make sure you get a really nice bf (: )
With the way my parents raised me,I won’t even have a kid.
That's also what I'm thinking, but then again... I wanna be SINGLE for the rest of my life. IDK... Probably scared having an own family.
I wouldn't be my parents either
My parents don’t even let me use social media until I’m 16. They always doubt me and I can never open up to them. Sometimes I cry at night and put on a happy face to go to school. They said they will never buy me a phone ever and I’m not even allowed to get a job to buy myself one. They always fight with each other and I can’t cope with it. I just hope my life brightens up.😢
RUclips is a social media, plus what are you writing this comment from?
@@pituivan Any device besides a phone?
You should be thankful you have internet and a device to share tour feelings. Get back to work. Remind yourself who paid for these then you shall not feel sad for them.
“If you tell me the truth, I won’t be mad.”
Lies.
Edit: guys pls get better parents cuz your stories are genuinely worrying me
Absolutely
It’s sad that so many people relate including myself.
Exactly.
omgg ikr!!
ikr they end up getting mad
Their mind works like this:
“oh my child is not happy? let me take away their phone”
my mom takes away my phone because I have online friends. actually only one. some people I've met online have helped me with depression and when I went through series of panic attacks. she's never helped me because I'm scared to talk to her. she once took away my phone for 2 months straight. I spent almost all of that time alone in my room.
Edit: she's taken away my phone again, she says I'm never getting it back.
@@Foxnhund Hope it gets better
I know what you mean I was at the point of killing my self and my uncle cause I went down to some railroad tracks and he ran down there and started chasing me back to the house and everything gone toys electronics everything besides my bed and some Shelves
My Phone is my only coping method because it’s the only way I have a connection to my friend
Perfect truth 😑😑😑
I’ve begged my parents to get me therapy, but my mom says it’s too much money, but she takes my money and spends it on temu
Btw my doctor diagnosed me of the severe depression, said that if I don’t find treatment, I have high chances of ending my life, but my my mom said therapy is too much and I’m faking it
@@Your_rizzerlergrandmahey just believe in god and do prayers it will help you to heal from it. recover fast and become something, show your parents what you are.
I'm crying. Thank you for acknowledging my issues . I feel heard and y don't know how much I needed that, that soft loving voice of yours made me feel safe. I'm sure that the woman making this video will be the most loving parent if she ever has kids, I really hope so, and I wish you all the besttt
It’s sad that random people on the internet understand me better than my parents ever will.
True....
she basically described my parents the only thing wrong was the substance abuse also btw about the grade one they even told me a flat lie saying colleges look at your middle school grades
Facts but its good to know that "some" people can understand you.
Damn true
So true
"why don't you ever come out of your room"
comes out of room
"gets insults" gets yelled at" "gets bullied for no reason" " made fun at because of the way I dress and look"
never again...
It’s the same to me but now they force me out of my room take my phone and computer during the day and only allowed for 2 hours in my room this includes study and just games and I have worked that I missed due to it
This is the reason why we are all getting introvert😔
literally most of my life
Sometimes...
I always like sitting alone, when my mom tells me to stop sitting alone and chat, i chat with other people then i get insulted, I only have like 4-3 friends and I cant visit them bec of Corona, but life isnt bad maybe your just in a bad chapter :D
These videos helped me without a therapist or psychiatrist.
I watch these videos as a father. To be mindful of any potential harm I could be doing to my child. I agree with a lot of things listed in the video. I strongly believe you should support your child's dreams no matter how far fetched they seem because you never know they might have what it takes. All it takes is a little care and nourishment from the parents and great things could happen.
Dude, I feel so grateful that a parent understands 😭😭😭
lets be honest, there's no parents here, just depressed kid afraid of telling their parents they're depressed bc they will get mad.
Some actually $uicide(because of their parents) so i am not sure about this comment
actually though. i think i have anxiety but i could never tell them that because they'd say i'm just being an overdramatic teenager.
I have schizophrenia symptoms and my parents got mad at me about it and didn't take me to a psychiatrist
Facts
I don't know if I'm depressed 😥
"My pillow know me more than my parents"
~Some stranger in RUclips
Same more than my parents
Mine pillow too
Hay’s I feel the same I feel like my pillow are the only sources of comfort and happiness
my blanket and pillow >>>>>>> my parents
In my case my whole room knows me more than anyone in my life knows me
It's very sad seeing that we are going through this much of pain. But our parents who always act like, they care about us are doing nothing.
Yeah
When parents explain their reasons to us,we listen
But when we explain our sadness,they cut us off
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
Yeah ikr..also sorry for ruining 33 likes
I relate to this comment so much :/
Same with me :(
@@leorichard7955 I wish I can really trust them but I got no friends they left got their own life now and my sister father cause me this I can't really think
Can’t wait to turn 18, pack my stuff, move out and never come back.
Some Thot make sure you save up💖that way you won’t keep making excuses for staying there x
Superb feeling 😇
i was talking about that until i become 18, i am 18 but they dont let me do that, i am stuck here
same
Same here i cant even have emotions of feelings and they slap me so i cant wait to turn 18 too!!!!😌🤗
I am learning from all the unhealthy ways my parents have raised me, to be able to be a better parent for my future children.
This is what im going thrue rn, I have my own dreams but my parents don't care about them all they do is look at my grades and blaming me for being bad and have no hopes for me. They push me to a limit where I wish I never exist anymore, I don't even have a person to turn to if I have issue with something. I hope one day this will get better and that people are having it much better then what I have it like.
I hope you're okay, I know what that feels like
I will make sure to treat my future children better than my own parents did.
I will give my future kids a better life than my parents gave me
Me too, I did swore to myself that I won't be like them and I won't let them touch my future children.
That's exactly what I told my friend this morning
Same
I will ensure that they will be happy
I’m always the happiest when I’m home alone
Edit: does anyone else’s parents say you should be more social but won’t let you talk to anyone see anyone?
Edit2: hope all of you are doing great
Same....
Same same
Yep
@William Shakespeare same
My birthday wish didn't come true...they stayed home...I'M GLAD THEY CAME HOME THOUGH I WAN'T THEM TO COME HOME THOUGH just wan't to be free
I do this thing where I imagine my comfort characters comforting me because my parents (specifically my mom) won’t.
I'm so sorry I used to do the same with characters from books
The worst is they say bad words and hurt you
I'm jealous of those who has good relationship with their parents.
ME TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Hope you’re okay :(
@@yuyvomitscutely oh same 🍔😍💀
Same
Me TOOO
“You owe me. I gave you life.” No actually you owe me, I never asked to be born.
So true
Exactly
Facts
My mom always tells me “I brought you into this world I can take you right back out of it”
Well said
My entire life I have been trying to make my parents proud especially my dad but they have never cared or even seem proud.
They always treat my sister better than me, thats I hated her so much and we fight everyday, but im always that gets blamed and punished.
I grew so tired of their treatment that I started losing trust to anyone, ignoring them, and basically spent all day on my devices not caring about anything or anyone except my studies.
But those doesn't matter anymore cuz im now in a different place studying to be a pilot and I haven't talked to them for about 4-7 years
all theses things i relate to. and i have had trama ever since i was 3 years old. my parents never stop arguing. and it so usuall i dont mind it. its so bad when i hear crying i dont care anymore im just going to get hit. and i close my door without locking it and im "hiding" and threatens to rip my door off .
today i was being draged into a conversation and i always try to avoid my mom and dad because i dont feel safe around them. i told my dad that youtube is worse than personal training and he got so mad he yelled at me for so long saying "your lucky you have this that blah blah blah" but the best basketball players were in there day and didnt have youtube. i got hit multiple times and now i ended up "why does my family make me feel worthles" and i somehow ended up on this video.
i hope everyone is having a good life. remember god is with you.
Im trying to cry but the tears wont come out,ive dealt with the worst family ever,i put on a smile for them even when they make me feel like a disappointment,i feel like i should have been the only child to have ever been not born ever...
I honestly felt relieved when I found out that my parent's presence can affect my mood is an actual thing, I thought I was being delusional
i cant find the arrow up button on my surface but omg pretend i spammed it. i get soooooo overwhelmed by them its on another level :/
same....and i thought i have anger issues whenever I'm with them
@@mizukihayashi2637 same I have lot of anger issue
Mizuki Hayashi I thought I was autistic
Does anyone else think your parents are holding you back from being a celebrity, just me ok
"You're ok"
"You don't need a therapist"
"You are too young to feel like that"
"You can't be stressed"
"You're overreacting"
That's stupid parents I don't understand they said they were kids yet they still don't know how u feel!!!????!
"stop being dramatic"
this is why im so confused at my feelings. i just dont know if its real or maybe im just overreacting anymore.
On point 😐
Heard all of these before plus a few more insulting ones
My parents have all the 10 signs. I am 16 years old, but sometimes I think I am an old man. I am really tired of this world. 😔🖤🥀
Every kid deserves a parent but not all parents deserve a kid
You know it's bad when you are scared that your parents are coming home cuz you know you will be sad or scared what will happen again.
Thank you guys for the likes, I hate how many people can relate to this. I hope for everyone it gets better and one day you won't always have to be with them. Just remember that!
I'm so sorry Anna 💔😢
Sometimes I'm scared of my dad but I always push down that feeling... Why? Mainly because I don't want to hurt my dad....
@@too_fluid_to_care I had 2 panic attacks because of my dad's behaviour.
I know how u feel.
@@ayonticabanerjee8326 same
Parents always act like they were the perfect kid when they were growing up.
It's only my dad doing this my mom cares
Kinda true..
My parents had terrible childhoods
So whenever their mad they tell me how much worse *my* childhood could get
they dont care about me so why should i care about them they always talk shit behind my back
Exactly bella
i learned from them that you lash out when upset and say mean, spireful things to make urself feel better. hate it and them
This morning my dad said that I’m a disappointment, I’m never forgetting that even if I die.
lol, mine says that like every day
my mom doesn't understand depression.
there's this woman that literally has everything.
•money
•love
•fame
everything good you can think of.
but that woman is still depressed.
my mom thinks that the woman is just overreacting, because the woman has everything.
so, when I told her I had depression, my mom thinks I'm just copying my cousin that also has depression.
that's why I keep everything to myself.
I wanna send hug to you. My mon doesn’t understand my depression too.
Same -_-
But I don't care anymore that they understand me or not .
Parents *NEED* to learn that depression isnt a joke, and that if their child is depressed, the parents need to help
Same expect the copying part.
i mean you did just post this to the internet
If I showed this to my parents they wouldn’t care because “it’s from a RUclips video”
Same my mom WONT open a link/video that I sent :)
Same bro yeah they always push me
@Song Yoon Min same at first but now my mom is an army now-
Yea my parents would say this is brainwashing me LOL
Exactly.
my parents exhibit all these signs and still say im the problem not them.
Experienced 9 of 10 things through my childhood, which leads to the government removed me to a foster family when I was 15 years old after my suicide attempt, and have moved out as 17 year old 270 km from my mother to finally being to work with my childhood trauma and mental health. Now I’m 21 years old and live on my own while studying and I cut the contact to my only family… so my mental health does not get bad again. My meds help, but the abuse is still there.
I hope that you're getting better,stay strong dear
Thats rough man, hope u heal
“Be more like your sister!”
“Lose weight!”
“Exercise more!”
“Cook!”
“Clean!”
“Eat less!”
“Your too skinny!”
“Eat more!”
“Make us want to be your parents!”
“Get good grades!”
“Become a doctor!”
“Do something with your life!”
“Stop watching tv all day!”
“Stop being lazy!”
“Stop acting like your the victim!”
“You just want attention!”
“Why can’t you be more like her!”
“Why can’t you be a good child!”
“More makeup!”
“Too much makeup!”
“The way your dressing, you’re practically asking for it!”
“Don’t dye your hair”
“Don’t cut your hair!”
“Let your hair grow long!”
“No daughter/son of mine will be a homosexual!”
“Don’t hang out with them!”
“Stop overreacting!”
“Stop eating junk food!”
“Marry someone rich!”
“Give us grandchildren!”
“Stop hanging out with weirdos!”
“Go to college!”
“Study more!”
“You’re going to end up work at McDonald’s!”
“Your a disgrace!”
“I’m disappointed in you!”
“I wish I could say I’m proud!”
“Stop hanging out with black people!”
“Work more!”
“You could do better!”
“Try harder!”
“It’s always your fault!”
“Be ashamed of yourself!”
“You’re going to ruin my reputation!”
“Smile!”
“Stop crying!”
“No you can’t go to the mall with your friends! Why? Because your a girl!”
Basically LEAVE THEM
damn
Tell them to F off! Nobody should be treated that way! Don’t listen to them! You DESERVE the best!!! If you need somebody to talk to I’m right here.
Wow they’re total assholes 🤕
Here is some more that my parents said to me
"Your embarrassing"
"Stop doing that people are going to look at me wierd"
"Why are you like this"
"You hurt my feelings"
"you guilted me to do this"
"That's your fault"
"You made me feel guilty"
"Make me proud"
"Do i have to do everything"
"Your fine"
Etc
I feel safer in my friend's home rather than mine.
same tho
Same I’d do anything to leave
The thing is.. I dont have friends anymore
@@albertalberto2288 same😂
Same
my parents do 2, 3, 5, 6, and 10. I know they probably don’t mean it, but i have lots of problems that i cant talk to them about.
Sometimes they even call my sister fat/overweight and yell at her to lose weight. They also get mad when she doesn’t get all A’s.
Me and my sister hate how they can be sometimes. We have even become afraid of them overtime. But we cant do anything about it.
It sucks and i wish they could listen to us instead of being all “YOU HAVE TO BE PERFECT”. but that wont happen for a while. If your reading this, have a good day/night.
My parents call be bad things like idiot, stupid, annoying, dumb, etc. They never care about what I want and how it will affect me. They also never cared about my accomplishments. 😢 I cry every day because of them. Spending time makes me so sad.
The worst situation is when your parents compare to others in studies
Damntrue
YES 😫
Bitter truth 😔
They're always comparing with others studies and grades
They don't care about how passionate I'm .
They just need grades and marks
Muthu 467
Same here,my mom just said
“I’m taking all of your devices if you don’t pick up your grade!”
*little does she know,that all of my friends that comfort me are online friends*
That’s what my mom does
No lies. I envy people who have healthy relationships with their parents. I strongly envy.
That’s why I am with my neighbors 24/7. They have parents that are TOGETHER and SUPPORTING, and then there’re is me
Me too. My husband has a great relationship with his parents while me... I wish I could just cut them off from my life...
Same, even though it depresses me; like, why can't that be me? Hopefully I'm never the same kind of parent.
@@mcam96 Trust me, so do I.
I envy with them too. How i wish to have a supporting parents😔😭
Thank you phych2go. You really help me learn a lot abt these things, more than anyone else. Its helped me understand that some things i thought was normal behavior was actually toxic and disgusting. I love you and your content, please keep making more vids. Could i maybe request a narcissist parents vid? If you see this ofc. Anyways, keep doing what you do! ❤
I'm not sure if this counts but, a few years ago when I was 13 I used to cut lines on my arm and i think i was depressed but i didn't realize it until my brother found out accidentally and helped me afterwards nd it's been almost 4 years now and I will forever be thankfull to him❤ Note: he also went through trauma especially since my mom watched him get abused by her bf then.
It's scary how we thought the people who love us the most when we were younger, are the ones who became the cause of our depression.
real talk
I was just thinking about that.
Word
Hi , I’ll use ur words as a quote.. can I have ur insta so I can credit u :)
@@ward4523 no need to credit me 😊 I just conveyed my thoughts. You can just credit me as "potato RJ". I don't have insta😅 what's your insta?
When your parents just point out the negativity and ignore the good things that you have worked hard on instead of providing actual support, love and appreciation for who you are.
exactly, thats worst, but unfortunately i m used to it now
when all they do is point out ur flaws and ignore the good things but when u tell them u did those good things they either dont believe u did it or they are gonna say it matters to them when it really doesnt
if someone didn't tell u already u worth it,ily even if u don't know me and i genuinely appreciate u and u are doing amazing.every little thing will be alright so keep going and remember that It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me,i am not telling u to underestimate ur things,go to a doctor or stuff is not something that is bad or like... U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,when you want to die you have to strive to live as much as you you want to to die,trust GOD.GOD Bless us.Amen
At this point im just ignoring my parents
My mom never appreciates me it's like she only loves my brother coz she compares me and my brother and point out all the flaws while I'm the one who completes all the responsibilities of both a boy and girl but still...i think she's getting toxic day by day but I don't knw what to do other than ignoring 😔😔
This is so true.. why am I even crying.
When they're the one who caused you to become depressed and now they're asking you why you've changed. Sometimes I just wanna wish I'm born in a different family.
My parents always told me to bottle up my feelings and act a happy face
"are you abused?"
"Depends on the context"
"Physically? no"
"Mentally and emotionally? Yes"
me too
when I was just 18, my fucking dad just always, PISSING THE HELL OUTTA ME and he was always slapping my cheek, but i was just going to my friend's house and just going to his B'day party, yeah that's it, now an FBI agent
Same
Absolutely right
Kinda..
"why are you crying? jeez grow up will you?"
"I wish you weren't here."
"you are the reason I have problems."
"you're good at nothing."
"drawing is useless, it won't give you a career."
"you're not depressed, stop acting."
"why can't you be more like your sister?"
-my parents, 2020.
Do not worry . Everything is going to be fine and think about somene who loves you
@@strawberrymilkshake8282 hi ARMY
This is my parents... I just don't know why they compare us to others...
I know this all too well.
shushles my mom said that sometimes I’m worse than my bro. I hate them sometimes
Very close to reality, a therapeutical video!
(about whose matter, issue people are not talked about!)
So true!
There is a need more people to watching it!
😟
As a mother…I am so sorry all of you are hurting and no one is listening. I hear you. I believe you.
My parents think they’re “helping” but they’re actually making my life a living hell
Lmao my life was already a living hell xD
JK not tryna be edgy
Yeah they're "helping" a lot more like making your kid go through anxiety all the life and beat you up for nothing because they're drunk
Man I hate my life
Such a dumb parents
Absolutely right!
biggest lie of our childhood:
"we wont get mad if you just tell the truth"
wow very true:(
@@nikobellic7587 indeed
and now they have a child who lies about their entire life and say they're happy even tho they want to kill themselves and never tells them how they actually feel.
congrats, mom.
@@Farenomos facts
I can relate
It's actually me, They always take away my phone (although I'm single and they know it), they even don't want me to study further. I am a JEE Aspirant and all these trauma is making my life hell and depressed. I want to end my life. I'm done with everything. They always scold me even for a small mistake like I'm just a teen, I'm learning, why don't they deal with kindness. I want love and affection from them but they failed as parents
alright, i choked up while watching this, this is literally my life
The dislikes are the parents who see there kids watching this and say "iT's BeCaUsE oF tHaT dAmN pHoNe"
@@Roop566 exactly.
Same, its like saying "I dOnt HaVe ElEctricIty In MY Age"
BRUH! Its ww2 the hell you expected
exactly my parents always blame everything that happens to me on the dam phone even when it has nothing to do with it
no pe yeah I feel you
Its does 😣
So many kids are depressed because of their parents....
Edit: I'm one of them :)
Yes
Not just parents but grandparents as well. To me, my grandma thinks everything as to be perfect. I grew up with my mom only visiting me during breaks from school and I never really had a dad, my grandpa was all I had as a father figure that I thought understood me
@@user4031 Haha, but yes.. yes it is 😅
Iam depressed people who can make me feels better is my grandma but Shes not here anymore..
Same here,I don't know what to do, I'm depressed because of my father,I have to live with him as I cannot arrange my own shelter,food,and that all, I'm happy with my mother
I feel so unconfortable around them I spent all my time in my room when they're home too.
I hate to see it like that but all my hobbies and likings are turning grey after my dad clearly saying he doesn't like any of them. I love video games but it's like a knife in my heart everytime he looks at me playing with a disappointed glance
The problem with me is that my parents stick together no matter what, if my father ever gets hurt my mother doesn't protect me but says I deserve it
Parents say "Get off your phone you're too addicted to it!"
But they're on their phones more than us 😐
Same
True
same here..
my parents dont even know what is actually im doing with my phone, they always thought tht im playing games all the time eventhough its pretty rare for me to play games bcs im not really interested with that, instead of that what is actually im doing basically is just reading articles ,watching random youtube videos, or even educational video thts it but they never care and dont even want to know about that , they're too busy with their own business and yet they keep pushing me to do what they think is right for me but in fact it wasnt
@@jericho1875 same
Fr
Personally i hate going school but every time i finish, i'd rather to stay there instead to come home
I know exactly how u feel
Same
I’m with you on that
I feel it too. But now when school is online, I find it hard to go zoom-ing while being 24/7 in home.
same mate
I always find my parents tell me they love me every night, but I often find their presence overwhelming because I feel like they care about my grades more than me. They yell at me if I’m not focused, or when I don’t do what they want, or when I need to rest, but have homework. They’ve also told me I’m just too emotional or think I’m weird if I like childish things.
same, honestly its depressing and the worst part abt it is that no one is ever there to understand my situation
@@amrithsanarhkumar8216 🥲 just smile through it😭
why are these suddenly on my fyp. I needed these a long time ago.
Same
"Every child deserves parents
but not every parent deserves a child"
~ i heard it somewhere its so deep and relatable
@Nalesh Hewavithana no, it means if the parents hurting child too much like in this video and are making u feel bad, I have parents like them I don't wanna stay with them they are just hurting me and don't even wanna listen to my problems once
Not every child wants a parent
@@ridewithice5587 same :')
@@madhuprasad1429 same i am soo depressed at this point that my parents ignores and harras me everytime i do anything specially my mom she is always jealous of my studying and harrassing me to stop 😭
@@iamMansiGupta yes mee too each and every sign matches my parents behaviour as shown in video .
I'll give my children a life my parents never gave me.
Edit: I was 11 when I wrote this
Me too 😔
Yes.
Same 😔.
Same
Same,
But my childhood would never be forgotten
This is my favorite artstyle so far.
Ty 4 your support ❤
0:20 I feel this, the only thing my father see out of ANY channel that isn’t science related on RUclips, he just sees it as garbage and that it’s a waste of time. I’ve kept my channel a secret from him because I can only think about what he’ll say to me.😣
Me depressed > Not motivated to do anything >Doesn't do school work > Grades drop > Parents stress me out
Repeat
Same for me.... I lose motivation quickly these days..
@@Asuno_ me too... i am in a depressed condition. I have nothing. My family is very poisonous. But they dont admit that
Exactly
we are both in this ✊ we will get the stuff we want I don't even have ps4 Xbox 1 non console just work work.
Sad thing is my friends get what ever they want becouse of their parents. Me I don't get what I want my parent lie they say they don't have money but they have loads
They pick what they want me to have 😔
No grades
Don't do eneything school
Same tbh
all my parents care about are my grades, there’s not a time they ever ask me how i’m feeling or doing.
That is so sad our generation will change that we will be better
@@moeclassy6509 I hope..
Same here...
Yeet i dont need as b+ is the way
😞
It was always strange for me seeing friends with their parents and having good relationships. I wondered what was wrong with them until I found out that what they had was the way it should be.
This video made me tear for the first time 😢
Some parents need to realise that childeren have SOULS and aren't robots.
Funny how they get mad when u treat them the way they treat u for years
@@ollie1813 it really is... and they would point it out as giving attitude and teach you about all this and that blablabla stuff but they did those for years
Brooo that is what exactly what im thinking they always make me do chores and not even tell my brother to do the chores
Yeah because kids are humans parents need to stop abusing there kids and stop Turing them into a robot
They don't pay attention. When I was younger I always was my brother's slave or my parents.
"Get my phone"
"Throw my trash away"
Take the dog out"
"Clean up the poop"
I always stay in my room.. Forcing me to do stuff.. Worse family ever..
Am I the only one feeling guilty for watching this??
Guess so ..
Same dude same...
I am
Thats not guilt...
You're aware of your problems, and you know this is happening...
Same bro
Yeah... me too....
The worst thing that I get is everybody else is able to do something in school. Which makes me feel different in a bad way.
They also start with I’m not calling you stupid because your so smart but you need to work harder. Even though the reason they are saying this is because I just worked hours the day before to try and bring back a lower grade.
Too all those kids have deep depression just know you are not alone .no matter if this is the hardest time keep your heads up 🙌🏻❤️
Thank you 😢