Glad to see this one and glad to hear of his acceptance. We're all on journeys to finding peace & truth. Unfortunately, like your Dad, my own started with incorrect teaching of the gospels and the concepts of Christianity. I don't respond to many posts but want to throw this out as a source to learn the history of faith in God and Jesus specifically. ruclips.net/video/hJBb-zsgX-s/видео.htmlsi=YMt46q49vOMEwckq
Nick, seriously no need to apologize for your dad. His open and honest opinions made the video worth watching. He comes across as very loving. He is the same as many of "our" fathers. The video was great IMO. Yesterday I commented about him obviously being a Trump Supporter...but many of our parents are...the bottomline is that he loves you and I don't think any of us were turned by him in any way. My dad has the same views...what I found fascinating is how I recognized my life experiences in your interview with your dad. Having been an addict my entire adult life, and now sober...the interview reminded me that my parents "limited life experiences" and my need to fit into their world views was what lead me to my life of addictions. I appreciate your father's ability to stretch and become flexible in his opinions to maintain his love and acceptance of you....we don't all have that from our parents. Great Job...
Nick, this has to be your best video to date. Packed with so much that I know it will ring out to that person needing to hear things from a parent’s point of view. Your father is a sweet guy that try to understand rather than judge. Then he said my words, that’s for Jesus to do that. It was beautiful to hear him say that. I wish everyone could be exactly like him.
it is always a good thing when a dad says they love their son, if that were said more often the world would be a better place. glad you have such a dad!
Nick you are so very fortunate to have a very understanding father! My dad passed away before I had chance to have that talk. My late significant other passed away just shy of his 95th birthday. I was 22yrs younger than him. We've been together since 1975.
You have NO IDEA how fortunate you are to have him for a dad, Nick! IF ONLY I could have a conversation with mine in like manner! This was a beautiful and open exchange. ❤
You’re so fortunate to have the loving and accepting father you have. I can see where you get your lovely calm demeanor. And your good looks. Posting this video will be a help to others in your situation. You’re doing something good for the world.
This was amazing. It is obvious that your Dad definitely loves you and that was so special to see your interactions. Your Dad is reality to understanding what you’ve been through. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Wow Nick! I see where you get your good looks (lol) The next step is getting him to understand that being Gay isn't a LIFE STYLE! baby steps I guess(lol) Seriously though this was awesome, you are truly blessed to have this kind of relationship with your Dad! Be blessed my friend! As always greetings from the Chi!
Hi Nick - this was so interesting. I bet a lot of men will share this with their fathers. I'm your Dad's age, a few years older and my father's passed on years ago. I never came out to my father but he always knew. He had my back my whole life and i miss him terribly. I'm so glad to see the relationship between you and your Dad. All the best to him; what a great guy👍🏼
Hello Nick your Dad is so cool Down to Earth. you are the lucky one. my dad and me did not see eye to eye in this would. he had past. on. so have agreat time with your dad. love the show.
Arthur, great to see you. Your son does good work for all of us. Pearl is calming, as usual. Last Friday a new person was over my apartment and my kitty was very peaceful. She usually runs from people. We met September 4th and she took to him right away. Yes there's an age gap, I am 5 years older than your dad, but we haven't even asked about ages and the fellow liked me right away.
Thank you, Nick, and your Dad, Arthur, for this open conversation. Your openness to sharing this experience will help others. Your Dad loves you so much and to hear him tell you how proud of you he is warms my heart. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing this. I’m now in my late 60’s. My first long term relationship began when I was 18 with a man that was 15 years older than I was. I was incredibly fortunate as that relationship lasted for a decade. Nearly all of my closest friends in college all died of AIDS. I luckily remained uninfected. My current partner and I have been together for well over 30 years, raised 3 children and now have 7 grandchildren. In retrospect, the crap I put up with from other people, including close friends - and that my first long term partner had to put up with was worth having to deal with because no matter how bad it was at the time, the experience of being in that first relationship for a decade not only saved my life, but made me a better human. I have no regrets.
Your acceptance must be very comforting for Nick, my dad didn't the first year and then he had a change of heart realising that it didn't change who I was. I ended up working with my dad my whole career as an electrician. 👍❤️
With this new channel I noticed that you have calmed down a bit. Maybe it is maturity or you have made a conscious effort to be relaxed and talk in a calm voice. You are not trying too hard to sound interesting. I think it's working. I feel like I am seeing a more accurate versioin of Nick, and I like what I see. Now, having watched your interview of your Dad, which was amazing, you really doing a great job asking him questions I honestly believe you wanted to ask him and you let him talk without interruption. It was nice to see you communicate with your Dad about everything that you were so worried about when you were younger. Both of you have come a long way since then and I hope your relationship with each other becomes stronger as a family. I think Mike is partially to thank for this. He is a good man. You are very fortunate.
Thank you for confirming that he's a masculine man Dad. You thinking that is definitely valid for those who question it. I definitely don't need convincing lol.😂❤️
WOW! What a great conversation❣️ How terrifying it is, to say something that will risk the love bond between father and son, yet you found the courage and saved your life. Good job Nick!👏🏽👏🏼👏🏾👏🏻. Good job Dad for seeing beyond your ego and 🤔… using love as your tool to overcome your biases. Arthur I would suggest, when looking at the “lifestyle” you see, that you understand that some of it is an identity affectation. No different from the way you wear your hair, and the clothes you choose to wear, to represent who you are. I can’t help but think that some of the most flamboyant expressions are often done out of anger at not being accepted for who they were born to be. Anger and AMAZING courage. The courage that takes a toll. That creates an exhaustion. They fight a battle with hate every minute of every day. An exhaustion from always fighting the outside forces that demand self hatred. There is a whole faction of Christianity that has distorted, the teachings of Jesus, to demand self hatred from their congregations. A negative force so controlled by fear that it may be able to topple American democracy. It certainly has destroyed it in Florida right now. That flamboyance? They exhibit a beautiful courageous defiance that is so amazing. The LGBTQ community dodge invisible bullets and they NEVER know when or from what direction they will come from. They know that their life is literally at risk being who they are. If it is true, that our souls pick our own lives to learn from, then to me they rank the highest in courage. If you want to see Jesus in action I can recommend an amazing and bizarre world speaker who challenges us all to face our fears. Just as Jesus did with his love. I’ve never seen anyone more courageous than Alok. A police force… a military unit… they fight together and have each other to fight for. Alok fights alone and fights thru love. He fights for everyone. If you can get comfortable with him, like Jesus able to let go of all judgements, then you know you have embraced the world thru love. Just like you embrace Nick no matter who he is. The growing fascism, and the reality of global warming, is God telling us it is all of us or none of us now. We have maybe 50 years before there is no sea ice to protect the world from the heat of the sun’s rays. That is very frightening but facing our fear, judgements, and greed will be our only way out. Use Nick’s beautiful step daughter as a shining example. “Faith in OUR survival”, together, with no pick or choose. (or) “Fear of ME NOT surviving” by only feeling safe when we feel “better than” another.. Which survival strategy gets life, on this planet, beyond the next 50 years? Thank you so much for this incredible example of love❤️🩹💪🏽💖.
ThankU Nick awfully sweet. I always feel sad friendly envy for guys who were handled gently by their dads. Don't feel all sad, after a very rough start, my Pop did humble himself, apologize, became a friend. Better late than never
I came out in a very religious family many years ago, it took some years to all come together but my father and I are best friends ! Love my dad and would be lost without him, so proud of him!
Thank you for sharing this aspect of your life Nick. It is interesting to see things from your father's perspective and the process of acceptance and understanding. Good video.
Hi! just wanted to say I admire how much you and your Dad respect each other's boundaries and preferences. Wish I also had this kind of relationship with my Dad and being able to talk openly about having an age gap relationship as well.
Thanks for your Frank discussions. It's wonderful that more people are open minded despite the constraints of religions bigotry. My first gay experience in Singapore was with an Austrian , who was 4 years older than me. I was 16. However, I have always been attracted to men much older than me. My first lover was 19 years older than me & first husband 23 years older than me. My dad never demonstrated any affection for me so I yearned for a ' father figure'. My second husband is 2 years older than me. He is 75 & I'm now 73.
you and your dad definitely sound alike! getting people like your dad to understand that being gay ISN'T a life-style, it's who you are. Being rich and able to afford to drive a porsche and buy any kind of cheese you want when you want it IS a life STYLE, but being gay just happens to be a part of who you are and can't be changed, it's SET and not STYLED. If it was a style it could be easily restyled to a hetero life. Like a straight person isn't living a hetero "life style", they are just straight and thats who they are. same thing with gay people or any other person on the spectrum of human sexuality. Thats why it sucks when straight people think being gay is a lifestyle, they are assuming it can changed IF YOU WANT TO, but as a gay man who has been gay since I was a kid I can and HATED himself for being gay and tried to change I can say it ISN'T a lifestyle that I created, it's a situation deep within me that I have to accept. Getting rid of my family was also a choice i had to make because they were SO angry at me for "choosing" to be gay. I couldn't explain it anymore to them so for my own sanity I had to cut them off so I didn't have to hear the nasty things they thought about me anymore. nice you have a relationship with your dad though, nice to see him willing to discuss it, mine never would.
Although it most often is about identity as part of sexual orientation, identity does not always fully align with a person's true sexual orientation. For example a gay or bisexual person might identify as straight at one time and be in such denial about their same sex attraction that they do not identify with it. Attraction is the most accurate representation of a person’s true orientation because identity and behavior can be context-dependent. Sexual orientation is something that is inborn, biological and it's fixed. There is an entire body of sexual orientation studies showing associated differences in brain function and on prenatal hormonal exposure(like testosterone)..Studies done on countless different animals, as well disorders caused by excessive or deficient production of hormones that can lead the brain to be over or under masculinized. For example Congenital adrenal hyperplasia (CAH) in females caused by an over exposure to testosterone that has masculinized their brains and made the more male-typical in gender traits. Multiple different animals studies have shown changing the amount of testosterone that an animal is exposed to changes whether they are sexually interested in same-sex or opposite-sex mates and whether they will be more male-typical of female typical in behaviour. In animal homosexuality in females is attributed to an overabundance of male hormones - androgens - in the womb, while male homosexuality results from a lack of these. The only thing they can't do is test these theories on on human fetus because it would of course be unethical. It's believed that gay men, during some point in fetal life, were exposed to unusually low levels of androgens, which allowed their hypothalamic circuits to develop in a female-typical direction. It's believed genes help set these levels but it's still unsure which genes these are. In general, few major genes have been identified in the field of behavioral genetics; most heritable psychological traits seem to be influenced by multiple genes, each of modest effect. This could well be true for sexual orientation too. If so, different individuals might carry different complements of “gay genes” and thus exhibit different kinds of homosexuality for example some more gender non conforming than others. And single genes might be decisive in some families but play no role in others. Genes are likely involved thought in the pathway by which sex hormones influence their target tissues. If testosterone levels during a critical prenatal period are high , the brain is organized in such a way that the person is predisposed to become typically masculine in a variety of gendered traits, including sexual attraction to females. If testosterone levels are low during that same time period, the brain is organized in such a way that the person is predisposed to become typically feminine in gendered traits, including sexual attraction to males. The association between sexual orientation and other gendered traits arises because all these traits differentiate under the influence of a common biological process-the sexual differentiation of the brain under the influence of sex hormones. Whether a person ends up gay or straight depends in large part on how this process of biological differentiation goes forward, with the lead actors being genes, sex hormones and the brain systems that are influenced by them. The organisational effects of hormones on the brain prior to birth have permanent effects. The mind of the average gay individual is a patch work of gendered traits, some indistinguishable from same-sex peers, some shifted past way toward the other sex, and others typical of the other sex. Gay men and lesbians are gender shifted in a variety of male favoring-visuospatial traits such as mental rotation, targeting, and navigation, as well as female-favouring tasks such as verbal fluency and object location memory. Many of these functions, particularly the spatial skills and the verbal skills reside in different sides of the brain and they call it cerebral asymmetry, the asymmetry in the way the brain is organized. This asymmetry is determined and organized around the middle of pregnancy and these correlate very highly with who you are sexually. Sexual orientation is something that is hardwired before birth. There is growing evidence for structural and functional differences between the brains of gay and straight people. These involve brain systems that could well be involved in the regulation of sexual attraction to one sex or the other, such as the hypothalamus and amygdala, as well as systems that are unlikely to have any close involvement with sexuality.With regard to the former, the findings are supportive of the idea that prenatal sex hormones control the sexual differentiation of brain centers or networks involved in sexual behaviors, and that this process goes forward differently in individuals who become gay and in those who become straight. The brains of pre-gay male seem to undergo less masculinization, more feminization, or both than those of pre-straight male fetuses, and vice versa for pre-lesbian female fetuses. Neuroscientific studies have shown that the brains of lesbians are partially masculinized and gay mens partially feminized. Patterns of brain organisation appear similar between gay men and heterosexual women and between lesbian women and heterosexual men. Gay men appear, on average, more “female typical” in brain pattern responses and lesbian women are more “male typical”. Differences in brain organisation mean differences in psychology and study after study show differences in cognition between heterosexual and gay people. Gay mens brains are also structured like those of heterosexual females and lesbians structured similar to heterosexual mens. For example the sexually dimorphic nucleus in the medial preoptic area, known as the interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus number 3 (INAH3is about half the size in homosexual mens compared with the heterosexual mens, and the same size as females. Same difference found in homosexual male sheep( called the ovine sexually dimorphic nucleus (oSDN) in sheep). This was tested in hormonal lab treated animals like rats called the sexually dimorphic nucleus in the preoptic area (SDN-POA) in rats. There's differences found in several other areas of homosexual mens brain's also. There is some evidence in humans too-at least in men-that the brain circuitry serving same-sex attraction is actively suppressed in heterosexual individuals.The predominant neurotransmitter used by the neurons of the INAH3 in humans appears to be gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), which generally has an inhibitory action on other neurons Thus it is conceivable that the neurons of INAH3 directly inhibit cell groups elsewhere in the hypothalamus that promote attraction to males showing there are possible biological mechanisms for setting up sexual attraction to one sex that depend primarily on preventing attraction to the other sex. Sexual orientation may relate to the packing density of neurons in the nucleus. Again animal studies show testosterone promotes the survival of neurons in INAH3. It might develop during a period when the neurons are elaborating their synaptic connections. The small size of INAH3 in gay men may be because a smaller number of neurons-either because fewer neurons were originally generated or because more neurons underwent programmed cell death. The differences found between gay and straight people in brain regions that are not obviously concerned with sexuality, such as parts of the cerebral cortex, could be connected with the cognitive differences between these groups, because the brain differences, like the cognitive differences, generally represent shifts toward the other sex, and are further evidence for sex-atypical brain development in gay people. There are also studies showing correlations between testosterone levels in fetal amniotic fluid and gendered characteristics in childhood. In a small group of boys they also looked for a correlation between fetal testosterone levels and brain anatomy when the boys were 8-11 years old. They found such correlations in the cerebral cortex, where areas that are typically larger in males than females were larger in the boys who had high fetal testosterone levels than in those with lower fetal testosterone. This finding supports the general idea that fetal testosterone levels drive the sexual differentiation of the brain and contribute to anatomical variations within one sex. That or caused by variations in the sensitivity of the hypothalamus to fetal testosterone, rather than by variations in testosterone levels themselves.
I envy (in a good sense) you for having this understanding and loving dad. Mine has never even hugged me throughout my life. I mean he’s so homophobic so that he thinks men must not hug each other 😂
Great session because you and your Dad reached a level of understanding and acceptance. Parental love won the day. The one thing I cringed at was the way the term 'lifestyle' was mentioned, but never defined. Living a certain lifestyle is based upon your chosen preferences. Being gay in not chosen. Being gay is within you and is slowly recognized as you grow up. As a child, you hear people say things, some good mostly bad, about gays and compare what you hear to how you feel. The bad things said create doubt, guilt, depression. You decide to keep your feelings secret due to the fear your parents won't love you anymore. Way too often, teenagers conclude they can't fit in this world and either attempt or actually succeed in ending their own lives; opting out. Others manage to make it to adulthood and find ways to reveal their secret so they can be open about it. Then they can be who they really are. This is a far different human trait that is not chosen. This is far different than a mere chosen lifestyle that one can change on a whim.
Very heartfelt video.... well done Dad! What is the age gap in your relationship and is your partner older than your Dad? Sorry if I have missed this in another video.
Congrats to your dad. I too have a gay son who I love and I also adore his partner. Being honest is hard. Dad, if you were dating someone 30 years older than 65, it wouldn't be for the sex, lol...
Im the same age as your father Nick. And im gay. Hes my generation. But he didnt experience what i did back in the 1970s as a teenager dealing with my coming to terms with my sexuality. Its easy being straight. Its acceptable , where as for us gays its hard. Your father is a good man.
I have so much to say....but don't even know where to begin. Very interesting video. I like your father, who wouldn't? I knew he was a Trump supporter before he uttered the words "Fake News"....this is where the real story begins IMO. Don't know what else to say, other than that was a very interesting video to watch and I think you are both great for doing it.
i would like to hear how different this would of gone with a narcissistic father who thought you were just trying to embarrass them and you should just march right back into the closet. your dad did wonderful and i hope his new knee recovery is swift and painless.
This was a good one, my father would have thrown me out. Like you I prefer a partner much older than me. I found myself attracted to men 20 years older than me. Thst is what I attract as well. Young guys have nothing to offer me. I have all the money . I figured because my Father was much older than my mother is why I am this way. Catching up on all your videos
GREAT interview The thing your father must know is that you were born this way , sexual orientation is not a lifestyle , otherwise , him being heterosexual could call a lifestyle as well. Not everybody are born heterosexual. People are born gay , straight , bisexual , pansexual, asexual and people who have gender identity who are trans. That's the problem with older heterosexual generation, they are not well inform about human sexual orientation. He is a good father , the fact that he is willing to learn and he loves and stang by you.❤️❤️👏
If your Dad is politcally conservative, I wonder what he thinks about the failed former US president with his much younger gold digger type third wife?
I just don’t like the word of life style for being gay. This term bothers and it’s kind of discrimination. What about being called of life style for being straight. Gay is gay, straight is straight, period.
your dad does love you but,for him it's a sin,God has said homosexuality is a sin and for many people they equate this with hate but it's not hate,we as Christians have to follow God's law not mans,love the sinner but not the sin,God is love
You could educate yourself and accept that religion is man-made propaganda. Religion, by definition, is a cult. Most of us are forced into it shortly after birth. Once I learned about evolution in high school, that was enough for me to exit the religion cult.
Hey guys I know my dads views are not for everyone but he is being 100% honest so I wanted to get his real thoughts I hope you enjoy 🤷♂️ ❤️
Your dad's views are the same as my dad's. Both ex military. Both saw things we probably wouldn't be able to cope with. I love that generation.
Glad to see this one and glad to hear of his acceptance. We're all on journeys to finding peace & truth. Unfortunately, like your Dad, my own started with incorrect teaching of the gospels and the concepts of Christianity. I don't respond to many posts but want to throw this out as a source to learn the history of faith in God and Jesus specifically. ruclips.net/video/hJBb-zsgX-s/видео.htmlsi=YMt46q49vOMEwckq
Whatever his views are, your dad looks gayer than you do, and with the dog...GAY FROM SPACE.
@@DDumbrille 😂😂😂 cool
Nick, seriously no need to apologize for your dad. His open and honest opinions made the video worth watching. He comes across as very loving. He is the same as many of "our" fathers. The video was great IMO. Yesterday I commented about him obviously being a Trump Supporter...but many of our parents are...the bottomline is that he loves you and I don't think any of us were turned by him in any way. My dad has the same views...what I found fascinating is how I recognized my life experiences in your interview with your dad. Having been an addict my entire adult life, and now sober...the interview reminded me that my parents "limited life experiences" and my need to fit into their world views was what lead me to my life of addictions. I appreciate your father's ability to stretch and become flexible in his opinions to maintain his love and acceptance of you....we don't all have that from our parents. Great Job...
This was beautiful, Nick. Your dad loves you so much and isn't embarrassed to say so on camera. What a great guy.
It's amazing how honest and transparent you are as a person! Congratulations! And you're also a kind man!
I appreciate that! ❤️❤️❤️
You are lucky to have a Dad like him, compassionate and love you more than you expected. Take good care of him till his last breath.
Amen. I agree.
Nick, this has to be your best video to date. Packed with so much that I know it will ring out to that person needing to hear things from a parent’s point of view.
Your father is a sweet guy that try to understand rather than judge. Then he said my words, that’s for Jesus to do that. It was beautiful to hear him say that. I wish everyone could be exactly like him.
❤️❤️❤️ thanks Calvin
it is always a good thing when a dad says they love their son, if that were said more often the world would be a better place. glad you have such a dad!
Seems like you have a great father who is kind and good-natured. Wishing him a speedy recovery from his operation.
Nick you are so very fortunate to have a very understanding father! My dad passed away before I had chance to have that talk. My late significant other passed away just shy of his 95th birthday. I was 22yrs younger than him. We've been together since 1975.
Thank you for sharing this with us, you can tell your Dad loves and supports you.
You have NO IDEA how fortunate you are to have him for a dad, Nick! IF ONLY I could have a conversation with mine in like manner! This was a beautiful and open exchange. ❤
Bravo to you and your dad for sharing this with the world. Keep up the great content Nick.
Thank you guys ❤️
You’re so fortunate to have the loving and accepting father you have. I can see where you get your lovely calm demeanor. And your good looks. Posting this video will be a help to others in your situation. You’re doing something good for the world.
This is really good mentally for all of us.
Omg!! Your dad did great!! It was good to have him on the vid. He was himself. He did a good job expressing his feelings and thoughts. 🎉🎉
Your dad is so awesome! Thank you for the very real and authentic episode.
Nick, this was a fabulous video!! Your dad was very authentic!!! Great questions!! Great to see Pearl!!!
This is really touching and wonderful. Well done, my friend! Not a lifestyle! It's who you are.
This was amazing. It is obvious that your Dad definitely loves you and that was so special to see your interactions. Your Dad is reality to understanding what you’ve been through. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Thanks Jerrod ❤️
Wow Nick! I see where you get your good looks (lol) The next step is getting him to understand that being Gay isn't a LIFE STYLE! baby steps I guess(lol) Seriously though this was awesome, you are truly blessed to have this kind of relationship with your Dad! Be blessed my friend! As always greetings from the Chi!
❤️❤️❤️ thanks buddy
Hi Nick - this was so interesting. I bet a lot of men will share this with their fathers. I'm your Dad's age, a few years older and my father's passed on years ago. I never came out to my father but he always knew. He had my back my whole life and i miss him terribly. I'm so glad to see the relationship between you and your Dad. All the best to him; what a great guy👍🏼
Hello Nick your Dad is so cool Down to Earth. you are the lucky one. my dad and me did not see eye to eye in this would. he had past. on. so have agreat time with your dad. love the show.
You can see that you've got a great relationship with your dad, awesome to see. It makes a huge difference in how you feel about yourself.❤️
Arthur, great to see you. Your son does good work for all of us. Pearl is calming, as usual. Last Friday a new person was over my apartment and my kitty was very peaceful. She usually runs from people. We met September 4th and she took to him right away. Yes there's an age gap, I am 5 years older than your dad, but we haven't even asked about ages and the fellow liked me right away.
This healed something in me. Thank you, Nick, as always.
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Thank you, Nick, and your Dad, Arthur, for this open conversation. Your openness to sharing this experience will help others. Your Dad loves you so much and to hear him tell you how proud of you he is warms my heart. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing this. I’m now in my late 60’s. My first long term relationship began when I was 18 with a man that was 15 years older than I was. I was incredibly fortunate as that relationship lasted for a decade. Nearly all of my closest friends in college all died of AIDS. I luckily remained uninfected. My current partner and I have been together for well over 30 years, raised 3 children and now have 7 grandchildren. In retrospect, the crap I put up with from other people, including close friends - and that my first long term partner had to put up with was worth having to deal with because no matter how bad it was at the time, the experience of being in that first relationship for a decade not only saved my life, but made me a better human. I have no regrets.
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Your acceptance must be very comforting for Nick, my dad didn't the first year and then he had a change of heart realising that it didn't change who I was. I ended up working with my dad my whole career as an electrician. 👍❤️
I was nervous for you at the beginning of the interview, thank you for sharing this amazing history.
With this new channel I noticed that you have calmed down a bit. Maybe it is maturity or you have made a conscious effort to be relaxed and talk in a calm voice. You are not trying too hard to sound interesting. I think it's working. I feel like I am seeing a more accurate versioin of Nick, and I like what I see. Now, having watched your interview of your Dad, which was amazing, you really doing a great job asking him questions I honestly believe you wanted to ask him and you let him talk without interruption. It was nice to see you communicate with your Dad about everything that you were so worried about when you were younger. Both of you have come a long way since then and I hope your relationship with each other becomes stronger as a family. I think Mike is partially to thank for this. He is a good man. You are very fortunate.
Thank you for confirming that he's a masculine man Dad. You thinking that is definitely valid for those who question it. I definitely don't need convincing lol.😂❤️
WOW! What a great conversation❣️ How terrifying it is, to say something that will risk the love bond between father and son, yet you found the courage and saved your life. Good job Nick!👏🏽👏🏼👏🏾👏🏻. Good job Dad for seeing beyond your ego and 🤔… using love as your tool to overcome your biases.
Arthur I would suggest, when looking at the “lifestyle” you see, that you understand that some of it is an identity affectation. No different from the way you wear your hair, and the clothes you choose to wear, to represent who you are.
I can’t help but think that some of the most flamboyant expressions are often done out of anger at not being accepted for who they were born to be. Anger and AMAZING courage. The courage that takes a toll. That creates an exhaustion. They fight a battle with hate every minute of every day.
An exhaustion from always fighting the outside forces that demand self hatred. There is a whole faction of Christianity that has distorted, the teachings of Jesus, to demand self hatred from their congregations. A negative force so controlled by fear that it may be able to topple American democracy. It certainly has destroyed it in Florida right now.
That flamboyance? They exhibit a beautiful courageous defiance that is so amazing. The LGBTQ community dodge invisible bullets and they NEVER know when or from what direction they will come from. They know that their life is literally at risk being who they are. If it is true, that our souls pick our own lives to learn from, then to me they rank the highest in courage.
If you want to see Jesus in action I can recommend an amazing and bizarre world speaker who challenges us all to face our fears. Just as Jesus did with his love. I’ve never seen anyone more courageous than Alok.
A police force… a military unit… they fight together and have each other to fight for. Alok fights alone and fights thru love. He fights for everyone. If you can get comfortable with him, like Jesus able to let go of all judgements, then you know you have embraced the world thru love. Just like you embrace Nick no matter who he is.
The growing fascism, and the reality of global warming, is God telling us it is all of us or none of us now. We have maybe 50 years before there is no sea ice to protect the world from the heat of the sun’s rays.
That is very frightening but facing our fear, judgements, and greed will be our only way out. Use Nick’s beautiful step daughter as a shining example.
“Faith in OUR survival”, together, with no pick or choose.
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“Fear of ME NOT surviving” by only feeling safe when we feel “better than” another..
Which survival strategy gets life, on this planet, beyond the next 50 years? Thank you so much for this incredible example of love❤️🩹💪🏽💖.
ThankU Nick awfully sweet. I always feel sad friendly envy for guys who were handled gently by their dads. Don't feel all sad, after a very rough start, my Pop did humble himself, apologize, became a friend. Better late than never
Wow! Nick! What a wonderful Dad! I love him for loving you!
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Great episode. Lovelovelove your channel...keep up the good work....❤
@@tonirajap4180 thank you ❤️❤️❤️
This was great, happy for yall! ♥
A great relationship you two. Growing together!
Hi...that was brilliant to see..your dad was very chilled and you can see n feel his support...hope his knee opp went well.. Enjoyed that..😎🇬🇧 x
Nick, your thumbnail photo, you look a lot like your dad when he was younger!!!! Handsome man!!!
I am attracted to older men myself and I must say your father is incredibly handsome!!😍
Awesome photo, you can see the resemblance so well.👍
Great conversation.
This was a great video. It was a great opportunity to see your dad and you show your true family background. Thank you for sharing this with us!
I’m glad you enjoyed it! 😊 love you guys ❤️❤️❤️
I came out in a very religious family many years ago, it took some years to all come together but my father and I are best friends ! Love my dad and would be lost without him, so proud of him!
You have a great and understanding father.
Thank you for sharing this aspect of your life Nick. It is interesting to see things from your father's perspective and the process of acceptance and understanding. Good video.
Thanks, I appreciate it ❤️
Hi! just wanted to say I admire how much you and your Dad respect each other's boundaries and preferences. Wish I also had this kind of relationship with my Dad and being able to talk openly about having an age gap relationship as well.
It means a lot to hear that, thanks for watching! ❤️
Congratulations, Nick, Your Father is Totally Cool.
Thanks for your Frank discussions. It's wonderful that more people are open minded despite the constraints of religions bigotry. My first gay experience in Singapore was with an Austrian , who was 4 years older than me. I was 16. However, I have always been attracted to men much older than me. My first lover was 19 years older than me & first husband 23 years older than me. My dad never demonstrated any affection for me so I yearned for a ' father figure'. My second husband is 2 years older than me. He is 75 & I'm now 73.
you and your dad definitely sound alike! getting people like your dad to understand that being gay ISN'T a life-style, it's who you are. Being rich and able to afford to drive a porsche and buy any kind of cheese you want when you want it IS a life STYLE, but being gay just happens to be a part of who you are and can't be changed, it's SET and not STYLED. If it was a style it could be easily restyled to a hetero life. Like a straight person isn't living a hetero "life style", they are just straight and thats who they are. same thing with gay people or any other person on the spectrum of human sexuality. Thats why it sucks when straight people think being gay is a lifestyle, they are assuming it can changed IF YOU WANT TO, but as a gay man who has been gay since I was a kid I can and HATED himself for being gay and tried to change I can say it ISN'T a lifestyle that I created, it's a situation deep within me that I have to accept. Getting rid of my family was also a choice i had to make because they were SO angry at me for "choosing" to be gay. I couldn't explain it anymore to them so for my own sanity I had to cut them off so I didn't have to hear the nasty things they thought about me anymore. nice you have a relationship with your dad though, nice to see him willing to discuss it, mine never would.
Another great video!!
Glad you enjoyed it!❤️❤️❤️
It's not a lifestyle , it's an identity.
Although it most often is about identity as part of sexual orientation, identity does not always fully align with a person's true sexual orientation. For example a gay or bisexual person might identify as straight at one time and be in such denial about their same sex attraction that they do not identify with it. Attraction is the most accurate representation of a person’s true orientation because identity and behavior can be context-dependent.
Sexual orientation is something that is inborn, biological and it's fixed. There is an entire body of sexual orientation studies showing associated differences in brain function and on prenatal hormonal exposure(like testosterone)..Studies done on countless different animals, as well disorders caused by excessive or deficient production of hormones that can lead the brain to be over or under masculinized. For example Congenital adrenal hyperplasia (CAH) in females caused by an over exposure to testosterone that has masculinized their brains and made the more male-typical in gender traits.
Multiple different animals studies have shown changing the amount of testosterone that an animal is exposed to changes whether they are sexually interested in same-sex or opposite-sex mates and whether they will be more male-typical of female typical in behaviour. In animal homosexuality in females is attributed to an overabundance of male hormones - androgens - in the womb, while male homosexuality results from a lack of these. The only thing they can't do is test these theories on on human fetus because it would of course be unethical.
It's believed that gay men, during some point in fetal life, were exposed to unusually low levels of androgens, which allowed their hypothalamic circuits to develop in a female-typical direction. It's believed genes help set these levels but it's still unsure which genes these are. In general, few major genes have been identified in the field of behavioral genetics; most heritable psychological traits seem to be influenced by multiple genes, each of modest effect. This could well be true for sexual orientation too. If so, different individuals might carry different complements of “gay genes” and thus exhibit different kinds of homosexuality for example some more gender non conforming than others. And single genes might be decisive in some families but play no role in others. Genes are likely involved thought in the pathway by which sex hormones influence their target tissues.
If testosterone levels during a critical prenatal period are high , the brain is organized in such a way that the person is predisposed to become typically masculine in a variety of gendered traits, including sexual attraction to females. If testosterone levels are low during that same time period, the brain is organized in such a way that the person is predisposed to become typically feminine in gendered traits, including sexual attraction to males.
The association between sexual orientation and other gendered traits arises because all these traits differentiate under the influence of a common biological process-the sexual differentiation of the brain under the influence of sex hormones. Whether a person ends up gay or straight depends in large part on how this process of biological differentiation goes forward, with the lead actors being genes, sex hormones and the brain systems that are influenced by them. The organisational effects of hormones on the brain prior to birth have permanent effects. The mind of the average gay individual is a patch work of gendered traits, some indistinguishable from same-sex peers, some shifted past way toward the other sex, and others typical of the other sex.
Gay men and lesbians are gender shifted in a variety of male favoring-visuospatial traits such as mental rotation, targeting, and navigation, as well as female-favouring tasks such as verbal fluency and object location memory. Many of these functions, particularly the spatial skills and the verbal skills reside in different sides of the brain and they call it cerebral asymmetry, the asymmetry in the way the brain is organized. This asymmetry is determined and organized around the middle of pregnancy and these correlate very highly with who you are sexually. Sexual orientation is something that is hardwired before birth.
There is growing evidence for structural and functional differences between the brains of gay and straight people. These involve brain systems that could well be involved in the regulation of sexual attraction to one sex or the other, such as the hypothalamus and amygdala, as well as systems that are unlikely to have any close involvement with sexuality.With regard to the former, the findings are supportive of the idea that prenatal sex hormones control the sexual differentiation of brain centers or networks involved in sexual behaviors, and that this process goes forward differently in individuals who become gay and in those who become straight. The brains of pre-gay male seem to undergo less masculinization, more feminization, or both than those of pre-straight male fetuses, and vice versa for pre-lesbian female fetuses.
Neuroscientific studies have shown that the brains of lesbians are partially masculinized and gay mens partially feminized. Patterns of brain organisation appear similar between gay men and heterosexual women and between lesbian women and heterosexual men. Gay men appear, on average, more “female typical” in brain pattern responses and lesbian women are more “male typical”. Differences in brain organisation mean differences in psychology and study after study show differences in cognition between heterosexual and gay people. Gay mens brains are also structured like those of heterosexual females and lesbians structured similar to heterosexual mens.
For example the sexually dimorphic nucleus in the medial preoptic area, known as the interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus number 3 (INAH3is about half the size in homosexual mens compared with the heterosexual mens, and the same size as females. Same difference found in homosexual male sheep( called the ovine sexually dimorphic nucleus (oSDN) in sheep). This was tested in hormonal lab treated animals like rats called the sexually dimorphic nucleus in the preoptic area (SDN-POA) in rats. There's differences found in several other areas of homosexual mens brain's also.
There is some evidence in humans too-at least in men-that the brain circuitry serving same-sex attraction is actively suppressed in heterosexual individuals.The predominant neurotransmitter used by the neurons of the INAH3 in humans appears to be gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), which generally has an inhibitory action on other neurons Thus it is conceivable that the neurons of INAH3 directly inhibit cell groups elsewhere in the hypothalamus that promote attraction to males showing there are possible biological mechanisms for setting up sexual attraction to one sex that depend primarily on preventing attraction to the other sex.
Sexual orientation may relate to the packing density of neurons in the nucleus. Again animal studies show testosterone promotes the survival of neurons in INAH3. It might develop during a period when the neurons are elaborating their synaptic connections.
The small size of INAH3 in gay men may be because a smaller number of neurons-either because fewer neurons were originally generated or because more neurons underwent programmed cell death.
The differences found between gay and straight people in brain regions that are not obviously concerned with sexuality, such as parts of the cerebral cortex, could be connected with the cognitive differences between these groups, because the brain differences, like the cognitive differences, generally represent shifts toward the other sex, and are further evidence for sex-atypical brain development in gay people.
There are also studies showing correlations between testosterone levels in fetal amniotic fluid and gendered characteristics in childhood. In a small group of boys they also looked for a correlation between fetal testosterone levels and brain anatomy when the boys were 8-11 years old. They found such correlations in the cerebral cortex, where areas that are typically larger in males than females were larger in the boys who had high fetal testosterone levels than in those with lower fetal testosterone. This finding supports the general idea that fetal testosterone levels drive the sexual differentiation of the brain and contribute to anatomical variations within one sex. That or caused by variations in the sensitivity of the hypothalamus to fetal testosterone, rather than by variations in testosterone levels themselves.
You are lucky to have a parent that is supportive.
Yes I am 🙏❤️
This was amazing thank you
I would wish a father like him
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I can see why dad got hit on a lot! 🔥
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Your dad is a very handsome man
Nick, you're lucky to have a great dad. I wasn't lucky with mine but he passed on now.
I truly am and I’m sorry to hear that 😢
I envy (in a good sense) you for having this understanding and loving dad. Mine has never even hugged me throughout my life. I mean he’s so homophobic so that he thinks men must not hug each other 😂
Great session because you and your Dad reached a level of understanding and acceptance. Parental love won the day. The one thing I cringed at was the way the term 'lifestyle' was mentioned, but never defined. Living a certain lifestyle is based upon your chosen preferences. Being gay in not chosen. Being gay is within you and is slowly recognized as you grow up. As a child, you hear people say things, some good mostly bad, about gays and compare what you hear to how you feel. The bad things said create doubt, guilt, depression. You decide to keep your feelings secret due to the fear your parents won't love you anymore. Way too often, teenagers conclude they can't fit in this world and either attempt or actually succeed in ending their own lives; opting out. Others manage to make it to adulthood and find ways to reveal their secret so they can be open about it. Then they can be who they really are. This is a far different human trait that is not chosen. This is far different than a mere chosen lifestyle that one can change on a whim.
I'm surprised you didn't correct your dad on some of his comments. Like, it's not a "lifestyle", it's not a choice, it's your ORIENTATION.
@@DDumbrille ughh i actually did but didn’t feel like going back and forth about it
Give this dad a break. He doesn’t yet know the code you and I know, but he’s fully accepting. That’s what matters. The rest will follow.
I wish my father was like that. I still have shame.
I’m sorry to hear that 😢
Very heartfelt video.... well done Dad! What is the age gap in your relationship and is your partner older than your Dad? Sorry if I have missed this in another video.
No he is not older than my dad ❤️ me and Mike have a 29 year age gap
My partner and I have a 30 yr gap ( 29, 59 ) so lots of similarities…
I apologize for that remark below. It was just a gut response. Have a great day.
Wish I had a real dad.. god love him. 😘
You have a great dad. 👏🏾🕺🏾❤
I really do 🙏❤️
Congrats to your dad. I too have a gay son who I love and I also adore his partner. Being honest is hard. Dad, if you were dating someone 30 years older than 65, it wouldn't be for the sex, lol...
Strange. I said your dad's 🔥
I'm the 100th to like this video.
Im the same age as your father Nick. And im gay. Hes my generation. But he didnt experience what i did back in the 1970s as a teenager dealing with my coming to terms with my sexuality. Its easy being straight. Its acceptable , where as for us gays its hard. Your father is a good man.
I have a hard time getting my family on my channel
I have so much to say....but don't even know where to begin. Very interesting video. I like your father, who wouldn't? I knew he was a Trump supporter before he uttered the words "Fake News"....this is where the real story begins IMO. Don't know what else to say, other than that was a very interesting video to watch and I think you are both great for doing it.
i would like to hear how different this would of gone with a narcissistic father who thought you were just trying to embarrass them and you should just march right back into the closet. your dad did wonderful and i hope his new knee recovery is swift and painless.
This was a good one, my father would have thrown me out. Like you I prefer a partner much older than me. I found myself attracted to men 20 years older than me. Thst is what I attract as well. Young guys have nothing to offer me. I have all the money . I figured because my Father was much older than my mother is why I am this way. Catching up on all your videos
@@kevindockery5182 thanks Kevin ❤️
@@AuthenNick , thank you for being real and transparent. You have helped me.
Pearl should be your therapy dog
Hugs.
How old is Mike, your partner?
Nick, would be nice to see ur bf beside when u interviewing ur Daddy.
Very nice discussion. I have always loved older men...very sexy! Now I am 60 and very confused. Lol 😆
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GREAT interview
The thing your father must know is that you were born this way , sexual orientation is not a lifestyle , otherwise , him being heterosexual could call a lifestyle as well.
Not everybody are born heterosexual. People are born gay , straight , bisexual , pansexual, asexual and people who have gender identity who are trans.
That's the problem with older heterosexual generation, they are not well inform about human sexual orientation. He is a good father , the fact that he is willing to learn and he loves and stang by you.❤️❤️👏
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What does your dad think of the kids?
Thinks there amazing
We are many gays living a normal life. Doing same things as everyone else. Its not a lifestyle its LIFE..
Trust me I know I tried to explain that 🤦♂️
@@AuthenNick I know you did! We love your dad anyway! ♥️ He has a big heart! As dads as well...we love our kids unconditionally..♥️
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Many of us just living really normal boring lives 😀😀.
26 years with my partner.
It’s domestic bliss.
Dull at times , exciting at times…
But normal 🙂
Your daddy also look handsome as your BF.
Have your Daddy ever meet ur bf?
@@noelsmith5760 hahaha of course… multiple times
What is David Lawrence ?
@@thomasd2444 drug rehab
If your Dad is politcally conservative, I wonder what he thinks about the failed former US president with his much younger gold digger type third wife?
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My dad probably knew i was gay but never mentioned it to my face but then again he was an alcoholic
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Sorry to get distracted …..but daddy is really handsome .
Hanging it up at less than 4 minutes. Dad doesn't fit in to my " lifestyle"
@@license2kilttheplaidlad640 that’s cool
Your father looks about the same age as your bf...
@@joez3706 yep he’s 5 years older
Yeah that's weird
@@joez3706 cool 😂
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I'm open for a Age Gap Relation ship with a Gay Fella i'm from Ohio
I’m surprised you put this on TV for everyone to see or RUclips or whatever
I just don’t like the word of life style for being gay. This term bothers and it’s kind of discrimination. What about being called of life style for being straight. Gay is gay, straight is straight, period.
Exactly what I was trying to say
JESUS LOVES EVERYONE❤❤❤❤❤
If dad weren't in a cult (religion), he wouldn't be so confused. Religion is the problem. Sexual orientation is not the problem.
“Lifestyle” is so cringe.
I know 😩
your dad does love you but,for him it's a sin,God has said homosexuality is a sin and for many people they equate this with hate but it's not hate,we as Christians have to follow God's law not mans,love the sinner but not the sin,God is love
You could educate yourself and accept that religion is man-made propaganda. Religion, by definition, is a cult. Most of us are forced into it shortly after birth. Once I learned about evolution in high school, that was enough for me to exit the religion cult.
Religious bigotry is always wrong and embarrassing. Period.
Dad looks gayier than the son.
@@jimmybotelho43 😂😂😂 what does that look like exactly?
@@AuthenNick I should have said camper.
Being gay sucks. ❤️🙏
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