11 Things EVERYONE Should Know About Borderline Personality Disorder
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I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and let me tell you, it's more painful for someone to abandon you than it is for someone to die. And boy does splitting happen to me. A few days ago i became very negative of myself just by hearing a conversation that didn't even have anything to do with me. Splitting also applies to the other person, where one moment you really like them, then something can set you off and you'll hate them.
Jerms Mason wait I hear conversations that aren't about me and feel angry............
Jerms Mason my daughter has bpd, bipolar and schizophrenia. She either loves me or hates me. It's very difficult. She thinks I isolate and abandon her, just because I go about my day, doing my own thing. Like she expects me to know what she has on her mind.
When it comes down to it, it's really sad to see someone with BPD being incapable of seeing that someone's choices don't reflect on the BPD person's self.
Take a deep breath when this happens, and realize that you are in control of your own emotions if you choose to be.
Jerms Mason Same here
So its ok for borderlines to hate ppl.. and split .. this rational for u ppl? Yet if sum1 protects themselves or their kids from your verbal abuse then were unsympathetic cunts! Lol Grow up... fast pls
I have BPD and the splitting idea is so true. It was very hard to hear that as I totally saw it within myself.
Sam S. Same
Sam S. I do too.
same
I had to pause the video and really thing about that. It's so true when you think about it
Same it’s so difficult
Thank you for this video. My best friend has BPD, and it is a CONSTANT struggle in her life. The best thing you can do for someone with BPD is to reassure them that you love them. Just hearing that helps them so much.
A lot of people talk about BPD being super abusive and horrible.
I’m just like “I’m only trying to exist!” So... it’s good to see a video that makes me feel decent. ^^”
So true
A lot of people love to project too though...
@@PhoenixtheII Everyone does that to some extent. Unless you’re somehow an expert in any given person, you just can’t know for sure.
Just be aware of abusive red flags, those are what you need to be worried about.
I live in the UK (Essex) and I am diagnosed with BPD. But here it's called Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder or EUPD. Thanks for the video Kristen!
Eloise Waterfield I believe it's called different things all over the world. Thank you for sharing! :)
Eloise Waterfield I am in the UK too. It has always been referred to as "Borderline Personality Disorder" to me.
(I have also been diagnosed.)
It's unstable personality disorder in Finland too (epävakaa persoonallisuushäiriö). I honestly dont like the word borderline either, it's kinda degrading definition.
Yes, It's called BPD in the UK too. It depends on how the doctor wants to diagnose you. Whatever they call you, it's horrendous. I was diagnosed in 2013.
LikeKristen he's wrong his doctor is probably the only one to name it that. I know people with BPD and the doctors named it as such they may have said its an unstable emotional disorder to explain it but in the UK its official name is BPD.
I'm a recovered borderline. I got the best of both: I struggled with classic, and eventually downgraded to quiet borderline as I matured. I first started displaying symptoms when I was 14 or 15. They were subtle at first, but progressed into the whole thing. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder by multiple psychiatrists, and only received one diagnosis of BPD when I was in the mental hospital. I don't think I'm bipolar, and I can honestly say that I do NOT exhibit symptoms of BPD anymore. It CAN go away, if you get the right treatment for it. It doesn't last forever! I feel all of your struggles! Stay strong, if you want help, you'll get it. If you want to recover, it's possible!
Sam Stephens what treatment did you go through to recover?
Yes please what treatment are you taking ?
Depersonalization is a trip...I have BPD and the feeling of loss of sense of self have me avoiding mirrors.
Goggalor1990 thank you for saying this, I had no idea that other people have also had this problem...mirrors can be scary with depersonalization...
Goggalor1990 DUUUUUDE ME TO I CANT LOOK AT WINDOWS
I'm pretty sure this is what I have but doctors keeps saying it's severe depression ...
XeriaandBaby a lot of doctors will forget about bpd. They'll typically throw out depression or bipolar instead
XeriaandBaby I have bpd and I can't control myself sometimes and I just self harm. I think it's pretty common for people that have this. So if you have that it's a pretty clear sign
Erin Martin how do I get officially diagnosed?
How long have you had severe mental problems and for how long have you been in therapy? If it hasn't been that long, that could explain why doctors are reluctant to diagnose you with bpd. And a lot of doctors don't know very well about bpd. The stereotype that everyone with bpd runs around with a razor blade threatening suicide if they don't get enough attention is still pretty wide spread. Seek out a doctor who actually knows a thing or two about bpd and take the scid test for bpd.
You go to a doctor. The chances are if you've seen more than one (you said 'doctors' as a plural) and they don't think it's BPD, then it probably isn't. BPD is pretty over-diagnosed, despite what an earlier commenter said.
This has been one of the MOST REQUESTED VIDEOS I have had. If you have any other ideas for videos on BPD let me know!
You make me feel better you stopped me from a relapse
realy think i have this bpd 1
I have BPD... Personal experience for me is that CBT was useless and standard counselling was useless too. All it did was tell me how I should think and them telling me the root cause of the illness. To which I was like "tell me something I dont know, how do I fix it?" I'm currently going through Psychotherapy privately as the NHS sucks balls due to our government cutting funding and referrals taking far too long to get to people who need the help and after my referral took 6months to come, my financial circumstances changed so I gave up told myself to "man-up" and went back to work. It's taken me over a decade, a loss of a fiancee and a second partner to move 117miles away for me to get to this point.
You hit the nail on the head that some therapy options work for some and not others. However, with an open mind anything is possible.
Excerpt from source: helpguide.org
There are 9 symptoms for BPD to be diagnosed and you must present 5 of these symptoms (I personally fit all 9)
The 9 symptoms of BPD
Fear of abandonment. People with BPD are often terrified of being abandoned or left alone. Even something as innocuous as a loved one getting home late from work or going away for the weekend can trigger intense fear. This leads to frantic efforts to keep the other person close. You may beg, cling, start fights, jealously track your loved one’s movements, or even physically block the other person from leaving. Unfortunately, this behavior tends to have the opposite effect-driving others away.
Unstable relationships. People with BPD tend to have relationships that are intense and short-lived. You may fall in love quickly, believing each new person is the one who will make you feel whole, only to be quickly disappointed. Your relationships either seem perfect or horrible, with nothing in between. Your lovers, friends, or family members may feel like they have emotional whiplash from your rapid swings between idealization and devaluation, anger, and hate.
Unclear or unstable self-image. When you have BPD, your sense of self is typically unstable. Sometimes you may feel good about yourself, but other times you hate yourself, or even view yourself as evil. You probably don’t have a clear idea of who you are or what you want in life. As a result, you may frequently change jobs, friends, lovers, religion, values, goals, and even sexual identity.
Impulsive, self-destructive behaviors. If you have BPD, you may engage in harmful, sensation-seeking behaviors, especially when you’re upset. You may impulsively spend money you can’t afford, binge eat, drive recklessly, shoplift, engage in risky sex, or overdo it with drugs or alcohol. These risky behaviors may help you feel better in the moment, but they hurt you and those around you over the long-term.
Self-harm. Suicidal behavior and deliberate self-harm is common in people with BPD. Suicidal behavior includes thinking about suicide, making suicidal gestures or threats, or actually carrying out a suicide attempt. Self-harm includes all other attempts to hurt yourself without suicidal intent. Common forms of self-harm include cutting and burning.
Extreme emotional swings. Unstable emotions and moods are common with BPD. One moment, you may feel happy, and the next, despondent. Little things that other people brush off can send you into an emotional tailspin. These mood swings are intense, but they tend to pass fairly quickly (unlike the emotional swings of depression or bipolar disorder), usually lasting just a few minutes or hours.
Chronic feelings of emptiness. People with BPD often talk about feeling empty, as if there’s a hole or a void inside them. At the extreme, you may feel as if you’re “nothing” or “nobody.” This feeling is uncomfortable, so you may try to fill the hole with things like drugs, food, or sex. But nothing feels truly satisfying.
Explosive anger. If you have BPD, you may struggle with intense anger and a short temper. You may also have trouble controlling yourself once the fuse is lit-yelling, throwing things, or becoming completely consumed by rage. It’s important to note that this anger isn’t always directed outwards. You may spend a lot of time being angry at yourself.
Feeling suspicious or out of touch with reality. People with BPD often struggle with paranoia or suspicious thoughts about others’ motives. When under stress, you may even lose touch with reality-an experience known as dissociation. You may feel foggy, spaced out, or as if you’re outside your own body.
Aaron, the GP is your first point of call now. If you feel like you've been fobbed off, get a second opinion. If you truly believe it, you can get the diagnosis you require. From there the options for therapy lay themselves out for you. Psychotherapy, CBT, DBT etc.
Aaron Brown I have also suffered a relationship meltdown all because of the symptoms taking over my life.... it's a pain in the ass
Damn, I feel better and I don't even have BPD. You're such a warm caring person ^^
I have a mild version. I’ve never went to violence but I can go from loving to hating someone over abandonment or get angry over small things
"You're either all good or all bad, they don't remember the good things you've done for them."
Wow, it is amazing to hear someone else say that. I literally had this exact conversation with my boyfriend this morning. Thank you so much for speaking so openly and truthfully about something that has caused so many people way too much pain.
I've got diagnosed with BPD (and depression) just one month ago, but
i've been struggling with that shit for over three years (i'm 17). Right now i am
just very thankful and kinda glad that you made this video, Kristen.
Just because you say so many helpfull and true things, it turns out to be another video of
yours that gives me hope
I'm too worried to ask my parents to get me tested for mental disorders.
Black Diamond have you tried approaching your school counselor/therapist? Or another adult you trust?
Black Diamond same, they think im seeking attendtion
Black Diamond well your health is more important than their opinions. So you should go to your GP.
Connor McCracken me too because I feel like I have a lot of things... And schizophrenia but they think that's "too serious" for me to have
Me too. They won't listen to me. Plus I accidentally mistook BPD for Aspergers. I finally know what could be wrong with me but there's no one to help me.
I have severe BPD but I've never had a traumatic experience or bad childhood. I'm just a mystery
samantha atterberry same i was just alone a lot
have you talked through your narrative in therapy? i've had no significant traumatic experiences and i have a great relationship with my fam but being consistently low key bullied and looked down on in school made me this way
because it could be genetic too
because it could be genetic too
Same with me
This video made me so happy to watch. I often find videos on bpd make us with the illness seem like horrible people who are manipulative on purpose and choose to have these intense emotions, which is most certainly not the case. You did this video in a very sensitive and wonderful way. Thank you so much Kristen ❤️❤️
I'm glad you made this video, I didn't know what this was until now! Thanks Kristen!
I really love and admire how you don't go so all out on people who think htey have a mental illness. I've been thinking that i have BPD for multiple weeks now and wherever i go, whatever article or youtube video, they all say that self-diagnosing is bad and if you dont see a therapist who can diagnose you, you dont have it.
I remember a year ago when i looked up a video about anxiety and i realized i had it and peopkle started yelling at me saying im a self-diagnosing special-snowflake and I thank you so much for not being like that.
Thanks so much for this video. I got diagnosed with BPD a year and a half ago and it's always helpful to hear it discussed in a calm and unbiased way. I'm always looking for simple ways to describe it to others and this will be a great video to send to people! Thanks for ALL your videos.
notif squad! mostly cause i have bpd too. ty for this
The way you speak in this video just makes me feel so much better, like I’m gonna be ok. Thank you for that 🙂
Thank you for this video!! You’re so warm, non judgmental and reassuring
Thank you for making videos like this one! I lost someone who I thought I'd spend my life with because of it years ago. I hate that some people have to suffer from these things.
Thank you for making this. This morning I was finally diagnosed with BPD after being treated for Bipolar Disorder for 4 years. I have nothing but videos for research and after so long I finally feel like I understand myself
thank you... so much... ive waited so long for you to do a video on the disorder i have... this makes me so Happy
Such a compassionate and educational perspective. Love your channel. Thank you for sharing.
I cried watching your video. I have BPD and have been struggling very hard these past two years. I took my medications, I went to therapies and it does help a little bit. Your video gave me hope.
It's crazy to see you come up in my recommended videos. I've been diagnosed for awhile, and you did a pretty great job at explaining it. Keep it up Kristen 😁👍
I have been waiting for this video for so long. It did not disappoint💜
This is one of the best videos about BPD I've ever seen - and I have seen a lot, because I have BPD and I try to inform myself. Thank you so much! It is so nice that someone doesn't think of people with borderline as monsters, for a change. To everyone reading this who struggles with BPD: It's okay. It's gonna get better. I know it's hard to believe, but I've been through it and it does get better. Stay strong ♡
Thankyou so much for making this video. As someone who is incredibly effected by this illness, I struggle with it everyday, the symptoms are so strong. Making it hard for me to have relationships with people. Thank god I found someone that loves me and doesn't see me as just a illness. I hope more people learn about it
My husband has BPD for me his amazing person i love him so much ❤
Rosemarie Cooksey yesss!! People with BPD can be the most loving people ever
Yeah but sometime they can be pretty hard to deal with....
Its also known as EUPD- Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, I'm Diagnosed with BPD and have been for little over a year, my psychiatrist refuses to use the name Borderline, so he goes off on one about how he prefers Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder because it fits in with the diagnostic criteria better than borderline. I know quite a lot about this topic. Awesome video Kristen!
I love your channel Kristen your doing a great job raising awareness for mental health love you so much
Thanks so much for sharing, such a very informative and well done video on BPD. Big hugs and lots of love and light 💓😊
I really love how this is pure information. Super great video!
Having BPD myself i would like to thank you for shining a light an BPD itself ... soooo many people dont understand at times so thank you
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR FILMING AND POSTING THIS VIDEO!!!!!!!!
Thanks for this amazing video, Kristen! One of my best friends was previously diagnosed as Bipolar, but now the doctor and therapist are considering changing the diagnose to BPD and I'm honestly so lost. This video helped me a lot with beginning to understand it. Thank you!
Great job lady! You are so strong and brave. I hope to help others on my channel with my experiences on bpd. Keep it up!
Great video! If you have BPD there is hope! Hang in there. There ARE people who understand and who want to help. ❤
What a great video and amazing girl. You discribed it so perfectly and explained so clearly. Just loved it. Congrats ❤️❤️
This video introduced me to BPD and caused me to talk about my symptoms with a professional. Few months later i’ve been diagnosed and though it’s not necessarily good to have i’m glad to know we know what it is and I can get the right treatment. Thanks Kristen!!
My child has suffered with this since 14. Our family has been through the ringer. Thank you for this video. It brought me to tears of relief.
Kristen, I am SO happy you did this video. SO many videos about people with BPD on RUclips are about how they're "manipulative/dangerous/undeserving of love" and it made me afraid for my friends with BPD because of the stigma around it. No one talks about it with ACTUAL facts, and only spew hate, so really, THANK YOU for talking about it in a positive (or just, non-hating) light.
What's really frustrating is not knowing what you have. I have anxiety and depression but we are starting to think maybe bipolar? Codependent? Borderline? Just anxious? Who knows! And that's super frustrating
Gracie V preach!
I have EUPD. Ive been trying to get help for 3 years and i have got nowhere. Ive told people close to me i am going to give up. Ive litterally tried everything possible to get help and get myself better. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy
I was just diagnoised with BPD i see myself on the quiet side of the spectrum but once in a while it goes to the other side. Ive been dealing with my emotions so much it took a toll on my life. But now i am getting help and support for it and i support anyone with it. Its not fun feeling like you are gonna be abandoned..
I’ve cried so much because I have every single symptom mentioned and it is something I have experienced, done myself, or to others, and I’m relieved to find out it’s something others struggle with as well. I can put a name on it, I thought I was just crazy. Thank you for this video.
Thank you so much for making this video! I love your outfit btw ❤️
omg this video helps me so much. I will probably watch this over and over again
Excellent description. Thank you so much.
I was diagnosed with BPD a few years ago and ever since the diagnosis, I've been doing research on it and finding better ways of coping. It really helps to know your illness so you can find the best way to deal with it.
Thanks for wonderful description of the illness. It is much more understandable. Particularly splitting concept.
Perhaps this will empower me take control of my situation.
Hey Kristen. You are absolutely amazing. I never ever ever ever comment on videos but you are amazing. I'm male and when I suggested that I had BPD i got accused of just being paranoid and was instantly told that men almost never have BPD and then immediately dismissed. Thank you for everything
Thank you for this video I have BPD this video helped realise I'm not the only person out there keep up the good work 😉
I’ve just been diagnosed today thankyou so much for makeing this video
For only 6 minutes, you summed bpd up in a way I could never attempt. Bpd is so hard to live with, I write this while dealing with a mental breakdown. I appreciate this video so much, thank you.
Great video, I love it. People, please, we are not monsters. Of the dozends of people with BPD maybe 2 people have been the aggressive type and pretty much had to leave after a few days due to their behaviour. I guss those are the types that end up in the forensic ward.
I did DBT twice and sadly the skills didn't help at all. What improved is my understanding of why I'm feeling that way, why I'm splitting and that it's not good; I can actually actively work against it. Still, in a crisis NOTHING can stop me and I'm glad I can go to a clinic nearby for short stationary stays.
Thanks for the encouragement!
I have figured soon enough how pointless it is to try to explain my condition to friends and family and people in general. They can only relate from their level of perception, judging from their criteria, clearly surpassed by the problem. It only leads to more despair and incomprehension.
So far there is only two types of people who can understand: specialists who understand in theory, and other borderlines who understand in practice; but still, other borderlines are often less severe cases than I am, being capable to have a job, being engaged, etc., which I am absolutely incapable of (so far).
Your advice about seeking help is the best!
I have bpd and I learnt to control it and live my life peacefully with emdr therapy.. Now, most of the time I'm happy and healthy and the crisis are minimum.. ❤️ there is hope and joy for all
I have BPD and I just wanted to hear someone talk about it so I don't feel so alone, so thank you
Thank you. I´m glad people make videos about BPD because it´s one of the most mistunderstanded mental ilnesses. I was diagnosed two years ago, but I had many mental issues even before that. I have spent three months in mental hospital, went to the therapy and took medication. I still have to fight with all my strenght with myself to not start to destroying myself as I used to. It´s hard thing to live with and sometimes it´s way harder for people around me, which makes me feel like I should have never been born. But I learnt to cope with it and don´t think about every single mistake I do. This disorder makes you think that everybody leave you now or later even if it´s family. I´ts constant fear of abandonment which drive you crazy together with anxiety, mental breakdowns, feelings of emptiness, loneliness and identity crisis. BPD is like mysterious box of mental issues...never know what will you get today.
Teri Pisklakova many ppl have cured themselves . You're suffering from CPTSD . I can give you some books to read and they will really help you. I wish you all well
I just read what CPTSD is and I really can agree. It´s kind of scary how similar to BPD it is...Maybe Iˇll try to ask my doctor about that, but I don´t want to look like I have problem with his methods. If you can recommend me some books it would be great. Thank you very much.
Teri Pisklakova hiya Pete Walker CPTSD from surviving to thriving. People get misdiagnosed with dpd. Gps don't really know too much . Look on RUclips . I will be happy to help you . I wish you well and l promise you, deal with your inner trauma and you can fully recover, no matter what people tell you xx
Sorry , l meant Bpd
Thanks for making this video, Kristen. You seem like such a lovely, insightful young woman.
I wish you the best. :)
Thank you for being who you are.
Excellent video - very informative!
My boyfriend has BPD and I never truly understood it but I've been doing alot of research and what I have learned is that whenever he lashes out or when he is going through mood changes that I just comfort him and tell him it's not his fault thank you for making videos like this
you are a beautiful person! thank you for explaining bpd the right way!
Omg, your gap is so adorable.😍. And this video is on point.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE PAST 3 MONTHS IVE BEEN WONDERING WHY I DONT HAVE A TRUE PERSONALITY MY SEARCH IS FREAKING OVER THANK YOU THANK YOU
Hard to admit that I think this accurately describes me, but I know its the first step to getting better! Thanks for this video :)
You're so sweet! Thanks for doing a video on people like me.
My therapist thinks I have BPD and it's so overwhelming and I can't help but to feel lost within the disorder. But god this video makes me feel better! I was also misdiagnosed twice with Bipolar and Depression.. but yeah great video! Helpful for sure
I'm 16 and I live in Canada where u can't normally be dignoised until you are 18 with bpd but in my case of how serious of a case I am, I was dignoised at 13 a lot of my life has been told I'm different and not ok or I'm sick in the head...I thought finally being dignoised with it would help me but it's made it worse...idk how to handle it I've been in therapy for 8 years and I'm so done with the pills, and tests..and Therapy..I have over 20 things that I've been now dignoised with and have to take 10 pills a day yet there make me feel just numb and sick...but watching your videos helps me understand more thank you
ash tray I am from Canada & I have bpd too you are not alone 💗
you're so pretty and calming me. thx for make me understand
i’ve been diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder but i’ve done a lot of research and i never felt like that was correct or like i really fit the symptoms. i didn’t know anything about this disorder but it almost verbatim describes what i’ve been feeling and i’m so relieved. thank you.
This helped. Thank you so much 💗
I do often find myself splitting people, yet i don't "forget the good things" people have done for me. and often later on i will rethink the situation or give someone the benefit of the doubt. But initially splitting ppl and even myself is something i do a lot. I am not diagnosed with this, but i have a suspicion i have it. But i feel like some symptoms have such rigid rules set in place that i feel like if i don't 100% agree with everything then i must not have it. So can u still have bpd if you split ppl but later on rethink it and realize the people are just human? or do you simply not have any control over it and are incapable of giving ppl the benefit of the doubt?
Ashley Thomas in my experience people with bpd "split back" or think rationally again later so that wouldn't be something to rule people out. If splitting is your only symptom then you probably do not have bpd as splitting is just a coping mechanism that anyone can have.
I don’t actually think that people are “all bad” or “all good” when I “split” either, but I think that because I get so angry / upset with them, it comes off that way. ❤️
Hindsight is 20/20. That's still BPD. If you can't see the grey area in the moment due to your own emotional volatility, that's still looking at the world through a black and white lens, and is likely BPD.
For someone with this disorder, you will literally be their worst enemy one moment, and their best friend the next. They can rationalize "the benefit of the doubt" and "both good and bad traits" - but they can't act on their rational decisions, it's all emotive.
A more normal person can give someone they hate the benefit if the doubt if they so choose, or stop talking to someone they like because they realize they're a sociopath.
I've noticed BPDs often hang around sociopaths, because of how they choose to portray themselves is appealing. A BPD can rationalize that this is manipulative, but because they are giving off emotionally positive "vibes", will often continue to interact with them.
When i split it lasts until that person does somehing nice to me or, if i reacted really impulsively, i split back after i calm down or if for some reason something nice happened to me so i suddenly see everything as great
same in some aspects
Extremely educational. I was taking notes thanks you
I've been waiting for this video for a long time, so I'm happy you made it. However, I need to let you know that BPD can't be "recovered" from. It stays there /forever/. I know this because A.) I have it B.) I've researched it and C.) My psychaitrist, counselor, and psychology teachers all have told me this. I can learn how to regulate my over reactive behavior and try to correct myself when things start to go not in a good way. You can learn how to avoid triggers and explain to people how you are so they know what to do and what not to do, but there absolutely is no "it'll go away" type of recovery.
Jesus this is so relatable to my life I'm basically crying... I've known for a few weeks I have bpd and it's still hard to cope with. I didn't know that the good or bad thing I do you called splitting was something related to bpd. I'm still trying to wrap my head around it in relation to my past but I can say looking at the symptoms online, since I'm too broke to go get help, that my dad had this too and my sister has it.
I think that I might have this and I've never been able to describe it before. I'm going to ask my therapist about what she thinks next week. Thanks for all of your support Kristen!
Thanks for supporting
I have a bpd, I live in the uk and it's sometimes called emotional intensity disorder. I was misdiagnosed originally as bipolar before being diagnosed as bpd.I often get amnesia and inappropriate anger! XxGreat video xx
I split, though, and I don't quite have BPD - I feel it's pretty normal for human beings to judge anyone based on something bad they have done if they can't see the full picture of what that is, even if they have known that person for a long time. For instance, my BPD partner has done so much good for my life, and I paint them as someone I trust and love unconditionally... then I have a negative feeling or they do something that to me in one moment (without knowing the full picture) seems negative, so I start associating them as completely negative and decieving but when I take myself away from that state of mind and chillax, I start to remember all the positive things they have done and see them positively. I think this is normal, but it can be accentuated when you put a highly sensitive and insecure person next to a detached and insensitive person. Any normal person can shift their perspective on a situation and paint it either good or bad - people rarely paint things 50/50, it's a biological defense mechanism. You either find something good for you and you stay with it or bad for you and you get rid of it. A non BPD person can suddenly shift perspectives on how their BPD partner is treating them - one minute they can believe the BPD partner is okay and can be tolerated because they love them, the next they can believe they are being trapped... same basic principle.
When I got diagnosed with BPD, I was like "ok.. but I don't understand what that means" and a prt of me still doesn't lol but videos like these help! Thank you for making this video!
Thanks for the info, learned some new things about the disorder. My therapist was thinking I was either bipolar or I had BPD. I do know that I have Severe OCD. Mental illness can be really hard to pinpoint, don’t feel discouraged if your treatment seems to be taking a long time because I felt and still feel the same way. Some things are worth waiting for. Hang in there. I’ll try to practice what I preach as well.
wow, I've never thought that such video could make me cry
but it did and probably thanks to you I will reach out for help
I've recently been diagnosed as Borderline and this was really helpful and insightful. Thank you :)
Fantastic video, very helpful! Thank you for it :-)
I’m currently talking to my doctor because she thinks that since my mom has bipolar disorder, she assumed was the same. I may be bipolar also but I definitely have different issues such as the splitting and the anger that is always just under the surface. I’m so grateful for all these videos that helps me understand what I’m feeling. You don’t even know...
Thank you!! Very helpful for myself understanding
I may have BPD. Your video was very helpful. Thank you
Your videos are great, but a quick tip (if you feel like it) would be to look at the camera (or some part of the camera if staring at the lens gets awkward) when you're reading from an outside resource. You could memorize your script in short bursts and then edit the clips together. Great work, but if you ever feel like putting a bit of polish on your content, I hope this is a useful pointer (maybe?).
this was a really good video. thank you
In the UK, the mental health services has stopped diagnosing BPD as that name. I think (I may be wrong) it is now called neurotic emotional regulation disorder or something like that. Btw, I got this info from my mum who works with people to help diagnose mental disorders. Also, the UK wants to increase the diagnostic criteria for autism, so only people with very severe symptoms can get diagnosed. They have already stopped diagnosing aspergers. It's mad...
K Bowler Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Emily Gopher Eh do I know you?
Emily Gopher ...No...?
Apparently autism and Asperger's are diagnosed in the same category named 'ASD'
Unknown Person yeah, they are, Autism Spectrum Disorder
I believe for years I was misdiagnosed with Depression and Anxiety. Only recently, now im coping at my best, it was suggested. Eureka moment!! 💡
You hit the nail on the head. I have BOARDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BI-POLAR, POST TRAUMATIC DISORDER.
I am not diagnosed with BPD, but I have a suspicion I have it, ever since I remember I´ve always been very very emotional & impulsive, although this used to be awesome when I was a kid, right know is very frustrating, also I tent to sabotage myself a lot, even family relations I’ll always end up ruining them, but I HATE to be lonely & it’s always a challenge for me because I don’t want to be hurt & I always feel I’m not good enough, or I have this feeling everyone will end up leaving so I close completely.
I’m also angry almost all the time, I’ve learn how to hid it but the feeling is always there, my coping mechanism is crying, literally, I’ll watch sad heartbreaking movies just to free a little bit of the pressure.
When you talk about Splitting I related so much, because for me if you do one ‘’bad’’ thing to me, then I’ll cut you out of my life, yet when I really care about someone they can hurt be over and over again & I will always forgive them, but every time I do that I feel like I’m losing a part of me, I don’t know if that makes sense?
Again I have no idea if I have BDP or I’m just weird, but the more I read about it I feel like now I have an explanation for certain things I do, think or feel, I’ve also read that people who had been bullyed or lived traumatic experiences could have it. but who knows maybe I'm wrong. Sorry for the long post
Love your videos Kris.💜
After 5 years since being diagnosed and 3 years of treatment with dbt and medication I am living a stable and manageable life with my bpd.