When you're a 30 year old woman and your baby-daddy calls to tell you he just knocked up a teenager and she's going to be your kids new step-mom and now the internet is going to light you up for not having been super chill about it.
Dates a 19 year old at 30 with two previous baby mothers, critiques her cooking and the only thing his current partner would change in the bedroom is...needing more of his participation in parenting so she isn't so exhausted? Whew chile. Y'all know you don't have to keep choosing these kinds of men, right?
And his critique of his ex being that she needs to chill and be patient in her parenting like…of course parenting is chill and easy if you barely do it
The fact more people aren't pointing out that she was 19 and he's like 30 and she was his third baby mama is insane. There was a wifeswap episode just like this
So? She's a legal adult to make her own choice. Do you keep that same energy for young women who prefer dating older men, because they typically are more stable, have money, house, security, and maturity? Asking for a friend.
@@OnizenArt ofcourse. Women do it all the f time. Most women actually don’t date younger men. It’s only the men who like to f little girls. All men creeps who would go lower if it’s llegal. It is llegal fir 18 but most women still don’t marry boys who are 18. 😂adult, comparing 30 to 18. You people need therapy
He's the kind of person that is a completely absent parent and then when the co parent is stressed and overworked and can't take it anymore he calls them crazy and knocks someone up instead. The number of times his ex calls herself crazy is so sad.
The way this man has created a low demand harem for himself to raise and care for his offspring is so unbelievable. How do these women not see what he's done to them?
"When he told me he is bringing a 19 year old home...I nearly had aneurysm." I mean Jared is the person with the massive red flag in the video. Also, she was basically fresh out of high school and a teenage. And he was 30 with baby mothers. [Btw, I don't think legality dictates morality here].
@@vivminecl747 In terms of power dynamics, shouldn't you be asking the 30+ year old adult, and not the teenage? Considering our brain completely matures at 25.
I wouldn’t advise a young person to get into this situation ever, but I also wouldn’t advise her to abandon her son. It seems like there’s a supportive circle for everyone in the blended family.
What a disgusting man. Getting with a 19 year old as a 30 year old is not only unethical but ALSO judging her cooking skills?? SHES A KID. AND he’s making her a stepmother AND a mother. I hate this and it should not be normalized.
1:24 it sounds like one of the kids is his fiancée's, aka his stepkid. So 1 kid with a woman who he broke up with after and 1 with his new partner. Doesn't seem that strange to me.
When I was 21, a 25 year old guy with 3 kids from 2 different women had a huge crush on me and tried dating. Complained they were all crazy, yeah, didn’t even go on one date and turned him down twice. Sorry, but no thanks. I had literally just got out of college and was only just legally able able to even drink.
Not only that he impregnated a 19-year-old teenager, made her a mother, and expected somebody half grow daughter to a be chef lol. He is nasty and it looks like she is not going to his last baby mama either.
So basically, this dude impregnated 3 women and one of them was 19 years old and he is 30 which was very creepy imo. The dude is the perfect example of why instead of an abortion ban they should focus more on vasectomy because they are breaking up creating fatherless homes and targeting teenagers lol
Maybe educate women on what kind of men not to go after at such a young age. It's weird for a 30yo man to like an adult, but it's not weird when a younger woman likes a older guy?
@@talkingtochapri exactlyy because if we did that, we wouldn’t have to tell women to not go after guys like that bc, well, there would be no guys like that!! problem solved lmao
@@vivminecl747 it’s because what’s weird is the difference in life experience. A 30 year old is a lot more mature. It’s a one way street. It would be creepy for a 30 year old woman and a 19yr boy too tho. That’s the actual equivalent situation
@@talkingtochapri women initiate 90% of divorces and are the reasons there are fatherless homes, maybe tell women not to get bored so easily? Cmon you have to open your eyes to both sides of the argument here.
As someone who dated a 30-year-old guy when I was just 19, this honestly gives me major red flags. I'm almost 30 now and can confidently say that dating a teenager when you're in your 30s is not okay at all. I know they're both adults and technically legal, but as someone who experienced this, there's always a reason why an older guy can only find teenagers to date them. I was used and abused because, as a teen, you simply don't know any better. These people shape your mind to what they want, and it never ends well. I wish Riley all the best and hope that these things do not end up happening to her.
I can relate. I was 19 dating a 38 year old. Didn’t end well. Horrible situation. Age gap relationships when dating a teenager says a lot about the older person dating someone so young when they can’t find someone of age. Just gross and major flags
@@shaharyar4093 women are always told growing up that we're more mature than the guys our age, young women/teenage girls always crave feeling like adults and being with an older man does that for them. they think this way BECAUSE they're immature but they get this "i'm so grown" mentality when they're with adult men as barely legal young women. idk if i wrote that in a way that makes sense, but that's how i see it
@@Beanskiiii You know, it's more telling about yourself than anyone else when you think a relationship with someone closer to your kid's age than your own is "good".
@@unlitrash But you’re right, that could be a red flag too. It almost seems like he drops his partners ones they‘re not young/pretty anymore (to him!) or if they’re too stressed out because of their kids…
Yeah, 30 year old dating a teenager who has her do all the work with his 3 kids then criticizes her cooking skills on RUclips. If she starts resenting it and stops doing the labour she's getting dropped and replaced with the next one who will.
The 2 women seem to be really good people because co parenting can be very hard but they manage to try even with the bad first impression and it's look like it's working...they did put their children first and that's something to salute ❤
It's so refreshing! For me growing up, my parents never coparented. I think only in the last LESS than 5 years, have parents actually wanted to get along lol
@@corablah9809 especially if the parents separation or divorce was ugly, resentment can makes it very difficult and I can understand that but that's also why parents and step parents that find a way to makes it work should be praised unless one of them is a danger for the others
why are we glossing over the fact that homegirl was 19? I feel like we moved past that too quickly. Also I'm obsessed with the two women getting along now and that making him visibly uncomfy ngl
i'm not down with the "she's 19, she's an adult!!!" comments bc a person does not have to be underage to be preyed upon and there is a definite power imbalance between a teenager and a man in his 30s
@@PROVOCATEURSKand in those time women were married younger than 19.. in a lot of culture and religion marrying a young girl as young as 8 was considered to be just fine so what's the point?
You just disproved your comment, 'somebody does not have to be underage to be preyed upon' so if any age can be preyed upon even up to 30, then whats the difference at 19?
Sucks that they have kids together. They can distance themselves, but if they want to be involved in their kids lives, they’ll have to deal with this dude
I think that was cut just editing a scene of one of his reaction throughout the whole dialogue and not his actual reaction to that specific moment. Cut is notorious fir doing that. I do think the sequence of events were funny though
I’m sure there are reasons why Riley chose to be in this situation, and she probably feels that she has every right to make those choices. However, when she is older and has some more life experience, she may look at the situation differently. Most people have been there, when you are younger but you feel like you’re an adult and you know everything. She definitely seems emotionally intelligent and mature for sure. However, she describes a situation where she is the main or perhaps only one taking care of dinner and getting the kids set up for dinner, and that sounds like an unbalanced relationship. And his dig about her cooking. Perhaps he can cook sometimes and also take on some of the childcare so that she can take a cooking class/watch some RUclips tutorials/etc. Instead he insults her and plays it off like a joke. No one deserves that kind of treatment.
Yep, her brain isn't going to be fully developed until her mid 20s. Meanwhile this guy was done developing and knew better. These women need to team up and cut this disgusting POS out.
Yah but to be fair, maybe he is working 80 hrs a week or something to ensure everyone is taken care of financially. (Hypothetical ofc I don’t know the guy) but if that’s the case then I don’t see the big deal
The joke really wasn’t that serious. He prolly works a lot too. If she that emotionally intelligent I don’t think she would have chosen to be with a 30 year old who isn’t financially sound
Sort of the problem with doing videos like this is the lack of context. Dude made a joke about her cooking and it’s seen as he’s never cooking for her lol.
i love that they’re very brutally honest with each other without making each other feel bad. it’s very nice to see a relationship comfortable enough to talk like this.
@@vivminecl747 when did OP say that this was a gender specific issue? Any woman who did get pregnant, even if they were too being careless with not using protection, and the father of that child is not present, that woman can still be annoyed and blame that man for not being a father. If they're not taking responsibility for getting pregnant, that's one thing, but being a deadbeat and nonexistent parent is still worthy of being ridiculed over. Wtf.
he gives the vibe of “im a chill cool dad who never disciplines the kids so mom always has to which villainizes her in their eyes and drives her insane”
Us men keep calling out your bad decisions and you always call us jealous, incels and losers because of it. Then we inevitably end up being right, because we know men better than you
@@ileutur6863 don’t say this dumb corny shit ever again 😭 you think this but in reality all you do is generalize all women but cry when women do it to men
Well Riley was fresh out of high school. Teenagers are easy to prey on so clearly that's how he got her. There's probably a reason he targeted her. It was definitely in part due to her age. She wouldn't know better.
His face when the ex said “in your book” 😂 Boy why are you mad, she’s trying to make it clear that she’s not into you like that for the sake of your fiancé, who clearly loves and appreciates you
If you are 30 years old and you want to date a 19 year old - Yes, a legal adult, but a TEENAGER - you’re weird. That’s weird. I’m not even 30 years old yet but I would never even CONSIDER dating a teenager. Their brains aren’t fully developed yet, meanwhile this guy is a fully grown man with a multiple baby mamas, kids, and a career… Just weird.
Most kids are smarter and more educated than their parents or grandparents. Are you saying that 19 year old women can´t be smarter and more mature than a man?
@@PROVOCATEURSK as a 19 year old, i feel that i’m more mature and smarter than my own 40 year old dad, but would i date somebody his age? hell no that is a full grown adult and i’m a TEEN, just because i’m a legal adult doesn’t take away from the fact that my brain is nowhere near fully developed. you’re being so dense in the comments please use your brain properly
@@PROVOCATEURSK "Most kids are smarter and more educated than their parents or grandparents." This is a lie. How would you even measure this? "Are you saying that 19 year old women can´t be smarter and more mature than a man?" Smarter? Yeah. More mature? Unlikely. Wanting to date someone that young at 30 probably means you're immature. And don't make it about gender, when it's clearly about age. You're shoe horning in a distraction.
@@PROVOCATEURSK stop gaslighting people. Teenagers don't have the maturity to date adult men, and 30 year olds that go after barely legal teens are predators.
At the high school graduation. Probably at the school dropping her siblings off, trying to help her mom out. The usual spots smdh. Just thinking of my experience between the ages of 17-19 years old when 30 and 40 year old men tried their best to convince me that having a life with them would've been fabulous lol thank GOD I turned them down and got with someone my age 😂
the audacity of this man to go on the internet, air out the fact that he brought a 19 year old home to his ex wife (meaning he probably met her when she was 18 or less) and think for a second that he'll be able to go about his life without everyone he knows judging him and calling him a dirtbag is beyond me.
@@violet9777 Then she should have clarrified it with thinking she thought it was mutural. Not saying it WAS mutural. Words in context make a difference.
Also Jared has 3 different baby mothers, he's the problem. And she had every right to react the way she did. Imagine your ex bringing a teenager as his new girlfriend when y'all are in your 30s
4:22 NO ! you need a competent partner who will help you with the duties of the household. NOT "to sit in the shower." I'm so sorry she's going through this, and the ex just nodding along like "yea I agree with that." there's no way women are expected to be everything to everyone. this is insane.
I know a girl who was 19 when she got pregnant with a guy who was 36 at the time. They are still together as if right now and it's really freakin weird knowing that her boyfriend only met her because he was a friend of her dad. What makes things even worse is that her boyfriend used to babysit her when she was a toddler and when she fell pregnant posted this on his Facebook, "Can't believe i used to babysit the love of my life who knew that i would be having a kid with her after all these years of knowing her" Like CREEPY OR WHAT
Oh my gosh, that is a whole new level CREEP...I don't know, gender equality and all but I could never ever let a grown man babysit my kid, especially a daughter. Eww
He is the problem in all of this! He will leave the stepmom at some point, and he is most likely already cheating on her. The arrogance on his face, ugh!
When I was 15 I was in a relationship with a 20 year old guy. I thought it's not a big deal, plus I was "mature" for my age. I'm turning 20 in summer, so I'm still 19 as of now, but I would never date anybody under 18, much less a 15 year old... It's an incredibly repulsive thought and I feel weird even just *talking* to anybody under 18 as friends alone. I think this is going to be the same situation. When she'll be 30 she'll look back and see how disgusted she feels at the thought of dating someone who's only 19.
I like how they’ve seemed to really be dedicated to working through things; they seem genuinely friendly to one another and I’m sure having a mom friend as a new mom is so nice. Side-eye that man though.
Ya im not gonna lie. There’s a lot of comments favouring the stepmom but i actually feel worst for the mom and am proud of her for goin thru this shit. Riley does not seem like she genuinely respects the mom
Once I hit 25 I stopped dating people younger.. I'm 30 now and could NEVER imagine dating a 19 year old. My husband and I poke little jokes at each other because he's 28 and pretend like that's a huge gap (we know it's not, we just have fun with it) but a 19 year old?! Mmm.. yeah.. no thanks. Nine-TEEN. It's just weird to me, personally. Also.. in general.. he does not pass the vibe check.
i first saw this on snapchat and only 20 seconds in (including 3 ads) i immediately had to search the full story on youtube and thank GOD everyone sees how absurdly creepy this dude seems, especially with him telling ex wife to “slow down” with his daughter while actively pursuing a relationship with a 19 year old and raising children with her 💀
Man I came immediately from Snapchat because my jaw dropped when she said she’s 19 ?? I needed to see the comments, I’m wishing the best for these two women
I know we don't know everything about these people and their situation. But i'd just like to point out a few things that i couldn't help but notice, and its bothering me: 1) the stepmom does appears nice, but i think the mom is too. she's just painted in a bad way because the situation may have not shown the best of her (hard breakup it seems), and the stepmom is nice in a way that is very apparent /performative (not saying she’s faking it). i think the mom is authentic. so yeah i was just saying so that the comments don't just focus on how the stepmom is great, implying the mom is not/less. 2) i could feel some futile words said by he stepmom which kinda felt mean?: the rating that was absolutely unnecessary, wanting to elaborate on the sexlife (even though she pointed out how the father was failing to understand her being tired after taking charge of things and not talked about the sex itself) when the mom told her to just take a shot, and idk even pointing out the mom was older? I MIGHT BE TOTALLY WRONG I'M NOT SURE BUT I'M INTERESTED IN YOUR THOUGHTS BECAUSE ITS INTERESTING TO ANALYZE INTERACTIONS. 3) what i'm sure about is how the father is the prototype of a man who doesn't take mental load in his family. sir it's easy to be calm and collected like you are when apparently you're not the one taking care of cooking, the preparation of the evening etc (based on what his fiancée said). It even seems to me (i could be wrong obviously) like the mom and the stepmom took care of good and healthy communication rather than him making sure that the two could work together etc (once again, mental load being put on women, i cannot go deep into the details in a youtube comment but i encourage you all to learn and know about mental load put on woman in relations and family. once you know and are conscious about this, it's very easy to notice it...).The two women maybe can't stand eachother but they seems so much mature and contributing to the family. 4) common we cannot ignore the fact that another older man likes to goes towards younger women, i have nothing to say about it since it's just so another typical male comportment that is pretty fucked up.
He’s a whole red flag, make that 50 red flags with bright red paint drenching them. 30 dating a 19 yr old, 3 baby mamas, putting the blonde baby mama in this situation and trying to set her up to look bad, everything. The 19 year old acts like she’s older and wiser than the appropriately aged woman. The appropriately aged woman was basically forced to hold back everything the thought because she knew they were gonna try to make her look bad. Honestly, I could never even imagine at my age right now, 22, coming in and being a stepmom and literally plowing into the real mom immediately like this. The blonde lady had every right to go crazy. I want to give her a hug.
@@PROVOCATEURSK who's talking about the tattoos? She * seems * nice and mature, based on the way she thinks and communicates in the video. Seems and Looks are different
This triggered me. The way he insulted his exes personality and didn’t say anything personal about his girlfriend. I couldn’t even get through the whole video 😭😭😭😭
3 sons by 3 different women 🚩 30 year old who impregnated at teenager 🚩 Doesn't help with chores or child care 🚩 Minimizes his partners' feelings 🚩 Tried to degrade his ex and partner on camera multiple times 🚩 Needs to be encouraged to spend time with his children 🚩🚩🚩🚩
I’m glad to see everyone is on the same page. As soon as I heard 19 🤨 I raised an eyebrow and tuned out a little. Plus him criticizing her cooking skills‼️😵💫
I wish Jared wouldn't interrupt so much. He's giving me bad vibes, not to mention that having three baby mamas, as well as having a kid with a 19 year old when you're 30 are HUGE red flags
Telling women to rate eachothers attractiveness is so dumb. All they will do is politicize it like the step mom did. She comes off as “nice” but she’s like oh you’re a 9.5 but then you’re a seven bc you’re a b**ch is basically what she’s saying. It’s shallow and stupid. You don’t ask men to say oh what is this person 1-10. Even if you are trying to be nice saying anything below 9 and you’re basically saying a person is MID and not that good looking
Not for some random commenter to decide, but still I feel like if you do date a 19 y/o, so a person without any actual life experience who just finished/is finishing highschool when you are near 30 y/o, then any emotions, empathy and/or actual critical thinking are set to the side, as we are now supposed to compare a grown-up teen to a grown-ass man that has a job and multiple responsibilities that cannot be omitted, like the other 2 kids they have. This just reeks of wanting to be in absolute power in a relationship: being more smart, more powerful, more impactful.
Riley is so calm, her level of mental fortitude seems very high, and she talks like she's an interpersonal communication professional. A lot of people can only reach that level of natural social navigation once they hit twice her age. I wonder what her life story is like and if she has suppressed frustrations on her current situation.
Honestly I think she’s just young and isn’t the position of being a ex of his. I’m sure all the ex baby mamas were just like her while dating him at one point before he left and got another woman pregnant lol.
When you're a 30 year old woman and your baby-daddy calls to tell you he just knocked up a teenager and she's going to be your kids new step-mom and now the internet is going to light you up for not having been super chill about it.
Legit I would’ve been like wtf. I don’t blame her. He looks like an absolute red flag.
Right???
How do you guys know he's 30?
It s natural
Men prefer young fresh body not an old wall
@@daquieshakeaundra2854 Ew.
Dates a 19 year old at 30 with two previous baby mothers, critiques her cooking and the only thing his current partner would change in the bedroom is...needing more of his participation in parenting so she isn't so exhausted? Whew chile. Y'all know you don't have to keep choosing these kinds of men, right?
But according to her he has a huge penis. Make it make sense.
And his critique of his ex being that she needs to chill and be patient in her parenting like…of course parenting is chill and easy if you barely do it
@@gothgf16 This. Oh my blood is boiling.
bro seriously
The teenagers don’t know yet that’s why they go for them. Now the other woman idk
The fact more people aren't pointing out that she was 19 and he's like 30 and she was his third baby mama is insane. There was a wifeswap episode just like this
LMAO
So? She's a legal adult to make her own choice. Do you keep that same energy for young women who prefer dating older men, because they typically are more stable, have money, house, security, and maturity? Asking for a friend.
She's an adult....end of story.
@@OnizenArt ofcourse. Women do it all the f time. Most women actually don’t date younger men. It’s only the men who like to f little girls. All men creeps who would go lower if it’s llegal. It is llegal fir 18 but most women still don’t marry boys who are 18. 😂adult, comparing 30 to 18. You people need therapy
@@captainlevi7188 😂men love to little girls. You don’t f compare 18 to 30 creep.
He's the kind of person that is a completely absent parent and then when the co parent is stressed and overworked and can't take it anymore he calls them crazy and knocks someone up instead. The number of times his ex calls herself crazy is so sad.
@Random Person yea, okay. 🙄😅
The way this man has created a low demand harem for himself to raise and care for his offspring is so unbelievable. How do these women not see what he's done to them?
"When he told me he is bringing a 19 year old home...I nearly had aneurysm." I mean Jared is the person with the massive red flag in the video. Also, she was basically fresh out of high school and a teenage. And he was 30 with baby mothers. [Btw, I don't think legality dictates morality here].
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Why is she as a fresh out of high-school woman going for 30 yo guy with 3 baby mums?
@@vivminecl747 In terms of power dynamics, shouldn't you be asking the 30+ year old adult, and not the teenage? Considering our brain completely matures at 25.
@vivminecl747
Because young girls are naive, which is why grown men in their 30s go after them.
Yeah, just because it's legal, doesn't make it okay.
Riley is too young and good for this fucked up situation tbh
frfr!!! She gotta get out
@@SurrealNIntertwined nah she ain't
There's a reason people prey on young women, they're agreeability is seen as 'maturity'
@@theoneandonly0099 sorry guys don't wanna settle for old saggy argumentive females 🤷
I wouldn’t advise a young person to get into this situation ever, but I also wouldn’t advise her to abandon her son. It seems like there’s a supportive circle for everyone in the blended family.
There’s something so cringey about guys who date younger women then criticize them for not knowing how to cook/care for kids
exactly! she’s 19, just graduated hs. most people don’t learn how to cook a lot until late college/post colleg
They want an 18 year old, with 30 year old traits. Insane.
What a disgusting man. Getting with a 19 year old as a 30 year old is not only unethical but ALSO judging her cooking skills?? SHES A KID. AND he’s making her a stepmother AND a mother. I hate this and it should not be normalized.
Never heard of banter? You must be fun at parties.
@@nwgverified 💩 You ever heard of shitty men who prey on younger girls.
It's really fucking gross, I agree.
Then let's not normalize selling your photos on the Internet for money either
@@vivminecl747 Get out of the fake account, Jared. What you've done is creepy
He's giving me major ⚠️⚠️⚠️ Three kids with different mothers at a young age? That's wild!
Yea
i thought the same thing 😭😭 🚩🚩
1:24 it sounds like one of the kids is his fiancée's, aka his stepkid. So 1 kid with a woman who he broke up with after and 1 with his new partner. Doesn't seem that strange to me.
Also y'all know next to nothing about this guy. I thought this channel has reoccurring themes of "not judging people so quickly"?
When I was 21, a 25 year old guy with 3 kids from 2 different women had a huge crush on me and tried dating. Complained they were all crazy, yeah, didn’t even go on one date and turned him down twice. Sorry, but no thanks. I had literally just got out of college and was only just legally able able to even drink.
he is disgusting to be bringing a 19yo to be a stepmum at 30, and the first comment he makes about her is how she could be a better cook yikes
Agree
He was answering a question 🤨 and in her own words she burnt the food so badly there was black smoke in the house
Yea, giving all sorts of red flags 😬
He’s a walking red flag but that woman made the choice to be a step mom at 19 not him
Not only that he impregnated a 19-year-old teenager, made her a mother, and expected somebody half grow daughter to a be chef lol. He is nasty and it looks like she is not going to his last baby mama either.
So basically, this dude impregnated 3 women and one of them was 19 years old and he is 30 which was very creepy imo. The dude is the perfect example of why instead of an abortion ban they should focus more on vasectomy because they are breaking up creating fatherless homes and targeting teenagers lol
Maybe educate women on what kind of men not to go after at such a young age. It's weird for a 30yo man to like an adult, but it's not weird when a younger woman likes a older guy?
@@vivminecl747 maybe educate men to not create that many fatherless homes and not to prey on teenager
@@talkingtochapri exactlyy because if we did that, we wouldn’t have to tell women to not go after guys like that bc, well, there would be no guys like that!! problem solved lmao
@@vivminecl747 it’s because what’s weird is the difference in life experience. A 30 year old is a lot more mature. It’s a one way street. It would be creepy for a 30 year old woman and a 19yr boy too tho. That’s the actual equivalent situation
@@talkingtochapri women initiate 90% of divorces and are the reasons there are fatherless homes, maybe tell women not to get bored so easily? Cmon you have to open your eyes to both sides of the argument here.
As someone who dated a 30-year-old guy when I was just 19, this honestly gives me major red flags. I'm almost 30 now and can confidently say that dating a teenager when you're in your 30s is not okay at all. I know they're both adults and technically legal, but as someone who experienced this, there's always a reason why an older guy can only find teenagers to date them. I was used and abused because, as a teen, you simply don't know any better. These people shape your mind to what they want, and it never ends well. I wish Riley all the best and hope that these things do not end up happening to her.
Cap
I can relate. I was 19 dating a 38 year old. Didn’t end well. Horrible situation. Age gap relationships when dating a teenager says a lot about the older person dating someone so young when they can’t find someone of age. Just gross and major flags
But why would you as a 19 year old date someone that old? I understand not knowing any better, but didn’t you have other options?
@@shaharyar4093 some men are great at playing the maturity is better card etc
@@shaharyar4093 women are always told growing up that we're more mature than the guys our age, young women/teenage girls always crave feeling like adults and being with an older man does that for them. they think this way BECAUSE they're immature but they get this "i'm so grown" mentality when they're with adult men as barely legal young women. idk if i wrote that in a way that makes sense, but that's how i see it
I’m sad for Riley. She deserves so much more than to be entangled in this situation with these people.
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i would say gabrielle also doesn't deserve this
can't save them all.. sad
@@vickylikesthis of course, everyone is the victim but the man
@@xaviermonet6769 I mean yeah. He’s the one who made this entire situation lol
i hope riley is reading these comments and sees that she could do and deserves so much better
me too
Why? So she can be single and miserable like the rest of you? Clearly there’s something about him that women like. Stop hating
@@Beanskiiii bless your heart
@@Beanskiiii You know, it's more telling about yourself than anyone else when you think a relationship with someone closer to your kid's age than your own is "good".
@@Beanskiiiiwe’re not single nor are we miserable- we just don’t date pedophiles
Jared's whole personality seems like a major red flag
right i thought the same bc three children with three baby mothers at like 30 is a little….🚩🚩
@@unlitrash To me it’s more the things that he said and what they discussed about him. Also the age of his current girlfriend..
@@unlitrash But you’re right, that could be a red flag too. It almost seems like he drops his partners ones they‘re not young/pretty anymore (to him!) or if they’re too stressed out because of their kids…
His whole personality of sitting there quietly and answering the questions he was asked? 😑
Yeah, 30 year old dating a teenager who has her do all the work with his 3 kids then criticizes her cooking skills on RUclips. If she starts resenting it and stops doing the labour she's getting dropped and replaced with the next one who will.
Riley needs to run. The way she casually mentioned he won't leave her alone when he wants sex. No, mean no, he needs to respect that.
The 2 women seem to be really good people because co parenting can be very hard but they manage to try even with the bad first impression and it's look like it's working...they did put their children first and that's something to salute ❤
It's so refreshing! For me growing up, my parents never coparented. I think only in the last LESS than 5 years, have parents actually wanted to get along lol
@@corablah9809 especially if the parents separation or divorce was ugly, resentment can makes it very difficult and I can understand that but that's also why parents and step parents that find a way to makes it work should be praised unless one of them is a danger for the others
the ex wife had something in her eyes but she chose to be mature n move on
This man had nothing bad to say about himself.
He needs a mandatory vasectomy in the meantime.
Respect for the blond mom, she is handle the situation really well. Not everyone could do that!
"We wanted different things."
In other words, Jared wanted to control and prey upon a younger woman who doesn't know any better.
yep.
Yep
why are we glossing over the fact that homegirl was 19? I feel like we moved past that too quickly. Also I'm obsessed with the two women getting along now and that making him visibly uncomfy ngl
I'm surprised they found people who would agree to do this
Co-parenting isn't that uncommon 🤔
There are mature people around. You can split and still get along. Even if you’re not even friends anymore.
@@tannershanksftw I think they mean like putting their life on blast
idk why is it so surprising when people sell naked pictures of themselves for money let alone agree to a video like this
@@xowarrior that’s already been normalised and if you don’t agree, you’re insecure! It’s 2023 join 👀
i'm not down with the "she's 19, she's an adult!!!" comments bc a person does not have to be underage to be preyed upon and there is a definite power imbalance between a teenager and a man in his 30s
There were times when women were less free. Fathers passed control of their daughters to their husbands. Women seemed to hate that.
Facts
@@PROVOCATEURSK ??? duh lmfao
@@PROVOCATEURSKand in those time women were married younger than 19.. in a lot of culture and religion marrying a young girl as young as 8 was considered to be just fine so what's the point?
You just disproved your comment, 'somebody does not have to be underage to be preyed upon' so if any age can be preyed upon even up to 30, then whats the difference at 19?
A step mom at 19?!?! Baby was a victim. I pray for her sake that her life is full in all the ways she sees fit because from the outside this is scary.
Honestly, both of these women need to ditch that guy. He's a piece of work.
Sucks that they have kids together. They can distance themselves, but if they want to be involved in their kids lives, they’ll have to deal with this dude
The way she said “oh hell yeaaa” @ 5:54 seconds was everything😂😂
Then Jared’s reaction to “in your book” @ 5:59 is priceless💀💀
Lmfaooo seriously !!
Best part was his reaction 😂😂
Homie was ready to commit murder when he heard that
Most satisfying part of the video
I think that was cut just editing a scene of one of his reaction throughout the whole dialogue and not his actual reaction to that specific moment. Cut is notorious fir doing that. I do think the sequence of events were funny though
the step mom seems so nice.
She seems arrogant selfish and anal to me.
And young
@@S_J_banana more like mature
They're even nicer on Pornhub
Does she get stuck sometimes?
I’m sure there are reasons why Riley chose to be in this situation, and she probably feels that she has every right to make those choices. However, when she is older and has some more life experience, she may look at the situation differently. Most people have been there, when you are younger but you feel like you’re an adult and you know everything. She definitely seems emotionally intelligent and mature for sure. However, she describes a situation where she is the main or perhaps only one taking care of dinner and getting the kids set up for dinner, and that sounds like an unbalanced relationship. And his dig about her cooking. Perhaps he can cook sometimes and also take on some of the childcare so that she can take a cooking class/watch some RUclips tutorials/etc. Instead he insults her and plays it off like a joke. No one deserves that kind of treatment.
Yep, her brain isn't going to be fully developed until her mid 20s. Meanwhile this guy was done developing and knew better. These women need to team up and cut this disgusting POS out.
Yah but to be fair, maybe he is working 80 hrs a week or something to ensure everyone is taken care of financially. (Hypothetical ofc I don’t know the guy) but if that’s the case then I don’t see the big deal
The joke really wasn’t that serious. He prolly works a lot too. If she that emotionally intelligent I don’t think she would have chosen to be with a 30 year old who isn’t financially sound
Sort of the problem with doing videos like this is the lack of context. Dude made a joke about her cooking and it’s seen as he’s never cooking for her lol.
😂😂😂
i love that they’re very brutally honest with each other without making each other feel bad. it’s very nice to see a relationship comfortable enough to talk like this.
Who wants to bet Riley won’t be his last baby mama? 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾
Yeah I'm pretty sure he's gonna introduce another 19 year old when Riley gets older
Who knows he might go find himself an 18 year old atp cuz he loves going younger than the last
Jared is such a red flag tbh, she probably won’t be with him the 2nd year
People need to stop having a baby with everyone they have a relationship with. The fact all his kids have different baby momas is wild.
Fr, it's their choice if they want to get pregnant by a certain man, yet they still blame the man at the end lmao, no accountability.
Yeah, the woman is always chastised in society, but this guy is equally responsible
impregnation fetish
Agreed! You don’t need to have babies every relationship.
@@vivminecl747 when did OP say that this was a gender specific issue? Any woman who did get pregnant, even if they were too being careless with not using protection, and the father of that child is not present, that woman can still be annoyed and blame that man for not being a father. If they're not taking responsibility for getting pregnant, that's one thing, but being a deadbeat and nonexistent parent is still worthy of being ridiculed over. Wtf.
he gives the vibe of “im a chill cool dad who never disciplines the kids so mom always has to which villainizes her in their eyes and drives her insane”
How did THIS guy land these two great women????? LADIES, PLEASE, WE NEED TO DO BETTER!
They likely had abusive fathers that taught them that they're worthless. Welcome to the patriarchy.
Chose better too not just red flags with already 2 baby mums
Us men keep calling out your bad decisions and you always call us jealous, incels and losers because of it. Then we inevitably end up being right, because we know men better than you
@@ileutur6863 don’t say this dumb corny shit ever again 😭 you think this but in reality all you do is generalize all women but cry when women do it to men
Well Riley was fresh out of high school. Teenagers are easy to prey on so clearly that's how he got her. There's probably a reason he targeted her. It was definitely in part due to her age. She wouldn't know better.
His face when the ex said “in your book” 😂
Boy why are you mad, she’s trying to make it clear that she’s not into you like that for the sake of your fiancé, who clearly loves and appreciates you
I was wondering that too he was so bothered 😂
This just screams waitress, manager, line cook energy.
The kids end up with the Restaurant when they die, grew up working in the restaurant
LMFAO
Underrated comment!
Nice
this is so classist.
If you are 30 years old and you want to date a 19 year old - Yes, a legal adult, but a TEENAGER - you’re weird. That’s weird. I’m not even 30 years old yet but I would never even CONSIDER dating a teenager. Their brains aren’t fully developed yet, meanwhile this guy is a fully grown man with a multiple baby mamas, kids, and a career… Just weird.
Most kids are smarter and more educated than their parents or grandparents.
Are you saying that 19 year old women can´t be smarter and more mature than a man?
@@PROVOCATEURSK as a 19 year old, i feel that i’m more mature and smarter than my own 40 year old dad, but would i date somebody his age? hell no that is a full grown adult and i’m a TEEN, just because i’m a legal adult doesn’t take away from the fact that my brain is nowhere near fully developed. you’re being so dense in the comments please use your brain properly
@@PROVOCATEURSK
"Most kids are smarter and more educated than their parents or grandparents."
This is a lie. How would you even measure this?
"Are you saying that 19 year old women can´t be smarter and more mature than a man?"
Smarter? Yeah. More mature? Unlikely. Wanting to date someone that young at 30 probably means you're immature. And don't make it about gender, when it's clearly about age. You're shoe horning in a distraction.
@@PROVOCATEURSK stop gaslighting people. Teenagers don't have the maturity to date adult men, and 30 year olds that go after barely legal teens are predators.
@@PROVOCATEURSK imagine going under every comment just because you want a 19 year old and a 30 year old to date so much. you weird asf
It’s giving “find ‘em young so I can train them to suit my expectations” for me…. 👀👀👀
They're so honest and communicative!! Love it
This man has definitely cheated. Probably on the ex wife with the new fiance. Also, where does a 30 year old meet a 19 year old. That's weird.
Right? They definitely didn’t meet at a bar 💀. Probably met on tinder
At the high school graduation. Probably at the school dropping her siblings off, trying to help her mom out. The usual spots smdh. Just thinking of my experience between the ages of 17-19 years old when 30 and 40 year old men tried their best to convince me that having a life with them would've been fabulous lol thank GOD I turned them down and got with someone my age 😂
the audacity of this man to go on the internet, air out the fact that he brought a 19 year old home to his ex wife (meaning he probably met her when she was 18 or less) and think for a second that he'll be able to go about his life without everyone he knows judging him and calling him a dirtbag is beyond me.
💯
She 19?? Shawty a victim
Th red flags for Jared are going CRAAAAAZYYYY
i said the same 😭😭😭
the fact that Jared felt the need to specify that he broke up with her is a dick move.
The person asked him to specify
Her lying(?) and saying it was mutural is a dick move if it wasnt the case.
@@henryakaniels2989 maybe she felt like it was mutual. Everyone has a different perspective
No it’s not
@@violet9777 Then she should have clarrified it with thinking she thought it was mutural. Not saying it WAS mutural. Words in context make a difference.
Also Jared has 3 different baby mothers, he's the problem. And she had every right to react the way she did. Imagine your ex bringing a teenager as his new girlfriend when y'all are in your 30s
"wOrk On YoUr coOkiNg SkIlLs" BRO SHE'S 19. SHE IS A KID. Maybe he should work on not dating 19-year-olds anymore.
She was 19 when they started dating. She's probably in her 20's now I would think?
4:22 NO ! you need a competent partner who will help you with the duties of the household. NOT "to sit in the shower." I'm so sorry she's going through this, and the ex just nodding along like "yea I agree with that." there's no way women are expected to be everything to everyone. this is insane.
I know a girl who was 19 when she got pregnant with a guy who was 36 at the time. They are still together as if right now and it's really freakin weird knowing that her boyfriend only met her because he was a friend of her dad. What makes things even worse is that her boyfriend used to babysit her when she was a toddler and when she fell pregnant posted this on his Facebook, "Can't believe i used to babysit the love of my life who knew that i would be having a kid with her after all these years of knowing her" Like CREEPY OR WHAT
Oh my gosh, that is a whole new level CREEP...I don't know, gender equality and all but I could never ever let a grown man babysit my kid, especially a daughter. Eww
@@yaee123 I know. It's SUPER messed up
So sickening.
@@tainaayiti It's so insane
That's 🚩 behavior, omg 🤢🤮
He is the problem in all of this! He will leave the stepmom at some point, and he is most likely already cheating on her. The arrogance on his face, ugh!
Riley seems like an amazing person. I doubt that Jared is good enough for her but I just hope she’s happy
This is the kind of situation I don't ever dream of being in. It's so icky.
I would be terryfied of such a co-parenting situation
I would be terryfied I didn't know and then that my autocorrect didn't catch this and let me say terryfied. Lol. I kid I kid.
Is it just me or does Riley look like Lilly Collins???
For me its if Lilly Collins + Cristin Milioti had a baby
So true
She does😊
I thought Emilia Clarke but she does look like Lily Collins!
YES I couldn't place it !!
Stepmother is very nice, the kids mom is very lucky to have the stepmom helping take care of her child
When I was 15 I was in a relationship with a 20 year old guy. I thought it's not a big deal, plus I was "mature" for my age. I'm turning 20 in summer, so I'm still 19 as of now, but I would never date anybody under 18, much less a 15 year old... It's an incredibly repulsive thought and I feel weird even just *talking* to anybody under 18 as friends alone. I think this is going to be the same situation. When she'll be 30 she'll look back and see how disgusted she feels at the thought of dating someone who's only 19.
"in your book" LMFAO THAT WIPED THE SMILE OFF HIS FACE REAL QUICK
The ladies are great, I really appreciate how they are working together for the wellbeing of the children. The guy? He seems awful lol
her: it was a mutual split
him: um i disagree
yes that is what they said
Bet she is crazy
Exactly. Next question who broke up with who? The guy: I break up with her.
Her: yea
@@BonShula nah he seems like the problem. 3 separate baby mamas at 30?? he is def the crazy one😭😭
@@sleeplessnxghts6369 How from that limited video? She send those crazy texts. It is not crazy to have 3 baby mamas.
she's literally not even legally old enough to drink yet and he's been able to since she was 10. this is actually vile
I like how they’ve seemed to really be dedicated to working through things; they seem genuinely friendly to one another and I’m sure having a mom friend as a new mom is so nice. Side-eye that man though.
this is such a weird group of people i cant tell if theyre actually friends or secretly just tolerate each other
Ya im not gonna lie. There’s a lot of comments favouring the stepmom but i actually feel worst for the mom and am proud of her for goin thru this shit. Riley does not seem like she genuinely respects the mom
the two ladies passed the vibe check, the man did not
Once I hit 25 I stopped dating people younger.. I'm 30 now and could NEVER imagine dating a 19 year old. My husband and I poke little jokes at each other because he's 28 and pretend like that's a huge gap (we know it's not, we just have fun with it) but a 19 year old?! Mmm.. yeah.. no thanks. Nine-TEEN. It's just weird to me, personally. Also.. in general.. he does not pass the vibe check.
i first saw this on snapchat and only 20 seconds in (including 3 ads) i immediately had to search the full story on youtube and thank GOD everyone sees how absurdly creepy this dude seems, especially with him telling ex wife to “slow down” with his daughter while actively pursuing a relationship with a 19 year old and raising children with her 💀
Man I came immediately from Snapchat because my jaw dropped when she said she’s 19 ?? I needed to see the comments, I’m wishing the best for these two women
I know we don't know everything about these people and their situation. But i'd just like to point out a few things that i couldn't help but notice, and its bothering me:
1) the stepmom does appears nice, but i think the mom is too. she's just painted in a bad way because the situation may have not shown the best of her (hard breakup it seems), and the stepmom is nice in a way that is very apparent /performative (not saying she’s faking it). i think the mom is authentic. so yeah i was just saying so that the comments don't just focus on how the stepmom is great, implying the mom is not/less.
2) i could feel some futile words said by he stepmom which kinda felt mean?: the rating that was absolutely unnecessary, wanting to elaborate on the sexlife (even though she pointed out how the father was failing to understand her being tired after taking charge of things and not talked about the sex itself) when the mom told her to just take a shot, and idk even pointing out the mom was older? I MIGHT BE TOTALLY WRONG I'M NOT SURE BUT I'M INTERESTED IN YOUR THOUGHTS BECAUSE ITS INTERESTING TO ANALYZE INTERACTIONS.
3) what i'm sure about is how the father is the prototype of a man who doesn't take mental load in his family. sir it's easy to be calm and collected like you are when apparently you're not the one taking care of cooking, the preparation of the evening etc (based on what his fiancée said). It even seems to me (i could be wrong obviously) like the mom and the stepmom took care of good and healthy communication rather than him making sure that the two could work together etc (once again, mental load being put on women, i cannot go deep into the details in a youtube comment but i encourage you all to learn and know about mental load put on woman in relations and family. once you know and are conscious about this, it's very easy to notice it...).The two women maybe can't stand eachother but they seems so much mature and contributing to the family.
4) common we cannot ignore the fact that another older man likes to goes towards younger women, i have nothing to say about it since it's just so another typical male comportment that is pretty fucked up.
6:01 them laughing
while he just 😐😶😐🙃
is hilarious 😂😂😂
What a blessing to have her as a step mom!! ❤️
They should both forget about him and just stay together. They probably have better chemistry than they do with Jared
The women are fine and nice. It's the man who I am questioning especially his morality.
Agreed
He’s a whole red flag, make that 50 red flags with bright red paint drenching them. 30 dating a 19 yr old, 3 baby mamas, putting the blonde baby mama in this situation and trying to set her up to look bad, everything. The 19 year old acts like she’s older and wiser than the appropriately aged woman. The appropriately aged woman was basically forced to hold back everything the thought because she knew they were gonna try to make her look bad. Honestly, I could never even imagine at my age right now, 22, coming in and being a stepmom and literally plowing into the real mom immediately like this. The blonde lady had every right to go crazy. I want to give her a hug.
Not to mention going “your kid has no patience and doesn’t see me as a parent figure” like, girl, you’re a teenager…
I feel like the majority of married women or women with a partner are just single parents. what is he contributing to either of these women?
Child support
Riley seems so nice and mature!
Tattoos really show maturity and mental health, right.
@@PROVOCATEURSK who's talking about the tattoos? She * seems * nice and mature, based on the way she thinks and communicates in the video. Seems and Looks are different
@@PROVOCATEURSKhuh????
Nah, she looks like she's dealing with a lot of shit internally and is being taken advantage of.
@@PROVOCATEURSK that got nothing to do with what the person said sir
That “in your book” was glorious
He gives me such bad vibes, but the stepmom seems soooo sweet. I hope the girls keep a good relationship
This triggered me. The way he insulted his exes personality and didn’t say anything personal about his girlfriend. I couldn’t even get through the whole video 😭😭😭😭
Poor Riley is too young for Jared, he is a red flag… he seems like the guy who does NOTHING and Riley’s answer about sex proves it
3 sons by 3 different women 🚩
30 year old who impregnated at teenager 🚩
Doesn't help with chores or child care 🚩
Minimizes his partners' feelings 🚩
Tried to degrade his ex and partner on camera multiple times 🚩
Needs to be encouraged to spend time with his children 🚩🚩🚩🚩
FRRR
I’m glad to see everyone is on the same page. As soon as I heard 19 🤨 I raised an eyebrow and tuned out a little. Plus him criticizing her cooking skills‼️😵💫
“Do you think I’m a good match for Jared?” Yea, I totally think a 19 year old is a good Match for that 30 year old man.
I wish Jared wouldn't interrupt so much. He's giving me bad vibes, not to mention that having three baby mamas, as well as having a kid with a 19 year old when you're 30 are HUGE red flags
I’m glad the comments addressed him. I, an empath, was suffocating the second he spoke BRUH
💥👄💥🚩
Your man should change his name to JaRED flags
This dude is a grade-A-player and I can fucking promise you this will not be the last woman he ends up with lol
more like grade A predator
lmaooo@@shifa444
Improve your cooking skills? That an absolute red flag
Of course she’s not complaining that the sex is horrible she’s 19 she doesn’t know any better
tag me when she comes back for an exes truth or drink!! she deserves better
Telling women to rate eachothers attractiveness is so dumb. All they will do is politicize it like the step mom did. She comes off as “nice” but she’s like oh you’re a 9.5 but then you’re a seven bc you’re a b**ch is basically what she’s saying. It’s shallow and stupid. You don’t ask men to say oh what is this person 1-10. Even if you are trying to be nice saying anything below 9 and you’re basically saying a person is MID and not that good looking
She basically said that she's a pretty woman but because of her personality how she treats people she ain't s***
Half their videos are rating people based on looks. Not sure why it would be a problem suddenly
@@BabyJesus66 fr these people start to judge anything when it doesn't fit what they like
Pay attention #cut @cut
Putting them against each other for the views.
"No its okay, you'll appreciate it" lolll I'm sure she doesn't want to hear about it let alone appreciate it 😂
At the end when the girl in black said " in your book 😂 " buddy looked so madddddd
Jared: "riley is like me, were both mellow..."
Jared anytime blond baby mama speaks: "😡😡😡😡"
I love that everyone is negging this dude, so glad to see people waking up
Their baby daddy a waking red flag…
Not for some random commenter to decide, but still I feel like if you do date a 19 y/o, so a person without any actual life experience who just finished/is finishing highschool when you are near 30 y/o, then any emotions, empathy and/or actual critical thinking are set to the side, as we are now supposed to compare a grown-up teen to a grown-ass man that has a job and multiple responsibilities that cannot be omitted, like the other 2 kids they have. This just reeks of wanting to be in absolute power in a relationship: being more smart, more powerful, more impactful.
"In your book..."😂😂😂
She went there!
"There's essentially nothing I could've done" not date a 19yo. That's what you should've done lmao
Riley is so calm, her level of mental fortitude seems very high, and she talks like she's an interpersonal communication professional. A lot of people can only reach that level of natural social navigation once they hit twice her age. I wonder what her life story is like and if she has suppressed frustrations on her current situation.
She looks sad and struggling. Which is the perfect victim for creeps like him.
Honestly I think she’s just young and isn’t the position of being a ex of his. I’m sure all the ex baby mamas were just like her while dating him at one point before he left and got another woman pregnant lol.
idk about the women but that man needs help. 3 babies in 3 random relationships is no mistake. honestly, mental health..get a grip
His facial expression at 6:01 so good love to see it😂
Them laughing about his 🍆 was hilarious
3:08
“We are very calm collected 🤩”
2 minutes before the two mothers just talked about how he has no patience at all.
oh no cause the "we're working through her emotions" would rub me the wrong way lol like?