At one point in the video I had the though 'these people seem kinda broken' and I felt guilty for being judgy. But you got the right words - they all seem like they're hurting themselves, and it's sorta painful to watch. You just want to shout at them they deserve better, etc.
Yeahhh I’m in a couple & it’s definitely a dangerous game. I hate commitment, but I desire affection & romance so it’s like what do I do? Be in a relationship unhappy? Or be single & my needs not tended to. Thats why situation-ships happen. But theres such a thin line that gets crossed & it causes hardships for one side over the other…
I'm glad Vincent brought up testing as something important to him. It's something that I think should be more normalized when having sexual interactions with other people.
I think it showed maturity 😂 I ABSOLUTELY WOULDN'T want ronheer that for the first time after being forced to ask _and on camera!_ That is absolutely a recipe for disaster and him not doing it shows maturity & self-confidence/self-assurance/self-awareness. Plus his allergy is something that a percentage of Asians have and it wouldn't cause him to die 😂 in fact many Asians with the same thing just take some benadryl before drinking and after, and they're fine. They just get more flushed/red (generally that is the first and main sign) and they're skin may or may not get a bit itchy/hives, but it generally isn't bad and isn't a life or death situation.
literally destroys everyone's self-respect. If you can't commit or be emotionally vulnerable but you want the intimacy, just be friends with benefits ffs.
Well that's the nature of a "situation"-ship: You don't choose them, you find yourself in them. (Speaking as someone who found themself in one. Started as friends which turned to best friends with romantic undertones, which eventually evolved into a 5 year, committed relationship.)
i think a situationship is when you are getting to the point of dating somebody but neither of you made the big move yet I don't think what the couples in this video had was a situationship I think its 100% what you said
I am so sorry for the girl with the pink hair:( She was all the time so nice to him and he did not even try to show her a little empathy. It is clear he is waiting for someone who he thinks, fits better in his life but it does not cost anything to be nice to the person you spend so much time with...
Right!!! He can have sex with this person but speak of them in this manner….. he should be ashamed but he isn’t. I want her to move on and never let him touch her again 🤚🏾
Look at it from another perspective, dude is responsible and takes his words seriously, would rather hurt himself rather than feeding lies / false feelings to her. They are in a mutually agreed SITUATIONSHIP, its unfair to judge anyone based on RELATIONSHIP standards.
@@TLiu-1b this was full observation and opinion given from a woman’s perspective. She was shy meek and humble and he was a 🍆. Anyone you lay down with and join souls you should have a certain amount of respect for and he didn’t. He pointed out her race as if she’s suppose to be like everyone else her skin tone, he downplayed or more than once. It’s weird to have sex with someone you’re so disconnected and low key judgemental toward. Who are you? A God blessing her with sex? Naaaaaahhhhh you’re human and you should show more empathy ESPECIALLY to the one you’re inside 😑
Look at it from another perspective, dude is responsible and takes his words seriously, would rather hurt himself rather than feeding lies / false feelings to her. They are in a mutually agreed SITUATIONSHIP, its unfair to judge anyone based on RELATIONSHIP standards.
@@sixwiI’m weakkkk you right tho bc wtf that ain’t even a thing.. they’re just “Delusional” aka crazy thinking their significant other wants them when they clearly don’t or are just playing with their feelings
the girl in the yellow shirt is annoying and is a great example as to why situationships suck. she disrespected his boundaries and put his personal health at risk without telling him but brushed it off because they’re technically not together. you can tell it really bothered him but he did a great job of being respectful to her. situationships are the worst.
I mean they did go on this video specifically meant for people who were more than FWB but less than monogamous committed and then got upset that she lived her life as such
Those are 2 completely different communication issues. She withheld her outside fling (not good obvi). He’s withholding his genuine thoughts/emotional desires (probably to avoid conflict or coming on too strong and losing her). After all they’ve discovered; they have some important convos ahead, if they want to continue dating. I’m guessing she will get checked, not just for his health but her own
everyone is talking about vincent, but can we talk about the pink-haired girl? she deserves so much better than someone who would decide wether or not to be in a relationship with her 'based on what she was wearing'
I actually know her personally! Went to the same high school and she was very chill and open and nice. Nice surprise to see her on this channel, and if she’s anything like she was back then I’m sure she’ll make the best decision for herself… dude’s a douche though.
@@tiziocaio2631 Well yeah it was a joke but on a sensitive topic. He's reducing how much he wants her to his physical attraction to her and ofc that'll hurt to hear
Situationships are basically just the 2020s version of the "It's Complicated" status on Facebook. It's only complicated if y'all refuse to have total transparency w each other. It's hard to have intimacy and companionship w/o trust and open communication bc that's the foundation of both
The girl that said “I love you as a friend” it’s so sad that you can tell that she doesn’t really love him just as a friend, since she actually admitted that she loved him more than him, and that she would like to be in an official relationship together. I also felt so bad for Alaina.. she clearly loves him more but he really can’t even accept the way she dresses.. girl… you can find a better one.. Vincent as well, bruh you deserve the love you can give. In all of these pairs you could see that one person wanted more than that “situationship” they’re stuck in. It’s just so sad to watch..
@@Realcordy no one is the villain.. the other people have already set their boundaries, they wanted a situationship and nothing more, it’s just that the other seek for more and they all looking for it in the wrong place.
@@Realcordy they are, how can you be that intimate with a person, see them falling in love with you and not commit to them? you have to be a cold hearted villain.
"certain demographic" guy and "somebody did something to 'me'" girl are the two most accurate representations of why 'situationships' and being single in general can be so disgustingly awful. so happy and grateful to have found my partner.
This was mad uncomfortable, but desperately needed. A light shone on them to expose what cracks lay on the surface. I hope to never find myself in a situationship. It seems like the worst of both worlds.
Girl in the yellow top- COMMUNICATE!! Communicate your needs in bed and both of y'all need to communicate your expectations in this, even if it's not a relationship. This is how confusion and hurt feelings happen. Good luck!
Thank you for your advice friend! They obviously cut out a lot in the video, what they didn’t show was me being more specific about my needs in bed (since the filming of this we got new toys just for me 🎉) and they also didn’t show the part about how we established in our situationship that Vince didn’t want to know about other partners. He specifically told me that we’re not exclusive and if I’m with other people, he wants me to be safe and healthy but he doesn’t need to know about it. Yes I agree. COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!! ❤
@@desi_poo_ His reaction here wouldn’t make sense then. He probably meant that he didn’t want to know details about those people or what u were doing with them. Not that he didn’t want to know if u were being intimate with other people.
@@Will-ws6zw oh for sure he was caught off guard because last time he asked there hadn’t been anyone else, however this incident took place about 4 days before the filming and he hadn’t asked that recently. I’m very confident knowing when Vince and I talked about rules and boundaries that he was clear he wanted to stay ignorant to other partners unless he needed to be made aware because of a health concerns. We joked about it in the video but we have great communication and we do trust each other. He just wasn’t expecting that to come out so publicly right then, and that was his genuine reaction. We’re all good now! 😊🤙
Shayla asian girlie is so damn cute and lovable!! i love how open and optimistic she is! truly deserves someone who will treasure her and show her how much she is appreciated
Vincent bringing up testing wouldn't been more believable that he cared about his sexual health if he didn't have feelings for her. Dude very obviously likes her more and he said it out of hurt and shock.
@@blankaffinity bruh why you sucking him up so much? You mentioned multiple times she has no chin besides that the guys fiance and one more girl came here saying this guy is a horrible dude. He got he's karma lol 😂
I remember my one & only situationship from about 5 years ago... It was one of the most traumatic experiences I've ever dealt with in my entire life. And I've had more near death experiences than I shouldn't have been in considering I proclaim myself to be a pretty tame individual. I empathize with everyone in this video but I empathize the most with Vincent, as his situationship mirrors closest to what I went through in mines. Being in a situationship with someone when you want to solidify & sustain the bond you have with that person by being in a committed relationship when they don't know if they want the same thing, but you don't know how or don't want to let that person go from your life is one of the greatest forms of settling. If you're in a situationship with someone and you want something more out of it but the other person is not willing to meet you half-way then do yourself a favor and just find someone else who would ACTUALLY love to be with you or be alone and focus on yourself. Situationships are nothing but mind games & confusion (with the added benefits of physical intimacy) which breeds insanity & contempt. And if you're not mentally equipped for something like that, it can be pretty devastating. This video kinda shows a microcosm of that considering the ending interaction of all the "couples" here was not very positive. /rant
I couldn´t agree more. Situationship is just a bad game that only hurts more and more the person who is really willing to commit while the other gets the good part (sex, company and intimacy). It is not easy to deal with this and I´m glad I´m slowly getting over and focusing on myself, my well-being and career, after being in this for 3 years.
Remember: THERE’S no villain just cause you caught feelings and want something “better” no one took advantage of anyone….just SAY what you want and agree or disagree…problem solved!
The strength these folks have to be in uncommitted relationships. I just feel like it’s a waste of time but maybe I’m just too happy with pleasuring myself 😅
The funny part of it tho is that they get all offended, jealous, angry and what have you if the other person goes out or does things with other people. That’s the part I’m just completely baffled about. Like either be in an exclusive relationship or be in an “open” relationship, there’s no in between that you can get mad about then lol
ok but i feel like for a lot of people if you have strong feelings for someone, you would rather have it reciprocated in a small sense then not at all ( at least thats how it was for me🤷♀)
Kinda his fault tho lmao clearly she is open with being like that so if he didn’t wanna get hurt he should’ve stopped messing with her 🤷🏽♂️😂 simple lol now he looks like the biggest simp
Situationships almost ALWAYS end in disaster. On rare occasion it turns into a relationship, but 95+% of the time, someone will eventually get feelings while the other doesn't and that creates the giant dichotomy that ends it. Far too many people are uncomfortable with commitment, it's why these exist, but my fellow Zillenials, we need to do better than this shit.
I dont think we realize how much damage we are doing ourselves, and how that has let us to be completely alone. There's a lot of self-sabotage involved in this
This made me so sad inside.. crazy how we are willing to get treated with our emotions and feel like we deserve very little. Situationships are a place i never want to be in again 🥺❤️🩹
Bruh I'm in a situationship right now too and I related to every person who cared more in the dynamic. It hurts so much and you just want to be enough for the other person, and it destroys your own self-esteem and self-worth. Watching it in front of me is really opening my eyes and showing me that I deserve better and to have someone be proud of me. Please if anyone else is watching this and feels the same way as I do, please move on and choose yourself so you can truly find happiness. This is only going to prolong your suffering if you stay in this limbo state forever. Anyone who truly wants you or cares about your feelings wouldn't torture you like this.
Its crazy how people just accept the situation , you can clearly see that 1 of the 2 is always in love and tries to get them to be exclusive , its constant hearthbreak
What I got from this is situationships are just 2 people who want to be together but shouldn't be together. I noticed extreme fear of deep communication and avoidant behaviors but in the end, were all just trying to figure out this new age of dating.
More of 1 person who wants to be with the other and is desperate enough to wait in hopes of it turning into more, and 1 person who doesn't but finds the other person beneficial/tolerable enough to keep around until a better option comes along.
I honestly don't see that much of a difference between FWB and situationship. Especially when u arent ready to become official, both gives the same vibes.
Situationships from what I understand tend to have more romantic feelings involves. But typically aren't sexually exclusive. And if they are, they just don't want to commit and have the responsibility of a relationship
@@naut_nigelthis. Most fwb eventually evolve into situationships the more the people involved have sex with each other. It's that at that point it's hard to detach the feelings and emotion you have for that person from the physical intimacy portion of their involvement but do not want to be tied down to that person just in case someone else comes along that you would be willing to be committed to. I said in my own comment that it's one of the greatest forms of settling, but at the same time it's one of the greatest forms of selfishness as well.
No FWB is more casual than a situationship bc it's usually more on the platonic side and mostly sexual while situationships are closer to the relationship aspect but without the official label
@naut_nigel I understand but it's like this analogy A thick soup=a stew A thin stew=a soup. At the end both are like the same thing. No big differences
So I’m old But Situationships are clearly for those who are cool with unrequited love and scraps, and for those who are just waiting for the real thing, without realizing these dalliances are impeding the possibility of meeting the real thing. And to address the imbalances The one who knows they’re more liked…let the person go, it’s selfish knowing they’re holding out and it’s never gonna happen. And yeah, they’re ALL adults, I get it but…as a human being with empathy it’s wrong to carry on knowing what’s what. It’s not a big deal when two people casually date with the exact same expectations. You can’t do it with one person hoping for more.
Jay is so misogynistic and we only saw him for a couple minutes where he’s *trying* to look good- imagine how bad he actually is. Alaina, what are you doing? You deserve so much better. You think he sees you any differently than he sees women as a whole? He doesn’t. He’s *such* a red flag. Please, you have to see that.
This episode literally made me even more realize how much I hate situationships and no matter how old someone is they still can lack basic communication skills and self respect and that’s why it’s so hard to date ppl now of days.
This video really brought up a lot of old wounds for me. I guess this type of relationship must work out for some people, but I did it for 5yrs during my 20s and it left me with a lot of scars. I've moved on as much as I'm probably capable of, but the reminder of that time in my life sucks. I really feel for the individuals in these couples who are clearly more attached/in love/committed. I think that in order to step away from a situation like this, you need to love yourself more than you love the other person, as difficult as that may be.
i dont like situationships but i am or was in one fairly recently ( idk where we stand rn ) and although it sucks to not have your strong feelings reciprocated as strongly, it feels almost euphoric to have it reciprocated at all in a sense. which i feel like is a dynamic in a lot of situationships. i also think that usually the one that is more romantically involved will love the other unconditionally therefore resulting in the person whos more romantically involved to wait for the other in a situationship even if they arent or never will be ready to commit to an actual relationship. ( i hope that made sense sorry if it was worded weird 😭)
God! I'm so happy to be 38 and happily married!!!! This in the middle type of relationships are so emotionally draining. If your love interest can't give you need, learn to let them go, even if you love them! It WILL work out for the best.
It was refreshing to hear that Jay was allergic to alcohol - it's very rare to hear someone who has such a condition similar as me. (I'm allergic to certain alcohols, not all) I feel like more awareness should be spread on allergies, especially ones that sound stupid when you tell them to people lol. The amount of times people have not cared or not taken it seriously when I explained to them, is crazyyyy.
I think the whole situationships of everybody goes to show that none of them technically have an interest in each other but continue to mess around until they find someone better which is crazy.
3:55 They need to break up like RIGHT NOW. The guy obviously loves her and wants something serious and she makes it clear as day she only hooks up with him for fun. Not okay.
Yellow shirt dude has a right to be upset. They might not be exclusive, but you should atleast let the person know that your going to be doing things with another person. And then you don’t go get tested afterwards, before you come back to them? Yuck.
@@kissberrywish no, that isn't what that is. You still get tested between partners, that's the responsible thing to do as a sexually active adult, has nothing to do with any relationship status. Whether you're taken, fwb, situationships or a one night stand, you get tested between and if you can't or haven't, use protection.
@@strider5119 Everyone can decide for thrmselves when they get tested actually. Were adults here. And if you have boundaries that conflict with that, express them.
@kissberrywish everyone "can" decide that, but it's irresponsible to not. The adult thing to do is regularly get tested. People like you are the reason herpes and shit continues to spread. Getting tested can literally be the difference between no one else catching something, or 30 people catching something.
I felt bad for Vincent because he seems like he wants a full relationship with her. The woman is the one using him for convenient attention and sexual exploits. Then again, can't feel too bad for someone that is actively in a situationship with the full understanding he is wasting time with someone that doesn't want to be with him.
I back this kind of situation. If it hurts, you get out but to me the idea is that we're single, we're all working on ourselves physically as well as mentally, and although i'm partnered now, I was single for 7 years, it always felt so wasteful being at peak optimal mode and not having anyone to celebrate that with while we're kind of waiting for that forever person. I do think that eventually continuous physicality turns into someone catching feelings, but if you approach it in an honest way, people can depart peacefully before that sets in.
An "ex" kept making excuses on why we should keep being in a situationship for 3ish years. We were in the "i love you" phase but he will never tell other people that we were exclusively together. That was the most toxic relationship I've ever been in.
Situationships are TOXIC ASF! I lived mine for 11 years... And now i just want to never ever feel thiq deep love for someone else coz i love him so much but he "was lost"... Yeahh lost forr 11 years.. ' pure destruction
In reality a situationship is really when one person wants more than fwb but the other doesn’t. The situation is that y’all aren’t on the same page fr😭
Its hard to understand till you find yourself in one. I was in one and didnt know people had a name for it till now lol. Basically we were great friends that had feelings for each other and slept with each other and even dated on and off, but as much fun as we had together we both knew there was just some things between us that would keep us from being totally in a relationship. Like if we both had been tweaked just a tiny bit to the left or right we would fit perfectly but that was not how things where. So we ended up having a weird on and off relationship were i think both of us hoped things would change to make the fit perfect, it just never happened.
my situationship went on for 2 years and lemme tell y'all if u are really in one of these, LEAVE. it may seem so difficult to and it may seem like things may change but I promise u it is not worth staying with someone who doesn't want to commit. It may seem like its impossible to find someone who is really down for u but I promise u the right person is out there. I am ashamed and sad at times that I wasted so much time on my ex situationship and I gave so many chances, continuously hurting myself to compromise for them and hoping they'd change. I am traumatized from the emotional and mental strain that had on me for so long. I ended things last May and I felt like I was fundamentally unloveable (given my past experiences as well) but way down the line a year and a half later I explored and found so many beautiful and wonderful friends and also the most loving and supportive girlfriend in the world. I am surrounded by people I love and people who love me as I come and it has never felt better to have that surrounding me. Things really do get better once you let go of what's holding you back and you put yourself out there and explore. Don't be afraid to make that decision for yourself because you deserve the best that's out there for you. Life is too short to wait around and be hurt. I hope this helps someone who may need some guidance and I hope others who have been in the same place have found their person and peace :)
I’d just like to say all situationships are not this bad, lord. If you constantly communicate with one another about your expectations and needs it can be a really fun time. Not everyone desires a committed partner, and this type of relationship is great if done correctly. These ppl who want their situationship to be their bf/gf have already messed up the ‘agreement’, it’s time for them to move on.
Situationships?!? Now there is a name for relationships when one person is very much into and the other wants just the benefits of having a partner but doesn´t really want to commit. It is actually kind of sad that we put ourselves (yes, me included) in this kind of situation. Hope for the guy and girls who want more that they find someone that is open for a relationship.
After watching this, I can tell that if one has enough self-love and is emotionally mature, one will never be in a situationship! Even friends with benefits seems healthier than this, if relationship is not one's thing.
Damn , this video brings me back to memory lane. Situationships always are multifaceted and cause some sort of hurt one way or the other. Intentional or not , good learning experience on both ends and as hard as it can be don’t wait on someone to love you and show up for you. So much more to live for than creating an image in your head of someone who genuinely knows what you want. I been on both sides and as far as stringing someone a long for your own benefits … you’ll always feel some sort of guilt and that same void until you stop depending on peoples emotions and validation.
People actually differentiate between fwb and situationships? They're both the same. They both involve an individual that has feelings for the other but their self-esteem is so low they accept it because they would rather agree than be alone.
These types of relationships are always so ridiculous. One of the partners always gets frustrated or disappointed when they find out that the other partner did something with someone else. Just commit to a full relationship!
Watching this made me realise how shitty situationships are. I felt like watching people hurting themselves.
Same
100%
At one point in the video I had the though 'these people seem kinda broken' and I felt guilty for being judgy. But you got the right words - they all seem like they're hurting themselves, and it's sorta painful to watch. You just want to shout at them they deserve better, etc.
I’ve never heard of this term before this video, but this all seemed like people torturing themselves
Yeahhh I’m in a couple & it’s definitely a dangerous game. I hate commitment, but I desire affection & romance so it’s like what do I do? Be in a relationship unhappy? Or be single & my needs not tended to. Thats why situation-ships happen. But theres such a thin line that gets crossed & it causes hardships for one side over the other…
These are basically “I’m comfortable being with you until I find someone better” relationships
Totally what I think
I'd rather to see couples or friends with benefits but not this type of relationship. It was not fun to watch
Ding ding
So true
Nailed it
I'm glad Vincent brought up testing as something important to him. It's something that I think should be more normalized when having sexual interactions with other people.
10 points to you! - a sex coach
Fully depends on WHAT this third Person did TO her
yesssss
Idk man sounded like she got sexually assaulted to me
@@thewhyofthings8450it sounds like someone went down on her.
I felt like the Asian couple were the only ones who could potentially be a couple, while the others were a HUGE no
Agreed
To me he didn't seem to want to commit, she was up for it
For me they were the worst one in being a potential couple. She’s in love and he seems off
He’s the only one that straight up said no about what he would say if she asked to be exclusive. How are they the best potential couple?
@@relaxwithme3398 imo, they felt the most potential up until that final question
This dude was willing to die to avoid saying "I love you" 😂
Wait what😂😂😂
nah fr that’s crazy lmao 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lmfaooo 💀💀💀
He sounds like he has his priorities right
I think it showed maturity 😂 I ABSOLUTELY WOULDN'T want ronheer that for the first time after being forced to ask _and on camera!_ That is absolutely a recipe for disaster and him not doing it shows maturity & self-confidence/self-assurance/self-awareness. Plus his allergy is something that a percentage of Asians have and it wouldn't cause him to die 😂 in fact many Asians with the same thing just take some benadryl before drinking and after, and they're fine. They just get more flushed/red (generally that is the first and main sign) and they're skin may or may not get a bit itchy/hives, but it generally isn't bad and isn't a life or death situation.
literally whyyyyy put yourself in a situationship, look how hurt they all are
literally destroys everyone's self-respect. If you can't commit or be emotionally vulnerable but you want the intimacy, just be friends with benefits ffs.
Well that's the nature of a "situation"-ship: You don't choose them, you find yourself in them. (Speaking as someone who found themself in one. Started as friends which turned to best friends with romantic undertones, which eventually evolved into a 5 year, committed relationship.)
Yup
@@MrRapmaster19 a lot of people fail friends with benefits ...
Bc horny 😔
I think the actual definition of "Situationship" would be "person who wants to date being strung along by person who doesn't".
that seems to be the theme of everyone who participates in these types of not-dating-but-dating videos 😂
thank you reginald periwinkle
More like both who SAY don’t wanna date just have “fun” until one actually wants to date and doesn’t SAY it
I second this LOL
i think a situationship is when you are getting to the point of dating somebody but neither of you made the big move yet I don't think what the couples in this video had was a situationship I think its 100% what you said
I am so sorry for the girl with the pink hair:( She was all the time so nice to him and he did not even try to show her a little empathy. It is clear he is waiting for someone who he thinks, fits better in his life but it does not cost anything to be nice to the person you spend so much time with...
he’s so uptight and judgmental 😅well from what i got from the video
Right!!! He can have sex with this person but speak of them in this manner….. he should be ashamed but he isn’t. I want her to move on and never let him touch her again 🤚🏾
Look at it from another perspective, dude is responsible and takes his words seriously, would rather hurt himself rather than feeding lies / false feelings to her.
They are in a mutually agreed SITUATIONSHIP, its unfair to judge anyone based on RELATIONSHIP standards.
@@TLiu-1b this was full observation and opinion given from a woman’s perspective. She was shy meek and humble and he was a 🍆. Anyone you lay down with and join souls you should have a certain amount of respect for and he didn’t. He pointed out her race as if she’s suppose to be like everyone else her skin tone, he downplayed or more than once. It’s weird to have sex with someone you’re so disconnected and low key judgemental toward. Who are you? A God blessing her with sex? Naaaaaahhhhh you’re human and you should show more empathy ESPECIALLY to the one you’re inside 😑
He seems like an awful person all together
Dude chose an allergic reaction over love 😭
eh is it really love if it's riddled with uncertainty?
Look at it from another perspective, dude is responsible and takes his words seriously, would rather hurt himself rather than feeding lies / false feelings to her.
They are in a mutually agreed SITUATIONSHIP, its unfair to judge anyone based on RELATIONSHIP standards.
Dude’s glass was empty.
@@Stijn41I think those are not alcohol
Please do delusionships next I can already imagine how awkward it gets lmao
a what now??
The damage tiktok has done to this world
@@sixwiI’m weakkkk you right tho bc wtf that ain’t even a thing.. they’re just “Delusional” aka crazy thinking their significant other wants them when they clearly don’t or are just playing with their feelings
@@sixwiHAAAA WE LIVE. IN A CLOWN WORLD
are these not delusionships
Thank you, cut, for reminding me how nice it was for my fiancé to ask me to be his girlfriend after the 3rd date and not have to experience these
I know right!! This whole video is the definition of immaturity. smh
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@@MustafaErkaya I would say it's mature to stand up for one's values rather than commit out of satisfying the other person.
@@extremepsyche3135i agree but the whole situationship thing isn’t for me
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the girl in the yellow shirt is annoying and is a great example as to why situationships suck. she disrespected his boundaries and put his personal health at risk without telling him but brushed it off because they’re technically not together. you can tell it really bothered him but he did a great job of being respectful to her. situationships are the worst.
oh no, he got back at her with the "I wouldn't be excited about it"
her face annoys me too
couldn’t have said it better myself
I mean they did go on this video specifically meant for people who were more than FWB but less than monogamous committed and then got upset that she lived her life as such
100%
the audacity of yellow shirt girl to say vincent has communication problems when she hid her other hookup from him and could’ve given him STDs🤨
Never expect a honest, straigt conversation to the point from you know who
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@@PROVOCATEURSKno common sense moment
Those are 2 completely different communication issues. She withheld her outside fling (not good obvi). He’s withholding his genuine thoughts/emotional desires (probably to avoid conflict or coming on too strong and losing her). After all they’ve discovered; they have some important convos ahead, if they want to continue dating. I’m guessing she will get checked, not just for his health but her own
Oh no not the incels.
they're in a situationship lol if he wants her to not sleep w other ppl just make it official then or move on
everyone is talking about vincent, but can we talk about the pink-haired girl? she deserves so much better than someone who would decide wether or not to be in a relationship with her 'based on what she was wearing'
I was JUST about to comment the same thing! No one’s talking about how messed up of a guy she’s with
That... seems clearly a joke. The jokiest joke to ever joke.
I actually know her personally! Went to the same high school and she was very chill and open and nice. Nice surprise to see her on this channel, and if she’s anything like she was back then I’m sure she’ll make the best decision for herself… dude’s a douche though.
@@tiziocaio2631 Well yeah it was a joke but on a sensitive topic. He's reducing how much he wants her to his physical attraction to her and ofc that'll hurt to hear
@@32dramaqueenphysical attraction is a sensitive topic when it comes to relationships...? your username checks out 100%
Situationships are basically just the 2020s version of the "It's Complicated" status on Facebook. It's only complicated if y'all refuse to have total transparency w each other. It's hard to have intimacy and companionship w/o trust and open communication bc that's the foundation of both
THIS 😝!!!!
You forget the most important: vulnerability
Yes!
Nah, they're just happy with them until they find someone better
Wow thanks for that breakdown of perfection. 😂😂😂
you could literally hear vincent’s pain when he expressed how frustrating it was
The girl that said “I love you as a friend” it’s so sad that you can tell that she doesn’t really love him just as a friend, since she actually admitted that she loved him more than him, and that she would like to be in an official relationship together.
I also felt so bad for Alaina.. she clearly loves him more but he really can’t even accept the way she dresses.. girl… you can find a better one..
Vincent as well, bruh you deserve the love you can give.
In all of these pairs you could see that one person wanted more than that “situationship” they’re stuck in. It’s just so sad to watch..
good thing we have dating apps to shop around more, right?
(/s no, dating apps make shit worse)
No one is the Villain and you’re painting them as such
@@Realcordy no one is the villain.. the other people have already set their boundaries, they wanted a situationship and nothing more, it’s just that the other seek for more and they all looking for it in the wrong place.
@@NotYouAgain28 it’s no one’s fault that you agreed to something and can’t say that you no longer want that!
@@Realcordy they are, how can you be that intimate with a person, see them falling in love with you and not commit to them? you have to be a cold hearted villain.
Situationship is basically a relationship for people with commitment issues
Nah, one's just not into the other
@@Ljouniehyep…Then one settles for what they can get and the other one gets the best of both worlds. SMH
"certain demographic" guy and "somebody did something to 'me'" girl are the two most accurate representations of why 'situationships' and being single in general can be so disgustingly awful. so happy and grateful to have found my partner.
lmao what does that have to do with being single on general
Situationships aren't awful, just as long as people are respectful and communicative with each other, which these people are not.
Funny how he said he is SUPER allergic to alcohol and then proceed to risk his life just because he couldn’t tell her he loved her💀
I'm pretty sure he took an air shot. The producers wpuld not let someone do that on their show
@@appa609fr that shot didn't look real either, so I doubt he did it
This was mad uncomfortable, but desperately needed. A light shone on them to expose what cracks lay on the surface. I hope to never find myself in a situationship. It seems like the worst of both worlds.
I think it’s interesting that people can know they aren’t compatible and still kinda emotionally torture themselves by staying in a situation
Bc life is hell without them, like unimaginable. Sure they cause you pain but it would be more painful without them.
Girl in the yellow top- COMMUNICATE!! Communicate your needs in bed and both of y'all need to communicate your expectations in this, even if it's not a relationship. This is how confusion and hurt feelings happen.
Good luck!
Thank you for your advice friend! They obviously cut out a lot in the video, what they didn’t show was me being more specific about my needs in bed (since the filming of this we got new toys just for me 🎉) and they also didn’t show the part about how we established in our situationship that Vince didn’t want to know about other partners. He specifically told me that we’re not exclusive and if I’m with other people, he wants me to be safe and healthy but he doesn’t need to know about it.
Yes I agree. COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!! ❤
@@desi_poo_ His reaction here wouldn’t make sense then. He probably meant that he didn’t want to know details about those people or what u were doing with them. Not that he didn’t want to know if u were being intimate with other people.
@@Will-ws6zw oh for sure he was caught off guard because last time he asked there hadn’t been anyone else, however this incident took place about 4 days before the filming and he hadn’t asked that recently. I’m very confident knowing when Vince and I talked about rules and boundaries that he was clear he wanted to stay ignorant to other partners unless he needed to be made aware because of a health concerns. We joked about it in the video but we have great communication and we do trust each other. He just wasn’t expecting that to come out so publicly right then, and that was his genuine reaction. We’re all good now! 😊🤙
@@desi_poo_ he seems like a good person!
@@uzuilover4ever he’s amazing and I’m lucky to have him in my life in any capacity 🤗
Shayla asian girlie is so damn cute and lovable!! i love how open and optimistic she is! truly deserves someone who will treasure her and show her how much she is appreciated
3:30 - damn, I can literally feel his heart drop to the floor when she told him the truth... I feel bad bc that's actually the worst feeling.
Vincent bringing up testing wouldn't been more believable that he cared about his sexual health if he didn't have feelings for her. Dude very obviously likes her more and he said it out of hurt and shock.
He was definitely hurt bae! But the lady he’s messing with has a good head on her shoulders so she is mature and will handle it well.
@@lakeofalltrades Lmao she doesnt have a chin i dont want to hear it
@@blankaffinityneither does he
@@blankaffinity bruh why you sucking him up so much? You mentioned multiple times she has no chin besides that the guys fiance and one more girl came here saying this guy is a horrible dude. He got he's karma lol 😂
I remember my one & only situationship from about 5 years ago... It was one of the most traumatic experiences I've ever dealt with in my entire life. And I've had more near death experiences than I shouldn't have been in considering I proclaim myself to be a pretty tame individual. I empathize with everyone in this video but I empathize the most with Vincent, as his situationship mirrors closest to what I went through in mines. Being in a situationship with someone when you want to solidify & sustain the bond you have with that person by being in a committed relationship when they don't know if they want the same thing, but you don't know how or don't want to let that person go from your life is one of the greatest forms of settling. If you're in a situationship with someone and you want something more out of it but the other person is not willing to meet you half-way then do yourself a favor and just find someone else who would ACTUALLY love to be with you or be alone and focus on yourself. Situationships are nothing but mind games & confusion (with the added benefits of physical intimacy) which breeds insanity & contempt. And if you're not mentally equipped for something like that, it can be pretty devastating. This video kinda shows a microcosm of that considering the ending interaction of all the "couples" here was not very positive.
/rant
I felt that!
Yessss
Wonderfully explained
I couldn´t agree more. Situationship is just a bad game that only hurts more and more the person who is really willing to commit while the other gets the good part (sex, company and intimacy). It is not easy to deal with this and I´m glad I´m slowly getting over and focusing on myself, my well-being and career, after being in this for 3 years.
Remember: THERE’S no villain just cause you caught feelings and want something “better” no one took advantage of anyone….just SAY what you want and agree or disagree…problem solved!
The fact he risked the possibility of death over saying “I love you” goes to show they don’t need to be together. 🤷🏻♀️
1:07 man is like "truth or death" with the alcohol allergy
LMAO HELP
he chose death
And that was our demonstration on why you should never be in a situation ship, thank you for joining us
The strength these folks have to be in uncommitted relationships. I just feel like it’s a waste of time but maybe I’m just too happy with pleasuring myself 😅
It's not a waste of time if they're enjoying themselves.
The funny part of it tho is that they get all offended, jealous, angry and what have you if the other person goes out or does things with other people. That’s the part I’m just completely baffled about. Like either be in an exclusive relationship or be in an “open” relationship, there’s no in between that you can get mad about then lol
@@dwallace8731 doesn’t sound like enjoyment to me from these interviews but I guess lol
ok but i feel like for a lot of people if you have strong feelings for someone, you would rather have it reciprocated in a small sense then not at all ( at least thats how it was for me🤷♀)
😂😂😂😂
The guy who’s seeing the yellow shirt girl got absolutely brutalized lmao. I think you need to explore your options bro, no girl is worth that
Kinda his fault tho lmao clearly she is open with being like that so if he didn’t wanna get hurt he should’ve stopped messing with her 🤷🏽♂️😂 simple lol now he looks like the biggest simp
@@NiddyGriddy_ he just taking what he can get and he caught feelings instead of keeping it pushing, sucks to see
@@YashPatel-yy7gs facts. He will learn the hard way
same with girl with the pink hair. no man is worth that, she can explore her options and find someone way better than him.
With his looks i don't know if there is much more he can get
The guy with the pink-haired lady rolling out with casual sexism and she just giggles it off
And racism 😅
He was referring to her race not her gender.
I felt so bad for Vincent, the guy with the girl in yellow 😭
He 100% deserved better
Anything for that sweet sweet 🐱 😂😂😂
She didn't have to tell the truth though, but she did.
@@jane-cn6nd lying or ommiting would be worse. It's not bad that she said it. It's bad that she did it with other people
@@jane-cn6ndif it weren’t for the video the truth would’ve never been revealed ☠️
Situationships almost ALWAYS end in disaster. On rare occasion it turns into a relationship, but 95+% of the time, someone will eventually get feelings while the other doesn't and that creates the giant dichotomy that ends it. Far too many people are uncomfortable with commitment, it's why these exist, but my fellow Zillenials, we need to do better than this shit.
I dont think we realize how much damage we are doing ourselves, and how that has let us to be completely alone. There's a lot of self-sabotage involved in this
The girl in the yellow can never just straight up answers. It’s always “that depends”, “yes and no”, “I meaaaaan”. That would drive me insane .
This made me so sad inside.. crazy how we are willing to get treated with our emotions and feel like we deserve very little. Situationships are a place i never want to be in again 🥺❤️🩹
Bruh I'm in a situationship right now too and I related to every person who cared more in the dynamic. It hurts so much and you just want to be enough for the other person, and it destroys your own self-esteem and self-worth. Watching it in front of me is really opening my eyes and showing me that I deserve better and to have someone be proud of me. Please if anyone else is watching this and feels the same way as I do, please move on and choose yourself so you can truly find happiness. This is only going to prolong your suffering if you stay in this limbo state forever. Anyone who truly wants you or cares about your feelings wouldn't torture you like this.
Did you move on ?
Hope you find the one soon, friend. You do deserve better!
Its crazy how people just accept the situation , you can clearly see that 1 of the 2 is always in love and tries to get them to be exclusive , its constant hearthbreak
What I got from this is situationships are just 2 people who want to be together but shouldn't be together. I noticed extreme fear of deep communication and avoidant behaviors but in the end, were all just trying to figure out this new age of dating.
More of 1 person who wants to be with the other and is desperate enough to wait in hopes of it turning into more, and 1 person who doesn't but finds the other person beneficial/tolerable enough to keep around until a better option comes along.
it’s so sad how this kind of thing hurts everyone involved in the end
This man really RISKED HIS LIFE, just to NOT say “I love you”😭like…DAMN
That guy really played truth or death 💀💀
love this situationship content haha makes me feel less alone
Lmao same dude, same.
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Those poor souls
RIGHT
I honestly don't see that much of a difference between FWB and situationship. Especially when u arent ready to become official, both gives the same vibes.
Situationships from what I understand tend to have more romantic feelings involves. But typically aren't sexually exclusive. And if they are, they just don't want to commit and have the responsibility of a relationship
@@naut_nigelthis. Most fwb eventually evolve into situationships the more the people involved have sex with each other. It's that at that point it's hard to detach the feelings and emotion you have for that person from the physical intimacy portion of their involvement but do not want to be tied down to that person just in case someone else comes along that you would be willing to be committed to. I said in my own comment that it's one of the greatest forms of settling, but at the same time it's one of the greatest forms of selfishness as well.
No FWB is more casual than a situationship bc it's usually more on the platonic side and mostly sexual while situationships are closer to the relationship aspect but without the official label
@naut_nigel I understand but it's like this analogy
A thick soup=a stew
A thin stew=a soup. At the end both are like the same thing. No big differences
This definitely just taught me I’m wayyyyy too emotional for a “situationship”
this brought back war flashbacks yikes if you're in a situationship and you know you like the other person more than they like you pls leave
Vincent was adorable in this! I liked the way he handled the STI testing convo; they difficult had a strong vibe going
So much avoidant and anxious attachment in this 😳
I feel like that's the basis for most situationships 🤣
So I’m old
But
Situationships are clearly for those who are cool with unrequited love and scraps, and for those who are just waiting for the real thing, without realizing these dalliances are impeding the possibility of meeting the real thing.
And to address the imbalances
The one who knows they’re more liked…let the person go, it’s selfish knowing they’re holding out and it’s never gonna happen.
And yeah, they’re ALL adults, I get it but…as a human being with empathy it’s wrong to carry on knowing what’s what.
It’s not a big deal when two people casually date with the exact same expectations.
You can’t do it with one person hoping for more.
Im glad Vince found a situation that seems to fit him perfectly. Since honesty and monogamy isnt really his style.
Straight up. She deserves better.
lets all thumb this up.
that dude really left you hurt. you dogging him in every thread possible.
Jay is so misogynistic and we only saw him for a couple minutes where he’s *trying* to look good- imagine how bad he actually is.
Alaina, what are you doing? You deserve so much better. You think he sees you any differently than he sees women as a whole? He doesn’t. He’s *such* a red flag. Please, you have to see that.
@@xiebehongprobably is referring to the comment about my work ethic and that his answer would depend on “what I’m wearing”
Just a guess though. 😂
Misogyny - the most overused and misused term since 2020
@@wheeler5382 nope, he’s just actually misogynistic. But keep excusing misogynists. You’re probably one yourself 👍
Benson and Shayla seem like they are scared to commit even though from an outside perspective it looks like they are dating.
Feel sorry for Elena and Vincent - The people they are in situationships with are just with them until they find someone they would like to commit to.
This episode literally made me even more realize how much I hate situationships and no matter how old someone is they still can lack basic communication skills and self respect and that’s why it’s so hard to date ppl now of days.
Situationships are crazy because if you don’t want to be with me let’s not waste each other’s time
situationships is nothing but friends with benefits with extra features .
I would love to see an episode of truth or drink, but with Situationships that didn’t work out
This video really brought up a lot of old wounds for me. I guess this type of relationship must work out for some people, but I did it for 5yrs during my 20s and it left me with a lot of scars. I've moved on as much as I'm probably capable of, but the reminder of that time in my life sucks. I really feel for the individuals in these couples who are clearly more attached/in love/committed. I think that in order to step away from a situation like this, you need to love yourself more than you love the other person, as difficult as that may be.
i dont like situationships but i am or was in one fairly recently ( idk where we stand rn ) and although it sucks to not have your strong feelings reciprocated as strongly, it feels almost euphoric to have it reciprocated at all in a sense. which i feel like is a dynamic in a lot of situationships. i also think that usually the one that is more romantically involved will love the other unconditionally therefore resulting in the person whos more romantically involved to wait for the other in a situationship even if they arent or never will be ready to commit to an actual relationship. ( i hope that made sense sorry if it was worded weird 😭)
Homeboy risked a full on allergic reaction to keep from saying I love you. Yikes that can’t be a healthy friendship for her.
God! I'm so happy to be 38 and happily married!!!! This in the middle type of relationships are so emotionally draining. If your love interest can't give you need, learn to let them go, even if you love them! It WILL work out for the best.
This is like basically one person taking advantage of another person's feelings towards them lol
You will never ever EVER find me doing this. If I like someone and they don’t want to commit, they are NOT for me.
It was refreshing to hear that Jay was allergic to alcohol - it's very rare to hear someone who has such a condition similar as me. (I'm allergic to certain alcohols, not all) I feel like more awareness should be spread on allergies, especially ones that sound stupid when you tell them to people lol. The amount of times people have not cared or not taken it seriously when I explained to them, is crazyyyy.
Refreshing?
@@K.RUclips2 (from dictionary) Refreshing - welcome or stimulating because new or different.
Are you Asian by any chance?
@@edithputhy4948 No haha
I think the whole situationships of everybody goes to show that none of them technically have an interest in each other but continue to mess around until they find someone better which is crazy.
I hope all of these people move on from each other and find someone else who is sure about them 🫶🏼
3:55 They need to break up like RIGHT NOW. The guy obviously loves her and wants something serious and she makes it clear as day she only hooks up with him for fun. Not okay.
I just got out of a situationship and this video made me so grateful that I’m not in it anymore. It sucks.
Yellow shirt dude has a right to be upset. They might not be exclusive, but you should atleast let the person know that your going to be doing things with another person. And then you don’t go get tested afterwards, before you come back to them? Yuck.
Not being exclusive means just that. if you want monogamy say that and just be in a relationship instead of this hald baked situationship nonsense
@@kissberrywishexactly
@@kissberrywish no, that isn't what that is. You still get tested between partners, that's the responsible thing to do as a sexually active adult, has nothing to do with any relationship status. Whether you're taken, fwb, situationships or a one night stand, you get tested between and if you can't or haven't, use protection.
@@strider5119 Everyone can decide for thrmselves when they get tested actually. Were adults here. And if you have boundaries that conflict with that, express them.
@kissberrywish everyone "can" decide that, but it's irresponsible to not. The adult thing to do is regularly get tested. People like you are the reason herpes and shit continues to spread. Getting tested can literally be the difference between no one else catching something, or 30 people catching something.
People these days will do literally anything to not say they are in a relationship
oh god watching this is making me feel more safe searching for a relationship that any other thing.
I felt bad for Vincent because he seems like he wants a full relationship with her. The woman is the one using him for convenient attention and sexual exploits. Then again, can't feel too bad for someone that is actively in a situationship with the full understanding he is wasting time with someone that doesn't want to be with him.
5:59 That was such a fake shot and I get it because he's allergic but ig cut could at least be honest and not try to play it off
I back this kind of situation. If it hurts, you get out but to me the idea is that we're single, we're all working on ourselves physically as well as mentally, and although i'm partnered now, I was single for 7 years, it always felt so wasteful being at peak optimal mode and not having anyone to celebrate that with while we're kind of waiting for that forever person. I do think that eventually continuous physicality turns into someone catching feelings, but if you approach it in an honest way, people can depart peacefully before that sets in.
That chick in YELLOW is a RED flaggg. Run away broooo
Soooo it’s pretty much people who don’t wanna commit or put a title on it……?
pretty much, dumb right?
so they put another title on it XD
@@sakutaro3musik486 the irony is crazy ain’t it? 😂😂
An "ex" kept making excuses on why we should keep being in a situationship for 3ish years. We were in the "i love you" phase but he will never tell other people that we were exclusively together. That was the most toxic relationship I've ever been in.
the awww it’s ok @ 4:53 really hurt me cuz you can hear that it’ll never get past a relationship
Situationships are TOXIC ASF! I lived mine for 11 years... And now i just want to never ever feel thiq deep love for someone else coz i love him so much but he "was lost"... Yeahh lost forr 11 years.. ' pure destruction
Vincent seems sweet. Definitely got the vibe that he would be the one getting hurt.
In reality a situationship is really when one person wants more than fwb but the other doesn’t. The situation is that y’all aren’t on the same page fr😭
oh man. some of these ppl are dating they just don't know it. 😄
I will never understand situationships. "I love you like a friend" so you have romantic relationships with all your friends? Lmao.
Its hard to understand till you find yourself in one. I was in one and didnt know people had a name for it till now lol. Basically we were great friends that had feelings for each other and slept with each other and even dated on and off, but as much fun as we had together we both knew there was just some things between us that would keep us from being totally in a relationship. Like if we both had been tweaked just a tiny bit to the left or right we would fit perfectly but that was not how things where. So we ended up having a weird on and off relationship were i think both of us hoped things would change to make the fit perfect, it just never happened.
my situationship went on for 2 years and lemme tell y'all if u are really in one of these, LEAVE. it may seem so difficult to and it may seem like things may change but I promise u it is not worth staying with someone who doesn't want to commit. It may seem like its impossible to find someone who is really down for u but I promise u the right person is out there. I am ashamed and sad at times that I wasted so much time on my ex situationship and I gave so many chances, continuously hurting myself to compromise for them and hoping they'd change. I am traumatized from the emotional and mental strain that had on me for so long. I ended things last May and I felt like I was fundamentally unloveable (given my past experiences as well) but way down the line a year and a half later I explored and found so many beautiful and wonderful friends and also the most loving and supportive girlfriend in the world. I am surrounded by people I love and people who love me as I come and it has never felt better to have that surrounding me. Things really do get better once you let go of what's holding you back and you put yourself out there and explore. Don't be afraid to make that decision for yourself because you deserve the best that's out there for you. Life is too short to wait around and be hurt. I hope this helps someone who may need some guidance and I hope others who have been in the same place have found their person and peace :)
I’d just like to say all situationships are not this bad, lord. If you constantly communicate with one another about your expectations and needs it can be a really fun time. Not everyone desires a committed partner, and this type of relationship is great if done correctly. These ppl who want their situationship to be their bf/gf have already messed up the ‘agreement’, it’s time for them to move on.
i already knew i could not do this but this was a hard reminder on why i should not get into a situationship
Situationships?!? Now there is a name for relationships when one person is very much into and the other wants just the benefits of having a partner but doesn´t really want to commit. It is actually kind of sad that we put ourselves (yes, me included) in this kind of situation. Hope for the guy and girls who want more that they find someone that is open for a relationship.
After watching this, I can tell that if one has enough self-love and is emotionally mature, one will never be in a situationship! Even friends with benefits seems healthier than this, if relationship is not one's thing.
Reminder to avoid these types of relationships! In the end 9/10 times it will leave you feeling worse than before!
Damn , this video brings me back to memory lane. Situationships always are multifaceted and cause some sort of hurt one way or the other. Intentional or not , good learning experience on both ends and as hard as it can be don’t wait on someone to love you and show up for you. So much more to live for than creating an image in your head of someone who genuinely knows what you want. I been on both sides and as far as stringing someone a long for your own benefits … you’ll always feel some sort of guilt and that same void until you stop depending on peoples emotions and validation.
TRUEEEEEE,
Sitautionships - where you can go from texting frequently and having sex to getting ghosted or blocked for no apparent reason.
People actually differentiate between fwb and situationships? They're both the same. They both involve an individual that has feelings for the other but their self-esteem is so low they accept it because they would rather agree than be alone.
These types of relationships are always so ridiculous. One of the partners always gets frustrated or disappointed when they find out that the other partner did something with someone else. Just commit to a full relationship!
Everyone I know who has ever been in a situationship has hated it and ended up miserable. This is the video proof. How sad.
My heart goes out to these fools
Fr lol
That man would rather risk his life than say I love you 😂 he had to have had an epi pen locked and loaded
This made me very uncomfortable 😂. Glad I’ve never had to experience a situationship
"Situation-ship defined as a by-product of poor communication and low self-esteem"
there’s people who find situationships quite riveting but willfully consenting to a situationships is absolutely crazy