3:34 fat people are allowed to just.. be. Fat people can be healthy, fat people can be unhealthy, because being fat tells you nothing about them or how they live. Apart from the fact they’re fat.
we dont understand how being unhealthy is some moral failure anyways. were unhealthy, we recognize it, if we dont want to improve that would be harmful for us. for US. how is it morally wrong to just… be unhealthy? also fat people can be perfectly healthy as well!! -kuja
Literally. Especially since fatphobia just also adds this weird layer of superiority over others for being thin--as if that is always something to achieve or something you can control. It really hurts people who just have fat body types, maybe don't have access to a lifestyle where they could be skinnier (if they're body type allows), or who have medical issues like PCOS and Depression which can either directly affect weight or have medications that can affect weight.
That guys using the picture of a dog side eying him was so dumb. A skinny person not believing someone about their eating habits, meanwhile some skinny people rival locusts with how they eat.
Exactly! The idea that health equates to worth is very abelist and classist. Fat people, healthy or unhealthy, should not have to use “I’m healthy” as a defense, because health should not equate to worth
Not everyone deals with grief by showing outward sadness. People can be angry, they can feel numb. Just because I’m not crying doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect me
0:15 OMG THANK YOU!!! i don't "identity" as non-binary, i am non-binary. they way people will say "gender and gender identity" is so transphobic, queer genders are no different to non-queer genders. a gender is a gender
random thought i had when reading this that might be a sort of bad question: in a society where you're supposed to just to take your place- even if you are a non-queer gender, is that in a way kind of a queer gender? like, if you've actually questioned your gender and come to the conclusion that you're cis, that is sort of subverting the social construct and hegemony still, is it not? not to say your comment isn't (SO) true or anything /gen
@@itsthealpaca2456 it really depends on the person i guess. it doesn't really matter all that much what words people use to describe themselves as long as its genuine (i.e. not 'i identify as a helicopter, haha' mocking type stuff) and they understand what those words actually mean
Personally I still use "they identify as" language (mainly for sexuality but for gender sometimes too) but when someone says some shit like "girls boys and people who identify as nonbinary" it gives SUCH an ick. Like you didn't have to single out that one group
I just had an intense day, I need some comfort. My gf and I just broke up, not because we fell out or someone cheated, but because I'm going through medical stuff and haven't been able to communicate with her for a month. We both still love each other, but decided it'd be better for us to be friends. We were respectful and polite. We were both crying. This was all over text. We both said “I love you” at the end of our messages. She hopes well be together again after med shit calms down -arrow
it WILL get better. not right away. for right now it'll hurt. a lot. but it's okay to feel however you feel. it's okay to be angry, resentful, to feel like it's not fair, cuz it's not, to feel upset with everyone and everything cuz a medical condition is something totally out of your control. however you feel, that's okay. i don't really have any advice or anything, cuz sometimes life just sucks. but i'm sorry things suck right now. sending you hugs
9:23 I really hate how people feel it's their right to armchair-diagnose everyone with anything they can think of. There's a difference between recognizing symptoms in a close friend or family member and discussing whether they think they might have a certain condition and projecting your own disability onto any random celebrity that you don't know outside of their content and interviews.
I was told at my first therapist appointment that I was supposed to be screened for autism at a younger age bc I had a speech delay (I still struggle to speak & communicate). I didn’t get one bc when I did start speaking I apparently had no problems. Now me and my stepdad think I actually might be autistic. Edit: the appointment got rescheduled 🫠
Wild now when I hear people talking about “Asian privilege” they mean rich, pale, conventionally attractive, abled Japanese/Korean people. Not the dark skinned poor disabled south Asians. Do you mean “Asian privilege” or do you mean “association to wyt supremacy”
Just to mention- even rich, pale, conventionally attractive, abled East Asian people still experience discrimination and racism. They have association to white supremacy, as you said, but will never experience that level of privilege.
@@WxngedMoth I know, right? As a South Asian, calling myself Asian is technically correct but always feels wrong, because people assume that Asian only means East Asian.
contribute however you can. you can't always do all the things others do to help community, and that's okay. you have different circumstances, different resources, different abilities. some people can afford to dedicate their whole lives to advocating and fighting, some people can only boycott, buy second hand clothes instead of fast fashion or share posts online. that's okay, do whatever you can, it matters.
as long as you're doing waht you can, that's enough. and like, just imagine if everyone ACTUALLY did what they could. most people don't. but imagine if everyone did, how much better our world could be
I feel like time passes too slowly, it feels like my college semester isn't coming fast enough. My work schedule is horrible, I work a single day this week and I take the puppy for her shots this week. My bank account keeps getting drained, why is every company "hiring" but no one is scheduling? Are they trying to get people quit on purpose so companies can say that no one wants to work anymore? No one wants to work 1 day a week! I want to work more and not be broke!
2:56 100% this. I'd only add that I think a lot of the white standards are also able-bodied standards, such as the work ethic standards being able-bodied. So it also identifies disabled people, especially POC disabled people, as "lazy".
Genuine question have you ever seen somebody call a physically disabled person lazy I have never seen that happen in my life not even on the Internet maybe mentally disabled but definitely not physically disabled people.
Well, the problem is that disabilities are apart of normal human life, even if statistically disabled people are a minority and disability is treated as outside of the norm of human experience. The term C.R.A.B.s (Currently Regarded as Able-Bodied) is often used to help describe this. Anyone at any time can become disabled in some way, especially as we age, and so ignoring disability, treating it as abnormal to human function or "lazy" really affects humanity on a larger scale than many may realize. Especially since many physical accommodations for disabled people often help the majority of people with numerous tasks, and many disabled people can still appear able-bodied some of the time. (Such as those with invisible disabilities of some kind, and/or those with fluctuating physical ability.) In terms of the norm of physical tasks that most people can perform, yes--there is absolutely a norm based on the majority that isn't inherently wrong or ill-intentioned, based on able-bodied people. But on that same side, there SHOULD be a norm for various disabilities that is seen as another norm, rather than something that is lazy, wrong, outcast, or unpleasant. Essentially, yes there should be a norm that reflects the majority--but those not in the majority should not always be an afterthought or seen as not normal just because of numerical population. Hope that answers your question?@@Deneriax
i think it's all really tied into capitalism too, and the idea that your only "value" comes from productivity. so people who are inherently less productive (in capitalist terms anyway, like work production value) are less valuable or worthy or whatever. doesn't' factor in their morality, or what kind of community they might build or anything, just whether or not they can produce labor value for the economy. and if not, then they're "lazy" i hate that
@@rebeccalassetter1726 visibly physically disabled? no, probably not. but consider that not every physical disability IS visible. i have a friend with fibromyalgia. she's my age. but i've seen people give her dirty looks and yell at her for parking in a handicapped spot (WITH a placard) simply because she CAN walk and doesn't look visibly disabled. because they don't realize that walking long distances or for an extended period of time causes her extreme pain, and can even wear her out so much that it'll cause really bad flare ups the next day. they just see a girl who can walk and think she's being lazy wanting to park closer. i've seen this a TON in real life, and while they might not outright SAY the word lazy, they definitely make it clear through their actions that that's what they think. That people are just being lazy by requesting to sit on the bus when it's full (because they LOOK fine), or by requesting mobility aids to get through a big ass airport. and that's because they don't' LOOK disabled. so people just see someone and assume they're abled bodied, because they don't see crutches or a wheelchair or something. and yes, that's ableism.
Hello! Going to the doctor today. It’s an hour drive, and I always get anxiety driving to busy places I haven’t been to before, but i think i will be okay. -Susie
Said this before but I think it got deleted. One of the bodies legs feels like it’s being stabbed (as in sharp pain) and we don’t know why. Our math teacher says it’s because we need to stretch but idk -Nyx
@@Sprinkles-is-confused Yeah we’ve had joint pain for a while so that’s going to be brought up 100%. We usually don’t have enough time (or remember) to stretch (teacher says for 10 mins) so idk what to do there I don’t want to get up earlier than I have to -Nyx
Similar thing happened to me. I've had some serious back and knee pain for a while (this was a couple years ago, and I still have the same pain). At the time, my mom said that it shouldn't get checked out because the doctor would just say I need to exercise more.
Mum almost cancelled my therapy appointment because she thinks that therapy is bad for you (she listened to one podcast) its annoying bc she only 'cares about my wellbeing' when it is to spite my dad -vik
Ive been listening to the miku expo 2024 setlist and honestly childish war is such a banger i cant believe i slept on it up until now. My friend is so excited bc on the rocks is on there and they've always wanted to see that live -vik
I road my bike today! I havent for a while so im a little winded. :( someone wasnt looking and almost ran me over when i was getting to the next sidewalk- had to break really fast.
5:58 If you wanna support AlluringSkull/Jory she has a twitch account where she streams Stardew Valley, Among us, and Fortnite! She also streams on RUclips too!
hi sillies! i have been deemed Mr. Chaos by my friend who also deemed my other friend Mrs. Chaos. he said "I have to be in a book club with Mr. and Mrs. Chaos over here"
School today :( people are annoying and I'm still learning that people not liking me bc im autistic isn't my fault so it kinda sucks rn, only a few more weeks until summer tho :) -vik
so it took me a long time to learn this one (i'm 34 and when i say a long time, i mean ages). but not everyone HAS to like you. it's okay if they don't. i know it was really hard for me, for a long time, to sit with the fact that someone didn't like me. and i'd do everything in my power to change their mind and get them to like me. but doing that only hurt me. because i was so focused on them and their needs and trying to give them what they wanted or needed so they'd like me that i neglected myself. so don't do that. because YOU deserve your energy. you deserve to focus on and take care of yourself. that fact is, that even if you try really hard, some people just won't like you for whatever reason. but that TRULY isn't your fault. some people's personalities just aren't compatible with each other, and that's okay. not everyone has to like you. it really isn't your fault. and also, as someone who's older, i can promise that in a couple of years when you're out of school and you don't have to see those people every day, when you have more control over who you spend you time with and you can actually CHOOSE who's around you, it'll get a lot better. those people won't be part of your life anymore anyway. you'll get to build a community for yourself of people who do like you, who give you the love and respect you deserve, people who appreciate you for being exactly who you are. and the people at school that made school suck, they'll be an occasional afterthought, but not people who have any impact on your life anymore. i know for me, school was the WORST. but once you're done with that, everything gets a lot better in a lot of ways. so hang in there okay?
The woman who started my autism diagnosis was really wired and said things like, everyone's a little autistic and that the spectrum goes from little to very autistic. So I was very scared :( But now I got a different psychologist and she said that my test results are speaking for the 'tism, but in my parents Interview I seemed allistic. But she totally understood that as an afab person that masking (if possible, which is for me) kicks in very early so it's hard to see from the outside. And cuz I'm in the mental hospital that does the diagnosing professionals can look at my day to day and then I'll prob get the diagnosis. Diagnosis is a privilege and I'm very lucky to get such an educated psychologist for the evaluation.
You came down to this Southern town last summer To show the folks a brand new way of life But all you've shown the folks Around here is trouble And you've only added misery to their strife Your concern is not to help the people And I'll say again Though it's been often said Your concern is just to bring discomfort My friend And your policy is just a little red Now, ain't I right It matters not to you how people suffer And should they you'd consider that a gain You bring a lot of trouble to The town and then you leave That's part of your Communistic game I detect a little Communism I can see it in the things you do Communism, socialism, call it what you like There's very little difference in the two Now, ain't I right Your followers sometimes have been a bearded Bathless bunch There's even been a minister or two A priest, a nun, a rabbi and an educated man Have listened and been taken in by you Ah, the country's full Of two-faced politicians Who encourage you with words That go like this Burn your draft card if you like It's good to disagree That's a get acquainted Communistic kiss Now, ain't I right One politician said it would be Nice to send some blood And help the enemy in Vietnam That's what he says, here's what I say Let's just keep the blood Instead let's send that politician man Let's rid the country of the politicians Who call us tramps that march Out in our street Protesting those who wanna fight for freedom My friend This kind of leader makes our country weak Now, ain't I right Let's look and find the Strong and able leaders It's time we found just How our neighbors stand If we're to win this war with Communism Let's fight it here as well as Vietnam Let's rise as one and meet our obligations So Communistic boots will never trod Across the fields of freedom that Were given to us With the blessing of our great almighty God Across the fields of freedom that Were given to us With the blessing of our great almighty God
I work as an employee for the Kame Yu department stores, and I get home every day by 8 PM at the latest. I don't smoke, but I occasionally drink. I'm in bed by 11 PM, and make sure I get eight hours of sleep, no matter what. After having a glass of warm milk and doing about twenty minutes of stretches before going to bed, I usually have no problems sleeping until morning. Just like a baby, I wake up without any fatigue or stress in the morning. I was told there were no issues at my last check-up. I'm trying to explain that I'm a person who wishes to live a very quiet life. I take care not to trouble myself with any enemies, like winning and losing, that would cause me to lose sleep at night. That is how I deal with society, and I know that is what brings me happiness. Although, if I were to fight I wouldn't lose to anyone.
Anyone else have a lot of trouble starting things? Like, it takes me a few hours to a few DAYS to even prepare to take a shower. I get books that I am ecstatic to read but, take weeks to actually start them. I just take a really long time to actually start things. Anyone else have this problem?
yep! turns out, task paralysis (that not being able to make yourself do the thing, even though you're screaming at yourself in your head "just DO IT"), that's an adhd thing. might wanna look into adhd and see if you relate to some of the other criteria. because WOW, realizing that was me was pretty huge. and learning to adapt some of my strategies really helped. like for instance, body doubling helps a lot. it's where you just have someone else there, physically occupying your space with you. if you've noticed that it's easier for you to do things when someone else is there, adhd COULD be why. i joke that i'm never more productive that when my boyfriend is over at my place, but it's so true. and like, if i'm really struggling to get in the shower, then he'll come with me and just sit there while i shower and talk to me and stuff. and that makes it a LOT easier. you can even body double with a friend via like facetime or something. it helps me anyway. maybe it could help you too?
I dont think a lot of people understand what dissociation actually is. I see it really often that singlets will fakeclaim systems or anybody with dissociative symptoms simply based on what they think dissociation is. its not just the typical “zoning out”, theres several different types of dissociating and even more different ways of how it can look on the outside! comment if youd like me to explain -kuja (were testing out using our sign offs again yayyy!)
YES! It can be not knowing who you are, where you are, key parts of information, feeling like you’re in a simulation, feeling like you’re less “solid” than everything else, zoning out, blacking out, not feeling an emotional connection to something you normally would, and more!!!
@@goblinguy3103one of the most common to experience yet lesser known types of dissociation is future projection! essentially spacing out because youre deep into envisioning yourself as old and going through a “Im going to pass away soon” late-stage life crisis, even though youre very young, is an example of that and something we experience often unfortunately theres so much more to dissociating than “I zone out a lot”
I would like an explanation of the different kinds of disassociation, because I’ve been saying stuff about disassociating in relation to myself, but I feel like I might have been going off of a wrong definition. What I’ve been calling “disassociation” for myself is kind of just intense daydreaming? If that makes sense. I’m not sure if that’s the best way to describe it. Have a great rest of your day/night and hydrate! /lh
rambling to fight the, feel free to ramble in the replies :) sponge relay race. bucket full of water, bucket that's empty, large sponge, people run between the buckets, trying to fill the empty bucket as much as possible, as fast as possible. fun summer activity :)
hey everyone, im on my period again so i feel really bad :(( (dysphoria snd just general uncomfyness) but im planning on staying at home and watching nimona again today ‼️
also on my period. no dysphoria, i just hate it. and like, why do i have to keep doing this if i'm never having kids. can i get a refund/return on this gig from the universe please??? sorry things are crappy today. i hope tomorrow is better. but just remember, having a period doesn't invalidate who you are!
I’ve been questioning if I’m on the asexual spectrum. I know that I don’t like AFAB genitals (mine or others) because it makes me dysphoric, and I’m also uncomfortable with my body, so I want to be clothed during activities. I like causing people pleasure, and I’m okay with doing so with my hands/mouth or toys. Watching other people experience pleasure excites me, but I often don’t desire to join, I can only say “I’d be comfortable with doing that.” Not “I want to do that.” I read erotic things, and they excite me, but when I imagine exciting scenarios, they almost never have me in them. I like BDSM culture, but I know that it doesn’t have to be sexual. I think I just like it because I’m autistic and like directions and structure lol. I haven’t desired to be sexual with anyone, but I don’t know if that’s because of my gender dysphoria, my body dysmorphia, my autism, the fact that I’m young (adult teen) or the fact that I haven’t interacted with enough viable people. I can think of a hypothetical person I would like to be sexual with (casual sex with someone interested in me and okay with my boundaries, or with a long established partner I’m comfortable with), but they haven’t happened yet. Pls help /lh /nf
being ace is about wether or not you have desire to be sexual with others. if you have little to know sexual desires in relation to other people then your likely asexual. engaging in sexual behaviors doesn't make you not ace. reading erotica, self pleasure, you can still be ace if you do these things.
i don't know how to help really, but i just want to let you know that it's okay if you're not really sure what's up. sexuality and all that can be really confusing and complex. and it's okay to not be sure, to try on different labels or whatever else while you figure yourself out. hell, i'm 34 and i'm still figuring myself out. it's a lifelong process. and it's okay for things to change too. there's no right or wrong answers here.
idk if youre interested in microlabels, but "when I imagine exciting scenarios, they almost never have me in them" it sounds like aegosexual which is on the ace spectrum /info
Tw demanding Hey can you take care of yourself? Just do one small thing that will make yourself happy. And if you feel like you can do more, please stretch, drink some water, and eat something.
Just had my first extremely tedious and confusing experience with the dmv so I guess I’m having my canon event :/ today was still good tho! My theatre director said I did really well in the lightning thief and I’ll probably get bigger roles next year! -Jojo
good luck. the dmv doesn't really get better. but now that you know how it goes, at least you can kind of be more prepared for the confusion and difficulty next time. congrats on the compliment from your theatre director! awesome job
Slightly unrelated, but until laws are changed to “if they commit a crime” instead of “if he/she commits a crime” then I am above the law, as I use literally every other pronouns that exists, just not he/she
9:21 I do wanna add a bit of nuance that nd people are often the only people who can identify other nd people. Recognising “this person does a lot of things I do and I’m nd and huh maybe they’re nd” but going “this person IS nd and that’s the only reason people are criticising” is unsafe.
I feel like such an outcast in my family. They’re very religious, I’m not. They’re…’traditional’ (honestly idk wtf that means in this context nowadays-), I want change in our world bc all this is isn’t right at all. And they’re like…heavily trans/homophobic, they even make fun of us sometimes and I have to sit here and do nothing bc they won’t let me. I do everything to make them understand and make them not hate me but…it’s hurting me at the same time and idk if I can keep it up anymore
i'm sorry. wish i had some advice, but for right now, it's mostly just hang in there. i don't talk to my family anymore, gone full no contact, cuz they all SUCK. but since i'm 34 now, i CAN promise you it gets better. it won't always be like this. yeah, it can be really hard to come to terms with the fact that the people in your family, people who are supposed to love you, just see the world so wildly differently that they don't really accept you. especially cuz it feels like, am i not worth changing your mind for, even trying to understand a little. but that's the thing. it's not you. it's hard to explain this. but with a lot of people, opening up their minds so that they understand and become more accepting, that's really hard for them and really terrifying. because it means they would have to fundamentally alter core beliefs they've lived by their whole lives. it would shake the foundation of everything they've built themselves on. and a lot of people don't want to do that work. especially because doing that work means sitting with a LOT of discomfort when you realize how your crappy views have perpetuated harm and sometimes outright harmed people. they don't want to sit with that discomfort or shame. so they just ... don't. because that's easier. even if it means alienating and harming the people they love. it's easier to hold onto those crappy beliefs that harm you than it is for them to change how they think and sit with their discomfort and shame and whatever else. and that sucks., it really fucking sucks. but it's also not a YOU thing at all. it doesn't mean you aren't good enough or that you're the problem. THEY'RE the problem, because they refuse to do the work on themselves and choose to allow their mindsets to harm you all instead. i'm sorry you're dealing with that. it's really unfair. but it WILL get better. you won't always have to live with these people. one day ya'll will get to be on your own, and then YOU get to decide how to live, who else you have in your lives, all of that. and for now, just do your best to surround yourself with other people, people that do genuinely accept and support you. lean into those people, give them your energy, because they'll give it back. let them be there for you, let them support you. and just know that it'll get easier
i am unfortunately in a very similar situation, i dont have any advice other than, its not your responsibility to change their mind. if trying to change their minds is hurting you, its probably better to stop and put your energy into trying to help people, and try to put good into the world.
tw stuff im tired. someone said i needed to seek help for thinking im vriska so not only am i svuidal but i also cant talk about it in therapy because im not talking about it out of spite
@@delagoence3739 well I know it’s a type of bob yea, but she said it was a specific type. Sounded like “Roberta bob” or something, but when I look it up I can’t find it, so I must be sayin it wrong
@@modularb oh! Apologies, I had misunderstood. She is saying "Roberta Bob" I had understood it as vibe description, like it's the most bob, similar to how she said it was "bobbing bobbily" cause bob is also a nickname for Robert and the feminine version of Robert is Roberta
it's okay if not every day is productive. we're all human, and we need rest sometimes too. proud of you for doing what you wanted to today. but even if you get nothing done tomorrow, i'll still be proud of you
Warning for discussion of (a fictional) ab***ive relationship Y'know. Having watched Bojack horseman, it really highlights just how awful Belle and rumpelstiltskin's relationship was in Once upon a time. Like, it was already obvious how toxic their relationship is. But that man REALLY should not have been redeemed. They REALLY should not have been together in the end. It teaches that, yes!, you CAN fix your abusive partner! Like, god fcking damn it. Like, I used to think about how season seven of OUAT "added a necessary aspect of rumpelstiltskin's arc (IN THE *LAST* EPISODE.)" Because, he made a selfless decision WITHOUT Belle as a motivation. And granted, I did feel that that should have been a thing MUCH earlier. And, that's not necessarily a _wrong_ opinion, I guess. But there was the potential for a really good story about Belle leaving him for good, realizing that the potential of him being good, of their relationship being good, isn't worth it. She could have prioritized herself. And maybe, Rumpelstiltskin could still have his redemption arc, but without Belle in the picture. But even with him well and truly redeemed, she still wouldn't get back with him. Because, many times when she believed that he had truly changed, he just fell right back into his old patterns. She's learned that she can never trust him to be better. Uhh I think that's all, folks. Goodnight (I say at almost 5 am)
A little song for you all. German soldiers sang it to pass the time when marching. Enjoy :) (translation below) Auf der Heide blüht ein kleines Blümelein Und das heißt Erika Heiß von hunderttausend kleinen Bienelein Wird umschwärmt Erika Denn ihr Herz ist voller Süßigkeit Zarter Duft entströmt dem Blütenkleid Auf der Heide blüht ein kleines Blümelein Und das heißt Erika In der Heimat wohnt ein blondes Mägdelein Und das heißt Erika Dieses Mädel ist mein treues Schätzelein Und mein Glück Erika Wenn das Heidekraut rot-lila blüht Singe ich zum Gruß ihr dieses Lied Auf der Heide blüht ein kleines Blümelein Und das heißt Erika In mein'm Kämmerlein blüht auch ein Blümelein Und das heißt Erika Schon beim Morgengrau'n sowie beim Dämmerschein Schaut's mich an Erika Und dann ist es mir, als spräch' es laut "Denkst du auch an deine kleine Braut?" In der Heimat weint um dich ein Mägdelein Und das heißt Erika (Translation) On the heath there blooms a little flower And it’s called Erika Eagerly a hundred thousand little bees Swarm around Erika For her heart is full of sweetness A sweet scent comes from her flower-dress On the heath there blooms a little flower And it’s called Erika Back at home there lives a young maiden And she’s called Erika That girl is my faithful little darling And my joy Erika When the heather blooms in red and purple I shall sing to her this song in greeting On the heath there blooms a little flower And it’s called Erika In my room there also blooms a little flower And she’s called Erika In the grey of dawn just as it does at dusk It looks at me Erika And it’s like it’s saying to me out loud “Are you thinking of your little bride?” Back at home a young maiden cries for you And she’s called Erika
Ooh thank you for this! It was a good test of my German skills, as I used to speak it as a small child with my dad, but when I went into school I kinda forgot it because I had to be speaking English all day :(
My only advice is inhaler and earbuds. Exercising was always something I _wanted_ to do but felt horrible doing. Very much Lazytown fan. Last year I got an inhaler. Now I ride my bike often and play with my nieces and nephews and have fun. I took my niece to a trampoline park couple weeks ago and played for two hours with her. Was sweaty and mildly exhausted, but *not* dying! But if you aren't forever ill like me and don't need something you're not getting, music is my only answer. I always listen to my Doctor Who playlist while riding my bike.
Listening to Junkers JU-87 Stuka sounds on the surround sound stereo in the living room while I was home alone is the most autistic thing I’ve done in a while
9:02 this video makes me laugh so hard bc black people in R&J adaptations is not a new thing in any way LIKE MERCUTIO AND THE PRINCE WERE BOTH BLACK CHARACTERS IN THE BAZ LERMAN ADAPTATION WHYRE WE ACTING LIEKT THIS IS SOMETHING ALL NEW UTS NOT
ykw fuck it we're gonna do the dishes!!!! stop dancing to the music, of Gorillaz in a happy mood yeah yeah yeah dayy do de bop dayy do de bop /song - 🛼
Tw kinda vent-ish Anyone have tips on dealing with memory issues? I am really really forgetful and can often not remember much, unless I've read or wrote it. So far in life I could compensate for my memory loss and forgetfulness by just improvising during exams and like not having friends and spending all my days reading. But now I'm in highschool (kinda? not american) and I got a lot more homework that I really need to do. So most of the time I forget to do my homework and get a bad grade and IF I even remember to do my homework it takes me hours to do even one simple task. And my memories usually go grey after a month or so and even before that my memory is not good. And now that I actually have more friends and a lovely partner, I see that it's also affecting my relationships. I mean I forget a lot of things, I forget birthdays, interests, when I wanted to meet people, heck I can't even properly remember the first date I had withbmy partner and that was one of my favourite moments of my life. And in addition to THAT, I also sometimes don't have a good sense of identity, I often can't remember the things I like for example or can't decide whether I want something or not. And all of that is not only tiring as f*ck, but also really scary and upsetting :/ I'd really appreciate if someone has tips on dealing with any of this
hi! we deal with memory issues. first things first its important you try to find the cause of the memory issues and identity disconnect as these can be symptoms of underlying neurological issues like FND or seizures. i highly recommend seeking a medical professional. but in the meantime we have tips. one of the biggest things we do to help is write everything down. set tones of reminders and leave sticky notes everywhere lol. writing things down on your arm can also help. but if you have a notes app on ur phone i highly recommend that. as for the exams thing! if you have notes and some time, reading over them and googling the concepts right before can jogg your memory. just reading over a bunch of the material can help too. sometimes it can help to read through a big section of the exam and then go back and start answering questions bc it gives your brain some time to process the information and not get overwhelmed. for the identity thing, pull out something you can write or type on and just make a list of things you like and dislike, things you like to wear, people you like to talk to, your friends, family, name, pronouns, birthday, anything connected to your identity, it can take some time to get all of that stuff written down if you're struggling but its worth it. when you feel disconnected you can go back and read that list to yourself to help ground yourself and connect with who you are. there are also some grounding exersisis that tend to help us. one of them is the color grounding where you go down the list of colors and find things in your surroundings that match, another one is about senses. overall it can be good to find some grounding techniques that help you. this stuff can be scary but you've got this, you're doing your best and that's all that anyone can ask for. -seraph
@@Sprinkles-is-confused thank you so much :) I think I've been doing a lot of these already, but I well I forget about it sometimes... So thank youuu :) (I've already spoken to multiple therapists about this, but none of them thought it was much of a problem :/ So I guess in the meantime I just gotta deal with this and try to find out from where it comes on my own )
Ok this may or may not help you because my memory issues don’t sound as serious as yours but this is what helps me: If you have an Alexa or the reminders app as soon as you hear about an assignment or homework find a time and set as a reminder right as you hear about it You can try time limits on apps if that’s something that distracts you. When the time limit is up do your assignment then. I hate studying so what I usually do is remind my self a day or two before an exam and just look over notes then, you can also set reminders for when you should look up notes. Meeting people is the same thing, set reminders for that. Write down what you’re interested in and write down what your friends are interested in and their birthdays. It’s hard for me to decide if I want something as well but what helps me a bit is asking if I genuinely would use or wear the thin
ok i've seen other ppl doing this and i want to do it too make assumptions abt my ocs based off of their names, these are only a few so i might do this again tomorrow
@@aaaa.non-battery ren's about average height and you're right about iris wearing glasses!! i haven't really thought about what colours she likes, though she wears a lot of cool tones so i can see her liking purple!!
just typed out an entire oc ramble realising you guys are missing some critical context to the story :/ i'll make another comment with the context tomorrow lol
i did not know that paige layle was saying problematic things these days :( i used to really like her content but i haven't seen anything from her in a while
This may be more of a first world problem but, I still think it ties into a lot of issues we have now. People are allowed to make queer headcannons of their favorite characters. I feel like there are very few exceptions to this. But as long as you are not invalidating the characters already established queer identity, you are allowed to make all the gay headcannons you want. And if anyone gives you hate about it, ignore it as best you can. And remember you are doing nothing wrong.💕🫧
we washed our needoh again, it smells like rose hand soap :33 we Would Have washed it in the sink If We Didn't Need To Do Dishes, and plus our germs are on it a lot of the time and we're sick so we dont wanna get our dad and brother sick. one of the trees in our yard bloomed so the bees are having a field day, we're defo gonna try and keep an eye on our dog so she doesnt piss them off and get stung, the tree's got pretty white flowers though :3 - 🛼
happy lesbian visibility week to any lesbians in these comments as well as my lesbian headmates ❤❤ y'all are awesome keep doing what you're doing 👍 - 🛼
3:34 fat people are allowed to just.. be. Fat people can be healthy, fat people can be unhealthy, because being fat tells you nothing about them or how they live. Apart from the fact they’re fat.
we dont understand how being unhealthy is some moral failure anyways. were unhealthy, we recognize it, if we dont want to improve that would be harmful for us. for US. how is it morally wrong to just… be unhealthy?
also fat people can be perfectly healthy as well!!
-kuja
Literally. Especially since fatphobia just also adds this weird layer of superiority over others for being thin--as if that is always something to achieve or something you can control. It really hurts people who just have fat body types, maybe don't have access to a lifestyle where they could be skinnier (if they're body type allows), or who have medical issues like PCOS and Depression which can either directly affect weight or have medications that can affect weight.
That guys using the picture of a dog side eying him was so dumb. A skinny person not believing someone about their eating habits, meanwhile some skinny people rival locusts with how they eat.
Exactly! The idea that health equates to worth is very abelist and classist. Fat people, healthy or unhealthy, should not have to use “I’m healthy” as a defense, because health should not equate to worth
I just realized that I went from "What's a pronoun?" to "Trans people are cool," to "F*ck it, I'm trans now!" in the span of three years.
Indoctrination, eh?
@TomTalks43 So figuring out something about myself, after doing some research, is indoctrination?
@@TomTalks43 no.
Not everyone deals with grief by showing outward sadness. People can be angry, they can feel numb. Just because I’m not crying doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect me
Happy lesbian acceptance and visibility week yall
Ooo I didn't know we had a week!!
happy lesbian acceptance and visibility day!
LETS GO LESBIANS! LETS GO! COME ON LESBIANS! COME ON! 🎉🎉🎉
LETS GO LESBIANS!!! ITS YOUR WEEK
i love women
If you need to prove yourself constantly to someone for them to care about you, they’re not worth the effort it takes to prove yourself.
0:15 OMG THANK YOU!!! i don't "identity" as non-binary, i am non-binary. they way people will say "gender and gender identity" is so transphobic, queer genders are no different to non-queer genders. a gender is a gender
random thought i had when reading this that might be a sort of bad question:
in a society where you're supposed to just to take your place- even if you are a non-queer gender, is that in a way kind of a queer gender? like, if you've actually questioned your gender and come to the conclusion that you're cis, that is sort of subverting the social construct and hegemony still, is it not?
not to say your comment isn't (SO) true or anything /gen
@@itsthealpaca2456 it really depends on the person i guess. it doesn't really matter all that much what words people use to describe themselves as long as its genuine (i.e. not 'i identify as a helicopter, haha' mocking type stuff) and they understand what those words actually mean
Personally I still use "they identify as" language (mainly for sexuality but for gender sometimes too) but when someone says some shit like "girls boys and people who identify as nonbinary" it gives SUCH an ick. Like you didn't have to single out that one group
@@itsthealpaca2456 I’d say questioning your gender no matter the outcome is going against the norm
Yes, and also pronouns! I don’t just USE they/them pronouns, my prounouns ARE they/them
I just had an intense day, I need some comfort.
My gf and I just broke up, not because we fell out or someone cheated, but because I'm going through medical stuff and haven't been able to communicate with her for a month.
We both still love each other, but decided it'd be better for us to be friends. We were respectful and polite. We were both crying.
This was all over text. We both said “I love you” at the end of our messages. She hopes well be together again after med shit calms down
-arrow
that is really rough :( I do hope y'all can get back together. I'm glad there's still love and respect between you two.
it WILL get better. not right away. for right now it'll hurt. a lot.
but it's okay to feel however you feel. it's okay to be angry, resentful, to feel like it's not fair, cuz it's not, to feel upset with everyone and everything cuz a medical condition is something totally out of your control. however you feel, that's okay.
i don't really have any advice or anything, cuz sometimes life just sucks. but i'm sorry things suck right now. sending you hugs
“Romeo and Juliet? More like neurodivergent Romeo has a panic attack and transgender Juliet gets an abortion” I’m CRYINGGGGG 💀💀😭😭😭
9:23 I really hate how people feel it's their right to armchair-diagnose everyone with anything they can think of. There's a difference between recognizing symptoms in a close friend or family member and discussing whether they think they might have a certain condition and projecting your own disability onto any random celebrity that you don't know outside of their content and interviews.
13:31 literally what it was like trying to get a diagnosis. “Well you can speak so you’re likelihood of diagnosis is already low” what
I was told at my first therapist appointment that I was supposed to be screened for autism at a younger age bc I had a speech delay (I still struggle to speak & communicate). I didn’t get one bc when I did start speaking I apparently had no problems.
Now me and my stepdad think I actually might be autistic.
Edit: the appointment got rescheduled 🫠
Wild now when I hear people talking about “Asian privilege” they mean rich, pale, conventionally attractive, abled Japanese/Korean people. Not the dark skinned poor disabled south Asians. Do you mean “Asian privilege” or do you mean “association to wyt supremacy”
THISSS UGH
THIS!!
The fact that southern Asians are just, not factored into “Asian people”?? Not every Asian person is a K-Pop Idol
Just to mention- even rich, pale, conventionally attractive, abled East Asian people still experience discrimination and racism. They have association to white supremacy, as you said, but will never experience that level of privilege.
@@WxngedMoth I know, right? As a South Asian, calling myself Asian is technically correct but always feels wrong, because people assume that Asian only means East Asian.
I rarely see any men’s body positivity anywhere, so to all my fellow dudes: You look awesome! I’m so proud of you, keep doing what makes you happy
It’s unhealthy to be fat
Hell yes! All your bodies are lovely and the happier you are in your body the more attractive you are. We love confident kings of all sizes
Violin emojies being used to say Violence is really giving me life, lmao. I play viola.
We are quite violent.
- A violinist
contribute however you can.
you can't always do all the things others do to help community, and that's okay.
you have different circumstances, different resources, different abilities.
some people can afford to dedicate their whole lives to advocating and fighting, some people can only boycott, buy second hand clothes instead of fast fashion or share posts online.
that's okay, do whatever you can, it matters.
Exactly!!!! Do what you can because it helps! If you can only give 40 Percent and you give 40 percent, you’re giving 100 percent!
as long as you're doing waht you can, that's enough.
and like, just imagine if everyone ACTUALLY did what they could. most people don't. but imagine if everyone did, how much better our world could be
I don't understand how basic kindness and empathy is so difficult to those street "gotcha" interviewers.
I feel like time passes too slowly, it feels like my college semester isn't coming fast enough. My work schedule is horrible, I work a single day this week and I take the puppy for her shots this week. My bank account keeps getting drained, why is every company "hiring" but no one is scheduling? Are they trying to get people quit on purpose so companies can say that no one wants to work anymore? No one wants to work 1 day a week! I want to work more and not be broke!
2:56 100% this. I'd only add that I think a lot of the white standards are also able-bodied standards, such as the work ethic standards being able-bodied. So it also identifies disabled people, especially POC disabled people, as "lazy".
Genuine question have you ever seen somebody call a physically disabled person lazy I have never seen that happen in my life not even on the Internet maybe mentally disabled but definitely not physically disabled people.
@@WhatTheScallœp i hate that people like that exist. hope you have a good day and f you deneriax.
Well, the problem is that disabilities are apart of normal human life, even if statistically disabled people are a minority and disability is treated as outside of the norm of human experience. The term C.R.A.B.s (Currently Regarded as Able-Bodied) is often used to help describe this. Anyone at any time can become disabled in some way, especially as we age, and so ignoring disability, treating it as abnormal to human function or "lazy" really affects humanity on a larger scale than many may realize. Especially since many physical accommodations for disabled people often help the majority of people with numerous tasks, and many disabled people can still appear able-bodied some of the time. (Such as those with invisible disabilities of some kind, and/or those with fluctuating physical ability.)
In terms of the norm of physical tasks that most people can perform, yes--there is absolutely a norm based on the majority that isn't inherently wrong or ill-intentioned, based on able-bodied people. But on that same side, there SHOULD be a norm for various disabilities that is seen as another norm, rather than something that is lazy, wrong, outcast, or unpleasant. Essentially, yes there should be a norm that reflects the majority--but those not in the majority should not always be an afterthought or seen as not normal just because of numerical population.
Hope that answers your question?@@Deneriax
i think it's all really tied into capitalism too, and the idea that your only "value" comes from productivity.
so people who are inherently less productive (in capitalist terms anyway, like work production value) are less valuable or worthy or whatever.
doesn't' factor in their morality, or what kind of community they might build or anything, just whether or not they can produce labor value for the economy. and if not, then they're "lazy"
i hate that
@@rebeccalassetter1726 visibly physically disabled? no, probably not.
but consider that not every physical disability IS visible.
i have a friend with fibromyalgia. she's my age. but i've seen people give her dirty looks and yell at her for parking in a handicapped spot (WITH a placard) simply because she CAN walk and doesn't look visibly disabled. because they don't realize that walking long distances or for an extended period of time causes her extreme pain, and can even wear her out so much that it'll cause really bad flare ups the next day.
they just see a girl who can walk and think she's being lazy wanting to park closer.
i've seen this a TON in real life, and while they might not outright SAY the word lazy, they definitely make it clear through their actions that that's what they think. That people are just being lazy by requesting to sit on the bus when it's full (because they LOOK fine), or by requesting mobility aids to get through a big ass airport.
and that's because they don't' LOOK disabled. so people just see someone and assume they're abled bodied, because they don't see crutches or a wheelchair or something.
and yes, that's ableism.
Hello! Going to the doctor today. It’s an hour drive, and I always get anxiety driving to busy places I haven’t been to before, but i think i will be okay. -Susie
the bell pepper seeds i put in my backyard are sprouting tee hee
Y’all our friend sprayed us with a perfume and istg I have been smelling this off and on for WEEKS. I don’t know why -Nyx
chemical warfare
Said this before but I think it got deleted. One of the bodies legs feels like it’s being stabbed (as in sharp pain) and we don’t know why. Our math teacher says it’s because we need to stretch but idk -Nyx
it could help to steatch but if it doesn't go away you should look at getting yall to a doctor
@@Sprinkles-is-confused Yeah we’ve had joint pain for a while so that’s going to be brought up 100%. We usually don’t have enough time (or remember) to stretch (teacher says for 10 mins) so idk what to do there I don’t want to get up earlier than I have to -Nyx
Similar thing happened to me. I've had some serious back and knee pain for a while (this was a couple years ago, and I still have the same pain). At the time, my mom said that it shouldn't get checked out because the doctor would just say I need to exercise more.
Mum almost cancelled my therapy appointment because she thinks that therapy is bad for you (she listened to one podcast) its annoying bc she only 'cares about my wellbeing' when it is to spite my dad -vik
i'm sorry that's happening to you. that really sucks.
gonna crack a ribbb
When I get homeeeee
Love to see Rathbone in these compilations! So happy to be one of his moderators!
0:15 Such a good point. I also LOVE that shirt!
Ive been listening to the miku expo 2024 setlist and honestly childish war is such a banger i cant believe i slept on it up until now. My friend is so excited bc on the rocks is on there and they've always wanted to see that live -vik
I road my bike today! I havent for a while so im a little winded. :( someone wasnt looking and almost ran me over when i was getting to the next sidewalk- had to break really fast.
Finishing my last assignment for my class today and then i can finally relax and do nothing instead of procrastinating and stressing.
i need friends but i scare all potential friends away
I feel like that sometimes too
5:58 If you wanna support AlluringSkull/Jory she has a twitch account where she streams Stardew Valley, Among us, and Fortnite! She also streams on RUclips too!
thanks for the info, that's awesome!
hi sillies! i have been deemed Mr. Chaos by my friend who also deemed my other friend Mrs. Chaos. he said "I have to be in a book club with Mr. and Mrs. Chaos over here"
7:55 the music, the vibes, immaculate
I should’ve known you guys were Arctic Monkeys fans. 🚩
@@rebeccalassetter1726 I’m referencing the ford meme audio 😭
School today :( people are annoying and I'm still learning that people not liking me bc im autistic isn't my fault so it kinda sucks rn, only a few more weeks until summer tho :) -vik
so it took me a long time to learn this one (i'm 34 and when i say a long time, i mean ages). but not everyone HAS to like you. it's okay if they don't.
i know it was really hard for me, for a long time, to sit with the fact that someone didn't like me. and i'd do everything in my power to change their mind and get them to like me.
but doing that only hurt me. because i was so focused on them and their needs and trying to give them what they wanted or needed so they'd like me that i neglected myself.
so don't do that. because YOU deserve your energy. you deserve to focus on and take care of yourself.
that fact is, that even if you try really hard, some people just won't like you for whatever reason. but that TRULY isn't your fault. some people's personalities just aren't compatible with each other, and that's okay. not everyone has to like you. it really isn't your fault.
and also, as someone who's older, i can promise that in a couple of years when you're out of school and you don't have to see those people every day, when you have more control over who you spend you time with and you can actually CHOOSE who's around you, it'll get a lot better. those people won't be part of your life anymore anyway. you'll get to build a community for yourself of people who do like you, who give you the love and respect you deserve, people who appreciate you for being exactly who you are. and the people at school that made school suck, they'll be an occasional afterthought, but not people who have any impact on your life anymore.
i know for me, school was the WORST. but once you're done with that, everything gets a lot better in a lot of ways. so hang in there okay?
0:01 DATE LEFT STUFF
The woman who started my autism diagnosis was really wired and said things like, everyone's a little autistic and that the spectrum goes from little to very autistic. So I was very scared :(
But now I got a different psychologist and she said that my test results are speaking for the 'tism, but in my parents Interview I seemed allistic. But she totally understood that as an afab person that masking (if possible, which is for me) kicks in very early so it's hard to see from the outside. And cuz I'm in the mental hospital that does the diagnosing professionals can look at my day to day and then I'll prob get the diagnosis.
Diagnosis is a privilege and I'm very lucky to get such an educated psychologist for the evaluation.
8:00 music's incredible, but LOOK AT THE CEILING ✨☁💚🤩🍄🌿✨
You came down to this
Southern town last summer
To show the folks a brand new way of life
But all you've shown the folks
Around here is trouble
And you've only added misery to their strife
Your concern is not to help the people
And I'll say again
Though it's been often said
Your concern is just to bring discomfort
My friend
And your policy is just a little red
Now, ain't I right
It matters not to you how people suffer
And should they you'd consider that a gain
You bring a lot of trouble to
The town and then you leave
That's part of your Communistic game
I detect a little Communism
I can see it in the things you do
Communism, socialism, call it what you like
There's very little difference in the two
Now, ain't I right
Your followers sometimes have been a bearded
Bathless bunch
There's even been a minister or two
A priest, a nun, a rabbi and an educated man
Have listened and been taken in by you
Ah, the country's full
Of two-faced politicians
Who encourage you with words
That go like this
Burn your draft card if you like
It's good to disagree
That's a get acquainted Communistic kiss
Now, ain't I right
One politician said it would be
Nice to send some blood
And help the enemy in Vietnam
That's what he says, here's what I say
Let's just keep the blood
Instead let's send that politician man
Let's rid the country of the politicians
Who call us tramps that march
Out in our street
Protesting those who wanna fight for freedom
My friend
This kind of leader makes our country weak
Now, ain't I right
Let's look and find the
Strong and able leaders
It's time we found just
How our neighbors stand
If we're to win this war with Communism
Let's fight it here as well as Vietnam
Let's rise as one and meet our obligations
So Communistic boots will never trod
Across the fields of freedom that
Were given to us
With the blessing of our great almighty God
Across the fields of freedom that
Were given to us
With the blessing of our great almighty God
My name is yoshikaga kira. I am 33 years old. My house is in the northeast of Morioh where the villas are. I am not marrie-
I work as an employee for the Kame Yu department stores, and I get home every day by 8 PM at the latest. I don't smoke, but I occasionally drink. I'm in bed by 11 PM, and make sure I get eight hours of sleep, no matter what. After having a glass of warm milk and doing about twenty minutes of stretches before going to bed, I usually have no problems sleeping until morning. Just like a baby, I wake up without any fatigue or stress in the morning. I was told there were no issues at my last check-up. I'm trying to explain that I'm a person who wishes to live a very quiet life. I take care not to trouble myself with any enemies, like winning and losing, that would cause me to lose sleep at night. That is how I deal with society, and I know that is what brings me happiness. Although, if I were to fight I wouldn't lose to anyone.
9:25 THIS!!! It makes me so sad and furious Paige is doing this.
no ones free until we're all free!! free all opressed people!!
free all oppressed people!
I had an eye exam today and my eyes are healthy which is nice, but they put drops in my pupils to dilate them and it's making my vision blurry
it won't last, i promise. i know it's annoying right now, but it'll go back to normal eventually.
Anyone else have a lot of trouble starting things? Like, it takes me a few hours to a few DAYS to even prepare to take a shower. I get books that I am ecstatic to read but, take weeks to actually start them. I just take a really long time to actually start things. Anyone else have this problem?
yep!
turns out, task paralysis (that not being able to make yourself do the thing, even though you're screaming at yourself in your head "just DO IT"), that's an adhd thing.
might wanna look into adhd and see if you relate to some of the other criteria. because WOW, realizing that was me was pretty huge. and learning to adapt some of my strategies really helped.
like for instance, body doubling helps a lot. it's where you just have someone else there, physically occupying your space with you. if you've noticed that it's easier for you to do things when someone else is there, adhd COULD be why.
i joke that i'm never more productive that when my boyfriend is over at my place, but it's so true. and like, if i'm really struggling to get in the shower, then he'll come with me and just sit there while i shower and talk to me and stuff. and that makes it a LOT easier.
you can even body double with a friend via like facetime or something. it helps me anyway. maybe it could help you too?
Happy lesbian acceptance and visibility week! So happy that I'm on break so I get to live my best lesbian life
I dont think a lot of people understand what dissociation actually is. I see it really often that singlets will fakeclaim systems or anybody with dissociative symptoms simply based on what they think dissociation is. its not just the typical “zoning out”, theres several different types of dissociating and even more different ways of how it can look on the outside!
comment if youd like me to explain
-kuja
(were testing out using our sign offs again yayyy!)
YES! It can be not knowing who you are, where you are, key parts of information, feeling like you’re in a simulation, feeling like you’re less “solid” than everything else, zoning out, blacking out, not feeling an emotional connection to something you normally would, and more!!!
@@goblinguy3103one of the most common to experience yet lesser known types of dissociation is future projection! essentially spacing out because youre deep into envisioning yourself as old and going through a “Im going to pass away soon” late-stage life crisis, even though youre very young, is an example of that and something we experience often unfortunately
theres so much more to dissociating than “I zone out a lot”
I would like an explanation of the different kinds of disassociation, because I’ve been saying stuff about disassociating in relation to myself, but I feel like I might have been going off of a wrong definition. What I’ve been calling “disassociation” for myself is kind of just intense daydreaming? If that makes sense. I’m not sure if that’s the best way to describe it. Have a great rest of your day/night and hydrate! /lh
@@elstarnor4628 daydreaming is also a type of dissociation:)
@@goblinguy3103 I’m genuinely so glad I’ve not been using the term entirely wrong 😅
Question for the algorithm: what song have you been listening to non-stop lately?
If u seek amy by Britney Spears
Stick it to the man from School of Rock and Perception Check by Tom Cardy -Nyx
Shiny - moana
Erika 💀
Another Brick In The Wall by Pink Floyd
Free Myanmar, even if you can’t donate it still helps a lot to just talk about their situation
rambling to fight the, feel free to ramble in the replies :)
sponge relay race. bucket full of water, bucket that's empty, large sponge, people run between the buckets, trying to fill the empty bucket as much as possible, as fast as possible. fun summer activity :)
hey everyone, im on my period again so i feel really bad :(( (dysphoria snd just general uncomfyness) but im planning on staying at home and watching nimona again today ‼️
Sameee. You’re not alone. For some reason my birth control didn’t work, and my period came anyway :((
Periods SUCK big time! /gen
also on my period. no dysphoria, i just hate it. and like, why do i have to keep doing this if i'm never having kids. can i get a refund/return on this gig from the universe please???
sorry things are crappy today. i hope tomorrow is better.
but just remember, having a period doesn't invalidate who you are!
I’ve been questioning if I’m on the asexual spectrum. I know that I don’t like AFAB genitals (mine or others) because it makes me dysphoric, and I’m also uncomfortable with my body, so I want to be clothed during activities. I like causing people pleasure, and I’m okay with doing so with my hands/mouth or toys. Watching other people experience pleasure excites me, but I often don’t desire to join, I can only say “I’d be comfortable with doing that.” Not “I want to do that.”
I read erotic things, and they excite me, but when I imagine exciting scenarios, they almost never have me in them. I like BDSM culture, but I know that it doesn’t have to be sexual. I think I just like it because I’m autistic and like directions and structure lol.
I haven’t desired to be sexual with anyone, but I don’t know if that’s because of my gender dysphoria, my body dysmorphia, my autism, the fact that I’m young (adult teen) or the fact that I haven’t interacted with enough viable people. I can think of a hypothetical person I would like to be sexual with (casual sex with someone interested in me and okay with my boundaries, or with a long established partner I’m comfortable with), but they haven’t happened yet.
Pls help /lh /nf
being ace is about wether or not you have desire to be sexual with others. if you have little to know sexual desires in relation to other people then your likely asexual.
engaging in sexual behaviors doesn't make you not ace. reading erotica, self pleasure, you can still be ace if you do these things.
i don't know how to help really, but i just want to let you know that it's okay if you're not really sure what's up. sexuality and all that can be really confusing and complex. and it's okay to not be sure, to try on different labels or whatever else while you figure yourself out.
hell, i'm 34 and i'm still figuring myself out. it's a lifelong process. and it's okay for things to change too. there's no right or wrong answers here.
idk if youre interested in microlabels, but "when I imagine exciting scenarios, they almost never have me in them" it sounds like aegosexual which is on the ace spectrum /info
5:40 love seeing some black and queer joy :)
Tw demanding Hey can you take care of yourself? Just do one small thing that will make yourself happy. And if you feel like you can do more, please stretch, drink some water, and eat something.
I love these comments sm 😭
@@Mushroomelixir I'm glad 💜
Just had my first extremely tedious and confusing experience with the dmv so I guess I’m having my canon event :/ today was still good tho! My theatre director said I did really well in the lightning thief and I’ll probably get bigger roles next year! -Jojo
good luck. the dmv doesn't really get better. but now that you know how it goes, at least you can kind of be more prepared for the confusion and difficulty next time.
congrats on the compliment from your theatre director! awesome job
FROM THE RIVER TO THE SEA!! 🍉🍉🍉
it’s lesbian visibility week but I fear that the authorities will be able to catch me on my crimes now that they can see me /j 😞😞😞💔💔💔💔
Slightly unrelated, but until laws are changed to “if they commit a crime” instead of “if he/she commits a crime” then I am above the law, as I use literally every other pronouns that exists, just not he/she
Like animals with wings you can be above the law
9:21 I do wanna add a bit of nuance that nd people are often the only people who can identify other nd people. Recognising “this person does a lot of things I do and I’m nd and huh maybe they’re nd” but going “this person IS nd and that’s the only reason people are criticising” is unsafe.
I feel like such an outcast in my family. They’re very religious, I’m not. They’re…’traditional’ (honestly idk wtf that means in this context nowadays-), I want change in our world bc all this is isn’t right at all.
And they’re like…heavily trans/homophobic, they even make fun of us sometimes and I have to sit here and do nothing bc they won’t let me. I do everything to make them understand and make them not hate me but…it’s hurting me at the same time and idk if I can keep it up anymore
i'm sorry. wish i had some advice, but for right now, it's mostly just hang in there.
i don't talk to my family anymore, gone full no contact, cuz they all SUCK.
but since i'm 34 now, i CAN promise you it gets better. it won't always be like this.
yeah, it can be really hard to come to terms with the fact that the people in your family, people who are supposed to love you, just see the world so wildly differently that they don't really accept you. especially cuz it feels like, am i not worth changing your mind for, even trying to understand a little.
but that's the thing. it's not you. it's hard to explain this. but with a lot of people, opening up their minds so that they understand and become more accepting, that's really hard for them and really terrifying. because it means they would have to fundamentally alter core beliefs they've lived by their whole lives. it would shake the foundation of everything they've built themselves on. and a lot of people don't want to do that work. especially because doing that work means sitting with a LOT of discomfort when you realize how your crappy views have perpetuated harm and sometimes outright harmed people. they don't want to sit with that discomfort or shame.
so they just ... don't. because that's easier. even if it means alienating and harming the people they love. it's easier to hold onto those crappy beliefs that harm you than it is for them to change how they think and sit with their discomfort and shame and whatever else.
and that sucks., it really fucking sucks. but it's also not a YOU thing at all. it doesn't mean you aren't good enough or that you're the problem. THEY'RE the problem, because they refuse to do the work on themselves and choose to allow their mindsets to harm you all instead.
i'm sorry you're dealing with that. it's really unfair. but it WILL get better. you won't always have to live with these people. one day ya'll will get to be on your own, and then YOU get to decide how to live, who else you have in your lives, all of that.
and for now, just do your best to surround yourself with other people, people that do genuinely accept and support you. lean into those people, give them your energy, because they'll give it back. let them be there for you, let them support you. and just know that it'll get easier
i am unfortunately in a very similar situation, i dont have any advice other than, its not your responsibility to change their mind. if trying to change their minds is hurting you, its probably better to stop and put your energy into trying to help people, and try to put good into the world.
random Japanese word of the day: "おんな", which is "onna" meaning "woman"
example sentence: すみでおんなをつわっています。("the woman is sitting the corner.")
I downloaded a bunch of cc and remade my ocs in the sims4 and im going to make my simself :3
tw stuff im tired. someone said i needed to seek help for thinking im vriska so not only am i svuidal but i also cant talk about it in therapy because im not talking about it out of spite
not much to say on fhe matter. i just mean my therapist should probably know about that and ahe dosent@@_kandi_enthuziazt
@@_kandi_enthuziaztI can't tell her at all though. because someone told me to so now i cant
@@Deneriax♠️?
@@Deneriax why are you actively trying to make someone’s day worse
@@Deneriax what kind of actions???
5:42 Can someone please tell me the spelling of this hairstyle she got, it looks so cute, but I can’t for the life of me figure out how it’s spelled
A Bob
If I'm remembering correctly, it's called that cause it's longer framing the face and shorter in the back, like the word bob
@@delagoence3739 well I know it’s a type of bob yea, but she said it was a specific type. Sounded like “Roberta bob” or something, but when I look it up I can’t find it, so I must be sayin it wrong
@@modularb oh! Apologies, I had misunderstood.
She is saying "Roberta Bob"
I had understood it as vibe description, like it's the most bob, similar to how she said it was "bobbing bobbily" cause bob is also a nickname for Robert and the feminine version of Robert is Roberta
Ive accomplished my goals today :) but im really scared i wont tommorrow bc my willpower isnt strong enough
I believe in you!!!
@@amokiwithmarshclamsoup thank you brother :DD
it's okay if not every day is productive. we're all human, and we need rest sometimes too.
proud of you for doing what you wanted to today.
but even if you get nothing done tomorrow, i'll still be proud of you
Warning for discussion of (a fictional) ab***ive relationship
Y'know. Having watched Bojack horseman, it really highlights just how awful Belle and rumpelstiltskin's relationship was in Once upon a time. Like, it was already obvious how toxic their relationship is. But that man REALLY should not have been redeemed. They REALLY should not have been together in the end. It teaches that, yes!, you CAN fix your abusive partner! Like, god fcking damn it.
Like, I used to think about how season seven of OUAT "added a necessary aspect of rumpelstiltskin's arc (IN THE *LAST* EPISODE.)" Because, he made a selfless decision WITHOUT Belle as a motivation. And granted, I did feel that that should have been a thing MUCH earlier. And, that's not necessarily a _wrong_ opinion, I guess.
But there was the potential for a really good story about Belle leaving him for good, realizing that the potential of him being good, of their relationship being good, isn't worth it. She could have prioritized herself. And maybe, Rumpelstiltskin could still have his redemption arc, but without Belle in the picture. But even with him well and truly redeemed, she still wouldn't get back with him. Because, many times when she believed that he had truly changed, he just fell right back into his old patterns. She's learned that she can never trust him to be better.
Uhh I think that's all, folks. Goodnight (I say at almost 5 am)
A little song for you all. German soldiers sang it to pass the time when marching. Enjoy :) (translation below)
Auf der Heide blüht ein kleines Blümelein
Und das heißt
Erika
Heiß von hunderttausend kleinen Bienelein
Wird umschwärmt
Erika
Denn ihr Herz ist voller Süßigkeit
Zarter Duft entströmt dem Blütenkleid
Auf der Heide blüht ein kleines Blümelein
Und das heißt
Erika
In der Heimat wohnt ein blondes Mägdelein
Und das heißt
Erika
Dieses Mädel ist mein treues Schätzelein
Und mein Glück
Erika
Wenn das Heidekraut rot-lila blüht
Singe ich zum Gruß ihr dieses Lied
Auf der Heide blüht ein kleines Blümelein
Und das heißt
Erika
In mein'm Kämmerlein blüht auch ein Blümelein
Und das heißt
Erika
Schon beim Morgengrau'n sowie beim Dämmerschein
Schaut's mich an
Erika
Und dann ist es mir, als spräch' es laut
"Denkst du auch an deine kleine Braut?"
In der Heimat weint um dich ein Mägdelein
Und das heißt
Erika
(Translation)
On the heath there blooms a little flower
And it’s called
Erika
Eagerly a hundred thousand little bees
Swarm around
Erika
For her heart is full of sweetness
A sweet scent comes from her flower-dress
On the heath there blooms a little flower
And it’s called
Erika
Back at home there lives a young maiden
And she’s called
Erika
That girl is my faithful little darling
And my joy
Erika
When the heather blooms in red and purple
I shall sing to her this song in greeting
On the heath there blooms a little flower
And it’s called
Erika
In my room there also blooms a little flower
And she’s called
Erika
In the grey of dawn just as it does at dusk
It looks at me
Erika
And it’s like it’s saying to me out loud
“Are you thinking of your little bride?”
Back at home a young maiden cries for you
And she’s called
Erika
Ooh thank you for this! It was a good test of my German skills, as I used to speak it as a small child with my dad, but when I went into school I kinda forgot it because I had to be speaking English all day :(
7:56 Whoa they’re so cool 😯
Does anyone have any tips for making working out more enjoyable?
Find a playlist you like or a podcast, switch things up every once in a while and try various styles of working out until you find one that suits you!
@@WhatTheScallœp that is actually so smart omg
Don’t any music that you put in the background will ultimately distract you and you’ll end up half assing your workout
My only advice is inhaler and earbuds. Exercising was always something I _wanted_ to do but felt horrible doing. Very much Lazytown fan. Last year I got an inhaler. Now I ride my bike often and play with my nieces and nephews and have fun. I took my niece to a trampoline park couple weeks ago and played for two hours with her. Was sweaty and mildly exhausted, but *not* dying!
But if you aren't forever ill like me and don't need something you're not getting, music is my only answer. I always listen to my Doctor Who playlist while riding my bike.
gonna make peanut butter cookies later :3
MY HAIR GOT CUT 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
7:54 arctic monkeys make my brain go brrr~☺️
chat it’s a full moon tonight :D -Nyx
oooooooo very very cool -seraph
@@Sprinkles-is-confused Indeed. Going to make some moon water and charge some crystals. I also might do a return to sender spell -Nyx
@@reboottalks very very cool
happy lesbian visibility week!!
Listening to Junkers JU-87 Stuka sounds on the surround sound stereo in the living room while I was home alone is the most autistic thing I’ve done in a while
Hello world.
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hiii!
ello! :33
hi
9:02 this video makes me laugh so hard bc black people in R&J adaptations is not a new thing in any way LIKE MERCUTIO AND THE PRINCE WERE BOTH BLACK CHARACTERS IN THE BAZ LERMAN ADAPTATION WHYRE WE ACTING LIEKT THIS IS SOMETHING ALL NEW UTS NOT
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pebblo febblo
ykw fuck it we're gonna do the dishes!!!! stop dancing to the music, of Gorillaz in a happy mood yeah yeah yeah dayy do de bop dayy do de bop /song - 🛼
we did it while listening to quahog part II 👍 - 🛼
How is this the way I found out OJ Simpson died 13 days ago
hii! :3
[edit: misspelling]
Hello :3
hi!!
how are people doing today?
@@_kandi_enthuziazt progress is progress, im happy for ya :} --seraph
@@_kandi_enthuziazt doing ok, kinda sleepy lol, ready to be done with school too -seraph
good thanks
@just..the..cyllyz go get blue ice pop
@@aksdasjs ahh so valid
Tw kinda vent-ish
Anyone have tips on dealing with memory issues?
I am really really forgetful and can often not remember much, unless I've read or wrote it.
So far in life I could compensate for my memory loss and forgetfulness by just improvising during exams and like not having friends and spending all my days reading.
But now I'm in highschool (kinda? not american) and I got a lot more homework that I really need to do.
So most of the time I forget to do my homework and get a bad grade and IF I even remember to do my homework it takes me hours to do even one simple task.
And my memories usually go grey after a month or so and even before that my memory is not good.
And now that I actually have more friends and a lovely partner, I see that it's also affecting my relationships. I mean I forget a lot of things, I forget birthdays, interests, when I wanted to meet people, heck I can't even properly remember the first date I had withbmy partner and that was one of my favourite moments of my life.
And in addition to THAT, I also sometimes don't have a good sense of identity, I often can't remember the things I like for example or can't decide whether I want something or not.
And all of that is not only tiring as f*ck, but also really scary and upsetting :/
I'd really appreciate if someone has tips on dealing with any of this
hi! we deal with memory issues.
first things first its important you try to find the cause of the memory issues and identity disconnect as these can be symptoms of underlying neurological issues like FND or seizures. i highly recommend seeking a medical professional.
but in the meantime we have tips.
one of the biggest things we do to help is write everything down. set tones of reminders and leave sticky notes everywhere lol. writing things down on your arm can also help. but if you have a notes app on ur phone i highly recommend that.
as for the exams thing! if you have notes and some time, reading over them and googling the concepts right before can jogg your memory. just reading over a bunch of the material can help too. sometimes it can help to read through a big section of the exam and then go back and start answering questions bc it gives your brain some time to process the information and not get overwhelmed.
for the identity thing, pull out something you can write or type on and just make a list of things you like and dislike, things you like to wear, people you like to talk to, your friends, family, name, pronouns, birthday, anything connected to your identity, it can take some time to get all of that stuff written down if you're struggling but its worth it. when you feel disconnected you can go back and read that list to yourself to help ground yourself and connect with who you are.
there are also some grounding exersisis that tend to help us. one of them is the color grounding where you go down the list of colors and find things in your surroundings that match, another one is about senses. overall it can be good to find some grounding techniques that help you.
this stuff can be scary but you've got this, you're doing your best and that's all that anyone can ask for. -seraph
@@Sprinkles-is-confused thank you so much :)
I think I've been doing a lot of these already, but I well I forget about it sometimes...
So thank youuu :)
(I've already spoken to multiple therapists about this, but none of them thought it was much of a problem :/
So I guess in the meantime I just gotta deal with this and try to find out from where it comes on my own )
@@Raymond.the.commie.raccoon44 therpists can kinda suck sometimes dude sorry you gotta deal with that, hope things start to make sense for ya -seraph
Ok this may or may not help you because my memory issues don’t sound as serious as yours but this is what helps me:
If you have an Alexa or the reminders app as soon as you hear about an assignment or homework find a time and set as a reminder right as you hear about it
You can try time limits on apps if that’s something that distracts you. When the time limit is up do your assignment then.
I hate studying so what I usually do is remind my self a day or two before an exam and just look over notes then, you can also set reminders for when you should look up notes.
Meeting people is the same thing, set reminders for that.
Write down what you’re interested in and write down what your friends are interested in and their birthdays.
It’s hard for me to decide if I want something as well but what helps me a bit is asking if I genuinely would use or wear the thin
@@M1ST3R_K1P thanks
ok i've seen other ppl doing this and i want to do it too
make assumptions abt my ocs based off of their names, these are only a few so i might do this again tomorrow
ren is short and iris wears glasses, they also like the colour purple
@@aaaa.non-battery ren's about average height and you're right about iris wearing glasses!! i haven't really thought about what colours she likes, though she wears a lot of cool tones so i can see her liking purple!!
ren has red hair
-kuja
Oliver likes corduroy, the colour green and jean jackets.
@just..the..cyllyz youre right on both!!
just typed out an entire oc ramble realising you guys are missing some critical context to the story :/
i'll make another comment with the context tomorrow lol
I wanna make buck from regretavator irl.
sorry guys im obsessing over this stupid game but it just be like that 😿😿
It’s fine I fucking love that game -Nyx
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i did not know that paige layle was saying problematic things these days :( i used to really like her content but i haven't seen anything from her in a while
FORTNITE BATTLE PASS
This may be more of a first world problem but, I still think it ties into a lot of issues we have now. People are allowed to make queer headcannons of their favorite characters. I feel like there are very few exceptions to this. But as long as you are not invalidating the characters already established queer identity, you are allowed to make all the gay headcannons you want. And if anyone gives you hate about it, ignore it as best you can. And remember you are doing nothing wrong.💕🫧
we washed our needoh again, it smells like rose hand soap :33 we Would Have washed it in the sink If We Didn't Need To Do Dishes, and plus our germs are on it a lot of the time and we're sick so we dont wanna get our dad and brother sick. one of the trees in our yard bloomed so the bees are having a field day, we're defo gonna try and keep an eye on our dog so she doesnt piss them off and get stung, the tree's got pretty white flowers though :3 - 🛼
Ur a squid ur a kid ur a squid ur a kjid ussc a seuid /ref
happy lesbian visibility week to any lesbians in these comments as well as my lesbian headmates ❤❤ y'all are awesome keep doing what you're doing 👍 - 🛼
happy lesbian week!