I have attended deaths, and she sums up everything beautifully. She is a light spirit, lifting our hearts & opening them up. Dying tends to focus a person's attention, doesn't it. I would be honored to have her as my own hospice nurse.
omg what stories! (crying) I am a hospice aide and I LOVE my job. been in it for 5 years and hope to be doing it a long time from now. :) why can't I thumbs up this vid 1000 times?! ughh love it!
As someone with a rare type of pancreatic cancer, I thank you for this! I would love to share it at my final celebration of life. I am far from scared as you cannot scare a Christian with Heaven! Blessings!
These hospices put a 6 months countdown timer in front of each patient's bed. This is to facilitate the patient in understanding how much time they have left. After the timer is complete, if the patient still doesn't die, the hospice nurses kill them. It's philosophical to the families. I don't really understand why anyone would abandon their loved ones to die here instead of trying till the last??
@@mohammedaslam2912 What!? Are you serious, or are you joking? I believe that to be entirely incorrect...because, euthanasia is illegal in the United States. Just ask doctor Kevorkian, he would have told you the same thing. As he had to serve time in prison, for humanly killing sick patients. So, yeah...I believe that you are wrong...
@@mohammedaslam2912 Yeah, that can not be correct...Does first degree murder not apply to nurses? It sure does, because nurses and doctors have been successfully prosecuted and imprisoned for euthanizing patients...So, I straight up, do not believe that, at all...
@@mohammedaslam2912 Yeah, you DEFINITELY are WRONG. I just called a reputable hospice. The care is usually for six months, or less. As most patients in that situation, usually do not even make it for six months. But, if you are still alive, after half a year, they just continue their services, if you still need them. They DEFINITELY do not murder you. Which, that is exactly what that would be, murder. So, your post is entirely incorrect...
I was lucky enough to be my mother's primary caregiver when she was diagnosed with stage 4 Melanoma. What I thought would be a horrifying experience, turned out to be a beautiful one. We were best friends, and only got closer. Her wish was to be able to pass away at home, and she did. I was able to hold her hand as she took her last breath. She had the most peaceful, beautiful look in her eyes. There is something to be said about Hospice care. It is truly amazing. I
My mom's Hospice nurse came around once or twice a week ,,, asked questions and typed on a computer. She didn't care at all. None of the team were loving people. Consider yourself blessed if you find a compassionate someone. I, myself, am so disillusioned by our Hospice experience, there are no words.
Cmon people, maybe she is not the best public speaker, maybe she is scared of speaking, or overly dramatic for another reason...but there is some amazing insights in her story just the same. Just be nice, she is trying to be, and seemed to truly love her work. We should all be so lucky and wise. 😇
I am also a hospice nurse, hospice and palliative care is caring for patients who have terminal diagnosis. We provide patients with comfort and care to help them and there family through one of the most trying parts of life. She sounds like an amazing nurse!
May God bless you and all Hospice personal. Hospice was priceless to me as the primary care giver to my step dad and even after he passed away. The support continues even a year later. I will always love Chaplain Steven and sister Judy. Judy bathed poppa and has a special place in my heart.
This is a heart-opening gift for the world. Loving, surrendering, opening, truly living...what could be more important? Thank you for showing up and sharing your open heart--others will be changed and healed because of your courage to be so beautifully, preciously you.
A very insightful perspective on what can be both a beautiful and heart wrenching experience. I can tell you from my own experience giving care to a loved one during their final months, and witnessing the selfless and loving acts of the hospice professionals involved, that it is indeed a life altering experience full of compassion, patience, love, pain, tears, laughter, humility, and in the end - light. Our loved one was fortunately able to celebrate his own life until the very end with a happy grin on his face and a happy family sharing hugs and thanks for a life well lived. The speaker nails it, not only because she has experienced many times over what few of us may experience in our lives (if we are lucky) - but also because her talk highlights the transformative nature of one of the two most important events in our existence.
Hospice = Earth Angels. Mom was at a hospice facility and it was the most profound experience ever. I know true unconditional love exists between human and Mom and I were a part of it all. I so agree about "listening".
I have. experience of this and it is an honour n most wonderful gift...even with some ppl I loved. It was of course deeply painful but you are given strength. In UK the McMillan cancer nurses in palative I would describe as angels. Only very few ppl can do this very special thing. I can't say a job. Its wrong adjective. Support n love swoops in sometimes when families need it most..n knowing the subtle differences in the obvious... Knowing when to step in n when to stand back. Love is the true reason we are here. This sadly only becomes apparent for many too late. Lovely talk but a tad over emotional or dramatic. I think she's a lovely person...n if she be just herself speaking it be even better 😊. well done x
This is beautiful and so so true. I’ve seen breathtakingly beautiful deaths w loved ones. Just amazing and such gorgeous times and memories. My time as a hospice nurse are some of my very favorite ❤️🥰🏡
Thank you for this. It made my heart skipped a beat. Starting my hospice in few days as my first RN job. Hearing this from you has decrease my first day jitters with my upcoming new job. Thank you!!!
i am an avid ted follower and you have so eloquently expressed what is really so important. LIVE LIFE moment by moment and be grateful that we have a living moment to do so. Thank you for sharing.
This is a very loving and inspiring talk. I think this human/soul connection is what we are all here in this life for - to learn to support one another to the best of our ability. All the best!
First off, cancer sucks. It’s so heart breaking when you hear all these stories of families fighting this terrible illness. It’s even more devastating when they’re given a diagnosis of less than a few months to live, like the two people Alia talks about. This video was really interesting to watch and I learned some knew things. One of them being I didn’t realize people in hospice could be at home in bed. I always was under the impression that they were still in a hospital or clinic. In continuation, I didn’t know that the hospice nurses could become so close with the families. I mean it’s kind of inevitable when you’re always there to take care of the dying loved one. But I found that fascinating l that they could build a close relationship with the families like how Alia says her one patient’s family would invite her out to lunch and they would all talk and have a good time. I relate with Alia when she says in the beginning “I’m a very sensitive person.” I am extremely sensitive and you give me any sad movie and I will cry my eyes out. So, I definitely know I couldn’t handle this job. I would be an emotional wreck. A few more things I found interesting were that Alia took this essentially super negative job and she made it sound so amazingly positive. Which I thought was incredible and brave of her. One last thing was, I love when I do hear stories of terminally ill patients they always seem to have just this amazing outlook on life and they always make sure they end it living to the fullest and I think that is something everyone (even without a terminal illness) should do.
This was very good, why fear death it is home going. I love the atmosphere she talks about. I think I'll incorporate in my own home going. He knew when his time was near, life is to be enjoyed but not the fake enjoyment. Really learned from this.
It's too bad most people don't figure out what really matters until they face death. I find the one blessing of my NDE to give me new insight on what life truly means. It left my disabled for life, but enabled my mind to expand into new areas of thought.
The meaning of life is personal to each person, if we are discussing the mind & personal growth. On a more basic level, we are here to live. It's really not that difficult. Letting go of things that don't serve you is the harder part. Finding joy in living was easy & almost magical. Especially after such a devastating event. I think we get complacent in life & forget to grow & love. Too many things to write down in comments, but it really is a personal journey. Although, I am glad to share, I don't think I can teach anything without the experience to get it started...start over, so to speak.
onemessenjah That's nice of you. I wish I had more to offer you. Best advise I can give is to not let go of your dreams, but make them realistic. Take time for yourself to reflect on your life. Every so often, get away from everything & enjoy nature. It will help center you. Daily meditation is a must to keep the mind clear & focused. Love & respect yourself so that you can do the same for others. Love is what it's about. We have to remain open to share it. I am certain you have as much to offer me as I do to you, friend.
CaptianKeyz Yes, what you say resonates with me. I had an "NDE-Like" experience (I now realize) after my mom died, so I'm drawn to those who have experienced a full NDE. I was merely offered a glimpse. I can only imagine how intense of a full blast of unconditional love is.
This is such a beautiful talk straight from the heart. "Celebrate life"! Yes this is what we are here to do. Many blessings to you for the work and "listening" you did with these amazing life teachers. I am grateful you shared this powerful reminder.
I get how profound this is for the woman speaking. In my opinion, this talk would be way more powerful if she took the super-significance out of the delivery and just said it straight, what her experience was. Let the audience decide what deserves emphasis instead of directing them to what they should find significant. Without the subtextual, "Isn't this amazing" people will find it amazing because, well, it IS amazing.
Why is it such a crime to share with passion if something was a profound experience for you? We are not robots. I've noticed throughout life many people are highly uncomfortable with feeling and it is those people who have a problem with others being open and brave with what they think and feel.
Well said Tattoo Tiff - so many can't express their feelings and then it is too late. Or if you are like me, Hospice taught me I wasn't a basket case because I do express my grief. Hospice taught me so much at such an overwhelming time of severe forever loss. They are true Earth Angels. We need more hospice hospitals!! Thank you for this stark reality talk on death and dying. She's called "compassionate" something this world needs more of now a days.
I think what people need to hear about hospice care is how to help us dying and grieving. Practical advice. Not generalities about "really living" and "love" That's certainly what i need now.
I salute you! Thanks for what you do or did for others. I'm an Empath too & feel the pain of all living things. You are inspiring, so real & a good role model. I will follow your path to Celebrate Life now & always regardless of any challenges in my life. Thanks for sharing your beautiful experiences with the dying & living. From now on Let Celebrate Life to the maximum!😎🎶👍🏽
I appreciate you sharing your true blessed soul with us all. So many are afraid as to be judged as we often are by those that have yet to experience the moving on of our human family. God bless you for being their for us souls. We all need and should have a hand to hold on to or just sit with and let us know its ok to let go, move forward ....my papa, i grew up living next door to until I was in my early 20's...waited all day and then an 1-1/2 hours before I was there as my mom called and said they said he should have been gone 9 hours or more ago...lshe said he must be waiting for you...imagien my upset when i was just told...It took me what should have been 2-1/2 hours to get there to 1-1/2 ....amazing angle ...just amazing story..I walked down the hall ..mom met me...saying "i know he is waiting on you Ive told him you are coming, he turns his head every time someone walks in the room...I know he is waiting for you"...I walked in the room and said "Im here papa....Im here" ...his eyes met mine....I scooped him in my arms and he was looking through me and I him...and I said "its ok papa, go ahead and go , we'll be ok ...go see mamal and I will see you soon. Its ok. I love you" and he took his last breath and ever so lightly I could feel him lift out of his body as if there was no weight jin my arms at all...all within 5 minutes or less ...it has changed my life forever....forever...to not be with my dad...my best friend...was devastating, but I also know or feel it was what our creator meant to happen that way...although...I know there is something deep there for me to learn. God bless you all and all your experiences...S.
I am looking forward to sharing this with my allied health students when we talk about communicating with people about death and dying. Thank you for sharing and for your dedication to these individuals.
Amazing story! Life is a gift and when is the time to leave we have to do it with love! A living memorial is a great experience, this is the way we should all go! God bless us!
Barbara Brooks, I believe it is because many people love and adore beautiful roses, yet we should always remember the reason that we must to go to the gardening basket and put on the gardening gloves before going back to the bright and lovely garden, in order to reach out and clip a long stem of a beautiful one.
I still feel that this speech is bogus. I live in a small town, but there are several Hospice businesses. Two of them "cared" for my mom. She was bedbound and had Azheimer's among other things. I fired the first hospice strictly because they just didn't care. My mom had a wound Vac machine. It is designed to run 24 hours a day. When Hospice was called because the machine alarm sounded they would just tell her caregiver to turn it off and they would come out the next day to fix the problem. I didn't know they were doing this for quite a while, but as soon as I discovered this, I fired them. On to the next hospice. who didn't give a whip about their patient's either. On the day she died, the hospice nurse didn't show until after she died. What happened to the compassion? The Hospice nurse's were working a job. For a paycheck. That was clear and sad, Our hospital is even worse. There is not one element of true caring anywhere in that hospital. My daughter suffered at the hand of nurses and doctors for all of 2014.. I have never felt so helpless in all my life. They were cruel and heartless. The involves hospitals in 2 states. My daughter died at the 3rd hospital she was in during the last week of her life. The first hospital literally threw her out in the middle of the night. After 2 days the second hospital wanted to give her all her meds by mouth, even though she was vomiting and couldn't keep anything down. She requested a transfer to another hospital and arrived there at around 3am. Her last words to me, sent in a text, were "I feel so bad, but the Dr was just in and she's ordered a bunch of tests. I'm going to try to sleep now". To which I replied, Ok baby, call me when you wake up." That was at 10:00am. At 2:30pm, I received a call from her cell phone. I answered, saying Hey baby how are you feeling? But it was my daughter. It was the doctor, telling me my daughter had died. Yes, I am bitter. Yes, I lost faith in Dr's and nurses a LONG time ago. And yes, I know what I'm talking about when I say compassion is mostly gone in the medical field. Btw, I an a RN. I work at a Home Health Company, where I have been for 13 years. I have worked at several Home Health companies over the years and the one I am at now is the only one I have been at in my entire career that truly cares for and puts the patient first. This a a rarity these days, not the norm in the health care field.
Cindie Coffman I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain.I hope one day I will make the change in the medical field to be more loving and caring to the patient, family's and friends too.
I remember hospice was caring for my Grandfather. I was in his bedroom one afternoon a couple or so days prior to his passing and a nurse with hospice was in his room at his side. I recall a moment where I was showing affection (everyone shows or expresses their affection towards someone in their own unique way) for my dying Grandfather. I may have leaned over and kissed him on his cheek or on his forehead or whatever way I was showing him affection at that moment and I happend to look up at the lady that was with hospice and she looked at me with the strangest, weirdest, expression on her face. I guess I could even say that her faccial expression was even creepy. It weirded me out in my mind and made me feel really funny. After the initial weird feeling it gave me, I started feeling angry and irked that the lady looked at me the way she did. I wanted to ask the woman what her problem was but instead, I refrained from asking. I'll never forget the eerie look on that woman's face. After that, she didn't seem like someone who was compassionate at all. I'll never forget that off the wall look/expression on her face as long as I live. She had no business in my opinion, being at my Grandfather's side.
@@hal7ter God bless your heart..it is in these times we feel most vulnerable to our own pain..perhaps maybe it was she herself that was wishing she had done exactly what you were doing in one of her past experiences. She may have unknowingly displayed this on her own face and jus maybe because at that time the state of mind you "we" are in at the time, took this upon ourselves as something to do with us and developed a "feeling" that projected into the later days. I only offer this because I too have been on both sides and work with the psychological/spiritual side of our moving on from this earth. It is so easy for us in our regular daily life to "assume" what we feel to be, that may have absolutely nothing to do with us in general.After all my dear love one, we are only human ...even after these years I know you still miss him and relive these moments. Cherish the moments you had and loved...forget those that we do not know to a full extinct of their purpose. A year to the date, now of December 2020. out of nowhere and unknown cause..beside the emergency doctor giving him so much pain relief it put him into cardiac arrest, that they even told his wife (one of her 3 husbands) and a family member, my sister it would...and then my Dad moved on...He was my best friend...still is...I was in another country and they all knew I would not be able to do anything. It is so heartbreaking for me as I feel I let him down...but I know ...I have to do what I am to do and find a way to live around what is and what was to be without anger or resentment. Although I was in another country, we spoke daily and text many times throughout the day. There was much jealously there for years from them...what was I to do? He chose his life and I had to go on with mine .. He was and is my Dad and without a doubt ...justice will prevail, in this life time or the next. God bless you my dear "Some One" and to all of us that have so much hurt from experiences we have suffered with our loved ones moving on before us...Stay well and stay blessed. S.
Absolutely beautiful!!! Thank you so very much for living a life in such complete alignment with what is your clear and wonderful purpose. We should endeavor to do the same, absolutely regardless of what is required of us to accomplish such an alignment... (the Universe does not contradict itself, nor does it play cruel games). Our alignment with our authentic being is indeed, what matters most. Thank you Alia. xx
As a dying person, I think the issue that I have with this is that it feels kind of like she's exploiting and romanticizing the experiences of people in who are dying. If you look up "inspiration porn", that is what this sort of seems to be. She is using intimate details of patients' lives to speak on something she isn't going through. It's so hard to get to a point of peace and romanticizing hospice makes me feel like she doesn't get how hard it is on the other side of it.
Karen, I hope you don't mind me making this comment. I've studied the near death experience for 40 years. The death of the body is not the end of you. I don't know how to say it better than that. I'm not trying to be patronising, I'm not trying to trivialise death either, it is a brutal thing when all is said and done. Even if you can't accept what I've just said at the very least, you will have the experience, have the perception that you have left your body behind and are going on a journey to somewhere better. If you find this comment offensive, I will remove it. Sincere regards.
Karen Marks I'm sorry. I pray you have plenty of support around you. Jesus loves you BTW. I lost my Mother in April, and I know she's now without pain and knows the answers to the questions we all have, in this and any other Universe. Again, I'm sorry you're going through this.
Barbara Brooks Maybe it’s because of all of the “I...I...I” involved. Her experience of the death of another person, her idea of how it should be processed. Death can be messy and painful, grief can paralyze who’s left to get through it. “Celebration of life” is a pretty, trendy concept and it seems to only push the grief phobia present in western societies. Some people are tired of that.
Great video, it reflects my philosophy of the end of life stage being a gifted time. A time to "live life" that we never really do so on a daily basis because we are always planning and living for tomorrow.
I hope I will make a change in the future to help patients, family's and friends too through the whole process. Before and after. It is not easy losing or letting someone you love go. I wish there were more people who are passionate in the medical field.
No matter how peaceful the death. No matter how beautiful the ending. The ones who are left behind experience profound loss. The missing love is always there but the missing person is not. The hardest thing about life is losing those you love.
The hard thing is the motivation to 'live' right now. I mean, I'm not going to die tomorrow or unlikely to die today. This threat of incoming death seems to be the key motivation for these people to start living. I've heard war-vets and firefighters experience some of these happy moments of REALLY feeling alive. Winning the super-bowel or even the lottery pales in comparison to the experience of almost being dead.
These hospices put a 6 months countdown timer in front of each patient's bed. This is to facilitate the patient in understanding how much time they have left. After the timer is complete, if the patient still doesn't die, the hospice nurses kill them. It's philosophical to the families. I don't really understand why anyone would abandon their loved ones to die here instead of trying till the last??
I'm about to die, thought it was happening yesterday but still here. I'm not in hospice nor in hospital, I'm homeless and alone. I just don't want the pain with death. Sleep and pass is what I'm hoping for but I'm in a lot of pain and god has always hurt me so I expect it will be very painful.
ferria... Hospice is about helping people and their families through the dying process. It is not about healing and making people better. People are sent to hospice with less than 6 months to live.
Loved your Ted Talk “ how soft we really are beyond our lobster shells” For a great RUclips vid please RUclips “ Gangaji facing death” Love never dies, Al
my dad's dying and the acceptance stage is not going to be the way this lady describes it for everyone. It's unrealistic and a little insulting to force the family to "celebrate" when the one they love is dying. Better if this talk was about how to guide families to the point of acceptance, but she makes it seem like suddenly one day they jump from denial to acceptance and skip all the other steps. And the guy who got up out of his chair in a hospice facility and drove in his "Cadilac" up the coast to enjoy his last few years of life? ... not a typical situation for people who have a terminal illness. Many can't drive or barely walk or just got out of surgery. That's unrealistic to set those expectations.
+Lisa Vickroy I am also a long time hospice volunteer. Your statement of the ideal situation is very judgmental and about you. What gives you the right to see one person's death process is a deal and the other isn't? you should not be a volunteer at hospice in my opinion.
so sad to see the boxes that people put themselves into. After a fabulous experience ...lots of laughing and great stories, my first experience with Hospice with my father, I went on to bring that kind of good death by becoming a hospice nurse. I advocated music, life reviews, doing picture boards, carrying that dying family member out to see the last Fall leaves in full array or the spring blossoms to to feel the snow...we are spirits having a human experience; we are not breakable at the end, it does not have to be sad and dour, and those who were able to celebrate having shared a life with their loved one, were so grateful.. The only Unrealistic expectations are the ones the narrow sighted, boxed in volunteer or caregivers shove onto families and patients. I agree with others opinions, you have no business being a Volunteer.
It’s a shame how some people in the comments are so negatively judgemental. This lady is an empath, and she is authentic in her compassionate presentation and voice, with a sincere message of understanding, she and others have experienced to evolve, in the journey of life. Her message is meant to help others, understand, in their journey Stop judging and start listening to begin to understand the reality of your journey which in turn may help someone else in theirs. The big picture.
When you're 2800 miles away and the person dying cant speak well because of a stroke... and all you can do is video call when other family are there - what do you say? What are you supposed to say to someone who's surrendering and is ready to go. Tell him you love him, that I get. But I'm not even sure he knows who I am anymore.
doctors are allowed to write out an order for no water no meds no food, and place you in hospice, palliative care, MEMORY care, whatever you want to call it, it DOES NOT HAVE TO BE TRUE, it is up to them, look up how much MORE MONEY CAN BE MADE BY DOING THIS, then actually giving someone care, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE DYING.
bird zene there is no money in hospice. Agencies no matter your insurance are reimbursed one rate. It does not matter if the patients requires a lot of care, meds etc or if the patient has less symptoms. Look it up its approx $140-150 a day. Think about the rental of equipment - hospice for it- meds pertaining to their diagnosis- hospice pays it. home health aides for personal care- hospice pays etc etc Those that work in hospice its not for the money its because they have a calling for it.
This would be quite compelling if it wasn't so over acted. I too had a NDE which I see as a Near Life Experience (NLE) and which I seldom disclose except in appropriate situations and where there is a need on an individual basis. Although I trained as an actor and 'am pretty good at presenting I do not feel driven to convert the general population to my beliefs or evangalise on a platform or become a celebrity. And if I did I would hope to be a little less evangelical and not so theatrically convincing. Having said that, everything she says is as far as I am concerned totally true. :)
Sebastian Wheaterbix well pat yourself on the back and feel better about you. Personally I find her believable albeit excited, you... I find disingenuous. I have had more than one near death experience.... I call it almost dying...
This is a nice sentiment but it wouldn't work in the UK 😂 But on a serious note, when my mum was dying of cancer we did everything we could to help her enjoy her last moments but the reality is she was in so much discomfort and nausea from the pain killers that she couldn't even sit up and look out at the garden. We can't romanticise death. We can try and make it as comfortable as possible for people and reassure them that we will be OK when they are gone as, especially for parents, it helps them to let go peacefully.
how to die and have fun at the same time. twice I have had to fight down to the last breath and if I had surrendered and had stopped fighting I would not be here now. As I passed out in thiss life and death struggle I was carried away to a place far far away. There I was told if I wanted to live breath like I never breathed before. When I awoke I was breathing hard and fast but if I had not I would have survived.
What about those whom are unble to be with their loved ones... what self interested analysis, this is all about Alia Indrawan her experience 'we' decided as if she had control, it's autobiography. A tale of the living... not of the courage and kindness in death that those with love ones may share, not well rounded reality...
She sounds more like a actress playing a part,I didnt find her stories sincere or REAL SHE just sounded PHONEY to me ,I'm sorry if my opinion of her offends anyone but that's just the true feeling or vibe I recieved from her.
"they were sharing things with me at their most vulnerable period of their life, and I got to be a part of that". seriously?? that's a privilege? As a daughter of a terminally ill mom I hope none of her nurses get to boast about getting to know her "intimate life details"
I have attended deaths, and she sums up everything beautifully. She is a light spirit, lifting our hearts & opening them up. Dying tends to focus a person's attention, doesn't it. I would be honored to have her as my own hospice nurse.
Hospice provided the final care for my mother and my younger brother; it made all the difference in the world.
omg what stories! (crying) I am a hospice aide and I LOVE my job. been in it for 5 years and hope to be doing it a long time from now. :) why can't I thumbs up this vid 1000 times?! ughh love it!
Thank God for you guys you all have so much compassion that elders need keep it up . Treat people right even when no one is looking .
As someone with a rare type of pancreatic cancer, I thank you for this! I would love to share it at my final celebration of life. I am far from scared as you cannot scare a Christian with Heaven! Blessings!
Hope you are doing well Cathy 💕
These hospices put a 6 months countdown timer in front of each patient's bed. This is to facilitate the patient in understanding how much time they have left. After the timer is complete, if the patient still doesn't die, the hospice nurses kill them. It's philosophical to the families.
I don't really understand why anyone would abandon their loved ones to die here instead of trying till the last??
@@mohammedaslam2912 What!? Are you serious, or are you joking? I believe that to be entirely incorrect...because, euthanasia is illegal in the United States. Just ask doctor Kevorkian, he would have told you the same thing. As he had to serve time in prison, for humanly killing sick patients. So, yeah...I believe that you are wrong...
@@mohammedaslam2912 Yeah, that can not be correct...Does first degree murder not apply to nurses? It sure does, because nurses and doctors have been successfully prosecuted and imprisoned for euthanizing patients...So, I straight up, do not believe that, at all...
@@mohammedaslam2912 Yeah, you DEFINITELY are WRONG. I just called a reputable hospice. The care is usually for six months, or less. As most patients in that situation, usually do not even make it for six months. But, if you are still alive, after half a year, they just continue their services, if you still need them. They DEFINITELY do not murder you. Which, that is exactly what that would be, murder. So, your post is entirely incorrect...
I was lucky enough to be my mother's primary caregiver when she was diagnosed with stage 4 Melanoma. What I thought would be a horrifying experience, turned out to be a beautiful one. We were best friends, and only got closer. Her wish was to be able to pass away at home, and she did. I was able to hold her hand as she took her last breath. She had the most peaceful, beautiful look in her eyes. There is something to be said about Hospice care. It is truly amazing. I
My mom's Hospice nurse came around once or twice a week ,,, asked questions and typed on a computer.
She didn't care at all.
None of the team were loving people.
Consider yourself blessed if you find a compassionate someone.
I, myself, am so disillusioned by our Hospice experience, there are no words.
Cmon people, maybe she is not the best public speaker, maybe she is scared of speaking, or overly dramatic for another reason...but there is some amazing insights in her story just the same. Just be nice, she is trying to be, and seemed to truly love her work. We should all be so lucky and wise. 😇
Gotta’ be a special kind of person to be a Hospice nurse....Much, much, much respect....❤️❤️❤️
I am also a hospice nurse, hospice and palliative care is caring for patients who have terminal diagnosis. We provide patients with comfort and care to help them and there family through one of the most trying parts of life. She sounds like an amazing nurse!
As a nurse I would expect you to be able to spell.
May God bless you and all Hospice personal. Hospice was priceless to me as the primary care giver to my step dad and even after he passed away. The support continues even a year later. I will always love Chaplain Steven and sister Judy. Judy bathed poppa and has a special place in my heart.
This is a heart-opening gift for the world. Loving, surrendering, opening, truly living...what could be more important? Thank you for showing up and sharing your open heart--others will be changed and healed because of your courage to be so beautifully, preciously you.
A very insightful perspective on what can be both a beautiful and heart wrenching experience. I can tell you from my own experience giving care to a loved one during their final months, and witnessing the selfless and loving acts of the hospice professionals involved, that it is indeed a life altering experience full of compassion, patience, love, pain, tears, laughter, humility, and in the end - light. Our loved one was fortunately able to celebrate his own life until the very end with a happy grin on his face and a happy family sharing hugs and thanks for a life well lived. The speaker nails it, not only because she has experienced many times over what few of us may experience in our lives (if we are lucky) - but also because her talk highlights the transformative nature of one of the two most important events in our existence.
Hospice = Earth Angels. Mom was at a hospice facility and it was the most profound experience ever. I know true unconditional love exists between human and Mom and I were a part of it all. I so agree about "listening".
Some of the most beautiful experiences of my life have been in my work with hospice patients.
I have. experience of this and it is an honour n most wonderful gift...even with some ppl I loved. It was of course deeply painful but you are given strength. In UK the McMillan cancer nurses in palative I would describe as angels. Only very few ppl can do this very special thing. I can't say a job. Its wrong adjective. Support n love swoops in sometimes when families need it most..n knowing the subtle differences in the obvious... Knowing when to step in n when to stand back. Love is the true reason we are here. This sadly only becomes apparent for many too late. Lovely talk but a tad over emotional or dramatic. I think she's a lovely person...n if she be just herself speaking it be even better 😊. well done x
This is beautiful and so so true. I’ve seen breathtakingly beautiful deaths w loved ones. Just amazing and such gorgeous times and memories. My time as a hospice nurse are some of my very favorite ❤️🥰🏡
Thank you for this. It made my heart skipped a beat. Starting my hospice in few days as my first RN job. Hearing this from you has decrease my first day jitters with my upcoming new job. Thank you!!!
i am an avid ted follower and you have so eloquently expressed what is really so important. LIVE LIFE moment by moment and be grateful that we have a living moment to do so. Thank you for sharing.
This is a very loving and inspiring talk. I think this human/soul connection is what we are all here in this life for - to learn to support one another to the best of our ability. All the best!
How Beautiful!!! You are such a Beautiful Strong Young Lady with such a Beautiful Giftto Help People! Thank you Dear!!!🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
First off, cancer sucks. It’s so heart breaking when you hear all these stories of families fighting this terrible illness. It’s even more devastating when they’re given a diagnosis of less than a few months to live, like the two people Alia talks about. This video was really interesting to watch and I learned some knew things. One of them being I didn’t realize people in hospice could be at home in bed. I always was under the impression that they were still in a hospital or clinic. In continuation, I didn’t know that the hospice nurses could become so close with the families. I mean it’s kind of inevitable when you’re always there to take care of the dying loved one. But I found that fascinating l that they could build a close relationship with the families like how Alia says her one patient’s family would invite her out to lunch and they would all talk and have a good time. I relate with Alia when she says in the beginning “I’m a very sensitive person.” I am extremely sensitive and you give me any sad movie and I will cry my eyes out. So, I definitely know I couldn’t handle this job. I would be an emotional wreck. A few more things I found interesting were that Alia took this essentially super negative job and she made it sound so amazingly positive. Which I thought was incredible and brave of her. One last thing was, I love when I do hear stories of terminally ill patients they always seem to have just this amazing outlook on life and they always make sure they end it living to the fullest and I think that is something everyone (even without a terminal illness) should do.
Old Yeller oh what a tear jerker
Listening to her makes you realize that life is to damn short
Thank you
This was very good, why fear death it is home going. I love the atmosphere she talks about.
I think I'll incorporate in my own home going. He knew when his time was near, life is to be enjoyed but not the fake enjoyment. Really learned from this.
It's too bad most people don't figure out what really matters until they face death. I find the one blessing of my NDE to give me new insight on what life truly means. It left my disabled for life, but enabled my mind to expand into new areas of thought.
What did your experience teach you about the meaning of life?
The meaning of life is personal to each person, if we are discussing the mind & personal growth. On a more basic level, we are here to live. It's really not that difficult. Letting go of things that don't serve you is the harder part. Finding joy in living was easy & almost magical. Especially after such a devastating event. I think we get complacent in life & forget to grow & love. Too many things to write down in comments, but it really is a personal journey. Although, I am glad to share, I don't think I can teach anything without the experience to get it started...start over, so to speak.
+CaptianKeyz I never thanked you for your response.
Thank you!
onemessenjah That's nice of you. I wish I had more to offer you. Best advise I can give is to not let go of your dreams, but make them realistic. Take time for yourself to reflect on your life. Every so often, get away from everything & enjoy nature. It will help center you. Daily meditation is a must to keep the mind clear & focused. Love & respect yourself so that you can do the same for others. Love is what it's about. We have to remain open to share it. I am certain you have as much to offer me as I do to you, friend.
CaptianKeyz Yes, what you say resonates with me. I had an "NDE-Like" experience (I now realize) after my mom died, so I'm drawn to those who have experienced a full NDE. I was merely offered a glimpse. I can only imagine how intense of a full blast of unconditional love is.
This is such a beautiful talk straight from the heart. "Celebrate life"! Yes this is what we are here to do. Many blessings to you for the work and "listening" you did with these amazing life teachers. I am grateful you shared this powerful reminder.
I get how profound this is for the woman speaking. In my opinion, this talk would be way more powerful if she took the super-significance out of the delivery and just said it straight, what her experience was. Let the audience decide what deserves emphasis instead of directing them to what they should find significant. Without the subtextual, "Isn't this amazing" people will find it amazing because, well, it IS amazing.
Why is it such a crime to share with passion if something was a profound experience for you? We are not robots. I've noticed throughout life many people are highly uncomfortable with feeling and it is those people who have a problem with others being open and brave with what they think and feel.
Well said Tattoo Tiff - so many can't express their feelings and then it is too late. Or if you are like me, Hospice taught me I wasn't a basket case because I do express my grief. Hospice taught me so much at such an overwhelming time of severe forever loss. They are true Earth Angels. We need more hospice hospitals!! Thank you for this stark reality talk on death and dying. She's called "compassionate" something this world needs more of now a days.
Totally agree. Overdramatizing something profound takes away from its significance.
I think what people need to hear about hospice care is how to help us dying and grieving. Practical advice. Not generalities about "really living" and "love"
That's certainly what i need now.
I salute you! Thanks for what you do or did for others. I'm an Empath too & feel the pain of all living things. You are inspiring, so real & a good role model. I will follow your path to Celebrate Life now & always regardless of any challenges in my life. Thanks for sharing your beautiful experiences with the dying & living. From now on Let Celebrate Life to the maximum!😎🎶👍🏽
We had a memorial service for my husband while he was still alive. I'm glad we did it.
I love that idea
Hospice is wonderful. My uncle volunteers there because his wife received such great treatment ♥
I appreciate you sharing your true blessed soul with us all. So many are afraid as to be judged as we often are by those that have yet to experience the moving on of our human family. God bless you for being their for us souls. We all need and should have a hand to hold on to or just sit with and let us know its ok to let go, move forward ....my papa, i grew up living next door to until I was in my early 20's...waited all day and then an 1-1/2 hours before I was there as my mom called and said they said he should have been gone 9 hours or more ago...lshe said he must be waiting for you...imagien my upset when i was just told...It took me what should have been 2-1/2 hours to get there to 1-1/2 ....amazing angle ...just amazing story..I walked down the hall ..mom met me...saying "i know he is waiting on you Ive told him you are coming, he turns his head every time someone walks in the room...I know he is waiting for you"...I walked in the room and said "Im here papa....Im here" ...his eyes met mine....I scooped him in my arms and he was looking through me and I him...and I said "its ok papa, go ahead and go , we'll be ok ...go see mamal and I will see you soon. Its ok. I love you" and he took his last breath and ever so lightly I could feel him lift out of his body as if there was no weight jin my arms at all...all within 5 minutes or less ...it has changed my life forever....forever...to not be with my dad...my best friend...was devastating, but I also know or feel it was what our creator meant to happen that way...although...I know there is something deep there for me to learn. God bless you all and all your experiences...S.
I am looking forward to sharing this with my allied health students when we talk about communicating with people about death and dying. Thank you for sharing and for your dedication to these individuals.
This is the most important ted talk I feel ever done - even more than Sir Ken Robinson - (his are great though too)!
Amazing story! Life is a gift and when is the time to leave we have to do it with love! A living memorial is a great experience, this is the way we should all go! God bless us!
Barbara Brooks, I believe it is because many people love and adore beautiful roses, yet we should always remember the reason that we must to go to the gardening basket and put on the gardening gloves before going back to the bright and lovely garden, in order to reach out and clip a long stem of a beautiful one.
So beautiful. Thank you for the exquisite, important work you do.
True words eloquently spoken... thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing that with me! I treasure the wisdom of your gift!
I still feel that this speech is bogus. I live in a small town, but there are several Hospice businesses. Two of them "cared" for my mom. She was bedbound and had Azheimer's among other things. I fired the first hospice strictly because they just didn't care. My mom had a wound Vac machine. It is designed to run 24 hours a day. When Hospice was called because the machine alarm sounded they would just tell her caregiver to turn it off and they would come out the next day to fix the problem. I didn't know they were doing this for quite a while, but as soon as I discovered this, I fired them. On to the next hospice. who didn't give a whip about their patient's either. On the day she died, the hospice nurse didn't show until after she died. What happened to the compassion? The Hospice nurse's were working a job. For a paycheck. That was clear and sad, Our hospital is even worse. There is not one element of true caring anywhere in that hospital. My daughter suffered at the hand of nurses and doctors for all of 2014.. I have never felt so helpless in all my life. They were cruel and heartless. The involves hospitals in 2 states. My daughter died at the 3rd hospital she was in during the last week of her life. The first hospital literally threw her out in the middle of the night. After 2 days the second hospital wanted to give her all her meds by mouth, even though she was vomiting and couldn't keep anything down. She requested a transfer to another hospital and arrived there at around 3am. Her last words to me, sent in a text, were "I feel so bad, but the Dr was just in and she's ordered a bunch of tests. I'm going to try to sleep now". To which I replied, Ok baby, call me when you wake up." That was at 10:00am. At 2:30pm, I received a call from her cell phone. I answered, saying Hey baby how are you feeling? But it was my daughter. It was the doctor, telling me my daughter had died. Yes, I am bitter. Yes, I lost faith in Dr's and nurses a LONG time ago. And yes, I know what I'm talking about when I say compassion is mostly gone in the medical field. Btw, I an a RN. I work at a Home Health Company, where I have been for 13 years. I have worked at several Home Health companies over the years and the one I am at now is the only one I have been at in my entire career that truly cares for and puts the patient first. This a a rarity these days, not the norm in the health care field.
Cindie Coffman I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain.I hope one day I will make the change in the medical field to be more loving and caring to the patient, family's and friends too.
I am so sorry for your loss :( Thank you for caring.
I remember hospice was caring for my Grandfather. I was in his bedroom one afternoon a couple or so days prior to his passing and a nurse with hospice was in his room at his side. I recall a moment where I was showing affection (everyone shows or expresses their affection towards someone in their own unique way) for my dying Grandfather. I may have leaned over and kissed him on his cheek or on his forehead or whatever way I was showing him affection at that moment and I happend to look up at the lady that was with hospice and she looked at me with the strangest, weirdest, expression on her face. I guess I could even say that her faccial expression was even creepy. It weirded me out in my mind and made me feel really funny. After the initial weird feeling it gave me, I started feeling angry and irked that the lady looked at me the way she did. I wanted to ask the woman what her problem was but instead, I refrained from asking. I'll never forget the eerie look on that woman's face. After that, she didn't seem like someone who was compassionate at all. I'll never forget that off the wall look/expression on her face as long as I live. She had no business in my opinion, being at my Grandfather's side.
All the times we should have, would have, could have said, 'Please leave the room.'
was she the reason he passed?
@@hal7ter God bless your heart..it is in these times we feel most vulnerable to our own pain..perhaps maybe it was she herself that was wishing she had done exactly what you were doing in one of her past experiences. She may have unknowingly displayed this on her own face and jus maybe because at that time the state of mind you "we" are in at the time, took this upon ourselves as something to do with us and developed a "feeling" that projected into the later days. I only offer this because I too have been on both sides and work with the psychological/spiritual side of our moving on from this earth. It is so easy for us in our regular daily life to "assume" what we feel to be, that may have absolutely nothing to do with us in general.After all my dear love one, we are only human ...even after these years I know you still miss him and relive these moments. Cherish the moments you had and loved...forget those that we do not know to a full extinct of their purpose. A year to the date, now of December 2020. out of nowhere and unknown cause..beside the emergency doctor giving him so much pain relief it put him into cardiac arrest, that they even told his wife (one of her 3 husbands) and a family member, my sister it would...and then my Dad moved on...He was my best friend...still is...I was in another country and they all knew I would not be able to do anything. It is so heartbreaking for me as I feel I let him down...but I know ...I have to do what I am to do and find a way to live around what is and what was to be without anger or resentment. Although I was in another country, we spoke daily and text many times throughout the day. There was much jealously there for years from them...what was I to do? He chose his life and I had to go on with mine .. He was and is my Dad and without a doubt ...justice will prevail, in this life time or the next. God bless you my dear "Some One" and to all of us that have so much hurt from experiences we have suffered with our loved ones moving on before us...Stay well and stay blessed. S.
Celebrate Life, Celebrate Death, Living Memorial, Good stuff!
Absolutely beautiful!!! Thank you so very much for living a life in such complete alignment with what is your clear and wonderful purpose. We should endeavor to do the same, absolutely regardless of what is required of us to accomplish such an alignment... (the Universe does not contradict itself, nor does it play cruel games). Our alignment with our authentic being is indeed, what matters most. Thank you Alia. xx
Vivi Rose very well put. I have no doubt that you are living a very virtuous life. The world needs more people like you.
Jay Mulligank
why are people so cynical and critical of this woman? It's a lovely presentation.
As a dying person, I think the issue that I have with this is that it feels kind of like she's exploiting and romanticizing the experiences of people in who are dying. If you look up "inspiration porn", that is what this sort of seems to be. She is using intimate details of patients' lives to speak on something she isn't going through. It's so hard to get to a point of peace and romanticizing hospice makes me feel like she doesn't get how hard it is on the other side of it.
Karen, I hope you don't mind me making this comment. I've studied the near death experience for 40 years. The death of the body is not the end of you. I don't know how to say it better than that. I'm not trying to be patronising, I'm not trying to trivialise death either, it is a brutal thing when all is said and done. Even if you can't accept what I've just said at the very least, you will have the experience, have the perception that you have left your body behind and are going on a journey to somewhere better. If you find this comment offensive, I will remove it. Sincere regards.
Karen Marks I'm sorry. I pray you have plenty of support around you. Jesus loves you BTW. I lost my Mother in April, and I know she's now without pain and knows the answers to the questions we all have, in this and any other Universe. Again, I'm sorry you're going through this.
"It sounds played up"....like she's telling a fairy tail.
Barbara Brooks Maybe it’s because of all of the “I...I...I” involved. Her experience of the death of another person, her idea of how it should be processed. Death can be messy and painful, grief can paralyze who’s left to get through it. “Celebration of life” is a pretty, trendy concept and it seems to only push the grief phobia present in western societies. Some people are tired of that.
As both myself I can relate to the struggle of being an empath and a nurse.
Great video, it reflects my philosophy of the end of life stage being a gifted time. A time to "live life" that we never really do so on a daily basis because we are always planning and living for tomorrow.
I hope I will make a change in the future to help patients, family's and friends too through the whole process. Before and after. It is not easy losing or letting someone you love go. I wish there were more people who are passionate in the medical field.
I believe that was the best Ted talk I have ever heard.
No matter how peaceful the death. No matter how beautiful the ending. The ones who are left behind experience profound loss. The missing love is always there but the missing person is not. The hardest thing about life is losing those you love.
First time I saw Ted Talks presenter tell their story like telling a ghost story.
I like the idea of the living memorial service.
yeah - beautiful topic but way over dramatized.
I think she is just a very sensitive person and this is her account of what she experienced.
thanks for what you do
Maybe this nurse was simply trying to convey that time be spent connecting, living and loving when we are still here...
THIS WAS BEAUTIFUL YOU ROCK
The hard thing is the motivation to 'live' right now. I mean, I'm not going to die tomorrow or unlikely to die today. This threat of incoming death seems to be the key motivation for these people to start living. I've heard war-vets and firefighters experience some of these happy moments of REALLY feeling alive. Winning the super-bowel or even the lottery pales in comparison to the experience of almost being dead.
i believe every word she says very touching sincere sweet and feminine
Thank you🙏🏼
A living memorial ... love it
This reminds me of the song "Live Like You're Dying" from Tim Mcgraw.
So practiced and fake,but God bless you hon.You're doing more than me
These hospices put a 6 months countdown timer in front of each patient's bed. This is to facilitate the patient in understanding how much time they have left. After the timer is complete, if the patient still doesn't die, the hospice nurses kill them. It's philosophical to the families.
I don't really understand why anyone would abandon their loved ones to die here instead of trying till the last??
I'm about to die, thought it was happening yesterday but still here. I'm not in hospice nor in hospital, I'm homeless and alone. I just don't want the pain with death. Sleep and pass is what I'm hoping for but I'm in a lot of pain and god has always hurt me so I expect it will be very painful.
Thinking and praying for you Gary. Wherever you are. Praying you are not cold. ❤ sending you love and God’s grace.
ferria... Hospice is about helping people and their families through the dying process. It is not about healing and making people better. People are sent to hospice with less than 6 months to live.
Many people DO NOT WANT Strangers in their homes. It is a private time.
Amazing and heart touching
hermosas palabras.
Loved your Ted Talk
“ how soft we really are
beyond our lobster shells”
For a great RUclips vid please RUclips
“ Gangaji facing death”
Love never dies,
Al
She is one of the coldest looking nurses that I have seen and I have seen a few!
she's an angel
my dad's dying and the acceptance stage is not going to be the way this lady describes it for everyone. It's unrealistic and a little insulting to force the family to "celebrate" when the one they love is dying. Better if this talk was about how to guide families to the point of acceptance, but she makes it seem like suddenly one day they jump from denial to acceptance and skip all the other steps. And the guy who got up out of his chair in a hospice facility and drove in his "Cadilac" up the coast to enjoy his last few years of life? ... not a typical situation for people who have a terminal illness. Many can't drive or barely walk or just got out of surgery. That's unrealistic to set those expectations.
+Lisa Vickroy I am also a long time hospice volunteer. Your statement of the ideal situation is very judgmental and about you. What gives you the right to see one person's death process is a deal and the other isn't? you should not be a volunteer at hospice in my opinion.
so sad to see the boxes that people put themselves into. After a fabulous experience ...lots of laughing and great stories, my first experience with Hospice with my father, I went on to bring that kind of good death by becoming a hospice nurse. I advocated music, life reviews, doing picture boards, carrying that dying family member out to see the last Fall leaves in full array or the spring blossoms to to feel the snow...we are spirits having a human experience; we are not breakable at the end, it does not have to be sad and dour, and those who were able to celebrate having shared a life with their loved one, were so grateful.. The only Unrealistic expectations are the ones the narrow sighted, boxed in volunteer or caregivers shove onto families and patients. I agree with others opinions, you have no business being a Volunteer.
The comments as a whole don't seem to be very complimentary to the speaker - too much drama and too rehearsed.
Letting go... does it save you from minimum wage?
I was enjoying her stories until she brought up oprah. oh well
Annette Herrera lol
Thumbs up because it's funny...and true
Annette Herrera EXACTLY!!! Thank you!
Annette Herrera Yep.
It’s a shame how some people in the comments are so negatively judgemental.
This lady is an empath, and she is authentic in her compassionate presentation and voice, with a sincere message of understanding, she and others have experienced to evolve, in the journey of life. Her message is meant to help others, understand, in their journey
Stop judging and start listening to begin to understand the reality of your journey which in turn may help someone else in theirs. The big picture.
She has very advanced soul.
I couldn't finish watching.
This is so unrealistic- i wish I had time like that with my patients
just sad. hospice is heartbreaking.
Are u still speaking? The world needs your stories again...
When you're 2800 miles away and the person dying cant speak well because of a stroke... and all you can do is video call when other family are there - what do you say? What are you supposed to say to someone who's surrendering and is ready to go. Tell him you love him, that I get. But I'm not even sure he knows who I am anymore.
doctors are allowed to write out an order for no water no meds no food, and place you in hospice, palliative care, MEMORY care, whatever you want to call it, it DOES NOT HAVE TO BE TRUE, it is up to them, look up how much MORE MONEY CAN BE MADE BY DOING THIS, then actually giving someone care, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE DYING.
bird zene there is no money in hospice. Agencies no matter your insurance are reimbursed one rate. It does not matter if the patients requires a lot of care, meds etc or if the patient has less symptoms. Look it up its approx $140-150 a day. Think about the rental of equipment - hospice for it- meds pertaining to their diagnosis- hospice pays it. home health aides for personal care- hospice pays etc etc Those that work in hospice its not for the money its because they have a calling for it.
This would be quite compelling if it wasn't so over acted. I too had a NDE which I see as a Near Life Experience (NLE) and which I seldom disclose except in appropriate situations and where there is a need on an individual basis. Although I trained as an actor and 'am pretty good at presenting I do not feel driven to convert the general population to my beliefs or evangalise on a platform or become a celebrity. And if I did I would hope to be a little less evangelical and not so theatrically convincing. Having said that, everything she says is as far as I am concerned totally true. :)
Sebastian Wheaterbix well pat yourself on the back and feel better about you.
Personally I find her believable albeit excited, you... I find disingenuous.
I have had more than one near death experience.... I call it almost dying...
shell get hers ... when she gets into hospice
debbiewasshername What do you mean?
This is a nice sentiment but it wouldn't work in the UK 😂
But on a serious note, when my mum was dying of cancer we did everything we could to help her enjoy her last moments but the reality is she was in so much discomfort and nausea from the pain killers that she couldn't even sit up and look out at the garden.
We can't romanticise death. We can try and make it as comfortable as possible for people and reassure them that we will be OK when they are gone as, especially for parents, it helps them to let go peacefully.
Not as smooth as the other Ted Talks on dying. Great material just over did it a bit. I felt anxious when I shouldn’t have
how to die and have fun at the same time. twice I have had to fight down to the last breath and if I had surrendered and had stopped fighting I would not be here now. As I passed out in thiss life and death struggle I was carried away to a place far far away. There I was told if I wanted to live breath like I never breathed before. When I awoke I was breathing hard and fast but if I had not I would have survived.
sad that its at the time of death most of us think about our life.
Alia good speak you very awesome nurse.
Lovely Young Woman. ❤❤
What about those whom are unble to be with their loved ones...
what self interested analysis, this is all about Alia Indrawan her
experience 'we' decided as if she had control, it's autobiography.
A tale of the living... not of the courage and kindness in death
that those with love ones may share, not well rounded reality...
She sounds more like a actress playing a part,I didnt find her stories sincere or REAL SHE just sounded PHONEY to me ,I'm sorry if my opinion of her offends anyone but that's just the true feeling or vibe I recieved from her.
the most scared people leave the most nastiest comments. really must suck inside your flesh. great talk and insights.
She's like the Tony Robbins of the Hospice work. A bit OTT for me. Lovely stories, but would prefer if she wasn't on the old
MDMA 😂😂
I don't know why people don't like this woman she is obviously a sort of hippee'
Takes forever please tell it fast
Beautiful and smart
i just wonder how something having to do entirely with death, is not about death. just curious.
👍🏻 ❤ !
pleasant presence
"they were sharing things with me at their most vulnerable period of their life, and I got to be a part of that". seriously?? that's a privilege? As a daughter of a terminally ill mom I hope none of her nurses get to boast about getting to know her "intimate life details"