Genuine pessimist I’m nearly at 10 months of NC and I have finally reached the point where I don’t care. I wish I could have gotten there as fast as you but we all heal at our own pace
I don’t need no break up advice anymore but I still listen to his videos coz I can implement his advice and perspective in my life’s journey as well. Rory helped me outta my mess, his videos convinced me to implement no contact, I’ve been improving ever since. He never sugar coats things or tell you what you wanna hear. He tells the truth as it is. I would like to thank Rory for encouraging me to succeed this far and to be honest a couple of girls actually asked me out. It’s true guys, you must listen to this guy ✌🏻and who ever is reading this comment congratulations y’all are in good hands ❤️
So basically we broke up 6 months ago, the relationship was great the breakup was toxic on his part. He dumped me after roasting me as a person. Left his house, never talked to him again. Started going to therapy, picking up my art again, working out, meditation, picked up a yoga class and quit vaping. feeling the BEST I have ever felt in my entire life. This dude just texted me, it’s been six months since I have spoken to him. And the last time I saw him he spoke to me like he hated me. Now he misses me lol 🤷♀️
I find it so coincidental that the moment I'm single or start a new relationship, my ex's come out of the wood work to reach out... I keep my relationships off social media for a reason
I got news that my grandfather (pretty much my father) passed away 3 days ago. Since then, everything has really been put into perspective, and these struggles that I thought were struggles really fade away when real tragedies occur. His funeral is tomorrow and going through the arrangements and old photos and etc really made me notice how small everything else is in comparison. Thank you for being a resource for people when they're going through dark times. I thought my dark times were the last few months, but really they just started a few days ago. On a side note, my ex reached out after a month and a half along with others about my grandfathers passing. We messaged 2 or 3 times briefly and I told her that it would be nice to see her on the 16th, and she politely curved it by saying "Don't worry about me, it was nice catching up, I wish y'all the best".. so I think everything has consolidated itself. My priorities are way more accurate now, though. It's strange how it all plays out.
She broke up with me and honestly it is the best thing that could have happened to me. I still have love and I still care about her but letting go her go and no contact has really changed my dynamic. I am able to love myself and appreciate everything that has happened. I have full trust that this was supposed to happen. It hurt more than anything else and I’m not afraid to admit that. The things that I didn’t like about her are the things that I am working on to better myself. The things she did not like about herself also manifested into things I did not like about myself which I am also working on. She lit a flame inside of me and now I am finally able to grow for myself to become better. Her negative energy and insecurities drained me a took a toll on my behalf. I send her healing, love and positivity everyday.
My boyfriend jst ghosted on me last September.i wasnt prepared for thngs to end but i believe it happened for a reason.jst like you,im learning to change the bad qualities i have to bettr myself. It comforts me to know that i am not alone.
I feel like once you can be okay with knowing and acknowledging that your ex is enjoying moments y'all used to and having sexual explorations like y'all used to and be reasonably content with it you have moved on. And in that time you may be able to try out being with each other again. Its almost like a brand new relationship. Once you've kinda forgotten your ex and their mannerisms and who they are. The sad thing is this takes years and once these years have gone by you may legitimately not care about your ex anymore and don't care. And honestly that is the saddest part. For me, I'm scared not to love her anymore. She was my angel, my somewhat broken angel, but I'm not completely unbroken either.
i can see that you love her. sometimes you can also love from a distance. 🤗💓 maybe you can keep her always good in her heart. i would wish that for you. good luck.
Rory thank you for the discord server. I been on it a lot and talking to people has helped me understand my pain. It’s a great community it’s helped me feel less alone. I deleted of all social media which is hard but I’m glad to have this community.
Easy to explain… Past their prime. Wasted their years getting banged by Chad and failed to tie one down. Run out of options and is now scrambling to find a man to commit to them and take them seriously.
I love that you quote Craig Kenneth, he’s another of my favorites! Between you and him I’ve learned so much, and you guys have made my process a smoother one.
Mine never came back so there is that! After 4 years, he dumped me like I never existed. I envy him because I wish I was like that. I would just love to dump a person and not care. 😂😂😂😂
My ex wife left me for someone else 1.5 years ago. I've been single since. And she has tried to contact me by calling/texting late at night. Why? Like Rory and Craig say it's the little moments they tend to miss of what they had with you. Nostalgia. I haven't returned any of them because I've moved on but when and if she does once more attempt. I will return a response. I loved her dearly with all of me. And unfortunately she is not happy. I've been enjoying every minute of my solitude and reinventing who I was to who I am now. Blessed with loved ones is all you need. Once you find yourself, you find love. One of the same.
Strangely all of my ex’s have reached out to me, once I’ve fully moved on. But this time I’m unsure if my current ex will reach out to me... He’s my first heart break, and my first time ever being dumped by someone.
We were together for 10 years and broke up in Aug '18. She asked me to move out and then hooked up with someone else she just met and booked an international trip with him. He doesn't even live in this state so it is a casual long distance thing. We had adopted a dog together several years before that she kept. I broke down in front of her when I found out and disappeared out of embarrassment and shame. No contact at all for a year. I was holding on to hope that most of that time and not in a good place at all. Not seeing my beloved dog made it even harder. Got better as time wore on and started seeing someone else. I really missed my dog more than anything else at this point. Got to the point where i realized that if I didn't reach out, I would never see the dog again because it was obvious at that point that she didn't care at all about ever hearing from me again. I reached out and asked to see the dog. It went ok. I set rules for myself on how to behave. No bringing up breakup, no apologizing for past behavior, no asking about her life or if she is still seeing the same guy. Kept the conversation about the dog as much as possible and gave short answers to her questions. She wants to act like everything is fine and that we're friends. But we're not. After the way she treated me and the hell she put me through I can't ever be her friend. I just want to spend time with my dog. The way she treated me is not ok. But, I have to admit, some of the progress I made over the past year has regressed just by seeing her. I no longer feel the same way about her and wouldn't get back together even if she wanted to, she has shown me who she really is. But I do feel something when I see her, resentment and anger. The fact that I feel anything at all tells me that I haven't truly and fully moved on. I broke no contact for the dog. Not for her. But I still don't think it was a good idea. Stay strong.
Actually, that "disturbance in the force" thing is a good thing. Because, if you want your ex to contact you, you have to move on. And if you ever say something along the lines "I've done this and that but my ex never contacted me", then that means you haven't moved on, so your ex will not contact you. At the end, you win either way. Plus, believing in things motivates humans a lot. Thanks Rory.
I’m the same, I watch these now and again because I find the psychological side to break ups really interesting. My ex broke up with me in February, funnily enough she text me last week telling me she missed me, I didn’t even reply because I don’t want her anymore. 4 months later I couldn’t care less.
I’ve been following this channel roughly since April and I didn’t think my ex would ever contact me again. But here we are 8 months since I last talk to her 9 months since we broke and she reached out. Didn’t want anything just msgs me random stuff which is ok because I’m over it. She seems to have plenty of other guys to talk to. 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
Man, does that shit suck or what? I'm sure you get the usual: "How are you" or "Are you okay". I guess you could call it "breadcrumbing". I wish you the best, brother!
Yep I've moved on. I have forgiven him. But I don't expect to hear from him again. That's ok too. He can go and do everything the same with someone else. Bye hugsx
Hey rory my ex came back but i cant stand the thought of him being with someone else after our breakup and having feelings for her i dont know how to handle it, i know he loves me but i feel all over the place
georgia222 some people don’t mind & some do. You know people want to be the number one. It’s a personal preference. I would be ok with it but would insist on std tests & those are painful, lol
My ex reached out to me when I lost 50lbs. She asked me if she should break up with her new boy-friend, I told her thats something you need to figure out on your own.
What's your opinion on apologies, very long after the break-up? Meaning, when some major damage (lies or cheating) forced the break-up and NC. And I mean, sincere and thoughtful apologies after years of growth, acknowledging the hurt caused and to give them your peace, not to try to reestablish communication. Pros and cons? Will it promote healing or rather reopen a past wound? I have not seen any video about this topic yet, only scattered opinions in Internet forums. Wanna take it on a video?
I love the scientific view you have on love. I’m exactly the same as you are Rory, coincidences and zero law of attraction or magic stuff xD great video as always
The law of vibration followed by the law of attraction is real science. Its quantum physics and mechanics. You need to watch joe dispenza . Unless you live under a rock I imagine you know who he is . Doctor dispenza will explain it all .
So true Rory, I didnt realize I moved on been so busy, until he popped in my head because of a certain place I passed by and I thought wow I havent thought of him in forever and then he was gone again just like that. Until I watched this video lol but its okay now thanks to your help!
My ex reached out by calling me 4 months after the breakup even tho he wasn’t the ex that was the reason I started watching these videos. I didn’t know what no contact was but I stopped trying and blocked him everywhere. He eventually called me and wanted to start a friendship again then we met and now we’re on the hook again even tho I’m kinda sceptical and don’t rlly want to be together with him no more
I think moving on is a gradual process You begin to move on from the day that you start no contact and work on yourself...... your do I g it for YOU In essence you are moving on from that point in time and it's a gradual process. The early days of moving on you don't even notice that you are
just to let you guys know, my ex did come back, 4 months after, but he come back cause he wanted me to put him to play on a show that I produce. He´s with someone else. I was friendly but didn´t get the gig for him as i used to..and..he dissapear...Now..a year from the break up..i met other people, i did a conference in poland, i am so fine alone...I miss the idea of being in love..but not him....the idea..he was never even close to the idea...and that´s when I realize, everything is inside us...It could be anyone...but one thing is for sure...I´m so much better now.
Hi Rory, Mine wasn’t a clear breakup, but it’s been 6 months of no contact, minus a happy holiday text from him. Two weeks ago, I was gonna text my friend, and truly accidentally clicked the wrong chat window and sent the text to him, which I immediately deleted and wrote “apologies, I clicked the wrong window”. He responded with a “❤️”. As I do still hope to either patch up or get closure, should I respond to that, or is the “❤️” really meaningless?
Almost four months into the breakup. It's been really really tough for me since I'm also dealing with health problems specifically heart problem which started immediately after he broke up with me.I am proud of myself for not reaching out during Christmas. He sent me a greeting which had no emotion since there's even no exclamation mark or emojis.well he's out there by himself in another continent and I feel lucky to be able to spend my Christmas with my family which I think is the most important thing. I felt he did it so he could get a greeting from me since it's also his birthday. I replied out of politeness but of course no emojis no exclamation marks unlike before.and he gave his reply and we haven't talked since.this new year I'm pretty sure he won't send anymore. He can shove his greeting up his.I don't feel any anxiety unlike before.
Im in the most shityy situation ever! I got dumped in the middle of all this corona shit... the only thing u could do now, is to be at home. Crying and thinking alot, no friends to meet. No places to go, no bars, no shopping. NOTHING. How could u improve ur self in these times😭😭 i know is very insenstiv, when alot of people is in pain now, but i just dont know what to do??
Hey Rory, just wanted to thank you for all your help. You helped me go through it especially the no contact advice. I'm with someone better now. I'm glad it happened. But thank you so much. Couldn't done it without you.
It's rather ironic and a blessing that I was feeling bad when he wasn't sending me anything for a week or so but the moment he called me I felt nothing.it felt like my feelings were gone in a blink of an eye.even if when we had our first video call since the breakup (he was the one who wanted the video call).I felt no emotions towards him.three months since he broke up with me.he said he still feels the same but doesn't want to have a relationship until he finishes his studies. He can shove that idea up his.the freak picked up smoking for all I care.I'm currently going through a tough time dealing with my health issues and a family member as well and the freak said he cares cuz he called me earlier but ended up arguing with me cuz the freak held on to his ego rather than apologize to me after bringing up a topic i said he should not have and even gave the reason he's not like most people since I said most people would apologize but not him.he finally apologized begrudgingly. Of all the times he has to be annoyed and said he would be there. It really cemented my nonexistent feelings for him.
Going through some tough stuff where I was monkey-branched. I didn't even know what monkey-branching was until I read about my situation but this channel has been helping me so much.
@Dr.'sorders ending is so cathartic. The girl calls the next day after he's fully healed and meets a great girl the previous night. Doesn't give her the time of day!
Rory, I want to know what jealousy means. My ex discarded me. My ex either hates me or is very indifferent but flipped out when I befriended his close friend (we dont do anything mutual with the ex). I use to love my ex very much(doubt it was mutual) and waited for him until recently.. Is jealousy really hidden feelings like people say or is it a possession thing?
When I think about how there are people out there that deal with situations I can never fathom (Being in LONGterm relationships and being cheated on, 10+ Year Relationships ending in divorce, etc etc...) it puts my situatln into perspective. I love what my ex provided me. She is a beautiful person but I am equally as valuable and although I am struggling with this pain I know it is temporary. It could always be worse. I wont be waiting on someone who expresses the utmost disrespect by deciding they know longer want you in their life. Love yourself, value yourself, & Improve yourself
Another great video! The healing and missing from NC worked, however, time will somehow have to fix broken trust regarding drinking habits. Torn between back to NC or slow sparse communications. She says she doesn't love me any less and doesn't count out the future, our connection is still great when we see each other. So confused!!
“Neither ever nor never ...” you sound like the intro song to the Netflix DARK series 😂 only (smart) ppl who’ve seen the show will get this - i love your vids ! You’re brilliant
Aaron Rodriguez same situation. But I unfriend them few days ago cause I think I shouldn't have them in my life otherwise I'll keep hope of my ex will come back then I never move on
@@haanhvu4276 I did too :( they were always so sweet with me, I considered as a friend and I made a tight bond with them, specially her dad, we had the same taste in music, travelling, ways to see life. I miss them so much but I could not have them anymore so, without explanation I remove them from my social media.
Why do the dumpers use your friends as messengers & not only that but be really upbeat when doing it? My ex kept messaging my best friend about me when she broke up with me & then using him as a messenger whenever I tried to contact her, being cold to me but acting cool with my friends, weirded me out.
Hi Rory, can you cover topic on how an ex coming out of 10+ yr long term relationship can immediately start dating several people. Even though they love me, does it mean that they were very emotionally detached before it ended? I feel like I went from number 1 to number 4 or 5 in a matter of a couple of months. Thx
my opinion without getting into the video to see what your opinion is maybe we agree, it takes a long time for you to get over someone months at least so my theory is once you stop reaching out you worked on yourself and you finally get over someone months have passed and if you think about it that’s about the avg time they reach out from no contact
Hey Rory, could you possibly do a video explaining the mentality of monkey branching? I just got monkey branched by someone who I considered to be the love of my life. We had a good relationship but I had some mental health issues prevent me from being my best self in the final three weeks. I thought she loved and cared about me. Just feel blindsided.
So in my situation it wasn't really possible to completely disappear from my ex as we work closely together...not in the same shop but we share a small parking lot and frequent each other's shop. It's been 4 months or so and I've gone through all the stages, question whether I really wanted him back, even dated a bit. Anyway I still would like another chance but I'm a lot more level headed about it now. 4 days ago was the first time he really talked to me, stopped and talked friendly laughing... And he didn't have to in any way. I saw him again 2 days later and it was the same. Usually he just avoids me. This is the first time where I see an actual possibility of us trying again. Now I still wait to see if he actually contacts me outside of work. Can you do a video on reconnecting or more starting over with an ex??
Rory, I need ur advise. My ex wants connection with me but never really pursue me at all. So what is his point of being connected on a messaging app (wechat)? Can anybody tell me what to do??)
@@cutiegurl1739 ok, i have seen your chat is already older :) i dont know how your story continued but therefore i would recommend dating guys video with how to deal with breadcrumbs (sth like this along the lines) :) but anyways, how did went out?
Haha, it hardly happens to me after the breakup my ex starts a few relationships. Well I'm almost moving on I don't want him back as last time and my soul almost back.
Of course they do. If you work.on yourself, go to the gym, do social media with friends, etc... then they miss you and they come back. Yes, they come back. Mine did.
@@IsaacKnowReally , yes I did. I was almost at the point of being ready to date again. We had been together for 3 years and we had many things in common, sense of humor, politics, music(we go to a lot of music festivals together), and our kids are grown and gone. Plus the sex is great, too. Bonus. During that time alone I also evaluated my part in the breakup. I was on a two month trip on my motorcycle across the country and I had left her alone. Obviously she didn't appreciate it. So I had to consider how she felt. We communicated how we felt and that was a learning experience. It's pretty good now. Been together over 4 years.
My ex broke up with me 1 and half months ago after 4 good years of relationship.... she eventually befriended with me and she was like reaching out to me once in a week all these weeks and I didn't like the hot and cold behavior so day before yesterday I asked her if we can work out the things to which she disagreed and from then on I stopped the friendship connection and here I am stress free and no tension
@@hwdareu5848 good man. Obviously when they say they arent interested you have to cut them loose. (See Coery Wayne's Seven Principles to get an ex back). You sound like you are handling it well.
Rory thank you for this channel! I started in such a dark place and @thelovechat has really helped me understand that I am most likely going to be okay with any outcome
My Last ex never came back so I doubt this ex isn’t never coming either back yet he still has me on Skype and Xbox still hasn’t deleted me 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️😖😖😖😖
i think if your ex still have you on these channels mean either - they dont care that much about you that it dont bother them to have you there - or the other end i guess - they like you so much that they still want that you are in their lives, even as a friend or acquaintance. but of course this is just what i think about those kind of situations now and how they are actually for me. but dont know if this is right :D
Now that I'm a better version of myself, living my best life and my monkey brancher ex literally said "things got better for you not for me". All I said was "Get therapy and goodluck". He didn't want to get back yet but I dont think it matters to me anymore. I did break NC twice for closure (I know, i know.. I'm not supposed to but I was ready for it. I made sure I was completely over him before I broke NC so I was not scared of ruining any chances. I mostly called him just to screw with him. I know I know I shouldn't have. But it was fun af lol) and after talking to him I realized (not to toot my own horn) I'm so out of his league now its carzy. I almost cried at one point realizing the difference between our growth and I felt pity for him. He sounded sad and bitter. And he's still not sure how I'm doing so well. Well I worked for it unlike him I got help instead of jumping on a greener looking grass. I've never felt so happy, secure and liberated. Took me good 4-5 months but I did it. I can only go forward now. ❤
The Love Chat I’m just scared because you said no more than 6 paragraphs. I’m scared of unanswered questions. I’m also going to buy your book soon, we share amazon acc so I have to make a new one.
My ex dad passed away and I was in no contact for 7 months. I sent her my condolences cause i did know him well and she’s calling me like every other day now and even asked if i wanted to grab food. What could this be any feedback welcomed this 🤷🏾♂️
yeah i would also agree - i mean a marriage usually means lot of things happened in the life of the other person meanwhile (doesnt have to be but mostly does nowadays). good luck to you in your future pursuings :)
I wanted my ex to come back so badly. After 3 months NC he texted me yesterday and I ignored it. I don’t even want to talk to him now.
we all envy you. It took me forever to get to that point
Genuine pessimist I’m nearly at 10 months of NC and I have finally reached the point where I don’t care. I wish I could have gotten there as fast as you but we all heal at our own pace
@@InsaneDude6161995 it took me a 1.2 years. dont beat yourself up
It’s been 2 months and I can’t seem to move on I don’t know what to do pls help
@@InsaneDude6161995 did ur ex ever reach out?
I don’t need no break up advice anymore but I still listen to his videos coz I can implement his advice and perspective in my life’s journey as well. Rory helped me outta my mess, his videos convinced me to implement no contact, I’ve been improving ever since. He never sugar coats things or tell you what you wanna hear. He tells the truth as it is. I would like to thank Rory for encouraging me to succeed this far and to be honest a couple of girls actually asked me out. It’s true guys, you must listen to this guy ✌🏻and who ever is reading this comment congratulations y’all are in good hands ❤️
We can actually move on without necessarily being in a relationship.... For me moving on is acceptance that the situation is what is it.
So basically we broke up 6 months ago, the relationship was great the breakup was toxic on his part. He dumped me after roasting me as a person. Left his house, never talked to him again. Started going to therapy, picking up my art again, working out, meditation, picked up a yoga class and quit vaping. feeling the BEST I have ever felt in my entire life. This dude just texted me, it’s been six months since I have spoken to him. And the last time I saw him he spoke to me like he hated me. Now he misses me lol 🤷♀️
Wow
That was my ex. Like a light switch flipped.
I was watching this video and fell asleep drooling all over myself. If that doesn’t say I’m over my ex, than I don’t know what does.
I personally think I have a better chance of having a cup of coffee with George Micheal then having any communication with my ex!!
Zac Malik George Michael was a legend ✌🏾
I second that!!
Yeah right but for me it’s Michael De Santa
🤣🤣
Indeed, even when death
It doesent matter if ex comes back or not, work on yourself and let them go forever period , cause they left you like trash
They sure did
Or the other way around and now you regret it but they moved on quickly after you broke up with them the third time. That's my case
I find it so coincidental that the moment I'm single or start a new relationship, my ex's come out of the wood work to reach out... I keep my relationships off social media for a reason
I got news that my grandfather (pretty much my father) passed away 3 days ago. Since then, everything has really been put into perspective, and these struggles that I thought were struggles really fade away when real tragedies occur. His funeral is tomorrow and going through the arrangements and old photos and etc really made me notice how small everything else is in comparison. Thank you for being a resource for people when they're going through dark times. I thought my dark times were the last few months, but really they just started a few days ago.
On a side note, my ex reached out after a month and a half along with others about my grandfathers passing. We messaged 2 or 3 times briefly and I told her that it would be nice to see her on the 16th, and she politely curved it by saying "Don't worry about me, it was nice catching up, I wish y'all the best".. so I think everything has consolidated itself. My priorities are way more accurate now, though. It's strange how it all plays out.
My condolences - i'm sorry for your loss.
@@TheLoveChat Thanks Rory, I appreciate you.
I'm sorry for your loss.
@ThePatUltra thank you for those words. I really needed that tonight. Best wishes to you as well
It really is true what they say abt death.it teaches you perspective.
She broke up with me and honestly it is the best thing that could have happened to me. I still have love and I still care about her but letting go her go and no contact has really changed my dynamic. I am able to love myself and appreciate everything that has happened. I have full trust that this was supposed to happen. It hurt more than anything else and I’m not afraid to admit that. The things that I didn’t like about her are the things that I am working on to better myself. The things she did not like about herself also manifested into things I did not like about myself which I am also working on. She lit a flame inside of me and now I am finally able to grow for myself to become better. Her negative energy and insecurities drained me a took a toll on my behalf. I send her healing, love and positivity everyday.
My boyfriend jst ghosted on me last September.i wasnt prepared for thngs to end but i believe it happened for a reason.jst like you,im learning to change the bad qualities i have to bettr myself. It comforts me to know that i am not alone.
My man Rory on a roll lately
I feel like once you can be okay with knowing and acknowledging that your ex is enjoying moments y'all used to and having sexual explorations like y'all used to and be reasonably content with it you have moved on. And in that time you may be able to try out being with each other again. Its almost like a brand new relationship. Once you've kinda forgotten your ex and their mannerisms and who they are. The sad thing is this takes years and once these years have gone by you may legitimately not care about your ex anymore and don't care. And honestly that is the saddest part. For me, I'm scared not to love her anymore. She was my angel, my somewhat broken angel, but I'm not completely unbroken either.
i can see that you love her.
sometimes you can also love from a distance. 🤗💓
maybe you can keep her always good in her heart.
i would wish that for you.
good luck.
Rory thank you for the discord server. I been on it a lot and talking to people has helped me understand my pain. It’s a great community it’s helped me feel less alone. I deleted of all social media which is hard but I’m glad to have this community.
if my ex ever reached out then that must be hell has frozen over
This happened to me two times. My ex hit me up EXACTLY on the days I was out on dates. It's kinda spooky.
Two of exes came back 10 years later. The familiarity is there. But I was dating another girl. Of course I said no.
Easy to explain… Past their prime. Wasted their years getting banged by Chad and failed to tie one down. Run out of options and is now scrambling to find a man to commit to them and take them seriously.
I love that you quote Craig Kenneth, he’s another of my favorites! Between you and him I’ve learned so much, and you guys have made my process a smoother one.
Mine never came back so there is that! After 4 years, he dumped me like I never existed. I envy him because I wish I was like that. I would just love to dump a person and not care. 😂😂😂😂
CP girl me and you both... 4 years and acts like I don’t exist...
Same situation 😅
How are you now? Exactly the same situation for me and it’s 8 weeks I’ve heard zilch from him.
My ex wife left me for someone else 1.5 years ago. I've been single since. And she has tried to contact me by calling/texting late at night. Why? Like Rory and Craig say it's the little moments they tend to miss of what they had with you. Nostalgia. I haven't returned any of them because I've moved on but when and if she does once more attempt. I will return a response. I loved her dearly with all of me. And unfortunately she is not happy. I've been enjoying every minute of my solitude and reinventing who I was to who I am now. Blessed with loved ones is all you need.
Once you find yourself, you find love. One of the same.
No I'm not Filipino
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Strangely all of my ex’s have reached out to me, once I’ve fully moved on. But this time I’m unsure if my current ex will reach out to me... He’s my first heart break, and my first time ever being dumped by someone.
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We were together for 10 years and broke up in Aug '18. She asked me to move out and then hooked up with someone else she just met and booked an international trip with him. He doesn't even live in this state so it is a casual long distance thing. We had adopted a dog together several years before that she kept. I broke down in front of her when I found out and disappeared out of embarrassment and shame. No contact at all for a year. I was holding on to hope that most of that time and not in a good place at all. Not seeing my beloved dog made it even harder. Got better as time wore on and started seeing someone else. I really missed my dog more than anything else at this point. Got to the point where i realized that if I didn't reach out, I would never see the dog again because it was obvious at that point that she didn't care at all about ever hearing from me again. I reached out and asked to see the dog. It went ok. I set rules for myself on how to behave. No bringing up breakup, no apologizing for past behavior, no asking about her life or if she is still seeing the same guy. Kept the conversation about the dog as much as possible and gave short answers to her questions. She wants to act like everything is fine and that we're friends. But we're not. After the way she treated me and the hell she put me through I can't ever be her friend. I just want to spend time with my dog. The way she treated me is not ok. But, I have to admit, some of the progress I made over the past year has regressed just by seeing her. I no longer feel the same way about her and wouldn't get back together even if she wanted to, she has shown me who she really is. But I do feel something when I see her, resentment and anger. The fact that I feel anything at all tells me that I haven't truly and fully moved on. I broke no contact for the dog. Not for her. But I still don't think it was a good idea. Stay strong.
Rebound relationship
Actually, that "disturbance in the force" thing is a good thing. Because, if you want your ex to contact you, you have to move on. And if you ever say something along the lines "I've done this and that but my ex never contacted me", then that means you haven't moved on, so your ex will not contact you. At the end, you win either way. Plus, believing in things motivates humans a lot. Thanks Rory.
I’ve already moved on but I don’t understand why I still want to listen to this kind of conversation 😅
I’m the same, I watch these now and again because I find the psychological side to break ups really interesting. My ex broke up with me in February, funnily enough she text me last week telling me she missed me, I didn’t even reply because I don’t want her anymore. 4 months later I couldn’t care less.
I’ve been following this channel roughly since April and I didn’t think my ex would ever contact me again. But here we are 8 months since I last talk to her 9 months since we broke and she reached out. Didn’t want anything just msgs me random stuff which is ok because I’m over it. She seems to have plenty of other guys to talk to. 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
Man, does that shit suck or what? I'm sure you get the usual: "How are you" or "Are you okay". I guess you could call it "breadcrumbing". I wish you the best, brother!
Always & Always yep I’m just glad I’m at a place where I don’t really care anymore
Yep I've moved on. I have forgiven him. But I don't expect to hear from him again. That's ok too. He can go and do everything the same with someone else. Bye hugsx
Hey rory my ex came back but i cant stand the thought of him being with someone else after our breakup and having feelings for her i dont know how to handle it, i know he loves me but i feel all over the place
georgia222 some people don’t mind & some do. You know people want to be the number one. It’s a personal preference. I would be ok with it but would insist on std tests & those are painful, lol
My ex reached out to me when I lost 50lbs. She asked me if she should break up with her new boy-friend, I told her thats something you need to figure out on your own.
Did she?
What's your opinion on apologies, very long after the break-up? Meaning, when some major damage (lies or cheating) forced the break-up and NC. And I mean, sincere and thoughtful apologies after years of growth, acknowledging the hurt caused and to give them your peace, not to try to reestablish communication. Pros and cons? Will it promote healing or rather reopen a past wound? I have not seen any video about this topic yet, only scattered opinions in Internet forums. Wanna take it on a video?
If you still love them go for it
just leave it imo
I love the scientific view you have on love. I’m exactly the same as you are Rory, coincidences and zero law of attraction or magic stuff xD
great video as always
The law of vibration followed by the law of attraction is real science. Its quantum physics and mechanics. You need to watch joe dispenza . Unless you live under a rock I imagine you know who he is . Doctor dispenza will explain it all .
So true Rory, I didnt realize I moved on been so busy, until he popped in my head because of a certain place I passed by and I thought wow I havent thought of him in forever and then he was gone again just like that. Until I watched this video lol but its okay now thanks to your help!
My ex reached out by calling me 4 months after the breakup even tho he wasn’t the ex that was the reason I started watching these videos. I didn’t know what no contact was but I stopped trying and blocked him everywhere. He eventually called me and wanted to start a friendship again then we met and now we’re on the hook again even tho I’m kinda sceptical and don’t rlly want to be together with him no more
I'm more into the new gal I'm going out with now😂😂😂
I think moving on is a gradual process
You begin to move on from the day that you start no contact and work on yourself...... your do I g it for YOU
In essence you are moving on from that point in time and it's a gradual process.
The early days of moving on you don't even notice that you are
just to let you guys know, my ex did come back, 4 months after, but he come back cause he wanted me to put him to play on a show that I produce. He´s with someone else. I was friendly but didn´t get the gig for him as i used to..and..he dissapear...Now..a year from the break up..i met other people, i did a conference in poland, i am so fine alone...I miss the idea of being in love..but not him....the idea..he was never even close to the idea...and that´s when I realize, everything is inside us...It could be anyone...but one thing is for sure...I´m so much better now.
Hi Rory,
Mine wasn’t a clear breakup, but it’s been 6 months of no contact, minus a happy holiday text from him. Two weeks ago, I was gonna text my friend, and truly accidentally clicked the wrong chat window and sent the text to him, which I immediately deleted and wrote “apologies, I clicked the wrong window”. He responded with a “❤️”. As I do still hope to either patch up or get closure, should I respond to that, or is the “❤️” really meaningless?
Aida Selman you make your own closure... that emoji could be meaningless for me
Santiago Ramirez thank you
For me you this❤️ has no meaning it’s a scam stay on no contact my friend and focus on taking care of yourself
yeah your comment is also a bit older but i would agree with the people before me.
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Almost four months into the breakup. It's been really really tough for me since I'm also dealing with health problems specifically heart problem which started immediately after he broke up with me.I am proud of myself for not reaching out during Christmas. He sent me a greeting which had no emotion since there's even no exclamation mark or emojis.well he's out there by himself in another continent and I feel lucky to be able to spend my Christmas with my family which I think is the most important thing.
I felt he did it so he could get a greeting from me since it's also his birthday. I replied out of politeness but of course no emojis no exclamation marks unlike before.and he gave his reply and we haven't talked since.this new year I'm pretty sure he won't send anymore.
He can shove his greeting up his.I don't feel any anxiety unlike before.
I am happy for you! I hope you're happy now and that your health is better ❤ stay well
Soon as you fall back they crawl back, saying they sorry and want it all back - Fabolous
Im in the most shityy situation ever! I got dumped in the middle of all this corona shit... the only thing u could do now, is to be at home. Crying and thinking alot, no friends to meet. No places to go, no bars, no shopping. NOTHING. How could u improve ur self in these times😭😭 i know is very insenstiv, when alot of people is in pain now, but i just dont know what to do??
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Your videos helped me moving out of a mess and always motivated for self improvisation. Thanku you 💕
Hey Rory, just wanted to thank you for all your help. You helped me go through it especially the no contact advice. I'm with someone better now. I'm glad it happened. But thank you so much. Couldn't done it without you.
It's rather ironic and a blessing that I was feeling bad when he wasn't sending me anything for a week or so but the moment he called me I felt nothing.it felt like my feelings were gone in a blink of an eye.even if when we had our first video call since the breakup (he was the one who wanted the video call).I felt no emotions towards him.three months since he broke up with me.he said he still feels the same but doesn't want to have a relationship until he finishes his studies. He can shove that idea up his.the freak picked up smoking for all I care.I'm currently going through a tough time dealing with my health issues and a family member as well and the freak said he cares cuz he called me earlier but ended up arguing with me cuz the freak held on to his ego rather than apologize to me after bringing up a topic i said he should not have and even gave the reason he's not like most people since I said most people would apologize but not him.he finally apologized begrudgingly. Of all the times he has to be annoyed and said he would be there. It really cemented my nonexistent feelings for him.
Going through some tough stuff where I was monkey-branched. I didn't even know what monkey-branching was until I read about my situation but this channel has been helping me so much.
take care of yourself, being replaced like that hurts
I wish you well
Lot to learn about this from the 90's movie Swingers. Classic!!!
@Dr.'sorders ending is so cathartic. The girl calls the next day after he's fully healed and meets a great girl the previous night. Doesn't give her the time of day!
Rory, I want to know what jealousy means. My ex discarded me. My ex either hates me or is very indifferent but flipped out when I befriended his close friend (we dont do anything mutual with the ex). I use to love my ex very much(doubt it was mutual) and waited for him until recently.. Is jealousy really hidden feelings like people say or is it a possession thing?
When I think about how there are people out there that deal with situations I can never fathom (Being in LONGterm relationships and being cheated on, 10+ Year Relationships ending in divorce, etc etc...) it puts my situatln into perspective. I love what my ex provided me. She is a beautiful person but I am equally as valuable and although I am struggling with this pain I know it is temporary. It could always be worse. I wont be waiting on someone who expresses the utmost disrespect by deciding they know longer want you in their life.
Love yourself, value yourself, & Improve yourself
rory do a video on when an ex say maybe we can pick up in the future or when they are confuse and say they are unhappy.
Try this one: ruclips.net/video/TFHRbYPppt8/видео.html&t
Same... She said those things.. and about 1 and half months later she told me she's not interested and that she don't love me anymore 😂
Killing it with the upload frequency, Rory ! ❤️ great video
Another great video! The healing and missing from NC worked, however, time will somehow have to fix broken trust regarding drinking habits. Torn between back to NC or slow sparse communications. She says she doesn't love me any less and doesn't count out the future, our connection is still great when we see each other. So confused!!
If she reaches out try and set that date!
“Neither ever nor never ...” you sound like the intro song to the Netflix DARK series 😂 only (smart) ppl who’ve seen the show will get this - i love your vids ! You’re brilliant
Thank you, Jenni!
My ex reached out a few days after I signed up with the recruiter for the Marine Corps
Same😂😂
Doesn’t matter if mercury was in retrograde 🤣
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Could you make a video about ex parents in law and if it is a good idea to have them in your life. Thanks rory
Aaron Rodriguez same situation. But I unfriend them few days ago cause I think I shouldn't have them in my life otherwise I'll keep hope of my ex will come back then I never move on
@@haanhvu4276 I did too :( they were always so sweet with me, I considered as a friend and I made a tight bond with them, specially her dad, we had the same taste in music, travelling, ways to see life. I miss them so much but I could not have them anymore so, without explanation I remove them from my social media.
yes, same here. However I did let them know before I unfriend them. Were just so sad when I did it.
No cause you’ll get updates. But let them know first I’m sure they would understand
I had one ex reach out after five months but I moved on by that point. We still talk but ironically I friendzoned her.
The weird thing is that my ex DID came back after i moved on
Marian Castellanos how long did it take?
@@jhangseri9039 did ur ex come back?
Ankita Joshi yes! After four months. We are back together and he practically begged lol
@@jhangseri9039 congratulations. Waiting to share my success story soon. I just manifested about him and ur message came. Seems a positive sign. ❣️
@@jhangseri9039 can u tell me a bit about what u did in those 4 months?
Can they also come back when they're over you?
I know this from experience we in my last relationship anyway 1 from 6years prior came back Rory I'll watch this when I finish work cant wait
Well I was blocked everywhere after 7 years together then see her on dating site 2 months later hmmmm :/
Why do the dumpers use your friends as messengers & not only that but be really upbeat when doing it? My ex kept messaging my best friend about me when she broke up with me & then using him as a messenger whenever I tried to contact her, being cold to me but acting cool with my friends, weirded me out.
Hi Rory, can you cover topic on how an ex coming out of 10+ yr long term relationship can immediately start dating several people. Even though they love me, does it mean that they were very emotionally detached before it ended? I feel like I went from number 1 to number 4 or 5 in a matter of a couple of months. Thx
I deleted five years of photos on my phone . Blocked my ex to help . We just broke up last weekend. I feel like I’ve been hit by a truck
Tia Yvette he will be back it isn’t over !
If you’re going thru hell, just keep going. You’ll get out of it eventually.
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my opinion without getting into the video to see what your opinion is maybe we agree, it takes a long time for you to get over someone months at least so my theory is once you stop reaching out you worked on yourself and you finally get over someone months have passed and if you think about it that’s about the avg time they reach out from no contact
This made me laugh 'talking about never' 🤣🤣
wish we could press like button as much as we want...
Hey Rory, could you possibly do a video explaining the mentality of monkey branching? I just got monkey branched by someone who I considered to be the love of my life. We had a good relationship but I had some mental health issues prevent me from being my best self in the final three weeks. I thought she loved and cared about me. Just feel blindsided.
Basically they don't want to be alone to deal with the pain so they line someone else up. Check this out: ruclips.net/video/gyWuUk85rRE/видео.html
The Love Chat, thank you! Your videos have helped me through a difficult time. I appreciate it.
Bro, women always have someone lined up
No nonsense, good advice.
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So in my situation it wasn't really possible to completely disappear from my ex as we work closely together...not in the same shop but we share a small parking lot and frequent each other's shop. It's been 4 months or so and I've gone through all the stages, question whether I really wanted him back, even dated a bit. Anyway I still would like another chance but I'm a lot more level headed about it now. 4 days ago was the first time he really talked to me, stopped and talked friendly laughing... And he didn't have to in any way. I saw him again 2 days later and it was the same. Usually he just avoids me. This is the first time where I see an actual possibility of us trying again. Now I still wait to see if he actually contacts me outside of work. Can you do a video on reconnecting or more starting over with an ex??
Hi i am new to this page how about two. Months relationship does no contact work? I have been doing it for one month but she didnt reach
Rory, 212th video? Damn you missed 12/12 by a day haha. Great content today
Rory is the man
Very practical and wise...
Rory, I need ur advise. My ex wants connection with me but never really pursue me at all. So what is his point of being connected on a messaging app (wechat)? Can anybody tell me what to do??)
He wants access to you
Sara Qiu hmm you are right.. But what for?
@@cutiegurl1739 ok, i have seen your chat is already older :)
i dont know how your story continued but therefore i would recommend dating guys video with how to deal with breadcrumbs (sth like this along the lines) :)
but anyways, how did went out?
Awesome glad I found your channel
Hi Rory, what is your favorite kind of tea?
Tea. Earl Grey. Hot.
I have a better chance of being the richest man in the world than getting back my ex and I'm happy with that
Call it mágic ,the Force, or Just BS but IT happens just not always
All your videos are great!!! I don't think MERCURY was in retrograde. I think it was HURANUS doing the thinking for her.
Very well put !!!
Thank you
Thank you you have helped me more than you know.
If they find u after u moved on, it probably means they arent really looking for anything isnt it?
Haha, it hardly happens to me after the breakup my ex starts a few relationships.
Well I'm almost moving on I don't want him back as last time and my soul almost back.
I'm already moved on. I just wanna hear your voice 😅
You are too kind. :)
Rory can you make some statistical prognoses based on all your coaching experience, percentage of exes who reached out?
Unfortunately there are way too many variables for the margin of error to be reasonable enough!
@@TheLoveChat Yeah, that's understandable, thanks for the reply!
Even Rory is confused? Well then... we're all fucked... 😂
My man rory i
If My ex reach out this x-mas should i ask her out again since i allready did it 1 week ago 😅
Rory did your ex ever contacted you? and if yes what you did at that point? And what you felt?
Of course they do. If you work.on yourself, go to the gym, do social media with friends, etc... then they miss you and they come back. Yes, they come back. Mine did.
Did they take her back
Did u take her back
@@IsaacKnowReally , yes I did. I was almost at the point of being ready to date again. We had been together for 3 years and we had many things in common, sense of humor, politics, music(we go to a lot of music festivals together), and our kids are grown and gone. Plus the sex is great, too. Bonus. During that time alone I also evaluated my part in the breakup. I was on a two month trip on my motorcycle across the country and I had left her alone. Obviously she didn't appreciate it. So I had to consider how she felt. We communicated how we felt and that was a learning experience. It's pretty good now. Been together over 4 years.
My ex broke up with me 1 and half months ago after 4 good years of relationship.... she eventually befriended with me and she was like reaching out to me once in a week all these weeks and I didn't like the hot and cold behavior so day before yesterday I asked her if we can work out the things to which she disagreed and from then on I stopped the friendship connection and here I am stress free and no tension
@@hwdareu5848 good man. Obviously when they say they arent interested you have to cut them loose. (See Coery Wayne's Seven Principles to get an ex back). You sound like you are handling it well.
How can you move on when your ex is your coworker?
I had a first date with a girl on Wednesday and the Friday, my ex called. D'oh!
It doesn’t matter if mercury was in retrograde damn- I feel called out and I never thought I would have given that nonsense any attention
Rory thank you for this channel! I started in such a dark place and @thelovechat has really helped me understand that I am most likely going to be okay with any outcome
Glad I could help!
My Last ex never came back so I doubt this ex isn’t never coming either back yet he still has me on Skype and Xbox still hasn’t deleted me 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️😖😖😖😖
i think if your ex still have you on these channels mean either - they dont care that much about you that it dont bother them to have you there - or the other end i guess - they like you so much that they still want that you are in their lives, even as a friend or acquaintance.
but of course this is just what i think about those kind of situations now and how they are actually for me.
but dont know if this is right :D
You don't give advice through email anymore, Rory?
I still do! It's right here: www.thelovechat.net/coaching.html
A comment for the algorithm
Did all your exes blow up your phone when you met your current ex? No?
Then no... They don't
I had one did such a thing but he is NaRc lol , he even tried to make us break up , but he tuned himself to a joke later
Now that I'm a better version of myself, living my best life and my monkey brancher ex literally said "things got better for you not for me". All I said was "Get therapy and goodluck". He didn't want to get back yet but I dont think it matters to me anymore. I did break NC twice for closure (I know, i know.. I'm not supposed to but I was ready for it. I made sure I was completely over him before I broke NC so I was not scared of ruining any chances. I mostly called him just to screw with him. I know I know I shouldn't have. But it was fun af lol)
and after talking to him I realized (not to toot my own horn) I'm so out of his league now its carzy. I almost cried at one point realizing the difference between our growth and I felt pity for him. He sounded sad and bitter. And he's still not sure how I'm doing so well.
Well I worked for it unlike him I got help instead of jumping on a greener looking grass. I've never felt so happy, secure and liberated. Took me good 4-5 months but I did it. I can only go forward now. ❤
Rory if I email you for a coaching is it just one response?
Correct!
The Love Chat I’m just scared because you said no more than 6 paragraphs. I’m scared of unanswered questions. I’m also going to buy your book soon, we share amazon acc so I have to make a new one.
@@loser4cent a live coaching might be more appropriate to get to more questions!
The Love Chat okay will do. Let’s just say I bought other “kits” before your videos.
Keep up the good work @ Rory
God bless you
My ex dad passed away and I was in no contact for 7 months. I sent her my condolences cause i did know him well and she’s calling me like every other day now and even asked if i wanted to grab food. What could this be any feedback welcomed
this 🤷🏾♂️
She use u for emotional support, it's not about u or the relationship.. women live in their feelings and they change evrday
Confusing
So if they got married then what?
A lot of context is missing here - but if they are married it is probably time to move forward.
@@TheLoveChat she was a narcissist so yeah your right.
yeah i would also agree - i mean a marriage usually means lot of things happened in the life of the other person meanwhile (doesnt have to be but mostly does nowadays).
good luck to you in your future pursuings :)
Yup