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The exact same thing happened for me. For about five years, I kept telling my Dad he should start clearing stuff out of the house that he didn't want, and that he needed to be more active or one day he'll have a fall and be forced to move into aged care. He refused. And guess what happened? He had a fall, went to hospital and never got to go home again. My adult son and I had to clear out his house. All I'll say is that the situation was incredibly difficult and so stressful! It really was a nightmare.
@AthomewithKaren unfortunately some cannot see the possibilities of a catastrophe. In the case of my in-laws, cognitive decline had already set in, so they were not capable of understanding. 😢 So sorry you had to go through that. 💔
I thought this was one of your first videos, but I see you have been producing content for a while. Going back and watching the previous ones, as the topics are close to my heart. My dad and his partner recently combined their lives into a small apartment after living in two medium sized apartments for 25 years. It was so hard on them, both around 80 years old. My husband and I have one child, with physical limitations. No way are we going to require them to clean up our messes. It’s loving your family right, I think, to take care of this yourself.
@@TrishGroves Thank you for watching 💕. It was such a hard time for the family because we all had Covid-19, and they restricted our visitation, which did not help with his mental state. 😢
Been thru something similar with my own mother (UK) it’s unreal what they keep for 20, 30,40 years! Husband and I live in a one bed so I’ve always been fastidious about what comes in and out, paring it back even further as we approach our 60’s. It’s great what you did for your FIL and now doing for yourselves.
This is a huge benefit to minimalism. “Our kids don’t want our stuff” is how most people should approach their belongings. Our sons only want tools, cars, trucks and trailers. They have zero interest in household stuff and we won’t put them through having to go through everything. That’s a lot to put on someone else. Great video Vicki! ❤
Thank you for watching and sharing your plan. How awesome that your kids made their wishes known and you are planning around that, instead of leaving them 200+ empty jars. Thanks for watching! 💕
This is such sound advice, and I loved the impact your care and work had on your father in law. It seems this video is going a bit viral? Well done! You have a great speaking voice, and a knack for engaging , it’s a pleasure to listen to you. Thanks for sharing this!
This really hits home. We just moved my MIL into a facility. She only had a 2 bedroom apartment, but between work, figuring out what to do with her stuff and fighting with my sister in-law, the stress was ENORMOUS. My MILdidnt understand that we couldnt visit as all our spare time was handling her affairs. I dont have kids either, so i have also committed to clean out my house so my family wouldn't have to make so many decisions. Thanks for the video.
@migrose6547 it is such a tough time just cleaning out our loved ones place, but adding in family drama just makes a stressful situation even tougher. I am so sorry you had to go through that. Kudos to you for not repeating the cycle. 💕
Such a thoughtful video! Thank you for sharing your personal experience in the hope of helping others. It is amazing how much we can accumulate over time. I think I have always been a bit of a purging type person. However it was when I was hit with a health issue where I really did not know if I would see the next day that I looked into Swedish death cleaning, and it really resonated with me. I did not want my daughter or husband to have to deal with the burden of dealing with my "stuff." Gratefully my health issue went into remission, but I have kept going with decluttering, and have not looked back. I do not miss anything I have cleared out, and having that extra breathing space is very calming! 💐
Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your story. I truly believe it will help others, as sometimes it helps to see the benefits or issues faced by others. I am glad to know your health issue is in remission. 💕
That’s a lot to clean omg 😱. Thank you for this because I feel good that I love to declutter. Your husband is so lucky to have a wife like you who helped him with his parents. People don’t like facilities and I am happy you guys bring him home. He was missing home 😊.
@kimberlygibson3 He started crying when we carried him into the house and sat him on his favorite spot on the couch. He needed to be home, even if the doctor didn't think that he was ready to be discharged to home. Thank you for watching! 💕
Wow, that's a lot, both the sorting out your in-laws house and the stuff!!! Important info on cognitive decline too, it manifests in so many different ways. I love this and the reframe around WHY we're decluttering and getting rid of stuff. We had to go through and get rid of so much when we moved to FL and it was so freeing. The unfortunate thing is how fast these things start to accumulate again, thanks for this, Vicki, I needed to hear it! I've never heard of the Swedish Death Cleaning either💕🥰
@starchyshauna I trying to find another way to say 'declutter' and that popped up. I was surprised that I had never heard it before. Now we snoop everywhere because we were fooled before. It is a struggle to keep up, and also not to overconsume. We downsized to a house half the size of our previous home, and we also have had some moments of backtracking. But it's easier to notice with less house. 😂
Wow. I watched your whole video. Left a huge comment and now it’s no where to be seen? Long story short. Bless you for being a big part of your in laws clean out and your father n law coming around to a healthier person because of all you cleared out and organized.
Unfortunately, that had also happened to me, and this brain can never remember exactly what I wrote. 😂 Organizing those 'tetris' closets and getting rid of 'hidden' clutter that was preventing them from actually living made a HUGE difference.
Thankyou for your clear advice and also for the dignity you are showing to your parents in law.❤ I’m looking around our house for clutter as I write this! 😊
The more you described the situation and the behaviour of your in-laws, the more it was like listening to my own story! Receipts from 40 years ago! Multiples of everything! Just plain junk that should have been thrown out years ago!
So many people just get frustrated. And I admit we started off frustrated until we dug in to see what was wrong with them. The day my mother-in-law argued with that food never expires if it's in the refrigerator, it was a light bulb moment for me that she was trying to convince me not to throw out the science experiments that no longer looked like food.
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The exact same thing happened for me. For about five years, I kept telling my Dad he should start clearing stuff out of the house that he didn't want, and that he needed to be more active or one day he'll have a fall and be forced to move into aged care. He refused. And guess what happened? He had a fall, went to hospital and never got to go home again. My adult son and I had to clear out his house. All I'll say is that the situation was incredibly difficult and so stressful! It really was a nightmare.
@AthomewithKaren unfortunately some cannot see the possibilities of a catastrophe. In the case of my in-laws, cognitive decline had already set in, so they were not capable of understanding. 😢
So sorry you had to go through that. 💔
I thought this was one of your first videos, but I see you have been producing content for a while. Going back and watching the previous ones, as the topics are close to my heart. My dad and his partner recently combined their lives into a small apartment after living in two medium sized apartments for 25 years. It was so hard on them, both around 80 years old. My husband and I have one child, with physical limitations. No way are we going to require them to clean up our messes. It’s loving your family right, I think, to take care of this yourself.
I love the heartwarming story of your father in law. Thank you so much for sharing how Swedish Death Cleaning helped your family. ❤
@@TrishGroves Thank you for watching 💕. It was such a hard time for the family because we all had Covid-19, and they restricted our visitation, which did not help with his mental state. 😢
Been thru something similar with my own mother (UK) it’s unreal what they keep for 20, 30,40 years! Husband and I live in a one bed so I’ve always been fastidious about what comes in and out, paring it back even further as we approach our 60’s. It’s great what you did for your FIL and now doing for yourselves.
This is a huge benefit to minimalism. “Our kids don’t want our stuff” is how most people should approach their belongings. Our sons only want tools, cars, trucks and trailers. They have zero interest in household stuff and we won’t put them through having to go through everything. That’s a lot to put on someone else. Great video Vicki! ❤
Thank you for watching and sharing your plan. How awesome that your kids made their wishes known and you are planning around that, instead of leaving them 200+ empty jars. Thanks for watching! 💕
Scandinavians tend to be mindful and practical. This doesn't surprise me at all. As soon as we finally move into our new place, we plan on doing this.
This is such sound advice, and I loved the impact your care and work had on your father in law.
It seems this video is going a bit viral? Well done! You have a great speaking voice, and a knack for engaging , it’s a pleasure to listen to you. Thanks for sharing this!
Great change for your FIL. So kind.
@@denisecarter5117 Thank you for watching 💕
i've been trying to do a low-key version of this for a couple of years now. Thanks for making this video; it's motivating me to keep going♥️
This really hits home. We just moved my MIL into a facility. She only had a 2 bedroom apartment, but between work, figuring out what to do with her stuff and fighting with my sister in-law, the stress was ENORMOUS. My MILdidnt understand that we couldnt visit as all our spare time was handling her affairs. I dont have kids either, so i have also committed to clean out my house so my family wouldn't have to make so many decisions. Thanks for the video.
@migrose6547 it is such a tough time just cleaning out our loved ones place, but adding in family drama just makes a stressful situation even tougher. I am so sorry you had to go through that.
Kudos to you for not repeating the cycle. 💕
Such a thoughtful video! Thank you for sharing your personal experience in the hope of helping others. It is amazing how much we can accumulate over time. I think I have always been a bit of a purging type person. However it was when I was hit with a health issue where I really did not know if I would see the next day that I looked into Swedish death cleaning, and it really resonated with me. I did not want my daughter or husband to have to deal with the burden of dealing with my "stuff." Gratefully my health issue went into remission, but I have kept going with decluttering, and have not looked back. I do not miss anything I have cleared out, and having that extra breathing space is very calming! 💐
Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your story. I truly believe it will help others, as sometimes it helps to see the benefits or issues faced by others.
I am glad to know your health issue is in remission. 💕
That’s a lot to clean omg 😱. Thank you for this because I feel good that I love to declutter.
Your husband is so lucky to have a wife like you who helped him with his parents.
People don’t like facilities and I am happy you guys bring him home. He was missing home 😊.
@kimberlygibson3 He started crying when we carried him into the house and sat him on his favorite spot on the couch. He needed to be home, even if the doctor didn't think that he was ready to be discharged to home.
Thank you for watching! 💕
@@AgingOnYourTerms that’s the thing older people just want to be in a space they are comfortable in which is where they live.
@@kimberlygibson3 I think this is true for any age when it comes to being in a hospital. No one wants to be there. They all want to go home. 😉💕
Very informative. I have been death cleaning for about 2 yrs. It's really hard to do, but it must be done.
@rachelpalumbo8135 yes, it's very hard to do. Take it one drawer at a time. 💕
Wow, that's a lot, both the sorting out your in-laws house and the stuff!!! Important info on cognitive decline too, it manifests in so many different ways. I love this and the reframe around WHY we're decluttering and getting rid of stuff. We had to go through and get rid of so much when we moved to FL and it was so freeing. The unfortunate thing is how fast these things start to accumulate again, thanks for this, Vicki, I needed to hear it! I've never heard of the Swedish Death Cleaning either💕🥰
@starchyshauna I trying to find another way to say 'declutter' and that popped up. I was surprised that I had never heard it before.
Now we snoop everywhere because we were fooled before.
It is a struggle to keep up, and also not to overconsume. We downsized to a house half the size of our previous home, and we also have had some moments of backtracking. But it's easier to notice with less house. 😂
Such an interesting topic Vicki. This is why it is important to practice the swedish death cleaning while we are able x
Breaking the cycle, one task at a time. Thank you for watching! 💕
An important message. ♥
Thank you for watching 💕
Thanks for sharing your experience 💞
Thank you for watching. 💕
Wow. I watched your whole video. Left a huge comment and now it’s no where to be seen?
Long story short. Bless you for being a big part of your in laws clean out and your father n law coming around to a healthier person because of all you cleared out and organized.
Unfortunately, that had also happened to me, and this brain can never remember exactly what I wrote. 😂
Organizing those 'tetris' closets and getting rid of 'hidden' clutter that was preventing them from actually living made a HUGE difference.
I love this book and philosophy. I have been following her method for years. Thank you for sharing this ❤
All of this time, I just thought we were decluttering. I had no idea about this concept. 😊
Interesting story Vicki. Clutter makes me nervous, and I prefer a clean environment.
We thought their home was organized until we opened the closet doors 😲. It's amazing how cognitive disorders can creep in and disrupt everything. 😢
Really interesting! I have to say, although you've probably been told 100 times, you have beautiful hands!
Thank you so much for watching and for the compliment 😊💕
Thankyou for your clear advice and also for the dignity you are showing to your parents in law.❤ I’m looking around our house for clutter as I write this! 😊
Thank you for watching. We made a promise to keep them home and we will keep it. 💕
Thank you so much for this Vickie! You've given me a lot to think about, for my mom and for me too!
This experience with my in-laws opened my eyes to all of the things I need to do now. Thank you for watching! 💕
Very nice and clear video, thank you
@@EsraTR-so5oh Thank you for watching. I hope my family stories were helpful. 💕
Great video my friend! 🤍🤍
Thank you for watching 💕💕
Great video and a valid reason to purge now!
Thank you for watching! 💕
The more you described the situation and the behaviour of your in-laws, the more it was like listening to my own story! Receipts from 40 years ago! Multiples of everything! Just plain junk that should have been thrown out years ago!
@@AthomewithKaren yes. There was so much more than I listed. 😢
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Thank you for watching 💕
I am always decluttering because I don't want to do this to my kids...
Yes! Getting my in-law's home ready was a wake-up call for us to stepup our decluttering.
“Cognitive decline is so much more than memory loss” Vicki THIS is what we need to focus on. Somehow
So many people just get frustrated. And I admit we started off frustrated until we dug in to see what was wrong with them. The day my mother-in-law argued with that food never expires if it's in the refrigerator, it was a light bulb moment for me that she was trying to convince me not to throw out the science experiments that no longer looked like food.
@@AgingOnYourTerms it’s so true… cognitive decline is soooooo much MoRE! I love your videos! You are so professional and knowledgeable!
Thank you. 😊