Who the (BLEEP) did I Marry | Married to a FAKE Officer | Crime Documentary | Reel Truth Crime
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- Опубликовано: 19 фев 2020
- Barbara Bentley was living near San Francisco when she met and married Rear Admiral John Perry. When the FBI showed up and found a gun, she learned her husband was not who he said he was.
A biography about real people who marry their "soulmates", until they learn that the person they thought they married, isn't who they say they are.
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It’s crazy how people create huge lies like this. I don’t understand how they have the energy to keep them up.
I was thinking the exact same thing! It’s hard enough finding the energy for your real life! Lol
Narcissists get their energy from their victims/narcissist supply.
right
They detach themselves from reality. It takes a sick person to do this. Normal people can't keep up with this for too long. It's draining to tell just one lie. Imagine building an entire relationship on lies.
I think for a normal person it would be a lonely way to live, you could never relax and just be yourself with anyone.
Barbara is a hero for getting the law changed
Yeah, similar to a young Demi Moore!
Lol I would've ran the minute he said "Four kids and two ex-wives"
I would've run as well. Crazy!
Pretty normal today
Thea mamma Emma true
Especially back then when that was NOT the norm
Hahahaha
She was way too cute for him. He looked like her grandpa.
First Name Last Name money
She still looks better than him, he was fugly
First Name Last Name guarantee you she thought he had money 💰 🤣🤣
my thoughts exactly!!!!
I didn’t think she was that pretty, a bit plain. I liked the part about where she was super independent before she met him. That’s a great quality!
Lesson: don't marry someone if you haven't met his/her family. If that person loves you enough they'll be proud to introduce you to their family. Just saying... 😔
Geez how many red flags did she miss and she seems to be intelligent ??
@@funsweed He was a sociopath and con man who had been getting away with it for years. The ones he got caught for would have been nothing compared to the ones he did.
Not everybody has a family.......especially people of his age.
Not particularly his parents even cousins...
@@maryposadas655 Some people grew up in orphanages or foster care and have nobody in the world.
She seems like such a sweet, though naive woman. I’m glad she fought for herself in the end and found someone else.
When you haven't dated much as this lady here hadn't, you're not going to understand what it's like to have a con artist fraud like John around. Not to mention, sometimes women who are in love, don't want to acknowledge that their husbands' could be a criminal. That is, until it's too late...
Very true! She could've allowed it to make her bitter and give up on love altogether.
all the women in these episodes are naive and oblivious
No they are not. You love this person. If you were in this situation, with a loved one, you probably wouldn’t see ur warning sides either. Only once you look bad you notice all these things. So leave them alone.
Not naive at all.
She didn't want to give up the 'Admirals wife' title and was holding out for his grandmother's 'inheritance'. Both baits hooked her.
Girl, your style is on point.
She won best dressed at the nursing home.
@@TruckieLooks4Aliens 🤣🤣🤦
Yes😆💀
Agreed!
Ikr? 😸 I love her jewelry
Anyone else obsessed with these episodes?
😊me
Why someone would spend the majority of their lives fabricating lies is beyond me.
Ppl are doing it by the minuet on FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, TWITTER and other social media outlets.
My ex was a habitual liar.
Laurentiu Dinca It’s usually because people like that don’t know who they are and so making up a personality they think other people may admire seems like a more appealing route.
@@apinychuang1624 UNTIL they get caught out... I knew one like this. Lied to everybody for 20 years until I showed him up for who he was within 1 year !! Why his entourage EVER believed all his stories and lies is a mystery. I just saw straight through him and he hated me for it because it demolished his life, but it was him or me ! He died soon after.
@BRING THE PAYNE 75 >> Not the same as someone, in person, who has created this whole double life that fools many people through many years.
I’m glad I experienced a lying narcissist when I was very early 20’s, it’s made me walk away from so many people when the flags first start!
she comes across like such a lovely lady. He manipulated her and took advantage of her sweet nature.
There's one born every minute?
@TheReisecup89 At least should have met one member of his family. She was blinded by his charms.
And elderly women like myself are still expected to be "sweethearts."
@@anrose8335 You're only as old as you feel. Oh and you do not have to be anything. Just be yourself. X
Her first warning should have been the FBI coming to her door. And she should have taken that info they tried to hand to her.
Exactly!! There's another story on this channel where the FBI visit the wife with incriminating details about the husband and the wife ignores it!
At some point you have to think how dumb can one person be??
That wasn't her first warning. She had many warnings before that.
Adelli Maya...If, like any "important post" or packages, they SHOULD BE GIVEN TO THE PERSON THAT IT IS ADDRESSED TO. Letters, parcels etc. MUST be given to/taken by the person with that name on and no body else. If the FBI couldn't actually given this letter to HIM then she had no right to accept or take it from them.
@@rosemarydudley9954 that makes sense
She was gorgeous when she was younger with an amazing style. Still is!
I hope i accessorise as well at her age!
True, very striking!
FOUR YEARS ...??? OF NOT KNOWING HIS FAMILY?!!!!
L0Kn0xx 10 years🤔
Girl was desperate to marry that grandpa with liver spots on his face. Brrr.
Safer to stay single these days
ISN'T THAT THE TRUTH 👏👏👏
Absolutely
That's a silly conclusion. Are you not going to get in a car because car accidents happen?
Polly Pockets that’s irrelevant. I am specifically talking about predators especially on line that I will never do, my is very valuable and today there are so many sick people stalking the internet.
@@Hanka1981 You didn't say that though. And not irrelevant.
One does not "win" the Medal of Honor. It is awarded.
Calamity Kate I was just thinking that lol
That's just classical narcissistic thought pattern. Everthing is a competition, everything is for them to "win". They are very attracted to medals, trophies, crowns, etc. All symbols of "winning." Even Chris Chan and his Sonichu "medal" that he wore everywhere is no different. The whole notion is just so childish and laughable.
Amen!!!!!
I had a co-worker once tell me that you can't know a man until you live with him. This woman was married to her husband for nearly a decade before she uncovered his lies and deceit! That's terrifying, but the signs were there. Love can truly be blinding.
I'm glad that she was able to get out of this twisted web of lives with her life. Sadly, many don't get too.
She met him at a friend's dinner date. So the so call friends didn't know anything about him!!
saphiffer Kids can we say slime bucket?
He was probably lying to them too
@Nicki H >> He convinced the admiralty of an airforce carrier ship that he was a retired admiral. He was welcomed aboard for a tour with full regalia and the whole ship saluting at attention. He fooled a lot of people.
I am so glad for this gentle woman. A true survivor.
That rug on his head🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Traci Hill looooool I thought I was only one who thought that
I have a brother who's a habitual liar. You either see through him, or you fall for him. I cannot believe how many wives & girlfriends he has had. Too bad this sweet lady didn't see through John at the outset. I would have.
You’ve benefited from the experience of having a bro like that, makes you a lot more critical and less likely to be bamboozled
My uncle is like that. At least two of his exes have gotten a web of lies about his past and present. He claimed he was adopted and been a neglected child (he was the favourite actually), had been in prison etc.
she wanted a man that all she wanted. most of the time these women knew these men are lying.
~ Nope, it wouldn't happen to me either. I'm too nosey!
Once you figure out one habitual liar, you figure out them all. They all use similar tricks and words.
Never marry someone without knowing his family, his hometown, his parents. You could spare yourself a lot of pain and surprises.
Even if you know the whole clans😮
She was very beautiful lady in her youth
And she still keeps her hair short ❤️
And she still is💗😍
I was thinking she was still a pretty lady older too!
She’s still gorgeous
She's beautiful 🥰
5 years for temp??? How?? Alimony?? John’s a piece of work
he was in his 60's gonna inherent money from grandmother WHEN she dies should have been her first clue
Its possible to still have a grandparent alive in your 60s
Well yeah if his mother had him 20 year's apart from him & her mother had her 20 year's apart from her, which would make the grandma 100+yrs old 🤔
NaturalBeauty0708 yeah if the grandparent is over a hundred years old
His grandma would've been 100+ years old!!!
Sara Israel 🤣🤣🤣🤣
What a wonderful, brave and honourable woman.
His actions were utterly despicable and her determination not to be broken by his absolute betrayal of her love and trust was remarkable, considering what he had put her through.
She is a beacon of strength and is a role model for women whom have endured domestic violence.
Why doesn't anyone ever do background checks on people before dating?
Not possible where I’m from though it’s a great idea
Ive never heard of anyone doing that. I guess private investigators do it but you never see ads for this service.
It is smart. Especially if you have children and want to start dating. You should do this before you even go on a date and get feelings for the person. Once you fall in love you can become brain dead and will believe their excuses.
This was a couple of decades before the internet and Google and stuff. People never did that then.
Women are naive
I agree. We should do a criminal and financial check
She was so attractive 😊😊
She still is. Especially with better insight.
I am sorry for her.But i cant understand if detectivs from FBI visit a woman at home,and want speak with her husband, she sent them away!!! A wife want to know,whats going on hear?
eveliene schneider sometimes is the fear to find out that what you sense could be right
Totally. My first question would be, "am I in any danger?"
Ud be surprised at all the ways a wives protect their husbands
eveliene schneider facts!
here not HEAR ;-)
10 years never brought in any money. Never met his family. He talked about inheritance off bat.
Love is blind hehe.
@@puppyslimesp.h864 Gullible .
I think that his head injury was life altering not only for himself but for anyone else that stood in his wake.
Still perplexed why she was initially attracted to him
_You just never know who people truly are. I want to get remarried but I’m scared to death. This show doesn’t help lol_
yes don't marry then. don't go out.
Marriage is obsolete. Don't live with them either, and keep your finances separate.
😂😂
Blair just use these shows as lessons or red flags to look out for. Just how some of us females are decent and kind their are male versions of the same personalities. Be patient and date yourself so that you keep a standard of how you're supposed to be treated. All the best for 2020.
What a bad attitude you have, Juanita.
In my country, most churches put out a notice before the marriage takes place allowing people to come forward with any objections they have to the marriage.
Yes as Catholics we do that as well called the bans of marriage 3 times.
@@waltwinston5825 Wow. I was raised Catholic and never heard of that. Do u know if they do that in the States?
@@staceykersting705 I don't believe it's done any more or as much...I don't hear it at Mass where I go..
@@staceykersting705 it’s part of the actual wedding ceremony isn’t it? ‘If anyone has any objections or knows of any reasons why this couple should not be wed, then speak now or forever hold your peace’? I’ve always thought it was anyway 😅
@@abigailmackie8997 its supposed to be done before the wedding. The one said by the priest during the ceremony is the final one (4th)
_Johns toupee Is hilarious_
It looks like a dead animal sitting on his head!
@@lesliemccaghy9611 😂🤣😂🤣
BLAIR 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂 first thing I noticed lol
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"My husband lied" 😂 haha! Please darling, it's called marriage LOL
That awful wig would’ve been enough for me to run a mile
😂😂😂😂💀
Bahaha
Me too .Love would be gone lol
Wow I admire her for changing the law!
Wow John was one busy fella with lies
Yep! I lived with a guy like this. His lies were not grandiose like this. He never claimed to work for some secret government program or anything. He just lied ALL the time, about everything. EVERYTHING, big and tiny, important and pointless. It didn't last long. What's the point of being with someone when every single thing they say is just hogwash and fantasies?
@@Kari.F. ...I know the kind...I wonder why people bother to go to such great lengths to lie about things that don't even matter...U can't even classify them into any psychological group lol cos they are not out to hurt anyone just mind games
lynn kesh I don’t know how she can just live without asking question I don’t even speak my husband language but I still try to manage and translate what he say lol
She’s so confident chic and so calm , with style on point..
Everyone who's too smart to get romantically involved with a con artist: Cool story. Come back and tell it again in twenty years.
Evakatrina.... Yup!!! 👍
I will be in my 70s by then, so pretty sure i will be safe 😂
This woman is a Queen. She fought for her life and then changed a law. Yaaaas! 💪👏👏👏
What strikes me over and over in this series is the faithfulness and tenacity of the spouses. They really take their vows seriously, sadly to the point of their own detriment.
Should have sent him packing the minute she saw that big ol belly
So true.
Russel Devries 🤣🤣🤣
Society tells you to get married but I honestly don’t see the need. You never know people and you get into these marriages and start to feel stuck.
You are so right on your comment. Marriage to me is so freakin' and expensive. I would be with someone who is okay with me not rushing to get married.
I agree!!! Why is society so obsessed with marriage?
Yes,live together,have kids but don't marry,that's just a paper anyway but can chain you and can be difficult to get out of. Stay together because you want to,not because you have a piece of paper saying you must.
The "I'm going to inherit money" bit is pretty standard b.s. with a sociopath
John 's awful rug of a wig , would be a red flag 🚩 he was dodgy . Lol 😂
Man! He has some elaborate lies doesn’t he?!
“He was full of baloney” yooo😂
The fact that a retired “admiral” had a tiny wedding in Mexico should have been a clue! A retired admiral probably would have had a freakin cathedral full of friends and family!! If that happened now, all it would take is a quick google search.
@Laurel Girard: I fully agree. Exiting the church between two rows of former colleagues with raised ceremonial swords...
This manipulative liar can sniff gullible people. They won't get close to your kind.
Exactly. Alarm bells were ringing but chose to ignore.
The man is full of himself.
I think my sister soon will be in this tv show.....
Tell us more.
Yes I agree ☝🏽 with Lisa
Help her get out the situation
Courtney Holland lol 😆
😅😅😂😂
I don’t know why people like him find it necessary to lie, why can’t they just tell the truth and be themselves???
Are you for real darling ?
It's called a con artist.
I'm impressed by the women in all these videos willing to try to find another relationship after going through these horrors. I was never that brave, I never had any intention of getting married. And having children on my own didn't appeal to me either. I just never liked the idea of being dependent on anyone, still don't.
Bless her heart tho, she went through so much almost got murdered, changed a law and I hope she is in peace now
This woman spoke something profound, trust is the inability to trust ourselves from our past experiences to open room and trust other people!
Bet the friends feel bad introducing them!
When people say "I'm going to inherehit money from people I don't talk to. Don't worry, I'll be rich!" ALWAYS walk the other way
I love that she had a happy ending🙂
Desperate Housewives' narrator found a new job as the voice of these crime documentaries
What an amazing story and an incredible woman.
This is what happens to women who take out their wallets and pay for men.
peekaboots01 Facts. A man cant get a nickle from me.
MsNeicey Coleman and that’s why she should’ve never given him a dime. Had she kept her pocket book closed, he would’ve quickly moved on to scheme and con on someone else.
It's just so sad too.
peekaboots01 😹😹
He got is medals from lying....and he sure deserve them.
In Africa, we have a saying 'The person who married/gets married must ask around!'. So, it's not possible to tie the note without meeting the parents/family. I see this missing alot in all these series.
Why did this happen to you? Why do people *hooze smile lights up a room seem to get murdered so often? Because you’re trusting and deep down you don’t think anyone could hurt you. This makes you lots of friends and gives you a sunny positive outlook. That’s the gamble of making yourself vulnerable.
People who aren’t as trusting probably don’t find relationships or get married as easily. But they also may not get hurt as much, it’s a tradeoff.
Edit: typo correction. Wait, “hooze” isn’t a word? 😜
*whose
Laura Marie thanks, fixed it. People who were annoyed before will probably really get driven up the wall now!
Some people are too desperate for love & end up with anyone who gives them attention.
So we can learn ladies to meet family first before marriage.
Ha ha ha HA HA HA HA ... Ran out of ether ... Hate it when this happens
Thank you for sharing Barbara Bentley!! So happy for you and that you were and are so strong and yes, able to trust yourself. All the best to you.
TRUST is the most important word when it comes to matters of the heart. This episode was so beyond eyeopening for me.
In my country, both families need to meet and conduct independent research into the other family before the marriage can be allowed to go ahead.
lol same. it's a thing here. We NEED backgrounds checks for sure
In your country, they also don't ask people if they even want to marry the person they picked for you. Women have no rights and people marry relatives.. Thanks.. Bu no thanks.
@@andreabrava6899 lol what are you going on about Madam
@@andreabrava6899 what are you going on about?. Do you even know her country??? Smh.
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I can't understand couples who share joint bank accounts. I've been married and divorced twice and I had my bank account and they had theirs. I've never had a credit card, it's not a "thing" in NZ and I I did have one nobody would be allowed near it but me. Nobody would know any of my pin numbers or passwords, absolutely nobody but me.
I knew my ex boyfriends pin number and he knew mine so we could use each other's card depending on who had money at the time. But we were poor and lived paycheck to paycheck. If I had savings I wouldn't let anyone use my card.
But I agree joint bank accounts seem like a bad idea. Especially if the relationship turns bad and you want to leave.
@@em84c I always paid my way on dates and when married paid half the bills. Sure we took turns treating each other when one was broke, but I took cash out and gave it to them when required. I'd never let anyone use my bank cards.
Juanita Richards You're right. Money is something that triggers most marital demise these days. Handling money can be different from various couples. I am not married but maybe if in the future I'd be, we'd probably have a joint bank account where we can put a percent of our earnings and then use it for house expenses. Then we'll have our separate personal bank accounts for whatever we want. In the Philippines, it's a common practice that husband would give their wives most if not all their salaries. The wives would then budget it for everything. That works great for some, but I think that's not really the most ideal thing in terms of building a relationship as husband and wife.
I couldn't agree with you more! I think it would just cause issues having a joint account...I never would even if I was married, everyone should have their own individual account only them can access... I do get why some couples do it circumstances etc but its very risky.
@Mrs. Arthur Morgan that's a bit judgey…..
Great vid thanks 👍👍😀
Worst toupee ever....
Am i the only one to notice that she was Indeed a gold digger. She even admitted being 'impressed' by his future inheritance from his grandma...she is just upset that he beated her at her own game 😅
crazy world,men gold dig also but you hit the nail on the head
This is like one of the people I know IRL. When he gets into relationships I get so baffled! Because he's made up an entire false life.
Anyone awarded the metal of honor would never bring it up!
Barbara, you are a smart and loving person. I applaud you and the wonderful new life you've made for yourself.
I don’t know why, but in some scenes he remind me of Al Gore 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wow I can’t believe how long she fell for all of his lies. There were so many red flags.
lol the gun wrapped up in foil though ?! 🧐🤨
Her friend says: and Barbra well believed him. Kinda threw under the bus as naive
why are weddings in Mexico always portrayed to be sketchy?? i'm just curious... i don't live in the US
I know someone named Jeff that is a pathological liar like John.
A consulting gig in Egypt wow🤦🏾♀️
This guy is full of lies!
New husband Rex likes a heavy pour 🥂
Guess , that gives the marriage a lift now and then .
Thank you Barbara😘
Not meeting family or being kept away from them is a red flag.
What a queen getting the law changed like that 👏🏻
Apart from having the most annoying background music ever, this story (reminiscent of the Hitchcock classic, Suspicion), serves as a warning not to get carried away by a charmer, especially an over-secretive one. Luckily, this woman survived to tell the tale. As for her husband, well, those who build their lives on a lie are the saddest of all. I just can't figure how he wangled an invitation to George Bush's inaugural ball...
What an amazing lady.
Women's intuition is very real ladies. Trust it!
I’m sorry but if I noticed a bottle with gloves sitting on the counter I’m leaving not asking him anything. She definitely was gullible asf. Why try to uncover who he is after 10 years vs before marriage.
I love this show!!!
Wow
She was stunning
What a woman! Charming, fascinating and gorgeous!
I'd bet he got the medals off of the internet. You can buy just about anything from those sites.
not back then ....
Maybe it's his father's.
Very few had internet before 1997. Computer geeks yes but ordinary people, NO.
FBI at the door and she haven't take the letter.
She should have asked him for his retiree ID card...then she would have gotten one being married to him.
Wow, what a comeback, Barbara!