This is such a great topic! When you mentioned the look and smell, the first thing I thought was how different Target smells from Walmart. I've always felt disappointed by the lack of ambiance in the Black Beauty Supply Store (BBSS) but I couldn't quite articulate what I was feeling because I never put much thought into it but, you explained it so well! I laughed when you said "the Care part" when referring to self-care being a low priority. Healthcare is such a fundamental component of beauty yet it's neglected in BBSS culture. Also when I compare Ulta to a BBSS, I realized there's a difference in openness in the interior design. The 3 Ulta's I go to in my city have many windows. So the atmosphere is bright and sunny. The shelves are displayed diagonally near the entrance to create a more open and inviting space. You almost feel like you're walking down a runaway or red carpet. Most BBSS lack of natural sunlight, the shelves tend to be cramped together or just arranged like a warehouse. And in certain neighborhoods there's security guards at the door and plexiglass separating the cashiers. It's giving "hurry up and buy" and get out. Not inviting at all 😂 I could go on but I just wanted to let you know you've touched on something I've never seen discussed before. This video was so needed and is greatly appreciated. 👏🏽💐💕
Exactly girl! I've been feeling this way for a while but now, since we have the Exotical community, I have the words. As an Exotical and a mixed- Black woman I want better for all of us (mixed and UBW). Some of the sentiments UBW hold about their beauty needs to change for this dynamic to also change. So happy this resonated with you
Yes! How we feel when shopping matters. When the products are in a closed off cramped space with barriers everywhere, I leave the store. I love open spaces and natural light with friendly staff. I’ll pay the extra the higher end stores charge to feel like a valued customer. Most of shopping is how the customer is made to feel.
BW do not own these stores. These stores, just like most nail shops, are owned by Asians. All of what you say is true but this is the ambiance Asians created. Not sure what black women have to do with the ambiance of beauty supply stores. It’s giving “blame them for everything”.
So I live in Japan and I haven’t been back to a beauty supply store in over 5 years- but I used to live in NYC and I distinctly remember the…not good vibes of going to a beauty supply store. Even when the asian owned ones employed other black women over by the hair counters, I got awful customer service. I’ve been to one beauty supply store in Tokyo to get some braiding hair and it was such a happy and sweet environment. Listening to this reminded me of how just going to the BBS could give me anxiety! Wow! This is such a good conversation.
Whew… excuse me I am only 11minutes in but I am shooooook at how well you are articulating such a real and big problem that has been able to live rent free in our subconscious minds and you have brought it right to the fore front of my mind wowowow👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Girl yes! It’s such a glaring issue. I’m happy I could shed more light on it. Hopefully to see some change. Thanks for checking it out and Welcome to LoverGirlsAnonymous💕✨💅🏼
Chrissie is a channel dedicated to creating a bw centered beauty standard yet EU is spewing negativity at her. It’s so disingenuous. EU talks about uabw not finding themselves beautiful but then actively tries to denigrate those who are trying to change that. Why is that??
It’s okay to switch up your look,but take care of your own hair, skin and nails underneath the enhancements. I can pull off a wig of various styles and color, makeup, etc but when I take it all off, my skin is clear from my skincare routine, my hair is long with edges in tact, because my hair is long and healthy. Explore with your look, but take care of yourself also.
Beauty Supply stores are literally dirty. You can see dust and out-dated products left and right. And many of the items they carry (lipgloss and makeup) are dollar store quality right next to cheap jewlery. 🫣
Re the music the last time I went into a beauty supply store I noticed the explicit “music” playing and thought “apparently they believe this is black culture and that we are all OK with it” I almost complained too, but noticed BW working there, so I didn’t say anything. I guess they are only used to catering to a certain type of woman.
yea the one in the burbs that I mentioned is super professional and chill but I still don't think what they offer in terms of product reflects UBW having a self-centered beauty standard.
I’m glad you’re talking about this. It’s a real problem. It’s important to look at the reasons why women buy beauty enhancers. If it’s coming from self-hatred, that’s a huge issue. I recently purchased a curly ponytail with bangs. It looks cute on me and it matches my actual hair. It’s even a style I’ve worn before naturally. These stores are capitalizing off women’s insecurities.
Yes i do notice lots of cute type 4 wigs, kinky straight textured ponytails, etc. And no one buys them! The deep wave and the curly were always sold out, and the type 4 wigs collected dust 😢
Exactly 5:34 ! Last week I needed to restock on some hair products at my local beauty supply store. Just for the heck of it, I asked the owners ( who’s Korean btw) if they had Afro textured hair extensions ( for future styles). he told me no and proceeded to try to sell me something 3x looser than my hair texture ( which is 4 type btw). I shouldn’t have been shocked at this but I was lol. Unfortunately the black community did this to themselves, they put everyone else beauty on a pedestal but leave our own beauty outside smh. Its sad. I still rock with beauty supply stores, I just know that if I ever want to enhance my Afro, I’m not gonna find it at the beauty supply store 🤷🏽♀️.
Yas! Now seriously, that’s such a wild observation. How they literally won’t even have extensions to match most black peoples actual hair type. Say so much in and of itself✨🌷
@@LoverGirlsAnonymous yup! It’s like the owner had been asked this question before too because his tone got really serious and then bubbly when trying to sell me the looser hair texture…like what? 🙃
Had a very similar experience to yours. Wanted to add some hair for extra fullness for a hairstyle I was doing, and he stated that they don’t carry my hair type but keep trying to show me some deep wave hair. Like sir, who in 2024 doesn’t carry kinky curly hair?!? I bid him good day and found a store that did.
I hope these Asian bss go out of business, they are profiting off of bw insecurities for way too long. They don’t sell type 4 hair because they sell their own Asian hair and that’s a completely different texture. It may take more processing and therefore money to make their Asian hair into a type 4 texture. They need for bw to not want their own texture because otherwise they cannot profit.
@@ExoticHoodooDebutante thank you😍 I am a musician and singer so I guess my talking voice is giving me away a bit. And yes, the beauty supply store could def be better.
Literally every time i see a trendy, stylish black owned beauty supply store it ends up closed. Why don't we like supporting ourselves? We buy from the Koreans all day long but not our own peers? Yikes
You are completely right about how our culture buys products to cover up our beauty. I will say however, that even if you as a black woman love your phenotype, we aren’t always able to work around folks that accept our hair. Getting correct quality hair care for our own hair isn’t always available. Think of celebrities who must wear wigs because stylists on movie and tv sets don’t do black hair right. I live in a very white rural area and actually love just being in the beauty supply cause it’s the only place I feel like I not an outsider and can hear something besides country.
I think of the beauty supply store as a total mindf*ck! Especially their abundance in impoverished neighborhoods owned by people look nothing like the customers who patronize them. How else can you treat your customer base like criminals and have a careless store presentation unless you knew they had no where else to shop or knew they felt that way about themselves. You hit the nail on the head of toxic products being sold (often overpriced) and sometimes counterfeits of the hair care brands they are supposed to represent. There is also historical precedent to play into the insecurities of Black people by selling them the products to look “desirable” or opposite of their phenotype. I live in a majority black city (from the highest elected officials to the custodians) and you can feel the difference in energy of the beauty supply stores in the lower SES neighborhoods to the more affluent ones. We had a black owned shop open recently and the experience is a breath of fresh air, I’m sure in part because those owners may have had their own negative experiences. I’m all for every woman embracing their natural beauty (no harm in trying new looks 😉) and spending their hard earned money where they are respected!
So good to hear you have a more beauty- centered store you’ve been enjoying✨🥰 Yes the situation is just all around backwards asl. I had to speak on it.
@@LoverGirlsAnonymous really liked how you articulated the dynamics of that shopping experience, I’m sure quite a lot of us are aware of it in the moment but hearing it laid out is interesting!
20:45 omg I tried to use that on my chin once I got a HUGE pimple (I don’t usually have acne). So I decided I would try other areas of my body like the back of my neck and dark marks on my feet. It gave me the BIGGEST headache I was like how does a LOTION give me a headache?!?
You wouldn't by any chance be describing the beauty supply stores in Las Vegas? Its so ratchet and degrading here. Like the pictures of shoplifters at the front door.😅
@@Ilovebeauty513 This channel is for biracial, multiracial, multi generationally mixed, and black women who are light skinned or just don’t fit the phenotype of unambiguous Black women. If you’ve had similar experiences to the ones I’ve shared on my channel or other Exotical channels…if you are othered or pedestalized by UAB people…this space is for you. Also, from how you described yourself, your phenotype does sound like many of the other Exoticals in this space.
@@LoverGirlsAnonymous It's not the colour that would grow out of her head and she is getting older, it looks terrible. I can tell she is becoming more insecure as she ages because the hairstylist is asked to put too much weave on, the weight of it is over powering her features and becoming too much of a focal point in her overall styling.
Historically there were zero hair products for “mixed” hair or curly hair. Black women were relaxing/straightening or Jerry Curling their hair in the past and had a slew of products designed for their styles. So mixed women like (Mixed Chicks) started making many of the known natural higher end hair care products that many black and mixed women and men love. We created things when there was non but don’t get the credit from others.
So mixed women contributed to the natural hair movement? Or are you saying they are the reason natural hair products became popular? I don’t recall mixed hair ever being seen as undesirable or needing a movement of acceptance, nor having a lack of products targeting their hair type, so excuse my ignorance. All the mixed girls I knew of used mousse, gel, conditioner and proudly wore their texture. They would straighten their hair sometimes but I never heard them complain about not being able to find products that worked with their hair.
@@likemycommentifyouwantareply Yes! Mixed women contributed to the natural hair movement. Lots of examples in this vid. You should check it out. That will hopefully clear up alot of your questions.
I always get aggressive vibes in their beauty supply stores, it triggers their inferiority complex. If I could find east african owned or other owned stores...way less problems.
The fact that they still sell relaxers and skin whitening products speaks volume
This is such a great topic! When you mentioned the look and smell, the first thing I thought was how different Target smells from Walmart.
I've always felt disappointed by the lack of ambiance in the Black Beauty Supply Store (BBSS) but I couldn't quite articulate what I was feeling because I never put much thought into it but, you explained it so well!
I laughed when you said "the Care part" when referring to self-care being a low priority. Healthcare is such a fundamental component of beauty yet it's neglected in BBSS culture.
Also when I compare Ulta to a BBSS, I realized there's a difference in openness in the interior design. The 3 Ulta's I go to in my city have many windows. So the atmosphere is bright and sunny. The shelves are displayed diagonally near the entrance to create a more open and inviting space. You almost feel like you're walking down a runaway or red carpet.
Most BBSS lack of natural sunlight, the shelves tend to be cramped together or just arranged like a warehouse.
And in certain neighborhoods there's security guards at the door and plexiglass separating the cashiers.
It's giving "hurry up and buy" and get out. Not inviting at all 😂
I could go on but I just wanted to let you know you've touched on something I've never seen discussed before. This video was so needed and is greatly appreciated. 👏🏽💐💕
Exactly girl! I've been feeling this way for a while but now, since we have the Exotical community, I have the words. As an Exotical and a mixed- Black woman I want better for all of us (mixed and UBW). Some of the sentiments UBW hold about their beauty needs to change for this dynamic to also change. So happy this resonated with you
Yes! How we feel when shopping matters. When the products are in a closed off cramped space with barriers everywhere, I leave the store. I love open spaces and natural light with friendly staff. I’ll pay the extra the higher end stores charge to feel like a valued customer. Most of shopping is how the customer is made to feel.
BW do not own these stores. These stores, just like most nail shops, are owned by Asians. All of what you say is true but this is the ambiance Asians created. Not sure what black women have to do with the ambiance of beauty supply stores. It’s giving “blame them for everything”.
So I live in Japan and I haven’t been back to a beauty supply store in over 5 years- but I used to live in NYC and I distinctly remember the…not good vibes of going to a beauty supply store. Even when the asian owned ones employed other black women over by the hair counters, I got awful customer service. I’ve been to one beauty supply store in Tokyo to get some braiding hair and it was such a happy and sweet environment. Listening to this reminded me of how just going to the BBS could give me anxiety! Wow! This is such a good conversation.
Wow! So true! I get some sense of anxiety every time I go. And thank you. I’m happy this resonates with you✨💕
Whew… excuse me I am only 11minutes in but I am shooooook at how well you are articulating such a real and big problem that has been able to live rent free in our subconscious minds and you have brought it right to the fore front of my mind wowowow👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Girl yes! It’s such a glaring issue. I’m happy I could shed more light on it. Hopefully to see some change. Thanks for checking it out and Welcome to LoverGirlsAnonymous💕✨💅🏼
Awwwwwwww shit this is gonna be a good one ! Listening while I’m relaxing at the pool 😍
Ahh! Hey girl heyyy! This topic has been percolating in my mind for a while. Glad you stopped by and enjoy the pool 🌊🌴☀️
Chrissie is a channel dedicated to creating a bw centered beauty standard yet EU is spewing negativity at her. It’s so disingenuous. EU talks about uabw not finding themselves beautiful but then actively tries to denigrate those who are trying to change that. Why is that??
@@likemycommentifyouwantareply If you want to stay and educate yourself, you should. If not, let’s agree to disagree.
It’s okay to switch up your look,but take care of your own hair, skin and nails underneath the enhancements. I can pull off a wig of various styles and color, makeup, etc but when I take it all off, my skin is clear from my skincare routine, my hair is long with edges in tact, because my hair is long and healthy.
Explore with your look, but take care of yourself also.
Exactly. Exploring your look with self-care is what makes it fun and confidence-boosting.
Beauty Supply stores are literally dirty. You can see dust and out-dated products left and right. And many of the items they carry (lipgloss and makeup) are dollar store quality right next to cheap jewlery.
🫣
Yes! I forgot all about how dusty these stores are…literally and figuratively😖😷
Re the music the last time I went into a beauty supply store I noticed the explicit “music” playing and thought “apparently they believe this is black culture and that we are all OK with it” I almost complained too, but noticed BW working there, so I didn’t say anything. I guess they are only used to catering to a certain type of woman.
This in depth analysis is something that I have been craving! This is spot on 💗🥰
Ahh so happy this hit home for you. I def want to revisit this topic from different angles. 💕💕
My beauty supply stores don't play music and they're clean. I guess it depends on the location.
yea the one in the burbs that I mentioned is super professional and chill but I still don't think what they offer in terms of product reflects UBW having a self-centered beauty standard.
Playing sexyy red in the background lol
I’m donnnneeee☠️😆
I’m glad you’re talking about this. It’s a real problem. It’s important to look at the reasons why women buy beauty enhancers. If it’s coming from self-hatred, that’s a huge issue. I recently purchased a curly ponytail with bangs. It looks cute on me and it matches my actual hair. It’s even a style I’ve worn before naturally. These stores are capitalizing off women’s insecurities.
Thoroughly enjoyed this video, unique talking points and spot on analysis. You have a new loyal subscriber!
Yeee!! So glad you enjoyed this. And Welcome to LoverGirlsAnonymous✨💕 Thank you for subscribing!
Yes i do notice lots of cute type 4 wigs, kinky straight textured ponytails, etc. And no one buys them! The deep wave and the curly were always sold out, and the type 4 wigs collected dust 😢
Exactly 5:34 ! Last week I needed to restock on some hair products at my local beauty supply store. Just for the heck of it, I asked the owners ( who’s Korean btw) if they had Afro textured hair extensions ( for future styles). he told me no and proceeded to try to sell me something 3x looser than my hair texture ( which is 4 type btw). I shouldn’t have been shocked at this but I was lol. Unfortunately the black community did this to themselves, they put everyone else beauty on a pedestal but leave our own beauty outside smh. Its sad. I still rock with beauty supply stores, I just know that if I ever want to enhance my Afro, I’m not gonna find it at the beauty supply store 🤷🏽♀️.
Yas! Now seriously, that’s such a wild observation. How they literally won’t even have extensions to match most black peoples actual hair type. Say so much in and of itself✨🌷
@@LoverGirlsAnonymous yup! It’s like the owner had been asked this question before too because his tone got really serious and then bubbly when trying to sell me the looser hair texture…like what? 🙃
@@Mixedtrini777 🤣🤣 like, whet?
Had a very similar experience to yours. Wanted to add some hair for extra fullness for a hairstyle I was doing, and he stated that they don’t carry my hair type but keep trying to show me some deep wave hair. Like sir, who in 2024 doesn’t carry kinky curly hair?!? I bid him good day and found a store that did.
I hope these Asian bss go out of business, they are profiting off of bw insecurities for way too long. They don’t sell type 4 hair because they sell their own Asian hair and that’s a completely different texture. It may take more processing and therefore money to make their Asian hair into a type 4 texture. They need for bw to not want their own texture because otherwise they cannot profit.
Beautiful voice, yes, that place has become a vice for many.
@@ExoticHoodooDebutante thank you😍 I am a musician and singer so I guess my talking voice is giving me away a bit. And yes, the beauty supply store could def be better.
The braided hair r full off chemicals I saw on youtube expensive hair products that can be ur whole food bill for a week
They really are😐😬
Literally every time i see a trendy, stylish black owned beauty supply store it ends up closed. Why don't we like supporting ourselves? We buy from the Koreans all day long but not our own peers? Yikes
@@far6311 I swear!! So many have opened in my city and closed down before a fiscal quarter even passes.
You are completely right about how our culture buys products to cover up our beauty. I will say however, that even if you as a black woman love your phenotype, we aren’t always able to work around folks that accept our hair. Getting correct quality hair care for our own hair isn’t always available. Think of celebrities who must wear wigs because stylists on movie and tv sets don’t do black hair right. I live in a very white rural area and actually love just being in the beauty supply cause it’s the only place I feel like I not an outsider and can hear something besides country.
that seems like a tough situation to be in. I get why you would still appreciate it bc at least its something.
I think of the beauty supply store as a total mindf*ck! Especially their abundance in impoverished neighborhoods owned by people look nothing like the customers who patronize them. How else can you treat your customer base like criminals and have a careless store presentation unless you knew they had no where else to shop or knew they felt that way about themselves. You hit the nail on the head of toxic products being sold (often overpriced) and sometimes counterfeits of the hair care brands they are supposed to represent. There is also historical precedent to play into the insecurities of Black people by selling them the products to look “desirable” or opposite of their phenotype. I live in a majority black city (from the highest elected officials to the custodians) and you can feel the difference in energy of the beauty supply stores in the lower SES neighborhoods to the more affluent ones. We had a black owned shop open recently and the experience is a breath of fresh air, I’m sure in part because those owners may have had their own negative experiences. I’m all for every woman embracing their natural beauty (no harm in trying new looks 😉) and spending their hard earned money where they are respected!
So good to hear you have a more beauty- centered store you’ve been enjoying✨🥰 Yes the situation is just all around backwards asl. I had to speak on it.
@@LoverGirlsAnonymous really liked how you articulated the dynamics of that shopping experience, I’m sure quite a lot of us are aware of it in the moment but hearing it laid out is interesting!
20:45 omg I tried to use that on my chin once I got a HUGE pimple (I don’t usually have acne). So I decided I would try other areas of my body like the back of my neck and dark marks on my feet. It gave me the BIGGEST headache I was like how does a LOTION give me a headache?!?
I’m literally afraid of that stuff at this point☠️😬🤣
You wouldn't by any chance be describing the beauty supply stores in Las Vegas? Its so ratchet and degrading here. Like the pictures of shoplifters at the front door.😅
The BSW on lake mead and lvb...
@@lunamufon Maryland Pkwy near Twain location is just plain demeaning 😔
lollll!!
Question , if I’m Rihannaskin tone with 3b/3c hair but I’m fully black is that a exotical ? Or is this page for biracials ? Genuine question
@@Ilovebeauty513 This channel is for biracial, multiracial, multi generationally mixed, and black women who are light skinned or just don’t fit the phenotype of unambiguous Black women. If you’ve had similar experiences to the ones I’ve shared on my channel or other Exotical channels…if you are othered or pedestalized by UAB people…this space is for you. Also, from how you described yourself, your phenotype does sound like many of the other Exoticals in this space.
@@LoverGirlsAnonymous ohhh thanks , i just didn’t want to join a biracial space if I’m not one lol
@@Ilovebeauty513 welcome💕
I HATE Mary J Blige's blond hair. It shows how much she hates herself and doesn't really see herself as 'good morning gorgeous'.
@@thesecondRUclips I always thought that color looked really nice with her skin tone.
@@LoverGirlsAnonymous
It's not the colour that would grow out of her head and she is getting older, it looks terrible.
I can tell she is becoming more insecure as she ages because the hairstylist is asked to put too much weave on, the weight of it is over powering her features and becoming too much of a focal point in her overall styling.
Historically there were zero hair products for “mixed” hair or curly hair. Black women were relaxing/straightening or Jerry Curling their hair in the past and had a slew of products designed for their styles. So mixed women like (Mixed Chicks) started making many of the known natural higher end hair care products that many black and mixed women and men love.
We created things when there was non but don’t get the credit from others.
We don’t get as much credit as we should. Instead we’re told we highjacked the natural hair movement…🙄
So mixed women contributed to the natural hair movement? Or are you saying they are the reason natural hair products became popular? I don’t recall mixed hair ever being seen as undesirable or needing a movement of acceptance, nor having a lack of products targeting their hair type, so excuse my ignorance. All the mixed girls I knew of used mousse, gel, conditioner and proudly wore their texture. They would straighten their hair sometimes but I never heard them complain about not being able to find products that worked with their hair.
@@likemycommentifyouwantareply Yes! Mixed women contributed to the natural hair movement. Lots of examples in this vid. You should check it out. That will hopefully clear up alot of your questions.
Great topic!
Thanks for watching🎉
I always get aggressive vibes in their beauty supply stores, it triggers their inferiority complex. If I could find east african owned or other owned stores...way less problems.
@@Laïla-h4i ahh good point! I will look into East African beauty supply stores. Didn’t even know those were a thing!