We're not ugly. We look normal. Society really did a number on people and their self-esteem. Despite all the "body positivity discourse", people are not taught to love themselves anymore.
For real, body positivity quickly devolved into fat acceptance. HELLO. It's exactly like when LGBT became gays only with a side of everything else. Neutrality forever ✌️✨-
People were never really taught to love their bodies if we're being honest tho, it's just been enhanced like most problems or insecurities since the internet can turn into an echo chamber/mega phone
Since selfies make me look like a potato and I don't look like a potato irl (I don't say I'm beautiful, but not a potato either) I only fix them after taking them to give me back the beauty I have (not like a lot of it, but I have some nice features selfies rob me from). And when I do my makeup, I try to be more creative rather than imitate a filter. It surely takes away this kind of frustration, since I never had it to begin with. I recommend you try one or both options if you have such a problem 😊
We're using freaking AI in Tiktok filters now. We could be using it to make people's lives better but no we had to use it to help make people think that having standard human skin is a moral shortcoming. God help us all.
Honestly it's very helpful for me to go to university. I can just look around and yeah, of course there are some outliers of very attractive people, but the majority just look average. They look normal. Like me. They have eye bags, acne scars, fluffy cheeks and short stubby lashes. It really serves to remind me that I look okay. I look normal and I don't need to look overly beautiful all the time.
Universities are overwhelmingly young, beautiful people. You're just used to it. ,Just wait until you're in the workforce, you will have a new definition of "average".
@@KFrost-fx7dt I literally described that they're not beautiful. We're all normal. Overweight, underweight, with rolls, hip dips, muffin tops, double chins, unsymmetrical faces, dark circles, dressed messily, guys without the picture perfect six pack. People with body hair and rough skin, girls with hair on their chin or upper lip. Big noses, small lips, balding or going gray at a young age. Crooked teeth. Just because you think universities are full of young beautiful people doesn't mean they are. I know what kind of people I've been seeing with my own eyes. We all don't fit the conventional beauty standards in some way. Yeah, people in the workforce may be even uglier or whatever you're trying to imply but that doesn't make my experience seeing other average people at school less valid. Also, plenty of university students do work and I've done internships. I know what the "workforce" faces look like. Anyways boomer, I have midterms to study for and projects to complete. Peace.
Even in universities, there are people with very beautiful faces (most of them actually, both men and women) bcs they use makeup/skincare😭 I can't escape beauty standards even at school
@Subi no no that wasn't what I intended it to mean. The reason why i did "/" is because they either have very good skincare routine *or* they use makeup to look pretty
I remember this street interview when they asked guys what type of girl they like and they mostly said natural, not overdone, the usual stuff. and then they showed them some pictures of girls (some of them wearing only natural make up, some of them without make up and some of them with make up and filters) and asked them to choose their perfect girl. All of them, without fail, chose the filtered pics. One guy argued that a girl with no make up and filters looks sick, like she has a cold. Some of them even tried to blame it on the girls when the interviewer revealed the truth.
Even before filters the guys would choose the photo with natural makeup and consider it completely natural. Some (or maybe most) men just don't understand that women don't look like this 24/7
It's misogyny at it's core. Long ago some advertiser decided that women should be dolled up but men can just look natural and we think that's normal. Yup just the usual female marginalization. Nothing new in history.
Still not a real test, still means nothing, because they’re still photographs. There is no such thing as “natural photography.” Photography itself-even old fashioned film photography-distorts. If they had, say, the same girl from a filtered photo, and then brought her our IRL, then I might care about the results of this “test.”
@@gravityissues5210that’s the point you missed. It’s rare for anyone to look like that. Human have texture skin and most men, as shown in that social experiment, don’t seem to understand or realize that women don’t Naturally look filtered.
I try not to overuse the filters because I know my body dysmorphia will sky rocket and I will be unable to look at my unfiltered face. I think that we're starting to forget what a normal human face looks like. I wouldn't call myself extremely ugly, but not a beauty queen either, just a basic b, but all those perfect faces on the Internet make me feel ugly even though my brain knows I am not.
me 100% the same!! i´m know i´m not ugly but when sufing around on the internet makes me question myself 😿i actually wish there wasn´t any filters - i think it ruin people´s self-esteem 😶🌫 i don´t actually use them as much.. only one natural filter some times....but i think it does more harm than good for sure!
Yeah, it doesn't help that everyone feels the need to comment on everyone's looks too, that's not new but I feel like it's gotten way worse with ppl saying things like "thry talk big for being a solid 2" like anything below 4 would cause a visceral reaction, most people aren't hideous the scales are broken for everyone
@@Hip.Username "it doesn´t help that everyone feels the need to comment on everyone´s looks too" and "It´s gotten way worse" and "the scales are broken for everyone" - THAT´S ALL SO TRUE! it is so scary! think of our next generation, they grow up in this and it´s already gone so bad because of all the media.. i feel like it was bad after snapchat and instagram came but now with tiktok allso it got WAY worse! everybody think´s of their image ALL THE TIME and you can actually feel it when you live your daily day to day life... I can, easily.... and i feels like it´s gotten out of control.. and he is right in his video, people ARE catfishing each other and it just keeps getting worse...the telephone and internet was invented to bring people closer together, but now it does the opposite which to make people question themselves with comparing themselves to other people´s PROFILE - it´s not even their actually life most of them but an extravagante and up-hiped version of😶🌫it is INSANE, scary and quite sad....
@@Hip.Username you made a great point! I agree that many people these days feel like others owe them aesthetic pleasure and feel entitled to rating/commenting on other people's looks
A while back I saw a Missing Person report on the news. The photos of the girl were so wildly different from each other - some heavily filtered ones from Instagram compared to what her family obviously provided from their own casual pics. Much of the media seemed to favour the Insta ones - of which several clearly looked nothing like her. I remember thinking it was sad that even if someone saw this real girl somewhere, nobody would ever guess who she was based on the beautiful filtered shots being circulated publicly.
Theres a girl that disappeared here in germany and they were searching for her with a filtered instagram selfie and this was yeaaaars ago, recently "real" pictures of her surfaced and people criticized the use of the IG picture cause it looks so different from the real her. To think people might have seen her but not recognize her gives me chills.
@@miriamnah6624 I was actually thinking of a different case (can't remember her name), but just looked up this one, and yes, sadly it seems to be rather common. I also just read a post on reddit from someone saying they went into a big-box store and all the posted photos of missing persons for teens are heavily filtered/flattering selfies. They should use school photos, or very plain, basic shots for people who are missing because chances are if they are seen, they will be looking like their worst selves and not styled like they stepped off a magazine cover. Of course, the media likes the filtered shots because it's more attention grabbing for a story, but unfortunately it does little to help find the actual victims.
research has already shown a direct link between beauty filters and body dysmorphia. ppl get so used to seeing their filtered face, they start feeling unhappy about their real appearance. just like ai, i don’t see filters going away soon. it sucks
This is why young teens and kids should be off social media and others should limit their social media usage especially if they have mental issues. Filters won't go away but these peoples who harm themselves by not being able to see difference between reality and fantasy, falls for scams, predators and are unable to accept reality are opening gates to censorship and big daddy control over Internet which in the end harms us all.
I literally experienced that in Middle school but with just makeup. I used to wear makeup every day and hated to see myself without it. It was so depressing taking it off and It took less than a year with full faced makeup every time I went outside before just the thought of anyone outside my closest of people seeing my bare faced was just unthinkible. So I decided to just quit makeup altogether once I realised and accepted it was a problem. I went from a full face to no makeup in a day. Still going to school, and having peers and strangers see me. It wasn't fun, but it didn't take too long before my no-makeup face became my normal face and I was fine with it. And It's much less depressing when I can actually look at my bare face without comparing it to my makeup face. Now I only put light makeup on for special occasions. And I try to look my best with self-care and grooming instead of covering and hiding what is considerd flaws by me or anyone else. While makeup is an art, it can be quite toxic and bad for you if you are not in the right mindest to use it. But there are no art in filters, its litterly just lying to yourself and everyone around you. It has all the toxicity makup might have, but doubled. It really shouldn't be a thing, but sadly it is...
@@kunilsen2519make up is an art for some people, what you just described was makeup as a social expectation. You felt you needed for people to see you, which in turn means it wasn’t used to express yourself but instead replace. Im glad you have a healthy relationship with it now though, many people don’t recover
@@RusticRonnie I literally said makeup was art. And I didn't want people to see me, stop putting words in my mouth. I was and still am the most invisible I can be by choice. No problem with that. And thank you. I think most people could benefit from a makeup detox. Not saying makeup is only bad, and that everyone has a bad relationship with themself and makeup, but a lot do.
I think people should get out of the house more? I'm in my thirties, I grew up with articles of "that's how celebrities look like without Photoshop", so I knew from the beginning that everything we see in magazines is heavily filtered, and the same goes for social media. I never once saw someone on the street who looked literally perfect with no skin texture, no blemishes at all. Maybe people should leave the house more and take a look at real humans around them.
I agree so much. Yesterday I saw an Instagram post where people were shocked that heavy foundation actually always looks at least a bit cakey in real life and I was just wondering... have you ever gone outside and looked at people's faces? The problem is not so much with filter and photoshop but with people living through their phone.
Agreed. When im in the car with someone and they're driving, I really like to casually look at the people on the street as we drive past them. Not staring ofc, i never start staring at people. But i like seeing casual people going on with their lives as we drive past them. So many people looking so normal compared to what you see on social medias. People looking avarage, people looking all different ways, wearing different styles and outfits and clothes and idk, it feels so genuine to see people going on their everyday life
Not sure that would help anything. We grew up during that time but everyone was still trying to meet those false standards. They will just go outside and decide that most people are unattractive. I saw something where people were advocating for average which is great. The not so great part is that they didn't think average is attractive or beautiful. I got torn to pieces because i said that I think the average person is beautiful. There were people who responded that you have to be perfect to be beautiful. That's how far gone we are. We can't see the beauty in the everyday person or their flaws.
@@mikochild2 Average is average and not beautiful. It's the literal meaning of the word lol A better approach would be to just not put an emphasis or that much relevance on being beautiful instead of pretending that everyone is beautiful. Similar to the body neutrality over body positivity approach.
This is the cliche answer but deleting social media and just … not dealing with it helps SO MUCH. So much. You stop caring about so many frivolous things!
Same here and tbh is the only solution I can see thus far bcs is so damn addictive and even if you stick to some “normal or interesting “ accounts it will come down eventually to being more self aware of yourself and your image. I felt it when I stayed over Instagram for a while and was so damaging to me…
Same. Some people laugh when you say you have an addiction to social media and try to better yourself. What most don't realize is that they can't live without it, always going on it to update and post about their lives. Not saying it's bad, but having your life on full blast on the internet as well as always comparing yourself to everyone on the internet creates a big toll on ones mental health. I'm generally happy I quit apps like Instagram
Fr! I was super addicted to insta and snap and deleted both,, it was really hard to stay away so I actually re-download insta and then got my account suspended, it wouldn't tell.me when I coul use my account again so then I had to stay away and I got used to being without it
There was a missing person case here in Germany a few years ago that was all over the media with this one Instagram picture that was heavily edited/filtered. It was a beautiful photo, which added to the attention the case got, but then weeks into the investigation, other (more natural realistic) pictures of her started circulating and it became clear that almost nobody would have even been able to recognize her irl. Needless to say she was never found. Very sad.
Im 30 now, and something Ive realized along my journey through life is that most of us are too worried about our own looks to worry about someone elses. And if someone is commenting on your looks its because they are insecure in their own.
@@ericainbloom Sadly it doesn't matter how you feel. People will see you as old and treat you accordingly. Many times you will just be a ghost. But I've been a ghost most of my life so yeah welcome to my world. Ready to get surprised at how people your age really look. You will have some old ass looking people coming up to you to try and be your friend, you would be like get away but you realize that's also what you look like. Pretty shocking but it is what it is. I'm 36 years old and trying to make friends at this age is scary.
I never used filters, but tried them out for fun, without taking a picture or anything. However...just playing with them messes with my brain. It immediately excepts the new face, but can't handle it as soon as I deactivated the filter. And that's why I understand when people use filters ALL the time and start to hate their real appearance.
This is exactly why I dont use filters. It messes with my brain. I can’t live with myself putting a picture out there that I know dang well isn’t me in real life.
I wonder if I'm safe because I'm trans. (Ironically less safe in the physical outside world but more safe in the digital uncanny realm where we have had more training on each other's nontraditionally beautiful/handsome faces for a longer time).. I already know what my own face looks like too well, but at the same time I don't like most filters because they force me more feminine and the masculine filters are still ugly or awkward. Maybe when they finally make a non-binary enhancing filter, I'll be doomed like the rest of everyone else. I think it is more cruel for children though whose faces aren't already fully grown, to mess with themselves digitally so much.
I tried making a tiktok video once and noticed my face looked odd. Turns out tiktok automatically puts a skin smoothing filter on you as soon as you hit record. When i deactivated it my actual face suddenly looked so wrong. Never using that app again, that was a mindfuck lol
Same here and I went away from it as far as I could 😑 stepped out of social media and don’t want to return ( other than RUclips which is different anyways)
Growing up, the best beauty standards I was taught was that the real beauty are the people around you, the people who are real like your mom, aunt, neighbor, etc. and not the people you see through a screen. Love your videos. Aloha from Hawaii! 🌺
this is why I refuse to even play with filters like that. I've struggled so hard for years to have a healthy relationship with my face and I don't need to play with something that is likely to ruin all my hard work.
Honestly, I’m still pretty insecure about my face even though I’m “normal” of course I don’t have a small nose, poreless skin, nor am I super skinny but I don’t give a shit anymore. What I do give a shit about is the millions of younger, impressionable kids or teens who will believe that these people are perfect, that these features are normal to have. Normal looking people are suddenly perceiving themselves as uglier and uglier because of these unreachable beauty standards. Anyone who was or is insecure like me, a reminder for you is that these things aren’t real. It’s the internet and if you ever start feeling even worse you need a break from social media. I’m going to start taking a long break from kpop and social media because being exposed to them isn’t doing me any justice lmao.
I'm also taking a break from social media, I don't think I'll ever not be insecure because I still see many pretty people around me. Though, I'm trying to learn to accept how I look like as to not be more insecure and not have low self-esteem
I swear kpop raised the standard on beauty, but the idols themselves don't even look that bad in natural lighting!! I wish they could just be themselves sometimes 😢but I get a get it
It’s funny because Korean plastic surgery always looks botched as shit. That’s the last thing ima be insecure about lmao. Kpop is cool but trying so hard to look like a Caucasian alien is fucking embarrassing
The beauty industry’s ability to convince you that you are hideous and flawed is terrifying. Beauty standards change so frequently and quickly, too. I remember crying as a child, in the late 90’s, because I didn’t have thin lips “like the other white girls”. Tbh, finding out about Angelina Jolie was the only reason I didn’t hate my full lips after a few years.
Damn, and now big lips are all the rage and thin lipped girlies grow up wishing for fillers. I remember the Kylie Jenner lip challenge, where you put your lips in a shot glass and suck creating a kinda vacuum which would puff your lips (or massively bruise them like you'd see in the fail videos), was really popular when I was in junior high.
I did a number on myself with the Angelina/ScarJo comparison. My lips were full, but not full *enough*. I shudder to think about how much worse my self-esteem would be if I'd been a teenager now, instead of the early 2000s. I don't ever want to see my face through a filter. I'm almost morbidly curious, and I hope I don't give into it.
@@iiv_dannybo1 I remember those days. I'm so sorry you went through that, too - my parents made me feel incredibly uncomfortable. Looking back, it almost feels like the makeup I loved - dark lipstick and odd lipstick colors, which I love to this day - also functioned as a defense mechanism when I was a teenager (I didn't realize it at the time; maybe I'm making too much of that). It would make sense, though - if people were mocking my makeup, they weren't mocking the features underneath.
I stopped using filters back in 2018 because of this. I saw that some of the "fun ones" would slim down your nose and jaw. I was scared that it would ruin my confidence so I never used them again. I'm scared for preteens and teens of the future...hell even little kids who have phones now. I don't want them to grow up hating themselves.
Yall remember that novel "the uglies" by Scott westerfeild ? Its crazy to see how predictive it was when it comes to our beauty and influencer culture. 😮 The author was describing these things before they existed
I remember reading this and thinking, “naw, that’s not gonna happen, especially any time soon”, and yet only about 20 years later, here we are; it’s terrifying
@@C4TC4T even his descriptions of some of the tech was spot on. Even though, many of these thing didn't exist when he wrote this. He clearly did a LOT of research 😭🤷♂️
Yes! The "surgery" the Uglies get once they turn 17 is nearly a perfect mirror of teens nowadays getting lip fillers/baby botox/nose jobs/bbl before even having time to grow into their features
I used a filter once and got scared and never did it again. I think it helps that I can clearly see my parents and relatives' features in my features so filters wanting to change those features feels insulting. Like what are you saying about my mum's jawline? Or my aunt's cheekbones? I love them and like seeing them in my face.
I hated looking like my (abusive) parents so I without surgery changed as much as I could, and I like my face now. Using a filter would make me feel like I'm wearing a weird mask featuring someone else or a generated person's face instead of being "the best version of me".
I was deeply insulted when my camera erased my freckles. I love my freckles! And I get constantly complimented for them! How dare it think these are imperfections it needs to hide!
I had no idea there were video filters on idols until I saw a post on twitter that pointed out the filter glitching briefly on jk in a behind video. Changed my entire perception after that
@@elle5013 yep! Some idols actually do have nice skin (treatments, money you know) but don’t know if you have seen does compilations of their true skin… those low key make me feel better about myself
@@lauraitzel8334 yea those compilations make me feel more normal about my skin too! This was the moment I was referring to in my initial comment if you haven't seen it yet: m.ruclips.net/video/Y1w_u-rekLo/видео.html
I don't have an issue with filters that JUST apply make up looks. I do have an issue with filters that change the shape of my features. I like the way I look, I don't want to change it, but sometimes I can't be bothered putting on make up, and chucking a basic make up filter on is quicker and easier. I still look the same, and if I made the effort I could look pretty much exactly like it in real life, so for me it's not lying, just laziness lol.
Just for clarification, because I am confused. Why do you need these filters? For trying out makeup looks, before you spend hours on learning the technique?
@@SaheeliRai that's basically the idea, seeing how a certain look would look on you and getting ideas of how to apply it on your face as opposed to going off of images or tutorials of people who might have different face/lip/eye shapes than you.
Same! I love makeup filters, sometimes I want to try something without spending hours doing it, or I don't know what to do so I decide to recreate a filter I like. I hate when they make me look like a different person. A while back, a girl I know asked me why I didn't follow her back online (can't remember what app, I've since deleted them all). I hadn't been able to find her account, so I asked her to just look on my phone. The account she pulled up was unrecognisable. Turns out I'd blocked her because I thought a random adult was following then 12 year old me.
This is something I've been thinking about a lot recently before this came out actually. Whenever I come across older Asian content aka 2000s and before - examples being TVB / HK tv and film clips and also kpop/dramas, I always notice that people look so much more down to earth back then. Yes they were (and likely still are) considered beautiful, but they looked a lot less uncanny and more naturally good looking. Not trying to flex but Chinese aunties will time to time compliment me for looking "pretty" to their standards surprisingly despite the crazy standards of this era - like I'm not tall, skinny, and have a v-line sooooo I'm always like "thanks??" To which, I realized it's because their standard of beauty pre-social media was more simpler back then bringing me back to my inital point. It's unfortunate how high our standards have risen with the rise of technology and social media and feeling like we have to look pretty much unhuman to look "perfect" and "uniform". I like to think we're all prettier than we think, it's just the internet needs to touch grass.
that's true! older people always tell me that i'm pretty, but people my age (early 20s) say that i'm just basic and there is nothing special about me. Maybe becuase i dontlike heavy makeup or dont wear a lot of accesories, dont dye my hair etc. so i have all my natural features out lol
Yess. My older (not even old, like younger gen x) relatives tell me I'm pretty and I'm always surprised. I think spending time with family from different generations is a great way to be more positive about my face and body, because it's nice to be around people who are physically similar to me.
Same. I'm also getting complimented by older people but I know that with beauty standards, filters and perfectionism nowadays, I'm not seen as pretty by people my age. I would like to be found attractive by my peers, though.
I feel so extra stupid. For the longest time I’ve thought the girls on Pinterest really look like they do in the photos and had a whole 6 month phase of beauty?/image? issues. I’m still struggling with it, it’s hard to look at my round face flat brows and not feel ugly. But they’re all using filters I..ugh
@@nelsama0881 I mean, to be fair in this case, reality is relieving. The fact of knowing that these girls actually look pretty average in real life and were only using filters brings you comfort.
@@serena841You are right , in this case reality is more comforting. I actually meant that for people who thought that very attractive girls/boys didnt use make up or filters. I feel sorry for the misunderstanding.
Something that has helped me to feel more confident is believing in the idea that if I think the people around me are beautiful, odds are they'll see me as beautiful as well. I really can see the beauty in people I see day to day even if they have what society deems as "average," and these reminders simply help me to see the beauty in myself. Being "average" is still beautiful, so I shouldn't stress over it :)
The craziest thing of all is that we even care about beauty standards to begin with and how pretty we all look to each other THIS much. Like, our whole lives are so obsessed over appearance that our positive slogans are almost always along the lines of "you're beautiful just the way you are". It sounds great and accepting but we really haven't shaken the concept that beauty matters, because we use the term beautiful as a validator for others. We can't say "beautiful doesn't matter" to inspire anyone. It won't help. We as people just aren't there yet. It's frustrating that we are capable of so much, but we are still stuck on the most surface level of praise like beauty or acceptance of our looks... I mean, we are apes that just lost our fur. Why should we strive to be poreless, creaseless, snatched?? I don't know how to fix it. It just makes you think. 🙁
Yeah even making a conscious effort to curate a feed with people of many body types, who use minimal filters/are transparent, and avoiding people who heavily photoshop their stuff is difficult - the algorithms always seem to want to push stuff that just makes users mentally ill. Skinny, curvy, conventionally pretty people exist, but they're not all there is, and even that these days is "not enough". What pisses me off is how it's being used to deceive audiences though.
Yeah because social media is SUPPOSED to give you mental issues, that's what it's true purpose is. Is like saying you're making a conscious effort to only ingest a little bit of poison everyday, it doesn't work like that. Even a little bit can still harm you over time. I have no social media and I don't have any of these self esteem issues, hope more people can stop using these sites.
@@ItsOKtobeNormal you have anti lgbt user pic and use youtube, so you actually do use social media. Get off your high horse and stop being homophobic, which harms people not less than social media
Oh god, yes. The latest Twice comeback teaser made me roll my eyes so far back, I saw my brain. It honestly reminded me of the Trisha Paytas skincare commercial where she advocated embracing your real self while drowning in filters.
omgg I had forgotten that trisha paytas stunt! I don't think there are any makeup/skincare commercials that don't use filters. Even the ones that show skin texture are still filtered just enough that you don't notice it.
I just hope everyone is aware that a bare face doesn't look like that. Especially the younger fans. Idols post their bare faces every now n then on private social accounts, and u could see the damn pimples and pores, wgat was the point of that teaser????
What was even funnier was fans praising them for being so “natural” and “transparent”. Like come onnnnnn we all know nothing about K-pop idols looks is transparent or natural, why ruin your self esteem by pretending it is🫡
I don't use social media except for RUclips, and even then I'm usually looking at practical stuff so it's not like I'm fed with fake beautiful faces everyday. I do find myself kind of pretty even if I don't have the features that are actually considered beautiful, I have no desire to change my face. A couple weeks ago I let my roommate do my makeup for a makeup school project she is working on and agreed to have pictures taken so she can show them to her teachers. What I wasn't expecting is the heavily "beautified" digital retouch she gave me. Not lying I looked like a literal ALIEN. Smallest nose ever (I don't have big nose), biggest eyes ever (my eyes are already on the larger side), biggest lips ever (my lips are not big, but not thin either, very average), snatched jaw that could NEVER pass for real (I have an oval face with high cheekbones, not rounded, not square-ish). Why on earth people can't just accept the sight of a normal, average, real face, already made nicer by the addition of makeup and styled hair. The standard really is crazy and if people weren't subject to this visual diet of unrealistically "beautiful" faces, they wouldn't even find them beautiful to begin with. They're actually creepy.
What also gets me is (mostly) guys saying they want a "natural beauty" But then bitch about women not wearing make up as them "not caring about themselves, what man do you think will look at you". Even better when they look at pictures of women with medium heavy make up and say "see this woman has no make up, a natural beauty". It's surreal that people are forgetting what a face without several layers of foundation, concealer and whatnot looks like.
@@nutella7162 the image we are collectively presented with is so far from the reality and the VARIETY of human faces that some people (especially the avid users of social media) are starting to shift their perception of what actually is an average face, or even a normal pretty face with no excessive features. Basically you have to look constantly filtered or even like you had some kind of highly altering cosmetic surgery to be perceived as attractive, even more so for males that usually don't use make-up/don't do heavy duty cosmetic procedures and don't realize how much of an impact these things can have on your appearance.
I really miss when people showed their insecurities or their true faces on the Internet, it made us feel better about ourselves and made us realize that we are all human :/
For me, seeing "beauty standards" these days has literally made me look at a group of women and be like... they all look the damn saaaaame! Where did our desire go to be individuals? To show our heritage and culture passed down in our genes? To love who we are and not pay money to be someone we think others will desire? . . (btw I said groups of women because I am female and go back and forth desiring those ideals with my body dysmorphia.)
Because white people (Northern established countries) have the most representation. You dont see people from the South of color being shown off more in media thus northern cultures established the standard. In Latin america people wanna be either american. In southern asia those who are bit darker in tone, you see them trying white wash their skin with creams and bar soaps. No one cares about culture anymore when they are mixed
I remember seeing a picture of my sibling and I asked them "What filter are you using?" because usually you can see pores and all that jazz, but this one had none and I was so confused (I don't go online to look at faces, I usually go on the internet to watch letsplays without face cameras and read). I told them "That's not your face" and they insisted they didn't use a filter, and I shrugged, thinking that's a weird thing to lie about, but now I'm realizing there must be a built-in filter on whatever app she was using to take the picture. It was a nice picture, but I really like older ones; I don't mind filters at all, I just like more minimal, vintage looking ones like the ones that my mother used to get on her digital camera.
I recently realised I've been spending too much time on my appearance and making sure I always look good no matter the circumstances. So I cut my hair. I cut it way too short but it was intentional. It doesn't look flattering on me and that's exactly what I wanted. Now no matter what I do, it's impossible for me to look pretty so I just gave up caring about it. I know that I don't look good and I don't give a damn. It's really freeing! We care wayyyyy too much about our appearances nowadays. Everyone seems to forget that at the end of the day, we'll all get old, wrinkly and unattractive so what really matters is on the inside.
When I was a tween I went to my sister's birthday party and my mom took me to the saloon to get makeup done. After getting it done, I went to the bathroom and started panicking. The face in the mirror looked so alien and it disgusted me. I took it all off right there. That is still how I feel about beauty filter today. I know my face, it is familiar and it is so distinctively me, that when I see my face in a beauty filter it just feels like I'm trapped in a different face. I can only imagine how bad it feels for the people who are always using filters and have gotten used to it as their natural face, to look in the mirror and not recognize yourself.
My brain so quickly accepts the filters even tho im not using it often, that every time i look at myself in a video or in the mirror i go ”that aint me…is it.. no tell me it isnt??” And when i see myself behing a filter i feel relieved like ”oooh there i am finally”. So sad, i wish i could feel like you describe it and like the person staring back at me in the mirror was actually me.
Yup, on my 21st bday, my mom took me to get my makeup done professionally. I usually do makeup but it’s only eyeliner and mascara.. after I got my makeup done, I saw myself in the mirror and started crying. All I could think was, “That’s not me”, and I took it all off.
I stopped using filters four years ago and haven’t gone back since because they give you this false sense of self. I love taking pictures with my phone camera because I see myself and nothing but ME. That gives me so much peace 🙌🏻
The thing about phone cameras is because of how they’re built, even they can distort how you actually look to yourself. With a few different photo taking techniques though, you can somewhat skirt around this for more natural outcomes
I remember a movie of Al Pacino when I was young. It's a story of a producer/director (can't remember) who made an AI actress to star on his movies. The title was SIMONE. It was way back 2002 and right now, it's no longer a science fiction.
Everyone is beautiful in their own ways. Ik people are saying most people are normal. But when I go out, i really do think everyone has their own charms that I’m envious of. Whether it be their smile, their hair, their style, their friendliness, or their eyes or whatever. If youre self conscious, just believe theres someone out there who saw you and was envious of at least one of your traits.
7:21 I remembered Kim Kardashian being asked what she thinks about reinforcing unattainable beautu standards and she answered "if I can do it than it's attainable" like everyone has the access she has and like it's not all an ilusion made for digital media 😅
So sad what young people go through now. People really need to fight back against it. Celebs should be real about how much work they've had done and stop allowing so many filters. Its destroying the self esteem of our children.
Guess what i've noticed: my phone camera automatically filters my face with no settings or anything. I want to see how I really look, not just a smoothed out version of myself. Also people tend to make fun of each other a lot at uni and I get it's banter, but it just makes me feel worse about how I look
I would LOVE to know your opinion on netflix reality shows and the beauty standards these contestants have. It seems like no matter how beautiful you are, you're still "looking for love". And I want to know why that is
Talking about Perfect Match? I couldn't help but to sit there and pick apart every element of how they all looked. The cameras are just so clear and HD and distorting because I know for a fact all of those people are gorgeous IRL.
Idk but from what I've seen many have issues with fearing attachment or getting hurt that they haven't worked through. Or they are really picky. Tbh they might not even be looking for real love but just play the part for the fame.
Because love has nothing to do with beauty. At all. You may find someone attractive on first glance but that does not mean you will love them. There are tones of beautiful people that immediately loose their attractiveness after saying one sentence. This is also why meeting your idol will most likely turn out in disappointment. Since our brains connect beauty with a good personality and lifestyle (what ever that is in your brain) meeting the real person will never live up to the made-up standard of the brain. The opposite side to this is though that you can actually fall in love with a person that you didn't feel super attractive to at first. There are a lot of couples about which people would say "omg how did she/he/they get that other person?!" because one is way more conventionally attractive than the other - people who say these things don't understand what love really is. :)
I just want to thank you for your videos. Something about you, the subject matter and how you approach it just really comforts me. I can’t explain it beyond that. I know you’re a stranger I will never meet, I’m weird but not that kind of weird, I’m just saying with all of my heart, thank you for your videos.
A friend of mine here in Japan is obsessed with how smooth and seemingly flawless a lot of people's skin is in this country. She said to me, "I don't see many pores on you either!" But the thing is, we look at our faces every day so we totally see our own pores and "flaws" like they are under a microscope. I don't wear foundation cause I think it gives a false perception. I do my skincare and sunscreen, and I do like to wear eye makeup, but nothing that makes me do a double take when I take it off, lol. Some of the trends I see look so nice, but I wanna recognize myself.
Same I stopped wearing foundation for the sake of clearing my skin more and because i think it’s pointless when at the end of the day it’s taken off. It’s helped me get more accustomed to my real skin again and not care about covering any blemishes. I’m generally happier about that but the days I do wear foundation it makes me realize damn.. I look almost “flawless” with the foundation yet it’s not real and I hate that feeling of feeling insecure over the lack of makeup of my normal, real skin. I do wear a little bit of eye makeup and mascara though :)
Some of those idol photos were still perfect tho 😭 I feel relieved when I see people without makeup and they look human, it's more scary when they still look flawless. Who was the idol with freckles? He should rock the freckles he looked so cute
When I see a pretty person I usually think more about "them" than about "me". My thinking goes kinda like; "Oh, pretty person, I want kiss from pretty person. Good. Hug. Huh. Pretty. I like." And then continue with my day. But I really never think about myself anyways, I just asume I'm gorgeous because I lack the hability to recognize my face in a mirror (dissociation stuff), and why would I want to asume otherwise? But even when I don't feel "pretty" I just think the same way, so maybe this can help somebody? I don't know.
I can't stop thinking about all the exes of those magnificent sudden 'glow up' videos on TikTok. You sitting there kicking urself thinking "damn, I shouldn't have let them get away" not knowing that shit actually got 10Xs worse since U last saw them!
Great timing. I just enjoyed a conversation about how all of this has been messing with our self esteem and perception of reality for years. Before the filters it was just the makeup standards, and one's willingness to go along or embrace themselves. I got a lot of flak for not liking makeup on my face because of the resulting acne, and the vicious cycle of covering the acne caused by the makeup. Grannies used to teach us that beauty is an inner work, and many gorgeous looking people are absolutely terrible inside and vice versa. Choose reality so that they cannot replace us with an illusion
I hate the bold beauty filter hahaha. Makes me look like a man in drag. Filters often do idk why but I got a slim face, and if they make my face even slimmer it looks like shit
Hands are such weird things man... AI can't draw them, monke brains can't imagine them properly while dreaming, I can't draw them.. truly a mistery these things
Whenever I open Tik tok or Instagram, I am always feel I am ugly, people there have perfect skin, perfect face features, flawless hair etc, I literally compared myself to filtered, photoshop-ed, edited, stranger in the internet, but once I touch grass, I am not that ugly, I look normal, I don't need to look prettiest, I am just need to look normal compared to other Older generation (usually in their 50's, 60's) tend to compliment me a lot, saying I look pretty compare to other, I guess my face check their beauty standard at that time, and it really boost my confidence, thankyou :)
Loving your hair! OT I know. Stupid filters but hey, noone actually connects in real life in person now do they?! I ask because everyone seems attached to their phone! See people, especially the young with their phones walking around as if there is nothing but the phone.....
I just came across your channel and you seem such a funny, gentle and considerate person. No need to feel like an imposter in my eyes but I know the feel.😅 Thank you for the great content! Love from germany!❤
This is so true. I always think I have below-average skin and facial feature and that I am chubby, but everyone in real life tells me I have beautiful skin and they are always surprised by how skinny I am (I mean, I love sports and go to gym often) - I then realized that my whole perception was distorted by the filters and people's posts online as someone who never photoshop and never use TikTok...
I have a hard enough time recognizing people when I've only seen their profile pictures on zoom, I can't imagine how much harder that will become as filters become more widely used
05:30 I have made multiple dating app accounts. Male accounts are not allowed to upload pictures with filters (even SLIGHT enhancements are immediately detected), meanwhile female profiles can use all the filters they like. It's absolutely ridiculous, I did like 10 different filters on my wife and it was accepted, I tried to make a picture of myself with Google Camera'a automatic enhancements and the same app told me to take a more realistic photo.
as someone who doesn't use filters or even wear makeup, i find this stuff fascinating. like y'all really out here with low self esteem thinking superficial things will solve it, huh?
@seraphim aw someone learned a new buzz word on tiktok lmao. babe i choose not to wear makeup because it's a vile industry that preys on women's insecurities. calling women pick me's for not wearing makeup sounds like your internalized misogyny is showing.
I hate hate haaate seeing my face with beauty filters. It looks so so wrong. I remember I was out to lunch with friends and we took a group selfie. They had a beauty filter on and I started laughing because I looked so fucking weird! My visceral reaction is “oh my god ew who the fuck is that????”
They’ve been using filters for porn since the late 90s (like studio production porn). I think filters are EVIL because they make already hard to obtain beauty standards basically impossible to achieve.
I didn't really ever think about advanced Asian filters being used in music videos and movies until I watched some Chinese movies and even in the super close-up, they look like they had no pores.
@ptp949 sorry bro. My back is every chiropractors delight. It's perfect. My dad has osteoarthritis in his back. It's all bent over and it's... Sorry dude. Gene pools are a crapshoot. Only reason I'm humble is I'm poor. So we break eve.n. I. Hope
great video! if you feel like it.. you should bring back some gremlin Niko merch🥺 i watch your old videos a lot, they're hilarious and i wish i could have one of the Niko sweaters to remember the good times. i absolutely love the possum puppies
This is both hilarious and frightening, but so important all at the same time. I love that you included the confidence course here because it's an actionable resource!
What people don't want to hear: Stop using them. Don't post pictures with them! If nobody uses them it wouldn't be this epidemic. No one is forcing people to use them. Sure we all learn to feel ugly, but no one NEEDS to use them. It's a damn scam and everybody goes along with it
I've always hated how filters look on me and 95% of everything I post personally on my Instagram is completely unedited and unfiltered, though sometimes I think maybe I should edit just to enhance colors but I never do. I've posted some filtered pictures but they're ones that have things on your face and are obvious filters and not beauty filters. I think they make me look weird
This made me so glad I don't use instagram or tiktok or anything like that, so most of the time I'm only looking at real human faces. Unless RUclipsrs are using ai filters???? But that could actually be coming soon, now that I think about it......... the airbrush of the modern age, I guess...
Makeup can be fun or creative expression for a lot of people, but I've never liked it or found enjoyment from it. Happily walking around no makeup and I like how I look! I also make a point to take photos of myself without any filters. If you stop using filters on yourself and get used to your natural face, over time you might also see yourself as beautiful or handsome
Thank you for bringing this up. No one is talking about this. I had to dig to find your video. THANK YOU. When I found out what my favorite K-pop idol actually looked like I was like "wtf man how can they lie to us like this???" No one is actually that beautiful lol
I used to think I was ugly... turns out I am average, I just don´t use filters... 🥴 This is so bad I wouldn´t even be surprised if it gets to the point where you will be called brave simply for "daring" to show your bare face in public 💀
I am already called brave for that and people tell me I need to put make up because I look sick. I am pale. With slavic features. Why do I need to reshape ny whole face to look exactly like them and be insecure about my own face when I dont have make up on?
I've heard in the last week that some AI has figured out the hand glitch, unfortunately. When they truly nail hands it will be a tragic day. Which is only a matter of time. 😮💨 As someone who spent 20+ years of their life studying and practicing art, it is depressing thinking of all the time, money, blood, sweat, and tears wasted. Guess I need to look for a real job now.
if it makes you feel any better, it couldn't do teeth either. AI generated "photos" of people smiling have a million creepy teeth. and they all still do that weird fadey-JPEG artifact thing around some edges, especially in busy areas of the image. i'm an artist too and i hate AI art with a passion, but i think it's still a ways off from replacing real artists. i don't think anyone can easily and reasonably do commissions/anything specific with it, just generic, soulless stuff. let's not give up yet 🤗 besides, i personally think it's more impressive to be able to do something with your own hands, instead of just forcing a robot to do the entire thing from start to finish.
@harusaurus Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Your reply helps me have some hope to continue. I didn't know/ think about the teeth thing! lol. Hopefully, they will never figure that out. Very true! Definitely is more valuable, full of passion, knowledge, and true creativity when made by a human. In theory, I feel that AI is okay (to a point!) it's those who use and abuse it that ruin it. And how those people then throw it in the artists' faces. Those selfish humans don't know the damage they're doing. So, because of them, I'm against AI art, writing, music, deep fakes, etc.
I'm 17 and have only been drawing for 5 years, and AI art does make me worry about the future for mgself a bit.... Unless people really care about comissioning a real person instead of getting AI to do it themselves faster and cheaper things might be hard.... For something like art though I feel like it'll be very difficult for AI to nail it enough so even when it improves in the future by then we might discover some things to deal with this predicament
I think many men and boyfriends think their women are losers because they don't realize there's filters online. I get insulted pretty regularly for being human
We're not ugly. We look normal. Society really did a number on people and their self-esteem. Despite all the "body positivity discourse", people are not taught to love themselves anymore.
Sadly, it's body positive discourse, not face positive discourse. You can have whatever body, but your face must be pretty regardless
body neutrality for the win
For real, body positivity quickly devolved into fat acceptance. HELLO. It's exactly like when LGBT became gays only with a side of everything else. Neutrality forever ✌️✨-
Parental failure.
People were never really taught to love their bodies if we're being honest tho, it's just been enhanced like most problems or insecurities since the internet can turn into an echo chamber/mega phone
What I hate most about beauty filters is realising that doing my makeup will never be as good as just using a filter
I've tried recreating the makeup from filters I like and it never looks as good as the filter :( it doesn't help that I'm not very good at makeup lol
Probably because it doesn’t exist in real life. Like Instagram models bodies look totally different in real life.
Yes it will, because makeup can be seen in real life, not filters ^_^
@@RoNa-bun True... It does that to make everything more symmetrical aka "more appealing" 😒
Since selfies make me look like a potato and I don't look like a potato irl (I don't say I'm beautiful, but not a potato either) I only fix them after taking them to give me back the beauty I have (not like a lot of it, but I have some nice features selfies rob me from). And when I do my makeup, I try to be more creative rather than imitate a filter. It surely takes away this kind of frustration, since I never had it to begin with. I recommend you try one or both options if you have such a problem 😊
holy shit. i don't use tiktok or record myself almost ever, so seeing how advanced filters have gotten is actually scaring me
Me too. My phone has built in beauty filter. You can't remove it so I set the parameters to minimal value.
@@aprilianindy3200 my phone had it too, but I was able to turn it off. Good thing it wasn't super crazy like those Instagram/snapchat filters.
@thelordoftherings alien emoji 😂😂 so true tho.
@@aprilianindy3200 you can use gcam, it uses your phone's hardware but it uses Google's algorithm which is minimal imo.
We're using freaking AI in Tiktok filters now. We could be using it to make people's lives better but no we had to use it to help make people think that having standard human skin is a moral shortcoming. God help us all.
Honestly it's very helpful for me to go to university. I can just look around and yeah, of course there are some outliers of very attractive people, but the majority just look average. They look normal. Like me. They have eye bags, acne scars, fluffy cheeks and short stubby lashes. It really serves to remind me that I look okay. I look normal and I don't need to look overly beautiful all the time.
Universities are overwhelmingly young, beautiful people. You're just used to it. ,Just wait until you're in the workforce, you will have a new definition of "average".
@@KFrost-fx7dt I literally described that they're not beautiful. We're all normal. Overweight, underweight, with rolls, hip dips, muffin tops, double chins, unsymmetrical faces, dark circles, dressed messily, guys without the picture perfect six pack. People with body hair and rough skin, girls with hair on their chin or upper lip. Big noses, small lips, balding or going gray at a young age. Crooked teeth. Just because you think universities are full of young beautiful people doesn't mean they are. I know what kind of people I've been seeing with my own eyes. We all don't fit the conventional beauty standards in some way. Yeah, people in the workforce may be even uglier or whatever you're trying to imply but that doesn't make my experience seeing other average people at school less valid. Also, plenty of university students do work and I've done internships. I know what the "workforce" faces look like. Anyways boomer, I have midterms to study for and projects to complete. Peace.
Even in universities, there are people with very beautiful faces (most of them actually, both men and women) bcs they use makeup/skincare😭 I can't escape beauty standards even at school
@Subi no no that wasn't what I intended it to mean. The reason why i did "/" is because they either have very good skincare routine *or* they use makeup to look pretty
@Subi no problem!!
I remember this street interview when they asked guys what type of girl they like and they mostly said natural, not overdone, the usual stuff. and then they showed them some pictures of girls (some of them wearing only natural make up, some of them without make up and some of them with make up and filters) and asked them to choose their perfect girl. All of them, without fail, chose the filtered pics. One guy argued that a girl with no make up and filters looks sick, like she has a cold. Some of them even tried to blame it on the girls when the interviewer revealed the truth.
Even before filters the guys would choose the photo with natural makeup and consider it completely natural. Some (or maybe most) men just don't understand that women don't look like this 24/7
It's misogyny at it's core. Long ago some advertiser decided that women should be dolled up but men can just look natural and we think that's normal. Yup just the usual female marginalization. Nothing new in history.
Still not a real test, still means nothing, because they’re still photographs. There is no such thing as “natural photography.” Photography itself-even old fashioned film photography-distorts. If they had, say, the same girl from a filtered photo, and then brought her our IRL, then I might care about the results of this “test.”
@@gravityissues5210 boys and men are shallow...reality shows that
@@gravityissues5210that’s the point you missed. It’s rare for anyone to look like that. Human have texture skin and most men, as shown in that social experiment, don’t seem to understand or realize that women don’t Naturally look filtered.
I try not to overuse the filters because I know my body dysmorphia will sky rocket and I will be unable to look at my unfiltered face. I think that we're starting to forget what a normal human face looks like. I wouldn't call myself extremely ugly, but not a beauty queen either, just a basic b, but all those perfect faces on the Internet make me feel ugly even though my brain knows I am not.
I stopped using filters at 16 bc I noticed how devastated I felt after
me 100% the same!! i´m know i´m not ugly but when sufing around on the internet makes me question myself 😿i actually wish there wasn´t any filters - i think it ruin people´s self-esteem 😶🌫 i don´t actually use them as much.. only one natural filter some times....but i think it does more harm than good for sure!
Yeah, it doesn't help that everyone feels the need to comment on everyone's looks too, that's not new but I feel like it's gotten way worse with ppl saying things like "thry talk big for being a solid 2" like anything below 4 would cause a visceral reaction, most people aren't hideous the scales are broken for everyone
@@Hip.Username "it doesn´t help that everyone feels the need to comment on everyone´s looks too" and "It´s gotten way worse" and "the scales are broken for everyone" - THAT´S ALL SO TRUE! it is so scary! think of our next generation, they grow up in this and it´s already gone so bad because of all the media.. i feel like it was bad after snapchat and instagram came but now with tiktok allso it got WAY worse! everybody think´s of their image ALL THE TIME and you can actually feel it when you live your daily day to day life... I can, easily.... and i feels like it´s gotten out of control.. and he is right in his video, people ARE catfishing each other and it just keeps getting worse...the telephone and internet was invented to bring people closer together, but now it does the opposite which to make people question themselves with comparing themselves to other people´s PROFILE - it´s not even their actually life most of them but an extravagante and up-hiped version of😶🌫it is INSANE, scary and quite sad....
@@Hip.Username you made a great point! I agree that many people these days feel like others owe them aesthetic pleasure and feel entitled to rating/commenting on other people's looks
A while back I saw a Missing Person report on the news. The photos of the girl were so wildly different from each other - some heavily filtered ones from Instagram compared to what her family obviously provided from their own casual pics. Much of the media seemed to favour the Insta ones - of which several clearly looked nothing like her. I remember thinking it was sad that even if someone saw this real girl somewhere, nobody would ever guess who she was based on the beautiful filtered shots being circulated publicly.
So scary to think about but yeah!
Theres a girl that disappeared here in germany and they were searching for her with a filtered instagram selfie and this was yeaaaars ago, recently "real" pictures of her surfaced and people criticized the use of the IG picture cause it looks so different from the real her. To think people might have seen her but not recognize her gives me chills.
Im thinking we might be talking about the same person here
@@miriamnah6624 I was actually thinking of a different case (can't remember her name), but just looked up this one, and yes, sadly it seems to be rather common. I also just read a post on reddit from someone saying they went into a big-box store and all the posted photos of missing persons for teens are heavily filtered/flattering selfies. They should use school photos, or very plain, basic shots for people who are missing because chances are if they are seen, they will be looking like their worst selves and not styled like they stepped off a magazine cover. Of course, the media likes the filtered shots because it's more attention grabbing for a story, but unfortunately it does little to help find the actual victims.
That is seriously sad
research has already shown a direct link between beauty filters and body dysmorphia. ppl get so used to seeing their filtered face, they start feeling unhappy about their real appearance. just like ai, i don’t see filters going away soon. it sucks
This is why young teens and kids should be off social media and others should limit their social media usage especially if they have mental issues. Filters won't go away but these peoples who harm themselves by not being able to see difference between reality and fantasy, falls for scams, predators and are unable to accept reality are opening gates to censorship and big daddy control over Internet which in the end harms us all.
I literally experienced that in Middle school but with just makeup.
I used to wear makeup every day and hated to see myself without it. It was so depressing taking it off and It took less than a year with full faced makeup every time I went outside before just the thought of anyone outside my closest of people seeing my bare faced was just unthinkible.
So I decided to just quit makeup altogether once I realised and accepted it was a problem. I went from a full face to no makeup in a day. Still going to school, and having peers and strangers see me.
It wasn't fun, but it didn't take too long before my no-makeup face became my normal face and I was fine with it. And It's much less depressing when I can actually look at my bare face without comparing it to my makeup face.
Now I only put light makeup on for special occasions. And I try to look my best with self-care and grooming instead of covering and hiding what is considerd flaws by me or anyone else.
While makeup is an art, it can be quite toxic and bad for you if you are not in the right mindest to use it. But there are no art in filters, its litterly just lying to yourself and everyone around you. It has all the toxicity makup might have, but doubled. It really shouldn't be a thing, but sadly it is...
And now many phones have them on the camera by default
@@kunilsen2519make up is an art for some people, what you just described was makeup as a social expectation.
You felt you needed for people to see you, which in turn means it wasn’t used to express yourself but instead replace. Im glad you have a healthy relationship with it now though, many people don’t recover
@@RusticRonnie I literally said makeup was art.
And I didn't want people to see me, stop putting words in my mouth. I was and still am the most invisible I can be by choice. No problem with that.
And thank you. I think most people could benefit from a makeup detox. Not saying makeup is only bad, and that everyone has a bad relationship with themself and makeup, but a lot do.
I think people should get out of the house more? I'm in my thirties, I grew up with articles of "that's how celebrities look like without Photoshop", so I knew from the beginning that everything we see in magazines is heavily filtered, and the same goes for social media. I never once saw someone on the street who looked literally perfect with no skin texture, no blemishes at all. Maybe people should leave the house more and take a look at real humans around them.
Exactly!! Just go look around outside or at the grocery store. The world is filled with normal people, most aren't super attractive.
I agree so much. Yesterday I saw an Instagram post where people were shocked that heavy foundation actually always looks at least a bit cakey in real life and I was just wondering... have you ever gone outside and looked at people's faces?
The problem is not so much with filter and photoshop but with people living through their phone.
Agreed. When im in the car with someone and they're driving, I really like to casually look at the people on the street as we drive past them. Not staring ofc, i never start staring at people. But i like seeing casual people going on with their lives as we drive past them. So many people looking so normal compared to what you see on social medias. People looking avarage, people looking all different ways, wearing different styles and outfits and clothes and idk, it feels so genuine to see people going on their everyday life
Not sure that would help anything. We grew up during that time but everyone was still trying to meet those false standards. They will just go outside and decide that most people are unattractive. I saw something where people were advocating for average which is great. The not so great part is that they didn't think average is attractive or beautiful. I got torn to pieces because i said that I think the average person is beautiful. There were people who responded that you have to be perfect to be beautiful. That's how far gone we are. We can't see the beauty in the everyday person or their flaws.
@@mikochild2 Average is average and not beautiful. It's the literal meaning of the word lol
A better approach would be to just not put an emphasis or that much relevance on being beautiful instead of pretending that everyone is beautiful.
Similar to the body neutrality over body positivity approach.
This is the cliche answer but deleting social media and just … not dealing with it helps SO MUCH.
So much. You stop caring about so many frivolous things!
That’s literally the answer to this entire problem! 🤣👏🏾
Same here and tbh is the only solution I can see thus far bcs is so damn addictive and even if you stick to some “normal or interesting “ accounts it will come down eventually to being more self aware of yourself and your image. I felt it when I stayed over Instagram for a while and was so damaging to me…
Same. Some people laugh when you say you have an addiction to social media and try to better yourself. What most don't realize is that they can't live without it, always going on it to update and post about their lives. Not saying it's bad, but having your life on full blast on the internet as well as always comparing yourself to everyone on the internet creates a big toll on ones mental health. I'm generally happy I quit apps like Instagram
Fr! I was super addicted to insta and snap and deleted both,, it was really hard to stay away so I actually re-download insta and then got my account suspended, it wouldn't tell.me when I coul use my account again so then I had to stay away and I got used to being without it
There was a missing person case here in Germany a few years ago that was all over the media with this one Instagram picture that was heavily edited/filtered. It was a beautiful photo, which added to the attention the case got, but then weeks into the investigation, other (more natural realistic) pictures of her started circulating and it became clear that almost nobody would have even been able to recognize her irl. Needless to say she was never found. Very sad.
Wow, what a story. Great example.
Im 30 now, and something Ive realized along my journey through life is that most of us are too worried about our own looks to worry about someone elses. And if someone is commenting on your looks its because they are insecure in their own.
Being 30 is much worse you are not allowed to age!!!
Yeah, every example of people who care a lot about other people not looking good that I have encountered were really emotionally fucked up.
Absolutely! Sometimes I may compliment people on looking great but after a couple of seconds I've literally forgotten all about it 😂
@@tfkdandsvkc my struggle with being 30 hasnt been about my appearance, but more so with the age I feel. I just dont feel 30! lol
@@ericainbloom Sadly it doesn't matter how you feel. People will see you as old and treat you accordingly. Many times you will just be a ghost. But I've been a ghost most of my life so yeah welcome to my world. Ready to get surprised at how people your age really look. You will have some old ass looking people coming up to you to try and be your friend, you would be like get away but you realize that's also what you look like. Pretty shocking but it is what it is. I'm 36 years old and trying to make friends at this age is scary.
I never used filters, but tried them out for fun, without taking a picture or anything.
However...just playing with them messes with my brain. It immediately excepts the new face, but can't handle it as soon as I deactivated the filter.
And that's why I understand when people use filters ALL the time and start to hate their real appearance.
I did the same as you said in you first sentence
This is exactly why I dont use filters. It messes with my brain. I can’t live with myself putting a picture out there that I know dang well isn’t me in real life.
I wonder if I'm safe because I'm trans. (Ironically less safe in the physical outside world but more safe in the digital uncanny realm where we have had more training on each other's nontraditionally beautiful/handsome faces for a longer time).. I already know what my own face looks like too well, but at the same time I don't like most filters because they force me more feminine and the masculine filters are still ugly or awkward. Maybe when they finally make a non-binary enhancing filter, I'll be doomed like the rest of everyone else. I think it is more cruel for children though whose faces aren't already fully grown, to mess with themselves digitally so much.
I tried making a tiktok video once and noticed my face looked odd. Turns out tiktok automatically puts a skin smoothing filter on you as soon as you hit record. When i deactivated it my actual face suddenly looked so wrong. Never using that app again, that was a mindfuck lol
Same here and I went away from it as far as I could 😑 stepped out of social media and don’t want to return ( other than RUclips which is different anyways)
Growing up, the best beauty standards I was taught was that the real beauty are the people around you, the people who are real like your mom, aunt, neighbor, etc. and not the people you see through a screen. Love your videos. Aloha from Hawaii! 🌺
That's a good thing to be taught.
this is why I refuse to even play with filters like that. I've struggled so hard for years to have a healthy relationship with my face and I don't need to play with something that is likely to ruin all my hard work.
Exactly
Honestly, I’m still pretty insecure about my face even though I’m “normal” of course I don’t have a small nose, poreless skin, nor am I super skinny but I don’t give a shit anymore. What I do give a shit about is the millions of younger, impressionable kids or teens who will believe that these people are perfect, that these features are normal to have. Normal looking people are suddenly perceiving themselves as uglier and uglier because of these unreachable beauty standards.
Anyone who was or is insecure like me, a reminder for you is that these things aren’t real. It’s the internet and if you ever start feeling even worse you need a break from social media. I’m going to start taking a long break from kpop and social media because being exposed to them isn’t doing me any justice lmao.
I'm also taking a break from social media, I don't think I'll ever not be insecure because I still see many pretty people around me. Though, I'm trying to learn to accept how I look like as to not be more insecure and not have low self-esteem
😢❤ hugs
I swear kpop raised the standard on beauty, but the idols themselves don't even look that bad in natural lighting!! I wish they could just be themselves sometimes 😢but I get a get it
Its not about the internet its about society the internet just shows how toxic society is
It’s funny because Korean plastic surgery always looks botched as shit. That’s the last thing ima be insecure about lmao. Kpop is cool but trying so hard to look like a Caucasian alien is fucking embarrassing
The beauty industry’s ability to convince you that you are hideous and flawed is terrifying. Beauty standards change so frequently and quickly, too. I remember crying as a child, in the late 90’s, because I didn’t have thin lips “like the other white girls”. Tbh, finding out about Angelina Jolie was the only reason I didn’t hate my full lips after a few years.
Damn, and now big lips are all the rage and thin lipped girlies grow up wishing for fillers. I remember the Kylie Jenner lip challenge, where you put your lips in a shot glass and suck creating a kinda vacuum which would puff your lips (or massively bruise them like you'd see in the fail videos), was really popular when I was in junior high.
Ohh my gosh I remember that trend! and people split their lips after participating in that aweful trend!
I did a number on myself with the Angelina/ScarJo comparison.
My lips were full, but not full *enough*.
I shudder to think about how much worse my self-esteem would be if I'd been a teenager now, instead of the early 2000s.
I don't ever want to see my face through a filter. I'm almost morbidly curious, and I hope I don't give into it.
I also wanted thin lips as a child . I was born with full lips even my parents pointed it out. it did make me insecure
@@iiv_dannybo1 I remember those days. I'm so sorry you went through that, too - my parents made me feel incredibly uncomfortable. Looking back, it almost feels like the makeup I loved - dark lipstick and odd lipstick colors, which I love to this day - also functioned as a defense mechanism when I was a teenager (I didn't realize it at the time; maybe I'm making too much of that). It would make sense, though - if people were mocking my makeup, they weren't mocking the features underneath.
I stopped using filters back in 2018 because of this. I saw that some of the "fun ones" would slim down your nose and jaw. I was scared that it would ruin my confidence so I never used them again. I'm scared for preteens and teens of the future...hell even little kids who have phones now. I don't want them to grow up hating themselves.
Yall remember that novel "the uglies" by Scott westerfeild ? Its crazy to see how predictive it was when it comes to our beauty and influencer culture. 😮
The author was describing these things before they existed
I remember reading this and thinking, “naw, that’s not gonna happen, especially any time soon”, and yet only about 20 years later, here we are; it’s terrifying
@@C4TC4T even his descriptions of some of the tech was spot on. Even though, many of these thing didn't exist when he wrote this. He clearly did a LOT of research 😭🤷♂️
Yes! The "surgery" the Uglies get once they turn 17 is nearly a perfect mirror of teens nowadays getting lip fillers/baby botox/nose jobs/bbl before even having time to grow into their features
I was just thinking about this book
Isn’t this a movie right now?
its crazy how tiktok makes a new insecurity everyday
I used a filter once and got scared and never did it again. I think it helps that I can clearly see my parents and relatives' features in my features so filters wanting to change those features feels insulting. Like what are you saying about my mum's jawline? Or my aunt's cheekbones? I love them and like seeing them in my face.
I used to be insecure of my nose but noticed my dad has the same nose, and i love him so decided to just embrace it
I hated looking like my (abusive) parents so I without surgery changed as much as I could, and I like my face now. Using a filter would make me feel like I'm wearing a weird mask featuring someone else or a generated person's face instead of being "the best version of me".
I was deeply insulted when my camera erased my freckles. I love my freckles! And I get constantly complimented for them! How dare it think these are imperfections it needs to hide!
I had no idea there were video filters on idols until I saw a post on twitter that pointed out the filter glitching briefly on jk in a behind video. Changed my entire perception after that
Lmao yes is usually for making the skin lighter but it does change the size of the face.
@@lauraitzel8334 skin texture as well! Even in the closeups I was shocked at how good they looked all the time haha. Now I know it's fake
@@elle5013 yep! Some idols actually do have nice skin (treatments, money you know) but don’t know if you have seen does compilations of their true skin… those low key make me feel better about myself
@@lauraitzel8334 yea those compilations make me feel more normal about my skin too!
This was the moment I was referring to in my initial comment if you haven't seen it yet:
m.ruclips.net/video/Y1w_u-rekLo/видео.html
Yeah those filters make idols lool like ghosts sometimes 😅 it's worse in K/C-dramas, especially when you know the actor's skin isn'f that pale
I don't have an issue with filters that JUST apply make up looks.
I do have an issue with filters that change the shape of my features.
I like the way I look, I don't want to change it, but sometimes I can't be bothered putting on make up, and chucking a basic make up filter on is quicker and easier.
I still look the same, and if I made the effort I could look pretty much exactly like it in real life, so for me it's not lying, just laziness lol.
Has noone told you that you don't have to post selfies on Social Media on a daily base?
@@CordeliaWagner who told u she post selfies daily???
Just for clarification, because I am confused. Why do you need these filters? For trying out makeup looks, before you spend hours on learning the technique?
@@SaheeliRai that's basically the idea, seeing how a certain look would look on you and getting ideas of how to apply it on your face as opposed to going off of images or tutorials of people who might have different face/lip/eye shapes than you.
Same! I love makeup filters, sometimes I want to try something without spending hours doing it, or I don't know what to do so I decide to recreate a filter I like. I hate when they make me look like a different person.
A while back, a girl I know asked me why I didn't follow her back online (can't remember what app, I've since deleted them all). I hadn't been able to find her account, so I asked her to just look on my phone. The account she pulled up was unrecognisable. Turns out I'd blocked her because I thought a random adult was following then 12 year old me.
This is something I've been thinking about a lot recently before this came out actually. Whenever I come across older Asian content aka 2000s and before - examples being TVB / HK tv and film clips and also kpop/dramas, I always notice that people look so much more down to earth back then. Yes they were (and likely still are) considered beautiful, but they looked a lot less uncanny and more naturally good looking. Not trying to flex but Chinese aunties will time to time compliment me for looking "pretty" to their standards surprisingly despite the crazy standards of this era - like I'm not tall, skinny, and have a v-line sooooo I'm always like "thanks??" To which, I realized it's because their standard of beauty pre-social media was more simpler back then bringing me back to my inital point. It's unfortunate how high our standards have risen with the rise of technology and social media and feeling like we have to look pretty much unhuman to look "perfect" and "uniform".
I like to think we're all prettier than we think, it's just the internet needs to touch grass.
that's true! older people always tell me that i'm pretty, but people my age (early 20s) say that i'm just basic and there is nothing special about me. Maybe becuase i dontlike heavy makeup or dont wear a lot of accesories, dont dye my hair etc. so i have all my natural features out lol
Yess. My older (not even old, like younger gen x) relatives tell me I'm pretty and I'm always surprised. I think spending time with family from different generations is a great way to be more positive about my face and body, because it's nice to be around people who are physically similar to me.
asian content used to be relatable back then, i feel like now it's just way too perfect it feels unattainable
Same. I'm also getting complimented by older people but I know that with beauty standards, filters and perfectionism nowadays, I'm not seen as pretty by people my age. I would like to be found attractive by my peers, though.
Bruh you acting like girls nowadays are expected to be tall. Bullshit It’s only guys that get shamed for that. For women only maybe if they under 5’2
I feel so extra stupid. For the longest time I’ve thought the girls on Pinterest really look like they do in the photos and had a whole 6 month phase of beauty?/image? issues. I’m still struggling with it, it’s hard to look at my round face flat brows and not feel ugly. But they’re all using filters I..ugh
Reality is often disapointing
@@nelsama0881
I mean, to be fair in this case, reality is relieving.
The fact of knowing that these girls actually look pretty average in real life and were only using filters brings you comfort.
@@serena841You are right , in this case reality is more comforting.
I actually meant that for people who thought that very attractive girls/boys didnt use make up or filters.
I feel sorry for the misunderstanding.
@@nelsama0881
There is no need to apologise.
I understand your point as well, it sure must sound disappointing in this sense.
Ed has such a monotonous voice and yet so much personality at the same time lmao /pos
It’s called deadpan. It’s actually very funny when used correctly. My little brother does it all the time, and he’s a hilarious, sarcastic POS
His voice reminds me of Baymax from Big Hero 6 lmao I love it
I absolutely love his sense of humour
he’s so silly
Took me a second to realize you weren’t calling him a piece of shit, lol
Something that has helped me to feel more confident is believing in the idea that if I think the people around me are beautiful, odds are they'll see me as beautiful as well. I really can see the beauty in people I see day to day even if they have what society deems as "average," and these reminders simply help me to see the beauty in myself. Being "average" is still beautiful, so I shouldn't stress over it :)
The environment is literally dying and everyone is focused on dumb shit like whether or not others find them beautiful. Yeah idk man
The craziest thing of all is that we even care about beauty standards to begin with and how pretty we all look to each other THIS much. Like, our whole lives are so obsessed over appearance that our positive slogans are almost always along the lines of "you're beautiful just the way you are". It sounds great and accepting but we really haven't shaken the concept that beauty matters, because we use the term beautiful as a validator for others. We can't say "beautiful doesn't matter" to inspire anyone. It won't help. We as people just aren't there yet.
It's frustrating that we are capable of so much, but we are still stuck on the most surface level of praise like beauty or acceptance of our looks... I mean, we are apes that just lost our fur. Why should we strive to be poreless, creaseless, snatched?? I don't know how to fix it. It just makes you think. 🙁
Yeah even making a conscious effort to curate a feed with people of many body types, who use minimal filters/are transparent, and avoiding people who heavily photoshop their stuff is difficult - the algorithms always seem to want to push stuff that just makes users mentally ill. Skinny, curvy, conventionally pretty people exist, but they're not all there is, and even that these days is "not enough". What pisses me off is how it's being used to deceive audiences though.
Yeah because social media is SUPPOSED to give you mental issues, that's what it's true purpose is. Is like saying you're making a conscious effort to only ingest a little bit of poison everyday, it doesn't work like that. Even a little bit can still harm you over time. I have no social media and I don't have any of these self esteem issues, hope more people can stop using these sites.
@@ItsOKtobeNormal you have anti lgbt user pic and use youtube, so you actually do use social media. Get off your high horse and stop being homophobic, which harms people not less than social media
Oh god, yes. The latest Twice comeback teaser made me roll my eyes so far back, I saw my brain. It honestly reminded me of the Trisha Paytas skincare commercial where she advocated embracing your real self while drowning in filters.
omgg I had forgotten that trisha paytas stunt! I don't think there are any makeup/skincare commercials that don't use filters. Even the ones that show skin texture are still filtered just enough that you don't notice it.
Even skincare products are categorized as cosmetics so they will never show their bare skin to camera😂
I just hope everyone is aware that a bare face doesn't look like that. Especially the younger fans. Idols post their bare faces every now n then on private social accounts, and u could see the damn pimples and pores, wgat was the point of that teaser????
😂 gold...rolling your eyes....😂
What was even funnier was fans praising them for being so “natural” and “transparent”. Like come onnnnnn we all know nothing about K-pop idols looks is transparent or natural, why ruin your self esteem by pretending it is🫡
I don't use social media except for RUclips, and even then I'm usually looking at practical stuff so it's not like I'm fed with fake beautiful faces everyday. I do find myself kind of pretty even if I don't have the features that are actually considered beautiful, I have no desire to change my face. A couple weeks ago I let my roommate do my makeup for a makeup school project she is working on and agreed to have pictures taken so she can show them to her teachers. What I wasn't expecting is the heavily "beautified" digital retouch she gave me. Not lying I looked like a literal ALIEN. Smallest nose ever (I don't have big nose), biggest eyes ever (my eyes are already on the larger side), biggest lips ever (my lips are not big, but not thin either, very average), snatched jaw that could NEVER pass for real (I have an oval face with high cheekbones, not rounded, not square-ish). Why on earth people can't just accept the sight of a normal, average, real face, already made nicer by the addition of makeup and styled hair. The standard really is crazy and if people weren't subject to this visual diet of unrealistically "beautiful" faces, they wouldn't even find them beautiful to begin with. They're actually creepy.
What also gets me is (mostly) guys saying they want a "natural beauty" But then bitch about women not wearing make up as them "not caring about themselves, what man do you think will look at you".
Even better when they look at pictures of women with medium heavy make up and say "see this woman has no make up, a natural beauty".
It's surreal that people are forgetting what a face without several layers of foundation, concealer and whatnot looks like.
@@nutella7162 the image we are collectively presented with is so far from the reality and the VARIETY of human faces that some people (especially the avid users of social media) are starting to shift their perception of what actually is an average face, or even a normal pretty face with no excessive features. Basically you have to look constantly filtered or even like you had some kind of highly altering cosmetic surgery to be perceived as attractive, even more so for males that usually don't use make-up/don't do heavy duty cosmetic procedures and don't realize how much of an impact these things can have on your appearance.
Edvasian is one of the most practical entertainment options out there.
I really miss when people showed their insecurities or their true faces on the Internet, it made us feel better about ourselves and made us realize that we are all human :/
Old youtube
For me, seeing "beauty standards" these days has literally made me look at a group of women and be like... they all look the damn saaaaame! Where did our desire go to be individuals? To show our heritage and culture passed down in our genes? To love who we are and not pay money to be someone we think others will desire?
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(btw I said groups of women because I am female and go back and forth desiring those ideals with my body dysmorphia.)
Because white people (Northern established countries) have the most representation. You dont see people from the South of color being shown off more in media thus northern cultures established the standard.
In Latin america people wanna be either american. In southern asia those who are bit darker in tone, you see them trying white wash their skin with creams and bar soaps. No one cares about culture anymore when they are mixed
Now women wear so much makeup like the Kardashians they look like trans women
I remember seeing a picture of my sibling and I asked them "What filter are you using?" because usually you can see pores and all that jazz, but this one had none and I was so confused (I don't go online to look at faces, I usually go on the internet to watch letsplays without face cameras and read). I told them "That's not your face" and they insisted they didn't use a filter, and I shrugged, thinking that's a weird thing to lie about, but now I'm realizing there must be a built-in filter on whatever app she was using to take the picture. It was a nice picture, but I really like older ones; I don't mind filters at all, I just like more minimal, vintage looking ones like the ones that my mother used to get on her digital camera.
I recently realised I've been spending too much time on my appearance and making sure I always look good no matter the circumstances.
So I cut my hair. I cut it way too short but it was intentional. It doesn't look flattering on me and that's exactly what I wanted. Now no matter what I do, it's impossible for me to look pretty so I just gave up caring about it. I know that I don't look good and I don't give a damn. It's really freeing!
We care wayyyyy too much about our appearances nowadays. Everyone seems to forget that at the end of the day, we'll all get old, wrinkly and unattractive so what really matters is on the inside.
there is a happy medium without going extreme on both ends, hope you find it
Whether you look good with a hairstyle is always just an opinion though. Be free outside of something superficial
When I was a tween I went to my sister's birthday party and my mom took me to the saloon to get makeup done. After getting it done, I went to the bathroom and started panicking. The face in the mirror looked so alien and it disgusted me. I took it all off right there.
That is still how I feel about beauty filter today. I know my face, it is familiar and it is so distinctively me, that when I see my face in a beauty filter it just feels like I'm trapped in a different face.
I can only imagine how bad it feels for the people who are always using filters and have gotten used to it as their natural face, to look in the mirror and not recognize yourself.
My brain so quickly accepts the filters even tho im not using it often, that every time i look at myself in a video or in the mirror i go ”that aint me…is it.. no tell me it isnt??” And when i see myself behing a filter i feel relieved like ”oooh there i am finally”. So sad, i wish i could feel like you describe it and like the person staring back at me in the mirror was actually me.
Yup, on my 21st bday, my mom took me to get my makeup done professionally. I usually do makeup but it’s only eyeliner and mascara.. after I got my makeup done, I saw myself in the mirror and started crying. All I could think was, “That’s not me”, and I took it all off.
I stopped using filters four years ago and haven’t gone back since because they give you this false sense of self. I love taking pictures with my phone camera because I see myself and nothing but ME. That gives me so much peace 🙌🏻
So true huh. Would be so weird to look back on vacation pics & pics of past daily life events only to look at a "stranger" in place of your body.
The thing about phone cameras is because of how they’re built, even they can distort how you actually look to yourself. With a few different photo taking techniques though, you can somewhat skirt around this for more natural outcomes
I remember a movie of Al Pacino when I was young. It's a story of a producer/director (can't remember) who made an AI actress to star on his movies. The title was SIMONE. It was way back 2002 and right now, it's no longer a science fiction.
Everyone is beautiful in their own ways. Ik people are saying most people are normal. But when I go out, i really do think everyone has their own charms that I’m envious of. Whether it be their smile, their hair, their style, their friendliness, or their eyes or whatever. If youre self conscious, just believe theres someone out there who saw you and was envious of at least one of your traits.
7:21 I remembered Kim Kardashian being asked what she thinks about reinforcing unattainable beautu standards and she answered "if I can do it than it's attainable" like everyone has the access she has and like it's not all an ilusion made for digital media 😅
So sad what young people go through now. People really need to fight back against it. Celebs should be real about how much work they've had done and stop allowing so many filters. Its destroying the self esteem of our children.
7:57
"Not looking presentable"
I didn't realize having a bare face made you indecent.
I actually hate how I look with filters and, like my natural looks, more.
Fr I look scary
I thought I was the only one. They don’t look good on me. I don’t like how it changes my features.
@@Jazzrib EXACTLY
Guess what i've noticed: my phone camera automatically filters my face with no settings or anything. I want to see how I really look, not just a smoothed out version of myself. Also people tend to make fun of each other a lot at uni and I get it's banter, but it just makes me feel worse about how I look
I would LOVE to know your opinion on netflix reality shows and the beauty standards these contestants have. It seems like no matter how beautiful you are, you're still "looking for love". And I want to know why that is
Talking about Perfect Match? I couldn't help but to sit there and pick apart every element of how they all looked. The cameras are just so clear and HD and distorting because I know for a fact all of those people are gorgeous IRL.
Probably because all of the people on these shows are really shallow lol
Idk but from what I've seen many have issues with fearing attachment or getting hurt that they haven't worked through. Or they are really picky. Tbh they might not even be looking for real love but just play the part for the fame.
Because love has nothing to do with beauty. At all. You may find someone attractive on first glance but that does not mean you will love them. There are tones of beautiful people that immediately loose their attractiveness after saying one sentence. This is also why meeting your idol will most likely turn out in disappointment. Since our brains connect beauty with a good personality and lifestyle (what ever that is in your brain) meeting the real person will never live up to the made-up standard of the brain. The opposite side to this is though that you can actually fall in love with a person that you didn't feel super attractive to at first. There are a lot of couples about which people would say "omg how did she/he/they get that other person?!" because one is way more conventionally attractive than the other - people who say these things don't understand what love really is. :)
Because finding love is not about how attractive you are, it's about what's inside.
I just want to thank you for your videos. Something about you, the subject matter and how you approach it just really comforts me. I can’t explain it beyond that.
I know you’re a stranger I will never meet, I’m weird but not that kind of weird, I’m just saying with all of my heart, thank you for your videos.
Same, he is my comfort RUclipsr. When he uploads I just go to my room, get under the sheets and watch his videos.
A friend of mine here in Japan is obsessed with how smooth and seemingly flawless a lot of people's skin is in this country. She said to me, "I don't see many pores on you either!" But the thing is, we look at our faces every day so we totally see our own pores and "flaws" like they are under a microscope. I don't wear foundation cause I think it gives a false perception. I do my skincare and sunscreen, and I do like to wear eye makeup, but nothing that makes me do a double take when I take it off, lol. Some of the trends I see look so nice, but I wanna recognize myself.
Same I stopped wearing foundation for the sake of clearing my skin more and because i think it’s pointless when at the end of the day it’s taken off. It’s helped me get more accustomed to my real skin again and not care about covering any blemishes. I’m generally happier about that but the days I do wear foundation it makes me realize damn.. I look almost “flawless” with the foundation yet it’s not real and I hate that feeling of feeling insecure over the lack of makeup of my normal, real skin. I do wear a little bit of eye makeup and mascara though :)
Good for u?
you can wear what you want lol. ppl discriminiate so who care about lying
A nice and kind personality makes a person beautiful.
Im glad ure talking abt this
Idk why but your videos are so comforting
BYE- I saw the photo of Felix with his freckles ( 7:41 )and went “WAIT YOU MOVED TOO FAST LEMME LOOK AT HIIIMMM!!” I love his natural faaace 😭😭
I'm so glad someone has finally spoken about this
Commenting for engagement :)
I was just wondering when we were going to get another video, I’m glad Ed posted! Comfort RUclipsr for sure
I always look forward to his uploads
Some of those idol photos were still perfect tho 😭 I feel relieved when I see people without makeup and they look human, it's more scary when they still look flawless. Who was the idol with freckles? He should rock the freckles he looked so cute
When I see a pretty person I usually think more about "them" than about "me". My thinking goes kinda like; "Oh, pretty person, I want kiss from pretty person. Good. Hug. Huh. Pretty. I like." And then continue with my day. But I really never think about myself anyways, I just asume I'm gorgeous because I lack the hability to recognize my face in a mirror (dissociation stuff), and why would I want to asume otherwise? But even when I don't feel "pretty" I just think the same way, so maybe this can help somebody? I don't know.
Disassociation buddies! Haha. I have the same thing. I love seeing comments that remind me I'm not the only person with these problems. 💕
I can't stop thinking about all the exes of those magnificent sudden 'glow up' videos on TikTok. You sitting there kicking urself thinking "damn, I shouldn't have let them get away" not knowing that shit actually got 10Xs worse since U last saw them!
Great timing. I just enjoyed a conversation about how all of this has been messing with our self esteem and perception of reality for years. Before the filters it was just the makeup standards, and one's willingness to go along or embrace themselves. I got a lot of flak for not liking makeup on my face because of the resulting acne, and the vicious cycle of covering the acne caused by the makeup. Grannies used to teach us that beauty is an inner work, and many gorgeous looking people are absolutely terrible inside and vice versa. Choose reality so that they cannot replace us with an illusion
I hate the bold beauty filter hahaha. Makes me look like a man in drag. Filters often do idk why but I got a slim face, and if they make my face even slimmer it looks like shit
I think people need to embrace their natural beauty. Nobody looks like they do on social media.
Hands are such weird things man... AI can't draw them, monke brains can't imagine them properly while dreaming, I can't draw them.. truly a mistery these things
His vids really are relaxing to watch lol
Whenever I open Tik tok or Instagram, I am always feel I am ugly, people there have perfect skin, perfect face features, flawless hair etc, I literally compared myself to filtered, photoshop-ed, edited, stranger in the internet, but once I touch grass, I am not that ugly, I look normal, I don't need to look prettiest, I am just need to look normal compared to other
Older generation (usually in their 50's, 60's) tend to compliment me a lot, saying I look pretty compare to other, I guess my face check their beauty standard at that time, and it really boost my confidence, thankyou :)
Loving your hair! OT I know. Stupid filters but hey, noone actually connects in real life in person now do they?! I ask because everyone seems attached to their phone! See people, especially the young with their phones walking around as if there is nothing but the phone.....
I just came across your channel and you seem such a funny, gentle and considerate person. No need to feel like an imposter in my eyes but I know the feel.😅
Thank you for the great content!
Love from germany!❤
This is so true. I always think I have below-average skin and facial feature and that I am chubby, but everyone in real life tells me I have beautiful skin and they are always surprised by how skinny I am (I mean, I love sports and go to gym often) - I then realized that my whole perception was distorted by the filters and people's posts online as someone who never photoshop and never use TikTok...
I’m sure you’re so pretty! 🥲 I totally understand
I have a hard enough time recognizing people when I've only seen their profile pictures on zoom, I can't imagine how much harder that will become as filters become more widely used
not me using this video as a reference and citing it in MLA format for an essay on Hyper Reality XDD
05:30 I have made multiple dating app accounts. Male accounts are not allowed to upload pictures with filters (even SLIGHT enhancements are immediately detected), meanwhile female profiles can use all the filters they like. It's absolutely ridiculous, I did like 10 different filters on my wife and it was accepted, I tried to make a picture of myself with Google Camera'a automatic enhancements and the same app told me to take a more realistic photo.
as someone who doesn't use filters or even wear makeup, i find this stuff fascinating. like y'all really out here with low self esteem thinking superficial things will solve it, huh?
THIS
That's exactly what I'm thinking lmao
"Or doesn't even wear makeup" Your profile picture is literally all that is being discussed in this video??? Eh?????????????????????????
@@majajani8077 bestie that's maggie lindemann lmao
@seraphim aw someone learned a new buzz word on tiktok lmao. babe i choose not to wear makeup because it's a vile industry that preys on women's insecurities. calling women pick me's for not wearing makeup sounds like your internalized misogyny is showing.
I hate hate haaate seeing my face with beauty filters. It looks so so wrong. I remember I was out to lunch with friends and we took a group selfie. They had a beauty filter on and I started laughing because I looked so fucking weird! My visceral reaction is “oh my god ew who the fuck is that????”
They’ve been using filters for porn since the late 90s (like studio production porn). I think filters are EVIL because they make already hard to obtain beauty standards basically impossible to achieve.
I didn't really ever think about advanced Asian filters being used in music videos and movies until I watched some Chinese movies and even in the super close-up, they look like they had no pores.
7:41 Felix from Stray Kids looks amazing with his bare face! He is naturally hot and handsome.🥰❤️
the beauty filters that make the jawline v shaped literally just make ppl look like aliens to me 😭 like they be scary ash
When I learned symmetry was the key I was like oh good I'm not ugly. It's one less thing CAUSE IM BROKE AS HELL AND NOT GONNA DO SHIT ABOUT IT
@ptp949 sorry bro. My back is every chiropractors delight. It's perfect. My dad has osteoarthritis in his back. It's all bent over and it's... Sorry dude. Gene pools are a crapshoot. Only reason I'm humble is I'm poor. So we break eve.n. I. Hope
not really, christy turlington is visibly asymmetrical
great video!
if you feel like it.. you should bring back some gremlin Niko merch🥺 i watch your old videos a lot, they're hilarious and i wish i could have one of the Niko sweaters to remember the good times. i absolutely love the possum puppies
Pretty fascinating about ai not being able to generate hands.
Now we know why Ed can never draw hands😮He's A.I.!
@@DanataD lol
This is both hilarious and frightening, but so important all at the same time. I love that you included the confidence course here because it's an actionable resource!
What people don't want to hear: Stop using them. Don't post pictures with them! If nobody uses them it wouldn't be this epidemic. No one is forcing people to use them. Sure we all learn to feel ugly, but no one NEEDS to use them. It's a damn scam and everybody goes along with it
I've always hated how filters look on me and 95% of everything I post personally on my Instagram is completely unedited and unfiltered, though sometimes I think maybe I should edit just to enhance colors but I never do. I've posted some filtered pictures but they're ones that have things on your face and are obvious filters and not beauty filters. I think they make me look weird
This made me so glad I don't use instagram or tiktok or anything like that, so most of the time I'm only looking at real human faces. Unless RUclipsrs are using ai filters???? But that could actually be coming soon, now that I think about it......... the airbrush of the modern age, I guess...
This video makin me feel better about my own skin ty
That's the reason I turn off all filters I can, not bcos I don't like how it looks,i do. But it's going to eff up my self perception so much
Tempted to use 1 just for the fun of it , im scared to see what would happen
Makeup can be fun or creative expression for a lot of people, but I've never liked it or found enjoyment from it. Happily walking around no makeup and I like how I look! I also make a point to take photos of myself without any filters. If you stop using filters on yourself and get used to your natural face, over time you might also see yourself as beautiful or handsome
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Leaving a comment so that the algorithm knows I am engaged. Thanks for the fun video as always, even the AI knows hands are difficult to draw man..
Thank you for bringing this up. No one is talking about this. I had to dig to find your video. THANK YOU. When I found out what my favorite K-pop idol actually looked like I was like "wtf man how can they lie to us like this???" No one is actually that beautiful lol
Psh! Only uglies have pores and noses. Real people sweat glitter which only makes us glow. Everyone knows that the ideal beauty is Lord Voldemort.
This is just making me ever gladder I never got sucked into Tiktok. I don't need any more hits to my self-esteem.
I used to think I was ugly... turns out I am average, I just don´t use filters... 🥴 This is so bad I wouldn´t even be surprised if it gets to the point where you will be called brave simply for "daring" to show your bare face in public 💀
I am already called brave for that and people tell me I need to put make up because I look sick.
I am pale. With slavic features. Why do I need to reshape ny whole face to look exactly like them and be insecure about my own face when I dont have make up on?
That photo of Felix with his beautiful freckles showing made me so happy. He’s gorgeous
Never use filters because it feels like i'm betraying myself. :/
Twice is one of my fav groups and that teaser was ridiculous. The worst thing is that some people really believe they dont have makeup on ..
I've heard in the last week that some AI has figured out the hand glitch, unfortunately. When they truly nail hands it will be a tragic day. Which is only a matter of time. 😮💨 As someone who spent 20+ years of their life studying and practicing art, it is depressing thinking of all the time, money, blood, sweat, and tears wasted. Guess I need to look for a real job now.
if it makes you feel any better, it couldn't do teeth either. AI generated "photos" of people smiling have a million creepy teeth. and they all still do that weird fadey-JPEG artifact thing around some edges, especially in busy areas of the image. i'm an artist too and i hate AI art with a passion, but i think it's still a ways off from replacing real artists. i don't think anyone can easily and reasonably do commissions/anything specific with it, just generic, soulless stuff. let's not give up yet 🤗 besides, i personally think it's more impressive to be able to do something with your own hands, instead of just forcing a robot to do the entire thing from start to finish.
@harusaurus Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Your reply helps me have some hope to continue. I didn't know/ think about the teeth thing! lol. Hopefully, they will never figure that out. Very true! Definitely is more valuable, full of passion, knowledge, and true creativity when made by a human. In theory, I feel that AI is okay (to a point!) it's those who use and abuse it that ruin it. And how those people then throw it in the artists' faces. Those selfish humans don't know the damage they're doing. So, because of them, I'm against AI art, writing, music, deep fakes, etc.
I'm 17 and have only been drawing for 5 years, and AI art does make me worry about the future for mgself a bit.... Unless people really care about comissioning a real person instead of getting AI to do it themselves faster and cheaper things might be hard.... For something like art though I feel like it'll be very difficult for AI to nail it enough so even when it improves in the future by then we might discover some things to deal with this predicament
Imagine how Tinder will be full of fake pictures and even more dissapointing first dates.
Omg timing is immaculate ❤❤ your video is exactly what i needed right now
I think many men and boyfriends think their women are losers because they don't realize there's filters online. I get insulted pretty regularly for being human
I'd roast AI hands but I'm not that much better at drawing them myself.
I am from a time when people used avatars and now people are basically morphing into avatars.