How to Break Out of the Friend Zone

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  • Опубликовано: 28 окт 2024

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  • @j.j.714
    @j.j.714 3 года назад +442

    It’s weird to me how some people see the so-called “friendzone” as a dead end. A huge chunk, if not most, of relationships start out as friendships. Just because things aren’t going according your ideal time schedule it doesn’t mean it’s never gonna happen. Just keep living your life, day by day, and appreciate each step of the way. If you can genuinely appreciate their friendship without holding on to uncertain possibilities, take what you get. Maybe it’ll happen, maybe it won’t.

    • @gregsoad5031
      @gregsoad5031 3 года назад +24

      I needed this, thank you!

    • @gundamforreal
      @gundamforreal 3 года назад +62

      For the most part, it is a dead end and is never going to happen. Because if someone hangs in there, they're supposed to wait for a month? A year? A lifetime? Better to move on than to hold on and hope for something that may never happen.
      Can't disagree with living day by day and appreciate each step of the way though.

    • @Rajendran_Pilla
      @Rajendran_Pilla 3 года назад +5

      Getting brotherzoned is worser than getting friendzone, but by the time she'd fall for some other guy

    • @mafiu2585
      @mafiu2585 3 года назад +16

      The issue is not whether the friendzone can be eventually morphed into a full blown relationship, it can, we’ve seen it multiple times. Rather that the people who end up in a friendzone are very likely to also be idealising that person, which is not very healthy for them to begin with (worst of all, they end up wasting a lot of time which would be better invested in making new experiences). If one can stay friends with someone and keep them as a potential partner without obsessing over them then it’s fine, and that could eventually become a relationship, but the first scenario is simply more likely to occur.

    • @j.j.714
      @j.j.714 3 года назад +9

      @@mafiu2585 yeah, that’s the key. When I said people gotta live day by day and appreciate every step of the way, I mean exactly what you wrote here. If “friendzoned”, enjoy the friendship and keep living your life. Maybe it’ll happen, maybe it won’t. However, if you can’t genuinely do that and think you’ll end up holding on to uncertain hopes, it really is better to just step back and move on

  • @plamitodorova5952
    @plamitodorova5952 3 года назад +81

    I love this! Baby steps, it’s watering a plant 🌱 it needs little by little to grow.💚

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      Hey friend I got my relationship fixed with the help of the greatest spiritualist who bought my ex back after many months of separation"

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      Here I leave his WhatsApp
      Number he will surely help you

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      +1 2 0 6 2 7 8 7 7 6 4

    • @jadarequel6853
      @jadarequel6853 3 года назад

      @@shamsualhaji6006 Hello dear friend do you need your ex back,or are you having relationship issues?💯💯❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯💯

  • @lilianetv1482
    @lilianetv1482 2 года назад +20

    We were friends, he expressed his feelings. I made steps towards him as I think he was a great person. It was intense at first as we already knew each other somehow but then he ended things and we lost the friendship too. I wish he had never started things as we would still be friends but now we can't after moving to another level and failing at it

    • @robert4you
      @robert4you 2 года назад +2

      If he had not told you about his feelings for you, he would have been absolutely miserable for years and years. He felt he had to convey his feelings. But then he realized that the relationship wasn't what he thought it would be, and he ended it. Going back to the earlier stage after this is basically impossible, far too much emotions, feelings and broken expectations has happened. There are actually many psychologists out there who say that science has shown that men and women (boys and girls) can't be "just" friends for years and years. It's psychologically impossible.

    • @Ry9653
      @Ry9653 Год назад

      ​​​​​@@robert4youThose "psychologists" are talking nonsense, of course men and women can be friends. I'm a (straight) woman and most of my closest and longest friends are (straight) guys. And what about gay and bisexual people, does that "rule" apply to them too, in their opinion? Does that mean that bisexual folks can't have any friends at all? 🤔 And I also think it really is possible to stay friends after a relationship, even if I agree that it's usually hard in that case, it only works if both really want it. But then it can be possible in some cases, too, I've seen them! You really can't generalize that sort of things.

    • @robert4you
      @robert4you Год назад

      @@Ry9653 Read my comment once again... slowly. You are missing the point.

    • @Ry9653
      @Ry9653 Год назад

      @@robert4you I read it several times already, as I always do when I comment something. So, what is the point if you think I missed it?

  • @monica4141
    @monica4141 3 года назад +36

    I was in the friend zone, confessed after 6 months I felt more, he said he felt the same. Had a relationship for 3 months and now I’m back in the friend zone as he found out he doesn’t want a relationship after all. Needless to say I’m gutted. And very hurt. Every time I see him, and that is a lot, it hurts.

    • @ruthchristos7174
      @ruthchristos7174 3 года назад +20

      Stop talk, go no contact u dont deserve a guy like this. He is not respct you a inch, he respects what he wants. Its not easy but stay away is the best choice.

    • @trinap.8904
      @trinap.8904 2 года назад +9

      Take a break, go no contact. If you stay he will use you for relationship advice, or tell you he's in love with someone else.

    • @petermulinzi1288
      @petermulinzi1288 2 года назад +1

      @@ruthchristos7174 why bring in respect?? i see no disrespect here just feelings no reciprocated that's it.

    • @karadiberlino
      @karadiberlino Год назад +1

      @@petermulinzi1288
      What a question…
      Respect should be present ALWAYS!!! How is that hard to comprehend? 😂👈🏼

    • @DariusW-2000
      @DariusW-2000 9 месяцев назад

      There is a difference between friendship and friend zoned. Friend zoned is that person doesn't care about you at all.

  • @m_jay5
    @m_jay5 Год назад +16

    Have some self respect and just walk away - There is NO BEING FRIENDS after BEING REJECTED (FRIENDZONED) - Find someone who really loves you! The "friendzone" is a mental prison. It hurts way less to be rejected and walk away than to stay "friends" with a person that rejected you!

  • @CrankyBarista
    @CrankyBarista 3 года назад +117

    Theres a fine line between friendship and friendzone...never assume it's the zone unless it becomes obvious.
    He who never tries never succeeds.

    • @jadarequel6853
      @jadarequel6853 3 года назад +1

      Hello dear friend do you need your ex back,or are you having relationship issues?💯💯❤️💯💯💯💯

  • @gregsoad5031
    @gregsoad5031 3 года назад +54

    The timing of this video is insane

    • @user-mwreixqw
      @user-mwreixqw 3 года назад +2

      For me too 😂

    • @alexisjviramontes
      @alexisjviramontes 2 года назад

      So how’s it working out?

    • @gregsoad5031
      @gregsoad5031 2 года назад +1

      @@alexisjviramontes friends for a year and as of January 13 we’ve been a couple

    • @gregsoad5031
      @gregsoad5031 2 года назад

      @@alexisjviramontes that being said, I don’t believe in the friendzone. Worked out for me because I was clear on respecting myself, I wanted a relationship and made my intentions clear when I realized it. If it was a no, ID no longer want to continue the friendship.

  • @helenjensen3729
    @helenjensen3729 3 года назад +49

    I love the short clips of advice 👍🏻 (also I felt I had to comment something because I was the first person to watch it 😅)

    • @77raymann
      @77raymann 3 года назад +4

      How polite. 👍🏻☺️

  • @RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light
    @RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light 3 года назад +9

    Im going backwards...from marriage to friends......and it's weird but ok and still we care and be kind which is important🧚‍♀️don't have to be enemies

  • @rcflightseeker3488
    @rcflightseeker3488 3 месяца назад +1

    He totally dodged the question.

  • @lisadeav73
    @lisadeav73 Год назад +16

    We were dating for 2 months, and then he decided he wanted to be friends. That don't work like that

  • @cuteboyy2847
    @cuteboyy2847 11 месяцев назад +4

    You go from friends to best friends to close friends to lover

  • @mysticalproductions1864
    @mysticalproductions1864 9 месяцев назад

    Totally agree ........ i have tried to do that since 1 year ago to one of my very good girl friend and i can say she changed her mind about me , i was there when she didn't have anyone else , you can say we are something more than just friends and no i don't mean like friends with benefits i mean something very deeper ...... this which i have noticed and i have understand is that she is afraid to admit it even to herself , ...... i have flirt with her , i know more about her than anyone else not even her other friends ...... i know her secrets , she opens very easily to me but to no one else , she has said and done some things which is tricky and a bit complicated but also shows a green flag ...........who knows ? Maybe one day ...... , but you know what ? Life is unpredictable that's why we have to enjoy the journey and don't focus only in the destination

  • @irresistiblep0
    @irresistiblep0 3 года назад +62

    I wished men wouldn't get bitter, upset amd ruin the friendship when the inch by inch move doesn't work. Often they can't be friends bc from the beginning they wanted more and it sucks .

    • @gregsoad5031
      @gregsoad5031 3 года назад +14

      I have not started a friendship hiding my intentions of wanting a relationship but I can not understand what is wrong with that? The end of the day the guy is caring for you and putting in effort regardless what it is so why is that such a bad thing? Not to mention for your first point they get their heart broken when the person they have feelings for and trust doesnt feel the same way but we cant give them any breaks to feel the way they feel can we? Comments like this are just stupid and inconsiderate.

    • @yoshi314
      @yoshi314 3 года назад +3

      men by default do not want to be friends.
      women don't want to tell them they don't want to be more than friends with them. maybe because they tend to avoid conflict and are more agreeable. or they like the attention.
      i wish women would voice their expectations better. i have met one so far in my life who did and we had a fantastic friendship. because she was upfront about it.
      think about it from a guy's perspective. you invest time, emotions and sometimes some money into spending time with a girl to get a reality check later on, that she doesn't really want you. how would you not be disappointed and a bit bitter?
      i mean if it's the 10th time this happens, you'll likely brush it off. but while it happens, you are invested emotionally and then comes the crash.

    • @yoshi314
      @yoshi314 3 года назад +11

      @@spajas8092 if we hang out with a girl - we like her. simple as that. and 99% of the time we don't want to be friends.
      goes without saying.

    • @yoshi314
      @yoshi314 3 года назад +4

      @@spajas8092 our actions express our intentions. that's how men work.

    • @j.j.714
      @j.j.714 3 года назад +8

      @@yoshi314 that’s ridiculous, only men who got nothing going on in their lives and aren’t confident in themselves act that way lmao

  • @iloveyellow7214
    @iloveyellow7214 2 года назад +2

    First of all Hussey brothers, HAPPY NEW YEAR 😁
    its been a great year and can I just say if You Brothers +Kev Hick+Stephan Speaks discuss this for a solid 45 min chat, it'll be great to watch 😎

  • @rorolilred
    @rorolilred 3 года назад +2

    Agree soooo much!

  • @kd7334
    @kd7334 Год назад

    It all depends on how much you value your friendship with the other person and set boundaries. I know people who've gotten married to someone in a friendzone. I've had friendzone with guys, and I've been friendzoned, but I valued our friendship more, so I made sure not to push and the same for the guy.

  • @Hulk-mc7bp
    @Hulk-mc7bp Год назад +1

    Sure. You can do it!! It worked for me!
    - Di Caprio

  • @suzannas.4965
    @suzannas.4965 3 года назад +18

    Men and women can't be friends. One is always interested in being more. Just my opinion.

    • @adrianchico8886
      @adrianchico8886 2 года назад +2

      I agree if you’re sexually or romantically interested in someone you have to make you’re intentions clear and known why go thr friendship route and try to pretend you’re the friend when in deep down you’re intentions are to obviously wanna date them and get into a relationship not beat around the bush type bullshit and wait all these months and years and finally confess you’re feelings to them and if they don’t feel the same way about or they don’t reciprocate back then that’s their loss

    • @ahmedrahim2500
      @ahmedrahim2500 Год назад +3

      steve harvey said the same thing

    • @anguyen2808
      @anguyen2808 Год назад +3

      I agree
      People are too stubborn to accept the harsh truth
      Guys and girls cannot be friends
      You can if you want
      Just know there will always be jealousy and expectations involved
      It will always be complicated
      People trying to force friendships
      It dosent work like that
      Unless somebody gay
      Then it’s 100 platonic

  • @sofiamsaville
    @sofiamsaville Год назад

    I agree with baby steps. But I just realised that some of healthiest, strongest and best relationships come from friends. And here I was friend zoning all my guy friends. 😮

  • @bones1active
    @bones1active 2 года назад +3

    I legit told my friend that I like her and we’ll see what happens when I move 🤷🏾‍♂️

  • @anguyen2808
    @anguyen2808 Год назад +2

    I think it’s best for everyone if guys didn’t have female friends
    It would eliminate so much drama and awkward situations
    Girls don’t have to worry about guys trying to hook up
    And guys don’t get friend zoned
    There problem solved
    Less drama
    People constantly try to deny the truth
    And that is having friends of the opposite sex will ALWAYS complicate shit
    Unless one of you is gay
    Then it’s 100% platonic
    That’s the only way to avoid drama
    Otherwise somebody gonna be jealous

  • @davidmcquaid7862
    @davidmcquaid7862 2 года назад +6

    If you’re wondering if you’re in the friendzone you are lol. The way to avoid the friendzone is to not get there in the first place, make your intentions clear, be alpha, make moves and see if she feels it back.

  • @annatevesbanzon1359
    @annatevesbanzon1359 3 года назад +3

    The assumption is that this friend isn't married and you aren't married as well.

  • @CrystalDatingCoach
    @CrystalDatingCoach 2 года назад +2

    LOOK into their eyes and say. "Let's go out on a DATE"?

  • @arlenesookchan3322
    @arlenesookchan3322 2 года назад +3

    We are friends but we would regularly flirt with eachother. I do like him but he says that he isn't ready for a relationship. So then why does he flirt back?

  • @nicolemcintosh6024
    @nicolemcintosh6024 Год назад +1

    Yes. Whatever happened to subtlety

  • @jhott917
    @jhott917 8 месяцев назад

    Wait...why is this only 25 seconds!! I need to learn more!! lol I am currently in the friend zone and it seems to be a pattern in my life so I could sure use some advice!

  • @coolteen2861
    @coolteen2861 6 месяцев назад

    I think it’s safe to say that I’ll only be seen as a friend to girls 😞

  • @PerformingGuru
    @PerformingGuru 3 года назад +14

    mmm it's advice like this that makes men get creepy and obsessive though...thinking they can change how a woman views them as if they don't already have a strong sense of who/what they want.

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      Hey friend I got my relationship fixed with the help of the greatest spiritualist who bought my ex back after many months of separation"

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      Here I leave his WhatsApp
      Number he will surely help you

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      +1 🌿2🌿 0 🌿6 🌿2🌿 7 🌿8 🌿7 🌿7 🌿6🌿 4

    • @iagreewithyou3478
      @iagreewithyou3478 3 года назад +3

      Indeed. This might work on some girls but I'm pretty sure there are others who have a clear sense of their likes and dislikes. If guys keep on persisting "unobtrusively" despite the rejection, the girl would just be annoyed and you get the opposite effect.

    • @rorolilred
      @rorolilred 3 года назад +4

      @@iagreewithyou3478 He said inch forward and see how they react not keep persisting when you've been rejected

  • @rachelbrown9693
    @rachelbrown9693 3 года назад +1

    Can you ever get out of the friend zone? If they don’t inch forward when you inch forward, what do you do?

    • @trinap.8904
      @trinap.8904 2 года назад +6

      Use that energy on someone elae

  • @amyp9010
    @amyp9010 2 месяца назад

    How to get the full video of this whole episode of this podcast

  • @jessicabuck5089
    @jessicabuck5089 3 года назад +3

    If someone told you no the first time you don't get to change it up after they have put you through hell, friendship over

  • @MegaMan-bs3oy
    @MegaMan-bs3oy 10 месяцев назад +2

    Bad take. If im a guy and I like you im going to tell you. If she just wants friendship then i say well if you change your mind let me know and i move on. Why? Cause i use to be the type of guy that would be used for his time energy and money. I just dropped a girl from my life who blew hot smoke up my ass about how i make her laugh im amazing all this. Would come crash at my house whenever she wanted. Talk about moving in talk about wanting kids one day etc etc. Id go for a kiss she turn her head laugh it off. So i flat out asked what do you want after almaot 2 years of on and off with this shit. She said friends. Just friends you got to accept it. I said okay i do. Started the car and cancelled the rest of the night i had planned for us. Drove her to my place to get her car. The only thing she said was "i really love hanging with you thou do you not want to be friends"? To which i told her you know what i want and if you change your mind hit me up. If not good luck out there. If she hits me up then she legit values me if i never hear from her again i know that was all bullshit and she was lying

    • @amyp9010
      @amyp9010 2 месяца назад

      Dang what a story thanks you for the details...I enjoyed your story..

  • @sheltiemomm5sisson631
    @sheltiemomm5sisson631 3 года назад +1

    How’d u get so bright so young❤️🐾🎯

  • @Nah-ah
    @Nah-ah 3 года назад +1

    Common sense really!

  • @matea99
    @matea99 3 года назад +2

    But what if you've been friends for around 15 years and you've been flirting for a few years and no one wants to do the actual first move?? :D

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      Hey friend I got my relationship fixed with the help of the greatest spiritualist who bought my ex back after many months of separation"

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      Here I leave his WhatsApp
      Number he will surely help you

    • @shamsualhaji6006
      @shamsualhaji6006 3 года назад

      +1 🌿2🌿 0 🌿6 🌿2🌿 7 🌿8 🌿7 🌿7 🌿6🌿 4

    • @Chapa24.
      @Chapa24. 3 года назад +2

      Someone’s gotta make the first move

    • @richpianos7755
      @richpianos7755 2 года назад

      If your interested be upfront as possible and make a move or you may end up seeing someone else taking that position. If you don't you'll regret it thinking what if?

  • @amyp9010
    @amyp9010 2 месяца назад

    Yeah I have told this guy I gave him compliments on specific things about him and he's never once given me a compliment.
    So what do you do, move on flirt w some one else at work

  • @cristinlacey
    @cristinlacey Год назад

    That answer did not help make that clear to me.

  • @amyp9010
    @amyp9010 2 месяца назад

    The guy wants told me he doesn't want romantic relationship he just wants to see me at work. And then we're here talking at work one-on-one because you work together it was like I'm just I'm not being myself but I am because it's hard to think that he's not attracted to me I don't know why I have such an ego I mean I mean I don't know I don't. Anyway I was trying to move on and I am still I think in denial for some reason. I see him look at me sometimes when we're working together other than that he'll be a stand up he doesn't look around he probably doesn't care if he sees me there or not I have thought about what if I transferred to different building is he going to care that I'm leaving?. I want to make decisions based on my personal needs not wondering if I'm not because I'm just I think I'm delusional over the whole situation and I don't want to be I want to be able to start with a guy that work I don't care if he sees it. There's a guy who is closer to my age he was interested in me and the guy that I like noticed it and saw it and I'm like I don't care right now I'm going to talk to this guy and get to know him. And sees me this guy have anything in common see if there's something there I love the conversations mean this older guy have.

  • @fergoka
    @fergoka 11 месяцев назад

    Just leave bro. ASAP!

  • @PandaJohns
    @PandaJohns 3 года назад +1

    what to do, if i have seen her doing crazy stuff with other guys, knowing i know it?
    kidding. rhithorical question.

    • @Poorstargazer23
      @Poorstargazer23 3 года назад +7

      Rhetorical because you don't have to (or even get to) take actions or interfere with another person's relationship... ESPECIALLY if they haven't asked you too... Right?
      Now maybe you should reconsider what kind of friend you're being by judging their actions as "crazy" 🤔
      This comment can veer kind of Nice Guy esque. Are her actions actually legitimately "crazy" or does it just feel that way because they're directed at someone who isn't you? 😬

    • @PandaJohns
      @PandaJohns 3 года назад +3

      @@Poorstargazer23 rhithorical cause with this actions she shows me i have no chance, and i better move on.
      u dont need to dig so deep.

    • @MARZ19XX
      @MARZ19XX 3 года назад

      @@PandaJohns maybe u can catch the train and show her ur mad rabbit. Don't give her the attention, just fix some chicks and show what she is missing...🤣🤣

    • @PandaJohns
      @PandaJohns 3 года назад +4

      @@MARZ19XX shes imaginary, man. just for example. kidding.
      i don't do things to show something to others. thats not a good aiming at goals)

    • @spajas8092
      @spajas8092 3 года назад

      @@Poorstargazer23 you missed the tree for the forest dear

  • @monasingh-theo2859
    @monasingh-theo2859 3 года назад

    Dating coach....

  • @hemiltongrace6699
    @hemiltongrace6699 Год назад +1

    Really

  • @lancerogers9694
    @lancerogers9694 10 месяцев назад

    Too late… try it on a strange girl she don’t know… she’ll either move on or break the attention 304 act.

  • @Hangman675
    @Hangman675 Месяц назад

    For a man and woman now please

  • @Amctothemoon
    @Amctothemoon 3 года назад +2

    All depends on the feelings towards each other , if one wants some thing else and the other doesn’t , that person is going to get hurt
    Ask a women who has put a guy in the friend zone to come over for sex see what he says ,

  • @evalagerqvist9846
    @evalagerqvist9846 Год назад

  • @marshagonzales593
    @marshagonzales593 3 года назад

    ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @monica4141
    @monica4141 3 года назад +5

    I was in the friend zone, confessed after 6 months I felt more, he said he felt the same. Had a relationship for 3 months and now I’m back in the friend zone as he found out he doesn’t want a relationship after all. Needless to say I’m gutted. And very hurt. Every time I see him, and that is a lot, it hurts.

    • @jelemil
      @jelemil 3 года назад +2

      Clean break