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I was friend zoned many years ago by someone that I was absolutely in love with after he ended our relationship. Afterwards, this man, the same man who didn't want me decided that he wanted to remain in my life. He turned into being one of the best friends I ever had in my entire life to this very day. Later he wanted to revive the relationship, but I no longer had romantic feelings for him. He has been my BEST FRIEND for 15 years... and counting.
I’ve had similar experiences. As a woman in my mid forties I wouldn’t waste any more time being guy’s best friends. After all these experiences, seeing guys I liked putting me on the shelf and marrying other women, I’ve eliminated all of them as simply associates. I no longer do this friendship business anymore with them.
I should do the same. If I get friendzoned by another guy, he will get ghosted. He might never see hear from me again unless he realizes he has feelings for me. I’m sick of being friendzoned.
As a guy if I put you in the friendzone then there is no chance we will be more than friends. Also I never put women I am interested in the friendzone so if you are friendzoned I was never interested in the first place. Also I do not play around with girls if you are in the friendzone I am not putting you there because I want to use you etc. I genuinely view you as a friend I disagree with the "men and women cannot be friends." But, that's just me everyone is different.
I’m cool with guys doing as you said but when guys put us in the friend zone, guys shouldn’t act as if they like us beyond being friends. Why friend zone me if you’re still going to hug, cuddle, try to kiss, compliment me, and all other things you’d do if you didn’t have me in the friend zone? Confusing and frustrating. 😖
⚠️⚠️ after 10 days of our relationship his mom passed away. Then he stopped talking to everyone around him for almost a month but he used to rply me once in a while. Then he said " i can't be in a relationship bcs it’s not what my mom would like" after some days he said " you deserve better you are so pretty.. Im not worthy of you, if u find smone better then please dont waste your time, i cannot fulfill ur expectations.i cant express things i feel inside nd you will b hurt" and after 2 months he said he doesn’t wanna date anyone or marry anyone he just wants someone with whom he can share his sorrow,smone who can make his day brighter n all.. What shall i do? Please help me.. I'm cnfused because him and his dad is also suffering because of his mom passed away n he still in a shock,stopped talking to everyone n talks to 3/4 persons including me⚠️
Guys don't always mean it. I think if some guys put you in friendzone, the girl is just not showing him enough interest so friendzone is his way of just giving up
Most women tend to friend zone nice guys. And use them to fulfill their emotional needs. To not feel so lonely being single, until they get with the person who they actually want to be with. And then it turns out that the person who they actually want to be with is no good. There's no problem being friends before getting in a relationship with someone. But it's important to be clear with your intentions and not use the person. The same goes for men not just for women. Men who are only interested in a one night stand, and then lose interest.
He is so spot on!! Ummm just to let you know Ryan, your relationship tips and tricks work for gay guys too. Your awesomeeeeee!!!! Thanks made me feel better about the friend zone and taking advantage of building the bond instead of worrying about the dang word "friend"
@@adday. Lol I rewatched this video. And the guy I was talking to ended up being the second scenario. He never truly opened up enough and would threathen me with the friendzone. Yet it is the Dead Zone. He doesn't even ask how am I. Lmfao. Life. Ryan keeps it real, and so do you! Thank you!!!
@@adday. I agree women will leave your butt right there....straight up...you done screwed up hunny if she said that OR you got one week. Ahahahaha. Many guys are either wishy washy or just ....different to say the least.
⚠️⚠️ after 10 days of our relationship his mom passed away. Then he stopped talking to everyone around him for almost a month but he used to rply me once in a while. Then he said " i can't be in a relationship bcs it’s not what my mom would like" after some days he said " you deserve better you are so pretty.. Im not worthy of you, if u find smone better then please dont waste your time, i cannot fulfill ur expectations.i cant express things i feel inside nd you will b hurt" and after 2 months he said he doesn’t wanna date anyone or marry anyone he just wants someone with whom he can share his sorrow,smone who can make his day brighter n all.. What shall i do? Please help me.. I'm cnfused because him and his dad is also suffering because of his mom passed away n he still in a shock,stopped talking to everyone n talks to 3/4 persons including me⚠️
sjulita This just happened to me literally and then I read one of his old post that he was going through some serious stuff that I had no idea. So I had to swallow my pride and extend him some compassion because you just don’t know if someone is going through something. I didn’t expect a response from him but he literally responded right away and we ended up talking all night. He told me he appreciates me just wish I didn’t get the wrong end of the stick. And now we are where we left off. So let’s see how this goes. It’s a long distance thing though.
@@accesstotheredcarpet Bella, we was talking in the nigh many hours about giving time to eachother after many promises from his side, about how we things and reactions are normal for one side and he said that he is introvertic, he don't spend time with friends and only because he appreciates me, he will not end the relation after our talk . We were friends for over 4years, but last 4moths he reacted and talk me things like a man, not friend. literally many times he said he'a men not a girfriend. I miss talking to him, but I can't run after every man who has "problems". I hope that time will help
⚠️⚠️ after 10 days of our relationship his mom passed away. Then he stopped talking to everyone around him for almost a month but he used to rply me once in a while. Then he said " i can't be in a relationship bcs it’s not what my mom would like" after some days he said " you deserve better you are so pretty.. Im not worthy of you, if u find smone better then please dont waste your time, i cannot fulfill ur expectations.i cant express things i feel inside nd you will b hurt" and after 2 months he said he doesn’t wanna date anyone or marry anyone he just wants someone with whom he can share his sorrow,smone who can make his day brighter n all.. What shall i do? Please help me.. I'm cnfused because him and his dad is also suffering because of his mom passed away n he still in a shock,stopped talking to everyone n talks to 3/4 persons including me⚠️
I love your advice and channel-but this time I have to disagree with you. I believe you and your wife are an exception. Not all guys that genuinely friend zone you (nice ones) are even conscious of the fact that they're saying to the wanna be girl "I like you enough to keep you on the bench forever-but you'll never be girlfriend material." I personally wouldn't do this to myself-I am going thru it now and am taking a different approach. I'm putting myself out there to see if there's someone who will make me a priority. Someone quite unexpected showed up ☺️
Oh, I can't thank u enough, Patrick! Your video is very useful for my situation. A married man wanted to be friends with me, but I turned him down cause I believe it's not all that he strives for. All his previous text messages display his secret feeling. I really believe he is attracted to me although he denies it. He beggs me to meet him where there will be a group of our friends. The sad thing is that I fell in love with him and suffered a great deal and I don't want to suffer again by keeping that kontact. He knows that but still wants to see me occasionally, although there is no hope we will ever be together. I find it really selfish of him. He just can't let me go!😥
Nice! Yeah, we are definitely friends, this particular guy and me. He does return my messages pretty quickly. He will sometimes keep a conversation going for a bit. He gets pretty enthusiastic when I pop up in his stream and we will hangout playing video games together and chatting over discord. I sent him a birthday present a few days ago (which means he gave me his address) and he was so stoked over what I got him. It was a Dude Buddha from the Big Lebowski. Hand made and everything. It was well worth the reaction to the gift. Unfortunately, we live far away from each other, but I hope when the Covid thing lets up, I can fly out to visit him. We have mentioned it a few times. He says I am always invited to come out there. He is just a great guy to know. Very intelligent and super kick ass personality. I don’t keep all my focus on him, but I am also not really looking either. This guy just kinda dropped into my life a year and a half ago and we have been cool ever since. So, regardless... if it’s meant to be, it will be. I’m just glad to know him.
I dealt with this in reverse where I friend zoned a really great guy because I found out too soon that he liked me and put my guard up from the beginning while getting to know him cause i only saw him as a friend at first- there were parts of who he used to be that would never have meshed with me and I wanted to see if the changed him is who he truly is now. Turns out, it's still somewhat of a mix. Even though most of his actions have changed, some thought processes don't line up, and he wanted to grow together but I felt like we were in 2 different places and just like parts of me weren't understood, even though he wanted to understand. The communication just never fully got there and I wasn't able to fully express myself and vice versa so I realized this maybe wasn't it or wasn't the right time-or maybe It truly was my fear in general. I've never had a guy who shares my values be interested in me and worthy of meeting the family and taking home to them.
Thanks Ryan, this video was super helpful, and has made me feel so much better about my choice to remain close friends with a guy I was "with" for while... Distance and his workaholic life of owning his own business has made our timing a possible issue, but I just wasn't sure if it was an excuse... But he continues to make me a priority and your words have given me comfort because I do also feel that we needed to know each other more as friends than we did... I'm glad there's a good chance we're still moving forward.
Friendzone is like being side options just in case if the main far apart. 😂 If there was interest on both side and he fall back with his emotions. I would moved on. If the guy friendzone u and keep u on the hook. Move on lady. U don’t need that kind of friendship.
The thing is I want to continue to be his friend because he truly cares about me as a friend but at the same time I dread the moment he meets other girls and of course since he isn't attracted to me right now he will be attracted to others, but maybe if I change my lifestyle a bit and he sees that, maybe I have a shot at him changing his mind about me, but it still is very painful right now. He acts like nothing happened, like my romantic feelings are non-existent and we're just two good friends and that's it, but I will always want more from him and I don't know, maybe one day he will want more from me. I am very confused at the moment, but I will pray it gets better. God bless you girls, we will get through this, I know it!
This guy was so perfect for me. He lives in the same residence hall as me on campus and we like so many of the right things. I stayed the night and shared his bed about four times. We cuddled and kissed a lot. He was my first kiss. Now he told me (through text) that he thinks we’re better off just “being friends” and he’s “not feeling it.”
Excellent advice for dating sites, too. If you send a smile or a wink and better yet a quick message (written by you) there is zero response (or even a canned or minimalistic response) in a week's time - "NEXT!"
I feel like I have an extremely unique situation with a friendship I have with a guy I like...aaaaaand I dunno what to do about it cuz it's low-key long story.
My guy friend said he definitely would have dated me if I lived closer. I’m just hoping one day we can close in that distance. I think we will know if the chemistry will be there when I get a chance to go and visit him. We have a pretty dope connection so far.
There is actually a third option as to why a guy might friend zone you and this one happened to me on a couple occasions. He's gay and not out yet lol. But I guess as we get older that's less likely. My best friend of 15 years did that and he's HORRIBLE about texting cause he's old school and prefers talking on the phone. But if I call he will pick up or contact in a timely manner. PS LOVE your videos. Your wife is a lucky woman.
@@nofybn7794 True. That's why I just said less likely cause it still could happen and infact I have a friend who didn't come out till 50! It just seems like nowadays ppl come out younger and younger. We got 7 year olds getting sex changes now. Things are so different even from when I was coming up and I'm only 32.
Getting back to my texts and snap chatting me quickly/ all the time and make planes after he says he wasn't sure what he wants right now and said "as friends"
I asked him if he wanted to study together and he said yeah, but see if others want to as well. Then the last text he sent me was thanks mate. Yet he replies instantly, and for months he's been acting like he likes me. We don't really talk outside of college, but we see each other 4 days a week, so this was like me trying to see if he wanted to hang out outside of college as well
I thought my boyfriend rob was my boyfriend thought he took me to our first date then he an I became intimate,then he put me in a friend-zone,now he's with another girl,he rub it in my face and I cried alot for it.i feel so alone without him.til I met my new boyfriend tonight,he'd ask me out an now we have date this friday.i never been so happier.
Hi Ryan, good video! My ex of over one year ago wants to be friends (Together 1 year, I went NC, after he dumped me via text, stating I should find someone who could devote more time..I was very hurt) We had a good relationship - got on well and had great chemistry...He was recently divorced when we met. Over the months, I have now responded to him if we bump into each other, as I no longer feel as angry toward him. He’a always friendly and has flirted. Recently he offered and gave me a ride home. We chatted and he commented on how we’ve always got on. He then said I could come by and that we could be friends. I’m kinda over him, but also know there’s a spark. I told him that I don’t do ‘friends’ and certainly not fwb! Does it sound like he’s playing games, feels guilty, or testing the waters? I’m a little confused, but not prepared to be an ‘option’. He seems more together now, than when we dated. Would appreciate your thoughts😊
Hey J... Thank you! And yikes! 😬Sorry to hear about this. So 2 things right off the top... 1. If you haven't already, please go check out my video "8 Signs You're His Rebound" here ----> ruclips.net/video/0VWJSlreyNY/видео.html This guy had no business being in a relationship fresh out of a divorce. 2. ANNNND this guy also had *no business at all* breaking up with you via text. That is so crappy and disrespectful. You can check out the video I did about breakup texts here if you'd like ----> ruclips.net/video/Pxn2FkAXiUE/видео.html Honestly, if it didn't work out as a couple, it's definitely not going to work out as friends (or a second-time-around relationship). The trust is gone so the "relationship" is nothing more than a hallow shell. I'd honestly run the other direction and cut off contact; you're better off if you want to know my personal opinion. Don't let his supposed "togetherness" now fool you. He's already shown you who he is. Like your intuition said "I'm kinda over him"...NEXT! 😉
Thanks for your response Ryan and links, which I have viewed. My ex was married 15 yrs, divorced 2 yrs prior to meeting me. I didn’t realise at the time, he left his wife for the woman he dated before me - making me his rebound! I believe he lost out financially from the divorce and seems to be more stable. He hasn’t defined ‘friends’, but I know I need trust to be any kind of friendship with anyone. I acknowledge I still have feelings for him. We both appear jealous if the other receives attention from the opposite sex. This frustrates me, as I continue to be open yo dating. I’m very outgoing and sociable, quite attractive and do well with male attention. As we move in the same social circles, I feel I need clarity. Platonic friendship isn’t going to work. If there’s romantic interest I would have to seriously consider this and he’d have to start from scratch as if we were strangers. I could be ‘friendly’ towards him, but never his friend! I’ve asked to meet up, which he seems ok with. I don’t believe you covered this scenario; friends with an ex, so thought this would be useful. I’m not chasing him, i just want to move on, as I feel a bit stuck. It will become clear whether he’s playing games, or is genuine! Be interested to know your your thoughts...😊
We have sooo much in common he even said that we are so similar and we could make a good couple as friends he texts me often, when I don't text him for few days he just asks what happened. He remembers nearly everything I told him. He calls me often and he even said he misses me, he gives me compliments, wants photos of me and he wants me to visit him so we can hangout BUT he said he sees me as a "brother/sister" and even more than that he wants advice from me he always calls me bro or friend he never is curious about my life like he never asks like for example what my favourite colour is he is now talking and meeting a girl I guess more than he does with me and talks about her to me but he says he has no feelings for her idk I guess I'm friendzoned
@@cherry09292 oh my it's so bad hope you are doing well, I finally had the courage to "ask him out" because not knowing his feelings was literally the hell ! He confirmed that he only sees me as a friend. But that's not bad at all because I'm finally happy now I know how he thinks, no more playing games and searching for answers
He uses me just to dirty talk lol He doesn't wanna be my bf bcz he claims that he doesn't wanna break my heart tho he talks to me whenever he s free sometimes more than 5h straight and I feel dumb and don't know what to do And I ve got feelings for him
You and I are in the same boat-except-we were having mind blowing sex then his so called "ex" pulled a stunt and I challenged him to take a stand. That's when I got zoned. It's awkward AF. To get my mind off of him I just started dating other guys. It's emotionally horrible.
so we are friends everything going alright. one day I have feeling for him. I am affraid to show I care and finally I try no contact. 2-3 weeks he try to contact me. its feel like he dont wanna cut our strange relationship but he is not asking serious relationship either. Do he take me for a granted? I will kick him if he try to do that. Dont know what to do
You believe chemistry can develop for a man? Was it your wife or your decision to be friends in the beginning? I met my guy friend and spoke all night because I had a fight with my bf at a dance event. He contacted me after a trip to Europe and invited me to drinks. We ended hookup afterwards. We are dancers in a community and I became jealous after seeing him with a female friend. I went a bit cray. We spoke and he realized i wasn't looking for FWB and he admitted he hasn't had a relationship in 9 yrs and gets skittish and he admitted there is a spark. To honor that I don't have sex with out exclusivity, he said we should take sex off the table. I said how should we go forward? He said lets be friends then invited me to get drink after our next dance event. He joked about racing me back to my place in his bike (long trek outside the city in a suburb) can this be salvaged? Intuitively think we have potential
I met this guy and he friendzoned me in a month and half and started ghosting me... I broke up with him But there is a piece of me still wanting him back 💔😔
I literally had this guy friend zone me and then he asked me the other night if he could cuddle me, I said yeah sure....then he said "I thought you said friends don't cuddle?" 🙄......why even ask me in the first place 😒
He is testing you and your boundaries. By letting him cuddle you actually come across as you do that with all guy friends. By setting boundaries and maintaining it you will make him either back off and be as a friend or step up as a man.
@@jeannetempest9127 that was my thought. He wanted to point out that he successfully crossed a boundary without having to be her boyfriend. That was ego. I probably would’ve said, “ok, I guess you should go sit over there then” if he’s showing awareness of his control of the situation. It didn’t sound like affection. He just pointed out that she let him override her feelings
How can I be legit friends with a guy who is into me? I don't want to lose the friendship but he's leveraging it to get me to be with him. I'm already in a committed relationship.
He chased me, asked for my phone number, took me out on a date and now he is telling me he sees me as a friend rather than anything else. He also said he would like to hang out as mates. I don’t see the point in hanging out with him…why is he asking me that? I don’t understand it’s really confusing the dating world is crap nowadays!
Sounds like he likes you as a person but doesn’t see more and that’s ok … you don’t have to accept his offer to be his friend though. If you don’t see the Benenfit just move on and close that chapter , you will be ok ❤
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someone on tiktok said "if you're a girl and a guy friendzones you, it means that he wasn't that interested to begin with and then she made it abundantly clear that she was interested in him" and I fear that's exactly my situation lol
weve been talking for 9years I thought we are on the next level we talk almost everyday but then all of a sudden he was dating someone and it was really hurt and painful.hope I can get over him
Guy just started talking to me, he’s called me hot, pretty cute, etc. He then said “You’re very attractive but my only intention is to be your friend,” then later on “goodnight cutie” 😂 like sir, what??
I didn't know what we were. We talked like we were dating again but then he went and asked to hang late at night at my place so I got confused. The next day I was fed up and straight asked him if we are friends. He said yes. So I said good then we won't have problems when I do certain stuff with other guys. He got mad and now he ignores me.
I took that one week blocked him everywhere he reached out to my sister I unblocked him but came with the same story I blocked for. He doesn't want to hurt me he's happy when I am but he just wants us to be friends because he has a fiancee. i never felt stupid like I did I don't know how to permanently block him without hurting him.
Ryan I know this is an old video but hopefully I can get some clarification. I met this guy on a dating site but he puts me in the friend zone. I’m okay with that because I’m talking to other guys. After watching this video I decided to message him about hanging out. I say, we should hang out soon. He answers, yeah we should😀. Then followed up with, we’re having a watch party Saturday btw. Is this a good sign that I’m not being strung along?
How can I get out of the friend zone.? There is a boy I like And he has also said he likes me too after I confessed to him.But he friends on me because he is afraid of dating again and getting hurt. But how do I convince them that she can trust me? How can I gain that trust? His exact words to me were I am afraid to date again because I still remember what my ex did to me And I will never forget it broke my heart.If I date again I'm afraid that the person I'm dating will leave me or break my heart.
I doubt anybody pays attention to this vid anymore, but anyone who runs by this I need help (bit of an essay here lol): This guy and I have practically been best friends for two years now. He talks to me almost everyday and unlike my other guy friends he does really sweet, personal stuff with me so I developed feelings for him after a few months. Come to find out though, he got into a relationship a couple months ago; they broke up in less than like two months, but it gave me the strong confirmation that I’ve been friendzoned and I felt so hurt afterwards. I’ve kept trying to have hope, but I just can’t look at things the same anymore and feel like I’m drifting from him. I’ve already somewhat started opening myself up to other potential relationships, but I feel like I just won’t stop caring about him unless we stop beings friends. I’m in it really deep and I’m just trying to figure out if it’s worth it to try to stay good friends, or to just deal with the hurt of saying goodbye to him. If anyone has any input it’d be much appreciated.
hi! what to do with a guy who doesn’t want to make a couple with you (or with anyone), so...he lives with me and sleeps with others...and i’m just in love and heartbroken, but he always lies like “it’s not mine condoms” or “this is my friend” and you know what. i’m so tired. thank you for listening
He’s a close neighbor that is 14 years younger but looks older than me. He says he is just friends but everyday for 9 months he texts, calls for hours,texts and comes over to hang out at my house. He wants to meet someone but honestly he has a crumbling spine and will probably end up in a wheelchair. Why is he always around me? I’m a placeholder until he finds his dream girl? My friend says he’s dreaming! I guess he’s lonely?
Mine is quite a conundrum. I've been friends with a guy for a few months, we hit it off straight away, clicked from the get go. He told me he isn't looking for a woman because his fiance died 5 years ago. So as time goes on I'm beginning to really care for him, and he is me too, asks if I've eaten, do I need anything. My heaters broke and he wanted to pay for them to be fixed I said no I can handle it. He says he cares about me etc, he used to send me rock music and metal music which is what we connected over, but now he sends me love songs, out of the blue. A few days ago I told him I care about him and he didnt reply. Hes not messaged me since, granted it's only been 2 days, the longest we havent spoken for is 4 days. I don't want to be pushy I know hes grieving still and my heart is actually broken for him. Am I just confusing my feelings of empathy for feelings of more ? Help lol anyone...someone ! Thank you x Will just add, I know what a grieving heart feels like, I lost my brother 5 years ago in an accident, he drowned, was just 22 years old. My heart is shattered still to this day so I know some of what hes feeling, and I feel bad for telling him I care because maybe that's put pressure on him. It's hard because, he still loves his fiance. Ah my head and heart are in a pickle. Can anyone relate ?
I can’t say that I’ve dated someone who’s grieving. But maybe having a perspective free of that experience might help. It’s ok to have empathy, but an emotionally unavailable person is still an unavailable person. Now, maybe his feelings are starting to change. And if you’re hoping they will, give him the green light. Let him do things for you. Let him be there for you. But don’t give him more leeway about how he treats the relationship with you anymore than you would another guy. If he’s not ready to give you what you want and isn’t making any true progress in that direction, keep dating other men. Just like you would if he was just some guy who didn’t grieve a partner. Because the reality of him not being with you is still the reality of him not being with you. You can have empathy while still not putting everything he needs ahead of what you need. It’s ok to be kind but not put your life on hold for someone who didn’t ask you to. It’s ok to keep looking for someone who does want the things you want right now. In fact, he might even value you more for being able to move on from him. It might give him some clarity that he won’t have, if he can take you for granted and know you’re always there. That’s my 2 cents. PS where I can totally relate is letting too much empathy become an excuse for why a relationship wasn’t what I hoped it would be. Empathy is wonderful, but don’t let that decide that you’re okay with less than what really makes you happy.
My situation is a little different in the sense that my behaviour hasn’t been good and i have bombarded him with texts. He’s gone right off me because of it and asked me just to be friends. I don’t want to go about texting and testing him because we need to take things dead slow. I want to get back to how we were before when we’re in love but as his feelings have gone, I have to tread carefully. We met online and haven’t even met yet so I’m hoping that it will all change when he meets me.
what if a guy explicitly said "I value your approach but I am available for a friendship. I don't feel stability between us. We can get along fine while we're relaxed and not expecting anything from each other.." is it worth it to be his friend or not?
Did you record him giving you such strict rules about interacting with him?? “I don’t feel stability between us”...but he’s available for friendship? 🤨
@@datingcoachryanpatrick thank you so much for the reply!!:) well he seems emotionally unavailable because his recent ex cheated on him. Also we don't live close so maybe that might be a factor??
I'm in a confusing situation. I went on 5 dates with this guy. We kissed a lot on date 4 and 5 and then he said he wanted to take things slowly and for us to be friends for now because he doesn't want to rush, and that he came out of a bad relationship less than a year ago. Should I believe him? After he said that he still texts me multiple times a day and wants to video chat with me pretty much every day. We also hung out together for the sixth time just the two of us as friends and he hugged me multiple times, long hugs, the type that friends don't give each other.
There someone I really like, I asked if I fall in the category of someone they could date, the person said I’m an amazing person but I’m too young for them, that every if fine except for the age. We have never met physically tho. But Please is that even enough reason? I’ve been devastated ever since.
he made the first step at night when he slept over he was hugging me and press his body against mine so I kissed him and we’re hooking up he told me he loves me and I know he never really made out before the next morning was wired he told me he has to leave early and then he told me it’s better to be just friends and that he sometimes loves me and sometimes not he began hating on things I like after that
Being sexual is to guys, the same as girls talking about their day and how they’re doing. You kind of would do it with anyone and it doesn’t mean you love them. That’s how guys are about sex. They want to know when. And they don’t care with who. If he ran out of their early, it’s because he didn’t want you to think the sex meant anything by him by spending extra time with you. Don’t waste time trying to get him to have feelings for you. He was ok with sex but didn’t want anything more. What he said doesn’t matter. How he acted does. You deserve someone better
Lol so sorry about the spamming but could you do the topic of ghosting please? It just boggles my mind completely 🤦🏾♀️ is it a hangover from tech? (That said, men used to "go out for cigarettes" way before tech!)... I'm just perplexed!
Hey so I just stumbled up on your video and I wanted to see what it was about. I want to say thank you for posting this video. There has been this fella and found out now doing the math and he's not really into me so I'm like you know what I'm good. Sad to know I was just a booty call 😢.
I got friendzoned an now he not even looking at my messages I send him so I’m not wasting my time on him he made it clear before we met not looking for anything. There are other guys out there too not just him
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So my crush(who is one of my best friends) asks me questions like if we were dating and what do you look for in a guy ect. and giving me scenarios like that but he texts me every once in awhile. He teases my friends (who think we are dating) and acts like we are a couple sometimes. I’m not sure if he is just messing around or not.
I have a question...my guy best friend and I have been friends for 4 years. Two years ago we did everything together and people even said that we look cute together. So almost every night we would lie on my bed and just talk about deep emotional things and at a stage one night he was lying down and said come and lay your head on my chest and I did. We held each other that night. He said this is working for what we need now. So day or two later he comes to my house and he always hugged me but this time he gave me a small kiss in my neck. I was so in love with him. We had a small social circle and when they would be around he would act differently. I was hoping to take our relationship to the next level but suddenly he sent me a message to say that we can't be bestfriends only friends because he might get a potential interest and then she won't be interested. I shut down completely and separated from him. I then started moving around with another girlfriend and he got upset. From there we did talk and he had another girlfriend. Shortly afterwards he worked in China and came to greet me. After he left we didn't really talk because of her. So they broke up and he bas been single for long. Two weeks ago he video called me and said he has no friends and need to talk to someone. So we chatted and now we are right back where we at before. Is he afraid to commit as he is 16 years younger? I love him😔we tell each other I love you. What do I do?
A guy I dated friendzoned me. He wanted to be friends..I told him I needed space (b/c I still had feelings for him). He then texted 2 days later, saying “he doesn’t like not talking to me, and not seeing me.” We now text daily (sometimes he’ll text me twice a day-he initates)...recently, I flirted w/ him and he shut it down. I feel like if we’re just friends, why does he text me so heavily? I don’t text my plantonic friends that often. What’s his deal?
He's just using you as his venting tools or to get his mind off other girls that he wish he could talk to but couldnt. Stop letting yourself being used like that.
He´s stroking his ego with you. Gets all the attention HE wants but doesn´t give you what you want , even though you made it clear to him that you´d like more. If he shoots you down there´s no point in the whole chit chat - it won´t end well.
Okay, so this guy told me he was interested in me and I was interested in him. But now, he just wants to be friends with me. He still wants to hang out with our group of friends but I don’t know what to do. I need more advice I guess? Help
He is attracted to you but scared to lose what closeness you guys have right now or he is just not ready to be with you. He does not want commitment. Trust me you dont want to be with this kind of man. Still be friend with him if you want but move on and stop being interested with him.
I ask him through whatsup what kind of women he like.. He said a more younger than him.. I just silent becoz it already cut me out. Then he said we are friend only. Good friends who have the same interest.. But now we still friend becoz we hang in same group, still texting, still hang but in a group.. DO YOU HAVE ANY MORE ADVICE.. BECOZ I STILL CANNOT MOVE 9N..
What if you dated them for 3 years though and they didn’t want to work out the things that were damaging the relationship aka his family caused the breakup now he friend zoned me. I have a sever mental disorder as well that makes it feel like death that he put me in said friend zone. I’m breaking inside constantly. Crying for hours on end.
I’m confused because you said that when someone breaks up with you you should not worry about talking to them or being their friend but then you say in this video that if someone friend zoned you you should accept it and it can turn into something more? Confusing!
This is a situation where you guys just met. You haven’t dated yet. If you guys were already dating, he suggests not staying friends so that you can move on. But, this context is that you guys just met, and you want to presue a relationship but they just want to be friends. I hope this makes sense. :)
What if u have a friend But after 14 years of being friends ask you to start having sex with him. But he mentioned it’s just sex. But when I said I don’t want to lose his friendship over just sex he didn’t talk to me for two days. What is up with that
Im in scenario #2 yes he stringing me along. He said let us be friends for now and let see where it goes. While he makes other woman his priority. Stupid!😂
Hung out with a guy at picnic . We chatted for a quite a while then it was time to leave . Other times we see each other after events and catch up. He usually comes over and hugs we chat for a bit. He says hes not as social as other people- so I tried messaging him “ hows it going?, nice to see you last month” He says yeah , was now summer is over . I said lets be friends , he said the same , have I put myself in the friend zone , by saying that? Or is there a chance that we could become more?
Yes, you have, and it now takes the pressure off of things needing to happen between you two. The friendship can *always* be upgraded to a romantic relationship down the road. Like I said, "friends first"... 😉
Dude seriously just cuz it happened w you does not make it so ... sure it happens but not often the word friend is a death sentence if you want more just sayin
One week??! That's long. I give them 3 days to figure out what's up and if they can't muster up some effort to make plans to hang out at some point.....boy bye. I have better things to do or wait around for...like a friend coming back from vacation to catch up over drinks. You don't think I'm cool enough to just hang out with? SEE YA. Don't waste my time, I absolutely hate that. Figure it out or talk to me about how you feel or GTFO
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If you're friendzoned, move on. If they act like they like you all of a sudden, move on. Don't waste your time lol 😂
Agreed. 😂
EXACTLY.
Currently in the friendzone for someone who wanted me in the first place 🙄. We talk every day and spend a lot of time together
@@joshuamac6302 that was the problem
@@kkdream99 omg.. I'm in the same situation!!!! I know how you feel
I'm in the same boat 🙄😟
@@kkdream99 sameeeee
Honestly you need to move on. You're wasting your time.
I was friend zoned many years ago by someone that I was absolutely in love with after he ended our relationship. Afterwards, this man, the same man who didn't want me decided that he wanted to remain in my life. He turned into being one of the best friends I ever had in my entire life to this very day. Later he wanted to revive the relationship, but I no longer had romantic feelings for him. He has been my BEST FRIEND for 15 years... and counting.
I’ve had similar experiences. As a woman in my mid forties I wouldn’t waste any more time being guy’s best friends. After all these experiences, seeing guys I liked putting me on the shelf and marrying other women, I’ve eliminated all of them as simply associates. I no longer do this friendship business anymore with them.
I did this test, and he completely failed. Now I’m blocking him.
I just ghosted him because I got friendzoned for too long (he also has a gf). I am getting my power and self-esteem back!
I should do the same. If I get friendzoned by another guy, he will get ghosted. He might never see hear from me again unless he realizes he has feelings for me. I’m sick of being friendzoned.
@@ariyonnathebeautifulariese4104 I'm married because I ghosted every woman for friendzone me. I was called every name in the book for moving on.
I ghosted my date as well. Block and delete
Don’t waste your time being guys friends. Make it black and white, either a romantic connection or no connection
This is dangerous because it can get performative trying to win them over with your awesomeness.
As a guy if I put you in the friendzone then there is no chance we will be more than friends.
Also I never put women I am interested in the friendzone so if you are friendzoned I was never interested in the first place. Also I do not play around with girls if you are in the friendzone I am not putting you there because I want to use you etc. I genuinely view you as a friend I disagree with the "men and women cannot be friends." But, that's just me everyone is different.
I’m cool with guys doing as you said but when guys put us in the friend zone, guys shouldn’t act as if they like us beyond being friends. Why friend zone me if you’re still going to hug, cuddle, try to kiss, compliment me, and all other things you’d do if you didn’t have me in the friend zone? Confusing and frustrating. 😖
He friendzoned me n 2 weeks later he was like u wanna be with me n i was like u said we were just friends lol..cant handle the games
⚠️⚠️ after 10 days of our relationship his mom passed away. Then he stopped talking to everyone around him for almost a month but he used to rply me once in a while.
Then he said " i can't be in a relationship bcs it’s not what my mom would like" after some days he said " you deserve better you are so pretty.. Im not worthy of you, if u find smone better then please dont waste your time, i cannot fulfill ur expectations.i cant express things i feel inside nd you will b hurt" and after 2 months he said he doesn’t wanna date anyone or marry anyone he just wants someone with whom he can share his sorrow,smone who can make his day brighter n all..
What shall i do? Please help me.. I'm cnfused because him and his dad is also suffering because of his mom passed away n he still in a shock,stopped talking to everyone n talks to 3/4 persons including me⚠️
Guys don't always mean it. I think if some guys put you in friendzone, the girl is just not showing him enough interest so friendzone is his way of just giving up
Most women tend to friend zone nice guys. And use them to fulfill their emotional needs. To not feel so lonely being single, until they get with the person who they actually want to be with. And then it turns out that the person who they actually want to be with is no good.
There's no problem being friends before getting in a relationship with someone. But it's important to be clear with your intentions and not use the person. The same goes for men not just for women. Men who are only interested in a one night stand, and then lose interest.
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He is so spot on!! Ummm just to let you know Ryan, your relationship tips and tricks work for gay guys too. Your awesomeeeeee!!!! Thanks made me feel better about the friend zone and taking advantage of building the bond instead of worrying about the dang word "friend"
Women are different than men. When we friendzone a man, he usually stays there, but I believe men are different.
And good luck.
@@adday. Lol I rewatched this video. And the guy I was talking to ended up being the second scenario. He never truly opened up enough and would threathen me with the friendzone. Yet it is the Dead Zone. He doesn't even ask how am I. Lmfao. Life. Ryan keeps it real, and so do you! Thank you!!!
@@adday. I agree women will leave your butt right there....straight up...you done screwed up hunny if she said that OR you got one week. Ahahahaha. Many guys are either wishy washy or just ....different to say the least.
@@MrLamontCranston Maybe he changed his mind. Take care!
He was committed, we had something, he chased but now he friendzoned me what to do ?
Same. I was engaged. What is the update?
Same here
⚠️⚠️ after 10 days of our relationship his mom passed away. Then he stopped talking to everyone around him for almost a month but he used to rply me once in a while.
Then he said " i can't be in a relationship bcs it’s not what my mom would like" after some days he said " you deserve better you are so pretty.. Im not worthy of you, if u find smone better then please dont waste your time, i cannot fulfill ur expectations.i cant express things i feel inside nd you will b hurt" and after 2 months he said he doesn’t wanna date anyone or marry anyone he just wants someone with whom he can share his sorrow,smone who can make his day brighter n all..
What shall i do? Please help me.. I'm cnfused because him and his dad is also suffering because of his mom passed away n he still in a shock,stopped talking to everyone n talks to 3/4 persons including me⚠️
same thing happened to me .. and now after months he came back
what should I doooooo
It's 8th day...he only watches my stories,but no contact...now I see how "important" I was..time to move on..
sjulita This just happened to me literally and then I read one of his old post that he was going through some serious stuff that I had no idea. So I had to swallow my pride and extend him some compassion because you just don’t know if someone is going through something. I didn’t expect a response from him but he literally responded right away and we ended up talking all night. He told me he appreciates me just wish I didn’t get the wrong end of the stick. And now we are where we left off. So let’s see how this goes. It’s a long distance thing though.
@@accesstotheredcarpet Bella, we was talking in the nigh many hours about giving time to eachother after many promises from his side, about how we things and reactions are normal for one side and he said that he is introvertic, he don't spend time with friends and only because he appreciates me, he will not end the relation after our talk . We were friends for over 4years, but last 4moths he reacted and talk me things like a man, not friend. literally many times he said he'a men not a girfriend. I miss talking to him, but I can't run after every man who has "problems". I hope that time will help
⚠️⚠️ after 10 days of our relationship his mom passed away. Then he stopped talking to everyone around him for almost a month but he used to rply me once in a while.
Then he said " i can't be in a relationship bcs it’s not what my mom would like" after some days he said " you deserve better you are so pretty.. Im not worthy of you, if u find smone better then please dont waste your time, i cannot fulfill ur expectations.i cant express things i feel inside nd you will b hurt" and after 2 months he said he doesn’t wanna date anyone or marry anyone he just wants someone with whom he can share his sorrow,smone who can make his day brighter n all..
What shall i do? Please help me.. I'm cnfused because him and his dad is also suffering because of his mom passed away n he still in a shock,stopped talking to everyone n talks to 3/4 persons including me⚠️
I love your advice and channel-but this time I have to disagree with you. I believe you and your wife are an exception. Not all guys that genuinely friend zone you (nice ones) are even conscious of the fact that they're saying to the wanna be girl "I like you enough to keep you on the bench forever-but you'll never be girlfriend material." I personally wouldn't do this to myself-I am going thru it now and am taking a different approach. I'm putting myself out there to see if there's someone who will make me a priority. Someone quite unexpected showed up ☺️
He told me he wanted to be just friends after we were already very intimate with eachother. It feels so empty and cold and alone without him
Same happened to me
That's option 2, the lying user. I've had that happen, he just didn't feel the chemistry. Better to wait
Same happens to me just recently!
Happening to me rn
Same... Happened yesterday
Oh, I can't thank u enough, Patrick! Your video is very useful for my situation. A married man wanted to be friends with me, but I turned him down cause I believe it's not all that he strives for. All his previous text messages display his secret feeling. I really believe he is attracted to me although he denies it. He beggs me to meet him where there will be a group of our friends. The sad thing is that I fell in love with him and suffered a great deal and I don't want to suffer again by keeping that kontact. He knows that but still wants to see me occasionally, although there is no hope we will ever be together. I find it really selfish of him. He just can't let me go!😥
Nice! Yeah, we are definitely friends, this particular guy and me. He does return my messages pretty quickly. He will sometimes keep a conversation going for a bit. He gets pretty enthusiastic when I pop up in his stream and we will hangout playing video games together and chatting over discord. I sent him a birthday present a few days ago (which means he gave me his address) and he was so stoked over what I got him. It was a Dude Buddha from the Big Lebowski. Hand made and everything. It was well worth the reaction to the gift. Unfortunately, we live far away from each other, but I hope when the Covid thing lets up, I can fly out to visit him. We have mentioned it a few times. He says I am always invited to come out there. He is just a great guy to know. Very intelligent and super kick ass personality. I don’t keep all my focus on him, but I am also not really looking either. This guy just kinda dropped into my life a year and a half ago and we have been cool ever since. So, regardless... if it’s meant to be, it will be. I’m just glad to know him.
IM ALWAYS IN THE FXXX FRIENDZONE 😭 THEN THEY GET MAD IF I WANNA TALK TO OTHER MEN💔
I dealt with this in reverse where I friend zoned a really great guy because I found out too soon that he liked me and put my guard up from the beginning while getting to know him cause i only saw him as a friend at first- there were parts of who he used to be that would never have meshed with me and I wanted to see if the changed him is who he truly is now. Turns out, it's still somewhat of a mix. Even though most of his actions have changed, some thought processes don't line up, and he wanted to grow together but I felt like we were in 2 different places and just like parts of me weren't understood, even though he wanted to understand. The communication just never fully got there and I wasn't able to fully express myself and vice versa so I realized this maybe wasn't it or wasn't the right time-or maybe It truly was my fear in general. I've never had a guy who shares my values be interested in me and worthy of meeting the family and taking home to them.
I am the one putting those men in friend zone...people treat you how you allow them to treat you...😂🤣😂🤣😂😂. Be nice but be clear how far they can go
They also hope it can turn into a friends with benefits.
Thanks Ryan, this video was super helpful, and has made me feel so much better about my choice to remain close friends with a guy I was "with" for while... Distance and his workaholic life of owning his own business has made our timing a possible issue, but I just wasn't sure if it was an excuse... But he continues to make me a priority and your words have given me comfort because I do also feel that we needed to know each other more as friends than we did... I'm glad there's a good chance we're still moving forward.
Friendzone is like being side options just in case if the main far apart. 😂 If there was interest on both side and he fall back with his emotions. I would moved on.
If the guy friendzone u and keep u on the hook. Move on lady. U don’t need that kind of friendship.
The thing is I want to continue to be his friend because he truly cares about me as a friend but at the same time I dread the moment he meets other girls and of course since he isn't attracted to me right now he will be attracted to others, but maybe if I change my lifestyle a bit and he sees that, maybe I have a shot at him changing his mind about me, but it still is very painful right now. He acts like nothing happened, like my romantic feelings are non-existent and we're just two good friends and that's it, but I will always want more from him and I don't know, maybe one day he will want more from me. I am very confused at the moment, but I will pray it gets better. God bless you girls, we will get through this, I know it!
Why would he ask to be friends after kissing several times and texting me every day?
Christina B Turns out he is emotionally unavailable and refuses to change and commit to any girl. Run. Put yourself first.
Christina B check out the book “attached” by Amir Levine, and adult attachment. It changed my life! I’ve stopped blaming myself and feel much better.
Put yourself first.... you are his booster ego bby....run,,,, learn,run and do never give too much too soon.
Officially starting the one week quest rn
How'd it go?
Why are guys so complicated or why do I enjoy being a complicated situation
Look into Attachment theory!!
@@ComradeFromRhody401
Or big bang theory
This guy was so perfect for me. He lives in the same residence hall as me on campus and we like so many of the right things. I stayed the night and shared his bed about four times. We cuddled and kissed a lot. He was my first kiss. Now he told me (through text) that he thinks we’re better off just “being friends” and he’s “not feeling it.”
The advice u gave for getting out of the friend zone didn't work for him, because he is so held back by fear.
Excellent advice for dating sites, too. If you send a smile or a wink and better yet a quick message (written by you) there is zero response (or even a canned or minimalistic response) in a week's time - "NEXT!"
I feel like I have an extremely unique situation with a friendship I have with a guy I like...aaaaaand I dunno what to do about it cuz it's low-key long story.
Same
same!!!!! mine is very complicated
My guy friend said he definitely would have dated me if I lived closer. I’m just hoping one day we can close in that distance. I think we will know if the chemistry will be there when I get a chance to go and visit him. We have a pretty dope connection so far.
There is actually a third option as to why a guy might friend zone you and this one happened to me on a couple occasions. He's gay and not out yet lol. But I guess as we get older that's less likely. My best friend of 15 years did that and he's HORRIBLE about texting cause he's old school and prefers talking on the phone. But if I call he will pick up or contact in a timely manner. PS LOVE your videos. Your wife is a lucky woman.
Aww thanks Alexandra! 😀
No, it could still be likely . Being older doesn't mean anything. They could be. Some people don't com out until they are much much older.
@@nofybn7794 True. That's why I just said less likely cause it still could happen and infact I have a friend who didn't come out till 50! It just seems like nowadays ppl come out younger and younger. We got 7 year olds getting sex changes now. Things are so different even from when I was coming up and I'm only 32.
Getting back to my texts and snap chatting me quickly/ all the time and make planes after he says he wasn't sure what he wants right now and said "as friends"
This guy friend zoned me then texts me every night and morning! Good morning 😇 and goodnight 😇 and then texts back really quick idk what to do
@@lexeyallen2654 he’s a psycho. I’m dealing with this right now
I asked him if he wanted to study together and he said yeah, but see if others want to as well. Then the last text he sent me was thanks mate. Yet he replies instantly, and for months he's been acting like he likes me. We don't really talk outside of college, but we see each other 4 days a week, so this was like me trying to see if he wanted to hang out outside of college as well
I thought my boyfriend rob was my boyfriend thought he took me to our first date then he an I became intimate,then he put me in a friend-zone,now he's with another girl,he rub it in my face and I cried alot for it.i feel so alone without him.til I met my new boyfriend tonight,he'd ask me out an now we have date this friday.i never been so happier.
Hi Ryan, good video! My ex of over one year ago wants to be friends (Together 1 year, I went NC, after he dumped me via text, stating I should find someone who could devote more time..I was very hurt) We had a good relationship - got on well and had great chemistry...He was recently divorced when we met. Over the months, I have now responded to him if we bump into each other, as I no longer feel as angry toward him. He’a always friendly and has flirted. Recently he offered and gave me a ride home. We chatted and he commented on how we’ve always got on. He then said I could come by and that we could be friends. I’m kinda over him, but also know there’s a spark. I told him that I don’t do ‘friends’ and certainly not fwb! Does it sound like he’s playing games, feels guilty, or testing the waters? I’m a little confused, but not prepared to be an ‘option’. He seems more together now, than when we dated. Would appreciate your thoughts😊
Hey J... Thank you! And yikes! 😬Sorry to hear about this. So 2 things right off the top...
1. If you haven't already, please go check out my video "8 Signs You're His Rebound" here ----> ruclips.net/video/0VWJSlreyNY/видео.html This guy had no business being in a relationship fresh out of a divorce.
2. ANNNND this guy also had *no business at all* breaking up with you via text. That is so crappy and disrespectful. You can check out the video I did about breakup texts here if you'd like ----> ruclips.net/video/Pxn2FkAXiUE/видео.html
Honestly, if it didn't work out as a couple, it's definitely not going to work out as friends (or a second-time-around relationship). The trust is gone so the "relationship" is nothing more than a hallow shell. I'd honestly run the other direction and cut off contact; you're better off if you want to know my personal opinion. Don't let his supposed "togetherness" now fool you. He's already shown you who he is. Like your intuition said "I'm kinda over him"...NEXT! 😉
Thanks for your response Ryan and links, which I have viewed. My ex was married 15 yrs, divorced 2 yrs prior to meeting me. I didn’t realise at the time, he left his wife for the woman he dated before me - making me his rebound!
I believe he lost out financially from the divorce and seems to be more stable. He hasn’t defined ‘friends’, but I know I need trust to be any kind of friendship with anyone. I acknowledge I still have feelings for him. We both appear jealous if the other receives attention from the opposite sex. This frustrates me, as I continue to be open yo dating. I’m very outgoing and sociable, quite attractive and do well with male attention. As we move in the same social circles, I feel I need clarity. Platonic friendship isn’t going to work. If there’s romantic interest I would have to seriously consider this and he’d have to start from scratch as if we were strangers. I could be ‘friendly’ towards him, but never his friend! I’ve asked to meet up, which he seems ok with.
I don’t believe you covered this scenario; friends with an ex, so thought this would be useful. I’m not chasing him, i just want to move on, as I feel a bit stuck. It will become clear whether he’s playing games, or is genuine! Be interested to know your your thoughts...😊
I have ben friends with this guy for a long tim He gets back to my texts pretty quickly occasionally misses a few but lets see
If you're judging your relationship on the speed of his replies you have different issues.
@@darkpaw1522 what kind of
@@tineh1246 Attachment and/or anything related to a fear of abandonment.
@@darkpaw1522 definitely have that fear and attachment
lucky you the guy i want to be friends with just been ignoring me
We have sooo much in common he even said that we are so similar and we could make a good couple as friends
he texts me often, when I don't text him for few days he just asks what happened. He remembers nearly everything I told him. He calls me often and he even said he misses me, he gives me compliments, wants photos of me and he wants me to visit him so we can hangout
BUT
he said he sees me as a "brother/sister" and even more than that
he wants advice from me
he always calls me bro or friend
he never is curious about my life like he never asks like for example what my favourite colour is
he is now talking and meeting a girl I guess more than he does with me and talks about her to me
but he says he has no feelings for her
idk I guess I'm friendzoned
I cant describe how much this is EXACTLY like the situation im in right now :')
Yes, you are in friend zone.
@@cherry09292 oh my it's so bad hope you are doing well, I finally had the courage to "ask him out" because not knowing his feelings was literally the hell ! He confirmed that he only sees me as a friend. But that's not bad at all because I'm finally happy now I know how he thinks, no more playing games and searching for answers
He uses me just to dirty talk lol
He doesn't wanna be my bf bcz he claims that he doesn't wanna break my heart tho he talks to me whenever he s free sometimes more than 5h straight and I feel dumb and don't know what to do
And I ve got feelings for him
He sounds emotionally immature.
You and I are in the same boat-except-we were having mind blowing sex then his so called "ex" pulled a stunt and I challenged him to take a stand. That's when I got zoned. It's awkward AF. To get my mind off of him I just started dating other guys. It's emotionally horrible.
He isn't using you unless he ask for money
so we are friends everything going alright. one day I have feeling for him. I am affraid to show I care and finally I try no contact. 2-3 weeks he try to contact me. its feel like he dont wanna cut our strange relationship but he is not asking serious relationship either. Do he take me for a granted? I will kick him if he try to do that. Dont know what to do
You believe chemistry can develop for a man? Was it your wife or your decision to be friends in the beginning? I met my guy friend and spoke all night because I had a fight with my bf at a dance event. He contacted me after a trip to Europe and invited me to drinks. We ended hookup afterwards. We are dancers in a community and I became jealous after seeing him with a female friend. I went a bit cray. We spoke and he realized i wasn't looking for FWB and he admitted he hasn't had a relationship in 9 yrs and gets skittish and he admitted there is a spark. To honor that I don't have sex with out exclusivity, he said we should take sex off the table. I said how should we go forward? He said lets be friends then invited me to get drink after our next dance event. He joked about racing me back to my place in his bike (long trek outside the city in a suburb) can this be salvaged? Intuitively think we have potential
How about he sees you like a sister? Same situation, he knows I like him and still we are friends and really close to each other.
Same
Good night
What about a friend you've had for a while that you recently developed feelings for but he veiws you as a friend
Bruh same
Hi
I met this guy and he friendzoned me in a month and half and started ghosting me... I broke up with him
But there is a piece of me still wanting him back 💔😔
Do you need helped?
Be strong. You did the right thing. Dont waste your time.
I literally had this guy friend zone me and then he asked me the other night if he could cuddle me, I said yeah sure....then he said "I thought you said friends don't cuddle?" 🙄......why even ask me in the first place 😒
I can totally relate to you.
He is testing you and your boundaries. By letting him cuddle you actually come across as you do that with all guy friends. By setting boundaries and maintaining it you will make him either back off and be as a friend or step up as a man.
@@jeannetempest9127 that was my thought. He wanted to point out that he successfully crossed a boundary without having to be her boyfriend. That was ego. I probably would’ve said, “ok, I guess you should go sit over there then” if he’s showing awareness of his control of the situation. It didn’t sound like affection. He just pointed out that she let him override her feelings
How can I be legit friends with a guy who is into me? I don't want to lose the friendship but he's leveraging it to get me to be with him. I'm already in a committed relationship.
You can't force him to be your friend... Tell him you are not interested and if he leaves than he leaves
This was super helpful thank you!
He chased me, asked for my phone number, took me out on a date and now he is telling me he sees me as a friend rather than anything else. He also said he would like to hang out as mates. I don’t see the point in hanging out with him…why is he asking me that? I don’t understand it’s really confusing the dating world is crap nowadays!
Sounds like he likes you as a person but doesn’t see more and that’s ok … you don’t have to accept his offer to be his friend though. If you don’t see the Benenfit just move on and close that chapter , you will be ok ❤
He told me we are never gonna be together. But he loves me. And he wants to be friends.
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someone on tiktok said "if you're a girl and a guy friendzones you, it means that he wasn't that interested to begin with and then she made it abundantly clear that she was interested in him" and I fear that's exactly my situation lol
weve been talking for 9years I thought we are on the next level we talk almost everyday but then all of a sudden he was dating someone and it was really hurt and painful.hope I can get over him
Guy just started talking to me, he’s called me hot, pretty cute, etc. He then said “You’re very attractive but my only intention is to be your friend,” then later on “goodnight cutie” 😂 like sir, what??
I didn't know what we were. We talked like we were dating again but then he went and asked to hang late at night at my place so I got confused. The next day I was fed up and straight asked him if we are friends. He said yes. So I said good then we won't have problems when I do certain stuff with other guys. He got mad and now he ignores me.
Okay what if they first flirt w u and make u feel special n then friendzones u??? What does that mean n what 2 do?
Same dis happened w me too. Now i domt understand wht he wants
Same here. Someone please help 😭😭😭
You don’t owe anyone anything who you don’t want a relationship with. And they don’t owe you being used for their attention.
I took that one week blocked him everywhere he reached out to my sister I unblocked him but came with the same story I blocked for. He doesn't want to hurt me he's happy when I am but he just wants us to be friends because he has a fiancee. i never felt stupid like I did I don't know how to permanently block him without hurting him.
Ryan I know this is an old video but hopefully I can get some clarification. I met this guy on a dating site but he puts me in the friend zone. I’m okay with that because I’m talking to other guys. After watching this video I decided to message him about hanging out. I say, we should hang out soon. He answers, yeah we should😀. Then followed up with, we’re having a watch party Saturday btw. Is this a good sign that I’m not being strung along?
How can I get out of the friend zone.? There is a boy I like And he has also said he likes me too after I confessed to him.But he friends on me because he is afraid of dating again and getting hurt. But how do I convince them that she can trust me? How can I gain that trust? His exact words to me were I am afraid to date again because I still remember what my ex did to me And I will never forget it broke my heart.If I date again I'm afraid that the person I'm dating will leave me or break my heart.
I doubt anybody pays attention to this vid anymore, but anyone who runs by this I need help (bit of an essay here lol):
This guy and I have practically been best friends for two years now. He talks to me almost everyday and unlike my other guy friends he does really sweet, personal stuff with me so I developed feelings for him after a few months. Come to find out though, he got into a relationship a couple months ago; they broke up in less than like two months, but it gave me the strong confirmation that I’ve been friendzoned and I felt so hurt afterwards. I’ve kept trying to have hope, but I just can’t look at things the same anymore and feel like I’m drifting from him. I’ve already somewhat started opening myself up to other potential relationships, but I feel like I just won’t stop caring about him unless we stop beings friends. I’m in it really deep and I’m just trying to figure out if it’s worth it to try to stay good friends, or to just deal with the hurt of saying goodbye to him. If anyone has any input it’d be much appreciated.
I am so glad I watched this video! Thank you!
What about when he had you in the wife zone then changes it to the friend zone
I needed to hear this
I did everything to get his attention. Now I WILL NOT come back and he can't stop texting/calling me 😎
Actually he put me in a friend zone and then he got angry when I call him my friend .what is that even mean 🙄🤦
hi! what to do with a guy who doesn’t want to make a couple with you (or with anyone), so...he lives with me and sleeps with others...and i’m just in love and heartbroken, but he always lies like “it’s not mine condoms” or “this is my friend” and you know what. i’m so tired. thank you for listening
Yo he is using you !!!!!! Kick him out!!
He’s a close neighbor that is 14 years younger but looks older than me. He says he is just friends but everyday for 9 months he texts, calls for hours,texts and comes over to hang out at my house. He wants to meet someone but honestly he has a crumbling spine and will probably end up in a wheelchair. Why is he always around me?
I’m a placeholder until he finds his dream girl? My friend says he’s dreaming! I guess he’s lonely?
Mine is quite a conundrum. I've been friends with a guy for a few months, we hit it off straight away, clicked from the get go. He told me he isn't looking for a woman because his fiance died 5 years ago. So as time goes on I'm beginning to really care for him, and he is me too, asks if I've eaten, do I need anything. My heaters broke and he wanted to pay for them to be fixed I said no I can handle it. He says he cares about me etc, he used to send me rock music and metal music which is what we connected over, but now he sends me love songs, out of the blue. A few days ago I told him I care about him and he didnt reply. Hes not messaged me since, granted it's only been 2 days, the longest we havent spoken for is 4 days. I don't want to be pushy I know hes grieving still and my heart is actually broken for him. Am I just confusing my feelings of empathy for feelings of more ? Help lol anyone...someone ! Thank you x
Will just add, I know what a grieving heart feels like, I lost my brother 5 years ago in an accident, he drowned, was just 22 years old. My heart is shattered still to this day so I know some of what hes feeling, and I feel bad for telling him I care because maybe that's put pressure on him. It's hard because, he still loves his fiance. Ah my head and heart are in a pickle. Can anyone relate ?
I can’t say that I’ve dated someone who’s grieving. But maybe having a perspective free of that experience might help. It’s ok to have empathy, but an emotionally unavailable person is still an unavailable person. Now, maybe his feelings are starting to change. And if you’re hoping they will, give him the green light. Let him do things for you. Let him be there for you. But don’t give him more leeway about how he treats the relationship with you anymore than you would another guy. If he’s not ready to give you what you want and isn’t making any true progress in that direction, keep dating other men. Just like you would if he was just some guy who didn’t grieve a partner. Because the reality of him not being with you is still the reality of him not being with you. You can have empathy while still not putting everything he needs ahead of what you need. It’s ok to be kind but not put your life on hold for someone who didn’t ask you to. It’s ok to keep looking for someone who does want the things you want right now. In fact, he might even value you more for being able to move on from him. It might give him some clarity that he won’t have, if he can take you for granted and know you’re always there. That’s my 2 cents.
PS where I can totally relate is letting too much empathy become an excuse for why a relationship wasn’t what I hoped it would be. Empathy is wonderful, but don’t let that decide that you’re okay with less than what really makes you happy.
My situation is a little different in the sense that my behaviour hasn’t been good and i have bombarded him with texts. He’s gone right off me because of it and asked me just to be friends. I don’t want to go about texting and testing him because we need to take things dead slow. I want to get back to how we were before when we’re in love but as his feelings have gone, I have to tread carefully. We met online and haven’t even met yet so I’m hoping that it will all change when he meets me.
what if a guy explicitly said "I value your approach but I am available for a friendship. I don't feel stability between us. We can get along fine while we're relaxed and not expecting anything from each other.."
is it worth it to be his friend or not?
Did you record him giving you such strict rules about interacting with him?? “I don’t feel stability between us”...but he’s available for friendship? 🤨
@@datingcoachryanpatrick thank you so much for the reply!!:) well he seems emotionally unavailable because his recent ex cheated on him. Also we don't live close so maybe that might be a factor??
I'm in a confusing situation. I went on 5 dates with this guy. We kissed a lot on date 4 and 5 and then he said he wanted to take things slowly and for us to be friends for now because he doesn't want to rush, and that he came out of a bad relationship less than a year ago. Should I believe him? After he said that he still texts me multiple times a day and wants to video chat with me pretty much every day. We also hung out together for the sixth time just the two of us as friends and he hugged me multiple times, long hugs, the type that friends don't give each other.
Emotionally unavailable to bare the responsibility and commitment of a relationship
There someone I really like, I asked if I fall in the category of someone they could date, the person said I’m an amazing person but I’m too young for them, that every if fine except for the age. We have never met physically tho. But Please is that even enough reason? I’ve been devastated ever since.
Saved this video for good 💕 Thanks very timely
Oh know 😰 i wish I would have known about this before.
he made the first step at night when he slept over he was hugging me and press his body against mine so I kissed him and we’re hooking up he told me he loves me and I know he never really made out before the next morning was wired he told me he has to leave early and then he told me it’s better to be just friends and that he sometimes loves me and sometimes not he began hating on things I like after that
Being sexual is to guys, the same as girls talking about their day and how they’re doing. You kind of would do it with anyone and it doesn’t mean you love them. That’s how guys are about sex. They want to know when. And they don’t care with who. If he ran out of their early, it’s because he didn’t want you to think the sex meant anything by him by spending extra time with you. Don’t waste time trying to get him to have feelings for you. He was ok with sex but didn’t want anything more. What he said doesn’t matter. How he acted does. You deserve someone better
@@Mayfloweralways thanks that’s nice of you :)
It nice what you say how about you like a guy but he just sees
You as a good close friend. How do you turn it around
Idk...mine doesn't feel the same way...I wish I didn't tell him...I only did because I felt chemistry
Lol so sorry about the spamming but could you do the topic of ghosting please? It just boggles my mind completely 🤦🏾♀️ is it a hangover from tech? (That said, men used to "go out for cigarettes" way before tech!)... I'm just perplexed!
this is so bull-crap lmao, literally just get fit and dress sexy 😂🤣👌
@@tailsntrails I'm not lmao ;)
Ryan, when you said that two people when they were together, they melt into the slower energy, ??? well, this is true.
Hey so I just stumbled up on your video and I wanted to see what it was about. I want to say thank you for posting this video. There has been this fella and found out now doing the math and he's not really into me so I'm like you know what I'm good. Sad to know I was just a booty call 😢.
Hi
I got friendzoned an now he not even looking at my messages I send him so I’m not wasting my time on him he made it clear before we met not looking for anything. There are other guys out there too not just him
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Why is he trying to hook me up with his friend. Twice! His friend is repulsive to me.
He friend zone but tells me he didn't friend zone me I did 😅 he ghosted me recently
So my crush(who is one of my best friends) asks me questions like if we were dating and what do you look for in a guy ect. and giving me scenarios like that but he texts me every once in awhile. He teases my friends (who think we are dating) and acts like we are a couple sometimes. I’m not sure if he is just messing around or not.
He wants me to be in bro-sis relationship but with sex. I was like what the hell?
Yim Veerasak tf🤦🏽♀️
That's bizarre...
Great advice
I have a question...my guy best friend and I have been friends for 4 years. Two years ago we did everything together and people even said that we look cute together. So almost every night we would lie on my bed and just talk about deep emotional things and at a stage one night he was lying down and said come and lay your head on my chest and I did. We held each other that night. He said this is working for what we need now. So day or two later he comes to my house and he always hugged me but this time he gave me a small kiss in my neck. I was so in love with him. We had a small social circle and when they would be around he would act differently. I was hoping to take our relationship to the next level but suddenly he sent me a message to say that we can't be bestfriends only friends because he might get a potential interest and then she won't be interested. I shut down completely and separated from him. I then started moving around with another girlfriend and he got upset. From there we did talk and he had another girlfriend. Shortly afterwards he worked in China and came to greet me. After he left we didn't really talk because of her. So they broke up and he bas been single for long. Two weeks ago he video called me and said he has no friends and need to talk to someone. So we chatted and now we are right back where we at before. Is he afraid to commit as he is 16 years younger? I love him😔we tell each other I love you. What do I do?
A guy I dated friendzoned me. He wanted to be friends..I told him I needed space (b/c I still had feelings for him). He then texted 2 days later, saying “he doesn’t like not talking to me, and not seeing me.” We now text daily (sometimes he’ll text me twice a day-he initates)...recently, I flirted w/ him and he shut it down. I feel like if we’re just friends, why does he text me so heavily? I don’t text my plantonic friends that often. What’s his deal?
same for me i hope theres answer
He's just using you as his venting tools or to get his mind off other girls that he wish he could talk to but couldnt. Stop letting yourself being used like that.
@@icanisa Very true
He´s stroking his ego with you. Gets all the attention HE wants but doesn´t give you what you want , even though you made it clear to him that you´d like more. If he shoots you down there´s no point in the whole chit chat - it won´t end well.
How can I hire you for dating coach sessions?? Love your videos!
My bf is going into a 48hr timeout starting from 2 hours ago 🥺🥺🥺
I accept friend zone
Okay, so this guy told me he was interested in me and I was interested in him. But now, he just wants to be friends with me. He still wants to hang out with our group of friends but I don’t know what to do. I need more advice I guess? Help
He is attracted to you but scared to lose what closeness you guys have right now or he is just not ready to be with you. He does not want commitment. Trust me you dont want to be with this kind of man. Still be friend with him if you want but move on and stop being interested with him.
@@christinepascua3449 thank you for your honesty!!
I ask him through whatsup what kind of women he like.. He said a more younger than him.. I just silent becoz it already cut me out. Then he said we are friend only. Good friends who have the same interest.. But now we still friend becoz we hang in same group, still texting, still hang but in a group.. DO YOU HAVE ANY MORE ADVICE.. BECOZ I STILL CANNOT MOVE 9N..
Damn. How old r u 😂
What if you dated them for 3 years though and they didn’t want to work out the things that were damaging the relationship aka his family caused the breakup now he friend zoned me. I have a sever mental disorder as well that makes it feel like death that he put me in said friend zone. I’m breaking inside constantly. Crying for hours on end.
I’m confused because you said that when someone breaks up with you you should not worry about talking to them or being their friend but then you say in this video that if someone friend zoned you you should accept it and it can turn into something more? Confusing!
This is a situation where you guys just met. You haven’t dated yet. If you guys were already dating, he suggests not staying friends so that you can move on. But, this context is that you guys just met, and you want to presue a relationship but they just want to be friends.
I hope this makes sense. :)
What if u have a friend But after 14 years of being friends ask you to start having sex with him. But he mentioned it’s just sex. But when I said I don’t want to lose his friendship over just sex he didn’t talk to me for two days. What is up with that
Im in scenario #2 yes he stringing me along. He said let us be friends for now and let see where it goes. While he makes other woman his priority. Stupid!😂
Hung out with a guy at picnic . We chatted for a quite a while then it was time to leave . Other times we see each other after events and catch up. He usually comes over and hugs we chat for a bit. He says hes not as social as other people- so I tried messaging him “ hows it going?, nice to see you last month”
He says yeah , was now summer is over .
I said lets be friends , he said the same , have I put myself in the friend zone , by saying that? Or is there a chance that we could become more?
Yes, you have, and it now takes the pressure off of things needing to happen between you two. The friendship can *always* be upgraded to a romantic relationship down the road. Like I said, "friends first"... 😉
Dude seriously just cuz it happened w you does not make it so ... sure it happens but not often the word friend is a death sentence if you want more just sayin
One week??! That's long. I give them 3 days to figure out what's up and if they can't muster up some effort to make plans to hang out at some point.....boy bye. I have better things to do or wait around for...like a friend coming back from vacation to catch up over drinks. You don't think I'm cool enough to just hang out with? SEE YA. Don't waste my time, I absolutely hate that. Figure it out or talk to me about how you feel or GTFO
Hi Patrick boy everything u say is true