*NEW SUMMER 2024* I now offer self-guided *online courses* to help women of ANY age and experience level CRUSH those single streets FASTER and more efficiently! 🙂 Check out my course offerings here 👉 www.boyfriendblueprint.com/courses
"you must do the passive aggressive thing well. Sneaky! " Me: i didnt know that me being me always had a motive other than to just be me. 😁 Im glad im quiet, shy, reserved, & withdrawn when i am. Whew wee 🤓😁 bc when i get going, especially on giddyness, oh gah id embarrass myself way more often if i was that obvious. Hell, even when i do open up, its sometimes just random.
@@ahhwe-any7434 Hi there. I don't think that personality traits is what Ryan is referring to. If your personality traits are quiet/shy/reserved, then a woman will care for you for who you are. I think Ryan is referring to a man who doesn't make the woman a priority in his life. If she is doing all the giving and accommodating, then the relationship is unbalanced. She will need to evaluate if he truly loves her in action and is respectful of her commitment to the relationship.
I've met baby boomer aged men on line, talked on the phone, texted and dated. 98% have lied about themselves like their height, income and relationship status. I've been love bombed and zombied. After 1 year, I quit online dating and met a good man organically. My husband is the love of my life now (thank you Jesus).
Glad things turned out well for you in the end, but your experience is...your experience. Many baby boomers have found a mate online. I think you should throw out fishing lines everywhere and see what you catch. Up the odds by considering all strategies...😍
Omg I had a guy say he was 42 and showed up and he was 66 bald and fat. Like you didn’t think I would notice. And he was the stupidest person ever. I felt sorry for him. Pathetic that you have to lie. Sorry but authenticity is important. Hey you guy making this video... make one to teach men how to treat women. We are not the problem. I don’t lie, I am loyal and kind.
@@jbehlok Do you really believe that men don’t encounter this very same scenario on their online dates? It’s not a man vs woman thing...it’s a deceptive people vs honest people thing.
@@ltdodgen tell us about it. I know men have been catfished and so have I but the things in this video he was talking about men doing these things. I don't know what women do. But its a crap shoot. Many people don't know who they are and they do this stupid stuff and they stay single for a reason. I try not to ghost and give a reason why I am exiting but it doesn't always go well. Ghosting is sometimes more healthy and define intervention. I did have a guy say to me are you real send me pictures, that their are just sex adds on their side. Well maybe the numbers of women on-line have declined because of their bad behavior because women are afraid of those sites and they have little ing the companies to pull from. Like I heard that like bumble has 10k men to 2k females using the site. I had a guy ask me if I was real because he said their are all these adds of girls that are hookers. one the looking at my side at men their are a lot of out of shape, unshaved men holding a dead fish or deer back woods look and to me yuck not my type.The good looking men are all sex addicts and cheaters. you get the couples looking for a third and the kinky people, and women just say hi and don't write back. and I tried it for 4 years and that's all you get over and over. I had to sadly write in my profile I like a guy that is well groomed, cologne and shaves. The lady on these comments who said she saw the same thing, she is write I see that too. With women there is a wide gamut of looks, size, and interests. women put far more time in their profiles. Their are the rear exceptions and those catch your eye. Sites are focused on shallow stuff, rear is the key word.
Bottom line- my male friends all tell me they know most women are desperate for companionship. Men believe women need them financially (of course we need partners, since we are paid 70 cents on the dollar for the same work- hard to thrive on a single stagnant income these days). Also, inherently, most women prefer companionship and value relationships- in our DNA. Men know this and exploit it.
I'm ashamed to admit that I have been fooled by a guy who is guilty of all these crimes. He's been given a lifetime sentence of never hearing from me again.
Don't be ashamed! No one is expected to be a mind reader. It's so sad that people blame themselves. This is sociopath behavior. If you ever had to break up with somone who really liked you but you just didn't like them that much.. AUGH it's aweful, I'd rather be dumped 10 x than that. If people don't feel bad about hurting someone who cares for them, they are lacking a fundamental piece of humanity.
Hey Ryan, My relationship is several months long. We are both 50+. He suddenly backed off. I binged a bunch of your video's. I was frantic. Fortunately, I did not let him know I was freaking out. I took your advice and was not available. You were right. 2 days later, he is calling me and texting, he is freaking out. I am still backed off, kind of a 'whatever' position, keeping busy, not taking all of his calls, not txting much, it worked. You were so right and I am much calmer and happier. Thanks Ryan! Patti P
Great idea Ryan. I appreciate your advice. I’m 61 and widowed. I’ve been single for over 3 yrs and I’ve tried the in-line dating thing on and off since 2018. Done. It’s been a nightmare; experienced pretty much everything you described. But now instead of feeling bad. I feel empowered. Their loss not mine 😊
I’m 42. Never been married. Lived in NYC my whole life. I’m introverted and pretty sensitive and it’s hard to deal with dating in general. Don’t want to end up alone but I do have standards. I want to have real intimacy but I’ve dated guys who are boring, or pushing too soon for sex, or just impolite. I’m interested in a guy who I think did submarining- and the intimate side of the relationship got me hooked and I don’t want to be over him. Pretty rough out there! Can u show something for the gen x demographic who would need help navigating dating in a city?
I can't believe people still do online dating. I did it for years and learned many of lessons. Don't do it ladies! Besides that, it's not even safe no more to be meeting complete strangers anyways.
I disagree. It’s just another way to up the odds of meeting a man. But you do need to be smart about it. I’m afraid many women are just too naive to handle this method of meeting men. This might be why they have one bad experience after another.
I gave up the Online dating...even though in rare occasions through a mutual Friend you might find the Guy..maybe????even though you try but don't push yourself to hard ...they'll run...take it easy and observe!
I am 56. Would love to see videos for my age group. Ive been watching all of your videos and have learned so much! I wish I would have had your advice years ago!
You hit three to which I learned the hard way. Thank you for this video it was so helpful. I’m 52 and this was with someone my age so he was a pro and diverted the signs very well whenever there was a possibility of figuring it out. However now I know!! You are awesome!!
Wow. I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while and am shocked at the various types of behavior described in this video! Thanks for the enlightenment!
A guy lied to me about his age by about three years (I google searched him). That was enough for me to be done with him. I kept asking him when was his birthday, and he would just get silent and trail off. If I can't even trust him with something so minor, he's probably lying about everything else! And his profiles seemed incomplete; they told me nothing about his life. They were all pics of him in the gym from like 15 years ago. He said that the pictures were only 3 years old, but he's really fat now. There's no way someone could go from super skinny to morbidly obese in a matter of three years. So yeah, if can't trust you, YOU'VE GOTTA GO!!
Recently divorced, 49 and clueless! I’ve been ignoring bad behavior in men for way too long! Part of that is from years of emotional abuse which leads to No Confidence! These men don’t even have to make their own excuses...I do it for them. Thank you Ryan, appreciate your videos. Stella is getting her Groove Back! (The happily ever after “movie” version 😉)
Loved the words & meanings haha... really hard not to laugh about similar situations ... but years later. Thanks so much for helping us understand what the matter is, and I believe I am so much different that people will also treat me waaay differently .
Hey Ryan, I discover your channel, frankly, you talk about many realistic things. 21 years marriage, 25 together, and now 3 separated/divorced. I don't regret my marriage I take everything in a positive way a very great learning experience. But I this point, dating it is very inconsistent, it is hard to find guys that commit, or really just want to have a good friendship to begin with...all they want or have written in their faces is "I wanna have sex w you", and truly that's not me, I need or have to get to know the person first, before I invest or anything could happen, I could use some advise...this times it is harder than 20 yrs ago..lol...so totally different... Thanks...
A man I knew for years finally seemed to make his move. I was in the process of separating from my ex and was extremely vulnerable at the time. He started calling me a lot and talking so nicely to me! He would offer to take me places, take care of me and even said...loved me! We started to hang out regularly and one time when things seemed to be going really well...he actually told me that he was...going to have sex with some girl! I was so shocked, I found myself speechless for good five minutes! I kind of continued to visit him for a bit more just to come out of it because I just couldn't believe it until I just did not feel comfortable anymore and was ready to move on. I could not believe this!
I'm 41 I just started to love and respect my self. I have a guy that I'm interested in but I think he is just being nice to me. So I'm going to watch for signs that he is interested or not.
Yes! I had a guy "scrooge" me two days before my birthday. Very convenient. He was stingy with money in general, so it was a blessing, really, even though I didn't see it at the time.
I haven’t had a good date in years. I’m 45 and can just see through all the BS. Or I have some serious walls up and very high standards.. Great idea on the age range days!
Man! You just described my narcissistic ex BF who I left a year ago in May of this year. I was with him waaayyy too long, 4.5 yrs. And I haven't dated since and really just have too much to heal now because of him. IF I were to date again, if someone did Any of these to me...there would be no second chances....instant goodbye, good riddance, now.
Been loved bombed, got involved with a real life narcissist. Bread crumbling and lying was his specialty. We went on many dates though. After 8 months he started dating other women and forgot to let me know about it, LOL Cheating and acting like he didn't do anything wrong. He was, very manipulative, what a rollercoaster.
Thank you for loading this video. I am in a relationship with a man that is dating another girl as well I've been with him for 2 years and the other girl is with him for 6 years. He supports me big time financially and I wish it wasn't the case so that i can just move on with my life......I've tried moving on but he always bail me out financially so I feel kinda stuck.
I was just not only ghosted with no warning at all, but submarining. Hurt really bad cause it had been close to four months and I had invested 100%. Now it’s been two weeks and he will not even talk to me or tell me what happened. So I pretty much am dealing with the pain and moving on. But will not lie I plot in my mind how I want to hurt him back. Would never to it just think about it. Lesson learned completely.
I got love bombed by a controlling, narcissist, p*** obsessor and he was an older guy...good thing I recognized the red flags and hey hoed myself out of there in less than a month
I recently had a guy who was roaching. We lived an hour apart so weekends were our spend-time. I’d say, “Wanna hang out Friday?” and he’d say, “I can’t. I have a thing.” A thing?? The ambiguity was a tell-tale, because usually he would give me all the details of what he was doing. When I got quiet he knew I knew, b/c he pressed me “What’s wrong?” I explained. He then said, “I’m just going to a house party.” So then I knew he didn’t want to invite me along as his date. I never found out the reason, but I figured he was either trolling for another woman or that he would be openly using drugs...or both. BTW, our entire relationship was built on a lie. When we met he didn’t tell me that he needed to get drunk and high daily to function. He slipped that info to me little by little beginning with our second and third dates. I’m a mental health counselor so I tried to be understanding. Another time he accidentally sent me a text that said “We can do some together.” I’m assuming he was talking about using cocaine. He told me the message was to me and the message was about us playing guitar together. 😆 What a liar! This guy could barely cope with basic life stressors on a daily basis. And...he’s trying to get a Top Secret government security clearance. You would not believe the number of mentally imbalanced people who are running our government...but that’s another story.............P.S. Regarding this dating episode, to be fair, I was cuffing to get through the holiday season. I only require a boyfriend two months out of the year. My life is about the work life and my goals. If I ever do have a life partner he’ll have to be as purposeful about life and integrity-marked as I am. I don’t have time for less.
I had been long distance dating a guy for almost 5 years only to find out while I was losing my home and relapsing with my eating disorder that he was creeping. He also ghosted me the moment I mentioned engagement.
how do you call a situation when a guy with anger issues or narc disorder lures you into chatting just to suddenly punch you in a gut for no particular reason (out of a blue sends you gross sexual message, insults you, partially blocks you, acts like he tries to punish you for something or acts entitled)?
I live your video style! Great idea doing videos for each age group because each group has its own complex issues. I'm a boomer so I'm curious about socializing at an age when people think that it's all over .
Been in a relationship for 4 years, never met his family and only 1 friend. He's apparently "submarined" while on deployment. But I've dealt with the breadcrumbing, roaching, pocketing, and love bombing. Ugh
Online dating seems very harsh for most people. My cure is to not try to meet males that way but get out. Join activities, volunteer, book clubs, learn a language, take up a sport and travel. Get to know some one more naturally. Build a friendship first. And just plain have fun. You also get to see someone's behavior and personality consistently and over time. So many men with g.f. hit on me all the time and I DON'T GET IT! I'm not a flirt. I don't give off player vibes and I'm happily just doing my own thing. The male ego seems to need endless stroking and I'm N/A for that. And those types don't have anything to offer but are takers. They've come to really bore me to tears. Take your time and fun in your life for you!
Excellent idea on the live streams with varying age brackets.
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Great idea! All of these terms were unfamiliar to me (except catfishing) and all have happened to me. I don’t understand it! So maybe the why would be helpful too! A Gen Xer.
I am in my forty’s and my boyfriend is 52. I feel a lot of dating advice is targeted to people in their 20’s & 30’s.. it would be nice to get advice for people who are older and in an ESTABLISHED relationship.
Loved this vid. It also made me sad because I've experienced allll of these things in the past few years EXCEPT cuffing. I think dating might just totally suck now. Totally zero hope. For reals.
I would say other topics would also attract more targeted audience to your lives e.g: female/masculine mindset, narcissism, how to stimulate emotional investment, how to figure out what you want etc. Keep it up!
When it comes to ghosting, how long should you wait until you say "thank u, next?" I had a great date with a seemingly great guy on Friday, but haven't heard from him since Sunday night. Against my better judgment, I even sent him a text yesterday afternoon. Nothing.
I don't know if I missed the lives or not but I like the idea, also if you can manage to make a live about dating people from different countries and cultures.
Yup. Been thru a few of these. Had a guy try to Zombie on me. Went out 2x, kissed, had a good time, ghosted me. I end up seeing him at a bar several months later with a girl, we briefly spoke, and then a couple months after that (right before Quarantine and Covid hit) he tried to hit me up again. Like no dude, you ghosted me for no reason and I was only nice because I was at the bar I have my side job with. Dude. Come on.
*NEW SUMMER 2024*
I now offer self-guided *online courses* to help women of ANY age and experience level CRUSH those single streets FASTER and more efficiently! 🙂
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Loved "Don't invest more than what he's investing into you."
"you must do the passive aggressive thing well. Sneaky! " Me: i didnt know that me being me always had a motive other than to just be me. 😁 Im glad im quiet, shy, reserved, & withdrawn when i am. Whew wee 🤓😁 bc when i get going, especially on giddyness, oh gah id embarrass myself way more often if i was that obvious. Hell, even when i do open up, its sometimes just random.
The most important rule actually
@@ahhwe-any7434 Hi there. I don't think that personality traits is what Ryan is referring to. If your personality traits are quiet/shy/reserved, then a woman will care for you for who you are. I think Ryan is referring to a man who doesn't make the woman a priority in his life. If she is doing all the giving and accommodating, then the relationship is unbalanced. She will need to evaluate if he truly loves her in action and is respectful of her commitment to the relationship.
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@@karend215 k thx for sharing
Moral of the story: If they have ego issues, move on!
NEXT! 👍
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Exactly .Move on
NEXT!!
Wow must be true
Mother issues
If a man doesn’t like me great. That means he’s not my soulmate nor wasting valuable time on him. Life goes on.
I don't believe in the word soulmate because i came to this earth alone and I'll die on my own i can live without them
Judith I agree!! I just had my heart broken this week and realized I did everything wrong lol 😂😅 now I know for next time!
If you think that younger men are the only ones that do this your wrong the older men are even worse. Go to the kill shelter and get a dog.
Lol
Or cat lol
Yeah, I don’t get it. Why are older men acting worse than younger men?
@ Yes in my experience rude, bad mannered and selfish.
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I've met baby boomer aged men on line, talked on the phone, texted and dated. 98% have lied about themselves like their height, income and relationship status. I've been love bombed and zombied. After 1 year, I quit online dating and met a good man organically. My husband is the love of my life now (thank you Jesus).
Glad things turned out well for you in the end, but your experience is...your experience. Many baby boomers have found a mate online. I think you should throw out fishing lines everywhere and see what you catch. Up the odds by considering all strategies...😍
@@ltdodgen I totally agree!
Omg I had a guy say he was 42 and showed up and he was 66 bald and fat. Like you didn’t think I would notice. And he was the stupidest person ever. I felt sorry for him. Pathetic that you have to lie. Sorry but authenticity is important. Hey you guy making this video... make one to teach men how to treat women. We are not the problem. I don’t lie, I am loyal and kind.
@@jbehlok Do you really believe that men don’t encounter this very same scenario on their online dates? It’s not a man vs woman thing...it’s a deceptive people vs honest people thing.
@@ltdodgen tell us about it. I know men have been catfished and so have I but the things in this video he was talking about men doing these things. I don't know what women do. But its a crap shoot. Many people don't know who they are and they do this stupid stuff and they stay single for a reason. I try not to ghost and give a reason why I am exiting but it doesn't always go well. Ghosting is sometimes more healthy and define intervention. I did have a guy say to me are you real send me pictures, that their are just sex adds on their side. Well maybe the numbers of women on-line have declined because of their bad behavior because women are afraid of those sites and they have little ing the companies to pull from. Like I heard that like bumble has 10k men to 2k females using the site. I had a guy ask me if I was real because he said their are all these adds of girls that are hookers. one the looking at my side at men their are a lot of out of shape, unshaved men holding a dead fish or deer back woods look and to me yuck not my type.The good looking men are all sex addicts and cheaters. you get the couples looking for a third and the kinky people, and women just say hi and don't write back. and I tried it for 4 years and that's all you get over and over. I had to sadly write in my profile I like a guy that is well groomed, cologne and shaves. The lady on these comments who said she saw the same thing, she is write I see that too. With women there is a wide gamut of looks, size, and interests. women put far more time in their profiles. Their are the rear exceptions and those catch your eye. Sites are focused on shallow stuff, rear is the key word.
Bottom line- my male friends all tell me they know most women are desperate for companionship. Men believe women need them financially (of course we need partners, since we are paid 70 cents on the dollar for the same work- hard to thrive on a single stagnant income these days). Also, inherently, most women prefer companionship and value relationships- in our DNA. Men know this and exploit it.
I'm ashamed to admit that I have been fooled by a guy who is guilty of all these crimes. He's been given a lifetime sentence of never hearing from me again.
Don't be ashamed! No one is expected to be a mind reader. It's so sad that people blame themselves. This is sociopath behavior. If you ever had to break up with somone who really liked you but you just didn't like them that much.. AUGH it's aweful, I'd rather be dumped 10 x than that. If people don't feel bad about hurting someone who cares for them, they are lacking a fundamental piece of humanity.
Doesnt sound enough of a punishment
Hey Ryan, My relationship is several months long. We are both 50+. He suddenly backed off. I binged a bunch of your video's. I was frantic. Fortunately, I did not let him know I was freaking out. I took your advice and was not available. You were right. 2 days later, he is calling me and texting, he is freaking out. I am still backed off, kind of a 'whatever' position, keeping busy, not taking all of his calls, not txting much, it worked. You were so right and I am much calmer and happier. Thanks Ryan! Patti P
My pleasure, Patricia! Glad things are working out! 😎
I enjoy how animated you are during your videos..I actually sit down to watch them because you are fun to watch👍
Aww thanks Casy! 😊
@Spooky Spectre I need to thank Brittney 100% for those! She's a creative genius 🤓
@Spooky Spectre Ohhh the poses she puts me through... 🤦🏻♂️😖Lol
Great idea Ryan. I appreciate your advice. I’m 61 and widowed. I’ve been single for over 3 yrs and I’ve tried the in-line dating thing on and off since 2018. Done. It’s been a nightmare; experienced pretty much everything you described. But now instead of feeling bad. I feel empowered. Their loss not mine 😊
Yes . I'm in my 40's and I've noted this immature behavior.
Yes. I meet only immature men
I’m 42. Never been married. Lived in NYC my whole life. I’m introverted and pretty sensitive and it’s hard to deal with dating in general. Don’t want to end up alone but I do have standards. I want to have real intimacy but I’ve dated guys who are boring, or pushing too soon for sex, or just impolite. I’m interested in a guy who I think did submarining- and the intimate side of the relationship got me hooked and I don’t want to be over him. Pretty rough out there!
Can u show something for the gen x demographic who would need help navigating dating in a city?
You are so animated! Love your advice because of that!😂❤️
I can't believe people still do online dating. I did it for years and learned many of lessons. Don't do it ladies! Besides that, it's not even safe no more to be meeting complete strangers anyways.
I disagree. It’s just another way to up the odds of meeting a man. But you do need to be smart about it. I’m afraid many women are just too naive to handle this method of meeting men. This might be why they have one bad experience after another.
I gave up the Online dating...even though in rare occasions through a mutual Friend you might find the Guy..maybe????even though you try but don't push yourself to hard ...they'll run...take it easy and observe!
8:58 "No second chances, bye bye!" 😂👍🏻
Legendary!
I am 56. Would love to see videos for my age group. Ive been watching all of your videos and have learned so much! I wish I would have had your advice years ago!
Hi Ryan! I am looking forward to your live sessions based on age-groups! Thanks for all the hard work you put into your videos!
Yay! Really appreciate that Yvette! 😄
You hit three to which I learned the hard way. Thank you for this video it was so helpful. I’m 52 and this was with someone my age so he was a pro and diverted the signs very well whenever there was a possibility of figuring it out. However now I know!!
You are awesome!!
Wow. I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while and am shocked at the various types of behavior described in this video! Thanks for the enlightenment!
The emotional affair. The destruction that it actually causes in a relationship.
A guy lied to me about his age by about three years (I google searched him). That was enough for me to be done with him. I kept asking him when was his birthday, and he would just get silent and trail off. If I can't even trust him with something so minor, he's probably lying about everything else! And his profiles seemed incomplete; they told me nothing about his life. They were all pics of him in the gym from like 15 years ago. He said that the pictures were only 3 years old, but he's really fat now. There's no way someone could go from super skinny to morbidly obese in a matter of three years. So yeah, if can't trust you, YOU'VE GOTTA GO!!
Yes to the age specific videos please!! Great video!!
I had the first experience mentioned, I was very frustrating and ego shattering. I eventually caught on to what he was doing
So helpful as usual!! Love your videos Ryan!! Thank you!!
Recently divorced, 49 and clueless! I’ve been ignoring bad behavior in men for way too long! Part of that is from years of emotional abuse which leads to No Confidence! These men don’t even have to make their own excuses...I do it for them. Thank you Ryan, appreciate your videos. Stella is getting her Groove Back! (The happily ever after “movie” version 😉)
WISHED I'D SEEN THIS PRIOR MEETING THE GUY...THE GUY HAS IT ALL! DANG!
One of the best and most down to earth on RUclips, thank you.
Loved this . You are an emotional Jedi master. Love the idea of the demographic based vids
Yes, need dating advice in my 40's as I am just getting back out there..
Same here
Love the idea of making videos according to age groups! Yes please Ryan!😄👍
New here and new to dating. Been in a relationship since I was 16 so about 25 yrs of solid relationship. This helped alot. Thank you.
You bet, Jess! Thanks for watching 😉
Loved the words & meanings haha... really hard not to laugh about similar situations ... but years later. Thanks so much for helping us understand what the matter is, and I believe I am so much different that people will also treat me waaay differently .
Your idea is brilliant.
Hey Ryan, I discover your channel, frankly, you talk about many realistic things. 21 years marriage, 25 together, and now 3 separated/divorced. I don't regret my marriage I take everything in a positive way a very great learning experience. But I this point, dating it is very inconsistent, it is hard to find guys that commit, or really just want to have a good friendship to begin with...all they want or have written in their faces is "I wanna have sex w you", and truly that's not me, I need or have to get to know the person first, before I invest or anything could happen, I could use some advise...this times it is harder than 20 yrs ago..lol...so totally different... Thanks...
Great idea!!!! "Scrooging" is heartless👎
A man I knew for years finally seemed to make his move. I was in the process of separating from my ex and was extremely vulnerable at the time. He started calling me a lot and talking so nicely to me! He would offer to take me places, take care of me and even said...loved me! We started to hang out regularly and one time when things seemed to be going really well...he actually told me that he was...going to have sex with some girl! I was so shocked, I found myself speechless for good five minutes! I kind of continued to visit him for a bit more just to come out of it because I just couldn't believe it until I just did not feel comfortable anymore and was ready to move on. I could not believe this!
I'm 41 I just started to love and respect my self. I have a guy that I'm interested in but I think he is just being nice to me. So I'm going to watch for signs that he is interested or not.
Love the age group specific idea! Gen X is different in a lot of ways from younger groups and we need help!
Yes! I had a guy "scrooge" me two days before my birthday. Very convenient. He was stingy with money in general, so it was a blessing, really, even though I didn't see it at the time.
I haven’t had a good date in years. I’m 45 and can just see through all the BS. Or I have some serious walls up and very high standards.. Great idea on the age range days!
Ryan, you are awesome!! Love the videos, content, delivery, and your advice. Big thumbs up
Man! You just described my narcissistic ex BF who I left a year ago in May of this year. I was with him waaayyy too long, 4.5 yrs. And I haven't dated since and really just have too much to heal now because of him. IF I were to date again, if someone did Any of these to me...there would be no second chances....instant goodbye, good riddance, now.
Been loved bombed, got involved with a real life narcissist. Bread crumbling and lying was his specialty. We went on many dates though. After 8 months he started dating other women and forgot to let me know about it, LOL Cheating and acting like he didn't do anything wrong.
He was, very manipulative, what a rollercoaster.
Thank you for loading this video. I am in a relationship with a man that is dating another girl as well I've been with him for 2 years and the other girl is with him for 6 years. He supports me big time financially and I wish it wasn't the case so that i can just move on with my life......I've tried moving on but he always bail me out financially so I feel kinda stuck.
I Really Like your videos and the names are perfect when you explain what it means..you rock...❤❤
Simple: Choose people who Choose YOU!
Dating someone for 8 months still haven’t met his friends or family. When I ask he just says he hasn’t had a chance. . .
Love the videos by age group idea!
Ryan, the age group posts sound great to me, as i am 65 and would love to know all the secrets to find one man thats really worth to having me.
Love the idea of segmenting. I might be 11 months too late! Gen X here. Love your style and content.
I like the idea of generational chats.
Loving the age group idea. Dating in my 40's is a pain.
Thanks Vicki! Sounding like it may happen! 🙌🏼
Omg went thru all these and love to have learned them! Thank u for sharing!
Ryan, you are so fun and interesting to watch! Thank you!
I was just not only ghosted with no warning at all, but submarining. Hurt really bad cause it had been close to four months and I had invested 100%. Now it’s been two weeks and he will not even talk to me or tell me what happened. So I pretty much am dealing with the pain and moving on. But will not lie I plot in my mind how I want to hurt him back. Would never to it just think about it. Lesson learned completely.
Love that idea! And yes I believe ave been in all theses scenarios.
I got love bombed by a controlling, narcissist, p*** obsessor and he was an older guy...good thing I recognized the red flags and hey hoed myself out of there in less than a month
I recently had a guy who was roaching. We lived an hour apart so weekends were our spend-time. I’d say, “Wanna hang out Friday?” and he’d say, “I can’t. I have a thing.” A thing?? The ambiguity was a tell-tale, because usually he would give me all the details of what he was doing. When I got quiet he knew I knew, b/c he pressed me “What’s wrong?” I explained. He then said, “I’m just going to a house party.” So then I knew he didn’t want to invite me along as his date. I never found out the reason, but I figured he was either trolling for another woman or that he would be openly using drugs...or both. BTW, our entire relationship was built on a lie. When we met he didn’t tell me that he needed to get drunk and high daily to function. He slipped that info to me little by little beginning with our second and third dates. I’m a mental health counselor so I tried to be understanding. Another time he accidentally sent me a text that said “We can do some together.” I’m assuming he was talking about using cocaine. He told me the message was to me and the message was about us playing guitar together. 😆 What a liar! This guy could barely cope with basic life stressors on a daily basis. And...he’s trying to get a Top Secret government security clearance. You would not believe the number of mentally imbalanced people who are running our government...but that’s another story.............P.S. Regarding this dating episode, to be fair, I was cuffing to get through the holiday season. I only require a boyfriend two months out of the year. My life is about the work life and my goals. If I ever do have a life partner he’ll have to be as purposeful about life and integrity-marked as I am. I don’t have time for less.
Thanks for the video.
Great idea with the RUclips group
I had been long distance dating a guy for almost 5 years only to find out while I was losing my home and relapsing with my eating disorder that he was creeping. He also ghosted me the moment I mentioned engagement.
Like your idea.
Had the love bomb, ghosting,dumped before holidays. (In the 50s age group)
glad i grew up in the 70's....love is complicated nowadays....this is why i choose to be single and content!
Awesome info.. thank you
how do you call a situation when a guy with anger issues or narc disorder lures you into chatting just to suddenly punch you in a gut for no particular reason (out of a blue sends you gross sexual message, insults you, partially blocks you, acts like he tries to punish you for something or acts entitled)?
I had a roach haha I said bye bye and no friendship either, if he told me he had a gf we could've remained friends in time. Oh well that's his loss
I live your video style! Great idea doing videos for each age group because each group has its own complex issues. I'm a boomer so I'm curious about socializing at an age when people think that it's all over .
I like the idea of doing video for different age categories! Go for it!
Been in a relationship for 4 years, never met his family and only 1 friend. He's apparently "submarined" while on deployment. But I've dealt with the breadcrumbing, roaching, pocketing, and love bombing. Ugh
Love the grouping idea !!!
I like the idea. I’m 62. I still believe in love even if
I don’t meet him.
Online dating seems very harsh for most people. My cure is to not try to meet males that way but get out. Join activities, volunteer, book clubs, learn a language, take up a sport and travel. Get to know some one more naturally. Build a friendship first. And just plain have fun. You also get to see someone's behavior and personality consistently and over time. So many men with g.f. hit on me all the time and I DON'T GET IT! I'm not a flirt. I don't give off player vibes and I'm happily just doing my own thing. The male ego seems to need endless stroking and I'm N/A for that. And those types don't have anything to offer but are takers. They've come to really bore me to tears. Take your time and fun in your life for you!
Definitely experienced breadcrumbing
Love the idea about live discussions
Targeted audience by generation is a great idea. Have experienced submarining, love bombing, social catfishing attempts.
Excellent idea on the live streams with varying age brackets.
Great idea! All of these terms were unfamiliar to me (except catfishing) and all have happened to me. I don’t understand it! So maybe the why would be helpful too! A Gen Xer.
I am a gay man and I am loving ur advice that you give. It has really helped me alot.
Verry good points.
Great idea!
I'm 19 years old. Thanks for the video; I got alot of knowledge or rather advice from it!
My experience one guy can be multiple of the scenarios listed in the video!
Yes that sounds like a great idea! I have dealt with a few of these types.
That's a great idea doing you tube videos on different age group..
I am in my forty’s and my boyfriend is 52. I feel a lot of dating advice is targeted to people in their 20’s & 30’s.. it would be nice to get advice for people who are older and in an ESTABLISHED relationship.
Loved this vid. It also made me sad because I've experienced allll of these things in the past few years EXCEPT cuffing. I think dating might just totally suck now. Totally zero hope. For reals.
Good idea Ryan
Within a month he said he loved me. Then said he wanted to marry me. 5 months later he moved me out
First time here 😊 glad I found you.
Hi. I'm 72 and have just recently started online dating and dating in general, please do video's for babyboomers!
Oh my God, the last guy I was getting to know did most of this. I cut the cord and got blocked. Such an idiot
I would say other topics would also attract more targeted audience to your lives e.g: female/masculine mindset, narcissism, how to stimulate emotional investment, how to figure out what you want etc. Keep it up!
When it comes to ghosting, how long should you wait until you say "thank u, next?" I had a great date with a seemingly great guy on Friday, but haven't heard from him since Sunday night. Against my better judgment, I even sent him a text yesterday afternoon. Nothing.
I’ve mostly been benched and breadcrumbed
Story of my life
Stacy Caruso I’m in my 20’s!!!
The lives sound good
Can you do a video on dating younger men?
Love the generational idea. There are big differences between how a 20 year old and a 40+ year old approaches relationships and dating.
I don't know if I missed the lives or not but I like the idea, also if you can manage to make a live about dating people from different countries and cultures.
Perfect idea for the age groups. I’m 64 and would love some advice
Yup. Been thru a few of these.
Had a guy try to Zombie on me. Went out 2x, kissed, had a good time, ghosted me. I end up seeing him at a bar several months later with a girl, we briefly spoke, and then a couple months after that (right before Quarantine and Covid hit) he tried to hit me up again. Like no dude, you ghosted me for no reason and I was only nice because I was at the bar I have my side job with. Dude. Come on.