When You Tell Someone You're an Introvert
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- Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024
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Hi Frank I really love love the laughs... You've changed my life... And I'm addicted to your content.. Just so you know lols.
I'm a 23year old INFJ female in Africa married to an INTJ and the struggle is real even though I know he loves me despite the coldness...
Can you please please.... Give me advice on how to handle things with my partner, and I Know there's more people in love or married to the so called wrong type, I've also seen couples that are not compatible together for more than 30 years.
Can you make a video series on how people found with the wrong types can cope and try to understand their differences and live in peace or something like that... Pssshhhhhh.....
I guess you understand what I'm really trying to say.
This would be a major blessing for me...🙏
The guy facing the introvert is most likely a ****** ESTP
🤣🤣🤣
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😂😂😂
This is why you don't tell people you're an introvert.
Or anything really.
Preach
True🥺🥺
🙏🙏🙏
True story 😂
I’m an introvert but can’t be anymore because my mom thinks introverts just wanna be alone and that they r bad so I’m a fake extrovert ? But really I’m a introvert
"nice talking to you."
"was it?"
*"n o"*
Wish i had guts to say this lol
That part hit me🤣😭
OHHHHHHHHH!
@@georgietorrance I'm definitely working on it. At almost 40, I've had enough.
Dharma Dharma Well, instead of being brutally honest and pointing to the elephant in the room... Imo ...It’s better and kinder to end an unpleasant conversation with, “I hope you have a good day.” And if you’re feeling especially warm and fuzzy... “Thank you for the conversation, it’s been a learning experience.” 😊
"But you said you aren't depressed?"
"You're getting me there😀"
We love honest people
I actually know very outgoing extroverts who deal with depression.
@@kelle0285 did- did i say that extroverts can't have depression
@@crio3772 No, but some of these ignorant people may think so.
@@kelle0285 hopefully not, but ok i get your point now
Those two lines cracked me up.
“You don’t even seem to be particularly depressed!”
*”You’re getting me there.”* 👌👌👌
Frank always nails it.
Came here to post this! 😂
Yes, on point.
Seem to be...
Hueheuheue
Is it weird that I first understood “you’re getting me there” to mean that the extrovert was now starting to understand the introvert’s feelings? As in “oh you get me.”
To be clear, introverts aren't depressed and lonely kids. We are mostly alone but not lonely.
With our brains it’s kinda hard to be lonely. I only get lonely when missing my partner.
Ajup, being alone and being lonely are to very different things.
I usually feel the most lonely when I'm around a bunch of my friends, friends.
Friends to busy talking to their friends that I don't know, and I miss my apartment where its nice and quiet.
We just enjoy our alone time more the other people.
I am my friend
-introverts
Doesnt mean im lonely when im alone
Oh my god... the part where he says "I'm gonna replay this conversation over and over again in my own head, pick apart everything you said, and think about my reaponses I could've said"... so I'm NOT ALONE IN THIS!?!?!?
nope. literally am still replaying a conversation that happened last year, consisting of 2 SENTENSES.
Honestly YES. Any time after conversation, just immediately regrets life decisions for the next 24 hours.
@@arandomperson1795 same
No u are not.😁🙃🤗😏
*Me still replaying conversations that happens 2-3 years ago *😭😅
Indeed. Talking to people always reminds me how much I really hate talking to people.
Holy crap same.
Yep same
Truth! Also, trying to pay attention to the conversation and planning your escape route at the same time.
Gah 🥺 shoot me
💯
*Introvert is at a party*
Extroverts: You weren't supposed to do that.
*Introvert:* Hold on. This whole operation was your idea.
They don’t notice enough to even account for us, I fear...but I like your wishful thinking.
Then they invite them to more awkward parties, whilst thinking they still aren't supposed to be at parties
An Extrovert sees an introvert at a party
Extrovert: She doesn't even go here
@@sanctacaecilia11 I love you so much for that comment👏🏽👏🏽
"I was once an introvert, but then I took anti-depressants"???!😂😂😂
I laughed so hard on this.
Introversion has nothing to do with being depressed.
kekw
I think people often conflate social anxiety with introversion. If someone avoids socializing due to social anxiety, but then they take medications to help manage it and become more social, they haven't become "less introverted". They are just less anxious about socializing.
The sad thing is people only talk about introverts, Extroverts have feelings too you know...We also feel alone, we don't always talk 24/7. EVERYWHERE I go on the internet, people keep talking about Introverts, I feel apart in a world full of introverts now. And that's the thing, I can relate to a LOT of Introvert videos, not because I'm an Introvert but because I'm a HUMAN. I also get anxiety about stuff, I also get nervous, I may be confident and social and outgoing like for Me it's not a Big Deal cause I'm an Extrovert but I still need to recharge myself sometimes if I meet ASS people, sometimes I don't feel like socializing, sometimes I feel Bad for socializing and making friends and being social because Introverts say that socializing is not a good thing and now I'm confused😭😭😭. I socialize YES, BUT I CAN be Alone, like I'm indépendant, just because I'm an Extrovert doesn't mean that I depend on people, I actually can do things ALONE cause I'm confident and I can also make friends. I have a Balance ⚖ and no, I'm not an ambivert. Just an Extrovert who CAN BE ALONE AND INDEPENDANT BUT prefers to be social.
Lol it was pretty funny. I'm like I just don't like talking to people much.
Well, antidepressants do tend to make people more talkative. I still don't like talking to people but when I have to, it's not such an effort to say something. I still go over it in my head afterwards and don't want to leave the house for a few days afterwards, though.
"Sounds like torture"
"It is"
IT REALLY IS
Facts
@@Ronin-kk4bt Truth
The replay of convo is so on point. Haha yeah it is torture
This is why I always hate my past self to the point of trying to distract myself while almost reminding myself of my cringy past
Now excuse me while I cringe and that grammar and longs text I have sented to this reply section
and when you are done with the stuff that really happened you prepare yourself for conversations that might be happening in the future.
"You're horribly depressed aren't you?"
I was until quarantine. I've needed this break since Kindergarten.
Exactly I loved the lockdown
Exactly, i know pandemic is bad and all but a part of me wish this would last for the rest of my college years. It's really exhausting and time consuming to always hang out with friends after class.
I know that's right
Even in quarantine I can't take a break since I live in a small house with other 4 siblings. Help me.
People started trying to talk to me more since quarantine started it's terrible
I told someone once that I was an introvert... she told me not to say such things about myself, and to not limit myself. She took it as if the word introvert was an insult! I went home and have been pondering this for the last two years.
Edit: Now that I've read more comments I realize this is way more common than I thought. Yikes!
SAMEEEEEEEEEE
Yeah dude introversion is veryyyy common. If everyone was extroverted we wouldn't have scientists who were able to dedicate so much of their time for thinking deeply alone to gouge for ideas and researching without meeting too many new people.
Somehow, I am actually the case of "extroverted but depressed and not confident" when I was younger. I wanted to become a scientist who researched 24/7 alone. Now that idea makes me vomit, and I'm pretty sure I'm an ENTP so it makes sense how I had the INTJ dream when I was depressed for a long time according to shadow function theory.
I was told that therapy could fix it.
"That sounds like torture."
"It IS."
Hahaha. Too relatable. 😅😪
God if people knew it is torture🤣🤣
Yeah, I f*cking hate myself for all of the cringe sh*t that I've said.
Relatable.
I'm so lonely.
@@jaydenisdedlol well do you like to be lonely
@@widevader kinda
Me an intp who explains my mom what an introvert is: so basically it's someone who gains energy by spending time alone.
My mom: honey, you never have energy.
Lol.. this is too funny!
Being able to pull myself out of bed takes up all the energy
Daughter to Mother - '"That is because you are relentlessly manufacturing scenarios for me to be in situations where I have to socialise".
Lol! Dead
me, my mother's intp son: "well like idk being alone makes me happier?"
my mom: "nonono u never seem happy go make friends" 😂😂🤷♂️
I can totally relate to this conversation. And we introverts are not lonely. We just value our peace and quiet more.
Just because someone is an introvert, doesn’t mean that we don’t have friends!😂❤️
jokes on you. I don't want friends, even though they probably think the fact I'm their partner in lessons makes me their friends. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
In college I had a girl talk to me for an hour about her family and potential future after class because we were in the same course?? I didn't dislike her or anything and got along fine with her in class but I guess her threshold for "this classifies as a close friendship" was 125% lower than mine 😂😂
I lost count of how many times I said "I have to catch my bus now" and still stayed to listen to her because I didn't wanna be impolite and she _was_ a nice person! I just wasn't looking to make friemds and be social. I hope she achieved her dreams tho!
I have a bunch of introverts friends, they just never start talking to me and barely respond to my text
It's almost like they were saying that in the video.
Oof, i-is that so? :''x
-I'm an introvert.
-Oh, my gosh, I am so sorry.
Frank, you made me laugh so hard just in 9 seconds! 😂 Brilliant job.
@@amym5514 haha both feelings, the guy making so many questions stressed me too.
@@amym5514 same lol
Love the album ❤️
THIS HAPPENED TO ME LMAO
Your pfp
It's kinda tiring socializing with extroverts actually, i'm the only introvert in my family and they always thought i'm some kind of depressed or lonely cause i often say "i need some time alone" when i actually just love being only with myself. Or if i don't tell EVERY SINGLE THING that happens in my life like my sister always did to them, they'd say "why did you "never" share ur story with us? You don't trust us enough?" It always leads to misunderstanding.. Maybe Its because they all act the same so it's like i'm the weird one yk, but when they asked me why am i always acting like that, and i said it's because i'm an introvert, they be like "NO we're all extroverts iT's OkAy" like bru- i don't find anything wrong with being an introvert.
That. Is. Basically. My. Life.
@juan diego pena valenzuela lucky most of my family is extroverted and I'm like the only introverted person :(
Oh man. That's tough. I come from a family of introverts, so we were all really chill. But my weekly visits to my extroverted grandmother is super taxing. Im pretty sure she's an ESTJ. And Im an INTP.
My Mother is THE most extroverted person I've ever met,she'll literally talk to anybody and everybody who'll listen or even just make eye contact with her.I think her being an extreme extrovert has 100% made me slightly on the more quiet side,although I'm still extroverted.My daughter on the other hand is a stereotypical introvert,loves her alone time has a small but close group of friends,doesn't do well in loud settings or around alot of people.She's quiet and soft spoken but not shy at all,just totally awesome!.We balance each other out.
Mine is the opposite actually my whole family is filled with extreme introverts(all of them are 90% introverts while im 68%), except from my dad. So most of the time I'm seen as an extrovert even though I'm an introvert just like them. And sometimes I can't help but pity my dad cause must times when he talks (for too long), it's like he is just talking to himself
It bothers me that some people think that being an introvert is not normal or even a disease. There are even people who compare introversion to social anxiety. However, just because you like being alone it doesn't mean you're afraid of people!
Introducing yourself in gatherings: "I'm an introvert"
The group: "Aawwwwww, that's okay"
In my opinion, it is extreme extroverts who can't be by themselves and constantly need large number of people around that have an issue.
It doesn’t bother me, what other people think. Especially when it’s their lack of understanding. 🤷♀️ That is, if/when they choose to hang onto preconceived inaccurate perceptions. It’s their choice. However, it is equally important to listen, for your own understanding and growth... and self evaluate... I realize and think, could be me, who is holding onto preconceived inaccurate perceptions? ->INTJ here. bowing out now... 🙇♀️
@i That's one of the key differences between extroversion and introversion. Extroverts handle isolation. Introverts enjoy it.
@i Not according to my family, they think I'm weird
"You're really making progress,"
It's not something that's broken that it needs progress.
"I was an introvert for a while"
It's not a disorder or malfunction.
Exact it’s not a disorder
Yea but you can switch between them
@@minetendo33 it is a part of the personality. it is quite rare for someone to change their personality enough to switch between introvert and extrovert. It is also not nececary to do so. There are somethings that can be conected to a person's introversion that is a problem like depresion or anxiety but that does not mean that when those are gone you no longer are introverted. The introversion itself just means you draw your energy from being alone and are drained by being around people too long. that is not a bad thing you just need to live in a way conducive to that.
@@silentshadow3894 actualy.. i know many people, including me, who did changed from introvert to extrovert and i would say it was pretty easy. You literaly only have to tell yourself every morning "I want my personality to be that way". Thats it. After some time you will see changes. You call that autosugestion btw.
@@minetendo33 you can't. You are introverted if you feel exhausted after social interactions and feel recharged after spending time alone. For extroverted people it's the opposite
It doesn't have to do with agorafobia, shyness, lack of social skills, anxiety etc. Those problems can coexist and add to it but they are not related
Me, an introvert who is also socially anxious, depressed, and has no friends: *sweats*
Same...
Same
Same🗿
Same but *very* socially anxious, like i can't talk to my class about a book i like or even tell my family many of my interests (started intensely sweating when talking about what music i like (balkan swing))
@@Aras14know this may sound kind of weird . ( I’m an introvert ) how do u start a text conversation with a friend who hasn’t contacted u for a couple months without being awkward ? Should I just ask him like “ how’s everything going ?
*the introvert is saying all of those thoughts to himself actualy-*
This is the hypothetical conversation you have in the shower
_5igma_ YES
@@Poyni thats so accurate that I feel attacked
@@Poyni bruh. You hit me
@@Poyni why are you watching me while I shower
" What do you do in your spare time? Read a book?"
I feel personally attacked.
when he said that i was like “...yes”
@@biancajimenez1179 lol same
@@biancajimenez1179 same 🥲
I play piano but same concept
People who read books are stupid
“There’s a difference between ‘lonely’ and ‘alone’.” -My new favourite human
Honestly people who are like “oh u can’t be an introvert u have friends and u go outside ur not introverted ur a normal human being” oh so if I’m an introvert it’s now illegal for me to go outside and have friends? Introvert means they just enjoy having alone time but they have friends, being an introvert doesn’t make u any less normal or any less human
"You're an introvert?? But you can talk to people at work so well!"
Yes, and I have to spend three hours alone to cool off because I hate every minute of it
Sophie Mason seriously they think introverts can’t talk well as extroverts and introverts aren’t funny or some sh*t, what did we introverts do? This is why introverts stay at their houses everyone judges us just by breathing!!
@@reemaalimalqahtani761 Fuck those guys, I'm hilarious
I hate how people associate introversion with anti social personality disorder ._.
Ppl are actually like this. Insults with a smiling face and patronizing talking nothing. Gosh, the world belongs to introverts!
Hey now just because I'm a depressed introvert with social anxiety doesn't mean you can assume that all introverts are lmao. Epic video
I am also a depressed introvert with social anxiety
Hello, I'm also a depressed introvert with social anxiety.
@@ATenorSaxophone ello
I'm also a depressed introvert with social anxiety
@@derp24lordz ello
I love it when people assume introverts are lonely and shy. We have no problems being alone. In fact we quite enjoy it. I can relate to the introvert so much.
"Nice talking to you."
"Was it?"
*"NO."*
and you wonder why you have no friends and nobody likes you.
@@epichighslowsofhighschoolf3074 Who said I have no friends and no one likes me?
The worst part is that some people really try to convince you that you're not an introvert 🤦♀️
They do, but I'm a pretty assertive INTJ, and I educate them on their wrongness. Haha. Wish I could be around to defend other introverts under attack.
Even your own family member don't believe you are introverted，said I pretend to be quiet..!??
Well they don't watch me stare at a wall for hours and enjoy every minute of it
The other day when I told my friends ,and even my own mom, that I was an introvert they literally kept telling me: “noOoO that’s not true, i think even I am more introverted than you are”... how tf do you know me better than I know myself? Do you even know what I’m thinking 😶
In a college and career success class I took, we talked about personality traits, and I, an INFP, was very talkative and constantly raising my hand to answer questions and be a part of the discussion. When we talked about introversion, I brought up my introvertedness, and the other classmates immediately shot me down, saying there was no way I was introverted because I was too talkative and not shy.
Which made me point out that introversion literally does not mean quiet and shy, and has to do with energy and where it comes from.
To this day, people still are shocked to find out I am an introvert simply because I am chatty. INTROVERSION DOES NOT MEAN MUTE PEOPLE!!!!
People think introverts are desperately shy and are depressed and are lonely... But truth is introverts can be the happiest and can be friends with the best people... And they are really trying to understand others problem instead of making fun of others😊
"But it must be really hard to talk to me right now"
"Not really, but you're not really helping to make it even easier."
I felt that
I once told someone I was an introvert and they answered with “Don’t worry, I don’t have a lot of friends either” 💀 💀 💀
Bruh-
i-
Lmao
LMAO as an introvert I actually have a lot of friends, so this is hilarious
🤦♂️ that’s so annoying 🤣🤣
this sketch is so accurate.....it's honestly getting annoying how people assume being an introvert means being depressed and lonely. introversion isn't a mental health struggle guys......
@Sara Sachar -
Well stop using that stupid term. Millennial and Gen Z dumbazzes don't have the mental compacity to realize just how unappealing and miscommunicating that actually sounds.
Extravert: "That sounds like torture"
Me: "Yup but still gonna do it"
Yup if he only knew man if I had a dollar for every time I rehearsed something in my head I’d be rich🤣
Its freaking annoying when people equate introverts to depressed individuals 😤
Why let the naysayers affect you? Don't give them them the power of how you think. Control it. Gain power over it. Don't care about it. If you care too much about how others' think, you are not caring enough about yourself. Have faith in yourself and what you can achieve. I know you can do it. All the best. I hope to see how you are progressing forward.
@@antoinettenovella1630 thanks for your inspirational words. Its great to be encouraged every now and then and I'm glad you are kind enough to do so :)
- I think you’re an extrovert and I’m an introvert, pretty curious since we are twins no?
- Yeah but, you could be an extrovert too if you tried to socialize more
- Dude.... _IT DOESN’T WORK LIKE THAT_
So true
accurate 100%
My mum: "I used to be like you, then as I got older I came out of my shell more. You will too"
No. I'm nearly 21 and I'm exactly the same. I just don't like socialising frequently, nor do I like being centre of attention.
My aunt said "you have to fix that introvert thing"
WHY? Parties sound like torture. Why would I want to spend time with people I don't know or have any common interests with? I spent thousands of dollars to cater my house to my very specific, niche hobbies. It has everything I like in it. Why would I want to have terrible drinks made by people who don't know what they're doing, have boring and pointless conversations with people I don't care about?
Indeed
👍👍👍i like nice parties with people i like and who like me. Otherwise, it s a waste of time.
@カタリナchan it's just a personality like extroversion and ambiversion according to the professionals (psychologists). Society treats 'curing' people from introversion as a higher priority than fixing the damage of the Holocaust. I don't fucking understand.
I agree. I sometimes hear what people are speaking because they are way too loud and they literally talk about nonsense and the same stuff over and over again. Years ago in school, they even went to talk in the table of my friends and I, it got so loud that I just stood up and left. Another time I was with headphones and they started talking to me, it wasn’t nonsense but class related but if I have my headphones why do people still come to me? It drives me crazy
Exactly 👍
I've had people tell me to my face that I'm not an introvert because I was socializing. (I hid in my room 4 hours before the event.)
I remember once I used to work in a cinema, and my role was usually selling something. Usually I got get asked things such as what movies were good, best flabour of icecream, you know the usual. I ended up getting rather well aquainted with a few regulars when it was quiet we would talk about other things. I found someone that was an film critic for an major newpaper, and so forth. One day after a lot of this heavy socialising. In which I always tend to have a smile on my face, it's customer service afterall. I said to a co-worker. That it was draining being near the general public.
"You're always talking, what you talking about?"
"I''m an introvert it takes up way to much energy"
"You're always talking, you can't be an introvert" She went on further to say that I was fooling myself.
I'm working in customer service........ and because she hated people. "she was more the introvert, because I hate people."
it takes a massive effort for me to go to parties, i just hope they get cancelled.
And I bet they were all extroverts because they spent all that time flapping their gums, instead of observing that little fact about yourself.
Ugh. They're all the same. Use your brains more often, not your mouth.
I don't know why I immediately thought "bless his/her heart" I find it endearing
@@Whimsy3692 every famous introvert's quote, everrr
..."use the brain, not the mouth!"
😂😂😂😂😂
When you're so awkward that, during a work internet meet-and-greet, they call on you first to talk about yourself and you just blurt "Well, I'm an introvert" and snort LOUDLY into the mic before going completely silent............
Yeah, I did that.
I`m proud of you
Me: I'm an introvert.
An extrovert: Don't worry, with enough practice you can change this! (at least that's what their tone communicates)
Ikr its sooooooo annoying HAHAHAH
I tried being an extrovert once, after 3 months I basically experienced burnout. It's not for everyone.
When the extrovert is your mom ;-;
My wife thinks this. "Just try to become an extrovert"
Thats...not how this works lol.
Ngl these kind of people are the reason I prefer being alone
my brother: *insert my name * is an introvert
my mother: *offended * she's not, why are you trying to put her on a box!?
me: ... but i am
That shit drives me insane.
me and my dad always argue on this topic like
me: I'm an introvert
dad: but ur not
me: I am!
dad: why do u speak down bout ur self...ur here talking with me right?? introverts don't do that
*me remembering when he told me he'll take my phone if I didn't come out of my room*
me: umm like I have a choice
Still a label.
My parents be like : what's an introvert?
That's why I don't tell my parents this stuff...
"You're desperately lonely, right?"
I made the same face at the same time like what??
"I'm pretty good at reading people."
"uhhh..not maybe as good as you think."
good reply. haha 🤣🤣
Lol
Introverts have some great come backs
I mean, maybe they are indeed good at reading people. Other extrovert that is 😂
People who don't or WON'T understand the difference between introvert and shy are simultaneously the funniest and most frustrating people.
Ikr
It’s annoying 🤦♂️
I have crippling shyness and I still haven't figured out if I'm an introvert yet 😂
I mean I'm socially awkward and incompetent? Does that count?
@@katcyer26 I mean...
Probably-
@@katcyer26 That isn’t introversion. If being around people makes you tired you’re an introvert. If it energizes you, you’re an extrovert. Do you need recharge time after hanging with friends?
2:30
"Nice talking to you!"
"Was it?"
*"No."*
A few weeks ago:
My boss: "You need to talk more to your colleagues."
Me in my head: "I'm an introvert and I hate socializing and talking."
What I answered to end the conversation: "Yes, ok."
This is how introverts work. I don't know why people don't understand that.
Omg yeeeeeeeeeeees!!!!!
Then you get blamed for not being social with colleagues or they find you weird because you just want to focus on your job because working and being social and socially acceptible is sooo tiring! I mean, why do I have to change my behavior to fit in, while they should just accept me who I am?
There's a small difference between you and me there
You think "I'm an introvert and I hate socializing"
I think, "FUUCCCCCCCCKKKKKKK MEEEEEE, NOT AGAIN"
But the final reply is the same
What i would say in my head would be:
INVADE MY SANITY, KILL ME! SHOW NO MERCY SLAUGHTER ME LIKE POLAND. OH NO I HAVE A SOCIAL EVENT OH SHIT OH SHIT OH SHIT! GOD MOTHER RUSSIA PLEASE CANCEL IT! (i basically used the same based as the italy invade greec song)
You need a likeminded extravert to “cover you” - and vice versa. Like if we had the same boss and that same situation, I’d bring on the fast ENTP logic bombardment and once they get my message that such pressure is not cool, maybe unethical and possibly expensively illegal, because we should except people as they are not pressure them into doing things that are not strictly part of their job... Worn down, the boss never asks EITHER one of us to socialize with anyone at work every again, and we might even be disinvited from stuff. Score!
(Just because I’m a little bit extroverted doesn’t mean I wanna engage with or like people indiscriminately. Sometimes theses videos make me doubt the whole thing. ;))
True af and afterwards thinking of why did I say both yes and ok? Why didn't I just say Yes, gosh what'd he think about me 😳?
The way FJ broke every single introvert stereotype, praise.
Oh I felt this. My mom often asks me to mingle and socialize more with our fellow church members my age and I kept telling her that I'm an introvert and I prefer being alone and stay at home than to go socialize and join their group just to force myself to say something in order to not make them feel that I'm left out. Spending most of my time alone does not mean I'm lonely, it's just that I'm more comfortable and relax this way but my mom won't listen and told me that I was just being delusional about myself. Sometimes she also compares me to some other teens from our church telling me how I act differently from them cuz I was always at the corner or immediately go straight home while they spend talking to each other everytime the service ends so I just answered "...mmyeah" and walk out, she won't understand anyways.
(Sorry english is not my first language)
When I was in church when I was younger, I actually tried to socialize with the people who are at my age. I actually thought that some of them could share the same interests as me and we could talk about that stuff. Well at first I thought my wish was fullfilled but then it went horribly wrong. I still regret that I tried to socialize with them.
"You don't even seem depressed!"
"You're getting me there!"
“Tell me a little bit about yourself”
*The sentence every introvert dreads* 😳😳😟
I just say "I like to eat,sleep,and watch anime"
I... am a person who would like to not be here
😆 for real! They never like the truth
I just do the Irish goodbye
Oh this happened at my class w a new teacher, and when I said I like organizing things, she went all "huhhh? you have OCD??", I tried to say no,, but she just wouldn't stop talking about OCD, (highly doubt she knows what that is)
“ I hate people”
My teacher: well, what if everyone hated you, huh?
Me: I just don’t like socializing
My teacher: but you have to socialize
Me: just, just get on with the lesson now please
yea the thing that ticks me off about school is they expect all of us to be an extrovert, which leaves us doomed to fail in the
"Participation" side of things
I apparently gave death glares a lot hell i even told teachers "I am at school to learn not make friends that why it called school as there is no time to make friends"
Hell one time at 5th grade math class there was a thing we had to write to develop our critical thinking but since there was so much possibilities my brain just shutdown from being overloaded as the assignment was to write "What would you do if you became class president?"
Like the teachers kept telling me just write down what i would do and i said in a agitated voice "I DON'T KNOW JUST TELL ME WHAT TO DO" the entire class time i never did that paper i just sat there staring at it hand shaking. Obviously they called my parents after and my mom said "When he is at school he is your problem"
As you know dealing with a autistic kid is hell enough as they had little choice in their life as a kid in the first place so give them a choice like that with no wrong answers with too much possibility and oh boy watch them go into a fucking fetal position on the ground or fucking pass out if they are not just staring into space paralyzed with options
The sad thing is people only talk about introverts, Extroverts have feelings too you know...We also feel alone, we don't always talk 24/7. EVERYWHERE I go on the internet, people keep talking about Introverts, I feel apart in a world full of introverts now. And that's the thing, I can relate to a LOT of Introvert videos, not because I'm an Introvert but because I'm a HUMAN. I also get anxiety about stuff, I also get nervous, I may be confident and social and outgoing like for Me it's not a Big Deal cause I'm an Extrovert but I still need to recharge myself sometimes if I meet ASS people, sometimes I don't feel like socializing, sometimes I feel Bad for socializing and making friends and being social because Introverts say that socializing is not a good thing and now I'm confused😭😭😭. I socialize YES, BUT I CAN be Alone, like I'm indépendant, just because I'm an Extrovert doesn't mean that I depend on people, I actually can do things ALONE cause I'm confident and I can also make friends. I have a Balance ⚖ and no, I'm not an ambivert. Just an Extrovert who CAN BE ALONE AND INDEPENDANT BUT prefers to be social.
@@nxbxxha_1764 The fuck are you talking about? Why are you rambling?
@@JohnnyYeTaecanUktena You talk a LOT online, would be good if you knew how to open your FUCKING MOUTH in real life too, dumb Introvert! I think introverts think they're Better than Extroverts.
People I meet:
"Oh, I am an introvert, too! I like to spend time alone sometimes".
Also the same people:
"You don't want to go to that random party with a ton of strangers, you don't want to install an app that will force you to receive messages from random people you don't know and care about to chat with them for hours, you don't want to get into a relationship with a person you don't love just not to be single? What the HELL is wrong with you?!"
The pain
That person sounds like an idiot of a good for nothing fool.
jee, felt that, I do have such friend She was trying to get me into relationship though I don't really need one
I don't like going to parties or talking with people except those who are closest to me
But I don't mind chatting(texting) with strangers though
Also I'm Ace
Yeah I also don't get why people date each other, hanging out, then breaking up after some time and then they do it all again multiple times mostly with other people. It is almost draining for me to imagine to go through this emotional chaos over and over again and have constant social contact with that specific person and then repeating everything.
Them: “Oh, your an introvert? I never would have guessed! You don’t seam shy”
Me: “No, that’s not what being an introvert is. Being an introvert is the need to be alone to recharge. It’s like I run on battery and when I’m around people that battery runs out of power and once it’s hit 0 % procent I can’t even look at people”
Them: “What so you fall asleep? Haha”
Me: No, I acually get less sleep after being social couse my brain wouldn’t let sleep now that I’m finally alone. I need to feel that I’m alone. I’ve also had three panic attack after being forced to be social for too long and I felt like I was trapped so my brain had a full on meltdown”
Them: “Okay, I’m gonna go now”
lol xD-
This is everything that goes through my head at 1am whilst trying to sleep
The last sentence is always painful
so fucking over dramatic.
Feelt that comment. Merry Christmas btw
My extroverted friend: “Ooh! I really wanna go to the movies on Saturday. You wanna come?”
Me knowing that they already invited about five other extroverts: “Um sure! I’ll ask my mom.”
Also me: *doesn’t ask my mom*
I feel as though introverts don't value social bonds/friendships, I'd understand if if was some random acquaintance but a friend asking you to spend time with them...that's just plain rude.
@@Lilly-ud6qs It's not that we don't value social bonds, that would be stupid. I love hanging out with my friends, It's just that sometimes we really don't want to talk to anyone, and it's ruder to just say "no I don't want to go". If it isn't, that's the way at least my head is wired. Besides, speaking from personal experience, my friends don't mind when I don't hang out with them since I've known most of them for a very long time and they know that there are days when I can only stand minimal human interaction. They all know this since I have very few close friends.
I had a friend in undergrad who swore she was an introvert, but had to hang out with 8+ ppl every night. Then she got mad at me because I didn't talk to her enough one summer.
That's it, that's the story.
Did we had the same friend? Also, my friend believed that she was an introvert because she likes reading 🥴
@@Selena.6.23 i just lost all of my braincells
Sounds like some ENFPs I've known.
@@HannahIm it s always enfp lol, I don t understand why they think they are introvert?
I'm an ENFP with a bit of social anxiety. I love meeting new people and spending time with them, having random bouts of conversation while doing so.
But I do it less than I'd like because socializing is _scary._
“There’s no such thing as introverts, just depressed extroverts”
A real thing someone once said to me. Suffice to say I don’t talk to them anymore.
Well lets just say that extroverts are kind of people who loves to hang out at bars and talks about sports or bts and kpop.
Introverts are just people who mind their own buissness and respect the things they like.
Because the only thing keeping me from dancing topless on the bar is antidepressants obviously 🙃🥴🤪
@@alastrasstoriesdevi-museyt130 lmaooo i am an introvert but i do like Bts too just....i dont interact that much with the fanbase they are just too loud for me😂
@@alastrasstoriesdevi-museyt130 I am an introvert yet I still like bts and kpop , interacting with the fandoms is not my thing tho
@@alastrasstoriesdevi-museyt130 me an introvert who likes bts and kpop: 👀
I had an extrovert basically tell me I wasn't living my life, because I didn't like to travel for hours and hours to many places in a single day.
I think the answer to that is “You mean I’m not living *your* life and you can’t understand how I can be happy if I’m not like you!”
When I tell someone I'm an introvert, they say no you're not you just need to be more outgoing and have confidence.
Cringe
I FELT that in my soul, the amount of people who do this honestly bugs me.
Some people really don't understand the Myers Briggs personality type charts.
Ugh, I hate when that happens 😒 Someone once said I was a giant ball of negative energy. I'm introverted what can I say 🤷♀️
God I hate this. I've tried explaining this to my mum, but she always just says "Well, you don't like going out because you don't have enough confidence". I mean, yeah I don't have a massive amount of confidence, but that's not why I don't go out that much.
"Too much negative self-talk"
"Yes, but im still an introvert"
😂😂😂😂😂i almost choked
Lol
or when you tell someone you're an introvert and they're like 'omg me too! except...' and then list all the ways that they're incredibly confident, have zero social anxiety and love spending time with people 24/7
"nice talking to you"
"...... Was it? "
"No!"
Frank this is so me 😂😂💪👑
I hope everyone can understand that being an introvert isn’t something have to be cured...
Yes that is true it's a personality not a disease
Every school should know that 😩
@@jejo4911 True , I never thought about that...why don’t they teach us about this?
@@nsusai6380they always do group works and when you don't want to be friend with your classmates they tell you to socialize 😑.
Thankyou
I really like the comparison Cassually Explained made: Introverts are getting exhausted by social interaction, while extroverts are getting energised, whether they enjoy it or not.
"But you left your house!"
"Well, I'm not agoraphobic."
"You don't even seem depressed!"
"You really got me there."
"You're not introverted, it's just too much negative self-talk."
"...I mean, yeah, but I'm still an introvert."
Nice talking to you
Was it?
No.
"You're getting me there"
Not "You really got me there"
hahahaaa, this one was good. "No f%*king way." **stares with grin**
that line hit so hard, because I never realized when I've wanted to say that 😂
I wish I could actually say that 🤣
@@bionicbellybutton Hey, I know you. :P Maybe the perfect opportunity will present itself one day, and we can try it. 😆
@@bionicbellybutton You can. Try it!
I can talk to people and got no problems about expressing my toughts but i don't like socialising, crowded places etc. it's better to have 2 or 3 close friends that i can be myself when i'm with them
"You're getting me there" BAHAHAHA so many good lines!!
TRUUUUUE! I always wonder, why most of people think that introverts are depressed, they are making animal friendships, and needing to see a therapist ._.
I mean, I do get depressed, make animal friendships and have seen therapists, but it's not because I'm an introvert!
@@giishaw92 Because of them probably..
Thanks for the laughs Frank you just seem to understand me, and I'm addicted to your content please please
I'm asking if you can give me advice on this I'm an INFJ and my husband is an INTJ and it's not easy... I guess you know the impossibility of the whole thing... But through all that I can see he's love it's just I don't know much to see and try to understand him clearly.
So it's also an idea for a new kind of videos where people who are in love or married to the wrong types can know what to do or how to understand their partner better and make it work...
Please please this would be major for me...
People who are depressed see a therapist. And it is okay. Introvert or extrovert is just a preference. Depression is a serious illness (as is any mental illness ) You don't see a therapist because of your personality type. Geez!
animals are the best kinds of friends! ask the birds, rabbits, and squirrels in my yard. they'll tell you.
Trust me, I am an introvert, I hang out with a lot of introverts, this is exactly how any of my conversations turn out when talking to an extrovert.
The thing is people put in the same bag: Introversion, Shyness, Social Anxiety, Depression, antisocial behavior and misantrophy. Because they think they are all the same and that they have the same characteristics.
And then there's the people that treat Introversion like it was a "disease" and you'll try harder you'll be "cured".
And let's not that it's even worse when it's your close relatives who do this (my mom in my case).
In my case it was my dad who strongly implied introverts were selfish (and came up with a false description of introverts) despite the fact other peoples pain makes me sick.
my mum too.
Mom. Yes, i know how that feel.
My brother for me
My grandparents literally told me one day that I'm a heartless person who does not love my family because I dont call them everyday. My parents have called me selfish and rude many times because I dont readily socialise with my relatives. My own relatives ask my parents what is wrong with me when I try to avoid them. They think I'm doing all this on purpose, because I am lazy, selfish and heartless.
It hurts, because no matter what I say they dont believe it. they are all extroverts, and dont really know what it feels like to be an introvert. I hate being this way, but wht can I do?
This was awesome. People think if a person isn't yakking away to others they are miserable. Some people actually enjoy their own company.
holy f*ck, how true.
**flashback to phineas and ferb episode** "The universe is expanding" "What is it expanding into?" see you can get deep convos with yourself
I felt that part of replaying a conversation in your head so hard in my soul
Every. Single. Time.
"- you don't even seem to be particularly depressed"
"-you're getting me there" now that's comedy 😂😂😂😂😂😂
“I’m an introvert.”
“You must be so lonely and depressed :(“
Has the same energy as
“I’m colourblind.”
“WHAT COLOUR IS THAT? *points at sign”*
*on the topic of glasses*
take off your glasses. how many fingers am I holding up.
As a colorblind I can 1000% confirm that.
And also as an introvert 👀
@@theletterh6011 Now imagine your a colorblind introvert with glasses
@TI BONE I'm a nearsighted introvert who is getting glasses soon.
@@theletterh6011 or when you’re actually blind and glasses don’t make a difference. I’ll be like, I can barely make out your hand let alone your fingers. I’m both blind and an introvert
This was a good one. 👍 I haven't actually told someone up front, "I'm an introvert" Ironically, in the sketch, your introvert wasn't shy but I am shy, and usually it's someone I know telling a new person "she's shy." Then I get the sympathy routine. It's embarrassing and annoying. 😳😜
"Nice talking to you"
"Was it?"
"No"
Literally me XD
Yes, that was hilarious! I wish I just could be honest with some people in certain challenging social gatherings.
If only I could be that honest
That’s what I want to say whenever I talk to strangers for longer then 8 seconds
I Just loved that!
It probably blows extroverts minds that introverts prefer to be alone over large social gatherings...then again I truly can't understand why anyone would want to socialize all the time either 😅
No it is just different than what we like to do and that's ok 💕
@@cheetopuppy6188
Good you’re like that. I have really different experiences about it.
“That really isn’t a big deal”
Me who’s had no friends for 5 years straight: f-f-f-friends!!?
Hi there
Hi!😇
Introverts do have friends
@@ajay2552 Some do. Some don't. There's some that might be able to get away with it.
My sister told me that we (introverts) are dull. I wanted to tell her so many things but i just sucked it in because i was just exhausted by the thought of all the things that i would have to tell her!
I heard that Extroverts are just exhaling farts through their mouth ;)
That doesn’t apply to extroverts exclusively, it just means your sister is immature.
You’ll need to find targeted and efficient words to use when she says things like that lol
Depending on how old she is, she’ll get better over time
If I had a penny for every single time someone told me that 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Story of my lifea It's worse if you're an introverted actor, host and content creator like I am. So tired of explaining introversion to people who don't understand what being an introvert ACTUALLY is because they're too lazy to do a basic Google search. Thanks for another great video, Frank James! - An INFP
Nice also an INFP actor we should collaborate sometime one on one
Innit. Just google it. It ain’t gon take long
There's more than just google.
“Nice talking to you :)”
.
.
“Was it?”
”No”
"You're horribly depressed, aren't you?"
"Actually...yes, yes, I actually am."
ikr. yes... but that's not because i'm an introvert.
Man, this hits right at home. That's when I realised extroverts also overthink but only about introverts. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I dunno if other extroverts overthink but trust me this extrovert does
@@blackmailpotato9616 Awww... You don't need to overthink about introverts okay? We are all human beings, introverts just like to have less interaction and it doesn't mean that we don't want to interact at all.
@@tokensharma3738 I don’t overthink about introverts I overthink about literally every aspect of my life🤣🤣🤣 I actually really admire introverts (most of the people I know are introverts including my whole family) and wish I could be one cause I hate that I like people so much😅 but thanks hehe💕
@@blackmailpotato9616 Wow your situation is completely opposite to mine. I am the only introvert at home. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@tokensharma3738 🤣🤣🤣
I feel so happy to see that someone at last has portrayed what an actual introvert is like and not what people usually show....Thanks for this video!
*when the rest of the world still thinks that being an introvert mainly is a reflection on your social habits and not how you gain energy*
Yup it’s so frustrating 🤦♂️🤦♂️
"you don't even seem to be particularly depressed"
"you're getting me there"
I felt that HAHAHA
“Don’t mix lonely with ‘being preferred alone’.” Wise words.
The other guy is the reason why some of us are introverts.
I would say that more accurate is to say that the other guy is the reason why some of us introverts are even more introvert.
"I'm not sure, a true introvert could've held up this small talk for so long"
If he was able to go to a party, he was invited to, i think his battery could spend a little on small talk
True
Thank you! If he can go to an extroverted event like a party I think he can handle some small talk 🤦♂️🤦♂️
Oh God this is so relatble and also introverts can get lonely but that doesn't mean we're always lonely
I'm very glad that my mom (also an introvert) told me early on that being an introvert is normal.
The good thing about growing older as an introvert is that you actually start to let these truths slip out in conversation and don't have the energy to care about it anymore.
I don't like how relatable this is
So the takeaway is extroverts make the conversations akward.
I'm not awkward!!! Yay!!!!!!!!
I am awkward!!! For other people!!! Yay!!!
This just makes me even more sad than I already am. People need to realize that not all introverts are depressed or have no friends . We just prefer being alone that doesn't change anything about having friends or being depressed. We like to be alone just because YOU don't that doesn't mean we're depressed. We're just like that it's not a disorder, that you can say i "I was an introvert for a while, I'm better now". It doesn't work like that..it's just...sad to me that a lot of people don't realize that.
Even extroverts can be depress
Now now. You're ovethinking it and that's EXACTLY what's making you depressed
Im an ambivert, i can relate a little bit. I sometimes prefer to be alone too, but i also like socializing with people i already know, i would like to meet other people if i weren't shy as well. People do need to realize what you said, introversion is a part of a personality, not a disorder, not something that could change at will.
I get where you are coming from. I had the idea for the longest time that my introversion was a problem, and I have known plenty of people who thought that introversion equaled shyness and loneliness. (I think I might have bluntly corrected them. I can thank my extraverted thinking for the lack of tact.) I wish more people had the right understanding of introverts, too.
I’m an extrovert and I understand that 🙂
I have a theory that extroverts might actually be rarer than introverts but extroverts talk a lot more and it seems that there are more extroverts
When he questioned the introvert having friends on online gaming like dude, a lot of introverts are so chatty in chat but so introverted irl and a lot of introverts really enjoys online gaming 👁👄👁
Yeah perfectly fits me! Chatting with people isn't as draining as talking with people irl. Infact, it's not draining at all
Joke's on you, I'm an introvert with depression *and* social anxiety. So. Face.
I have 1.5 friends
@@JoyTalane Me too-
It must be a real pain dealing with depression and social anxiety ;-;
@@vxsul Eh, meaningless pleasantries with strangers are not really a problem anymore.
@@JoyTalane lol!
I personally "love" when people say "So, you're an Anti-social person!" or when some friends/family assume that you do nothing all day long, so they make appointments for you to go do stuff for them, because guess wha, it's really hard for an INFP to say "No!". Earlier today I had an appointment at the dentist and I had to cancel it because my sister called me to go pick some stuff that she left in my name...
Infj can't say no to because they are afraid. But if you read their mind they really don't wanna do it.
I can totally relate. As an INFP, I can barely say no to people. I cant even ignore them at that times, even if I want to
INTJ here, just say no, it's just two goddamn letters. What are you, a rug for people to step on?
"Well I'd love to do it for you but I'm busy". "Busy with what?" "Ok I'll do it". (F&$*@ mission failed again)
Yeah bro introverts gotta stay strong don't let them walk all over you just because you're less vocal.
This guy is great,he just go to the point rather than taking unrelated things.