When everyone is more introverted than you

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  • @FrankJames
    @FrankJames  2 года назад +584

    Thanks for watching!
    Check out "If Being an Ambivert was a Medical Condition" next! ruclips.net/video/e7Y2u80Ncbc/видео.html

    • @kaiie.
      @kaiie. 2 года назад +1

      first reply

    • @justsophie0929
      @justsophie0929 2 года назад +3

      Already watched that one. It was hilarious

    • @Amanita._.Verosa._.
      @Amanita._.Verosa._. 2 года назад +2

      I was nearly diagnosed once. Luckily the cure is years of isolation.

    • @cosmo4288
      @cosmo4288 2 года назад +1

      FJ, why does this seem like whatever happend in this video always keeps happening in your mind?? Lol

    • @shahadalnidawi5678
      @shahadalnidawi5678 2 года назад +1

      omg 🤣speacially the one who wear a white cap😂😂, u know when I talk to social people, my pharynx swells up like a frog.

  • @effiethefey
    @effiethefey 2 года назад +6222

    I got stressed when one(1) person was more introverted than I were, but the whole group - that's some real nightmarish stuff...

  • @natasa04tsats15
    @natasa04tsats15 2 года назад +5153

    "We can't all play trees in the background"
    "we can be a forest"
    Ahh such a peaceful and non-anxious decision

    • @andrewswanson4819
      @andrewswanson4819 2 года назад +20

      Phlegmatic 100

    • @agnes_land
      @agnes_land 2 года назад +43

      a fourest

    • @GINSHOTGUN
      @GINSHOTGUN 2 года назад +6

      Indeed

    • @Kensuke22
      @Kensuke22 2 года назад +11

      Or "The Amazon rainforest"

    • @claystahl7002
      @claystahl7002 2 года назад +1

      Tookdramainhischooltogetclosetogirlssuperstressfulididntrealiseitwasaperfectthingturnedintomyfaveriteevenifscarynowirealiseilearnedmoreaboutlifethereeventhoughifeltoutofcontrolmostofthetime

  • @tikaardhany7568
    @tikaardhany7568 2 года назад +4998

    Alternative title : The Story behind Frank James playing all the roles by himself in his videos.

    • @StephanieJeanne
      @StephanieJeanne 2 года назад +100

      It's like a play within a play👻😹

    • @qu0thraven
      @qu0thraven 2 года назад +33

      @@StephanieJeanne - Nice!
      "The play’s the thing
      Wherein I’ll catch the conscience of the King"

    • @StephanieJeanne
      @StephanieJeanne 2 года назад +7

      @@qu0thraven 😉✌️

    • @jhsil224
      @jhsil224 2 года назад +26

      Finally explained...

    • @keaton5850
      @keaton5850 2 года назад +25

      I just remembered he's alone :0

  • @steppenwolfwe3354
    @steppenwolfwe3354 2 года назад +4933

    When faced with situations like these I become an extrovert....suddenly confident and very social.

    • @illigirl768
      @illigirl768 2 года назад +232

      @Vastness same here lol I usually take the lead...but this rarely happens as there will more than likely be an extrovert among us

    • @angel_cat
      @angel_cat 2 года назад +76

      In my experience, it has a lot of drawbacks but also a lot of advantages like making fellow introverts agree with a sustainable functional plan to present a pre-recorded presentation.

    • @designkolamart8828
      @designkolamart8828 2 года назад +58

      Yeah same here, tend to become more extraverted with introverted ones n vice versa. Though my confidence doesn't depend on this thing always !! It's just about situations!! Heard this question many times- why I don't talk more :/ But if situation requires, suppose crucial office moments, if I say some important or diplomatic things, they're openly like she can talk this much? 😲 never knew!! & again there I go silent😶!! Or just a smile, but still better than the white-blue T-shirt Frank here!! 🤭🤣 with little time everyone knows when I can talk and when I don't!!

    • @BCruise-rs9xy
      @BCruise-rs9xy 2 года назад +7

      Ditto dude🥺🙏😔🌿🌴

    • @Kharizmah
      @Kharizmah 2 года назад +19

      Yes and I wouldn't care if I HAD to yell at people. All of you are playing a role, or I will go to the teacher rat on all of you and YOU WILL FAIL!

  • @SiiriCressey
    @SiiriCressey 2 года назад +1833

    "What am I supposed to do, play all the roles by myself?!"
    Very meta, sir.

    • @poixon_asherzzz
      @poixon_asherzzz 2 года назад +9

      Im not gonna do this...my anxiety sucks

    • @SiiriCressey
      @SiiriCressey 2 года назад +3

      @@poixon_asherzzz You're not going to play all the roles?

    • @AndersonMallonyMALLONY-EricCF
      @AndersonMallonyMALLONY-EricCF 2 года назад +3

      Exactly, very clever lol

    • @willc3697
      @willc3697 Год назад +5

      As soon as I heard him say that, I knew that the others would all agree.

    • @SiiriCressey
      @SiiriCressey Год назад +3

      @@willc3697 He accidentally gave them the perfect out.

  • @gre3nishsinx0Rgold4
    @gre3nishsinx0Rgold4 2 года назад +1096

    That one guy smiling in the blue shirt has a very mesmerizing smile. It's like he's internally fighting whether to break out and be extroverted or stay as an introvert. But then losing and just smiling to hide that fact. I feel such pain. I know it so well.

    • @meh4180
      @meh4180 2 года назад +37

      He is such a great actor

    • @grey_xoid
      @grey_xoid 2 года назад +34

      That's me
      I'm that guy in the blue shirt... :)

    • @mechkitten
      @mechkitten 2 года назад +51

      Ah yes, the ambivert. Always seeing how they can flip the switch to get the most excitement.

    • @mostlyschleich187
      @mostlyschleich187 2 года назад +9

      Ah yes sadly I know that pain as well

    • @walterneta3679
      @walterneta3679 2 года назад +21

      I thought he was a wee bit creepy . . . Fake smile to placate everyone, all the while looking for a way to escape.

  • @isabelmachuca3859
    @isabelmachuca3859 2 года назад +236

    the guy who just smiled awkwardly the whole time killed me 😂

  • @argyrous_p
    @argyrous_p 2 года назад +791

    Fainting on stage? No... Screaming "I can't do this " and running away has worked better for me 😂

    • @randomone8811
      @randomone8811 2 года назад +59

      Me: Yeah so im actually sick *cough cough* like really sick.
      Teacher: I don't believe you.
      Me: *Throws up from being nervous*
      Teacher: Go home now.

    • @yourbootyholeisyourbeautyhole
      @yourbootyholeisyourbeautyhole 2 года назад +21

      in my junior year of high school i had this assignment - i don't remember what but it was for english - and when i got to class our teacher told us that we'd have to present our work to the class.
      so naturally i did the normal thing and told her i forgot my homework at home and dropped out of school
      that last part wasn't because of the assignment, though 😌🙏

    • @reettaelina4158
      @reettaelina4158 2 года назад +16

      ...Crying for me ....or getting all class laughing so that in the end the teacher is jelling at me

    • @yosoyunapersona3910
      @yosoyunapersona3910 2 года назад +12

      @@reettaelina4158 omg same I remember in school when l was 9 that I had to sing in front of the whole class and I ended up crying and running away. I didn’t wanted to do it anyway but not that way

    • @reettaelina4158
      @reettaelina4158 2 года назад +1

      @@yosoyunapersona3910 That's right Yeah! 😩😅

  • @Ziffelzoovop
    @Ziffelzoovop Год назад +139

    I was an outgoing introvert. I collected all the quieter introverts like some sort of mother hen so we had a group to hide in at lunch and then never do anything else ever and it was a fantastic arrangement

    • @lucy-gj8lj
      @lucy-gj8lj Год назад +11

      how do i sign up

    • @alexevans798
      @alexevans798 Год назад +3

      @@lucy-gj8lj I want to join too

    • @garnettee
      @garnettee 4 месяца назад

      Sounds like a plan. I'm in.

  • @butterflysuki7772
    @butterflysuki7772 2 года назад +815

    I’m the introvert leader of my introverted friends group. Everyone WANTS to get together for dinner once a week but I’m somehow in charge of it all and planning it. It’s stressful when I hate being the leader and anxiety doesn’t want me to make wrong choices! 😭

    • @mollusckscramp4124
      @mollusckscramp4124 2 года назад +18

      I feel ya, ditto

    • @stark5679
      @stark5679 2 года назад +21

      I guess i consider myself more the leader amongst other introverts. Plus my guy in the checkered shirt is wearing my glasses😂. Styling stylish👓

    • @tinaperez7393
      @tinaperez7393 2 года назад +31

      It's not possible to screw up. They can speak up and or take the lead and intiative any time themselves. So if they dont, ain't your fault. Speak up or forever hold their peace. And if they speak up after the fact it's their own fault for not being heard when it could've made a difference. There are bee-yatchers and complainers or contributors and problem solvers. Can't be both.

    • @jhsil224
      @jhsil224 2 года назад +5

      So don't make wrong choices... and drink water, this is important.

    • @freestang6662
      @freestang6662 2 года назад +5

      It sounds like your friends are just lazy.

  • @sim771
    @sim771 2 года назад +1096

    Frank being the only "Extrovert" in the group shook me to my core. Literally me in every group project trying to motivate the group to get something... anything done. 😂💀 ENTP

    • @starfoam9467
      @starfoam9467 2 года назад +35

      As an ENFP, same 💀

    • @shikhasuman871
      @shikhasuman871 2 года назад +8

      Lol 🤣

    • @inezsanchez1034
      @inezsanchez1034 2 года назад +36

      I’m an infp, my poor entp friend. 😂😂😂 He just knows I’m already not participating lol!

    • @CIA.2024-u9b
      @CIA.2024-u9b 2 года назад +28

      Team work is overrated

    • @terra_the_nightingale135
      @terra_the_nightingale135 2 года назад +10

      I no longer know my personality type but the theatre kid within me would take over at this point

  • @rationalcynic8416
    @rationalcynic8416 2 года назад +906

    As an INTJ this is what it's like to work with ISTPs. ISTPs never seem to say more than three words at a time. They just sit there, just nodding, shaking their head, or shrugging as a form of communication. The bright side is that these interactions reassure me that I'm not as socially incapable as I feel.

    • @zitygonecrazy
      @zitygonecrazy 2 года назад +99

      ISTP here, and yes, that's exactly what i do

    • @emeraldquest1832
      @emeraldquest1832 2 года назад +68

      As an ISTP I can believe that. I'm the type who never talks, but always do all the job in group projects

    • @Kharizmah
      @Kharizmah 2 года назад +39

      I switch between INTJ and ISTP depending on the situation. So I will avoid saying anything if possible and prefer a build-it-in-the-background-role BUT if I don't like the way things are being planned out I will have to vocalize.

    • @captainjacksparrow2152
      @captainjacksparrow2152 2 года назад +57

      That's interesting. I'm an ISTP and if grouped with fellow introverts, I'm always the one to break the silence, crack jokes (i'll regret it later) and initiate the planning until the others finally join in. If in the case someone else takes the initiative to lead, I'll just stay in the background and do as much as I can for the groupwork behind the scenes because I don't want to become a freeloader. I prefer not leading tho. Like please, I'll help, just don't let me lead.

    • @holicdoll666
      @holicdoll666 2 года назад +28

      I know 2 ISTPs in my class, the first person gonna be a silent rock in a group project and guess who's the leader.. She is an ISTP too🙂 what a difference

  • @AjayKumar-vx8ff
    @AjayKumar-vx8ff 2 года назад +441

    An extrovert would have saved this play from being a tragedy lol

    • @redwolfungry
      @redwolfungry 2 года назад +86

      it's shakespear! IT HAS to be a tragedy!

    • @lulu7304
      @lulu7304 2 года назад +6

      @@redwolfungry 😂😂😂

    • @ACDBunnie
      @ACDBunnie 2 года назад +28

      They're an extrovert, not a miracle worker

    • @AjayKumar-vx8ff
      @AjayKumar-vx8ff 2 года назад +16

      @@ACDBunnie yes but extrovert are better in talking so I guess they will take the roles of the play other than being trees and River and I think that will improve the play btw I m an introvert

    • @emmarasyidi4665
      @emmarasyidi4665 2 года назад +6

      Exactly. We need extroverts sometimes

  • @danielabenitez1264
    @danielabenitez1264 2 года назад +144

    Alas, poor introvert! I never knew him, Horatio. A fellow of infinite silence, of the most excellent introspection. I wish I could say more about him, but he barely uttered a sound.

  • @sufyb6432
    @sufyb6432 2 года назад +258

    FJ's glasses collection is almost as impressive as his wig collection.

  • @clayclaytay4920
    @clayclaytay4920 2 года назад +192

    That's where my special ability activates: At the moment where everyone is more introverted, shy or anxious I suddenly turn into the extrovert, loud and confident leader who gets us through it.
    I call that mother moments.

    • @maryjo6216
      @maryjo6216 2 года назад +39

      Same. And then lay awake all night second guessing everything I said and did

  • @Carol_65
    @Carol_65 2 года назад +151

    The body language and facial gestures when he's reading the parts from Hamlet make me laugh.😆

  • @limaindiasiestaalpha
    @limaindiasiestaalpha 2 года назад +139

    Well I actually like Introverts, as long as they aren't THAT passive

    • @angel_cat
      @angel_cat 2 года назад +20

      As an introvert, I try to develop ways to go around the situation. For example, recording my voice on cassette in a highschool presentation so that I didn't puke out of nervousness in front of the entire class.

    • @illigirl768
      @illigirl768 2 года назад +12

      @@angel_cat That's smart thinking. I wish I would had that idea when I was younger. Heck I think I can use that now!

    • @angel_cat
      @angel_cat 2 года назад +1

      @@illigirl768 From one Cat to another, I say, go. ❤️❤️❤️ Goodluck. 😆

    • @sandroribeiro7644
      @sandroribeiro7644 2 года назад +6

      For me that doesn't Work, i will get there and get too nervous trying to Remember all the words, but if I just plan the topics or fully improvise the teacher will probably get inpressed and give me a better grade

    • @angel_cat
      @angel_cat 2 года назад

      @@sandroribeiro7644 if it's a speech you're trying to do, my idea probably won't work. But with a group presentation, you can just wear masks and make gestures. Depends though, i guess. I learned to navigate having to speak some lines on a stage. And then the rest is on record. If I can go around NOT having to be doing it live, I would. But leader positions has helped me to think smart than adjust to extrovert ways (at least to not drain myself all the time).

  • @StephanieJeanne
    @StephanieJeanne 2 года назад +420

    The smiler! 💀😭 This was a riot, Frank!!...playing all the parts!! 🤣🙌💜

    • @argyrous_p
      @argyrous_p 2 года назад +14

      Makes you wonder if all actors have/develop multiple personality disorders 🤣🤣

    • @talyahfeigenbaum9486
      @talyahfeigenbaum9486 2 года назад +17

      @@argyrous_p he's an INFJ... It's one of the requirements for being one😉

    • @Carol_65
      @Carol_65 2 года назад +4

      @@talyahfeigenbaum9486 😂

    • @StephanieJeanne
      @StephanieJeanne 2 года назад +2

      @@talyahfeigenbaum9486 I can attest to that!🤣🙌

    • @argyrous_p
      @argyrous_p 2 года назад +1

      @@talyahfeigenbaum9486 🤣🤣

  • @angel_cat
    @angel_cat 2 года назад +477

    For anyone who is actually dealing with this dilemma: Make a puppet show. That way no one needs to go on the stage!!! And you still get plus points for creativity. (You can also record your voices in advance so no one pukes while delivering the lines live. You just need backstage IT handlers, and prepare the puppet stage, puppets and all that -) I am sure the class presentation and role play DID NOT have rules against a sock puppet presentation and recording your voices in advance. When I was in highschool, we recorded our conversation on a cassette, and we just had to PRETEND to be having a conversation. Similarly, with some college presentation where we recorded our supposed live-acting on a camera, and my less introverted group mates just pretended to report it like a newscaster. Sure it takes time but it is worth it. Plus, a simple puppet show with that many people is easy enough to prepare overnight. You just need socks and cardboards and crayons. The person recording the ENTIRE scene with his voice can JUST BE ONE PERSON!!!

    • @mollusckscramp4124
      @mollusckscramp4124 2 года назад +46

      Brilliant 👏✨

    • @angel_cat
      @angel_cat 2 года назад +13

      @@mollusckscramp4124 thanks

    • @arben7792
      @arben7792 2 года назад +24

      ur a genius

    • @gabriellebarnard707
      @gabriellebarnard707 2 года назад +16

      🤯💡🥇🏆👏🏽

    • @Laura-ol5mt
      @Laura-ol5mt 2 года назад +33

      I wish I had that idea in high school, you are briliant my friend, very creative :D

  • @valerielinares2068
    @valerielinares2068 2 года назад +148

    As an ambivert myself, it's honestly sort of frustrating to work with introverts like these. Like, I get it, you hate working in groups, and you hate giving presentations. But the thing is, regardless of whether you like it or not, the assignment needs to get done. So let's just work together and get it over with. Okay? Okay!

    • @artryg0n497
      @artryg0n497 2 года назад +24

      No

    • @kuromii2693
      @kuromii2693 Год назад +27

      I agree! I understand that some people don't enjoy working in groups and they'd rather work alone, but they shouldn't ruin everyone else's grade over that. Just get it over with, and be more productive so that the group will finish it earlier. (resulting in more alone time)
      INFJ

    • @davion9402
      @davion9402 Год назад +7

      You have no idea how stressful these sort of stuffs are lmao

    • @raymindgg4874
      @raymindgg4874 Год назад

      @@artryg0n497 hey yo still alive?

    • @hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426
      @hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426 Год назад +13

      @@artryg0n497 Exactly! I am introverted af but I try to take the lead as much as possible quickly. If I am the most introverted person, I take mostly writing and research parts. If I am the most extroverted, I take more difficult stuff. On a negative note, you need to sometimes screenshare or stay with some people so they get their parts done themselves and not throw it on others. Channel your inner mom energy.

  • @RenTran1
    @RenTran1 2 года назад +148

    “When everyone is more introverted than you.”
    Impossible

  • @WhoAmIReallly
    @WhoAmIReallly 2 года назад +106

    Not enough introverted to sit back and watch, Not enough extroverted to enjoy the leadership, I was kinda forced to take a role of that kind last year; and despite going through a lot of stress, I did pretty well and was proud of coming a little bit out of my shell.

  • @polvoradelrey2423
    @polvoradelrey2423 2 года назад +39

    Introverts' weaponry:
    -Grin like a perv no matter what
    -Look oblivious
    -Day-dream non-stop.

  • @the.ivy_trio
    @the.ivy_trio 2 года назад +83

    I literally had the same thing happen to me when my teacher thought it would be a great idea to put all the introverts in one group. It was a disaster. I still have nightmares about it.

    • @mechkitten
      @mechkitten 2 года назад +6

      Now imagine having holes in social skills from early childhood isolation AND being drained from too much "small talk". Give me a group project, and I'll become very active for the sake of the role.

  • @LyralioRC
    @LyralioRC 2 года назад +80

    I'm not even 30 seconds in and I already can't take it IT'S TOO REAL

  • @soph_theloaf
    @soph_theloaf 2 года назад +128

    Oh my gosh I feel this I’m not an introvert but I’m quite shy and socially anxious and quiet and I’ve had to be the group leader far more than I’d like just because I’m the “smartest” in the group and everyone makes me do it

    • @angel_cat
      @angel_cat 2 года назад +12

      I know what you mean. I've been pushed to a leader position because I'm the smart one out of a group sometimes. But it's made me more comfortable with being onstage. Granted, I am still introverted and would prefer much preparation. But it has taught me to devise ways to cope better - like, I discovered if I could record lines in advance and then have it play during class than risk saying the wrong words live. Or the whole presentation be recorded (if there was no rules against it). Otherwise, make a puppet show, and the voices are all pre-recorded too.

  • @mollusckscramp4124
    @mollusckscramp4124 2 года назад +35

    Lmfao the quiet smiling dork in the blue tye-dye is literally me. I was rollin the whole video from the accuracy, I even have a white hat and glasses like that

    • @sanschmidt5457
      @sanschmidt5457 2 года назад

      would you say it's more of a nervous smile or more of a self-defence-mechanism rooting in people telling you often that you don't look like you enjoy yourself so you've trained yourself to always have resting smiling face in order to "blend in" more and don't look grumpy but more "pleasant" in a society that tends to take "good emotions" for granted but puts more attention towards the negative ones so resting smiling face might just let some extroverts walk right past you instead of commenting on you?

    • @momententierchen2008
      @momententierchen2008 2 года назад +1

      @@sanschmidt5457 I do "the smile" too; for me its a mixture between a nervous smile and a "Ah so kind of you that you do the talking, thank you so much ^^ Awww we have a group project thats nice, you all are so nice ^^".. Like I try to communicate some positive impression I get from the others, but I'm too shy to speak. (My resting face looks as if I'm bored.) In a situation like in the video where I would be required to say something but am too shy, it would be probably a "Oh no he asked us something, I'll just smile so hopefully someone else will answer. Are you all good? Go ahead, I smile at you, so You can say something...* awkwardness increases* I dont ignore you, I just dont know what to say"... or sth like this, I dont know :>

  • @justsophie0929
    @justsophie0929 2 года назад +17

    The guy who barely says anything and always smiles😂

  • @jesusivansegundofaustino8118
    @jesusivansegundofaustino8118 2 года назад +49

    My new life motto: I'll just play a tree in the background

  • @naginiriddle7091
    @naginiriddle7091 2 года назад +78

    I just want to point out--stage fright is not introversion. I am an INFP, extremely introverted, but I absolutely enjoy the stage. Being on stage is so much fun, and is not socially draining for me. Besides I already live my life in fantasy land, might as well be on stage in fantasy land too 😅

    • @sofycolt27
      @sofycolt27 2 года назад +21

      Lucky you. I am an INFP as well, but usually I will do everything -write script, make costumes and whatever just not to be on stage or make presentations. I understand that there is nothing to be afraid of but feel sick anyway on stage. When I got older, it became easier but still not my favorite thing. I think that stage fright is more typical for introverts than for extroverts

    • @Newfiecat
      @Newfiecat 2 года назад +4

      I'm a bit like this. I love the stage if I'm acting silly and funny, for example I could very easily prance around in a clown suit or take part in a funny skit. But if it's something serious, like acting out Shakespeare, then I'd get waaaay too nervous and would probably faint or something 😅.

    • @Buphido
      @Buphido 2 года назад +2

      I am an INFP as well and I don’t mind acting on stage at all. What I do mind is holding a serious presentation, partially due to my stuttering. It’s slightly getting better, but I remember when I was standing in front of a bunch of students at uni having to present something and my knees where visibly shaking and I had to focus to prevent the cheat sheet in my hand from making paper sounds.

    • @Phantom_Moth
      @Phantom_Moth 2 года назад +1

      me too, im an INFP but i kinda enjoy being on stage. acting as another character in another world is very interesting. having a crap ton of lines though, that's a no since i also have a bit of stagefright lol.

    • @FireFoxie1345
      @FireFoxie1345 Год назад +1

      As an INTP, being on stage is the only time I say stuff to people besides my only friend

  • @affinity266
    @affinity266 2 года назад +67

    Stress overload, man.
    "20 minutes before the project is due" !! That's why I hate procrastination, you don't know what's gonna happen, and I don't like "passive" surprises.
    Anyway, I admire how you take care of subtle details, the river with blue shirt, and the tree is a brown shirt, that was thoughtful 👍

  • @ms.m256
    @ms.m256 2 года назад +20

    Everyone in unison : let's be the tree in the background 😆😅🤣😂

  • @theadultsaretalking2582
    @theadultsaretalking2582 2 года назад +23

    I’ve been through this and it was a nightmare. As an ISTP, I always speak the bare minimum in group projects. I just show up to say what i want to do or see what the group wants me to do, deliver it to them and occasionally express some divergent opinion. Words can’t describe how much I freaked out when i was forced to take the “Leader” role in a group full of passive introverts. Our group had only a couple hours till the deadline and nobody showed up in the group chat to decide anything. I sent them the teacher instructions and told them what i was going to do, hoping that they would pick their parts too, but they only answered “OK” and went mute again. I had to keep organizing things and telling them what to do till the last minute, while still feeling pressured to get everyone the maximum score. I was so stressed, If the assignment was individual I wouldn’t even do it in the first place, my grades were already high enough to not fail the year and I was against the entire concept of the project. I just forced myself to participate because i previously told my classmates I would and didn’t want to let them in disadvantage. Like damn thats what i get for having empathy

    • @suzannemacmillan9135
      @suzannemacmillan9135 2 года назад +2

      As an ISTP. I can relate.

    • @mrtuwnbr
      @mrtuwnbr 2 года назад +2

      As an INTP I get your pain, I hate passive introverts with vivid passion. Like, I get it, I’m not te biggest fan of social interaction neither, but if other people’s grades are on the table you can’t be that uncooperative.

    • @UrWeid
      @UrWeid 11 месяцев назад

      @@mrtuwnbr I'm ENTP but I'm with you on this

  • @likemycomment6592
    @likemycomment6592 2 года назад +11

    That smiling one is literally me whenever new people talk to me and I try to ignore them politely

  • @annalisehua
    @annalisehua 2 года назад +9

    I'm adaptable. When everyone else is more introverted than I am, I max out my social battery and BECOME the extrovert.

  • @QuotesArticles
    @QuotesArticles 2 года назад +109

    RUclips campus:
    How introverts are enjoying RUclips with their tribe in watching, creating and sharing content! Such a pleasant experience 😇😌

    • @miahan8988
      @miahan8988 2 года назад +1

      The sewing community is so lovely and lively, I love them 😊

    • @QuotesArticles
      @QuotesArticles 2 года назад +1

      @@miahan8988 Oh glad for you! Continue having a great time! 😊

  • @editsyouwillfindwherever
    @editsyouwillfindwherever 2 года назад +58

    i, being an introvert myself, would never let this happen. even if i can't speak well, i would never take all the responsibility of some work just because someone is "more introverted" than me. when that happened before, but with just me and some random girl, she had her part too, i said "u choose it or u just get a 0" (we use 10-0 not A-F as our grading system), and she just had to choose. sure she could give up and just get a 0, but she probably did not want to redo the work by herself later, or even fail the subject

    • @babangidaibrahim2596
      @babangidaibrahim2596 2 года назад +1

      You will because their respect your decision

    • @editsyouwillfindwherever
      @editsyouwillfindwherever 2 года назад

      @@babangidaibrahim2596 i will what

    • @Cl3m0ntine
      @Cl3m0ntine 2 года назад

      I've done the same

    • @editsyouwillfindwherever
      @editsyouwillfindwherever 2 года назад

      @@Cl3m0ntine if you're talking about not taking all the responsibility for yourself, you're totally right! bc if you take it, in the end this will trouble your mind more than you would think

  • @acemarie3017
    @acemarie3017 2 года назад +49

    😂😂
    -Those emojis👆are literal and not just an exaggeration; I actually did have a tear in my eye from laughing.👌🏻👌🏻

  • @koisekeung7670
    @koisekeung7670 2 года назад +20

    I hate when this happens because I feel just as unwilling to cooperate and socialise as them, but I acknowledge that it’s important we get the work done and so I end up getting really frustrated when I’m the only one putting effort in (even though it’s difficult for me too).

  • @cyberus8525
    @cyberus8525 2 года назад +5

    1:44 "My doctor said I can only speak 20 words a month"
    Omg...😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @tasenova2717
    @tasenova2717 2 года назад +22

    In a situation like that, you just tell them what to do. I am an INFJ, personally when everyone is more timid than me I just end up being a commander of sorts

    • @lauram8973
      @lauram8973 2 года назад +7

      Exactly. As an INFJ, you become what the group needs.

    • @claystahl7002
      @claystahl7002 2 года назад

      Beingbigandscarylikemeivedlearnedtalkingaslittleaspossibletodealwiththisisatbestisonlyatemporarysolutionwomenneedtoheartherightwordsifyoucantdothatyouloseeverytimemaybeitsbetterinaletter

    • @loisen
      @loisen Год назад

      I’m the leader in a lot of things because people just can’t decide. Even at work. People need someone who helps them making a decision.

  • @Emeraldelle
    @Emeraldelle 2 года назад +502

    This is a masterpiece based on true stories; practically based on my life sometimes…. Thank you Frank, we appreciate it🥲😂👏🏼

  • @dorsab8627
    @dorsab8627 2 года назад +12

    Back in college i had to be the extroverted one cause of how introverted some of my classmates were. And so when i told them i was also an introvert one of them said ," youre so loud, youre not an introvert!" And it hit me, not only was this girl gatekeeping introversion... but also thought every existing introvert has to be shy- god im so glad i will never see them again

    • @mrtuwnbr
      @mrtuwnbr 2 года назад +4

      People use the word “introvert” so bad it’s sad. They make it seem as misanthropy 2.0 while actually it just means that you recharge by being alone. We don’t hate others, as an INTP I enjoy being with friends and family and I really missed presencial classes, maybe they should stop trying to treat this things as black and white and recognize that we are more complex??

  • @bnx_xnb7327
    @bnx_xnb7327 2 года назад +11

    Happened to me once like 10 years ago. Still haunting me at sleepless nights.

  • @TheWolvyrne
    @TheWolvyrne Год назад +8

    Ahahahaha I’m the smiley introvert. I smile constantly while I’m at work so people feel comfortable but then I worry that I’m smiling so much that I’m actually making people uncomfortable 😅

  • @aclockworkwacko
    @aclockworkwacko 2 года назад +35

    It's a nightmare tbh when you have to spell out your personality "I'm not usually the girl organizing this kinda stuff" Phew!!

  • @r_r11111
    @r_r11111 2 года назад +20

    It LITERALLY happened last year , & i had to behave like an extrovert & group leader simultaneously....... (the anxious personal inside me was just screaming )

  • @axa7.77
    @axa7.77 2 года назад +25

    The one's who's smiling as if his life depends on it would be me if i were the most introverted which is 99% of the time :')

    • @rainsara2795
      @rainsara2795 2 года назад +1

      Same I see myself and my introverted friends in him 🤣

  • @Alex-rp3yy
    @Alex-rp3yy 2 года назад +33

    what you do in this kind of situation: get a bag, a hat or anything and write each one's task and then assign them by fortune

    • @geminix365
      @geminix365 2 года назад

      An ESTJ just has a plan for everyone

    • @colosheepclassysongs3484
      @colosheepclassysongs3484 2 года назад

      Yes

    • @Alex-rp3yy
      @Alex-rp3yy 2 года назад +1

      @@geminix365 I'd wish, I'm just an infj who knows that i have to seem extroverted in order to have something done and that's the only way without drama

  • @mikethespike7579
    @mikethespike7579 Год назад +6

    I can totally connect to this. I'm an introvert and remember the times when the parts for the next school play were being handed out, I hated every minute.
    It's a hard life at first as an introvert, but it gets better with age and experience. For instance women usually don't fall for introverts so quickly, but as soon as they find out that the local extrovert is just full of hot air and BS they gravitate to the quiet guy, maybe he can give them a deeper meaning in life.

  • @krystiesolfyre5340
    @krystiesolfyre5340 2 года назад +7

    “Sure we can, it’s like a forest.” 🌳 🌳 🌳 🤣

  • @piscesfae
    @piscesfae 2 года назад +8

    me as an enfp that can get quiet and shy around extroverts but is usually the leader type around introverts

  • @jeneusschneider243
    @jeneusschneider243 2 года назад +19

    idea:
    - `16 personalities in squid game
    - 16 personalities doing a presentation
    - 16 personalities in the shower
    - 16 personalities reading a book

  • @wgv929
    @wgv929 2 года назад +3

    Love the smile on the guy with the hat. Cracks me up!

  • @TwerkingJelly
    @TwerkingJelly 2 года назад +15

    Fact is: Frank James videos about introverts are the best🙈

  • @uhohhotdog
    @uhohhotdog 2 года назад +4

    The blue and white shirt guy had me rolling 🤣

  • @tiarailic4086
    @tiarailic4086 2 года назад +6

    That awkward plastered smile. Lol😅.

  • @SamElle
    @SamElle 2 года назад +18

    when in a group, I always make sure to have at least one extroverted member hahahah. I like when someone else makes the decision LOL

  • @padinampriyanka471
    @padinampriyanka471 2 года назад +3

    Oh man! I laughed out loud at the ending🤣🤣 soo funny! Thank you for this❤️

  • @aprilhelm518
    @aprilhelm518 2 года назад +12

    My brain used to translate "get into groups" as: stand around waiting for the rest of the class to get into groups so that I can be put into the left-overs group of whoever else has no group. Even if I spot them (looking kinda the same), I just wait.

    • @Cl3m0ntine
      @Cl3m0ntine 2 года назад +1

      I used to do the same 😂😂

  • @elvishlp7230
    @elvishlp7230 2 года назад +12

    I feel this. But I also have to say, a situation like this is the only one where I can at least try to train leadership skills. Once there's a slightly less introvert person in the group, I immediately step back

  • @podervermelho1
    @podervermelho1 2 года назад +3

    lmao, that was totally me as an INTP in my IT university "acting" like a group leader. I didn't faint but I was sweating so much that my teacher thought I was close to have a stroke.

  • @sadlittletroll1738
    @sadlittletroll1738 2 года назад +9

    As an INTP this would stress me into ENTJ shadow mode and I'll be like, "Okay, you do this part. You can do this part, I'm doing this part. Any questions? We'll finish this and go over it by Friday to make changes."
    Someone: "Your idea is too complicated to do."
    Me: "Okay cool, what do you wanna do instead?"
    Me: "Then we'll stick with this until someone comes up with a better idea we can all agree with. Have a good week everybody!"

    • @emmarasyidi4665
      @emmarasyidi4665 2 года назад

      Cool!!

    • @mrtuwnbr
      @mrtuwnbr 2 года назад

      Lol same, as an INTP I turn full ENTJ when no one is willing to take the lead

  • @matthewmitchell3457
    @matthewmitchell3457 2 года назад +3

    Oh my gosh, I had that EXACT thing happen to me. It was even an acting project, and even the smiley guy at 0:23 was in the group.
    It was absolute torture, like trying to light wet wood on fire.

  • @dianatorralbo7690
    @dianatorralbo7690 2 года назад +22

    One day I sat with all the nerdy boys because my ESTP Chad crush wasn't paying me attention. It went like this. The more I flirted, the more awkward it was. -ENFP

    • @mariamahmed3929
      @mariamahmed3929 2 года назад +1

      That's a fkn nightmare and I can relate 😳😂😂😂

  • @EarthenCavy
    @EarthenCavy 2 года назад +16

    I am the weirdest INFP. Maybe it’s because my N and S are reeeally close (like, almost 50/50), I don’t know. But, in scenarios like this, I’d be like, “Ooh! Ooh! I’ll be Hamlet! Yeah, I know I’m a girl, so what? Imma still be Hamlet!” and I get all excited and brassy and loud about the whole project. 😂

    • @Newfiecat
      @Newfiecat 2 года назад +2

      Huh, that's three INFPs I've seen in the comments who wouldn't actually mind taking part in a play (along with myself). Maybe INFPs are more likely to be excited by creative projects? Or are more likely to enjoy acting out a story? Very interesting...

  • @Mad.E
    @Mad.E 2 года назад +2

    oh god, I get so nervous being unprepared or getting bad grades that I've actually been pushed into this exact situation before

  • @talyahfeigenbaum9486
    @talyahfeigenbaum9486 2 года назад +11

    What a nightmare!
    Can't say I never had to take the lead in a project... And ended up doing everything... Nope... 🙄😒

  • @Mistgreen1989
    @Mistgreen1989 2 года назад +3

    That creepy smiling person, I can't 🤣

  • @pikaro955
    @pikaro955 2 года назад +9

    I used to be in these groups and I’m dying of how accurate this is 😭😭

  • @maggielovegood1667
    @maggielovegood1667 2 года назад +4

    I'm the smiling guy, now I understand why people look at me strangely... xD

  • @Sam_995
    @Sam_995 2 года назад +3

    A group of introverts is like a shadow organisation

  • @kini6657
    @kini6657 2 года назад +4

    I feel this on another level. Last week was the first time that I had to do all the talking in a group projekt and motivate the other ones to work with me. I felt so unconfortable because I could ask them a question and no one was giving me an answer 😶

  • @starfish5267
    @starfish5267 2 года назад +4

    Aww poor guy, I feel for him ❤

  • @lucaspoon4202
    @lucaspoon4202 2 года назад +2

    1:05 just cracked me the f*ck up. Somehow that was relatable and kinda shocking cuz I thought I was the only one who has done that. Like literally I could walk by someone and if they say hi unexpectedly than I could have an instance where I wave back, and smile, but words don't form quick enough and I just make some weird noise like "eehhuu meeauhh" or some shit lol

  • @JasonMoir
    @JasonMoir 2 года назад +5

    Wanting to be the river because you're 70% water....well played.

  • @osheridan
    @osheridan 2 года назад +2

    See, I absolutely love introverts, but this is why we need extroverts lol

  • @javieraseverino6251
    @javieraseverino6251 2 года назад +4

    2:13 I'm not introverted, but this things have happened to me and is so annoying!! You are trying to do something, they don't say nothings and only talk to grumble, and then ''calm down''! AAAAAAAAAAA

    • @RawReviews.
      @RawReviews. Год назад

      It’s annoying lol. It’s hard to try and push aside your dumb shyness just so other guys either don’t care about what you’re saying or act weirdly offended.

  • @princesssakura8286
    @princesssakura8286 2 года назад +2

    That has always been a thing with group projects back in the school days saying, "Up to you."

  • @nova-a7404
    @nova-a7404 2 года назад +16

    i mean, you *are* used to playing all roles, frank

  • @jennyg157
    @jennyg157 2 года назад +8

    My face in these kind of situations probably certainly looks closely exactly like blue tie dye shirt’s frozen smiley face.

  • @JapLomm
    @JapLomm 2 года назад +5

    That smiling guy. It was histerical just watching him

  • @birb6474
    @birb6474 2 года назад +4

    0:42 that smile is so cursed

  • @bittertea3701
    @bittertea3701 2 года назад +4

    This is literally me in two discussion sections this semester-please send help, I can’t keep up talking every single day

  • @AnariEvans
    @AnariEvans 2 года назад +3

    I'm always the talkative social one when I'm around other introverts, because, for some reason, there're even MORE introverted than me
    I'm guessing this happens a lot to my INTJ fellows, organizing the group, taking the leadership no one else wants so we can get things done

  • @jacobs.9696
    @jacobs.9696 2 года назад +8

    And this is why I don't like group projects.
    The End.

  • @Sketch_3003
    @Sketch_3003 2 года назад +4

    This literally happened with me, we were taking a test and my teacher was allowing us to group up and help each other. But the kids I got stuck with were all also introverted. So we just sat in silence and did the tests on our own...😭

  • @catchthesun15
    @catchthesun15 2 года назад +12

    As an INTJ this would be stressful up until I realize that they would all blindly do as I say to avoid confrontation. It is then, and only then, that I could truly transition from a simple leader, to the Puppet-master. Mwahahaha!. ....... I might be a little too caffeinated right now.

  • @jenhoney4310
    @jenhoney4310 2 года назад +2

    It's just comfy for an extrovert to have a gang of introverts so they can get as much attention as they want and yes I am talking about me.

  • @RosheenQuynh
    @RosheenQuynh 2 года назад +6

    After dealing with some grief of my dad for... probably the first time in almost nearly a decade, I needed this laugh. Thank you so much

  • @snowangelnc
    @snowangelnc 2 года назад +1

    I actually really enjoy acting. I get to interact with people and for once not have to worry about figuring out what to say or do because all of it is already typed up and given to me in advance. It's great!

  • @raquelrodriguez5158
    @raquelrodriguez5158 2 года назад +6

    I just finish stop working in a group were everyone is introvert so... I felt this 😂

  • @henriettaanneeles490
    @henriettaanneeles490 2 года назад +1

    Oh I completely relate to This! And I always feels terrible the first few times but then you feel proud of yourself because it's a good opportunity to take that dumpster fire and turn it into something good, like reducing your shyness, or becoming a leader etc. But this skit? So so painfully true

  • @phantomfandomfails3013
    @phantomfandomfails3013 2 года назад +13

    I really want to see a sketch of an extrovert meeting a bigger extrovert and so the extrovert starts to display a manner of an introvert

    • @Newfiecat
      @Newfiecat 2 года назад

      This, I have also seen in real life. It's a bizarre thing to witness!

  • @shenequakimbro5146
    @shenequakimbro5146 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for making me smile every day. When a video understands you more than family and friends. Lol. I have been watching this almost for a week now.

  • @coupdetat2318
    @coupdetat2318 2 года назад +3

    the smiling guy is probably me irl infront of others

  • @hannarose1523
    @hannarose1523 2 года назад +1

    As an enfj I tend to want to give introvert people a hug. I feel I talk to them more quiter or like they are an upset person. And I listen more and try to talk about something that doesnt require a lot of energy or something postive to bring up.

  • @chickenbeef1242
    @chickenbeef1242 2 года назад +5

    lol The way I've been the leader numerous times like this back in college because we we're all introverted!! God that was painful, but the thought of no one getting anything done was even more so!! So I would very anxiously reluctantly become (I do not even like calling myself a leader) the leader and honestly don't know how I did it. Glad that's over.