I work from home 4 out of 5 days and my life has FLORISHED from all the utter aloneness that I have! I do not hate people, I like them very much, and staying alone so much ensures it stays that way!
Love your videos and honestly you help me feel more "normal". I have very few friends, and spend the majority of my time alone. I often judge myself for this. In my case I'm an introvert but also it's due to trauma. It's nice to hear from another person with a small social group, great tips. Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you for resonating, Nicola ❤️ From time to time, I also fall into self-judgement for not being social, but there are certain innate or acquired deep features that we can't change and that need to stay unchanged, so that some important inner work gets done (as Rilke said in the quote I've mentioned in the video). Sending love 🌷
Dear Ana, I totally agree that you are not responsible for everything what happens to you. My grandparents didn't chose to be thrown out of their hometowns and houses in the 2nd WW and my greatgrandparents didn't chose to die of hunger😢. I think we can do lots and it's important to not lean back and let faith decide on your life but as you said there are boundaries as well concerning responsibility. Best wishes and have a fine evening😊
Your philosophies and your communication style is so soothing and yet invigorating. After watching, I’m full of thought, but with peace instead of anxiety. 😌✨
Well put! I realized how I started associating "a lot going on in my brain" with something negative, it often is, but there is still this good old feeling of "this made me think"
Dearest Ana, I watch every one of your videos. I learn something from you every time. I just haven’t contributed my thoughts and appreciation because I’m overwhelmed with my bad physical health and the depression that goes along with that. Once a week you bring a smile to my face and for that I am thankful. Live and love my dear friend. ❤❤❤
Personally, I have surrounded myself with a large variety of friends. Some are similar to me in thoughts and beliefs and others are vastly different. I treasure them all. Friends with certain “hot topic” differences we just don’t talk about those things. There is so much more to a person than even a basic life philosophy. If I only surround myself with people who are just like me I do not grow and my world stays very small. I celebrate the diversity of my friends and love them for who they are. We all bring something new and fresh into each others’ lives. I cannot throw people away unless they are truly bad for me. And for me that only means that they will not treat me with respect or treat me poorly. I do not have time for that. Friendships change and in different seasons different friends may come to the forefront while others recede because of life and situations. But those things too change and the ebb and flow continues. I am definitely an extrovert so it is easy for me. Friends enrich our lives so much! Since I recently became a widow, I am so thankful that friends have always been a part of my life. I now seek out opportunities to get together. Nothing worse than devoting your whole life to one person and then to lose that person and have no one else in your life. Keep your friendships strong throughout your life. Take it from me.
This topic is very much on my mind, so thank you! Two changes I have made lately; turning my phone to black and white, way less overstimulating and I can easily turn it to color if I need too + carrying a pocket notebook and fountain pen for notes about what I consume, it’s made me a far more conscious consumer and I actually do something with what I consume
Dear Ana, I’m so grateful for your content. It’s so creative, and I don’t feel influenced but instead, encouraged to develop my own mind and ideas. I’m commenting today because you are having such a positive impact on my life, and I want to honour that so I have signed up to Patreon. Here in the UK it is only £5.40 with VAT for a whole month. I feel that it is important for your work to be supported, so that you can live well, feel valued by your online community and continue to be a blessing. I have never signed up to support anyone before and I can only apologise for not doing this sooner. Thank you for all that you share, and for being true to yourself. It’s very humbling. I hope that you have a really inspiring week. Sara x
Dear Sara, your kind words were so much needed today, I've read them just at the right moment to get inspiration and motivation back to shake all the challenging feelings off. Thank you! And thank you for being so thoughtful and understanding, for joining Patreon. This support is so heartwarming. Sending love, my friend! 😘
Anna - for some reason I haven't seen your videos popping up on my feed lately. I love seeing your new haircut - it is beautiful - you look angelic and lovely. Thank you for your ideas and thoughts!
Thank you for your kind words, Janice! RUclips doesn't always show my videos, not to miss any you can click on the bell icon right below the video to get notifications every time I post 😊
I do agree with this weeks video title. My surroundings do influence me and although I can't change it at work, especially with whom I work, I do everything at home do feel safe and cosy. I spend time mostly by myself, which I enjoy, so I'm very sensitive to what I look at or consume or with whom I spend valuable time with (except for work as mentioned 🤭). It's much needed for my mental health. I like the saying: my mind is not a garbage bin 😊. Thank you Ana ❤
Thank you for your kind support, dear Anita ❤️ Work communications can be so challenging and exhausting too! As you said, the best counterweight is to build a home space that feels safe and cosy ✨
This is a beautiful and encouraging video,Ana :) All of your suggestions are excellent,particularly the idea that saying "no" can also be a verb and an active affirmation of our truest selves.A gentle yet very inspiring pep talk! We do have the natural right to define (and refine and remake) our existence.Even-or perhaps especially- when events or circumstances beyond our control seem to conspire to render us helpless. I had a moment in a personal relationship that sent me into a trauma trigger for most of this week. But I went to work and it was fine.I really don't think anyone noticed by inner,messed up mood,precisely because all of my work right now falls within my own self curated microcosm in a way that functions as self care. For example,a pot of dying African violets a client had given to me to attempt to resurrect came into full bloom this week,reminding me that I don't actually want to be defeatist,I just don't. I want to be inspired,not unproductively wallowing in trauma triggers.Even if I am horrified by some realization,I want it to take me somewhere,to find direction and meaning even in that. To go from the taste of ashes on the tongue to more of a rising from the ashes,even in moments that feel like some penance I swear I shouldn't have to bear or to pay;and even as I protest that I need to be comforted,not challenged. I think my guardian angels must laugh at my antics of self loathing and stubborn resistance to surrender,at how unnecessary it all is. If indeed there are angels- even just the angels of our better nature- surely this is what they most desire for us : a continual replenishment of our own inner divine spark,of our own capacity to create and recreate. From the micro to the macro and back again 🌟 Rilke is one of my favorites since teenaged years.The quote you shared from him is such a great one! ❤ It seems like a fantasy to strive towards the state of being he expressed,where we have a knowingness that life itself is "holding us in its hands ".Such a profoundly benevolent gesture. It's easier to feel like life is smacking us down and that this cold reality is all there is. But what if we decide that it won't be,even while knowing full well that feeling gently held by life itself would be impossible to sustain all of the time. What could we bring into being for ourselves?
It's a powerful and insightful text, Maude ❤️ I can relate so much to your realizations, especially about the desire to be inspired and not triggered, resurrected and not ashed, and the micro-macro loop. From my own experience, I felt the life's hand holding me the most in the momements of utterly painful losses. It's almost an esoteric feeling of knowing that everything goes as it should and I won't fall. Thank you for resonating, my friend 🌿And yay to the violets!
Wow,being able to have that knowingness that life is holding you in its hand even during the most utterly painful moments is such a blessing.You have been truly blessed to have this internal locus of sustaining faith. I think it's beautiful,even though it's something that has eluded me so far.Maybe once I felt that,when I was in Morocco and saw a true night sky for the first time.I was so awed by it,a riot of stars everywhere from the horizon to the depths of the sky. It being "almost esoteric" makes total sense to me,though 😂 And what you said also just sounds true,like a truth I just can't quite grasp. The violets are the richest,purest hue of bluish-purple,a daily fillip to my spirits, for sure! There are always flowers 😊
Fantastic video Ana I’m going to listen to this one again I feel like my mind has been a bin for people to dump their problems into it thank you dear Ana for your video
My mind is not a rubbish bin I love it😊. I don't have any subscriptions apart from one for music abd one for identifying Plants. Although I live in Scotland I watch the German news as they are more accurate. I also watch the Irish news for the same reason and listen to irish radio's I find that their journalists are excellent. Classed as highly gifted I really struggle with small talk. Never know what say and usually I am bored quickly. In general I find many people lost the ability to critical analyse information and just fall for whatever is out there. Overall I find being with people exhausting and tired some.. I also notice that less and less people respect your boundaries. Ah Ana once again I wish we could talk over a cup of tea. Take care u wise woman love from Scotland
You always challenge me to think more deeply, and for that I'm grateful. So much information passes around and through us that is ultimately of very little consequence. I think we all need to slow down and evaluate how the things we do, and the people and things in our lives either contribute to our well-being or don't. And even though we may never meet in person in this life, I count you as a dear and wise friend. ❤
Quiet friend who has come so far, feel how your breathing makes more space around you. Let this darkness be a bell tower and you the bell. As you ring, what batters you becomes your strength. Move back and forth into the change. What is it like, such intensity of pain? If the drink is bitter, turn yourself to wine. In this uncontainable night, be the mystery at the crossroads of your senses, the meaning discovered there. And if the world has ceased to hear you, say to the silent earth: I flow. To the rushing water, speak: I am. “Let This Darkness Be a Bell Tower” by Rainer Maria Rilke from Sonnets to Orpheus II, 29. Translation by Joanna Macy and Anita Barrows.
Have you ever watched or listened to anyone that has had a near-death experience? There's much more to Man than a meat body, Ana. What animates the human body is not the mind, but a spiritual entity. I understand that you're not spiritual, but maybe you should leave that as an open door for others to inspect for themselves.
You bring us introverts together. Thank you Anna ❤
I work from home 4 out of 5 days and my life has FLORISHED from all the utter aloneness that I have! I do not hate people, I like them very much, and staying alone so much ensures it stays that way!
Love your videos and honestly you help me feel more "normal". I have very few friends, and spend the majority of my time alone. I often judge myself for this. In my case I'm an introvert but also it's due to trauma. It's nice to hear from another person with a small social group, great tips. Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you for resonating, Nicola ❤️ From time to time, I also fall into self-judgement for not being social, but there are certain innate or acquired deep features that we can't change and that need to stay unchanged, so that some important inner work gets done (as Rilke said in the quote I've mentioned in the video). Sending love 🌷
I hear you, life is yours, be happy with what you need, and don’t worry about the rest 🙏🏻you are enough.
I resonate as well ❤
Dear Ana,
I totally agree that you are not responsible for everything what happens to you. My grandparents didn't chose to be thrown out of their hometowns and houses in the 2nd WW and my greatgrandparents didn't chose to die of hunger😢. I think we can do lots and it's important to not lean back and let faith decide on your life but as you said there are boundaries as well concerning responsibility.
Best wishes and have a fine evening😊
Your philosophies and your communication style is so soothing and yet invigorating. After watching, I’m full of thought, but with peace instead of anxiety. 😌✨
Well put! I realized how I started associating "a lot going on in my brain" with something negative, it often is, but there is still this good old feeling of "this made me think"
Dearest Ana, I watch every one of your videos. I learn something from you every time. I just haven’t contributed my thoughts and appreciation because I’m overwhelmed with my bad physical health and the depression that goes along with that. Once a week you bring a smile to my face and for that I am thankful. Live and love my dear friend. ❤❤❤
Sending you good thoughts and best wishes, my friend ❤️ I'm so glad that the videos here bring you some comfort.
I recently got rid of a gorgeous dress but it brought me sadness as it was tied to a sad day. Thanks for sharing, Ana
Thank you.
I always say " my mind is a garden"
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Another thiught inspiring video
Great video Ana! I love how you always challenge me! Good advice! I hope you have a great week! ❤
Cheers to you as well! Summer is coming to a close here, with lovely cool nights to sleep with the windows open. All is change.
Indeed, Michaela! ❤️
This was great, thank you Ana!
Personally, I have surrounded myself with a large variety of friends. Some are similar to me in thoughts and beliefs and others are vastly different. I treasure them all. Friends with certain “hot topic” differences we just don’t talk about those things. There is so much more to a person than even a basic life philosophy. If I only surround myself with people who are just like me I do not grow and my world stays very small. I celebrate the diversity of my friends and love them for who they are. We all bring something new and fresh into each others’ lives. I cannot throw people away unless they are truly bad for me. And for me that only means that they will not treat me with respect or treat me poorly. I do not have time for that. Friendships change and in different seasons different friends may come to the forefront while others recede because of life and situations. But those things too change and the ebb and flow continues. I am definitely an extrovert so it is easy for me. Friends enrich our lives so much! Since I recently became a widow, I am so thankful that friends have always been a part of my life. I now seek out opportunities to get together. Nothing worse than devoting your whole life to one person and then to lose that person and have no one else in your life. Keep your friendships strong throughout your life. Take it from me.
I so enjoy listening to your words of wisdom. I think you are wise beyond your years. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for your kind words, Tere ❤️
This topic is very much on my mind, so thank you! Two changes I have made lately; turning my phone to black and white, way less overstimulating and I can easily turn it to color if I need too + carrying a pocket notebook and fountain pen for notes about what I consume, it’s made me a far more conscious consumer and I actually do something with what I consume
I love the idea about black-and-white phone settings! Will give it a try too 😊 Thank you for sharing this ❤️
@@anagoldberg oh I’m so glad, I hope it helps you just as much🙌
Dear Ana, I’m so grateful for your content. It’s so creative, and I don’t feel influenced but instead, encouraged to develop my own mind and ideas. I’m commenting today because you are having such a positive impact on my life, and I want to honour that so I have signed up to Patreon. Here in the UK it is only £5.40 with VAT for a whole month. I feel that it is important for your work to be supported, so that you can live well, feel valued by your online community and continue to be a blessing.
I have never signed up to support anyone before and I can only apologise for not doing this sooner. Thank you for all that you share, and for being true to yourself. It’s very humbling.
I hope that you have a really inspiring week.
Sara x
Dear Sara, your kind words were so much needed today, I've read them just at the right moment to get inspiration and motivation back to shake all the challenging feelings off. Thank you! And thank you for being so thoughtful and understanding, for joining Patreon. This support is so heartwarming. Sending love, my friend! 😘
Anna - for some reason I haven't seen your videos popping up on my feed lately. I love seeing your new haircut - it is beautiful - you look angelic and lovely. Thank you for your ideas and thoughts!
Thank you for your kind words, Janice! RUclips doesn't always show my videos, not to miss any you can click on the bell icon right below the video to get notifications every time I post 😊
Thank you again for such interesting reflections. I am sure many people benefit from hearing your perspectives.
Good video
I love your ideas and advice
Great video! ❤
So nice to hear from you my dear friend. I hope you are doing well. All the best to you and Brian! ❤
Thank you and sending all the best to you, dear Ruthann ❤️
Your mind is not a garbage bin !!! Wow so true. A brilliant video, very informative ❤ thanks & keep well ❤
Thank you, Sharon ❤️
I do agree with this weeks video title. My surroundings do influence me and although I can't change it at work, especially with whom I work, I do everything at home do feel safe and cosy. I spend time mostly by myself, which I enjoy, so I'm very sensitive to what I look at or consume or with whom I spend valuable time with (except for work as mentioned 🤭). It's much needed for my mental health. I like the saying: my mind is not a garbage bin 😊. Thank you Ana ❤
Thank you for your kind support, dear Anita ❤️ Work communications can be so challenging and exhausting too! As you said, the best counterweight is to build a home space that feels safe and cosy ✨
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This is a beautiful and encouraging video,Ana :) All of your suggestions are excellent,particularly the idea that saying "no" can also be a verb and an active affirmation of our truest selves.A gentle yet very inspiring pep talk!
We do have the natural right to define (and refine and remake) our existence.Even-or perhaps especially- when events or circumstances beyond our control seem to conspire to render us helpless.
I had a moment in a personal relationship that sent me into a trauma trigger for most of this week.
But I went to work and it was fine.I really don't think anyone noticed by inner,messed up mood,precisely because all of my work right now falls within my own self curated microcosm in a way that functions as self care.
For example,a pot of dying African violets a client had given to me to attempt to resurrect came into full bloom this week,reminding me that I don't actually want to be defeatist,I just don't.
I want to be inspired,not unproductively wallowing in trauma triggers.Even if I am horrified by some realization,I want it to take me somewhere,to find direction and meaning even in that.
To go from the taste of ashes on the tongue to more of a rising from the ashes,even in moments that feel like some penance I swear I shouldn't have to bear or to pay;and even as I protest that I need to be comforted,not challenged.
I think my guardian angels must laugh at my antics of self loathing and stubborn resistance to surrender,at how unnecessary it all is.
If indeed there are angels- even just the angels of our better nature- surely this is what they most desire for us : a continual replenishment of our own inner divine spark,of our own capacity to create and recreate.
From the micro to the macro and back again 🌟
Rilke is one of my favorites since teenaged years.The quote you shared from him is such a great one! ❤
It seems like a fantasy to strive towards the state of being he expressed,where we have a knowingness that life itself is "holding us in its hands ".Such a profoundly benevolent gesture. It's easier to feel like life is smacking us down and that this cold reality is all there is.
But what if we decide that it won't be,even while knowing full well that feeling gently held by life itself would be impossible to sustain all of the time.
What could we bring into being for ourselves?
It's a powerful and insightful text, Maude ❤️ I can relate so much to your realizations, especially about the desire to be inspired and not triggered, resurrected and not ashed, and the micro-macro loop. From my own experience, I felt the life's hand holding me the most in the momements of utterly painful losses. It's almost an esoteric feeling of knowing that everything goes as it should and I won't fall. Thank you for resonating, my friend 🌿And yay to the violets!
Wow,being able to have that knowingness that life is holding you in its hand even during the most utterly painful moments is such a blessing.You have been truly blessed to have this internal locus of sustaining faith.
I think it's beautiful,even though it's something that has eluded me so far.Maybe once I felt that,when I was in Morocco and saw a true night sky for the first time.I was so awed by it,a riot of stars everywhere from the horizon to the depths of the sky.
It being "almost esoteric" makes total sense to me,though 😂 And what you said also just sounds true,like a truth I just can't quite grasp.
The violets are the richest,purest hue of bluish-purple,a daily fillip to my spirits, for sure!
There are always flowers 😊
I like how you talk about balance in what we consume in regards to complex and simple and dark and positive information. Interesting topic thank you 😊
Fantastic video Ana I’m going to listen to this one again I feel like my mind has been a bin for people to dump their problems into it thank you dear Ana for your video
Thank you for watching and resonating, Margaret! ❤️
@@anagoldberg thank you Ana you are very welcome I love your channel it’s helped me a lot 🥰
My mind is not a rubbish bin I love it😊. I don't have any subscriptions apart from one for music abd one for identifying Plants. Although I live in Scotland I watch the German news as they are more accurate. I also watch the Irish news for the same reason and listen to irish radio's I find that their journalists are excellent. Classed as highly gifted I really struggle with small talk. Never know what say and usually I am bored quickly. In general I find many people lost the ability to critical analyse information and just fall for whatever is out there. Overall I find being with people exhausting and tired some.. I also notice that less and less people respect your boundaries. Ah Ana once again I wish we could talk over a cup of tea. Take care u wise woman love from Scotland
Love your videos Anna. Thanks for helping all of us through many challenges ❤ beautiful in an out that's what I see😊
Thank you so much, Angela ❤
Thank you Ana
Another great video Ana
Thank you, Liam!
You always challenge me to think more deeply, and for that I'm grateful. So much information passes around and through us that is ultimately of very little consequence. I think we all need to slow down and evaluate how the things we do, and the people and things in our lives either contribute to our well-being or don't. And even though we may never meet in person in this life, I count you as a dear and wise friend. ❤
Aww, thank you so much for saying this, dear Gayle! ❤️ It means a lot. And yes, I agree that slowing down and re-evaluating our surroundings is key.
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Love your video. 🤗
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Quiet friend who has come so far,
feel how your breathing makes more space around you.
Let this darkness be a bell tower
and you the bell. As you ring,
what batters you becomes your strength.
Move back and forth into the change.
What is it like, such intensity of pain?
If the drink is bitter, turn yourself to wine.
In this uncontainable night,
be the mystery at the crossroads of your senses,
the meaning discovered there.
And if the world has ceased to hear you,
say to the silent earth: I flow.
To the rushing water, speak: I am.
“Let This Darkness Be a Bell Tower” by Rainer Maria Rilke from Sonnets to Orpheus II, 29. Translation by Joanna Macy and Anita Barrows.
Love this.
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Do you have two channels?
Have you ever watched or listened to anyone that has had a near-death experience? There's much more to Man than a meat body, Ana. What animates the human body is not the mind, but a spiritual entity. I understand that you're not spiritual, but maybe you should leave that as an open door for others to inspect for themselves.
I've read a lot about NDE and I think of myself as a spiritual person, although I'm not religious. I just don't talk about this on the channel 😊