In my experience the core principle seems to be "I should get what I want" - if they recognise that other people won't approve of that, then they may try to hide what they're doing somehow, but never think "I shouldn't do this". They need to have things their own way, and be loved for it.
My sister knows that she is extremely difficult and she does it on purpose to get what she wants. She said herself that she likes ta make people sweat and that she is knows how to push people's buttons if she wants to. She even said that it scares her knowing how far she could go down that path. As a yoga teacher she is very much into yoga/new age/positivity zone which surprisingly is full of individuals like her: fake empaths on self discovery journeys, who know deep down that there's something troubling them. They tend to go to various workshops, rituals and complementary therapy treatments because they want to feel good about themselves, saintly, they want someone or something to fix them. They never ever find what they want because they'll have to do the work themselves and actually make changes and what they truly want is the mirror reflecting back to them to feel special and adored. There's no fix for this condition. My sister have recently changed the tactic, now she claims to have ADHD (she doesn't) and pick and mix the symptoms she likes. I swear I'll puke when I hear one more "we, neuro-spicy people".. 🤢 When she starts going on and on about it I usually cut her off by telling her to wear sunflower lanyard if she wants people to be aware of her special needs - it works like a dream for now.
The malignant narcissist is a sadist, they enjoy inflicting pain and shame and use this to control and punish. If they can’t control you they will punish you until they do.
They don’t change to avoid harming others… only to avoid harm to themselves. So it is a waste of time telling them about the harm they cause. You can only tell them what is not allowed. And then they will stop (maybe) just long enough for you to think they might have some sense… and then they start up again.
@@christianrokicki your so right on. In hospital, told him to step in up,he had to for me to come home. Some nurses did not want me to go home. I did ,one week good then nothing. I'm in big trouble now looking into hospice, nursing home nor me,he's abusing me.
@ I’m sorry to hear you are poorly. Yes, reach out to someone, don’t be around him, especially if you are ill. They just drain life force and peace of mind and they don’t care. That’s not for you. You deserve some comfort, peace and love.
If they didn’t know why are they so paranoid, certain people get see them without the mask & others only see the mask, that is deliberate. They know they don’t care, they enjoy abusing.
Hey, anything that works. Tactic 1 spotted, effortlessly switch to another. Hoping we don't notice, because hey, it DID work, so many times before. But on some level they do know, at least usually, how to behave in public.
They know it. I wish therapists/experts would gatekeep their expertise less. This isn’t hard. We haven’t gotten to the hard stuff yet. We’ll never get there at this rate. Let’s keep the public as stupid as humanly possible, right?
Oh, yes, now he's got you right where he wants you, with no support! When I married mine, he was living in another state, so we lived in his house. I'll forever be grateful for that. Although I lived 500 miles away, We met at a church where he had just become a new member. I was visiting, but what he didn't count on is I'd been "visiting" there for several months a year for the Last 5+ Years, and had a very key friend, a member of leadership. So he courted me, married me, started his crazy behaviors and then his raging abuse. Thank God for my secret friend. And thank God for a severe illness and other things that factored in to get me quickly out of there, and eventually back to my own home.
You've got to get out, get far away! It's imperative! Don't give him any clues, just disappear asap! And no further contact. Pray and ask God to help you. He will-- He loves you and is completely Faithful.
@JohnDoe-i1h No, we all make our own choices. I was raised by a narcissistic wife and child abusing pedophile, but none of that is who I grew up to be. Blaming their parents or anyone else is classic narcissism-- it's always someone else's fault, not theirs.
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 is it a genetic personality disorder or not? thats besides the point. the parents knew the dice they shook when bringing a rando into the world.
Thats an oxymoron and Paradox. It comes down to Empath, or lack there of. "Narcissist" see their 'special power' being sadistically numb, to the feelings of others they hurt.
@@sparxz2145 I agree however it doesn't mean we always know we're hurting the other person, think about it ...Because of our lack of empathy or at least lack of access to empathy- we can't understand how something might hurt another person always.
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In my experience the core principle seems to be "I should get what I want" - if they recognise that other people won't approve of that, then they may try to hide what they're doing somehow, but never think "I shouldn't do this". They need to have things their own way, and be loved for it.
Narcs know what they’re hiding even if they don’t know what’s wrong with them, because insecurity prevents them from examining their shame
Pretty much but since we lack empathy, we can hurt people and not even understand why or how. We have empathy but its hard to access it.
My sister knows that she is extremely difficult and she does it on purpose to get what she wants. She said herself that she likes ta make people sweat and that she is knows how to push people's buttons if she wants to. She even said that it scares her knowing how far she could go down that path. As a yoga teacher she is very much into yoga/new age/positivity zone which surprisingly is full of individuals like her: fake empaths on self discovery journeys, who know deep down that there's something troubling them. They tend to go to various workshops, rituals and complementary therapy treatments because they want to feel good about themselves, saintly, they want someone or something to fix them. They never ever find what they want because they'll have to do the work themselves and actually make changes and what they truly want is the mirror reflecting back to them to feel special and adored. There's no fix for this condition.
My sister have recently changed the tactic, now she claims to have ADHD (she doesn't) and pick and mix the symptoms she likes. I swear I'll puke when I hear one more "we, neuro-spicy people".. 🤢
When she starts going on and on about it I usually cut her off by telling her to wear sunflower lanyard if she wants people to be aware of her special needs - it works like a dream for now.
They know, their smart in their craft. Trouble, they are troubled!!!
And evil, very evil.
The malignant narcissist is a sadist, they enjoy inflicting pain and shame and use this to control and punish. If they can’t control you they will punish you until they do.
They don’t change to avoid harming others… only to avoid harm to themselves. So it is a waste of time telling them about the harm they cause. You can only tell them what is not allowed.
And then they will stop (maybe) just long enough for you to think they might have some sense… and then they start up again.
What happened to me and it ruined my life.
@ you’re not alone. I hope you find healing.
@@christianrokicki your so right on. In hospital, told him to step in up,he had to for me to come home. Some nurses did not want me to go home. I did ,one week good then nothing. I'm in big trouble now looking into hospice, nursing home nor me,he's abusing me.
@ I’m sorry to hear you are poorly. Yes, reach out to someone, don’t be around him, especially if you are ill. They just drain life force and peace of mind and they don’t care. That’s not for you. You deserve some comfort, peace and love.
If they didn’t know why are they so paranoid, certain people get see them without the mask & others only see the mask, that is deliberate.
They know they don’t care, they enjoy abusing.
My dad does a change in the tactic.
Hey, anything that works. Tactic 1 spotted, effortlessly switch to another. Hoping we don't notice, because hey, it DID work, so many times before.
But on some level they do know, at least usually, how to behave in public.
BINGO! He seemed so loving and kind and sociable when we met and courted! Mr Wonderful
They know.
THEY KNOWS/////
They know it. I wish therapists/experts would gatekeep their expertise less. This isn’t hard. We haven’t gotten to the hard stuff yet. We’ll never get there at this rate. Let’s keep the public as stupid as humanly possible, right?
They know! I moved away with my narcissistic husband,so no family, friends around and it's gotten so much worse!😢
Oh, yes, now he's got you right where he wants you, with no support! When I married mine, he was living in another state, so we lived in his house. I'll forever be grateful for that. Although I lived 500 miles away, We met at a church where he had just become a new member. I was visiting, but what he didn't count on is I'd been "visiting" there for several months a year for the Last 5+ Years, and had a very key friend, a member of leadership. So he courted me, married me, started his crazy behaviors and then his raging abuse. Thank God for my secret friend. And thank God for a severe illness and other things that factored in to get me quickly out of there, and eventually back to my own home.
You've got to get out, get far away! It's imperative! Don't give him any clues, just disappear asap! And no further contact. Pray and ask God to help you. He will-- He loves you and is completely Faithful.
if there wasn't a narcissist to give birth to one we wouldn't have problems.
@JohnDoe-i1h
No, we all make our own choices. I was raised by a narcissistic wife and child abusing pedophile, but none of that is who I grew up to be. Blaming their parents or anyone else is classic narcissism-- it's always someone else's fault, not theirs.
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 is it a genetic personality disorder or not? thats besides the point. the parents knew the dice they shook when bringing a rando into the world.
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 if people didn't Force people into existence then we wouldn't have any problems.
As a self aware diagnosed narcissist we know and yet we don’t. I cover this on my channel.
Oh please, I have heard enough about that BS
Thats an oxymoron and Paradox. It comes down to Empath, or lack there of. "Narcissist" see their 'special power' being sadistically numb, to the feelings of others they hurt.
@@sparxz2145 I agree however it doesn't mean we always know we're hurting the other person, think about it ...Because of our lack of empathy or at least lack of access to empathy- we can't understand how something might hurt another person always.