So well stated! Thank you so much, for what you say helps me to put to words what I'm suffering when I KNOW, but to try to explain this insidiousness, leaves one feeling very alone, indeed. I'm SO glad to have learned of your work since Richard Grannon's well-suited & recent Liverpool seminar. Just SO grateful! Beautifully insightful and done in such a wonderfully calm cadence -- a real blessing!!!🎉
My husband is so obsessed with respect/disrespect that one of our kids started calling him "the Godfather". And yes, his view of respect is exactly what you described.
Victims face great difficulty when sizing up the situation that presents itself. The task is so huge and inexplicable our instinct is to deny and tolerate for years and years. Till we become sick literally. We have no choice but accept that a family member has now become "an enemy" by their own actions and stance. An enemy of our soul and it is NOT our doing nor our choice. We grieve the loss, a loss worse than loss due to death. At the same time work on healing our battered selves physically and emotionally. It's an intentional pulling away from "the enemy" under the same roof sometimes which demands new skills we didn't know we possess. NPD traits dressed in productivity and poise demand that we get to know what we are seeing. Or be swallowed alive.
Ty. I needed to hear this. I stopped talking to my mother like 8 years ago. What you are explaining, she does it all but worse. Its a lose lose situation. No contact is the only solution. Never want to hear it again.
So true. I relistened to this for each of the 3 main narcs in my life, pop, mom, wasband. Each very different. And each one hit all your points. I too often think hey this is all my imagination. Yet 100% right on, for years. Hum. Joke, yet too true. I've often said I have a good grip on reality. But nothing like the headlock it has on me. A bit close to the bone there, for me, too often. Narcissists don't get it.
I said some very harsh but true words to a narcissistic sibling, one who had cause real and unnecessary suffering when the family and me were at our weakest. I was not trying to win something or get otherwise get one over on them. I told the truth. Then I got rid of them.
Hi Darren. Your videos are very informative and easy to understand. They have helped me understand the narcissistic behaviours in family members and how to cope. I have a subject for a topic you may wish to cover. What happens when two narcissists come together? What is the dynamic? How do they interact with each other? Does it become a competition? Does one back down?
I thought there would be way more than eight! Direct, informative, and logical. Thank you Darren. As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist ,il vouch for this video.
A useful reminder of what these people are like. Once you have the measure of them, it gets easier to protect yourself. I now have to resist the gleeful sport of narc-baiting 😂. Worthless horrible people
I believe that the biggest fear of narcissists is when you go no contact and they can’t control you anymore in any way! I’m a victim of psychopath and I have changed everything ( phone numbers, email address, got off social media, etc), I also have a protection order ( so he can’t go near me, live near me and can’t contact me through someone else and he is not allowed to contact my family either), he has zero control over me and that must drive him insane. I think that this is their biggest fear- losing control completely! Also Darren, I saw ( only shortly) video of you and Richard Grannson ( forgive me if I got his name wrong) and you were a host for his video about “ narcissist in family “, I’m sorry Darren, that guy gives me a really wrong vibe, I can’t say that I don’t like him, because I don’t know him but something about him feels weird and wrong. Please no offence but there are many more experts on narcissism who would be interesting to have podcast. ❤
By now, you have some idea about what or who I am, I never had problems with cheating with anyone (meaning i don't cheat on people or had people cheated on me). Don't have any human kids, never had been married, had traveled around the world, a vid reader, enjoy good food and companies, very much a clean work and personal history and have been out of the dating pool for 8 yrs now and getting way too comfortable...do you think that is a bad thing? 😆☺☺
سِالُتتكِ بّالُلُُه 💔الُجْلُيَلُ الُجْبّارَ انَ تْنَقًذَنَا قًبّلُ انَ نَمٌوَتْ مٌنَ شِدِتْ الُجْوَع انَتٌْخيَكِ انَيَ دٌِخلُةِ ْعلُى الُلُُه تْمٌ ْعلُيَكِ انَيَ فَيَ وَجُْهك انَـيَ اخـتْكِ انَـيَ اتْرَجْـاكِ اتْـوَسِـلُ الُـيَـكِ انَـقًـذَنَا لُـوَجُْـه الُـلُُـه. يَــشِــُهدِ الُــلُــُه يَاٌخـيَ انَ مٌنَ الُــصّــبّاحُ حُـتْا الُـانَ يَــحُــرَمٌ ْعـــلُيَـنَـا الاكل غير الماء والله اني ما كتبت هذا الكلام الا من الضيق وقسوت الضروف اني طالبه من الله ثم منك لاتردني خايبه يا اخي ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين من انا واسرتي بيننا ایت الشهرب 20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق 3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سفار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه اخوتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو ب 500 ريال يمني مع تراسلي واتساب على هذا الرقم00967772168484 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير اخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خيرا.:،،،،،.،.؛؛؛٪٪٪٪٪،،،،،،،،،،،… .ا™°°°😢😢😢>.>..>..>.&..>..>.>.>.>..>..>.>.>.&..&.>.>.>..>.......
💯 Darren. In my experience narcissist are nobody desperately trying to prove they are somebody. Their desire for control knows no limit.
Very well said.
I work with several severe narcissists and it's amazing how accurate everything said here is.
Agreed. This guy's got Good Stuff.
Direct, informative, and logical. Thank you Darren.
So well stated! Thank you so much, for what you say helps me to put to words what I'm suffering when I KNOW, but to try to explain this insidiousness, leaves one feeling very alone, indeed. I'm SO glad to have learned of your work since Richard Grannon's well-suited & recent Liverpool seminar. Just SO grateful! Beautifully insightful and done in such a wonderfully calm cadence -- a real blessing!!!🎉
Thank you, Darren.
God himself will deal with them in more impactful ways than we ever could! 😊🥰
Spot on Darren. Everything you said is exactly the case. There is nothing you can do, just walk away.
My husband is so obsessed with respect/disrespect that one of our kids started calling him "the Godfather". And yes, his view of respect is exactly what you described.
Victims face great difficulty when sizing up the situation that presents itself. The task is so huge and inexplicable our instinct is to deny and tolerate for years and years. Till we become sick literally.
We have no choice but accept that a family member has now become "an enemy" by their own actions and stance. An enemy of our soul and it is NOT our doing nor our choice. We grieve the loss, a loss worse than loss due to death. At the same time work on healing our battered selves physically and emotionally. It's an intentional pulling away from "the enemy" under the same roof sometimes which demands new skills we didn't know we possess. NPD traits dressed in productivity and poise demand that we get to know what we are seeing. Or be swallowed alive.
Ty. I needed to hear this. I stopped talking to my mother like 8 years ago. What you are explaining, she does it all but worse. Its a lose lose situation. No contact is the only solution. Never want to hear it again.
So true. I relistened to this for each of the 3 main narcs in my life, pop, mom, wasband. Each very different. And each one hit all your points.
I too often think hey this is all my imagination. Yet 100% right on, for years. Hum.
Joke, yet too true. I've often said I have a good grip on reality. But nothing like the headlock it has on me.
A bit close to the bone there, for me, too often. Narcissists don't get it.
I said some very harsh but true words to a narcissistic sibling, one who had cause real and unnecessary suffering when the family and me were at our weakest. I was not trying to win something or get otherwise get one over on them. I told the truth. Then I got rid of them.
Hi Darren. Your videos are very informative and easy to understand. They have helped me understand the narcissistic behaviours in family members and how to cope. I have a subject for a topic you may wish to cover. What happens when two narcissists come together? What is the dynamic? How do they interact with each other? Does it become a competition? Does one back down?
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Big heads that rattle 😂
I thought there would be way more than eight! Direct, informative, and logical. Thank you Darren. As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist ,il vouch for this video.
A useful reminder of what these people are like. Once you have the measure of them, it gets easier to protect yourself. I now have to resist the gleeful sport of narc-baiting 😂. Worthless horrible people
I believe that the biggest fear of narcissists is when you go no contact and they can’t control you anymore in any way!
I’m a victim of psychopath and I have changed everything ( phone numbers, email address, got off social media, etc), I also have a protection order ( so he can’t go near me, live near me and can’t contact me through someone else and he is not allowed to contact my family either), he has zero control over me and that must drive him insane. I think that this is their biggest fear- losing control completely!
Also Darren, I saw ( only shortly) video of you and Richard Grannson ( forgive me if I got his name wrong) and you were a host for his video about “ narcissist in family “, I’m sorry Darren, that guy gives me a really wrong vibe, I can’t say that I don’t like him, because I don’t know him but something about him feels weird and wrong. Please no offence but there are many more experts on narcissism who would be interesting to have podcast. ❤
By now, you have some idea about what or who I am, I never had problems with cheating with anyone (meaning i don't cheat on people or had people cheated on me). Don't have any human kids, never had been married, had traveled around the world, a vid reader, enjoy good food and companies, very much a clean work and personal history and have been out of the dating pool for 8 yrs now and getting way too comfortable...do you think that is a bad thing? 😆☺☺
Fail 😂😂😂😂😂 People hate failing 😂😂😂😂😂
You have just discribed the leftwing mind set...
سِالُتتكِ بّالُلُُه 💔الُجْلُيَلُ الُجْبّارَ انَ تْنَقًذَنَا قًبّلُ انَ نَمٌوَتْ مٌنَ شِدِتْ الُجْوَع انَتٌْخيَكِ انَيَ دٌِخلُةِ ْعلُى الُلُُه تْمٌ ْعلُيَكِ انَيَ فَيَ وَجُْهك انَـيَ اخـتْكِ انَـيَ اتْرَجْـاكِ اتْـوَسِـلُ الُـيَـكِ انَـقًـذَنَا لُـوَجُْـه الُـلُُـه. يَــشِــُهدِ الُــلُــُه يَاٌخـيَ انَ مٌنَ الُــصّــبّاحُ حُـتْا الُـانَ يَــحُــرَمٌ ْعـــلُيَـنَـا الاكل غير الماء والله اني ما كتبت هذا الكلام الا من الضيق وقسوت الضروف اني طالبه من الله ثم منك لاتردني خايبه يا اخي ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين من انا واسرتي بيننا ایت الشهرب 20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق 3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سفار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه اخوتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو ب 500 ريال يمني مع تراسلي واتساب على هذا الرقم00967772168484 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير اخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خيرا.:،،،،،.،.؛؛؛٪٪٪٪٪،،،،،،،،،،،… .ا™°°°😢😢😢>.>..>..>.&..>..>.>.>.>..>..>.>.>.&..&.>.>.>..>.......