I hate guys who munipulate you .They sAy I love you and want a life with you but don’t want to marry you they just won’t let go of you and you believe them.
Yuo because he was deceiving you all this time he takes your energy so he can feel better when he goes home to his lady it's all a big game for them because they don't have emotions like a woman does sad but true so run run and keep running until he walks the talk!
Same , it’s been three weeks now and I have not received any call or text and part of me still have hope but other part is telling move on love yourself more
You changed my life. I did this, and walked away. The very next month I met the most amazing man, no doubts, no questions, he treats me like his queen. Thank you for giving me the strength and the power to believe in myself🙏🏻 x
Same, it happened to me too. I was still caught up with the previous guy but I slowly but surely caught feelings for the new guy and he treats me like a princess and I try my best to treat him well too
It’s not that men are complicated or women are complicated, it’s only a matter of having balls to walk away when you are not treated the way you want to or when someone is not investing as much as you do. Have the courage to walk away. If they care, they will come look for you, if not... it just wasn’t meant to be (bad timing, no attraction, no chemistry, etc). Accept it as it is, no need for closure. End of the story.
Yes, your comment is 🔥. I was in this situation and basically just told him what was said in this video. It took a lot of bravery, I really like him. And won’t lie, I want him to come back and really do this.. but I’m so happy I love myself enough to put myself first and not allow someone to give me less than I deserve.
I said, “Love me or leave me alone. Either we’re doing this or we’re not. If you need to do you, do it, but I’m not guaranteeing that I’ll be around when you’re done doing you.” He came back and we’ve been married 20 years. I didn’t have time for bullshit and he figured it out.
@@Naok19 You have to be prepared to lose the person. Don't use ultimatums and play games if you're not willing to follow through. A lot of women do this, the man calls their bluff, and then they're sitting there crying and thinking, "I didn't think he'd leave." I truly believed, when I let him go, that I would find someone else. I know my worth. He had to know it, too....and here we are.
im a girl, and i say the same thing. being in a relationship means i have to be the best version of myself and that persons 1# support system. So, yeah, im not ready to do those things
I did this a few years ago with my actual boyfriend, at that time we where friends, and he came back as a much more improved version of himself, and asking me to be his girlfriend, we have now almost 4 years of relationship and about to get marry. Thank you so much!
dianawwe A huge congratulations from me too! I'm in my 60s and will probably stay single from now in, due to a lot of traumatic experiences throughout my life, but like to know about good outcomes for others. 💏
Nancy Cruz thank you. This guy is idiot. It doesnt matter if youre a wife material or a dumb beaver. When a guy is ready. Hell be ready. Commitment is not about feelings commitment is a choice. 99% of girls here are egoistic naive. HOW CANT HE LIKE ME. IM SPECIAL
Guys will never be ready to take action unless you MEAN everything to him. If he is not yet ready, let him go. Don't stick around because you will have a feeling of "being used" in the end. EMOTIONAL DRAMA and anxieties will build up, your confidence and self worth will be tampered. DROP HIM, WALK OUT, HEAD HIGH and DONT LOOK BACK.
these kinda guys just want a girl falling into their lap being their everything there that second without even really doing anything that would make that possible. yea of course I had someone I partially didnt even like but still cared about, falling in love with him the 3rd time I saw him. Like so freakin crazy that he already was my everything that day. He was a bad person and tried to make me weak, and slowly revealed his abuse methods on me which got more and more bad.. took me 6 years to cut him off forever. then another time.. my first big love. attraction was crazy but it took some hanging out, starting a relationship to develop like crazy. but he played with me these 3 months although there was big feelings also on his side. we were both young. he was a player. he broke up with me in front of my school with all these people to earn himself the reputation as a player. 1 year later he missed me so much and had lots of time thinking. We fell really hard in love both starting when we first met eachother again.. and he loved me so much for 3 years but I broke up with him cause I lost feelings cause he cheated on me. he wasnt all bad. he was a freakin great guy besides that and so senstive and loving. we were inseperable. but the thing is if you as a guy never take action and go in that direction. nothings ever gonna happen and you stay always stagnant and will never know how to have and build a relationship and how amazing things can become. if you cant take action unless bla bla bla then something is very wrong with you.
very true...you will indeed feel used and will question your worth. the sooner the better...don't wait around on things to change, because the longer you wait, the harder it is to extricate yourself from the situation.
I just wrote this to a guy who is playing the whole “I do not want a relationship right now. I am too busy with work”, yet wants to just hangout and “go for sushi”. I don’t want sushi. I want him. If he doesn’t want me too, he can eat his sushi alone.
"It seems like you need to go away and figure out what you want and be on your own for a while. I want your happiness more than anything else in the world, I just want you to be happy. So i feel you need to be on your own in order to figure out what you want. I hope that I'm here or that I'm still here when you're ready. Until then I know that I need someone who is completely in cause I wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't 100% about wanting to be with me"
Abbie i wish i saw this before i started typing everything on my phone when sending my message to my bf, and i had to repeatedly pause the video. lol BTW? what if his response to this message will be, I will continue to think about our relationship?
Pretty Mokalapa yeah I responded and said I respect it , idk where things are going .. but I’m not going to chase him I’ll tell you that lol if he comes back around great if not then it wasn’t meant to be. But I do believe he will be reaching out soon I can feel it
Gone is the time when you keep begging for love and men not wanting you. if he doesnt treasure your presence make him regret your absence. simply walk away. It might seem hard but someday you will get someone who will give the world to you and that day you will forget all those times your heart has been ever broken
This is what happen to me..... After he dumped me..... I keep calling n mesging him n keep asking try one more time..... I cried n begged n plead. For almost a month..... Then everytime i mesge n call him he throw words on me n say he dnt love me n he dnt want to be in relationship for now...... So i try the NC rule yes most of the time i stil think abt him.... N one nyt i git drunk n i called him all i want is to hear his voice but he fuck me upside down by his words...... N he said hes happy n his enjoying his life with out me..... Hard to accept but really need to move on..... Will nver ever begged again..... 😊😊😊
Damn... That was exactly what I told my boyfriend right before we stared our relationship! It took him 5-6 hours and he called me saying that he didn't want to give up on his independence, but he really wants to be with me and he is ready to go all-in. Since that moment we have been happier than ever!
Wow this is wonderful. We mostly whom sending this is like take huge risk.. But we never know what coming up after if we still keep going like we already know right?
*#*I PRAY THE UNIVERSE GRANT YOUR HEARD DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX THROUGH THE GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR WILSON, WHO HELPED ME RESTORED MY BROKEN HOME. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE*#*
lol same Together for 4 years, living together, pets, talking about buying a house etc, and suddenly he 'wasn't ready for a relationship' at all He got in too deep and got cold feet I think
I actually did this when my (now) husband pulled this line after we'd be dating for 3 months...and I was being completely genuine and thinking I didn't want to be with someone that wasn't 100% sure. I was gobsmacked when he called me the next day saying he'd made a mistake and would I give him another chance. Now this makes total and complete sense. Thank you!
I just took this advice. He hasn't even responded yet but I feel like I set myself free. By letting him go, I let go of so much I was struggling to hold onto. Thank you, Matthew
Lorena: well, I'll give you a little context. I was with a guy for three years, we broke up. We, just before I found this video, had been talking about getting back together. Then he didn't text me for three days, and on he fourth day I watched this video and a few other ones of Matthew's and I realized that by waiting for this guy to finally step up and be who I wished he could be and finally feel valued by him, I was giving up my own self worth. So I texted him something along the lines of what Matthew says in this video, and I just feel set free. The guy never texted me back, and its been over a week now, but I'm just really excited to finally feel like I can move forward. Sorry for the long reply, but I hope that helps, I know how hard it can be. Just trust yourself.
men who enjoying hurting women think that the gain something but actually women get the freedom and a change to find someone better. disney Christmas carol good example the guy seem marryed to money always working no time to see the truth of his own mistakes and guy lost the girl, even though he had a lot of money he wasn't happy. he spend his days working was very cheap. till the night the ghostly encounter of his friend marley warn him, and said told him of the 3 ghosts of past show him the past how he use to be, and he couldn't bear the meoriey of the mistakes he done the ghost is like when you did that to yourself do not blame it on the ghost of the past. the ghost of present try to show him stuff of the co worker life style, that was poor but happy but still need help for his family, the ghost of the future show the old guy what could be if old guy didn't change his ways. the point is men make mistake think of money forget what they looking for in relationship, sometimes by the time they realize it, at times somethings can be fix but guy in the story it was to late to fix how to fix how he treated that woman. the old man was mostly angry at himself. life is more then money, the best things in life are free.money doesn't make people happen. you can't buy love. life is like water you feel in your hand once that gone u can't get it back on your own unless god restores life.
I said something very similar to this once....he came back but by that time I met the love of my life and I told him his ship set sail he should’ve known what he had with me the first time.
Omg.. I said the same thing to my guy last week and he's been on top of things every since. Text, calls me everyday and throughout the day. He MAKES time in his extremely busy schedule. It's been a complete turn around.
Valeska Medel Did he tell you he wasn't ready for a relationship when breaking up with you or were you two not official? How did texting him this turn out for you?
Said something similar to the last person I was seeing. Respecting their space and ourselves enough to move on is hard though. People have to want to be with each other in every sense of the word. Maybe he’ll come back maybe he won’t we gotta be happy with or without the person. It’s not our job to to show someone we’re great enough to be in a relationship it’s their job to see that. Good luck to anyone who is in this situation and remember we all deserve someone who will put the same effort we do.
“It seems like you need to go away and figure out what you want and be on your own for a while. I want your happiness more than anything in the world. I just want you to be happy, so I feel like you need to go and be alone in order to figure out what you want. And I hope that I’m still here when you’re ready. But until then, I know that I need someone who is completely in because I don’t want to be with someone who isn’t 100% about wanting to be with me. “
Can I send this message to a man who's not yet my boyfriend but busy playing with my feelings?? It's really pains me seeing him playing with my feelings without saying anything😭
Parece que necesitas tiempo para descubrir qué quieres y estar solo para hacerlo. Yo quiero tu felicidad más que nada en el mundo. Y quiero que seas feliz, así que siento que necesitas estar solo para poder saber qué quieres. Yo espero estar aquí cuándo lo descubras. Pero hasta entonces, se que quiero alguien que esté completamente seguro y comprometido en querer estar conmigo en una relación, construir a mi lado y no se contenga de eso porque me lo merezco.
Sometimes people don’t feel like their life is in a place where they can be a healthy partner to a someone else. I find it admirable for them to be honest and upfront, and shows a good character, which is even more reason to give them respect and kindness and maintain a friendship if nothing else, as it’s rare to find honest people who are courageous enough to be alone, even though they may like you, so as not to hurt anyone else, until they are ready to give their best. Matthews advice is solid. To add.... when we are attracting (or attracted to) unavailable men or women, there’s often a high probability that we ourselves are also not reeeallly ready for a relationship on some level. We need to reflect on why we are attracted to someone we can’t have, and work through that. Even if you get the “unavailable” person, there will be frustration as they will likely feel emotionally disconnected or checked out a lot of the time, one foot in - one foot out vibes. That will lead to frustration and fights, insecurity, and mistrust, and ultimately a waste of time. There’s self inner work to do if we attract unavailable people, we’re on the same frequency as them whether we can see it or not, hence we feel that connection with them, so address the “why are you attracted to them” first. Grow above / heal that, and then you’ll start attracting available men.
I cannot agree with this comment more. Very well said. Painful yes, admirable absolutely. Wish them well, leave them with love and give them space and time to heal. If the connection was true, they may come back to you. In the meantime, keep moving forward with what makes you happy. ❤️
*#*I PRAY THE UNIVERSE GRANT YOUR HEARD DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX THROUGH THE GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR WILSON, WHO HELPED ME RESTORED MY BROKEN HOME. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE*#*
I've been in this kind of situation. We've been casually dating on and off for years. And I knew that I just don't like him, I already loved him. I've been waiting for him but suddenly he said those words and I responded the same lines you said Matthew. Now, I am in a happy relationship but not with him. :')
Then you should turn your wish into reality. I mean, it's really hard but it would harder if you think like that. Put in your mind first that you really wanted to do that. No buts and hesitation. After that, do the other steps. :)
So you dodged a bullet. The whole purpose of saying this is not to convince him but to find out whether he comes back or whether you are wasting your time
@@yuejoo them you've got only yourself to blame.. The whole purpose is to follow through with your words and not just say it and be on him as soon as he gives you a little glimpse of hope. He starts flaking again? Then bye.. And then it's down to you to not give him another chances over and over again...
Well it's clear all you girls can't provide anything toward your relationships, we only move in with women who can make our lives as stable as we can make there's modern men will no longer marry down we marry equal or above your looks don't cut it no more.
I said this once to an ex. He went away for a while and a few months later he came crawling back but by that time I had moved on and told him that he shouldn’t take a good person for granted.
Just got out of a long term relationship where I felt like my expectations of love were never met. Found out the guy had been talking to another female so I said, let's work through this together, he agreed. 3 weeks later he came to me saying he wasn't ready for any relationship, even after having almost a year together. I said exactly what this video instructed, and 2 weeks later he came back and said he wants to be friends but not in a relationship. I was completely blindsided. I had put my own feelings on the line because I was in love and he practically spat in my face. I told him I never wanted to talk again. Sometimes if you love something you must let it go for both the other person's wellbeing and most importantly your own. This is a good video, but ladies, please don't let it give you false hope, and look after yourselves first.
Most times in this kind of situation the man is going to leave. That's the hard truth. It's about self respect and holding out for what you really want. Us women really need to stop things up in the current dating world.
@@Debbielightworker 100%, totally forgot about this comment I left over 2 years ago! Now me and the guy are fine, we occassionally check in with each other as I was close with his family and him with mine. Really, really glad I left the relationship out of my own self respect! We live in different states now and are happy for each other pursuing what we want in life. SO glad I left, vbut also glad that were friends from a distance now. xx
I told the guy I’m seeing this yesterday and it worked! Thank you sooo much, best dating coach ever. When you show a guy you can be a whole person without them, they see you as more valuable and less dependant. They’ll want you even more if they are afraid of losing you, if not, well you’re not wasting your time and you deserve someone better. I told him this and now we are talking about our feelings and what we need from the other person. He also says he’s ready to have a serious relationship and see where this goes. Sometimes you have to show a guy what he wants.
What I love about this video that if you're actually telling/sending these words to a guy will keep your dignity and you can walk away with your head up without having any regrets or resentment. These words put him in the emotional state you'd be where he wants you to be. Also it creates either an opening for him to actually turn things around or gives you a clean ending without question marks and it's easier to get back into the game if he's not coming back.
I told my ex a version of mine of your advise cause i considered of our actual status..After 6 days of NO CONTACT he finally reached me out and saying my silence made him realized that he is now 100% sure of himself about his feeling about me and ready to commit..Scarcity to lose me, at the same time i regain my self worth. Set our boundaries and guy will adore us more. More power Matthew!
From a guys perspective: 9 times out of 10 a guy will say he "isn't ready for a relationship", isn't because he doesn't want a relationship, its because he doesn't want one with you. He want's your body, sex, and even though he will do sweet things for you, it will still lead to no commitment. You might feel amazing in his arms, but when you are not around him that uneasy feeling will remain. Even if you play it cool and become scarce to keep him attracted and "manipulate" him into being in a relationship with you, you will simply end up in an unhealthy push/pull kind of relationship, which is really no fun. How do I know this? Ive been the guy in a situation just like this. I have also met girls who were like this to me. Now I don't even mess with people Im not that into, or that arn't that into me.
Well, becoming more attractive in general is all about focusing on yourself. For example doing things you are passionate about, taking good care of your body and exercising, eating healthy food, and dressing nicely. Basically investing in yourself. But, attracting specific men that you are interested in is something else entirely different, because either they are already attracted to you or not, and someone usually knows right away. You can't make someone attracted to you, either they are or aren't. So in a way there isn't much you can do rather than make yourself more attractive in general, and find out if the person you are into is attracted to you or not by putting yourself out there, taking a shot, and asking them out, or flirting with them and they might even ask you out first. Don't be afraid to risk getting rejected, you are simply finding out whether you are wasting your time and energy on someone.
Handling rejection is all about putting the opinion you have of yourself above the opinions of others. Yes, people do affect us whether we like it or not, but what is more important is what you think about yourself. If someone doesn't see your beauty, it might hurt, but ultimately it doesn't matter, forget about them, it is their loss, you've got to know that you are still beautiful (not because someone else says so, but because you say so!) and that you will carry on with your life and move on until you find someone who does see your beauty! And trust me you will find someone who does, but you have to keep moving forward instead of getting stuck on someone who just isn't into you. But you will know if someone really likes you, you just know. Love is always a risk, even with people who are super into you. But you have to be open to attract the right person. Think of never going travelling to another country just because you are afraid the plane might crash. Then you will never see the world!!!
This is Brutal...and effective. If you don't think this well crafted statement would work, then you are going to have to reconsider the type of males you are attracted to. A genuine man will have to give you a genuine response to this.
It's not about when or whether they come back. It's about letting them go the best way possible. This is how you ensure that if there is a chance of things working out, they will at a later stage.
So, I did say this exact statement recently with a man, whom I adore, who wanted to sort things out and the next day he called telling me the idea of my not being around or with another man was unimaginable. It helped put things into perspective for him. I don’t know what the future holds but I’m incredibly optimistic. Thank you Matthew!
As a man, my mind is absolutely blown that you see it as "standing up for yourself". It seems ruthless. You're two humans with different desires. He doesn't owe you anything.
OMG, My tears are running down when i see this video. I fell in love with a guy who recently confessed me that he has this commitment issue. And its been a week i am still so angry with myself because i thought he was my soulmate while clearly he is not ready for a relationship because he told me that he has fear of commitment, i feel pity for him still but i need to let him go. Thank you for this video matthew!!
Yes, it hurts like hell, it has caused me physically and emotional pain. He was the one i thought was special but its turns out he is a such a coward loser. Please stay strong and it WILL GET BETTER!!!
I am so sorry for you. Maybe its also this is the time God wanted to text you Strength and found out how STRONG you are, i believed the concept of Soulmate. And i am telling you that i was never been so sure about my life about anything than him. Then he freaked out and step back and left me over there ALL ALONE. Fuck him! how are you now??
Thank you so much Dar sh! Well true the time can heal but more important, i think the decision of letting him go is the best decision i made for myself. When people show you who they are, believe them. Thank you for writing to me!
I said this to my ex before i found this, and now, we’re apart in a peaceful and greatful way. Dude, love is trust, you could say whatever you want from the bottom of the heart, no strategy or lesson is better than respect each other and communicate well. Hope that everyone will find out “the one” for them, and live happily no matter how hard our lives are
I did exactly what Matthew said and he came back in a week, but I refused him, cause I understood that this person is not my cup of tea. Thank you, Matthew! Your advices always useful!
Matthew, I just want to tell you that I said this to my guy and it worked! I really thought that I lost all the hope I have, but now I'm in a committed relationship with him. If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have the guts to show my standards and I wouldn't be in a happy relationship right now. THANK YOU MATTHEW
I tried this to the same sex and I lost him 😭😭😭 but thank you because I don't want to settle to less than I deserve. Finally, I can start moving on now
I’m curious to see how you are doing after the year? Has your ex tried reaching out? I’m in the same boat. I broke up with mine last week because he doubted the 2 yr relationship we had. Walking away and looking forward
Same I lost him too and upset about it and I hate having to go back to school and see his friends with him not there that will remind me of him and I will get sad and depressed and emotional
out of my life experience , we always know what we want .. just on the surface we might know though , for example , i always know what pizza i want to eat , what dress i want , where i want my vacations to be , who my friends are , with whom i want to hang on ...so basically we KNOW. if someone is confused , just step back .. trust me this way u r not only respecting his time and space but also respecting your self. i have been there and done that , love is not always about being with someone and getting married to them , its also about letting them go .. you know what if they truly love you they will come back .. do not be an option in anybody's life. never!!
Yup just say ,"Okay, I want you to be happy but I can't promise to be here when you are ready." I've discovered that less is more with men and being straight forward and direct is the best answer to avoiding confusion
Wow, crazy! I watched this video yesterday, straight before I met the guy, that I was dating about almost 3 months. I felt that we should talk & then he said: "I don't want a relationship." And I reacted pretty much like in this video. He struggled with his statement, because he probably thought that we could keep it casual. I said that I don't want anyone getting closer to me, if he's not sure. He struggled a lot & so did I. now he is gone and I‘m sad & don't think that he's coming back. But I guess this was a good decision, because I feel strong & self-determined.
I will do the same as well in coming days. I don't like this on and off relationship. Drains energy out of me. Iam replying your message after a month. I wonder how u feel about him now. Has he returned to you? Or are you happily moved on from him? Please do share
Hey,@@reemadeo5974. Thank you for the message. He never texted or called me. He watches every Instagram story, likes my Facebook posts and asked my friend how I am doing, but well... Never contacted me directly. I guess he is a bit afraid, because I said quite clearly that now I need space and that if I am a "maybe" he is a "no." Sometimes I miss him, but I am not sure if I really miss HIM or just the fact that I had SOMEONE. In general I feel good, I have guys in my life who are investing in me and know that I did uphold my standards and that it was the right decision. Wish u the best. :)
Anonymous I totally understand how that feels. I have been left for a random girl after the guy told me he wasn't ready to get into anything serious at the moment. We were seeing each other a few months and it was long distance. He dropped me out of his life for a random hookup. We were not talking for a while and Somehow we end up talking again this year and I'm again driving myself crazy right now. He has been distant again for a few weeks and I don't even have the energy to even confront him about what he really wants. I feel like just letting him go but I am so upset because of the connection that I have with him that I have never had with anyone else.
Lori, I know how it feels, but because life is too short I search my self worth once again. Been asking myself if sacrificing myself worth, my time and my total being to someone who never even value me as a woman is enough?! Then I stare myself in the mirror, now this time I felt pity and sorry for myself. I told myself, i deserve someone better. Someone who will cross the ocean for me, someone who will love me at my good and bad. Someone who will never break my heart. Life is beautiful to get wasted, its to short to played around. So I decide to spend it to the one person who knows how to value me.
Mylene Urot I love ur answer! I've been dating for 2 months, he says that we are serious and a relationship it is just a title. We see each other couple times per week, I met his father and some friends already, one of them even mentioned that he said that he thinks I'm the one... anyways, it still bothers me that he didn't say anything about being in a relationship.
This is so true. It is mutually empowering, because if he doesnt come back, then at least the both of you can go forward and look for better in life. It takes a lot of strength and emotional maturity to see things this way.
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I was struggling till 10min ago. I was thinking why isn’t he ready. Why do I feel pain. Why can’t it stop.. I normally don’t watch these kind of videos.. only my mum does. Today I took the chance to do it and ur lines helped me to feel free. To let go. I’m no longer into questioning myself.. but loving myself. Thank u Mathew!
I can feel the pain in every word, but loving someone is setting them free and wishing them all the best. And also to love someone better is to learn to love yourself more too. If you are meant for each other, you will always find your way back to each other. Thanks for sharing this ❤
How about at the beginning he puts the moon at your feet then you have a quarrel he keeps bringing the quarrel when I told him you pampered me so much I miss the old John ….. he I told you I was going to think it over and maybe I don’t feel it so I don’t say it . And I don’t know
I literally cried when I watched this video. I just cut things off with the guy I was seeing for 3 months. I truly loved him and I was believing that we have strong connection and bond that most ppl can't get through a friend with benefit. We almost texted everyday we have spent so much together and we accepted our bad and good side. Once he told me I mean a lot to him and important like his family and he will do his best to make me happy. But we constantly get into fights and he has had to told me we are just good friends that we are not in relationship. He knew how much I loved him and I told him I can't be his friends anymore So I ended with him....
"I am not ready for a relationship" = "I don't like you enough". So let's quit the sugar coating. Just smile big and say good luck and take your business elsewhere. No need to say his/her happiness is what you want more than anything else in the world. That is desperate, unnecessary ass-kissing. Deep down you know if he/she does not want a relationship with you, it will be all over your interactions. So just move on without need to explain or keep a door open for the loser.
Rossana Motta I don’t think that’s always true. It depends on the guy and his situation. The guy I like *just* came out of an almost 3 year relationship after his life was completely turned upside down and is trying to start his own career. When he said he didn’t want a relationship, it hurt, sure. But I understand that it’s not about me. It’s about him. This particular scenario wouldn’t work in my situation. I did tell him that his happiness mattered to me and he told me he didn’t want me to worry about his happiness. Not because he doesn’t like me enough. He doesn’t know me well enough to be able to make that judgment call. But as far as where he is in his own life, adding a relationship on top of it makes it more chaotic for him and that has nothing to do with how he feels about me. It’s chaotic enough as it is if you knew everything on his plate. It’s just bad timing and perhaps when the timing is right we might have a chance or he will find someone who will treat him better than his ex. But as for now I know he still loves her but needs someone who will treat him better. But also maybe just getting his ducks in a row is all he needs right now before he can find someone to share his life and his heart with. Thank you for listening this was oddly therapeutic and rather eye opening. Sucks for me, but maybe in time it will work out. Lol.
EL MARIACHIE hmmm. Could have not found a better way to word this response rather than just come across as an ass? Sure the OP was an ass in their own right but the bigger person knows better than to be an ass back. Guess that’s not you.
Today I did this today and It hurt like hell... I tried to stay even if he didn't know what he wanted cause the time we spend together was priceless to me. But I knew in my heart I couldn't stay for long. I really hope he comes back, but I doubt it... it really sucks saying I love you to someone for the first time while you are leaving him.
About 1 year ago, I didn't want to take your advice because I thought I thought it wasn't in my best interest and I made excuses for the men in my life. But then looking back, I deeply did not value myself and my worth. Now as I listen to your advice, videos, and programs I purchased from you, your advice is spot on and you have my best interest at heart. When the student is ready the student will listen. Thank you Matthew!!
I said exactly what you said today, and I cried afterward. but I feel good about it because I'm sure it was the best thing to do. Thank you so much Matthew for your advice.
This worked Matthew!!! I am so grateful for this video. I had this talk with the guy who said he wasn't sure he wanted something serious because he lived his whole life to please others and liked solitude to work on himself. But after I had this talk with him, he called back saying he will think about it and tell me Sunday (in 4 days) what he decided. Please anyone out there pray for me (if that's your thing), send good vibes and wishes!
@@katiecraighan9740 I'm very happy to say he called the next day and said he was all in. That the talk made him feel more at ease. As I told him, as a partner im only here to enhance your life and live with you through it, not take away your current life or hobbies. I think that helped a lot
This actually takes courage and self respect. You need to be able to say this and walk the walk. Matthews actually on point. The way people deliver messages hold more value if delivered respectfully. It's all androgynous semantic realignment. If something is meant for you, rest assured that it will return. If not, you've gained time in getting to know other people who CAN offer you what you need. ❤️
It's sad to admit but I just broke up with my guy last night oddly enough I said something similar to this. He had tears in his eyes. He isn't ready & he has so much going on that I am on the back burner with his plans. So I had to let him go. He didn't want to break up. But...as much as I want to say it's ok for me to be around be his shock absorber.... I want to be a priority not an option. Told him that once he has figured out & cleaned his floor figuratively speaking...then he can come back & let me know. He wants to keep in touch for special reasons. He does not want to lose me he said. I told him.... I don't too... I love him in a way that I want all the best in the world for him. But I want to be happy too. I am not going to stand there & just watch what happens when he has no plans specifically for me. I am very sad & I was crying... But.... I have to let him go..
Hope yr ok. I got this 7days ago, he said to stay friends an were still in touch but all its doing is hurting me. He initiates the text 99.9% of the time. I acted hurt initially, an I wish I'd said what Matthew advises. I know I have to walk away for now, so when he next text, I'm going to send a modified version. The lockdown means things are amplified for me but I need to start thinking only about me 😒
Believe the man that he showed you his true self the first time not the one that came back out of guilt or regret. He may hide that for sometime but somewhere down the line that hot/cold man will return, you better hope it isn’t when you have invested years in him.
Been there..done that..he was still confused af. So as I dont wait around for indecisive adults who cannot self reflect or take accountability for their actions! Dont let other people's indecisiveness affect your decisiveness.
VivaLaKatieJ Stalk him om FB, see if he is in a relationship, if not, contact him. If u two live in the same town, try to figure out what he does, what his routine is, what gym he goes to and try to do it too, so u too can come across each other "by coinsidence". I know it is very easy for me to say all this, because im not in ur situation, but it is a begin. :)
+Matthew Hussey Thank you for this video and this comment Matthew!! I never know how to express how much I value myself to other men. And yes, words matter. Much love!
+Matthew Hussey Hi, Matt! It's nice to see your name in the comments section. ^_^ Thanks for always giving the right advise and for always reminding us, women, to value ourselves. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Keep up the good work. Take care. =D
I'm a woman, and I can attest to there being MANY legit other reasons why you're not ready for a relationship at a given time. Of course, it could be because the person doesn't want to date you OR is just figuring it out & trying to meet people before jumping in head-first. But in some cases, you literally are not emotionally capable of having a serious relationship again yet. I met the perfect guy...a couple months after a massive, massive, heart-wrenching breakup. I still gave it a shot because the new guy was so amazing, but I was emotionally closed off (VERY unlike me) and simply couldn't invest myself in a serious relationship yet. The difference is that I wasn't looking to date other guys or sleep around...I have absolutely no problem with being exclusive. Far from it. I just couldn't commit to a deep and meaningful and serious relationship yet.
You actually liked the guy though, and that's why you gave the relationship a shot. That's what we do if we are really into someone, even if we are not ready yet. It often falls apart when we are just not ready for a new relationship, but that doesn't stop us giving it a go. When we are really not interested in having a relationship with that person, we say that we are not ready because it's kinder than 'i like you but not that much.'
Am I the only one who feels that if a guy says "I'm not sure", it's a total turnoff that makes me not want to be with him? This exact situation happened to me about a year ago and it was so painful and disappointing to see that this guy I was crazy about didn't feel the same way back, to the point where I started reevaluating whether I even wanted to be with someone who felt unsure about me. I handled it a bit different than Matthew recommends, I wished my ex well and said I wanted to be with someone who had no doubt in his mind that I was the right person, and if that wasn't the case then we weren't right for each other. I didn't exactly give him the opportunity that I would be open to getting back together if he changed his mind because my mind was already made up that I deserved no less than a man who's as in love with me as I am with him and puts equal effort in the relationship. He tried getting back together a couple of times after that but it was a no for me.
I think there is a difference in how quickly someone realizes how they feel about their partner, or about a relationship in general. Men definitely take more time then women when it comes to comittment, perhaps you should take this into account when judging him for being uncertain at a time when you are already certain. They forgive us for being slower at parking :)
Nope--you're not the only one who feels that way. If a guy isn't 100% sure if he even wants to be with me, why waste time on him when I could be with someone who IS 100% sure. Life's too short for that nonsense.
So glad I came across this. Thank you Matthew it gave me the confidence to say this to someone who had been treating me like an option. I feel so like I'm valuing myself again x
I have been on both sides: "I am not ready for a relationship" means "I don't want a relationship with you" (or anybody else, but still, you neither). So women and men, don't waste your time and just move forward.
I met a guy who just got out of a 4 year relationship a little over 4 months ago. We’ve known each other for about a month now but we BOTH can tell we have amazing chemistry together. On the first date he even said “I feel like I’ve known you forever” because we get along so perfectly. We have all the same interests and values (personally I like that) and I know he’s interested in me/dating me. He even said he prefers to date rather than just meet girls so it’s not that he doesn’t want to date me. He’s just trying to figure out his life and if his heart is ready to date again after the last relationship (they broke up because he knew she wasn’t the one). Right now we are still seeing each other and going on dates/spending time together. He is interested in me and said that if he ever felt he didn’t want to date or date me he’d tell me. Right now I’m planning to give him about another month or two to just grow closer as people and see where his heart lies. Any advice is appreciated.
2 years of relationship I was looking forward to moving in with him and quit my job and was ready to fly to the country where he work last min I got a message " I am not sure if I want a commitment " now I'm with no job no guy and a broken heart
ninghoih lian I am so sorry that happened to you. I trust things are better for you by now. I've learned when things like this happen, it's for the best. But we often can't see that thru our shock and pain.
I used this grouping of phrases when my guy said “I’m not ready for long distance. I thought that I was but really I’m not.” He responded with “are you going somewhere? I hope you’re still there too.” I reacted with “how am I supposed to take that?” To which he replied “well think about it…but now I’m going to feel really dumb if I reach out again.” I don’t know what to make of the response, but I felt really empowered saying it, because I expressed both love for myself and for him. Regardless of the outcome, I’m really grateful for this balanced, loving response.
I date online for 2 years with long distance and I feel tired he didn’t come to see me in a person then I follow Mathew Hussey advice and told him as Matthew told on this video so after that 4 months I met him at my work.He came to surprise at my shop and now we are bf gf ^^ Thank you Matthew
I tried this now and he replied saying I'm right, he does need time alone and that he will miss me. 2 minutes later he asked if I want to go for a walk this weekend 😂🧐
Lol they are all the same, mine did that too, I told him “no, I don’t want to make pancakes and hike this morning with you, neither I want to watch a movie this afternoon, I’m going to be clear since you seem to fail to understand what I told you yesterday, we don’t want the same things so I’m moving on, please respect my decision. Two days later he was at my door asking to keep dating me even if we don’t get physical, and to meet my parents that same day, We are close to our anniversary now. 🤔
Matthew you helped me get my ex back after I broke up with him and I want to thank you. I used your phone calls strategy by calling him and telling him during an outing I saw something that reminded me of him and it brought a smile to my face and I just wanted him to know I thought of him. OMG it worked like a charm period after that phone call he called me 48 hours later. he no longer feared the anger he assumed I would have because my phone call was such a happy high energy and pleasant message so he felt it was okay to call me and we talked. I'm still working on reconnecting with him because we were broken up for almost a month so now I feel a bit different although I still love him I don't feel as strongly as I did before the break up. I assume that's okay because it seems that we're both willing to try and work at our relationship. Thank you again and please keep posting this wonderful helpful videos! 🤗
I just typed those words out matthew and I am already crying. I lost more than my heart to the guy and I know what the answer is going to be and its so scary I can't breathe. I am going to need a whole lot more advice soon and I hope you are still here for me when I do love. Thank you so much for this, All the love.
I can't even begin to describe how this has been a blessing in disguise that you just posted this video 2 days ago. This is exactly what I'm going through, except he's my boyfriend and were 6 months into it, and he's not sure if he wants to be with me. I've had multiple conversations with him trying to find these words to tell him, but this video just gave me exactly what I've been looking to say. It's so hard to fall in love with someone over a 6 month period, only to run into something like this where he's now unsure of me. I hope these words will help, and I appreciate your advice so much. This was meant to be to see this video. Thank you!
Snap two days ago and we were dating for 5 months, it was a horrible break up, mostly because he looked so sad, he knows he is self destructive and has massive intimacy issues, when he gets close to something genuine, he knew he wanted to be single because of it but he was clearly conflicted about losing me - or maybe I read it wrong or maybe I am hoping, who knows. I got upset and frustrated with his contradictions at some point which I regret however do feel that he knows me well enough to know I'm not going to try and convince him to stay. He has pleaded for us to to stay friends, but I know that would hurt me too much. He messaged me on Sunday, I didn't reply, but considering sending Matthews message as a reply. If he was horrible and 'normal' I wouldn't care, but I only want to see him happy, and maybe back in my arms one day :( How are you feeling now??
Matthew’s vids dragged me thru a heavy heartbreak 4 months ago and here I am again cause of the new guy who said he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Thank you Matthew for pulling me thru all this ❤
Gosh what you said here Matthew is so touching and true that a tear just went down on my cheek! Your ability to understand human emotions and act on them is incredibly amazing
I sent a text to him today saying what you suggested Matthew ... His response was this "I enjoyed our time together. You're an amazing woman, person, and mother. I hope you find someone that deserves you! Thanks, Mike" ... I'm very sad because I really liked him but on the flipside I feel relieved and free. All that being said, I realized that I learned a lot from the last 4 months in this relationship. Again I'm sad but I believe it has made me a better me. I can hold my head of high!
I am crying with this message you've delivered. For a whole year I've struggled to say this to the man I love. Like such a breath of fresh. I need to say this now and not later. Thank you Matthew ❤❤❤
@@gabzgirl5719 out of my experience am telling you do not remain frnds with your ex! If you see a future with him you wanna be with him you want him to be your better half,plzz donot remain frnds with him!! It makes him to be comfortable, he would be used to it ie; to move his life further just considering you as a frnd!! if you want to be with him to spend your life with him, tell him what matthew said and cut off your contact!1 NO CONTACT surely works, as you have been frnds for some amt of time it may take time for your ex to reach out to you! but yes it will bring him back!! myself am facing the same situation right now and yeah I am in my no contact for 34days now!! you focus on yourself, things will fall in place!! cheers!!
Because you’re looking for men and finding the fruits of poor parenting started by the disintegration of the family due to pseudo-intellectual low value men who wanted easier sluts to bang and ugly whores who wanted to act like guys because they can’t compete against pretty girls so hanging with guys doing things the pretty girls avoid gives them an opportunity to get fucked (say after exercising, playing sports, video games, coworkers at a police department, tech/stem company, etc. - like how effeminate fish mimic females so that they can covertly bang female fish when the alpha male is away). So weak men are not entirely responsible for their weakness, it’s more so the influence of pseudo intellectual men and women and the parents who fell for their anti-traditional propaganda. Also, damaged people tend to attract each other and there are plenty of dysfunctional men and women today (see the poor fools who don’t know, or deny and resent, what sex they are).
@Derogation -- "Also I love this pseudo science fool's attempt to blame "weak men"'s failings on EVERY BODY ELSE lol classic immature male behavior" Men don't have a monopoly on irresponsibility -- in fact, it is because men are responsible for so much that they are constantly blamed. Alex Kierkegaard: 809. The Blame Game. "Whose fault is it?" But if you want to maximize your freedom of action you have to place the engine of change inside you. The more of the blame - better put, the responsibility - that you are therefore able to assume, the more options you'll have for shaping your situation in the future. The highest point in this direction is occupied by God, who assumes full responsibility not only for himself, but for everyone else too; the lowest by the monotheist who entirely disclaims responsibility and imputes everything that has ever happened or ever will to God (and rightly so, given how weak the monotheist is in comparison). In between there's everyone else: the entire spectrum of lifeforms in the universe. 908. The mechanics of blame/rationality. When we point the blame towards someone or something for a state of things, it's always with a view towards future action that reshapes this state of things. The blame itself is never literal, never real, it's merely a useful fiction, a mere tool, because in a universe where everything is connected to and conditioned by everything else there's never anyone to blame for anything; rather, EVERYONE is to "blame" for EVERYTHING, everywhere and at all times. That's what chaos theory expresses with the example of a butterfly flapping its wings contributing to a cyclone forming on the other side of the planet. Therefore, to say it once again, blame/rationality is never real, it's ALWAYS FALSE. For example, the alt-retards say that feminism is to blame for the collapse of the family. But I say that weak men like the alt-retards are to blame for feminism. And further I say that civilization is to blame for weak men. And who is to "blame" for civilization? Strong/intelligent men that decided to create it in order to best shape their environment. And who is to "blame" for strong/intelligent men? Evolution all the way back to protozoa, hydrogen atoms and the Big Bang. Therefore, who, ultimately, is to blame for feminism? The universe, end of story. And I can apply this line of reasoning to every instance of blame or rationality that has ever been or ever will be uttered. You will always find "the universe" as the ultimate culprit in the existence of any given state of things, because that's where the rabbit hole always leads if you dig deep enough. Of course, only a philosopher can dig that deep, so no one else ever comes to this realization. But now that I've explained it to you dimwits in plain language, maybe a few of you will get it, and be able to discover it and explain it to others next time they tell you that the Jews or some other poor scapegoat is ULTIMATELY responsible for some state of things or other. NO ONE is "ultimately" responsible for ANYTHING. And though taking responsibility for something is as false as blaming it on someone else, that is the falsity that belongs to the strong just as surely as the neverending blame game, with no action involved to move things forward, is the type of falsity that belongs to the weak. Ultimately, the only thing that matters to the strong is their goal. If my goal is to reshape civilization in order to cleanse it of feminism and other modern neuroses, I need to find a pressure point to push; I need to decide where to use my force in order to effect change. That is why I need to "blame" something; in more neutral language, to find the "reason" for it. Once I have identified weak men as the reason for feminism, I need to find a way to strengthen these men up, and then they'll take care of the feminists and all the other neuroses. And the way to strengthen men, as a group, is to kill off most of them, because they are beyond hope and their wretched activity and inane bleating are weakening everyone around them. In the old days, war and disease would take care of this vital function by ridding us of the most wretched weaklings among us, but since society has eliminated those with the thoughtless universal application of science and technology, we need a substitute for them, and that's where the drone army comes in. But that will be discussed at length in due course. The main point to grasp here, for the purposes of the current discussion, is that I am not REALLY blaming weak men for feminism, because I just said that the thoughtless application of science and technology created so many weak men, and who is responsible for this "thoughtless application" if not the older statesmen and philosophers? So I am not singling out weak men ULTIMATELY, and MALICIOUSLY, as the alt-retards do when they go around looking for scapegoats like the liberals or the soyboys or the Jews or whoever they happen to hate on any given day. All I am doing is looking for the optimal point to apply pressure in order to achieve my goal, with no moral condemnation involved at all. And that's why I picked contemporary modern men as that point, instead of dead philosophers, since I can't apply pressure to the dead lol, but weak men are all around me, and if my drone army kills off all the weakest of them I'll be well on my way towards shaping future society to match my goals. I don't HATE weak modern men. I really have nothing against them anymore than I have against the ants whose colonies I had to flatten to build my house. Both ants and weak men are ultimately blameless for their existence, and for being constituted the way they are; but that doesn't change the fact that they are standing in the way of my plans, and thus they must be flattened-that is all. And that is a whole other ballgame from weaklings like the alt-retards who hate everyone and everything around them for a state of things that they really should be blaming on themselves and their own weakness if they actually wanted to change it-which they don't (otherwise they'd have already changed it-it's not that hard at all if you're not a wimpy whiny fagot, which they are). To recap, reasons don't exist for anything in the universe, and rationality is false. Reasons are just tools that we invent in order to help us shape our environment. The reasons you find for a state of things depend on the new shape you want to give to this state of things, and since different people have different goals, they will naturally invent different reasons. That's how the universe functions, i.e. in a far more complex manner than the simplistic objective one in which subhuman thinkers believe, who think that everything happens "for a reason", or even for a number of reasons. Everything happens for AN INFINITY OF REASONS out of which each lifeform picks out a couple that are useful to it to advance its goals, and champions them as the reasons. Then the lifeforms and their various reasons clash, and the game goes on. Therefore, whenever you see someone STOP with blame and moral condemnation, you can safely deduce weakness. But when you see someone BEGIN with "blame"/reasons, and then with clinical precision outline the steps that must be taken to reshape the situation to his will, without any hatred or moral posturing involved, you can safely deduce strength. The strength of a lifeform that knows what it wants and calmly and clinically plans out how to get there. This is how things get done, and whining is a mere symptom of the incapacity to get anything done. And that's why it always loses. Nietzsche: "What alone can our teaching be? - That no one gives a human being his qualities: not God, not society, not his parents or ancestors, not he himself... No one is accountable for existing at all, or for being constituted as he is, or for living in the circumstances and surroundings in which he lives. The fatality of his nature cannot be disentangled from the fatality of all that which has been and will be. He is not the result of a special design, a will, a purpose; he is not the subject of an attempt to attain to an 'ideal of man' or an 'ideal of happiness' or an 'ideal of morality' - it is absurd to want to hand over his nature to some purpose or other. We invented the concept 'purpose': in reality purpose is lacking... One is necessary, one is a piece of fate, one belongs to the whole, one is in the whole - there exists nothing which could judge, measure, compare, condemn our being, for that would be to judge, measure, compare, condemn the whole... But nothing exists apart from the whole!- That no one is any longer made accountable, that the kind of being manifested cannot be traced back to a causa prima, that the world is a unity neither as sensorium nor as 'spirit', this alone is the great liberation - thus alone is the innocence of becoming restored... The concept 'God' has hitherto been the greatest objection to existence... We deny God; in denying God, we deny accountability: only by doing that do we redeem the world. - "
Yes it hurts, but know this one simple fact. Anyone that's letting go, regardless of their reason(s) is doing you a favor. Be strong and politely tell them "Thank you, I wish you all the best" Now, take the time you need to heal and continue with your life. Don't dwell on the past, live in the present.
Not sure why I ended up here - I guess I'm someone who previously did meet someone and now feel I am not ready for a relationship. But I wanted to point out what I think is a big thing that was overlooked here. The guy might genuinely mean it. There might be no hidden message. In fact guys probably don't generally do hidden messages. So if you tell him he should go away and figure it out, he may well acknowledge your kindness and simply thank you, and then leave - just like you said. That's not to say this is bad advice. I think it's great advice, even in this situation. One other thing - I don't think anyone should actually "wait" for some to become ready. I liked the advice that you should say what you need right now, but I think you should mean it too. It's not just a ploy to get this guy back - you should actually be prepared to go looking elsewhere for what you need. Don't wait for someone to change. And if someone did suggest they would wait for me, I would think less of them. Or rather I'd just feel bad for them, and I'd probably want to avoid them in order to protect them from being hurt more. Being hurt in a relationship is hard, and unavoidable. For me it's far worse to see someone else hurt because of me, and I'll go to great lengths to avoid that. But the bottom line of what I'm saying is that there really are guys (I'm one of them) who for one reason or another actually do not want a relationship right now. They actually want to be single. Perhaps indefinitely. Perhaps for the rest of their life. That can be difficult to understand if you don't feel that way. But they're just being honest with you in order to prevent you from getting hurt. And I approve of the advice in this video, but you have to mean it, and be prepared to act on it, and leave (and look elsewhere) if need be. Good luck!
Geshtu so I ended it with my ex the back and forth. Then he texted a couple weeks l8tr that he wanted me just us only forever. I blasted him he quit answering til a few days l8tr then he needed to see me. I asked him about the 4ever thing. Be said he was drunk but that he didnt want to lose me as a friend he wanted me in his life. Then silence then he actually took me to dinner and asked my help with new job. Then silence tben camd again. Then silence again for a week until today because i told him goodbye then he text dont be like that we discussex this. Im sorry but thnx 4 making me feel like a p.o.s. what does this all mean? He told me we had something when we first dated. He sabotaged it i think out of fear
Geshtu that's EXACTLY what just happened to me !!! He said "oh thank you Hun , you are very sweet and nice , truly are" and that was it ... so to me that means he's just been giving me the bare minimum to 1.keep me around for a booty call and 2. Cuz he didn't know how to tell me to go away himself ... so I basically just made it completely easy for him to walk away 😭😢
I meant someone that I think will never want to be in a relationship. I’m hurt but I get it. I thought I had a chance because I gave him space. I like that you said what you said it helping me.
I love this comment. I have this guy who was terribly hurt in his past and now we're dating and he's not vocal about what we are, he just said that he likes me but he's not ready for a commitment. He said that I can still find someone that can fulfill what I really need which is "relationship", he promised that he'll stick around, deep inside I can't. I am focused on him. I love him now. It's difficult to act in front of him he might be overwhelmed about my feelings for him, most of the time I am controlling my emotions and it's freaking difficult. I guess I should understand him and stay with him until I can. I hope his worth the wait tho. 😊😊😊
Just living life, being happy is better than dealing with the dating game. Deciding to remain single & celibate is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Funny thing is, when I made up my mind, the guys out there are approaching me more. Go figure. :)
+LamourDeLucie I am in ur same boat. I want children badly n my biological clock is ticking. I find myself settling n putting up with stuff I never would have in my younger days and getting hurt like crazy
+LamourDeLucie You can have a child on your own. You can freeze your eggs. Or, my friend had a child in vitro thru a sperm bank. Her daughter is a beautiful little girl and she is so happy. Her mom moved in with her and babysits her granddaughter during the day while she works. After you fulfill your own dreams, you will be able to put yourself and your child first which a real man treasures. Also, most men that you meet will have kids as well.
***** Been there, had 4 kiddos. It's not like you'd think it is. I gave many years, work, time, sacrifice. I home schooled my kiddos, taught them as much as they would absorb, loved them, nurtured them. This past Mothers Day? Not even a dam card. Even a phone call would have been nice. Nope. Children are born with their own individual personality. I have a very good relationship with only *one* out of four, so I cherish her, lavish love & attention on her.
I did this the other day with someone I have been in a “situationship” with for a year and a half. He agreed to be on his own (he’s currently in another country on a trip, will be back in a month.) Then I Heard from him last night profusely apologizing, saying he can see a future with me, and has decided he wants to make it work and commit. I’m sticking to my guns and told him I’d like to remain in no contact for the remaining month he is off traveling, and if he still feels the same way when he gets back, we can discuss it. In the meantime I’m gonna keep working on myself. We’ll see what happens.
When my mother in law was dating my father in law, he came once with that "I need some time to think' story, she said 'that is fine with me'. Three days after that he came back to her, apparently he had time enough to figure out what he wanted. He found her with her very recently hair dyed blonde, and he never again had any doubts. Married her, and lived together all his life.
The next time a guy says he's not ready I'm not saying a word - I'm just walking away. This last guy literally lied about wanting a relationship. He said, I told you what you wanted to hear so I could get what I wanted.
This is way too much talking for me. I've been there and done that. The next time a man tells me something like that, the only thing he will hear from me is "ok, thanks for letting me know." The conversation and contact will end there on my part. If a man isn't sure, odds are he feels he can do better at that moment or really doesn't want you for whatever reason. He could also have you there as a filler girl just to feed his ego and keep him comfortable by having someone there. Either way, he isn't that interested. Most guys are pretty good at judging what type of woman you are so the guys who say this just don't think you will leave and will keep being strung along while they "figure things out". If you just move on and do you without all of the extra chit chat, they will probably pop back in anyways especially if you aren't rude and extra about it.
I agreed with you as well. Thou, your expression may add extra value that you're OK without him and you know what you want. Saying this from a calm place, can make any person think, and think hard. Just say it, and move on. Words does matter. Expression matters. Expression makes all the difference between an OK relationship vs an amazing one.
Haha exactly! I think Matt is brilliant, but this advice feels a bit hollow. I can wish and hope that a guy is really "thinking about if he wants me" but at the end if the day, a guy won't let go of someone he can't be without! (most times) Haha I've been here soooo many times. once, guy started dating a woman like a couple months after he gave me every bullshit line he could come up with.
+Serena Quaye You're so right. If a person isn't sure about me, I have no other choice but to be ok with it because I can't make them see how awesome of a woman I am. A lot of guys already know this but really acknowledging and understanding what that means is another story. You and Matt are correct when you say expressions matter because I when I walk away, there is no drama or long speeches. Once they realize that I set the standard, they come back.
+cwilson586 Yes! that happened to me as well, which is why I'm not giving speeches. When that happened to me I knew the that men already know what it is they want because they would have a gf all of a sudden after not being ready. I've learned not to invest emotions until they have proven I should trust them with them. I will still be respectful and caring but I've learned to set limits and read the signs the relationship isn't going anywhere eariler. There are no fantasies or movies playing in my head. I just take the situation for what it is and go from there.
+T Allen 100% agree... I do feel, however, that there is a difference between the "player" type and the type of guy who has perhaps been hurt in the past, and has hangups about commitment. I feel as though Matthew is referring to the latter group in this vid.
Hi Matthew, thank you for your advice which I've applied. The result is that he broke up two weeks ago on St Valentin! We have been in a LDR for 14 months and every moment we spent together was so perfect. We had a lot of interests and activities in common. Very good understanding, long story short we were on the same line with one exception I was "in limbo". Finally I asked him about his thoughts about the possibility of being committed. I told him that I would be ready to give us a chance without knowing if it really works out. His answer was that he cannot give me what I want. He broke up because he wanted to give me the chance to find the one who will be able to fulfil my wishes. Now I'm in "no contact" and devastated. I'm 66 years old and was sure to spend the rest of my life with this man. I still hope that he will come back to me but meanwhile I'll move on... Sorry for my English. Greetings from Germany to all who are broken-hearted. Love ❤️
If a guy says he isn’t ready, trust me, he’s most likely not into you. The “I’m not ready” line is typically used when a guy isn’t attracted to a woman. Yeah, there’s times where a guy may need some time after a breakup or something. But in most scenarios, I’m not ready means “I’m not interested”.
Daves World Then why they just cant say ”sorry Im not interrested enough” ? Why they dont stand for what they really feel and think? Dont they have balls for that? Its maybe time to grow up and act like a man and not like a child.
Actually you might be suprised to learn that it depends on the *context* and *body language* if you think it took the "im not ready" to be a sign he's not interested then you're not reading it right Some actually dont feel ready and probably want a *friend* but if you aren't looking for a *friend* you should try to politely tell him no I've seen it happen so often where the girl just decides to pull a bitch move and assume the worst instead of reading the situation or considering *why* Keep in mind you just have to be there He actually has to try to be charming witty and funny Don't be surprised if he might be a bit emotionally comprimised after (probably) a lot of failed attempts I have a best friend who gave up entirely on trying to get in a relationship and practically lives alone so i visit him pretty often to play games or w/e (i usually have nothing better to do and i play games myself so its w/e)
*MAYBE* he’s just genuinely not ready for a relationship! Some times we’re not ready for what we want because we need to grow and learn in order to be the best partner we can to our S.O. Yes there are people who lead you and just use that as an excuse but not every guy is just playing games or just using you I feel like people always assume the worst when it comes to men I respect a man who’s honest with me then who just jumps into something they’re not wholeheartedly into Why do men get such a bad rep?! There are douchebags but there are good men too Some people are just so broken hearted and bitter
Kai Alexandria I totally agree! I’m in a situation where a guy says he loves me and cares for me and even would take a bullet for me. But he just needs to grow and become a better man. He said I can date other ppl. And we agreed we are dating but seeing other ppl or doing what we wanna do. In the end he tells me we will be together we just need to grow separately before we grow together. And I thought in the beginning with the agreement that he was just trying to go out there and have sex or see other ppl. But he told me if he meets other ppl or anything it’s not going to matter in the end I’m what matters. I really think he’s just not ready for a relationship I don’t think it’s a game for him at all. He still sees me everyday talks to me everyday and makes me a priority. Iv set my boundaries and he knows what will make me completely walk away. And he respect them cause he doesn’t want to lose me. We both just need to grow.
Destiny Guzman im a similar situation like this. He says he loves me, misses me, is still attracted to me, and still believes the connection is there but he genuinely wants to just be alone right now. He says he doesnt want to date anyone in general. He says we can still have a possibility in the future. I just dont know what to do :/
Destiny Guzman I know it’s been 10 months but do the other people you are dating know you are just seeing them as placeholders until Mr. Needs-to-grow comes around? Are the other women he’s dating seeing themselves as placeholders or are they also holding out for more while he gives them the “I need time to grow” spiel? Are these same women watching Matthew’s videos wondering why this man is stringing them along and looking for texting strategies of what to say to him?
Hi Matthew, I can't thank you enough for this advice on this video. Words matter, no doubt about it. I'm following your program on "Get Him Running Back to You" and It's being my lifeguard. The bonus of "Back To Life" is so precious. Thank you again, I can breathe again.
You make me laugh, you make me cry I don't know which side to buy Your friends they're jerks When you act like them, just know it hurts I wanna be with the one I know And the 7th thing I hate the most that you do You make me love you..
+SUCCESS MOTIVATION: Health Wealth Love Happiness thank you for your beautiful message, men like you are helping to regain my faith in human kind!! just The boost I needed right now :) I also wish you an amazing day
"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option" Mark Twain. BTW, thank you for your advice Matthew
just happen to me 3 days ago lol
i like that quote thank you , im going to use it
I hate guys who munipulate you .They sAy I love you and want a life with you but don’t want to marry you they just won’t let go of you and you believe them.
After you dumped me and fucked other guy, then came back and want a relashionship...you will be just an option. :)
Love your mark teain quote ! I’m gonna steal it ok? !! Love to you
I did this and he’s gone, I’m really sad but for once I feel proud of myself for having some self respect. Thanks Matthew
Yuo because he was deceiving you all this time he takes your energy so he can feel better when he goes home to his lady it's all a big game for them because they don't have emotions like a woman does sad but true so run run and keep running until he walks the talk!
I did the same his loss :)
Same , it’s been three weeks now and I have not received any call or text and part of me still have hope but other part is telling move on love yourself more
You did the right thing! You're so beautiful inside out. Lol..
my dear dr usifoh will help you better okay
If he's "not ready", leave him in the oven and go find someone who is! Ain't got no time for half baked bread.
A J LOL nicely put.
This is awesome
Best comment ever!
A J 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol
You changed my life. I did this, and walked away. The very next month I met the most amazing man, no doubts, no questions, he treats me like his queen. Thank you for giving me the strength and the power to believe in myself🙏🏻 x
I hope I find someone like that
@@thedancelearner7721 You will , and when you do please believe you deserve them and more. You truly do deserve good things.
Same, it happened to me too. I was still caught up with the previous guy but I slowly but surely caught feelings for the new guy and he treats me like a princess and I try my best to treat him well too
I hope I find this. I told him this. He said I was flag for wanting to know what we are.
I love this ❤️
It’s not that men are complicated or women are complicated, it’s only a matter of having balls to walk away when you are not treated the way you want to or when someone is not investing as much as you do. Have the courage to walk away. If they care, they will come look for you, if not... it just wasn’t meant to be (bad timing, no attraction, no chemistry, etc). Accept it as it is, no need for closure. End of the story.
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As easy as that??
Yes, your comment is 🔥. I was in this situation and basically just told him what was said in this video. It took a lot of bravery, I really like him. And won’t lie, I want him to come back and really do this.. but I’m so happy I love myself enough to put myself first and not allow someone to give me less than I deserve.
Ouss Hamdouni very clever comment ❤️👏🏻
I said, “Love me or leave me alone. Either we’re doing this or we’re not. If you need to do you, do it, but I’m not guaranteeing that I’ll be around when you’re done doing you.” He came back and we’ve been married 20 years. I didn’t have time for bullshit and he figured it out.
Love hearing that! 💕
How much time he spend doing him before he came back?
@@Naok19 2 weeks. He realized that I’m like a comet. Girls like me don’t come around often, so when you see one grab ahold.
@@nicolegreen1599 happy for you 🙏🏾
@@Naok19 You have to be prepared to lose the person. Don't use ultimatums and play games if you're not willing to follow through. A lot of women do this, the man calls their bluff, and then they're sitting there crying and thinking, "I didn't think he'd leave." I truly believed, when I let him go, that I would find someone else. I know my worth. He had to know it, too....and here we are.
I still think that when they say "I am not ready for a relationship" means "I don't want a relationship with YOU"...so move on guys!
I mean, I've said the "I don't want a relationship" thing. And that's exactly what it means.
Pretty sure it can go both ways depending on how its said
Pay attention to body language and context of the situation
What if a guy tell you,he feel strong attraction and he care for you..but not ready for relationship
im a girl, and i say the same thing. being in a relationship means i have to be the best version of myself and that persons 1# support system. So, yeah, im not ready to do those things
Nhes Gumaru relatable. it happened to me jn
I did this a few years ago with my actual boyfriend, at that time we where friends, and he came back as a much more improved version of himself, and asking me to be his girlfriend, we have now almost 4 years of relationship and about to get marry. Thank you so much!
Congrats Diana!
dianawwe A huge congratulations from me too! I'm in my 60s and will probably stay single from now in, due to a lot of traumatic experiences throughout my life, but like to know about good outcomes for others. 💏
More power to you gurl.. 🤗 have a great life
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Did u tell him also no contact and call only if u r reafy
I did exactly that. What I learned is that if they are ready, they are ready. No grey areas.
Nancy Cruz thank you. This guy is idiot. It doesnt matter if youre a wife material or a dumb beaver. When a guy is ready. Hell be ready. Commitment is not about feelings commitment is a choice. 99% of girls here are egoistic naive. HOW CANT HE LIKE ME. IM SPECIAL
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True!
Guys will never be ready to take action unless you MEAN everything to him. If he is not yet ready, let him go. Don't stick around because you will have a feeling of "being used" in the end. EMOTIONAL DRAMA and anxieties will build up, your confidence and self worth will be tampered. DROP HIM, WALK OUT, HEAD HIGH and DONT LOOK BACK.
@@youtubetv775 that's the same thing the OP meant.
RHU DAGAMI (OFFICIAL) that’s so hard...help😪
yep. staying isn't going to help anything
these kinda guys just want a girl falling into their lap being their everything there that second without even really doing anything that would make that possible. yea of course I had someone I partially didnt even like but still cared about, falling in love with him the 3rd time I saw him. Like so freakin crazy that he already was my everything that day. He was a bad person and tried to make me weak, and slowly revealed his abuse methods on me which got more and more bad.. took me 6 years to cut him off forever. then another time.. my first big love. attraction was crazy but it took some hanging out, starting a relationship to develop like crazy. but he played with me these 3 months although there was big feelings also on his side. we were both young. he was a player. he broke up with me in front of my school with all these people to earn himself the reputation as a player. 1 year later he missed me so much and had lots of time thinking. We fell really hard in love both starting when we first met eachother again.. and he loved me so much for 3 years but I broke up with him cause I lost feelings cause he cheated on me. he wasnt all bad. he was a freakin great guy besides that and so senstive and loving. we were inseperable. but the thing is if you as a guy never take action and go in that direction. nothings ever gonna happen and you stay always stagnant and will never know how to have and build a relationship and how amazing things can become. if you cant take action unless bla bla bla then something is very wrong with you.
very true...you will indeed feel used and will question your worth. the sooner the better...don't wait around on things to change, because the longer you wait, the harder it is to extricate yourself from the situation.
I just wrote this to a guy who is playing the whole “I do not want a relationship right now. I am too busy with work”, yet wants to just hangout and “go for sushi”. I don’t want sushi. I want him. If he doesn’t want me too, he can eat his sushi alone.
Sheri Kwasnik just curious did it work what happened?
Sheri Kwasnik translation: I don't want sushi. I want his money.
Facts
Exactly!
Are you dumb? You sound like an incel
“Never let a man tell you twice he doesn’t want you.” -Steve Harvey
"It seems like you need to go away and figure out what you want and be on your own for a while. I want your happiness more than anything else in the world, I just want you to be happy. So i feel you need to be on your own in order to figure out what you want. I hope that I'm here or that I'm still here when you're ready. Until then I know that I need someone who is completely in cause I wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't 100% about wanting to be with me"
thank you very much for the transcript hahaha
Abbie lol thank you lol
Abbie i wish i saw this before i started typing everything on my
phone when sending my message to my bf, and i had to repeatedly pause the video. lol
BTW? what if his response to this message will be, I will continue to think about our relationship?
haha
hahaha Tq dear
i used this advise, and he came back two weeks later. Now we are so happy together. Thank you
Allie Lotus how
I used it also and he responded to why he isn’t ready right now but I haven’t responded idk what to say 😩
@@SalesCoachGirlie me too and he said he can stay away if i was not fine with it, i just didnt know what to say😭
Pretty Mokalapa yeah I responded and said I respect it , idk where things are going .. but I’m not going to chase him I’ll tell you that lol if he comes back around great if not then it wasn’t meant to be. But I do believe he will be reaching out soon I can feel it
Can I ask you what you did after you texted him this? I am in a kind of similar situation right now and struggling
Gone is the time when you keep begging for love and men not wanting you.
if he doesnt treasure your presence make him regret your absence. simply walk away.
It might seem hard but someday you will get someone who will give the world to you and that day you will forget all those times your heart has been ever broken
If a man dont like a woman or isnt ready just accept it and move on not sobbing bcs u didnt get him
This is what happen to me..... After he dumped me..... I keep calling n mesging him n keep asking try one more time..... I cried n begged n plead. For almost a month..... Then everytime i mesge n call him he throw words on me n say he dnt love me n he dnt want to be in relationship for now...... So i try the NC rule yes most of the time i stil think abt him.... N one nyt i git drunk n i called him all i want is to hear his voice but he fuck me upside down by his words...... N he said hes happy n his enjoying his life with out me..... Hard to accept but really need to move on..... Will nver ever begged again..... 😊😊😊
And he who gives is stronger, amen.
Wow that was beautiful
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Damn... That was exactly what I told my boyfriend right before we stared our relationship! It took him 5-6 hours and he called me saying that he didn't want to give up on his independence, but he really wants to be with me and he is ready to go all-in. Since that moment we have been happier than ever!
That’s wonderful, hope you two are still going strong
Wow this is wonderful. We mostly whom sending this is like take huge risk.. But we never know what coming up after if we still keep going like we already know right?
@@Beautytrends77 We are! Over 2 years together and currently planning on moving in :)
*#*I PRAY THE UNIVERSE GRANT YOUR HEARD DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX THROUGH THE GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR WILSON, WHO HELPED ME RESTORED MY BROKEN HOME. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE*#*
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my ex was not ready for a relationship after 8.5yrs of a relationship.
Catherine Fleming-Robertson you should have told him too late 8 years is a relationship .
What an unfortunate and epic waste of your time. So sorry to hear that.
lol same
Together for 4 years, living together, pets, talking about buying a house etc, and suddenly he 'wasn't ready for a relationship' at all
He got in too deep and got cold feet I think
Girl I feel you. 😂😂😂🙃
This just made me laugh, I'm sorry but damnn
I actually did this when my (now) husband pulled this line after we'd be dating for 3 months...and I was being completely genuine and thinking I didn't want to be with someone that wasn't 100% sure. I was gobsmacked when he called me the next day saying he'd made a mistake and would I give him another chance. Now this makes total and complete sense. Thank you!
I think your husband just loved you back then too lol if a man doesn’t love you this trick doesn’t work.
I just took this advice. He hasn't even responded yet but I feel like I set myself free. By letting him go, I let go of so much I was struggling to hold onto. Thank you, Matthew
Lorena: well, I'll give you a little context. I was with a guy for three years, we broke up. We, just before I found this video, had been talking about getting back together. Then he didn't text me for three days, and on he fourth day I watched this video and a few other ones of Matthew's and I realized that by waiting for this guy to finally step up and be who I wished he could be and finally feel valued by him, I was giving up my own self worth. So I texted him something along the lines of what Matthew says in this video, and I just feel set free. The guy never texted me back, and its been over a week now, but I'm just really excited to finally feel like I can move forward. Sorry for the long reply, but I hope that helps, I know how hard it can be. Just trust yourself.
did you guys ever get back together?
men who enjoying hurting women think that the gain something but actually women get the freedom and a change to find someone better.
disney Christmas carol good example the guy seem marryed to money always working no time to see the truth of his own mistakes and guy lost the girl, even though he had a lot of money he wasn't happy. he spend his days working was very cheap. till the night the ghostly encounter of his friend marley warn him, and said told him of the 3 ghosts of past show him the past how he use to be, and he couldn't bear the meoriey of the mistakes he done the ghost is like when you did that to yourself do not blame it on the ghost of the past. the ghost of present try to show him stuff of the co worker life style, that was poor but happy but still need help for his family, the ghost of the future show the old guy what could be if old guy didn't change his ways. the point is men make mistake think of money forget what they looking for in relationship, sometimes by the time they realize it, at times somethings can be fix but guy in the story it was to late to fix how to fix how he treated that woman. the old man was mostly angry at himself. life is more then money, the best things in life are free.money doesn't make people happen. you can't buy love. life is like water you feel in your hand once that gone u can't get it back on your own unless god restores life.
so. Yeah I said the same. Never responded. But im free. Feels great. Im a bit hurt but im moving right along.
Update?
I said something very similar to this once....he came back but by that time I met the love of my life and I told him his ship set sail he should’ve known what he had with me the first time.
Omg.. I said the same thing to my guy last week and he's been on top of things every since. Text, calls me everyday and throughout the day. He MAKES time in his extremely busy schedule. It's been a complete turn around.
lol @Shavonne, I didn't know you followed Matthew too lol🖐
Heck yea Bridget hahaha... Listen to him is like reading the cliff notes to the male brain lololol..
Shavonne, I will do this tonight......I hope his reaction is like your guy, but if not, I will move on in peace.
Shavonne Ritchie he doesnt want commitment what do i do?
Valeska Medel Did he tell you he wasn't ready for a relationship when breaking up with you or were you two not official? How did texting him this turn out for you?
Said something similar to the last person I was seeing. Respecting their space and ourselves enough to move on is hard though. People have to want to be with each other in every sense of the word. Maybe he’ll come back maybe he won’t we gotta be happy with or without the person. It’s not our job to to show someone we’re great enough to be in a relationship it’s their job to see that. Good luck to anyone who is in this situation and remember we all deserve someone who will put the same effort we do.
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Thank you, we'll written💯 for you too✨
Your so bang on.
“It seems like you need to go away and figure out what you want and be on your own for a while. I want your happiness more than anything in the world. I just want you to be happy, so I feel like you need to go and be alone in order to figure out what you want. And I hope that I’m still here when you’re ready. But until then, I know that I need someone who is completely in because I don’t want to be with someone who isn’t 100% about wanting to be with me. “
Best lines ever !!
Can I send this message to a man who's not yet my boyfriend but busy playing with my feelings?? It's really pains me seeing him playing with my feelings without saying anything😭
@@preciousmunsaka1611 if he's deliberately on purpose playing with u don't bother x
Parece que necesitas tiempo para descubrir qué quieres y estar solo para hacerlo. Yo quiero tu felicidad más que nada en el mundo. Y quiero que seas feliz, así que siento que necesitas estar solo para poder saber qué quieres. Yo espero estar aquí cuándo lo descubras. Pero hasta entonces, se que quiero alguien que esté completamente seguro y comprometido en querer estar conmigo en una relación, construir a mi lado y no se contenga de eso porque me lo merezco.
sent to an ex👍
Sometimes people don’t feel like their life is in a place where they can be a healthy partner to a someone else. I find it admirable for them to be honest and upfront, and shows a good character, which is even more reason to give them respect and kindness and maintain a friendship if nothing else, as it’s rare to find honest people who are courageous enough to be alone, even though they may like you, so as not to hurt anyone else, until they are ready to give their best. Matthews advice is solid.
To add.... when we are attracting (or attracted to) unavailable men or women, there’s often a high probability that we ourselves are also not reeeallly ready for a relationship on some level. We need to reflect on why we are attracted to someone we can’t have, and work through that. Even if you get the “unavailable” person, there will be frustration as they will likely feel emotionally disconnected or checked out a lot of the time, one foot in - one foot out vibes. That will lead to frustration and fights, insecurity, and mistrust, and ultimately a waste of time.
There’s self inner work to do if we attract unavailable people, we’re on the same frequency as them whether we can see it or not, hence we feel that connection with them, so address the “why are you attracted to them” first. Grow above / heal that, and then you’ll start attracting available men.
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Makes so much sense! Ty.
I cannot agree with this comment more. Very well said. Painful yes, admirable absolutely. Wish them well, leave them with love and give them space and time to heal. If the connection was true, they may come back to you. In the meantime, keep moving forward with what makes you happy. ❤️
Such true amazing words of advice and wisdom . I finally realized this.
*#*I PRAY THE UNIVERSE GRANT YOUR HEARD DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX THROUGH THE GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR WILSON, WHO HELPED ME RESTORED MY BROKEN HOME. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE*#*
I've been in this kind of situation. We've been casually dating on and off for years. And I knew that I just don't like him, I already loved him. I've been waiting for him but suddenly he said those words and I responded the same lines you said Matthew. Now, I am in a happy relationship but not with him. :')
ATrueLove,com might it have scared him away? or was he just waiting for an occasion to end your dating?
I don't know. Maybe he's too messed up and haven't figured out yet what he really wants or whatever.
Tough, wasn’t it?. To call it quits on someone you already had feelings for and memories with and opening up to someone new?? :(
Indeed but life must go on. We can't let ourselves be stuck in that place right? :)
Then you should turn your wish into reality. I mean, it's really hard but it would harder if you think like that. Put in your mind first that you really wanted to do that. No buts and hesitation. After that, do the other steps. :)
I gave him that line and he said this: "You are right and you deserve so much someone who's 120% sure" it felt like a punch in the face.
I got same answer
So you dodged a bullet. The whole purpose of saying this is not to convince him but to find out whether he comes back or whether you are wasting your time
Same but after a while he came back and we back at it again 🙃
@@yuejoo them you've got only yourself to blame.. The whole purpose is to follow through with your words and not just say it and be on him as soon as he gives you a little glimpse of hope. He starts flaking again? Then bye.. And then it's down to you to not give him another chances over and over again...
Well it's clear all you girls can't provide anything toward your relationships, we only move in with women who can make our lives as stable as we can make there's modern men will no longer marry down we marry equal or above your looks don't cut it no more.
I said this once to an ex. He went away for a while and a few months later he came crawling back but by that time I had moved on and told him that he shouldn’t take a good person for granted.
Just got out of a long term relationship where I felt like my expectations of love were never met. Found out the guy had been talking to another female so I said, let's work through this together, he agreed. 3 weeks later he came to me saying he wasn't ready for any relationship, even after having almost a year together. I said exactly what this video instructed, and 2 weeks later he came back and said he wants to be friends but not in a relationship. I was completely blindsided. I had put my own feelings on the line because I was in love and he practically spat in my face. I told him I never wanted to talk again. Sometimes if you love something you must let it go for both the other person's wellbeing and most importantly your own. This is a good video, but ladies, please don't let it give you false hope, and look after yourselves first.
Most times in this kind of situation the man is going to leave. That's the hard truth. It's about self respect and holding out for what you really want. Us women really need to stop things up in the current dating world.
@@Debbielightworker 100%, totally forgot about this comment I left over 2 years ago! Now me and the guy are fine, we occassionally check in with each other as I was close with his family and him with mine. Really, really glad I left the relationship out of my own self respect! We live in different states now and are happy for each other pursuing what we want in life. SO glad I left, vbut also glad that were friends from a distance now. xx
Step things up
I told the guy I’m seeing this yesterday and it worked! Thank you sooo much, best dating coach ever. When you show a guy you can be a whole person without them, they see you as more valuable and less dependant. They’ll want you even more if they are afraid of losing you, if not, well you’re not wasting your time and you deserve someone better. I told him this and now we are talking about our feelings and what we need from the other person. He also says he’s ready to have a serious relationship and see where this goes. Sometimes you have to show a guy what he wants.
What I love about this video that if you're actually telling/sending these words to a guy will keep your dignity and you can walk away with your head up without having any regrets or resentment. These words put him in the emotional state you'd be where he wants you to be. Also it creates either an opening for him to actually turn things around or gives you a clean ending without question marks and it's easier to get back into the game if he's not coming back.
Yes this is literally a cure
The sad part is doesn't matter if guy is 28, 38...48 ALL THE SAME. Dueces, indeed.
100%
I told my ex a version of mine of your advise cause i considered of our actual status..After 6 days of NO CONTACT he finally reached me out and saying my silence made him realized that he is now 100% sure of himself about his feeling about me and ready to commit..Scarcity to lose me, at the same time i regain my self worth. Set our boundaries and guy will adore us more.
More power Matthew!
How‘s the relationship going?
From a guys perspective: 9 times out of 10 a guy will say he "isn't ready for a relationship", isn't because he doesn't want a relationship, its because he doesn't want one with you. He want's your body, sex, and even though he will do sweet things for you, it will still lead to no commitment. You might feel amazing in his arms, but when you are not around him that uneasy feeling will remain. Even if you play it cool and become scarce to keep him attracted and "manipulate" him into being in a relationship with you, you will simply end up in an unhealthy push/pull kind of relationship, which is really no fun. How do I know this? Ive been the guy in a situation just like this. I have also met girls who were like this to me. Now I don't even mess with people Im not that into, or that arn't that into me.
HELP, What to do to attract men that you are interested in?
Well, becoming more attractive in general is all about focusing on yourself. For example doing things you are passionate about, taking good care of your body and exercising, eating healthy food, and dressing nicely. Basically investing in yourself. But, attracting specific men that you are interested in is something else entirely different, because either they are already attracted to you or not, and someone usually knows right away. You can't make someone attracted to you, either they are or aren't. So in a way there isn't much you can do rather than make yourself more attractive in general, and find out if the person you are into is attracted to you or not by putting yourself out there, taking a shot, and asking them out, or flirting with them and they might even ask you out first. Don't be afraid to risk getting rejected, you are simply finding out whether you are wasting your time and energy on someone.
Greedy Rick
Thank you!!! I'm afraid of rejection. How do you handle rejection? I will feel ugly and hopeless if too many people reject me.
Handling rejection is all about putting the opinion you have of yourself above the opinions of others. Yes, people do affect us whether we like it or not, but what is more important is what you think about yourself. If someone doesn't see your beauty, it might hurt, but ultimately it doesn't matter, forget about them, it is their loss, you've got to know that you are still beautiful (not because someone else says so, but because you say so!) and that you will carry on with your life and move on until you find someone who does see your beauty! And trust me you will find someone who does, but you have to keep moving forward instead of getting stuck on someone who just isn't into you. But you will know if someone really likes you, you just know. Love is always a risk, even with people who are super into you. But you have to be open to attract the right person. Think of never going travelling to another country just because you are afraid the plane might crash. Then you will never see the world!!!
Greedy Rick Your comments are gold 👍👍👍
This is Brutal...and effective.
If you don't think this well crafted statement would work, then you are going to have to reconsider the type of males you are attracted to.
A genuine man will have to give you a genuine response to this.
If you do send this response, how long should it take to hear back? What if they do not respond?
It's not about when or whether they come back. It's about letting them go the best way possible. This is how you ensure that if there is a chance of things working out, they will at a later stage.
Well said! Respect!
So, I did say this exact statement recently with a man, whom I adore, who wanted to sort things out and the next day he called telling me the idea of my not being around or with another man was unimaginable. It helped put things into perspective for him. I don’t know what the future holds but I’m incredibly optimistic. Thank you Matthew!
How did that relationship go?🥺
took me 3 months to actually say it to him, finally stood up for myself. it’s sad but i’m proud of myself for actually doing it.
What did you say?
By the way you said it, I think he didn't come back. Good on you for moving on
As a man, my mind is absolutely blown that you see it as "standing up for yourself". It seems ruthless. You're two humans with different desires. He doesn't owe you anything.
OMG, My tears are running down when i see this video. I fell in love with a guy who recently confessed me that he has this commitment issue. And its been a week i am still so angry with myself because i thought he was my soulmate while clearly he is not ready for a relationship because he told me that he has fear of commitment, i feel pity for him still but i need to let him go. Thank you for this video matthew!!
I am feeling the same way as you now. It hurts.
Yes, it hurts like hell, it has caused me physically and emotional pain. He was the one i thought was special but its turns out he is a such a coward loser. Please stay strong and it WILL GET BETTER!!!
I am so sorry for you. Maybe its also this is the time God wanted to text you Strength and found out how STRONG you are, i believed the concept of Soulmate. And i am telling you that i was never been so sure about my life about anything than him. Then he freaked out and step back and left me over there ALL ALONE. Fuck him! how are you now??
Xiaoli Wang I hope you're feeling better now. I guess only time can heal these wounds.
Thank you so much Dar sh! Well true the time can heal but more important, i think the decision of letting him go is the best decision i made for myself. When people show you who they are, believe them. Thank you for writing to me!
I said this to my ex before i found this, and now, we’re apart in a peaceful and greatful way. Dude, love is trust, you could say whatever you want from the bottom of the heart, no strategy or lesson is better than respect each other and communicate well. Hope that everyone will find out “the one” for them, and live happily no matter how hard our lives are
I realized these videos will either help you get your ex back or help you move on
I did exactly what Matthew said and he came back in a week, but I refused him, cause I understood that this person is not my cup of tea. Thank you, Matthew! Your advices always useful!
Matthew, I just want to tell you that I said this to my guy and it worked! I really thought that I lost all the hope I have, but now I'm in a committed relationship with him. If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have the guts to show my standards and I wouldn't be in a happy relationship right now. THANK YOU MATTHEW
hows the relationship going now?
Congratulations! You are one of the lucky ones. Women need to test and move on if needed, until they get lucky.
👏congrats! 😁
I tried this to the same sex and I lost him 😭😭😭 but thank you because I don't want to settle to less than I deserve. Finally, I can start moving on now
same here, hope you are doing better now, give yourself sometime
He was just not the right person for you, but it doesnt mean you will not find the right one 🌹
@Salvador Luna how can you even fall in love with someone like that xD
I’m curious to see how you are doing after the year? Has your ex tried reaching out?
I’m in the same boat. I broke up with mine last week because he doubted the 2 yr relationship we had. Walking away and looking forward
Same I lost him too and upset about it and I hate having to go back to school and see his friends with him not there that will remind me of him and I will get sad and depressed and emotional
out of my life experience , we always know what we want .. just on the surface we might know though , for example , i always know what pizza i want to eat , what dress i want , where i want my vacations to be , who my friends are , with whom i want to hang on ...so basically we KNOW. if someone is confused , just step back .. trust me this way u r not only respecting his time and space but also respecting your self. i have been there and done that , love is not always about being with someone and getting married to them , its also about letting them go .. you know what if they truly love you they will come back .. do not be an option in anybody's life. never!!
Yeah when you are an option its like you're stuck in the friend zone
Yup just say ,"Okay, I want you to be happy but I can't promise to be here when you are ready." I've discovered that less is more with men and being straight forward and direct is the best answer to avoiding confusion
Wow, crazy! I watched this video yesterday, straight before I met the guy, that I was dating about almost 3 months. I felt that we should talk & then he said: "I don't want a relationship." And I reacted pretty much like in this video. He struggled with his statement, because he probably thought that we could keep it casual. I said that I don't want anyone getting closer to me, if he's not sure. He struggled a lot & so did I. now he is gone and I‘m sad & don't think that he's coming back. But I guess this was a good decision, because I feel strong & self-determined.
I will do the same as well in coming days. I don't like this on and off relationship. Drains energy out of me.
Iam replying your message after a month. I wonder how u feel about him now. Has he returned to you?
Or are you happily moved on from him?
Please do share
Hey,@@reemadeo5974. Thank you for the message. He never texted or called me. He watches every Instagram story, likes my Facebook posts and asked my friend how I am doing, but well... Never contacted me directly. I guess he is a bit afraid, because I said quite clearly that now I need space and that if I am a "maybe" he is a "no." Sometimes I miss him, but I am not sure if I really miss HIM or just the fact that I had SOMEONE. In general I feel good, I have guys in my life who are investing in me and know that I did uphold my standards and that it was the right decision. Wish u the best. :)
@@EdithBurchett thanks for sharing.
Wish you all happiness and much blessing in life ahead.
Your comments has strengthen me alot.
Thank you
I sent him this message yesterday as Matthew said in this video. But he just did read my message and was online but he didnt reply me.
exactly the same thing happened to me!
this teared me up is exactly what im going through and exactly what i need to say to him thanks Matt
exactly I'm balling in tears right now
Anonymous I totally understand how that feels. I have been left for a random girl after the guy told me he wasn't ready to get into anything serious at the moment. We were seeing each other a few months and it was long distance. He dropped me out of his life for a random hookup. We were not talking for a while and Somehow we end up talking again this year and I'm again driving myself crazy right now. He has been distant again for a few weeks and I don't even have the energy to even confront him about what he really wants. I feel like just letting him go but I am so upset because of the connection that I have with him that I have never had with anyone else.
Lori, I know how it feels, but because life is too short I search my self worth once again. Been asking myself if sacrificing myself worth, my time and my total being to someone who never even value me as a woman is enough?! Then I stare myself in the mirror, now this time I felt pity and sorry for myself. I told myself, i deserve someone better. Someone who will cross the ocean for me, someone who will love me at my good and bad. Someone who will never break my heart. Life is beautiful to get wasted, its to short to played around. So I decide to spend it to the one person who knows how to value me.
Mylene Urot I love ur answer! I've been dating for 2 months, he says that we are serious and a relationship it is just a title. We see each other couple times per week, I met his father and some friends already, one of them even mentioned that he said that he thinks I'm the one... anyways, it still bothers me that he didn't say anything about being in a relationship.
This is so true. It is mutually empowering, because if he doesnt come back, then at least the both of you can go forward and look for better in life. It takes a lot of strength and emotional maturity to see things this way.
Angel, you are absolutely gorgeous 💓❤🌹🌹🌹🌹
"It seems like you don't know what you want and you need to be on your own for a while" - One week later he is in a relatioship with another woman. 😆
Marina Abellanas Szabo better for u
that sucks……but fking True！！ So sad … I wish sometimes our women thought it wrong…
Or has been with her long before 😂😂
Fuck 😂
100%
if He doesn't care he can't be scared of losing you
if a guy doesn't care only want to hookup tell the guy off move on.
Aditya Kushwaha darling if the feelings are mutual, it does not matter if you are moving, she may be able to join you later! Good luck! Mélodie www.mulherhumor.com.br
Valentina Moro Ciao! But sometimes they do care, but they get scared and confused and the fact that they realise they could loose you, make them come to their senses! www.mulherhumor.com.br
That's true xxx
It's just about being honest with each other.
Absolutely great advice! The tighter you try to hold onto a guy the more he will want to run.
I was struggling till 10min ago. I was thinking why isn’t he ready. Why do I feel pain. Why can’t it stop.. I normally don’t watch these kind of videos.. only my mum does. Today I took the chance to do it and ur lines helped me to feel free. To let go. I’m no longer into questioning myself.. but loving myself. Thank u Mathew!
"only my mum does" LOL
I can feel the pain in every word, but loving someone is setting them free and wishing them all the best. And also to love someone better is to learn to love yourself more too. If you are meant for each other, you will always find your way back to each other. Thanks for sharing this ❤
This is how you find a high value, honest relationship with integrity.
How about at the beginning he puts the moon at your feet then you have a quarrel he keeps bringing the quarrel when I told him you pampered me so much I miss the old John ….. he I told you I was going to think it over and maybe I don’t feel it so I don’t say it . And I don’t know
I literally cried when I watched this video. I just cut things off with the guy I was seeing for 3 months. I truly loved him and I was believing that we have strong connection and bond that most ppl can't get through a friend with benefit.
We almost texted everyday we have spent so much together and we accepted our bad and good side. Once he told me I mean a lot to him and important like his family and he will do his best to make me happy.
But we constantly get into fights and he has had to told me we are just good friends that we are not in relationship.
He knew how much I loved him and I told him I can't be his friends anymore
So I ended with him....
Oh I'm in your show now.... wish we ca. Chat ....
"I am not ready for a relationship" = "I don't like you enough". So let's quit the sugar coating. Just smile big and say good luck and take your business elsewhere. No need to say his/her happiness is what you want more than anything else in the world. That is desperate, unnecessary ass-kissing. Deep down you know if he/she does not want a relationship with you, it will be all over your interactions. So just move on without need to explain or keep a door open for the loser.
Rossana Motta I don’t think that’s always true. It depends on the guy and his situation. The guy I like *just* came out of an almost 3 year relationship after his life was completely turned upside down and is trying to start his own career. When he said he didn’t want a relationship, it hurt, sure. But I understand that it’s not about me. It’s about him. This particular scenario wouldn’t work in my situation. I did tell him that his happiness mattered to me and he told me he didn’t want me to worry about his happiness. Not because he doesn’t like me enough. He doesn’t know me well enough to be able to make that judgment call. But as far as where he is in his own life, adding a relationship on top of it makes it more chaotic for him and that has nothing to do with how he feels about me. It’s chaotic enough as it is if you knew everything on his plate. It’s just bad timing and perhaps when the timing is right we might have a chance or he will find someone who will treat him better than his ex. But as for now I know he still loves her but needs someone who will treat him better. But also maybe just getting his ducks in a row is all he needs right now before he can find someone to share his life and his heart with. Thank you for listening this was oddly therapeutic and rather eye opening. Sucks for me, but maybe in time it will work out. Lol.
EL MARIACHIE hmmm. Could have not found a better way to word this response rather than just come across as an ass? Sure the OP was an ass in their own right but the bigger person knows better than to be an ass back. Guess that’s not you.
hahahah women love bad boys. we are blunt. keep it that way. i dont even like proving myself to be a bigger person. meh
Lisa Rahman I guess we got ourself a “bad boy”, “player”. In other words NOT A REAL MAN just a BOY!!
Monika Patel but you like though. 😉😉
Today I did this today and It hurt like hell... I tried to stay even if he didn't know what he wanted cause the time we spend together was priceless to me. But I knew in my heart I couldn't stay for long. I really hope he comes back, but I doubt it... it really sucks saying I love you to someone for the first time while you are leaving him.
About 1 year ago, I didn't want to take your advice because I thought I thought it wasn't in my best interest and I made excuses for the men in my life. But then looking back, I deeply did not value myself and my worth. Now as I listen to your advice, videos, and programs I purchased from you, your advice is spot on and you have my best interest at heart. When the student is ready the student will listen. Thank you Matthew!!
I said exactly what you said today, and I cried afterward. but I feel good about it because I'm sure it was the best thing to do. Thank you so much Matthew for your advice.
This worked Matthew!!! I am so grateful for this video. I had this talk with the guy who said he wasn't sure he wanted something serious because he lived his whole life to please others and liked solitude to work on himself. But after I had this talk with him, he called back saying he will think about it and tell me Sunday (in 4 days) what he decided. Please anyone out there pray for me (if that's your thing), send good vibes and wishes!
Let us know
@@katiecraighan9740 I'm very happy to say he called the next day and said he was all in. That the talk made him feel more at ease. As I told him, as a partner im only here to enhance your life and live with you through it, not take away your current life or hobbies. I think that helped a lot
happy for u🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Hi. So what ended up happening?
This actually takes courage and self respect. You need to be able to say this and walk the walk. Matthews actually on point. The way people deliver messages hold more value if delivered respectfully. It's all androgynous semantic realignment. If something is meant for you, rest assured that it will return. If not, you've gained time in getting to know other people who CAN offer you what you need. ❤️
"It's all androgynous semantic realignment." - Wow! Still sinlge? Get in touch, we've got things to do and talk about ;))
It's sad to admit but I just broke up with my guy last night oddly enough I said something similar to this. He had tears in his eyes. He isn't ready & he has so much going on that I am on the back burner with his plans. So I had to let him go. He didn't want to break up. But...as much as I want to say it's ok for me to be around be his shock absorber.... I want to be a priority not an option.
Told him that once he has figured out & cleaned his floor figuratively speaking...then he can come back & let me know.
He wants to keep in touch for special reasons. He does not want to lose me he said. I told him.... I don't too... I love him in a way that I want all the best in the world for him. But I want to be happy too. I am not going to stand there & just watch what happens when he has no plans specifically for me. I am very sad & I was crying... But....
I have to let him go..
I'm usually the person with too much going on. But I realized eventually that I will always have a ton going on, and the key is what I prioritize.
What ended up happening? Are you in a relationship with him now?
Currently in this situation
Hope yr ok. I got this 7days ago, he said to stay friends an were still in touch but all its doing is hurting me. He initiates the text 99.9% of the time. I acted hurt initially, an I wish I'd said what Matthew advises. I know I have to walk away for now, so when he next text, I'm going to send a modified version. The lockdown means things are amplified for me but I need to start thinking only about me 😒
@@tg9898 ok
I did this. And two days later he said he loved me
Isha Webber wow! what do you think of it? Were you happy or do you have mixed feelings?
How did he act initially
What did you do
Isha Webber Hahahah
Believe the man that he showed you his true self the first time not the one that came back out of guilt or regret. He may hide that for sometime but somewhere down the line that hot/cold man will return, you better hope it isn’t when you have invested years in him.
Been there..done that..he was still confused af. So as I dont wait around for indecisive adults who cannot self reflect or take accountability for their actions! Dont let other people's indecisiveness affect your decisiveness.
ok where was this video 4 months ago! such good advice I could of used.....instead I lost him.
go get him back! if u can
+Atheist Metalhead I wouldn't even know where to start with that.
VivaLaKatieJ Stalk him om FB, see if he is in a relationship, if not, contact him. If u two live in the same town, try to figure out what he does, what his routine is, what gym he goes to and try to do it too, so u too can come across each other "by coinsidence". I know it is very easy for me to say all this, because im not in ur situation, but it is a begin. :)
+Matthew Hussey Thank you for this video and this comment Matthew!! I never know how to express how much I value myself to other men. And yes, words matter. Much love!
+Matthew Hussey Hi, Matt! It's nice to see your name in the comments section. ^_^ Thanks for always giving the right advise and for always reminding us, women, to value ourselves. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Keep up the good work. Take care. =D
"I'm not ready for a relationship"
what that means is
"I don't want to date YOU."
I'm a woman, and I can attest to there being MANY legit other reasons why you're not ready for a relationship at a given time. Of course, it could be because the person doesn't want to date you OR is just figuring it out & trying to meet people before jumping in head-first. But in some cases, you literally are not emotionally capable of having a serious relationship again yet. I met the perfect guy...a couple months after a massive, massive, heart-wrenching breakup. I still gave it a shot because the new guy was so amazing, but I was emotionally closed off (VERY unlike me) and simply couldn't invest myself in a serious relationship yet. The difference is that I wasn't looking to date other guys or sleep around...I have absolutely no problem with being exclusive. Far from it. I just couldn't commit to a deep and meaningful and serious relationship yet.
You actually liked the guy though, and that's why you gave the relationship a shot. That's what we do if we are really into someone, even if we are not ready yet. It often falls apart when we are just not ready for a new relationship, but that doesn't stop us giving it a go. When we are really not interested in having a relationship with that person, we say that we are not ready because it's kinder than 'i like you but not that much.'
IRHasDiabetes911 unfortunately true
so true plz believe this
Anonymous You are so right "YOU ARE NOT A MAN" and men are not looking for a "dream girl". What Mathew want is to effeminate men.
Am I the only one who feels that if a guy says "I'm not sure", it's a total turnoff that makes me not want to be with him? This exact situation happened to me about a year ago and it was so painful and disappointing to see that this guy I was crazy about didn't feel the same way back, to the point where I started reevaluating whether I even wanted to be with someone who felt unsure about me. I handled it a bit different than Matthew recommends, I wished my ex well and said I wanted to be with someone who had no doubt in his mind that I was the right person, and if that wasn't the case then we weren't right for each other. I didn't exactly give him the opportunity that I would be open to getting back together if he changed his mind because my mind was already made up that I deserved no less than a man who's as in love with me as I am with him and puts equal effort in the relationship. He tried getting back together a couple of times after that but it was a no for me.
I think there is a difference in how quickly someone realizes how they feel about their partner, or about a relationship in general. Men definitely take more time then women when it comes to comittment, perhaps you should take this into account when judging him for being uncertain at a time when you are already certain. They forgive us for being slower at parking :)
Nope--you're not the only one who feels that way. If a guy isn't 100% sure if he even wants to be with me, why waste time on him when I could be with someone who IS 100% sure. Life's too short for that nonsense.
You are wise and appreciated for it!
good for you :)
So glad I came across this. Thank you Matthew it gave me the confidence to say this to someone who had been treating me like an option. I feel so like I'm valuing myself again x
I have been on both sides: "I am not ready for a relationship" means "I don't want a relationship with you" (or anybody else, but still, you neither). So women and men, don't waste your time and just move forward.
OcchioniApotropaici
Truth
I met a guy who just got out of a 4 year relationship a little over 4 months ago. We’ve known each other for about a month now but we BOTH can tell we have amazing chemistry together. On the first date he even said “I feel like I’ve known you forever” because we get along so perfectly. We have all the same interests and values (personally I like that) and I know he’s interested in me/dating me. He even said he prefers to date rather than just meet girls so it’s not that he doesn’t want to date me. He’s just trying to figure out his life and if his heart is ready to date again after the last relationship (they broke up because he knew she wasn’t the one). Right now we are still seeing each other and going on dates/spending time together. He is interested in me and said that if he ever felt he didn’t want to date or date me he’d tell me. Right now I’m planning to give him about another month or two to just grow closer as people and see where his heart lies. Any advice is appreciated.
2 years of relationship I was looking forward to moving in with him and quit my job and was ready to fly to the country where he work last min I got a message " I am not sure if I want a commitment " now I'm with no job no guy and a broken heart
ninghoih lian Wooowww! I'm so sorry
So sorry love. Time heals all... Blessings xoxo
ninghoih lian I am so sorry that happened to you. I trust things are better for you by now. I've learned when things like this happen, it's for the best. But we often can't see that thru our shock and pain.
Hope everything is better!
It was exactly my situation, I really understand how you feel
I used this grouping of phrases when my guy said “I’m not ready for long distance. I thought that I was but really I’m not.”
He responded with “are you going somewhere? I hope you’re still there too.”
I reacted with “how am I supposed to take that?” To which he replied “well think about it…but now I’m going to feel really dumb if I reach out again.”
I don’t know what to make of the response, but I felt really empowered saying it, because I expressed both love for myself and for him. Regardless of the outcome, I’m really grateful for this balanced, loving response.
When a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship that means he’s not ready for a relationship... don’t say anything , move on
I date online for 2 years with long distance and I feel tired he didn’t come to see me in a person then I follow Mathew Hussey advice and told him as Matthew told on this video so after that 4 months I met him at my work.He came to surprise at my shop and now we are bf gf ^^
Thank you Matthew
This is so loving for both parts. It's a mature and the part about loving oneself is very powerful, because that's what everybody deserved
I tried this now and he replied saying I'm right, he does need time alone and that he will miss me. 2 minutes later he asked if I want to go for a walk this weekend 😂🧐
And??? What happen till now?? 😍😂
Kazumi mizuki I also want to know lol
Lol they are all the same, mine did that too, I told him “no, I don’t want to make pancakes and hike this morning with you, neither I want to watch a movie this afternoon, I’m going to be clear since you seem to fail to understand what I told you yesterday, we don’t want the same things so I’m moving on, please respect my decision. Two days later he was at my door asking to keep dating me even if we don’t get physical, and to meet my parents that same day, We are close to our anniversary now. 🤔
Matthew you helped me get my ex back after I broke up with him and I want to thank you. I used your phone calls strategy by calling him and telling him during an outing I saw something that reminded me of him and it brought a smile to my face and I just wanted him to know I thought of him. OMG it worked like a charm period after that phone call he called me 48 hours later. he no longer feared the anger he assumed I would have because my phone call was such a happy high energy and pleasant message so he felt it was okay to call me and we talked. I'm still working on reconnecting with him because we were broken up for almost a month so now I feel a bit different although I still love him I don't feel as strongly as I did before the break up. I assume that's okay because it seems that we're both willing to try and work at our relationship. Thank you again and please keep posting this wonderful helpful videos! 🤗
I just typed those words out matthew and I am already crying. I lost more than my heart to the guy and I know what the answer is going to be and its so scary I can't breathe.
I am going to need a whole lot more advice soon and I hope you are still here for me when I do love.
Thank you so much for this,
All the love.
I can't even begin to describe how this has been a blessing in disguise that you just posted this video 2 days ago. This is exactly what I'm going through, except he's my boyfriend and were 6 months into it, and he's not sure if he wants to be with me. I've had multiple conversations with him trying to find these words to tell him, but this video just gave me exactly what I've been looking to say. It's so hard to fall in love with someone over a 6 month period, only to run into something like this where he's now unsure of me. I hope these words will help, and I appreciate your advice so much. This was meant to be to see this video. Thank you!
Snap two days ago and we were dating for 5 months, it was a horrible break up, mostly because he looked so sad, he knows he is self destructive and has massive intimacy issues, when he gets close to something genuine, he knew he wanted to be single because of it but he was clearly conflicted about losing me - or maybe I read it wrong or maybe I am hoping, who knows. I got upset and frustrated with his contradictions at some point which I regret however do feel that he knows me well enough to know I'm not going to try and convince him to stay. He has pleaded for us to to stay friends, but I know that would hurt me too much. He messaged me on Sunday, I didn't reply, but considering sending Matthews message as a reply. If he was horrible and 'normal' I wouldn't care, but I only want to see him happy, and maybe back in my arms one day :( How are you feeling now??
+Jayjay Hayat ... check out "Coach Corey Wayne" on youtube
Matthew’s vids dragged me thru a heavy heartbreak 4 months ago and here I am again cause of the new guy who said he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Thank you Matthew for pulling me thru all this ❤
Gosh what you said here Matthew is so touching and true that a tear just went down on my cheek! Your ability to understand human emotions and act on them is incredibly amazing
I sent a text to him today saying what you suggested Matthew ... His response was this "I enjoyed our time together. You're an amazing woman, person, and mother. I hope you find someone that deserves you! Thanks, Mike" ... I'm very sad because I really liked him but on the flipside I feel relieved and free. All that being said, I realized that I learned a lot from the last 4 months in this relationship. Again I'm sad but I believe it has made me a better me. I can hold my head of high!
Judy Oxley I too feel relieved after getting a similar response. I didn’t say this exactly but something similar. It hurts but oh well.
yay!
I wish all the best for you!
Wowww that guy is def coward till the end
@@selinakim6967 yea I agree! He sexed her up and then dumped her pretty much!
Give energy to the one who gives energy to you!❤ If its not working cut - them off value yourself.
good advice.. the problem is that people wont listen. and they start to beg.. and thats completely Unattractive.
I am crying with this message you've delivered. For a whole year I've struggled to say this to the man I love. Like such a breath of fresh. I need to say this now and not later. Thank you Matthew ❤❤❤
How did it go? X
I need to say this to my ex bf who I'm "friends" with .. should I send that message?
@@gabzgirl5719 out of my experience am telling you do not remain frnds with your ex! If you see a future with him you wanna be with him you want him to be your better half,plzz donot remain frnds with him!! It makes him to be comfortable, he would be used to it ie; to move his life further just considering you as a frnd!! if you want to be with him to spend your life with him, tell him what matthew said and cut off your contact!1 NO CONTACT surely works, as you have been frnds for some amt of time it may take time for your ex to reach out to you! but yes it will bring him back!! myself am facing the same situation right now and yeah I am in my no contact for 34days now!! you focus on yourself, things will fall in place!! cheers!!
Why do I always attract men who are emotionally inept?
Because you’re looking for men and finding the fruits of poor parenting started by the disintegration of the family due to pseudo-intellectual low value men who wanted easier sluts to bang and ugly whores who wanted to act like guys because they can’t compete against pretty girls so hanging with guys doing things the pretty girls avoid gives them an opportunity to get fucked (say after exercising, playing sports, video games, coworkers at a police department, tech/stem company, etc. - like how effeminate fish mimic females so that they can covertly bang female fish when the alpha male is away). So weak men are not entirely responsible for their weakness, it’s more so the influence of pseudo intellectual men and women and the parents who fell for their anti-traditional propaganda.
Also, damaged people tend to attract each other and there are plenty of dysfunctional men and women today (see the poor fools who don’t know, or deny and resent, what sex they are).
Lol hahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣
Christopher Rivera 😂😂😂
Christopher Rivera wow, is this your own theory or did you read it somewhere? It’s very insightful
@Derogation -- "Also I love this pseudo science fool's attempt to blame "weak men"'s failings on EVERY BODY ELSE lol classic immature male behavior"
Men don't have a monopoly on irresponsibility -- in fact, it is because men are responsible for so much that they are constantly blamed.
Alex Kierkegaard: 809. The Blame Game. "Whose fault is it?"
But if you want to maximize your freedom of action you have to place the engine of change inside you. The more of the blame - better put, the responsibility - that you are therefore able to assume, the more options you'll have for shaping your situation in the future. The highest point in this direction is occupied by God, who assumes full responsibility not only for himself, but for everyone else too; the lowest by the monotheist who entirely disclaims responsibility and imputes everything that has ever happened or ever will to God (and rightly so, given how weak the monotheist is in comparison). In between there's everyone else: the entire spectrum of lifeforms in the universe.
908. The mechanics of blame/rationality. When we point the blame towards someone or something for a state of things, it's always with a view towards future action that reshapes this state of things. The blame itself is never literal, never real, it's merely a useful fiction, a mere tool, because in a universe where everything is connected to and conditioned by everything else there's never anyone to blame for anything; rather, EVERYONE is to "blame" for EVERYTHING, everywhere and at all times. That's what chaos theory expresses with the example of a butterfly flapping its wings contributing to a cyclone forming on the other side of the planet. Therefore, to say it once again, blame/rationality is never real, it's ALWAYS FALSE. For example, the alt-retards say that feminism is to blame for the collapse of the family. But I say that weak men like the alt-retards are to blame for feminism. And further I say that civilization is to blame for weak men. And who is to "blame" for civilization? Strong/intelligent men that decided to create it in order to best shape their environment. And who is to "blame" for strong/intelligent men? Evolution all the way back to protozoa, hydrogen atoms and the Big Bang. Therefore, who, ultimately, is to blame for feminism? The universe, end of story. And I can apply this line of reasoning to every instance of blame or rationality that has ever been or ever will be uttered. You will always find "the universe" as the ultimate culprit in the existence of any given state of things, because that's where the rabbit hole always leads if you dig deep enough. Of course, only a philosopher can dig that deep, so no one else ever comes to this realization. But now that I've explained it to you dimwits in plain language, maybe a few of you will get it, and be able to discover it and explain it to others next time they tell you that the Jews or some other poor scapegoat is ULTIMATELY responsible for some state of things or other.
NO ONE is "ultimately" responsible for ANYTHING. And though taking responsibility for something is as false as blaming it on someone else, that is the falsity that belongs to the strong just as surely as the neverending blame game, with no action involved to move things forward, is the type of falsity that belongs to the weak.
Ultimately, the only thing that matters to the strong is their goal. If my goal is to reshape civilization in order to cleanse it of feminism and other modern neuroses, I need to find a pressure point to push; I need to decide where to use my force in order to effect change. That is why I need to "blame" something; in more neutral language, to find the "reason" for it. Once I have identified weak men as the reason for feminism, I need to find a way to strengthen these men up, and then they'll take care of the feminists and all the other neuroses. And the way to strengthen men, as a group, is to kill off most of them, because they are beyond hope and their wretched activity and inane bleating are weakening everyone around them. In the old days, war and disease would take care of this vital function by ridding us of the most wretched weaklings among us, but since society has eliminated those with the thoughtless universal application of science and technology, we need a substitute for them, and that's where the drone army comes in. But that will be discussed at length in due course. The main point to grasp here, for the purposes of the current discussion, is that I am not REALLY blaming weak men for feminism, because I just said that the thoughtless application of science and technology created so many weak men, and who is responsible for this "thoughtless application" if not the older statesmen and philosophers? So I am not singling out weak men ULTIMATELY, and MALICIOUSLY, as the alt-retards do when they go around looking for scapegoats like the liberals or the soyboys or the Jews or whoever they happen to hate on any given day. All I am doing is looking for the optimal point to apply pressure in order to achieve my goal, with no moral condemnation involved at all. And that's why I picked contemporary modern men as that point, instead of dead philosophers, since I can't apply pressure to the dead lol, but weak men are all around me, and if my drone army kills off all the weakest of them I'll be well on my way towards shaping future society to match my goals. I don't HATE weak modern men. I really have nothing against them anymore than I have against the ants whose colonies I had to flatten to build my house. Both ants and weak men are ultimately blameless for their existence, and for being constituted the way they are; but that doesn't change the fact that they are standing in the way of my plans, and thus they must be flattened-that is all. And that is a whole other ballgame from weaklings like the alt-retards who hate everyone and everything around them for a state of things that they really should be blaming on themselves and their own weakness if they actually wanted to change it-which they don't (otherwise they'd have already changed it-it's not that hard at all if you're not a wimpy whiny fagot, which they are).
To recap, reasons don't exist for anything in the universe, and rationality is false. Reasons are just tools that we invent in order to help us shape our environment. The reasons you find for a state of things depend on the new shape you want to give to this state of things, and since different people have different goals, they will naturally invent different reasons. That's how the universe functions, i.e. in a far more complex manner than the simplistic objective one in which subhuman thinkers believe, who think that everything happens "for a reason", or even for a number of reasons. Everything happens for AN INFINITY OF REASONS out of which each lifeform picks out a couple that are useful to it to advance its goals, and champions them as the reasons. Then the lifeforms and their various reasons clash, and the game goes on.
Therefore, whenever you see someone STOP with blame and moral condemnation, you can safely deduce weakness. But when you see someone BEGIN with "blame"/reasons, and then with clinical precision outline the steps that must be taken to reshape the situation to his will, without any hatred or moral posturing involved, you can safely deduce strength. The strength of a lifeform that knows what it wants and calmly and clinically plans out how to get there. This is how things get done, and whining is a mere symptom of the incapacity to get anything done. And that's why it always loses.
Nietzsche: "What alone can our teaching be? - That no one gives a human being his qualities: not God, not society, not his parents or ancestors, not he himself... No one is accountable for existing at all, or for being constituted as he is, or for living in the circumstances and surroundings in which he lives. The fatality of his nature cannot be disentangled from the fatality of all that which has been and will be. He is not the result of a special design, a will, a purpose; he is not the subject of an attempt to attain to an 'ideal of man' or an 'ideal of happiness' or an 'ideal of morality' - it is absurd to want to hand over his nature to some purpose or other. We invented the concept 'purpose': in reality purpose is lacking... One is necessary, one is a piece of fate, one belongs to the whole, one is in the whole - there exists nothing which could judge, measure, compare, condemn our being, for that would be to judge, measure, compare, condemn the whole... But nothing exists apart from the whole!- That no one is any longer made accountable, that the kind of being manifested cannot be traced back to a causa prima, that the world is a unity neither as sensorium nor as 'spirit', this alone is the great liberation - thus alone is the innocence of becoming restored... The concept 'God' has hitherto been the greatest objection to existence... We deny God; in denying God, we deny accountability: only by doing that do we redeem the world. - "
Yes it hurts, but know this one simple fact. Anyone that's letting go, regardless of their reason(s) is doing you a favor. Be strong and politely tell them "Thank you, I wish you all the best"
Now, take the time you need to heal and continue with your life. Don't dwell on the past, live in the present.
Not sure why I ended up here - I guess I'm someone who previously did meet someone and now feel I am not ready for a relationship. But I wanted to point out what I think is a big thing that was overlooked here.
The guy might genuinely mean it. There might be no hidden message. In fact guys probably don't generally do hidden messages.
So if you tell him he should go away and figure it out, he may well acknowledge your kindness and simply thank you, and then leave - just like you said. That's not to say this is bad advice. I think it's great advice, even in this situation.
One other thing - I don't think anyone should actually "wait" for some to become ready. I liked the advice that you should say what you need right now, but I think you should mean it too. It's not just a ploy to get this guy back - you should actually be prepared to go looking elsewhere for what you need. Don't wait for someone to change. And if someone did suggest they would wait for me, I would think less of them. Or rather I'd just feel bad for them, and I'd probably want to avoid them in order to protect them from being hurt more. Being hurt in a relationship is hard, and unavoidable. For me it's far worse to see someone else hurt because of me, and I'll go to great lengths to avoid that.
But the bottom line of what I'm saying is that there really are guys (I'm one of them) who for one reason or another actually do not want a relationship right now. They actually want to be single. Perhaps indefinitely. Perhaps for the rest of their life. That can be difficult to understand if you don't feel that way. But they're just being honest with you in order to prevent you from getting hurt. And I approve of the advice in this video, but you have to mean it, and be prepared to act on it, and leave (and look elsewhere) if need be. Good luck!
Geshtu so I ended it with my ex the back and forth. Then he texted a couple weeks l8tr that he wanted me just us only forever. I blasted him he quit answering til a few days l8tr then he needed to see me. I asked him about the 4ever thing. Be said he was drunk but that he didnt want to lose me as a friend he wanted me in his life. Then silence then he actually took me to dinner and asked my help with new job. Then silence tben camd again. Then silence again for a week until today because i told him goodbye then he text dont be like that we discussex this. Im sorry but thnx 4 making me feel like a p.o.s. what does this all mean? He told me we had something when we first dated. He sabotaged it i think out of fear
Geshtu that's EXACTLY what just happened to me !!! He said "oh thank you Hun , you are very sweet and nice , truly are" and that was it ... so to me that means he's just been giving me the bare minimum to 1.keep me around for a booty call and 2. Cuz he didn't know how to tell me to go away himself ... so I basically just made it completely easy for him to walk away 😭😢
I meant someone that I think will never want to be in a relationship. I’m hurt but I get it. I thought I had a chance because I gave him space. I like that you said what you said it helping me.
Guys that run hot and cold just wanted sex is all. Run away from these men.
I love this comment. I have this guy who was terribly hurt in his past and now we're dating and he's not vocal about what we are, he just said that he likes me but he's not ready for a commitment. He said that I can still find someone that can fulfill what I really need which is "relationship", he promised that he'll stick around, deep inside I can't. I am focused on him. I love him now. It's difficult to act in front of him he might be overwhelmed about my feelings for him, most of the time I am controlling my emotions and it's freaking difficult. I guess I should understand him and stay with him until I can. I hope his worth the wait tho. 😊😊😊
This worked very well for me and I hope it works for other ladies too.
@Porkling - hi there! what results did u get? I told mine yesterday... 😓
and what was your result?
Just living life, being happy is better than dealing with the dating game. Deciding to remain single & celibate is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Funny thing is, when I made up my mind, the guys out there are approaching me more. Go figure. :)
+LamourDeLucie I am in ur same boat. I want children badly n my biological clock is ticking. I find myself settling n putting up with stuff I never would have in my younger days and getting hurt like crazy
+LamourDeLucie
same here. But I will not choose fear, fear is not being open for love or a good partner.
+LamourDeLucie You can have a child on your own. You can freeze your eggs. Or, my friend had a child in vitro thru a sperm bank. Her daughter is a beautiful little girl and she is so happy. Her mom moved in with her and babysits her granddaughter during the day while she works. After you fulfill your own dreams, you will be able to put yourself and your child first which a real man treasures. Also, most men that you meet will have kids as well.
***** Been there, had 4 kiddos. It's not like you'd think it is. I gave many years, work, time, sacrifice. I home schooled my kiddos, taught them as much as they would absorb, loved them, nurtured them. This past Mothers Day? Not even a dam card. Even a phone call would have been nice. Nope. Children are born with their own individual personality. I have a very good relationship with only *one* out of four, so I cherish her, lavish love & attention on her.
Terri Beitel I blocked this Gary Whatever as he trolls around the internet, making nasty comments. He found his way to this comment thread.
I did this the other day with someone I have been in a “situationship” with for a year and a half. He agreed to be on his own (he’s currently in another country on a trip, will be back in a month.) Then I Heard from him last night profusely apologizing, saying he can see a future with me, and has decided he wants to make it work and commit. I’m sticking to my guns and told him I’d like to remain in no contact for the remaining month he is off traveling, and if he still feels the same way when he gets back, we can discuss it. In the meantime I’m gonna keep working on myself. We’ll see what happens.
Did you guys get together when he got back from his trip?
@@mmmpr2023 yes, we did. We’ve been together officially for 10 months now and are living together 😊
What happened in the end,
@@elchinolatino15 we are together! Have been for over a year now. We moved into a new house together and things are going really well!
When my mother in law was dating my father in law, he came once with that "I need some time to think' story, she said 'that is fine with me'. Three days after that he came back to her, apparently he had time enough to figure out what he wanted. He found her with her very recently hair dyed blonde, and he never again had any doubts. Married her, and lived together all his life.
Awwhh I am melting
The next time a guy says he's not ready I'm not saying a word - I'm just walking away. This last guy literally lied about wanting a relationship. He said, I told you what you wanted to hear so I could get what I wanted.
What an ass be glad he gone.
so sad say anything u
Alessandra Burenin you shouldn't believe him at first he should have prove it that he means what he says.
Right?!?!?! That's exactly what they all do!
Then dont date us. Duhhhhh date women :)
This is way too much talking for me. I've been there and done that. The next time a man tells me something like that, the only thing he will hear from me is "ok, thanks for letting me know." The conversation and contact will end there on my part. If a man isn't sure, odds are he feels he can do better at that moment or really doesn't want you for whatever reason. He could also have you there as a filler girl just to feed his ego and keep him comfortable by having someone there. Either way, he isn't that interested. Most guys are pretty good at judging what type of woman you are so the guys who say this just don't think you will leave and will keep being strung along while they "figure things out". If you just move on and do you without all of the extra chit chat, they will probably pop back in anyways especially if you aren't rude and extra about it.
I agreed with you as well. Thou, your expression may add extra value that you're OK without him and you know what you want. Saying this from a calm place, can make any person think, and think hard. Just say it, and move on. Words does matter. Expression matters. Expression makes all the difference between an OK relationship vs an amazing one.
Haha exactly! I think Matt is brilliant, but this advice feels a bit hollow. I can wish and hope that a guy is really "thinking about if he wants me" but at the end if the day, a guy won't let go of someone he can't be without! (most times) Haha I've been here soooo many times. once, guy started dating a woman like a couple months after he gave me every bullshit line he could come up with.
+Serena Quaye You're so right. If a person isn't sure about me, I have no other choice but to be ok with it because I can't make them see how awesome of a woman I am. A lot of guys already know this but really acknowledging and understanding what that means is another story. You and Matt are correct when you say expressions matter because I when I walk away, there is no drama or long speeches. Once they realize that I set the standard, they come back.
+cwilson586 Yes! that happened to me as well, which is why I'm not giving speeches. When that happened to me I knew the that men already know what it is they want because they would have a gf all of a sudden after not being ready. I've learned not to invest emotions until they have proven I should trust them with them. I will still be respectful and caring but I've learned to set limits and read the signs the relationship isn't going anywhere eariler. There are no fantasies or movies playing in my head. I just take the situation for what it is and go from there.
+T Allen 100% agree... I do feel, however, that there is a difference between the "player" type and the type of guy who has perhaps been hurt in the past, and has hangups about commitment. I feel as though Matthew is referring to the latter group in this vid.
Hi Matthew, thank you for your advice which I've applied. The result is that he broke up two weeks ago on St Valentin! We have been in a LDR for 14 months and every moment we spent together was so perfect. We had a lot of interests and activities in common. Very good understanding, long story short we were on the same line with one exception I was "in limbo". Finally I asked him about his thoughts about the possibility of being committed. I told him that I would be ready to give us a chance without knowing if it really works out. His answer was that he cannot give me what I want. He broke up because he wanted to give me the chance to find the one who will be able to fulfil my wishes. Now I'm in "no contact" and devastated. I'm 66 years old and was sure to spend the rest of my life with this man. I still hope that he will come back to me but meanwhile I'll move on...
Sorry for my English. Greetings from Germany to all who are broken-hearted. Love ❤️
If a guy says he isn’t ready, trust me, he’s most likely not into you. The “I’m not ready” line is typically used when a guy isn’t attracted to a woman.
Yeah, there’s times where a guy may need some time after a breakup or something. But in most scenarios, I’m not ready means “I’m not interested”.
Daves World Then why they just cant say ”sorry Im not interrested enough” ? Why they dont stand for what they really feel and think? Dont they have balls for that? Its maybe time to grow up and act like a man and not like a child.
Cos theyre cowards and want to play the nice guy so they tell you all these excuses to soften things and make u break up w them
Actually you might be suprised to learn that it depends on the *context* and *body language* if you think it took the "im not ready" to be a sign he's not interested then you're not reading it right
Some actually dont feel ready and probably want a *friend* but if you aren't looking for a *friend* you should try to politely tell him no
I've seen it happen so often where the girl just decides to pull a bitch move and assume the worst instead of reading the situation or considering *why*
Keep in mind you just have to be there
He actually has to try to be charming witty and funny
Don't be surprised if he might be a bit emotionally comprimised after (probably) a lot of failed attempts
I have a best friend who gave up entirely on trying to get in a relationship and practically lives alone so i visit him pretty often to play games or w/e (i usually have nothing better to do and i play games myself so its w/e)
Then he must say I need time.
Can I ask if its more of the after break up reason, what I should do? I am going through this rn and struggling
*MAYBE* he’s just genuinely not ready for a relationship!
Some times we’re not ready for what we want because we need to grow and learn in order to be the best partner we can to our S.O.
Yes there are people who lead you and just use that as an excuse but not every guy is just playing games or just using you
I feel like people always assume the worst when it comes to men
I respect a man who’s honest with me then who just jumps into something they’re not wholeheartedly into
Why do men get such a bad rep?!
There are douchebags but there are good men too
Some people are just so broken hearted and bitter
Kai Alexandria I totally agree! I’m in a situation where a guy says he loves me and cares for me and even would take a bullet for me. But he just needs to grow and become a better man. He said I can date other ppl. And we agreed we are dating but seeing other ppl or doing what we wanna do. In the end he tells me we will be together we just need to grow separately before we grow together. And I thought in the beginning with the agreement that he was just trying to go out there and have sex or see other ppl. But he told me if he meets other ppl or anything it’s not going to matter in the end I’m what matters. I really think he’s just not ready for a relationship I don’t think it’s a game for him at all. He still sees me everyday talks to me everyday and makes me a priority. Iv set my boundaries and he knows what will make me completely walk away. And he respect them cause he doesn’t want to lose me. We both just need to grow.
Why do men get such a bad reputation? Well, maybe they have deserved it somehow...??
Exactly. All these bitter 30+ women. Also sometimes we don't want to deal with the maintenance a woman requires. No matter how hot or caring she is.
Destiny Guzman im a similar situation like this. He says he loves me, misses me, is still attracted to me, and still believes the connection is there but he genuinely wants to just be alone right now. He says he doesnt want to date anyone in general. He says we can still have a possibility in the future. I just dont know what to do :/
Destiny Guzman I know it’s been 10 months but do the other people you are dating know you are just seeing them as placeholders until Mr. Needs-to-grow comes around? Are the other women he’s dating seeing themselves as placeholders or are they also holding out for more while he gives them the “I need time to grow” spiel? Are these same women watching Matthew’s videos wondering why this man is stringing them along and looking for texting strategies of what to say to him?
This is great advice. Being more willing to let go and let him figure it all out is your best chance. So kudos on his advice here.
Hi Matthew, I can't thank you enough for this advice on this video. Words matter, no doubt about it. I'm following your program on "Get Him Running Back to You" and It's being my lifeguard. The bonus of "Back To Life" is so precious. Thank you again, I can breathe again.
You make me laugh, you make me cry
I don't know which side to buy
Your friends they're jerks
When you act like them, just know it hurts
I wanna be with the one I know
And the 7th thing I hate the most that you do
You make me love you..
Hello World! If you are reading this, have an awesome day :)
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that feels good☺ Thank you
+SUCCESS MOTIVATION: Health Wealth Love Happiness thank you for your beautiful message, men like you are helping to regain my faith in human kind!! just The boost I needed right now :) I also wish you an amazing day
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I needed this today.
Thank you. Much love and I hope you, and anybody reading this, is have a wonderful day xx