My husband was pretty unsure about the whole thing, he thought it would be like in the movies where it is all screaming and midwives telling you to push and for me I was very calm and quiet. We hadn't talked about birth much and I assumed he would read up on some basics but he had no idea about any of it. Eventually my mum convinced him to look once the head was born and he did then moved straight back up to hold my hand but was completely silent, no encouragement at all. I thought he was useless. Three days later he broke down to me about his experience. Turns out he didn't know babies are pale and blueish as they are being born and that they don't just cry the second their head is out. He was silent because he was holding it together thinking he was about to support me through hearing our child was stillborn. I was devastated that he experienced those few minutes of fear. Everyone involved in the birth experiences things differently and even support people need support sometimes.
I'm 8 months pregnant and the thought of my husband thinking that for even a moment makes me tear up. That is a sad thought, glad everything turned out okay!
Which country is your family from? Sorry for such a blunt question, but I just wonder if government funded antenatal classes are supplied to families? either way; there is so much information freely available (such as this lovely video).. it's just a shame Healthcare providers aren't really supplying it! Its so so important for both parents to be, first time or not, to be in the know and to bond with baby in utero and after birth ☺️ Remember that: "what's good for the goose is good for the gander"
sorry to be so off topic but does anybody know a tool to log back into an Instagram account? I was stupid lost the login password. I appreciate any help you can offer me
Thank you for touching on the moms that want "quiet support" lol! I'm that person, I knew ahead of time that's how I would feel too. I didn't want anyone to touch me or talk to me during contractions and most of labor amd delivery. I just wanted his physical pressence. I didn't care what he did as long he was there and quiet. Also, thank you for touching on your experience when you were a new nurse. It is completely NOT personal. I just wanted to trust my body during labor and pushing. I didn't even want the "encouraging words or phrases." I know people mean well, but sometimes moms need to just be in their zone and let the congrats come after. Love your videos!!
I feel the same. I had my headphones on with my first and just focused on the music. I didn’t want to be rubbed or talked to, only counterpressure on my back because of terrible back labor pain. Other than that didn’t want anyone touching me. I focus much better when I can just stay inside my own thoughts. I even said my own mantras/positive affirmations in my head vs out loud. I already told my partner that I don’t want talking and a bunch of touch. Only time I want encouragement is if I tell him I can’t do it, I want him to say I can. But that’s it
I needed my husband there for moral support sitting away from me lol. I didnt want him to pay attention to me because it makes me uncomfortable. He knew I needed to do my own thing. He was playing games but when it came time to push he was so pumped up and took amazing pictures lol. He did everything I needed him to do.
My husband was an amazing support person! I hit him during my labor, I begged him to cut off my legs and he kept encouraging me, ice chips warrior, and kept the cold rags coming! My nurse was awesome! I loved my experience because of my husband and my nurse
Thank you for this! I tell friends all the time that I don't want my husband looking fully down there while I am pushing (it's a vulnerable moment that I don't want him to see all that) and they always go, "Oh he will" or, "You'll feel different during" or, basically that there is no escaping that he will. It was nice to hear that this is actually something you CAN say and choose to not/choose to happen. And that you actually have a say in who sees the full on show down there.
Girl, a lot of father's stay right by the head of the bed and don't look at all. This can be totally your call, but you also can make a game-time decision if you feel differently during labor. You got this mama!
I am not currently pregnant but we are in our preconception stage. I am a heavy study bug and love learning everything I can so I feel better prepared. I just have to say, I love your voice. Your voice is so soothing and I would feel so much more at ease with a labor nurse that had a calming, but filled with wisdom, voice. Thank you so much for your videos, I really binge watch them, and always look forward to your upcoming videos!
Thank you for the "don't get offended" one. If you get offended easily, you are probably better off NOT being a support person. Some of the things that may come out of a laboring mamas mouth....they can end friendships if you can't just realize it isn't about that at all. This mama is bringing life into the world and it isn't a cake walk....it hurts, it's emotional, and she needs support NOT someone who is thinking "why would she say that to me....while pushing a 10 cm head out of a tiny (but flexible) hole.
Does this happen a lot? I can’t even imagine going through having a baby with a partner who doesn’t want to be there. People are something else that’s for sure..
My first ever birth was with two disinterested people in the room. The dad, and the life long friend. I had never heard of it before and was just blown away that that actually occurs. I think he thought he was having confidence in her ability to labor which left her LOOKING/ ACTING like she felt unsupported... but saying he was fine. I went by her words. Only asking him to engage once when she made a comment about it. 💔 what do you guys do to deal with this specific situation as a doula?
Also, if you are that support person and you are not prepared to possibly have to be in an OR for a C-section, let mama know BEFORE HAND so she can make sure someone IS there that can handle it. Us C-section Mama's need support too. It's a terrifying surgery that we already feel like we aren't doing something right when it is happening. I think instinct makes you feel like you should be pushing or laboring your baby into this world and laying there with a curtain up just waiting to hear your babies cry can be daunting. Just saying we need support too
You're so right!! After 2 vaginal deliveries, I didn't consider the chance of having a c section with my twins, and my husband, who barely made it through the others, wouldn't come in the OR. I wound up going through the surgery alone, and harbored a Lot if resentment.
I’m so glad that my man never had any objections to what I did with my body. He was supportive of whatever decision I made and I’m so grateful for that. It makes me so mad when I see men telling their wives they don’t approve of them having an epidural and make them feel bad about it. It’s not up to them & when they’re the ones pushing out a baby they can make that call. Until then they need to shut it and let her do what she feels is right. Making a woman that’s giving birth feel bad about her decisions is just so low and makes me so mad.
Thank you. Been watching your videos in preparation for our first. Still thumbing through the youtube universe on best practices for being a new Dad, what we need to know and do, but I find your advice very helpful and down to earth. I give you a heartfelt thank you as an expecting Dad.
My mother in-law wants to be during my labor but I honestly don’t want to, I feel I’m going to be overwhelmed plus I won’t be able to behave like myself. I only want my husband in there, telling me I can do it and that’s it.
Make sure you tell your nurse and husband. Dont feel bad about not letting her in if you aren’t comfortable especially if y’all aren’t exactly on great terms. Its a very vulnerable time and being uncomfortable can make it more difficult
Just tell that you’re very grateful for her support, but you will need her help more once the baby is born, and once you get home. Birth is such an intimate and vulnerable time, and the birth hormones are ‘shy’ hormones, and flow best when you don’t feel observed.
Deadlyfati 1 I know this is 10 months ago so you probably already had your baby so congratulations I’m just about to have my baby at the end of November beginning of December and I’m only gonna have my husband in there my sister want to be in there and I told her you can F right off and another person wanting to be in there too manly has a Covid I can only have one person in the delivery room with me and be no no no no no no this is what I want and what’s gonna make me come but I’m the one who’s going to go through all the pain and misery plus I don’t want my sister and my mother want to see my goats well they used to be good they’re going to be destroyed let’s be honest here they’re gonna be destroyed it’s never gonna look the same again but whatever makes you comfortable they have to respect that but congratulations I hope everything went well
You are such an AMAZING educator and mom! I love the way you simplify and explain, it's so helpful and informative. Proud of you! I get excited every time you post!
Omg! The last tip! Talking about it! That is so important!!!! I had a traumatic birth with my first and I refused to talk about it and I became depressed because of everything that I kept to myself! Once I opened up and started sharing my feelings and discussing it with my husband, I felt so much better and I was able to heal emotionally!
I am SO glad I stumbled across your videos!!! I'm 9 weeks from having my first baby and I freaking love you. I pray that my l&d nurses are half as kind and genuinely invested in their jobs as you are! ❤️ I cannot wait to show my husband this video lol he is a fixer 100%. So he needs to hear that part specifically! Please never stop making videos! Ps. your baby is precious
I'm pregnant with my 5th baby and I've had preterm labor with all four of my previous ones (all are healthy) so you could say I've gotten to know quite a few labor and delivery nurses. I would say that 9.5 out of 10 of them are amazing, kind and supportive.
This is such an important video for all dads to be out there. Thank you so much! Your baby is so cute! Such beatiful mom and baby. Lots of hugs from Norway.
That last point was really useful to me. I had my mum there during the birth of my son. Even though I felt like I had it under control I did get totally lost in myself and the pain (I had an unmeditacted birth). My mum told me about some things after wards I wasn’t aware of at the time. The main thing being that when my son was born he didn’t breath for a moment. They had him at the end of my bed for a few minutes doing things with him. In the time I presumed they were just checking him over, as his heart rate kept dipping very low. I was also hemeraging so the moment he was born was rather hectic and I was so exhausted. Thankful we were both absolutely fine. I’m also glad I wasn’t aware my son wasn’t breathing at that moment as it would have definitely been too much for me to handle. My mum didn’t tell me that bit for quite a few weeks which I’m also glad about but I’m glad I did find out. If she didn’t talk to me about it all I’d have never known.
Some of these I've already been discussing with my husband and while it's nice to be totally on the same side on certain things, it's also not like him to just roll over on things he sees differently. Examples: 1. I've somehow always known that I want to have kids and I don't want an epidural. Upon hearing this while we were dating (we were very close friends before dating so we were able to discuss baby names very early on in our relationship without the pressure of "I expect this out of you." Odd but cool.) He looked at me and basically told me I was crazy but if that's what I wanted then go for it. After we got engaged and things were more serious he actually brought it up, asked if my wants still stood (yes), and told me he'd support me every step of the way and if I changed my mind he would support that too and "won't give you any shit" because birth is a lot of pain. (He's kinda a joker but we can play a little rough. Like how guys pick on their friends all the time but certain lines just don't get crossed.) 2. I've also always been a little shy and self conscious so naturally I've also always had the want of my husband being by my side and not "below the curtain" that we always see in movies. Going to my yearly womanly checkups only cemented that because "How awkward! And I only have to see this guy once a year! And I know a bit of what birthing entails so HELL NO do I want someone I have to face every day to see THAT!" My husband's response when we were dating was "I kinda feel bad for whoever holds your hand but at the same time, how hard can your grip be?" Which led into a whole discussion of pain and strength, yadayada. When engaged, it evolved to "I love you and I'll be right by your side but I'm not holding your hand... I mean I will but please don't destroy it?" Now that we are expecting he looked at me and asked "after 12 years of knowing you, 10 years of being with you and everything we've been through, do you really think I care about what this natural process looks like and that it will make me think of you any differently? Sure, you are know the woman who I love dearly and is carrying my child and at that point the woman who gave birth to my child but that is the only thing that will change. I'm catching our child. Are you gonna stop me?" And I love that. It's very him and reminded me that I don't need to be self conscious with him. He then joked about how he wouldn't give me the baby. There's a lot we are both learning and discussing, so a few more of these are now on the list.
Would you ever be willing to discuss what your personal birth plans were and how they changed between babies? Since you deliver babies professionally, I would love to know what you chose... 😁😘🍼
GirlyPanache totally! My first birth story is up on my channel, and I definitely want to film one for baby #2. I had an epidural with my first and went without with my second. Each experience has pros and cons.
Zabey Baby 2015 id love to see a pros and cons video on the differences between the two!! Especially since you have experience both! :) I am due July 11th!
It’s awesome to see that you’re not exclusively saying “your wife” or anything super specific. Childbirth and life happen in many different ways with many different variables so it’s nice to see you acknowledge that. Expecting a baby girl in October of 2020 and hoping and praying to God that this coronavirus is at least somewhat under control by then. Pray for us.
I'm praying too! And I really try to keep all my language inclusive to accommodate all different laboring people and support people, although sometimes it does get tricky!
I love your videos and wish I had the opportunity to watch them before having my first child! Watching your videos has been extremely reassuring hearing up for birthing kiddo #2. I'm so glad you make content like this for new moms and birthing partners!
I am loving your videos, they're very informative. I'm currently 21 weeks along and even though this is mine and my boyfriend's first child, he is understanding and supportive so I know I'll be able to count on him in the delivery room come November. I just can't wrap my head around how someone could just seemingly not care about a woman in pain who is going to push a kid out at any given second. That's the time when the laboring partner needs her support person the most.
Awesome video! From one labor nurse to another, I always encourage my patients to communicate their wants/needs with me. Sometimes, I don’t get the family’s approval, and that’s ok! I’m not there to cater to them😊 I still remember one patient being very stressed over her mother being present. Before her arrival, we developed a code word allowing me to know when it was time to give the patient her privacy and it worked out very well. Here’s one big tip I’d like to encourage first time moms being induced- keep the family at home until your getting closer to delivery. Inductions can take awhile and getting your rest is so important for the big finale of pushing!
i am pregnant with my third baby and your videos that i have been binge watching today have just eased my mind and motivated me , made me want to go home and prepare for the baby just watching all these videos are so exciting and i hope you never stop uploading because i love these videos . my mom has been my labor support with the past two deliveries and shes so great and supportive and comforting and it is very helpful to have someone like that with you as a coach and supporter
I just wanted to say that I absolutely LOVE your labor videos! I’m due in October with our first baby and as scared as I am of giving birth, your videos make me feel so calm and confident about it. Thank you so much for taking the time to make these! ❤️
This is why I've always preferred my husband as my birth partner, who is supportive and doesnt get offended and is a good advocate and would do whatever I needed despite, wanting to "fix" it like you said. I havent ever been able to have someone like my mother in the room, bc of how she acts when she is under stress and becomes anxious and agitated and it runs off on me. And I know she would prob get offended if I asked her to stop. So thank you for offering these tips too and putting into words how I have felt about this bc it always made me feel bad about not wanting to have her there. She's a good mom and grandma, not a good labor partner.
My hubby and I watched this together and will definitely be having an in depth conversation of what I want/need versus what he is able to do, etc. He is super worried he will pass out so my best friend will be there as well!! Overall, super helpful video!! Thank you!
This is so helpful. Watched this with my husband and he’s very supportive about watching all these videos with me, it’s our first baby and we are learning together 💙
You have such a beautiful baby boy! What a cutie!!! Thank you for sharing all your knowledge on this channel. I am having major anxiety about labor and your videos really help me to feel more prepared. I appreciate you.
I'm getting induced and made my husband watch a video on induction methods with me. I just said "I want you to be aware in case I am physically out of it or in too much pain to think clearly." Glad I did. He didn't know what an episiotomy was, and we'd both never heard of a Foley cathedor.
About disinterested support people and not taking things personally: As a brand new doula I had been asked to attend a birth, I had nothing under my belt but my certificate and online education thus far. I was in the room with the laboring woman. She had a friend, her mother, and her husband. I had been asked there as a in between between mom and the father mainly. As I had not been invited to a birth yet and was eager for the experience, figured keeping the peace and helping mom have the easiest and most relaxing labor was in scope of practice for me and agreed. Shortly after we arrived to the hospital her mother began insulting her. Soon after I realized that they had asked me there to be a go-between between mother and laboring woman because the father planned on being disengaged and disinterested and basically wanted me to tell him when mom (his MIL) “acted up” my client wanted him at her side, present and available but never spoke up about it. So I let it be. It wasn’t until she had made a comment about wishing he would stay in the room that the next time he went to leave and baby was getting close to being born I asked him if he may want to stay and hold her hand since baby would be arriving soon. He said “she has got this” and left. Mil kept making comments and so I finally said “this is not the place and time, let’s focus on mom and baby, and not Dad. If mom and baby are doing okay then all is well. The father came in and yelled at me for “starting drama and insulting him at his daughters birth. I was mortified. It was the first time I saw it appropriate to actually do what they asked me to do and it was not the result I looked for. The friend was studying for her prenatal nursing exam in the middle of the room, in the way, and was a completely uninvolved and disinterested person in the room. She just sat there for hours and hours. Taking up space. I didn’t know what to do or say. I simply ignored the family dynamic, and rubbed Moms feet, and calves, and helped her with her low moans and groans to keep her comfortable. I was able to explain the reason for the PIT for expelling the placenta, and able to comfort her when she ended up losing as much blood as a C-section. And extra hands were needed for that emergency and I had to step back a moment. Dad handled absolutely everything like she was 100% fine, and the Dr’s were ignorant. Dad and MIL fought the whole time, and I failed to keep the peace. I did learn that I can’t take things personally and that at times, you’ll come across a very strange family dynamic. That’s okay. I ended up able to be there for Mom, up untill the birth and got great pictures for her, of their family. I stayed two hours post partum and went home scratching my head. It was nothing like what I expected it would be and certainly very shocking for my first experience. I did my best, and have found that to be one of the more difficult experiences as a doula thus far. 🤷🏻♀️ I’m very thankful you added those two things in. As I have not encountered this again and yet you never know, I’m curious for any advice for the next time I might encounter this dynamic as a support person. Please and thank you. 😊
Love that you started out telling them it's not about them!!! Such sound advice. For my second child (learned my lesson after the first) my husband wasn't allowed until pushing started... One of the best decisions I ever made!!
With my first birth I was leaking amniotic fluid but labor wasn't starting so I was induced and then got an epidural fairly early since I was already checked in and hooked up. I didn't really need any of the coping techniques I had learned in my birthing class. So with my second when I actually had to deal with contractions naturally for several hours before they would admit me (my cervix wasn't dilating at all at first) I forgot everything I had learned and dealt with it horribly. My husband was there and would do anything I asked, but I didn't know what to have him do to help. Now I'm pregnant with my third and I've told him his job is to remember what we learned in the class and offer suggestions.
Thank you so much for your conscious choice and work around gender you inclusive language! As a queer pregnant person I have encountered so much heteronormativity from the fertility/conception process, to pregnancy and birth preparations, to hospital policies and legal hurdles. At times it has really felt like an uphill battle to be seen and validated during this experience and I sooo appreciate the effort you put in to being inclusive. I know it’s clunky at times to use new language and I know you don’t always get it right; those things will get better with practice and familiarity. So many people let those things hold them back from trying to change their language cause it feels like putting themselves out there and they don’t want to do it wrong or be offensive. To those people I want to say, it’s sooo much better to try and not get it totally right than to not even try. I see Nirse Zabes effort and feel so included and seen, so much more than I see the times it doesn’t come out right. Please keep trying, keep up what you are doing, and know that it means the world to those of us listening. ❤️
Love your videos so much! I had the most amazing birth partner (close friend), who after the birth said it was such a privilege to have been there. That meant so much to me. Also, I felt so bad telling my birth partner to stop touching me! (She was trying to rub my back, but I wanted no one anywhere near me.) Luckily she wasn't offended at all, we laugh about it now, and have put it on her "what not to do" list for next time 😂
hey im a highschool student wanting to get into nursing/midwifery and i was wondering if you were able to do a video on what its like to be a nurse or just some information you should know before being a nurse? btw loving these videos :))
Could you do a video on what to pack? Or reply and say how many outfits and sizes you need for baby! I'm 38 weeks and have no idea how many of each size and what size to bring x love your videos btw
I hope you haven't had your baby before this reply (or maybe I do, the end of pregnancy can be so rough)! I would pack one newborn and one 0-3month outfit for taking your baby home. Most hospitals will have shirts for babies and blankets and I always recommend using those so you can save yourself some laundry before going home. Wishing you a happy and healthy delivery!
I love these videos. I'll be 31 weeks on Thursday, and I found your channel JUST in time. I was starting to get panicky about 15-20 weeks ish cause this is my first (I'm 31) and have worked in the medical field as a pharmacy tech in retail and hospital, so a lot of this isn't new to me but to be the one experiencing it is COMPLETELY different.
I’m totally having a fan girl moment LOL thank you for responding :-) yes, I would love that! Information on the binders for my belly wound care are some of the main concerns while taking care of a newborn
I got be a support person for my stepsister in January. She had her baby January 4th and that baby will be 5 months on June 4th. It was amazing and I got to cut the umbilical cord after the birth. My stepsister wanted me to just be present in the room but quietly and just update family as needed so she could rest with baby afterwards. Also I was there to fill out paperwork and make appointments as needed. Still helping her as she is a single mother.
Her practice push turned into her baby crowning. We have talked so so many times about her birth experience and listened to everything she has said about her labor and delivery.
You are honestly amazing, First child and was losing my mind about birthing and such (not looking forward to the "alien chestburster" happening downstairs! You've helped me feel at ease for the first time. Thank you!
Thank you so much for these ! He is so cute !! I am currently pregnant with twin boys . Could you maybe do one on twins ??? Like the differences and what to expect with two babies ♥️
I'm being induced two weeks from today. It's my first and I'm very nervous. I'd love to see a video with your tips and advice for the process. Please & thank you! ❤️
If you haven't already, can you do a prep for medical induction? Like just little things to get our bodies as ready as possible and possibly like what to expect / what not to expect
Do you give full online childbirth classes? Do you have a website? I am trying to pick a good, and sort of comprehensive class for me and my husband that will go over different positions, breathing, and other techniques to help with pain and progressing during labor, and also some infant care information. I’d really appreciate any direction you might be able to offer me. It seems like there’s a lot out there, and I’m not sure what is best for us.
Can you do a video or first time moms or people trying to get pregnant?. My husband and i are currently trying for our first we've had a chemical pregnancy just last month so its been hard on us but we both love your videos!
Right now I'm restricted by Covid to one person in with me for delivery. Very torn between my clueless yet kind husband, and my super knowledgeable and supportive mom.. any advice?
I am really grateful for your videos! I am 26 weeks pregnant and I have a girlfriend who's 33 weeks pregnant. My amazingly brave husband is willing to be with me the whole time during laboring and giving birth, but my girlfriend's husband does not have a strong stomach for all the "hardcore" stuff, so I offered to be the Plan B laboring partner of hers if her husband will fall out (hopefully just metaphorically :)) . How do you feel about it? Would you let an other pregnant woman to be the laboring partner of an other?
Your friends husband can absolutely be there and not be up close and personal with the "hard-core stuff". I feel like alot of men who haven't experienced being a birth support partner think its going to be blood and guts all over the place, lol. And I have found that not to be the case. Id advise you friend to talk to her ob about maintaining some modesty. And I don't think there's any issue with having another woman as a birth partner.
Celeste Stratton I stopped nursing my toddler when I found out I was pregnant with my second. I started having a really big nursing aversion and had a lot of morning sickness. I now exclusively pump for my second.
Definitely talk with your doctor about this and your specific case, but you cannot labor with a true placenta previa (the placenta is covering the cervix), because the cervix dilating will pull away from the placenta, leading to bleeding. Women with placenta previa need to be delivered by cesarean section.
My push present was a large Italian sub with Everything on it! I wanted one so bad during my 1st pregnancy. I was so happy after labor and a nap when he showed up with it. 😂
I need some tips on how to stay sane in the hospital on strict bed rest. I have been here for two weeks and I’m going crazy. Doc is saying I might be able to go home in July. I have 4 children at home whom I miss dearly. Hubby can’t stay with me because he has to work and take care of the kids. I have an incompetent cervix. At my anatomy scan we found it and one of the twins gestational sac was hanging out. We did emergency surgery for a cerclage. Long story short now I’m in a bed almost 23 weeks pregnant with twins. Babies are great. Me not so much.
Wow, mama that sounds so scary and terrifying. So glad they were able to do the rescue cerclage for your sweet babies. Bed rest can be really tough and being stuck inside those four walls day in and day out can be mind numbing and depressing. As simple as it sounds, opening the blinds in the morning and letting the sun shine in can really make a big difference in your mood. Having your husband bring things from home in (like your own blankets, pillows, etc) can make things feel more comfortable. I'd recommend something to keep your hands busy, like an adult coloring book or a knitting project. Binge-watching a new TV show can give you something to occupy your time as well. You also might be able to find someone to come to the hospital to give you a pedicure or manicure. This could be a friend or a service. Taking care of yourself and washing up as your able, putting on makeup can make a big difference in your mood. I hope some of these tips help you out, and I hope those little beans stay in baking for a while longer and that you are able to go home in July! Please keep me posted on how you're doing!
My husband was pretty unsure about the whole thing, he thought it would be like in the movies where it is all screaming and midwives telling you to push and for me I was very calm and quiet. We hadn't talked about birth much and I assumed he would read up on some basics but he had no idea about any of it. Eventually my mum convinced him to look once the head was born and he did then moved straight back up to hold my hand but was completely silent, no encouragement at all. I thought he was useless. Three days later he broke down to me about his experience. Turns out he didn't know babies are pale and blueish as they are being born and that they don't just cry the second their head is out. He was silent because he was holding it together thinking he was about to support me through hearing our child was stillborn. I was devastated that he experienced those few minutes of fear. Everyone involved in the birth experiences things differently and even support people need support sometimes.
I'm 8 months pregnant and the thought of my husband thinking that for even a moment makes me tear up. That is a sad thought, glad everything turned out okay!
Which country is your family from? Sorry for such a blunt question, but I just wonder if government funded antenatal classes are supplied to families? either way; there is so much information freely available (such as this lovely video).. it's just a shame Healthcare providers aren't really supplying it! Its so so important for both parents to be, first time or not, to be in the know and to bond with baby in utero and after birth ☺️
Remember that: "what's good for the goose is good for the gander"
sorry to be so off topic but does anybody know a tool to log back into an Instagram account?
I was stupid lost the login password. I appreciate any help you can offer me
Your videos are very helpful so please keep uploading!!! This is one of the first channels that helped ease my mind about everything.
brianna wilson Aw, Thank you so much. And thanks for watching! 💗
The way she popped her baby out “Case and Point. Not sleeping 😑” lol 😂😂
Thank you for touching on the moms that want "quiet support" lol!
I'm that person, I knew ahead of time that's how I would feel too. I didn't want anyone to touch me or talk to me during contractions and most of labor amd delivery. I just wanted his physical pressence. I didn't care what he did as long he was there and quiet.
Also, thank you for touching on your experience when you were a new nurse. It is completely NOT personal. I just wanted to trust my body during labor and pushing. I didn't even want the "encouraging words or phrases." I know people mean well, but sometimes moms need to just be in their zone and let the congrats come after.
Love your videos!!
Yes, I love that you were able to communicate what you needed for your labor! 💗
That’s how I feel I will be; I need everybody to shut up.
I feel the same. I had my headphones on with my first and just focused on the music. I didn’t want to be rubbed or talked to, only counterpressure on my back because of terrible back labor pain. Other than that didn’t want anyone touching me. I focus much better when I can just stay inside my own thoughts. I even said my own mantras/positive affirmations in my head vs out loud. I already told my partner that I don’t want talking and a bunch of touch. Only time I want encouragement is if I tell him I can’t do it, I want him to say I can. But that’s it
I needed my husband there for moral support sitting away from me lol. I didnt want him to pay attention to me because it makes me uncomfortable. He knew I needed to do my own thing. He was playing games but when it came time to push he was so pumped up and took amazing pictures lol. He did everything I needed him to do.
My husband was an amazing support person! I hit him during my labor, I begged him to cut off my legs and he kept encouraging me, ice chips warrior, and kept the cold rags coming! My nurse was awesome! I loved my experience because of my husband and my nurse
Wow, sounds like you had an awesome support team. Also, super glad your husband didn't cut off your legs. 😂
Thank you for this! I tell friends all the time that I don't want my husband looking fully down there while I am pushing (it's a vulnerable moment that I don't want him to see all that) and they always go, "Oh he will" or, "You'll feel different during" or, basically that there is no escaping that he will. It was nice to hear that this is actually something you CAN say and choose to not/choose to happen. And that you actually have a say in who sees the full on show down there.
Girl, a lot of father's stay right by the head of the bed and don't look at all. This can be totally your call, but you also can make a game-time decision if you feel differently during labor. You got this mama!
My sister is giving birth in 2months and I have no kids and this is VERY OPEN N HELPFUL. THANK YOU. I will also play this for them both to hear.
I am not currently pregnant but we are in our preconception stage. I am a heavy study bug and love learning everything I can so I feel better prepared. I just have to say, I love your voice. Your voice is so soothing and I would feel so much more at ease with a labor nurse that had a calming, but filled with wisdom, voice. Thank you so much for your videos, I really binge watch them, and always look forward to your upcoming videos!
Thank you for the "don't get offended" one. If you get offended easily, you are probably better off NOT being a support person. Some of the things that may come out of a laboring mamas mouth....they can end friendships if you can't just realize it isn't about that at all. This mama is bringing life into the world and it isn't a cake walk....it hurts, it's emotional, and she needs support NOT someone who is thinking "why would she say that to me....while pushing a 10 cm head out of a tiny (but flexible) hole.
I am a doula. This is excellent. The disinterested birth partner can be heart-breaking. 😔
Erica Goehring As a Doula myself I can completely agree with that. I have not encountered that situation yet however the thought breaks my heart.
It really does make you wonder how things will be for them as a family in the future. 😥
Does this happen a lot? I can’t even imagine going through having a baby with a partner who doesn’t want to be there. People are something else that’s for sure..
Would like to think I'll be able to tell an uninterested partner to go the hell home.
My first ever birth was with two disinterested people in the room. The dad, and the life long friend. I had never heard of it before and was just blown away that that actually occurs. I think he thought he was having confidence in her ability to labor which left her LOOKING/ ACTING like she felt unsupported... but saying he was fine. I went by her words. Only asking him to engage once when she made a comment about it. 💔 what do you guys do to deal with this specific situation as a doula?
28 weeks pregnant here. I am saving all your videos to re-watch them later! thank you for all the info :)
Also, if you are that support person and you are not prepared to possibly have to be in an OR for a C-section, let mama know BEFORE HAND so she can make sure someone IS there that can handle it. Us C-section Mama's need support too. It's a terrifying surgery that we already feel like we aren't doing something right when it is happening. I think instinct makes you feel like you should be pushing or laboring your baby into this world and laying there with a curtain up just waiting to hear your babies cry can be daunting. Just saying we need support too
No one Important Amen!!
You're so right!! After 2 vaginal deliveries, I didn't consider the chance of having a c section with my twins, and my husband, who barely made it through the others, wouldn't come in the OR. I wound up going through the surgery alone, and harbored a Lot if resentment.
I’m so glad that my man never had any objections to what I did with my body. He was supportive of whatever decision I made and I’m so grateful for that. It makes me so mad when I see men telling their wives they don’t approve of them having an epidural and make them feel bad about it. It’s not up to them & when they’re the ones pushing out a baby they can make that call. Until then they need to shut it and let her do what she feels is right. Making a woman that’s giving birth feel bad about her decisions is just so low and makes me so mad.
I love your videos so much despite not being pregnant or anything
Annie Tee Thanks for watching! A little extra knowledge is never a bad thing! 😊
Thank you. Been watching your videos in preparation for our first. Still thumbing through the youtube universe on best practices for being a new Dad, what we need to know and do, but I find your advice very helpful and down to earth. I give you a heartfelt thank you as an expecting Dad.
Thank you for watching and congrats on your little one!
My mother in-law wants to be during my labor but I honestly don’t want to, I feel I’m going to be overwhelmed plus I won’t be able to behave like myself. I only want my husband in there, telling me I can do it and that’s it.
I only had my husband, we told the nurses do NOT let anyone else in.
Make sure you tell your nurse and husband. Dont feel bad about not letting her in if you aren’t comfortable especially if y’all aren’t exactly on great terms. Its a very vulnerable time and being uncomfortable can make it more difficult
Just tell that you’re very grateful for her support, but you will need her help more once the baby is born, and once you get home. Birth is such an intimate and vulnerable time, and the birth hormones are ‘shy’ hormones, and flow best when you don’t feel observed.
No one wants their mother in law in there! Stand your ground! (Obviously you’ve already had the baby 😂)
Deadlyfati 1 I know this is 10 months ago so you probably already had your baby so congratulations I’m just about to have my baby at the end of November beginning of December and I’m only gonna have my husband in there my sister want to be in there and I told her you can F right off and another person wanting to be in there too manly has a Covid I can only have one person in the delivery room with me and be no no no no no no this is what I want and what’s gonna make me come but I’m the one who’s going to go through all the pain and misery plus I don’t want my sister and my mother want to see my goats well they used to be good they’re going to be destroyed let’s be honest here they’re gonna be destroyed it’s never gonna look the same again but whatever makes you comfortable they have to respect that but congratulations I hope everything went well
You are such an AMAZING educator and mom! I love the way you simplify and explain, it's so helpful and informative. Proud of you! I get excited every time you post!
As a doula and a mom, I LOVE this video! Every mama needs a wonderful support person!!!
Omg! The last tip! Talking about it! That is so important!!!! I had a traumatic birth with my first and I refused to talk about it and I became depressed because of everything that I kept to myself! Once I opened up and started sharing my feelings and discussing it with my husband, I felt so much better and I was able to heal emotionally!
I am SO glad I stumbled across your videos!!! I'm 9 weeks from having my first baby and I freaking love you. I pray that my l&d nurses are half as kind and genuinely invested in their jobs as you are! ❤️ I cannot wait to show my husband this video lol he is a fixer 100%. So he needs to hear that part specifically! Please never stop making videos! Ps. your baby is precious
Thanks so much for watching! My husband is such a fixer too, labor was tough for him. Wishing you a happy and health delivery! ❤️❤️
I'm pregnant with my 5th baby and I've had preterm labor with all four of my previous ones (all are healthy) so you could say I've gotten to know quite a few labor and delivery nurses. I would say that 9.5 out of 10 of them are amazing, kind and supportive.
This is such an important video for all dads to be out there. Thank you so much! Your baby is so cute! Such beatiful mom and baby. Lots of hugs from Norway.
Neo and Trinity Cat Thank you! I hope this video will be helpful to all those supporting women in labor! 💗💗
That last point was really useful to me. I had my mum there during the birth of my son. Even though I felt like I had it under control I did get totally lost in myself and the pain (I had an unmeditacted birth). My mum told me about some things after wards I wasn’t aware of at the time. The main thing being that when my son was born he didn’t breath for a moment. They had him at the end of my bed for a few minutes doing things with him. In the time I presumed they were just checking him over, as his heart rate kept dipping very low. I was also hemeraging so the moment he was born was rather hectic and I was so exhausted. Thankful we were both absolutely fine. I’m also glad I wasn’t aware my son wasn’t breathing at that moment as it would have definitely been too much for me to handle. My mum didn’t tell me that bit for quite a few weeks which I’m also glad about but I’m glad I did find out. If she didn’t talk to me about it all I’d have never known.
Oh my gosh, cutest vlog partner EVER 😍
Kelly F Tinker he really is the sweetest! I’m just a little biased. 😊
Some of these I've already been discussing with my husband and while it's nice to be totally on the same side on certain things, it's also not like him to just roll over on things he sees differently. Examples:
1. I've somehow always known that I want to have kids and I don't want an epidural. Upon hearing this while we were dating (we were very close friends before dating so we were able to discuss baby names very early on in our relationship without the pressure of "I expect this out of you." Odd but cool.) He looked at me and basically told me I was crazy but if that's what I wanted then go for it. After we got engaged and things were more serious he actually brought it up, asked if my wants still stood (yes), and told me he'd support me every step of the way and if I changed my mind he would support that too and "won't give you any shit" because birth is a lot of pain. (He's kinda a joker but we can play a little rough. Like how guys pick on their friends all the time but certain lines just don't get crossed.)
2. I've also always been a little shy and self conscious so naturally I've also always had the want of my husband being by my side and not "below the curtain" that we always see in movies. Going to my yearly womanly checkups only cemented that because "How awkward! And I only have to see this guy once a year! And I know a bit of what birthing entails so HELL NO do I want someone I have to face every day to see THAT!" My husband's response when we were dating was "I kinda feel bad for whoever holds your hand but at the same time, how hard can your grip be?" Which led into a whole discussion of pain and strength, yadayada. When engaged, it evolved to "I love you and I'll be right by your side but I'm not holding your hand... I mean I will but please don't destroy it?" Now that we are expecting he looked at me and asked "after 12 years of knowing you, 10 years of being with you and everything we've been through, do you really think I care about what this natural process looks like and that it will make me think of you any differently? Sure, you are know the woman who I love dearly and is carrying my child and at that point the woman who gave birth to my child but that is the only thing that will change. I'm catching our child. Are you gonna stop me?" And I love that. It's very him and reminded me that I don't need to be self conscious with him. He then joked about how he wouldn't give me the baby.
There's a lot we are both learning and discussing, so a few more of these are now on the list.
Would you ever be willing to discuss what your personal birth plans were and how they changed between babies? Since you deliver babies professionally, I would love to know what you chose... 😁😘🍼
GirlyPanache totally! My first birth story is up on my channel, and I definitely want to film one for baby #2. I had an epidural with my first and went without with my second. Each experience has pros and cons.
Zabey Baby 2015 id love to see a pros and cons video on the differences between the two!! Especially since you have experience both! :) I am due July 11th!
Madison Boemecke it’s in the works, I promise!
It’s awesome to see that you’re not exclusively saying “your wife” or anything super specific. Childbirth and life happen in many different ways with many different variables so it’s nice to see you acknowledge that. Expecting a baby girl in October of 2020 and hoping and praying to God that this coronavirus is at least somewhat under control by then. Pray for us.
I'm praying too! And I really try to keep all my language inclusive to accommodate all different laboring people and support people, although sometimes it does get tricky!
I love your videos and wish I had the opportunity to watch them before having my first child! Watching your videos has been extremely reassuring hearing up for birthing kiddo #2. I'm so glad you make content like this for new moms and birthing partners!
sydlant Thanks so much! Hoping for a safe and healthy delivery of baby #2!
I play your videos during me and my husband's morning commute to work. So very helpful. Thank you!
Thank you a lot! You helped so much to my brother in law to prepare himself to Labour of his wife!!!hugs from Austria
Love your videos! I’m 25 weeks pregnant and I feel so much better watching these. Keep them coming! 💜
Thanks for watching! I hope the last part of your pregnancy goes smoothly! 💗
I am loving your videos, they're very informative. I'm currently 21 weeks along and even though this is mine and my boyfriend's first child, he is understanding and supportive so I know I'll be able to count on him in the delivery room come November. I just can't wrap my head around how someone could just seemingly not care about a woman in pain who is going to push a kid out at any given second. That's the time when the laboring partner needs her support person the most.
Awesome video! From one labor nurse to another, I always encourage my patients to communicate their wants/needs with me. Sometimes, I don’t get the family’s approval, and that’s ok! I’m not there to cater to them😊 I still remember one patient being very stressed over her mother being present. Before her arrival, we developed a code word allowing me to know when it was time to give the patient her privacy and it worked out very well. Here’s one big tip I’d like to encourage first time moms being induced- keep the family at home until your getting closer to delivery. Inductions can take awhile and getting your rest is so important for the big finale of pushing!
i am pregnant with my third baby and your videos that i have been binge watching today have just eased my mind and motivated me , made me want to go home and prepare for the baby just watching all these videos are so exciting and i hope you never stop uploading because i love these videos . my mom has been my labor support with the past two deliveries and shes so great and supportive and comforting and it is very helpful to have someone like that with you as a coach and supporter
Oh my gosh, your sweet little babe is so cute!
This was very helpful. I'll be sharing this with my partner! 7 weeks to go!
Midwest Badger I hope it sparks some great conversation!
I just wanted to say that I absolutely LOVE your labor videos! I’m due in October with our first baby and as scared as I am of giving birth, your videos make me feel so calm and confident about it. Thank you so much for taking the time to make these! ❤️
Shelby Parker You got this, mama!! 💗💪🏼
This is why I've always preferred my husband as my birth partner, who is supportive and doesnt get offended and is a good advocate and would do whatever I needed despite, wanting to "fix" it like you said. I havent ever been able to have someone like my mother in the room, bc of how she acts when she is under stress and becomes anxious and agitated and it runs off on me. And I know she would prob get offended if I asked her to stop. So thank you for offering these tips too and putting into words how I have felt about this bc it always made me feel bad about not wanting to have her there. She's a good mom and grandma, not a good labor partner.
Yes, I love having just my hubby there too! Definitely not the right plan for everyone, but great for a lot of people!
Good gracious, your baby is such a cutie pie! You could have used him as an encouraging reminder of the reward you'll get at the end of labor ❤️
Jen Doninger Thank you!! And yes, a cute baby is what makes it all worth it! 💗
My hubby and I watched this together and will definitely be having an in depth conversation of what I want/need versus what he is able to do, etc. He is super worried he will pass out so my best friend will be there as well!!
Overall, super helpful video!! Thank you!
Yay! Glad this video is helping spark that conversation before you're in labor. Thanks for watching!
Currently 11 weeks pregnant, this video is great information and is helping me choose my labor partner
I’m less than a month away from my due date and I wake up in the middle of the night getting nervous. Your videos usually always give me piece of mind
Melanie D oh my gosh same here
Aw, that's so sweet to hear. You got this, mama! 💪💗
I am so excited to share this with my husband. He wants to be there for the whole process, and I am happy that he is so interested and supportive.
This is so helpful. Watched this with my husband and he’s very supportive about watching all these videos with me, it’s our first baby and we are learning together 💙
Thanks for your video! I'm not even pregnant but I'm researching information for the future
Jessica Giacometti Definitely important info for the future! Thanks for watching! 😊
You have such a beautiful baby boy! What a cutie!!! Thank you for sharing all your knowledge on this channel. I am having major anxiety about labor and your videos really help me to feel more prepared. I appreciate you.
Doesn’t matter if who ever is watching is having a baby or not This is a good video
I'm getting induced and made my husband watch a video on induction methods with me. I just said "I want you to be aware in case I am physically out of it or in too much pain to think clearly." Glad I did. He didn't know what an episiotomy was, and we'd both never heard of a Foley cathedor.
About disinterested support people and not taking things personally: As a brand new doula I had been asked to attend a birth, I had nothing under my belt but my certificate and online education thus far. I was in the room with the laboring woman. She had a friend, her mother, and her husband. I had been asked there as a in between between mom and the father mainly. As I had not been invited to a birth yet and was eager for the experience, figured keeping the peace and helping mom have the easiest and most relaxing labor was in scope of practice for me and agreed. Shortly after we arrived to the hospital her mother began insulting her. Soon after I realized that they had asked me there to be a go-between between mother and laboring woman because the father planned on being disengaged and disinterested and basically wanted me to tell him when mom (his MIL) “acted up” my client wanted him at her side, present and available but never spoke up about it. So I let it be. It wasn’t until she had made a comment about wishing he would stay in the room that the next time he went to leave and baby was getting close to being born I asked him if he may want to stay and hold her hand since baby would be arriving soon. He said “she has got this” and left. Mil kept making comments and so I finally said “this is not the place and time, let’s focus on mom and baby, and not Dad. If mom and baby are doing okay then all is well. The father came in and yelled at me for “starting drama and insulting him at his daughters birth. I was mortified. It was the first time I saw it appropriate to actually do what they asked me to do and it was not the result I looked for. The friend was studying for her prenatal nursing exam in the middle of the room, in the way, and was a completely uninvolved and disinterested person in the room. She just sat there for hours and hours. Taking up space. I didn’t know what to do or say. I simply ignored the family dynamic, and rubbed Moms feet, and calves, and helped her with her low moans and groans to keep her comfortable. I was able to explain the reason for the PIT for expelling the placenta, and able to comfort her when she ended up losing as much blood as a C-section. And extra hands were needed for that emergency and I had to step back a moment. Dad handled absolutely everything like she was 100% fine, and the Dr’s were ignorant. Dad and MIL fought the whole time, and I failed to keep the peace. I did learn that I can’t take things personally and that at times, you’ll come across a very strange family dynamic. That’s okay. I ended up able to be there for Mom, up untill the birth and got great pictures for her, of their family. I stayed two hours post partum and went home scratching my head. It was nothing like what I expected it would be and certainly very shocking for my first experience. I did my best, and have found that to be one of the more difficult experiences as a doula thus far. 🤷🏻♀️ I’m very thankful you added those two things in. As I have not encountered this again and yet you never know, I’m curious for any advice for the next time I might encounter this dynamic as a support person. Please and thank you. 😊
This is great! I am 33 weeks with my first child after infertility and I sent this to my husband to watch! Thanks for the tips
Nicole Thomas Congrats on your pregnancy! Wishing you a happy and healthy delivery! 💗
Zabey Baby 2015 thank you so much!! I'm excit d that I found your vlog!
Wish you were a nurse near me! You seem so friendly and nurturing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love that you started out telling them it's not about them!!! Such sound advice. For my second child (learned my lesson after the first) my husband wasn't allowed until pushing started... One of the best decisions I ever made!!
Angela Sue I’m glad you found the support that worked best for you! 💗
With my first birth I was leaking amniotic fluid but labor wasn't starting so I was induced and then got an epidural fairly early since I was already checked in and hooked up. I didn't really need any of the coping techniques I had learned in my birthing class. So with my second when I actually had to deal with contractions naturally for several hours before they would admit me (my cervix wasn't dilating at all at first) I forgot everything I had learned and dealt with it horribly. My husband was there and would do anything I asked, but I didn't know what to have him do to help. Now I'm pregnant with my third and I've told him his job is to remember what we learned in the class and offer suggestions.
Less than 3 weeks till we meet our bbg and this is so helpful already!
Hanna K How exciting! Good luck with your delivery!! 💪🏼💗
@@Nurse_zabe thank you!!
Thank you so much for your conscious choice and work around gender you inclusive language! As a queer pregnant person I have encountered so much heteronormativity from the fertility/conception process, to pregnancy and birth preparations, to hospital policies and legal hurdles. At times it has really felt like an uphill battle to be seen and validated during this experience and I sooo appreciate the effort you put in to being inclusive. I know it’s clunky at times to use new language and I know you don’t always get it right; those things will get better with practice and familiarity. So many people let those things hold them back from trying to change their language cause it feels like putting themselves out there and they don’t want to do it wrong or be offensive. To those people I want to say, it’s sooo much better to try and not get it totally right than to not even try. I see Nirse Zabes effort and feel so included and seen, so much more than I see the times it doesn’t come out right. Please keep trying, keep up what you are doing, and know that it means the world to those of us listening. ❤️
Love your videos so much!
I had the most amazing birth partner (close friend), who after the birth said it was such a privilege to have been there. That meant so much to me.
Also, I felt so bad telling my birth partner to stop touching me! (She was trying to rub my back, but I wanted no one anywhere near me.) Luckily she wasn't offended at all, we laugh about it now, and have put it on her "what not to do" list for next time 😂
hey im a highschool student wanting to get into nursing/midwifery and i was wondering if you were able to do a video on what its like to be a nurse or just some information you should know before being a nurse? btw loving these videos :))
You should do a video for women who are at higher risk of preterm labor
Yes, please do if you haven't already.
I want to see this one.
I really love the "you Cant fix Labour" definetively telling my husband that! He always wanna fix things, and gets so frustrated when he Cant
Very true to make sure the mom gets what she wants and needs
Id love you to talk about traumatic childbirth. I think it happens quite sometimes but is still seen as a tabboo or overacting
I can do that. ❤️
Could you do a video on what to pack? Or reply and say how many outfits and sizes you need for baby! I'm 38 weeks and have no idea how many of each size and what size to bring x love your videos btw
I hope you haven't had your baby before this reply (or maybe I do, the end of pregnancy can be so rough)! I would pack one newborn and one 0-3month outfit for taking your baby home. Most hospitals will have shirts for babies and blankets and I always recommend using those so you can save yourself some laundry before going home. Wishing you a happy and healthy delivery!
I love these videos. I'll be 31 weeks on Thursday, and I found your channel JUST in time. I was starting to get panicky about 15-20 weeks ish cause this is my first (I'm 31) and have worked in the medical field as a pharmacy tech in retail and hospital, so a lot of this isn't new to me but to be the one experiencing it is COMPLETELY different.
It's so different (but not in a bad way) to be on the other side. You got this, mama! 💪💗
Love you! I would love a c-section postpartum video
maria maldonado I have a c-section video that includes a ton of postpartum stuff. Are you looking for something more in-depth?
I’m totally having a fan girl moment LOL thank you for responding :-) yes, I would love that! Information on the binders for my belly wound care are some of the main concerns while taking care of a newborn
I got be a support person for my stepsister in January. She had her baby January 4th and that baby will be 5 months on June 4th. It was amazing and I got to cut the umbilical cord after the birth. My stepsister wanted me to just be present in the room but quietly and just update family as needed so she could rest with baby afterwards. Also I was there to fill out paperwork and make appointments as needed.
Still helping her as she is a single mother.
Her practice push turned into her baby crowning.
We have talked so so many times about her birth experience and listened to everything she has said about her labor and delivery.
Savannah Spurlock It sounds like you were a great support for her before and after delivery. She’s lucky to have you! 💗💗
I just attended my first birth ceremony today! I wish I would've seen this earlier!!
i love your informative videos! i’ll be 20 weeks tomorrow 👶🏽 what are the benefits with delayed cord clamping?
I really enjoy ur personality along the info U give. Keep it up, plz.
Even ur baby is on ur side I love that❤️
You are honestly amazing, First child and was losing my mind about birthing and such (not looking forward to the "alien chestburster" happening downstairs! You've helped me feel at ease for the first time. Thank you!
Da Panda22 You got this, mama! Your body was made to do this and not turn into an “alien chestburster” scenario! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
@@Nurse_zabe glad someone thinks so! XD Thank you
Great video!
Beautiful sweater. :)
Would you consider doing a video on the postpartum period starting immediately after the baby is born?
Your little one is so cute!! I love your advice!! Keep it up❤️
I LOVE your videos so much!!
Thank you so much for these ! He is so cute !! I am currently pregnant with twin boys . Could you maybe do one on twins ??? Like the differences and what to expect with two babies ♥️
Congrats on your twin pregnancy! How exciting! I can definitely look into making a video on twins in the future. Thanks for watching. ❤️
I would love to see an epidural vs natural labor!
Moon Oof It’s in the works!
Amazing video, thank you for all the info you provided. Plus- you're glowing! :)
Nina V. Aw, thank you! Maybe some of that pregnancy glow has rubbed off from my mamas at work! 😊
Cute baby! 😍
I want to say that I appreciate the nongendered language so, so much
I'm being induced two weeks from today. It's my first and I'm very nervous. I'd love to see a video with your tips and advice for the process. Please & thank you! ❤️
How did everything go? I'm at 15weeks, so still early days. Good to know others got through it ok.
Can you recommend an online education course for support people?
Hahahahaha that little pop up of your babe had me dying laughing 😂
Your baby is cute every time you show him
If you haven't already, can you do a prep for medical induction? Like just little things to get our bodies as ready as possible and possibly like what to expect / what not to expect
My two part induction series covers this!
Question.... would this also be accurate for a c-section??
Do you give full online childbirth classes? Do you have a website?
I am trying to pick a good, and sort of comprehensive class for me and my husband that will go over different positions, breathing, and other techniques to help with pain and progressing during labor, and also some infant care information.
I’d really appreciate any direction you might be able to offer me. It seems like there’s a lot out there, and I’m not sure what is best for us.
Can you do a video or first time moms or people trying to get pregnant?. My husband and i are currently trying for our first we've had a chemical pregnancy just last month so its been hard on us but we both love your videos!
I love your videos 🤗🤗🤗🤗 thank you so much
Indigo Kind Thank you so much for watching!
Can’t always fix pain but you can always help make it better
Right now I'm restricted by Covid to one person in with me for delivery. Very torn between my clueless yet kind husband, and my super knowledgeable and supportive mom.. any advice?
Super helpful tips!! Thank you!!
Could you do a video about vbac births?
Working on one now!
I am really grateful for your videos! I am 26 weeks pregnant and I have a girlfriend who's 33 weeks pregnant. My amazingly brave husband is willing to be with me the whole time during laboring and giving birth, but my girlfriend's husband does not have a strong stomach for all the "hardcore" stuff, so I offered to be the Plan B laboring partner of hers if her husband will fall out (hopefully just metaphorically :)) . How do you feel about it? Would you let an other pregnant woman to be the laboring partner of an other?
Bettina Veronika Fencsák I think that’s fabulous! I love women supporting other women. I hope you both have healthy and safe deliveries! 💗
@@Nurse_zabe Thank you for your blessing and for your sweet wish! :)
Your friends husband can absolutely be there and not be up close and personal with the "hard-core stuff". I feel like alot of men who haven't experienced being a birth support partner think its going to be blood and guts all over the place, lol. And I have found that not to be the case. Id advise you friend to talk to her ob about maintaining some modesty. And I don't think there's any issue with having another woman as a birth partner.
Can you explain why people take the placenta home.
Check out my placenta video!
Could you please do one video like this but for c-section births?
Do you nurse both of your kids, or did you stop feeding your toddler when you had your second baby?
Celeste Stratton I stopped nursing my toddler when I found out I was pregnant with my second. I started having a really big nursing aversion and had a lot of morning sickness. I now exclusively pump for my second.
Can you do a video on placenta previa and how to prepare for labor and precautions and stuff on it. No one I know knows much on it.
Definitely talk with your doctor about this and your specific case, but you cannot labor with a true placenta previa (the placenta is covering the cervix), because the cervix dilating will pull away from the placenta, leading to bleeding. Women with placenta previa need to be delivered by cesarean section.
I love your videos
I know that some partners like to buy a 'push present' for the woman after Labour and I think that its such a lovely idea
Tia Perry If that’s something that’s in your budget and works for you I think it’s fab. All I wanted for a push present was some chick-fil-a 😂😂
My push present was a large Italian sub with Everything on it! I wanted one so bad during my 1st pregnancy. I was so happy after labor and a nap when he showed up with it. 😂
can you do a video like this specifically for csection births??
I need some tips on how to stay sane in the hospital on strict bed rest. I have been here for two weeks and I’m going crazy. Doc is saying I might be able to go home in July. I have 4 children at home whom I miss dearly. Hubby can’t stay with me because he has to work and take care of the kids. I have an incompetent cervix. At my anatomy scan we found it and one of the twins gestational sac was hanging out. We did emergency surgery for a cerclage. Long story short now I’m in a bed almost 23 weeks pregnant with twins. Babies are great. Me not so much.
Wow, mama that sounds so scary and terrifying. So glad they were able to do the rescue cerclage for your sweet babies. Bed rest can be really tough and being stuck inside those four walls day in and day out can be mind numbing and depressing. As simple as it sounds, opening the blinds in the morning and letting the sun shine in can really make a big difference in your mood. Having your husband bring things from home in (like your own blankets, pillows, etc) can make things feel more comfortable. I'd recommend something to keep your hands busy, like an adult coloring book or a knitting project. Binge-watching a new TV show can give you something to occupy your time as well. You also might be able to find someone to come to the hospital to give you a pedicure or manicure. This could be a friend or a service. Taking care of yourself and washing up as your able, putting on makeup can make a big difference in your mood. I hope some of these tips help you out, and I hope those little beans stay in baking for a while longer and that you are able to go home in July! Please keep me posted on how you're doing!
I love your videos, you are so sweet!!!