Girl you messed up when you told him what you look for in a man. NEVER answer that question when a man asks. Just say “I’ll know what I want or am looking for in a man when I meet him.” Because if you tell them the truth, they’ll pretend to be exactly that to manipulate you.
I was quite shocked when you said this all happened within 2 weeks, but it's kinda good that he show it from the start, so you could notice red flags and act on it, some people act normal and you start noticing bad traits of them after few months or more... anyway better luck next time.
He seems like he was very clingy & almost like he was on a deadline of some sort to be in a relationship, that is scary as well. Glad you steered clear, don't need that drama llama in your life. Hoping for brighter and better new relationships and friendships! :)
Omg I have a friend on discord who will randomly just say "hi" and then I say hi back and he just ALWAYS says "what are you doing?" And then I reply and ask him what he's doing back and he always says "looking for something to do because I'm bored" ?? Ok? What do you want me to do about it? You being bored is not my problem 😭 it's literally the same exact exchange every time. I used to recommend things for him to do but he would always turn them all down so I just give up and say "oh that sucks" and leave it there. It's not my job to entertain ya, buddy
You definitely hit on everything I was thinking 🚩You did great! I agree on ideal types, more about being comfortable with someone than have certain expectations. I’m just me, and I want them to be them, and I’d rather like a person for who they are.
Reminds me of an episode on Jo Jo's Bizarre Adventures when this guy would find girls that he liked for their hands and he would get rid of the girl and carry around just her hand in his lunch bag. He'd talk to it and even gave it an engagement ring. This is really freaky and all this happened only from four dates and phone calls. Imagine when he does actually fall in love, it will be very scary for that girl to leave.
i also like looking at male hands but its not the entire thing, so i dont know what to say just like some people have different fetish i too have hands fetish you know but i would say its not the end of the all of the things a person could have i like what i like but there is also a room for other things phyically i like male pretty hands and plus i want emotional healthy connection as well so i couldnt relate to how that was a red flag, if you know how i would love to listen to you
I haven’t seen the first video yet, but how did you encounter such a narcissist person lol. As you said yourself it is good that you saw the red flags and weren’t blinded by appearance or so. Although I must admit that the 5 am message killed me haha
Never feel guilty!!! Never!! If a man doesn't respect your boundries while you are working!! No!! Let him go!! He doesn't respect your space and your time of work, he doesn't respect you!! And that's a red flag. Five flags?? I would've stopped at 3. Yes, you dodged a bullet.
Hi Rachel, it sounds like you had a lucky escape. Don't become a collector of red flags! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 I can relate to you, as Ive experienced a few of these from my past, too. I hope to approach relationships differently, with more certainty and confidence, in the future. (I'm going to watch your previous video now to get more of the back story, haha 😄). Thanks for sharing. From Lisa (England, UK 🇬🇧✌️😊)
Just be you 😊 if people are just different then you, then accept you are the different people. My wife is exactly the same as me. I don't have to explain about how I feel. She just understands me.
He's clearly insecure and needs constant validation to satisfy his ego. His micromanagement of everything you did and said shows that he's so unsatisfied with himself that he feels the need to "control" others. He also has a very outdated mindset. It's true that the older generation tends to pay attention to certain things like the "beauty of a woman's hands" as part of "wife requirements," but that is a medieval concept. He needs therapy. 😂
This video is also looking for validation. We wouldn't know about it if she didn't expose anything publicly. She's the one spreading drama and gossip now.
@@lilkitten545 you don't need to name names to be considered guilty of spreading false testimony and be labelled as a false witness in a court of law. That precedent is true in the real world. Much gossip uses false names to protect the identity of the actual person. That does not mean it in still not gossip.
Dang, that guy rose all the red flags...You may not have realized but even within the one you described, there were more red flags (like being jealous or manipulative, for example). lolol And btw, I agree with you, based on what you explained, it seems like he might be narcissistic. Also, as I watched the video, I realized I had a gf that rose at least three of those flags too. She was extremely passionate about us (like way too much), telling me "I love you" all-the-time and expecting me to reply accordingly. Obviously, not complying lead to the big drama of "you don't love me! Blablabla." She was extremely aggressive on the phone calls, sometimes calling me in the middle of the night for seemingly no reason. And just like in your experience, she was terrible at communicating and extremely jealous. She had to use my phone to call her sister, one day and made sure to delete her number from the history...Like, come on! lolol I spent 2 years with her at the end and if being with that guy was even remotely similar to being with my ex, believe me, you've got nothing to regret, you dodged the bullet I took right in the face and it was not a good time.
Omg!! He is a child and needy as hell. Im glad he already shown you all of that right away. I would already block him on 1st reason. You are too nice and have patience. He is one of reason why I like to spend time alone being annoyed by someone like that
I had this one guy I was seeing and he would call me abd I have phone anxiety. He would literally call me to tell me some stupid anecdote about his friend cleaning the sink now rather than waiting til later and turning it into a philosophy about a relationship. I tried to tell him something to get off the phone, but I couldn't get a word in edgewise. I ended up hanging up after like an hour of him rambling on. It was so frustrating
Rachel 100% RUN 🏃♂️ Being Married, My Safe comments to you, Immature, insecure, guys are a waste of your time. My wife would love that cubic heart its unique, Thank you Rachel for the heads up, Success and health for you and your family.
What I don’t like in this generation, being the generation itself or even wanna date the people within this generation is that one obvious thing that everyone has nowadays. Like how you love instant gratification, scrolling through social media, have no patience, that is the typical attitude that I found in most guys. They do not understand patience. And since I understand myself more than anyone, and do a lot of reflection, I am the type who needs to be patient with cultivating feelings. I do not like to rush things. But it seems that’s the only thing (the guys I’ve met, so it’s not like all guys) I’ve kept bumping into. And people seems can’t take a no for an answer or it’ll be instant ghosting. Like, dude, what?
The classic manipulative call opener "what are you doing?" If you say "nothing", then they want you to hang out or do something now that you got rid of any excuse up front.
I do not speak on anyone's favor, but I feel the boy was trying to show his interest and maybe he really liked her. It's obvious when we like someone , we wish to talk or hear from them more. But he tried to win her affection by asking her to show interest and getting her to show him affection through sympathy when he said he was jealous. The simple rule is don't ask anything, if they want they will give that affection and attention to you. If you do ask , let it be direct , like she said talk it out.
Yo bb girl, don’t think too much of red flags and greens flags cuz you’ll end single for ever,is good to know what u want but it’s always the unpected one, what attracts me is ppl necks, idk why the longer neck the better,
We man and You woman looking all the same things - difference just game rules and cultural backgrlund. From western countries man we express love differently - hug, kiss re places thousands of words, however its not accepted in Your country...😊 Being togather needs affection, respect and time - at least ❤ looking for a close soul challanging būt if found - reward is great .😊❤
Im not the type to really be like oooh red flag oh green flag, cuz some be might be as holes at first then as time gos by ppl change, tbh, if I see a red flag like ppl say I’ll try it some ppl like fucked up relationships that’s how Expirience things now and day,
I always hated people who dated me, knowing I was not their ideal type, then, they try to take the "broken" me and fix me. Yes I know this grammar is horrible.
I watched the last video, that dude is insane and you dodged a bullet. Even thinking about it now I can see how stressed you are, this dude is stressful AF as a person. Learn from this and use that to get in a healthy relationship, it ain’t that dude
Sounds like a guy i once met and we both agreed that we are not each other’s type 🤣 then he said that because I didn’t know one specific language he won’t date me .. I said well you not talk so I don’t date short guys 🤣 of course it was a lie a don’t really think about that things but I wanted to get back at him too. It was like when I was 15 yo I’m still laughing about that 🤣
OMG, I'm dating someone and he has 3 red flags..... I was just thinking about it as if was just something in my mind but after this, I need to end. he also has some problems with his family. Problems that he always talks about it in parts seems like he wants to confuse me :/
I do kind of get that man - hands are important to me. Can't date a girl with thick man hands. Definitely a strange topic of conversation though - I wouldn't bring that up especially early on.
Isn't that how korean men act though? Every detail you described is mentioned by foreigners when dating in Korea... I thought korean women would be fine with it.
Hard and fast come ons rarely work, but they guy you're talking about... Feeling like he doesn't get to meet other people a lot... Or at all 😂 you didn't deserve to feel guilty I went on a date, once... She kept talking about the other people she had been with and I'm like... This isn't endearing me to you... Another person kept comparing me to someone else, oh you're so much better than xyz... Like, not what I want to be thinking about right now, thanks... So, I don't do dating, 33 and single, next 77 years are going to be fun! 😂 Change for no one, never
A korean guy lovebombed me online, after a few days this was not normal, turns out he was a catfish and using someone elses picture. Thankfully i caught on fast and did not share too personal information. Be careful ladies. Thankfully this guy was stupid enough to not keep his own storyline consistent and turns out he was born in two different states of the US. I mean yeah one can forget where he was born right. 😂 and i even told him i suspected him to be a catfish and he lied straight to my face. First catfish i come across with and it was super weird!
Signs of a simp aka beta. Neediness to seek validation, No personal life other than love, Showing off, Immature, Controlling, Jeolousy. Iam glad you made the right decision.
You definitely dodged a bullet Rachel! I remember at a party, before asking my name, a girl telling me for 10 minutes how guys called Chris are cursed 🤣 I think I was her red flag 🤣 never seen anyone leave so fast before 😂😂
he just sounds really insecure. probably needed constant validation and that's why was trying to be on your good side by going over the top with his feelings. and asking you to validate himself with your attention and attention from other people. kinda feel bad for the guy, hope he figures himself out. and glad you escaped, he doesn't seem ready for a real relationship
Talking about a private issue in a public video on RUclips is a red flag for someone who spreads gossip about others who may not wish their details to be spread over the internet. Now people in the comments who don't even know the man are unfairly judging someone they don't even know based on something they heard someone else say. Some of the comments are pretty cruel too. Honestly, you don't know the man's personality type and yet you are publicly judging someone for showing his way of expressing his feelings. Afterall, you said you only saw him 2 times over 2 weeks. Can you really understand someone in that timespan to judge them, and publicly at that? As an INFJ, this type of judgement against someone you don't know very well is pretty unsettling as I realize most people in this world unfairly judge people quickly without even knowing them. This video seems more of a justification for your own actions as it seems he's still on your mind and you haven't moved on from it. 9:10 I can't help but notice the irony with my previous sentence. 12:14 -12:50 sounds super cringey in context of a self validation for a self assessment vs a neutral 3rd party assessment. I watch all the videos you post, but a few times a year you post some videos that leave me 🤦♂️ thinking "why Rachel why? Why did you expose yourself by making a video like this?" Not only that, but you made it a sponsored video too. I'm a little disappointed in this one Rachel. That you'll take an opportunity to monetize off of gossip.
Yep I agree with ya. Sadly I've been a fan of her content, she has always posted great informative videos, and mostly about nature, because I relate to that being a nature lover myself, but do have to say, and I too hate spreading, and being involved in gossip, that there are just some videos that also left me confused in the dark, and made me completely not understand anything if at all. I get that she's explaining her dating experience, and that's fine, but then dragging someone in that you barely know them, and assuming them for what they really are is very uncalled for. Thank you for helping me open up my eyes, and speaking the truth of these people's personalities. I'm going to start being more careful, and will pay more attention to the utmost specific details, they make in their videos, to just make sure they really are saying what they mean. No hate at all on Rachel, I like her videos and admire her for them, but please be careful when mentioning and making comments towards other people, no one likes and wants to be put right on the spot.
You 2 are really something else. You act like she's naming and shaming him when she's only talking about her personal experience and warning other people. You 2 sound like red flags honestly.
@@lilkitten545 being accepting of gossip is just as unclassy and despicable as spreading gossip. Only gossipers guise their gossip as a warning to others. Nothing was spoken of that people can take wisdom of out of her experience. It's on another level to monetize off of gossip without the other person's consent. It's not like we are talking about celebrities here, and Korea has strict defamation laws for a reason. If anything, the people involved know about it and she did identify him as being a part of her hiking group. Say people in that group see this video and put the pieces together and spread this gossip around and then the guy becomes known with a certain predisposition because of a false testimony given after only 2 meetings.
Just saw this now. Sounds to me like he wanted to couple up ASAP so he could have sex and when you weren't on the same track, he got upset. So all that was trying to get you to be interested in him so...he could have sex. Too bad some people can't just come out and say it. Hope you have better luck. :D
Hmmm, Red Flags? Sort of sounds like a rant, but go for it. He really did sound like a goof. You deserve better. By the way I like the bit of blond in your hair, looks good.
Honestly it sounds like you were not compatible, he seem clingy and expressive of his thoughts. You obviously aren't, some women love the attention, some are annoyed. Some women like the compliments and constant texting.. Some of your red flags are other women's complaints men don't do enough.. Atleast here in the West.
Girl you messed up when you told him what you look for in a man. NEVER answer that question when a man asks. Just say “I’ll know what I want or am looking for in a man when I meet him.” Because if you tell them the truth, they’ll pretend to be exactly that to manipulate you.
thanks for the advice in general
Best way to answer this question
Man: what are you looking for in a guy
Me: someone that's not you 👀
* Just kidding *
yep, learned that the hard way.
@@rebacathek-popfan7950 Man: "oh okay, bye". LoL JK, 😉
So true! A guy once asked my full type of guy and how i would like my date to be. Slowly I caught on and did not go on that date. It was so weird.
He seems manipulative, by what you said about him, you literally dodged a bullet, he is a walking red flag, dipped in red color..
I was quite shocked when you said this all happened within 2 weeks, but it's kinda good that he show it from the start, so you could notice red flags and act on it, some people act normal and you start noticing bad traits of them after few months or more... anyway better luck next time.
..."someone that is healthy for you" .. i love that line. thank you
You tell a story well. Watching you tell the story makes them more interesting. Stay well. 😎
Rachel's Korean accent seems to have gotten stronger compared to a few years ago, it's interesting
He seems like he was very clingy & almost like he was on a deadline of some sort to be in a relationship, that is scary as well. Glad you steered clear, don't need that drama llama in your life. Hoping for brighter and better new relationships and friendships! :)
Omg I have a friend on discord who will randomly just say "hi" and then I say hi back and he just ALWAYS says "what are you doing?" And then I reply and ask him what he's doing back and he always says "looking for something to do because I'm bored"
?? Ok? What do you want me to do about it? You being bored is not my problem 😭 it's literally the same exact exchange every time. I used to recommend things for him to do but he would always turn them all down so I just give up and say "oh that sucks" and leave it there. It's not my job to entertain ya, buddy
You definitely hit on everything I was thinking 🚩You did great! I agree on ideal types, more about being comfortable with someone than have certain expectations. I’m just me, and I want them to be them, and I’d rather like a person for who they are.
Reminds me of an episode on Jo Jo's Bizarre Adventures when this guy would find girls that he liked for their hands and he would get rid of the girl and carry around just her hand in his lunch bag. He'd talk to it and even gave it an engagement ring. This is really freaky and all this happened only from four dates and phone calls. Imagine when he does actually fall in love, it will be very scary for that girl to leave.
i also like looking at male hands but its not the entire thing, so i dont know what to say just like some people have different fetish i too have hands fetish you know but i would say its not the end of the all of the things a person could have i like what i like but there is also a room for other things phyically i like male pretty hands and plus i want emotional healthy connection as well so i couldnt relate to how that was a red flag, if you know how i would love to listen to you
Take time don't rush. Everything will fall in place. If someone doesn't fit your bill, no point wasting time on him. God bless you and your family.
I haven’t seen the first video yet, but how did you encounter such a narcissist person lol. As you said yourself it is good that you saw the red flags and weren’t blinded by appearance or so. Although I must admit that the 5 am message killed me haha
I just searched "Red flag korean" to get results about 적기가 (korean version of british communist song), but got there. What a moment...
Thanks for the tips. You did the right thing by leaving him. If its not right, Its not right. The next one will be better.
idk but whenever you put out a video and chat with us it's like you are my best friend or sister talking to me and I love the feeling. Love you Rachel
That heart pendant looks amazing!
Never feel guilty!!! Never!! If a man doesn't respect your boundries while you are working!! No!! Let him go!! He doesn't respect your space and your time of work, he doesn't respect you!! And that's a red flag. Five flags?? I would've stopped at 3. Yes, you dodged a bullet.
I like listening to you tell stories. There's something calming about the way you talk. :)
Hi Rachel, it sounds like you had a lucky escape. Don't become a collector of red flags! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 I can relate to you, as Ive experienced a few of these from my past, too. I hope to approach relationships differently, with more certainty and confidence, in the future. (I'm going to watch your previous video now to get more of the back story, haha 😄). Thanks for sharing. From Lisa (England, UK 🇬🇧✌️😊)
Just be you 😊 if people are just different then you, then accept you are the different people. My wife is exactly the same as me. I don't have to explain about how I feel. She just understands me.
"I like girls who have pretty hands". It's like to say "I like girls who have hands"
He's clearly insecure and needs constant validation to satisfy his ego. His micromanagement of everything you did and said shows that he's so unsatisfied with himself that he feels the need to "control" others. He also has a very outdated mindset. It's true that the older generation tends to pay attention to certain things like the "beauty of a woman's hands" as part of "wife requirements," but that is a medieval concept. He needs therapy. 😂
This video is also looking for validation. We wouldn't know about it if she didn't expose anything publicly. She's the one spreading drama and gossip now.
@@KBowWow75 She didn't say his name or anything that would id him so no, she's not spreading anything.
@@lilkitten545 you don't need to name names to be considered guilty of spreading false testimony and be labelled as a false witness in a court of law. That precedent is true in the real world. Much gossip uses false names to protect the identity of the actual person. That does not mean it in still not gossip.
Dang, that guy rose all the red flags...You may not have realized but even within the one you described, there were more red flags (like being jealous or manipulative, for example). lolol
And btw, I agree with you, based on what you explained, it seems like he might be narcissistic.
Also, as I watched the video, I realized I had a gf that rose at least three of those flags too. She was extremely passionate about us (like way too much), telling me "I love you" all-the-time and expecting me to reply accordingly. Obviously, not complying lead to the big drama of "you don't love me! Blablabla."
She was extremely aggressive on the phone calls, sometimes calling me in the middle of the night for seemingly no reason.
And just like in your experience, she was terrible at communicating and extremely jealous.
She had to use my phone to call her sister, one day and made sure to delete her number from the history...Like, come on! lolol
I spent 2 years with her at the end and if being with that guy was even remotely similar to being with my ex, believe me, you've got nothing to regret, you dodged the bullet I took right in the face and it was not a good time.
Thanks for the great advice and observations. Also love the ear rings and hair highlights.
Pretty hands? Yes, you did dodge a bullet!!!
You're reactions while saying those things was so cute 😊
Sounds like he wanted a doll to play with than a partner in life. Glad he come out early with it so you didn't waste to match of your time on him.
Omg!! He is a child and needy as hell. Im glad he already shown you all of that right away. I would already block him on 1st reason. You are too nice and have patience. He is one of reason why I like to spend time alone being annoyed by someone like that
I had this one guy I was seeing and he would call me abd I have phone anxiety. He would literally call me to tell me some stupid anecdote about his friend cleaning the sink now rather than waiting til later and turning it into a philosophy about a relationship.
I tried to tell him something to get off the phone, but I couldn't get a word in edgewise. I ended up hanging up after like an hour of him rambling on. It was so frustrating
Have an amazing day and God bless you Rachel 🙏
Hi! I'm early today 👁️👁️✨
Rachel 100% RUN 🏃♂️ Being Married, My Safe comments to you, Immature, insecure, guys are a waste of your time. My wife would love that cubic heart its unique, Thank you Rachel for the heads up, Success and health for you and your family.
Thanks for the video 💜💙🤍💜💙🤍
Sounds a lil bit like me without the hands part
I think you might prefer to try to date a really good male friend you know well rather than a total stranger. Best of luck, Rachel!
I'm surprised it lasted past the first date. Ha Ha Ha. Best wishes as always. 😁😁😁🍀👍
What I don’t like in this generation, being the generation itself or even wanna date the people within this generation is that one obvious thing that everyone has nowadays. Like how you love instant gratification, scrolling through social media, have no patience, that is the typical attitude that I found in most guys. They do not understand patience. And since I understand myself more than anyone, and do a lot of reflection, I am the type who needs to be patient with cultivating feelings. I do not like to rush things. But it seems that’s the only thing (the guys I’ve met, so it’s not like all guys) I’ve kept bumping into. And people seems can’t take a no for an answer or it’ll be instant ghosting. Like, dude, what?
Yep, that one sounds best avoided.
Force to entertain sounds like the roles were reverse. Rachel was the guy and he was the lady
He did sound super needy and controlling. Good job on bailing out!
You do have cute hands though. LOL!!!😉
I like this video. Thank you.
The classic manipulative call opener "what are you doing?" If you say "nothing", then they want you to hang out or do something now that you got rid of any excuse up front.
I would simply say no to whatever favors they ask for, if that’s not what I’m willing to do.
I hope you find someone who is healthy for you!
Love your haircolor
I do not speak on anyone's favor, but I feel the boy was trying to show his interest and maybe he really liked her. It's obvious when we like someone , we wish to talk or hear from them more. But he tried to win her affection by asking her to show interest and getting her to show him affection through sympathy when he said he was jealous. The simple rule is don't ask anything, if they want they will give that affection and attention to you. If you do ask , let it be direct , like she said talk it out.
Yo bb girl, don’t think too much of red flags and greens flags cuz you’ll end single for ever,is good to know what u want but it’s always the unpected one, what attracts me is ppl necks, idk why the longer neck the better,
We man and You woman looking all the same things - difference just game rules and cultural backgrlund. From western countries man we express love differently - hug, kiss re places thousands of words, however its not accepted in Your country...😊 Being togather needs affection, respect and time - at least ❤ looking for a close soul challanging būt if found - reward is great .😊❤
you looked very shocked when u were talking about heads like really hands🤣😕
I'm not interested in dating people but these videos are interesting themselves she also guessed my favorite color 😂
Dating is SCARY 😧
Er...not sure if this was on purpose but...red flag 5 on miscommunication was labelled/miscommunicated as 4
You can easily resume this relationship as a total different level of maturity, basically you were dating a child in a man's body.
Lol been a fan for one day and I go to the video early lol 😂
Was red flag #5 label meant to say #4? Or was it a spin or joke on bad communication?
Rachel, you say no. But the hands keep says yes.🤣 Headache after 2 dates. Is time to run.
Im not the type to really be like oooh red flag oh green flag, cuz some be might be as holes at first then as time gos by ppl change, tbh, if I see a red flag like ppl say I’ll try it some ppl like fucked up relationships that’s how Expirience things now and day,
He was super madly in love with her...
because she had pretty hands lol
I always hated people who dated me, knowing I was not their ideal type, then, they try to take the "broken" me and fix me. Yes I know this grammar is horrible.
I watched the last video, that dude is insane and you dodged a bullet. Even thinking about it now I can see how stressed you are, this dude is stressful AF as a person. Learn from this and use that to get in a healthy relationship, it ain’t that dude
CLASSIC NARCISSIST! So glad you saw it so easily and got away. Some people do it more covertly.
Imagining the guy saying "Hey Rachel, what are you doing? Keeping those beautiful hands safe?" =p
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Sounds like a guy i once met and we both agreed that we are not each other’s type 🤣 then he said that because I didn’t know one specific language he won’t date me .. I said well you not talk so I don’t date short guys 🤣 of course it was a lie a don’t really think about that things but I wanted to get back at him too. It was like when I was 15 yo I’m still laughing about that 🤣
제가 여자와 데이트 하며 겪은 상황을 거의 다 겪으셨네요.
I remember I met korean guy.When he held my hand he said why yiour hand is too small😅😅
Red is your favourite colour?? Doesn't matter, RUN!!
OMG, I'm dating someone and he has 3 red flags..... I was just thinking about it as if was just something in my mind but after this, I need to end. he also has some problems with his family. Problems that he always talks about it in parts seems like he wants to confuse me :/
I do kind of get that man - hands are important to me. Can't date a girl with thick man hands. Definitely a strange topic of conversation though - I wouldn't bring that up especially early on.
I believe that nobody's perfect
OMG GIRL I KNOW THIS TYPE OF GUY SO WELL. This must be a universal Creep kind of a man child that inhabits all parts of this world, brrr
*gets off the plane in the wrong Korea*
"MAN. Look at all these red flags, aren't they beautiful"
Rachel .. you are my dream BFF
and I've never truly had one
when I come to korea I wish if I could meet you
*me in a three year old secure and loving relationship with no practical use for this advice*
Interesting...👀
Isn't that how korean men act though? Every detail you described is mentioned by foreigners when dating in Korea... I thought korean women would be fine with it.
Korean man are treats girls like kids especially if u r younger than him..... glad you can escape that man, hope i can escape mine too.... 😩
Sounds like you dodged a bullet. A Narcissistic person is hard work.
*Watch out for a guy named kim, i heard he likes nuclear weapons.*
Hard and fast come ons rarely work, but they guy you're talking about... Feeling like he doesn't get to meet other people a lot... Or at all 😂
you didn't deserve to feel guilty
I went on a date, once... She kept talking about the other people she had been with and I'm like... This isn't endearing me to you... Another person kept comparing me to someone else, oh you're so much better than xyz... Like, not what I want to be thinking about right now, thanks... So, I don't do dating, 33 and single, next 77 years are going to be fun! 😂
Change for no one, never
Yay! New content! This dude sounds more and more annoying every time I hear this story. Hope you don’t run into him anymore.
What if he watches your youtube channel?? Oh man... the drama....
A korean guy lovebombed me online, after a few days this was not normal, turns out he was a catfish and using someone elses picture. Thankfully i caught on fast and did not share too personal information. Be careful ladies. Thankfully this guy was stupid enough to not keep his own storyline consistent and turns out he was born in two different states of the US. I mean yeah one can forget where he was born right. 😂 and i even told him i suspected him to be a catfish and he lied straight to my face. First catfish i come across with and it was super weird!
good idea
Its good you got out! I dont know why some korean men really push the relationship down a womens throat!
Signs of a simp aka beta. Neediness to seek validation, No personal life other than love, Showing off, Immature, Controlling, Jeolousy. Iam glad you made the right decision.
He's actually very insecure about his own self-worth. Overt jealousy and wanting to connect at every moment are two of the clear signs of insecurity
You definitely dodged a bullet Rachel! I remember at a party, before asking my name, a girl telling me for 10 minutes how guys called Chris are cursed 🤣 I think I was her red flag 🤣 never seen anyone leave so fast before 😂😂
3:40 he could date Thing from Addams Family
Sounds just like one of my exes 😂
he just sounds really insecure. probably needed constant validation and that's why was trying to be on your good side by going over the top with his feelings. and asking you to validate himself with your attention and attention from other people. kinda feel bad for the guy, hope he figures himself out. and glad you escaped, he doesn't seem ready for a real relationship
Am I the only one curious about the word you weren’t supposed to use? 😅
U look like Jisoo from blackpink 💜
hehehe you said that you have an ideal type, guys have that too but that guy was talking BS.....
Talking about a private issue in a public video on RUclips is a red flag for someone who spreads gossip about others who may not wish their details to be spread over the internet. Now people in the comments who don't even know the man are unfairly judging someone they don't even know based on something they heard someone else say. Some of the comments are pretty cruel too.
Honestly, you don't know the man's personality type and yet you are publicly judging someone for showing his way of expressing his feelings. Afterall, you said you only saw him 2 times over 2 weeks. Can you really understand someone in that timespan to judge them, and publicly at that? As an INFJ, this type of judgement against someone you don't know very well is pretty unsettling as I realize most people in this world unfairly judge people quickly without even knowing them. This video seems more of a justification for your own actions as it seems he's still on your mind and you haven't moved on from it. 9:10 I can't help but notice the irony with my previous sentence. 12:14 -12:50 sounds super cringey in context of a self validation for a self assessment vs a neutral 3rd party assessment.
I watch all the videos you post, but a few times a year you post some videos that leave me 🤦♂️ thinking "why Rachel why? Why did you expose yourself by making a video like this?" Not only that, but you made it a sponsored video too. I'm a little disappointed in this one Rachel. That you'll take an opportunity to monetize off of gossip.
Yep I agree with ya. Sadly I've been a fan of her content, she has always posted great informative videos, and mostly about nature, because I relate to that being a nature lover myself, but do have to say, and I too hate spreading, and being involved in gossip, that there are just some videos that also left me confused in the dark, and made me completely not understand anything if at all. I get that she's explaining her dating experience, and that's fine, but then dragging someone in that you barely know them, and assuming them for what they really are is very uncalled for. Thank you for helping me open up my eyes, and speaking the truth of these people's personalities. I'm going to start being more careful, and will pay more attention to the utmost specific details, they make in their videos, to just make sure they really are saying what they mean. No hate at all on Rachel, I like her videos and admire her for them, but please be careful when mentioning and making comments towards other people, no one likes and wants to be put right on the spot.
You 2 are really something else. You act like she's naming and shaming him when she's only talking about her personal experience and warning other people. You 2 sound like red flags honestly.
@@lilkitten545 being accepting of gossip is just as unclassy and despicable as spreading gossip. Only gossipers guise their gossip as a warning to others. Nothing was spoken of that people can take wisdom of out of her experience. It's on another level to monetize off of gossip without the other person's consent. It's not like we are talking about celebrities here, and Korea has strict defamation laws for a reason. If anything, the people involved know about it and she did identify him as being a part of her hiking group. Say people in that group see this video and put the pieces together and spread this gossip around and then the guy becomes known with a certain predisposition because of a false testimony given after only 2 meetings.
@@lilkitten545 Me? As a red flag? Sure I haven't ever been in a relationship, but doesn't gossiping fall under as a narcissistic trait?
I like when girls have pretty hands. Feminine hands are cute. Not the reason I like a girl but it's.one of those weird bonuses when they have it.
Feminine hands are a sign of nurturing.
You saw them twice but went on 4 dates? How... The math... 🤯😂
Are you Chinese or overseas Chinese living in in Korea?! Are you really Korean?!
Why ?
Dang. :/
I've never felt so 'victim'.
Just saw this now. Sounds to me like he wanted to couple up ASAP so he could have sex and when you weren't on the same track, he got upset. So all that was trying to get you to be interested in him so...he could have sex. Too bad some people can't just come out and say it. Hope you have better luck. :D
Hmmm, Red Flags? Sort of sounds like a rant, but go for it. He really did sound like a goof. You deserve better. By the way I like the bit of blond in your hair, looks good.
Honestly it sounds like you were not compatible, he seem clingy and expressive of his thoughts. You obviously aren't, some women love the attention, some are annoyed. Some women like the compliments and constant texting.. Some of your red flags are other women's complaints men don't do enough.. Atleast here in the West.