Women are taught to try harder, be mindful of his feelings and work on the relationship. Women should instead be taught that they are allowed to abandon the guy, break the relationship and to walk away.
Men do it all the time !!! Sometimes they regret it for rest of their lives!!! Best thing to do is think long and hard before you do that!!! These are the ones they are looking for newest dopamine hit and rush of beggingins! They haven’t a clue that it will always go away! Then the really good part happens with comfort and then communication for an amazing sx life but they all on to next super fast! Intimacy and deep connection is profoundly amazing!
No, I just think some men are stingy and greedy. I mean that is in a society some winner that way too it’s not really about not seeing our value. They’re just stingy and greedy later on down the road they see the value of the table or maybe they don’t because they didn’t see everything we brought to the table always hold your cards close.😂😂. I don’t bring out my best until I know they’re in a committed relationship and they’re gonna stick by my side. It’s not all BS. It takes time to figure out.
That's true, but that's not how we are taught to be as women or what is ingrained in us by society/religion as it relates to men. The world is run by man & relationships are male-centered. Dress it up how you want, but if you truly understand that, you can decide whether marriage is for you or not.
*leave if he refuses to talk. about it. * leave if hes unwilling to spend money on you. *leave if hes disrespectful of you and your oponions. * leave if he dismisses your feelings. Sadly ive accepted and tolerated behaviors like this in my younger years. I just cant do it any longer. I leave fast these days.
When you learn and heal the parts of you that attract those toxic people and experiences, you will stop attracting all of it. You will only get those same lessons again in new people until you heal and learn the lessons. It literally all starts with you. The only way out, is in 💜
You don’r have to be hurt to attract the wrong people. You just have to be attractive to them. Looking good, being kind, being friendly, etc., attract all kinds of people including the wrong ones. Lack of experience and not having had relationships modelled to you are not what I would call being hurt and needing to heal. Sounds like victim blaming to me. It’s a lottery at the beginning. Rarely is the first man you date right for you. Or even the second or the third.
@@Gomba13exactly. I've said the same. I hate the like attract like theory for love. It is not always true. Many times it's not amd puts the blame on the victim as you said.
12:47 He was doing all that you mentioned, so I left him. He later pursued my former female roommate when I left town. She did not want him as a boy friend, so 6 months later when I came back, he wanted to come back to me. I refused. The best decision I made.
I tried expressing myself he told me get TF out his car. I just want to focus on my career & myself later for love, I’m tired of jerks & unloving people cursing at me, I never raised my voice or said one curse word. I ask him not to curse & get upset then he says I’m trying to change him people is crazy smh 😂
Damn did you tell him you didn’t like that? If yall just started talking he probably could have thought the best way to go about that was to just give you some space. I hope you communicated before you just dropped him damn lol
So, I've been talking to this guy for a week. He talks a good game, but his words does not align with actions. He talking bout some i want us to be friends, then ima make you my girl then my wife. Boy, bye. I blocked him. He's not emotionally available, not even for a friendship. Dont ever waste my time. God is my man
That’s something to clarify when you start dating, not something to assume for a year and a half. I tell men right from the start what I want and what I don’t. A simple, efficient way to avoid wasting your time.
Eventually what happens in situations mentioned in this video is that a person gets tired and leave...well that is if a person self esteem isn't super low.
What is not talked about enough, the amount of hurt/unhealed men. Men have trauma, then are trained to repress it. Black men are targeted in American society. We need to give Black men grace. Just NOT damage ourselves in the process. Be kind, but not dumb. In other words; DON'T GET USED!
GOD BLESS YOU, your videos have been such a blessing to me, I spent my life married until my last husbands death. This dating game is taxing, you have been a tremendous help. I have met a very nice, respectful man, I know for God to send me the right man, I have to be ready to receive him.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
But again looking at this from another angle , men sometimes engage in these behaviours on purpose to get rid of a stubborn woman who fails to accept that this guy really and truly is not in love with her
Often extremely abusive men will initially love bomb and target a woman who really loves them and take their abusive ways into the relationship with her which is hard for her to leave. She is hurt and confused. This happened to me. A few months in I looked on his phone and my contact was ‘pain in the ass’. He thought this was really funny, in fact he made a joke out of our whole marriage, name calling.He did a lot of damage. He used the f word like a teenage boy continually in conversations. He bullied me to spend my money. He backstabbed me to family and friends , making me look like someone I wasn’t. I paid the bills for 14 years until he got a real job, and he rewarded me by cheating and falling in love with other women. It took a lot of abuse for me to fall out of love with him,but I’m free of it, I don’t even call it a relationship, I call it a bullshit.
I cannot be in a relationship with any man that cannot communicate properly with me. I’d be gone or better yet I won’t get with a man like that at all. Huge red flag to me especially after my first bf. That was a lesson I learned the hard way!
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Ladies, you are valuable, your time, yourself value, dont put up with toxic men, user type men, when you get rid of them, quickly, consistantly, GOD WILL SEND YOU THE ONE.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Social media is important. I walked away because his “ friend” was messaging him in the middle of the night. There is no explanation that can work for this
The woes that comes with being a relationship counselor. I guess careers comes with it's ups and downs. Sometimes I get lyrical block when I compose my songs. Like 😖 😅
There's not one moment where I'll play games with these men out here! I'll tell a man ONCE what I do and don't like, if you test what I don't like, you're showing me that you don't respect my boundaries or me. Therefore, YOU ARE GONE! UNAPOLOGETICALLY KICKING YOUR A$$ TO THE CURB!
Sooner or later many will come to the realization on the negative influences social media has dumped on relationships,and on the flip side if there,s no MONEY then there will be no me 😂 plain and simple
Guys I need relationship advice.. I’ve just started dating a medical doctor and we havnt seen each other for three weeks due to his work situation, he is consistent in communication but I miss him and I need to see him.. please advise hw can this be addressed
Thats a doctor. They work long hours then go sleep then work especially if he is just starting out. Ask any wife of a doctor it takes years to be at a place where they can take time off. If he is an intern thats normal or an ER doctor but if hes over a certain age thats a red flag.
Communication is always key maybe try to talk to him about your feelings use "I" statements to express how you feel and maybe you and him can find a way to spend time with each other. There's gotta be times when he's available but yeah I would just tell him how you feel and maybe make plans to spend time with each other when you and him are available. This advice might not be helpful but I tried 🙂
I'm actually thinking a good advanced alien is the way to go because not sure human men can be rescued from the programming and conditioning of the crazy dating world.
I super appreciate you here as like the big brother I never had It's good to hear these things, especially from a guy Also, as a girl who does believe it's noble for me to pay my fair share, I do appreciate your perspective on the money too This does also explain why a guy will finally change after you leave ~ cuz it stopped being tolerated I am definitely too much & complicated though - they gotta be cool with that. I have many good qualities but I'm also like a Russian novel, that ain't gonna change Sometimes I feel like I actually need you to coach me and my mom lol
Let me say this, women who stay in a relationship and complain about these issues is because the attachment style they have. @Stephan you can talk about this a little bit too 😊
.👂🙏I don't watch your video. For the coaching, I watched 4 the human inhumanity. Being lovingly expressed from a man's point of view, so no complaints just appreciation for as a woman. Your teachings are now my lifestyle and have been for a whilenow. I appreciate. Happy Thanksgiving to all and to all a loving🤲 and happy 🤗holiday.
That implies having an inefficient life, where you change partners all the time. A wasted life. If you have not seen or met such men- the one who would not spend - and even worse; expect-- you must go to Paris. I’ve never met a Parisian man who is not going 50-50
1:50 A Horrible Communicater
5:10 He Won't Spend Money
9:25 Disrespectful To You
16:12 Dismissing Your Feelings
Thank you!
YOU ARE THE REAL MVP! ❤️👏🏾
Thank you for sharing ❤️
This was very helpful list and time
Thank you❤❤
Women are taught to try harder, be mindful of his feelings and work on the relationship. Women should instead be taught that they are allowed to abandon the guy, break the relationship and to walk away.
Yes, I want everyone to do what is truly best for them, but really I would love everyone to do what God truly wants them to do
@@MeetStephanSpeaks❤❤❤
Men do it all the time !!! Sometimes they regret it for rest of their lives!!! Best thing to do is think long and hard before you do that!!!
Men do it all the time !!! Sometimes they regret it for rest of their lives!!! Best thing to do is think long and hard before you do that!!! These are the ones they are looking for newest dopamine hit and rush of beggingins! They haven’t a clue that it will always go away! Then the really good part happens with comfort and then communication for an amazing sx life but they all on to next super fast! Intimacy and deep connection is profoundly amazing!
No, I just think some men are stingy and greedy. I mean that is in a society some winner that way too it’s not really about not seeing our value. They’re just stingy and greedy later on down the road they see the value of the table or maybe they don’t because they didn’t see everything we brought to the table always hold your cards close.😂😂. I don’t bring out my best until I know they’re in a committed relationship and they’re gonna stick by my side. It’s not all BS. It takes time to figure out.
*"You Teach People How To Treat You!"*
~ Dr. Phil 💡💡💡
💯❤️
That's true, but that's not how we are taught to be as women or what is ingrained in us by society/religion as it relates to men. The world is run by man & relationships are male-centered. Dress it up how you want, but if you truly understand that, you can decide whether marriage is for you or not.
Well said stephan tfs
*leave if he refuses to talk. about it. * leave if hes unwilling to spend money on you. *leave if hes disrespectful of you and your oponions. * leave if he dismisses your feelings. Sadly ive accepted and tolerated behaviors like this in my younger years. I just cant do it any longer. I leave fast these days.
When you learn and heal the parts of you that attract those toxic people and experiences, you will stop attracting all of it. You will only get those same lessons again in new people until you heal and learn the lessons. It literally all starts with you.
The only way out, is in 💜
🙏❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks 🙌💙
You don’r have to be hurt to attract the wrong people. You just have to be attractive to them. Looking good, being kind, being friendly, etc., attract all kinds of people including the wrong ones. Lack of experience and not having had relationships modelled to you are not what I would call being hurt and needing to heal. Sounds like victim blaming to me. It’s a lottery at the beginning. Rarely is the first man you date right for you. Or even the second or the third.
Not necessarily. If you're attractive you attract all types. It's not necessarily anything you haven't healed.
@@Gomba13exactly. I've said the same. I hate the like attract like theory for love. It is not always true. Many times it's not amd puts the blame on the victim as you said.
12:47 He was doing all that you mentioned, so I left him. He later pursued my former female roommate when I left town. She did not want him as a boy friend, so 6 months later when I came back, he wanted to come back to me. I refused. The best decision I made.
Karma is a bitch 😁
Great Advice Stephan, Thanks for sharing~ Being patient ~ hoping he’ll Change~ He WON’T ~ Walk away with Your Own Value~
My pleasure
I tried expressing myself he told me get TF out his car. I just want to focus on my career & myself later for love, I’m tired of jerks & unloving people cursing at me, I never raised my voice or said one curse word. I ask him not to curse & get upset then he says I’m trying to change him people is crazy smh 😂
Tactical missile dodged ghost tf out of him.
Oh my! 🙏
Permit me to say some men are as fierce as wild animals
😳WE NEED TO LEAVE TOXIC PEOPLE FOR TOXIC PEOPLE. 🙏🏾 TRUST GOD WITH ME THAT HE HAS SOMEONE SO MUCH BETTER FOR US🙌🏾! ❤
My ex said I was tryna police him when I told him to please be respectful but if u got mad he was quick to say the same. Crazy..
He disppeared for four days when I told him my best friend passed away. Beginning of the end.
Oh wow! That’s horrible 😢
Not making excuses for him or anyone, but I do know that some people don’t know how to handle situations like that
Damn did you tell him you didn’t like that? If yall just started talking he probably could have thought the best way to go about that was to just give you some space. I hope you communicated before you just dropped him damn lol
Maybe he assumed you would want some space. I know a guy like that, thinks negative things are a reason to go quiet for a while.
@@-._.-KRiS-._.- he should have communicated that tho
Excellent evaluation of how society is on one hand more easily offended and on the other even more toxic than before
Thank you 🙏
I just walked away. No texts, calls, and never take me out. I did all that for him. He is playing mind game. I deserve better. 😭😔
I pray God sends you the right one 🙏
@MeetStephanSpeaks
Thank you, my brother. 🥹
UNWILLINGNESS TO WORK ON HIMSELF AND CHANGE !!!!! WALK AWAY
A man treasure is where his heart at period 👌👌
Indeed
So, I've been talking to this guy for a week. He talks a good game, but his words does not align with actions. He talking bout some i want us to be friends, then ima make you my girl then my wife. Boy, bye. I blocked him. He's not emotionally available, not even for a friendship. Dont ever waste my time. God is my man
Walked away after 1.5 years ...he told me he had no intentions on marriage ....I want that one day ...
That’s something to clarify when you start dating, not something to assume for a year and a half. I tell men right from the start what I want and what I don’t. A simple, efficient way to avoid wasting your time.
Xoxo❤ I can’t wait to be strong enough! Thank you for being my biggest support! I look forward to you each day! Love from Guyana 🇬🇾
Thank you for watching! 🙏
Thanks stephen for the good advice i definitely need to hear this before i start dating again...
youre right, it never gets better, you let things go till you break , then you can’t take it anymore, essentially youve just wasted your time
Eventually what happens in situations mentioned in this video is that a person gets tired and leave...well that is if a person self esteem isn't super low.
🙏
Great advice keeping it real Stephan....🙂
Thank you for watching
What is not talked about enough, the amount of hurt/unhealed men. Men have trauma, then are trained to repress it. Black men are targeted in American society. We need to give Black men grace. Just NOT damage ourselves in the process. Be kind, but not dumb. In other words; DON'T GET USED!
I agree… perfect quote!
Excellent video, topics, & advice!
💯💯💯👏🏼❤️
Thank you so much 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaksyou’re welcome 👍🏼
I don't even ask why the fact he won't is enough for me and I'm done
GOD BLESS YOU, your videos have been such a blessing to me, I spent my life married until my last husbands death. This dating game is taxing, you have been a tremendous help. I have met a very nice, respectful man, I know for God to send me the right man, I have to be ready to receive him.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you sir. Happy Thanksgiving
This is great! Wonderful advice.
But again looking at this from another angle , men sometimes engage in
these behaviours on purpose to get rid of a stubborn woman who fails to
accept that this guy really and truly is not in love with her
Silly. That just means he's being lazy by not walking away from the relationship himself.
Sometimes this is jndeed the case
STEPHAN I'VE HAD #VERBAL ABUSE TO THE POINT WHERE I WAS CRYING AND UPSET AND I DIDN'T LIKE THAT 💯🤬
15:10 NEEEEED a conversagion abour social media. ASAP!!!
💯
Often extremely abusive men will initially love bomb and target a woman who really loves them and take their abusive ways into the relationship with her which is hard for her to leave. She is hurt and confused. This happened to me. A few months in I looked on his phone and my contact was ‘pain in the ass’. He thought this was really funny, in fact he made a joke out of our whole marriage, name calling.He did a lot of damage. He used the f word like a teenage boy continually in conversations. He bullied me to spend my money. He backstabbed me to family and friends , making me look like someone I wasn’t. I paid the bills for 14 years until he got a real job, and he rewarded me by cheating and falling in love with other women. It took a lot of abuse for me to fall out of love with him,but I’m free of it, I don’t even call it a relationship, I call it a bullshit.
I cannot be in a relationship with any man that cannot communicate properly with me. I’d be gone or better yet I won’t get with a man like that at all. Huge red flag to me especially after my first bf. That was a lesson I learned the hard way!
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Ladies, you are valuable, your time, yourself value, dont put up with toxic men, user type men, when you get rid of them, quickly, consistantly, GOD WILL SEND YOU THE ONE.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
YES ! ☺️ & that’s exactly what HE DID‼️🥰🙏🏽
Social media is important. I walked away because his “ friend” was messaging him in the middle of the night. There is no explanation that can work for this
Love it....
Thank you
The woes that comes with being a relationship counselor. I guess careers comes with it's ups and downs. Sometimes I get lyrical block when I compose my songs. Like 😖 😅
🙏
There's not one moment where I'll play games with these men out here! I'll tell a man ONCE what I do and don't like, if you test what I don't like, you're showing me that you don't respect my boundaries or me. Therefore, YOU ARE GONE! UNAPOLOGETICALLY KICKING YOUR A$$ TO THE CURB!
All these thi ngs he said are on point! I accepted so many things in my previous relationship because I didn't nip it in the butt from the very start!
Sooner or later many will come to the realization on the negative
influences social media has dumped on relationships,and on the flip side
if there,s no MONEY then there will be no me 😂 plain and simple
💯
And the negative influence of online dating as well! 😳👎
Guys I need relationship advice.. I’ve just started dating a medical doctor and we havnt seen each other for three weeks due to his work situation, he is consistent in communication but I miss him and I need to see him.. please advise hw can this be addressed
Thats a doctor. They work long hours then go sleep then work especially if he is just starting out. Ask any wife of a doctor it takes years to be at a place where they can take time off. If he is an intern thats normal or an ER doctor but if hes over a certain age thats a red flag.
Communication is always key maybe try to talk to him about your feelings use "I" statements to express how you feel and maybe you and him can find a way to spend time with each other. There's gotta be times when he's available but yeah I would just tell him how you feel and maybe make plans to spend time with each other when you and him are available. This advice might not be helpful but I tried 🙂
Pls allow him to miss u more and take the first move. Try ur best to only hug him light kiss no sex pls. Thank you
@ we’ve already had se**🙈🙈🙈🙈
I'm actually thinking a good advanced alien is the way to go because not sure human men can be rescued from the programming and conditioning of the crazy dating world.
😂🙏
@MeetStephanSpeaks lol 😆 👽
Thank you yes if they don't velue your presents then
..let it go
Elusive, Evavise
I super appreciate you here as like the big brother I never had
It's good to hear these things, especially from a guy
Also, as a girl who does believe it's noble for me to pay my fair share, I do appreciate your perspective on the money too
This does also explain why a guy will finally change after you leave ~ cuz it stopped being tolerated
I am definitely too much & complicated though - they gotta be cool with that. I have many good qualities but I'm also like a Russian novel, that ain't gonna change
Sometimes I feel like I actually need you to coach me and my mom lol
Let me say this, women who stay in a relationship and complain about these issues is because the attachment style they have. @Stephan you can talk about this a little bit too 😊
How do I get in touch with stephen
ANY man that refuses to spend money on me is out of my life! I refuse to put up with a man like that! End of the story!
One thing Stephan is going to ask is “why are you still with that man?”
.👂🙏I don't watch your video. For the coaching, I watched 4 the human inhumanity. Being lovingly expressed from a man's point of view, so no complaints just appreciation for as a woman. Your teachings are now my lifestyle and have been for a whilenow. I appreciate. Happy Thanksgiving to all and to all a loving🤲 and happy 🤗holiday.
That is awesome to hear, thank you ❤️
0:30 Children
Unfortunately very true
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That implies having an inefficient life, where you change partners all the time. A wasted life.
If you have not seen or met such men- the one who would not spend - and even worse; expect-- you must go to Paris. I’ve never met a Parisian man who is not going 50-50
Well dont stick around ? Fine but its my house & he wont leave !
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A public sidebar announcement futurethe artist sayed in the past. 😇I wanna say 2018 2019 mask👻😈🤡💀 off. OK..!!!!!#come 🫡on 🤗
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Pick a hair style dude