Ask The Unfaithful Episode 20: 10 Reasons Why the Unfaithful Self Sabotage

Have you ever wondered, as an unfaithful, "Why do I keep doing this?" "Why do I keep getting in my own way?" "Why is it that no matter what I do, I eventually just make decisions that sabotage my life?" If you've ever struggled with these thoughts and more just like it, you're in luck as today we dive deep into why we unfaithful self-sabotage. Maybe you're a betrayed and you've been left wondering to yourself "Why does my unfaithful keep doing this?" "Why can't they see what they are in danger of losing and why can't they see how good they have it here, with me.....with us" While not an easy topic, it's a riveting topic to discuss and understand both as hosts and as former unfaithful spouses who are on the other side of self-sabotage. But what does it actually look like to self-sabotage? What are the symptoms and what are the signs? And.....can the unfaithful actually stop self-sabotaging and find a sense of safety and consistency in life and repair work? If they can in fact stop, how can they actually find new life, new hope and new momentum in both their own life and their relationship? Today we'll provide answers to these questions and more.
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[@MariaAU]

Thank you again, very helpful information for both unfaithful and betrayed. Could you one day do a video focussing on helping us help our children who discover their parents infidelity? Our son at 12 saw photos of his dad on porn site chat rooms and his involvement in sexually explicit talk on chat rooms, he is now 20, and is not talking to his dad. He refuses to go to counselling. We all live together in the same house and as his mother, it breaks my heart that my son has been exposed to these destructive choices my husband made. My son doesn’t want to talk about it.

[@PattiJohnson-r6p]

My son also discovered the same thing with ny husband and they are not taking either. My son is 26 years old and thinks cheating is the worse thing you can do to a partner

[@WarriorBrideBattleCry]

I love the acronym for FINE...F@#*d Up, Insecure, Neurotic & Emotional.
😂Its true!

[@LAstandard]

24:58 the problem is believin who you are isn’t good enough for the people around you… but they love you. You are already good enough at your depth, your behaviors are not ok 😭

[@kljfaith]

Another informative episode! Thank you Sam and James.