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There is only one reason women cheat; it's in their DNA to do so. Women that cheat will always cheat, women have a "whore gene" that once activated cannot be turned off. You see women have always had two relationship paths for success; one, marry a strong man that is a good provider, or sleep with the entire town and let the town provide. Historically there have always been more whores than monogamous women. Men need keep this in mind, because odds are any given woman they are talking to is one of the historic majority. Oh, did I just say the quiet part out loud?
I’m still with her, but that’s what I always say with whatever dude she’s cheating with at the moment. The worst way I could hurt that dude is by leaving and unleashing you on his life.
Thank you for educating us on some of the many excuses women use to justify cheating, but men aren't responsible for their happiness, and her happiness is an unmaintainable goal. If you don't go to work and make her money, she's unhappy. If you go to work, she's unhappy. If you say the wrong thing, she's unhappy. If you don't say the right thing, she's unhappy. If you don't read her mind, she's unhappy. The list of reasons women are unhappy is unending. i prefer life without terrorism and disloyalty; it's so much more peaceful, and i have no desire to keep any woman from her cheating.
Explaining isn’t condoning. :) Also, relationships aren’t mandatory. It sounds like you’re better off staying single and that’s ok. That being said I don’t watch videos on knitting because I have no interest in knitting lol in other words my videos probably aren’t for you… though I appreciate you watching! 🙏
@@YourWingmam yet, i'm also told i'm supposed to trust word of a god who failed in his promises. “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”. Oh, i misread that! Comparable is not the same as compatible; my bad! 🤷
@@YourWingmam i did not claim that you were condoning, but you are correct in that i'm likely the wrong demographic to benefit much from your videos, and likely better off single. i do find them informative and enlightening, though, and i do enjoy watching them; apologies for my snarkiness.
There are reasons to cheat: -Lack of attention after voicing this out. -They decided to have open relationship -They need sex and they are not getting any at home You can do these and still stay married cuz you have kids and you still love your partner or at least a version of how they use to be. You do not fix everything breaking up.
@@powerhouse884 - In general, men cheat because of sex, and women cheat because they lose respect for the man. In terms of an open relationship though , that’s no reason to cheat. You should speak to your partner about that . The other two make sense .
@@matthewschwartz6607 Loss respect huh? Did they respect you in the first place? I find lots of men are in relationships with women who never respected them.
@@matthewschwartz6607 Open relationship is cheating with consent. When it come to that i guess they have done a lot of talking. If they prefer to be exclusive with someone else i guess one of them will end it. They are probably just testing the waters sexually. Idk
On women feeling neglected. For example: If the man works constantly to provide for their well-being, she may say "you neglect me cause you're always at work" OR... the other way round, she may say "you're not providing enough money, so I feel that I'm not important to you, I guess you're a loser". Especially beautiful women get bored because they get plenty of male attention and the "grass is always greener" somewhere else. Subconsciously, women will go looking for something (anything!) to be unhappy about in their man, and that "defect" which they inevitably will find, provides them with the motivation and "legitimacy" for cheating (or leaving). And all of this, without feelings of guilt, because hey: It was her mans fault, certainly not hers! She had no choice, she just had to do it - how dare you think otherwise! 😂😂
Cheating only hurts a man when he is in love with a woman. If your not deeply in love with her, men don't really care! Woman know when a man loves her, but don't understand the pain and trauma she causes when she cheats on him. Men hide there pain and become angry and abusive when a woman cheats because the one thing they truly loved and would die for, betrayed them! Its like your dog attacking you in your sleep and trying to kill you after loving him from birth. Woman do not understand the pain and trauma a man goes through when the woman he loves cheats! The cut in your heart is so deep and the wound never heals! The pain is there forever! Love is some powerful emotion!
Anna is incredibly intelligent love how she breaks down key points and explains the very overlooked dynamics of relationships which isn’t in reality so ideal like many people think.
They are sorry because they got caught. After you catch them cheating do not assume their relationship will end. Playing detective is exhausting. So is cheating. So is hearing your spouse tell you, “I love you”, when they have a lover waiting in the dark. Turn on all the lights.
❤ Everyone Has The Right To Fall Out Of Love With Someone .. ❤ Nobody Has The Right To Cheat .. ❤ Have The Decency To Finish With Someone First .. Before Sleeping With Someone Else .. 👍
If life were that simple everyone would divorce b4 having an affair. Unfortunately, life is very imperfect hence the ancient practice of adultery. I think if we had actual laws for crimes of the heart but alas infidelity has almost zero consequences.
@@jamescalhoun4588 Selfishly uncaring isn't bespoke unto solely Romantic Relationships.. Selfish and non-caring are merely traits of a bad Person.. Regardless of any social interaction.. Why would anybody wanna be like that..?
@@annabanzon313”alas”?? in other words, you want punishment to be issued by the government for “crimes of the heart”. No need to tell which Orangeman’s Kool-Aid you drink.
All it takes is your GF or wife going "dry" on you, and then coming home late one night, and your nose smells the scent of another man on her, to know that it's over between you and her. If she's sleeping with another man, she's moved on from you, time to ask her to leave and don't come back. She's not your woman, it's just your turn. Been there, done that.
Yeah, women love to monkey branch. But they will stay in the relationship until you catch them. And because of your reaction, you will get blamed. I seen a very peculiar reaction in a reddit video that I thought was interesting. This guy knew about her cheating but said nothing until the day she confessed to him. His response was "yes I know that you were cheating." And she said why didn't you say something? He said "because I don't care anymore!" That F-ed her up. He was doing everything to be a great husband. Had 2 full time jobs and adopted her first child as his own. Cooked cleaned and did pretty much everything he could to be a great father and husband. But she still choose to cheat. The reason she confessed was because she got pregnant. You see their sex life wained away because of him being tired all the time and there is only 24 hours in the day. So he knew it wasn't his. She wanted to keep the baby. But he was done. So he chose to divorce. She finally had an awakening to her ways. But it was far to late. She had an abortion to try to salvage the relationship. But the damage was done, he left her.
Her not being 100% sexually satisfied is a reason for her to cheat, but she can refuse to have sex with him for months or years and still he is not expected to cheat. "Just leave or divorce?" Why does the man have to lose half of everything he owns and spent his life building to get something that is part of the marriage agreement in the first place? If you disagree with that, think - a man agrees to protect and provide for a wife. All most men really expect is regular sex. They will even put up with a woman who doesn't work, cook, clean, etc. as long as he still has exclusive sexual access.
There's multiple studies that report that a lot (forgot the percentage was huge tho) of men in marriages don't receive sex from their wives. So wives will get the ring and wedding, the security, the lifestyle, and kids from the men, but barely hold their end of the bargain. Marriages definitely, definitely disadvantage men more than women. Not to even mention women divorce men 70-80% of the time, and win child custody etc etc.. all disadvantaging men. Not a fair trade at all.💔 When men cheat, he's a piss of sh*t but when women cheat, man's fault. Women say they cheat because men are unavailable emotionally, but women also tend to be unavailable sexually in marriages - while most married men don't cheat - even in sexless marriages.
I was cheated on with a woman who was seeing a guy I knew on the side. It was a long distance relationship and she was tired of it after awhile so I wasn't surprised it happened. Looking back as it was years ago I took it pretty well because I did see the humor as it seemed like a country music song, "my girl cheated with friend and my heart is broken." They lived in the same town and she was starting to flake out on me over little things so it wasn't a big surprise and, to be honest, she was a loose cannon popping off about about this or that minor thing. I was glad she was gone when it ended because I kind of felt I liked myself too much to put up with her nonsense. I see the sunny side in life. I saw that I never married her. I never had children with her and when it ended there was nothing to keep us tethered. It was a clean ending and no baggage so I got off the hook easily and a bruised ego mends rapidly.
Dear Anna: You are a brave woman for sure. To say "men and women are different" takes courage nowadays. Glad you have that quality; very attractive. Thank you for this topic, and for explaining it so well. Sometimes us men get a bad reputation because we are more visual, and as you explained, we need the physical to reach the emotional. Of course, there really is no good reason to cheat, but it helps to know and understand those reasons, and courses of actions to take to avoid them. I have never cheated, but have been cheated on. This definitely will help in the future. Thank you again for this topic. I hope you are having a great Sunday, and that you are happy. You really are beautiful Anna. Bigger hug, and a big kiss on each cheek. Keep the WingMam posts coming.
I am extra impressed at your insightfulness, despite having had the painful experience of being cheated on. That’s a huge sign of emotional maturity. Bitterness doesn’t help us learn. Thank you for a classy compliment!
Actually, according to the studies, that’s not true. However, unfortunately, also, according to the studies, men tend to cheat more often even when they’re happy at home.
@@YourWingmam I agree and found the same is true. Many married women cheat because it is their "right" and they want to satisfy issues of curiosity, control and the possibility of monkey branching for the "right" man. I rarely ever hear complaints about hubby. Is it because it makes her look less responsible? Women are extremely sensitive about the nuances of this word "responsibility" it is feared and hated just like the "C" word! When I merely say this word ( responsibility) they freak out but still want to see me. ( You sound Just like my husband!) . Or maybe there is some truth to the idea?
If the cheating hasnt happened and both are willing to communicate it may be saved.However if it has happened on either side it cannot be saved and if the relationship continues even after this it will have been affected by this and never forgotten nor erased.🤷🤷
Your insight is always spot on, Anna. I must confess that Ive been involved with a few women who cheated on their BF or husband with me because they were sexually deprived from their mates having ED. Years later in my late 40s, I also experienced performance issues that affected a relationship I was in, so I really empathize with all the men with this issue and no longer tempted to seize such opportunities from their misfortunes.
Thank you for sharing your experiences! Very important to talk about changes in hormones for both men and women. Hiding from it only leads to trouble. And there’s often much that can be done.
I have a tough time believing the ED would be the only reason for cheating. If both partners were committed to each other and knew how to communicate there would be no cheating. A man is made up of more than his hard penis. There's lots of ways to get a chick off without fucking her. For me, I wouldn't touch a taken woman with a 10 ft pole no matter how hot. There plenty of women not in relationships to choose from. Even if there weren't , I wouldn't want it done to me.
I've been a side guy many times over the years, and the cheating was always for lack of s3x. However, the reason for lack of s3x varied. They wanted the s3x and nothing else.
You've enabled cheating before while you could. And now that you cannot do it, you're playing the high moral ground and the judge of women. You're such a weasel.
Great discussion. There are only a couple of things where my experience differs a little in some cases. The first is that I have had a few relationships where the woman was intent on getting physical as a path to her emotional connection, and I wanted to have at least some emotional connection first. And regarding the too-often repeated trope of low T, I will say that quite often it’s actually high B (as in, her bad attitude or behavior is the opposite of an aphrodisiac). Also, no, men are not just switched on instantly for sex, and when women act like they expect us to be, that also causes problems.
Yeah if the man or women in the relationship is NOT fulfilling their duties then You must break up, no excuses for cheating. Because all you gotta do is break up and find someone else who fits the bill.
@ianchesney9639 Duties.... sex doesn't count as duty. Sex isn't an obligation, you cannot force someone to sleep with you. Sex is for love and attraction, don't expect it if cannot be bothered to build love and attraction. Sex cannot be obligation.
@@chelsy2255 yes but to listen to you bable about your fealings is a duty right? About your friend who said their friend was fat and how that made you feal... That is a cheating reason for you. Edit: when I come home from work and still have duties around the house and the kid to spend time with it is all I want to hear about.
My gf I've been living with left her phone open while sleeping so I looked at her texts and noticed she was sending sexual messages to this one guy and meeting up around once a month. I'm tall, handsome, fit, 8 inches, can go multiple times a day. I showed her affection every day, she loved having sex with me and still she cheated. She told me he was an old lover and the sex wasn't even as good but it was fun to hang out with him and she insisted she only had sex with him when we were fighting/broken up which is complete bs. Goes to show some just can't help it and they crave attention from other sources no matter what. She destroyed the trust so I'm moving out and ending the relationship. She's been begging me to forgive her, crying in my arms and I feel repulsed but still attracted and love her. On a positive note I'm certain she's got BPD and it has been crazy to deal with so it's probably for the best I leave. I kinda feel sorry for her because she's got some great qualities but totally messed in the head. So sad.. we were head over heels for each other and now it's ruined.
Why is it to her always and not to him? After all the nice guy is actually risking his life to protect the woman he wants. He can be it all & she'll still cheat out of opportunity...
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The real question is, why is it that any reason a woman has for cheating is an acceptable excuse, yet a man is never excused for cheating, even when his gf or wife is treating him terribly and withholding sex for months or even years? There is ALWAYS an excuse when a woman cheats and it's never her fault, while there is NEVER an excuse for men to cheat and it's always his fault. Oh yeah, almost forgot, when she cheats, that's always his fault too!
No one is saying it is OK on part of woman. Video is just exploring motivations in order to assist men in preventing and detecting cheating before it happens. Figure out where you are falling short or determine that she’ll never be satisfied.
As a woman I like to say that it doesn't matter If you're man or a woman, If you're not happy in your relationship, have a talk with your partner instead of cheating. I don't understand why people hate clear communication and love to over complicate things and act passive-aggressive. Just tell them you're not happy and your needs are not being met. It is a part of your human rights to express your needs. It doesn't matter if it's sexual or emotional, just talk about it and let them be aware of your feelings.
FINALLY a women who know the ffffffffff truth and says so, toooooooooooo many women dont say a thing and iknow from my own experience women today are social media hoes who dont give a damn about their relationsip because they are cheating on line and thinking they can get better so the cheat for pleasure rather than work on the so called problems in theirs, that is why you have soooooo many divorced and single women now that guys dont want to waste their time with, like one comment i say, men fall in love and take marriage as a relationship, women look at it as a business and what can i get out of it in a few years, they have no loyalty or accountability period because they thing the grass is greener elsewhere until they find out it does not work that way. been on dating sites and the same women were there for 5 years when i quit because the women are such loosers period, delusional selfish clowns with nothing to offer a good man and tooooooooo stupid to know one when they find one because everything is about status and money, men are just atm for most women.
It's easy: many people don't listen, ignore, gaslight what their partners say. That shuts does communication. Many problems aren't fixed just because you talk about them
@@mongoose6685 that is sooooooooooo true especially with females today, most times you are just a convenience for them while they are on social media beign hoes and looking for a new challenge instead of working on what they have but most times it is fake love to begin with so you cant fix fake
Listen not fix is kinda tough. The British approach works well. 1) Mostly listen. 2) Wait for an opportunity to say something witty/endearing. 3) If she's telling you about a serious problem that is a deal breaker and she is not going to fix it, decide to cut your losses then and there, cuz relationship is going to break anyway.
Here's an important one. Any one or more of these reasons might exist but they will be that much more easy to act on if she believes there will be no unmanageable consequences and that comes down to your approach to the relationship, beta vs. dominant.
The reason why people cheat is because they can. They give themselves permission to cheat. They change the contract of the relationship to benefit themselves. The number one reason for revenge cheating is betrayal. Revenge cheating is only bad when the other partner finds out.
@sorod6791 listen, women are just trying to get a bit of happiness in a world that tells them they're not supposed to be happy and are only supposed to serve a rude man in a dull unhappy marriage. Try to process that, but I doubt you can, that being the reason you get cheated.
Simple: you gave her respect, attention, romance, support, loyalty, security, stability and integrity .... you were the *NICE GUY* and she got bored and board dry - and cheated on you because if there is not drama, trauma, chaos - they will create it or cheat on you to get it.
@dedeborya9015 There's no nice guys out there to give all those mentioned and you're definitely not one of them. A guy that lies they've done those you said and blames everything on women is a weasel deserving of nothing.
@@chelsy2255 Yep, I have learned to be the D*CK, the Pr*ck, The ASSH0le, the Jerk - because that is what y'all chase, swoon for and reward. I can think of no more harsh epithet than to be ever called NICE by a XX.
I told my therapist I'm afraid my girlfriend will cheat on me because I'm not that good in bed ... He said "We have to work on your thrust issues" ... - Moscow, Russia
@@steelfanther328 I watched a news story where Michelle O. was doing bicep curls with 20 pound dumbells and Barack was struggling with 5 pounders. I don't know the "whole" story on that one?
You start by learning how to trust yourself to handle the outcome of taking risks... by taking risks. In any area of life where you hesitate because of fear. (You are an ideal candidate for my wakeup2luv program btw, it will help you get past not feeling you were ever loved. If curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/)
Not listening and doing all the talking. Always want to be heard. Always wanting to argue when I say my needs ,but wants his fulfilled. Constantly being dismissed about what matters to me. Laughing important things off.
@YourWingmam maintain standard set? Vows state in good times and bad - nothing about until bored, unhappy, or financial problems -- if they choose to cheat -- they fall under #1. Accountability = cryptonite
Well, women once they are in a high quality life (where the man help her come up from the dirt let's say) she will have the upper hand , she will feel more attractive with others and just go for it forgetting what you've done for her and all your hard work you put in it, that's big difference between man and women
Once a cheater always a cheater is true for the one that got cheated on. No mater if the other person never does it again, they will always be a cheater cos they cheated. No mater what they do after that there won't be the same trust as it was before. 🤷♂️ It's like saying that the plate you droped and broke isn't broken anymore cos you glued it together. It's still a broken plate and you can see and feel the damage on it.
My reasons were the same as hers...lack of validation, being stonewalled, being underappreciated and so on...her attitude was, " How dare you? "... nevermind that she did it first. Sure, I felt satisfaction in the moment, but it wasn't worth it in the end.
Showing her appreciation and doing what she wants does not always work and rarely does. Because many times they just want to and the excuses given are just that, excuses so they can justify doing something they wanted to anyway.
If either party in a relationship feels a certain way they need to communicate it in an adult manner (or at least try). I have seen so many instances of dissatisfied women silently setting up an exit plan then burning the relationship to the ground all whilst enjoying the conveniences the other person provides. Even if the man is emotionally boned headed, he deserves to be told "it's over" before the woman moves on. And I get there are times when women just want to get out and feel that their man will only argue with her if she is forthcoming, or wants to avoid negative backlash from him. However in a typical relationship(no DV, coercive control, obsessed partner etc) I see no excuse not to have the emotional maturity to clearly communicate intentions.
@m0n4d59 As a woman you cannot really communicate these things as men feel entitled to our minds, feelings and bodies, men are emotionally bone headed and don't take criticism well. Women risk abus, violence and killing if they open this type of conversation.
@@m0n4d59 Cheating doesn't happen in typical relationships. And communication doesn't work cause men don't listen, too strong headed to take in communication from women or make the needed changes in relationship. Men have created this society where women are supposed to be financially dependent on them for the sake of men secure sex and that can sometimes backfire this way. Men should take accountability for their part in breakdown, ok? Things happen for a reason always.
@@m0n4d59 well, most men aren't mature adults, if they were relationships would be harmonious. when both parties can't communicate and make amends then cheating is needed.
Key point.. each individual woman in this world thinks and acts differently so everything i say is just my opinion or applies to certain women but not others.
@@YourWingmamin reality I'm not sure a woman would ever really respect a man who took her back for cheating. There's something more brutal about a woman cheating...her having another guy inside her..who could potentially impregnate her leaving him as a cuckolded 'father'. I don't think I could ever truly love a woman again who had allowed another guy inside her.
Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of blaming anyone for your problems. A woman who rejects you is nothing more than a preference like someone prefers grapes over apples at the grocery store. If you understand that concept you will spend less time bitter and more times learning from past mistakes and, most importantly, more time enjoying life. By all means, if you want to hold a grudge and blame someone who am I to argue with you but ultimately it never works. I’ve been rejected a lot in life for a lot of reasons but what I did most of the time (not every time) was not hold onto the rejection and move on. Years ago I had a job where I traveled for work and I was playing a tape in the car. A Ph.D had made this tape and said that all rejection is basically a preference and nothing more than on one occasion someone would rather a frozen yogurt over an ice cream so why get worked up? It was just a preference. It clicked with me and understanding that has been a great help in my life.
Wait, wait, why would I have to do anything to prevent cheating? A person, who would cheat because of ANY reason is disqualified in the first place. Period. If she wants anybody else, she should finish the present relationship FIRST and THEN jump into the bed of another guy. Nothing excuses cheating. Monkey branching is disgusting.
I agree. Explaining isn't condoning. At the same time, relationships require maintenance, like a car or going to the gym to stay fit. If either partner doesn't want to continue to make an effort they shouldn't sign up for a relationship. :)
Been a few videos since the eye blink. Ive been listening to you for so long i can understand peoples words and actions much better. You've helped me to own whats mine and what others are responsible for. Knowing what I know now, its hard not to see it.
She’d go mad if i even liked a picture of a female athlete in a bikini yet routinely flirt with men right in front of me and manufacture breakups to pursue other men. Something a bit Histrionic about her, emotional immaturity. Shallow and highly changeable emotions. I think she knew she lacked substance and that’s one of the reasons she still views me as her property but it is not love or empathy. No red pill frame stuff will work if a woman is like this. The only “frame” you can have is simply to walk away and avoid her trauma bond or stay and have the cycle repeated on you while your friends and family think the abuse can’t be that bad if you keep letting her back into your life.
Cheating demands dishonesty. Lying, and its various forms, is a key characteristic that a cheater uses to be deceptive and betray their promise of fidelity. Cheating is stealing; stealing is taking something that does not belong to you. Cheating destroys trust, self-esteem, and safety. It also destroys self respect of yourself and of your spouse. Cheating is cruel and selfish. It is a deep wound and poison that damages severely all that it touches. Cheating never fixes, it destroys.
as a 18 year old fresh out of high school who is in TAFE this just puts me off of getting married and relation ships all together. this will most definitely change though i guess, but marriage just seem so draining and just dam right depressing
Part of the problem is people don’t use properly. They think that attraction and chemistry and even love is enough. Those are great but not enough. And then relationships require ongoing maintenance. Just like you don’t go to the gym once in your fit for life. But you’re young so focus on where you can improve yourself and your life for you and make sure if a girl does come along you vet her! Filter filter filter :-)
LOL I told my son not to get married. Ever. The risks are simply way way larger than upsides these days. Have a gf? Sure. Want a kid? Pay a surrogate to give birth and then raise the kid yourself, with your family. If it's just a relationship, cheating hurts but at least it doesn't blow up your life permanently.
Single, Middle aged man here. Women approaching 40 years old become prowlers. I wish that I could say that I have always turned it down but I haven't. I have learned to tell them up front that there is nothing out here that is better than growing old with an intact family. Few listen however as they are desperate to feel that they can still get attention from men.
I like your description. Most the "available" women that I meet are married. Nothing stops them, it is like they are in heat! None have complained about hubby and even when I try to "break up" they still want me to take care of business. I did learn that married women don't have the time to be as promiscuous as single women. Most married women are content to have a husband and one or two side "boyfriends". When their husbands find out, what can they do? File for divorce and end up living on the street homeless while they pay for her vacations? After ten years of marriage, most hubbies have too much to lose to file for divorce and the wives know this. I don't think thsi is good so I try to avoid the "prowlers" but they really are everywhere for women over age 30.
@johannesswillery7855 So you think married women have no right to happiness and they should be imprisoned in their marriage as they'd be owned by their lazy ungrateful men. Dream on, it's all about you and you only. Deluded.
Why not just end the relationship? Have a sit down, explain where you are, and, whether they agree or not, tell them and leave. It's better than deceit and betrayal. They cut deeper, especially when the recipient is doing everything humanly possible to nurture you and than some. It says that you have problems and are narcissistic.
That's simple, because she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She gets her wishes scratched by another man while being catered to, paid for, and taken care of by her partner. It's not like most women see men as human being with emotions and innate worth as persons, especially these days. They've been taught and socialized from early on that all men are good for is whatever material/emotional resources can be extracted from them.
I was cheated in the past but not anymore since I got married me and my wife are loyal together and I'm trying to get my liver condition under control with the help of my wonderful wife
"I wanna get drunk around random men" is pretty much indistinguishable from "I am OK with cheating on you". There's literally zero reason for any woman in a LTR to have alcohol or drugs in a company of men who aren't her partner.
Well, nothing good comes out of cheating, only betrayal and a divorce. Both need to realize before getting married that commitment is something that must ALWAYS be maintained. If you can't do that, don't walk that aisle.
In my experiences many married women do not complain about their husbands and enjoy their marriages. They cheat for curiosity, control or future relationships. If she doesn't talk about the future you know what she doesn't want. I never assume that married women are not interested. Women know what they want and will act accordingly. My body, my choice single or married.
Yeaaaah.......... That sounds all right and true but we get older and shit happens. You do have to have committment and keep working at it but if the commitment becomes too much work it's not worth it. 'Scuse me if I'm a little to practical here but I've recently learned some lessons the hard way. May you keep your optimism.
@timjohnson1199 I'm probably optimistic because I've never been married. I do believe in commitment, but I've heard that marriage is hard work, like anything else and to keep it going it has to be maintained. But after hearing that 50 to 60% of marriages end in divorce, yeah even I know marriage isn't easy.
@YourWingmam Same thing. But I still think it's different. If a man could have his woman and still spread his seed elsewhere, he would. Biologically speaking
I married my high school sweet heart 20 years she run off , I was devastated after the divorce people told me she been cheating on me the entire time . That made me feel even worse . we had a great sex life a few hours with lots of foreplay a Nipomo. had a live in and she used my pc was talking to a dude forgot the pc was on told me she was going to her moms to clean the house . i got home and went to go online and the email was open im like really . She had took my Leathers riding gear . I did not lead on i knew after her weekend I went to the car took my stuff and said time to go . Lucky she had warrants and left with out a fight . Only 2 women have been that way . but still it hurts .
So, first of all, thanks for putting in the effort. The video was constructive, positive and tried to be as honest as possible (up to and including the very last point, that if you follow the author's guidelines it's still not a panacea). The problem is, that this video may have been 100% effective 40 years ago, but these days with modern women, all those reasons for cheating are augmented - and likely mostly phased out - by things OUT of man's control: (1) active dislike of men based on gender, thanks to 3rd+ wave of feminism and woke indoctrination; (2) unrealistic sense of self worth thanks to social media and online dating (where even a bleh below average woman can easily get male sexual attention by simply being available); (3) unfair divorce and custody laws, which were designed to prevent a man in single-earner 1950s household from abandoning his wife and baby with no resources; but today are used overwhelmingly to deny men custody and financially ruin them to benefit women regardless of merits of the relationship or details of divorce. In other words, simply following the author's guidance may have reduced the chances of woman's cheating 40 years ago, but won't be nearly as effective today.
I don’t but you could send it to him and tell him you haven’t cheated but the points still apply. He may change to prevent cheating. (Not that you would.)
Also boredom. Being around bad influences like her wild single girlfriends and a loss of respect for her man. Good men get cheated on a lot because they allow themselves to be taken for granted .
@@YourWingmam Yes, but "available married women" ( "You Go Girl" attitudes) are encouraging cheating in most sectors. How many apps profile use the word "separated" ? ie STILL MARRIED? Does he know about this? Most likely not.
When someone has to begin a generalized conversation about gender differences, what's already assumed? The best way to See ANY Character is to allow them to Demonstrate how they'll apply their perceived Advantage's. Especially when You understand why Your personally tailored epiphany is only waiting on reality to show up. Whenever a woman gives men advice , take notice of their analogies in their own attempts to Relate. When a man has a primary woman is his que, is there a real reason He want's to hang out with Men? Over exposure to ANY "Single" personality can become overwhelming if given enough time. In terms of someone being delusional, one of the first signs is their overwhelming desire is to convince others they're not seeing whatever for what it truly is by definition. When all else fails? They'll try to change (Monopolize) the definition of whatever it is they desire most. The spirit of Greed comes in different flavors and knows how to hide it's agenda.
The problem with relationships is that women have much more success than men, and that's not good in a Relation they play the princess, the drama girl and victim because women Know that when it's finished she can have other men directly or she can stay alone
It’s the sad truth, you think she is your soul mate and shit blows up, you never saw it coming, she’s moving in the new boyfriend as you have been replaced like an old car. It happened to me and ill never date again.
i will save this video to see you again later. why? because i love the way you speak in english(not my native language) and contemplate your beauty at the same time.
Pay Attention !!! This so spot on.. She gave up her management position 3 days before we were to close on a house. It would have been costly to have backed but nothing compared to what I lost in the end. I took a second full time job to make up the short fall. She cheated on me, happening the exact way Anna describes. It ended and I found out after he date raped her. I took her back for fear of what might have happened to her if she went back to this clown. Don't let this happen to you !!!
@@YourWingmam Hopefully somebody will benefit from it, don't neglect time with her and taking care of that emotional connection. If you don't and she's a 9 or 10 there are guys lined up waiting to fill your shoes.
I’ve never cheated(although I had MANY opportunities over the years) and I’ll also never date or enter into a committed relationship with a woman who has ever cheated. Match my morals and values or you aren’t a good enough woman for me.
This is a good video. Thanks. Can I make a suggestion? You break up the video in random parts. Best to have a theme for each section, and complete the theme in that section before starting another. Think paragraphs. Thanks.
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I know women who cheated only for change, to have some fun and something different.
You are correct, there is a fraudulent request for money after contact,
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There is only one reason women cheat; it's in their DNA to do so. Women that cheat will always cheat, women have a "whore gene" that once activated cannot be turned off. You see women have always had two relationship paths for success; one, marry a strong man that is a good provider, or sleep with the entire town and let the town provide. Historically there have always been more whores than monogamous women. Men need keep this in mind, because odds are any given woman they are talking to is one of the historic majority. Oh, did I just say the quiet part out loud?
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My narcissist ex-wife deprived me of sex, then she cheated on me and blamed me for her cheating. 😅
In the end, I'm glad she found her next victim.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
You must be very weak soyboy that your wife cheated.
Good thing you didnt do it as revenge...that's what I call self control!!!👍👍...no reason to get down to her low level...🤷
@@MusicLvr81281 Please ask him how he proved that so us men who are good dads may use his info.
I’m still with her, but that’s what I always say with whatever dude she’s cheating with at the moment. The worst way I could hurt that dude is by leaving and unleashing you on his life.
Thank you for educating us on some of the many excuses women use to justify cheating, but men aren't responsible for their happiness, and her happiness is an unmaintainable goal. If you don't go to work and make her money, she's unhappy. If you go to work, she's unhappy. If you say the wrong thing, she's unhappy. If you don't say the right thing, she's unhappy. If you don't read her mind, she's unhappy. The list of reasons women are unhappy is unending. i prefer life without terrorism and disloyalty; it's so much more peaceful, and i have no desire to keep any woman from her cheating.
Explaining isn’t condoning. :) Also, relationships aren’t mandatory. It sounds like you’re better off staying single and that’s ok. That being said I don’t watch videos on knitting because I have no interest in knitting lol in other words my videos probably aren’t for you… though I appreciate you watching! 🙏
@@YourWingmam yet, i'm also told i'm supposed to trust word of a god who failed in his promises. “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”. Oh, i misread that! Comparable is not the same as compatible; my bad! 🤷
@@YourWingmam i did not claim that you were condoning, but you are correct in that i'm likely the wrong demographic to benefit much from your videos, and likely better off single. i do find them informative and enlightening, though, and i do enjoy watching them; apologies for my snarkiness.
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There’s never a reason to cheat! Cheating is a character flaw! It’s never the betrayed fault. Be an adult and use your words and breakup first!
I agree. As I said, in the video explaining isn’t condoning.
There are reasons to cheat:
-Lack of attention after voicing this out.
-They decided to have open relationship
-They need sex and they are not getting any at home
You can do these and still stay married cuz you have kids and you still love your partner or at least a version of how they use to be.
You do not fix everything breaking up.
@@powerhouse884 - In general, men cheat because of sex, and women cheat because they lose respect for the man. In terms of an open relationship though , that’s no reason to cheat. You should speak to your partner about that . The other two make sense .
@@matthewschwartz6607 Loss respect huh? Did they respect you in the first place? I find lots of men are in relationships with women who never respected them.
@@matthewschwartz6607 Open relationship is cheating with consent. When it come to that i guess they have done a lot of talking.
If they prefer to be exclusive with someone else i guess one of them will end it. They are probably just testing the waters sexually. Idk
On women feeling neglected. For example: If the man works constantly to provide for their well-being, she may say "you neglect me cause you're always at work" OR... the other way round, she may say "you're not providing enough money, so I feel that I'm not important to you, I guess you're a loser". Especially beautiful women get bored because they get plenty of male attention and the "grass is always greener" somewhere else. Subconsciously, women will go looking for something (anything!) to be unhappy about in their man, and that "defect" which they inevitably will find, provides them with the motivation and "legitimacy" for cheating (or leaving). And all of this, without feelings of guilt, because hey: It was her mans fault, certainly not hers! She had no choice, she just had to do it - how dare you think otherwise! 😂😂
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Cheating only hurts a man when he is in love with a woman. If your not deeply in love with her, men don't really care! Woman know when a man loves her, but don't understand the pain and trauma she causes when she cheats on him. Men hide there pain and become angry and abusive when a woman cheats because the one thing they truly loved and would die for, betrayed them! Its like your dog attacking you in your sleep and trying to kill you after loving him from birth. Woman do not understand the pain and trauma a man goes through when the woman he loves cheats! The cut in your heart is so deep and the wound never heals! The pain is there forever! Love is some powerful emotion!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Men cheat too though
Anna is incredibly intelligent love how she breaks down key points and explains the very overlooked dynamics of relationships which isn’t in reality so ideal like many people think.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
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if she cheats it's very simple .... it's over
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Faaaaaaacts
2 words: "Woman" and "Sorry" - a true oxymoron. Instead, what a woman says when she gets caught cheating: "It's YOUR fault because YOU....."
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They are sorry because they got caught.
After you catch them cheating do not assume their relationship will end.
Playing detective is exhausting.
So is cheating.
So is hearing your spouse tell you, “I love you”, when they have a lover waiting in the dark.
Turn on all the lights.
❤ Everyone Has The Right To Fall Out Of Love With Someone ..
❤ Nobody Has The Right To Cheat ..
❤ Have The Decency To Finish With Someone First .. Before Sleeping With Someone Else .. 👍
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
You don’t fall out of love with someone ! You actually are selfish and stop caring about the other person !
If life were that simple everyone would divorce b4 having an affair. Unfortunately, life is very imperfect hence the ancient practice of adultery. I think if we had actual laws for crimes of the heart but alas infidelity has almost zero consequences.
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Selfishly uncaring isn't bespoke unto solely Romantic Relationships..
Selfish and non-caring are merely traits of a bad Person..
Regardless of any social interaction..
Why would anybody wanna be like that..?
@@annabanzon313”alas”?? in other words, you want punishment to be issued by the government for “crimes of the heart”. No need to tell which Orangeman’s Kool-Aid you drink.
I wish I'd seen this 30 years ago! You're a genius! I learned the hard way - I hope millions of people see this thank you
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
All it takes is your GF or wife going "dry" on you, and then coming home late one night, and your nose smells the scent of another man on her, to know that it's over between you and her. If she's sleeping with another man, she's moved on from you, time to ask her to leave and don't come back. She's not your woman, it's just your turn. Been there, done that.
Yeah, women love to monkey branch. But they will stay in the relationship until you catch them. And because of your reaction, you will get blamed.
I seen a very peculiar reaction in a reddit video that I thought was interesting. This guy knew about her cheating but said nothing until the day she confessed to him. His response was "yes I know that you were cheating." And she said why didn't you say something? He said "because I don't care anymore!" That F-ed her up. He was doing everything to be a great husband. Had 2 full time jobs and adopted her first child as his own. Cooked cleaned and did pretty much everything he could to be a great father and husband. But she still choose to cheat. The reason she confessed was because she got pregnant. You see their sex life wained away because of him being tired all the time and there is only 24 hours in the day. So he knew it wasn't his. She wanted to keep the baby. But he was done. So he chose to divorce. She finally had an awakening to her ways. But it was far to late. She had an abortion to try to salvage the relationship. But the damage was done, he left her.
I just learned that man
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It's an integrity issue. If you have it, nothing else matters. If you don't have it, nothing else matters.
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Exactly right!
Her not being 100% sexually satisfied is a reason for her to cheat, but she can refuse to have sex with him for months or years and still he is not expected to cheat. "Just leave or divorce?" Why does the man have to lose half of everything he owns and spent his life building to get something that is part of the marriage agreement in the first place? If you disagree with that, think - a man agrees to protect and provide for a wife. All most men really expect is regular sex. They will even put up with a woman who doesn't work, cook, clean, etc. as long as he still has exclusive sexual access.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
There's multiple studies that report that a lot (forgot the percentage was huge tho) of men in marriages don't receive sex from their wives.
So wives will get the ring and wedding, the security, the lifestyle, and kids from the men, but barely hold their end of the bargain.
Marriages definitely, definitely disadvantage men more than women. Not to even mention women divorce men 70-80% of the time, and win child custody etc etc.. all disadvantaging men.
Not a fair trade at all.💔
When men cheat, he's a piss of sh*t but when women cheat, man's fault.
Women say they cheat because men are unavailable emotionally, but women also tend to be unavailable sexually in marriages - while most married men don't cheat - even in sexless marriages.
@@untold.destinations well said
Simple solution: prenup
Its called Adultery, and one of the worst thing to do
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I was cheated on with a woman who was seeing a guy I knew on the side. It was a long distance relationship and she was tired of it after awhile so I wasn't surprised it happened. Looking back as it was years ago I took it pretty well because I did see the humor as it seemed like a country music song, "my girl cheated with friend and my heart is broken." They lived in the same town and she was starting to flake out on me over little things so it wasn't a big surprise and, to be honest, she was a loose cannon popping off about about this or that minor thing. I was glad she was gone when it ended because I kind of felt I liked myself too much to put up with her nonsense. I see the sunny side in life. I saw that I never married her. I never had children with her and when it ended there was nothing to keep us tethered. It was a clean ending and no baggage so I got off the hook easily and a bruised ego mends rapidly.
Great attitude! And yes, sounds like she did you a favour.
How far apart were you?
Keep winning dude
Dear Anna:
You are a brave woman for sure. To say "men and women are different" takes courage nowadays. Glad you have that quality; very attractive.
Thank you for this topic, and for explaining it so well. Sometimes us men get a bad reputation because we are more visual, and as you explained, we need the physical to reach the emotional. Of course, there really is no good reason to cheat, but it helps to know and understand those reasons, and courses of actions to take to avoid them. I have never cheated, but have been cheated on. This definitely will help in the future.
Thank you again for this topic. I hope you are having a great Sunday, and that you are happy. You really are beautiful Anna. Bigger hug, and a big kiss on each cheek. Keep the WingMam posts coming.
I am extra impressed at your insightfulness, despite having had the painful experience of being cheated on. That’s a huge sign of emotional maturity. Bitterness doesn’t help us learn. Thank you for a classy compliment!
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Anyone who's even considering cheating is already dissatisfied with their partner.
Actually, according to the studies, that’s not true. However, unfortunately, also, according to the studies, men tend to cheat more often even when they’re happy at home.
@@treesoul00 You stay with him though?
@@YourWingmam Why would someone who's fully satisfied with their partner choose to cheat?
@@treesoul00 It is time for you, if you can, to break up, sad to say. Your relationship with your husband has run its course.
@@YourWingmam I agree and found the same is true. Many married women cheat because it is their "right" and they want to satisfy issues of curiosity, control and the possibility of monkey branching for the "right" man. I rarely ever hear complaints about hubby. Is it because it makes her look less responsible? Women are extremely sensitive about the nuances of this word "responsibility" it is feared and hated just like the "C" word! When I merely say this word ( responsibility) they freak out but still want to see me. ( You sound Just like my husband!) . Or maybe there is some truth to the idea?
I feel if a relationship is at a cheating point then that relationship has a bunch of issues that need to be resolved on both sides
100% accurate!
If the cheating hasnt happened and both are willing to communicate it may be saved.However if it has happened on either side it cannot be saved and if the relationship continues even after this it will have been affected by this and never forgotten nor erased.🤷🤷
best video ive seen on this topic. From my experiences with women who cheat. This is 1000% accurate.
Your insight is always spot on, Anna. I must confess that Ive been involved with a few women who cheated on their BF or husband with me because they were sexually deprived from their mates having ED. Years later in my late 40s, I also experienced performance issues that affected a relationship I was in, so I really empathize with all the men with this issue and no longer tempted to seize such opportunities from their misfortunes.
Thank you for sharing your experiences! Very important to talk about changes in hormones for both men and women. Hiding from it only leads to trouble. And there’s often much that can be done.
I have a tough time believing the ED would be the only reason for cheating. If both partners were committed to each other and knew how to communicate there would be no cheating. A man is made up of more than his hard penis. There's lots of ways to get a chick off without fucking her.
For me, I wouldn't touch a taken woman with a 10 ft pole no matter how hot. There plenty of women not in relationships to choose from. Even if there weren't , I wouldn't want it done to me.
I've been a side guy many times over the years, and the cheating was always for lack of s3x. However, the reason for lack of s3x varied. They wanted the s3x and nothing else.
Yeah but nowadays you got viagra, cialis and the list goes on....of course good diet, exercise, no smoking, alcohol...etc...
You've enabled cheating before while you could. And now that you cannot do it, you're playing the high moral ground and the judge of women. You're such a weasel.
Beautiful advice. Love how she advised.
Glad to hear that, and don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Great discussion. There are only a couple of things where my experience differs a little in some cases. The first is that I have had a few relationships where the woman was intent on getting physical as a path to her emotional connection, and I wanted to have at least some emotional connection first. And regarding the too-often repeated trope of low T, I will say that quite often it’s actually high B (as in, her bad attitude or behavior is the opposite of an aphrodisiac). Also, no, men are not just switched on instantly for sex, and when women act like they expect us to be, that also causes problems.
Yeah if the man or women in the relationship is NOT fulfilling their duties then You must break up, no excuses for cheating. Because all you gotta do is break up and find someone else who fits the bill.
Most definitely!
@ianchesney9639 Duties.... sex doesn't count as duty. Sex isn't an obligation, you cannot force someone to sleep with you. Sex is for love and attraction, don't expect it if cannot be bothered to build love and attraction. Sex cannot be obligation.
@@chelsy2255 yes but to listen to you bable about your fealings is a duty right? About your friend who said their friend was fat and how that made you feal... That is a cheating reason for you.
Edit: when I come home from work and still have duties around the house and the kid to spend time with it is all I want to hear about.
@@pilgrim9593 you don't make sense ... no one should put up with you. i think that's your main issue here. stop forcing yourself on other people.
@@pilgrim9593 why should then anyone listen to your babble or care about your feelings and wants? make sense, your comment is senseless waffling.
Weak people cheat. Karma will give them old and alone lifestyle.
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My gf I've been living with left her phone open while sleeping so I looked at her texts and noticed she was sending sexual messages to this one guy and meeting up around once a month. I'm tall, handsome, fit, 8 inches, can go multiple times a day. I showed her affection every day, she loved having sex with me and still she cheated. She told me he was an old lover and the sex wasn't even as good but it was fun to hang out with him and she insisted she only had sex with him when we were fighting/broken up which is complete bs. Goes to show some just can't help it and they crave attention from other sources no matter what. She destroyed the trust so I'm moving out and ending the relationship. She's been begging me to forgive her, crying in my arms and I feel repulsed but still attracted and love her. On a positive note I'm certain she's got BPD and it has been crazy to deal with so it's probably for the best I leave. I kinda feel sorry for her because she's got some great qualities but totally messed in the head. So sad.. we were head over heels for each other and now it's ruined.
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Why is it to her always and not to him? After all the nice guy is actually risking his life to protect the woman he wants. He can be it all & she'll still cheat out of opportunity...
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Way better than most of these type of channels. I actually fully agreed with you. Good job 👍🏿
Watching you over the last three years I believe I've become more charming, caring, sensitive towards women I date it built up my confidence I could select and pick the perfect long-term relationship. ♥️ my wingman
Glad I could help 🙏
Cheating is a big no for me. Why would I want to make 2 women unhappy?
The real question is, why is it that any reason a woman has for cheating is an acceptable excuse, yet a man is never excused for cheating, even when his gf or wife is treating him terribly and withholding sex for months or even years? There is ALWAYS an excuse when a woman cheats and it's never her fault, while there is NEVER an excuse for men to cheat and it's always his fault. Oh yeah, almost forgot, when she cheats, that's always his fault too!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@YourWingmam truly best for whom?
No one is saying it is OK on part of woman. Video is just exploring motivations in order to assist men in preventing and detecting cheating before it happens. Figure out where you are falling short or determine that she’ll never be satisfied.
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@@robmerrill3460don't die as a disbeliever
How true that is.....Men and women are different in the Relationship and Manipulation
As a woman I like to say that it doesn't matter If you're man or a woman, If you're not happy in your relationship, have a talk with your partner instead of cheating. I don't understand why people hate clear communication and love to over complicate things and act passive-aggressive. Just tell them you're not happy and your needs are not being met. It is a part of your human rights to express your needs. It doesn't matter if it's sexual or emotional, just talk about it and let them be aware of your feelings.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
FINALLY a women who know the ffffffffff truth and says so, toooooooooooo many women dont say a thing and iknow from my own experience
women today are social media hoes who dont give a damn about their relationsip because they are cheating on line and thinking they can get better so the cheat for pleasure rather than work on the so called problems in theirs, that is why you have soooooo many divorced and single
women now that guys dont want to waste their time with, like one comment i say, men fall in love and take marriage as a relationship, women look at it as a business and what can i get out of it in a few years, they have no loyalty or accountability period because they thing the grass is greener elsewhere until they find out it does not work that way. been on dating sites and the same women were there for 5 years when i quit because the women are such loosers period, delusional selfish clowns with nothing to offer a good man and tooooooooo stupid to know one when they find one because everything is about status and money, men are just atm for most women.
Finally a sensible women in comment section. ....where can I find women like you :)
It's easy: many people don't listen, ignore, gaslight what their partners say. That shuts does communication. Many problems aren't fixed just because you talk about them
@@mongoose6685 that is sooooooooooo true especially with females today, most times you are just a convenience for them while they are on social media beign hoes and looking for a new challenge instead of working on what they have but most times it is fake love to begin with so you cant fix fake
Very informative n good presentation.. thank u..God bless u too n your program..
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
It was so clever, simple and respectful I'm 45 and absolutely loved it, I wish I knew this when I was 12, I would have fared far better 😂
Glad it was helpful!
Listen not fix is kinda tough. The British approach works well. 1) Mostly listen. 2) Wait for an opportunity to say something witty/endearing. 3) If she's telling you about a serious problem that is a deal breaker and she is not going to fix it, decide to cut your losses then and there, cuz relationship is going to break anyway.
Here's an important one. Any one or more of these reasons might exist but they will be that much more easy to act on if she believes there will be no unmanageable consequences and that comes down to your approach to the relationship, beta vs. dominant.
To a degree yes, or she’ll try to be sneakier. Either way you can only do what you can do. But there is a lot you can do starting with choosing well.
@@YourWingmam Crystal ball or Ouija board? I don't think it is possible to know or accurately predict the future behavior of a woman.
The reason why people cheat is because they can. They give themselves permission to cheat. They change the contract of the relationship to benefit themselves. The number one reason for revenge cheating is betrayal. Revenge cheating is only bad when the other partner finds out.
@sorod6791 listen, women are just trying to get a bit of happiness in a world that tells them they're not supposed to be happy and are only supposed to serve a rude man in a dull unhappy marriage. Try to process that, but I doubt you can, that being the reason you get cheated.
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Sorry for your loss, but you sound very hurt with your comment, I hope you get some help.
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@@chelsy2255don't die as a disbeliever
Simple: you gave her respect, attention, romance, support, loyalty, security, stability and integrity .... you were the *NICE GUY* and she got bored and board dry - and cheated on you because if there is not drama, trauma, chaos - they will create it or cheat on you to get it.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
@dedeborya9015 There's no nice guys out there to give all those mentioned and you're definitely not one of them. A guy that lies they've done those you said and blames everything on women is a weasel deserving of nothing.
@@chelsy2255 Yep, I have learned to be the D*CK, the Pr*ck, The ASSH0le, the Jerk - because that is what y'all chase, swoon for and reward. I can think of no more harsh epithet than to be ever called NICE by a XX.
I told my therapist I'm afraid my girlfriend will cheat on me because I'm not that good in bed ...
He said "We have to work on your thrust issues" ...
- Moscow, Russia
Lol
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Have you tried using weights?
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Yes, and they sure as hell contributed to the act ...
I had a terrible backache later on but that's another story ...
@@steelfanther328 I watched a news story where Michelle O. was doing bicep curls with 20 pound dumbells and Barack was struggling with 5 pounders. I don't know the "whole" story on that one?
What if a person hasn't ever been loved, and doesn't know how to show it, or can't trust someone else?
You start by learning how to trust yourself to handle the outcome of taking risks... by taking risks. In any area of life where you hesitate because of fear. (You are an ideal candidate for my wakeup2luv program btw, it will help you get past not feeling you were ever loved. If curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/)
Thank you Anna, You are spot on men and woman differences.
You are so welcome!
1) You don't make enough money 2) I'm bored 3) You don't make enough money 4) I'm bored 5) You don't make enough money.
Or…
1. You didn’t choose well
2. You didn’t maintain the standard you set 👀
@@YourWingmam Just yanking your chain Anna.
@@YourWingmam in some situations you're both right. sucks to find you chose wrong way down the road though
Not listening and doing all the talking. Always want to be heard.
Always wanting to argue when I say my needs ,but wants his fulfilled. Constantly being dismissed about what matters to me. Laughing important things off.
@YourWingmam maintain standard set? Vows state in good times and bad - nothing about until bored, unhappy, or financial problems -- if they choose to cheat -- they fall under #1.
Accountability = cryptonite
absence makes the heart go wander.....
Well, women once they are in a high quality life (where the man help her come up from the dirt let's say) she will have the upper hand
, she will feel more attractive with others and just go for it forgetting what you've done for her and all your hard work you put in it, that's big difference between man and women
is it beneficial for them to cheat even in the above circumstances
Thanks Anna,your wisdom and your beauty are always the best part of my day!❤
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Wow, thank you! 🙏
@@YourWingmamdon't die as a disbeliever
@@YourWingmamsuicide not allowed
Dog not allowed ect
Once a cheater always a cheater is true for the one that got cheated on. No mater if the other person never does it again, they will always be a cheater cos they cheated.
No mater what they do after that there won't be the same trust as it was before. 🤷♂️
It's like saying that the plate you droped and broke isn't broken anymore cos you glued it together. It's still a broken plate and you can see and feel the damage on it.
Good job once again Red. Appreciate it. ❤️🙏💯. One of the few channels i pay attention too. Seriously 👍💪💯. Take care cutie 😊😊
Thank you so much, I appreciate you! 💞
@@YourWingmam welcome thanks too ❤️🙏💯
@@mikestroud9969don't die as a disbeliever
@@YourWingmamsuicide not allowed
Dog not allowed ect
My reasons were the same as hers...lack of validation, being stonewalled, being underappreciated and so on...her attitude was, " How dare you? "... nevermind that she did it first. Sure, I felt satisfaction in the moment, but it wasn't worth it in the end.
Hearing all the work required for a lasting relationship reaffirms why I haven't gone on a date in 12 years. haha
Dog not allowed ect
Showing her appreciation and doing what she wants does not always work and rarely does. Because many times they just want to and the excuses given are just that, excuses so they can justify doing something they wanted to anyway.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
If either party in a relationship feels a certain way they need to communicate it in an adult manner (or at least try). I have seen so many instances of dissatisfied women silently setting up an exit plan then burning the relationship to the ground all whilst enjoying the conveniences the other person provides. Even if the man is emotionally boned headed, he deserves to be told "it's over" before the woman moves on. And I get there are times when women just want to get out and feel that their man will only argue with her if she is forthcoming, or wants to avoid negative backlash from him. However in a typical relationship(no DV, coercive control, obsessed partner etc) I see no excuse not to have the emotional maturity to clearly communicate intentions.
@m0n4d59 As a woman you cannot really communicate these things as men feel entitled to our minds, feelings and bodies, men are emotionally bone headed and don't take criticism well. Women risk abus, violence and killing if they open this type of conversation.
@@chelsy2255 Re-read the last sentence of my comment.
@@m0n4d59 Cheating doesn't happen in typical relationships. And communication doesn't work cause men don't listen, too strong headed to take in communication from women or make the needed changes in relationship. Men have created this society where women are supposed to be financially dependent on them for the sake of men secure sex and that can sometimes backfire this way. Men should take accountability for their part in breakdown, ok? Things happen for a reason always.
@@chelsy2255 Mature adults in relationships understand that effective communication is the responsibility of both parties.
@@m0n4d59 well, most men aren't mature adults, if they were relationships would be harmonious. when both parties can't communicate and make amends then cheating is needed.
Key point.. each individual woman in this world thinks and acts differently so everything i say is just my opinion or applies to certain women but not others.
Isn’t it kind of WEAK to take a woman who cheats on you back?
It depends on your values and if you think you contributed (I’d say the same thing to a woman who’d ask the same question).
@@YourWingmamin reality I'm not sure a woman would ever really respect a man who took her back for cheating. There's something more brutal about a woman cheating...her having another guy inside her..who could potentially impregnate her leaving him as a cuckolded 'father'. I don't think I could ever truly love a woman again who had allowed another guy inside her.
Ye
Thank you for another inciteful video !
My pleasure ❤️
Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of blaming anyone for your problems. A woman who rejects you is nothing more than a preference like someone prefers grapes over apples at the grocery store. If you understand that concept you will spend less time bitter and more times learning from past mistakes and, most importantly, more time enjoying life. By all means, if you want to hold a grudge and blame someone who am I to argue with you but ultimately it never works. I’ve been rejected a lot in life for a lot of reasons but what I did most of the time (not every time) was not hold onto the rejection and move on. Years ago I had a job where I traveled for work and I was playing a tape in the car. A Ph.D had made this tape and said that all rejection is basically a preference and nothing more than on one occasion someone would rather a frozen yogurt over an ice cream so why get worked up? It was just a preference. It clicked with me and understanding that has been a great help in my life.
Exactly. I talk about taking responsibility in an upcoming video (different words, same idea).
Rejection and cheating are both choices of immature people not willing to communicate, resolve or end the relationship like an adult should.
Very good presentation
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Wait, wait, why would I have to do anything to prevent cheating? A person, who would cheat because of ANY reason is disqualified in the first place. Period. If she wants anybody else, she should finish the present relationship FIRST and THEN jump into the bed of another guy. Nothing excuses cheating. Monkey branching is disgusting.
I agree. Explaining isn't condoning. At the same time, relationships require maintenance, like a car or going to the gym to stay fit. If either partner doesn't want to continue to make an effort they shouldn't sign up for a relationship. :)
Been a few videos since the eye blink.
Ive been listening to you for so long i can understand peoples words and actions much better. You've helped me to own whats mine and what others are responsible for. Knowing what I know now, its hard not to see it.
Yay, that’s great! Though it can be frustrating as I’m sure you’ve discovered lol
Dog not allowed ect
@@YourWingmamsuicide not allowed
@@LisaHack-hq3dv not understanding what you're saying
@@64maxpower fire 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 never ends for disbelievers
She’d go mad if i even liked a picture of a female athlete in a bikini yet routinely flirt with men right in front of me and manufacture breakups to pursue other men. Something a bit Histrionic about her, emotional immaturity. Shallow and highly changeable emotions. I think she knew she lacked substance and that’s one of the reasons she still views me as her property but it is not love or empathy. No red pill frame stuff will work if a woman is like this. The only “frame” you can have is simply to walk away and avoid her trauma bond or stay and have the cycle repeated on you while your friends and family think the abuse can’t be that bad if you keep letting her back into your life.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Cheating demands dishonesty.
Lying, and its various forms, is a key characteristic that a cheater uses to be deceptive and betray their promise of fidelity.
Cheating is stealing; stealing is taking something that does not belong to you. Cheating destroys trust, self-esteem, and safety. It also destroys self respect of yourself and of your spouse.
Cheating is cruel and selfish. It is a deep wound and poison that damages severely all that it touches.
Cheating never fixes, it destroys.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
as a 18 year old fresh out of high school who is in TAFE this just puts me off of getting married and relation ships all together. this will most definitely change though i guess, but marriage just seem so draining and just dam right depressing
Part of the problem is people don’t use properly. They think that attraction and chemistry and even love is enough. Those are great but not enough. And then relationships require ongoing maintenance. Just like you don’t go to the gym once in your fit for life. But you’re young so focus on where you can improve yourself and your life for you and make sure if a girl does come along you vet her! Filter filter filter :-)
LOL I told my son not to get married. Ever. The risks are simply way way larger than upsides these days. Have a gf? Sure. Want a kid? Pay a surrogate to give birth and then raise the kid yourself, with your family. If it's just a relationship, cheating hurts but at least it doesn't blow up your life permanently.
@@dvkdvkful i wish my dad gave mecthat advice back in the day
Single, Middle aged man here. Women approaching 40 years old become prowlers. I wish that I could say that I have always turned it down but I haven't. I have learned to tell them up front that there is nothing out here that is better than growing old with an intact family. Few listen however as they are desperate to feel that they can still get attention from men.
All too common I'm afraid 😔
Where do you find these prowlers? Send one my way.
I like your description. Most the "available" women that I meet are married. Nothing stops them, it is like they are in heat! None have complained about hubby and even when I try to "break up" they still want me to take care of business. I did learn that married women don't have the time to be as promiscuous as single women. Most married women are content to have a husband and one or two side "boyfriends". When their husbands find out, what can they do? File for divorce and end up living on the street homeless while they pay for her vacations? After ten years of marriage, most hubbies have too much to lose to file for divorce and the wives know this. I don't think thsi is good so I try to avoid the "prowlers" but they really are everywhere for women over age 30.
@johannesswillery7855 So you think married women have no right to happiness and they should be imprisoned in their marriage as they'd be owned by their lazy ungrateful men. Dream on, it's all about you and you only. Deluded.
I’m a psychiatrist and help people get through cheating and relationships. Cheating is complex and it’s important to discuss this to not get hurt.
Why not just end the relationship?
Have a sit down, explain where you are, and, whether they agree or not, tell them and leave.
It's better than deceit and betrayal. They cut deeper, especially when the recipient is doing everything humanly possible to nurture you and than some. It says that you have problems and are narcissistic.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
That's simple, because she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She gets her wishes scratched by another man while being catered to, paid for, and taken care of by her partner. It's not like most women see men as human being with emotions and innate worth as persons, especially these days. They've been taught and socialized from early on that all men are good for is whatever material/emotional resources can be extracted from them.
Great video Anna thank you.
🙏🙏🙏
I was cheated in the past but not anymore since I got married me and my wife are loyal together and I'm trying to get my liver condition under control with the help of my wonderful wife
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response
Graet video again! Always helpful, insightful and true. Thanks for posting.
Glad you appreciated it! 🙏
Dog not allowed ect
@@YourWingmamsuicide not allowed
I think that you also forgot alcohol and drugs. Intoxication can lead to cheating.
Alcohol and drugs ARE the cheating
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
"I wanna get drunk around random men" is pretty much indistinguishable from "I am OK with cheating on you". There's literally zero reason for any woman in a LTR to have alcohol or drugs in a company of men who aren't her partner.
Loneliness, unfulfilled, boredom, spite or revenge!
Well, nothing good comes out of cheating, only betrayal and a divorce. Both need to realize before getting married that commitment is something that must ALWAYS be maintained. If you can't do that, don't walk that aisle.
Well, it was probably going to happen anyhow. The cheating was one more log on the fire.
In my experiences many married women do not complain about their husbands and enjoy their marriages. They cheat for curiosity, control or future relationships. If she doesn't talk about the future you know what she doesn't want. I never assume that married women are not interested. Women know what they want and will act accordingly. My body, my choice single or married.
Yeaaaah.......... That sounds all right and true but we get older and shit happens. You do have to have committment and keep working at it but if the commitment becomes too much work it's not worth it. 'Scuse me if I'm a little to practical here but I've recently learned some lessons the hard way. May you keep your optimism.
@timjohnson1199 I'm probably optimistic because I've never been married. I do believe in commitment, but I've heard that marriage is hard work, like anything else and to keep it going it has to be maintained. But after hearing that 50 to 60% of marriages end in divorce, yeah even I know marriage isn't easy.
Thank you Anna...
My pleasure ❤️
When a woman cheats, she's just showing you she's not mature enough for a relationship and belongs to the streets
what does it mean when a man cheats? they do it just as often
@YourWingmam Same thing. But I still think it's different. If a man could have his woman and still spread his seed elsewhere, he would. Biologically speaking
so very well done right on
I'm so glad I've never gotten married...
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Giving your love to the wrong woman will destroy a man! Men and woman love differently!
Most definitely!
I married my high school sweet heart 20 years she run off , I was devastated after the divorce people told me she been cheating on me the entire time . That made me feel even worse . we had a great sex life a few hours with lots of foreplay a Nipomo. had a live in and she used my pc was talking to a dude forgot the pc was on told me she was going to her moms to clean the house . i got home and went to go online and the email was open im like really . She had took my Leathers riding gear . I did not lead on i knew after her weekend I went to the car took my stuff and said time to go . Lucky she had warrants and left with out a fight . Only 2 women have been that way . but still it hurts .
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
So, first of all, thanks for putting in the effort. The video was constructive, positive and tried to be as honest as possible (up to and including the very last point, that if you follow the author's guidelines it's still not a panacea). The problem is, that this video may have been 100% effective 40 years ago, but these days with modern women, all those reasons for cheating are augmented - and likely mostly phased out - by things OUT of man's control: (1) active dislike of men based on gender, thanks to 3rd+ wave of feminism and woke indoctrination; (2) unrealistic sense of self worth thanks to social media and online dating (where even a bleh below average woman can easily get male sexual attention by simply being available); (3) unfair divorce and custody laws, which were designed to prevent a man in single-earner 1950s household from abandoning his wife and baby with no resources; but today are used overwhelmingly to deny men custody and financially ruin them to benefit women regardless of merits of the relationship or details of divorce. In other words, simply following the author's guidance may have reduced the chances of woman's cheating 40 years ago, but won't be nearly as effective today.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate you being here!
Do you have this list without the cheating part? I think it's on point. I would love to send this to my husband without the cheating part. Thank you!
I don’t but you could send it to him and tell him you haven’t cheated but the points still apply. He may change to prevent cheating. (Not that you would.)
Also boredom. Being around bad influences like her wild single girlfriends and a loss of respect for her man. Good men get cheated on a lot because they allow themselves to be taken for granted .
Yes works both ways. A woman happy at home doesn’t spend time with wild single girlfriends in risky situations.
I think people in general take their spouses for granted over time. And it's important not to.
@@YourWingmam Yes, but "available married women" ( "You Go Girl" attitudes) are encouraging cheating in most sectors. How many apps profile use the word "separated" ? ie STILL MARRIED? Does he know about this? Most likely not.
When someone has to begin a generalized conversation about gender differences, what's already assumed? The best way to See ANY Character is to allow them to Demonstrate how they'll apply their perceived Advantage's. Especially when You understand why Your personally tailored epiphany is only waiting on reality to show up. Whenever a woman gives men advice , take notice of their analogies in their own attempts to Relate. When a man has a primary woman is his que, is there a real reason He want's to hang out with Men? Over exposure to ANY "Single" personality can become overwhelming if given enough time. In terms of someone being delusional, one of the first signs is their overwhelming desire is to convince others they're not seeing whatever for what it truly is by definition. When all else fails? They'll try to change (Monopolize) the definition of whatever it is they desire most. The spirit of Greed comes in different flavors and knows how to hide it's agenda.
Thanks for watching and commenting
The problem with relationships is that women have much more success than men, and that's not good in a Relation they play the princess, the drama girl and victim because women Know that when it's finished she can have other men directly or she can stay alone
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Thank you for another informative video. I'm waking to love more each passing day.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
The women in my life seemed to believe cheating is their Divine right and seem angry that I got upset as if I was the one being unreasonable.
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Women have been learning of men. Two can play that game.
@@chelsy2255women have always cheated.
Being dishonest has no excuse. The best thing is to end the relationship and move on.
She was never yours, it was only your turn……
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It’s the sad truth, you think she is your soul mate and shit blows up, you never saw it coming, she’s moving in the new boyfriend as you have been replaced like an old car. It happened to me and ill never date again.
i will save this video to see you again later. why? because i love the way you speak in english(not my native language) and contemplate your beauty at the same time.
And this is one of my top reasons why I am never getting married.
Hello beautiful! Great stuff ! Thank you for the hug and you look amazing! 👍🍀🍀🍀🍀
Thank you 😊
@@YourWingmam you are very welcome!
You don't want to get cheated on? Don't get into a relationship, simple.
Sad BUT TRUE.
Why no option to save video?
Millions of people love cheating, so why aren't open relationships commonplace?
They actually are fairly common.
@@matthewschwartz6607 2% of the population? That's nowhere near common.
@@davidz3879 - I think that it’s probably more. Sometimes people don’t want to admit it or keep it to themselves. 2% sounds too low .
Jealousy.
@@matthewschwartz6607 Even if it were twice that, it'd be only 4%, which is 1 in 25.
Thank u honey ,u explained well❤
Pay Attention !!! This so spot on.. She gave up her management position 3 days before we were to close on a house. It would have been costly to have backed but nothing compared to what I lost in the end. I took a second full time job to make up the short fall. She cheated on me, happening the exact way Anna describes. It ended and I found out after he date raped her. I took her back for fear of what might have happened to her if she went back to this clown. Don't let this happen to you !!!
Thank you for sharing your painful personal story!
@@YourWingmam Hopefully somebody will benefit from it, don't neglect time with her and taking care of that emotional connection. If you don't and she's a 9 or 10 there are guys lined up waiting to fill your shoes.
1 the sun rose
2 the sun set
3 it was sunny
4 it was cloudy
5 she thought the other guy wouldn't find out
@YourWingmam >>> For reasons I will not go into, I suspect you are totally correct on this.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
@@YourWingmam>>> You're Welcome! 😉
I’ve never cheated(although I had MANY opportunities over the years) and I’ll also never date or enter into a committed relationship with a woman who has ever cheated.
Match my morals and values or you aren’t a good enough woman for me.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Happy Sunday spicy señorita Anna! Sending you hugs and kisses 🤗😘
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This is a good video. Thanks. Can I make a suggestion? You break up the video in random parts. Best to have a theme for each section, and complete the theme in that section before starting another. Think paragraphs. Thanks.
Great suggestion!