Wait, WHAT? Groom from Religious Background Tells Bride She Can’t Wear White!
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- A bride is calling off her wedding after her fiancé told her due to his religious background, she couldn’t wear white to their wedding because she wasn’t a virgin! We weigh in on the dress debate and the double standards women face over purity beliefs.
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Fair or Foul?
Foul!! So foul. Virgin or not, the woman gets to choose her dress color.
Foul. Wear whatever you want to wear on your wedding day! The whole point is the love and the marriage, not someone controlling your outfit :-/
I think fair for the reason Jeannie gave. Wearing white is a nice reward for the women who actually made that sacrifice and stayed virgins but I think women who lost theirs through molestation/rape should be able to wear white too.
Lol by the time I get married I'll probably be in my 30s so no way will I feel any shame that I'm not a virgin. Bring on the off-white dress😂
@@87Sharakane I hear you but I'm sorry, I feel some people take it too far. You kinda look like a joke when you wear a super white dress and cover your face with a veil but you're marrying for a subsequent time or already have multiple children.
@@87Sharakane agreed! It's a dress! Wear what makes you happy.
I really hate it when people say women who have had sex are “impure” and “unclean” that’s so horrible. Just because ur a “virgin” doesn’t mean ur innocent or a good person.
Very I hate it too
Thank you
👏 Last Virgin I dated was a Narcissist
I hate it too. They don’t call men “unclean” for having sex.
PERIODT!
If it's starting off with a wedding dress, it'll be from pants to only wearing skirts next. It's a sign girl, run.
Good call on the bride for calling off the wedding.
Honestly. When I see any bride call off a wedding because the relationship is toxic, I applaud them heavily because I know so many brides who weren’t brave enough to call it off before it was too late.
@@mt3388 💯💯💯 Better to call of a hundred engagements than to have 1 divorce. Dramatic, but you get it, lol. 😉😊
Yes, good for her. I don't like that it's his family that was saying she mustn't wear white. That was going to be the begining of a lot of control over her by his family.
I hope she sticks to her decision and not cave to » it’s just a dress ». No it’s not just a dress, it’s an attitude.
Glad it came up. They aren't compatible. They both deserve someone that can love them for who they are.
Exactly
@Alex C why though? Isn't he human? He has traditions just like she does.
@@davijulal5189 Yea if her family had traditions, I'm sure he would be expected to follow them as well. It may not be the most appealing tradition but normally people go along with it for the sake of making their spouse and family happy
I dated a girl who refused to go out dancing with me because of the pants I was wearing. She said she cared what her friends would think about my appearance. I said I am not changing for you. Didn’t last long. She was more focused on her social status than my feelings. Goodbye.
How did your pants look
How did you pants look ?? If it was dirty, ripped of something musty, she has a right to tell you
Now that i think about it... why is there a pressure for WOMEN to have the SYMBOL of purity, but not the guy? 🤨 that just hit me!! Men don’t have any wedding pressure to dress a color that represents their sexual history!!!
Oh, that’s a game changer for me!
Imagine that. Some people at your wedding you don't even know but they'll be assuming your sexual history based on the colour of the dress you wear. Yeah some of these traditions need to be tapped out.
Right. Men will be ran through like a train but expect a woman to have not even had a first kiss yet🙄 they don’t have much but they do have audacity. And it’s funny how he didn’t mention if HE was a virgin or not. Last time I checked passing judgement and being hypocritical was bad too but they conveniently brush over that!
I commented something similar before seeing your comment. I definitely agree with you. If we reserve white for virgins, then every woman (wearing white or otherwise) will have their sexual history known to everyone on her wedding day. That just feels so gross to me.
@Alex C yesss! “Mrs.” is short for “Mister’s,” because the woman is belonging to the man. I had a teacher who’s husband taught at the same school. She told us to call her Miss, because though she loved him deeply, she wasn’t his property lol.
If a non-virgin bride can’t wear white, a non-virgin groom should have to wear something that symbolizes non-purity. It should be equal if the couple wants to be that traditional lol. These grooms be wanting to be sleeping with half the wedding party sometimes smh lol
Men are never virgins. What are men loosing? Think about it.
@@goldschool9050 that’s not true
"but munchkin you wore white and you wasn't pure" lmaoooo its the head turn for me
No parent is going to say anything in my relationship, that’s the first problem.
I was not a Virgin when I got married but because it is my husband who took the purity awayyyyy...i wore that white dress!!!🤣🤣
That’s irrelevant. Either you were a virgin on your wedding day or you weren’t
@@bleudiamondbleu it was her wedding that she paid for so she can do whatever she wants at her wedding that she paid for🙄
Good for you!
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To this day I have never seen a man advertise his sexual status if he didn’t want too. Especially to people who have no business knowing. These man made lies you all make up to make yourself feel worthier than you are are pathetic.
Since sexual status is so important we should start basing men’s value off of how good their sex game is in comparison to fingers and toys. Lets see how “valuable” y’all are then.
NAAAAAH FAM, I’m using the dress color I want. Nobody’s family is gonna tell me I “can’t” use it cause I’m not “pure”. That’s just stupid.
Bruh is that Lonnie laughing like that in the beginning of the video?!?? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I had to rewatch the intro 😂 I love it her laugh
I think it's more so how much input he let his family have in the ceremony. Cause if he let his family say what she's gonna wear, Lord knows what's gonna happen when they have children!😒
Ade hair lookin like she just got done being “impure” right before she hopped on camera 😂🤣
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🤣🤣😂😂 stopp
Oop😂😂😂
Why is the traditional wedding dress colour of virginity attached to women? How about men that are not virgin?
The woman is blessed by the universe: it sent her a sign, a red flag, BEFORE they got married. Run girl like you're running away from a killer in a slasher movie.
I am 27 years old and still a virgin. I got engaged recently and wedding planning has began. But I am NOT wearing white because 1. I've never really liked the colour; you have to be extra careful whenever you're in it and I don't like that.
2. I don't want outsiders to know am a virgin just for knowing sake. I didn't keep it for them or even for my husband to be, I kept it for God. And since God does not need me in a colour to show I kept my promise to Him then no, I am not wearing any symbols. My wedding colours are Violet and silver. Hoping to have a wonderful wedding and a happy married life...💋
Yea if I am paying money for my dress I wear whatever color I want! Some men have the audacity to tell you what to do smh 😒 next it will be picking out your wardrobe and stalking you everytime you leave the house! Red flag and glad she catched on early 💯
I'm so tired of misogyny ugh
DOO DOO BROWN hahaha i cracked tf up
Between Loni's laugh during Garcelle's intro, Jeannie's "he's a fancy man!," and Adrienne's "Doo Doo Brown" this segment really had me cracking up.
White wedding dresses aren't religious. It comes from Queen Victoria.
Exactly!!!!
Exactly! Also, virginity is a social construct based on patriarchal concepts and is not a medical fact. 💁🏻♀️
They are not compatible and it is better they go their separate ways.
@@fina.rjb7 No I believe it is a signal of bigger issues that will crop up if they were to get married. Marrying someone of a different cultural and religious beliefs is not something that should be entered lightly. Hence why she got offended by her fiancé 's family request that she not wear a white dress and them not thinking it was offensive to ask this of her in the first place. It will only get worse and there will be unhappiness and offense on both sides.
@@fina.rjb7 Yes you are right about it being a boundary issue hence why I said they weren't compatible in the long run. They are going to have a lot of these boundary issues in the future and he failed a big test by not standing up for her when it came to the dress color. He can't even see where he was wrong and doesn't see it as a big deal.
I’ve heard this before that ” omg she got married in white and she has 2 children “ Whatever!! Wear whatever colour you want ladies !! She really hit the nail on the head that woman are told to dress this certain way etc but men chose everything on their own
When picking my wedding dress my mother in law asked me if I was wearing white. I said yes. And she said “yeah, you can wear that.” I was like 🙄
Good for you for not saying anything after that comment. The only way to deal with those types people is to ignore them cause if you entertain them they will have you acting totally out of character.
@@omphilemoerane2569 My family lol
One of my close friends got married and she is a virgin, but she decided to wear a stunning white dress with a wintry black embroidery pattern. Look up Viola Davis Emmy Award dress in 2015, it looked like that. It was really pretty.
Garcelle and Adrienne looked shocked when Jeannie was talking about the beginning XD
Lol. People like Alex make sure that fewer and fewer women identify themselves as feminist. That's their gift to the world.
My mother is very traditional and Christian and she wore a black wedding dress and married for 48 years before my father passed.
I also believe with Jeannie that a glowing White dress should be for those women that kept themselves virgins, but Im with the girl calling off the wedding. The fact that the groom let his parents have that much influence on their decision is a definite sign.
I also agree with Jeannie and with you that the parents need to stay out of it. If the bride and the people who will be attending the wedding are from the same religious background then she will only be making a joke out of herself. But the parents need to zip it.
Red flag!!
@Kris-Ann Kingyens Right?!
@@omphilemoerane2569 True
It's an archaic tradition. Why doesn't the groom wear a white suit?
How’s he going to say he doesn’t know why it’s that important to her, clearly it’s important to him and his family but is not willing to understand why the bride would find it important
Exactly!
The white wedding tradition came from Queen Victoria who wanted to be different at her wedding. Historically it never had anything to do with purity. Sex isn't dirty. Being an inexperienced virgin is overrated.
@Mo Money you know nothing about women’s bodies and it shows
Having multiple sexual partners is actually overrated.
EXACTLY
@@bleudiamondbleu No it actually isn't. Being divorced or having had a few serious relationships before marriage actually gives you a better understanding of ppl and yourself. Confidence and wisdom arise from situations like that. I've been in both ends of the spectrum as many ppl have. They'll all tell you how they're wiser afterwards. Even Jeannie speaks about it with her divorce. Adrienne became wiser after having been in previous serious relationships and even engaged prior to meeting her current husband. Garcelle, Loni, and others.
@@bleudiamondbleu no actually your double-standard judgement is overrated.
I loved the ladies honesty here, they didn't try to be politically correct they each stayed true to their beliefs while calling out this man.
Just choose the shade of white that best suits your skin colour🤷♀️
Yes munchkin we're all shooketh 🤣🤣🤣
Anyways, if he says he doesn't understand why the color of the dress matters then why does he not want her to wear white? Don't marry that man. What else is he gonna force her to do or not do because his precious holier than thou family believes so? 🙄🙄🙄
I almost married a man who told me if we’re to get married I wouldn’t be able to wear white because I was pure. Mind you, I did not lose my virginity out of consent. He also knew that. I did NOT stay with him.
I HOWEVER married a wonderful man who I walked down the aisle to in white. But to be honest my husband would have been happy with whatever I decided!
Find someone who sees your worth!
Loni kept telling Adrienne "you wore white!!" 😂😂😂😂😂
A bride should wear whatever she wants, I completely disagree with Jeannie on this one.
When I got married I wore diamond white, but because it went better with my skin tone. Not because someone told me to but because I wanted to.
I bet you rocked that white dress.
@@xxnarutxx3938 , I loved it. It was like a shiny off white. My mom did question why I wasn't wearing white. I told her that color looked better on me.
Loni had me cracking up when she said "Speak for yourself" at the end haha
Misogyny and sexism at its best
I disagree with Jeannie on not wearing white if you’re not a virgin. That’s a preference and if a woman wants to wear white it shouldn’t matter if she’s a virgin or not. I agree with Adrienne and Loni why is he controlling her? And did he help with making her “umpire”?
The traditions is for virgins. Lol why are people mad at that...many people wait till they are married to have sex. So....
@@NB-nh2sf unfortunitaly not in usa , only 5% of brides were virgins this past decade.
@@mehdimazzouri7662 so. Lol leave it for the 5% that manage to do it. 5% of 320 million is a lot of women
Tell Loni what your man wore Jeannie😳
Loni, you brave enough to question Jeezy to his face
I don’t understand why they saying his controlling when it’s just his belief
Meghan Markle was marrying for the second time but wore a super white dress and covered her face with a veil. I wonder what he'd have to say about that. He'd probably have a heart attack😂😂
Right?? 🤣🤣🤣
Apparently diana went through all sorts of crap, with them trying to prove she was a virgin. Investigated all her past relations, etc. Ridiculous. Fortunately kate and meghan didn't have to put up with that.
@@moimeself1088 well Kate was 29 when she was married and Meghan 37. No one expected them to be virgins😂😂 Diana was only 19 so they should have given her the benefit of the doubt instead of invading her body like that. It was SO wrong.
@@omphilemoerane2569 29 and already sleeping with william!! They would'a had to ask *him* some awkward questions! 🤣🤣🤣
If the dress color ain't a big deal... then why can't she wear white if that's what she wants?????
I agree with Jeannie, but I also feel white is a tradition. I dont think it has anything to do with purity. I think brides wear white because of tradition 👍 Especially in today's world where it seems as if nobody waits for marriage anymore.
@Alex C If we had this discussion in the 1800s, then yes. White might symbolize purity, but unfortunately in the modern world, people dont wait. I believe in waiting, but I know not everybody does.
@Alex C If we had this discussion in the 1800s, then yes. White might symbolize purity, but unfortunately in the modern world, people dont wait. I believe in waiting, but I know not everybody does.
@@SamanthaN92 well the problem is, back in the 1800s and before, people were married off by the time they reached puberty. So its kinda not fair to judge someone for not waiting cause you'll be lucky if you marry by legal adult age which is 21. I knew someone who came from a very religious family and had the whole "wait till marriage for anything sexaul", and do you know when she finally got married? Age 42. Her biological clock ran out and she couldn't have children by then and had serious health issues due to depression for having to have waited so long. So waiting isn't always a good thing.
This was a really fun girl chat. Everyone seemed comfortable and relaxed!
Jeannie Mai , we have to stop associating sexual activity in women with purity. Being sexually active does not make someone dirty or impure. It is the lie we tell children who then grow up to have unhealthy views about sex. A woman's right to choose is what leads some to make the choice to wait. It is also choice that leads some women to not. Being a virgin is not a sign of character, making healthy choices for yourself are. Both her and Mowry were a discredit to women for constantly behaving like sexual activity that brings ALL of us into this world somehow makes a woman soiled...Stop it!
That’s just stupid to me. Nobody needs to know if You are a Virgin or not walking down the aisle. And really all (white, soft white, champagne, nude) wedding dresses look white to me.
Loni and dat bang yang 😩💕💕💕
When Loni's done with that dress, I'll buy it from her for my NEVER wedding! 🤣🤣
Loni said she’d have to wear black 😂😂😂🤣🤣
Ayee adrienne does crack me up 😂😂😂😂 is the tude for me yes
Why the heck does this even fall on women in today’s day And AGE??????
Because sadly the society is very perverted and is almost impossoble to find a virgin bride in america (5% brides are virgin in 2010s)
Uggghhhh we need to get back to filming at the studio
The way men *thirst,beg & grove for some cookie,* negates them from ever having a say in this. That's why most grooms where black tuxes, you see how stupid that sounds?
Tell the bride, keep on running she dodged a bullet.
She broke the factory seal and is no longer pure. 😱 Where is my fainting couch? This isn't the middle ages. It's ridiculous. Was he also "pure" and "virginal "? Hymens can break for many reasons. We need to quit putting some "ridiculous value" on this antiquated notion. I hope she RAN away from him quickly. 🏃
Id rather them pure than these pzzy popping, only fans, for the street azzes now lol. Dudes be out also. Its not really bad if she not a virgin 😂. I do dislike cheaters... And lyers with no exception. Unlike if a female a virgin or not 😂
I wore black for my wedding, black dress with a white veil. Loved it . It looked so elegant?
Elegant! *
I think if he feel the color shouldn't matter to her then it shouldn't matter to him. She can wear whatever she want.
Anyone can wear a white gown and a veil, regardless of how many times she has been married, children, virgin or not etc. Hopefully this couple can reach a consensus before walking down the aisle.
Thank you Jeanie!
The preacher needs to fast forward to the part where the groom is to leave his mama's apron strings and cleave into his wife whom God hath chosen for his ignorant self. Amen.
It's really him saying 'what's the problem?". The problem is you're not meant to be together.
Adrienne said a mouthful!
He keeps asking why it has to be such a big deal. Well, if it isn't a big deal, then why are you making a big deal about her wearing white? Make it make sense.
I mean I don’t care as long as you look beautiful in your gown... u can wear a white paper bag over your head... I’ll marry you if I love you ! There should be no reason as to why the groom should tell a woman YOU CANT WEAR THAT ! I love the tradition but I would love to do something different but if my bride wanted to wear white let her
Doo Doo Brown 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
She should do whatever she wants and the groom and his family can keep their mouths shut. Or don’t marry him cuz his family will always call the shots. No way!
This is shady shady shaaaaady 🌴 ☘️🌴🌴🌴......
I'm shocked that Jeanie said that...
One of the funniest clips to date 🤣
Queen Victoria wore a white wedding dress and before wedding dresses came in darker colours. It did not start at “purity” symbolism.
hey Real ladies! Just wondering, when will you be back in the studio together? It would be awesome to see that :) and I am only asking, because I see other shows are moving back to pre pandemic settings.. love you guys x
so question does the groom have to wear a different suit if he's a virgin? Just seems like shaming women's sexuality again whilst not pointing out the male's sexuality. Sexism runs deep.
Loni laughing like SpongeBob in the back 😂😂
LOL! Breaking News! 😂 Love these ladies!
Dodo Brown coming down the aisle 🤪🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 that finished me Adrian
Those two must not get married ever.
DOO DOO BROWN!!!!!!! 😂😂😂
Then why was he not marrying a virgin?
I think Jeanie is losing her mind.
If it wasn't a big deal why did he ask her to not wear white?
I Love the response that all the ladies said but as a Baptist denomination of Christianity, I was told that White is reserved for the first marriage but the second, third, etc you wear whatever color you wish but traditionally black was worn the other marriages.
This is why I don’t watch this as much anymore.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 @ Jeannie to Loni, I know she isn't talking.
He got a lot of never. Girl run
I agree with Jeannie. People can want what they want. The woman he wanted to mary was just not right for him if a white dress is that important.
I say wear white for purity...it is a great accomplishment...I waited and was glad I did😁
Not everyone should have to though and should have the right to that decision and what they want to wear. Also I've known plenty of people who waited till marriage, and their wedding night was a big disappointment.
I was disappointed in their responses. They’re missing the bigger issue, just in him telling his fiancé that she’s not pure is an issue in itself. Even if she’s not a virgin, he shouldn’t call her impure. There’s a deeper issue in their relationship and that woman should reconsider. Any woman has the right to wear white
Actually, the real symbol of bridal "purity" isn't the white dress. It's the blusher veil over your face, but most brides decide whether or not to have one based on how it looks with the dress, not on the state of her virginity. That woman was right to call off her wedding. If he had a religious issue with her wearing a white dress, he should also have had a religious issue with dating or marrying her.
I guess it depends if i agree with the tradition. In this case i would follow the tradition. Im w jeannie
Guys anyone can do whatever they want. It’s a tradition, I personally love that tradition but ever one interprets it differently, like for me I wasn’t a virgin but it was my FIRST marriage. I think it should be reserved for one of those two. If I were to get remarried white just doesn’t fit anymore, FOR ME anyways. Not every tradition has to be torn down by modernism. If you want to rock black or pink hey that’s beautiful too, but don’t knock someone who believes in that.
I know several women that the white dress or sheets is used for the wedding night and if there’s blood on the sheets that means she’s pure and it’s a huge celebration ...it’s different for everyone different customs etc I know my Chinese friend got married in a red dress and that’s normal for her culture , but for me for my wedding dress I don’t think I would wear a white white dress even if I was “pure” it’s just not my style
I thought it was the vail not the color of the gown 🤔
I think it’s a nice tradition but like all others, not everyone has to follow it. I for one can’t wear white white cause I will be glowin in the dark 🤣
Back when I was like 13 years old I had already made the decision that if I was to ever get married my entire color scheme is going to be black ( black dress black veil black shoes ) solely because it's my interpretation of what death will be like.
Lmaooooooooo
Loni laughing 😭😂
Jeannie Mai, What?!!!
Let us who waited till marriage have the white dresses. Lol
It's just a dress color geez...
@@daniellalove143 nah it’s all the tradition. If you don’t like tradition wtf you even getting married for
@@daniellalove143 of course but it has meaning and those who respect the tradition wait until they are married to have sex. Why does this bother ppl. That's literally the tradition. On your birthday we sing happy birthday to you...if we started singing it to everyone despite it not being their birthday it would ruin tradition. Of course women can wear what they want. But the tradition is white is because shes waited to share sexual intimacy with her husband only. Who would oppose that?
@@bleudiamondbleu exactly that's a tradition. Why walk down the aisle have a reception kiss the bride. Give vows. Lol
@@bleudiamondbleu like i said it’s JUST a dress color, hopefully y’all focus on the actual marriage as much as you focus on the color of a dress you’re only gonna wear for a couple of hours