Who Eats First: Your Husband or Your Children?
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- It’s customary in some households to serve the man of the house first, but have times changed? Plus, from Maxwell to Bruno Mars, we’re revealing which singer we’d want to sing us “Happy Birthday” after a video featuring a hilarious choir-like rendition of the popular song went viral.
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Who Eats First: Your Husband or Your Children?
My kids come first and than my husband! This is the only way.
Kids first always !!!
@katelyn albrecht I agree !!!!
Me , cause I made the food . 🤣🤣
I serve both my kid and my husband first.. and then wait for me to serve myself and we all wait and eat together. Sometimes my husbands serves me first. It doesn’t matter to me honestly there’s no order
My kids are eating first, my husband is a grown ass man.
AMEN TO THAT!!!!
I KNOW THATS RIGHT!
Hahaha!!!! Yes!!
Damn right! He'll eat...feed those kids.
I mean I will love my husband but I will also knock him out with a cast iron in the same second 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
In my family, the children or the elderly family members get the food first.
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My children eat first a man can wait.
Smokey Robertson can sing Happy Birthday to me
@@joannebrown7302 so their father?
This shouldn’t be a question lol kids come first no matter what, adults can feed themselves
Without a doubt!
right? like my man got two hands, he doesn't need me to serve him. this is 2021, we going in 50/50
TRUE
Listen women who make those stupid statements they wanna be liked or lobed by their man. They would do anything to please grown ass men first. They are called pick mes. They don’t know that a masculine man works for you to take care of their kids first, it gives them a sense of accomplishment.
Kids come first .
Not only is my kid eating first, I’m eating second and my mom will eat and then my husband
As a man, I would make sure my kids and then wife is good before me!
Nuff respect🙌🏿
That's because you are a MAN and you don't need your wife to make you 'FEEL' like one. Respect 🙌🏾
Let's go 💯
Facts
Real man
Some women will die for their man and say the hell with the kids while the man is out cheating with the next woman. I'm so sick of the old school mentality.
Yo real talk smh
Hilarious
Agreed. So sad
I know a woman who kicked her daughter out to the streets because the daughter told her that her mother’s boyfriend was molesting her smh.
My mother-in-law was one of those women. I disliked that woman and I informed my husband prior to marriage.
My grand- mom set a high end Sunday table every weekend and especially on holidays. But, the men always ate first and one Saturday I asked her you cook the food and we help why do they eat first, she stated they work so hard during the week and should be served first. I told her don't you work hard during the week along with everyone else in the family and she looked at me (eyes wide opened) and said you're right. So that Sunday and every other Sunday the men stopped being served first. Who ever wanted to eat first, last or whatever started. The kids always had a separate table and they always ate first. My feelings at 11 yrs old was my grand-mom came first to me.
I saw this same discussion on Facebook awhile ago and this man said “It doesn’t matter who is served first, because no one is eating until my wife sits down.” Lol here for it, unless the kids are super young.
I guess we are a modern family here because I cook, but I don’t serve. Everyone who comes into my home is notified that we are “self-serve.” Also, if there’s something you like in the fridge, go for it. Don’t ask. Food shouldn’t be denied to anyone period.
Yep same here. Though fridge is sometimes out of bounds for ice cream and sweets
You my type of people haha. Used to hate going to certain families houses and when im hungry and I couldnt walk in the kitchen to get a snack lol.
Now I can understand if they didnt have much then thats different.
@@JeremiahWalton 🤗❤️
Carlos Lockwood I like that 👌
I dont like to serve and I only get paranoid when those who eats mostly the relish serve themselves first.
We eat together but always feeding my kids first.
Want the man to work and give u money first but eat 2nd 😂😂😂
i don’t know why this is still a debate... grown ass man can fetch his own plate
Yes!
Hahaha your icon and this comment pull it together🤣🤣
It’s a respect thing. Women can fetch their own doors but expect us to do it for them…some traditional things are there for a reason.
My husband and I agree that our kids get their plates first.
You should teach your kids not wait until there father comes
Thats right kids eat first
Eat as a family and that way it won’t even matter
@@dreahannah709 We do, as I wrote before.... My kids get their plates first. Didn't say they ate first we eat together.
I think it’s probably a different thing in every household. I think if ppl are able to eat dinner traditionally as a family it’s cool. But that’s not always the case. But being able to fix everyone’s plate & sitting down together as a family is ok
My kids come first so they eat first! My man can wait 🤷🏻♀️
Period !
I KNOW THATS RIGHT!
I serve my family all at once. All plates are all served at the same time on the table and then I call everyone to sit together at the same time.
@@Sarah3944 That’s usually how I do it. If they are already sitting then I always go from youngest to oldest.
YUP, KIDS COME FIRST, THAN THE DOG AND THE FISH, AND THAN THE MAN.
It’s general manners that no one starts eating until everyone has food in front of them so who gets it when doesn’t matter
It doesn't matter who is served first, we all pray together and start eating at the same time.
I'm from the Caribbean, I fix hubby and the children's plates at the same time, and with my awesome balancing skills, everyone's plate goes on the table and I summon all of them at the same time. I either fix mine after or eat at a later time cause I'm not always hungry at the time. Day to day varies, if hubby isn't home, the children and i eat without him, or sometimes even when he is home, he may not be ready to eat. But this is a tradition I got from my family and plus I prefer to share the food, I don't want hubby digging up in my food, too messy. But like I said it varies.
Exactly.. Pr here too
Izzy Pilgrim I'm from the caribbean and I approve your message 👍💯
Facts
This is it, right here.
I’m Caribbean 🇩🇲 too and that’s how it was for me growing up!
We all helped with dinner and served ourselves. Why does a plate have to be placed in front of you at home? Home isn't a restaurant or wedding lol.
Love how Jeannie include Jays parents..(RIP..Mom Jenkins
I’ve never heard of this before. In my family whoever made the food says that it’s ready & we all just dig in. No body eats first it’s just come & get what u want
thats my house to we all eat at once no one goes first
As an Afghan in our culture kids always eat first Unless you have a sick person at home or someone who needs your help And in marriage you eat together
My child eats first. Sorry he is only 8 and he can’t wait. This women has a pick me spirit so I understand. African family is the dad first or elders first... but I have my kid and my kid comes first.
Lol which Africa be specific
At 8 he should be able to wait. I teach preschool and they wait. No shade but....
I Am East African and in my culture our children come first, and also the elders would ask if the mother has eaten yet.
Because the mother is the backbone of the family, if mama hasn’t had anything to eat then the family won’t function well.
@@veyvey9795 but a grow 35 year old man can wait longer
I’m confused, why can’t an 8 year old wait.
We wait and say grace as a family before eating so it doesn’t make a difference whos plate is served first.
same !
The children definitely eat first, the adult can most definitely wait😂😂that’s the only way
Loni you have been slaying this entire quarantine. That studio does you NO justice, sis!
I think at home she does her own makeup. In the studio they have white people doing her makeup.
@@daphneepaul3737 Well, there are plenty of black MUAs, they have absolutely no excuse for the madness that has been carrying on.
Facts Vanessa K😯
She's been glowing the entire quarantine. Just gorgeous!
She looks angry and bitter. Jeani Mai is glowing
Agreed with jeannnie, i’m a pakistani-asian and we serve the elders first too. Deffo just a respect thing, teaches children to respect too as well as patience
Out of respect I am serving my husband first. If he has been out working and providing for the family all day, he will come home to a hot meal to be shared with our children who have been playing and/or learning all day. I am making sure my husband is good first , then focus all my attention on serving my children who sometimes need extra help when eating. Overall we will eat as a family , but there is definitely a hierarchy in the household as it pertains to husband and children. Kids get most of my energy and attention all day and they should see when Daddy comes home he is appreciated loved and respected, therefore we all make sure he eats first.
Well said! 🙏🏻
Yesss finally i comment i agree with😄!! Lets throw all this toxic feminism out🙄
Beautiful 😊
I like this !!
@@IvethS yessssssss!!
We sing 3 songs in my family
1- Regular happy birthday
2- Stevie Wonder version
3- 50 Cent
IN👏🏼 THAT👏🏼 ORDER 👏🏼😂
I would feed my kids, then feed my cats - my hubby can feed himself
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Not the cats 🤣🤣
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Naz Remember that pecking order when your birthday comes around
I know in some instances there’s like an hierarchy of the adults come first and then the kids... but usually in my family I know growing up my mom would fix me and my sibling’s plates first but my dad was last! So for me I would say from what I’ve seen the kids get their plate first
Kids first 🤷🏻♀️ at our regular nightly dinners and family dinners, parties, or just any get together. I serve our kids, then my husband, then myself.
Yess and we can eat comfortably because the kids are fed
Jeanie is too quiet today... Whats going on?
I noticed too...I hope everything is happy for her and family.
Ever since got married the other ladies been acting funny with her tbh
Husband served first, children served, but we all eat at the same time after prayer!
I will never ever serve an able-bodied man a plate of food lol. The man that expects that isn't the man for me. Kids are a different story
Same here!!
I know that my husband is fully capable of making his own plate however because my love for my husband I do make his plate from
time to time. I was once that way in the early years of our marriage like fix your own plate, but when your love grows for your spouse you want to do things for them. 🤷🏽♀️ love is not a feeling it is an action. So, now I see there is nothing wrong with serving him from time to time. It will be 11 years in July and soon to be 3 kids later. Now, if a man expects you to do it then yes, there is a problem. But my husband doesn’t expect me to serve him. He asks sometimes and sometimes I ask him would he like me to fix his plate.
@@ebonyc.4589 thank you, you are one of the few sensible ones left
Yeah.. I don’t agree. I serve my man out of respect and love. I personally don’t understand anything else
Well all I know is my man treats me amazingly & I will fix his plate do his laundry iron his clothes & a whole lot of other things he loves for me to do. When I say this man flosses me like no other & does it with a smile on his face damn right I’m fixing all plates. And I have & never will be a pic me.
I'm Nigerian so I usually serve my husband first before others BUT if the kids are really hungry. I serve them first. It's just a sign of RESPECT. Whenever we go out with friends or to my in-laws house, my husband always make sure I have food on my table FIRST.
Absolutely in African house it’s like that I love it that way serve your king your protector your provider.
I do the same thing it’s respect and when we’re in his moms house is the other way round.
This video is talking to the Western 😀
@@ajohonly3721 I am a Nigerian too and it was the same in our house. So many beautiful things in our culture that are worthy of respect and preservation. My parents never ate if it meant we would not be full and went on empty belly so many times. However, as things got better, my dad was served first, then we dug into whatever was left. In our culture, it's disrespectful to serve our dad who was also provider and protector left over food. I think part of why we usually serve elders first is also that we kids like the 'bottom pot' and would fight to get it + large families and if you don't serve him first, he might not get any portion. That happened the day I tried it the other way round. My dad could only eat dinner at home and as the breadwinner, it was respectful to serve him first. Funny how in most homes, the dad, who was served first, usually ends up sharing his food with the children who are already full and there is so much joy. When we go out too, my dad never eats until we and my mum have been taken care of. Different dynamics in different cultures. I love our culture particularly our family values. Also, my dad has never cheated on my mum in 40+ years of marriage.
@@gracemakinde you're not with your dad 24/7 so you don't know if he has cheated or not
I am not married, however, I was taught the man gets served first because he is the one out and providing.
Thank you for stating your country instead of just saying "Africa". Applause to you. Haha
Jeannie is making me cringe with that clap 🤣🤣🤣😅
Her eyeshadow is making me cringe. Giving off Mimi vibes.
Husband/Father gets served first. It’s not a matter of him being grown and able to make his own plate, it’s a sign of reverence to him for being the protector/provider of the home. It’s not like the children aren’t eating, they are getting served as well and they get to see this demonstration of respect from their mother to their father. Besides, no one’s eating anyway until grace is said 🙏🏻
Okay, now you’re talking, this makes more sense and it is right. Thank you!
In my house even when I've got friends over I cook and lay everything out and I say please help yourselves because if you're invited to something over at my home you're treated like family. My son and I we serve ourselves but sometimes when my son cooks he serves me particularly when I'm tired from work.
Loni's makeup is blessing me 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 So gorgeous Ms Love!!
That’s wild Garcelle’s brothers were fed first I would’ve thrown FITS 😩
It's like that in Haitian culture. Boys first, then girls. Remind me of the past...
@@ClaireCorinthos Absolutely not true. I’m Haitian (my family may be more modern tho) but the kids come first, if there aren’t any kids the elders comes first, and everyone who is an able bodied adult serves themselves
My mom used to tell us dinner was ready and we made our own plates. If ur first in line you eatin first. That simple.
Same!! If you’re not hurt get your own plate, if you didn’t, you’re not hungry
Facts
Kids eat when I tell them. Husband eats when he wants, but I serve him, the same way I would cook and put the food on the table for my kids. Yes I'm traditional and I love it like that ☺️
Most of the time we will all be eating together. Say grace, then eat *together* . Those moments are important for family time.
As an African girl who grew up in a cultured home mom always dishes out dad's food first before any one else. Even in his absence his food will be serve in his storage bowls first. And honestly i love every bit of our culture .
Yes!
No
Yup! Everyone will still eat too 🤗
Right
Is it even a question? Kids of course. How can't u eat if kids are hungry? They won't let u In peace 😂😂😂
I totally agree with Jeannie Honor and Respect means everything
Lol. We do the normal version, "Happy Birthday to you", then the Christian version, "May the good Lord bless you" then the African (Nigerian) version "How old are you now" 🤣🤣
Facts 🤣 🇳🇬Then... "We wish you, many happy returns....."
@@jasminesoyinka Yes, that part too 😂😂
Sometimes ending with hipipipipeep hooray! 🤣🤣
I grew up in a Latino household, and my dad always got his plate first, and my mom always served herself last. Don't know why but that's just how it was.
Grew up in a black household and my mom did the same. Never knew why even now she expects us to fix our partners plates at events and things.
I grew up in an Italian household and my mom always gave a plate to my dad first
Can’t speak for everyone but when I cook I give my husband the first plate bc he’s usually the hungriest...My kids eat slower and usually play around at the table and I serve myself last bc if I serve myself before them my food gets cold. When my husband cooks, he serves me first for the same reason.
@@j.m.9796 I serve myself first because I’m the one who cooks 😂they think I serve my self last but they have. No idea I’ve been eating while the food is cooking, The whole time lol. They always wonder why I’m mot eating when we’re sitting down but it’s because I’m already full by the time the food is done cooking 😂
@@daphneepaul3737 😂😂 I love this comment!!
I'm not married or a mom but trust me if I was I'd make sure that my kids ate before myself and my man.
Facts
Hey Adrienne, those who practice hierarchy don't necessarily do it without love nor those that don't it don't because they have more love.
It does not matter whoever is closer is getting the plate lol, but when there are kids the kids definitely go first
At mine. Indian household. It is guests first then elders (usually this includes grandparents) then kids . The person cooking is last as they are making everything hot .
Adrienne describing the Birthday song situations in her family with the 3-part harmony, Israel giving them the cue to end, etc. got me hollering 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. That's certainly a portrayal of appreciating the diversity in the family👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😂😂
Who remembers when they did this topic years ago?
Kids first ! that man is a grown a** adult with two feet and a heartbeat. You better make yourself a plate or starve 😂😂
JESUS CHRIST LOVES YOU AND CARES FOR YOU HAVE A GOOD DAY EVERYONE
Same to you Eddie
I felt that high notes in my SOUL !!! I almost had to take a lap around my home 😂😂! I think if anyone I would love to hear happy birthday... listen I’m gonna need Stevie Wonder himself to sing it to me I need to dance lol
I laughed bc the lyrics in Rih birthday cake song is “and it’s not even my birthday” 🤣🤣
Right she wanted to show she knew another artist that said birthday
I'm Asian too and I love that the elders are served first. I tell my kids that it is because of them we exist and they laid the groundwork so that we have a place to eat, dishes to eat on, and food to eat. Something as simple as food is such a luxury we have an America that I don't want my kids to take advantage of.
This!
because of the elders we exist? but the kids didn't ask to be here. Thats ridiculous. There are other ways kids can pay respect. Just because its tradition dosent mean it isnt egotistical
Last time they spoke about this Adrienne said man 😂
Jenni Jenni Jenni....girl don't try to clap on beat. Bless your heart
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Lol. Jeanie I’m with you.. I guess African and Asian ways are the same. We are not talking about starvation situation though .
They need to bring up the extreme to make a point.
My parents (especially my father) can be very traditional at times so it goes from the oldest to the youngest. Btw I'm Ghanian Liberian.
However at informal parties, kids get serve first
I wish I could find that Tik Tok video of the family singing happy birthday! That was phenomenal!!!!
Jeanie’S rhythm killed me😂😂😂
I want to go to a birthday at Adrienne’s house. Sounds damn near like a concert.
I'm so happy Jeannie brought out that other perspective. Some people take joy or honor in the way food is served.
He will starve, No way am I “serving” a grown ass able-bodied man who is waiting for me to do something for him that he can complete by himself. “Serving” is the kinda thing that happens in restaurants. Why the hell can’t a big strong man “serve” me? Full stop.
Spouses shouldn't recieve better treatment outside of the home than they do inside the home. That's the motto in my home. I'll be damned if my spouse has to leave my home to feel special and appreciated
Okkkkkkk serving my big strong man that is always coming through & making it happen for his family. Yesssss Mam!
This made me think of my childhood. My mother always used to serve the grown ups first. As I got older she would have me serve my older brothers first...honeyy the resentment I have is crazy lol
In my house we put the food in the middle of the table. And then you serve yourself.
This was interesting because it’s always been tradition in my family to feed the kids first even when I was married I made our daughter plate first then my husband !!!!
It’s just logical. You let the kids and whoever is serving them go first. The kids are the whiners.
My kids weren’t like that. I fixed everyone’s plate then we all sat down together & ate at the same time.
Why would a sensible man want to eat before his kids anyway 👀
That is seriously a beautiful way to sing happy birthday!
And my child always eats first.
I don’t even have children but I would have a problem if my husband thought he should eat before any child in our presence. Even when our nieces and nephews are over, he wouldn’t dare have a plate before them.
But why tho? Typically the man would eat first because he is the biggest and the one who works. He deserves it. We put kids on these super pedestal and wonder why they are so spoiled
Doesn’t matter who gets served first in my family, because no one eats till we say grace together. 💯💯💯
My daughter eats 1st and then boo and we all say grace
Well my husband usually cooks most of the time and he makes sure he serves us all before him
Same here🤚🏿😂
Loni and the vocals!!! 🎤 🎶
When I grew up it was always the males first then kids then women eat last and sometimes alone after they feed and cleaned up everything. It still rubs off on me as an adult now but if my kids are crying I feed them first and my hubby will either wait or just grab his own plate if he sees I’m busy
Idk. In traditional Haitian culture the husband always gets fed first which is a beautiful thing because it shows the children that mommy is happy to serve daddy and daddy appreciates mommy. I think it just models how to live and act towards eachother in a marriage. It shows the children as well, besides mommy and daddy kissing or saying I love you, they can do little acts like that.
The best comment I've read so far!
Kids eat first for sure
No yea that dad really did the mostest with that happy birthday
Definitely Destiny's child singing their birthday song would be my dream come true.
I love Adrienne's mentality on the food. Empathy/logic!!
It does not matter who eats first because there should be enough for everyone one.
We all help, plating all the dishes together and then sitting down to eat them. #teamwork!
I serve all the plates, ask everyone to the table then hand out back to back no order lol
Do people really over think about who's going to get the first plate?! Dang! I'm all about who needs help, so obviously, the kids get taken care of first. They depend on adults. Other than that, everyone should get up and serve themselves 🤷🏽♀️
You’re asking uncultured baby moms. Not wives and cultured families. A true cooker, cooking day in and out for their family knows you make hubby’s plate, kids, then yours. Then you sit for your meal with your family
Don’t even get me started on this your kids always come first
If you don’t have a husband they do. But if your husband isn’t looked at as head of the household then there’s a problem
@@vibe2248 You ain't head of the household if you're not the one looking after everyone. The mom is the one doing *all* the house work: cooking cleaning *and* taking care of and actually raising the children. The whole is functionning because of mothers. The mom is the head of the house.
Be grateful for all the work and sacrifice your wife has done for you and your children and fix her damn plate for once.
We put all the food on the table family style and every digs in. Lol that’s how we avoid this issue 🤣🤣🤣
It’s only an issue when you ever put the man last.
The serving of food at my home is not a big deal. I love serving my husband and he does so for me too, but even guests at my home get a plate before my husband sometimes...because they're guests and he would have it no other way.
Whenever Jeannie speaks, the whole African continent claps 👏 there seems to be a lot of overlaps between the Asian and Africa culture.
Right! I’m like in Africa men eat first and you serve ur husband it’s no big deal
Yes very similar culture prospective as well. That's why is easier to intermarried, we took care of our elderly and we take in our brothers and sisters kids. Raised them as our own.
Bring back respect for the man in the home
Children first PERIOD!!!
Plate everyone, but place husband’s plate on the table first, then the kids. It’s basically at the same time but out of respect husband first.
I KNEW Lonnie was gonna say that before she said it omg 😂😂😂 @4:10
Traditional hispanic values here. When our children are babies They Most definately eat first. As teenagers/VS dad thats been working all day. Husband gets the best piece of meat and the best looking plate.. Momma eats last. ALWAYS.Once she knows everyone else has been fed,of course. Its It's a respect thing for the 'provider'. That said... If Mom or children have some reason why they need the focus..they get it. ☺
I suppose there are special order rules like age,buffet set up etc. 🤷♀️
Yes I agree with this
Not Hispanic but I think this is the way it should be.
So only the 'provider' get respect? What about the mom who catered towards EVRERYONE *all* *day* *long* 24/7 without any breaks. Where is the appreciation and respect for the one running everything in the house, so everyone stays happy? Moms are sacrificing their own time, happiness and breaking their backs everyday, but dads get 'respect' for doing the bare minimum? Shameful.
@@unknown0290 I didn't say that...But it's funny how value for cultural differences went right over your head. 🙄
i’m asian and as i kid i would always serve my parents first. when we go out to eat and there’s tea, the youngest would have to pour the tea for everyone (if they’re old enough to pour it)
So a grown fully functioning adult must come before a child? The internalised misogyny is real.
My grandma made my grandpas plate but it was always known that’s the only plate she was making lmao. Obviously when I was younger she’d bring both of our plates at the same time and then make her plate, but it was also a rule that you couldn’t eat until grace and grace wouldn’t happen until she sat down with hers.
I'm actually shocked by how many women are saying they wouldn't serve their husbands... That's interesting to me. Can someone share why you feel that way? (Other than "He can do it himself...")
That’s just some women’s backwards mentality.
Why isn't the husband serving his wife? She is the one who made the food, the husband should appreciate her work and show gratefullness by making her plate.
@@unknown0290 In my home, we usually do one person cooks and the other cleans up. So one person will prepare the food and serve everyone. The other will clean up after we eat and do the dishes. 🤷🏽♀️
@@LexVanguard Then, that's fair
Sing it Lonnie!! I feel you Adrienne!! In our house we sing every version of Happy Birthday that we know. We especially make sure to sing "A happy birthday to you, a happy birthday to you, May you feel Jesus near every day of the year. Happy birthday to you and the best one you ever had". We make sure to sing it as a way to share Jesus with others.