Nope, it's not because she's attractive. Nowadays, you can't trust people around your kids! Sorry no Nanny for me, idc if it's a male or female no one around my kids. Y'all see what's going on in the world
I am confused on that one. But i am capable to hire a model with cameras around the house to see his truth scale levels. 🤣🤣🤣😍🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Exactly. It's not saying she doesn't trust her husband but it's also not good to tempt him. Like don't bring a beautiful woman in the house and leave her with your husband. Like seriously why is link and Adrienne not understand this. It is better to Safe then Sorry
That's why I like Garcelle answer She always keep it real. The rest just want to say what makes everyone happy And yet I know for sure either one of them won't recommend a beautiful woman around their man.
The reason this is even a topic is because it’s happened to women who trusted their spouse enough to have attractive workers in their house! You can think you know him, but no one 100% knows anybody but themselves.
@@ZGwoo888 100%! & I do believe that people’s general emotional state changes seasonally depending upon what they’re experiencing in life. A partner could be in an insecure phase n suddenly the flirtation is a temporary band-aid where previously there was zero possibility.
I love how even when she knows her opinion is not popular, Garcelle finds a way to make it understandable. She keeps it real and is not worried about being liked
@Nina Aden right. Imagine going through the effort of proposing, incurring debt for a wedding and home and kids only to throw it all away just cause someone looks good. I think men cheat cause they assume we will forgive and stay because otherwise it makes absolutely no sense at all why someone would take such a big risk.
Adrienne is such a liar. Her husband cheated on his previous wife so let's not take anything past anyone. Adrienne knows she wouldn't like it if a STRANGER not her friends or family who are attractive..would be around her husband especially when she's not there. Lol she fronting!!!!
How long are women in this generation going to pretend they’re okay with stuff solely to not appear jealous at the expense of their marriage? It’s not wrong to purposefully decide not to hire a Barbie doll to help your husband resist temptation. And there’s nothing wrong with that. If your nanny is so beautiful that (in Adriennes words) you yourself notice as a straight woman, you are testing the limits with your man hiring them to be in your household. Don’t do it. How many more stories do you have to read about other people’s experiences, to realize that it’s probably not the best idea for your marriage to hire a gorgeous nanny who holds everything down except for the most stressful conversations that are mandatory in a marriage. You’re literally offering her up on a platter if you decide to pretend you don’t care. You’re MARRIED...you’re made the biggest commitment of your life. Why are you ashamed to admit that you don’t feel comfortable with your husband being around a woman that he probably fantasizes about - which is normal, but you’re inviting that into your home. People have urges. The more available the situation, the easier it is to do something. Fight for your marriage ladies, the way your man fought to put a ring on your finger. I don’t know about the rest of you, but if I’ve ever said a man was getting too friendly at work for example, my husband was not okay with it. WHICH IS NORMAL. If you don’t want a committed relationship then you need to say so before marriage. And that has absolutely nothing to do with being insecure and everything to do with the promise that was made to me upon proposal and the covenant we made between the two of us m before God. SMH. If you don’t believe in all that, then I guess this comment doesn’t apply to yoiU
Fantasy does lead to temptation sometimes, especially if they are in the home. Those that said they are so secure that they don't care are the first to jump at their husband's throats and file for divorce if the man so much as texted her or failed their overly high expectations.
The women doesn’t even have to be a attractive there’s a clip from how I met your mother where they say after a period of time a man is around a woman if she’s his secretary or business partner or etc that he’s going to start finding her attractive. He may not do anything about it depending on the man but it’s like why put yourself in that situation. Very silly
@@RawiyahSofyah yes fantasy leads to doing the real act all the time. People in committed relationships should not allow themselves to fantasize even about celebrities. Your mind is very powerful and your subconscious could one day lead you to the exact fantasy you keep picturing
@@mbtilover3575 see..exactly - this is even more unsettling. People need to be cautious about the situations they set up for their partners, unless they don’t want to be monogamous!!
I understand that if a man wants to cheat, then he’s gonna cheat but I feel like it’s different if you putting extra obstacles in his way and tempting him😂😂 They still human🤷🏽♀️
Garcelle is really the only one who has the experience to talk about this subject. Yes of course a man who wants to cheat on you will cheat regardless and putting a beautiful possibility accessible woman is like playing with fire why even give them the opportunity? I trust my boo but why put a golden ticket in front of him? It’s also not being insecure it’s called being too naive. Let’s be real y’all.
@Nina Aden THIS! thank you!!!! I see attractive men everyday but I don’t feel the need to cheat on my husband. If hiring someone attractive causes you to feel like your man will leave you then you never had him in the first place.
I don't get it. Something is fucked up in our society. There's some weird obsession or something when it comes to men and nannies or maids. I've been a nanny for a long time now, and I can't even count the number of times people think that I'm sleeping with the husband or he has made a pass on you. And I'm like absolutely not. Its a weird stereotype. I'm sick and tired of it. Its so wrong! I'm there, just like most nannies to help with the kids. Period.
Some people work really long hours and sometimes don’t have the time or energy 🤷🏽♀️ Healthcare workers have been working around the clock this last year . Let’s not make people feel bad for not “cleaning their own home” 🤣
Even if I could, I don't want a nanny....they are my babies and they will know me. I can clean my own house & take care of my child(s). I don't care how she looks, I am secure yet if I ever chose to bring someone into help, he can look but if he plays, I will thank her for taking him off my hands.
THANK YOU! I was thinking the exact same thing. Famous men have cheated on some of the most beautiful women(beyonce, jlo etc) with average at best women. it really isnt about looks but rather about the thrill or the sneaking that gets them off.
Sometimes it is not about men who want to cheat, it is about opportunity. I would not steal, However, if I saw someone drop stacks of cash on the street and no one was around, I may take it. Do not put yourself in a difficult situation for no reason. Only hire very old prude nannys who are super strict. Hell a nun would work too.
@@donnadaniel3080 why u triggered? I’m a father and even I wouldn’t hire a maIe to care for my daughter. Tisha Campbell was rped when she was 3 by her maIe baby sitter.
Nope, people are crazy. I do not need some strange person, man or woman, lurking around my home and getting too familiar and comfortable. I can clean, cook and handle my own errands.
@@babydollers2586 I did speak for myself and said what I said. That is why this is MY comment. If anyone disagrees, they can keep scrolling along...Have a nice day. Bye.
People need to understand it’s not about the looks it’s about the behavior and the attitude. Maybe we need to stop treating men like kids in a candy shop. Some men get hit on but never act on it and they will tell their wife because they are just honest and they value their marriage.
Adrienne REALLY needs to STOP talking over everyone! It’s so annoying because I’m trying to hear what the other person is saying but Adrienne is either cutting them off or talking louder over them that I can’t understand what anyone is saying. I get that there might be some technical difficulties or lagging in the ear pieces but I hope on the monitor she can see that some else is trying to talk. Plus u can tell that the ladies r getting frustrated when she does it to...I mean just look at Garcelle’s face when she was talking about her fantasy at the end
She definitely talks over them especially during these topics. I think she’s grown up a bit because it’s interesting that she said “a man that wants to cheat on you will find a way to cheat on you regardless...” but if you go back to the video when Tamar was on the show and they all had this same conversation, she said most men cheat because their women are mean and not kind to them. (I’m paraphrasing) I’m glad she knows The Real now.
Exactly! this is like saying that if you stop sleeping with your husband that because he’s a a honest and committed man there won’t be a temptation for him to cheat.
Damnn I don’t think i will ever have that amount of confidence and faith for a man the way Adrianne does for her husband. I ain’t hiring no JLo look alike nanny around my house
@@veronica5080 I don’t trust anyone 100% i leave out a a certain percentage to protect myself from destruction. I can never say things about other people with that much assurance … I don’t even wish anyone to do so for me because we are all human and our hearts are bound to evolve or change.
Even if I trusted my husband . I believe in lessening the temptation. You are ASKING FOR TROUBLE by inviting temptation into the home. My mom always taught me that. I would def be curious in hearing a man's opinion on this. Women and men think so differently
it depends very much on your relationship if its rocky or u don't have good intimacy I wouldn't risk it. but if ur a good woman/wife/gf with good chemistry with the guy and he's not a dick then it won't matter so much. perhaps the best way to explain it is an example. I run my own business and there are a lot of regular female customers. there was 1 in particular that 100% my type who literally used to come in 3-4 times a week and we chatted often at work..... had I been single I'd of been all over it. but I had a long time gf at the time. the reason I wasn't jumping at the temption is coz my gf was awesome. she'd send me suggestive texts/pics sometimes in the day and when I saw her after work she was also so excited to see me...made me feel super valued. we had a good relationship. if that relationship had been bad or she acted like she couldn't be arsed to see me or made me feel devalued or taken for granted or it was boring or we had a bad sex life etc etc then I would of likely taken up the temptation don't go out of your way to put temptation but at the same time if ur secure it won't matter.
It’s not always about someone having a natural wondering eye. Sometimes people who never thought they’d mess up get heavily tempted and fall. Anyone will cheat with anyone that’s true but if you’re with someone like that there’s already an issue. I think it’s more a question of the nanny’s professionalism and boundaries. But don’t always pin it on someone being a bad person. In your home is personal. You have the right to decide.
It really depends on the women and how she acts around your husband, as well as how your husband acts with other women. However I do agree that if it’s something you’re not used to then you don’t HAVE to confide if you don’t feel comfortable. Every relationship is different, so some will care and others won’t. It’s like parenting, you shouldn’t judge someone’s parenting so you shouldn’t judge someone’s relationship.
Exactly. My mom's friend had to let go of her kids' nanny cause she would do strange things like greet only her husband in the morning, ask him how he slept and then walk him to his car when he left for work. She never once mentioned the nanny's looks, just her inappropriate behaviour.
Lol Garcelle got Adrienne! Be real Adrienne, you are lying! What happened with Joseph and Potifers wife?! He had no intention of being with her but he ran! He didn’t sit and say I’m strong God fearing man and she can’t make me, HE RAN OUT NAKED! What does that say? He wouldn’t even take the risk, and this is the point and the real Adrienne. I trust my husband but I would NEVER bring fire into my home. You must be crazy. Not only that, I don’t know their intentions, act like you don’t know women out here. Lol @ pool boy Garcelle you were the realist in this conversation 🤣
You should trust husband if he thinks she is pretty so what its fact that he sees but should know not to every attractive woman he sees if he wanna cheat he's gonna cheat it don't matter of the person is pretty or not.
Adrienne your pretty friends walking around your house and hiring and paying a JLo look alike to work in your house is not the same honey. It takes a different type of man to hit on your friends, but you sure as hell don't hire temptation sis. If he is a cheater, he'll cheat anyways....but I am definitely not making it easy for him in my house. 🙄🙄
I mean they don't always have to be skinny or thin tho I should say its just the principles not many nannies or people these days or skinny or thin as you mentioned as you might know thick and heavy are the new style these days
Garcelle is taking as if a wife is responsible of keeping “temptation” out of her husband’s life. AND HE CHEATED ANYWAY. That’s ineffective and antiquated. Nannies and maids are not there to be regarded as potential sexual objects. I completely agree with Ade and Loni. If he’s a real one, he won’t trip.
Yes but I think it would be a lot worse if he was cheating with the bitch that she paid to take care of her house. Yes cheating can happen but that don’t mean you gotta bring her to your damn doorstep. I’m sure it stings worse when it’s with the nanny.
But why be the one instrumental in serving temptation on a platter for your own man? Men are visual by nature. If my man struggled with an addiction, would I bring the substance to him and be like “this is here in front of you and I’m bringing it to you so I don’t seem insecure, but don’t touch it though”?! Or would I do what’s in my power to make it a bit easier for him to do what he needs to do in OUR household? Ultimately the decision is his, but why would I test the waters lmao
Temptations are natural and happen to any man no matter how great they may be. Personally I'd rather flee away from situations that could trigger possible temptations especially if I have the means to control it.
I would assume that it would have been a no to attractive nannies because not long ago they did a topic on how much money would it take for you to let someone sleep with your man for one night and I believe she said no amount. She mentioned something about feeling better if the woman was ugly though. I think she was also against hall passes.
Completely fair. Men are human. Why tempt them? You think they don't have feelings? Why even have that in the house. It's common sense. Don't look for problems.
as women we need to stop making excuses for men. We are all humans and have temptations everyday both men and women. It's all about having control, self respect and respect for your spouse.
@@MMM-id3dx it's not an excuse. It's the same having an attractive man around your woman and leaving them alone. It's not about gender it's just about human temptation
@@MMM-id3dx factssss like I’m a woman and there have been times where I felt attracted to another man being in a relationship. Stop making excuses for cheating men, cuz I know there are A BUNCH of men that will NEVER cheat on their partner....it’s just the type of men the majority of women go after these days.. you want the bad ones and step on and ignore the good faithful ones.
Attractive is one thing yes they need to keep it in their pants but if the woman is half naked with juicy tatas bouncing up n down and he's trying to enjoy his peace in his home then he's only human and the babysitter needs to be dressed appropriately. Many an attractive woman is dressed appropriately and know how to be professional.
I understand where that woman is coming from. However I agree, if a man wants to cheat he will. On top of that the person they cheat with doesn’t always have to be attractive.
Sometimes man don't cheat becouse they don't have opportunity and than you give him one . Attractive female and him in the house .Lol you can't be sure .Even those who never planed to cheat on their wife will do when they are too close to something.
I hate the argument that men will sleep with anything. Not all men are the same. If the man isn't attracted to the Nanny, he's not going to fantasize about her. If she is pretty, you are making it more tempting for him. Next he will think she is sending him signals and then boom. Now you gotta find a new man and a Nanny. Its almost like taking your man to a strip club. If she looks like broomhilda, he's not going to pay attention to her.
This has happened countless times. It’s an actual issue. It really is asking for trouble. They’ve been multiple stories of this. Gwen Stefanie comes to mind. Also what is Adrienne on about. She know she wouldn’t hire a hot housekeeper/nanny. Also, Israel has cheated before. His internal “constitutional” is questionable at best.
Some are looking for a come up. They pretend they're there to work meanwhile they're plotting to take your place cause they're jealous that your husband is taking care of you. I know someone with that experience.
This is a weird stereotype. I was a nanny to a couple families for all my college years and I couldn't tell you how many people ask me if I'm sleeping with the husband or if he made a move on me. Maid/Nanny affairs are pretty rare, in my opinion. I was just trying to pay off some of my dept, nothing more lmao
It is a weird stereotype indeed. I've heard more stories about husbands that had an affair with their sister in law, than with the nanny. I personally know two cases where the man married the sister in law. Your own blood betrays you, let alone your husband.
@Nina Aden How is your point relevant to the discussion? Nobody said it was unattractive when the biological mother does it! Also, mothers do not do it for free. The father is supporting her and the children in some way.
If you need to go through all of that... maybe you shouldn’t have the person in your house ... why invite someone in your household that you don’t know for a fact u can trust , nor can u trust your husband while she is around... like that to me is more of an issue than having an attractive/ unattractive woman as a nanny! But idk that’s just me
Adrienne know dam well she would feel some type of way to have someone that’s pretty. her and Lonnie fronting ! Adrienne dancing around the point and she would NOT.
I appreciate your honesty. Men are by nature very visual. If my husband had someone around that looked like a Victoria’s Secret model or something...I’d be dumb to think he wasn’t fantasizing about her lol. Especially in her element doing house chores and keeping our home well kept or whatever. Women are more into the personality and how someone makes them feel, but it is my understanding that men care a lot about physical attraction for the most part. Sooo yea, why would I knowingly tempt my husband? LOL and in my own home of all places. And also..He’s only ever going to see the very best version of her, because she’s there to help. She doesn’t have to talk to him about finances, the kids, or anything that would cause stress. Which makes her look even better. YEA, NO THANKS!
You should be honest, that would save so many women from heartache but then you shouldn't be married if you wouldn't be tempted. My husband wouldn't be tempted.
There are 2 words they’re called “SELF RESPECT & another called “SELF CONTROL”. Not every woman out there covets their neighbors husband. Some of us are very happy with what /who we have, thank God.
Its unfair for an unattractive woman not to get a job because of another woman's insecurities. This goes on all the time. I am an attractive woman and when i go to get a job its difficult. If the interviewer is an ugly woman or not as attractive as me, she is not hiring me but I have all the qualifications to get the job. But if I go to get a job and the interviewer is a woman and she is my equal or somewhat attractive as well, she will hire me. I always know which one will hire me and which one wont.
Garcelle calling A a freak for hiring a hot employee is hypocritical when she mentioned her pool boy fantasy does not require communication. A just said she’d be nice to look at and G took a hard left turn. She’s projecting her insecurities onto someone else who is very secure in their relationship. It was so uncomfortable to watch this competition-like-conversation between them. I love how A didn’t let it bother her & just went with the dynamic of her marriage.
I know right she was mean here lol and this isn't the first time I heard her say that to Adrienne before in a live episode she may just be joking but when your listening to it from a different perspective it sounds wrong and kind of looks bad😕 I like her just saying🤷🏽♀
this is why it's harder to get any job if a woman is interviewing. what difference does it make if she's attractive? and if she thinks her maid is hideous, what makes her think her husband has the same opinion? that's ridiculous that women hold each other back because of insecurity. and it's also ridiculous to blame it on 'culture'. ALL the women in her culture have not been cheated on, that's a family curse if every woman in her family has been cheated on if the man has literally any access to an 'attractive' woman. that's not culture..
Exactly but I guess you still have to watch out for those who are too helpful too but yeah I agree as they get the job is done that's all that should really matter
So it's okay to essentially discriminate against someone in THIS instance because of their looks, but not okay to do so in others because of how one "looks" in other ways, e.g. the color of their skin (or absence thereof), facial features, hair type/hairdo, etc? Really? How interesting and ironic...
It's disheartening, but unfortunately not surprising, to see how people will perpetuate certain stereotypes while being outraged at others. Women's desirability being based on the color of paper bags - or toast? Reprehensible! Potential customers being directed away from certain items or areas in stores because it is assumed that they can't afford certain products because of their skin tone and/or perceived financial means - even someone like Oprah Winfrey - is seen as completely unfair. Women still being paid less than men because of their gender is viewed as being wrong and just plain dumb. Yet it is perfectly fine to make snap judgements about an individual's character just based on certain physical attributes? Really? Isn't the bigger picture being missed here?
Like Adrienne said, if a man is a cheater then he's gonna find someone to cheat with lol, hot nanny or not. Don't deny a pretty woman a job just cause ur insecure..
100% Fair , you have full right & control of who got rights & access to your home. Your partner might be okay but in times of tension, whether we want to admit or not, you don’t really know how strong you are until you face a certain situation. Hence whether we like it or not, on this one I will say stay on the safe side, it really won’t change much. Yes your partner can cheat but as any other flaw , don’t put temptation right in front of you & think you too strong. Wisdom will push you to stay far from it.
I watched A LOT of real life murders on Crime Watch Daily and a lot of women were killed due to them bringing in a young live in nanny who was in need. Moral of the story, mind your business. People with few associates and no friends rarely get killed.
In the end it's the husband that makes the final decision but don't get why hire a Nanny when the wife can do those duties instead. If she is that insecure that is her best option...true or definitely true?
I would hire based on personality and how she carried herself beautiful or not but short shorts and tight tank tops like your going to a beach wouldn’t be acceptable attire to be taking care of my children and cleaning my house.
I miss them in the studio but at the same time I do like them doing the show this way because I feel like it’s more intimate and I guess because it just feels like real girlfriends having real conversations. Like these conversations remind me of me and my girls and I’m sure it’s relatable to a lot of us.
Y'all really!!!! Purrrrrr what are y'all talking about ⁉️ There's no ugly housemade??? the difference between you and the made is " convince" periodtt.
Be honest: Would you allow an attractive nanny in your home?
Yes of course but attractiveness is in the eyes of the beholder
No!!! Actually no one at all never trust people around my children there were a select few that were allowed to be around my boys.
Would he allow a fine muscular body building looking sexy fwine (fine wine) man to do the yard work and house maintenance? That's the question...🤣😂
Nope, it's not because she's attractive. Nowadays, you can't trust people around your kids! Sorry no Nanny for me, idc if it's a male or female no one around my kids. Y'all see what's going on in the world
I am confused on that one. But i am capable to hire a model with cameras around the house to see his truth scale levels. 🤣🤣🤣😍🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Poor Adrienne. Israel notices. Because of his age & experience, he’s smart enough to not show it.
Garcelle the only one keeping it real 😂
Yes I love her
Yes always!
Seriously!!
Exactly. It's not saying she doesn't trust her husband but it's also not good to tempt him. Like don't bring a beautiful woman in the house and leave her with your husband. Like seriously why is link and Adrienne not understand this.
It is better to Safe then Sorry
She really was the only one keeping it real
That's why I like Garcelle answer
She always keep it real.
The rest just want to say what makes everyone happy
And yet I know for sure either one of them won't recommend a beautiful woman around their man.
Exactly. They others are lying to appear more confident. Who cares. Take care of your marriage, your household and your family. Who cares about pride.
The reason this is even a topic is because it’s happened to women who trusted their spouse enough to have attractive workers in their house! You can think you know him, but no one 100% knows anybody but themselves.
🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Yes plus inviting them into your home can make it easily accessible for temptation
@@ZGwoo888 100%! & I do believe that people’s general emotional state changes seasonally depending upon what they’re experiencing in life. A partner could be in an insecure phase n suddenly the flirtation is a temporary band-aid where previously there was zero possibility.
That part. I absolutely love A but she has to be a little more realistic . It isn't totally insane that Israel would cheat. Anything is possible
I love how even when she knows her opinion is not popular, Garcelle finds a way to make it understandable. She keeps it real and is not worried about being liked
And loni will do the opposite. She will try and make her opinion the dominant opinion and doesn't want to ever agree to disagree
Most women aren't going to hire a nanny that's more attractive than them and honestly there's nothing wrong with that.
It goes the other way around with men too. There are insecure men out there.
@@Dtzeo503 I agree. Most men aren't going to want someone who looks like Brad Pitt to be their nanny either.
@@bsbgirl85 exactly.
Massa silverback --who is that??
@Nina Aden right. Imagine going through the effort of proposing, incurring debt for a wedding and home and kids only to throw it all away just cause someone looks good. I think men cheat cause they assume we will forgive and stay because otherwise it makes absolutely no sense at all why someone would take such a big risk.
She's intelligent. He wouldn't want a handsome man around, so why have a beautiful woman in the house with your spouse? Keep temptation away.
Adrienne is such a liar. Her husband cheated on his previous wife so let's not take anything past anyone. Adrienne knows she wouldn't like it if a STRANGER not her friends or family who are attractive..would be around her husband especially when she's not there. Lol she fronting!!!!
right! glad I'm not the only one who saw straight through her! I don't know who she tryna kid!
“Everyone that’s good looking isn’t necessarily attractive.”
How long are women in this generation going to pretend they’re okay with stuff solely to not appear jealous at the expense of their marriage? It’s not wrong to purposefully decide not to hire a Barbie doll to help your husband resist temptation. And there’s nothing wrong with that. If your nanny is so beautiful that (in Adriennes words) you yourself notice as a straight woman, you are testing the limits with your man hiring them to be in your household. Don’t do it. How many more stories do you have to read about other people’s experiences, to realize that it’s probably not the best idea for your marriage to hire a gorgeous nanny who holds everything down except for the most stressful conversations that are mandatory in a marriage. You’re literally offering her up on a platter if you decide to pretend you don’t care. You’re MARRIED...you’re made the biggest commitment of your life. Why are you ashamed to admit that you don’t feel comfortable with your husband being around a woman that he probably fantasizes about - which is normal, but you’re inviting that into your home. People have urges. The more available the situation, the easier it is to do something. Fight for your marriage ladies, the way your man fought to put a ring on your finger. I don’t know about the rest of you, but if I’ve ever said a man was getting too friendly at work for example, my husband was not okay with it. WHICH IS NORMAL. If you don’t want a committed relationship then you need to say so before marriage. And that has absolutely nothing to do with being insecure and everything to do with the promise that was made to me upon proposal and the covenant we made between the two of us m before God. SMH. If you don’t believe in all that, then I guess this comment doesn’t apply to yoiU
SO WELL SAID
Fantasy does lead to temptation sometimes, especially if they are in the home. Those that said they are so secure that they don't care are the first to jump at their husband's throats and file for divorce if the man so much as texted her or failed their overly high expectations.
The women doesn’t even have to be a attractive there’s a clip from how I met your mother where they say after a period of time a man is around a woman if she’s his secretary or business partner or etc that he’s going to start finding her attractive. He may not do anything about it depending on the man but it’s like why put yourself in that situation. Very silly
@@RawiyahSofyah yes fantasy leads to doing the real act all the time. People in committed relationships should not allow themselves to fantasize even about celebrities. Your mind is very powerful and your subconscious could one day lead you to the exact fantasy you keep picturing
@@mbtilover3575 see..exactly - this is even more unsettling. People need to be cautious about the situations they set up for their partners, unless they don’t want to be monogamous!!
It’s sad us women feel like we have to do stuff like this.
As much as I understand where it all stems from It just very annoying really 🤦♀️🤦♀️
Im gobsmacked sis.
I understand that if a man wants to cheat, then he’s gonna cheat but I feel like it’s different if you putting extra obstacles in his way and tempting him😂😂
They still human🤷🏽♀️
Exactly
Adrienne would be the one who’d cheat with the j lo look alike 🤣🤣
This is the funniest comment in the comment section
Yup Adrienne been giving us Bisexual vibes since revealing her dream about Tamara.
Me too
Hahaha!
@@Dtzeo503 Just so you know, thinking about a sexual encounter with someone of the same gender does not mean you are not straight.
Garcelle is really the only one who has the experience to talk about this subject. Yes of course a man who wants to cheat on you will cheat regardless and putting a beautiful possibility accessible woman is like playing with fire why even give them the opportunity? I trust my boo but why put a golden ticket in front of him? It’s also not being insecure it’s called being too naive. Let’s be real y’all.
And also not saying every man is the same but why risk it?
Agreed
Agree
@Nina Aden THIS! thank you!!!! I see attractive men everyday but I don’t feel the need to cheat on my husband. If hiring someone attractive causes you to feel like your man will leave you then you never had him in the first place.
@Nina Aden Right!
I don't get it. Something is fucked up in our society. There's some weird obsession or something when it comes to men and nannies or maids. I've been a nanny for a long time now, and I can't even count the number of times people think that I'm sleeping with the husband or he has made a pass on you. And I'm like absolutely not. Its a weird stereotype. I'm sick and tired of it. Its so wrong! I'm there, just like most nannies to help with the kids. Period.
Can I ask you if any of the husband's made a move on you ?
If you don't want to share I understood .
Because here it is the most common thing. And most common for wife's killing their husband.
I’m a nanny too and I completely agree
Wow, ok 😳
@@angelinasulejmani7688 I would like to know as well.
Glad I don't have this problem I can't afford a nanny. I take care of my own kids and clean my own house like I'm sure most of us do!🙂
As a cleaning business owner, you’d be surprised how many don’t clean their own house. 😬
Some people work really long hours and sometimes don’t have the time or energy 🤷🏽♀️ Healthcare workers have been working around the clock this last year . Let’s not make people feel bad for not “cleaning their own home” 🤣
Right!
You can't afford it. We can
Even if I could, I don't want a nanny....they are my babies and they will know me. I can clean my own house & take care of my child(s). I don't care how she looks, I am secure yet if I ever chose to bring someone into help, he can look but if he plays, I will thank her for taking him off my hands.
2 words: Arnold Schwarzenegger. Her looks are irrelevant.
Big point!
She wasn’t ugly she was an average woman
The comment I was looking for. Exactly! Lol
THANK YOU! I was thinking the exact same thing. Famous men have cheated on some of the most beautiful women(beyonce, jlo etc) with average at best women. it really isnt about looks but rather about the thrill or the sneaking that gets them off.
@@Goldniz Yes she was
Sometimes it is not about men who want to cheat, it is about opportunity. I would not steal, However, if I saw someone drop stacks of cash on the street and no one was around, I may take it. Do not put yourself in a difficult situation for no reason. Only hire very old prude nannys who are super strict. Hell a nun would work too.
Good point lol 😂😂😂
This comment is everything!!!
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Adrienne said how so? About the pool boy fantasy and kept talking 😭😭
i thought i was the only that noticed that 😂😂😂😂😂😂 she said do tell and continued to talk 😂😂😂😂😂😂 she talks too much and interrupts people alot
Everyone is pretty in their own way. Clean your own house. How about a man to clean with muscles?
If a man has muscles, he goes to the gym. If a man goes to the gym, he has money. If a man has money he ain’t gonna clean anyone’s house.
@@annatar6453 you never know remember there was a celebrity who had a manny and he was packing.
@## who hires a woman to take care of their children? Or a stranger?
@@donnadaniel3080 why u triggered? I’m a father and even I wouldn’t hire a maIe to care for my daughter. Tisha Campbell was rped when she was 3 by her maIe baby sitter.
@## aren’t u a woman? Why u simping for men
Nope, people are crazy. I do not need some strange person, man or woman, lurking around my home and getting too familiar and comfortable. I can clean, cook and handle my own errands.
Yeah it’s not even about attractive.. a dont want a male nanny period
Speak for Urself, not everybody wants to be u or is like u. Calm down, not that serious 🙄
@@babydollers2586 I did speak for myself and said what I said. That is why this is MY comment. If anyone disagrees, they can keep scrolling along...Have a nice day. Bye.
Who would blame her after all the stories of the husbands that cheat with the nannies, sad thing is the good nannies are gonna find hard to find a job
It's more to do with the fact that nanny is the one taking care of the children. Probably very feminine. It's attractive.
@@thrilla72 ok?...it’s cheating regardless😭😭
@@elim8792 I didn't say it wasn't.
People need to understand it’s not about the looks it’s about the behavior and the attitude. Maybe we need to stop treating men like kids in a candy shop. Some men get hit on but never act on it and they will tell their wife because they are just honest and they value their marriage.
Adrienne REALLY needs to STOP talking over everyone! It’s so annoying because I’m trying to hear what the other person is saying but Adrienne is either cutting them off or talking louder over them that I can’t understand what anyone is saying.
I get that there might be some technical difficulties or lagging in the ear pieces but I hope on the monitor she can see that some else is trying to talk. Plus u can tell that the ladies r getting frustrated when she does it to...I mean just look at Garcelle’s face when she was talking about her fantasy at the end
Yeees! I was thinking the same thing!!
She definitely talks over them especially during these topics.
I think she’s grown up a bit because it’s interesting that she said “a man that wants to cheat on you will find a way to cheat on you regardless...” but if you go back to the video when Tamar was on the show and they all had this same conversation, she said most men cheat because their women are mean and not kind to them. (I’m paraphrasing)
I’m glad she knows The Real now.
This is from the beginning of the season. They have gotten a lot better at letting each other speak.
There's a delay. They aren't in the same room. Just zip it
Garcelle looks like a doll😍
Adrienne is simple minded, Loni is unrealistic, Garcelle is keep it real.
Garcelle the only real one on this panel. You can be in the most secure relationship ever, you don’t bring temptation into your own
Exactly! this is like saying that if you stop sleeping with your husband that because he’s a a honest and committed man there won’t be a temptation for him to cheat.
Damnn I don’t think i will ever have that amount of confidence and faith for a man the way Adrianne does for her husband. I ain’t hiring no JLo look alike nanny around my house
It's beautiful yet cringe because he has been unfaithful before. Routing for them for sure.
But heres. The thing sis, if you dont have faith and trust in men, why fucking marry them then?!!
@@veronica5080 I don’t trust anyone 100% i leave out a a certain percentage to protect myself from destruction. I can never say things about other people with that much assurance … I don’t even wish anyone to do so for me because we are all human and our hearts are bound to evolve or change.
I'm sure she was probably just kidding or joking around hopefully cause Mmmmm 😐lol
Tree Monsters get their freak on too 😂😂
Adrienne needs to let them talk 😔
Even if I trusted my husband . I believe in lessening the temptation. You are ASKING FOR TROUBLE by inviting temptation into the home. My mom always taught me that. I would def be curious in hearing a man's opinion on this. Women and men think so differently
it depends very much on your relationship if its rocky or u don't have good intimacy I wouldn't risk it. but if ur a good woman/wife/gf with good chemistry with the guy and he's not a dick then it won't matter so much.
perhaps the best way to explain it is an example. I run my own business and there are a lot of regular female customers. there was 1 in particular that 100% my type who literally used to come in 3-4 times a week and we chatted often at work..... had I been single I'd of been all over it. but I had a long time gf at the time. the reason I wasn't jumping at the temption is coz my gf was awesome. she'd send me suggestive texts/pics sometimes in the day and when I saw her after work she was also so excited to see me...made me feel super valued. we had a good relationship. if that relationship had been bad or she acted like she couldn't be arsed to see me or made me feel devalued or taken for granted or it was boring or we had a bad sex life etc etc then I would of likely taken up the temptation
don't go out of your way to put temptation but at the same time if ur secure it won't matter.
Garcelle is so real!!!!! I love her so much. I love how she doesn’t pretend to be perfect, like the other girls sometimes do.
That wife needs to work on her self esteem and maybe examine why she doesn't trust her husband to not stray
exactly
@Nina Aden you got the nail on the head
LILIAN MAKORI You are supposed to keep your mate from temptation
@@christiansoldier77 my mate's supposed to be strong enough to resist temptation
@@lilmakori Your car is supposed to be strong enough to withstand an impact from another too
I think garcell is right idc what anyone says
Same they are not being real!
@@Fridarida just because they have different opinions, doesn’t mean they are not keeping it real.
@@shivairas6717 lol i know I just didnt explain. what i mean to say is that I feel that most women would want to be the "star" in their home. but hey.
It’s not always about someone having a natural wondering eye. Sometimes people who never thought they’d mess up get heavily tempted and fall. Anyone will cheat with anyone that’s true but if you’re with someone like that there’s already an issue. I think it’s more a question of the nanny’s professionalism and boundaries. But don’t always pin it on someone being a bad person. In your home is personal. You have the right to decide.
It really depends on the women and how she acts around your husband, as well as how your husband acts with other women. However I do agree that if it’s something you’re not used to then you don’t HAVE to confide if you don’t feel comfortable. Every relationship is different, so some will care and others won’t. It’s like parenting, you shouldn’t judge someone’s parenting so you shouldn’t judge someone’s relationship.
You can't really tell how someone will act unless they are really close to something .
It's better to be safe than sorry.
Exactly. My mom's friend had to let go of her kids' nanny cause she would do strange things like greet only her husband in the morning, ask him how he slept and then walk him to his car when he left for work. She never once mentioned the nanny's looks, just her inappropriate behaviour.
Lol Garcelle got Adrienne! Be real Adrienne, you are lying! What happened with Joseph and Potifers wife?! He had no intention of being with her but he ran! He didn’t sit and say I’m strong God fearing man and she can’t make me, HE RAN OUT NAKED! What does that say? He wouldn’t even take the risk, and this is the point and the real Adrienne. I trust my husband but I would NEVER bring fire into my home. You must be crazy. Not only that, I don’t know their intentions, act like you don’t know women out here.
Lol @ pool boy Garcelle you were the realist in this conversation 🤣
What’s that got to do with this?
You should trust husband if he thinks she is pretty so what its fact that he sees but should know not to every attractive woman he sees if he wanna cheat he's gonna cheat it don't matter of the person is pretty or not.
i think my explanation was very clear. Take care.
Adrienne your pretty friends walking around your house and hiring and paying a JLo look alike to work in your house is not the same honey. It takes a different type of man to hit on your friends, but you sure as hell don't hire temptation sis. If he is a cheater, he'll cheat anyways....but I am definitely not making it easy for him in my house. 🙄🙄
I’m 100% with Garcelle on this one. No skinny little waist, tight buns, booty short wearing nannies in my house! No need to invite problems
I mean they don't always have to be skinny or thin tho I should say its just the principles not many nannies or people these days or skinny or thin as you mentioned as you might know thick and heavy are the new style these days
Garcelle: Would you hire a hot guy?
Loni: Yes I would..
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Thanks for keeping 100 Garcelle!
Garcelle is taking as if a wife is responsible of keeping “temptation” out of her husband’s life. AND HE CHEATED ANYWAY. That’s ineffective and antiquated. Nannies and maids are not there to be regarded as potential sexual objects. I completely agree with Ade and Loni. If he’s a real one, he won’t trip.
Yes but I think it would be a lot worse if he was cheating with the bitch that she paid to take care of her house. Yes cheating can happen but that don’t mean you gotta bring her to your damn doorstep. I’m sure it stings worse when it’s with the nanny.
The b word? Really?
Use me as a I love garcelle on this show button
How about leave the cheating husband n use the alimony payments to pay for the housekeeping 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If you worry about your man giving into temptation then why are you with him? As Adrienne said, if it ain’t the nanny it will be someone else
But why be the one instrumental in serving temptation on a platter for your own man? Men are visual by nature. If my man struggled with an addiction, would I bring the substance to him and be like “this is here in front of you and I’m bringing it to you so I don’t seem insecure, but don’t touch it though”?! Or would I do what’s in my power to make it a bit easier for him to do what he needs to do in OUR household? Ultimately the decision is his, but why would I test the waters lmao
Temptations are natural and happen to any man no matter how great they may be. Personally I'd rather flee away from situations that could trigger possible temptations especially if I have the means to control it.
Awe I wanna hear Jeanine’s POV with J
I would assume that it would have been a no to attractive nannies because not long ago they did a topic on how much money would it take for you to let someone sleep with your man for one night and I believe she said no amount. She mentioned something about feeling better if the woman was ugly though. I think she was also against hall passes.
Why she don’t need help she ain’t got kids
Completely fair. Men are human. Why tempt them? You think they don't have feelings? Why even have that in the house. It's common sense. Don't look for problems.
as women we need to stop making excuses for men. We are all humans and have temptations everyday both men and women. It's all about having control, self respect and respect for your spouse.
Exactly!!!
@@MMM-id3dx it's not an excuse. It's the same having an attractive man around your woman and leaving them alone. It's not about gender it's just about human temptation
@@MMM-id3dx factssss like I’m a woman and there have been times where I felt attracted to another man being in a relationship. Stop making excuses for cheating men, cuz I know there are A BUNCH of men that will NEVER cheat on their partner....it’s just the type of men the majority of women go after these days.. you want the bad ones and step on and ignore the good faithful ones.
Attractive is one thing yes they need to keep it in their pants but if the woman is half naked with juicy tatas bouncing up n down and he's trying to enjoy his peace in his home then he's only human and the babysitter needs to be dressed appropriately. Many an attractive woman is dressed appropriately and know how to be professional.
I understand where that woman is coming from. However I agree, if a man wants to cheat he will. On top of that the person they cheat with doesn’t always have to be attractive.
Sometimes man don't cheat becouse they don't have opportunity and than you give him one .
Attractive female and him in the house .Lol you can't be sure .Even those who never planed to cheat on their wife will do when they are too close to something.
@@angelinasulejmani7688 There is always an opportunity to cheat.
Just get an older person. Why tempt him.
He could get tempted by an older lady lol
Possibly!🤷🏽♀️
Exactly Thank you!!!🤦🏽♀exactly what I said lol
When did the real become the Adrienne show
I hate the argument that men will sleep with anything. Not all men are the same. If the man isn't attracted to the Nanny, he's not going to fantasize about her. If she is pretty, you are making it more tempting for him. Next he will think she is sending him signals and then boom. Now you gotta find a new man and a Nanny. Its almost like taking your man to a strip club. If she looks like broomhilda, he's not going to pay attention to her.
Sure, not all men are the same, but they are not blind. They will definitely notice the hot nanny.
This has happened countless times. It’s an actual issue. It really is asking for trouble. They’ve been multiple stories of this. Gwen Stefanie comes to mind. Also what is Adrienne on about. She know she wouldn’t hire a hot housekeeper/nanny. Also, Israel has cheated before. His internal “constitutional” is questionable at best.
Why is Lonnie confused? Now she’s against house cleaners... girl let whatever it is goooooo
The babysitter also needs to be professional if she is very serious she will do her work only...I had one and her eyes were on her work.
Some are looking for a come up. They pretend they're there to work meanwhile they're plotting to take your place cause they're jealous that your husband is taking care of you. I know someone with that experience.
I really like the addition of Garcelle, especially now that she seems more comfortable.
Adrienne always overtalks when they talk about cheating 🤔
Adrienne is talking over the other hosts lately. Strange
This is a weird stereotype. I was a nanny to a couple families for all my college years and I couldn't tell you how many people ask me if I'm sleeping with the husband or if he made a move on me. Maid/Nanny affairs are pretty rare, in my opinion. I was just trying to pay off some of my dept, nothing more lmao
I think it's beacuse you always hear about those celebrities cheating with the nanny. Lol
It is a weird stereotype indeed. I've heard more stories about husbands that had an affair with their sister in law, than with the nanny. I personally know two cases where the man married the sister in law. Your own blood betrays you, let alone your husband.
What happen to self control and respect, it’s not always because the girl is “pretty” if he wants to cheat, he’s gonna do it regardless.
It's got more to do with seeing a woman being nurturing and playful. It's attractive.
@Nina Aden How is your point relevant to the discussion? Nobody said it was unattractive when the biological mother does it! Also, mothers do not do it for free. The father is supporting her and the children in some way.
If you need to go through all of that... maybe you shouldn’t have the person in your house ... why invite someone in your household that you don’t know for a fact u can trust , nor can u trust your husband while she is around... like that to me is more of an issue than having an attractive/ unattractive woman as a nanny! But idk that’s just me
Adrienne know dam well she would feel some type of way to have someone that’s pretty. her and Lonnie fronting ! Adrienne dancing around the point and she would NOT.
Who cares Arnold sleep with his house keeper lol
And she sure wasn't good looking
The mechanic!?! LMAO
I can't believe they don't believe with garcell. I'm a man I would be tempted. I am sorry
I appreciate your honesty. Men are by nature very visual. If my husband had someone around that looked like a Victoria’s Secret model or something...I’d be dumb to think he wasn’t fantasizing about her lol. Especially in her element doing house chores and keeping our home well kept or whatever. Women are more into the personality and how someone makes them feel, but it is my understanding that men care a lot about physical attraction for the most part. Sooo yea, why would I knowingly tempt my husband? LOL and in my own home of all places. And also..He’s only ever going to see the very best version of her, because she’s there to help. She doesn’t have to talk to him about finances, the kids, or anything that would cause stress. Which makes her look even better. YEA, NO THANKS!
You should be honest, that would save so many women from heartache but then you shouldn't be married if you wouldn't be tempted. My husband wouldn't be tempted.
That’s your own problem that you need to work on🤷🏽♀️
@@elim8792 that’s how most straight men are wired, and this is a known fact since time 🤣
@@kelseystramel5349 ok let see if you see a 6'feet man well built and your man way over weight and nude I bet you .you would think twice
I like this #GAL chat type of thing... (Garcelle, Adrienne and Loni). Just saying 💅💅💅
There are 2 words they’re called “SELF RESPECT & another called “SELF CONTROL”. Not every woman out there covets their neighbors husband. Some of us are very happy with what /who we have, thank God.
Like you said. *Some.
Maria Shriver would probably disagree!! A cheater will cheat.😘
If someone is going to cheat, they are going to cheat.
Adrienene always tries too hard to look good, when we all see though her
Im here for Garcelles honesty LOOL
Garcelle is the only one keeping it Real today.
I love ❤️ Garcelles blunt honesty
Its unfair for an unattractive woman not to get a job because of another woman's insecurities. This goes on all the time. I am an attractive woman and when i go to get a job its difficult. If the interviewer is an ugly woman or not as attractive as me, she is not hiring me but I have all the qualifications to get the job. But if I go to get a job and the interviewer is a woman and she is my equal or somewhat attractive as well, she will hire me. I always know which one will hire me and which one wont.
Did she forget Arnold Schwartzeneggar nanny/hskpr they don't have to be pretty just saying
Garcelle calling A a freak for hiring a hot employee is hypocritical when she mentioned her pool boy fantasy does not require communication. A just said she’d be nice to look at and G took a hard left turn. She’s projecting her insecurities onto someone else who is very secure in their relationship. It was so uncomfortable to watch this competition-like-conversation between them. I love how A didn’t let it bother her & just went with the dynamic of her marriage.
I know right she was mean here lol and this isn't the first time I heard her say that to Adrienne before in a live episode she may just be joking but when your listening to it from a different perspective it sounds wrong and kind of looks bad😕 I like her just saying🤷🏽♀
People are forgetting Mildred the Maid 🤣
That didn’t make a bit of difference for Arnold Shwartzneger and his nanny/baby daddy scandal....
I dislike when Adrienne can’t respect someone else’s opinions and beliefs and can’t see past her own perspective.
This particular topic is a sensitive one for her. She doesn't want to believe her husband could cheat on her the way he did on his ex wife😒
this is why it's harder to get any job if a woman is interviewing. what difference does it make if she's attractive? and if she thinks her maid is hideous, what makes her think her husband has the same opinion?
that's ridiculous that women hold each other back because of insecurity. and it's also ridiculous to blame it on 'culture'. ALL the women in her culture have not been cheated on, that's a family curse if every woman in her family has been cheated on if the man has literally any access to an 'attractive' woman. that's not culture..
Who cares about hot or not, he the job done!!!!
Exactly but I guess you still have to watch out for those who are too helpful too but yeah I agree as they get the job is done that's all that should really matter
So it's okay to essentially discriminate against someone in THIS instance because of their looks, but not okay to do so in others because of how one "looks" in other ways, e.g. the color of their skin (or absence thereof), facial features, hair type/hairdo, etc? Really? How interesting and ironic...
It's disheartening, but unfortunately not surprising, to see how people will perpetuate certain stereotypes while being outraged at others. Women's desirability being based on the color of paper bags - or toast? Reprehensible! Potential customers being directed away from certain items or areas in stores because it is assumed that they can't afford certain products because of their skin tone and/or perceived financial means - even someone like Oprah Winfrey - is seen as completely unfair. Women still being paid less than men because of their gender is viewed as being wrong and just plain dumb. Yet it is perfectly fine to make snap judgements about an individual's character just based on certain physical attributes? Really? Isn't the bigger picture being missed here?
Loni's face about the blonde babysitter was funny. 😂😂😉😊
Tree monsters or hot help is irrelevant, if a man gonna cheat he gonna cheat.
Loni needs to retire that "tree monster" line. It makes me cringe everytime she uses it.
Like Adrienne said, if a man is a cheater then he's gonna find someone to cheat with lol, hot nanny or not. Don't deny a pretty woman a job just cause ur insecure..
Thank you!!!!
Whether she is hot of not if he wants to check her out he can always do it. Ugly or not
100% Fair , you have full right & control of who got rights & access to your home. Your partner might be okay but in times of tension, whether we want to admit or not, you don’t really know how strong you are until you face a certain situation. Hence whether we like it or not, on this one I will say stay on the safe side, it really won’t change much. Yes your partner can cheat but as any other flaw , don’t put temptation right in front of you & think you too strong. Wisdom will push you to stay far from it.
I watched A LOT of real life murders on Crime Watch Daily and a lot of women were killed due to them bringing in a young live in nanny who was in need. Moral of the story, mind your business. People with few associates and no friends rarely get killed.
adrianne no dude is getting with a woman for her personality
In the end it's the husband that makes the final decision but don't get why hire a Nanny when the wife can do those duties instead. If she is that insecure that is her best option...true or definitely true?
agreed
People got things to doA. lot of countries outside the USA use maids and nannys
The Alkebulan Trust, Not everybody wants to be a stay at home mom zeeeeeee.
This is why I’m never getting married.
Where's Jeanie? I know im off topic
This is prefilmed from when she was still recovering
I would hire based on personality and how she carried herself beautiful or not but short shorts and tight tank tops like your going to a beach wouldn’t be acceptable attire to be taking care of my children and cleaning my house.
I miss them in the studio but at the same time I do like them doing the show this way because I feel like it’s more intimate and I guess because it just feels like real girlfriends having real conversations. Like these conversations remind me of me and my girls and I’m sure it’s relatable to a lot of us.
If I was Adrienne I wouldn’t bring ANYONE around my husband, her husband literally CHEATED on his ex wife with other women 🤨
Uhhh yeah...I'm that woman who will handle my own household. We don't need any outside help, and that's what kids are for lol
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Adrienne is frontin
Y'all really!!!! Purrrrrr what are y'all talking about ⁉️ There's no ugly housemade??? the difference between you and the made is " convince" periodtt.
I agree 💯 with A. A man who doesn't want to cheat won't cheat!