Like you I allow myself to feel whatever I’m feeling. Being lonely is temporary but it feels so intense and awful. I go for walks to gather my thoughts. I like to sit in front of bodies of water to sort out what I’m feeling. Water for me is calming. I also write in my journal. It’s a great way to let it all out and self-regulate. Empaths we crave deep emotional connection. We’re truly here for intimate relationships not fluff. I believe loneliness can also stem from being around non empathic people. I hope that more of us find each other in communities like this one.
Thank you! This is the first time in a while feeling lonely- we must know we are never alone. Our Ancestors, angels and spirit guides are always with us 🙏🏾 I clean my flat, play with my cat 🐈⬛ drumming and meditation. It’s difficult during Winter as it’s so dark. Blessings and love always❤
I definitely turned to weed to numb the pain of loneliness. Yes, I'm an empath but I still don't want to walk alone in this life. Please keep these amazing discussions going.
Hey, I smoke. Be careful with that , as I find on occasion that if I smoke too much in a week, I will start to become self-destructive, start bashing myself, and I will then cut back for a couple days, been smoking since I was 16, and I'm now 50, it has its positives and it's negatives, much love stay sane😊
Rants and rambling Love it! Don't know if I chose isolation, but rather forced into it due to society , I absolutely understand you, Germanie, must be my brother from another mother. Great great video here, my guy. This is so on point!
Bless you for creating this channel and this community. I just came across your video in my feed and listened to it out of curiosity about the title. Little did I know it would speak to me on such a personal level. I am one who chooses solitude because I either feel others' emotions too deeply, or I get overwhelmed by having other competing energies around for extended time. 90, maybe even 95% of the time, I choose solitude and enjoy it. In those moments where the silence gets deafening, and I feel myself slipping into depression. At those moments, I remind myself why I choose solitude and how I've either entered into or remained too long in unhealthy relationships just to have someone around for the low moments. I also either write, paint, sew, or do something creative to release those expressions of loneliness I am feeling. Where I used to try and mask my low moments and force myself to cheer up, I no longer do that and I allow myself to feel the feelings I feel and ask myself why I am feeling those feelings. Through those actions, I have learned so much more about myself and released a lot of childhood and other traumas. I have curated each room in my house to speak to different aspects of my ebbs and flows, so even if I am not willing to get out of the house, I can change my mood by moving to another room. Thank you again for this space 💓🙏🏼
You're absolutely right. I have to be with someone that gets me. Appreciates me. I'm very lonely these days. Just got out of a Relationship with a toxic person of year and a half. It ended right before Thanksgiving. The holidays were horrible for me. I fell into depression. I'm still hurting but I'm slowly coming out of it. It's gonna take some time but I hate feeling thus way. I'm hurt from a Relationship and alone.
I absolutely feel the same way. I need to be in my own solitude to recalibrate and get back my peace. I enjoy my own company and need authenticity around me. ❤ Some People always think I’m sad, but I am just being me (I now have 2 daughters that keeps me occupied) yet enjoy my alone time. I relax, read, look online, working out and build up an energy to be around people outside.
I feel lonely when I am with people (giving love and empathy and connecting to them), that do not or cannot reciprocate. When I am truly alone (do not have all these people's energy in my field), or in nature, or with pets, or with people (other empaths etc), or beings of higher dimensional frequencies, I do not feel lonely. As it is such a human condition (disconnect) at present for so many, I found doing massage and bodywork was a way to connect and empowers others to connect with their true essence and create a spiritual connection of sorts through the work.
It is very nice to find a content creator that has gone and still going to the depths you swim. thank you for your path and for sharing. Loneliness is a gift, it is an emotion and it too it our brother. How I keep swimming through loneliness is the same as you. Crazy how universe will validate experiences. While listening I just now figured that when the hurtful voices come while in the middle of loneliness I'm now going to write them down so the words are out my head and on paper and can be burned away or met with deep deep love so as for the words to heal( most highest wish)
I chose to be alone for many years. It seemed that the loneliness went in waves and sometimes washed over me and sunk into my bones. It became very difficult to manage. I kept working and gave as much to my work as possible. Sometimes, especially on weekends I dreaded days off because everywhere I went there was couples and families and I realised how alone I was. What started off as something very positive for me as the freedom to explore myself and to create became almost pathological. I kept working away at my coping mechanisms of self love self care meditation self discipline etc For the last 61/2 years I have had a partner. I believe he is my twin flame. He agrees. It is not always easy as all of our karma has come flying up and out from every direction. I cannot imagine life without him !! I remember the loneliness and I don’t want to go back there !! Thankyou Vital 🙏🌸💜
I was just journaling last night that I felt “lonely.” I don’t usually, as I enjoy my own company very much and enjoy being alone. But I found myself feeling lonely and it was a new feeling for me. Or at least, I was trying to understand if I was actually lonely or not so I was journaling about it. Seems like we are on a similar wavelength because here you are with a podcast on loneliness today. How strange. Thanks for the great video. ❤️
This Christmas Season has been the loneliest time for me. I'm processing acceptance of all that is. I'm mindful of the voices and the lies that go on. Sitting quietly and deliberately changing the narrative in my head is very important for me. I realise that the voices are terrible lies , that can cause me to become very sad. I have the power to actually respond and tell myself the truth. Meditation is what gets me through each day. I believe in God, so my approach to Meditation is that I'm giving my Creator God Time to just love me. I know that here I'm accepted, now feel the love. Sometimes I have a Good cry. Because there's so much emotion that going on, I find it hard to do physical chores. So selfcare is what I'll do. Wash my hair, give myself a manicure etc. I keep essential oils, neroli is wonderful, a drop on my temples is so soothing. Then a good cup of tea, set a tray, make a pot of tea and serve myself a nice cup of tea, as if I was in a restaurant. I live in an apartment, so pot plants , I tend to. It's wonderful how these soothing activities help to bring me back to presence. Thank you Vital, I resonate with your message. God Bless.
I relate to everthing you said. Nature and grounding/earthing in it is my greatest friend, (and animals) I do think we have times of deeper loneliness, dark nights of the soul , which i believe i am in right now (others through the pandemic ?) . Patience and faith 🙏. Trust. Lots of journaling and reading.
I have always been by myself so I don't see it as aloneness. I see it as doing all the things I need to get done and so I do not feel the loneliness. I keep active. I hike in groups (although I feel I am by myself so to speak); I play pickleball and love it, I read, I walk in nature, I love browsing through bookstores; I shop and try on lots of clothes but don't buy anything (lol). It would be nice to have that ideal partner but if he doesn't show up, oh well. When I travel I am on the beach enjoying the solitude. There's no time to feel sorry for myself.
With my very best wishes Jermaine. Can I make a suggestion for you and your few moments of perceived loneliness. My suggestion is stop doing or thinking whatever thst is in that moment. THEN think and take so much consolation and warmth for all the empaths neurodivergents etc that you are helping and loving with your empathic crusade. At the moment of your loneliness, someone is playing or replaying this video now and in the future. You have many friends who are blessed to have found you. Cheers Tom. PS I might comment in an other reply with my coping strategies, which may not be everyones cup of tea
@@tombain5665 thank you 🙏🏽 - keep in mind that what i post is not necessarily what I’m feeling at that moment. I share the gamut of my experiences and emotions to inspire and empower. 🤍🤍🤍
Empaths were attacked so many times during life be it because of envy or retaliation, of course they isolate. Besides that our needs are not met. I connect to the Lord daily which helps a lot. Prayer calms me down and stops the fear. I do go to church also. And I began to exercise three times a week.
I have only experienced loneliness when I have came out of a relationship. After about 2 months the empty feeling disappears. Not been in a relationship for many years now now, and friends have their families to keep them busy. I feel comfortable being by myself but it would be nice to have some close friends again or even married.
No matter how introvert you might be, take into account that internet, smart phones are making more difficult for people to talk to others. Safe public places are harder to find and indivualism has taken over our ancestral sense of community. Don't be too harsh with yourself; making friends is harder than ever in human history.
90% ....but sometimes -all day long........❤ ....so i'm the "weird" one.....🙄 and i'm perfectly "fine" and love being weird me❤❤❤🙏👆 i love smelling the trees and pine needles below my feet as i walk through mother nature in the forest all while seeing the sun light peek through and warming all the their leaves❤❤❤..... Here's to authenticity... God Bless and peace to all.....
" maybee it last an hour, maybee it's last a day" at this point I jokingly said to myself may it last 3 days and Vital responds with " maybee it last a week?" I about died😂 been there.
So much of this resonates with me. 🤍 I enjoy solitude and isolation, and though my situation is different now, I still know that feeling of loneliness. I don’t have it often, but when I do, it weighs down my soul. Nature helps me the most…the silence of the desert, the wind whistling through trees, the sound of water (stream, ocean). It took me a while to figure this out; in my youth, I would cry and think there was something wrong with me. Thank you for bringing this to light and sharing it with the world. People need to know they’re not alone in feeling this way.
Like you I allow myself to feel whatever I’m feeling. Being lonely is temporary but it feels so intense and awful. I go for walks to gather my thoughts. I like to sit in front of bodies of water to sort out what I’m feeling. Water for me is calming. I also write in my journal. It’s a great way to let it all out and self-regulate. Empaths we crave deep emotional connection. We’re truly here for intimate relationships not fluff. I believe loneliness can also stem from being around non empathic people. I hope that more of us find each other in communities like this one.
@@ktdwms bodies of water 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for putting into words what I'm feeling ❤
I usually love my solitude, but right now loneliness is where I'm at. Going to meet with a very old friend tonight though, trying to get out of it 🤞
@@ChickenLips1117 well played 🤍
Thank you! This is the first time in a while feeling lonely- we must know we are never alone. Our Ancestors, angels and spirit guides are always with us 🙏🏾 I clean my flat, play with my cat 🐈⬛ drumming and meditation. It’s difficult during Winter as it’s so dark. Blessings and love always❤
Drumming - very cool
I definitely turned to weed to numb the pain of loneliness. Yes, I'm an empath but I still don't want to walk alone in this life. Please keep these amazing discussions going.
@@kenleyambroise 🥲❤️🩹 and thank you
Hey, I smoke. Be careful with that , as I find on occasion that if I smoke too much in a week, I will start to become self-destructive, start bashing myself, and I will then cut back for a couple days, been smoking since I was 16, and I'm now 50, it has its positives and it's negatives, much love stay sane😊
Man - stop the weed - it is a devious thief.
Rants and rambling Love it! Don't know if I chose isolation, but rather forced into it due to society , I absolutely understand you, Germanie, must be my brother from another mother. Great great video here, my guy. This is so on point!
@@Therubbersluggchannel THANKS 🙏🏽
Bless you for creating this channel and this community. I just came across your video in my feed and listened to it out of curiosity about the title. Little did I know it would speak to me on such a personal level.
I am one who chooses solitude because I either feel others' emotions too deeply, or I get overwhelmed by having other competing energies around for extended time.
90, maybe even 95% of the time, I choose solitude and enjoy it. In those moments where the silence gets deafening, and I feel myself slipping into depression. At those moments, I remind myself why I choose solitude and how I've either entered into or remained too long in unhealthy relationships just to have someone around for the low moments. I also either write, paint, sew, or do something creative to release those expressions of loneliness I am feeling.
Where I used to try and mask my low moments and force myself to cheer up, I no longer do that and I allow myself to feel the feelings I feel and ask myself why I am feeling those feelings. Through those actions, I have learned so much more about myself and released a lot of childhood and other traumas.
I have curated each room in my house to speak to different aspects of my ebbs and flows, so even if I am not willing to get out of the house, I can change my mood by moving to another room.
Thank you again for this space 💓🙏🏼
My pleasure and honor.
You're absolutely right. I have to be with someone that gets me. Appreciates me. I'm very lonely these days. Just got out of a Relationship with a toxic person of year and a half. It ended right before Thanksgiving. The holidays were horrible for me. I fell into depression. I'm still hurting but I'm slowly coming out of it. It's gonna take some time but I hate feeling thus way. I'm hurt from a Relationship and alone.
Thankyou good advice ❤❤❤Nature is my best friend hobbies, poetry, ect and cooking eating well much love H xxx
I absolutely feel the same way. I need to be in my own solitude to recalibrate and get back my peace. I enjoy my own company and need authenticity around me. ❤ Some People always think I’m sad, but I am just being me (I now have 2 daughters that keeps me occupied) yet enjoy my alone time. I relax, read, look online, working out and build up an energy to be around people outside.
Finding your videos helps Me feel “seen” after 46 years of living. Thank you. ❤
:)
I feel lonely when I am with people (giving love and empathy and connecting to them), that do not or cannot reciprocate. When I am truly alone (do not have all these people's energy in my field), or in nature, or with pets, or with people (other empaths etc), or beings of higher dimensional frequencies, I do not feel lonely. As it is such a human condition (disconnect) at present for so many, I found doing massage and bodywork was a way to connect and empowers others to connect with their true essence and create a spiritual connection of sorts through the work.
@@laurak.donham8374 spiritual connections and other empathic beings indeed 🤍🤍🤍
It is very nice to find a content creator that has gone and still going to the depths you swim.
thank you for your path and for sharing. Loneliness is a gift, it is an emotion and it too it our brother. How I keep swimming through loneliness is the same as you. Crazy how universe will validate experiences. While listening I just now figured that when the hurtful voices come while in the middle of loneliness I'm now going to write them down so the words are out my head and on paper and can be burned away or met with deep deep love so as for the words to heal( most highest wish)
@@whiteriver7747 writing down the emotions!! LOVE IT!
❤❤❤ this !
Very relatable
@@sally180 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Wow, amazing description of my feelings.. i just subscribed...thank you brother...❤
THANK YOU
wow I was truly meant to hear this right now… definitely resonated 100%✨🙏🏽💫
@aliabowen7056 ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Perfect timing...thank you❤
I chose to be alone for many years. It seemed that the loneliness went in waves and sometimes washed over me and sunk into my bones. It became very difficult to manage. I kept working and gave as much to my work as possible. Sometimes, especially on weekends I dreaded days off because everywhere I went there was couples and families and I realised how alone I was.
What started off as something very positive for me as the freedom to explore myself and to create became almost pathological. I kept working away at my coping mechanisms of self love self care meditation self discipline etc
For the last 61/2 years I have had a partner. I believe he is my twin flame. He agrees. It is not always easy as all of our karma has come flying up and out from every direction. I cannot imagine life without him !! I remember the loneliness and I don’t want to go back there !!
Thankyou Vital
🙏🌸💜
@@Amber-b3g ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
I was just journaling last night that I felt “lonely.” I don’t usually, as I enjoy my own company very much and enjoy being alone. But I found myself feeling lonely and it was a new feeling for me. Or at least, I was trying to understand if I was actually lonely or not so I was journaling about it. Seems like we are on a similar wavelength because here you are with a podcast on loneliness today. How strange. Thanks for the great video. ❤️
@@blackeneddove ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Spiritual reading, exercise, nature, yes. You have 10,000 friends here!❤
@@sunnycatc6491 🤍🤍🤍
This Christmas Season has been the loneliest time for me. I'm processing acceptance of all that is.
I'm mindful of the voices and the lies that go on.
Sitting quietly and deliberately changing the narrative in my head is very important for me. I realise that the voices are terrible lies , that can cause me to become very sad. I have the power to actually respond and tell myself the truth.
Meditation is what gets me through each day. I believe in God, so my approach to Meditation is that I'm giving my Creator God
Time to just love me. I know that here I'm accepted, now feel the love. Sometimes I have a Good cry.
Because there's so much emotion that going on, I find it hard to do physical chores. So selfcare is what I'll do. Wash my hair, give myself a manicure etc.
I keep essential oils, neroli is wonderful, a drop on my temples is so soothing.
Then a good cup of tea, set a tray, make a pot of tea and serve myself a nice cup of tea, as if I was in a restaurant.
I live in an apartment, so pot plants , I tend to. It's wonderful how these soothing activities help to bring me back to presence.
Thank you Vital, I resonate with your message.
God Bless.
@@carolcollins3108 ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
I just found this channel about a week ago and every time I listen to you describe empathy I feel seen for the first time. This is wild!! Thank you!
I relate to everthing you said. Nature and grounding/earthing in it is my greatest friend, (and animals) I do think we have times of deeper loneliness, dark nights of the soul , which i believe i am in right now (others through the pandemic ?) . Patience and faith 🙏. Trust. Lots of journaling and reading.
Journaling indeed
Dance, draw, color. Repeat peace be still. Or say to myself my name and repeat, I love you. You are enough. I live what you just shared.
@@susanfaye4935 👏👏👏
I have always been by myself so I don't see it as aloneness. I see it as doing all the things I need to get done and so I do not feel the loneliness. I keep active. I hike in groups (although I feel I am by myself so to speak); I play pickleball and love it, I read, I walk in nature, I love browsing through bookstores; I shop and try on lots of clothes but don't buy anything (lol). It would be nice to have that ideal partner but if he doesn't show up, oh well. When I travel I am on the beach enjoying the solitude. There's no time to feel sorry for myself.
:)
With my very best wishes Jermaine. Can I make a suggestion for you and your few moments of perceived loneliness. My suggestion is stop doing or thinking whatever thst is in that moment. THEN think and take so much consolation and warmth for all the empaths neurodivergents etc that you are helping and loving with your empathic crusade. At the moment of your loneliness, someone is playing or replaying this video now and in the future. You have many friends who are blessed to have found you. Cheers Tom. PS I might comment in an other reply with my coping strategies, which may not be everyones cup of tea
@@tombain5665 thank you 🙏🏽 - keep in mind that what i post is not necessarily what I’m feeling at that moment. I share the gamut of my experiences and emotions to inspire and empower. 🤍🤍🤍
@@tombain5665 every best practice has the potential of empowering somebody else 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you Vital. You really have many friends out there.
@ ❤️❤️❤️
Empaths were attacked so many times during life be it because of envy or retaliation, of course they isolate. Besides that our needs are not met. I connect to the Lord daily which helps a lot. Prayer calms me down and stops the fear. I do go to church also. And I began to exercise three times a week.
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I am lonely somehow I think iam used to it, its a part of my life as an empath. I would rather be lonely than deal with the crap.
@@thatosegopolo9072 the crap indeed
I have only experienced loneliness when I have came out of a relationship. After about 2 months the empty feeling disappears.
Not been in a relationship for many years now now, and friends have their families to keep them busy.
I feel comfortable being by myself but it would be nice to have some close friends again or even married.
@@rosahacketts1668 👏👏👏
No matter how introvert you might be, take into account that internet, smart phones are making more difficult for people to talk to others.
Safe public places are harder to find and indivualism has taken over our ancestral sense of community.
Don't be too harsh with yourself; making friends is harder than ever in human history.
@@Lyrielonwind indeed indeed 👏
@Lyrieonwind This 💯
Listening.
@@Kathy-z3r YES YES YES!!!
I innerstand you to 💯 brotha
90% ....but sometimes -all day long........❤ ....so i'm the "weird" one.....🙄 and i'm perfectly "fine" and love being weird me❤❤❤🙏👆 i love smelling the trees and pine needles below my feet as i walk through mother nature in the forest all while seeing the sun light peek through and warming all the their leaves❤❤❤..... Here's to authenticity... God Bless and peace to all.....
@@aLightShines 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@VitalMGermaineThank you for creating your video and message🙏
I deal with Loneliness with prayer and 😂❤.
@@sandytx7661 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I would hide to be alone when I was a kid, and I didn't want any friends.i have my cats 😊🙏✨️
@@SentoriaFAIRLEY 🐾🐾🐾❤️
" maybee it last an hour, maybee it's last a day" at this point I jokingly said to myself may it last 3 days and Vital responds with " maybee it last a week?" I about died😂 been there.
Doing the same. ❤
@@Oreo-s1f 👏👏👏
So much of this resonates with me. 🤍 I enjoy solitude and isolation, and though my situation is different now, I still know that feeling of loneliness. I don’t have it often, but when I do, it weighs down my soul. Nature helps me the most…the silence of the desert, the wind whistling through trees, the sound of water (stream, ocean). It took me a while to figure this out; in my youth, I would cry and think there was something wrong with me. Thank you for bringing this to light and sharing it with the world. People need to know they’re not alone in feeling this way.
@@AlbaArango 🤍🤍🤍
Wow, I feel seen. Thank you 🤎 Honestly, I get tired of self soothing activities but trying new things helps give me something to look forward to