@@k-mart7475 sheer volume of interactions make them higher risk, regardless of carefulness. The career choice alone shows they make high-risk decisions, if it is by choice and not forced (which it could be).
😂 way to overreact. Sleeping with an escort is much safer than sleeping with a regular girl. Especially if the industry is regulated. One in 4 girls has Herpes. A working girl in a regulated industry wouldn't be permitted to exercise the profession with it. Also; people who tend to sleep with escorts tend to only sleep with escorts. Meaning they're a seperate ecosystem from the infected masses. I've slept with multiple prostitutes multiple times and I don't have a single STD . If I had slept with the same number of sluts I'm sure I would have cought something.
If his friends cheat, he cheats too. My ex boyfriend shared a group chat with his friends where the friends would upload videos of them and their affairs. And I was so dumb to believe, that he was just in the group chat and would NOT cheat. 🙄 Just to find out he cheated. What a surprise…. Her husband is for the streets.
Agreed. That’s exactly why I distanced my friends who were out there like that (although I’m still cordial with them). When I do hang out with guys, it’s only with those I KNOW aren’t cheaters or people who will present temptations to cheat. I don’t even want that stuff in my mind. If you love your wife, you have too much to lose when you cheat. Especially, if you have kids.
@@gabrielbuckley6814I had to cut ties with an old friend who would regularly and willingly cheat with married men. That's never been part of my personal code and I hated seeing her lower herself like that. While it's not my business, it's not something I want to be close to.
I would totally judge someone for the company they choose to keep. I couldn't respect a friend who bragged about their deceit. Disgusting. Leave the relationship if you are unhappy. Don't do this.
I Agree with the idea! DO NOT STAY WITH A CHEATER! HE WILL REPEAT THE BEHAVIOR DOWN THE WAY AND YOU WILL NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. TURN THE PAGE AND START A NEW CHAPTER IN YOUR LIFE AFTER YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY HEALED.
Omg. I’ve stayed with a cheater for 15 years thinking it wasn’t going to happen again. I feel for this girl because I understand her. But my god get the heck out now!! You will regret staying!!
This is why I hate how Dr. John always wants to repair when a caller comes in with cheating. Its much deeper than forgiving, they cheated and 0% cared about your life
I had a friend who caught her husband with a girl at a bar, she left a note on his car window that he should not come home! He tried to get them back together with her rules…back and forth to work, no going anywhere without her…he said so I’m going to be in jail? She packed up his stuff and left it in the driveway and changed the locks! She had a son and a daughter..she taught her son how to be a husband and how a to treat a wife and her daughter was taught what kind of husband she may choose!
She is worst than i thought. Whatever husband did was wrong. But purposely telling your kids about grown people affairs is wrong. Teaching son to be a husband..bullcrap. he cheating on her has nothing to do with what kind of father he is to his children.
@@ACURACALABAR11 How you treat a spouse absolutely has an effect on how you parent. Cheating is risking the children’s stability and home life and being a bad role model.
@@ACURACALABAR11It doesn’t matter what kind of father he is to his kids. If he is a good father can have them on the weekends or half of the time. But he is not a good husband and a bad role model to his children. You don’t have to tell kids anything…they know more than you understand. Kids see everything, hear everything, they understand if momma is ok or she is not. If momma is not ok, kids are not ok. If momma is doing good, kids are doing good. It affects kids more than you understand. I know what I’m talking about because I grew up in a broken family. My mother was trying to glue it together, but one person can’t do it, it takes 2 to glue the family. I remember every day when my mother was overwhelmed and crying in the corner. I remember when my dad didn’t care and he still doesn’t. When a family is broken it’s the worse thing you can do to your kids by staying and fighting everyday. I personally blame them both. Blame father for cheating, and blame mother for staying.
@@ACURACALABAR11You realize there is a reason for the sayibg ”do what I say, not what I do” and that it never works. Girls need father’s to treat mom’s well so they know what kind of treatment they will accept. Boys look to their Dad’s as their biggest rolemodel and you can bet your ass they will model their Dad’s attitudes and behaviour.
It's Only, I can't forget the day my mom put all my dad's stuff in garbage bags immediately when she found out. Do not pass Go, Do not collect, Mister. 😊 *That's* how it's done. Had she done it differently I am sure my tolerance level for such behavior would have also been different vs. ZERO.
To this caller, you can't reverse time and ever go back once your husband brings home HIV/AIDS to you. This is not a husband. This is not a marriage. A marriage is dependant on LOYALTY to each other. He asked you what did you see on his phone, to see how much you know and what he can get away with. He has been doing this longer than you know. Save your life and get out now.
Not every escort is out there doing it unprotected, even when the "client" begs and offers $500 more. Expensive "high end" escorts are expensive for a reason. You're much more likely to get something from someone on Tinder. Lmfao.
@@Mischa21xoUh huh. It’s not about the escorts. It’s about her husband. Cheaters have no respect therefore they do not care about anyone or anything. They will sleep with anyone. High end, low end, tinder, bar hook ups etc. Majority of them bring back STDs to their spouse. I know someone whose husband had HIV from sleeping with anyone including escorts. When you choose to accept being cheated on, you put your life at risk.
@@Mischa21xo$500 won't protect from breaking condom and more people you slept with increases the chace. Tinder or escort, for all I care they all are diseased or soon to be diseased. It's playing with your life.
Anytime someone’s told me they’ve been cheated on. I tell him I’ve learned the hard way. If you forgive them and stay with them, you’re just giving them another chance to cheat on you again.
I asked a guy friend I work with why he cheats on his wife repeatedly. He admitted it was ego & the thrill of the chase. So, being the curious owtson I am, I asked when she took you back the first time were you genuinely sorry & really going to try not to do it again. He just said I told her what she wanted to hear, but knew if she took me back once, she'll do it again, so why stop. He & his work friends treat being unfaithful as a big game. And people wonder why I prefer to be single.
@@stevelovescarsI'm a woman and I cheated once - after 1.5 years of no sex whatsoever from my partner. We are all human. I regret the action, but the relationship was in so much trouble (he has addiction issues, etc). I basically am more of a caretaker for him than a partner at this point. I would never cheat again though (he does know about what happened and we are working on things).
I cannot imagine hating myself to the point that I’d settle for a life with a man who probably cares more about his daily meals than he does about me. Nauseating
I’m ashamed to say I’ve done it for 15 years. I thought I was doing my “duty” as a wife and mother. I’m a shell of a person and I’m trying to get out now
The first lady needs to leave. This guy is showing her he doesn't love her. She would rather blame herself for a decision he made. There will always be something foul lingering in the air. Maybe I'm just built different but I would have been gone AS SOON as found the info in the phone.
He's probably made her feel like he's all she's going to get or something to that affect. This type of toxic guy trys to get them to question their self.
@@karahupp4589 yes I'm built different. To many people hang on to things that are bad for them. I don't put up with cheating and disrespect. As soon as you do it, you're gone.
The first call was hard to listen to; I wish she could see she doesn't have to settle for his lack of respect and restraint. I would choose to be alone over and over again than stay in a relationship like that. I hope she can find the strength to leave him.
She’s afraid to leave because her support system, her parents are no longer with her . She needs someone to tell her that staying with a cheater for the sake of the kids won’t keep the family together . Her husband doesn’t even sound remorseful . She’s in for a whole lot of hurt if she decides to stay married . She will forever be his warden and that’s not a way to live . I hope she gets the therapy she needs to stand up for herself .
Oh Kayla. It's not you, it's not his friends- it's him. You need to leave him and build a life where you trust yourself, your instincts, your boundaries. He could've killed his wife and mother of his children with his actions. That is unforgivable. Stop the cycle and show your kids that you don't deserve to be cheated on and not treated like an equal in a relationship.
@missblue1617 That's too bad you feel that way. Speaking only for myself. Being from a broken home. And having a partner who cheated on me. Maybe someone could make the argument that I'm also male. My father is an ass. And my mother was horrible at her job. But as I see it, they both had a responsibility to raise the next generation to be respectful, responsible members of society. Yes, in the long run, if it's FUBAR and the problems won't go away, then the kids don't need to be around that. For many years now, it's all about because. That's many people reason why BECAUSE. They don't even try to recognize the underlying problems that individuals might have had going into the relationship. We all have prexcisting problems. People are so selfish with their lives. Not considering the other people around them. Your partner in life isn't someone who should be dismissed so easily. My wife did that crap to me. I was livet. The hurt is unreal. We have four sons. Well, she has four sons, and they all call me dad. I can tell that she has made a very strong effort to change her ways. I also had to make a strong effort as well. You would be correct to say that I can't trust her anymore. I don't. And that is a shame on her part. When my dad left, the house was very much different. But what I remember was being scared. What was going to happen to me and my siblings. There were people in the house and we were all blood, but we didn't have a family anymore. I felt that at five years old. My wife and I get along very well most of the time. I would have to add that it's been three years since I found out. So a lot of hashing out has been done. She screwed up. I screwed up. Those kids are worth it to me. And also she is my wife. What kind of husband would I be if I didn't take the time to understand why she was willing to do me wrong. I think I figured a few things out. You women are very scary .
@@TheMenace173dude stop being emotional. Just because you have issues doesn’t mean others should accept what you did. It’s ok to walk away from stupid and irresponsible people. Stop gaslighting yourself and being so tr1ggered.
@@TheMenace173 dud3 stop being em0t10nal. Just because you have issues doesn’t mean others should accept what you did. It’s ok to walk away from stup1d and irresponsibl3 people. Stop gasl1ghting yourself and being so tr1ggered.
He had no problem relieving himself in a person who is also messed up and rents herself out as basically a human pay toilet. “Escort” “ affair” sounds so lovely , like you should have these catered. It’s sin, adultery and it tears individuals and families to shreds. This poor, faithful wife could end up with AiDS. It is sickening how society has normalized pornography and prostitution. Great world our kids have ahead of them.
For lady from Australia: Rather than tell her to take the kids to a friends house for a month, upsetting their school, sport and friend schedules, she should ask him to spend a month away from the house.
How could you consider staying with someone who willingly has such callous does regard for your bodily health and safety? To put you at risk with all those diseases by cheating? And more so risk with an escort?
A friend of mind had suddenly broke out in a serious overall body rash, she quickly went to the doctor, She found out her spouse gave her GONORRHEA! THE MARRIAGE WAS OVER! SHE ENDED UP WELL.
Ive always wondered if John would ever take international calls. As someone who's in NZ it's exciting to hear an Aussie call. Maybe one day it'll be me 🥰
Omg this is the sweetest lady ever. My heart breaks for her because you can hear in her voice that she is worried, nervous and hurting. God please take away her pain!
I think it might be dissociation and being constantly flooded with stress hormones. Unfortunately I knew two women very well who were in similar states. They wouldn't accept help even though they had strong support systems, and they rationalized everything in favor of the justifying what the man was doing. They used their family and friends to vent to, to gain the energy vampirically to go back to their man and give him her best. They turned on their friends who tried to help them. They put their kids in danger while chasing the man. They sounded like she does.
@@HankiMausI agree with you and was about to comment the same thing. That she's in shock and is processing alot of trauma with the husband cheating, the loss of her parents etc. It's alot.
It will happen again! Don’t put yourself through that! Run! Get out of that marriage. It’s one thing to cheat with the woman that you work with at work, but to cheat with a escort is a whole other level! You deserve better!
1st caller: I would leave him straight away. I would make a plan to leave and abandon him forever. No worthy. It's very likely he'll do it again. Run darling, run.
I really loved that 2nd question. I always just naturally defaulted to family taking the children but really thinking about the values and life that you want your kids to have is something really important to think about.
The third call really got to me. I had a severe eating disorder most of my life, in recovered now- thank goodness! But it truly is a killer. And her poor daughter, I worry for her. So thankful I recovered before having my daughter. ❤
Pain clouds your judgement when you are in this situation, so you have to shut down for a while and just act. Get silent and cut all contact with your husband, hire a private investigator to gather evidence, get a lawyer to start divorce proceedings, and make every breathing moment about maintaining your physical and financial health. And most of all, remind yourself through it all that you will get to rest and feel and live again, but only after he is completely dessimated. You will be rebuilt, better and stronger, out of his destruction. Go get it.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for telling that man to go see a counselor who's an expert in that situation. That makes me respect you so much. I wish more people would admit they aren't the best person to deal with an issue and say who is.
If you cheat, you are 100% done with me. I file the divorce papers that very day and you hand over your keys and stay in a hotel period. I don’t understand these people staying with cheaters. I get it’s hard to leave, but it’s harder to stay.
🤮 Absolutely disgusting. I pray she does all the methodologies of healing she needs to do. Whether she works it out with him or she leaves, major adjustments are needed. Her life has been seriously flipped
I honestly don't miss the "song of the day" these new end-segments like "Am I the problem" and "John gets in Social Media trouble" are giving me much more. Thanks for that team! ❤
They need to replace her ten dollar mic with a professional one. The sound is frickin' terrible. I actually hate listening to their banter because of it. Their studio sound engineer must be half deaf.
I have been with a serial cheater that played the I am sick card ( kidney transplant) when he was sick he was faithful, when he was well he was a cheater. I finally divorced him way too late. I should have walked sick or not sick.
I mean if we've talked about it being a hard line for me and he was on board but then I find out he went to a strip club behind my back...then it would be a betrayal but that isnt cheating. But we wouldve had to have a whole conversation about it first where its VERY clear that i feel that way and why I feel that way. Its not cheating just because.
DR. Delony can we please get other calls about co-parenting and or how to deal with an abusive ex who you now have to co parent with.... I feel like I see a lot cheating video 😢 I need advice
Call in and ask about it. There have been a lot of calls about parenting and a few about abusive relationships. Best way to hear what you need is to call yourself.
@@jacosisaba I listen all the time that's why I am asking. Most of the calls are about marriages and cheating. Not a lot about parenting if you have any suggestions on what videos I would like to know. I have also called many times and have emailed him twice.
Watching my friend go through a similar thing with her husband, is hard to watch. She definitely tries to downplay it. But he doesn't respect her. And she wont leave. So, ut hust is what it is untiil she decides enough is enough
She is still trying to protect the so called relationship instead of looking out for her own hyde. She needs intensive therapy and a safe exit plan. And she needs to go and get a health check up asap.
This is crazy, my wife has all of my passwords and log on codes incase something happens to me- She knows my friends and if they (my buddies) ever caught me possibly doing something inappropriate they would give me the opportunity to tell her and if I didn't, then they would and if it were a true character flaw they probably wouldn't want to be friends anymore with me - been married going on 25 years, marriage/ family for all us us is high priority- couldn't hang out with a guy who viewed it as less- this is crazy.
Respect John, "I went out last night with a group of guys and we went to dinner." Men teaching men bad behavior is zero respect, same to women. People shouldn't be doing this to each other. Absolutely awful.
Oh sister i am breaking listening to you almost exactly the same situation happened to me recently, and I live in Australia, but my husband was/is working in Western Sydney, and I found out he wasnt going to tell me 😢 😢😢😢
This is why being a trad wife is a dangerous route. She has no career or money of her own, and her husband is essentially a daddy who pays for everything and does what he pleases. There's no escape.
Kayla when a woman leaves the home in these situations she is leaving it wide open for the cheating husband to bring his Playmates into her house. Stay make him leave don't give him a place to carry on his crap
24 years in……if my husband said he’d been to a strip club or wants to go to a strip club then alarm bells would be going off. I’m so sad for this lady, she’s in absolute denial.
Yes, unfortunately here in Germany too. Unfortunately, the big cities in particular are flooded with prostitutes in their “model apartments”. And brothels can advertise officially. Prostitution has been presented here as a “normal service” for over 20 years. I could just puke.
@@bittehiereinfugen7723Yes, I’ve heard that it’s especially bad in Germany. Unfortunately it seems that they wanted it legalised to destigmatise it, but it doesn’t work like that, hence the lack of registration. Yet there are calls for it to be legalised in the US.
@@toomuchinformation Yes, the whole thing officially runs under the guise of preventing forced prostitution and human trafficking. Of course that doesn't work. I see it this way: On the one hand, the state saves a lot of money by no longer carrying out raids or similar, but on the other hand, the state collects significantly more taxes because, on the one hand, prostitutes are supposed to pay taxes (but current figures say that only about 25% do do) and on the other hand, a lot of taxes are collected in the relevant districts through the hotels, bars etc. where all the dirt takes place. The prostitutes no longer have to undergo health checks; for officially registered women, a one-time instruction from the health department is sufficient. And there is a legal requirement to use condoms. As if a prostitute who doesn't make enough money wouldn't start accepting unsafe practices. If a woman who comes from precarious circumstances in an emerging or developing country has enough knowledge about sexually transmitted diseases and their transmission. Unfortunately, the sex and porn industry is very loud and very powerful. And it not only destroys the women who work in it, but also our men, who are literally brainwashed. And that in turn destroys us as partners and our relationships. These effects can already be clearly observed, even if it is not easy to identify them from the outside. But I really fear for the future of our children, our entire society.
@@toomuchinformation And you in the USA should do everything possible to prevent the legalization of prostitution. Nobody “needs” sex, especially if you have to pay for it. Legalization sends completely wrong signals.
Get out Kayla! As a fellow Aussie Woman please don’t think you have to tolerate this disgusting behaviour for a second longer. He broke a vow to you. It would be all over if it were to happen in reverse so why are you lowering yourself? Every time you forgive a person who mistreats you it lowers your value in their eyes 😞 you will find someone amazing. You didn’t deserve this. Do not stay with this creep. He does not love you. People who love you do not hurt you like this 😞 he will wake up to his actions soon enough and realise that he lost a beautiful woman because of some STD riddled slag. Do not continue this nonsense. You know your worth. Get a divorce and get out while you still can.
I didn't know this was also an issue in Australia and Germany. Because the cases i saw in South Korea and Japan about prostitutes and marriages is baffling .
As far as picking who your children go to if something happened to you, we chose non-family members, we were both in agreement that the last thing we wanted was someone who's values didn't aline with ours.
@@snoozyq9576 To rattle a guys cage AND let’s be real clear here it was a JOKE Dr. John asked the guy “give your wife’s OF handle, I’ll look it up” he hung up right then and there. Delony’s team tried to call him back and they said it went straight to voicemail so they presume they were blocked. The problem was the guy called in about his wife on OF (only fans) and said that he didn’t know what was on it but two guys had come up while they were having dinner out and asked for her autograph so John logically asked “what is on it” and the guy gave him nothing. Anyways, John put out a public apology which included FULL accountability and, they took down the video out of respect for the family, and caller.
Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater! Also this lady is not the one that needs a shrink, the husband does. Cheaters disgust me. Get a divorce and take him for everything he has since he cheated. Teach this piece of dirt a hard lesson.
Kelly and Delony are so right 😂 Kelly is like his much older sister. She’s gotta gently bully him sometimes and keep him in line and he’s always intentionally irritating her and spreading rumors about her to the masses 😅 but you know he’s the only one that can get away with it without Kelly ripping them to shreds and Delony would rip anyone to shreds who spread those rumors or said those things in seriousness.
With regard to the second caller - Don’t the kids have Godparents? I think you’re making a mistake limiting this to family. The people you go on vacation with are sufficiently trustworthy to travel with you and your child. I think they can be trusted to be stand-in parents if they wish.
There's amazing men out there, this guy and those like him are not. Definitely pay attention to who a spouse hangs out with, watches, listens to, and the red flag clues they will subconsciously give you - and hopefully you find this before all out before marriage.
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Cheating in general is a deal breaker to me. Cheating with an escort is an aggression to my own life on top of cheating.
@@k-mart7475based on what?
@@k-mart7475 sheer volume of interactions make them higher risk, regardless of carefulness. The career choice alone shows they make high-risk decisions, if it is by choice and not forced (which it could be).
@@k-mart7475I agree!!
😂 way to overreact. Sleeping with an escort is much safer than sleeping with a regular girl. Especially if the industry is regulated. One in 4 girls has Herpes. A working girl in a regulated industry wouldn't be permitted to exercise the profession with it. Also; people who tend to sleep with escorts tend to only sleep with escorts. Meaning they're a seperate ecosystem from the infected masses. I've slept with multiple prostitutes multiple times and I don't have a single STD . If I had slept with the same number of sluts I'm sure I would have cought something.
@k-mart7475 Hahaha more careful, & they're effing 10 to 20 dudes, every day, for years. 😂
If his friends cheat, he cheats too.
My ex boyfriend shared a group chat with his friends where the friends would upload videos of them and their affairs. And I was so dumb to believe, that he was just in the group chat and would NOT cheat. 🙄
Just to find out he cheated. What a surprise….
Her husband is for the streets.
I am so sorry this happened to you beautiful 😞 it’s his loss
I was just going to say that. Completely his loss. You lost nothing. He had no integrity. Next!!!
Agreed. That’s exactly why I distanced my friends who were out there like that (although I’m still cordial with them). When I do hang out with guys, it’s only with those I KNOW aren’t cheaters or people who will present temptations to cheat. I don’t even want that stuff in my mind. If you love your wife, you have too much to lose when you cheat. Especially, if you have kids.
@@gabrielbuckley6814I had to cut ties with an old friend who would regularly and willingly cheat with married men. That's never been part of my personal code and I hated seeing her lower herself like that. While it's not my business, it's not something I want to be close to.
I would totally judge someone for the company they choose to keep. I couldn't respect a friend who bragged about their deceit. Disgusting. Leave the relationship if you are unhappy. Don't do this.
A good friend of mine stayed with a cheating husband and found out later she was HIV positive! Ladies, do not stay with a cheater!
I Agree with the idea! DO NOT STAY WITH A CHEATER! HE WILL REPEAT THE BEHAVIOR DOWN THE WAY AND YOU WILL NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. TURN THE PAGE AND START A NEW CHAPTER IN YOUR LIFE AFTER YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY HEALED.
Omg. I’ve stayed with a cheater for 15 years thinking it wasn’t going to happen again. I feel for this girl because I understand her. But my god get the heck out now!! You will regret staying!!
This is why I hate how Dr. John always wants to repair when a caller comes in with cheating. Its much deeper than forgiving, they cheated and 0% cared about your life
Oh my goodness.. that sucks .m
I had a friend who caught her husband with a girl at a bar, she left a note on his car window that he should not come home! He tried to get them back together with her rules…back and forth to work, no going anywhere without her…he said so I’m going to be in jail? She packed up his stuff and left it in the driveway and changed the locks! She had a son and a daughter..she taught her son how to be a husband and how a to treat a wife and her daughter was taught what kind of husband she may choose!
She is worst than i thought. Whatever husband did was wrong. But purposely telling your kids about grown people affairs is wrong. Teaching son to be a husband..bullcrap. he cheating on her has nothing to do with what kind of father he is to his children.
@@ACURACALABAR11 How you treat a spouse absolutely has an effect on how you parent. Cheating is risking the children’s stability and home life and being a bad role model.
@@ACURACALABAR11It doesn’t matter what kind of father he is to his kids. If he is a good father can have them on the weekends or half of the time. But he is not a good husband and a bad role model to his children. You don’t have to tell kids anything…they know more than you understand. Kids see everything, hear everything, they understand if momma is ok or she is not. If momma is not ok, kids are not ok. If momma is doing good, kids are doing good. It affects kids more than you understand.
I know what I’m talking about because I grew up in a broken family. My mother was trying to glue it together, but one person can’t do it, it takes 2 to glue the family. I remember every day when my mother was overwhelmed and crying in the corner. I remember when my dad didn’t care and he still doesn’t.
When a family is broken it’s the worse thing you can do to your kids by staying and fighting everyday. I personally blame them both. Blame father for cheating, and blame mother for staying.
@@ACURACALABAR11You realize there is a reason for the sayibg ”do what I say, not what I do” and that it never works. Girls need father’s to treat mom’s well so they know what kind of treatment they will accept. Boys look to their Dad’s as their biggest rolemodel and you can bet your ass they will model their Dad’s attitudes and behaviour.
It's Only, I can't forget the day my mom put all my dad's stuff in garbage bags immediately when she found out. Do not pass Go, Do not collect, Mister. 😊 *That's* how it's done. Had she done it differently I am sure my tolerance level for such behavior would have also been different vs. ZERO.
To this caller, you can't reverse time and ever go back once your husband brings home HIV/AIDS to you.
This is not a husband. This is not a marriage.
A marriage is dependant on LOYALTY to each other.
He asked you what did you see on his phone, to see how much you know and what he can get away with.
He has been doing this longer than you know.
Save your life and get out now.
Not every escort is out there doing it unprotected, even when the "client" begs and offers $500 more. Expensive "high end" escorts are expensive for a reason. You're much more likely to get something from someone on Tinder. Lmfao.
@@Mischa21xoUh huh. It’s not about the escorts. It’s about her husband. Cheaters have no respect therefore they do not care about anyone or anything. They will sleep with anyone. High end, low end, tinder, bar hook ups etc. Majority of them bring back STDs to their spouse.
I know someone whose husband had HIV from sleeping with anyone including escorts. When you choose to accept being cheated on, you put your life at risk.
@@Mischa21xo Yes absolutely. They get tested regularly, less chance of catching something from them I would think
@@Mischa21xo$500 won't protect from breaking condom and more people you slept with increases the chace. Tinder or escort, for all I care they all are diseased or soon to be diseased. It's playing with your life.
Anytime someone’s told me they’ve been cheated on. I tell him I’ve learned the hard way. If you forgive them and stay with them, you’re just giving them another chance to cheat on you again.
Right, but when women cheat you all blame the guy for not satisfying her needs and say he should forgive her.
@@stevelovescarsnot true. I absolutely think of women cheating as disgusting and deserving of horrible things
I asked a guy friend I work with why he cheats on his wife repeatedly. He admitted it was ego & the thrill of the chase. So, being the curious owtson I am, I asked when she took you back the first time were you genuinely sorry & really going to try not to do it again. He just said I told her what she wanted to hear, but knew if she took me back once, she'll do it again, so why stop. He & his work friends treat being unfaithful as a big game. And people wonder why I prefer to be single.
@@stevelovescarswhy do you people always compare men vs women
@@stevelovescarsI'm a woman and I cheated once - after 1.5 years of no sex whatsoever from my partner. We are all human. I regret the action, but the relationship was in so much trouble (he has addiction issues, etc). I basically am more of a caretaker for him than a partner at this point. I would never cheat again though (he does know about what happened and we are working on things).
I cannot imagine hating myself to the point that I’d settle for a life with a man who probably cares more about his daily meals than he does about me. Nauseating
What?
I’m ashamed to say I’ve done it for 15 years. I thought I was doing my “duty” as a wife and mother. I’m a shell of a person and I’m trying to get out now
@@HappyHomeRecipeshey at least youre overcoming it. Wish you luck
How could you still want to be with him after that? This is so disgusting.
They always want to stay for the kids.
She stayed thiz long
Why leave now
@@Proud5050man So stay because of the time already spent with him?
@@ashleysalazar2012 might as well
@@ashleysalazar2012 yes
You can tell she’s an amazing, loving, faithful and patient mother and wife. My heart breaks for her. May God bless her with some better news.
nope. Women perform.
Better news??
She needs to get tf out of this dumpster fire of a marriage!
She is a door mat. The only thing she needs is a backbone.
The first lady needs to leave. This guy is showing her he doesn't love her. She would rather blame herself for a decision he made. There will always be something foul lingering in the air. Maybe I'm just built different but I would have been gone AS SOON as found the info in the phone.
He's probably made her feel like he's all she's going to get or something to that affect. This type of toxic guy trys to get them to question their self.
They have kids
You are built different?😂 that wasn’t cringy at all.
@@karahupp4589 yes I'm built different. To many people hang on to things that are bad for them. I don't put up with cheating and disrespect. As soon as you do it, you're gone.
Get a lawyer and get out .. that usually means a huge addiction you cannot fix . Just gross too 🤮
Agree 🤢, cheaters and hoes just have an ICK about them that's very unattractive and diseased feeling.
The first call was hard to listen to; I wish she could see she doesn't have to settle for his lack of respect and restraint. I would choose to be alone over and over again than stay in a relationship like that. I hope she can find the strength to leave him.
She’s afraid to leave because her support system, her parents are no longer with her . She needs someone to tell her that staying with a cheater for the sake of the kids won’t keep the family together . Her husband doesn’t even sound remorseful . She’s in for a whole lot of hurt if she decides to stay married . She will forever be his warden and that’s not a way to live . I hope she gets the therapy she needs to stand up for herself .
No, time to LEAVE!!!! No honey, not fair to you! YOU DESERVE A SAFE RELATIONSHIP WITH A PERSON WHO LOVES YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Facts
This husband is not it
Get an attorney and change the locks!!
I love how John and Kelly are, cracks me up. As someone who teases as a show of love, I totally get this dynamic in a friendship.
Don’t forgive cheaters, it’s going to be a lot of work to be able to trust them again, work that mostly YOU will have to do, not worth it
Everyone should be forgiven. Staying is another thing.
@@shansays1991 no, not everyone should be forgiven.
Forgiveness sets the victims free. No need to trust them or to stay. You r biblically free to go.
Exactly. It’s their character. They will never stop cheating… they will hide it better.
Oh Kayla. It's not you, it's not his friends- it's him. You need to leave him and build a life where you trust yourself, your instincts, your boundaries. He could've killed his wife and mother of his children with his actions. That is unforgivable. Stop the cycle and show your kids that you don't deserve to be cheated on and not treated like an equal in a relationship.
Great advice. Show the kids that your partner in life isn't worth the trouble. It's to hard. Run away
@@TheMenace173someone who has betrayed the marriage is not worth the trouble. He decided to cheat, is his fault.
@missblue1617 That's too bad you feel that way. Speaking only for myself. Being from a broken home. And having a partner who cheated on me. Maybe someone could make the argument that I'm also male. My father is an ass. And my mother was horrible at her job. But as I see it, they both had a responsibility to raise the next generation to be respectful, responsible members of society. Yes, in the long run, if it's FUBAR and the problems won't go away, then the kids don't need to be around that. For many years now, it's all about because. That's many people reason why BECAUSE. They don't even try to recognize the underlying problems that individuals might have had going into the relationship. We all have prexcisting problems. People are so selfish with their lives. Not considering the other people around them. Your partner in life isn't someone who should be dismissed so easily. My wife did that crap to me. I was livet. The hurt is unreal. We have four sons. Well, she has four sons, and they all call me dad. I can tell that she has made a very strong effort to change her ways. I also had to make a strong effort as well. You would be correct to say that I can't trust her anymore. I don't. And that is a shame on her part. When my dad left, the house was very much different. But what I remember was being scared. What was going to happen to me and my siblings. There were people in the house and we were all blood, but we didn't have a family anymore. I felt that at five years old. My wife and I get along very well most of the time. I would have to add that it's been three years since I found out. So a lot of hashing out has been done. She screwed up. I screwed up. Those kids are worth it to me. And also she is my wife. What kind of husband would I be if I didn't take the time to understand why she was willing to do me wrong. I think I figured a few things out. You women are very scary .
@@TheMenace173dude stop being emotional. Just because you have issues doesn’t mean others should accept what you did. It’s ok to walk away from stupid and irresponsible people. Stop gaslighting yourself and being so tr1ggered.
@@TheMenace173 dud3 stop being em0t10nal. Just because you have issues doesn’t mean others should accept what you did. It’s ok to walk away from stup1d and irresponsibl3 people. Stop gasl1ghting yourself and being so tr1ggered.
I love the brother and sister banter vibe between Dr john and Kelly
🤮
He had no problem relieving himself in a person who is also messed up and rents herself out as basically a human pay toilet. “Escort” “ affair” sounds so lovely , like you should have these catered.
It’s sin, adultery and it tears individuals and families to shreds. This poor, faithful wife could end up with AiDS.
It is sickening how society has normalized pornography and prostitution.
Great world our kids have ahead of them.
Exactly
For lady from Australia: Rather than tell her to take the kids to a friends house for a month, upsetting their school, sport and friend schedules, she should ask him to spend a month away from the house.
Good point
She shall prepare to leave. Do not allow him to have your body. Once they cheat. It will torment you for the rest of your life.
How could you consider staying with someone who willingly has such callous does regard for your bodily health and safety? To put you at risk with all those diseases by cheating? And more so risk with an escort?
No, do not stay with him…you need to get out….and make sure you go to the doctor and make sure you didn’t catch something from him.
A friend of mind had suddenly broke out in a serious overall body rash, she quickly went to the doctor, She found out her spouse gave her GONORRHEA! THE MARRIAGE WAS OVER! SHE ENDED UP WELL.
Hes cruel and abusive. He has no respect for himself or your Marriage. This is no way to live and raise children.
He wants to make sure you stay jealous, insecure, weak, untrusting for the rest of your life with him
Ive always wondered if John would ever take international calls. As someone who's in NZ it's exciting to hear an Aussie call. Maybe one day it'll be me 🥰
Same - am in NZ also. 😊
Omg this is the sweetest lady ever. My heart breaks for her because you can hear in her voice that she is worried, nervous and hurting. God please take away her pain!
Leave him! Cheating is the ultimate betrayal!
I hate how calm and nonchalant she is. I hope she get out before catches something untreatable.
I think she’s in shock… doesn’t know who to turn and talk to… she seems very lonely.😒
I think it might be dissociation and being constantly flooded with stress hormones. Unfortunately I knew two women very well who were in similar states. They wouldn't accept help even though they had strong support systems, and they rationalized everything in favor of the justifying what the man was doing. They used their family and friends to vent to, to gain the energy vampirically to go back to their man and give him her best.
They turned on their friends who tried to help them. They put their kids in danger while chasing the man. They sounded like she does.
It is acters calling. Notice the all talk the same, same languagetyp
@@HankiMausI agree with you and was about to comment the same thing. That she's in shock and is processing alot of trauma with the husband cheating, the loss of her parents etc. It's alot.
She’s in shock.
It will happen again! Don’t put yourself through that! Run! Get out of that marriage. It’s one thing to cheat with the woman that you work with at work, but to cheat with a escort is a whole other level! You deserve better!
1st caller: I would leave him straight away. I would make a plan to leave and abandon him forever. No worthy. It's very likely he'll do it again. Run darling, run.
I really loved that 2nd question. I always just naturally defaulted to family taking the children but really thinking about the values and life that you want your kids to have is something really important to think about.
The third call really got to me. I had a severe eating disorder most of my life, in recovered now- thank goodness! But it truly is a killer. And her poor daughter, I worry for her. So thankful I recovered before having my daughter. ❤
Best Podcast ever. You are the best Dr.D
Pain clouds your judgement when you are in this situation, so you have to shut down for a while and just act. Get silent and cut all contact with your husband, hire a private investigator to gather evidence, get a lawyer to start divorce proceedings, and make every breathing moment about maintaining your physical and financial health. And most of all, remind yourself through it all that you will get to rest and feel and live again, but only after he is completely dessimated. You will be rebuilt, better and stronger, out of his destruction. Go get it.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for telling that man to go see a counselor who's an expert in that situation. That makes me respect you so much. I wish more people would admit they aren't the best person to deal with an issue and say who is.
47:50 I almost burst into tears. That's right! He's a good dad and more baby girls NEED dad's like him. That was an awesome thing to say ❤🎉
He didn't just cheat, he went out of his way, planned, and spent A LOT of money to cheat!!
If you cheat, you are 100% done with me. I file the divorce papers that very day and you hand over your keys and stay in a hotel period. I don’t understand these people staying with cheaters. I get it’s hard to leave, but it’s harder to stay.
🤮 Absolutely disgusting. I pray she does all the methodologies of healing she needs to do. Whether she works it out with him or she leaves, major adjustments are needed. Her life has been seriously flipped
I honestly don't miss the "song of the day" these new end-segments like "Am I the problem" and "John gets in Social Media trouble" are giving me much more. Thanks for that team! ❤
This isnt the first time. Hes been doing this
She just missed the signs snd ignored her gut until now.
she sounds so sweet too this poor woman I hope she’s okay now, i’ve been where she’s at it’s one of the worst feelings ever
I hope she got tested...girl get out of there!
I love the goofy banter between Kelly and Dr. John. They seem like theyve known each other for most of their lives.
They need to replace her ten dollar mic with a professional one. The sound is frickin' terrible. I actually hate listening to their banter because of it. Their studio sound engineer must be half deaf.
“Is this repairable? I have two kids. “ my heart broke 💔 when I heard that.
I have been with a serial cheater that played the I am sick card ( kidney transplant) when he was sick he was faithful, when he was well he was a cheater. I finally divorced him way too late. I should have walked sick or not sick.
Going to a strip club is cheating as well.
No it aimt😂
What's next in this slope? Going by the trajectory I suppose wearing bikinis would be cheating in upcoming future?
I mean if we've talked about it being a hard line for me and he was on board but then I find out he went to a strip club behind my back...then it would be a betrayal but that isnt cheating. But we wouldve had to have a whole conversation about it first where its VERY clear that i feel that way and why I feel that way. Its not cheating just because.
I think couples decide if that is cheating. I would be a little butt hurt if he wanted to go but you have bachelor parties and things like that.
If you go without your wife knowing then thats a problem, but it’s not cheating lmao. Y’all change the definition of infidelity everyday
DR. Delony can we please get other calls about co-parenting and or how to deal with an abusive ex who you now have to co parent with.... I feel like I see a lot cheating video 😢 I need advice
Call in and ask about it. There have been a lot of calls about parenting and a few about abusive relationships. Best way to hear what you need is to call yourself.
@@jacosisaba I listen all the time that's why I am asking. Most of the calls are about marriages and cheating. Not a lot about parenting if you have any suggestions on what videos I would like to know. I have also called many times and have emailed him twice.
I don't have a good enough story to be on here but you are very helpful
Watching my friend go through a similar thing with her husband, is hard to watch. She definitely tries to downplay it. But he doesn't respect her. And she wont leave. So, ut hust is what it is untiil she decides enough is enough
She is still trying to protect the so called relationship instead of looking out for her own hyde. She needs intensive therapy and a safe exit plan. And she needs to go and get a health check up asap.
Her voice sounds so broken and innocent. My heart really breaks for her
Love yourself enough to leave ❤️
This is crazy, my wife has all of my passwords and log on codes incase something happens to me- She knows my friends and if they (my buddies) ever caught me possibly doing something inappropriate they would give me the opportunity to tell her and if I didn't, then they would and if it were a true character flaw they probably wouldn't want to be friends anymore with me - been married going on 25 years, marriage/ family for all us us is high priority- couldn't hang out with a guy who viewed it as less- this is crazy.
Respect John, "I went out last night with a group of guys and we went to dinner." Men teaching men bad behavior is zero respect, same to women. People shouldn't be doing this to each other. Absolutely awful.
Oh sister i am breaking listening to you almost exactly the same situation happened to me recently, and I live in Australia, but my husband was/is working in Western Sydney, and I found out he wasnt going to tell me 😢 😢😢😢
She's avoiding everything. Please leave him. Don't settle for someone who doesn't respect you.
This is why being a trad wife is a dangerous route. She has no career or money of her own, and her husband is essentially a daddy who pays for everything and does what he pleases. There's no escape.
Girl, no.... file for divorce, don't get mad, get everything... He is a liar.
Get checked for STIs.
Kayla when a woman leaves the home in these situations she is leaving it wide open for the cheating husband to bring his Playmates into her house. Stay make him leave don't give him a place to carry on his crap
Watching from Finland 🎉
24 years in……if my husband said he’d been to a strip club or wants to go to a strip club then alarm bells would be going off. I’m so sad for this lady, she’s in absolute denial.
Dr John, I AGREE W THE WHAT 100%, HOWEVER, I WOULD ADD “PRIORITIZE the WHATs and SELECT the top 3 NON-NEGOTIABLE”
She is calling from Sydney. Prostitution is legal here. It's unfortunately so common here.
Yes, unfortunately here in Germany too. Unfortunately, the big cities in particular are flooded with prostitutes in their “model apartments”. And brothels can advertise officially. Prostitution has been presented here as a “normal service” for over 20 years. I could just puke.
@@bittehiereinfugen7723Yes, I’ve heard that it’s especially bad in Germany. Unfortunately it seems that they wanted it legalised to destigmatise it, but it doesn’t work like that, hence the lack of registration. Yet there are calls for it to be legalised in the US.
@@toomuchinformation Yes, the whole thing officially runs under the guise of preventing forced prostitution and human trafficking. Of course that doesn't work.
I see it this way: On the one hand, the state saves a lot of money by no longer carrying out raids or similar, but on the other hand, the state collects significantly more taxes because, on the one hand, prostitutes are supposed to pay taxes (but current figures say that only about 25% do do) and on the other hand, a lot of taxes are collected in the relevant districts through the hotels, bars etc. where all the dirt takes place.
The prostitutes no longer have to undergo health checks; for officially registered women, a one-time instruction from the health department is sufficient. And there is a legal requirement to use condoms.
As if a prostitute who doesn't make enough money wouldn't start accepting unsafe practices. If a woman who comes from precarious circumstances in an emerging or developing country has enough knowledge about sexually transmitted diseases and their transmission.
Unfortunately, the sex and porn industry is very loud and very powerful. And it not only destroys the women who work in it, but also our men, who are literally brainwashed. And that in turn destroys us as partners and our relationships.
These effects can already be clearly observed, even if it is not easy to identify them from the outside. But I really fear for the future of our children, our entire society.
@@toomuchinformation And you in the USA should do everything possible to prevent the legalization of prostitution.
Nobody “needs” sex, especially if you have to pay for it.
Legalization sends completely wrong signals.
@@bittehiereinfugen7723 I'm not from the US, but the UK.
It is never "just once"....run!
He is only sorry he got caught.
We all know Kelly’s the ❤ of the show, John’s just the slick salesmen they use for promo ads. 😂
Thank you
We are good
With lots of Stress and struggles
I would love to call in
Girl leave him wtf are you talking about! This shouldn’t be a ‘boundary’ its baseline human decency. Girl you are worth so much fucking more.
Love the banter between J + K so much! That color DOES look amazing on Kelley though!
Get out Kayla! As a fellow Aussie Woman please don’t think you have to tolerate this disgusting behaviour for a second longer. He broke a vow to you. It would be all over if it were to happen in reverse so why are you lowering yourself? Every time you forgive a person who mistreats you it lowers your value in their eyes 😞 you will find someone amazing. You didn’t deserve this. Do not stay with this creep. He does not love you. People who love you do not hurt you like this 😞 he will wake up to his actions soon enough and realise that he lost a beautiful woman because of some STD riddled slag. Do not continue this nonsense. You know your worth. Get a divorce and get out while you still can.
From New York state...very well said !! 💯
She is a battered woman. You can tell by her voice that he’s been emotionally abusive for years. She is bullied into submission.
The kind of friends you keep reflect your own character
I didn't know this was also an issue in Australia and Germany. Because the cases i saw in South Korea and Japan about prostitutes and marriages is baffling .
My husband told me once that a lot of women are really stupid about these things. I guess I was one of them. Heaven help me!
So sorry for her. She sounds so sad (for good reason!!) 💔
My mother left my dad because she didn't like his cars. He spent too much on a cheap Escort when he already had a family van.
They can't just stop lying, they got to stop with the crap, PERIOD!!!!!!
She is trying to save her marriage. It is very commendable but once a man/woman cheats it takes a lot to repair trust.
I would love to find the episode of how to mourn the lost babies❤
A cheater can still bring disease and death to an innocent spouse. Once a cheater always a cheater.
As far as picking who your children go to if something happened to you, we chose non-family members, we were both in agreement that the last thing we wanted was someone who's values didn't aline with ours.
I love the banter between Dr John and Kelly. His teasing is fun and she’s a great sport
You forgot the end the show with "don't do drugs". Now I'm confused if I should or shouldn't do drugs.
Be meaner to Kelly. 😂 Kelly, give it back. That's the chemistry.
Wow this really sucks lady. So sorry ma'am
Wondering why this was posted today but then i realized he took down the only fans episode from yesterday 😅 what is the teaaaaaaa Dr. John???
Tea is he apologized and took ownership and out of respect for the family took down the video.
@@flashthecorgi2053 Hey Dr. John!!!
@@flashthecorgi2053you didn't even explain what the tea was. Ownership for what ?
@@snoozyq9576 To rattle a guys cage AND let’s be real clear here it was a JOKE Dr. John asked the guy “give your wife’s OF handle, I’ll look it up” he hung up right then and there. Delony’s team tried to call him back and they said it went straight to voicemail so they presume they were blocked. The problem was the guy called in about his wife on OF (only fans) and said that he didn’t know what was on it but two guys had come up while they were having dinner out and asked for her autograph so John logically asked “what is on it” and the guy gave him nothing. Anyways, John put out a public apology which included FULL accountability and, they took down the video out of respect for the family, and caller.
Leave him!!
Hold on 😂 I’m watching these faithfully. They better than the real ones 😂😂
Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater!
Also this lady is not the one that needs a shrink, the husband does.
Cheaters disgust me.
Get a divorce and take him for everything he has since he cheated. Teach this piece of dirt a hard lesson.
Kelly and Delony are so right 😂
Kelly is like his much older sister. She’s gotta gently bully him sometimes and keep him in line and he’s always intentionally irritating her and spreading rumors about her to the masses 😅 but you know he’s the only one that can get away with it without Kelly ripping them to shreds and Delony would rip anyone to shreds who spread those rumors or said those things in seriousness.
It’s never the first time it happened…
With regard to the second caller - Don’t the kids have Godparents? I think you’re making a mistake limiting this to family. The people you go on vacation with are sufficiently trustworthy to travel with you and your child. I think they can be trusted to be stand-in parents if they wish.
There's amazing men out there, this guy and those like him are not. Definitely pay attention to who a spouse hangs out with, watches, listens to, and the red flag clues they will subconsciously give you - and hopefully you find this before all out before marriage.
He said it correctly 39:06 when you start keeping secrets from those that care about you.
Not a fan of the "preview" at the beginning, it just ruins the interest-tension.
The preview is very confusing, I skip it.
She needs to share with her friends for sure. Not to share brings on depression. She does need to take care of herself.
Just like that quote John always shares "Shame eats secrets for breakfast". Gotta be honest with someone
Holly crapp shame lady such a shame 😢