No one can be joyful around a narcissist. They make it impossible. It's not just Christmas they ruin, it's every other milestone and celebration in our life journey.
Because everything is about praising them. Everything. Anyone who doesn't ends up on the receiving end of chaos. Remember Christmas is about the narcissist, Not Jesus, or love, in my experience anyway
Crazy how they can be disrespectfull and hurtfull and hurting the kids feelings aswell. No more. Love my peace and my kids peace and no contact for life
good on you, and hold in there, that is the only way. I am learning this while totally alone cause they try to push me away and still I try to make the best of it and not despair, the plan is to go no contact when everything is over and to keep it that way forever... it is the only thought that keeps me going. I look forward to no contact, really... I rather am annoyed at myself that I tried to keep contact for a while, but I had no idea how narcissistic these people are... edit: sorry, I meant, hang in there... ☺ (English isn't my first language, so sometimes I just don't find the right expression, sorry.)
Christmas makes 1 year since he started drama and left. So happy to be free of his toxicity and selfishness 🙌 thanks Lee, your videos have been so helpful for healing.
Some time ago, I watched a live video, and the narc rushed the interviewee into doing an un prepared live link up. He then kept on telling her that her signal was fading, and all sorts of things. As a viewer I could see nothing was wrong with the video. I could see that the more distressed, and un raveled she became, the more 'glee' he had in his eyes. So yes, I can see that narcs 'get off' on people's distress.
Of course, you was on point. First Christmas the energy was different. He wasn’t Happy. He tried to start something . But I didn’t fall for it. Thank you, Merry Christmas to you and yours 🎄
I bought him a watch for Christmas one year, I got a notebook. Not a laptop but any actual paper notebook, since I like to write... We don’t exchange Christmas gifts anymore
We co parent. After my mother passed, after a couple years no contact. we came together. Nothing special. But I decided to give my son AND her a gift. She said thank you but said “ha I didn’t get anything for you” I just said it’s alright it’s not always about gifts. She’s coming over for Christmas a bit I’m aware of a lot. All about my son and his happiness is what I want
Very good advice. The manipulation, the gas lighting. And its crazy because if you don’t know about narcissistic traits… You wouldn’t figure it out. I just disconnect and focus on my children and family. Let him live in his shit by himself! When you can act better you may get my attention.
My narc has SUPER expensive taste in things. Like I can’t afford it. I get such anxiety buying Christmas and birthday gifts for him. I never know if I’m going to get in trouble or the silent treatment or be treated passive aggressive. I hate it
I have several narcs in my "family", (they are NOT my "family" to say it once and for all, but..), so I am actually glad I am alone this Christmas, no need for this stuff...
Yeah, 100% true! Thats exactly what the narcissistic family always do, and are doing... there would be a big mistake if we expect them to act honestly and good. Thanks Lee ! Very helpfull to keep all of us awake...! M.C. to everyone here too! 👊
I used to do Christmas things without my narcissistic ex-husband. I definitely had peace while I was away doing those things but it just gave him more fuel to throw in my face in the future. And he never forgets anything. So 5 years later he would dig up whatever it was that I did that he was pissed about. And I would have completely forgot the scenario and why I made that decision to do that thing without him in the first place
My boyfriend’s narc ex wife took away their daughter’s phone three weeks before Christmas. She used the excuse of “I took it away because she’s been giving me attitude lately”. Their daughter promises that she’s not trying to be giving an attitude, her mom just had a new baby and his daughter gets frustrated because the baby has back problems and it cries so much. So many people have been trying to get a hold of her to ask what she wants for Christmas, but she wasn’t able to tell anyone, which made it difficult for anyone trying to buy her presents. She even said “all I want for Christmas is my phone back so I can talk to my family and friends” 😢 we have been having to go through her mom to try and talk to her but her mom barely answers phone calls, won’t answer texts unless it’s about sports events. She makes it extremely difficult when trying to find out where we are supposed to drop off their daughter during the holidays, she is exhausted because her mom made her attend SEVEN christmases this year, all at different places. And if we don’t know where to drop her off, and their daughter doesn’t remember the addresses, then we are all the bad guys…. This has been the most exhausting Christmas of them all, and I’ve spent 4 christmases with my boyfriend and his daughter so far. She still hasn’t given their daughter her phone back…
100% I know someone who's been leaving with her kids, driving 12 hours away every year for Christmas without her narcissistic husband --- sadly the only option in choosing to be married to this human
My Dad used to pick out presents he liked & after I opened them I couldn't get near it for ?? However long it took him to get bored with it. If I do much as tried to tinker with " my own" present he'd bark at me...oi!!! you got all the bloody holidays to play with it ....I'm playing with it now!!! Even my 21st he picked all the songs to play in the hire juke box🙄
Thanks for talking about this. He was supposed to be away and came home unexpectedly, and my peacefulness and good mood turned into anger, and he effected my health
I have one who is a caregiver to a loved one. Fast forward the caregiver is yet trying me and thinks gifts will bandage the hurt. For the 1st time in my life my pressure has been high just to mention them and the minions. I gotta take care of myself or I won't be here!
🥑 Thank you for all the years this far, all the videos you made which saved my life four years ago in making the decision to get out while I could. May you and your family continue to thrive. ❤😊
🎄They seem to build up their drama for the grand finale, which is actually Xmas day, and the later it gets, the worse it gets. Drinking and drama and bringing up all of their past issues in 1. This is every day, however that I've either been with him or even if I've not. Always dramas😮. Well done, Lee. Not just Xmas, it's birthdays, Easter anytime there's a special occasion. I'll be spending Xmas without my ex narcissists. Good luck whoever he's with. Last year, he was alone. Best way. Yes he has gone silent as with his other one. Good luck women lol❤🥑.Merry Xmas and a prosperous 2025 Lee and family, Lee😊❤🎉🎉
We almost had a successful Christmas with our narc, i was picking my battles as i’m now familiar with the pattens . Guess what , he threw a fit at the end of the day and stoned off and left . All because he was making comments about how i could be doing more today than i was , even though i did everything. He told me , “ you think you do more than you actually do “ just put down after put down and i stood up for myself and he went on rage mode
Everytime around xmas is horrible, between Xmas & nye. They can’t act right. The ex narc discarded me and idgaf, this will be the last time I allow that psycho in my presence. Good riddens
The narc in my life waited until Christmas eve to order anything needed then blamed it on the delivery service. Hilarious. Zero accountability. Its like a toddler still salty Santa gave them coal 60 years before 😂
On Christmas day I got literally a game box and my mom even said wtf is that I haven’t touched the game for shit 😂😂and when he’d come over I’ll pull out the box to say ‘you know how to play this?’ 😂😂😂
I wish I could get the help I need to get away from my toxic mom n family ! It’s been too much hell on me n my kids ! Im disgusted that these ppl are this evil ! 😢😮💨🥺
🥑 Thank you so much for Your support too Lee during all these years! 😃 My brother's name is also Ley ... Just spelled a bit differently 😊 I love that Your video's is so Authentic, Original and Down to earth 🤓 Everything You teach is so realistic and easy to understand and your jokes makes our dull lives feel better .... Joy
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended few month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex boyfriend, and I can't seem to get him out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win him back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss him deeply and can't stop thinking about him
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
I had to block the mother... she doesn't approve of anything anyone does, but bitches about finances and how expensive everything is. Now the youngest sibling ticks off whenever anyone points out how annoying similar she is to the mom. So damn tired of hearing what the dad did, while no one can call her out on her bullshit, because she doesn't explain shit...
Please i got a question MR Lee hammock;why would a narcissist trick you to broke no contact when they dumped you and later they start giving you the silent treatment after you broke the no contact taking into consideration they dumped you
Narcs have a lot of pitbull-fight in their DNA. Typically their partners almost don't have ANY fight in their DNA, and these empaths also can't stomach conflict either. It's a sure recipe for steamrolling if there ever was one. No bueno.
I didn't know this was a thing but my narcissistic partner just started a problem right before Christmas and I tried to resolve the issue and he not only tried to blame me for everything but he also told me he's gonna try to work things out with his ex. Like I'm super upset and hurt but I just blocked him. Then he sends his daughter to call me to ask if she can come over My house he knows I'm not gonna say no to her idk what his problem is smh 🤦
It’s true. As empaths and Earth Angels, our light does irritate their demons. There is a demon in particular that operates in narcissistic people called the Jinn spirit which I bind and rebuke in the name of Jesus.
I’m just confused at how you could be diagnosed as a narcissist when you have so much insight. The big thing about being a narcissist is not having insight that’s why they’re so difficult to diagnose.
No one can be joyful around a narcissist. They make it impossible. It's not just Christmas they ruin, it's every other milestone and celebration in our life journey.
Because everything is about praising them. Everything. Anyone who doesn't ends up on the receiving end of chaos. Remember Christmas is about the narcissist, Not Jesus, or love, in my experience anyway
To be honest. They will ruin holidays, birthdays, weddings, funerals, and any event that is not about them as the main focus.
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Crazy how they can be disrespectfull and hurtfull and hurting the kids feelings aswell. No more. Love my peace and my kids peace and no contact for life
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How mine uses the courts for visits
@TanyaDavis954 🙄🙄❤️ horrible
good on you, and hold in there, that is the only way. I am learning this while totally alone cause they try to push me away and still I try to make the best of it and not despair, the plan is to go no contact when everything is over and to keep it that way forever... it is the only thought that keeps me going. I look forward to no contact, really... I rather am annoyed at myself that I tried to keep contact for a while, but I had no idea how narcissistic these people are... edit: sorry, I meant, hang in there... ☺ (English isn't my first language, so sometimes I just don't find the right expression, sorry.)
Drama drama drama...go no contact and get your Peace peace peace
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Christmas makes 1 year since he started drama and left. So happy to be free of his toxicity and selfishness 🙌 thanks Lee, your videos have been so helpful for healing.
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Some time ago, I watched a live video, and the narc rushed the interviewee into doing an un prepared live link up. He then kept on telling her that her signal was fading, and all sorts of things. As a viewer I could see nothing was wrong with the video. I could see that the more distressed, and un raveled she became, the more 'glee' he had in his eyes. So yes, I can see that narcs 'get off' on people's distress.
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Of course, you was on point. First Christmas the energy was different. He wasn’t Happy. He tried to start something . But I didn’t fall for it. Thank you, Merry Christmas to you and yours 🎄
Happy holidays!
They are terrible gift-givers! They give you the worst gifts possible even after providing clues to what you want!
@@margaretgreason1785 omg yes this!
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So cringe sometimes! Like things would have been better if you just did nothing
I bought him a watch for Christmas one year, I got a notebook. Not a laptop but any actual paper notebook, since I like to write... We don’t exchange Christmas gifts anymore
@@princesscaprice 😂😭 straight abuse
We co parent. After my mother passed, after a couple years no contact. we came together. Nothing special. But I decided to give my son AND her a gift. She said thank you but said “ha I didn’t get anything for you” I just said it’s alright it’s not always about gifts. She’s coming over for Christmas a bit I’m aware of a lot. All about my son and his happiness is what I want
I know how to survive Christmas with a narcissist, celebrate Christmas 🎄 without them, stay away from them whenever possible.
,,(...) I got you the house, I got you the kids" 😂😂😂😭 oh my God! I wonder they're not saying ,,Well, you got me?!"
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Every time
Same thing
“Bump em” 😝
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Very good advice. The manipulation, the gas lighting. And its crazy because if you don’t know about narcissistic traits… You wouldn’t figure it out. I just disconnect and focus on my children and family.
Let him live in his shit by himself!
When you can act better you may get my attention.
I'd rather have a stray cat (with a disease) than the gifts my narc gave me. Beyond thoughtless! I'm glad I left😊.
Yes then call you ungrateful when you don’t like them.
the poor stray cat... just saying... she would deserve better, and that is also a truth.
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My narc has SUPER expensive taste in things. Like I can’t afford it. I get such anxiety buying Christmas and birthday gifts for him. I never know if I’m going to get in trouble or the silent treatment or be treated passive aggressive. I hate it
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Just because HE has expensive taste DOES NOT mean that you have to BUY IT!❤❤❤❤
Ive been divorced 25 years. That SOB still gets at me very Holiday. He uses our kids and grandkids.
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I have several narcs in my "family", (they are NOT my "family" to say it once and for all, but..), so I am actually glad I am alone this Christmas, no need for this stuff...
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Yeah, 100% true! Thats exactly what the narcissistic family always do, and are doing... there would be a big mistake if we expect them to act honestly and good.
Thanks Lee ! Very helpfull to keep all of us awake...! M.C. to everyone here too! 👊
Thanks for sharing!!
I used to do Christmas things without my narcissistic ex-husband. I definitely had peace while I was away doing those things but it just gave him more fuel to throw in my face in the future. And he never forgets anything. So 5 years later he would dig up whatever it was that I did that he was pissed about. And I would have completely forgot the scenario and why I made that decision to do that thing without him in the first place
you have protect your peace
Merry Christmas Lee to you and your family 🎄
Same to you!
My boyfriend’s narc ex wife took away their daughter’s phone three weeks before Christmas. She used the excuse of “I took it away because she’s been giving me attitude lately”. Their daughter promises that she’s not trying to be giving an attitude, her mom just had a new baby and his daughter gets frustrated because the baby has back problems and it cries so much. So many people have been trying to get a hold of her to ask what she wants for Christmas, but she wasn’t able to tell anyone, which made it difficult for anyone trying to buy her presents. She even said “all I want for Christmas is my phone back so I can talk to my family and friends” 😢 we have been having to go through her mom to try and talk to her but her mom barely answers phone calls, won’t answer texts unless it’s about sports events. She makes it extremely difficult when trying to find out where we are supposed to drop off their daughter during the holidays, she is exhausted because her mom made her attend SEVEN christmases this year, all at different places. And if we don’t know where to drop her off, and their daughter doesn’t remember the addresses, then we are all the bad guys…. This has been the most exhausting Christmas of them all, and I’ve spent 4 christmases with my boyfriend and his daughter so far.
She still hasn’t given their daughter her phone back…
100% I know someone who's been leaving with her kids, driving 12 hours away every year for Christmas without her narcissistic husband --- sadly the only option in choosing to be married to this human
😮💨 have to protect your peace
My Dad used to pick out presents he liked & after I opened them I couldn't get near it for ?? However long it took him to get bored with it.
If I do much as tried to tinker with " my own" present he'd bark at me...oi!!! you got all the bloody holidays to play with it ....I'm playing with it now!!!
Even my 21st he picked all the songs to play in the hire juke box🙄
that's so bad on him
I'm hoping I can endure this visitor this year.
Thanks for talking about this. He was supposed to be away and came home unexpectedly, and my peacefulness and good mood turned into anger, and he effected my health
Leaving him on his own today
This episode goated !!!😂😂 Lee hitting his stride !!!
I have one who is a caregiver to a loved one. Fast forward the caregiver is yet trying me and thinks gifts will bandage the hurt. For the 1st time in my life my pressure has been high just to mention them and the minions. I gotta take care of myself or I won't be here!
🥑 Thank you for all the years this far, all the videos you made which saved my life four years ago in making the decision to get out while I could. May you and your family continue to thrive. ❤😊
you’re welcome
This is my first christmas in 11 years without my narcissistic ex-wife.
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The space is a sociopath vs psychopath space. This is literally crazy by definition.
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🎄They seem to build up their drama for the grand finale, which is actually Xmas day, and the later it gets, the worse it gets. Drinking and drama and bringing up all of their past issues in 1. This is every day, however that I've either been with him or even if I've not. Always dramas😮. Well done, Lee. Not just Xmas, it's birthdays, Easter anytime there's a special occasion. I'll be spending Xmas without my ex narcissists. Good luck whoever he's with. Last year, he was alone. Best way. Yes he has gone silent as with his other one. Good luck women lol❤🥑.Merry Xmas and a prosperous 2025 Lee and family, Lee😊❤🎉🎉
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The narcissist gives the gift of chaos 🎁🎄🎉😆🤣
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🥑 Merry Christmas to you & your beautiful Family Lee. ❤️🧑🎄🌲❄️🎉
Merry Christmas
We almost had a successful Christmas with our narc, i was picking my battles as i’m now familiar with the pattens . Guess what , he threw a fit at the end of the day and stoned off and left . All because he was making comments about how i could be doing more today than i was , even though i did everything. He told me , “ you think you do more than you actually do “ just put down after put down and i stood up for myself and he went on rage mode
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🥑 don’t stop the short videos they are funny and entertaining
the shorts will continue :)
Mine threw me out his community and cutted ties on Christmas Eve. Got blocked as well. Final discard? Hope so!
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Thk u for this. Having a very hardday
you’re welcome
Everytime around xmas is horrible, between Xmas & nye. They can’t act right. The ex narc discarded me and idgaf, this will be the last time I allow that psycho in my presence. Good riddens
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It was Christmas when the narc lost HIS ENTIRE MIND and that was years ago and i left that next January …✌🏼
stay safe and protect your peace
The narc in my life waited until Christmas eve to order anything needed then blamed it on the delivery service. Hilarious. Zero accountability. Its like a toddler still salty Santa gave them coal 60 years before 😂
On Christmas day I got literally a game box and my mom even said wtf is that I haven’t touched the game for shit 😂😂and when he’d come over I’ll pull out the box to say ‘you know how to play this?’ 😂😂😂
Lee i can see you're dead behind the eyes and beoken, but you're honest and help so many of us cause you own your shit
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LOL. This makes YOU sound like the one who's dead and broken. Go take your abuse elsewhere.
🎄 fighting for peace
Only now I understand why I couldn't spend holidays normally and relaxed with my family. I was and still is tense during this time.
protect your peace
Happy Holidays Lee!!🫶🏽
I wish I could get the help I need to get away from my toxic mom n family ! It’s been too much hell on me n my kids ! Im disgusted that these ppl are this evil ! 😢😮💨🥺
🥑 Thank you so much for Your support too Lee during all these years! 😃 My brother's name is also Ley ... Just spelled a bit differently 😊 I love that Your video's is so Authentic, Original and Down to earth 🤓 Everything You teach is so realistic and easy to understand and your jokes makes our dull lives feel better .... Joy
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"Blah blah blah, boo boo boo, bee bee bee"
No truer words that come out of a holiday narc 😂
Mercy Christmas please 🙏 this Narc is crazy lol🎄🎄🎄🎄😂
😂🤣😂19 of them was bad. You tickle me at times🤦🏽♀️😩
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Being dumped before christmas wasnt on my mind but it happened last year so it doesn’t surprise me as much it did this year. /:
Wow,The Narc's worst than the Grinch that stole Christmas🧟♂️& Also🥑for making it this far.
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My ex would by everyone a gift but me. One time he even bought his brothers room mate a gift but nothing for me.
Merry Christmas Lee/everyone. Dont drink n drive. Call an Uber. 🎅 🎄🎁
Merry Christmas
Merry Christmas 🥑
Merry Christmas
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended few month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex boyfriend, and I can't seem to get him out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win him back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss him deeply and can't stop thinking about him
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
That's exactly what happened to me. He's now with the other women lol. Good luck. He's my ex. Gonna have some rest bite Xmas day🎉😂
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I had to block the mother... she doesn't approve of anything anyone does, but bitches about finances and how expensive everything is. Now the youngest sibling ticks off whenever anyone points out how annoying similar she is to the mom. So damn tired of hearing what the dad did, while no one can call her out on her bullshit, because she doesn't explain shit...
Please i got a question MR Lee hammock;why would a narcissist trick you to broke no contact when they dumped you and later they start giving you the silent treatment after you broke the no contact taking into consideration they dumped you
Narcs have a lot of pitbull-fight in their DNA. Typically their partners almost don't have ANY fight in their DNA, and these empaths also can't stomach conflict either. It's a sure recipe for steamrolling if there ever was one. No bueno.
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Are you planning to ruin Christmas this year, Lee?
no
why can’t narcissists let you take space from them?
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I didn't know this was a thing but my narcissistic partner just started a problem right before Christmas and I tried to resolve the issue and he not only tried to blame me for everything but he also told me he's gonna try to work things out with his ex. Like I'm super upset and hurt but I just blocked him. Then he sends his daughter to call me to ask if she can come over My house he knows I'm not gonna say no to her idk what his problem is smh 🤦
It’s true. As empaths and Earth Angels, our light does irritate their demons. There is a demon in particular that operates in narcissistic people called the Jinn spirit which I bind and rebuke in the name of Jesus.
When narcissist text me, I do not reply back, to let them know no contact Still Apply ✌️😂
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🎄🎄🎄🎄......OMG LEE!!!!! U REALLY KNOW THEM FOOOOOOOLS😂😂😂 I HATE NARC SEASON TOOOO MUCH DRAMA FOR NOOOO FUCKING "REAL"REASON 😢😢😢
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Thanks for trying to explain. I still don’t get it.
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I’m just confused at how you could be diagnosed as a narcissist when you have so much insight. The big thing about being a narcissist is not having insight that’s why they’re so difficult to diagnose.
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