OMG!!! This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have watched all the videos of Dr. Ramani and Danish Bashir about Narcissism. She has explained it beautifully, but it's in an American context. In this podcast, @Raj Shamani mentioned the Indian culture/upbringing aspect of it. My father has all the traits she mentioned. Now, I have left home, and as an Indian, I feel guilty every day about leaving a parent and not taking care of him. It took me 25 years to come out of it, and finally, I did. I’m serious-this freedom terrifies me. At last Raj used the perfect words it either Guilt or Suffocation, no other choice. Rebuilding my whole life-financially, emotionally, mentally, and even my nervous system-is overwhelming. I need to find good people, rebuild my "village," unlearn the survival skills I picked up in childhood, and relearn how to create and thrive in a healthy environment.
We both are on the same boat ..I walked out after 24yrs of being married and Dr. Ramani really helped me to understand and move forward. I have no guilt, infact I am happy that I am in a true sense able to be myself...
You are not alone. You will experience the best form of "Love & Life" you deserve when you put an end to the abuse & once you see it you can't unsee it. Sending you healing Hugs and Love. The generational curse ends with you, girl ❤
I'm going through this shit , i left home for studies living seperate and can see toxic patterns in myself, can you please tell how you able to create a healthy environment for yourself?
I hear you !! We need to observe and become aware of everything that's registered in our unconscious mind as kids. It's like cleaning the glass to perceive our reality as it is Versus looking through a tainted glass i.e through childhood trauma.
Coming from a family with a narcissistic father and now in a house with a Narc MIL. These people can put your mindset on a toss. To a level where you take up certain narc traits.. The most imp challenge is not handling them but to manage and maintain your own image due to societal pressure that blames you for keeping your own parents away. Best part in my case is my partner and me both had a narrissitic parent and we know the abuse we've been through since childhood so now while we head towards a better life we don't care about judgements coming from others. We can't go and explain what we've been through. I still remember my entire childhood i just wanted my mom to leave my father but she couldn't take that step as she believed she had two daughters who need a father. I regret her decision at times. But my mom probably knew about the separation abuse she would've had to go through then. As she said, leave and run!! I just zone out from my MIL..and mentally detached from my Father. Also it took me 30yrs to realize that my fathers validation is an impossible thing and so is appreciation from my MIL so i stopped expecting it from them. Life becomes easy when you realise these behavioural patterns and facts associated with Narcs.
I’ve come to an important realization after listening to this episode. It’s become clear to me that I’ve been in a long-term relationship with a narcissistic partner, and over time, I’ve adopted some of those behaviours myself. Unfortunately, we’re struggling to connect and support one another now. For years, I’ve been putting my own desires aside, and I’m reaching a point where I need to express myself and prioritize my own well-being. I recognize the need for change and growth, both individually and within our relationship. As a result, I'm a toxic, narcissistic, burst-out person. I don't care about other people's genuine gestures of love and care 😢
16:20 - Covert , the way she narrated , it shook me to the core. That's what exactly happened to me. That person had changed my own perspective about myself. Love bombing, gas lighting, confusion. inconsistent behavior - it all took me 16 years , a beautiful kid , a job loss , 2 surgeries to leave him. But I am glad that I did it.
I really loved when madam said, "I've given a lot but what about so much that you've taken " detachment and separation are the only two options to deal with Narcissists
This is for any child who still lives with their narcissistic parent, work hard, find your niche, try to tune out what is happening in your house. GET OUT of that house, the first chance you get whether it is to study away from your house or to find work away from your house. As a daughter of a raging narcissist, I got out 3 years ago, the changes you will see in yourself, the self worth that you have to rebuild..It takes time, but believe me, it's worth it. It comes with a lot of shame and guilt, but it is worth it in the long run. The world around you becomes a little more colourful and beautiful. But the little voice that is programmed into your head constantly saying you are worthless and useless will not leave you, for that you need therapy. And that is where the 'work hard' part comes in, so earn and spend money to better yourself. I didn't have any of my own interests or likes/dislikes. At the age of 27 I am finding myself now. If someone who was worthless/useless like me can do it, You can too. ❤
Excellent!!! I have personally experienced narcissism at all levels, and so I can say one thing...all narcissistic people are players,but they forget there is a coach and their worst nightmare...A Super Empath,and the narcs know it intuitively.
@lawliet2019 Well,a super empath is a sigma male/female. Once they know their true worth,capability and confidence both, believe me they turn tables around and how.Narcissiits run for cover coz,empaths drop their masks and illusion and thus the big fall of the Narc,especially their PRIDE. Narcs are hollow and cowardly they always have flying monkeys to do their work,but a Sigma is always a step ahead.Period.
This is so so relatable... I have my father like this... As the orator said I quit and moved to different city for job and was happy. He use to call every now and then to chk how am I doing... Everyone thought he is such caring father. The moment I came back home. He would fight so much with me. He would not even provide food and constantly nag to kick me out of the home. I just wasted 10 yrs of my life. I would never understand why is he behaviour like this. Beyond everything he never had remorse feeling. He always said I did the right thing. I never do wrong to anyone. He messed up me mentally so much.
I think his mental condition is not good or not like to have a daughter as a child that's why I think and where is your mom why she is not helping you ?
He is narcissist dude Those guys never change I also have 1 narcissist woman in my life but I have learnt from her only how to deal with such kind of people 😂 I just mirror their behavior and they go nuts😂 Narcissists can't handle narcissistic behavior themselves They just want to be the centre of attention and traumatize other people But the moment you flip the coin they start manipulating and blackmailing you emotionally Try doing so You will never be bothered by any narc anymore
i usually don't comment on any video but Raj forced me to comment on this. He was not letting Havovi speak and kept on letting out his thoughts(felt like flexing his knowledge). He cut her so many times
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Bhai raj chup ho ja, ek article pad k tu psychologist nhi ban jyga. havovi was just gonna tell how to plan a escape from a narcissistic family and u shunned her. Matlab saare podcasters apne aap ko bahut zyada samajhdar smajhne lagte hai same happened to ranvir thats why i stopped listening to his podcasts please let ppl talk we are here to listen to them not you.
This podcast is probably one of the best I have seen in a long while on mental health issues in India. Ms Havovi did a beautiful job translating the work of Dr Ramani into Indian context, which would make it so much easier for Indians to relate. I love how you categorized narcissists and their behavior patterns, and then also emphasized the solution of leaving their grip in a planned calculated manner. I am so glad that you touched not just upon the problem, but also discussed the solutions, which is as much, if not more important than discussing the problem itself. Thank you, Raj and Ms Havovi for making this a solution-oriented talk. This is some amazing work right there! Can't wait for more such podcasts in the future.
Chill reh bhai 1-2 din me sab bhul v jaenge, mai saalo se logo se is baare me baat kr kr ke thak chuka hu, ab mai bolta v nhi hu, society hmare prati hmesha cold thi or rhegi
Hi Raj and team u r all doing great work and as viewer i request u to you pls bring environmentalists also to highlight the environmental issue bcoz this is the most important thing which every person should know as underground water are not pured as before and I want to understand how it affects the crop in farming land pls
what Havovi ji said about in the podcast matches to my husband to the dot. Coming out from the abuse and trauma which is attached afterwards is extremely impossible to get out. As a narc abuse victim, one can't feel great after they left the relationship, it's like grieving forever. Thank God our society is more open to have these kind of discussions now. You can't explain how it is and no one can understand it until they personally experienced it. It is living hell. I hope people who are under these monsters break free and try to lead lives as any human supposed to be.
She is beautiful... I'm already a big fan of hers... please discuss childhood trauma, generational trauma, what factors can make or mar the foundational years of a child...
After this episode I have subscribed your Channel. I felt so comfortable with you both feeling like I am also part of the conversation. It comes so natural and whole discussion was very informative and useful. Kindly do another episode for the genuine victims who came out of a narcissistic relationship but fell in for a new same narscassictic relationship. So freedom turned into a new nightmare where the victim is not trained to identify narcissistic families.
My brother finally left his narcissistic wife after years of suffering!! He got a divorce after 25 yrs of marriage - by that time their kids were adults!!
Life after moving on from toxic narcissist relation is so so soo fucking good and that freedom you gona feel is best feeling. Move on from that toxic relationship n believe me i’ve been there for like decade and really thr is no cure. Value urself move on . CHEERS
very informative Raj sir, i would like to thank you for the podcasts and guests like her, i am self learning abut the psychology from last 6 years and from last 2 years i am learning many things from your podcasts like this... thanks a lot
Absolutely amazing episode!!! Raj has soo much knowledge which makes this conversation much deeper and not generic!! Good one 💯💯more on this would be greaaat!!!
Thanks mam, you are the best, delivering this hard subject with ease,listening to Dr Ramani I like for you to deliver the coping strategies to whom can't leave the narcisstic person like DEEP method, you teaching our people this important topic, since 50 % of the people around us are narcisstic we can't leave them all so dealing by using DEEP method, laying boundaries, taking care of yourself, developing hobbies etc, god bless you
This topic NPD i was in that type of environment and my family too especially father . Actually he was my cousin bro. He almost broke my family from inside my father dosent trust us because of him. But when i grew up i decided chahe kch v ho jaye iss insaan ko mere family se dur krna h Being younger daughter of my family i took that steps i fought him drag his power from our family and he dosent even come to us since 2yrs. What all traits has been talked in this podcast i saw all these at that time i think 3/4 years back i didn't even know the word narcissist that time i decided enough is enough whatever losses my family has gown through that okkk waps ni chahiye woh bss yeh insaan (cousin bro.) isse dur hona h at any cost and i did it In my family nobody had that courage but i showed it Thank you for this guest i 'hv learned a lot more
Thank you brother. This is really good one. I want to share one thing. Money, resources amplify whats inside of an individual. I have felt it and seen myself changing over the years. Once again, thank you for such converstion. Its truly introspection. Loved it.❤😊
Raj, I love all your podcasts and I like the fact that you are so invested in them. But it would help if you learned to listen and allow your guests to finish their sentences.
You do not need narcissism to be a leader, narcissistic people have the drive to want to be a leader, admired and appreciated by many that’s why they make efforts and tend to put themselves in leadership positions doesn’t mean they’re good leader and history doesn’t say that you have to be narcissistic to be a leader, the way you’re talking, you mean being leader is desirable it doesn’t have to be a good leader or a bad leader. If a leader is leading people following him in wrong direction, that’s a bad leader. Many people change the world doesn’t mean they are good People are good leaders.
So informative and this is the need of the hour ! It's important to educate ourself and near n dear ones Please also speak more on exit strategy with the narcissist!
I got solution to the problem I'm facing since last 10 years... Thank u so much ma'am .. I m new subscriber Shared with 1 frd Next topic : how to communicate with dominating manupulative people N Choosing life pattern
It’s not that you need to be a little narcissistic to be a leader but rather there are some traits that are common to a narcissist and an achiever. Narcissism is never good but it’s just that some of their traits favour worldly success!! edit: i said its not good because i live with one and like he said, the narcissistic parent doesn’t wanna go to therapy so the other parent have been sending me to therapy for the past 5 years so that i can learn to cope up with them🙂
@rajshamani Your questions are great, it indicate that you have a deep understanding of the issues. ❤ We want you to bring more psychologist so that we understand more about the "common problems" that occur!
The whole conversation was wonderful and so relatable and i always listen to almost every podcast but i have to tell you sorry, but please let your guest speak as much as possible. hope you understand !!!!!!
Narcissism is very much prevalent in India. We just dont know that it is narcissism. People who are extremely charming, loved by everyone around, can be extremely narcissistic at home. MOst of the people we admire could be narcissistic at home
My husband is a narcissist.he never likes to change and never feels guilty for his mistakes. like ma'am said at 33:00,he helps ppl outside a lot and no one will believe me if i tell that he behaves with me badly.i can relate to all the points in this podcast regarding spouse.
I am a retired Post Graduate Doctor. This was a nice piece on Narcissistic Personality. But I find it very difficult to apply in Life . Besides Bollywood Songs are not based on one Raag but are a mixture of 2-3 Raags similarly People don't have one pure personality. It's a mixture of 2-3 personalities. So please don't self diagnose. Take professional help before labelling a family member Narcissist.
Thank you so much sir for this episode, seriously we need to discuss all these issues, my mother is suffering from narcissistic personality disorder, she spoiled our family, I can understand all this, suffered loads, i also want to help such people 🙏
Hi Raj can you please invite that type of guest who is talking about man's emotions because it's not a deep dive subject till today, please keep in mind
Harvey has compassion. He do anything to save Mike, Donna, Rachel & all other who working for him. I am trying to come from trauma bond by 3 narcissist people -my in laws & husband - that so so scared me,Harvey is far far better from these people. I don’t think he had narcissistic personality shown in season. Thank you raj for this if I had this knowledge before 1.5 years, I can save myself.
He treated luis litt like shit whole series despite knowing the value of him. Expect Rachel mike and Donna who were equally good for their roles he treated every one like a shit even katrina Bennett who was as good as mike.
Hello Raj. It was great information... plz call her again. Some of my initial questions to her - 1. How can I help the children of a narcissistic mother? Can I do anything for them to realise it and build self confidence into them? 2. Should I speak to her husband about it ? 3. How do I Not become victim of her dominating /gas lighting/ love bombing behaviour when she is around? 4. Can I tell her mother about this (given that the mother is very ignorant and thinks her daughter does so much for everyone and the society. She herself being a victim of this as well) ?
You're doing an amazing job in the podcasting space and bringing a fresh perspective to it. It would be great if you could invite founders and key members of the management bodies who took heavy decisions, started from scratch, and built companies with great value. Hearing about their initial struggles, the challenges they faced, the strategies they implemented, and their ultimate success would be truly inspiring. Especially those brands that made a strong comeback after years of setbacks, like Tata Motors, Royal Enfield, Old Spice, Onida, Parle Agro, Boat, Mahindra, Orient Electric, Polycab, Micromax, Intex, Asian Paints, Tanishq, Ola, Ather Energy, Hero MotoCorp, etc. Their stories of resilience, planning, and actions would be super motivating for your audience!
Boss u r talking abt the contracted diseases which we already have. It would be better u talk how to over come as well. Over all thanks for bringing this up. So much relevant.
Very true. It almost reopens all wounds right, left and center. To draw a line between just having a discussion to make life easier vs nagging to get whatever they want is very thin. Validation vs Gratification. Makes life miserable.
Really?? Ranveer?? So sick of his tantrik ,punar janam ,ghost talks kind of stupid podcasts !!! The kind of crazy things that educated people hardly believe!
I didn't even realise I needed this. Such a wonderful podcast. Thank you Raj. I would really appreciate if you could invite : Tanmay Bhatt (Ask him about his body transition and health)
I can’t even imagine what it feels like to be with a narc for a very long time but I personally get dreams that the other person is not letting me go & I don’t have the freedom to leave (even though it’s been years since I left that relationship). Those dreams are so scary!! But thank god it’s not like idk what to do with the freedom & yes! It felt like I could breathe once I was out of that relationship!! I felt so suffocated!! I feel resistance even accepting that I was in a relation with someone like that - yuck!
My father has a lot of narcissistic traits, he is now 60, i am 22 whatever i have seen the non stop fighting (not physical) but I wish my mother also get her freedom .
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Raj, please allow the guest to talk without interruption😊 Narcissism is a very huge topic... Please bring this guest again and deep dive.
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OMG!!! This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have watched all the videos of Dr. Ramani and Danish Bashir about Narcissism. She has explained it beautifully, but it's in an American context. In this podcast, @Raj Shamani mentioned the Indian culture/upbringing aspect of it. My father has all the traits she mentioned.
Now, I have left home, and as an Indian, I feel guilty every day about leaving a parent and not taking care of him. It took me 25 years to come out of it, and finally, I did. I’m serious-this freedom terrifies me. At last Raj used the perfect words it either Guilt or Suffocation, no other choice.
Rebuilding my whole life-financially, emotionally, mentally, and even my nervous system-is overwhelming. I need to find good people, rebuild my "village," unlearn the survival skills I picked up in childhood, and relearn how to create and thrive in a healthy environment.
We both are on the same boat ..I walked out after 24yrs of being married and Dr. Ramani really helped me to understand and move forward.
I have no guilt, infact I am happy that I am in a true sense able to be myself...
You are not alone. You will experience the best form of "Love & Life" you deserve when you put an end to the abuse & once you see it you can't unsee it. Sending you healing Hugs and Love. The generational curse ends with you, girl ❤
I'm going through this shit , i left home for studies living seperate and can see toxic patterns in myself, can you please tell how you able to create a healthy environment for yourself?
I have also subscribed Dr. Ramani from 4 years and Danish’s from one year ago
I hear you !! We need to observe and become aware of everything that's registered in our unconscious mind as kids. It's like cleaning the glass to perceive our reality as it is Versus looking through a tainted glass i.e through childhood trauma.
Coming from a family with a narcissistic father and now in a house with a Narc MIL. These people can put your mindset on a toss. To a level where you take up certain narc traits..
The most imp challenge is not handling them but to manage and maintain your own image due to societal pressure that blames you for keeping your own parents away.
Best part in my case is my partner and me both had a narrissitic parent and we know the abuse we've been through since childhood so now while we head towards a better life we don't care about judgements coming from others. We can't go and explain what we've been through.
I still remember my entire childhood i just wanted my mom to leave my father but she couldn't take that step as she believed she had two daughters who need a father. I regret her decision at times. But my mom probably knew about the separation abuse she would've had to go through then.
As she said, leave and run!!
I just zone out from my MIL..and mentally detached from my Father.
Also it took me 30yrs to realize that my fathers validation is an impossible thing and so is appreciation from my MIL so i stopped expecting it from them. Life becomes easy when you realise these behavioural patterns and facts associated with Narcs.
I’ve come to an important realization after listening to this episode. It’s become clear to me that I’ve been in a long-term relationship with a narcissistic partner, and over time, I’ve adopted some of those behaviours myself. Unfortunately, we’re struggling to connect and support one another now. For years, I’ve been putting my own desires aside, and I’m reaching a point where I need to express myself and prioritize my own well-being. I recognize the need for change and growth, both individually and within our relationship.
As a result, I'm a toxic, narcissistic, burst-out person. I don't care about other people's genuine gestures of love and care 😢
16:20 - Covert , the way she narrated , it shook me to the core. That's what exactly happened to me. That person had changed my own perspective about myself. Love bombing, gas lighting, confusion. inconsistent behavior - it all took me 16 years , a beautiful kid , a job loss , 2 surgeries to leave him. But I am glad that I did it.
It's exhausting man it's just so so exhausting .
Thank you Raj for bringing this guest. This discussion has changed my mind and cleared my thought process. May GOD Bless you.
So glad it helped you! 🙏
I really loved when madam said, "I've given a lot but what about so much that you've taken " detachment and separation are the only two options to deal with Narcissists
This is a life saving and life changing podcast, millions need this help, thank you Raj and the awesome guest HH!
This is for any child who still lives with their narcissistic parent, work hard, find your niche, try to tune out what is happening in your house. GET OUT of that house, the first chance you get whether it is to study away from your house or to find work away from your house. As a daughter of a raging narcissist, I got out 3 years ago, the changes you will see in yourself, the self worth that you have to rebuild..It takes time, but believe me, it's worth it. It comes with a lot of shame and guilt, but it is worth it in the long run. The world around you becomes a little more colourful and beautiful. But the little voice that is programmed into your head constantly saying you are worthless and useless will not leave you, for that you need therapy. And that is where the 'work hard' part comes in, so earn and spend money to better yourself.
I didn't have any of my own interests or likes/dislikes. At the age of 27 I am finding myself now. If someone who was worthless/useless like me can do it, You can too. ❤
Very good advice thanks
Thank you Havovi ma'am for interviewing Raj Shamani on Narcissism 🙂
Lol
Hehe
Hahaha
Excellent!!!
I have personally experienced narcissism at all levels, and so I can say one thing...all narcissistic people are players,but they forget there is a coach and their worst nightmare...A Super Empath,and the narcs know it intuitively.
@lawliet2019 Well,a super empath is a sigma male/female.
Once they know their true worth,capability and confidence both,
believe me they turn tables around and how.Narcissiits run for cover coz,empaths drop their masks and illusion and thus the big fall of the Narc,especially their PRIDE.
Narcs are hollow and cowardly they always have flying monkeys to do their work,but a Sigma is always a step ahead.Period.
This is so so relatable... I have my father like this... As the orator said I quit and moved to different city for job and was happy. He use to call every now and then to chk how am I doing... Everyone thought he is such caring father. The moment I came back home. He would fight so much with me. He would not even provide food and constantly nag to kick me out of the home. I just wasted 10 yrs of my life. I would never understand why is he behaviour like this. Beyond everything he never had remorse feeling. He always said I did the right thing. I never do wrong to anyone. He messed up me mentally so much.
I think his mental condition is not good or not like to have a daughter as a child that's why I think and where is your mom why she is not helping you ?
Your father needs past life regression.
He is narcissist dude
Those guys never change
I also have 1 narcissist woman in my life but I have learnt from her only how to deal with such kind of people 😂
I just mirror their behavior and they go nuts😂
Narcissists can't handle narcissistic behavior themselves
They just want to be the centre of attention and traumatize other people
But the moment you flip the coin they start manipulating and blackmailing you emotionally
Try doing so
You will never be bothered by any narc anymore
@@Ipatel6804in such families mother can't voice opinions after a certain limit to maintin the sanity of the house. It's difficult for the mom too
i usually don't comment on any video but Raj forced me to comment on this. He was not letting Havovi speak and kept on letting out his thoughts(felt like flexing his knowledge). He cut her so many times
yeah totally and he asks why we are not subscribing.
He is bringing his own theory and interrupting her continuously and not allowing his guest to speak
Yes even I get irritated to watch such informative videos where he keeps interrupting with guests. It sounds like a debate or interrogation.
This is a brilliant topic and needs so much awareness. It took me 22 years to break away from a narcissist. Thank you for this video.
M suffering nw...hw did u get away
This podcast found me that Raj is a Narcissist 😑 He is continuously splitting his own thoughts on the topic rather than letting her explain it.
Exactly
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Inke pas actually Attention draw karne layek cheeze itni kam hoti hai ki yeh bol bolke hi khud pe Attention lane ki koushish karte rehte hai@@Shubhajit48
Bhai raj chup ho ja, ek article pad k tu psychologist nhi ban jyga. havovi was just gonna tell how to plan a escape from a narcissistic family and u shunned her. Matlab saare podcasters apne aap ko bahut zyada samajhdar smajhne lagte hai same happened to ranvir thats why i stopped listening to his podcasts please let ppl talk we are here to listen to them not you.
To eacape, exit simple yet complicated
so true, even i stopped ranvir because of the same reason ...dude let her speak.
Very true
Ranvir explains too much that it's irritates me......
Yes ...Let 's the guest speak
Toxic relationship is very painful ❤i can fail 😭😭❤️
This podcast is probably one of the best I have seen in a long while on mental health issues in India. Ms Havovi did a beautiful job translating the work of Dr Ramani into Indian context, which would make it so much easier for Indians to relate. I love how you categorized narcissists and their behavior patterns, and then also emphasized the solution of leaving their grip in a planned calculated manner. I am so glad that you touched not just upon the problem, but also discussed the solutions, which is as much, if not more important than discussing the problem itself. Thank you, Raj and Ms Havovi for making this a solution-oriented talk. This is some amazing work right there! Can't wait for more such podcasts in the future.
Ohh I see Ms Havovi ,thank u …
Hoping to see a podcast with an industrial psychologist too in future! This podcast was so on point! The need of the hour! Amazing work 🙌
Justice for Atul Subhash 😢🧡
What happened to Atul
@@studywithmahnoor4176 suicide karne par majbur kiya wife ne, banglore me job karte the Atul bhai aur AI engenier the😭😭
This is not court.
Chill reh bhai 1-2 din me sab bhul v jaenge, mai saalo se logo se is baare me baat kr kr ke thak chuka hu, ab mai bolta v nhi hu, society hmare prati hmesha cold thi or rhegi
@@TheSelfloveSpace I even don't know buddy, what's your topic around and also don't know the person you mentioned as well.
Just one line thanku its helpful in every way . 🙏💐every time i am anxious i come to hear it again
Hi Raj and team u r all doing great work and as viewer i request u to you pls bring environmentalists also to highlight the environmental issue bcoz this is the most important thing which every person should know as underground water are not pured as before and I want to understand how it affects the crop in farming land pls
what Havovi ji said about in the podcast matches to my husband to the dot. Coming out from the abuse and trauma which is attached afterwards is extremely impossible to get out. As a narc abuse victim, one can't feel great after they left the relationship, it's like grieving forever. Thank God our society is more open to have these kind of discussions now. You can't explain how it is and no one can understand it until they personally experienced it. It is living hell. I hope people who are under these monsters break free and try to lead lives as any human supposed to be.
"Make your own village" Love this word💙
Very well elaborated by Havovi, impressive and calm!
She is beautiful... I'm already a big fan of hers... please discuss childhood trauma, generational trauma, what factors can make or mar the foundational years of a child...
She is amazing lady and the way of talk ... killing
Very knowledgeable podcast ! Much needed in todays times!
After this episode I have subscribed your Channel. I felt so comfortable with you both feeling like I am also part of the conversation. It comes so natural and whole discussion was very informative and useful. Kindly do another episode for the genuine victims who came out of a narcissistic relationship but fell in for a new same narscassictic relationship. So freedom turned into a new nightmare where the victim is not trained to identify narcissistic families.
My brother finally left his narcissistic wife after years of suffering!! He got a divorce after 25 yrs of marriage - by that time their kids were adults!!
Are the kids narcissistic?
Not only shared with one person ,i shared it with my whole family ,friends and teachers .
Amazing!! Thank you! I hope you gained something interesting from this and it was helpful ☺️
Life after moving on from toxic narcissist relation is so so soo fucking good and that freedom you gona feel is best feeling. Move on from that toxic relationship n believe me i’ve been there for like decade and really thr is no cure. Value urself move on . CHEERS
very informative Raj sir, i would like to thank you for the podcasts and guests like her, i am self learning abut the psychology from last 6 years and from last 2 years i am learning many things from your podcasts like this... thanks a lot
Thanks for listening! I'm glad you're finding the podcasts helpful.🙇🏻♂️
This was one of the most amazing conversations I have heard..Thank you for having this and sharing it as well.
I already know about narcissism 4 yrs before bcz of prof. Sam vaknin..
2:52 I usually dont watch very long podcast but if it havovi Hyderabadwalla im binging 🙌
Grateful to listen to conversations like these ❤ feel like a reassurance
Absolutely amazing episode!!! Raj has soo much knowledge which makes this conversation much deeper and not generic!! Good one 💯💯more on this would be greaaat!!!
Raj's content level day by day increasing. 😮😮
Started levelling up again 😎 reading a lot! 😎 hehe, thanks for this comment!!!!
Thank you for replying ❤❤
@@rajshamani Please invite Dr. Ankit Shah. I believe it will be a game changer for everyone :)
Thank you so much to both of you.
Mam is so calm composed, shorted, clear, n very good listener n informative..
Thanks mam, you are the best, delivering this hard subject with ease,listening to Dr Ramani I like for you to deliver the coping strategies to whom can't leave the narcisstic person like DEEP method, you teaching our people this important topic, since 50 % of the people around us are narcisstic we can't leave them all so dealing by using DEEP method, laying boundaries, taking care of yourself, developing hobbies etc, god bless you
This topic NPD i was in that type of environment and my family too especially father . Actually he was my cousin bro. He almost broke my family from inside my father dosent trust us because of him.
But when i grew up i decided chahe kch v ho jaye iss insaan ko mere family se dur krna h
Being younger daughter of my family i took that steps i fought him drag his power from our family and he dosent even come to us since 2yrs.
What all traits has been talked in this podcast i saw all these at that time i think 3/4 years back i didn't even know the word narcissist that time i decided enough is enough whatever losses my family has gown through that okkk waps ni chahiye woh bss yeh insaan (cousin bro.) isse dur hona h at any cost and i did it
In my family nobody had that courage but i showed it
Thank you for this guest i 'hv learned a lot more
Great job Raj and team!!! Very insightful podcast!!!!
finally! people must watch this particular podcast. its a must. MUST
Thank you brother. This is really good one. I want to share one thing. Money, resources amplify whats inside of an individual. I have felt it and seen myself changing over the years. Once again, thank you for such converstion. Its truly introspection. Loved it.❤😊
Thank you ! Just what I wanted to hear !! Very informative .
Brilliant podcast, Raj...one of your best. Thank you for putting all this information out there.
Excellent podcast...so true, honest and great explanation on NPD... keep up the excellent work....!!!😊
Raj, I love all your podcasts and I like the fact that you are so invested in them. But it would help if you learned to listen and allow your guests to finish their sentences.
This was very informative.
Please make more of psychology episodes...!!
This will really help me..thank you..I was in a loop for last 9 months..
I still don't know how will I take small steps but will..thank you
You do not need narcissism to be a leader, narcissistic people have the drive to want to be a leader, admired and appreciated by many that’s why they make efforts and tend to put themselves in leadership positions doesn’t mean they’re good leader and history doesn’t say that you have to be narcissistic to be a leader, the way you’re talking, you mean being leader is desirable it doesn’t have to be a good leader or a bad leader. If a leader is leading people following him in wrong direction, that’s a bad leader. Many people change the world doesn’t mean they are good People are good leaders.
That’s why she diffrenciated between traits and actual npd disorder
You eventually become what/who you love. Hence, choose mindfully while being true to yourself.
Informative podcast! 👍
Great Episode.. Love Raj and your work.
I absolutely love these podcasts, i enjoy them very very much, thankyou Raj ❣
Thanks for listening 🙏🏻
So informative and this is the need of the hour ! It's important to educate ourself and near n dear ones
Please also speak more on exit strategy with the narcissist!
Wonderful podcast ..very good information...thanks Raj for inviting such amazing guests on your podcast .
I'm glad you enjoyed the episode! 🙌🏻
@@rajshamani yes absolutely.i watch all your podcasts and they are simply superb.
Amezing podcast.. thank you raj.❤❤
Brilliant topic ❤ We need this
I like your content... I really don't know why people are not subscribing to him!
I got solution to the problem I'm facing since last 10 years...
Thank u so much ma'am ..
I m new subscriber
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Next topic : how to communicate with dominating manupulative people
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Choosing life pattern
Much needed podcast 🙌
amazing stuff Raj . kahan se laate ho yaar aap aise topic .Level of your podcast is going up day by day . 😄😄
It’s not that you need to be a little narcissistic to be a leader but rather there are some traits that are common to a narcissist and an achiever. Narcissism is never good but it’s just that some of their traits favour worldly success!!
edit: i said its not good because i live with one and like he said, the narcissistic parent doesn’t wanna go to therapy so the other parent have been sending me to therapy for the past 5 years so that i can learn to cope up with them🙂
@rajshamani Your questions are great, it indicate that you have a deep understanding of the issues. ❤ We want you to bring more psychologist so that we understand more about the "common problems" that occur!
Raj, bhai you are making great content. Kudos 👏 thanks a lot.
Thank you for watching! 😊
The whole conversation was wonderful and so relatable and i always listen to almost every podcast but i have to tell you sorry, but please let your guest speak as much as possible. hope you understand !!!!!!
Narcissism is very much prevalent in India. We just dont know that it is narcissism. People who are extremely charming, loved by everyone around, can be extremely narcissistic at home. MOst of the people we admire could be narcissistic at home
Informative ❤
Narcissist people do what they always wanted to do with others nice podcast raj
My husband is a narcissist.he never likes to change and never feels guilty for his mistakes. like ma'am said at 33:00,he helps ppl outside a lot and no one will believe me if i tell that he behaves with me badly.i can relate to all the points in this podcast regarding spouse.
Thanks for this episode ❤❤❤❤
I loved this episode....I wish k aur baatein hoti iss baare me❤
Bilkul karenge aur aisi topics me baate! Let me know what do you want me to cover next? 😊
I am a retired Post Graduate Doctor. This was a nice piece on Narcissistic Personality. But I find it very difficult to apply in Life . Besides Bollywood Songs are not based on one Raag but are a mixture of 2-3 Raags similarly People don't have one pure personality. It's a mixture of 2-3 personalities. So please don't self diagnose. Take professional help before labelling a family member Narcissist.
Thank you so much sir for this episode, seriously we need to discuss all these issues, my mother is suffering from narcissistic personality disorder, she spoiled our family, I can understand all this, suffered loads, i also want to help such people 🙏
Hi Raj can you please invite that type of guest who is talking about man's emotions because it's not a deep dive subject till today, please keep in mind
Yes i needed this
She is right, Narcissists don't go to therapy. They think they are perfect. They never change also.
Interesting content
This topic was very important to be covered 🧘♀️
Please bring her back and please let her talk without interruptions. Thank you.
Harvey has compassion. He do anything to save Mike, Donna, Rachel & all other who working for him. I am trying to come from trauma bond by 3 narcissist people -my in laws & husband - that so so scared me,Harvey is far far better from these people. I don’t think he had narcissistic personality shown in season. Thank you raj for this if I had this knowledge before 1.5 years, I can save myself.
He treated luis litt like shit whole series despite knowing the value of him. Expect Rachel mike and Donna who were equally good for their roles he treated every one like a shit even katrina Bennett who was as good as mike.
Eye opening video
Hello Raj. It was great information... plz call her again. Some of my initial questions to her -
1. How can I help the children of a narcissistic mother? Can I do anything for them to realise it and build self confidence into them?
2. Should I speak to her husband about it ?
3. How do I Not become victim of her dominating /gas lighting/ love bombing behaviour when she is around?
4. Can I tell her mother about this (given that the mother is very ignorant and thinks her daughter does so much for everyone and the society. She herself being a victim of this as well) ?
@3:27 say what😂 bro almost said meri jo haddiya todenge😂😂😂
Every sentence is diamond in this podcast
Bestest Podcast ever 😭
Raj brother please call dr Kashika Jain psychologist also to discuss anxiety and ocd.
You're doing an amazing job in the podcasting space and bringing a fresh perspective to it. It would be great if you could invite founders and key members of the management bodies who took heavy decisions, started from scratch, and built companies with great value. Hearing about their initial struggles, the challenges they faced, the strategies they implemented, and their ultimate success would be truly inspiring. Especially those brands that made a strong comeback after years of setbacks, like Tata Motors, Royal Enfield, Old Spice, Onida, Parle Agro, Boat, Mahindra, Orient Electric, Polycab, Micromax, Intex, Asian Paints, Tanishq, Ola, Ather Energy, Hero MotoCorp, etc. Their stories of resilience, planning, and actions would be super motivating for your audience!
Boss u r talking abt the contracted diseases which we already have. It would be better u talk how to over come as well. Over all thanks for bringing this up. So much relevant.
Very true. It almost reopens all wounds right, left and center. To draw a line between just having a discussion to make life easier vs nagging to get whatever they want is very thin. Validation vs Gratification. Makes life miserable.
Make more like this
I Love Your Podcasts You And Ranveer Are Game Changer Of Indian Podcast Industry😊
Really?? Ranveer?? So sick of his tantrik ,punar janam ,ghost talks kind of stupid podcasts !!! The kind of crazy things that educated people hardly believe!
I didn't even realise I needed this. Such a wonderful podcast. Thank you Raj.
I would really appreciate if you could invite :
Tanmay Bhatt (Ask him about his body transition and health)
I can’t even imagine what it feels like to be with a narc for a very long time but I personally get dreams that the other person is not letting me go & I don’t have the freedom to leave (even though it’s been years since I left that relationship). Those dreams are so scary!! But thank god it’s not like idk what to do with the freedom & yes! It felt like I could breathe once I was out of that relationship!! I felt so suffocated!! I feel resistance even accepting that I was in a relation with someone like that - yuck!
I needed this podcast
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My father has a lot of narcissistic traits, he is now 60, i am 22 whatever i have seen the non stop fighting (not physical) but I wish my mother also get her freedom .