He's a narcissistic sociopath and has said he doesnt want to be a parent...so why force visitatiin when its obviously not in the best interest of the child when he will not feed, not give bedtime, not provide safety...in this case i want and understand the importance of co-parenting but why do we as the parent have to wait for "something to happen" to a child before the courts listen or understand...and thats the tip of the iceberg in my case... We teach kids to stay away from harmful situations. .so what is the system teaching? Nothing...just addding to another generation emotional and unstable abuses we as parents are trying to TRULY avoid and not as a control tactic...
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Recently on the news the crazy narc x who was allowed visitations decided to chain his 3yrs old to the child care seat engulfed the car with gasoline and burned her alive a he ran to a near by pond and saved his own life NOT EVERYONE DESERVES THE RIGHT TO A VULNERABLE CHILD JUST CAUSE THEY ARE THE DONOR....🤔🤔🤔
@@violeturviolet5 This is the story that haunts me when i think about parents who hurt the kid as a form of punishment to the other parent. Heartbreaking
Do you really need to ask that question? Most people are decent and fair and care about their own children. For most of us, it never crosses our minds that a man we love would be any different. Then it happens and your world and world,view are destroyed.
you both have way too much focus on normal people custody problems. Do a video of one parent doing everything right and healthy, and the other parent being an abusive alcoholic.
I'm just curious about a couple of things, that I'm hoping you might be able to touch on. Every decree seems to end with a Children's Bill of Rights page that lists everything that you should not do or discuss, etc., with the child. And, in my opinion, a lot of those "things" are very important, if not detrimental in terms of appropriateness at the very least. So my question is, at what point do you hold the other parent accountable for breaching the child's bill of rights? And, realistically speaking, is it even possible to do so? Any parent can say or do whatever they feel like or deem appropriate at the time (or always, for that matter), but what exactly can be done about it, and how? It seems to me that, unless a bystander hears or sees it for themselves, or if it is miraculously caught on tape in some kind of way, there is absolutely no way to hold a parent accountable for such. I would very much like to know what your (both of you) take is on this matter, as well as, if it is (if at all), something enforcable. How does one prove that. And I'll be honest, I feel that a breach of that particular bill is a form of child abuse; whether it be verbal or emotional. To me, they both go hand in hand. How exactly do you protect your children from that,? And, how exactly do the courts receive &/or respond to such acts?
The NH family courts regularly award a pathogenic parent custody in the face of evidence so that the industry can ride their behavior to the bank for as long as possible. If you have enough money you can buy your way out.
If the other parent is a narcissist joint custody only maintains the unhealthy dynamics of the narcissistic parent. From the child's point of view the narcissist makes sure that you are belittled and he is the good strong parent and the child has to listen to that parent and not the other parent. In many cases the other parent is healthy and has no idea this control tactic is being used.
Mary Spitz, co-parenting can be a challenge and more-so with a person who has mental problems. Over time, the child will see what is happening. Thank you for watching.
I want to thank you so much for providing this information. I just wrapped up a 15 months custody battle. Needless to say it's been the most emotion period of my life. Gotta wait about 2 weeks for the decision but I feel confident in our case. We established domestic violence, medical neglect (my wife took our daughter out of the country,18 months after not seeing her her teeth are black) and educational neglect. In 18 months of school she was absent 21 days and tardy 57 times! All the while I never knew she was back in America.
I like these guys... I’ve wasted a lot of time watching Rogan and Bobbie related videos but these are the ones that directly affect me, I’m sure they help others as well.
Thank you so so so much for these videos. They are very helpful and so very true. There is no win or lose. And this is where so many people get so focused on is winning or losing instead of what works or what’s right.
Mom left the state with kids and I have joint and legal custody. Have seen them since July. This video is good. Waiting for court date. Hope the judge sees the same thing and enforce or change custody to me for my kids sake. Kids needs both Mom and Dad.
Simeon Holloway sorry bro.. my wife was going to leave the county with are 4yr boy.. but a quick call to my attorney stop ✋ that... hang in there!!!! everything will come ur way.. just stay positive bro👍👍👍
So I have followed you for years and have always valued your parenting advice , who knew I'd be here taking advice for this .....I'm a year into a seperation for my four children's dad , it's been very difficult, I am so thankful for your video this is so valuable for people like me thank you for sharing ❤
One of my friends has an 8 year old son he won custody 2 years ago after he divorced his wife after she ended up on disability. He refuses to give her partial custody because she can't can't take care of herself so how can she raise/support a child
I have primary custody of my 11 year old but we pretty much let her choose when she goes to moms. But I actually support her doing it 😂. Mom also can call me and say “can I get her this weekend?” And I totally support it. This actually works better for us than when we enforce the order. She didn’t like going to her house at all when we went by the court schedule. 2 years ago we decided to try to just let her tell us when she wants to spend time with mom and she actually spends more time with her now than what the court called for. This only works of both parents act good though. I definitely wouldn’t advise it if there’s conflict with custody as it’s very easy to manipulate the situation. I learned this very early on. All it took is for me to say “baby your going to moms tomorrow, I’m really gonna miss you” and the child reacts by not wanting to leave me. I recognized this is unhealthy and really didn’t mean to cause the reaction, but I recognized it. Now I give my daughter a healthy heads up “babe, don’t forgot tomorrow moms gonna pick you up from school, don’t forget she’s been wanting to goto the park with you so bring good shoes” - “ok daddy!” Amazing how much kids react to us as parents even if we don’t directly say something to them. Non verbal communication is a very real thing.
Doug Foster, I am glad you are working together on this. Your child will benefit from it as she sees people communicating and working together. You are giving your child a valuable gift.
That's so great you both can do this. In the past, when my son was 3, my ex used to try to make the exchange difficult, basically by doing the opposite of what you do.
@@kevboost The way I won custody is I kept at it...Don't ever ever ever make it personal with your ex...Always be the nicer person and more mature person but make sure you have boundaries...The true way to win custody is a marathon, not a race....Consistency is key. Always be available for your child. Know the doctors your child goes to. know the teachers. Know their best friends. Know your kids birthday. In most cases, doesn't matter how good you are because if your ex is also good and you guys get along then it'll probably be 50/50...Which, trust me, is a good thing cause your kid needs both parents. A lot of bitter moms understand that 50/50 only works when both people get along so they'll purposely make it difficult for co-parenting just so in court they can say "I NEED FULL CUSTODY CAUSE WE CLEARLY CANT CO-PARENT" and she'll probably try to blame you. That's why I say ALWAYS be very reasonable even if it's not in the court order..For example, if I was ever running like 2-5 minutes late, my ex would be a huge deal about it and point to the court order...On the other hand, when SHE was late, I didn't make a big deal because i'm reasonable....That is how you win. When you have your trial, you show judge that you can't co-parent because she makes things difficult and that you are the more reasonable person that is going to do whats right for the kid AND also ENCOURAGE the other parent to have a relationship with the kid.
If the mother is a narcissist and she's manipulative and verbally abusive to the father, how can the father work with that??? He can have all of the confidence in the world...but that won't change the mother.
I disagree with children needing both parents. My child’s father has done more mental health damage to our daughter being around her father than being with him. Not every father can be a father. And the courts need to be reformed to accommodate such non physical abuse to a child.
Yours is a difficult situation, Jamela Sullivan. We wish every parent could have the child's best interest at heart and the majority do. Thank you for being there for your child.
@@princeofdeath6058 I would say not every mother is automatically a good mother.In my experience I can admit I'm not perfect dad and I learn in a process but definitely I am not as bad as my wife describe. I don't judge every parent but in many cases many many women think they crystal clear and the fault is always on the other side never in the middle.
@@latecheckout11 thats how women thinks, in their head 'omg hes perfect ill marry him!' When he asks the big question. Sad thing is most females go into a relationship with a guy they hardly know, and fail to realise guys always show their best traits to attract a woman. Its a womans responsibilty to figure out whether a guy will be a good or bad father before opening their legs and giving him access to impregnate them, not just for herself but for the child she will bear.
prince of death it’s not always her fault for opening her legs. My ex got me pregnant on purpose and without my consent to trap me. Now he body shames my daughter as well as talking bad about me to her. She can’t stand him. Now after telling her he wants nothing to do with her 2 years ago, he’s trying to get custody. Sometimes it’s the guy that sucks.
I agree with u on that one mentally their father is trying to brainwash the kids my mother told me and no child support I gotta keep looking for a better paying job, my ex is while on the path to have his rights removed big time. Neglecting our children needs Horrible it breaks my heart it truly does.
Can you please address corrupt judges in custody cases? How can you obtain justice when the judge is bias, falsified court documents and won't allow you a change of venue.
1thedarox oh my God girl..I’m telling you. Fayetteville North Carolina is the most corrupt place on earth. My ex who was recently charged with 5 felony sec offenses against my daughter, and a charge against my youngest son for forcing him to blow into his breath-o-lizer actually got custody of the same child he is in court with?!?! Wtf? They used a fake Facebook page that I proved wasn’t me against me, and my dead boyfriend. Smh it’s insane
I would love for you two to represent me in court. The mother of my kids has alienated me from my two girls and I dared not fight her. I didn’t want to hurt the kids during a stressful situation. But I can promise you, with what your saying, I could get my kids back in a positive environment and give them the best life and I would continue to allow my children see the mother.
I bent over backwards to cooperate and be accommodating, but truth didn't prevail. My case is straight out of hell. I am praying my daughter will stay alive until she is 18 she she will be free. The best liar won...
@MadeintheImageofGod cooperating and communicating are necessary to a healthy parenting relationship. I was not so compliant with demands of strangers but I was reasonable. I had no idea what was going on. I thought it was weird to request court orders to keep me from saying anything negative and to support my daughter's school experience. I had not anticipated making any negative remarks other than calling him out on lies. And I supported her school experience in every way, but he lied and sent emails to the school saying I encouraged Dilara to misbehave at school. Court orders are dangerous things.
I lost custody because we agreed amicably that he would have the kids full-time while I went to nursing school for one year, and then he decided to change his mind about giving them back and it’s been hell on earth for all of us ever since.
They don’t care about the kids! I loss my house, my kids just because I sent the form I suppose to fill for spousal and child support to a wrong place and the oficial didn’t get it. They give to my husband everything listed on his divorce demand. They sent me to live in the street with no money! No a single dólar. I did not have place for me which means for the kids neither. Never work in this country for 17 years so impossible to rent with no credit history. I was in the street with just visitation. So , they doesn’t Matter the kids will loss their mom! What matters is paper and documents and that is it!
I'm so sorry. I hope this can be helped. There are services that help people such as you get established. I have seen it in action. There are classes you can take. Check at a woman's shelter.
My son a victim of kidnapping and parent alienation, has breached court shared custody, and taken my grandchildren from their mother because she had a new sibling last month, and in his mind no other man can raise his children. Court is today, 5th March 2020.... yet he claims he will refuse to return the kids, and leave the state. The Hague, International social services, are aware this is occurring... I’m horribly concerned this history will repeat again...since it’s a norm for the family I married to remove children from biological parents and adopt them under duress, by new step parent often more than one. Thank you for the insight.
I agree with em elle. Family Law attorneys and judges need to be educated in types of abuse and the effects on child development. Also to be trauma-informed. After a three-year-long battle, I just lost custody of my son. The main reason is that they perceived my daughter's choice not to see her father as my manipulation. I was respecting her choice and requested that decision be made with her therapist's recommendations. She has PTSD because of him and has been in trauma therapy. He is the main character of her nightmares. But none of this was taken into consideration. So now my autistic son is traumatized again by the judge giving his father total control and custody. He has no intention of keeping my son in contact with me or his siblings. his siblings testified against their father in open court. Who's interest was served in this ruling?
This will actually help me write my motion for sole legal custody. My ex is so concerned with being the fun parent that he isnt being a parent. he makes demands on me in regards to our son because 'its his right' 🤦♀️ our son got arrested for a assaulting my husband and my ex is mad i took our sons xbox away.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV he certainly does. My son stole his phone back out of a dresser before he went to his dads. my ex is ignoring my calls and text messages. Ive had to put security cameras all over my house inside and out.
Hi Kali Caldwell, get clear on what you control, and that is not the other parent. Since you have no control over them, you can spend less time thinking about them and focus on what you can do.
Bill Eddie has alot of great techniques. That has helped me with my toxic/stressful/high conflict x-wife. Let me know if to those techniques helps you out too 😊
You know my husband's going through a crazy custody battle the mother tested positive and also is putting the father out to be the bad guy she's embedded a lot of things in the kids head but I've been catching myself just looking into a lot of research and I mean it's obvious that the other person is very toxic I say to my husband don't worry about that let them be them what you can worry about is yourself make sure you just provide a very comfortable loving home for when that child comes with you you can't change that other person what you can do is change the characteristics in yourself if you catch yourself I know sometimes we need to have a mirror in front of our faces but if you catch yourself doing the same things or certain things that the other parent does such as pointing the finger when you look in the mirror all you can do is look at yourself stop looking at them and look at what you need to do real quick to change to make a huge change for your child let's not worry about another person being toxic trust me my family is definitely going through it and I haven't been to church in many years but I'm doing what I need to do for my family start going being a solid foundation for my husband my children and my stepchild it's easier to love then to deal with the hate for me and my case I'm not perfect nor is my husband and his ex but what I can do is do my best to provide a home for all of us it's time to grow up and get right so let's not worry about anybody being toxic just take a look in the mirror......
My ex husband has made false allegations against me saying I would harm my daughter. I had to go through all kinds of groups and have not seen my daughter in 3 years. He lies to my daughter making her think I don’t want anything to do with her. I had to pay 4500 for a risk assessment that’s taken 9 months for this man to go through everything, it’s almost done and I hope it works in my favor. My ex husband tells me that my daughter doesn’t want to talk to me and he’s not going to force her
Just found out that my ex-husband's new wife is pushing and shoving my 12 year old son and they also left my 15 and 12 year old kids home alone unsupervised for 24 hours so they could go to a friend's beach house. He never contacted me for right of first refusal. Now I have to file contempt charges. Wish I didn't have to. But, this behavior is concerning and affects the kids
My brother sent me this link to your video. You are talking about everything that happened to me. I can’t find an attorney that doesn’t want to be friends with the Judge because everyone that lives in the small town has to eventually go in front of that judge again. It’s not fair that I never had a chance. I wish you would help me see my son again. I was given the advice to wait until her turns 18 but it’s so hard to wait. I miss him so much.
L Wms, thank you for watching, and I appreciate your brother sending this video to you as well. I am sorry that you can't see your son right now - that is heart-breaking. Unfortunately, I cannot give legal advice. I do have other child custody videos; here's the playlist if you would like to check those out: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Best wishes.
How do you prove that you're not abusive and neglectful? My ex has submitted an alternative parenting plan and it is full of false and misleading Statements.
Thankyou for these videos. I've moved within a mile of my children. I changed jobs, I have a new house. When I reached out to my x for more time with my children she shut me down, took away any extra time I was having with them at the time. We're are on our way to the meditators meeting because she will not negotiate or give me more time. I'm nervous, I've done my positive loving homework, I just want to be in their lives. Please, any advice on going into this meeting is appreciated!
Freaky_Jsn_Killr 13, I hope my response isn't too late; I have many comments to get to! While I cannot give specific legal advice, we do have more videos about child custody on this playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd Best wishes to you and your children.
Hey - I know it’s been a year plus but I am in the same boat. Moved close, etc… but she is so rigid / black and white when it comes to scheduling I’m afraid if I take her to mediation she will start spewing lies and make my situation worse. What ended up happening in your case??
@@Mgoblue1023 well,, exzactly what you described and with covid everything was by phone. It was extremely difficult. Know what your kids want more than anything else.
In the 1st part of this video you mention not alienating the child from one parent/not following court order. In our case, my son's father and I had a court order but he was shortly thereafter incarcerated for robbing 5 pharmacies with a gun for narcotic painkillers. He has spent the last 10 years in prison and was released last week. He tried getting our son the day after he was released, but I refused saying we needed to ammend our agreement. My son does not know him and I do not feel my son is safe with him for overnight visits yet. I believe initial supervised visits and possibly some parenting classes would be best. I am nervous about what the judge is going to say though since technically we have a court order from over 10 years ago. What are your thoughts/professional opinions on this?
Hope this comment will be noticed and replied to. I have a situation that has gone on for many years now, and at this point, I want to get out of the house, and I'd hope for my younger brother to aswell. My father hasn't been the best person. He has threatened to shoot our dog in the head once, hes pinned me down and twisted my arm. Although that was for safety reasons, I feel that I shouldn't have been pulled and tossed onto the floor like that. Ever since 6th grade, he has emotionally drained me over my grades, and I have been criticized a bit, which has been a major putdown for me. I'm currently in 11th grade, and continue to suffer from depression since then. I'm not the only one who puts up with this. My mother has been emotionally drained because of him, as now I see her cry almost everyday and feel miserable with him. I tried so hard, from calling CPS to going to the hospital with hopes I can get away from my father. The hospital couldn't recommend much but just tell me to hang in there and maybe my dad will change, but he never does. As for CPS, my parents said so much, primarily my dad, that he convinced me it wouldn't turn out well if I left, so I told CPS the minor things that would prevent the situation from going down any further. Recently I've come to such a bad point to where I can't handle seeing my mother miserable, wasting years of her life with him and weakening herself emotionally and physically, and my brother who will become just like him… He's honestly not a father to me. He may care, but he doesn't know how to be a good father honestly. From what it seems, hem ay RARELY get physical, but he often seems to be what's called an "energy vampire". Just draining me and my family bit by bit. God, he even abused our dog, which is why we had to give him away with this bad environment. It's better than being shot in the head in the woods. My god… I need some advice. Who do I reach out to? Are there ways I can still stay in my current town? Is moving in with my friends family or even my boyfriends family an option if they approve? I'd appreciate some advice as soon as you may be able to respond.
Aouleria, thank you for watching and commenting. My apologies for not getting back sooner - I'm backed up on comments. I am unable to help you much because you are a minor. However, I will tell you that we do have a free 25 minute call available with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. Your mother would have to be the one to schedule the call and be there for the call. Please consider talking to her about it. If this is something she or the two of you do, think about or write down what you want to discuss and keep it concise and to the point - time is very limited! In the meantime, have a conversation with your mother explaining your desires. If you want to move out, ask if you can live with grandparents, uncles/aunts, or any other relatives if possible. The second choice would be with a friend, but however you do it, everyone has to be on board with you living with them. You may also want to talk to the school counselor. They are equipped with knowledge of how to help in a variety of ways. Best wishes to you and your family. Almost forgot! To schedule the call, have your Mom go to DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
Would you consider myself being a “control freak” if I asked the father of my child to pass a drug test? He has my son supervised now and I would like him to pass a drug test before having him unsupervised because of his previous drug problem.
Can you request in court that drug screens be performed intermittently over a long time frame? My ex spent 10 years in prison for robbing numerous pharmacies at gun point to obtain narcotic painkillers. When my son does start over night visits I would feel MUCH BETTER knowing he was at least clean when he picked him up.
Can you make a session about how to deal with co-parenting when the other parent is flirting and still talking “couple family talk?” (And yes... many direct “turn down” conversations have been made over the last decade.) Example: When I try and co-parent he sees this as an “in” to be a couple and happy family again and then takes it out on my child and I when he realizes I am only interested in talking about my son. Makes co-parenting difficult and my 10 year old son confused. I thought it might be a good idea for a clip?
co-parenting would be an excellent excellent topic. It is one of the most difficult things, and it sometimes leads to horrible after money. Sometimes you, though, it can lead to beautiful friendship and healthy relationship between the children and both parents.
My ex-wife has custody of our daughter in California while I live in Florida. Since the divorce, she has filed restraining orders against two different men my daughter viewed as father figures. One of which was driving drunk and crashed the car with my daughter in the car. All of this under the mother's "watchful" eye. I had just requested to get my daughter for Thanksgiving break for a trip to New York. She's allowing me 3 days... 3 days to go pick her up from Cali, fly to new york, and bring her back. This would be my first time seeing her in two years. I need help. Would this be a substantial case to reopen a custody battle? I want my daughter, and I honestly feel her mother's lack of vigilance is dangerous.
Brandon, thank you for watching, I hope you found something useful in the video. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice as I come to the table with a psychologist's perspective. Your case does seem substantial due to the danger your daughter has been in. It might be time to consider obtaining the help of an attorney. We do have more child custody videos on this playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd
I have a four year old son. The father and mom l, half brother have been alienated from his life. Sacramento, Ca family judge granted us visits with the child, right after that, his sister who has legal guardian ship moved to Georgia, or Oklahoma and has made my son unavailable to visit his other family for the last 3 1/2 years. The sister who has custody of my son is purposely braking the parent/child bond. My four year old son has no one to enforce his visits or speak up in his behalf. The father and I tried to enforce through the family court and the courts said there isn't anything they can do, that the mom dad would need to hire an attorney/ private investigator to enforce . Parents do not have a physical address for the legal guardian and parents are homeless experiencing a financial hardship. So my son's sister lies and tells the courts that the parents abandoned or doesn't hear from the parents. It's a shame that professionals do not go to child's school, to speak with children in private away from abusive/alienating custodel parent.
I am a parent going through parental alienation. their father and new step mother have done everything use the court system to have my children. right now they used false allegations of sexual abuse. later my son confessed to being coached.
hi, my name is emily limpias, im 14 years old. and i would like to stop seeing my father. he has 40% custody while schools in session and 50% in summer. and i have been wanting to be taken out of my dads care since i was about 5-7 years old, due to a mentally and physically abusive step mother, he married when i was 5, before it was just me and him, i told my dad about how i felt so many times and he made no change. he didnt care to help me in the situation i was on, i have childhood trauma now. i am depressed, i have trust issues, and panic attacks atleast once a day. he picks me up from my mothers house every wednesday, and everytime i have expressed i dont want to go to his house, he threatens me and says he will call the police and make my mother step dad and i miserable. i would like to just not get out of my house and stay safe in my mothers care, i do not feel safe at his house due to his girlfriend, they are on and off, she is bipolar and depressed and she is crazy. she has broken into our house and my father and her fight. all day everyday. she is 28 and my dad is 40. i feel like my father doesn't love me. because he used to care about me, and how my day was, and how my moms was. but now he picks me up and takes me home and i go in my room all day. he doesnt care anymore. and he focuses on my 7yr old brother and 8yr old sister more then he does me. he punishes me for things my siblings do and when my brother hits and kicks me and he doesnt care. i act much older then i am, due to trauma and needing that maturity throughout the years. i get mistaken for an 18 year old by people i just meet. i feel like i had no childhood and i was just unhappy. i never had fun as a child. everytime i brjng up me not feeling loved at my fathers house he laughs in my face. i dont feel safe and i am unhappy at my fathers house, but im scared to do anything. any advice for me and my situation?
emily, this is sad. I can hear the sadness and my heart hurts for you. How long do you have to go to your dad's? Could your mother petition the court? Focus on the safety and security you feel with your mother when you are in these situations and seek counseling.
Live On Purpose TV i go every wednesday and every other weekend. my mom and him have fought for custody for years. he hasnt played child support in over a year and im scared if i go to court he will win! and i have been in and out of counseling but it never seems to help me. ive stopped trying because i feel sorry for wasting my moms money
My children are around their mom, and stepfather. She has sole custody. CPS was called out on them. Come to find out after CPS question my kids, and they told the they was being whipped by the step dad, and step dad smokes crack, my youngest found needles in her room for heroin, they jump from house to house, not being in a stable home, and my son is cutting his arm's, and it's all on record! But some reason they want remove my kids! I go to court to get a summons for sole custody, and go against her rights! "As I should knowing their wellbeing is at a risk!" I go get a process server, they can't find her! I drive their old nieghborhood, I can't find her, I try by mail, and it goes straight back to the postal service! I keep my cool, I try other ways! But no one not even a judge, or cop can do to find her to remove my kids. I love your videos, but Im feeling all my rights is removed! If you are reading this please help? What can I Do?I'm running out of patience, and this is literally going beat me to the ground!!!
How frustrating, Johnny Abbott, to say the least. I wish I could find her for you. Don't give up please, we are pulling for you to be able to find her quickly.
What if one of the parents is a drug addict and has a history of domestic violence and abuse who has been to prison for domestic violence (strangulation of the other parent?) My girlfriend is dealing with her child's father, and he is a very violent person (got released from prison and immediately went back to abusing the mother) she has left the situation and now has a restraining order against him now, but fears he may continue the cycle of abuse on the child... Both of us believe it is in the best interest of the child for us to remove him from her life entirely and raise her in a violence free environment...
Tactical Shortpants, seek the advice of an attorney who knows the laws and how to present your case in court. Keep it to the facts without making any judgments, let the judge do that.
I have a question. What if the father has sole and legal custody with visits under his discretion for the mother and just pleaded guilty to domestic violence a few months ago and is on probation and his girlfriend is violent too ? Can that cause the father to lose custody? Mother is stable remarried and has full custody of her other child
I am the stepmom and the other parent is violating the court orders and making false statements of abuse. This is hurting the children. How can we work to help the children even when their mother is not allowing them to go to school and counseling?
Sharon Welch, I sympathize with your situation, however I am unable to give specific legal advice. We have a child custody playlist, if you want to look for more information there: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Otherwise, I recommend speaking with legal counsel.
Hello well I have my son 50 50 but the child accidentally cut himself on a piece of glass, and the mother was very mad, now can I lose custody because of this?
My ex was abusive but i never once took his rights for his son away or kept his son from him and gave him full visitation freedom. But he didnt have the car to get him and i didnt have access to one enough to bring our son to him all the time. He got mad at me and the last time my son was brought to him he refused to give him back and still wont give him back and i now have to go to court to get any custody of my son. I didnt want to restrict custody from him at all, i just miss my son. We are unmarried and no custody or child support has been established yet. Any advice? I just want to see my son again. Hes a year old.
My ex has our daughter EVERY weekend. I work fulltime so miss out on quality time with her. I have asked him for a weekend a month and he refuses. Do you think this is in the best Interest of the child? She doesn't know who her aunts/uncles/cousins are on my side. I am considering going to mediation, my concern is that I'm wrong and wasting my time.
Dad was arrested in front of the children due to domestic violence and our 16 and 15 year-old minor children do not wish to go back to that house because they do not feel safe. My son composed an email telling his dad that he did not want to go back to the house. I supported my son's desire to compose the email. Will I be accused of alienating the children from their father?
MJKsFan, Supporting your son with HIS decision is different that bullying or putting undue influence on him to make the decision. That is alienation. Listen as your son expresses his feeling, leave yours out in regards to his father.
We are in a custody battle he filled a emergency motion for primary custody. I have been texting him every day to talk to my kids and he won’t reply or let me !! We have the motion hearing in Wednesday! What do you think about that? My kids haven’t been without me for more than 3 days .
What do you do if also the parent restricts visits in sneaky ways like being late or forgetting the time or scheduling at odd times to give a false sense of visiting niglect to the other parent
Evaluators for families who have suffered domestic abuse should be different than evaluators of the average angry divorce. It is detrimental to the entire situation when people like the two of you are charged to make decisions in dangerous situations. You're both completely oblivious to real life situations in a situation where the abuser is simply playing the courts for power and control. The judicial system has failed the real battered woman!!
Christina Adams, I am truly sorry that you have experienced abuse. Abuse in any form is not acceptable, and Sid and I would never condone it. The judicial system is flawed, unfortunately.
@Christina Adams you are allowing your own personal experiences to cloud your judgment. It is a statistical fact that women are four times more likely than men to commit domestic viølence, and they are an order of magnitude more likely to abüse children. It is very easy to *claim* that you are being abüsed, if we handled things the way that you are advocating for then we would have a system that would encourage people to lie in order to gain an advantage, and that is already something that we have a serious problem with in our system.
Healthnut you have a point about narrascist I'm up against one I'm going through it now not honest ppl pathological liars I find it very tough to take hugs the court doesn't recognize character flaws It's incredible how they fall upper the radar with abuse and neglect if it's more emotional abuse hugs your not alone It's amazing how the real them comes out when u start fighting back and saying no.
In other words, you are saying that a child needs to be abused. There's a problem with your mental health, guys. On the contrary, the child MUST be isolated from the abusive parent in order to preserve his life, mental and physical health. You do not even understand how dangerous, destructive for a child to communicate with parents who are narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths. Develop yourself, stop indulging in abusing children!
Ribka105, I am sorry you took it that way. Abusing children is never acceptable in any way. Please take a look around my channel and see that I am trying to help parents raise their children in a healthy, positive, loving environment.
I didn't travel to my sons father's city for the first visitation because I am not working and don't have money for the 2 $400-800/each round trip tickets. What can I do to protect myself when I see the judge a month from now? Any recommendations? Thank you 💛
I would have documentation to show that you cannot afford the tickets. If it is in the order, you may have to find a way to afford them. Explain what happened and be ready to work toward a solution, offer a few up.
Do you need a degree to be a custody evaluator? I need to know! I 100% found my calling after just dealing with one. She was completely biased on mom's side. It's heartbreaking to watch good father's in pain!
Isn’t Parental Alienation a pretty aweful form of child abuse? We have therapists and lawyers telling us that the alienating parent needs to have supervised visits so if I suggest that in court does that end up looking like I want to alienate my kids from the other parent??
Question: My son n his dad live in different states. Our son lives with me and they have been talking on video chat for two years. The father records the video. The two party law exists in both states. He recently admitted to recording the videos even though I've told him that I will need consent to recording. I know I've been recorded at times just because I'm in the house along with my other kids.I wanted to stop the video chats and just have calls over the phone. I realize that would not be in my son's best interest. The father says he's moving back to our state. Should I ask the court to modify the plan for calls to no longer include video when the father lives back? How can I enforce my right to not be recorded?
I’m dealing with someone that harbors all my past mistakes and failures . I understand she can not help the negative feelings she has towards me . I am a great father and I am being punished and kept from Their well being , I don’t want to drag this into court but that decision will be new to our children, for us the parents have experience from our previous marriages. She had full custody and I had joint but with the petitioner title on my behalf. I’m up against someone that delights herself by making me suffer . A good parent would not interfere with a child’s right to have both parents in their lives. Never give up is my new way of waving my banner of peace not war. The children are always the ones who suffer the most .
Thanks If you could tell me your opinion on my case. My daughter is 14 an her dad has always been able to see her when he anytime wants even tho he has court order every other weekend I let him have her all these years when ever he wants. Now he has slack off the past 2 years coming to get her. They both seemed ok with it. Then she made a couple of mistakes an he came to my home demanding she come with him an his sister came to sang on me in front of my kids an i filled a report with police. So he filled for cousty unsteady of trying to work it out as her parents he said he would fix our daughter. Now I just found out after that when he would pick her up he would talk bad about me and say things about me that I wasn't good enough mom and an how I live in housing and that she should live with him. he's been doing this for years now and she hated it him downing me to ger. cuz she never could or did say anything back she just had to listen to it. An he would be mentally abusive to her at times about herself and things like that and I didn't know this. I put her in counseling and I also go to counseling an treatment for opiate use have been for the past three years. my children never knew anything about my use. An I did tell them about it when I felt appropriate and that I go to counseling for it and treatment. My daughter also has talked to me an she may be bisexual and he just wants to say terrible things about that and I'm not for it either but I try to understand for her well being. So we had shared parenting and now he just wants to take her she doesn't want to go because of their relationship not being well and he says that I'm not discipline in her enough and I shouldn't let her Express her bisexuality I'd like to know your opinion on if I might lose her even though she doesn't want to go thank you very much
Jake Rothwell, I hope you are able to work this out. At this age, your daughter should have a representative from the court who can express her wishes. She sounds like a smart kid who can tell what is going on. I would talk to her counselor about this also since I am not treating her, it is difficult to give advice on specifics.
@liveonpurposetv What do you think about this scenario: the child (8 years old ) goes on a two week summer vacation with her dad, she’s only been there 4 days and two of the evenings calls home crying because she thinks two weeks is to long, she misses mom and wants to come home..and her dad doesn’t do anything to comfort her at all and simply tells you that two weeks isn’t to long because he has a court paper that says he has two weeks every summer..And the child tells you that she/he cries herself to sleep every night and the same thing happened the year before as well?
Nina Thiermann, this is a situation where you have to get clear on what you control and what you don't. If you want to attempt a change in court, then you need to be documenting everything and probably will need to take your daughter for an evaluation. You could also work with your daughter to prepare her for the visits. You could give her a prepared letter for each day she is away and give her pictures and a journal where she can express her feelings if her dad isn't listening. Helping her to figure out how to do a hard thing could be a good life lesson.
Live On Purpose TV Thank you, I usually try to prepare her, but this time he announced his vacation only a week before so there really wasn’t a lot of time, which my lawyer said was not ok.
MadeintheImageofGod The first year she went on vacation alone with him she spent one week, came home for a while then one more week. They thought that the next year she would be older and that two weeks would be ok..I may have to take it back to court, because she is very adamant that two weeks is to much, yet he claims that it isn’t because he has a court document that states that he has two weeks every summer..I can also add that in the beginning when we split, everytime she was going to her dad for a sleepover she cried hysterically and he literally had to pry her off of me because she didn’t want to let go of me, which is the reason why I got a lawyer in the first place, because I had to stop his time with her for a while in order to get her back to normal..He on the other hand said that it was normal behavior because she cried sometimes when I had to leave her in kindergarten. 😢
I wish all of this was true, then the courts would have granted my husband primary custody. We've gone through... alienation, non-cooperation, humiliation, coercion, false accusations in court (luckily, that went in our favor because we had all the evidence), but you name it and we went through it. We have all the proof of everything being false or being done towards us and my husband was still and is still being pushed aside. I guess it's just the luck that some might run into because we haven't had any except for catching her on perjury trying to get full custody by default claiming she couldn't find where the non-custodial parent was and we proved it to the magistrate and it went in our favor but that was the only thing we got.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, you should see the file I have organized for my husband. He keeps trying with his daughter because his son is going on 19 but we've stopped going to court. I think that maybe the right legal representation would have helped in our situation. Sadly, his daughter has gone down a dark path and the mother just refuses to do something to help her. It's to the point that his daughter doesn't live with her mother, she lives with her grandmother. It's a sad and complicated situation but he still tries, even though we don't go through the courts anymore. It's bad because I see that he's just not getting anywhere with it. Thank you for your response though.
If you are a divorced and have a child plan and other parent goes against the child plan is that does that matter in court? Can you do something about that?
Ok I’m not a mom but I’m a step mom, my husband has a visitation order from the judge. The mother was appointed the PRP or Primary Residential Parent. Since court ended she took their daughter and ran to Michigan to live with a registered sex offender and cut all communication for a year until her and the child got scabies from living in a Motel with said sex offender. She got kicked out and got back in contact with us. She gave him two weeks last november. It has been almost 7 months since then and she just got back in touch with us again three days ago. She has sent us pictures of the baby with bruising, black eyes, and “face infections”. Her reasons for keeping the baby from her father is because she is upset that he got married two years ago. Could you please give us some advice. We can’t file for a petition with out her address and she will not give it to us. Please any advice would do a great deal thank you
You could hire a PI to locate her and get the address, also seek the legal advice of someone who knows the laws of your state. I hope you have success.
So, do you guys have any advice for a mom in a situation where the X actually was physically abusive… Faked suicide all the time, and threatened to hurt the child when she was four months? I have two police report but I never charged him. He took off to another province and has paid me $200 a total of maybe three times since. It’s been 4 years. He never asks about her. I’ve heard he abused two other women and one of their children ... there may be charges there but I am not sure. Does he have a chance at getting custody? He also has a 10-year-old with another woman and he never sees or asks about. Apparently he lost custody of her for not showing up. I genuinely believe it would be dangerous for my daughter to get into his custody. I went to the courthouse and two different ladies that work there advised me not to do anything or he might have a chance at getting custody, but I worry if something happened to me she would go to him. I am at a loss as to what to do. A lawyer would be damn expensive, but doing it alone sounds scary. There’s also a possibility he might not show up anyway
Tryinnosaurus Rex, thanks for watching, I hope you found some value in the video. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice. Additionally, each jurisdiction and judge vary in their custody issues. The only 2 suggestions I can give are to keep relevant documents and records, and maybe watch more videos from the child custody playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd Obtaining an attorney is a good idea, but yes, expensive; so you have to make that choice. Best wishes.
Hi, I had depression 2 years ago and got better when I went to work and haven’t taking meds. Is possibility that my x can used it against me? Would affect my custody battle?
Kaya Long, he always can try, if you show that you took steps to take care of the problem, then you are showing the judge that you are responsible. Also, lots of parents who are depressed have children. It isn't uncommon. Talk to your attorney and come up with a plan.
Ok what do you do when you already been to court and the child father has liberal visitation and the mother gets mad a year later and decide she don’t want you seeing the child
ataye1, unfortunately I cannot give specific legal advice. I recommend seeking an attorney's assistance. That being said, I have several videos on my child custody playlist that might be useful in regards to your mindset, attitude, and outlook: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd Thank you for being here on the channel.
I was a victim to assault from the custodial parent to where the law was informed??she went to jail...what is going to happen on my end I only had supervised visitations and paying 740 a month for my only child...This is in the state of texas btw
Jay Myles, I am very sorry to hear of your situation. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice. I do have a child custody playlist, if you want more ideas on what you can do for yourself to help your case: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. For legal questions, you would need to speak to an attorney. Best wishes.
Please help me with my case my ex girlfriend is denying me the right to see my daughter and there is no actual visitation schedule or court set up except for childsupport court set etc.. Can she use owed childsupport of a small amount that can be paid any time to keep me from seeing my daughter?? Child support vs visitations. Can I legally fight for my child visitation (schedule) without an attorney? So how to fight for a visitation without a custody agreement
mendezed37, I do appreciate you watching, however I am unable to give specific legal advice. We have a child custody playlist for more general questions: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Otherwise, I encourage you to seek information and/or counsel in your jurisdiction. Best wishes.
What if the people in the house make it unsafe for the child like drinking and being mentally unstable ? Will they still grant joint custody? And also what if the father hasn’t come down for agreed visitation (without the courts) for months at a time . Will they take that into consideration of the child not knowing the father enough to go up there over night
Luna Cally, the courts try to encourage a relationship with both parents as it is best for the child. Now, this information should be presented to the judge and he will take it into consideration. Just because the court says that visits are granted doesn't mean a parent will take advantage.
Live On Purpose TV he refuses to come down to visit him at my house . He lives two hours away and I have a one year old . He said he wants to bring him up there or he’s not going to come see him . They also had bed bugs recently and there’s no say in if they have them or not . Cys was called on the house also last year due to the drinking . So what do you think the chances are that he will get most likely ? Visitation? Weekends ? One day a week ? With all that going on and a unstable environment for such a young child . I would like to think the judge will be smart and only grant visitation at my house like I have been offering the last year to him and his family .
@@mamacakes6296 The jurisdictions and judges vary so widely that unfortunately I do not know the answer to your question. I still recommend presenting all your information to the judge, and keep emotions out of it. Stay focused on what you believe is best for the child.
What I do? My mom's took temporary custody of me and my girlfriend kid after lying that my partner was suicidal and tried to kill kid. Hearing for protection order and temp custody are soon
Can you please help, my ex wanna pay lobola (negotiations) to my child and take him to stay with him full time.. Can you please tell me the disadvantages of it , and if my child is not happy do I have a right to take him back ?
My Daughter was trying to call all the shots. We had to talk about that she is entitled to her feelings/opinions AND I don't get to make that call and we (Dad and I) would talk about it in court with a judge and all. We compared it to kids at her age. I said she would eat pastry strudels everyday if I never made her have oatmeal or granola. She said the "fine, I may not know everything". I said "you would play minecraft all day long and never do anything". She kinda nodded like "Okay, maybe" face. She says "Maybe half the kids in my class play FortNight all night long and do don't their homework bc their parents are too busy to spend time with them". These are married parents and the kid's are really just left to their own to video game all night long. This is Elementary School!!! I'm like why not just turn off the wifi? or unplug it? I was like "You know I know where the computer plugs in and the breaker box is right?". . . "Yeah, Mom, I know".
My daughter left her husband because of physical and mental abuse of the children. She tried several times to get him into counceling but he refused to go. He was charged and convected of child abuse. He continued to abuse during probation. She left him to protect the children. She's has had them for three years and the children are doing much better. Her husband has taken her to court to gain custody. He lied to the court about several things. One child even harmed herself before going to visitation and two times was admitted to the hospital mental ward for obversation. The hearing will be in a couple of months. The question is how does she prepare.
JOHN JONES, my heart goes out to your daughter and her children. I sincerely hope they can all stay safe. We have a child custody playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd, but beyond that I am unable to give specific legal advice. I hope she can find resources in her jurisdiction. Best wishes, and thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.
can a non custodial parent arbitrarily change visitation time at the last minute without giving child some notice and considering the child 's feelings?.. what can custidial parent do to protect the child in this example?
What if the father took the child across state lines with a 50/50 visitation joint custody and mom is in another county, father still hasnt returned the child and is still married to the mother
Kassie Bellinger, thank you for watching. Unfortunately, I am unable to answer detailed legal questions. Maybe some of my other videos from the Child Custody Playlist on ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd can help. Best wishes.
What if the child has never meet the bio mother and he's autistic and has a family structure a safe place and the bio has been in and out of jail and in rehab at the moment but has not been there emotionally , can she loose sole custody ? Can step mom adop with out her consent if bio has been absent for 5 1/2 years
Eugenia Mandujano, there is a whole process to having a parent's rights taken away. There is a court hearing and judgment rendered. It isn't easy or quick to go through. Get the advice of a lawyer who is knowledgeable of the laws in your area.
what if one parent is aleinating themselves by chouce as in they are choosing to not be a part of the childs life even if the other parent tries to get that pare t to participate?
hawkeye harley, thank you for watching. Please remember: we need to get clear on what we control and what we don't. You may want to try writing down what you control and what you'll find is that you don't control the actions of the other person. We can invite and persuade, but we can't force. Always focus on your actions and your child. If you believe there is an unmet need, find a way to meet it without the other parent if they are not willing.
What if your child has an disorder that the father doesn't believe he has. Even when you have paperwork from a doctor and the father still does not believe it. My son keeps telling his father he doesn't understand some things that his father is saying to him and making him do. He says his father will fuss and argue with him and lecture him. The doctor says my son has anxiety disorder ADHD and OCD his father does not believe any of this. So what do I do in a situation like this?
@@LiveOnPurposeTV hi thank you for replying to me I really appreciate this. I'm sorry that I was not more pacific. I was never married to my son's father and as of 2017 we now have joint legal custody together and and I have primary physical custody. His father kicked us out shortly after our son was born. So I moved on and try my very best to take care of our son and I achieved just that. After his son started getting older he started saying he's starting to look like me so I want to have a test done to see if he is really mine. So long story short he's been in and out of jail he used to physically and mentally abused me and that's why I stayed going after he kicked us out. He got arrested for harassing me twice. The second time he was charged with aggravated stalking but then later on he got off because it was just a phone call that he made after he got out of jail. I know and I'm long-winded but I have been battling this with him for 11 years. What resulted from the arrest was the defense attorney said that he would help him get his son legitimize at the time I could not afford an attorney so I didn't know I should have brought up the abuse that he inflicted on me. So now what he was doing to me he is now doing to our son not the physical abuse but the mental abuse. My son's therapist called defects on my son's father for spanking him because at the time he had a diagnosis of autism. Shortly after leaving Court of having to get another restraining order against him he got a DUI. My son's therapist asked me if I'm going to go get an attorney because my son is still telling her things that his dad is saying to him. I just want the best for my son. Thanks again for your time.
Good question, blank blank. I am not sure the other parent would follow through on the activities and that might bring more disappointment for the child. Be receptive and encouraging. Thanks.
Im kind of lost in my partners situation. Their childs mother does not want him in the picture because he cannot stay consistent. The courts are not involved. She has taken away his visitation because he does not want to make a schedule with her. It is his issue as well as hers, not mine. But how do i be the supportive partner while he his inconsistent with his child, while his child's mother takes away his visitation? Im very worried. Their son is 3 now. She seems to blame me for his reasoning why he can't make a 3 day a week schedule. Any advice for me?
Annie m, I am not sure why he doesn't make a schedule??? Does his work schedule change weekly/ Maybe when he gets his schedule they can agree for the week. If he has a set schedule I am at a loss why he doesn't make himself available. Get clear on what you control and what you don't. Let them work this out.
I wish lawyers and judges were educated on covert narcissism and learn to recognize the signs. Too many children being put in dangerous situations
Good idea, healthnut. Thanks for commenting.
They do!
Seriously! It's so difficult to prove this and they are such experts when lying to the court. I hate lying.
What happens when the father is being abusive and mother is trying to protect his children
With respect, the word "narcissist" is thrown around way too much.
He's a narcissistic sociopath and has said he doesnt want to be a parent...so why force visitatiin when its obviously not in the best interest of the child when he will not feed, not give bedtime, not provide safety...in this case i want and understand the importance of co-parenting but why do we as the parent have to wait for "something to happen" to a child before the courts listen or understand...and thats the tip of the iceberg in my case...
We teach kids to stay away from harmful situations.
.so what is the system teaching? Nothing...just addding to another generation emotional and unstable abuses we as parents are trying to TRULY avoid and not as a control tactic...
If he truly doesn't want anything to do with his children, then the kids will pick up on that and they should not be forced, Ms. Fit Therapist.
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Recently on the news the crazy narc x who was allowed visitations decided to chain his 3yrs old to the child care seat engulfed the car with gasoline and burned her alive a he ran to a near by pond and saved his own life NOT EVERYONE DESERVES THE RIGHT TO A VULNERABLE CHILD JUST CAUSE THEY ARE THE DONOR....🤔🤔🤔
Man.. You said a mouthful right there!!! Im in the same situation and i wholeheartedly agree with you on this!!
@@violeturviolet5 This is the story that haunts me when i think about parents who hurt the kid as a form of punishment to the other parent. Heartbreaking
Do you really need to ask that question? Most people are decent and fair and care about their own children. For most of us, it never crosses our minds that a man we love would be any different. Then it happens and your world and world,view are destroyed.
you both have way too much focus on normal people custody problems. Do a video of one parent doing everything right and healthy, and the other parent being an abusive alcoholic.
There are so many scenarios, em elle, sorry you have had to go through this.
em elle this is my issue as well. Adding sexual abuse, along with physical, mental, emotional abuse, and substance abuse...yet he has more money.
cooperating with a drug addict... I would love that video
But your answers obvious and there is no reason they would waste there time and effort you clearly have flaws or you wouldnt make such a remark
@Karol Palazej thank you that's good info
Rule 1. Dont have kids or get married in the USA. Take your labor to another country and get a passport.
@Karol Palazej What they say and do are two different things. Watch the Coach Greg Adams channel. Then sit in on family court.
I'm just curious about a couple of things, that I'm hoping you might be able to touch on. Every decree seems to end with a Children's Bill of Rights page that lists everything that you should not do or discuss, etc., with the child. And, in my opinion, a lot of those "things" are very important, if not detrimental in terms of appropriateness at the very least. So my question is, at what point do you hold the other parent accountable for breaching the child's bill of rights? And, realistically speaking, is it even possible to do so?
Any parent can say or do whatever they feel like or deem appropriate at the time (or always, for that matter), but what exactly can be done about it, and how? It seems to me that, unless a bystander hears or sees it for themselves, or if it is miraculously caught on tape in some kind of way, there is absolutely no way to hold a parent accountable for such. I would very much like to know what your (both of you) take is on this matter, as well as, if it is (if at all), something enforcable. How does one prove that. And I'll be honest, I feel that a breach of that particular bill is a form of child abuse; whether it be verbal or emotional. To me, they both go hand in hand. How exactly do you protect your children from that,? And, how exactly do the courts receive &/or respond to such acts?
@Karol Palazej This is not reality and based on a pattern of your comments you must be a pro-legal troll
David Flash, sounds like you have had a negative experience.
The NH family courts regularly award a pathogenic parent custody in the face of evidence so that the industry can ride their behavior to the bank for as long as possible. If you have enough money you can buy your way out.
If the other parent is a narcissist joint custody only maintains the unhealthy dynamics of the narcissistic parent. From the child's point of view the narcissist makes sure that you are belittled and he is the good strong parent and the child has to listen to that parent and not the other parent. In many cases the other parent is healthy and has no idea this control tactic is being used.
Mary Spitz, co-parenting can be a challenge and more-so with a person who has mental problems. Over time, the child will see what is happening. Thank you for watching.
This is what im going thru but it will work out 4 the best im determent ❤❤❤
@@LiveOnPurposeTVyea by then it's too late and the child has severe issues
Can't love this enough! Thank you for addressing Parenatl Alienation and focusing on the children and not either parent. They need both parents.
Christy Epperson, my pleasure.
I want to thank you so much for providing this information. I just wrapped up a 15 months custody battle. Needless to say it's been the most emotion period of my life. Gotta wait about 2 weeks for the decision but I feel confident in our case. We established domestic violence, medical neglect (my wife took our daughter out of the country,18 months after not seeing her her teeth are black) and educational neglect. In 18 months of school she was absent 21 days and tardy 57 times! All the while I never knew she was back in America.
Kanyarat Baker, good luck to you and your case. Glad you have contact with your daughter again.
Females are really weird to me now!
I like these guys... I’ve wasted a lot of time watching Rogan and Bobbie related videos but these are the ones that directly affect me, I’m sure they help others as well.
Living Legend, thank you, honored to be on your team.
Thank you so so so much for these videos. They are very helpful and so very true. There is no win or lose. And this is where so many people get so focused on is winning or losing instead of what works or what’s right.
So true, Ashley Adams. Glad you have found this in your life.
Mom left the state with kids and I have joint and legal custody. Have seen them since July. This video is good. Waiting for court date. Hope the judge sees the same thing and enforce or change custody to me for my kids sake. Kids needs both Mom and Dad.
I agree, Simeon Holloway. I hope you see your children soon. Thank you for watching.
It depends if the other parent is being phyiolocially more damaging and lying about the other parent and abuse. It's difficult
Simeon Holloway sorry bro.. my wife was going to leave the county with are 4yr boy.. but a quick call to my attorney stop ✋ that... hang in there!!!! everything will come ur way.. just stay positive bro👍👍👍
Mr S C That’s good news! Will do! Thanks !
What happened at your court date
So I have followed you for years and have always valued your parenting advice ,
who knew I'd be here taking advice for this .....I'm a year into a seperation for my four children's dad ,
it's been very difficult, I am so thankful for your video this is so valuable for people like me thank you for sharing ❤
I am so sorry. I wish your family well.
One of my friends has an 8 year old son he won custody 2 years ago after he divorced his wife after she ended up on disability. He refuses to give her partial custody because she can't can't take care of herself so how can she raise/support a child
I don't know the details, but I wouldn't count out a disabled person. You might be surprised what they can do.
Please do more videos on Father's with custody and the mother being the abusive party.
Mark Zeigler, thank you for the suggestion.
I have primary custody of my 11 year old but we pretty much let her choose when she goes to moms. But I actually support her doing it 😂. Mom also can call me and say “can I get her this weekend?” And I totally support it. This actually works better for us than when we enforce the order. She didn’t like going to her house at all when we went by the court schedule. 2 years ago we decided to try to just let her tell us when she wants to spend time with mom and she actually spends more time with her now than what the court called for. This only works of both parents act good though. I definitely wouldn’t advise it if there’s conflict with custody as it’s very easy to manipulate the situation. I learned this very early on. All it took is for me to say “baby your going to moms tomorrow, I’m really gonna miss you” and the child reacts by not wanting to leave me. I recognized this is unhealthy and really didn’t mean to cause the reaction, but I recognized it. Now I give my daughter a healthy heads up “babe, don’t forgot tomorrow moms gonna pick you up from school, don’t forget she’s been wanting to goto the park with you so bring good shoes” - “ok daddy!” Amazing how much kids react to us as parents even if we don’t directly say something to them. Non verbal communication is a very real thing.
Doug Foster, I am glad you are working together on this. Your child will benefit from it as she sees people communicating and working together. You are giving your child a valuable gift.
That's so great you both can do this. In the past, when my son was 3, my ex used to try to make the exchange difficult, basically by doing the opposite of what you do.
Because you mature… I wish it was more people like this
How did you get custody?
@@kevboost The way I won custody is I kept at it...Don't ever ever ever make it personal with your ex...Always be the nicer person and more mature person but make sure you have boundaries...The true way to win custody is a marathon, not a race....Consistency is key. Always be available for your child. Know the doctors your child goes to. know the teachers. Know their best friends. Know your kids birthday. In most cases, doesn't matter how good you are because if your ex is also good and you guys get along then it'll probably be 50/50...Which, trust me, is a good thing cause your kid needs both parents. A lot of bitter moms understand that 50/50 only works when both people get along so they'll purposely make it difficult for co-parenting just so in court they can say "I NEED FULL CUSTODY CAUSE WE CLEARLY CANT CO-PARENT" and she'll probably try to blame you. That's why I say ALWAYS be very reasonable even if it's not in the court order..For example, if I was ever running like 2-5 minutes late, my ex would be a huge deal about it and point to the court order...On the other hand, when SHE was late, I didn't make a big deal because i'm reasonable....That is how you win. When you have your trial, you show judge that you can't co-parent because she makes things difficult and that you are the more reasonable person that is going to do whats right for the kid AND also ENCOURAGE the other parent to have a relationship with the kid.
If the mother is a narcissist and she's manipulative and verbally abusive to the father, how can the father work with that??? He can have all of the confidence in the world...but that won't change the mother.
Think Tasha, you are right, we need to get clear with what we have control over and focus on those things.
I disagree with children needing both parents. My child’s father has done more mental health damage to our daughter being around her father than being with him. Not every father can be a father. And the courts need to be reformed to accommodate such non physical abuse to a child.
Yours is a difficult situation, Jamela Sullivan. We wish every parent could have the child's best interest at heart and the majority do. Thank you for being there for your child.
@@princeofdeath6058 I would say not every mother is automatically a good mother.In my experience I can admit I'm not perfect dad and I learn in a process but definitely I am not as bad as my wife describe. I don't judge every parent but in many cases many many women think they crystal clear and the fault is always on the other side never in the middle.
@@latecheckout11 thats how women thinks, in their head 'omg hes perfect ill marry him!' When he asks the big question. Sad thing is most females go into a relationship with a guy they hardly know, and fail to realise guys always show their best traits to attract a woman. Its a womans responsibilty to figure out whether a guy will be a good or bad father before opening their legs and giving him access to impregnate them, not just for herself but for the child she will bear.
prince of death it’s not always her fault for opening her legs. My ex got me pregnant on purpose and without my consent to trap me. Now he body shames my daughter as well as talking bad about me to her. She can’t stand him. Now after telling her he wants nothing to do with her 2 years ago, he’s trying to get custody. Sometimes it’s the guy that sucks.
I agree with u on that one mentally their father is trying to brainwash the kids my mother told me and no child support I gotta keep looking for a better paying job, my ex is while on the path to have his rights removed big time. Neglecting our children needs Horrible it breaks my heart it truly does.
Can you please address corrupt judges in custody cases? How can you obtain justice when the judge is bias, falsified court documents and won't allow you a change of venue.
You may need to seek the advice of an attorney who can help with your individual situation.
All judges are corrupt. Dirty attorneys with a dress. The dirtier the judge the more money everyone makes.
Yes. Corrupt judges is a problem. They ARE biased.
I agree, I might have a judge who sides with mothers when fathers rights are continually being violated against the parenting plan with documentation.
1thedarox oh my God girl..I’m telling you. Fayetteville North Carolina is the most corrupt place on earth. My ex who was recently charged with 5 felony sec offenses against my daughter, and a charge against my youngest son for forcing him to blow into his breath-o-lizer actually got custody of the same child he is in court with?!?! Wtf? They used a fake Facebook page that I proved wasn’t me against me, and my dead boyfriend. Smh it’s insane
I would love for you two to represent me in court. The mother of my kids has alienated me from my two girls and I dared not fight her. I didn’t want to hurt the kids during a stressful situation. But I can promise you, with what your saying, I could get my kids back in a positive environment and give them the best life and I would continue to allow my children see the mother.
I believe you, Joseph Roach, seek out good counsel where you are at.
I bent over backwards to cooperate and be accommodating, but truth didn't prevail. My case is straight out of hell. I am praying my daughter will stay alive until she is 18 she she will be free. The best liar won...
Lydia Hubbell, I am sorry to hear this, I wish everything was fair in the world, sadly it is not.
How did he win?
@@nashonnebryant3458 he erased me from my daughter's life.
@MadeintheImageofGod cooperating and communicating are necessary to a healthy parenting relationship. I was not so compliant with demands of strangers but I was reasonable. I had no idea what was going on. I thought it was weird to request court orders to keep me from saying anything negative and to support my daughter's school experience. I had not anticipated making any negative remarks other than calling him out on lies. And I supported her school experience in every way, but he lied and sent emails to the school saying I encouraged Dilara to misbehave at school. Court orders are dangerous things.
Wish these informative videos were available back when my X was trying to take custody after our "amicable" divorce.
l. p. I hope things turned out well for you, share away with anyone you know who may be able to benefit.
So helpful and good. Got my case in 8 hrs. Thx for your insights
Glad you found the video useful, ThisSheetB4RealYo. Thank you for watching.
I lost custody because we agreed amicably that he would have the kids full-time while I went to nursing school for one year, and then he decided to change his mind about giving them back and it’s been hell on earth for all of us ever since.
I'm so sorry. Seems this could be addressed in court to get a more equitable arrangement.
They don’t care about the kids! I loss my house, my kids just because I sent the form I suppose to fill for spousal and child support to a wrong place and the oficial didn’t get it. They give to my husband everything listed on his divorce demand. They sent me to live in the street with no money! No a single dólar. I did not have place for me which means for the kids neither. Never work in this country for 17 years so impossible to rent with no credit history. I was in the street with just visitation. So , they doesn’t Matter the kids will loss their mom! What matters is paper and documents and that is it!
I'm so sorry. I hope this can be helped. There are services that help people such as you get established. I have seen it in action. There are classes you can take. Check at a woman's shelter.
I don't understand how women or even men try to keep the kids away from a father [mother] who desires to be with their kids. Like that's ridiculous!
Misty Flores, kids are used as pawns and it isn't fair to them.
Its truly evil but happens very often.
@@christyepperson8805 cause the other parent can get more money for support too
What do you do if the mother is addicted to meth, should visitation still be allowed
@@yasidigonzalez3640 hell nnnoooo
My son a victim of kidnapping and parent alienation, has breached court shared custody, and taken my grandchildren from their mother because she had a new sibling last month, and in his mind no other man can raise his children.
Court is today, 5th March 2020.... yet he claims he will refuse to return the kids, and leave the state.
The Hague, International social services, are aware this is occurring... I’m horribly concerned this history will repeat again...since it’s a norm for the family I married to remove children from biological parents and adopt them under duress, by new step parent often more than one.
Thank you for the insight.
You are welcome, Claire Will. Best wishes to you and your family during this time.
Awesome Video!! I'm Using Some of These Pointer's For My Custody Battle!
My best to you and your children, Vybz Musiq.
I agree with em elle. Family Law attorneys and judges need to be educated in types of abuse and the effects on child development. Also to be trauma-informed. After a three-year-long battle, I just lost custody of my son. The main reason is that they perceived my daughter's choice not to see her father as my manipulation. I was respecting her choice and requested that decision be made with her therapist's recommendations. She has PTSD because of him and has been in trauma therapy. He is the main character of her nightmares. But none of this was taken into consideration. So now my autistic son is traumatized again by the judge giving his father total control and custody. He has no intention of keeping my son in contact with me or his siblings. his siblings testified against their father in open court. Who's interest was served in this ruling?
I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you can have contact again with him.
Keep teaching the public. Thanks guys.
DC, you are welcome.
This will actually help me write my motion for sole legal custody. My ex is so concerned with being the fun parent that he isnt being a parent. he makes demands on me in regards to our son because 'its his right' 🤦♀️ our son got arrested for a assaulting my husband and my ex is mad i took our sons xbox away.
Ctrl Alt Delete, it sounds like your son needs more parenting, glad you are setting the standard.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV he certainly does. My son stole his phone back out of a dresser before he went to his dads. my ex is ignoring my calls and text messages. Ive had to put security cameras all over my house inside and out.
This is the other reason I don't want a divorce the kids are part of my world too. I love you guys.
I'm honored to have you here on the channel, Casey Myslive.
What do you do when the other parent is toxic?
Hi Kali Caldwell, get clear on what you control, and that is not the other parent. Since you have no control over them, you can spend less time thinking about them and focus on what you can do.
Bill Eddie has alot of great techniques. That has helped me with my toxic/stressful/high conflict x-wife. Let me know if to those techniques helps you out too 😊
Bro this the question
You know my husband's going through a crazy custody battle the mother tested positive and also is putting the father out to be the bad guy she's embedded a lot of things in the kids head but I've been catching myself just looking into a lot of research and I mean it's obvious that the other person is very toxic I say to my husband don't worry about that let them be them what you can worry about is yourself make sure you just provide a very comfortable loving home for when that child comes with you you can't change that other person what you can do is change the characteristics in yourself if you catch yourself I know sometimes we need to have a mirror in front of our faces but if you catch yourself doing the same things or certain things that the other parent does such as pointing the finger when you look in the mirror all you can do is look at yourself stop looking at them and look at what you need to do real quick to change to make a huge change for your child let's not worry about another person being toxic trust me my family is definitely going through it and I haven't been to church in many years but I'm doing what I need to do for my family start going being a solid foundation for my husband my children and my stepchild it's easier to love then to deal with the hate for me and my case I'm not perfect nor is my husband and his ex but what I can do is do my best to provide a home for all of us it's time to grow up and get right so let's not worry about anybody being toxic just take a look in the mirror......
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thinking less doesn’t remove the toxic influence that parent brings to the child. A child doesn’t need a toxic parent.
God is all you need to resolve the most gard problems in our lives
Havi Wisdom, I am a man of faith and God is a big part of my day.
I enjoy your videos a lot. Thank you for your work.
You are welcome, spcbell3246. Thank you for watching.
My ex husband has made false allegations against me saying I would harm my daughter. I had to go through all kinds of groups and have not seen my daughter in 3 years. He lies to my daughter making her think I don’t want anything to do with her. I had to pay 4500 for a risk assessment that’s taken 9 months for this man to go through everything, it’s almost done and I hope it works in my favor. My ex husband tells me that my daughter doesn’t want to talk to me and he’s not going to force her
Kristie Kogut Rodriguez, I am sorry you are having to go through this. I hope you prevail.
Just found out that my ex-husband's new wife is pushing and shoving my 12 year old son and they also left my 15 and 12 year old kids home alone unsupervised for 24 hours so they could go to a friend's beach house. He never contacted me for right of first refusal. Now I have to file contempt charges. Wish I didn't have to. But, this behavior is concerning and affects the kids
Bolo4 Momma, abuse is not tolerated or acceptable. Sorry you are going to need to go through this.
My EX completely abandoned my son through tremendous sickness he would say to him... Your not sick, nothing's wrong with you. Real P.O.S.
Truth Seeker, sorry to hear about the abandonment. I am glad you are there for him.
My brother sent me this link to your video. You are talking about everything that happened to me. I can’t find an attorney that doesn’t want to be friends with the Judge because everyone that lives in the small town has to eventually go in front of that judge again. It’s not fair that I never had a chance. I wish you would help me see my son again. I was given the advice to wait until her turns 18 but it’s so hard to wait. I miss him so much.
L Wms, thank you for watching, and I appreciate your brother sending this video to you as well. I am sorry that you can't see your son right now - that is heart-breaking. Unfortunately, I cannot give legal advice. I do have other child custody videos; here's the playlist if you would like to check those out: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Best wishes.
How do you prove that you're not abusive and neglectful? My ex has submitted an alternative parenting plan and it is full of false and misleading Statements.
Talk to an attorney who deals with these issues, Gidget Dupree-Hunnicutt. They will know how to push back with the courts.
Thankyou for these videos. I've moved within a mile of my children. I changed jobs, I have a new house. When I reached out to my x for more time with my children she shut me down, took away any extra time I was having with them at the time. We're are on our way to the meditators meeting because she will not negotiate or give me more time. I'm nervous, I've done my positive loving homework, I just want to be in their lives. Please, any advice on going into this meeting is appreciated!
Freaky_Jsn_Killr 13, I hope my response isn't too late; I have many comments to get to! While I cannot give specific legal advice, we do have more videos about child custody on this playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd
Best wishes to you and your children.
Hey - I know it’s been a year plus but I am in the same boat. Moved close, etc… but she is so rigid / black and white when it comes to scheduling I’m afraid if I take her to mediation she will start spewing lies and make my situation worse. What ended up happening in your case??
@@Mgoblue1023 well,, exzactly what you described and with covid everything was by phone. It was extremely difficult. Know what your kids want more than anything else.
I really enjoy these videos that feature Sid.
Hello Amanda, isn't he great? Thank you for commenting.
In the 1st part of this video you mention not alienating the child from one parent/not following court order.
In our case, my son's father and I had a court order but he was shortly thereafter incarcerated for robbing 5 pharmacies with a gun for narcotic painkillers. He has spent the last 10 years in prison and was released last week. He tried getting our son the day after he was released, but I refused saying we needed to ammend our agreement. My son does not know him and I do not feel my son is safe with him for overnight visits yet. I believe initial supervised visits and possibly some parenting classes would be best.
I am nervous about what the judge is going to say though since technically we have a court order from over 10 years ago. What are your thoughts/professional opinions on this?
The parenting plan was made on information at the time. If there is new information, that should be taken into account.
Hope this comment will be noticed and replied to. I have a situation that has gone on for many years now, and at this point, I want to get out of the house, and I'd hope for my younger brother to aswell. My father hasn't been the best person. He has threatened to shoot our dog in the head once, hes pinned me down and twisted my arm. Although that was for safety reasons, I feel that I shouldn't have been pulled and tossed onto the floor like that. Ever since 6th grade, he has emotionally drained me over my grades, and I have been criticized a bit, which has been a major putdown for me. I'm currently in 11th grade, and continue to suffer from depression since then. I'm not the only one who puts up with this. My mother has been emotionally drained because of him, as now I see her cry almost everyday and feel miserable with him. I tried so hard, from calling CPS to going to the hospital with hopes I can get away from my father. The hospital couldn't recommend much but just tell me to hang in there and maybe my dad will change, but he never does. As for CPS, my parents said so much, primarily my dad, that he convinced me it wouldn't turn out well if I left, so I told CPS the minor things that would prevent the situation from going down any further. Recently I've come to such a bad point to where I can't handle seeing my mother miserable, wasting years of her life with him and weakening herself emotionally and physically, and my brother who will become just like him… He's honestly not a father to me. He may care, but he doesn't know how to be a good father honestly. From what it seems, hem ay RARELY get physical, but he often seems to be what's called an "energy vampire". Just draining me and my family bit by bit. God, he even abused our dog, which is why we had to give him away with this bad environment. It's better than being shot in the head in the woods. My god… I need some advice. Who do I reach out to? Are there ways I can still stay in my current town? Is moving in with my friends family or even my boyfriends family an option if they approve? I'd appreciate some advice as soon as you may be able to respond.
Aouleria, thank you for watching and commenting. My apologies for not getting back sooner - I'm backed up on comments. I am unable to help you much because you are a minor. However, I will tell you that we do have a free 25 minute call available with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. Your mother would have to be the one to schedule the call and be there for the call. Please consider talking to her about it. If this is something she or the two of you do, think about or write down what you want to discuss and keep it concise and to the point - time is very limited! In the meantime, have a conversation with your mother explaining your desires. If you want to move out, ask if you can live with grandparents, uncles/aunts, or any other relatives if possible. The second choice would be with a friend, but however you do it, everyone has to be on board with you living with them. You may also want to talk to the school counselor. They are equipped with knowledge of how to help in a variety of ways. Best wishes to you and your family.
Almost forgot! To schedule the call, have your Mom go to DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
Would you consider myself being a “control freak” if I asked the father of my child to pass a drug test? He has my son supervised now and I would like him to pass a drug test before having him unsupervised because of his previous drug problem.
No, Lucy Johnson. That could be a very reasonable thing, and something that is required often in court cases such as yours.
Can you request in court that drug screens be performed intermittently over a long time frame? My ex spent 10 years in prison for robbing numerous pharmacies at gun point to obtain narcotic painkillers. When my son does start over night visits I would feel MUCH BETTER knowing he was at least clean when he picked him up.
Can you do a video about court battles over a toddler for the best interests for a toddler and everything. It’s so much harder when a child is young
Alydia Delarosa, it seems to be difficult no matter the age. I will add this to the topic list, but I am not able to get Sid for videos any longer.
Just be so very careful with who you have your children to
Yes!
Live On Purpose TV I learned this the hard way Doctor unfortunately for me
Can you make a session about how to deal with co-parenting when the other parent is flirting and still talking “couple family talk?”
(And yes... many direct “turn down” conversations have been made over the last decade.)
Example: When I try and co-parent he sees this as an “in” to be a couple and happy family again and then takes it out on my child and I when he realizes I am only interested in talking about my son. Makes co-parenting difficult and my 10 year old son confused. I thought it might be a good idea for a clip?
How frustrating for you, Lindsey Aka Reese. I will consider this topic for a future video. Thank you for watching.
co-parenting would be an excellent excellent topic. It is one of the most difficult things, and it sometimes leads to horrible after money. Sometimes you, though, it can lead to beautiful friendship and healthy relationship between the children and both parents.
My ex-wife has custody of our daughter in California while I live in Florida. Since the divorce, she has filed restraining orders against two different men my daughter viewed as father figures. One of which was driving drunk and crashed the car with my daughter in the car. All of this under the mother's "watchful" eye. I had just requested to get my daughter for Thanksgiving break for a trip to New York. She's allowing me 3 days... 3 days to go pick her up from Cali, fly to new york, and bring her back. This would be my first time seeing her in two years. I need help. Would this be a substantial case to reopen a custody battle? I want my daughter, and I honestly feel her mother's lack of vigilance is dangerous.
Brandon, thank you for watching, I hope you found something useful in the video. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice as I come to the table with a psychologist's perspective. Your case does seem substantial due to the danger your daughter has been in. It might be time to consider obtaining the help of an attorney. We do have more child custody videos on this playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd
I have a four year old son. The father and mom l, half brother have been alienated from his life. Sacramento, Ca family judge granted us visits with the child, right after that, his sister who has legal guardian ship moved to Georgia, or Oklahoma and has made my son unavailable to visit his other family for the last 3 1/2 years. The sister who has custody of my son is purposely braking the parent/child bond. My four year old son has no one to enforce his visits or speak up in his behalf. The father and I tried to enforce through the family court and the courts said there isn't anything they can do, that the mom dad would need to hire an attorney/ private investigator to enforce . Parents do not have a physical address for the legal guardian and parents are homeless experiencing a financial hardship. So my son's sister lies and tells the courts that the parents abandoned or doesn't hear from the parents. It's a shame that professionals do not go to child's school, to speak with children in private away from abusive/alienating custodel parent.
Anjela Williams, it is a huge problem and I am sorry your family is going through this heartache.
I am a parent going through parental alienation. their father and new step mother have done everything use the court system to have my children. right now they used false allegations of sexual abuse. later my son confessed to being coached.
Malu Robles, this happens all too often and the outcome is never good. I am sorry you are having to go through this.
hi, my name is emily limpias, im 14 years old. and i would like to stop seeing my father. he has 40% custody while schools in session and 50% in summer. and i have been wanting to be taken out of my dads care since i was about 5-7 years old, due to a mentally and physically abusive step mother, he married when i was 5, before it was just me and him, i told my dad about how i felt so many times and he made no change. he didnt care to help me in the situation i was on, i have childhood trauma now. i am depressed, i have trust issues, and panic attacks atleast once a day. he picks me up from my mothers house every wednesday, and everytime i have expressed i dont want to go to his house, he threatens me and says he will call the police and make my mother step dad and i miserable. i would like to just not get out of my house and stay safe in my mothers care, i do not feel safe at his house due to his girlfriend, they are on and off, she is bipolar and depressed and she is crazy. she has broken into our house and my father and her fight. all day everyday. she is 28 and my dad is 40. i feel like my father doesn't love me. because he used to care about me, and how my day was, and how my moms was. but now he picks me up and takes me home and i go in my room all day. he doesnt care anymore. and he focuses on my 7yr old brother and 8yr old sister more then he does me. he punishes me for things my siblings do and when my brother hits and kicks me and he doesnt care. i act much older then i am, due to trauma and needing that maturity throughout the years. i get mistaken for an 18 year old by people i just meet. i feel like i had no childhood and i was just unhappy. i never had fun as a child. everytime i brjng up me not feeling loved at my fathers house he laughs in my face. i dont feel safe and i am unhappy at my fathers house, but im scared to do anything. any advice for me and my situation?
emily, this is sad. I can hear the sadness and my heart hurts for you. How long do you have to go to your dad's? Could your mother petition the court? Focus on the safety and security you feel with your mother when you are in these situations and seek counseling.
MadeintheImageofGod thank u so much for the helpful advice
Live On Purpose TV i go every wednesday and every other weekend. my mom and him have fought for custody for years. he hasnt played child support in over a year and im scared if i go to court he will win! and i have been in and out of counseling but it never seems to help me. ive stopped trying because i feel sorry for wasting my moms money
My children are around their mom, and stepfather. She has sole custody. CPS was called out on them. Come to find out after CPS question my kids, and they told the they was being whipped by the step dad, and step dad smokes crack, my youngest found needles in her room for heroin, they jump from house to house, not being in a stable home, and my son is cutting his arm's, and it's all on record!
But some reason they want remove my kids! I go to court to get a summons for sole custody, and go against her rights! "As I should knowing their wellbeing is at a risk!" I go get a process server, they can't find her! I drive their old nieghborhood, I can't find her, I try by mail, and it goes straight back to the postal service!
I keep my cool, I try other ways! But no one not even a judge, or cop can do to find her to remove my kids.
I love your videos, but Im feeling all my rights is removed!
If you are reading this please help? What can I Do?I'm running out of patience, and this is literally going beat me to the ground!!!
How frustrating, Johnny Abbott, to say the least. I wish I could find her for you. Don't give up please, we are pulling for you to be able to find her quickly.
What if one of the parents is a drug addict and has a history of domestic violence and abuse who has been to prison for domestic violence (strangulation of the other parent?)
My girlfriend is dealing with her child's father, and he is a very violent person (got released from prison and immediately went back to abusing the mother) she has left the situation and now has a restraining order against him now, but fears he may continue the cycle of abuse on the child...
Both of us believe it is in the best interest of the child for us to remove him from her life entirely and raise her in a violence free environment...
Tactical Shortpants, seek the advice of an attorney who knows the laws and how to present your case in court. Keep it to the facts without making any judgments, let the judge do that.
Thank you so much! I needed to hear this!
Hi Lyndsie Miles. As always, great to hear from you.
I have a question. What if the father has sole and legal custody with visits under his discretion for the mother and just pleaded guilty to domestic violence a few months ago and is on probation and his girlfriend is violent too ? Can that cause the father to lose custody? Mother is stable remarried and has full custody of her other child
It certainly would raise some flags. You might want to see if some amendments could be made to the order.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for the advice! :) I will most certainly take that highly into consideration.
I am the stepmom and the other parent is violating the court orders and making false statements of abuse. This is hurting the children. How can we work to help the children even when their mother is not allowing them to go to school and counseling?
Sharon Welch, I sympathize with your situation, however I am unable to give specific legal advice. We have a child custody playlist, if you want to look for more information there: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Otherwise, I recommend speaking with legal counsel.
Hello well I have my son 50 50 but the child accidentally cut himself on a piece of glass, and the mother was very mad, now can I lose custody because of this?
Accidents happen and people know it, Money Machine. Keep calm and she will cool down.
Can the living situation or condition of a home be a factor in deciding child custody?
Yes, but the bar is pretty low. Is it clean, is there a sleeping place for children, a safe place to play, etc. Doesn't have to be anything fancy.
My ex was abusive but i never once took his rights for his son away or kept his son from him and gave him full visitation freedom. But he didnt have the car to get him and i didnt have access to one enough to bring our son to him all the time. He got mad at me and the last time my son was brought to him he refused to give him back and still wont give him back and i now have to go to court to get any custody of my son. I didnt want to restrict custody from him at all, i just miss my son. We are unmarried and no custody or child support has been established yet. Any advice? I just want to see my son again. Hes a year old.
I would definitely get legal help from someone who is familiar with the laws of your state and keep showing up to see him, V0id of Stars. Good luck.
My ex has our daughter EVERY weekend. I work fulltime so miss out on quality time with her. I have asked him for a weekend a month and he refuses. Do you think this is in the best Interest of the child? She doesn't know who her aunts/uncles/cousins are on my side.
I am considering going to mediation, my concern is that I'm wrong and wasting my time.
Chris M, this doesn't sound unreasonable. Mediation might be a good way to go.
How about rethinking your job situation-
Dad was arrested in front of the children due to domestic violence and our 16 and 15 year-old minor children do not wish to go back to that house because they do not feel safe. My son composed an email telling his dad that he did not want to go back to the house. I supported my son's desire to compose the email. Will I be accused of alienating the children from their father?
MJKsFan, Supporting your son with HIS decision is different that bullying or putting undue influence on him to make the decision. That is alienation. Listen as your son expresses his feeling, leave yours out in regards to his father.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you for your reply! I've encouraged him to talk to his dad and tell him how he feels.
We are in a custody battle he filled a emergency motion for primary custody. I have been texting him every day to talk to my kids and he won’t reply or let me !! We have the motion hearing in Wednesday! What do you think about that? My kids haven’t been without me for more than 3 days .
MISS TEA, hopefully this can be brought up before the judge. Good luck.
What do you do if also the parent restricts visits in sneaky ways like being late or forgetting the time or scheduling at odd times to give a false sense of visiting niglect to the other parent
sonicmax, keep notes with times, write everything down, in front of them. Or speak into a recorder.
Evaluators for families who have suffered domestic abuse should be different than evaluators of the average angry divorce. It is detrimental to the entire situation when people like the two of you are charged to make decisions in dangerous situations. You're both completely oblivious to real life situations in a situation where the abuser is simply playing the courts for power and control. The judicial system has failed the real battered woman!!
Christina Adams, I am truly sorry that you have experienced abuse. Abuse in any form is not acceptable, and Sid and I would never condone it. The judicial system is flawed, unfortunately.
Christina Adams this is exactly what’s happening to me.
@Christina Adams you are allowing your own personal experiences to cloud your judgment. It is a statistical fact that women are four times more likely than men to commit domestic viølence, and they are an order of magnitude more likely to abüse children. It is very easy to *claim* that you are being abüsed, if we handled things the way that you are advocating for then we would have a system that would encourage people to lie in order to gain an advantage, and that is already something that we have a serious problem with in our system.
Kids need both parents if both parents aren’t toxic. No child should be exposed to a toxic mother or father. Period.
AprilMichelle, the safety of the child is what is important. Always.
Healthnut you have a point about narrascist I'm up against one I'm going through it now not honest ppl pathological liars I find it very tough to take hugs the court doesn't recognize character flaws It's incredible how they fall upper the radar with abuse and neglect if it's more emotional abuse hugs your not alone It's amazing how the real them comes out when u start fighting back and saying no.
Robyn Edward, thanks for your support of our community.
In other words, you are saying that a child needs to be abused. There's a problem with your mental health, guys. On the contrary, the child MUST be isolated from the abusive parent in order to preserve his life, mental and physical health. You do not even understand how dangerous, destructive for a child to communicate with parents who are narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths. Develop yourself, stop indulging in abusing children!
Ribka105, I am sorry you took it that way. Abusing children is never acceptable in any way. Please take a look around my channel and see that I am trying to help parents raise their children in a healthy, positive, loving environment.
I didn't travel to my sons father's city for the first visitation because I am not working and don't have money for the 2 $400-800/each round trip tickets. What can I do to protect myself when I see the judge a month from now? Any recommendations? Thank you 💛
I would have documentation to show that you cannot afford the tickets. If it is in the order, you may have to find a way to afford them. Explain what happened and be ready to work toward a solution, offer a few up.
Can you make a video about domestic violence ex with co parenting and long distance, he moved acrossed the country?
Will add it to the topic development list.
Do you need a degree to be a custody evaluator? I need to know! I 100% found my calling after just dealing with one. She was completely biased on mom's side. It's heartbreaking to watch good father's in pain!
Minnesota Liz, check in your state. States have different regulations. Good luck! Your passion will help many people.
Isn’t Parental Alienation a pretty aweful form of child abuse? We have therapists and lawyers telling us that the alienating parent needs to have supervised visits so if I suggest that in court does that end up looking like I want to alienate my kids from the other parent??
Question: My son n his dad live in different states. Our son lives with me and they have been talking on video chat for two years. The father records the video. The two party law exists in both states. He recently admitted to recording the videos even though I've told him that I will need consent to recording. I know I've been recorded at times just because I'm in the house along with my other kids.I wanted to stop the video chats and just have calls over the phone. I realize that would not be in my son's best interest. The father says he's moving back to our state. Should I ask the court to modify the plan for calls to no longer include video when the father lives back? How can I enforce my right to not be recorded?
Von, you could ask for the modification, I am not sure how you would enforce the no recording, speak to an expert who knows about that subject.
I’m dealing with someone that harbors all my past mistakes and failures . I understand she can not help the negative feelings she has towards me . I am a great father and I am being punished and kept from Their well being , I don’t want to drag this into court but that decision will be new to our children, for us the parents have experience from our previous marriages. She had full custody and I had joint but with the petitioner title on my behalf. I’m up against someone that delights herself by making me suffer . A good parent would not interfere with a child’s right to have both parents in their lives. Never give up is my new way of waving my banner of peace not war. The children are always the ones who suffer the most .
I wish you the best, my friend. I hope she can understand how this could be painful or made easier for the kids.
How do you solve non agreed vaccines for whats best of the child?
Louis Reyes, hot topic. If the parents can't decide together or compromise, then the issue can be taken before the judge.
Thanks
If you could tell me your opinion on my case. My daughter is 14 an her dad has always been able to see her when he anytime wants even tho he has court order every other weekend I let him have her all these years when ever he wants. Now he has slack off the past 2 years coming to get her. They both seemed ok with it. Then she made a couple of mistakes an he came to my home demanding she come with him an his sister came to sang on me in front of my kids an i filled a report with police. So he filled for cousty unsteady of trying to work it out as her parents he said he would fix our daughter. Now I just found out after that when he would pick her up he would talk bad about me and say things about me that I wasn't good enough mom and an how I live in housing and that she should live with him. he's been doing this for years now and she hated it him downing me to ger. cuz she never could or did say anything back she just had to listen to it. An he would be mentally abusive to her at times about herself and things like that and I didn't know this. I put her in counseling and I also go to counseling an treatment for opiate use have been for the past three years. my children never knew anything about my use. An I did tell them about it when I felt appropriate and that I go to counseling for it and treatment. My daughter also has talked to me an she may be bisexual and he just wants to say terrible things about that and I'm not for it either but I try to understand for her well being. So we had shared parenting and now he just wants to take her she doesn't want to go because of their relationship not being well and he says that I'm not discipline in her enough and I shouldn't let her Express her bisexuality I'd like to know your opinion on if I might lose her even though she doesn't want to go
thank you very much
Jake Rothwell, I hope you are able to work this out. At this age, your daughter should have a representative from the court who can express her wishes. She sounds like a smart kid who can tell what is going on. I would talk to her counselor about this also since I am not treating her, it is difficult to give advice on specifics.
@liveonpurposetv What do you think about this scenario: the child (8 years old ) goes on a two week summer vacation with her dad, she’s only been there 4 days and two of the evenings calls home crying because she thinks two weeks is to long, she misses mom and wants to come home..and her dad doesn’t do anything to comfort her at all and simply tells you that two weeks isn’t to long because he has a court paper that says he has two weeks every summer..And the child tells you that she/he cries herself to sleep every night and the same thing happened the year before as well?
Nina Thiermann, this is a situation where you have to get clear on what you control and what you don't. If you want to attempt a change in court, then you need to be documenting everything and probably will need to take your daughter for an evaluation. You could also work with your daughter to prepare her for the visits. You could give her a prepared letter for each day she is away and give her pictures and a journal where she can express her feelings if her dad isn't listening. Helping her to figure out how to do a hard thing could be a good life lesson.
Live On Purpose TV Thank you, I usually try to prepare her, but this time he announced his vacation only a week before so there really wasn’t a lot of time, which my lawyer said was not ok.
MadeintheImageofGod The first year she went on vacation alone with him she spent one week, came home for a while then one more week.
They thought that the next year she would be older and that two weeks would be ok..I may have to take it back to court, because she is very adamant that two weeks is to much, yet he claims that it isn’t because he has a court document that states that he has two weeks every summer..I can also add that in the beginning when we split, everytime she was going to her dad for a sleepover she cried hysterically and he literally had to pry her off of me because she didn’t want to let go of me, which is the reason why I got a lawyer in the first place, because I had to stop his time with her for a while in order to get her back to normal..He on the other hand said that it was normal behavior because she cried sometimes when I had to leave her in kindergarten. 😢
I wish all of this was true, then the courts would have granted my husband primary custody. We've gone through... alienation, non-cooperation, humiliation, coercion, false accusations in court (luckily, that went in our favor because we had all the evidence), but you name it and we went through it. We have all the proof of everything being false or being done towards us and my husband was still and is still being pushed aside. I guess it's just the luck that some might run into because we haven't had any except for catching her on perjury trying to get full custody by default claiming she couldn't find where the non-custodial parent was and we proved it to the magistrate and it went in our favor but that was the only thing we got.
I am sorry it hasn't worked out for you. Don't give up.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, you should see the file I have organized for my husband. He keeps trying with his daughter because his son is going on 19 but we've stopped going to court. I think that maybe the right legal representation would have helped in our situation. Sadly, his daughter has gone down a dark path and the mother just refuses to do something to help her. It's to the point that his daughter doesn't live with her mother, she lives with her grandmother. It's a sad and complicated situation but he still tries, even though we don't go through the courts anymore. It's bad because I see that he's just not getting anywhere with it. Thank you for your response though.
It should be whats in the best interests as a family as a whole unit.
Heather Ann, I agree, it would be nice if that were the goal.
If you are a divorced and have a child plan and other parent goes against the child plan is that does that matter in court? Can you do something about that?
Yes, Ricky Martin. You can always go back to court. Seek the advice of an attorney how to do it in your jurisdiction and what it will entail.
What do you do if the a parent is verbally abusive to the other parent in front of the child and does it very sneaky ways
sonicmax, ask if their intention was to (fill in the blank). They will back track and if not, it will be on the record.
Ok I’m not a mom but I’m a step mom, my husband has a visitation order from the judge. The mother was appointed the PRP or Primary Residential Parent. Since court ended she took their daughter and ran to Michigan to live with a registered sex offender and cut all communication for a year until her and the child got scabies from living in a Motel with said sex offender. She got kicked out and got back in contact with us. She gave him two weeks last november. It has been almost 7 months since then and she just got back in touch with us again three days ago. She has sent us pictures of the baby with bruising, black eyes, and “face infections”. Her reasons for keeping the baby from her father is because she is upset that he got married two years ago. Could you please give us some advice. We can’t file for a petition with out her address and she will not give it to us. Please any advice would do a great deal thank you
You could hire a PI to locate her and get the address, also seek the legal advice of someone who knows the laws of your state. I hope you have success.
What do you do when other parent is keeps ignoring your messages even with court parental app and not following court documents?
Gulvira T, that is something out of your control. Figure out what you control and focus on that.
So, do you guys have any advice for a mom in a situation where the X actually was physically abusive… Faked suicide all the time, and threatened to hurt the child when she was four months? I have two police report but I never charged him. He took off to another province and has paid me $200 a total of maybe three times since. It’s been 4 years. He never asks about her. I’ve heard he abused two other women and one of their children ... there may be charges there but I am not sure. Does he have a chance at getting custody? He also has a 10-year-old with another woman and he never sees or asks about. Apparently he lost custody of her for not showing up. I genuinely believe it would be dangerous for my daughter to get into his custody. I went to the courthouse and two different ladies that work there advised me not to do anything or he might have a chance at getting custody, but I worry if something happened to me she would go to him. I am at a loss as to what to do. A lawyer would be damn expensive, but doing it alone sounds scary. There’s also a possibility he might not show up anyway
Tryinnosaurus Rex, thanks for watching, I hope you found some value in the video. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice. Additionally, each jurisdiction and judge vary in their custody issues. The only 2 suggestions I can give are to keep relevant documents and records, and maybe watch more videos from the child custody playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd
Obtaining an attorney is a good idea, but yes, expensive; so you have to make that choice. Best wishes.
Hi, I had depression 2 years ago and got better when I went to work and haven’t taking meds.
Is possibility that my x can used it against me? Would affect my custody battle?
Same sucks no one replied
Kaya Long, he always can try, if you show that you took steps to take care of the problem, then you are showing the judge that you are responsible. Also, lots of parents who are depressed have children. It isn't uncommon. Talk to your attorney and come up with a plan.
How does exposing small children ages 1 and 2 to a paramour affect anything ???
Depends on the actions and words.
Ok what do you do when you already been to court and the child father has liberal visitation and the mother gets mad a year later and decide she don’t want you seeing the child
ataye1, unfortunately I cannot give specific legal advice. I recommend seeking an attorney's assistance. That being said, I have several videos on my child custody playlist that might be useful in regards to your mindset, attitude, and outlook: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd
Thank you for being here on the channel.
I was a victim to assault from the custodial parent to where the law was informed??she went to jail...what is going to happen on my end I only had supervised visitations and paying 740 a month for my only child...This is in the state of texas btw
Jay Myles, I am very sorry to hear of your situation. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice. I do have a child custody playlist, if you want more ideas on what you can do for yourself to help your case: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. For legal questions, you would need to speak to an attorney. Best wishes.
Please help me with my case my ex girlfriend is denying me the right to see my daughter and there is no actual visitation schedule or court set up except for childsupport court set etc..
Can she use owed childsupport of a small amount that can be paid any time to keep me from seeing my daughter??
Child support vs visitations.
Can I legally fight for my child visitation (schedule) without an attorney?
So how to fight for a visitation without a custody agreement
mendezed37, I do appreciate you watching, however I am unable to give specific legal advice. We have a child custody playlist for more general questions: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Otherwise, I encourage you to seek information and/or counsel in your jurisdiction. Best wishes.
What if the people in the house make it unsafe for the child like drinking and being mentally unstable ? Will they still grant joint custody? And also what if the father hasn’t come down for agreed visitation (without the courts) for months at a time . Will they take that into consideration of the child not knowing the father enough to go up there over night
Luna Cally, the courts try to encourage a relationship with both parents as it is best for the child. Now, this information should be presented to the judge and he will take it into consideration. Just because the court says that visits are granted doesn't mean a parent will take advantage.
Live On Purpose TV he refuses to come down to visit him at my house . He lives two hours away and I have a one year old . He said he wants to bring him up there or he’s not going to come see him . They also had bed bugs recently and there’s no say in if they have them or not . Cys was called on the house also last year due to the drinking . So what do you think the chances are that he will get most likely ? Visitation? Weekends ? One day a week ? With all that going on and a unstable environment for such a young child . I would like to think the judge will be smart and only grant visitation at my house like I have been offering the last year to him and his family .
@@mamacakes6296 The jurisdictions and judges vary so widely that unfortunately I do not know the answer to your question. I still recommend presenting all your information to the judge, and keep emotions out of it. Stay focused on what you believe is best for the child.
Live On Purpose TV yes that is true . I agree. I believe I am getting female judge and am hoping it works best in my favor lol thanks for responding
What I do? My mom's took temporary custody of me and my girlfriend kid after lying that my partner was suicidal and tried to kill kid. Hearing for protection order and temp custody are soon
Cody Stewart, good luck, I hope the truth prevails.
Can you please help, my ex wanna pay lobola (negotiations) to my child and take him to stay with him full time.. Can you please tell me the disadvantages of it , and if my child is not happy do I have a right to take him back ?
Enolia Ritabile, we cannot give you legal advice, you need to talk to someone who knows the laws where you live.
My Daughter was trying to call all the shots. We had to talk about that she is entitled to her feelings/opinions AND I don't get to make that call and we (Dad and I) would talk about it in court with a judge and all. We compared it to kids at her age. I said she would eat pastry strudels everyday if I never made her have oatmeal or granola. She said the "fine, I may not know everything". I said "you would play minecraft all day long and never do anything". She kinda nodded like "Okay, maybe" face. She says "Maybe half the kids in my class play FortNight all night long and do don't their homework bc their parents are too busy to spend time with them". These are married parents and the kid's are really just left to their own to video game all night long. This is Elementary School!!! I'm like why not just turn off the wifi? or unplug it? I was like "You know I know where the computer plugs in and the breaker box is right?". . . "Yeah, Mom, I know".
I love the communication you have going with your daughter, Elizabeth Becker. This will pay off ten-fold in the future you have with her. Awesome.
My daughter left her husband because of physical and mental abuse of the children. She tried several times to get him into counceling but he refused to go. He was charged and convected of child abuse. He continued to abuse during probation. She left him to protect the children. She's has had them for three years and the children are doing much better. Her husband has taken her to court to gain custody. He lied to the court about several things. One child even harmed herself before going to visitation and two times was admitted to the hospital mental ward for obversation. The hearing will be in a couple of months. The question is how does she prepare.
JOHN JONES, my heart goes out to your daughter and her children. I sincerely hope they can all stay safe. We have a child custody playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd, but beyond that I am unable to give specific legal advice. I hope she can find resources in her jurisdiction. Best wishes, and thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.
can a non custodial parent arbitrarily change visitation time at the last minute without giving child some notice and considering the child 's feelings?.. what can custidial parent do to protect the child in this example?
anne carroll, keep documentation. If it becomes a pattern there might be some recourse. Talk to an attorney who knows the laws where you live.
What if the father took the child across state lines with a 50/50 visitation joint custody and mom is in another county, father still hasnt returned the child and is still married to the mother
Kassie Bellinger, thank you for watching. Unfortunately, I am unable to answer detailed legal questions. Maybe some of my other videos from the Child Custody Playlist on ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd can help. Best wishes.
What if the child has never meet the bio mother and he's autistic and has a family structure a safe place and the bio has been in and out of jail and in rehab at the moment but has not been there emotionally , can she loose sole custody ? Can step mom adop with out her consent if bio has been absent for 5 1/2 years
Eugenia Mandujano, there is a whole process to having a parent's rights taken away. There is a court hearing and judgment rendered. It isn't easy or quick to go through. Get the advice of a lawyer who is knowledgeable of the laws in your area.
what if one parent is aleinating themselves by chouce as in they are choosing to not be a part of the childs life even if the other parent tries to get that pare t to participate?
hawkeye harley, thank you for watching. Please remember: we need to get clear on what we control and what we don't. You may want to try writing down what you control and what you'll find is that you don't control the actions of the other person. We can invite and persuade, but we can't force. Always focus on your actions and your child. If you believe there is an unmet need, find a way to meet it without the other parent if they are not willing.
What if your child has an disorder that the father doesn't believe he has. Even when you have paperwork from a doctor and the father still does not believe it. My son keeps telling his father he doesn't understand some things that his father is saying to him and making him do. He says his father will fuss and argue with him and lecture him. The doctor says my son has anxiety disorder ADHD and OCD his father does not believe any of this. So what do I do in a situation like this?
Could you get a psychologist or doctor to explain things to your husband? Sometimes they will listen if an "expert" is talking.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV hi thank you for replying to me I really appreciate this. I'm sorry that I was not more pacific. I was never married to my son's father and as of 2017 we now have joint legal custody together and and I have primary physical custody. His father kicked us out shortly after our son was born. So I moved on and try my very best to take care of our son and I achieved just that. After his son started getting older he started saying he's starting to look like me so I want to have a test done to see if he is really mine. So long story short he's been in and out of jail he used to physically and mentally abused me and that's why I stayed going after he kicked us out. He got arrested for harassing me twice. The second time he was charged with aggravated stalking but then later on he got off because it was just a phone call that he made after he got out of jail. I know and I'm long-winded but I have been battling this with him for 11 years. What resulted from the arrest was the defense attorney said that he would help him get his son legitimize at the time I could not afford an attorney so I didn't know I should have brought up the abuse that he inflicted on me. So now what he was doing to me he is now doing to our son not the physical abuse but the mental abuse. My son's therapist called defects on my son's father for spanking him because at the time he had a diagnosis of autism. Shortly after leaving Court of having to get another restraining order against him he got a DUI. My son's therapist asked me if I'm going to go get an attorney because my son is still telling her things that his dad is saying to him. I just want the best for my son. Thanks again for your time.
Do you think it’s helpful or necessary for one parent to encourage or plan / facilitate outings with/ for the other parent who is nonchalant?
Good question, blank blank. I am not sure the other parent would follow through on the activities and that might bring more disappointment for the child. Be receptive and encouraging. Thanks.
I am the grandmother. How do you get a child advocate assigned to represent the children?
lzzysmom, it differs from state to state. Call the court or ask your lawyer.
Im kind of lost in my partners situation. Their childs mother does not want him in the picture because he cannot stay consistent. The courts are not involved. She has taken away his visitation because he does not want to make a schedule with her. It is his issue as well as hers, not mine. But how do i be the supportive partner while he his inconsistent with his child, while his child's mother takes away his visitation? Im very worried. Their son is 3 now. She seems to blame me for his reasoning why he can't make a 3 day a week schedule. Any advice for me?
Annie m encourage him to be consistent and are you interfering with him be inconsistent
Annie m, I am not sure why he doesn't make a schedule??? Does his work schedule change weekly/ Maybe when he gets his schedule they can agree for the week. If he has a set schedule I am at a loss why he doesn't make himself available. Get clear on what you control and what you don't. Let them work this out.