My husband did everything you listed here…but still lost custody. The mother knew how to manipulate. Even had the child with us 5 days a week until the mother saw the child having a good relationship with us. Then it all went upside down. Child is an adult now. Just wanted to tell our story. Left a lot out cause I could write a book. Never give up Dads!!
So heartbreaking! Unfortunately, "justice" isn't always "fair." It breaks my heart when dads do everything they're supposed to do, only to have the courthouse door slammed in their face.
Two wins to help you Matthew. My Brother received custody for my nieces and my Nephew received custody of his son. All of the children are grown now. They were all allowed to keep in contact with their Mothers when it was safe for them to do so.
Wow Hitting close to home here. My son and his daughter are living with us right now and we are going through this process. The mother is a heavy drinking party girl. A couple of months ago she got a drunk driving and she works part time at a liquor store. I could go on but there’s no need. We are not at the custody hearing part yet, still waiting for a hearing date, but are confident my son will prevail.
Wow! So sad when a parent puts their own needs before the needs of their child. Hopefully your attorney has you collecting all of the necessary evidence so you'll emerge successful!
It's horrible how there's always this attack on mother's when a case like this is mentioned. Don't stereotype mothers, don't discriminate against them and use prejudice towards them because of those who are unfit mothers and don't be so bias that you generalise all women with nonsense like this! ITS NOT ONE SIZE FITS ALL!!! AND ALL PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT IN ALL CASES, YOU CAN'T TAKE SOMEONE ELSE'S CASE AND GO, "OH BECAUSE THEY WERE LIKE THIS, AND A WAS LIKE THIS WITH B, SO C AND D FROM A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT CASE ARE AND MUST BE EXACTLY THE SAME!!!!" THAT'S LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE BECAUSE NO TWO PEOPLE ARE THE SAME, EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE!!! SO THERES A CONFLICT OF INTEREST ALREADY, PREJUDICE AND BIAS TOWARDS MOTHERS WITH WHATS BEING SAID IN THE COMMENT SECTION HERE!!! AND CLEARLY THATS WHAT THE VIDEO IS ABOUT TO SLANDER ALL MOTHERS, THIS IS WHAT MALPRACTICE AND NOT FOLLOWING DUE PROCESS LOOKS LIKE!!! AND SO MANY OTHER THINGS WRONG WITH IT ALL! ALSO ITS EVERYONE'S HUMAN RIGHT, TO HAVE A PROPER, JUST AND FAIR TRIAL WHEN IT COMES TO IT REGARDING ANYTHING, IN A COURT OF LAW!!! ANYTHING ELSE IS ILLEGAL AND A CRIME!!!!! ALSO THERE ARE MEN WHO BRIBE SUCH CORRUPT COURT OFFICIALS IN CASES LIKE THIS AND GET THEM IN THEIR POCKET WITH DIRTY BRIBES! WHILE SUCH CORRUPT COURTS ENABLE UNFIT FATHERS, THAT ARE SEX PREDATORS, DANGEROUS AND VIOLENT AND VERY CONTROLLING TO ALIENATE THE CHILD FROM THEIR MOTHER AND HOLD THAT CHILD AGAINST THEIR WANTS AND WISHES!!! WHILE COURTS OF NO EQUITY AND JUSTICE ENABLE SUCH DANGEROUS UNHINGED DADS! THEY MAKE THE LAW VOID!!!!!
@ well, looks like you found me. This unhinged screed of yours proves my point. You’re just a foul tempered drunk. Oh, and let’s not forget the pot, right dopey. You are absolutely a poster board for an unfit mother. Keep typing in caps I know firsthand that yelling is therapy for you. Psychopath!
It’s great hearing this. Going through it now and my attorney thinks I have a good choice at having custody of my son. My ex isn’t a horrible person. But she’s tryna get me to pay a lot in child support, when I’m present and my child is with me 3 to4 days out the week. Every week. I have a stable job. She doesn’t. I have stable income. Hers varies. I have a stable home for years. She’s moved in with different men 2 different times. My attorney thinks I can get custody of him. And she visits. Ima try it. Pray for me
How much time in front of the judge did he give you to explain My ex is toxic tried to take my house and keep my kids from me for child support but I still haven’t had much time to speak
@@NBAfast-breakPODCAST man, we had two separate court hearings (3 hours each), plus my son had about an hour conversation with the judge in between both hearings. Every piece of evidence I provided was used. Everything she had was used as well. It was very thorough.
The law should simply be shared custody, unless one parent is a criminal, a drug addict, or some other serious problem based on police records and legal records.
No, mother deserves full custody if not married! If married then yes a shared custody! How can you people forget that a mother suffered to give birth to your children!🙄
@@ButterflyArmy-23A You have silly thinking. Don't deny the father. 3,000,000,000 women on our planet will give birth. You want this special treatment for all of them? Silly. Foolish. Low IQ.
@@ButterflyArmy-23A your body your choice. The kid is made from two people. Before you ever even get pregnant, what makes you pregnant is another humans dna. That other human should have rights. Period. The mindset you have is terrible for a child to be brought up in.
They tell you fathers can win some custody, but I'm here to tell you they will just take as much of your money as they can and then say something like: "Justice aint always fair..." Yet the bill still comes every month! Don't trust people that sell hope and deliver pain.
@@ifgstop5630one option might be to push for supervised visitation. While expensive, you'll get some time with your child(ren), and the supervisor will provide unbiased records of the interactions. Those records are then sent to lawyers, who can share with you.
I am faced with this sort of dilemma on a daily basis. Very often, the Father doesn't realize how many rights he has under the Court Order in place. Most likely, you still maintain the right to confer with teachers and access to school records. Even when the Mother has the complete ability to make decisions regarding education, the Father still has the right to be involved and make his wishes known. Even if the final decision comes down to what the Mother wants, don't forget that the teachers, counselors, and principals are still people to. If you approach them with genuine interest in wanting to make sure that your child's best interest is taken care of, then they will want you to be a part of the process and will factor your desires into their decision making process. Keep your head up and never stop being involved. If I could instill just ONE lesson to all of the Fathers out there, that would be the lesson.
I think the idea is that you should have been doing these things all along (ie. prior to the divorce). The courts are going to give a lot of weight to the parent who was the primary carer during the marriage, not just who wants to be that now.
@@Tim85-y2q Bingo. You can't just claim to be an involved parent now that you are under scrutiny. Any lowlife can make things look a certain way to the court to try and get more parenting time, when they otherwise wouldn't have cared. That's also a form of manipulation. Abusers do this shit all the time...They will have no qualms with the other party doing all the parental heavy lifting, and will spend minimal time with the kids or contributing to raising them. But then as soon as the victim decides to get out of the relationship/divorce, the abuser will fight for custodial time that they don't even value and never had before.
Thank you! It is an honor and a privilege to educate. 😁 Be sure to SHARE this video with others in your circle so we can educate as many people as possible!
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC your part about the text messages were really good, and a recent reminder of somewhere I could have done better. All this Court process and fatherhood is really an opportunity for growth. I made a bulleted list from your content as a tool for reminder and to check in with self. Dads who are going through this process need and want to grow need reminders like in your content. Men may not share content, here's my story: Early in the process, I shared a post on "signs of alienation for Dad's," which really has good tips, and it was attacked by a flying monkey. So I personally, (I don't know men in general) may be less likely to share posts on this content (especially while they are going through the process) because it could come up in Court as skewed or manipulated, but I do watch and like it and comment. Men going through this process really have to tap deep, go inside, take accountability, improve themselves and ideally have a good therapist and trusted friends and family. Thank you for your content.
This is all wonderful advice that I agree with full heartedly, but what about in cases where almost all of this is honestly being followed through with, but the court isn’t budging? The custody battle seems to be going no where but the other parents favor, despite all evidence and peace keeping trying to be kept. It’s hard to find information on what else could be done to help the case and the truth be brought to light.
Im going through this now with a narcissist mother. Ive had 50/50 custody and I had my son full time for the last two months because he refused to go back to his mothers because of the way he was treated there. I just went to court for temp orders and the judge didnt allow any evidence againt the mother, he let her get on the stand and make false allegations and then refused to let my attorney cross examine. This Texas court system is absoulty rediculous. Its time we get an organization together for Fathers fighting to be fathers and I mean now!!
At least in the state of New Jersey, my father was able to gain full custody of me back in ‘98-‘99. He initiated the filings for divorce. I wish I can pinpoint the exact reason why he did so, but he was caring for me, my half brother (her first child born to a different father), and herself. He worked to pay all the bills, he did almost all of the cooking, he paid for all of my stuff. My mother never spent a dime on me. Was a feminist and atheist to boot who had low tolerance for me and would verbally abuse me. I’m thirty five now, but suffered with dating and bonding with women for a while because of my mother’s verbal abuse and shyness to show affection.
Problem is states are using Tittle 4D as a means to generate money. Disregarding father’s rights altogether. Parents should have the right to 50/50 Parenting Time Legislation free from financial help, from the start.
What happens When your Grandchild's Mother won't let you or your Son speak to the child.... We just found out about My Grandson in March of this year... Hes's 4 .. Thanks for any and all recommendations Thanks in Advance
Oh my goodness. My heart breaks for you and your family! I'm not sure what state you're in, or what your state's laws are for grandparents rights, but here in Texas grandparents have very few rights to visitation with the child. I suggest that your son immediately get a family law attorney to file suit for visitation with the child. He also needs to immediately start paying child support or else he could be facing a rather large arrearage. Unfortunately, there's very little that can be done to force visitation without a court order.
Em about to start this court process on the 30th for my little girl I miss her and I will not give up kuz I know she’s suffering rn her mom is a narcissist and haven’t seen her for 3pkus months kuz I couldn’t take her moms disrespect no more I tried but no more so she put a restraining order making it harder to get to my child but em coming I been a father since 14 I know what it is
four years ago my child mom fight me and put a gun to my head in the front front of our daughter. Can I use this as evidence now or will it not be submissible in the courts in Florida today?
I have video of my sons mother freaking out and walking out, she clearly says in the video “F it you can have him, I don’t want him anyways” … our son heard that… and now she’s trying to say she only said that out of anger. But there’s more - she has threatened suicide ON VIDEO. Yes I started recording during our verbal exchange. Would this help my case? Really would appreciate the feedback. I have taken my attorneys advice and I’ve been trying to be super dad in his mother’s absence. The same night she left she assaulted me, which is on a police report. Edit: She has been going to his school every week and bringing him happy meals from McDonalds and taking a selfie with him, but not staying to have lunch with him. I know this thanks to the schools counselors. I believe she is doing this as a photo-op type of tactic to make herself look involved in his life. She has come to our home a few times to visit, but refuses to come inside. She tries to demand that she sees him outside, and that we stay inside. I believe she wants to snatch him up and take off with him. So we haven’t been letting him go outside with her. Are my odds of winning this battle good, or does any of this information not matter to the judge? I would think my chances of winning are pretty damn good considering the judge is supposed to take the child’s best interest into mind… and I don’t see how her having custody could be in his best interest if she is talking suicidal all the time.. It should also be noted that when our child was born the nursing staff called CPS on her because they were and I quote this directly from their records which I have turned over to my attorney “worried about her cognitive ability to care for a child” - and my attorney contacted her attorney and told me that they are trying to say I have domestic violence issues, however she assaulted me… and never complained about anything or filed anything me while we were together. My attorney is telling me this could just all be hearsay and lies from her in a desperate attempt to make her case look better
Wow but no. Until the money is taken out of the court system, its going to continue. I fought against two moms, both stole the cs, cost me thousands. Better to not have kids, until laws are changed
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Unfortunately, even though I was fully involved with my children, my wife enrolled them in schools without asking me about the schools. She put them in church activities even though I was against the church in question. She is the one to take them to the doctors because I am working to pay the household bills. I could do all of that, but now what do I do? Also, she feeds them crap and does not take good care of her. My youngest daughter's hair is constantly in knots. She is also nearly 6 and my wife simply won't give her a haircut. She has never had a single haircut.
What about a mother who is manipulative, extremely stubborn and will disregard anything you say and laugh at you, extremely paranoid and left your dad because she feels he didn’t support her even though he tried, and gilt trips you because her broken family? I’m right now in a 50-50 with my mom and dad, me and my sister want 100% with dad but don’t know how to properly go about it because I doubt my mom will agree let alone not guilt trip me, my mom was so terrible that she gilt tripped my 9 yo sister into saying she didn’t love my dad just to make mom love her 💔😞 plz help Also if you’re 15 yo, even if your mom has automatic custody can you choose who you live with? Or are you forced to live with her
This just breaks my heart! No parent should ever put their child in such circumstances. Unfortunately, not all parents are good people. Simply bringing a life into this world doesn't automatically make someone upstanding, moral, or good-hearted. It's helpful for you to know now that your parents aren't perfect and that they're going to make mistakes. I'm not sure what state you're in, but in Texas, when the child is 12+ years old, then they can tell the Judge which parent they want to live with. The Judge isn't required to follow it (for example if Dad was in a halfway house and child wanted to live with Dad) but it is a factor that weighs pretty heavily. Good parents don't approach their children and ask them to choose, but in my experience, children who have a preference will often make it known. If your Mother is being manipulative, and sending you on guilt trips, then that is a form of emotional abuse. Unfortunately, this is something that you're going to deal with your entire life since she'll always be your mother and these issues won't ever simply go away. I recommend you reading a book called Boundaries (by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend). It will help you to establish some of those emotional boundaries for your Mother. Next, if you're going through these emotional struggles, then you should ask each of your parents to get you into counseling as your counselor can also help give you some tools to combat this emotional abuse. Also, in case a Court fight is ever necessary, your conversations with the Counselor can be helpful in documenting the effect that any emotional abuse has had on you. I pray the best for you and your family. I hope that you can find a grain of comfort in the novel I just realized that I wrote. lol.
What if my babies father took her for the night and didnt return her? He than put a intervention order against me not my child for defending myself in February when he grabbed my arm and pulled me down stairs Also he has strangled me and i have a witness for this Thank you
Son lived with me for the last three years while his mother was arrested for meth and worse drugs I Proved her still on drugs failed her drug test gal said he should be put back in my custody now two months later got a court date after they said she shouod have the child till then because she stole my son from the school and yet he tells me everytike i get him he wants to come home momey doesnt have clothes for me but ive been forced to pay child support since the court date so she can buy drugs not for our son been same job 7 years make good money coach gis baseball team etc the system is against us
@andrewmcclellan8808 my boyfriend is going through a very similarities only while she had him she lost it and beat the trap out of him. Dad filed charges, got Cps involved but they gave him back and criminal case is still being investigated! I don't understand how the system can alienate dad's to the detriment of the child.
This is what I'm going through currently almost made me cry got court in 2 days wish me luck the sheriff filed a complaint against them today failure to o follow court order@@nebiolinimm1160
What happens when the mother’s an attorney and friends with judges in the courthouse what happens then the mothers withholding access to the father? She doesn’t let the children speak to the father. The children absolutely adore the father. The father wants children’s lawyer. The mother is totally against it because she knows the children will speak the truth. It’s a nightmare in Stanley Mosk Court
Instead of "bashing", what if legitimate facts like weaponization of child through medical system, for example, are announced to bring awareness to the judge? I think any fair and decent human being would want to know something negatively affecting the child so they can determine what's in the best interest of the child, right? Just want to bounce that off you since you mentioned the angle would be to show how good you are as a father.
This doesn't work when the child has become victim of alienation. Not all fathers even have the rights that this video ASSUMES they do. You can't prove you are the best fit for the child when they've essentially been kidnapped and no law enforcement organization would enforce those orders.
I’m sorry to tell it to you but the way he speaking is if you already have custody of your children so I’m trying to figure out what is this video for 🤦🏾♂️
Im about to go thru this bullshit but I dont have money for a lawyer.. this is crazy that they can file just because they want to.. It should be for Dead beats not for actual fathers.,. Im not very hopeful to be honest... Yet im the one that is going to have explain to my child that things are probably going to change... She won't.. Women do what they think is best for them not whats best the children smh
I have a problem with this video right off the start so I'm not going to watch it. Please stop suggesting that either parent should "win" custody. The children should win every time. So if you're a dad watching this, your focus is on the wrong thing. Focus on the well-being of your children and allowing them to thrive. If you're out to win against their mother, you will hurt them in the process. Secondly, be the co-parent you need her to be toward you. Don't withhold information or keep secrets; that harmful behavior but she's is doing that to you.....that's harmful behavior and that can be used in court to show that Mom is not allowing the children to thrive by withholding information from you that you need to be an effective father. Again, focus on getting your children set up for success, not winning.
That's a shame you couldn't look past the clickable title to see the substance. The entire focus of the video is about NOT slinging mud and about the "best interest of the child." I also don't like phrasing it as "winning" the custody battle, but sometimes you have to phrase it in such a way that the right people hear the message that needs to be shared. 😉
Sorry but this is false information. I lost custody because I was educated in the British system and couldn’t accurately explain the American grade system. Also was punished harshly for using my va loan to buy a home after the previous judge allowed it. Was then hit with alimony and child support that surpassed 60% of my income all while she didn’t have to show her income which she was allowed to vaguely explain to the judge. Then the judge cut my lawyer off when he was trying to question. Maybe the judges are honest in your state but not in Miami dade
I’m sure this man is more than qualified however please don’t walk into the courtroom with that kind of confidence unless you have a substantial funds to invest in the case
I think you need to be more honest if you are going to make a video like this. Gender is a HUGE factor in custody. Is it the only factor? No. But it's probably the most important one. BTW I prevailed in a contested custody case, so I speak from experience.
Way to go! As to gender, did you know that it is actually illegal for the Court to consider gender or marital status when determining custody in Texas? (Tex. Fam. Code § 153.003)
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC As I'm sure you already know, no one cares about laws like this. In MA, there are Judges that have been sitting on the bench for decades that have NEVER ruled in favor of a Dad in a contested case. That's provably discriminatory by any reasonable standard, and yet it continues. My understanding from looking at cases from the past 14 years is that TX is slightly better but not great for Dads.
You are right. I won twice with solid proof that my children's mom has been abusive towards them, calls them bad names, etc. Now, after her dad hired a lawyer, here I am going back to court because the court decided to reopen the case.
@AaronReactivated my second case, I hired an attorney because I ran into a racist judge, Karen who would listen to nobody other than the mom. It cost me around 14k she came in half way of the whole process that is why it was less. It's all business with the court, not the children.
Well I can't answer all those questions since my baby moma told mine was dead an disappeared 4to5yrs an all the sudden she told me I have a child . She threatened me of not seeing child an ghost me. While she not working as I'm been doing all the work. While she post videos and stuff she ain't supposed to be doing. She lack of a mother by not showing she's trying. I love her but there is a limit I'll stop helping
They're a good Fathers like myself that do all that but you saying it... Boy you spit it out so easy just like pouring water out of a bottle... Like I said you don't know what you're talking about keep pouring... Do you you just don't know what's going on.
I DON'T BELIEVE A FATHER SHOULD EVER TAKE A CHILD FROM ITS MOTHER UNLESS THAT MOTHER ON DRUGS OR SOMETHING ELSE BAD, THE SLAVE OWNER WOULD TAKE CHILDREN AWAY FROM THERE MOTHERS. HOW DIFFERENT IS THAT OF A FATHER. NOW I CAN SEE IF SOMETHING BAD,
At first I read this as: Men, don't give up they run out of money Then I realized what you really meant. You're right. Sometimes there aren't financial resources for the fight.
Oh, but it isn't. I've probably won custody when representing the Father in greater percentages (8/10) than when representing the Mother (7/10) in contested cases.
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I just won sole custody lets gooo Dads
Way to go!!!!
Congrats!
@DanPark68 yeah cause you did fight for custody most Men don't do that
@@DanPark68 she must have really messed up or didn’t want them.
@@redpillarmy7114 both which is sad
My husband did everything you listed here…but still lost custody. The mother knew how to manipulate. Even had the child with us 5 days a week until the mother saw the child having a good relationship with us. Then it all went upside down.
Child is an adult now. Just wanted to tell our story. Left a lot out cause I could write a book. Never give up Dads!!
So heartbreaking! Unfortunately, "justice" isn't always "fair." It breaks my heart when dads do everything they're supposed to do, only to have the courthouse door slammed in their face.
Two wins to help you Matthew. My Brother received custody for my nieces and my Nephew received custody of his son. All of the children are grown now. They were all allowed to keep in contact with their Mothers when it was safe for them to do so.
@WallFlower852 so he didn't get to see his daughter til she was grown ?
Same thing happening to me
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC there day is coming, and to those that help out on this crime. 🙏🏿 for you all!!!
Wow
Hitting close to home here.
My son and his daughter are living with us right now and we are going through this process. The mother is a heavy drinking party girl. A couple of months ago she got a drunk driving and she works part time at a liquor store. I could go on but there’s no need. We are not at the custody hearing part yet, still waiting for a hearing date, but are confident my son will prevail.
Wow! So sad when a parent puts their own needs before the needs of their child. Hopefully your attorney has you collecting all of the necessary evidence so you'll emerge successful!
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLCYes. There’s a large journal/log of all communications and activities. He’s covered.
It's horrible how there's always this attack on mother's when a case like this is mentioned. Don't stereotype mothers, don't discriminate against them and use prejudice towards them because of those who are unfit mothers and don't be so bias that you generalise all women with nonsense like this! ITS NOT ONE SIZE FITS ALL!!! AND ALL PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT IN ALL CASES, YOU CAN'T TAKE SOMEONE ELSE'S CASE AND GO, "OH BECAUSE THEY WERE LIKE THIS, AND A WAS LIKE THIS WITH B, SO C AND D FROM A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT CASE ARE AND MUST BE EXACTLY THE SAME!!!!" THAT'S LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE BECAUSE NO TWO PEOPLE ARE THE SAME, EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE!!! SO THERES A CONFLICT OF INTEREST ALREADY, PREJUDICE AND BIAS TOWARDS MOTHERS WITH WHATS BEING SAID IN THE COMMENT SECTION HERE!!! AND CLEARLY THATS WHAT THE VIDEO IS ABOUT TO SLANDER ALL MOTHERS, THIS IS WHAT MALPRACTICE AND NOT FOLLOWING DUE PROCESS LOOKS LIKE!!! AND SO MANY OTHER THINGS WRONG WITH IT ALL! ALSO ITS EVERYONE'S HUMAN RIGHT, TO HAVE A PROPER, JUST AND FAIR TRIAL WHEN IT COMES TO IT REGARDING ANYTHING, IN A COURT OF LAW!!! ANYTHING ELSE IS ILLEGAL AND A CRIME!!!!! ALSO THERE ARE MEN WHO BRIBE SUCH CORRUPT COURT OFFICIALS IN CASES LIKE THIS AND GET THEM IN THEIR POCKET WITH DIRTY BRIBES! WHILE SUCH CORRUPT COURTS ENABLE UNFIT FATHERS, THAT ARE SEX PREDATORS, DANGEROUS AND VIOLENT AND VERY CONTROLLING TO ALIENATE THE CHILD FROM THEIR MOTHER AND HOLD THAT CHILD AGAINST THEIR WANTS AND WISHES!!! WHILE COURTS OF NO EQUITY AND JUSTICE ENABLE SUCH DANGEROUS UNHINGED DADS! THEY MAKE THE LAW VOID!!!!!
@ well, looks like you found me.
This unhinged screed of yours proves my point. You’re just a foul tempered drunk. Oh, and let’s not forget the pot, right dopey.
You are absolutely a poster board for an unfit mother.
Keep typing in caps I know firsthand that yelling is therapy for you. Psychopath!
I got custody of my son three months ago. It’s attainable. Fight the good fight, brothers.
Way to go! ❤
It’s great hearing this. Going through it now and my attorney thinks I have a good choice at having custody of my son. My ex isn’t a horrible person. But she’s tryna get me to pay a lot in child support, when I’m present and my child is with me 3 to4 days out the week. Every week. I have a stable job. She doesn’t. I have stable income. Hers varies. I have a stable home for years. She’s moved in with different men 2 different times. My attorney thinks I can get custody of him. And she visits. Ima try it. Pray for me
@j.rivera6402 my ex had not tried see his son since age 6 my son is 20 now 14 yrs not saw his daddy
How much time in front of the judge did he give you to explain
My ex is toxic tried to take my house and keep my kids from me for child support but I still haven’t had much time to speak
@@NBAfast-breakPODCAST man, we had two separate court hearings (3 hours each), plus my son had about an hour conversation with the judge in between both hearings. Every piece of evidence I provided was used. Everything she had was used as well. It was very thorough.
The law should simply be shared custody, unless one parent is a criminal, a drug addict, or some other serious problem based on police records and legal records.
@sianefer-ptah1258 This. There's a lot of reasons 50/50 doesn't always work best for the child(ren).
No, mother deserves full custody if not married! If married then yes a shared custody! How can you people forget that a mother suffered to give birth to your children!🙄
@@ButterflyArmy-23A You have silly thinking. Don't deny the father. 3,000,000,000 women on our planet will give birth. You want this special treatment for all of them? Silly. Foolish. Low IQ.
So by your logic a dad isn't as important as a mom, got it.@butterflyarmy2859
@@ButterflyArmy-23A your body your choice. The kid is made from two people. Before you ever even get pregnant, what makes you pregnant is another humans dna. That other human should have rights. Period. The mindset you have is terrible for a child to be brought up in.
They tell you fathers can win some custody, but I'm here to tell you they will just take as much of your money as they can and then say something like: "Justice aint always fair..." Yet the bill still comes every month! Don't trust people that sell hope and deliver pain.
@@ironwillie7666 weirdo comment
@@ColinSmithsonianson nice insult comment
Yeah but how would you do that when the other parent is alienating the child from the other parent?
@@ifgstop5630one option might be to push for supervised visitation. While expensive, you'll get some time with your child(ren), and the supervisor will provide unbiased records of the interactions. Those records are then sent to lawyers, who can share with you.
I think the idea is that you have to have been doing those things prior to the divorce.
How do you prove this when the parent takes the children away because they are the primary carer and wont allow you to be envolved in the schooling?
I am faced with this sort of dilemma on a daily basis. Very often, the Father doesn't realize how many rights he has under the Court Order in place. Most likely, you still maintain the right to confer with teachers and access to school records. Even when the Mother has the complete ability to make decisions regarding education, the Father still has the right to be involved and make his wishes known.
Even if the final decision comes down to what the Mother wants, don't forget that the teachers, counselors, and principals are still people to. If you approach them with genuine interest in wanting to make sure that your child's best interest is taken care of, then they will want you to be a part of the process and will factor your desires into their decision making process.
Keep your head up and never stop being involved. If I could instill just ONE lesson to all of the Fathers out there, that would be the lesson.
I think the idea is that you should have been doing these things all along (ie. prior to the divorce). The courts are going to give a lot of weight to the parent who was the primary carer during the marriage, not just who wants to be that now.
@@Tim85-y2q Bingo. You can't just claim to be an involved parent now that you are under scrutiny. Any lowlife can make things look a certain way to the court to try and get more parenting time, when they otherwise wouldn't have cared. That's also a form of manipulation. Abusers do this shit all the time...They will have no qualms with the other party doing all the parental heavy lifting, and will spend minimal time with the kids or contributing to raising them. But then as soon as the victim decides to get out of the relationship/divorce, the abuser will fight for custodial time that they don't even value and never had before.
This video helped me a lot. Thanks man
This makes it all worthwhile to me.
This is great advice, thank you.
Thank you! It is an honor and a privilege to educate. 😁 Be sure to SHARE this video with others in your circle so we can educate as many people as possible!
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC your part about the text messages were really good, and a recent reminder of somewhere I could have done better. All this Court process and fatherhood is really an opportunity for growth. I made a bulleted list from your content as a tool for reminder and to check in with self. Dads who are going through this process need and want to grow need reminders like in your content.
Men may not share content, here's my story: Early in the process, I shared a post on "signs of alienation for Dad's," which really has good tips, and it was attacked by a flying monkey. So I personally, (I don't know men in general) may be less likely to share posts on this content (especially while they are going through the process) because it could come up in Court as skewed or manipulated, but I do watch and like it and comment. Men going through this process really have to tap deep, go inside, take accountability, improve themselves and ideally have a good therapist and trusted friends and family.
Thank you for your content.
😂 I'd be nice if mothers would follow these tips !!
agreed! All parents need to work together for the benefit of the children.
Great tips for both sides! Ty for posting this useful video. I am looking forward to watching more.
Thank you! It is an honor and a privilege to educate. 😁
This is all wonderful advice that I agree with full heartedly, but what about in cases where almost all of this is honestly being followed through with, but the court isn’t budging? The custody battle seems to be going no where but the other parents favor, despite all evidence and peace keeping trying to be kept. It’s hard to find information on what else could be done to help the case and the truth be brought to light.
Outstanding video! Thank you!
Thank you! ♥
Im going through this now with a narcissist mother. Ive had 50/50 custody and I had my son full time for the last two months because he refused to go back to his mothers because of the way he was treated there. I just went to court for temp orders and the judge didnt allow any evidence againt the mother, he let her get on the stand and make false allegations and then refused to let my attorney cross examine. This Texas court system is absoulty rediculous. Its time we get an organization together for Fathers fighting to be fathers and I mean now!!
What if the guardian doesn’t give me any of that info
Fathers are good parents, too!
At least in the state of New Jersey, my father was able to gain full custody of me back in ‘98-‘99. He initiated the filings for divorce. I wish I can pinpoint the exact reason why he did so, but he was caring for me, my half brother (her first child born to a different father), and herself. He worked to pay all the bills, he did almost all of the cooking, he paid for all of my stuff. My mother never spent a dime on me. Was a feminist and atheist to boot who had low tolerance for me and would verbally abuse me. I’m thirty five now, but suffered with dating and bonding with women for a while because of my mother’s verbal abuse and shyness to show affection.
Problem is states are using Tittle 4D as a means to generate money. Disregarding father’s rights altogether. Parents should have the right to 50/50 Parenting Time Legislation free from financial help, from the start.
What happens When your Grandchild's Mother won't let you or your Son speak to the child.... We just found out about My Grandson in March of this year... Hes's 4 .. Thanks for any and all recommendations Thanks in Advance
Oh my goodness. My heart breaks for you and your family!
I'm not sure what state you're in, or what your state's laws are for grandparents rights, but here in Texas grandparents have very few rights to visitation with the child.
I suggest that your son immediately get a family law attorney to file suit for visitation with the child. He also needs to immediately start paying child support or else he could be facing a rather large arrearage.
Unfortunately, there's very little that can be done to force visitation without a court order.
Em about to start this court process on the 30th for my little girl I miss her and I will not give up kuz I know she’s suffering rn her mom is a narcissist and haven’t seen her for 3pkus months kuz I couldn’t take her moms disrespect no more I tried but no more so she put a restraining order making it harder to get to my child but em coming I been a father since 14 I know what it is
four years ago my child mom fight me and put a gun to my head in the front front of our daughter. Can I use this as evidence now or will it not be submissible in the courts in Florida today?
I have video of my sons mother freaking out and walking out, she clearly says in the video “F it you can have him, I don’t want him anyways” … our son heard that… and now she’s trying to say she only said that out of anger. But there’s more - she has threatened suicide ON VIDEO. Yes I started recording during our verbal exchange. Would this help my case? Really would appreciate the feedback. I have taken my attorneys advice and I’ve been trying to be super dad in his mother’s absence. The same night she left she assaulted me, which is on a police report.
Edit: She has been going to his school every week and bringing him happy meals from McDonalds and taking a selfie with him, but not staying to have lunch with him. I know this thanks to the schools counselors. I believe she is doing this as a photo-op type of tactic to make herself look involved in his life. She has come to our home a few times to visit, but refuses to come inside. She tries to demand that she sees him outside, and that we stay inside. I believe she wants to snatch him up and take off with him. So we haven’t been letting him go outside with her.
Are my odds of winning this battle good, or does any of this information not matter to the judge? I would think my chances of winning are pretty damn good considering the judge is supposed to take the child’s best interest into mind… and I don’t see how her having custody could be in his best interest if she is talking suicidal all the time..
It should also be noted that when our child was born the nursing staff called CPS on her because they were and I quote this directly from their records which I have turned over to my attorney “worried about her cognitive ability to care for a child”
- and my attorney contacted her attorney and told me that they are trying to say I have domestic violence issues, however she assaulted me… and never complained about anything or filed anything me while we were together. My attorney is telling me this could just all be hearsay and lies from her in a desperate attempt to make her case look better
@@MrMikeMike135 look up the laws for you state on video/audio recording for custody
Wow but no. Until the money is taken out of the court system, its going to continue. I fought against two moms, both stole the cs, cost me thousands. Better to not have kids, until laws are changed
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I want to help my dad win child custody and I don’t know if a kid can be involved in this situation
Unfortunately, even though I was fully involved with my children, my wife enrolled them in schools without asking me about the schools. She put them in church activities even though I was against the church in question. She is the one to take them to the doctors because I am working to pay the household bills. I could do all of that, but now what do I do? Also, she feeds them crap and does not take good care of her. My youngest daughter's hair is constantly in knots. She is also nearly 6 and my wife simply won't give her a haircut. She has never had a single haircut.
What about a mother who is manipulative, extremely stubborn and will disregard anything you say and laugh at you, extremely paranoid and left your dad because she feels he didn’t support her even though he tried, and gilt trips you because her broken family? I’m right now in a 50-50 with my mom and dad, me and my sister want 100% with dad but don’t know how to properly go about it because I doubt my mom will agree let alone not guilt trip me, my mom was so terrible that she gilt tripped my 9 yo sister into saying she didn’t love my dad just to make mom love her 💔😞 plz help
Also if you’re 15 yo, even if your mom has automatic custody can you choose who you live with? Or are you forced to live with her
This just breaks my heart! No parent should ever put their child in such circumstances. Unfortunately, not all parents are good people. Simply bringing a life into this world doesn't automatically make someone upstanding, moral, or good-hearted. It's helpful for you to know now that your parents aren't perfect and that they're going to make mistakes.
I'm not sure what state you're in, but in Texas, when the child is 12+ years old, then they can tell the Judge which parent they want to live with. The Judge isn't required to follow it (for example if Dad was in a halfway house and child wanted to live with Dad) but it is a factor that weighs pretty heavily.
Good parents don't approach their children and ask them to choose, but in my experience, children who have a preference will often make it known.
If your Mother is being manipulative, and sending you on guilt trips, then that is a form of emotional abuse. Unfortunately, this is something that you're going to deal with your entire life since she'll always be your mother and these issues won't ever simply go away.
I recommend you reading a book called Boundaries (by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend). It will help you to establish some of those emotional boundaries for your Mother.
Next, if you're going through these emotional struggles, then you should ask each of your parents to get you into counseling as your counselor can also help give you some tools to combat this emotional abuse. Also, in case a Court fight is ever necessary, your conversations with the Counselor can be helpful in documenting the effect that any emotional abuse has had on you.
I pray the best for you and your family. I hope that you can find a grain of comfort in the novel I just realized that I wrote. lol.
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC thanks
What if the mother doesn’t want to co parent but let let her boy call me about my son
What if my babies father took her for the night and didnt return her? He than put a intervention order against me not my child for defending myself in February when he grabbed my arm and pulled me down stairs
Also he has strangled me and i have a witness for this
Thank you
You will get costody in that case , way do you care than ? .
You want to really help somebody give them assistant assistance free that's the only way you can really going to help somebody
Son lived with me for the last three years while his mother was arrested for meth and worse drugs I Proved her still on drugs failed her drug test gal said he should be put back in my custody now two months later got a court date after they said she shouod have the child till then because she stole my son from the school and yet he tells me everytike i get him he wants to come home momey doesnt have clothes for me but ive been forced to pay child support since the court date so she can buy drugs not for our son been same job 7 years make good money coach gis baseball team etc the system is against us
@andrewmcclellan8808 my boyfriend is going through a very similarities only while she had him she lost it and beat the trap out of him. Dad filed charges, got Cps involved but they gave him back and criminal case is still being investigated! I don't understand how the system can alienate dad's to the detriment of the child.
This is what I'm going through currently almost made me cry got court in 2 days wish me luck the sheriff filed a complaint against them today failure to o follow court order@@nebiolinimm1160
And what if you are being shut out entirely by the other parent to even speaking with your kids?
What happens when the mother’s an attorney and friends with judges in the courthouse what happens then the mothers withholding access to the father? She doesn’t let the children speak to the father. The children absolutely adore the father. The father wants children’s lawyer. The mother is totally against it because she knows the children will speak the truth. It’s a nightmare in Stanley Mosk Court
Instead of "bashing", what if legitimate facts like weaponization of child through medical system, for example, are announced to bring awareness to the judge? I think any fair and decent human being would want to know something negatively affecting the child so they can determine what's in the best interest of the child, right? Just want to bounce that off you since you mentioned the angle would be to show how good you are as a father.
This doesn't work when the child has become victim of alienation. Not all fathers even have the rights that this video ASSUMES they do. You can't prove you are the best fit for the child when they've essentially been kidnapped and no law enforcement organization would enforce those orders.
True
That certainly wasn't true in Australia in the 1990's.
I’m sorry to tell it to you but the way he speaking is if you already have custody of your children so I’m trying to figure out what is this video for 🤦🏾♂️
This doesn't work
Im about to go thru this bullshit but I dont have money for a lawyer.. this is crazy that they can file just because they want to.. It should be for Dead beats not for actual fathers.,. Im not very hopeful to be honest... Yet im the one that is going to have explain to my child that things are probably going to change... She won't.. Women do what they think is best for them not whats best the children smh
@@kapothagoodfella2785 going through a similar situation bro. Find a way to fight for your child in court.
I have a problem with this video right off the start so I'm not going to watch it. Please stop suggesting that either parent should "win" custody. The children should win every time. So if you're a dad watching this, your focus is on the wrong thing. Focus on the well-being of your children and allowing them to thrive. If you're out to win against their mother, you will hurt them in the process. Secondly, be the co-parent you need her to be toward you. Don't withhold information or keep secrets; that harmful behavior but she's is doing that to you.....that's harmful behavior and that can be used in court to show that Mom is not allowing the children to thrive by withholding information from you that you need to be an effective father. Again, focus on getting your children set up for success, not winning.
That's a shame you couldn't look past the clickable title to see the substance. The entire focus of the video is about NOT slinging mud and about the "best interest of the child."
I also don't like phrasing it as "winning" the custody battle, but sometimes you have to phrase it in such a way that the right people hear the message that needs to be shared. 😉
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC - Gotcha. smart. Thank you.
a 6 e a mae provar que o juiz favoreceu o pai e processar os dois...
It's good advice and that you never had to go through this... Boy you are so into it aren't you and you don't know anything of what you're saying.
Sorry but this is false information. I lost custody because I was educated in the British system and couldn’t accurately explain the American grade system. Also was punished harshly for using my va loan to buy a home after the previous judge allowed it. Was then hit with alimony and child support that surpassed 60% of my income all while she didn’t have to show her income which she was allowed to vaguely explain to the judge. Then the judge cut my lawyer off when he was trying to question. Maybe the judges are honest in your state but not in Miami dade
I’m sure this man is more than qualified however please don’t walk into the courtroom with that kind of confidence unless you have a substantial funds to invest in the case
I can tell either you're a new attorney or you're trying to drum up money for yourself bring it up all this that makes no difference whatsoever
I think you need to be more honest if you are going to make a video like this. Gender is a HUGE factor in custody. Is it the only factor? No. But it's probably the most important one. BTW I prevailed in a contested custody case, so I speak from experience.
Way to go!
As to gender, did you know that it is actually illegal for the Court to consider gender or marital status when determining custody in Texas? (Tex. Fam. Code § 153.003)
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
As I'm sure you already know, no one cares about laws like this. In MA, there are Judges that have been sitting on the bench for decades that have NEVER ruled in favor of a Dad in a contested case. That's provably discriminatory by any reasonable standard, and yet it continues.
My understanding from looking at cases from the past 14 years is that TX is slightly better but not great for Dads.
@@NothingisasitseemsPodcast any good advice on where to look
@@NothingisasitseemsPodcast Emasculation is rampant with young boys nowadays. Judges should look at this seriously.
@@NothingisasitseemsPodcast hush Karen
Only people who can afford to pay $$$$$$+ can win
You are right. I won twice with solid proof that my children's mom has been abusive towards them, calls them bad names, etc. Now, after her dad hired a lawyer, here I am going back to court because the court decided to reopen the case.
Exactly, this is like a 30k case
@AaronReactivated my second case, I hired an attorney because I ran into a racist judge, Karen who would listen to nobody other than the mom. It cost me around 14k she came in half way of the whole process that is why it was less. It's all business with the court, not the children.
How do moms win custody they show up to court
I’m active but still judge sides with woman
People run out of money
So glad I don’t have kids man.
Dude you got a lot to say don't you...
I just wish peeps would get married and stay married. The good old days ..
Amen! I'd gladly take up tax law if it meant marriages never ended and families stayed together. 😢
They weren't the good old days for me. I'm in my 60's. The best thing my parents could have done for us would have been divorce. Just saying....
Before social media!
Well I can't answer all those questions since my baby moma told mine was dead an disappeared 4to5yrs an all the sudden she told me I have a child . She threatened me of not seeing child an ghost me. While she not working as I'm been doing all the work. While she post videos and stuff she ain't supposed to be doing. She lack of a mother by not showing she's trying. I love her but there is a limit I'll stop helping
They're a good Fathers like myself that do all that but you saying it... Boy you spit it out so easy just like pouring water out of a bottle... Like I said you don't know what you're talking about keep pouring... Do you you just don't know what's going on.
Not a single thing you say make any difference.... Dude you should just be quiet... You're just trying to drum up money for yourself dude
I DON'T BELIEVE A FATHER SHOULD EVER TAKE A CHILD FROM ITS MOTHER UNLESS THAT MOTHER ON DRUGS OR SOMETHING ELSE BAD, THE SLAVE OWNER WOULD TAKE CHILDREN AWAY FROM THERE MOTHERS. HOW DIFFERENT IS THAT OF A FATHER. NOW I CAN SEE IF SOMETHING BAD,
Heres how they win. They dont.
Boooo!
None of what you say is legitimate!
Men don’t give up, they run out of money.
At first I read this as: Men, don't give up they run out of money
Then I realized what you really meant. You're right. Sometimes there aren't financial resources for the fight.
Do you sound like a baby attorney!
All companys run my way all yjings my possezion as companys me say who you watch this
Dude you sound like an ex-wife!
it's still all rigged and you know it
Oh, but it isn't. I've probably won custody when representing the Father in greater percentages (8/10) than when representing the Mother (7/10) in contested cases.
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