I’m experiencing this right now! I thought the hardest thing in my life was grieving the loss of my mother BUT grieving the loss of your living children is indescribable
I have been experiencing this now for about 2 1/2 years with my son gone coming up on a year and I'm being told we're not getting back into court until January 2023 I agree with you I haven't felt this type of pain since my father suddenly passed
so sorry to hear that, i am going through this pain now. i cant work i cant focus i cant eat i feel like vomitting all the time i have lost 20 pounds in 2 months. just filed for seperation and custody to see my 2 girls which my wife took them by her family which is 100 miles away without my permission i hope the court system has a fair balance when its my turn hopefully
@@ranyshawket9253 I’m so sorry.. it’s the most horrific thing I’ve been experiencing in my life. I feel like I’m screening inside and no one can hear me
Lol . yea . He said the courts likes to pass that cost down to the other parent. People this is the punishment for sin an having kids without God as the foundation of our relationship. Child custody is a billion 💲. Industry making money off the people sins. All this jealousy,hate , envy,greed is wrong. Satan you will die an with the lord thy God command you will die . The people will wake up an realize who you are. Repent every one Yeshua was telling truth if a man or women Get to know God an is the foundation of our relationship these issues wouldn't exist.
I’m an alienated mother and I haven’t properly seen my sons for two years. Their father beat and abused me. He is a narcissist. He has lied about me continually. My heart goes out to every other alienated parent. I know your pain 😔
The father of my son got 5 months for abuse in the family and now he does parental alienation. He is a lier too, he and his family. He has told lies and tells lies about me. Also the Devil is a lier!! Surely there must be demons behind parental alienation it is so evil.
I understand and you can see, there are many going through same pain. I am unfortunate father whose children are adult but yet occupying my house. They have rejected me but won't go away because 1) I am the one who can earn to feed their greed. 2) Their quality of life will deteriorate if the vacate my property and be on their own. 3) Judge sounds like communist, caring about best interest of majority (3 adult children and a narcissist wife) and won't do anything for me and would rather make me to work day and night to satisfy greed for lazy majority.
Sending love to all who are also going through this. You are NOT alone, don't give up 💙 It is soul destroying, I know, but good always wins in the end 🙏
I took my ex to court 3 times for hiding the kids from me. Nothing happened to her. Now the kids are 17, and fully hate me. I'm just a PAY CHECK every week. Fuck my life
It's pure torture of the soul. I haven't talked to my oldest(10), who was my reason for even breathing, in over 6 months. Haven't seen him since before Christmas. I never seem to not cry late at night, or passing by the baseball field I coached his team at, or going to Walmart n instinctively going to the toy dept. I'm so tired of missing my heartbeat. Idk how much longer I can take it
@@DaileyShorts bro, I know how shitty it feels to not have contact with your kid. There's a lot of evil bitches out there that use the kids as weapons. Stay strong tho, don't let HER get the best of you. Because, it seems like women carry baggage for a LONG time. And sadly, the kids take the abuse.( mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. It's sad bro).
To all the Fathers out there fighting to be a part of their children's lives, hang in there brothers. We're fighting an uphill battle, but our cause is righteous. Never give up. No surrender, no retreat. Our children will know.
@@jamesblake5176 I feel you I and I’m waiting to go to court for full custody all I can say is o e step at a time and don’t let anger get the best of you like you said our children will know quite that helps me every time … In this world made up of soda be water… you got this brotha
I believe we must move to put the lawyers and judges (who are lawyers) in jail. This is the quickest way to get media attention and instill the fear of God in them. We are being denied our constitutional rights of freedom of association and speech with ourselves. After all, our children are an extension of us. Those involved in the business of moving children around are perfectly aware of what they are doing. I've been at this for nearly 40 years. Nothing really is complicated because it is obvious. An administrative process should not determine the problem of something as important as your life. There is no jury. So, you cannot get a fair "trial." It's that simple. Women are presumed to be innocent, and we are guilty. So, on what basis, then, are we defending ourselves? What are we doing, trying to prove a negative? It's ridiculous. When I told the judge, and the public in the court, that the mother had been sexually abused as a child (which is common), and no one followed up, it meant that they did not give a hoot, right? Although I kept at as much as possible, there was simply too much at risk. I would be presumed to be the assailant, for example, if anything happened to the criminals who kidnapped my son under "color of law." My brothers-in-law are lawyers, by the way. The mother's best friend, Nancy, probably practices family law. Sure, I thought anything was possible, but not this. Can you imagine how it feels to be ruined before your life begins? In other words, the judge, all of them were against me, including my woman lawyer, who was delighted to inform me that I got "screwed." Hahaha. Let's not forget they take all of your assets if they are able and shackle you with "child support" (this is called shaming) which is money to buy the woman off (those who do criminal things are not "mothers," but rather a criminal of the lowest order if you will). The mother who hates her father for not protecting her transfers her rightful hatred onto me (thanks to feminism), a poor black man who used to pick cotton in Mississippi. I should also mention that her family is worth millions of dollars, and I, and my family, had nothing as a black person to fight them. If justice is for sale, how can there be justice? Before me, there was a distinguished gentleman, a well-educated retired school teacher, an activist since he was 17, and a WWII medic. His children were taken even though he had custody. The local police took them away to the mother, who relocated to Colorado. He founded an organization. He died at 89. His children (boys), successful, having served as military officers in their 30s, came to visit him as he lay dying. They took everything he had left, never to be heard of again. In my view, the whole damn thing is a racket, a conspiracy, much like a mafia organization. The money that exchanges hands for the "best interest of the children" against the father is in the billions. It's no secret. Now, do you think anyone will try contacting me to help me out? No. It's been all about the money. Most people I know do not know that freedom is not free. They think that, somehow or another, things will just get better. Hahaha. Our government has been an expert in leading us to believe that things such as this are somehow just the way it is. I was 30 years old when this all began. I'm 65 now, and those people who murdered my family and me are probably in good health, whereas I'm destitute, never having had a chance in life, with serious health problems. These people, the way I see it, are evil. There is no other way to characterize them, and they must be imprisoned for crimes against humanity if the country is to be saved. Never marry without a contract and a profound understanding of what you're about to get into. Clearly, marriage is not designed anymore, if it ever was, for the benefit of men and "their" children. Women don't seem to care about children as much as men do, which is what I learned. Thanks for entertaining my thoughts and opinions.
This happened to my babies. It breaks my heart. My ex was never around but my kids hate me and I know I was a good mom. I was a housewife. I woke every morning to make my kids lunch, we had so much fun. I loved them so much and I just don't understand. A big hole is in my heart. I haven't seen them since 2010. They talked and forgave their dad but won't talk to me. I cry every day. I cry before I go to bed. I try to give it to God but I can't stop crying. I'm crying now. I homeschooled them some. Was a coach for my kids 2 times for soccer. Coach for cheerleading. We always had fun dancing and we hugged alot and laughed alot. My heart is so broken.
You are not alone . It sound they have been manipulated . Trust me one day your kids will realize what parent is at fault. My dad took my siblings from my mom and told them that my mom abandoned them which it was a lie . When my sibling grew up , the truth came out . Now my siblings are close to my mom. Keep having faith and get close to God , he sees everything and will bring justice. Sending blessings
You are definitely not alone. My story w court, my dear child and all the lying is so crazy it sounds unbelievable. I'm also going through heartache w court, being kept from my child, and add to that, false allegations fr other parent (abt a neighbor idk that well). This person accused was never with my child! I couldn't believe what I read in a report and the lies. I cant explain on here. This was done to keep our child from me. There have been years of attempts to do it. Lies to court and police. One was that there was a no contact order w my child and my 78 yr old relative. There was a order w the other parent and the relative. Not the child. I cant believe how skilled some parents are at manipulating/brainwashing kids and adults who have no idea abt npd disorder or liars. Narcissist lie and are believed. They use threats or bribes too. I cry and I pray so much. I love my child and miss him. I also had solid evidence from communication with other people who knew the other parent about damage to children and their past abusive experience. Some were scared of being involved w court. Or the court or past attorneys didnt care. I was validated by what they said cuz it happened to me too. And is there a time statute on 2 or 3 yr old threats or crazy texts in family court? I dont get it. Why doesnt the court care or look at evidence? They dont take time to fully look at things that are presented by a parent trying to prevent child abuse and prove things. I had premeditated threats sent to me. They were about erasing me fr our child, causing court issues, making anxiety to win court and custody. I fear for damage done to my child. I want the truth to be shown. I had such a good loving bond w my child and it's being erased. It's like the other parent felt jealousy or hatred at our bond. And now they are happy cuz they took the one I loved. I dont feel like a parent anymore due to lies and unjust rulings. I followed the order and yet the other parent got away w unilateral decision w no notice on education (during peak covid) before kindergarten. I'm all upset and stressed. Alot of mental abuse for yrs in my case. I see there are other good parents being wrongly erased or losing kids too. I used to think everyone was basically good and honest and now I know different. Btw I'm a mom. Some people think this stuff only happens to dads. Please pray for the healthy parents who are being hurt and their precious children they love. Both dads and moms!!! I never said bad things abt other parent cuz I believe in time truth and justice will be shown. Im hoping there is a chance in court w the right judge or comissioner. Sorry for long text. I'm very broken down and keep it in.
Psychological evaluations should be standard procedure for the abusive parent. If there are any allegations with no evidence then they need an evaluation. Any mention of alienation or interference needs an evaluation by competent health care professionals. There needs to be accountability in the court system too.
I am experiencing this right now. I lost my father during this period. Per the comment above, grieving the loss of your children , your living children, is like no physical and emotional pain I have encountered
The problem isn't that it's hard to prove, the problem is that the courts don't care. The machine keeps moving, and the well-being of children everywhere is the raw material that keeps the engine running perpetually.
my ex married my sister !!! I have never been separated from my 3 children in my life.. Its now January it started In July no mother or father should have to mourn their alive children its crushing .. But the courts won't listen to me . They denied every motion i have placed i dont know how much money i have spent but will continue to jump through hurtles just to be part of my sons life like i was before .. What ever happened to the best interest of the child ?? It's like they ignore the best interests of the child to fill their pockets its sadly is a money loop hole our children are not pawns they were NOT asked to be born into this cold one sided world ...
My narc husband managed to groom my adult kids to think I’m a total ass. My daughter is nearly 22 and last we talked she called me a whore, fucking bitch, a terrible mother who should have never had kids, evil, etc., etc. My son stayed in CA with narc to finish high school. It’s his senior year and to further the temptation, narc promised him a motorcycle. But at least my son still believes in me and knows what the narc is. I’m only afraid that narc will up the temptation when i try to get my son with me. It’s Hell.
Hi! I understand your torment. I'm going through it also. I used to see my grandchildren nearly everyday, until my daughter fell homeless, and took her kids to her Mom's. Now, I'm not seeing the kids. The domestic and family LAW and justice is just a useless racket that perpetuates conflict to perpetuate the need for legal services and all the other white collar services chiming in on your lives. I SHARE YOUR PAIN!
Thank you for this. I have years of video, email, and my child's change in demeanor to prove my case. But in the UK court system, it appears more and more that as a society, mental health is dismissed in one side of their mouths while lamenting the "child mental health epidemic" with the other side. It's an uphill battle and every day I feel like my little girl loses more of her dad each day. But I'm my daughter's advocate if no one else will be. I will speak for that little girl who cannot speak for herself. She will never be able to say "why didn't someone do something!", although it can be argued, and to my eternal shame, that I've let it go this long already. I hope someday this poor little girl that just misses her dad will forgive him when she learns the truth of this era of her life.
Very rare you didn't get custody. The institutional industry automatically gives you 90% doubt just by you walking in the door. You've must have something that would embarrass the institution of the court or threaten the judge's paycheck should the decision be in your favor. Those two reasons are the ONLY two reasons why you did not get custody. I hope nature will overcome your daughter's training and decide to seek you out one day. :"(
@@mwalshe : The political policies of this industrial-institution is to make money at all costs to the Father. The policy, "In the best interest of the child" protects the Mother from being responsible for being twice as guilty as the Father who gets his paychecks garnished, driving license revoked, jailed, finex, fee'd-to-death, but mostly sees the system relieve her from most responsibilities while he goes to jail for half the infraction. So that is why I didn't venture to guess what "Tammy Springer" did to lose custody when she gets 90% doubt from the court's protective custody. This 90% is why men are wisening-up about the marriage contract where she is rewarded for breaking it "in the best interest of the child." There are two, steadfast, rules in life: * Don't embarrass the institution * Don't allow your paycheck to be threatened.
If the parent responsible for PA is a narcissist, they can easily fool the therapist into believing they are innocent. Adult children will unlikely cooperate to prove the bad parent’s malice, especially if they know the bad parent has money to offer them
Therapists must be vetted with the training required to properly evaluate parental alienation. They can have decades of experience and still join the targeting parent's coalition. Seen it for myself. And it is near impossible to get them to change their minds as it has all appearances of a secure attachment of the kids to the alienating parent. Even though, it is so easy to pierce the veil of PA, it still works to this day. It must be understood that children do not reject parents. Period. The only way it can happen is with incredibly harmful psychological and emotional controls being used on the child. Testing, or some sort of PA protocol, must be followed immediately when a child is seen to be rejecting a parent as the effects last a lifetime.
@@robinberry4957 And all three of mine. Narcissism is unsustainable and wreaks havoc on society. This is how they spread their disease to the next generation with an attachment system trauma. It has to stop, we cannot continue with a narcissistic society misleading us into the ground.
@@Silvaack Read Foundations: An Attachment-system Model of Parental Alienation by Dr. Craig Childress. The information he provides is genuine. As he points out, don't try and prove a negative, it's impossible. The, "I am not an abusive parent" defense. Instead, highlight the abusive nature of the narcissist parent. Father deprivation is the leading cause of criminal behavior, developing mental illness, teen suicide, drug and alcohol abuse, teen pregnancy, homelessness and runaway, etc. etc. It is the worst form of abuse a child can suffer with life-threatening and lifelong negative effects for them and society as a whole.
My mother had a fickle personality and up and bailed on my dad and us when I was 9 to marry a golfer and go back to a “more fun” lifestyle. She did him very wrong and I saw it myself. That being said, my dad never said a bad word about her even once. Rather, he encouraged us to spend as much time with her as we could. I’d go off about how angry and upset that I was with my mother, for the way she left and hurt, yet he stayed true to what he felt was best for us. Talked nothing but good about her, and would actually deter us from choosing not to see her anymore. He reinforced to us that regardless of what she did to him, and us, that she did love her children and was still a very good mother. Today, I am on the other end of a manipulative mother to my daughter, who is now 22 years old. My ex did unspeakable things to me, and to her around the time that she was born and as a result, she had her custody of her taken away. I stayed consistent and did my visitations through her parents, who had full custody until she was 5 years old. That’s when her mother got her back, and I was made to jump though hoops over the next 13 years. Stayed consistent and saw her as much as possible. I became more and more of the scapegoat figure as time went by, and my daughters attitude towards me got more and more negative and resistant. I always held that just staying consistent would pay off. Well, she just got her BA from a major university in less than 2 years and is a brilliant writer and literary editor for a large mainstream magazine, yet she has grown more and more dependent and emotionally centered around her mother, along with making a scapegoat of me. I’ll try and shoot forward. It’s been put into her mind methodically and calculated over a campaign duration of time. Maybe I should have tried more to address the alienation part of it sooner, but her mother has always had almost total control of pretty much everything, and I’ve had to play ball with the deck I’ve gotten dealt. Over the past 2-3 years, my daughter has by in large blocked me from her life, talked to me with almost complete resentment, and only made any effort in communicating with me when she wanted money or gifts. As soon as she gets them, she goes right back into this mindset where I am some terrible person to her and ignored me entirely. She takes every world that I say, and every effort they I make out of context, always looking and choosing to be “victimized” almost exactly as her mother used to do with her father, and it is always run directly through her mother where I then have to deal with being attacked for things so nonexistent or irrelevant that you just wouldn’t believe me. At this point, I have just been disrespected so far beyond anything I ever dreamt of doing to either of my parents, and I cannot just continue accepting it. It’s just not good for her to have a father that’s a scapegoat and basically held ransom. I’ve laid off most of her tuition, her car, and got her a job several months ago. At this job, meant to bring her some income while she looks to find a career position elsewhere in the near future, she said to a few past colleagues of mine who I arranged for her to be hired there with, that I “had nothing to do with helping her get the job”. That her and I “barely know each other” and that she “really don’t want to hear about my dad please. He’s the parent that I am very ashamed of having any relation to and wish he’d just take the hint and go away for good.” Saying these things, acting the way she does to me, and ignoring every question that I ask her. Things like “Hey Emma, how are you? I’d like to know more about your studies and things that you enjoy doing. Call me anytime and I am here for anything that you need.” Anyhow, she hates me completely and if I so much as even ask her one time something like, “Hey Emma, is there something that I did or said wrong to you? And can we please talk about it so it doesn’t turn you so far away from me?” She will cut me off for good. I did ask it once and she cut me off for 11 months without even a word. Her mother has started to screen me and avoid all of my calls not too. I am at the point where it seems almost entirely hopeless, and I do not have any family left discuss this all with since then all passing away recently. I just don’t know what to do. Today is her birthday and when I asked her last week if there was anything that she might want or want to do, she responded by saying that she’s let me know, and that I can send her the money for her bank account, and that she still wasn’t going to speak to or see me for any reason.
I'm sorry your partner wansr so good. I want my partner to be honorable to me in front of my child shes only 5 months doesn't need to hear bad words or demeaning speak about her father or that side of the family even though they've done nothing wrong. Haven't even seen her but once I just want my grandma to see her grandchildren 5o make her happy since grandpa died last year. Sorry for rambling its just nobody wants to be alienated
I had video messages and text messages of my ex telling my kids to break into my cell phone and steal my information with my attorney and to tell people that I was a monster. She also was telling the kids to be fearful of me. This all went to court and nothing happened to mother other than me getting 50% custody and she was ordered to do 10 things which she never complied with. The courts are wasteful and the judges don't want to spend the time on these matters.
Very easily a dark triad parent can twist and manipulate the texts they receive, they absolutely can poison a counselor, and can certainly try to create a theme. It IS sick. It’s not this simple.
My son turns 19 in a few days and i haven't seen him since he was 8, the courts are worthless for fathers and there is no solution involving them. What has been taken from me is every holiday since he was two, every birthday, achievement, chance to teach him anything, even a memory to smile about. Your solution is court? What will that do to bring back whole the loss incurred? Your solution is like a cruel joke. The court has been literally complicit in this and wholly against any type of help but interested to make orders without delivering anything in return. Don't be fooled, no one cares unless you are paying them. Then they simply fake caring while putting you through more in and out of court. There is no solution to this, no way to ever get back any time, everyone tells me that he will come around some day when he's older. My guess is he will be strung out on drugs or an alcoholic just like his mother trying to figure out why he has such a feeling of emptiness before that. Then the courts can have their way with him and the cycle continues. Fatherless children is what society wants to fill their jails and supply labor for courts and attorneys. They support the mothers because it is known that this will weaken society more and more ensuring that the strife continues to be mediated upon and judged on from the corrupt courts. Happy birthday Mason.
george George I’m a Mother this happened to you can talk to me it’s also happening to many Mothers now across Canada and the US! These fathers think they can do as they please behind the wife’s back and zero consequences, I fought back!🙏🌷🇨🇦
Lydia Hubbell are you Canadian or American? The Canadian system is horrible at best but I fought back with everything I have, yes it was expensive in lawyers fees but I had to!🙏🌷
My son is six and has been gone since he has been born I've made effort after effort to be in his life I pay child support they take half of my check every single week no matter how much I make I get scared when she lets me talk to him on the phone because after a couple weeks she looks for a reason to start ignoring me for another three or four months it's f***** up I can't afford to get help my family will not help my father and his side of the family have pretty much disowned me instead of helping me.ive learned only I can help me. when I understood this allot of my depression went away
Anything-but-family court is an institutional-industry. It must bilk money from it's participants -- and by "participants," I mean the non-custodial Father -- to meet it's budget. Bilking the custodial Father (very rare) or the women would look bad and not be "in the best interest of the child." This is why crack-whores get custody from CEO Fathers. .
Encouraging video. There's hope for parents and children suffering this abuse. It is agonising. I did not gather evidence because I did not know what was going on and was so confused about why my child was becoming angry and unco-operative. Now I realise it was all those letters and holidays and babysitting when her mind was poisoned. I reacted emotionally and indignantly which made it worse. "Too soon oldt; too late schmart." There's so much help these days via the internet, which we did not have. Courage and wisdom to all going through it.
@@haileyandjrimcoming3789 Peace to you. I found the book Done With the Crying by Sheri McGregor helpful. As she says, "We can still go on to live a good life". Can't change the past, only go on from today.
@@haileyandjrimcoming3789 Well it's really for parents who've been rejected by their adult child. For some if us it began when they were young. But it's for processing through the confusion of despair, anger, fear, wondering if it's your fault and what you can do. I think I still would have found it helpful when my child was still at home. I found it at our public library, so didn't buy it. Maybe more relevant for you is Dr Les Carter's video "When an adult coaches your child against you". And Dr Amy Baker's advice on RUclips It's heartbreaking. Main mistakes I made were reacting emotionally and saying anything against the alienating (like saying indignantly or impatiently, "How can you say that?!" or crying or showing fear.) Sometimes she'd provoke us for months with harsh accusations, lack of co-operation, threats to kill us or herself, unexplained anger and hatred. We'd be patient for so long and then answer angrily or say something about Granny not being honest or fair (she was the alienator) and then our daughter would triumphantly say, "See, you are crazy/abusive/mean/don't love me!" And it justified in her mind everything she did. I kept begging to talk about it and we each say how we saw matters and be honest about our part in the trouble. But she wouldn't. It was always big accusations like, "You're unfair!/You lie!/You don't love me!/I don't belong here!" But never any specific answer to " Why do you think that? When did I lie? What did I do unfair?" She'd just retort, "You should know!" It was torture. I tolerated her contempt for 30 years, hoping it would change. She kept telling me to F off and I kept sending a gift or hoping for a pleasant visit. She maintained that I was a kind mother when she was small and became an abuser when she was a teen, even while being a kind loving mother to her younger sisters. Made no sense till I learned about PA
Thank You, that was extremely helpful! I am new to your channel and I will be watching a lot more videos to see what I can learn from you. Valuable valuable information! Thanks again!
Thank you so much for your advice... I'm going with the court ordered therapy. I have been going through extremely harsh PARENTAL ALIENATION . She's a malignant narcissist.6 years now
Object to a GAL or Forensic psychologist involvement, and request a QUALIFIED (see link below for qualifications) clinical psychologist to assess, diagnose and treat your child(ren), with your and the other parent's participation. www.amazon.com/Attachment-Based-Model-Parental-Alienation-Professional/dp/099611453X/ref=sxts_sxwds-bia-wc-nc-drs1_0?cv_ct_cx=parental+alienation&dchild=1&keywords=parental+alienation&pd_rd_i=099611453X&pd_rd_r=5fed290e-dedd-4b2e-bebe-b90ba7198c38&pd_rd_w=kzqi6&pd_rd_wg=RHWFL&pf_rd_p=a64002b9-9c26-4361-b8a1-b0f5a4835670&pf_rd_r=DYTPNX75M8X5FSS08DBH&psc=1&qid=1610820355&sr=1-1-38d0a374-3318-4625-ad92-b6761a63ecf6
@@movingpictures8060 Guardian are a joke. She lied in court, kept 3 years of our documentation wont give it back went to her office evey week for 2 months she still won't give it back. She's only have talk to us once through all these years. She needs fired. Thats so terrible, its been nightmare. Paid over 55,000 and still not over. This is our 3 lawyer, due to one retired, one quit being attorney, now this new lawyer. Guardian even went as far as decredting our therapist. I bet she Narcissist also or believes their lies. She's not in best interest of child.
What if the other parent lives with other family members who spend a lot of time with the child and those family members are the ones causing the alienation?
A child should only have joint contact if both parents can be proved safe beyond reasonable doubt. Small children don't lie. When they trust you enough to disclose the Truth, believe them. Psychological development shows children can't report a comprehensive lie against their own true feelings or experience. The extent of capacity to lie under the age of 7 is did you eat the candy, no! If you tell your child repeatedly every day for 3 months remember that you hate ice cream, then frame the question differently - they could repeat the phrase about remembering to hate ice cream but the child's truth will come out that they love ice cream. Believe children. Don't put them at risk.
@@thomascrosthwaite4958 deep calls unto deep. It's a metaphor to illustrate a child can not lie against their experiential truth no matter who tries to coach them. If they are terrified of daddy - they will tell you. If they love daddy - they will tell you.
9. Children do not have the cognitive maturity or the capacity to make an informed decision about whether to have a relationship with a parent. They cannot imagine the implications of having a parent absent from their lives, and do not necessarily know what is in their best interest. Nor do they genuinely want the power to cut a parent out of their lives. 10. Children (and adults) can be unduly influenced by emotional manipulation to act against their own best interests. They can be misled to believe things that are not true, even about a parent. It is possible to induce false memories in children and/or to program children to relate events-often sincerely and convincingly (at least to naïve or unwary observers)-that, in fact, did not take place or did not take place in the way described. 11. Many, but not necessarily all, alienating parents have one or more personality disorders (typically of the borderline, narcissistic and/or sociopathic type). The more extreme or severe the alienating behavior, the more likely it is that the alienating parent has an underlying personality disorder. 12. Parental alienation is a form of child abuse, specifically psychological and emotional abuse. It meets the diagnostic criteria for child psychological abuse as described in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the DSM-5) published by the American Psychiatric Association (2013). - Dr. Amy Baker, PhyD
I've listened to many you were the most clear on theme and facts. Zero communication is a fact zero! I modified and hes still not following orders for visits and therapy he took and kept my son for 5 yrs and nown1 yr since a visit
HEY ! Can it be shown the court/ judge? 💥My x is a big time Nars/ And horrible lier ‼️It would work great , Who asks the questions ? Did you have good luck with a deposition? ITs my daughter That's gone ,But other boys are effected too ,13 ,11, 15 INFO❓
OMG! just THANKFUL and GRATEFUL this HEINOUS CRIME AGAINST CHILDREN HAS A "NAME"! ( in my case-there was NO LABEL - NO RECOGNITION) and both of my MIRACLES(children) have been LOST and now carry "ISSUES" they were infected with 40 years ago every step of THEIR existence. NOTHING AND NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO INFLICT THIS ON ANY CHILD!!! PERIOD.
I'm so glad that I found you! Listen, this may be the most bizarre case you have ever heard and it needs to be a mistrial I have never lost my rights never sign them over, I literally have not seen my son in five years but I have had my daughter so that doesn't make sense in itself. People have been paid off in family Court I'm talking lawyers, judges, everything! I literally cannot believe what I have been through and it has just literally torn my daughter and my son apart I mean I have no idea what my son is thinking I do not have any contact with him at all now
Nick Easy thanks Nick. You might find some of the other videos on my channel and future videos to be helpful, so consider subscribing and sharing if you liked it. Glad I could help.
Interesting Points. -- Couple of Reminders: Situation of Attempted Parental Alienation Is Extremely Serious - Issues of Major Rights & Accusations (direct or implied) ::: The seriousness of this topic is especially high if one parent is using false accusations without any evidence, or using false evidence, and the judge does not allow for proper due process, and/or judge creates positive bias circumstances for the false accuser. Based on hearing and reviewing various cases, it seems the overall issues of attempted parental alienation are often more complex and more subtle than what are often conveyed by certain experts, who sometimes put forward an "ivory tower" explanation of things, or overly simple pretty box explanation, when the real world circumstances and context of definitions are often much more complex. For example, some targeted parents may be dealing with "bi-polar", two-face personality persons, and/or extreme manipulators and liars; and they can encounter subtle attempts of parental alienation for prolonged periods without fully realizing it until later. And the (alienating parent) "manipulating false accusing parent" can be very good at lying and manipulating others to go along with the isolation of the targeting parent, and to encourage the creation of more unreasonable demands by court on the targeting parent which can create more subtle opportunities for additional false accusations. SPECIAL NOTE ON LAWYERS: Not all lawyers are good at advocacy for family rights, and not all lawyers are very knowledgeable about parental alienation attempts, or they may not even agree with the definitions and may be hostile to the strategy of pointing out alienating behaviors by the other party.
Apparent Common Characteristics of "False Accusers" :: Some apparent similarities of likely goals are in trying to gain constant control and putting negative spotlight on others. In turn, this can make it easier to deflect any criticism, or give some pity or positive light to a false accuser. It may also be a way as projection for negative energy to cause a new crisis, and cause support for action to changes or control efforts by the false accuser. It can simply be a way to harass the targeted person, and keep that person off balance, and to discredit that person.
This was extremely helpful. I love the part about getting a therapist involved. Any tips of you have moved and don't live close to your children anymore? Like 4-8 hours away?
Thank you very much for the tips I'm going through a tragedy my access to trying to take my 13-year-old from me for the second time and there's a restraining order against me I already got 50% custody so how do I get a full custody again after the restraining order? I filed a motion to modify the injunction so I can have unsupervised visitations
Hi Brian I have the substantial proof of alienation, I have not seen my daughter for almost two years, but my son has been going on my visits all this time. I do not have the money to retain an attorney bc of pandemic. My question is will the court think I waited too long to go to court I have been in court several times alone against a very well known attorney that you know! I have been texting my daughter the whole time, so I havent waited too long!! I will not get shot down alone in court again with proof on my side
I thank you for the information, but people that live in areas like mine, they don't have extra money for things that they may need. Let alone lawyers, therapists etc. And I am in no way saying that they are not useful or needed. But when you have to decide between gas or groceries, the options are limited.
Both of my parents put me in the middle of this and one of them being my father is a covert narcissist . I don't think my father has the right to dictate my life especially since I can take care of myself without him lying & stealing from me and constantly bossing me around . He's made me lose all respect for him . Thanks for the video !
Definitely should never bring kids into the mess. That is what my covert narc ex did. But, of course kids don't know that and I coudln't tell the kids.
My ex has my son for every other weekend and he specifically said not to call him everyday when he's visiting because he doesn't call when he's with me. Huh? You have right to call our son as well as I have a right to call our son.
@@laneshiasmith1788 How did it go if you don't mind me asking as I am in the starting point of this, another controlling narc keeping my son away from me yet he is only 2 and 7months.
My daughter was taken from me because the judge and "best interest attorney" were communicating with each other about the case outside of the court (which was provable except that the lawyer refused to hand over the evidence) amd there was parental alienation and abuse going on, i lost because inwas seeing a psychiatrist for anxiety to try and be a better parent but they used that fact as evidence against me in court, they also used the fact that i created a petition against the judge violating the rules of law (such as accepting the best interest attorney as an advisor instead of an attorney which is illegal) as evidence of "mentall illness" which they used as an equation proving my unfitness as a parent
The court said no to plea for therapeutic intervention for SEVEN months. By the time they did appoint a therapist and my daughter, who I'd been alienated from were front of that therapist together was NINE MONTHS after I began asking. I'm not sure what the law is in CA but in MO there's a GAL appointed, a gatekeeper, she denied my plea all that time and I begged my attorney to beg the court so much so I have in writing in seven months 17 times in 7 months, as my daughter got further from me.... by the time they were appointed, it was too late, not to mention everyone was telling me, including the therapist, acting in bias, I'd created the breakdown in the relationship. Any thoughts on corruption in the judicial system and alienation?
I had the same situation in Los Angeles. They separated me from my kids for three years, and then they ordered that I have to go to reunification therapy with some of their therapists that actually create more barriers in the kids minds. 6 years now and I am still dealing with the problem.
Have you called regularly, send cards and letters (making copies of them and proof of sending them), attend their special events or send them congratulation gifts. There are ways to reconnect, show that you care without any strings attached. Offer to help with advice for emerging into adulthood. You’re an adult, stop allowing another adult to prevent it - show your steady contact proof to the judge and prove how the other parent is blocking your phone calls and letters or emails. When you give up and blame others for your lack of effort regardless of how your child or the alienating parent responds - that will be on you! When there is a will, there’s a way!
Great video, thank you. Is there any reference for timing? For example if the one parent is blocking the other from seeing the child for 3-4 weeks at a time, is there any ruling precedents for that? 2 weeks etc etc?
@@brianmayer28 My children's father ( I have 2 children, both fathered by him. &I have been remarried for 8&1/2 years) After we split up , he didn't see or attempt to see his/ our kids for over 7 years. Nor did he ever pay me a $1. Now that he's had 2 more children with a different woman - (who he's also not together with) He decided it was finally convenient/ time for him to ask to see my/ our children. I said yes - because I don't believe in keeping children away from their Fathers - the children are the ones who miss out when mother's vindictively don't allow father's to be apart of their lives. He's now seen them about 10 times. I'd asked him if we could get together & sit down to discuss him finally paying child support. At first he flipped out & threatened to get split custody so he wouldn't have to pay. 🤦🏽♀️. Then after about a month , called me back & has since paid me $200 all together a month for 2 children. So $100 per month per child.... My son is 13 & daughter 10. He didn't see them from the time our son was 5 until he turned 12yrs old. $100 per month per child is a joke. My son needs to go to the dentist badly. I'm trying to apply for Arkids insurance, but they have the law now where they basically make u give up the biological fathers information & go after him for child support in order to get the insurance. So I can't get him insurance & into the dentist until that happens. My son asks on a daily basis to go to he dentist so he can get braces. I'm extremely afraid that out of spite he(their father) is going to try to get split custody so he doesn't have to pay child support. But I don't have an extra $3k + laying around for braces , I don't have a choice. My hope is that surely after a judge hearing that he abandoned his children for over 7 years , without so much as a phone call & has only seen them a handful of times & has been paying $100 per month per child for about 8months now ....surely he wouldn't get split custody... I would be happy & thankful for even $300 per child/ $600 per month in child support. Even though he makes good money, but he's self employed so he doesn't report all his income. However I have NEVER spoken ill/ bad about him to my children. He actually was abusive & unfortunately our son even though he was 5 , remembered seeing him hit me before. I've told my son he had a drinking problem & lost his temper & that's not ok, hence why I had to leave, however people change & we should forgive people if they've changed ECT. I despise parents bad mouthing each other to their kids - parents are only hurting their kids when they do this! I've had every reason to at least say nothing positive about him to the kids , yet have gone out of my way to speak highly of him - because I don't want my kids thinking their biological father is a bad man or deadbeat. My ex & I get all great , however my fear is him threatening taking the kids/ trying to get split custody (his parents have money & are preachers) because of me trying to get my kids medical insurance. Fear of him retaliating. But I have been having to choose his feelings over my son's needs. The fact that he did not even call or attempt to see his kids in 7 years will surely prove abandonment? Just really don't know what to do, but why is it he gets away with having 2 children with me & 2 with another woman & hasn't had to pay child support or $1 for 7+ years
@@WarmongerYT I’m prohibited from giving legal advice here, but your legal situation sounds very and easily fixable. Do what needs to be done to schedule a consultation with a family law attorney in your area to discuss options that may include the Department of Child Support Services.
@@brianmayer28 I appreciate your reply. Just concerned about getting the state involved. & Also I don't wish or seek to make his life hard. I just want to be able to take my children to the dentist & have a fair amount of child support every month.
Dealt with the opposite: other party claims alienation constantly when I try to protect the kids from domestic violence !! Anytime temporary custody changes are brought up to sort things out, it’s “look look! They’re trying to alienate the kids !! “ 0_0 since when was speaking out against the kids being hit in the face and suggesting they NOT be around the person hitting them constitute , “alienating” 😖
My son and I are dealing with this now. I live in ohio he lives with his father in wv and he did this to him for yrs until he was old enough to reach out on his own to find out for himself. He now knows do you think if he went to court and said it himself that I'd have a chance to get him.
I really like this advice. You prove things in court like you prove truth in other circumstances. Be direct, stick with the narrative....and I love the idea of a deposition.
Me too. When my child interviewed her cldnt even remember what he said . Contradictions . So if the dad had to perform a deposition it'd be the same. My question if im..the mom is so bad and hes convinced others then why didnt he file the divorce to get away from me WITH kids? He separated the one that was on to his game and took my youngest
@@winona349 same here but he hasn’t gotten my youngest yet. He abused my oldest who saw him for what he was. Now child services is trying to reunify him with our youngest who he is manipulating.
The CFI and the court recognized the alienation and/or emeshment issues. The court also recognized domestic violence as as issue, with my ex-wife as the aggressor. I had a great attorney, who recognized this issue. And an extremely experienced CFI, who described what she saw as "disturbing". More extreme than anything she'd seen in a couple decades and a few hundred cases. All the same, it doesn't seem like courts can do anything effective to combat it. Orders don't matter to the type of person who does this. And going back for every time they ignore orders isn't productive. They get unstable, when they have to be accountable, which severly negatively impacts the kids, assuming any shared parenting, and eventually there's just no money left to keep consequences in place. I like your advice about therapy for the relationship with your kids. In my case, my ex-spouse actively tried to thwart therapy for the kids. She pre-coached them by phone, and was obviously afraid of it. The kids seemed very reassured/relieved when they had to sign HIPA forms for themselves with neither parent involved in that. A space they finally knew was in confidence. 13:57
I’m going through this NOW….The GAL has NOT called or reached out to speak to the boy. This battle has been going on for over 21/2 years now. I researched the GAL he’s been in trouble in the past for doing this child like this.
Hi. I wish that I could. Contempt of court isn’t like other family law motions because it is quasi-criminal in nature. The burden of proof is different and the procedures are less forgiving to self-represented parties. If pursuing contempt, I have to recommend getting an attorney involved.
I believe that there shouldn't be no matter if individuals have or have not any attorney, we need to show up in the court to save our life. And the court have to be the only place in our community for justice. So, the court doesn't need to suggest an attorney for either side. If we are suggested the attorney, they should normally / automatically provide attorney equally to both representatives. Otherwise in especially family court, their custom to award for an party is which party has a better skill of "he says she says" while put facts behind to investigate. From CA.
What if I want to choose the therapist is that an option? Also our courts able to get their hands on text messages that were on a phone that went missing and everyone tells me there’s no way I can get them back. Can the courts get them? That would help so much. I don’t have money for any of this extra stuff and it’s just not fair
Great information about a topic that is affecting millions of men, sooner or later. They call it Parental alienation when emotional and financial abuse using our children affects 90% of divorced fathers and 100% of children of divorce cases. However, you have to keep in mind that there is a culture of misandry in government institutions and in social science when it comes to family; so when you get an "expert" she is very likely to favor the mother, oftentimes, despite proving that the mother or her extended family are physically and emotionally injuring the children. Thanks for the video!
Hello and I have been going to some issues with the mother of my kids most of it is like a supervision on her part also her boyfriend has been abusive physically and mentally to my younger son I am in the process of going back to the family courthouse I can definitely use some advice about how to proceed with all of this.
I'm parent aleniated by my ex husband mother, she sayed to my ex in front of me that "children can be rease up by only one parent , and a lot of other things. it is profound sadness 😔 I miss my children.
what can you do if you can't afford a lawyer and what is the success rate in court that the alienated parent gets justice? Also this involves a step parent alienating and is there a statute of limitation on taking them to court even after the child reaches adulthood?
I'm going through this currently, my ex tried setting me up for domestic violence and put a restraining order against me to keep me from my 2 year old son. It's a nightmare, all this because she got caught cheating.
Yes, but for cost reasons, it’s usually not advisable to hire me to travel outside of Southern California. I have to charge for my travel time, and it seldom makes financial sense to retain me if I have to spend a lot of my time on a case traveling.
In my cps case the kinship interfered with visits claiming that my babies did not want to see me and that our visits disrupted thier lives . the gal would come to court and lie and the judge terminated my visits I saw my children 3 times in 3 years. I have numerous emails were the the kinship would change dates or say they could not make it. The one they used all the time was the kids wanted to go to new mexico to visit my mom which my mom was at every court date. I would ask for make up visits and would get save the dates. And then they were suspended indefinitely.
Very excellent video. Thank you very much. I am trying to help my son's father. He has three children with his ex-wife, one is over the age of 18 now but the two youngest live with their mother one state away and she never lets him see his kids. Her attitude is basically do what I want or I'm not going to let you see them. I am tired of watching his kids be sad because they can't see their daddy and him being depressed because he never sees them. He saw them last week for the first time in a year-and-a-half. Thanks again.
My kids are fucked because I dont have the money to bring it to court. Ex got primary custody when I was in the military. I could have been deployed at any time so my home wasn't stable enough according to a judge.
My husband and I have extensive experience with PAS, myself as the stepmother and my husband as the target parent. Our child is now 45 years old and is beyond help. The laws have improved now and it is likely a more positive outcome can occur. Within financial limits, I would encourage target parents to fight for their children. Our grandchildren have been poisoned and we are concerned this hatred will be passed on for generations. There is nothing we can do now, only grieve for the loss of family. We pray for all families affected by PAS.
TRANSGENERATIONAL TRAUMA AND LOSS IS BUT ONE OF THE CRUEL, COLD INHUMANE BYPRODUCT OF PAS! I have EXPERIENTIAL KNOWLEDGE as I bear WITNESS to the THIRD GENERATION UNFOLDING! ALL OF HUMANITY SUFFERS AS A RESULT MAKING ALL OF US RESPONSIBLE AND DUTY BOUND to ATTEND to this CRIME
Part 2... Me....clean record stable house household good credit I mean I try my best to be well example for my kids and family....and I have opens door policy with her but now she wants to start problems not sure why. Advice pls
I would like to comment on a couple of things. I believe people are taking a big risk to involve any so-call "professionals" with your case. This includes a "custody evaluator"[which is often a forensic psychologist] , a guardian ad litum, mediators and even a psychologist providing "therapy". This is because it may not go your way and the problem with these people is not just that they might be unfamiliar with alienation, lazy or overworked which he mentioned, but all of them are human and have their own biases. I thought a rule of thumb for lawyers was "don't ask questions you don't already know how they're going to be answered" This would seem to be the same thing for any of the so-called "expert testimony". In my divorce all four became involved. The explanation for how I know this can go bad is long and involved, but I sure everyone can guess it's from personal experience.
The courts allow the narc to commit perjury multiple times and they allow CPS to say that the crime of physical abuse has been committed when there was no description of any such incident or event that had happened, no arrests, no criminal charges filed (except for the man that the courts put the children into his home- he was arrested for abusing one of the children and CPS and family court still kept the kids in that man's home.) Family courts are secretive child trafficking courts, kangaroo courts where laws don't matter, people make up allegations from thin air and the courts go along with it because they make money off of the title IV-D child support collection SCAM. CPS gets money for every child they remove from their homes since Clinton's child trafficking law he signed for CPS to traffick children in 1996 .
I have been in a custody battle for almost 2 years since my sons mother passed with the aunt who happens to be a doctor. She had an attorney and after spending thousands I decided to represent self because I knew the law was on my side because I had 50/50 custody before she passed and the aunt had no legal right to keep my son from me which the judge reiterated in court. Just have faith and go through the process no matter how stressful it is. You will be bashed lied on and made out to look like a horrible father. I even had the GAL against me who I only spoke to maybe 3 or 4x in 2 years including when I saw her in court. She was very one sided and the judge told her to go ahead and lay all of what she has out and gave her the option of leaving after her testimony which she declined and told her I know that the majority of what you are about to tell me is hearsay along with other points he made but fathers just have faith. My judge said he felt as if I hadn’t had a full opportunity to be a father to my child.
The fact that you are the father, how does the aunt have any say? I'm in a similar situation. I didn't see my daughter for 5 years. The mother just took off. Then, she gave custody to her sister, and she also passed away.
My son is the custodial parent with custody of the children. His ex wife left the state (Tx) with the children and is in hiding. We haven’t heard from them in 7 months. Are there organizations out there to help parents with this issue of interference.
I’m experiencing this right now! I thought the hardest thing in my life was grieving the loss of my mother BUT grieving the loss of your living children is indescribable
I have been experiencing this now for about 2 1/2 years with my son gone coming up on a year and I'm being told we're not getting back into court until January 2023 I agree with you I haven't felt this type of pain since my father suddenly passed
so sorry to hear that, i am going through this pain now. i cant work i cant focus i cant eat i feel like vomitting all the time i have lost 20 pounds in 2 months. just filed for seperation and custody to see my 2 girls which my wife took them by her family which is 100 miles away without my permission i hope the court system has a fair balance when its my turn hopefully
I'm going thru it also, currently.
Hope things get better for you.
@@travistoole thank you 🙏
@@ranyshawket9253 I’m so sorry.. it’s the most horrific thing I’ve been experiencing in my life. I feel like I’m screening inside and no one can hear me
I disagree.... Proving it is EASY. Getting the "family" court system to take the time to care and review your evidence is the hard part.
Right im working on a law suit against them for throwing away my evidence and have proof that title 4d is a fraud
Lol . yea . He said the courts likes to pass that cost down to the other parent. People this is the punishment for sin an having kids without God as the foundation of our relationship. Child custody is a billion 💲. Industry making money off the people sins. All this jealousy,hate , envy,greed is wrong. Satan you will die an with the lord thy God command you will die . The people will wake up an realize who you are. Repent every one Yeshua was telling truth if a man or women Get to know God an is the foundation of our relationship these issues wouldn't exist.
Exactly
Sadly they won't as they are child abusers
@@rickeyalyles7609 amen. We still need to do something.
I’m an alienated mother and I haven’t properly seen my sons for two years. Their father beat and abused me. He is a narcissist. He has lied about me continually. My heart goes out to every other alienated parent. I know your pain 😔
I’m so sorry our stories are almost identical you’re not in Indiana are you !
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The father of my son got 5 months for abuse in the family and now he does parental alienation. He is a lier too, he and his family. He has told lies and tells lies about me. Also the Devil is a lier!! Surely there must be demons behind parental alienation it is so evil.
I understand and you can see, there are many going through same pain. I am unfortunate father whose children are adult but yet occupying my house. They have rejected me but won't go away because
1) I am the one who can earn to feed their greed.
2) Their quality of life will deteriorate if the vacate my property and be on their own.
3) Judge sounds like communist, caring about best interest of majority (3 adult children and a narcissist wife) and won't do anything for me and would rather make me to work day and night to satisfy greed for lazy majority.
Sending love to all who are also going through this.
You are NOT alone, don't give up 💙
It is soul destroying, I know, but good always wins in the end 🙏
almost 3 years I haven't seen or heard from my kids, parental alienation is the ultimate hate crime
Going through the same, and it’s costly already , this is wrong on so many levels
I took my ex to court 3 times for hiding the kids from me. Nothing happened to her. Now the kids are 17, and fully hate me. I'm just a PAY CHECK every week. Fuck my life
It's pure torture of the soul. I haven't talked to my oldest(10), who was my reason for even breathing, in over 6 months. Haven't seen him since before Christmas. I never seem to not cry late at night, or passing by the baseball field I coached his team at, or going to Walmart n instinctively going to the toy dept. I'm so tired of missing my heartbeat. Idk how much longer I can take it
@@DaileyShorts bro, I know how shitty it feels to not have contact with your kid. There's a lot of evil bitches out there that use the kids as weapons. Stay strong tho, don't let HER get the best of you. Because, it seems like women carry baggage for a LONG time. And sadly, the kids take the abuse.( mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. It's sad bro).
Going on 10+ years for me 😢 it’s a never ending viscous cycle.
To all the Fathers out there fighting to be a part of their children's lives, hang in there brothers. We're fighting an uphill battle, but our cause is righteous. Never give up. No surrender, no retreat. Our children will know.
Love this God bless man
Father's Matter!!
I’m lucky to have my sons what I don’t understand how some women flip I on us and on my behalve mine abandoned my boys which sucks
@@this1shldlast611 I'm going thru it right now dude. Can't get a fuckin fair shake in this kangaroo court...
@@jamesblake5176 I feel you I and I’m waiting to go to court for full custody all I can say is o e step at a time and don’t let anger get the best of you like you said our children will know quite that helps me every time … In this world made up of soda be water… you got this brotha
I believe we must move to put the lawyers and judges (who are lawyers) in jail. This is the quickest way to get media attention and instill the fear of God in them. We are being denied our constitutional rights of freedom of association and speech with ourselves. After all, our children are an extension of us.
Those involved in the business of moving children around are perfectly aware of what they are doing. I've been at this for nearly 40 years. Nothing really is complicated because it is obvious. An administrative process should not determine the problem of something as important as your life. There is no jury. So, you cannot get a fair "trial." It's that simple.
Women are presumed to be innocent, and we are guilty. So, on what basis, then, are we defending ourselves? What are we doing, trying to prove a negative? It's ridiculous. When I told the judge, and the public in the court, that the mother had been sexually abused as a child (which is common), and no one followed up, it meant that they did not give a hoot, right?
Although I kept at as much as possible, there was simply too much at risk. I would be presumed to be the assailant, for example, if anything happened to the criminals who kidnapped my son under "color of law." My brothers-in-law are lawyers, by the way.
The mother's best friend, Nancy, probably practices family law. Sure, I thought anything was possible, but not this. Can you imagine how it feels to be ruined before your life begins? In other words, the judge, all of them were against me, including my woman lawyer, who was delighted to inform me that I got "screwed." Hahaha.
Let's not forget they take all of your assets if they are able and shackle you with "child support" (this is called shaming) which is money to buy the woman off (those who do criminal things are not "mothers," but rather a criminal of the lowest order if you will).
The mother who hates her father for not protecting her transfers her rightful hatred onto me (thanks to feminism), a poor black man who used to pick cotton in Mississippi. I should also mention that her family is worth millions of dollars, and I, and my family, had nothing as a black person to fight them. If justice is for sale, how can there be justice?
Before me, there was a distinguished gentleman, a well-educated retired school teacher, an activist since he was 17, and a WWII medic. His children were taken even though he had custody. The local police took them away to the mother, who relocated to Colorado. He founded an organization.
He died at 89. His children (boys), successful, having served as military officers in their 30s, came to visit him as he lay dying. They took everything he had left, never to be heard of again.
In my view, the whole damn thing is a racket, a conspiracy, much like a mafia organization. The money that exchanges hands for the "best interest of the children" against the father is in the billions. It's no secret. Now, do you think anyone will try contacting me to help me out? No. It's been all about the money.
Most people I know do not know that freedom is not free. They think that, somehow or another, things will just get better. Hahaha. Our government has been an expert in leading us to believe that things such as this are somehow just the way it is. I was 30 years old when this all began. I'm 65 now, and those people who murdered my family and me are probably in good health, whereas I'm destitute, never having had a chance in life, with serious health problems.
These people, the way I see it, are evil. There is no other way to characterize them, and they must be imprisoned for crimes against humanity if the country is to be saved.
Never marry without a contract and a profound understanding of what you're about to get into. Clearly, marriage is not designed anymore, if it ever was, for the benefit of men and "their" children. Women don't seem to care about children as much as men do, which is what I learned. Thanks for entertaining my thoughts and opinions.
This happened to my babies. It breaks my heart. My ex was never around but my kids hate me and I know I was a good mom. I was a housewife. I woke every morning to make my kids lunch, we had so much fun. I loved them so much and I just don't understand. A big hole is in my heart. I haven't seen them since 2010. They talked and forgave their dad but won't talk to me. I cry every day. I cry before I go to bed. I try to give it to God but I can't stop crying. I'm crying now. I homeschooled them some. Was a coach for my kids 2 times for soccer. Coach for cheerleading. We always had fun dancing and we hugged alot and laughed alot. My heart is so broken.
You are not alone . It sound they have been manipulated . Trust me one day your kids will realize what parent is at fault. My dad took my siblings from my mom and told them that my mom abandoned them which it was a lie . When my sibling grew up , the truth came out . Now my siblings are close to my mom. Keep having faith and get close to God , he sees everything and will bring justice. Sending blessings
I completely relate with you. You're not alone in this.
I am so sorry. Hugs to you and I wish you some peace. I am here currently too. Really hoping they wake up to see
You are definitely not alone. My story w court, my dear child and all the lying is so crazy it sounds unbelievable. I'm also going through heartache w court, being kept from my child, and add to that, false allegations fr other parent (abt a neighbor idk that well). This person accused was never with my child! I couldn't believe what I read in a report and the lies. I cant explain on here. This was done to keep our child from me. There have been years of attempts to do it. Lies to court and police. One was that there was a no contact order w my child and my 78 yr old relative. There was a order w the other parent and the relative. Not the child. I cant believe how skilled some parents are at manipulating/brainwashing kids and adults who have no idea abt npd disorder or liars. Narcissist lie and are believed. They use threats or bribes too. I cry and I pray so much. I love my child and miss him. I also had solid evidence from communication with other people who knew the other parent about damage to children and their past abusive experience. Some were scared of being involved w court. Or the court or past attorneys didnt care. I was validated by what they said cuz it happened to me too. And is there a time statute on 2 or 3 yr old threats or crazy texts in family court? I dont get it. Why doesnt the court care or look at evidence? They dont take time to fully look at things that are presented by a parent trying to prevent child abuse and prove things. I had premeditated threats sent to me. They were about erasing me fr our child, causing court issues, making anxiety to win court and custody. I fear for damage done to my child. I want the truth to be shown. I had such a good loving bond w my child and it's being erased. It's like the other parent felt jealousy or hatred at our bond. And now they are happy cuz they took the one I loved. I dont feel like a parent anymore due to lies and unjust rulings. I followed the order and yet the other parent got away w unilateral decision w no notice on education (during peak covid) before kindergarten. I'm all upset and stressed. Alot of mental abuse for yrs in my case. I see there are other good parents being wrongly erased or losing kids too. I used to think everyone was basically good and honest and now I know different. Btw I'm a mom. Some people think this stuff only happens to dads. Please pray for the healthy parents who are being hurt and their precious children they love. Both dads and moms!!! I never said bad things abt other parent cuz I believe in time truth and justice will be shown. Im hoping there is a chance in court w the right judge or comissioner. Sorry for long text. I'm very broken down and keep it in.
yeah good luck with the God thing .
he clearly doesn't give a shit
final salt in the wound for a Christian believer
Psychological evaluations should be standard procedure for the abusive parent. If there are any allegations with no evidence then they need an evaluation. Any mention of alienation or interference needs an evaluation by competent health care professionals. There needs to be accountability in the court system too.
I am experiencing this right now.
I lost my father during this period. Per the comment above, grieving the loss of your children , your living children, is like no physical and emotional pain I have encountered
The problem isn't that it's hard to prove, the problem is that the courts don't care. The machine keeps moving, and the well-being of children everywhere is the raw material that keeps the engine running perpetually.
my ex married my sister !!! I have never been separated from my 3 children in my life.. Its now January it started In July no mother or father should have to mourn their alive children its crushing .. But the courts won't listen to me . They denied every motion i have placed i dont know how much money i have spent but will continue to jump through hurtles just to be part of my sons life like i was before .. What ever happened to the best interest of the child ?? It's like they ignore the best interests of the child to fill their pockets its sadly is a money loop hole our children are not pawns they were NOT asked to be born into this cold one sided world ...
Can't this enough..... court system failed and continue to fail.
Let's stay strong and fight !!!!! You are not alone in this.
My narc husband managed to groom my adult kids to think I’m a total ass. My daughter is nearly 22 and last we talked she called me a whore, fucking bitch, a terrible mother who should have never had kids, evil, etc., etc.
My son stayed in CA with narc to finish high school. It’s his senior year and to further the temptation, narc promised him a motorcycle. But at least my son still believes in me and knows what the narc is. I’m only afraid that narc will up the temptation when i try to get my son with me.
It’s Hell.
Thank you
Hi! I understand your torment. I'm going through it also. I used to see my grandchildren nearly everyday, until my daughter fell homeless, and took her kids to her Mom's. Now, I'm not seeing the kids. The domestic and family LAW and justice is just a useless racket that perpetuates conflict to perpetuate the need for legal services and all the other white collar services chiming in on your lives. I SHARE YOUR PAIN!
Wow, how devastating
Malice and financial motives!
Yes, they don’t want to pay maintenance.
Thank you for this.
I have years of video, email, and my child's change in demeanor to prove my case. But in the UK court system, it appears more and more that as a society, mental health is dismissed in one side of their mouths while lamenting the "child mental health epidemic" with the other side.
It's an uphill battle and every day I feel like my little girl loses more of her dad each day.
But I'm my daughter's advocate if no one else will be. I will speak for that little girl who cannot speak for herself.
She will never be able to say "why didn't someone do something!", although it can be argued, and to my eternal shame, that I've let it go this long already.
I hope someday this poor little girl that just misses her dad will forgive him when she learns the truth of this era of her life.
The divorce has been going on for almost 4 years. He turned my daughter against me. It is so painful. I wish you were my attorney
Very rare you didn't get custody. The institutional industry automatically gives you 90% doubt just by you walking in the door.
You've must have something that would embarrass the institution of the court or threaten the judge's paycheck should the decision be in your favor.
Those two reasons are the ONLY two reasons why you did not get custody.
I hope nature will overcome your daughter's training and decide to seek you out one day.
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@@capie44 what could she have done to threaten the judges paycheck?
@@mwalshe : The political policies of this industrial-institution is to make money at all costs to the Father.
The policy, "In the best interest of the child" protects the Mother from being responsible for being twice as guilty as the Father who gets his paychecks garnished, driving license revoked, jailed, finex, fee'd-to-death, but mostly sees the system relieve her from most responsibilities while he goes to jail for half the infraction.
So that is why I didn't venture to guess what "Tammy Springer" did to lose custody when she gets 90% doubt from the court's protective custody.
This 90% is why men are wisening-up about the marriage contract where she is rewarded for breaking it "in the best interest of the child."
There are two, steadfast, rules in life:
* Don't embarrass the institution
* Don't allow your paycheck to be threatened.
If the parent responsible for PA is a narcissist, they can easily fool the therapist into believing they are innocent. Adult children will unlikely cooperate to prove the bad parent’s malice, especially if they know the bad parent has money to offer them
Therapists must be vetted with the training required to properly evaluate parental alienation. They can have decades of experience and still join the targeting parent's coalition. Seen it for myself. And it is near impossible to get them to change their minds as it has all appearances of a secure attachment of the kids to the alienating parent. Even though, it is so easy to pierce the veil of PA, it still works to this day. It must be understood that children do not reject parents. Period. The only way it can happen is with incredibly harmful psychological and emotional controls being used on the child. Testing, or some sort of PA protocol, must be followed immediately when a child is seen to be rejecting a parent as the effects last a lifetime.
I feel so badly for my only child/son.
@@robinberry4957 And all three of mine. Narcissism is unsustainable and wreaks havoc on society. This is how they spread their disease to the next generation with an attachment system trauma. It has to stop, we cannot continue with a narcissistic society misleading us into the ground.
So very true !!
Any help would be appreciated. I live in NE PA and I’m being alienated from my young daughters. Thank you
@@Silvaack Read Foundations: An Attachment-system Model of Parental Alienation by Dr. Craig Childress. The information he provides is genuine.
As he points out, don't try and prove a negative, it's impossible. The, "I am not an abusive parent" defense. Instead, highlight the abusive nature of the narcissist parent.
Father deprivation is the leading cause of criminal behavior, developing mental illness, teen suicide, drug and alcohol abuse, teen pregnancy, homelessness and runaway, etc. etc. It is the worst form of abuse a child can suffer with life-threatening and lifelong negative effects for them and society as a whole.
Thank God I never said anything about the father of my children. I let them find the truth on their own.
...ok
...bitch!
My mother had a fickle personality and up and bailed on my dad and us when I was 9 to marry a golfer and go back to a “more fun” lifestyle. She did him very wrong and I saw it myself. That being said, my dad never said a bad word about her even once. Rather, he encouraged us to spend as much time with her as we could. I’d go off about how angry and upset that I was with my mother, for the way she left and hurt, yet he stayed true to what he felt was best for us. Talked nothing but good about her, and would actually deter us from choosing not to see her anymore. He reinforced to us that regardless of what she did to him, and us, that she did love her children and was still a very good mother.
Today, I am on the other end of a manipulative mother to my daughter, who is now 22 years old. My ex did unspeakable things to me, and to her around the time that she was born and as a result, she had her custody of her taken away. I stayed consistent and did my visitations through her parents, who had full custody until she was 5 years old. That’s when her mother got her back, and I was made to jump though hoops over the next 13 years. Stayed consistent and saw her as much as possible. I became more and more of the scapegoat figure as time went by, and my daughters attitude towards me got more and more negative and resistant. I always held that just staying consistent would pay off. Well, she just got her BA from a major university in less than 2 years and is a brilliant writer and literary editor for a large mainstream magazine, yet she has grown more and more dependent and emotionally centered around her mother, along with making a scapegoat of me. I’ll try and shoot forward. It’s been put into her mind methodically and calculated over a campaign duration of time. Maybe I should have tried more to address the alienation part of it sooner, but her mother has always had almost total control of pretty much everything, and I’ve had to play ball with the deck I’ve gotten dealt. Over the past 2-3 years, my daughter has by in large blocked me from her life, talked to me with almost complete resentment, and only made any effort in communicating with me when she wanted money or gifts. As soon as she gets them, she goes right back into this mindset where I am some terrible person to her and ignored me entirely. She takes every world that I say, and every effort they I make out of context, always looking and choosing to be “victimized” almost exactly as her mother used to do with her father, and it is always run directly through her mother where I then have to deal with being attacked for things so nonexistent or irrelevant that you just wouldn’t believe me. At this point, I have just been disrespected so far beyond anything I ever dreamt of doing to either of my parents, and I cannot just continue accepting it. It’s just not good for her to have a father that’s a scapegoat and basically held ransom. I’ve laid off most of her tuition, her car, and got her a job several months ago. At this job, meant to bring her some income while she looks to find a career position elsewhere in the near future, she said to a few past colleagues of mine who I arranged for her to be hired there with, that I “had nothing to do with helping her get the job”. That her and I “barely know each other” and that she “really don’t want to hear about my dad please. He’s the parent that I am very ashamed of having any relation to and wish he’d just take the hint and go away for good.” Saying these things, acting the way she does to me, and ignoring every question that I ask her. Things like “Hey Emma, how are you? I’d like to know more about your studies and things that you enjoy doing. Call me anytime and I am here for anything that you need.” Anyhow, she hates me completely and if I so much as even ask her one time something like, “Hey Emma, is there something that I did or said wrong to you? And can we please talk about it so it doesn’t turn you so far away from me?” She will cut me off for good. I did ask it once and she cut me off for 11 months without even a word. Her mother has started to screen me and avoid all of my calls not too.
I am at the point where it seems almost entirely hopeless, and I do not have any family left discuss this all with since then all passing away recently. I just don’t know what to do. Today is her birthday and when I asked her last week if there was anything that she might want or want to do, she responded by saying that she’s let me know, and that I can send her the money for her bank account, and that she still wasn’t going to speak to or see me for any reason.
It's up to you to PRESERVE the relationship between parent and child. "Allowing them to find the truth" is just as bad as showing it to them.
I'm sorry your partner wansr so good. I want my partner to be honorable to me in front of my child shes only 5 months doesn't need to hear bad words or demeaning speak about her father or that side of the family even though they've done nothing wrong. Haven't even seen her but once I just want my grandma to see her grandchildren 5o make her happy since grandpa died last year. Sorry for rambling its just nobody wants to be alienated
@@Jamedia66 Damn, that's so fkd up! Hang in there
I had video messages and text messages of my ex telling my kids to break into my cell phone and steal my information with my attorney and to tell people that I was a monster. She also was telling the kids to be fearful of me. This all went to court and nothing happened to mother other than me getting 50% custody and she was ordered to do 10 things which she never complied with. The courts are wasteful and the judges don't want to spend the time on these matters.
Very easily a dark triad parent can twist and manipulate the texts they receive, they absolutely can poison a counselor, and can certainly try to create a theme. It IS sick. It’s not this simple.
Yes Amy...true
They can poison just about anyone.
Mom=God
Dad=the Devil
Even when it's the other way around
It's still that way.
You're right.
My son turns 19 in a few days and i haven't seen him since he was 8, the courts are worthless for fathers and there is no solution involving them. What has been taken from me is every holiday since he was two, every birthday, achievement, chance to teach him anything, even a memory to smile about. Your solution is court? What will that do to bring back whole the loss incurred? Your solution is like a cruel joke. The court has been literally complicit in this and wholly against any type of help but interested to make orders without delivering anything in return. Don't be fooled, no one cares unless you are paying them. Then they simply fake caring while putting you through more in and out of court. There is no solution to this, no way to ever get back any time, everyone tells me that he will come around some day when he's older. My guess is he will be strung out on drugs or an alcoholic just like his mother trying to figure out why he has such a feeling of emptiness before that. Then the courts can have their way with him and the cycle continues. Fatherless children is what society wants to fill their jails and supply labor for courts and attorneys. They support the mothers because it is known that this will weaken society more and more ensuring that the strife continues to be mediated upon and judged on from the corrupt courts. Happy birthday Mason.
I feel you. Great points sir
Sorry. I have a 12 year old daughter. I got erased over 5 years ago.
george George I’m a Mother this happened to you can talk to me it’s also happening to many Mothers now across Canada and the US! These fathers think they can do as they please behind the wife’s back and zero consequences, I fought back!🙏🌷🇨🇦
Lydia Hubbell are you Canadian or American? The Canadian system is horrible at best but I fought back with everything I have, yes it was expensive in lawyers fees but I had to!🙏🌷
@@CarolDudeck-bl7kz Tennessee, USA
My son is six and has been gone since he has been born I've made effort after effort to be in his life I pay child support they take half of my check every single week no matter how much I make I get scared when she lets me talk to him on the phone because after a couple weeks she looks for a reason to start ignoring me for another three or four months it's f***** up I can't afford to get help my family will not help my father and his side of the family have pretty much disowned me instead of helping me.ive learned only I can help me. when I understood this allot of my depression went away
Great, rational, and to the point advice. Thank you! You have provided hope and knowledge of the system...very applicable and appreciated😎
I wish you would come to Illinois and pro Bono my case. I need help. I have court Thursday. Pray for my kids and me. Thank you for your video.
It shouldn’t cost piles of money to beat PA in court. It should not.
It shouldnt cost more money but I had a legal aid attorney ex had criminal defense gas lighted me horribly.
Parental alienation and narcissistic abuse includes financial abuse too
Yeah I in poverty-stricken. No hope if you don't have the cash
Anything-but-family court is an institutional-industry. It must bilk money from it's participants -- and by "participants," I mean the non-custodial Father -- to meet it's budget. Bilking the custodial Father (very rare) or the women would look bad and not be "in the best interest of the child."
This is why crack-whores get custody from CEO Fathers.
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Excellent information. You gave so much information that is clear and doable for a parent seeking information.
Encouraging video. There's hope for parents and children suffering this abuse. It is agonising.
I did not gather evidence because I did not know what was going on and was so confused about why my child was becoming angry and unco-operative.
Now I realise it was all those letters and holidays and babysitting when her mind was poisoned. I reacted emotionally and indignantly which made it worse.
"Too soon oldt; too late schmart."
There's so much help these days via the internet, which we did not have.
Courage and wisdom to all going through it.
Exactly the same . Wow . Same.
@@haileyandjrimcoming3789 Peace to you. I found the book Done With the Crying by Sheri McGregor helpful. As she says, "We can still go on to live a good life". Can't change the past, only go on from today.
I'm curious if this book is relevant to us mothers who suffered the loss of her young children?
@@haileyandjrimcoming3789 Well it's really for parents who've been rejected by their adult child. For some if us it began when they were young. But it's for processing through the confusion of despair, anger, fear, wondering if it's your fault and what you can do. I think I still would have found it helpful when my child was still at home. I found it at our public library, so didn't buy it.
Maybe more relevant for you is Dr Les Carter's video "When an adult coaches your child against you". And Dr Amy Baker's advice on RUclips
It's heartbreaking.
Main mistakes I made were reacting emotionally and saying anything against the alienating (like saying indignantly or impatiently, "How can you say that?!" or crying or showing fear.)
Sometimes she'd provoke us for months with harsh accusations, lack of co-operation, threats to kill us or herself, unexplained anger and hatred. We'd be patient for so long and then answer angrily or say something about Granny not being honest or fair (she was the alienator) and then our daughter would triumphantly say, "See, you are crazy/abusive/mean/don't love me!" And it justified in her mind everything she did.
I kept begging to talk about it and we each say how we saw matters and be honest about our part in the trouble. But she wouldn't. It was always big accusations like, "You're unfair!/You lie!/You don't love me!/I don't belong here!" But never any specific answer to " Why do you think that? When did I lie? What did I do unfair?"
She'd just retort, "You should know!"
It was torture. I tolerated her contempt for 30 years, hoping it would change. She kept telling me to F off and I kept sending a gift or hoping for a pleasant visit. She maintained that I was a kind mother when she was small and became an abuser when she was a teen, even while being a kind loving mother to her younger sisters. Made no sense till I learned about PA
Thank you so much for your informative advice on how to deal with this difficult Journey and multilevel life learning beast
Thank You, that was extremely helpful! I am new to your channel and I will be watching a lot more videos to see what I can learn from you. Valuable valuable information! Thanks again!
I definitely need your help.
Thank you for this video. I needed to hear this information right now.
Thank you so much for your advice... I'm going with the court ordered therapy. I have been going through extremely harsh PARENTAL ALIENATION . She's a malignant narcissist.6 years now
Object to a GAL or Forensic psychologist involvement, and request a QUALIFIED (see link below for qualifications) clinical psychologist to assess, diagnose and treat your child(ren), with your and the other parent's participation.
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@@movingpictures8060 Guardian are a joke. She lied in court, kept 3 years of our documentation wont give it back went to her office evey week for 2 months she still won't give it back. She's only have talk to us once through all these years. She needs fired. Thats so terrible, its been nightmare. Paid over 55,000 and still not over. This is our 3 lawyer, due to one retired, one quit being attorney, now this new lawyer. Guardian even went as far as decredting our therapist. I bet she Narcissist also or believes their lies. She's not in best interest of child.
Brain I cannot thank you enough for valuable information you have given me. Single dad here going through high conflict situation.
Thanks for sharing
Great information, thank you!!!
Thank you! Very helpful!
What if the other parent lives with other family members who spend a lot of time with the child and those family members are the ones causing the alienation?
Then you can go after those people.
Still parental alienation but from the other partners family. Very sad
A child should only have joint contact if both parents can be proved safe beyond reasonable doubt. Small children don't lie. When they trust you enough to disclose the Truth, believe them.
Psychological development shows children can't report a comprehensive lie against their own true feelings or experience. The extent of capacity to lie under the age of 7 is did you eat the candy, no!
If you tell your child repeatedly every day for 3 months remember that you hate ice cream, then frame the question differently - they could repeat the phrase about remembering to hate ice cream but the child's truth will come out that they love ice cream. Believe children. Don't put them at risk.
All Things New I think it is more complicated than ice cream and telling them they dont like it.
@@thomascrosthwaite4958 deep calls unto deep. It's a metaphor to illustrate a child can not lie against their experiential truth no matter who tries to coach them. If they are terrified of daddy - they will tell you. If they love daddy - they will tell you.
9. Children do not have the cognitive maturity or the capacity to make an informed decision
about whether to have a relationship with a parent. They cannot imagine the implications of
having a parent absent from their lives, and do not necessarily know what is in their best
interest. Nor do they genuinely want the power to cut a parent out of their lives.
10. Children (and adults) can be unduly influenced by emotional manipulation to act against their
own best interests. They can be misled to believe things that are not true, even about a
parent. It is possible to induce false memories in children and/or to program children to
relate events-often sincerely and convincingly (at least to naïve or unwary observers)-that,
in fact, did not take place or did not take place in the way described.
11. Many, but not necessarily all, alienating parents have one or more personality disorders
(typically of the borderline, narcissistic and/or sociopathic type). The more extreme or
severe the alienating behavior, the more likely it is that the alienating parent has an
underlying personality disorder.
12. Parental alienation is a form of child abuse, specifically psychological and emotional abuse.
It meets the diagnostic criteria for child psychological abuse as described in the Diagnostic
and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the DSM-5) published by the American
Psychiatric Association (2013). - Dr. Amy Baker, PhyD
You're the kind of person who gets doesn't need kids. You get them taken away for no reason because you're ignorant.
It is so bad in my brothers case. She accused my whole family of assault with kid and manipulating him to saying what she wants.
Very nice video. Thank you.
I've listened to many you were the most clear on theme and facts. Zero communication is a fact zero! I modified and hes still not following orders for visits and therapy he took and kept my son for 5 yrs and nown1 yr since a visit
Thank you for this video
Film the deposition! It's worth its weight in platinum -
I heard that before will they allow anyone to film
HEY ! Can it be shown the court/ judge? 💥My x is a big time Nars/ And horrible lier ‼️It would work great , Who asks the questions ? Did you have good luck with a deposition? ITs my daughter That's gone ,But other boys are effected too ,13 ,11, 15 INFO❓
OMG! just THANKFUL and GRATEFUL this HEINOUS CRIME AGAINST CHILDREN HAS A "NAME"! ( in my case-there was NO LABEL - NO RECOGNITION) and both of my MIRACLES(children) have been LOST and now carry "ISSUES" they were infected with 40 years ago every step of THEIR existence.
NOTHING AND NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO INFLICT THIS ON ANY CHILD!!! PERIOD.
I'm so glad that I found you! Listen, this may be the most bizarre case you have ever heard and it needs to be a mistrial I have never lost my rights never sign them over, I literally have not seen my son in five years but I have had my daughter so that doesn't make sense in itself. People have been paid off in family Court I'm talking lawyers, judges, everything! I literally cannot believe what I have been through and it has just literally torn my daughter and my son apart I mean I have no idea what my son is thinking I do not have any contact with him at all now
Will you send me a pm ? Chelsea Leigh Cork in fb I am going through the same thing except my son is my only child. Wit Stone
Hey are you guys in indiana ? Can we get a group chat going ?!!
Thank you for offering this useful information Counselor. You explain the concepts very well. I think the camera likes you.
Ummm ewww
Ty Brian
Thank you for making this. I'm in Ohio and so is my 8 year old daughter. You have helped more people than you know..
Very informative. Nice work
Nick Easy thanks Nick. You might find some of the other videos on my channel and future videos to be helpful, so consider subscribing and sharing if you liked it. Glad I could help.
Is there a statute of limitations to alienation/defamation of character?
Interesting Points. -- Couple of Reminders: Situation of Attempted Parental Alienation Is Extremely Serious - Issues of Major Rights & Accusations (direct or implied) ::: The seriousness of this topic is especially high if one parent is using false accusations without any evidence, or using false evidence, and the judge does not allow for proper due process, and/or judge creates positive bias circumstances for the false accuser. Based on hearing and reviewing various cases, it seems the overall issues of attempted parental alienation are often more complex and more subtle than what are often conveyed by certain experts, who sometimes put forward an "ivory tower" explanation of things, or overly simple pretty box explanation, when the real world circumstances and context of definitions are often much more complex. For example, some targeted parents may be dealing with "bi-polar", two-face personality persons, and/or extreme manipulators and liars; and they can encounter subtle attempts of parental alienation for prolonged periods without fully realizing it until later. And the (alienating parent) "manipulating false accusing parent" can be very good at lying and manipulating others to go along with the isolation of the targeting parent, and to encourage the creation of more unreasonable demands by court on the targeting parent which can create more subtle opportunities for additional false accusations.
SPECIAL NOTE ON LAWYERS: Not all lawyers are good at advocacy for family rights, and not all lawyers are very knowledgeable about parental alienation attempts, or they may not even agree with the definitions and may be hostile to the strategy of pointing out alienating behaviors by the other party.
Apparent Common Characteristics of "False Accusers" :: Some apparent similarities of likely goals are in trying to gain constant control and putting negative spotlight on others. In turn, this can make it easier to deflect any criticism, or give some pity or positive light to a false accuser. It may also be a way as projection for negative energy to cause a new crisis, and cause support for action to changes or control efforts by the false accuser. It can simply be a way to harass the targeted person, and keep that person off balance, and to discredit that person.
I thought you looked familiar omg it’s Brian from 60 days in!
Thank you with ALL my HEART💕💪😎.
Sincerely, Anna
This was extremely helpful. I love the part about getting a therapist involved. Any tips of you have moved and don't live close to your children anymore? Like 4-8 hours away?
Man thank you so much.
Thank you very much for the tips I'm going through a tragedy my access to trying to take my 13-year-old from me for the second time and there's a restraining order against me I already got 50% custody so how do I get a full custody again after the restraining order? I filed a motion to modify the injunction so I can have unsupervised visitations
Hi Brian I have the substantial proof of alienation, I have not seen my daughter for almost two years, but my son has been going on my visits all this time. I do not have the money to retain an attorney bc of pandemic. My question is will the court think I waited too long to go to court I have been in court several times alone against a very well known attorney that you know! I have been texting my daughter the whole time, so I havent waited too long!! I will not get shot down alone in court again with proof on my side
I thank you for the information, but people that live in areas like mine, they don't have extra money for things that they may need. Let alone lawyers, therapists etc. And I am in no way saying that they are not useful or needed. But when you have to decide between gas or groceries, the options are limited.
GOFUNDME
Both of my parents put me in the middle of this and one of them being my father is a covert narcissist . I don't think my father has the right to dictate my life especially since I can take care of myself without him lying & stealing from me and constantly bossing me around . He's made me lose all respect for him . Thanks for the video !
Definitely should never bring kids into the mess. That is what my covert narc ex did. But, of course kids don't know that and I coudln't tell the kids.
My ex has my son for every other weekend and he specifically said not to call him everyday when he's visiting because he doesn't call when he's with me. Huh? You have right to call our son as well as I have a right to call our son.
My children’s father is a covert narc and I’m about to go to court next month to prove parental alienation
Just wondering What age were you when you noticed this?
@@laneshiasmith1788 How did it go if you don't mind me asking as I am in the starting point of this, another controlling narc keeping my son away from me yet he is only 2 and 7months.
Amazing
My daughter was taken from me because the judge and "best interest attorney" were communicating with each other about the case outside of the court (which was provable except that the lawyer refused to hand over the evidence) amd there was parental alienation and abuse going on, i lost because inwas seeing a psychiatrist for anxiety to try and be a better parent but they used that fact as evidence against me in court, they also used the fact that i created a petition against the judge violating the rules of law (such as accepting the best interest attorney as an advisor instead of an attorney which is illegal) as evidence of "mentall illness" which they used as an equation proving my unfitness as a parent
I believe the same thing is going on in my case the lawyer and the court attorney be communicating with each other.
When parental alienation has started in the US?
Why men’s rights absolutely ignored by family court in California?
The court said no to plea for therapeutic intervention for SEVEN months. By the time they did appoint a therapist and my daughter, who I'd been alienated from were front of that therapist together was NINE MONTHS after I began asking. I'm not sure what the law is in CA but in MO there's a GAL appointed, a gatekeeper, she denied my plea all that time and I begged my attorney to beg the court so much so I have in writing in seven months 17 times in 7 months, as my daughter got further from me.... by the time they were appointed, it was too late, not to mention everyone was telling me, including the therapist, acting in bias, I'd created the breakdown in the relationship. Any thoughts on corruption in the judicial system and alienation?
I had the same situation in Los Angeles. They separated me from my kids for three years, and then they ordered that I have to go to reunification therapy with some of their therapists that actually create more barriers in the kids minds. 6 years now and I am still dealing with the problem.
Have you called regularly, send cards and letters (making copies of them and proof of sending them), attend their special events or send them congratulation gifts. There are ways to reconnect, show that you care without any strings attached. Offer to help with advice for emerging into adulthood. You’re an adult, stop allowing another adult to prevent it - show your steady contact proof to the judge and prove how the other parent is blocking your phone calls and letters or emails. When you give up and blame others for your lack of effort regardless of how your child or the alienating parent responds - that will be on you! When there is a will, there’s a way!
Even though I'm based in Canada, the truth holds across international borders. Thank you for your time in providing people with information.
I'm also experiencing this. It is very painful. And I'm seriously considering the legal route.
Parental alienation is a hate crime. 14 years alienated for me.
Great video, thank you. Is there any reference for timing? For example if the one parent is blocking the other from seeing the child for 3-4 weeks at a time, is there any ruling precedents for that? 2 weeks etc etc?
Mr. Anderson there’s no bright-line rule. The more disruptive the withholding is, the more weight it will carry.
@@brianmayer28 My children's father ( I have 2 children, both fathered by him. &I have been remarried for 8&1/2 years) After we split up , he didn't see or attempt to see his/ our kids for over 7 years. Nor did he ever pay me a $1. Now that he's had 2 more children with a different woman - (who he's also not together with) He decided it was finally convenient/ time for him to ask to see my/ our children. I said yes - because I don't believe in keeping children away from their Fathers - the children are the ones who miss out when mother's vindictively don't allow father's to be apart of their lives. He's now seen them about 10 times. I'd asked him if we could get together & sit down to discuss him finally paying child support. At first he flipped out & threatened to get split custody so he wouldn't have to pay. 🤦🏽♀️. Then after about a month , called me back & has since paid me $200 all together a month for 2 children. So $100 per month per child.... My son is 13 & daughter 10. He didn't see them from the time our son was 5 until he turned 12yrs old. $100 per month per child is a joke. My son needs to go to the dentist badly. I'm trying to apply for Arkids insurance, but they have the law now where they basically make u give up the biological fathers information & go after him for child support in order to get the insurance. So I can't get him insurance & into the dentist until that happens. My son asks on a daily basis to go to he dentist so he can get braces. I'm extremely afraid that out of spite he(their father) is going to try to get split custody so he doesn't have to pay child support. But I don't have an extra $3k + laying around for braces , I don't have a choice. My hope is that surely after a judge hearing that he abandoned his children for over 7 years , without so much as a phone call & has only seen them a handful of times & has been paying $100 per month per child for about 8months now ....surely he wouldn't get split custody... I would be happy & thankful for even $300 per child/ $600 per month in child support. Even though he makes good money, but he's self employed so he doesn't report all his income. However I have NEVER spoken ill/ bad about him to my children. He actually was abusive & unfortunately our son even though he was 5 , remembered seeing him hit me before. I've told my son he had a drinking problem & lost his temper & that's not ok, hence why I had to leave, however people change & we should forgive people if they've changed ECT. I despise parents bad mouthing each other to their kids - parents are only hurting their kids when they do this! I've had every reason to at least say nothing positive about him to the kids , yet have gone out of my way to speak highly of him - because I don't want my kids thinking their biological father is a bad man or deadbeat. My ex & I get all great , however my fear is him threatening taking the kids/ trying to get split custody (his parents have money & are preachers) because of me trying to get my kids medical insurance. Fear of him retaliating. But I have been having to choose his feelings over my son's needs. The fact that he did not even call or attempt to see his kids in 7 years will surely prove abandonment? Just really don't know what to do, but why is it he gets away with having 2 children with me & 2 with another woman & hasn't had to pay child support or $1 for 7+ years
@@WarmongerYT I’m prohibited from giving legal advice here, but your legal situation sounds very and easily fixable. Do what needs to be done to schedule a consultation with a family law attorney in your area to discuss options that may include the Department of Child Support Services.
@@brianmayer28 I appreciate your reply. Just concerned about getting the state involved. & Also I don't wish or seek to make his life hard. I just want to be able to take my children to the dentist & have a fair amount of child support every month.
@@WarmongerYT understood, and that’s why you would do really well to have a conversation with counsel about the issue.
Wow. How do I apply for a dwspoaition
Case evaluator and forensic and psychotherapist have missed the mark. 8 experienced therapist my sons performance has been award winning
Brian, this is a wonderful, practical video. I also enjoyed your “mom or dad, excuse me” slip. 😁 Thank you!
Dealt with the opposite: other party claims alienation constantly when I try to protect the kids from domestic violence !! Anytime temporary custody changes are brought up to sort things out, it’s “look look! They’re trying to alienate the kids !! “ 0_0 since when was speaking out against the kids being hit in the face and suggesting they NOT be around the person hitting them constitute , “alienating” 😖
My son and I are dealing with this now. I live in ohio he lives with his father in wv and he did this to him for yrs until he was old enough to reach out on his own to find out for himself. He now knows do you think if he went to court and said it himself that I'd have a chance to get him.
I really like this advice. You prove things in court like you prove truth in other circumstances. Be direct, stick with the narrative....and I love the idea of a deposition.
Me too. When my child interviewed her cldnt even remember what he said . Contradictions . So if the dad had to perform a deposition it'd be the same. My question if im..the mom is so bad and hes convinced others then why didnt he file the divorce to get away from me WITH kids? He separated the one that was on to his game and took my youngest
@@winona349 same here but he hasn’t gotten my youngest yet. He abused my oldest who saw him for what he was. Now child services is trying to reunify him with our youngest who he is manipulating.
The CFI and the court recognized the alienation and/or emeshment issues. The court also recognized domestic violence as as issue, with my ex-wife as the aggressor. I had a great attorney, who recognized this issue. And an extremely experienced CFI, who described what she saw as "disturbing". More extreme than anything she'd seen in a couple decades and a few hundred cases. All the same, it doesn't seem like courts can do anything effective to combat it. Orders don't matter to the type of person who does this. And going back for every time they ignore orders isn't productive. They get unstable, when they have to be accountable, which severly negatively impacts the kids, assuming any shared parenting, and eventually there's just no money left to keep consequences in place.
I like your advice about therapy for the relationship with your kids. In my case, my ex-spouse actively tried to thwart therapy for the kids. She pre-coached them by phone, and was obviously afraid of it. The kids seemed very reassured/relieved when they had to sign HIPA forms for themselves with neither parent involved in that. A space they finally knew was in confidence. 13:57
I’m going through this NOW….The GAL has NOT called or reached out to speak to the boy. This battle has been going on for over 21/2 years now. I researched the GAL he’s been in trouble in the past for doing this child like this.
Hi Brian, can you please go over how to file a contempt of court and the how an individual can do it without and attorney? Thank you
Hi. I wish that I could. Contempt of court isn’t like other family law motions because it is quasi-criminal in nature. The burden of proof is different and the procedures are less forgiving to self-represented parties. If pursuing contempt, I have to recommend getting an attorney involved.
Brian T. Mayer, Esq. thank you Brian
I believe that there shouldn't be no matter if individuals have or have not any attorney, we need to show up in the court to save our life. And the court have to be the only place in our community for justice. So, the court doesn't need to suggest an attorney for either side. If we are suggested the attorney, they should normally / automatically provide attorney equally to both representatives. Otherwise in especially family court, their custom to award for an party is which party has a better skill of "he says she says" while put facts behind to investigate. From CA.
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What if I want to choose the therapist is that an option? Also our courts able to get their hands on text messages that were on a phone that went missing and everyone tells me there’s no way I can get them back. Can the courts get them? That would help so much. I don’t have money for any of this extra stuff and it’s just not fair
Great information about a topic that is affecting millions of men, sooner or later. They call it Parental alienation when emotional and financial abuse using our children affects 90% of divorced fathers and 100% of children of divorce cases. However, you have to keep in mind that there is a culture of misandry in government institutions and in social science when it comes to family; so when you get an "expert" she is very likely to favor the mother, oftentimes, despite proving that the mother or her extended family are physically and emotionally injuring the children. Thanks for the video!
Hello and I have been going to some issues with the mother of my kids most of it is like a supervision on her part also her boyfriend has been abusive physically and mentally to my younger son I am in the process of going back to the family courthouse I can definitely use some advice about how to proceed with all of this.
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This has helped me so much to understand what I’m up against in court, do you have any contact information that I could get in touch with you?
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I'm parent aleniated by my ex husband mother, she sayed to my ex in front of me that "children can be rease up by only one parent , and a lot of other things. it is profound sadness 😔 I miss my children.
Thank you dear one for the info...
what can you do if you can't afford a lawyer and what is the success rate in court that the alienated parent gets justice? Also this involves a step parent alienating and is there a statute of limitation on taking them to court even after the child reaches adulthood?
I'm going through this currently, my ex tried setting me up for domestic violence and put a restraining order against me to keep me from my 2 year old son. It's a nightmare, all this because she got caught cheating.
How do you bring to light to the therapist about the alienation
will you travel or take clients outside your county?
Yes, but for cost reasons, it’s usually not advisable to hire me to travel outside of Southern California. I have to charge for my travel time, and it seldom makes financial sense to retain me if I have to spend a lot of my time on a case traveling.
@@brianmayer28 limited scope representation to transfer my case from Placer county to LA county.
@@justme2887 For this issue, I strongly recommend the following firm: www.gtblaw.com
How do i get a professional opinion on it?
Do the courts EVER listen to the children? CPS doesn't. The cops don't. Now I have to spend every cent I have and lose my job to go to court.
In my cps case the kinship interfered with visits claiming that my babies did not want to see me and that our visits disrupted thier lives . the gal would come to court and lie and the judge terminated my visits I saw my children 3 times in 3 years. I have numerous emails were the the kinship would change dates or say they could not make it. The one they used all the time was the kids wanted to go to new mexico to visit my mom which my mom was at every court date. I would ask for make up visits and would get save the dates. And then they were suspended indefinitely.
Have a question. About this topic in California.
Very excellent video. Thank you very much. I am trying to help my son's father. He has three children with his ex-wife, one is over the age of 18 now but the two youngest live with their mother one state away and she never lets him see his kids. Her attitude is basically do what I want or I'm not going to let you see them. I am tired of watching his kids be sad because they can't see their daddy and him being depressed because he never sees them. He saw them last week for the first time in a year-and-a-half. Thanks again.
My kids are fucked because I dont have the money to bring it to court.
Ex got primary custody when I was in the military.
I could have been deployed at any time so my home wasn't stable enough according to a judge.
Man i need your help!
My husband and I have extensive experience with PAS, myself as the stepmother and my husband as the target parent. Our child is now 45 years old and is beyond help. The laws have improved now and it is likely a more positive outcome can occur. Within financial limits, I would encourage target parents to fight for their children. Our grandchildren have been poisoned and we are concerned this hatred will be passed on for generations. There is nothing we can do now, only grieve for the loss of family. We pray for all families affected by PAS.
TRANSGENERATIONAL TRAUMA AND LOSS IS BUT ONE OF THE CRUEL, COLD INHUMANE BYPRODUCT OF PAS!
I have EXPERIENTIAL KNOWLEDGE as I bear WITNESS to the THIRD GENERATION UNFOLDING!
ALL OF HUMANITY SUFFERS AS A RESULT
MAKING ALL OF US RESPONSIBLE AND DUTY BOUND to ATTEND to this CRIME
Part 2...
Me....clean record stable house household good credit I mean I try my best to be well example for my kids and family....and I have opens door policy with her but now she wants to start problems not sure why. Advice pls
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I would like to comment on a couple of things. I believe people are taking a big risk to involve any so-call "professionals" with your case. This includes a "custody evaluator"[which is often a forensic psychologist] , a guardian ad litum, mediators and even a psychologist providing "therapy". This is because it may not go your way and the problem with these people is not just that they might be unfamiliar with alienation, lazy or overworked which he mentioned, but all of them are human and have their own biases. I thought a rule of thumb for lawyers was "don't ask questions you don't already know how they're going to be answered" This would seem to be the same thing for any of the so-called "expert testimony". In my divorce all four became involved. The explanation for how I know this can go bad is long and involved, but I sure everyone can guess it's from personal experience.
The courts allow the narc to commit perjury multiple times and they allow CPS to say that the crime of physical abuse has been committed when there was no description of any such incident or event that had happened, no arrests, no criminal charges filed (except for the man that the courts put the children into his home- he was arrested for abusing one of the children and CPS and family court still kept the kids in that man's home.) Family courts are secretive child trafficking courts, kangaroo courts where laws don't matter, people make up allegations from thin air and the courts go along with it because they make money off of the title IV-D child support collection SCAM. CPS gets money for every child they remove from their homes since Clinton's child trafficking law he signed for CPS to traffick children in 1996 .
I have been in a custody battle for almost 2 years since my sons mother passed with the aunt who happens to be a doctor. She had an attorney and after spending thousands I decided to represent self because I knew the law was on my side because I had 50/50 custody before she passed and the aunt had no legal right to keep my son from me which the judge reiterated in court. Just have faith and go through the process no matter how stressful it is. You will be bashed lied on and made out to look like a horrible father. I even had the GAL against me who I only spoke to maybe 3 or 4x in 2 years including when I saw her in court. She was very one sided and the judge told her to go ahead and lay all of what she has out and gave her the option of leaving after her testimony which she declined and told her I know that the majority of what you are about to tell me is hearsay along with other points he made but fathers just have faith. My judge said he felt as if I hadn’t had a full opportunity to be a father to my child.
The fact that you are the father, how does the aunt have any say? I'm in a similar situation. I didn't see my daughter for 5 years. The mother just took off. Then, she gave custody to her sister, and she also passed away.
Would you be available to help with a deposition of my ex in Orange County and how much would you charge for your services?
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My son is the custodial parent with custody of the children. His ex wife left the state (Tx) with the children and is in hiding. We haven’t heard from them in 7 months. Are there organizations out there to help parents with this issue of interference.